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In this empowering episode of the Luke Mind Power Podcast, Luke Chlebowicz reminds us of one of life’s most important truths: time is the one thing we can never get back. Speaking with raw honesty and energy, he urges listeners to stop procrastinating, stop waiting for permission, and stop staying in situations that don’t serve their growth. Through personal stories of rejection, resilience, and self-discovery, Luke inspires you to take action now whether that means ending toxic relationships, pursuing your dreams, or shifting your environment. This is your wake-up call to trust yourself, reclaim your time, and create the life you deserve before it’s too late.
🔑 Key Takeaways:
✅ Time is Irreplaceable Once it’s gone, it’s gone forever. Every day you waste in unhappiness is a lost opportunity for joy and growth.
✅ Set Non-Negotiable Deadlines If a situation doesn’t improve within a set time—six months, for example—be ready to walk away.
✅ Trust Yourself Over Others’ Opinions No one else feels your pain or lives your life. Your decisions should be based on your truth, not outside approval.
✅ Don’t Settle for Less Whether in love, career, or personal goals, refusing to settle raises the standard of what you attract.
✅ Learn From Rejection Rejection can feel devastating, but it often protects you from the wrong situations and redirects you toward better ones.
✅ Escape Toxic Cycles Gaslighting, manipulation, and emotional abuse erode your confidence and waste years of your life—leave before they drain you completely.
✅ Make Better Choices Now Your future is shaped by today’s decisions. Start making choices that align with the life you want to live.
⏱️ Key Timestamps:
[00:00] – Introduction across platforms (Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, YouTube, Spotify, etc.) and opening hook: “Lost time will never be found again”
[02:00] – Why this episode could change your life and the role of synchronicities in growth
[08:30] – Recognizing when someone isn’t equally invested in a relationship
[10:30] – The trap of staying in unhealthy situations hoping for change
[13:00] – Setting boundaries and avoiding manipulation, gaslighting, and narcissistic patterns
[15:00] – “Stay for the kids” myth and the long-term damage of toxic homes
[18:00] – Realizing you’re meant for more and starting the search for purpose
[20:30] – How helping others creates a ripple effect of healing and transformation
[31:23] – Closing reminder to trust yourself, set deadlines for change, and stop wasting time
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Somebody deciding, you know, well, that's what I need to do
as well. If someone's doing what they're
doing and they believe in it, then I need to.
Do that too. Don't.
Expect things to just change overnight.
Don't expect transformation and success to just happen.
It's something that you decide it's not about.
Oh, don't do that. Find your balance.
Man, enjoy your fucking life. If that's something that you
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enjoy, enjoy it, but don't abuseit.
You know yourself when you're overdoing it.
You know yourself when you're abusing something.
You know yourself when you're going over the top.
So wherever you are in your life, just know there is a way
through, not a way out, a way through.
And if you keep listening to this podcast, if you keep
fueling your mind with positivity, with inspiration,
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with information that's valuable, that is going to
actually. Give you some sort of.
Spark or breakthrough or aha moment or just surround yourself
with energy that resonates with you.
Most importantly for yourself, you know if it doesn't happen in
a specific time frame that you thought it would.
Does that mean you give up? Since 2018, I've helped
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All right, what's up everyone? How you doing?
Welcome to another podcast episode on the Luke Mine Power
Podcast. I hope you're having a great
day. Really looking forward to
spending some more time with youguys, helping you to continue to
stay focused on your goals, yourdreams, whatever it is that you
want to achieve. Just a quick reminder that it's
possible. And no matter what's going on
around the world, I know that they can feel, if you keep
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observing a lot of the stuff that's happening around the
world, you could also easily getdrowned in it and feel drained
in it. And I know that.
I really really really. Believe as well, there's
something very, very powerful isa revelation for me is that, you
know, we all have a purpose and a lot of us can say, well, what
is your purpose? How do?
How do you find your purpose? And I think it's just more about
really just leaning in to something that you're.
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Passionate about something that you're really patriotic about,
something that is just somethingfor you that touches your soul
that. Hits your heart and you.
Go all in about that, you know, and whatever.
That is for you, man. That's that's what it is.
You know, it's not about, you know, somebody deciding, you
know, well, that's what I need to do as well.
If someone's doing what they're doing and they believe in it,
then I need to do that too. You know, it's really about you
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understanding yourself, knowing yourself and being able to show
up and say you know what? This is something that I love
this. Is something that I'm going to
stand up for. This is what I'm going.
To speak about this is what I'm.Going to show up about.
You know so. I know that it can.
Feel daunting or difficult at the beginning?
To try to lean into something that's unfamiliar or that you
haven't. Experienced before that you're
not used to. You know, and then there's a lot
of resistance mentally of like, you know.
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Can I do it? Is this going to happen?
Am I going to achieve what I'm trying to achieve and then very
very? Easily.
You know you can doubt yourself and think that it's just not
going to work for you, right? But again, remember, you're the
one that makes the choices. Every single day that that
determine you know what you wantto create in your life, you know
you can either. Leave Leave your life from the
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past and keep creating the same reality that.
You've created thus far. In your life or you can start to
make. Different choices you can
create, new habits you can change your.
Lifestyle You can change your environment which is then going
to help you, right? It's not going.
To get you to where you need to be because you.
Always need to constantly be evolving in order to continue to
redesign and and create the reality of of your dreams of
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what you want to live. In right, and that's very.
Important to remember because a lot of us, I think we fall short
because we believe and think that, you know, we, we.
Feed into. Or believe this lie about you
know it's going to happen. Fast.
And that's not to say that. It can't, you know.
Of course you know things can transpire.
Very, very quickly, but I just. Helping you to understand that
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there is a process to. Things that you really want.
You know, and for some people tohappen quicker than others, you
know, but most importantly for yourself, you know, if it
doesn't happen in a specific time frame that you thought it
would. Does that mean you give up?
You know, and again, the one thing that triggers me all the
time when I say this because I've said it 50,000 times, you
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know that if something doesn't happen for you as quickly as
you. Want it to happen?
What do you do? Do you give up or do you keep
going? You know, and that I think about
straight away is a toxic. Relationship, you know.
I've always said this in my podcast.
I'm like, you know? Give it six months.
You know, give it's like, of course you marry someone, you
love them, you go. All in and you believe.
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That this is my person six yearslater.
You realise they're not your person.
You realise they're fucking toxic, manipulative,
destructive, fucking narcissistic, whatever the gas
lining you. All the time.
They're fucking what they say and what they do is 2.
Different fucking things, you know?
Then you find yourself lost, confused, and questioning
whether you fucking are sane or not.
Questioning whether you trust yourself or not.
Questioning whether you're actually telling the truth or
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you're not. Because they're.
Telling you that you're lying. And you're not lying, but
they're telling you 50,000 timesthat you're lying.
You're a liar and then you startto actually question your own
truth and then then you lose. Yourself basically, you know,
almost like you become fucking stupid.
So then you you sit there and gowell, is this.
What I've signed up for, is thishealthy for me?
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Is this something I want to? Be in, you know, it's like you
get to that point and you go, well, I don't want to give up.
I don't want to give up on love.I don't want to give up on this.
I I Once Upon a time, this was adream, you know, and it was a
fairy tale and it was the white picket fence and it was fucking
whatever you. Wanted it to be.
Or thought it would be only to realise and again guys it.
Cannot be just this. Relationship that's evolved into
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something that you never thoughtit would be.
It could be a dream goal, something that you're aspiring
to achieve and you thought it was something XY and Z and it's
not. You know so.
It's like getting to this point of, you know, hey, make a plan,
you know, decide to make some different choices.
Decide to make a plan or a vision or a goal that you know
what, I'm going to give it this much time.
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You know, this is happening for me in business as well.
You know, it's like, OK, these are people that I'm working
with, you know, let's give it a try, Let's see what happens.
I'll give it one week, give it two weeks, give it one month,
give it two months. You know, I'm not feeling the
alignment yet. I'll give it another chance to
get another chance. And then eventually I'm like,
you know what? Not feeling it.
See you later, you know. But there's got to be a certain
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level. Whoever's listening to this
right now, I pray that you receive this message and that
you know if this was meant for you, then this is a blessing.
You know it's a sign. That you've got to have.
Some sort of threshold? You got to have some sort of
level, some sort of peak that you hit, the roof that you hit,
you know, and I think that's thethe bullshit tolerance that many
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of us just have too much. We tolerate too much.
We're not trusting ourselves. We don't know the fuck we are
anymore. And we're just.
Allowing shit to slide constantly.
You know. We see shit that's not right,
but we. Still don't do anything about
it. We feel things that are not.
Right, we still don't do anything about it.
We keep. Tolerating, tolerating,
tolerating. Eventually what happens?
We just get fucking walked all over and then one day you wake
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up and you're living in a fucking shit hole and you're
like, how the fuck did I get here?
It's like, wow, my tolerance is just so open.
Why? Oh, because I'm kind.
Oh, because I'm loving. Oh, because I'm accepting.
Right. Unfortunately, not everybody is
accepting as you are. Not everybody loves it like you
do. Not everybody is kind as you
are. Not everybody respects like you
fucking. Respect.
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You know it's about. Time that you fucking woke.
Up to yourself and. You stop playing this fucking
bullshit game of just toleratingtolerating tolerating.
Accepting, accepting, accepting.Start fucking respecting
yourself. Start standing up for yourself.
Start saying yes to yourself. Stop fucking giving yourself
some fucking boundaries and start making a fucking better
plan for yourself, maybe a bit more assertive and fucking make
better decisions, you know, because you keep just tolerating
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tolerating. You got no fucking threshold.
You don't have a fucking roof. You know, shit just keeps
happening in your life and you just keep going up and up and up
and up and I'll just keep accepting and tolerating and
going and going and going. Keep going higher.
Fucking go to fucking Mars, you know, and you still won't
fucking say anything, you know? So this is what comes up when
you're like. Well, yeah, you know.
Don't give up. Like have patience, right?
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But when it comes to some bullshit like that, it's like,
I'm not talking to that. I'm not, I'm not talking to you
being in that shit place going. Just just have patience.
It's going to get better. Just just trust the process.
You know it's going to work out for you.
Don't worry. Just keep going.
No, I'm not talking about that. That is where you know that I'm
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not talking. About that shit, man.
I'm talking about your dreams, man.
I'm talking about your fucking. Future I'm talking about your
best. Life.
If you ain't living in your bestlife, I ain't fucking talking to
you, right? And I can just listen and I can
feel that there's someone out there that is just like in some
shit place. And I'm saying don't give up the
process. Have some patience.
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And you're listening, going, allright.
Maybe I'll have the patience a bit more.
Maybe I'll drag it on a bit morejust to see.
Maybe things will get better. Maybe things will change.
Maybe maybe it'll happen, you know, maybe I'll keep praying
and praying and praying. It's going to change when really
the prayers are just fucking keeping you safe from you
fucking not having a nervous fucking mental breakdown, you
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know, and you just fucking survive.
And it's like, man, sure suffering is a.
Part of life. But you got to give a meaning to
that suffering, got to create a purpose out of that suffering,
got to create something bigger out of that pain.
You got to transmute that shit into some fucking thing that's
extraordinary, that drives you, that goes, you know what?
I went through XY and ZI went through fucking ACDB, fucking
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all these letters and I ain't giving up now because I'm going
to use that. I'm going to fucking overcome
it. I'm going to realise how
powerful I am and I'm going to fucking forge forth to North and
I'm going to fucking live my best life.
You know I won't be brought down.
You know. It's like realising that.
Sure, you know. Some of us have somehow ended up
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in crappy circumstances. But you know, we're all here.
To to lift each other up and this is my.
Way of trying to lift you up This is my way of trying to give
back. This is my way of saying.
Hey, you know what? Once Upon a time.
I was in a fucking shit hole Once Upon a time.
I didn't fucking love myself Once Upon a time.
Didn't have my own back Once Upon a time.
I didn't understand. Hey Luke, bro, just fucking
focus on you man. Fuck everything else, you know?
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Just give you some time. Just say yes to you.
Bro, you know. I didn't understand that, you
know, for me, I was just lost ineverybody else's life.
But was I living a lie or was I confused?
Or was I hating on that life that I was living?
No, man, I was living a fucking shit bro.
I was fucking drinking coke and fucking everything.
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I was living a good life back then.
I don't even think of anything else.
But they had to be a point of like, let's fucking change, you
know, let's make a different choice.
Let's make a different turn. You know, his life is kind of
on. Repeat.
It's cyclical round and round, you know.
How many times you want to go round and round?
If you're in a fucking situationright now and you feel like
you're going round and round, put your hand up.
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You know, if you're in a fuckingsituation where you feel like
things aren't changing and you just feel like, you know, you
fucking go round and round. Put your fucking hand up, right?
Like you're driving right now and you're like, fucking put
your hand up. Like Luke's put your fucking
hand up. Yeah, some of us are doing that
shit. You know, we're going round and
round. Nothing's changing.
And we're like, just like, maybethings will get better, you
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know? How do things get better?
How do things get? Better do things get.
Better because we make differentdecisions than what we have thus
far to create the life that we live in today.
Or do things get better because we start doing different shit?
You know so. When I go back to what I was
referring to when I say don't give up, trust the process, you
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know, don't expect things to just change overnight.
Don't expect transformation and success to just happen.
You know, it's something that you decide, hey, be passionate
about this. I'm going to learn about it.
I'm going to invest into it. I'm going to pour into it.
I'm going to fucking water the seed, you know?
You make that. Choice and you go I'm planting
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this seed this. New seed of this new.
Lie. You know my new path.
My new. Version of me.
My new business, my new ID. And I'm going to water this, you
know, and. However long it takes me, I will
keep asking questions I will keep.
Watering it, I will keep loving it.
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And as I keep doing that, it will grow.
Not at the speed of what other people expected to grow.
Or not even at the speed of you expecting.
Because you don't know who you are true.
And you don't know what circumstances, situations,
lessons you need to go through in.
Order to breakthrough the surface like a fucking tree
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trunk. Because in order for you to grow
that thick and strong, to be able to grow the branches and
fucking go tall, you know, you got to go through some shit.
You got to make some fucking mistakes.
You got to learn. Some shit, man.
You know you ain't going to growout of the ground like a little
fucking twig that when the fucking storms come all of a
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sudden or someone fucking walks past and kicks it, it snaps.
You know, I think many of us were those.
Twigs a while ago. And we've been snapped and
snapped and snapped and snapped and we've been.
Losing ourselves for fucking years.
And all of a sudden, now you go,whoa, you know what?
I want to make some changes. I want to think differently.
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I want to. Change my life.
I want to make some different better choices so.
Now you go. Wow, now I can plant some new
seeds. And you know what?
No one's going to touch these seeds.
I'm going to plant these seeds of my new life and I'm going to.
Water them every day. I'm going to love them every
day. I'm going to show up for them
every day. And before you know, it's six
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months, 12 months, 18 months, 24months, three years, four years,
five years. And time continues to go by as
you keep evolving. And then eventually you look
back and you live in your fucking dream.
You know, I was having a shower.I was getting prepped for this
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podcast. I wasn't thinking necessarily
about what I'm going to talk about because I just let myself
flow. Whatever is meant to flow will
flow. Rivers never go reverse flow, be
like water, Bruce Lee. But one thing I did think about
it was I was having a shower andI was just, you know, starting
my day even though it's 1:30 PM.But you know, I got up, I went
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to the gym, you know, I had a few coffees, few conversations.
Had some food. And I'm literally like, it's
1:30 PM and I'm starting my day and I just had to catch myself
for a while. For a moment.
I had the music on in the bathroom.
I don't normally do that, but I was just like, you know what?
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Put some music on? Good vibes.
And as I had the music on, I waslike catching myself because I
was like, shit Once Upon a time.Because you know what?
Catches me man, you know, when Ilisten to like old school R&B,
you know, like Neo and Usher andthat music of like 22,000 and
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one, you know, 2000 and two 2003, the music's completely
different now, but that shit like it's very, very, very
nostalgic for me and it takes meback to like that 1716, you
know, 18 year old, 19 year old Luke, 20 year old Luke that was
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just so didn't know like who he was or what he wanted to be or,
you know, was like very fragile,you know, very insecure and it
takes me back there and I'm justlike fuck.
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And then as I grow through, you know, 112, you know, I used to
have a red Toyota Starlet with white wheels I bought off my
brother in law after having a red Ford Falcon manual, 55 speed
manual with a big cannon exhaustout the back and it was nice and
shiny too. They had to cut the bump on the
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side there because the cannon cannon was so big.
There was a place in Lansvale, Sydney was called Fussies and
they did exhaust there. And after having this car that I
just went into debt with my brother in law's like, hey man,
buy this Toyota style. It will never break down.
But that music, you know, it takes me back to that version of
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me where, you know, it was always a dream, you know, not,
not necessarily financial freedom, not necessarily like
having business because I didn'tknow what the fuck this was like
this life I'm living. It was like wanting to feel
loved, you know, It was that soul mate, you know, it was that
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one, that partner that I didn't know how to attract.
And so I continued to allow myself to settle sometimes just
for whatever was coming, becauseI didn't want to be alone.
Now, you know, I didn't understand personal development.
I didn't understand self confidence, didn't understand
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self love. I didn't understand self
awareness. I didn't understand how to be
aware of your thoughts. But the thoughts were always
there, you know. So the thought of feeling
judged, the thought of judging myself, the thought of how I
looked in the mirror, the thought of how I felt when I
looked at myself in the mirror. Like all of these insecure
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thoughts. Even all of.
Just the feelings of not feelinggood within myself, you know,
not having that confidence that always was there.
And then there were many. Occasions where, you know, I
would feel scared, I would be triggered or I would get into a
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confrontational situation that, you know, whether I was abused
or, you know, hit over the head or whatever it was or maybe even
just looked at the wrong way, I would freak out.
You know, I would be very, very,very, very scared.
And. This was something that was very
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hard for me because again, I didn't understand how to
overcome it. Nor.
Did I understand how hypersensitive I was?
Just that people's energy, you know, which really, really
caused me to want to hide. So for me, hiding was drinking
cocaine. For me, hiding was trying to fit
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in, to fit in with the crowd, tofit in with your your friends,
you know? And this is an.
Our innate nature as we are born, you know to.
We want to feel included. You know.
We want to feel loved. We want to feel.
Supported. We want to feel a part.
Of something bigger than ourselves.
And this is how I tried to to dothat with the people that I was
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surrounding myself with. Again, not to say that.
My life was bad and that I was necessarily like living a bad
life or I was unhappy all the time or I was completely
depressed and suicidal. You know, sure, I've had my
experiences of suicidal ideation, but I wasn't
necessarily completely like, absolutely, you know, fucked up
that, you know, in such a dark place in a sense of like, you
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know, cutting my wrists or anything like that, you know,
but internally I was struggling.And so, you know, you use these
things to cope. Coping mechanism is, you know,
investing or spending. Not even investing, but spending
money on a car. To seek.
Approval from others that's escaping, you know, the belief
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of well, if I have nice things, people will like me, and
crazier, if I have nice things, people will respect me.
This is the world that we live in, seeking approval, seeking
outside energy so that we feel enough.
So again, coping mechanisms. What are the coping mechanisms?
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Whatever it can be. Or whatever you fucking want it
to be. You know what I mean?
Like you can't like the whole, like, you know, Oh.
You're a drug addict or you're fucking this or you're.
That like ethanol? Is an alcohol, it's a drug.
Fucking, you know, you're an alcoholic or this and it's like
fuck man, like everyone talks from the outside not realising
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what it feels. Like on the inside to be fucking
sexually. Abused to be physically abused,
to be financially abused, to go through like experiences of
trauma or something that's so fucked up that causes you to
want to escape. It causes you to want to not
feel. So whatever your coping
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mechanism. Has been and was.
If you got here and you haven't overcome it yet, you can.
If you got here and you haven't healed from it yet, you can.
If you got here and it's still lingering and it's fucking
dragging you down, you can change.
You can overcome it. I don't give a fuck where you
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are in your life. You can heal, you can get
better. You can process it with the
right environment. The right diet, the right
routine, the right lifestyle, the right energy around you,
changing the way you think, reprogramming A subconscious
mind. Diligently, consistently, over
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time, you can transform your life.
But don't sit here and like, look bad.
At all the. Stuff you did and even what
you're doing right now to cope with the shit that you're going
through. Don't feel bad, just know it's
part of my healing process. I'm trying to fucking survive.
That's all you're doing. But guess what?
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You're here in the podcast, the Luke Mine Power Podcast,
wherever you're watching, Spotify, YouTube, Apple Podcast,
Rumble, fucking Amazon Music, Audible, iHeartRadio, wherever
you're tuning in from. You're here because you're here
to overcome that. You'll need to become aware of
it and eventually you're going to become the best fucking
version of yourself and it's going to be a thing of the past.
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So you look back and you go, fuck, man, those smokes, I was
smoking a packet a day. That was my coping mechanism.
That was what was keeping me alive.
I needed a fucking chuff. Maybe it's fucking weed, you
know? And that weed is like keeping
you fucking sane when you go to work because it keeps you calm,
because you get stressed out, because people treat you with
disrespect. But if you have a smoke before
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you go into work, you feel OK, right?
But then there's the fucking guilt, right?
Of maybe abusing alcohol, abusing fucking some other drug
or maybe binge eating, emotionaleating, whatever the fuck it is
man, doesn't matter. Over fucking buying shit.
Going into more debt because youneed fucking more handbags or
you need fucking more shit. That you think people are going
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to like you better because you got it.
I'm going to get more validation.
I'm going to fucking feel betterabout myself because people are
going to respect me more becauseI've got a nice car or whatever
the shit it is. I bought another fucking house.
Whatever. Or making sense.
Many of us don't know that. We can actually, like, be cool
with ourselves. Like, and isn't it incredible?
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One of the things in my coachingprogramme actually focuses on
your body. You know, he's actually.
Being grateful, you know I take you through.
I'm pretty sure it's in module. No, it's in module 2.
So it's about practising gratitude to your body.
It's communicating with your body, you know, saying thank
you, maybe even. Apologising to your body for
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doing things that are destructive or for.
Being against yourself, you know, causing bodily harm, for
example, by taking or using things that.
Don't help it to thrive, you know?
And this is me trying to help you become.
Aware that. If you're specifically in a
surviving state because you're constantly escaping or you're
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using something as a coping mechanism so that you can just
get through your fucking day andthen you may be feeling guilty
about it. Or there's some element of you
that's like, fuck, I know I'm not supposed to do this or I'm
not. I know this isn't the healthiest
thing for me, but and I know I'm, you know, you may feel like
there's something there you're becoming more aware of and
you're like, but I can't stop. Because I need it, you know,
like. I'm just reminding you man,
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chill, you know, I think. Back to how I was.
Functioning with the lifestyle that I was living and I was
like, man, fuck everything I did.
Even porn fuck. On fucking destructive it's
like. Crazy.
It fucks your head, you know, And I tell.
You it is an escape. You know, it's like it took you
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away. It took you away from life, you
know, like half an hour of that.Shit man, just sitting there.
I have to go into details. You get the fucking picture.
But like, it was an escape. It was a fucking good escape.
Why? Why escape for why?
Why don't you want to think about life?
Why don't you? Well, because I don't want to
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feel like this is where the trauma is.
The trauma is in your emotions. The trauma is connected to your
subconscious brain, which is connected to the memories and
the fear and the the shit experiences that have created
this belief of who you are. Which creates the feeling and
emotion of what you hold within yourself from all those triggers
and traumatic experiences that you've been through.
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And then you're neural pathways are like fucking bong and all of
a sudden your body's fucking. Charged with pain.
How do we get away from that escape do.
What you need to do? So for a lot of our journeys
moving forward, you know. We're coming out of dysfunction.
We're coming out of dysfunction,OK?
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Know that if you're listening tothis.
Right now it's not about. Being perfect.
And this is not what I'm all about, you know, I'm not trying
to show up as this 6 pack fucking athletic, extraordinary,
fucking strict, only allowed to eat these.
Not allowed to touch these, not allowed to dust.
That's not me, you know. I'm still.
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You know, balance man. Balance.
You know, like self respect balance.
I'll have a fucking cocktail, you know?
But guess what? My priorities are fucking so
much. You know that What you learn is
that I'll have a nice. Glass of fucking wine, you know.
But what you learn when you havea greater purpose, when you got
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priorities, when you've done theinner work, when you overcome
the past and you no longer live there, when you actually invest
in yourself and you do the work,go through the process, then you
can enjoy a fucking drink. It's the fucking best.
I don't know, it's probably unfamiliar, very former foreign
for some of you guys to think. What are you promoting alcohol?
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No, I'm not. I'm saying fuck, it's a bit.
It's fucking awesome to have a nice glass of wine.
It's fucking amazing to have a cocktail and fucking sit there,
enjoy it and go fuck. Give me 10 more because I want
to get fucking hammered. You don't need to get fucking
hammered for there's nothing to escape.
Like the purpose of drinking forme was to get fucking shit
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faced, you know? I was like the last one standing
all the time. I was the one with the bottle
trying to pour it down my friend's fucking mouth at 7:00
in the morning. Vodka.
Fuck, we haven't finished yet. Let's go.
You know what I mean? Like.
There was no limit. It wasn't like.
How much are we going to drink tonight?
Fucking 3 bottles? Who gives a fuck?
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Just drink. Let's get hammered.
Let's see how far we can go, right?
You know so. There's a big difference.
Now you know it's not about Oh, don't do that.
It's not healthy. It's like.
Find your balance man. Enjoy your fucking life.
If that's something that you enjoy, enjoy it, but don't abuse
it. You know what I mean?
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You know yourself when you're overdoing it.
You know yourself when you're abusing something.
You know yourself when you're going over the top, where you
know that it's going to affect your energy in a big way the
following day. And the following day after
that. You know, and I say, man, like
when you got priorities, man, when you got shit fucking when
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you go to your own fucking business and clients and
appointments and fucking so manythings that you're working on
right, like that outweighs the devil.
He's. Like Luke, get the vodka bottle
out, let's fucking get smashed, get some shot glasses, fucking
call over the neighbours and let's fucking go.
And I'm like, piss off, man. I got fucking shit to do, right?
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It's not the inner pain or the insecurities or the past fucking
trauma or whatever. It is that's happened.
That's going please, please. I'm hurting, I'm hurting.
Give me some shots. Drink, drink, drink.
I need. I don't want to feel this.
I don't want to feel this. You know, and then that first
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shot, he's like, fuck. And it's all like.
Oh my gosh. Or the first smoke and it just
fuck, goes down your oesophagus and then you hold it in your gut
and then you feel it instantly. It's like, whoa, yeah, all
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right, have another shot. That's better now.
I'm good. Another smoke.
So wherever you are in your life, just know there is a way
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through, not a way out, a way through.
And if you keep listening to this podcast, if you keep
fueling your mind with positivity, with inspiration,
with information that's valuable, that is going to
actually give you some sort of spark or breakthrough or aha
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moment or just surround yourselfwith energy that resonates with
you. You know, and I know that every
single person that listens to this podcast, I don't care where
you live, how old you are, whatever it is, every single
person that listens to this podcast, you have something
special. You have greatness within you.
You have so much potential, so much greatness in you that you
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don't even know about. And your life is just beginning.
So don't worry if you've been through a lot of shit and you
haven't overcome it yet and you're coping with fucking crap
that's hurting and you're, you know, doing whatever you're
doing. I still love you, you know.
I never, I never stopped. And my job is to give you that
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awareness and to give you that better relationship with
yourself where you actually haveyour own back.
You don't cheat on yourself, butyou know that you're here to
evolve. You know that you're here to be
better. You know that you're here to
transform, transcend all the stuff that's been weighing you
down one step at a time. Today you plan a new seed, make
sure that you keep watering it. And one way that you can keep
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watering it is by listening to this podcast.
That's it. Keep listening, keep listening,
keep fueling your mind. Keep programming yourself, you
know? Because whatever you surround.
Yourself, whatever you listen to, it either effects you in a
positive way or a negative way. And it's completely up to you if
you want to live a better life and you want to live a positive
life or you want to stay stuck where you are.
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And this is where your life becomes really fulfilling.
Because once you start making progress, baby, get sexy.
Fucking hell. Like it gets fucking sexy, man.
You just don't even want to stoplooking at your life because
you're like, fuck. And I've, this is what I've been
dreaming of. This is what I was talking
about, man, you know? Like, let's make life.
Sexy again? Come on, you know.
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What I mean like fucking, you know, destroying ourselves for
what? You know what I mean?
Like eventually get to your fucking point where you reach a
peak and you go enough is enough.
If changes are not made over thenext six months, I'm fucking.
Gone. I'm done.
I'm out. And I ain't sacrificing my time
anymore. Because like I.
Told you last episode, Lost timewill never.
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Be found again. People will call you crazy,
people will tell you don't do it.
People will tell you shit that fucking you know, they think
that's best for you. But remember ain't no one living
your life, ain't no one feel what you feel, ain't no one been
through your shit. But let them fucking live your
life and then see if they make the best decisions like you
would because you're the one that's living it.
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And sometimes we forget. Well I better just get opinions
of others 1st and then I'll makea decision for myself.
Like you're not able to understand yourself so much that
other people will understand youbetter.
That's basically what we're saying.
It's like, Nah, man, you are feeling every single day that
you leave. You know what it's all about and
it's time for you to step up. It's time for you to make some
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better choices, make some betterdecisions for yourself and move
the. Fuck on.
You're listening to the Luke Meintall podcast.
I'll see you on the next episode.
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Do that too. Don't.
Expect things to just change overnight.
Don't expect transformation and success to just happen.
It's something that you decide it's not about.
Oh, don't do that. Find your balance.
Man, enjoy your fucking life. If that's something that you
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All right, what's up everyone? How you doing?
Welcome to another podcast episode on the Luke Mine Power
Podcast. I hope you're having a great
day. Really looking forward to
spending some more time with youguys, helping you to continue to
stay focused on your goals, yourdreams, whatever it is that you
want to achieve. Just a quick reminder that it's
possible. And no matter what's going on
around the world, I know that they can feel, if you keep
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observing a lot of the stuff that's happening around the
world, you could also easily getdrowned in it and feel drained
in it. And I know that.
I really really really. Believe as well, there's
something very, very powerful isa revelation for me is that, you
know, we all have a purpose and a lot of us can say, well, what
is your purpose? How do?
How do you find your purpose? And I think it's just more about
really just leaning in to something that you're.
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Passionate about something that you're really patriotic about,
something that is just somethingfor you that touches your soul
that. Hits your heart and you.
Go all in about that, you know, and whatever.
That is for you, man. That's that's what it is.
You know, it's not about, you know, somebody deciding, you
know, well, that's what I need to do as well.
If someone's doing what they're doing and they believe in it,
then I need to do that too. You know, it's really about you
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understanding yourself, knowing yourself and being able to show
up and say you know what? This is something that I love
this. Is something that I'm going to
stand up for. This is what I'm going.
To speak about this is what I'm.Going to show up about.
You know so. I know that it can.
Feel daunting or difficult at the beginning?
To try to lean into something that's unfamiliar or that you
haven't. Experienced before that you're
not used to. You know, and then there's a lot
of resistance mentally of like, you know.
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Can I do it? Is this going to happen?
Am I going to achieve what I'm trying to achieve and then very
very? Easily.
You know you can doubt yourself and think that it's just not
going to work for you, right? But again, remember, you're the
one that makes the choices. Every single day that that
determine you know what you wantto create in your life, you know
you can either. Leave Leave your life from the
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past and keep creating the same reality that.
You've created thus far. In your life or you can start to
make. Different choices you can
create, new habits you can change your.
Lifestyle You can change your environment which is then going
to help you, right? It's not going.
To get you to where you need to be because you.
Always need to constantly be evolving in order to continue to
redesign and and create the reality of of your dreams of
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what you want to live. In right, and that's very.
Important to remember because a lot of us, I think we fall short
because we believe and think that, you know, we, we.
Feed into. Or believe this lie about you
know it's going to happen. Fast.
And that's not to say that. It can't, you know.
Of course you know things can transpire.
Very, very quickly, but I just. Helping you to understand that
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there is a process to. Things that you really want.
You know, and for some people tohappen quicker than others, you
know, but most importantly for yourself, you know, if it
doesn't happen in a specific time frame that you thought it
would. Does that mean you give up?
You know, and again, the one thing that triggers me all the
time when I say this because I've said it 50,000 times, you
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know that if something doesn't happen for you as quickly as
you. Want it to happen?
What do you do? Do you give up or do you keep
going? You know, and that I think about
straight away is a toxic. Relationship, you know.
I've always said this in my podcast.
I'm like, you know? Give it six months.
You know, give it's like, of course you marry someone, you
love them, you go. All in and you believe.
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That this is my person six yearslater.
You realise they're not your person.
You realise they're fucking toxic, manipulative,
destructive, fucking narcissistic, whatever the gas
lining you. All the time.
They're fucking what they say and what they do is 2.
Different fucking things, you know?
Then you find yourself lost, confused, and questioning
whether you fucking are sane or not.
Questioning whether you trust yourself or not.
Questioning whether you're actually telling the truth or
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you're not. Because they're.
Telling you that you're lying. And you're not lying, but
they're telling you 50,000 timesthat you're lying.
You're a liar and then you startto actually question your own
truth and then then you lose. Yourself basically, you know,
almost like you become fucking stupid.
So then you you sit there and gowell, is this.
What I've signed up for, is thishealthy for me?
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Is this something I want to? Be in, you know, it's like you
get to that point and you go, well, I don't want to give up.
I don't want to give up on love.I don't want to give up on this.
I I Once Upon a time, this was adream, you know, and it was a
fairy tale and it was the white picket fence and it was fucking
whatever you. Wanted it to be.
Or thought it would be only to realise and again guys it.
Cannot be just this. Relationship that's evolved into
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something that you never thoughtit would be.
It could be a dream goal, something that you're aspiring
to achieve and you thought it was something XY and Z and it's
not. You know so.
It's like getting to this point of, you know, hey, make a plan,
you know, decide to make some different choices.
Decide to make a plan or a vision or a goal that you know
what, I'm going to give it this much time.
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You know, this is happening for me in business as well.
You know, it's like, OK, these are people that I'm working
with, you know, let's give it a try, Let's see what happens.
I'll give it one week, give it two weeks, give it one month,
give it two months. You know, I'm not feeling the
alignment yet. I'll give it another chance to
get another chance. And then eventually I'm like,
you know what? Not feeling it.
See you later, you know. But there's got to be a certain
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level. Whoever's listening to this
right now, I pray that you receive this message and that
you know if this was meant for you, then this is a blessing.
You know it's a sign. That you've got to have.
Some sort of threshold? You got to have some sort of
level, some sort of peak that you hit, the roof that you hit,
you know, and I think that's thethe bullshit tolerance that many
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of us just have too much. We tolerate too much.
We're not trusting ourselves. We don't know the fuck we are
anymore. And we're just.
Allowing shit to slide constantly.
You know. We see shit that's not right,
but we. Still don't do anything about
it. We feel things that are not.
Right, we still don't do anything about it.
We keep. Tolerating, tolerating,
tolerating. Eventually what happens?
We just get fucking walked all over and then one day you wake
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up and you're living in a fucking shit hole and you're
like, how the fuck did I get here?
It's like, wow, my tolerance is just so open.
Why? Oh, because I'm kind.
Oh, because I'm loving. Oh, because I'm accepting.
Right. Unfortunately, not everybody is
accepting as you are. Not everybody loves it like you
do. Not everybody is kind as you
are. Not everybody respects like you
fucking. Respect.
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You know it's about. Time that you fucking woke.
Up to yourself and. You stop playing this fucking
bullshit game of just toleratingtolerating tolerating.
Accepting, accepting, accepting.Start fucking respecting
yourself. Start standing up for yourself.
Start saying yes to yourself. Stop fucking giving yourself
some fucking boundaries and start making a fucking better
plan for yourself, maybe a bit more assertive and fucking make
better decisions, you know, because you keep just tolerating
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tolerating. You got no fucking threshold.
You don't have a fucking roof. You know, shit just keeps
happening in your life and you just keep going up and up and up
and up and I'll just keep accepting and tolerating and
going and going and going. Keep going higher.
Fucking go to fucking Mars, you know, and you still won't
fucking say anything, you know? So this is what comes up when
you're like. Well, yeah, you know.
Don't give up. Like have patience, right?
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But when it comes to some bullshit like that, it's like,
I'm not talking to that. I'm not, I'm not talking to you
being in that shit place going. Just just have patience.
It's going to get better. Just just trust the process.
You know it's going to work out for you.
Don't worry. Just keep going.
No, I'm not talking about that. That is where you know that I'm
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not talking. About that shit, man.
I'm talking about your dreams, man.
I'm talking about your fucking. Future I'm talking about your
best. Life.
If you ain't living in your bestlife, I ain't fucking talking to
you, right? And I can just listen and I can
feel that there's someone out there that is just like in some
shit place. And I'm saying don't give up the
process. Have some patience.
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And you're listening, going, allright.
Maybe I'll have the patience a bit more.
Maybe I'll drag it on a bit morejust to see.
Maybe things will get better. Maybe things will change.
Maybe maybe it'll happen, you know, maybe I'll keep praying
and praying and praying. It's going to change when really
the prayers are just fucking keeping you safe from you
fucking not having a nervous fucking mental breakdown, you
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know, and you just fucking survive.
And it's like, man, sure suffering is a.
Part of life. But you got to give a meaning to
that suffering, got to create a purpose out of that suffering,
got to create something bigger out of that pain.
You got to transmute that shit into some fucking thing that's
extraordinary, that drives you, that goes, you know what?
I went through XY and ZI went through fucking ACDB, fucking
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all these letters and I ain't giving up now because I'm going
to use that. I'm going to fucking overcome
it. I'm going to realise how
powerful I am and I'm going to fucking forge forth to North and
I'm going to fucking live my best life.
You know I won't be brought down.
You know. It's like realising that.
Sure, you know. Some of us have somehow ended up
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in crappy circumstances. But you know, we're all here.
To to lift each other up and this is my.
Way of trying to lift you up This is my way of trying to give
back. This is my way of saying.
Hey, you know what? Once Upon a time.
I was in a fucking shit hole Once Upon a time.
I didn't fucking love myself Once Upon a time.
Didn't have my own back Once Upon a time.
I didn't understand. Hey Luke, bro, just fucking
focus on you man. Fuck everything else, you know?
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Just give you some time. Just say yes to you.
Bro, you know. I didn't understand that, you
know, for me, I was just lost ineverybody else's life.
But was I living a lie or was I confused?
Or was I hating on that life that I was living?
No, man, I was living a fucking shit bro.
I was fucking drinking coke and fucking everything.
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I was living a good life back then.
I don't even think of anything else.
But they had to be a point of like, let's fucking change, you
know, let's make a different choice.
Let's make a different turn. You know, his life is kind of
on. Repeat.
It's cyclical round and round, you know.
How many times you want to go round and round?
If you're in a fucking situationright now and you feel like
you're going round and round, put your hand up.
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You know, if you're in a fuckingsituation where you feel like
things aren't changing and you just feel like, you know, you
fucking go round and round. Put your fucking hand up, right?
Like you're driving right now and you're like, fucking put
your hand up. Like Luke's put your fucking
hand up. Yeah, some of us are doing that
shit. You know, we're going round and
round. Nothing's changing.
And we're like, just like, maybethings will get better, you
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know? How do things get better?
How do things get? Better do things get.
Better because we make differentdecisions than what we have thus
far to create the life that we live in today.
Or do things get better because we start doing different shit?
You know so. When I go back to what I was
referring to when I say don't give up, trust the process, you
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know, don't expect things to just change overnight.
Don't expect transformation and success to just happen.
You know, it's something that you decide, hey, be passionate
about this. I'm going to learn about it.
I'm going to invest into it. I'm going to pour into it.
I'm going to fucking water the seed, you know?
You make that. Choice and you go I'm planting
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this seed this. New seed of this new.
Lie. You know my new path.
My new. Version of me.
My new business, my new ID. And I'm going to water this, you
know, and. However long it takes me, I will
keep asking questions I will keep.
Watering it, I will keep loving it.
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And as I keep doing that, it will grow.
Not at the speed of what other people expected to grow.
Or not even at the speed of you expecting.
Because you don't know who you are true.
And you don't know what circumstances, situations,
lessons you need to go through in.
Order to breakthrough the surface like a fucking tree
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trunk. Because in order for you to grow
that thick and strong, to be able to grow the branches and
fucking go tall, you know, you got to go through some shit.
You got to make some fucking mistakes.
You got to learn. Some shit, man.
You know you ain't going to growout of the ground like a little
fucking twig that when the fucking storms come all of a
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sudden or someone fucking walks past and kicks it, it snaps.
You know, I think many of us were those.
Twigs a while ago. And we've been snapped and
snapped and snapped and snapped and we've been.
Losing ourselves for fucking years.
And all of a sudden, now you go,whoa, you know what?
I want to make some changes. I want to think differently.
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I want to. Change my life.
I want to make some different better choices so.
Now you go. Wow, now I can plant some new
seeds. And you know what?
No one's going to touch these seeds.
I'm going to plant these seeds of my new life and I'm going to.
Water them every day. I'm going to love them every
day. I'm going to show up for them
every day. And before you know, it's six
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months, 12 months, 18 months, 24months, three years, four years,
five years. And time continues to go by as
you keep evolving. And then eventually you look
back and you live in your fucking dream.
You know, I was having a shower.I was getting prepped for this
(14:55):
podcast. I wasn't thinking necessarily
about what I'm going to talk about because I just let myself
flow. Whatever is meant to flow will
flow. Rivers never go reverse flow, be
like water, Bruce Lee. But one thing I did think about
it was I was having a shower andI was just, you know, starting
my day even though it's 1:30 PM.But you know, I got up, I went
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to the gym, you know, I had a few coffees, few conversations.
Had some food. And I'm literally like, it's
1:30 PM and I'm starting my day and I just had to catch myself
for a while. For a moment.
I had the music on in the bathroom.
I don't normally do that, but I was just like, you know what?
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Put some music on? Good vibes.
And as I had the music on, I waslike catching myself because I
was like, shit Once Upon a time.Because you know what?
Catches me man, you know, when Ilisten to like old school R&B,
you know, like Neo and Usher andthat music of like 22,000 and
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one, you know, 2000 and two 2003, the music's completely
different now, but that shit like it's very, very, very
nostalgic for me and it takes meback to like that 1716, you
know, 18 year old, 19 year old Luke, 20 year old Luke that was
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just so didn't know like who he was or what he wanted to be or,
you know, was like very fragile,you know, very insecure and it
takes me back there and I'm justlike fuck.
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And then as I grow through, you know, 112, you know, I used to
have a red Toyota Starlet with white wheels I bought off my
brother in law after having a red Ford Falcon manual, 55 speed
manual with a big cannon exhaustout the back and it was nice and
shiny too. They had to cut the bump on the
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side there because the cannon cannon was so big.
There was a place in Lansvale, Sydney was called Fussies and
they did exhaust there. And after having this car that I
just went into debt with my brother in law's like, hey man,
buy this Toyota style. It will never break down.
But that music, you know, it takes me back to that version of
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me where, you know, it was always a dream, you know, not,
not necessarily financial freedom, not necessarily like
having business because I didn'tknow what the fuck this was like
this life I'm living. It was like wanting to feel
loved, you know, It was that soul mate, you know, it was that
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one, that partner that I didn't know how to attract.
And so I continued to allow myself to settle sometimes just
for whatever was coming, becauseI didn't want to be alone.
Now, you know, I didn't understand personal development.
I didn't understand self confidence, didn't understand
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self love. I didn't understand self
awareness. I didn't understand how to be
aware of your thoughts. But the thoughts were always
there, you know. So the thought of feeling
judged, the thought of judging myself, the thought of how I
looked in the mirror, the thought of how I felt when I
looked at myself in the mirror. Like all of these insecure
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thoughts. Even all of.
Just the feelings of not feelinggood within myself, you know,
not having that confidence that always was there.
And then there were many. Occasions where, you know, I
would feel scared, I would be triggered or I would get into a
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confrontational situation that, you know, whether I was abused
or, you know, hit over the head or whatever it was or maybe even
just looked at the wrong way, I would freak out.
You know, I would be very, very,very, very scared.
And. This was something that was very
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hard for me because again, I didn't understand how to
overcome it. Nor.
Did I understand how hypersensitive I was?
Just that people's energy, you know, which really, really
caused me to want to hide. So for me, hiding was drinking
cocaine. For me, hiding was trying to fit
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in, to fit in with the crowd, tofit in with your your friends,
you know? And this is an.
Our innate nature as we are born, you know to.
We want to feel included. You know.
We want to feel loved. We want to feel.
Supported. We want to feel a part.
Of something bigger than ourselves.
And this is how I tried to to dothat with the people that I was
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surrounding myself with. Again, not to say that.
My life was bad and that I was necessarily like living a bad
life or I was unhappy all the time or I was completely
depressed and suicidal. You know, sure, I've had my
experiences of suicidal ideation, but I wasn't
necessarily completely like, absolutely, you know, fucked up
that, you know, in such a dark place in a sense of like, you
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know, cutting my wrists or anything like that, you know,
but internally I was struggling.And so, you know, you use these
things to cope. Coping mechanism is, you know,
investing or spending. Not even investing, but spending
money on a car. To seek.
Approval from others that's escaping, you know, the belief
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of well, if I have nice things, people will like me, and
crazier, if I have nice things, people will respect me.
This is the world that we live in, seeking approval, seeking
outside energy so that we feel enough.
So again, coping mechanisms. What are the coping mechanisms?
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Whatever it can be. Or whatever you fucking want it
to be. You know what I mean?
Like you can't like the whole, like, you know, Oh.
You're a drug addict or you're fucking this or you're.
That like ethanol? Is an alcohol, it's a drug.
Fucking, you know, you're an alcoholic or this and it's like
fuck man, like everyone talks from the outside not realising
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what it feels. Like on the inside to be fucking
sexually. Abused to be physically abused,
to be financially abused, to go through like experiences of
trauma or something that's so fucked up that causes you to
want to escape. It causes you to want to not
feel. So whatever your coping
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mechanism. Has been and was.
If you got here and you haven't overcome it yet, you can.
If you got here and you haven't healed from it yet, you can.
If you got here and it's still lingering and it's fucking
dragging you down, you can change.
You can overcome it. I don't give a fuck where you
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are in your life. You can heal, you can get
better. You can process it with the
right environment. The right diet, the right
routine, the right lifestyle, the right energy around you,
changing the way you think, reprogramming A subconscious
mind. Diligently, consistently, over
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time, you can transform your life.
But don't sit here and like, look bad.
At all the. Stuff you did and even what
you're doing right now to cope with the shit that you're going
through. Don't feel bad, just know it's
part of my healing process. I'm trying to fucking survive.
That's all you're doing. But guess what?
(22:55):
You're here in the podcast, the Luke Mine Power Podcast,
wherever you're watching, Spotify, YouTube, Apple Podcast,
Rumble, fucking Amazon Music, Audible, iHeartRadio, wherever
you're tuning in from. You're here because you're here
to overcome that. You'll need to become aware of
it and eventually you're going to become the best fucking
version of yourself and it's going to be a thing of the past.
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So you look back and you go, fuck, man, those smokes, I was
smoking a packet a day. That was my coping mechanism.
That was what was keeping me alive.
I needed a fucking chuff. Maybe it's fucking weed, you
know? And that weed is like keeping
you fucking sane when you go to work because it keeps you calm,
because you get stressed out, because people treat you with
disrespect. But if you have a smoke before
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you go into work, you feel OK, right?
But then there's the fucking guilt, right?
Of maybe abusing alcohol, abusing fucking some other drug
or maybe binge eating, emotionaleating, whatever the fuck it is
man, doesn't matter. Over fucking buying shit.
Going into more debt because youneed fucking more handbags or
you need fucking more shit. That you think people are going
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to like you better because you got it.
I'm going to get more validation.
I'm going to fucking feel betterabout myself because people are
going to respect me more becauseI've got a nice car or whatever
the shit it is. I bought another fucking house.
Whatever. Or making sense.
Many of us don't know that. We can actually, like, be cool
with ourselves. Like, and isn't it incredible?
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One of the things in my coachingprogramme actually focuses on
your body. You know, he's actually.
Being grateful, you know I take you through.
I'm pretty sure it's in module. No, it's in module 2.
So it's about practising gratitude to your body.
It's communicating with your body, you know, saying thank
you, maybe even. Apologising to your body for
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doing things that are destructive or for.
Being against yourself, you know, causing bodily harm, for
example, by taking or using things that.
Don't help it to thrive, you know?
And this is me trying to help you become.
Aware that. If you're specifically in a
surviving state because you're constantly escaping or you're
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using something as a coping mechanism so that you can just
get through your fucking day andthen you may be feeling guilty
about it. Or there's some element of you
that's like, fuck, I know I'm not supposed to do this or I'm
not. I know this isn't the healthiest
thing for me, but and I know I'm, you know, you may feel like
there's something there you're becoming more aware of and
you're like, but I can't stop. Because I need it, you know,
like. I'm just reminding you man,
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chill, you know, I think. Back to how I was.
Functioning with the lifestyle that I was living and I was
like, man, fuck everything I did.
Even porn fuck. On fucking destructive it's
like. Crazy.
It fucks your head, you know, And I tell.
You it is an escape. You know, it's like it took you
(25:51):
away. It took you away from life, you
know, like half an hour of that.Shit man, just sitting there.
I have to go into details. You get the fucking picture.
But like, it was an escape. It was a fucking good escape.
Why? Why escape for why?
Why don't you want to think about life?
Why don't you? Well, because I don't want to
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feel like this is where the trauma is.
The trauma is in your emotions. The trauma is connected to your
subconscious brain, which is connected to the memories and
the fear and the the shit experiences that have created
this belief of who you are. Which creates the feeling and
emotion of what you hold within yourself from all those triggers
and traumatic experiences that you've been through.
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And then you're neural pathways are like fucking bong and all of
a sudden your body's fucking. Charged with pain.
How do we get away from that escape do.
What you need to do? So for a lot of our journeys
moving forward, you know. We're coming out of dysfunction.
We're coming out of dysfunction,OK?
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Know that if you're listening tothis.
Right now it's not about. Being perfect.
And this is not what I'm all about, you know, I'm not trying
to show up as this 6 pack fucking athletic, extraordinary,
fucking strict, only allowed to eat these.
Not allowed to touch these, not allowed to dust.
That's not me, you know. I'm still.
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You know, balance man. Balance.
You know, like self respect balance.
I'll have a fucking cocktail, you know?
But guess what? My priorities are fucking so
much. You know that What you learn is
that I'll have a nice. Glass of fucking wine, you know.
But what you learn when you havea greater purpose, when you got
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priorities, when you've done theinner work, when you overcome
the past and you no longer live there, when you actually invest
in yourself and you do the work,go through the process, then you
can enjoy a fucking drink. It's the fucking best.
I don't know, it's probably unfamiliar, very former foreign
for some of you guys to think. What are you promoting alcohol?
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No, I'm not. I'm saying fuck, it's a bit.
It's fucking awesome to have a nice glass of wine.
It's fucking amazing to have a cocktail and fucking sit there,
enjoy it and go fuck. Give me 10 more because I want
to get fucking hammered. You don't need to get fucking
hammered for there's nothing to escape.
Like the purpose of drinking forme was to get fucking shit
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faced, you know? I was like the last one standing
all the time. I was the one with the bottle
trying to pour it down my friend's fucking mouth at 7:00
in the morning. Vodka.
Fuck, we haven't finished yet. Let's go.
You know what I mean? Like.
There was no limit. It wasn't like.
How much are we going to drink tonight?
Fucking 3 bottles? Who gives a fuck?
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Just drink. Let's get hammered.
Let's see how far we can go, right?
You know so. There's a big difference.
Now you know it's not about Oh, don't do that.
It's not healthy. It's like.
Find your balance man. Enjoy your fucking life.
If that's something that you enjoy, enjoy it, but don't abuse
it. You know what I mean?
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You know yourself when you're overdoing it.
You know yourself when you're abusing something.
You know yourself when you're going over the top, where you
know that it's going to affect your energy in a big way the
following day. And the following day after
that. You know, and I say, man, like
when you got priorities, man, when you got shit fucking when
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you go to your own fucking business and clients and
appointments and fucking so manythings that you're working on
right, like that outweighs the devil.
He's. Like Luke, get the vodka bottle
out, let's fucking get smashed, get some shot glasses, fucking
call over the neighbours and let's fucking go.
And I'm like, piss off, man. I got fucking shit to do, right?
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It's not the inner pain or the insecurities or the past fucking
trauma or whatever. It is that's happened.
That's going please, please. I'm hurting, I'm hurting.
Give me some shots. Drink, drink, drink.
I need. I don't want to feel this.
I don't want to feel this. You know, and then that first
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shot, he's like, fuck. And it's all like.
Oh my gosh. Or the first smoke and it just
fuck, goes down your oesophagus and then you hold it in your gut
and then you feel it instantly. It's like, whoa, yeah, all
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right, have another shot. That's better now.
I'm good. Another smoke.
So wherever you are in your life, just know there is a way
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through, not a way out, a way through.
And if you keep listening to this podcast, if you keep
fueling your mind with positivity, with inspiration,
with information that's valuable, that is going to
actually give you some sort of spark or breakthrough or aha
(31:19):
moment or just surround yourselfwith energy that resonates with
you. You know, and I know that every
single person that listens to this podcast, I don't care where
you live, how old you are, whatever it is, every single
person that listens to this podcast, you have something
special. You have greatness within you.
You have so much potential, so much greatness in you that you
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don't even know about. And your life is just beginning.
So don't worry if you've been through a lot of shit and you
haven't overcome it yet and you're coping with fucking crap
that's hurting and you're, you know, doing whatever you're
doing. I still love you, you know.
I never, I never stopped. And my job is to give you that
(32:02):
awareness and to give you that better relationship with
yourself where you actually haveyour own back.
You don't cheat on yourself, butyou know that you're here to
evolve. You know that you're here to be
better. You know that you're here to
transform, transcend all the stuff that's been weighing you
down one step at a time. Today you plan a new seed, make
sure that you keep watering it. And one way that you can keep
(32:24):
watering it is by listening to this podcast.
That's it. Keep listening, keep listening,
keep fueling your mind. Keep programming yourself, you
know? Because whatever you surround.
Yourself, whatever you listen to, it either effects you in a
positive way or a negative way. And it's completely up to you if
you want to live a better life and you want to live a positive
life or you want to stay stuck where you are.
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And this is where your life becomes really fulfilling.
Because once you start making progress, baby, get sexy.
Fucking hell. Like it gets fucking sexy, man.
You just don't even want to stoplooking at your life because
you're like, fuck. And I've, this is what I've been
dreaming of. This is what I was talking
about, man, you know? Like, let's make life.
Sexy again? Come on, you know.
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What I mean like fucking, you know, destroying ourselves for
what? You know what I mean?
Like eventually get to your fucking point where you reach a
peak and you go enough is enough.
If changes are not made over thenext six months, I'm fucking.
Gone. I'm done.
I'm out. And I ain't sacrificing my time
anymore. Because like I.
Told you last episode, Lost timewill never.
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Be found again. People will call you crazy,
people will tell you don't do it.
People will tell you shit that fucking you know, they think
that's best for you. But remember ain't no one living
your life, ain't no one feel what you feel, ain't no one been
through your shit. But let them fucking live your
life and then see if they make the best decisions like you
would because you're the one that's living it.
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And sometimes we forget. Well I better just get opinions
of others 1st and then I'll makea decision for myself.
Like you're not able to understand yourself so much that
other people will understand youbetter.
That's basically what we're saying.
It's like, Nah, man, you are feeling every single day that
you leave. You know what it's all about and
it's time for you to step up. It's time for you to make some
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better choices, make some betterdecisions for yourself and move
the. Fuck on.
You're listening to the Luke Meintall podcast.
I'll see you on the next episode.
All right, if you feel like, make sure you leave me a five
star rating and a review on Apple podcast or the Spotify
app. That'll be pretty cool.
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And if you're ever interested inworking with us, you'll see a
few links below this video. Get in touch with us, man.
We're not scary. We're just here to help you to
change your life. I'll see you soon.
Let's go.
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