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In this episode of the Luke Mind Power Podcast, Luke Chlebowicz shares personal reflections on his first year of marriage, exploring what truly makes a relationship healthy, lasting, and fulfilling. From vulnerability and emotional awareness to shared responsibility and humor, Luke opens up about the moments that define love beyond romance. He shares the lessons he’s learned about ego, communication, and how everyday acts of love like surprising his wife with a second proposal can reignite the magic in relationships. Whether you're single, dating, or married, this episode reminds us that healthy love starts with authenticity, self-awareness, and mutual respect.
🔑 Key Takeaways:
✅ Reignite the Romance: Doing small, thoughtful things like re-proposing or surprising your partner—keeps the spark alive and shows love through action.
✅ Communicate Openly: Healthy relationships thrive on honest conversations. Don’t be afraid to express concerns, and be open to your partner’s perspective even when it challenges your ego.
✅ Drop the Ego: True connection comes when you put pride aside and really listen to your partner’s feelings without going into defense mode.
✅ Be Yourself: Whether it’s posting sarcastic vlogs or dancing on social media, being yourself in your relationship and in life allows for real connection.
✅ Own Your Space: Healthy relationships don’t rely on gender roles. Taking ownership of your home and sharing responsibilities builds mutual respect.
✅ Challenge Your Environment: Change your surroundings and experiences to grow. Whether it’s a staycation or a new country, new environments can shift your mindset.
✅ Self-Awareness is Key: Understanding your triggers, upbringing, and subconscious patterns can transform the way you show up in relationships.
⏱️ Key Timestamps:
[00:00] – Introduction: Outgrowing comfort zones and challenging routines
[01:37] – Luke shares his recent marriage and transition into married life
[02:49] – Celebrating 12 months with a surprise re-proposal
[04:11] – Feminine energy, feeling seen, and emotional safety
[06:41] – Keeping relationships fun and spontaneous
[08:50] – Sarcastic Italy vlog, clickbait culture, and social media authenticity
[13:42] – Conflict with his wife over clickbait: communication and ego
[16:39] – Emotional growth and choosing understanding over pride
[18:59] – Breaking old family roles and reclaiming self-confidence
[25:21] – Embracing the digital nomad life and building freedom
[26:42] – The brain’s need for new experiences and change
[30:17] – Financial freedom and shifting scarcity mindsets
[32:17] – Progress equals happiness: why growth matters
[34:43] – Destroying outdated gender roles and sharing responsibilities
[37:20] – Final message: Authenticity, inspiration, and the coaching journey
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doing? Welcome to another episode on
the Luke Mind Power Podcast. It's a blessing to be here with
you. I hope that you're doing great.
And welcome to new podcast episode where I'm no longer a
single man. I mean, when I was in a
relationship, I wasn't single, but I'm now officially married
(02:10):
and living my dream. This is crazy.
But yeah, I'm off the market 100%.
Like, get out of here. No chances, right?
But yeah, so this is definitely something that's shifted over
the last few weeks. You know, the last episode you
would have listened to probably was an episode where I was
talking about getting married and all that kind of stuff.
(02:31):
So anyway, welcome to this new version of myself, Luke
Mindpower. As a married man, it's amazing.
Yeah, I've got to look at this shit.
Oh, we got a wedding ring on. Wow.
But man, it's one of the biggestblessings that you can have is
to have a healthy relationship. And this is something that I
really want to emphasise and, and talk about today, but I also
want you to funny enough, yesterday was 12 months since we
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started talking, you know, and Isurprised my wife with some
beautiful flowers and I actuallyre proposed to her again, got on
my knees and and I went into thebathroom before she noticed what
I was doing. And I stole her engagement ring
that that I gave her. And I basically use that to re
propose to her again. And so basically, you know,
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these are the little things I believe in relationships that
keep the fire alive, that keep the love alive.
You know, sometimes you can think that, you know, you've
done something once and that's it.
And it's like, Nah, man. You know, being in a healthy
relationship and a relationship where you respect each other or
where you show up for each otheror you have each other's back.
(03:36):
It's also, there's nothing better, I believe, than making a
woman feel special, you know, and vice versa, you know, making
a man feel special. But I'm not concerned about
that. You know, my wife, she knows how
to make me feel special. She knows what to do, all that
kind of stuff. And you can figure that out when
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you're getting to know someone, you know, do they see me?
Do they respect me? Do they show up for me?
You know, are they valuing me? You know, when I see that, my
wife gets excited because I gaveher some flowers and I got on my
knees and she's like, Oh my God.And it's almost like she's such
in her feminine energy and she'sjust like, all of a sudden she
becomes this, this cute, like like little girl nature, like of
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like, Oh my God. Like wow.
Oh my gosh, like thank you so much.
Oh my gosh. And it's like, that's a safe
space. You know, that's freedom.
That's femininity, you know, that's security, you know, and
she gets all cute, and she just appreciates my love and
attention and my ability to see her and value her.
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You know, again, I'm not here tojudge other people's
relationships, but I think, you know, being able to do things
like that in relationships is what keeps the relationships
going, you know? And this will probably be like a
ritual, you know, every 12 months, I'll propose to her
again, get on my knees, and I'llpropose to her again, you know?
(05:07):
And sure, you could say it's only something that you do once,
right? But it's kind of like getting
married, you know, you get married once.
Or can you get married every year?
Can you have a ceremony every year, you know, and redo your
vows And, you know, like, remindyourself why you're together.
You know, why you're in this relationship.
Because at the end of the day, you know, I think the most
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stupidest thing is for you to stay in a relationship that
isn't evolving and that isn't fruitful or isn't fulfilling.
And I think a lot of us fall into this trap of transaction.
You know, it's a transaction. It's like, well, I'm in the
relationship because I get this from that person.
You know, I'm in the relationship because it gives me
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security. You know, I'm in a relationship
because it gives me this, but that's it.
Like other than that, there's noaffection, there's no
connection, there's none of that, you know, And I know that
in the olden days, in the old school, there still are people
in relationships like that where, you know, if they had a
real choice, they probably wouldn't be there.
But they kind of have got stuck in the way that life is.
And that's it, you know? But nowadays, I think that's the
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bigger problem that we have in relationships now is that we do
feel like we have so many options.
And if we're not happy with something specifically, we just
dump it and we go, Nah, I'm gone.
I'm going to find something better or whatever.
Instead of trying to work at it and trying to communicate and
trying to create some sort of awareness to like, how can we
make things better? How can we work through things?
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And funny enough, you know, I'lltalk about something specific,
you know, that I just was in Italy with my wife and meeting
some really close friends there.We spent three nights in Italy
near Lake Garda. And then, you know, during the
time, like I was just being, youknow, I have a funny side, guys.
Like you can always think Luke Mindpower is this serious guy.
(06:52):
He's like, you know, in terms ofcoaching and what I do on the
podcast, all this kind of stuff.But and, and then it's kind of
hard for you to appreciate who Iam when you see me dancing all
the time on all my social media platforms.
But then I get to Italy and I'm just like, because I always see
my wife, she's always doing vlogs.
Like she when she travels aroundand stuff, she's like ham.
Is she doing these vlogs? Then?
Hello, whatever, hi, hi. And like making those videos,
(07:13):
right. And so I'm like, all right, I'm
going to do a vlog, you know, SoI got to, we got, we landed in
Italy, Bergamo airport and we had to find the rental car, you
know, and we couldn't find the rental car.
So we kept walking, trying to follow the instructions on
booking.com. And then eventually we found
this car park where the rental buses are supposed to come to
pick us up to take us to, to pick up the rental car.
So I'm standing there, it's niceand warm, 32° something like
(07:36):
that. There's lots of people around
and all these buses that keep coming, these small shuttle
buses, they keep saying car park, parking, parking, parking,
parking. I'm like, where's the fucking
rental car buses? Like this is all car park.
So started doubting and thinkingthat maybe we're in the wrong
place, you know, but funny enough, you know, I'm standing
there and I'm like, you know what, I'm going to do a fucking
vlog. So I took out my phone and I'm
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like, so you know, this is the situation here.
Like we're standing around the car park and like we've been
waiting for like 20 minutes and we're still waiting for, you
know, the, the shuttle bus to come and get us.
It hasn't come. I don't know what's going to
happen. So this is the situations guys.
I'll keep you posted and we'll see what happens.
So as I started recording, I waslike the sarcasm.
(08:20):
It was a sarcastic video. It was like, this is the
situation right now. We're stuck on a car park
waiting for a freaking bus and it hasn't come yet, you know?
And like, that was my sense of humour, sense of sarcasm, of
like, this is the situation. What situation is that fucking
situation I'm sitting in? I'm standing in a fucking car
park waiting for a bus. Big fucking deal, you know?
(08:42):
But I'm using my own sense of sarcasm and just stupidity in a
way to have fun, to talk shit like I'm being myself, right?
So I made this vlog and I post it on Instagram.
If you go on my Instagram, you'll find it, it says.
And what it also proved as well is that click bait, which I
learnt as well yesterday night from my wife, which she wasn't
(09:05):
happy about. And that's why I'm telling you
this story because I think it's great in terms of relationships,
right? And again, everyone can do
whatever they want on social media and whatever they post,
it's completely up to you. But I want to share with you,
you know what I've experienced and, and you know how I post my
content. So obviously I was laughing and
there were so many people going,Oh my goodness, like, I can't
believe that I watched this video just because you're going
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to pick up the car from the car park.
And that's all it is. Because in the video, what I
wrote was, and this is pay attention because this is what a
lot of people do on YouTube and a lot of these pieces of content
where people write stuff that and if this is what they do on
fucking the newspapers, on magazines, how do they get your
(09:48):
attention? A lot of the times, whatever
their title is, it's not even what the story is about.
It's not even the truth. You know, it's just to
psychologically get your attention so that you read the
article or so that you watch thevideo.
That's marketing and a lot of people abuse it, unfortunately,
right? So, you know, I was being
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sarcastic. I was having a joke.
I was laughing around and I put the current situation in Italy.
Now, if you see a video that says the current situation in
Italy, man, that's going to be like, whoa, what's happening in
Italy? I need to watch this.
And can you see how programmed and wired our psyche is, our
mind to wanting to know what's going on in Italy?
(10:33):
What the fuck's happening? And literally nothing's
happening. I'm telling you a video about
how I'm waiting for the fucking bus in the car park.
And then eventually we got to the car, to the car park to get
the car rental. Nothing happened, you know, So I
got to the resort and I was looking at some of these
comments on my video and some people even unfollowed me
because they're like, oh, that I'm unfollowing you from now
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because of this. You know, this was a stupid
video and whatever. And look, I found it quite
humorous and funny at the same time, because a lot of people
were writing like stuff, you know, and they were just like,
you know, saying some people were like saying, Oh my gosh,
you speak Polish. I spoke Polish in the video.
Some people were like, Oh my gosh, I can't believe you didn't
know that Italians speak Italianbecause I was being sarcastic.
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I was like, Oh my gosh, they speak Italian in Italy.
I didn't know that, right? The next thing I said that was
sarcastic was, Oh my gosh, I mean, Italy.
And on the number plates they have I and in Poland they have
PL like I'm saying some stupid shit, right?
And people are actually picking up on it and going what are you
talking about? Of course they speak Italian in
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Italy. What are you stupid, right?
And so I'm doing a lot of thingsin this video that are
completely like sarcastic, like completely stupid, you know,
just for shits and giggles, right?
And I know people can judge me for it.
Whatever, right? I was just having a good time.
I was having fun, OK, and then right, I posted it and I'm at
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the resort and I'm laughing. I'm like, Oh my goodness, like
I'm just having a crack up at like what I just did.
You know, I just made this stupid video about us trying to
get to the car rental place. So Long story short, guys, click
bait is all over the social media platforms, Instagram and
it forces you to watch somethingthat's not even going to give
you the result or the information that you think you
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want, right? But that's how they work.
That's how it is, right? So yesterday was like I told
you, yesterday was our twelve months since we started talking.
Me and my wife and I made a video out of it.
I put the video and I, you know,did this whole thing.
And then when I made the video out of it, I put some nice
captions and I wrote like, I love you and you're amazing and
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all this kind of stuff. Really nice stuff.
Never be afraid. You'll never be too much for the
right person. I wrote something like that, but
then at the top I wrote Secret proposal and with a emoji like
this. And I scheduled it for like 7:00
at night. And then in the evening, I was
sitting with my wife and my sister and her husband and we
(13:05):
were playing a bored girl playing game and having a couple
of drinks. And then my wife said to me, why
did you post that? Like why are you posting it like
that? Like why are you trying to do
click bait? Why are you like writing secret
proposal? It's not a secret proposal.
You already proposed to me. And I was like, yeah, but it was
a secret proposal, you know, like I do it in secret.
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It wasn't like something that you knew about.
It was a secret. But the point was that it was,
we're already married and like, people are going to watch it and
think like, Oh my gosh, like it's you're just getting married
or you're just proposing now or whatever.
So anyway, she didn't like it, right.
And in the moment, like, you know, while I'm sitting there,
it did trigger me, you know, I was just like, why can't you
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just like, like it? Why don't you just like what I
did? It was a really nice message in
there. And it was a, you know,
something nice that I posted forus, you know, for inspiration as
well, to never give up on love and never give up on a healthy
relationship. And then I just allowed myself
to absorb and try to digest whatmy wife was saying, you know,
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because she was saying we don't like, we don't need to have
people watching this thinking something that's not true.
You know, we're not trying to dothis for click bait.
We're not trying to get views. We're not trying to go viral.
We're we're just what we post isjust authentic content, you
know, so this is the thing aboutrelationships.
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And I'm glad that I can share experiences like this because I
think in a healthy relationship,what evolves from something like
this is two ways. One way is I stay in my ego and
I go, no, screw you, I made the content, I'm leaving it.
You know, I like it. I'm posting it because I like
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it. And then I can create some more
friction between me and my wife where she doesn't really agree
with it, She doesn't like it, and I don't see her point.
And I just push her away. Then there's the other way where
you drop the ego and you actually go hang on a second.
You do have a point. I actually do and am able to
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like digest what you're saying and appreciate your point.
And you're right, actually, I should have just put a nice
message at the top saying, you know, it's been 12 months since
I proposed to my wife and now I'm surprising her again for our
anniversary, you know, and that that would have been authentic,
you know, So again, how you see it can be different.
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You could probably be listening to this going, who gives a shit?
It's not a big deal or I wouldn't care, or I would have
just left it or whatever. But guess what?
I created a stronger connection with my wife just because of
that situation. Because not because I was soft,
but because I was just like, youknow what, screw you, I'm
leaving it. No, because she had a fucking
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point, you know, and I was like,Nah, I'm not going to post shit
that's not legit. I'm not going to post shit
because I want to get views. I'm not going to post shit
because I want people to like itand everyone to watch it this
and that. I'm only posting it because it's
real and it's genuine, you know.So I think this is the, the big
thing in relationships is being able to actually like take a
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moment and digest what your partner is specifically
suggesting or sharing and then being able to not be in your ego
and actually understand where they're coming from and be able
to go. You know what, you're right.
And I think that's what I love about our relationship and about
a healthy relationship where you're more self aware, you're
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more emotionally aware. Because she was, I was in
defence mode at the moment. She was like, why did you post
that? You're just click baiting.
You know, it's not the truth, secret proposal, whatever.
And I was a bit triggered at first because I was trying to
defend myself and I was just like, no, it's fine.
It's fine, right? But then slowly, slowly, I
realised that Nah, she's right. So I wonder how many of you do
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that in your relationship where you're actually able to see the
point of your partner or your friend or whoever it is.
Maybe it's a parent or a sister or whatever.
You know, it happened today, actually, I did it.
I sent a message to my sister. I shared with her something
about business. She replied to me, She goes, oh,
this doesn't make sense. And I'm like, yes, it does.
Yes, it does. 10 minutes later I'm like, actually, you're
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right, I deleted it and I sent it back and I said I've adjusted
it now, you know. So I guess what I'm learning as
well with myself is that sometimes I don't see things a
specific way. And then when someone suggests
something to me, I've got this automatic maybe defence block of
like, no, I know what I'm doing,I'm doing it right.
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And then I'm able to be more open to like understanding or
processing information or processing what has been
suggested and allowing that to be OK, you know, And I think
that's definitely something thatmaybe if you grew up a certain
way where you didn't have self confidence and you know, maybe
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because I, for example, for me, I'm coming from being the little
brother, my three older sisters,I grew up with them.
I lived with them in their houses.
I was always the little brother that was always being taken care
of. So my natural, I think my
natural state now. And I don't know if this is
something that you can relate with because I've been so used
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to from the ages of 1819, my parents moved away, if you know
my story. And, and then I lived with my
sister. I lived with my other sister.
So I was always the baby brother.
I was always the one that was always, let's look after little
Luke, let's look after Luke. So naturally, I've been
programmed to always be that younger brother that hasn't got
his shit together, hasn't got his life together, you know, And
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so now I'm evolving out of that.We're going, hey, I'm
independent, I'm confident, I'vegot a successful business.
I live a success, successful entrepreneurial lifestyle, have
some fucking respect for me. And when I make a decision, I'm
fucking right, you know, let me have that instead of trying to
make suggestions to me that I don't know what I'm doing or
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that you should do it this way. And I know myself.
That's definitely been a huge block and I've definitely been
closed to other people's suggestions, specific things in
my life because for so many years I was always the little
brother that always had to be looked after and couldn't get
his shit together and didn't have a successful life or wasn't
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independent, you know. So again, I'm learning myself,
what I'm feeling, how I'm thinking, how I'm acting and how
I'm actually responding to people in my family or my wife,
you know, And this is also again, it's, I think it's good.
I feel better about myself, understanding myself.
And that's the the biggest challenge I think for many of us
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as we're growing and evolving through friendships,
relationships or whatever you'regoing through in life is to know
yourself. Understand yourself, understand
why you do the things you do andask yourself whether or not the
things that you do are actually benefiting your life and
complementing your life and making your life better or
they're not, you know, and that's why.
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Hands down, Warren Buffett, the biggest investment that you can
make is in yourself. But Luke Mindpower always says
the biggest investment that you can make is really to address
your childhood trauma, is to address your insecurities, is to
address your limiting beliefs, is to address the things that
are holding you back. Is to address what it is that
you feel that you are strugglingwith or that's blocking you.
And a lot of the times it comes from bad experiences in your
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childhood and your toxic relationships or people that
you've been surrounding yourselfwith.
A lot of the times, as I said tomy best friend today, I sent him
a message because I was, was just like, you know what, like,
you know, one of the biggest things I was messaging Danilo on
WhatsApp. I go, bro.
One of the biggest things that changed my life because I knew
that it was gonna change my lifeand I knew that it was
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necessary. Why?
Because I also knew that I had so much greatness in me and I
knew that if I continue to surround myself, and I don't
know, some people could say thisis a cop out, this is an excuse
or this kind of shit. If you can't make it here, you
can't make it anywhere, right? But I truly, truly, truly
believe. And I've also seen some videos
from people who are very, very successful.
They've said the same thing. And you've heard me talk about
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this on the podcast as well. One of the biggest things that
can change your life is changingyour environment is to get out
of the familiar. And I know myself, hands down,
my life has changed because I moved from Australia, I moved to
Dubai, now I'm in Poland and I'mstill, you know, hopping around
a little bit, which is, which isfine.
It suits our lifestyle. Me and my wife enjoy that, you
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know, but the environment that you're living in would be the
reason why you're not growing and evolving, you know, because
I mean, what does it actually mean?
It means the people that you're surrounding yourself with are
the same people that you've beensurrounding yourself with all
your life. It means the familiar is this is
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my place and this is what I know.
And a lot of the times, rememberwhat we hear.
Well, this is how it's always been.
This is what I've always known. This is how life has just
evolved. This is how it is.
It is what it is. It's like, well, fucking if you
want it to be the way it is, well, don't do anything.
Stay the same. Stay where you are, you know,
and I think like this is what wehave.
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And now in this consciousness ofthe present moment, you listen
to these podcasts. And by the way, if I'm sharing
anything today that's that's inspirational that you feel
connected to or you think that other people could value from
this man, you know, share this message.
If you claim this, like if you claim that change is possible,
share it with your friends. Like share this podcast with
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more people, so more people can become self aware of their own
things that that that that's happening in their life that are
in their way so they can change their life.
Don't be afraid to share this podcast.
But you know, this is one of thebiggest blocks for many of us is
that we think that our life is going to get better.
But we don't even change our environment or we don't think
that the people who are surrounded by or the environment
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that we're living in the, the suburb or the city that we've
always known actually is supporting our success or it's
holding us back, you know, And you know, the, the, the biggest
thing that I really enjoy about my lifestyle now is being able
to travel and being able to, youknow, for example, like when I
saw you, you heard me talk aboutthis, but it's changed my, it's
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changed my mindset completely ever since I went to Italy.
And by the way, wow, like, you know, I'm really live, I'm in
Poland. I mean, I went to, I'm in Dubai,
I'm in New York. Like I'm coming back to Poland.
And then I go to Italy for threenights and I'm like, wow, you
know, And I just couldn't understand what my wife was
telling me how she likes to go to Majorca, she likes to go to
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Spain, she likes to travel and do these things.
And I'm like, whatever, I'm not getting it.
And then we went to Italy for three nights and I was just
like, fucking hell, this is beautiful.
Wow. Going to countryside, so
peaceful, wineries everywhere, so fucking green.
The lake, the mountains. Oh my gosh, Minka, Like, fucking
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hell. Like here I am, 40, turning 41
and never been to Italy in my life.
And it's absolutely stunning, you know?
And I'm thinking I want to live in Poland.
I'm thinking, fuck, I want to live in Italy, you know?
So I love this possibility of having the freedom to be able to
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work from wherever I want. And so when I went to Italy,
basically this was my schedule. We went Thursday night, Friday,
Saturday, come back Sunday. So Friday and Saturday I worked
10 AM, 1:00 PM. That was my calendar.
That's all I was available for, you know, and the rest was
enjoying life, right? I can only do this because I
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And I would look at other peopleon social media and go laptop,
lifestyle, whatever. But I'm leaving it man.
And it's amazing. It's probably the most peace
that you will have in your life.Everybody wants freedom and I'm
like everybody wants financial freedom.
Everybody wants to feel like no one's in control of them.
And this is the thing that this gives you is you are not
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controlled. And one of the things I love is
that I don't have to apply for leave.
Like, hang on a second, let me fill in this application.
Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. Let me send it to the manager
and then let me wait for someoneto approve it.
Oh, I got to, oh, your leave request got declined.
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Oh, Oh, well, you know, try again.
Try again next time, you know, So definitely being your own
boss and having your own coaching business.
And especially when you do what you enjoy, you know, it's a
blessing, man. Yeah, yeah.
Oh, you're that dancing guy. Yeah, whatever, man.
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I'm the dancing guy, you know? But honestly, like, now I
understand and I can appreciate how it changes the way you think
and it's so healthy for your mind.
And I learned this when I had a staycation with my wife in
Warsaw in the Old Town. We stayed at the freaking some
hotel there and she wrote this post and I'll never forget it
now because she talks about the subconscious mind.
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Obviously, she's a holistic hypnotherapist #1 in the world.
And she talked about how your brain adjusts itself depending
on the environment and how healthy it is for you to
actually go away from where you live.
Like, and I guess this is a great question for you, where
you are right now, how often do you actually go away?
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How often do you get out of the routine and you actually go on a
holiday? Guess what?
A holiday doesn't have to be fucking three weeks.
It can be 3 days, you know, and it's so healthy, like for your
brain, you know, and when we stayed in just one night in, in
a Warsaw, like I live about 50 minutes from the city and it's
just easier to get a hotel stay overnight.
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And it's as if you're on holidays again because you're in
a hotel, you know? And when I read this post, I was
like, fuck, man, this is the truth, You know?
It was so good to drive there, park the car in the hotel, go
and have a couple drinks at the bar, go upstairs, do some work,
get dressed, go for dinner, comeback to the hotel, go back to
the bar, chill out, like, enjoy the vibe, come downstairs, have
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breakfast, and then go back home, you know?
And doesn't matter where you live, there's somewhere to go.
You know, give yourself the freedom of getting out of the
routine, out of the norm, and watch how your brain will start
to function because you get yourself out of the familiar,
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you give it experiences. That is not normal.
It's going to help you to grow. It's going to help you to get
more comfortable with getting out of your comfort zone, right?
Naturally, what happens with ourbrain is that we're so used to
what we think and how we live and what we do every day that
going away or doing something different.
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Like in like, for example, when people try to, you know, change
their life or do something that they've never done before, they
come up with a lot of resistance, a lot of doubts,
limiting beliefs. I can't do this.
This is not possible. If I haven't been successful
before, I'm never going to be successful.
If I've never done this before, it's never going to happen for
me. You know, you're lucky or you
say things to to other people that maybe you're you watch or
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you think that they're successful, whatever it is.
And you go, oh, they're lucky orthey're privileged or they were
born into wealth or whatever. And like all of this shit is
just cop outs, man. Like you're the creator of your
reality. You're the creator of whatever
you want in your life, you know,and it's up to you to make
decisions that are different to what you have experienced thus
far. If you want a different reality,
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you know, and one of the ways that you can do that is by going
away for a couple of days every couple of weeks or every three
weeks, have a fucking little holiday.
Get yourself into a new environment, get yourself into a
new experience, you know, and help your brain get comfortable
with change. Everybody write that down on a
piece of paper. Help your brain get comfortable
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with change. Help your brain get comfortable
with change. And how you can do that is
getting out of your routine. A lot of the times we think
like, well, if I don't get on anaeroplane and I don't go over to
another fucking country or another state, well then I'm not
on a holiday, you know? And man, like if you wanted to,
you could go on a holiday every fucking Friday night because you
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could go, well, work week is done Monday to Friday for those
of you that work that way and gofucking, I'm leaving.
I'm staying away somewhere on a Friday night.
That's what I do every single weekend because I want to get
out of my comfort zone. I want to experience new things,
but a lot of us again, can't do it because we're limited
financially. We're like, well, that's an
investment, That's an expense. I'm not going to spend my money
when I'm, I need to save it to pay for this and that and this
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and that, you know, so you know,this podcast is not about
keeping you in the same place. It's also not about accepting
excuses as to why you can't be successful, why you can't be
financially free. You know, if you don't believe
that you can achieve it, you won't achieve it.
You'll fucking stay stuck and you'll stay in your own fucking
head and you'll stay talking shit to yourself why you can't
do what you want to do and be where you want to be.
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So it's up to you, you know, change the story in your head.
And I love that podcast episode and you haven't heard it, guys.
It's probably back about 3 or 4 episodes is to become aware of
the bullshit story that you havein your head.
And many of us just have a bullshit story that we keep
telling ourselves as to why we can't achieve whatever we want.
Do you understand what I'm trying to say?
I hope you do, and if you're watching right now, thank you so
much for being here with me. I'm super pumped and really
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excited to be back on the podcast.
I've been doing so much work in the background and yeah, this is
part of building your success and your company.
And there's so many things that I do in the background that no
one knows about. But it's been amazing to just be
on this journey, you know, with my coaching programmes, my
clients there and my institute that I have now, which my wife
inspired me to start, which is such a blessing now to be able
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to help people to become certified life coaches and to
start their own online businesses.
I know that we have a lot of work to do, but this is the
whole journey, you know, Remember that when you get
started on this new path of evolution, transformation,
ascension, healing your childhood trauma and maybe
possibly being called to serve and be a coach, well, guess
what? It's a journey, not a
destination, OK? Remember that it's not about you
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getting to some plateau where it's all gravy and fucking
amazing and all of a sudden you don't have to do shit.
No, that's the whole purpose of being a living a fulfilling real
life that you're making a difference and you're living and
you're making progress and you're adjusting and you're, you
know, moving different ways every single day.
And but the most important thingis you're always making
progress. That's life.
Make progress. That's what Tony Robbins said
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all the time. Progress equals happiness.
If you're not making progress and you're staying stuck and
you're in stagnation, well, that's probably a very big
possibility. Why you're fucking unhappy is
because you ain't evolving. You're staying the same, you
know, and if you keep staying the same, nothing changes.
And then what's the purpose? Like if we keep doing the same
shit all the time? You've got to figure out a way
that for you it brings fulfilment.
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For you, it brings a sense of purpose, a sense of peace.
Purpose can be whatever the fuckyou want it to be, OK?
Like, don't get twisted and lostin what the world tells you.
You need to figure out or whatever it is.
It's more about, you know, how do I feel within myself?
What am I doing in my life? Am I happy?
Am I content? Is this fulfilling?
Can I see growth and possibilityor not?
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And if I can't, well, fuck, makesome changes, man.
How much longer does it need to take for you to go?
I just want to get out of my ownway.
I'm going to do something about it, you know?
And if you don't do anything about it, well, then nothing's
going to change and you'll just be here 12 months later.
Fucking screw it in your own head thinking, fuck, man, how's
things going to change for me? And you're still thinking the
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same, you know? So I really, really do hope
that, you know, this episode andwhat I talked about in terms of
having a staycation or going away for two nights or three
nights, like I'm really looking forward to actually exploring
more. You know, I'm, I'm heading to
Mykonos soon to Greece. I've never been there before,
but my wife has. And she said it's amazing.
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But funny enough, when I was in Italy, my wife was like, you
think this is good? This is nothing.
And I was like, what? She's like, Oh yeah, this is
nothing. Like there's so many nicer
places. And I was like, fucking hell,
man. I haven't seen shit, you know?
So I guess that we are really, really getting into routine and
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flow of this new married life together.
It's fucking nice, man, you know?
And we're here to live it, you know, we're here to have each
other's back and going back to relationships, man.
I annoy the shit out of her, youknow, like sometimes I touch it
for no reason, you know, becauseI love it, you know, it's just
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like, fucking leave me alone. But you know, we try to make
like, keep the humour, like, youknow, and, and keep that
positivity there because, you know, that's the whole purpose
of being in a relationship with your best friend, someone that
you love, someone that you want to be with for the rest of your
life. But it also comes with the
ability to really be able to notlet your ego get in the way, to
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be able to forgive and to be able to receive each other's
suggestions when you know that something is right or that makes
sense, you know, without just being in your ego and going now
fuck you, you know, I'm right, you're wrong.
Listen to me, you know, so I find that that brings peace, you
know, brings peace to be able tocommunicate and to be able to
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agree and to be able to acknowledge each other, you
know, for what you bring. And I even like I was talking to
my brother in There's other stuff that she
does that I'm not going to go into it, but you know, she loves
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her meditations, visualisations and all that.
But then, you know, I tend to like look at the house and I'm
like, well, you know, that's notclean or the dishwasher needs to
be emptied or whatever. And like, I don't sit there and
go, that's a woman's job. I'm not fucking touching the
kitchen. She should fucking do that.
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Like fuck off, man. It's my fucking house.
I'll fucking clean the kitchen. I'll do the dishes.
I'll get the fucking dishwashingshit out of there, you know,
I'll make sure it's fucking good.
There's washing outside, hangingon the fucking clothesline.
I'll get the fucking washing andjust stand there and go.
That's a woman's job. I'm going to tell my fucking
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wife after you finish, hurry up and go get the washing off the
line. Like fuck off with your stupid
fucking gender roles and all this bullshit.
It's my fucking house. I'm going to make sure that if
it needs to be cleaned or something needs to be done, I'm
going to do it. You know, like get out of your
fucking head. But you need to fucking know.
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Well, on this side, these are the things that you do on this
side, these are the things that you do, man.
You know, I love this experienceof having each other's back.
And what does that mean? Having each other's back.
Having each other's back means that it doesn't matter what
needs to be done. Fucking do it, you know, because
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at the end of the day, if you'rein a good relationship, your
partner will fucking see the shit that you do and they'll
love you even more and they'll do even more for you.
That's what I'm experiencing. So I hope that you enjoyed this
podcast. I believe in you.
Thank you so much for joining usagain and spending some quality
time on the Luke Mind Power Podcast.
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doing? Welcome to another episode on
the Luke Mind Power Podcast. It's a blessing to be here with
you. I hope that you're doing great.
And welcome to new podcast episode where I'm no longer a
single man. I mean, when I was in a
relationship, I wasn't single, but I'm now officially married
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and living my dream. This is crazy.
But yeah, I'm off the market 100%.
Like, get out of here. No chances, right?
But yeah, so this is definitely something that's shifted over
the last few weeks. You know, the last episode you
would have listened to probably was an episode where I was
talking about getting married and all that kind of stuff.
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So anyway, welcome to this new version of myself, Luke
Mindpower. As a married man, it's amazing.
Yeah, I've got to look at this shit.
Oh, we got a wedding ring on. Wow.
But man, it's one of the biggestblessings that you can have is
to have a healthy relationship. And this is something that I
really want to emphasise and, and talk about today, but I also
want you to funny enough, yesterday was 12 months since we
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started talking, you know, and Isurprised my wife with some
beautiful flowers and I actuallyre proposed to her again, got on
my knees and and I went into thebathroom before she noticed what
I was doing. And I stole her engagement ring
that that I gave her. And I basically use that to re
propose to her again. And so basically, you know,
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these are the little things I believe in relationships that
keep the fire alive, that keep the love alive.
You know, sometimes you can think that, you know, you've
done something once and that's it.
And it's like, Nah, man. You know, being in a healthy
relationship and a relationship where you respect each other or
where you show up for each otheror you have each other's back.
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It's also, there's nothing better, I believe, than making a
woman feel special, you know, and vice versa, you know, making
a man feel special. But I'm not concerned about
that. You know, my wife, she knows how
to make me feel special. She knows what to do, all that
kind of stuff. And you can figure that out when
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you're getting to know someone, you know, do they see me?
Do they respect me? Do they show up for me?
You know, are they valuing me? You know, when I see that, my
wife gets excited because I gaveher some flowers and I got on my
knees and she's like, Oh my God.And it's almost like she's such
in her feminine energy and she'sjust like, all of a sudden she
becomes this, this cute, like like little girl nature, like of
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like, Oh my God. Like wow.
Oh my gosh, like thank you so much.
Oh my gosh. And it's like, that's a safe
space. You know, that's freedom.
That's femininity, you know, that's security, you know, and
she gets all cute, and she just appreciates my love and
attention and my ability to see her and value her.
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You know, again, I'm not here tojudge other people's
relationships, but I think, you know, being able to do things
like that in relationships is what keeps the relationships
going, you know? And this will probably be like a
ritual, you know, every 12 months, I'll propose to her
again, get on my knees, and I'llpropose to her again, you know?
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And sure, you could say it's only something that you do once,
right? But it's kind of like getting
married, you know, you get married once.
Or can you get married every year?
Can you have a ceremony every year, you know, and redo your
vows And, you know, like, remindyourself why you're together.
You know, why you're in this relationship.
Because at the end of the day, you know, I think the most
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stupidest thing is for you to stay in a relationship that
isn't evolving and that isn't fruitful or isn't fulfilling.
And I think a lot of us fall into this trap of transaction.
You know, it's a transaction. It's like, well, I'm in the
relationship because I get this from that person.
You know, I'm in the relationship because it gives me
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security. You know, I'm in a relationship
because it gives me this, but that's it.
Like other than that, there's noaffection, there's no
connection, there's none of that, you know, And I know that
in the olden days, in the old school, there still are people
in relationships like that where, you know, if they had a
real choice, they probably wouldn't be there.
But they kind of have got stuck in the way that life is.
And that's it, you know? But nowadays, I think that's the
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bigger problem that we have in relationships now is that we do
feel like we have so many options.
And if we're not happy with something specifically, we just
dump it and we go, Nah, I'm gone.
I'm going to find something better or whatever.
Instead of trying to work at it and trying to communicate and
trying to create some sort of awareness to like, how can we
make things better? How can we work through things?
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And funny enough, you know, I'lltalk about something specific,
you know, that I just was in Italy with my wife and meeting
some really close friends there.We spent three nights in Italy
near Lake Garda. And then, you know, during the
time, like I was just being, youknow, I have a funny side, guys.
Like you can always think Luke Mindpower is this serious guy.
(06:52):
He's like, you know, in terms ofcoaching and what I do on the
podcast, all this kind of stuff.But and, and then it's kind of
hard for you to appreciate who Iam when you see me dancing all
the time on all my social media platforms.
But then I get to Italy and I'm just like, because I always see
my wife, she's always doing vlogs.
Like she when she travels aroundand stuff, she's like ham.
Is she doing these vlogs? Then?
Hello, whatever, hi, hi. And like making those videos,
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right. And so I'm like, all right, I'm
going to do a vlog, you know, SoI got to, we got, we landed in
Italy, Bergamo airport and we had to find the rental car, you
know, and we couldn't find the rental car.
So we kept walking, trying to follow the instructions on
booking.com. And then eventually we found
this car park where the rental buses are supposed to come to
pick us up to take us to, to pick up the rental car.
So I'm standing there, it's niceand warm, 32° something like
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that. There's lots of people around
and all these buses that keep coming, these small shuttle
buses, they keep saying car park, parking, parking, parking,
parking. I'm like, where's the fucking
rental car buses? Like this is all car park.
So started doubting and thinkingthat maybe we're in the wrong
place, you know, but funny enough, you know, I'm standing
there and I'm like, you know what, I'm going to do a fucking
vlog. So I took out my phone and I'm
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like, so you know, this is the situation here.
Like we're standing around the car park and like we've been
waiting for like 20 minutes and we're still waiting for, you
know, the, the shuttle bus to come and get us.
It hasn't come. I don't know what's going to
happen. So this is the situations guys.
I'll keep you posted and we'll see what happens.
So as I started recording, I waslike the sarcasm.
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It was a sarcastic video. It was like, this is the
situation right now. We're stuck on a car park
waiting for a freaking bus and it hasn't come yet, you know?
And like, that was my sense of humour, sense of sarcasm, of
like, this is the situation. What situation is that fucking
situation I'm sitting in? I'm standing in a fucking car
park waiting for a bus. Big fucking deal, you know?
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But I'm using my own sense of sarcasm and just stupidity in a
way to have fun, to talk shit like I'm being myself, right?
So I made this vlog and I post it on Instagram.
If you go on my Instagram, you'll find it, it says.
And what it also proved as well is that click bait, which I
learnt as well yesterday night from my wife, which she wasn't
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happy about. And that's why I'm telling you
this story because I think it's great in terms of relationships,
right? And again, everyone can do
whatever they want on social media and whatever they post,
it's completely up to you. But I want to share with you,
you know what I've experienced and, and you know how I post my
content. So obviously I was laughing and
there were so many people going,Oh my goodness, like, I can't
believe that I watched this video just because you're going
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to pick up the car from the car park.
And that's all it is. Because in the video, what I
wrote was, and this is pay attention because this is what a
lot of people do on YouTube and a lot of these pieces of content
where people write stuff that and if this is what they do on
fucking the newspapers, on magazines, how do they get your
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attention? A lot of the times, whatever
their title is, it's not even what the story is about.
It's not even the truth. You know, it's just to
psychologically get your attention so that you read the
article or so that you watch thevideo.
That's marketing and a lot of people abuse it, unfortunately,
right? So, you know, I was being
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sarcastic. I was having a joke.
I was laughing around and I put the current situation in Italy.
Now, if you see a video that says the current situation in
Italy, man, that's going to be like, whoa, what's happening in
Italy? I need to watch this.
And can you see how programmed and wired our psyche is, our
mind to wanting to know what's going on in Italy?
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What the fuck's happening? And literally nothing's
happening. I'm telling you a video about
how I'm waiting for the fucking bus in the car park.
And then eventually we got to the car, to the car park to get
the car rental. Nothing happened, you know, So I
got to the resort and I was looking at some of these
comments on my video and some people even unfollowed me
because they're like, oh, that I'm unfollowing you from now
(10:53):
because of this. You know, this was a stupid
video and whatever. And look, I found it quite
humorous and funny at the same time, because a lot of people
were writing like stuff, you know, and they were just like,
you know, saying some people were like saying, Oh my gosh,
you speak Polish. I spoke Polish in the video.
Some people were like, Oh my gosh, I can't believe you didn't
know that Italians speak Italianbecause I was being sarcastic.
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I was like, Oh my gosh, they speak Italian in Italy.
I didn't know that, right? The next thing I said that was
sarcastic was, Oh my gosh, I mean, Italy.
And on the number plates they have I and in Poland they have
PL like I'm saying some stupid shit, right?
And people are actually picking up on it and going what are you
talking about? Of course they speak Italian in
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Italy. What are you stupid, right?
And so I'm doing a lot of thingsin this video that are
completely like sarcastic, like completely stupid, you know,
just for shits and giggles, right?
And I know people can judge me for it.
Whatever, right? I was just having a good time.
I was having fun, OK, and then right, I posted it and I'm at
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the resort and I'm laughing. I'm like, Oh my goodness, like
I'm just having a crack up at like what I just did.
You know, I just made this stupid video about us trying to
get to the car rental place. So Long story short, guys, click
bait is all over the social media platforms, Instagram and
it forces you to watch somethingthat's not even going to give
you the result or the information that you think you
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want, right? But that's how they work.
That's how it is, right? So yesterday was like I told
you, yesterday was our twelve months since we started talking.
Me and my wife and I made a video out of it.
I put the video and I, you know,did this whole thing.
And then when I made the video out of it, I put some nice
captions and I wrote like, I love you and you're amazing and
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all this kind of stuff. Really nice stuff.
Never be afraid. You'll never be too much for the
right person. I wrote something like that, but
then at the top I wrote Secret proposal and with a emoji like
this. And I scheduled it for like 7:00
at night. And then in the evening, I was
sitting with my wife and my sister and her husband and we
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were playing a bored girl playing game and having a couple
of drinks. And then my wife said to me, why
did you post that? Like why are you posting it like
that? Like why are you trying to do
click bait? Why are you like writing secret
proposal? It's not a secret proposal.
You already proposed to me. And I was like, yeah, but it was
a secret proposal, you know, like I do it in secret.
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It wasn't like something that you knew about.
It was a secret. But the point was that it was,
we're already married and like, people are going to watch it and
think like, Oh my gosh, like it's you're just getting married
or you're just proposing now or whatever.
So anyway, she didn't like it, right.
And in the moment, like, you know, while I'm sitting there,
it did trigger me, you know, I was just like, why can't you
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just like, like it? Why don't you just like what I
did? It was a really nice message in
there. And it was a, you know,
something nice that I posted forus, you know, for inspiration as
well, to never give up on love and never give up on a healthy
relationship. And then I just allowed myself
to absorb and try to digest whatmy wife was saying, you know,
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because she was saying we don't like, we don't need to have
people watching this thinking something that's not true.
You know, we're not trying to dothis for click bait.
We're not trying to get views. We're not trying to go viral.
We're we're just what we post isjust authentic content, you
know, so this is the thing aboutrelationships.
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And I'm glad that I can share experiences like this because I
think in a healthy relationship,what evolves from something like
this is two ways. One way is I stay in my ego and
I go, no, screw you, I made the content, I'm leaving it.
You know, I like it. I'm posting it because I like
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it. And then I can create some more
friction between me and my wife where she doesn't really agree
with it, She doesn't like it, and I don't see her point.
And I just push her away. Then there's the other way where
you drop the ego and you actually go hang on a second.
You do have a point. I actually do and am able to
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like digest what you're saying and appreciate your point.
And you're right, actually, I should have just put a nice
message at the top saying, you know, it's been 12 months since
I proposed to my wife and now I'm surprising her again for our
anniversary, you know, and that that would have been authentic,
you know, So again, how you see it can be different.
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You could probably be listening to this going, who gives a shit?
It's not a big deal or I wouldn't care, or I would have
just left it or whatever. But guess what?
I created a stronger connection with my wife just because of
that situation. Because not because I was soft,
but because I was just like, youknow what, screw you, I'm
leaving it. No, because she had a fucking
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point, you know, and I was like,Nah, I'm not going to post shit
that's not legit. I'm not going to post shit
because I want to get views. I'm not going to post shit
because I want people to like itand everyone to watch it this
and that. I'm only posting it because it's
real and it's genuine, you know.So I think this is the, the big
thing in relationships is being able to actually like take a
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moment and digest what your partner is specifically
suggesting or sharing and then being able to not be in your ego
and actually understand where they're coming from and be able
to go. You know what, you're right.
And I think that's what I love about our relationship and about
a healthy relationship where you're more self aware, you're
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more emotionally aware. Because she was, I was in
defence mode at the moment. She was like, why did you post
that? You're just click baiting.
You know, it's not the truth, secret proposal, whatever.
And I was a bit triggered at first because I was trying to
defend myself and I was just like, no, it's fine.
It's fine, right? But then slowly, slowly, I
realised that Nah, she's right. So I wonder how many of you do
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that in your relationship where you're actually able to see the
point of your partner or your friend or whoever it is.
Maybe it's a parent or a sister or whatever.
You know, it happened today, actually, I did it.
I sent a message to my sister. I shared with her something
about business. She replied to me, She goes, oh,
this doesn't make sense. And I'm like, yes, it does.
Yes, it does. 10 minutes later I'm like, actually, you're
(17:28):
right, I deleted it and I sent it back and I said I've adjusted
it now, you know. So I guess what I'm learning as
well with myself is that sometimes I don't see things a
specific way. And then when someone suggests
something to me, I've got this automatic maybe defence block of
like, no, I know what I'm doing,I'm doing it right.
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And then I'm able to be more open to like understanding or
processing information or processing what has been
suggested and allowing that to be OK, you know, And I think
that's definitely something thatmaybe if you grew up a certain
way where you didn't have self confidence and you know, maybe
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because I, for example, for me, I'm coming from being the little
brother, my three older sisters,I grew up with them.
I lived with them in their houses.
I was always the little brother that was always being taken care
of. So my natural, I think my
natural state now. And I don't know if this is
something that you can relate with because I've been so used
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to from the ages of 1819, my parents moved away, if you know
my story. And, and then I lived with my
sister. I lived with my other sister.
So I was always the baby brother.
I was always the one that was always, let's look after little
Luke, let's look after Luke. So naturally, I've been
programmed to always be that younger brother that hasn't got
his shit together, hasn't got his life together, you know, And
(18:57):
so now I'm evolving out of that.We're going, hey, I'm
independent, I'm confident, I'vegot a successful business.
I live a success, successful entrepreneurial lifestyle, have
some fucking respect for me. And when I make a decision, I'm
fucking right, you know, let me have that instead of trying to
make suggestions to me that I don't know what I'm doing or
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that you should do it this way. And I know myself.
That's definitely been a huge block and I've definitely been
closed to other people's suggestions, specific things in
my life because for so many years I was always the little
brother that always had to be looked after and couldn't get
his shit together and didn't have a successful life or wasn't
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independent, you know. So again, I'm learning myself,
what I'm feeling, how I'm thinking, how I'm acting and how
I'm actually responding to people in my family or my wife,
you know, And this is also again, it's, I think it's good.
I feel better about myself, understanding myself.
And that's the the biggest challenge I think for many of us
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as we're growing and evolving through friendships,
relationships or whatever you'regoing through in life is to know
yourself. Understand yourself, understand
why you do the things you do andask yourself whether or not the
things that you do are actually benefiting your life and
complementing your life and making your life better or
they're not, you know, and that's why.
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Hands down, Warren Buffett, the biggest investment that you can
make is in yourself. But Luke Mindpower always says
the biggest investment that you can make is really to address
your childhood trauma, is to address your insecurities, is to
address your limiting beliefs, is to address the things that
are holding you back. Is to address what it is that
you feel that you are strugglingwith or that's blocking you.
And a lot of the times it comes from bad experiences in your
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childhood and your toxic relationships or people that
you've been surrounding yourselfwith.
A lot of the times, as I said tomy best friend today, I sent him
a message because I was, was just like, you know what, like,
you know, one of the biggest things I was messaging Danilo on
WhatsApp. I go, bro.
One of the biggest things that changed my life because I knew
that it was gonna change my lifeand I knew that it was
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necessary. Why?
Because I also knew that I had so much greatness in me and I
knew that if I continue to surround myself, and I don't
know, some people could say thisis a cop out, this is an excuse
or this kind of shit. If you can't make it here, you
can't make it anywhere, right? But I truly, truly, truly
believe. And I've also seen some videos
from people who are very, very successful.
They've said the same thing. And you've heard me talk about
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this on the podcast as well. One of the biggest things that
can change your life is changingyour environment is to get out
of the familiar. And I know myself, hands down,
my life has changed because I moved from Australia, I moved to
Dubai, now I'm in Poland and I'mstill, you know, hopping around
a little bit, which is, which isfine.
It suits our lifestyle. Me and my wife enjoy that, you
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know, but the environment that you're living in would be the
reason why you're not growing and evolving, you know, because
I mean, what does it actually mean?
It means the people that you're surrounding yourself with are
the same people that you've beensurrounding yourself with all
your life. It means the familiar is this is
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my place and this is what I know.
And a lot of the times, rememberwhat we hear.
Well, this is how it's always been.
This is what I've always known. This is how life has just
evolved. This is how it is.
It is what it is. It's like, well, fucking if you
want it to be the way it is, well, don't do anything.
Stay the same. Stay where you are, you know,
and I think like this is what wehave.
(22:34):
And now in this consciousness ofthe present moment, you listen
to these podcasts. And by the way, if I'm sharing
anything today that's that's inspirational that you feel
connected to or you think that other people could value from
this man, you know, share this message.
If you claim this, like if you claim that change is possible,
share it with your friends. Like share this podcast with
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more people, so more people can become self aware of their own
things that that that that's happening in their life that are
in their way so they can change their life.
Don't be afraid to share this podcast.
But you know, this is one of thebiggest blocks for many of us is
that we think that our life is going to get better.
But we don't even change our environment or we don't think
that the people who are surrounded by or the environment
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that we're living in the, the suburb or the city that we've
always known actually is supporting our success or it's
holding us back, you know, And you know, the, the, the biggest
thing that I really enjoy about my lifestyle now is being able
to travel and being able to, youknow, for example, like when I
saw you, you heard me talk aboutthis, but it's changed my, it's
(23:37):
changed my mindset completely ever since I went to Italy.
And by the way, wow, like, you know, I'm really live, I'm in
Poland. I mean, I went to, I'm in Dubai,
I'm in New York. Like I'm coming back to Poland.
And then I go to Italy for threenights and I'm like, wow, you
know, And I just couldn't understand what my wife was
telling me how she likes to go to Majorca, she likes to go to
(24:00):
Spain, she likes to travel and do these things.
And I'm like, whatever, I'm not getting it.
And then we went to Italy for three nights and I was just
like, fucking hell, this is beautiful.
Wow. Going to countryside, so
peaceful, wineries everywhere, so fucking green.
The lake, the mountains. Oh my gosh, Minka, Like, fucking
(24:24):
hell. Like here I am, 40, turning 41
and never been to Italy in my life.
And it's absolutely stunning, you know?
And I'm thinking I want to live in Poland.
I'm thinking, fuck, I want to live in Italy, you know?
So I love this possibility of having the freedom to be able to
(24:47):
work from wherever I want. And so when I went to Italy,
basically this was my schedule. We went Thursday night, Friday,
Saturday, come back Sunday. So Friday and Saturday I worked
10 AM, 1:00 PM. That was my calendar.
That's all I was available for, you know, and the rest was
enjoying life, right? I can only do this because I
(25:09):
have an online business. And that's exactly what I help
you with as you possibly could apply to our coaching institute.
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Because, and Once Upon a time this was not possible.
I was just like working for the government.
I was working a nine to five. I didn't know this was possible.
(25:29):
And I would look at other peopleon social media and go laptop,
lifestyle, whatever. But I'm leaving it man.
And it's amazing. It's probably the most peace
that you will have in your life.Everybody wants freedom and I'm
like everybody wants financial freedom.
Everybody wants to feel like no one's in control of them.
And this is the thing that this gives you is you are not
(25:50):
controlled. And one of the things I love is
that I don't have to apply for leave.
Like, hang on a second, let me fill in this application.
Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. Let me send it to the manager
and then let me wait for someoneto approve it.
Oh, I got to, oh, your leave request got declined.
(26:12):
Oh, Oh, well, you know, try again.
Try again next time, you know, So definitely being your own
boss and having your own coaching business.
And especially when you do what you enjoy, you know, it's a
blessing, man. Yeah, yeah.
Oh, you're that dancing guy. Yeah, whatever, man.
(26:33):
I'm the dancing guy, you know? But honestly, like, now I
understand and I can appreciate how it changes the way you think
and it's so healthy for your mind.
And I learned this when I had a staycation with my wife in
Warsaw in the Old Town. We stayed at the freaking some
hotel there and she wrote this post and I'll never forget it
now because she talks about the subconscious mind.
(26:55):
Obviously, she's a holistic hypnotherapist #1 in the world.
And she talked about how your brain adjusts itself depending
on the environment and how healthy it is for you to
actually go away from where you live.
Like, and I guess this is a great question for you, where
you are right now, how often do you actually go away?
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How often do you get out of the routine and you actually go on a
holiday? Guess what?
A holiday doesn't have to be fucking three weeks.
It can be 3 days, you know, and it's so healthy, like for your
brain, you know, and when we stayed in just one night in, in
a Warsaw, like I live about 50 minutes from the city and it's
just easier to get a hotel stay overnight.
(27:38):
And it's as if you're on holidays again because you're in
a hotel, you know? And when I read this post, I was
like, fuck, man, this is the truth, You know?
It was so good to drive there, park the car in the hotel, go
and have a couple drinks at the bar, go upstairs, do some work,
get dressed, go for dinner, comeback to the hotel, go back to
the bar, chill out, like, enjoy the vibe, come downstairs, have
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breakfast, and then go back home, you know?
And doesn't matter where you live, there's somewhere to go.
You know, give yourself the freedom of getting out of the
routine, out of the norm, and watch how your brain will start
to function because you get yourself out of the familiar,
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you give it experiences. That is not normal.
It's going to help you to grow. It's going to help you to get
more comfortable with getting out of your comfort zone, right?
Naturally, what happens with ourbrain is that we're so used to
what we think and how we live and what we do every day that
going away or doing something different.
(28:42):
Like in like, for example, when people try to, you know, change
their life or do something that they've never done before, they
come up with a lot of resistance, a lot of doubts,
limiting beliefs. I can't do this.
This is not possible. If I haven't been successful
before, I'm never going to be successful.
If I've never done this before, it's never going to happen for
me. You know, you're lucky or you
say things to to other people that maybe you're you watch or
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you think that they're successful, whatever it is.
And you go, oh, they're lucky orthey're privileged or they were
born into wealth or whatever. And like all of this shit is
just cop outs, man. Like you're the creator of your
reality. You're the creator of whatever
you want in your life, you know,and it's up to you to make
decisions that are different to what you have experienced thus
far. If you want a different reality,
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you know, and one of the ways that you can do that is by going
away for a couple of days every couple of weeks or every three
weeks, have a fucking little holiday.
Get yourself into a new environment, get yourself into a
new experience, you know, and help your brain get comfortable
with change. Everybody write that down on a
piece of paper. Help your brain get comfortable
(29:47):
with change. Help your brain get comfortable
with change. And how you can do that is
getting out of your routine. A lot of the times we think
like, well, if I don't get on anaeroplane and I don't go over to
another fucking country or another state, well then I'm not
on a holiday, you know? And man, like if you wanted to,
you could go on a holiday every fucking Friday night because you
(30:07):
could go, well, work week is done Monday to Friday for those
of you that work that way and gofucking, I'm leaving.
I'm staying away somewhere on a Friday night.
That's what I do every single weekend because I want to get
out of my comfort zone. I want to experience new things,
but a lot of us again, can't do it because we're limited
financially. We're like, well, that's an
investment, That's an expense. I'm not going to spend my money
when I'm, I need to save it to pay for this and that and this
(30:27):
and that, you know, so you know,this podcast is not about
keeping you in the same place. It's also not about accepting
excuses as to why you can't be successful, why you can't be
financially free. You know, if you don't believe
that you can achieve it, you won't achieve it.
You'll fucking stay stuck and you'll stay in your own fucking
head and you'll stay talking shit to yourself why you can't
do what you want to do and be where you want to be.
(30:49):
So it's up to you, you know, change the story in your head.
And I love that podcast episode and you haven't heard it, guys.
It's probably back about 3 or 4 episodes is to become aware of
the bullshit story that you havein your head.
And many of us just have a bullshit story that we keep
telling ourselves as to why we can't achieve whatever we want.
Do you understand what I'm trying to say?
I hope you do, and if you're watching right now, thank you so
much for being here with me. I'm super pumped and really
(31:12):
excited to be back on the podcast.
I've been doing so much work in the background and yeah, this is
part of building your success and your company.
And there's so many things that I do in the background that no
one knows about. But it's been amazing to just be
on this journey, you know, with my coaching programmes, my
clients there and my institute that I have now, which my wife
inspired me to start, which is such a blessing now to be able
(31:33):
to help people to become certified life coaches and to
start their own online businesses.
I know that we have a lot of work to do, but this is the
whole journey, you know, Remember that when you get
started on this new path of evolution, transformation,
ascension, healing your childhood trauma and maybe
possibly being called to serve and be a coach, well, guess
what? It's a journey, not a
destination, OK? Remember that it's not about you
(31:55):
getting to some plateau where it's all gravy and fucking
amazing and all of a sudden you don't have to do shit.
No, that's the whole purpose of being a living a fulfilling real
life that you're making a difference and you're living and
you're making progress and you're adjusting and you're, you
know, moving different ways every single day.
And but the most important thingis you're always making
progress. That's life.
Make progress. That's what Tony Robbins said
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all the time. Progress equals happiness.
If you're not making progress and you're staying stuck and
you're in stagnation, well, that's probably a very big
possibility. Why you're fucking unhappy is
because you ain't evolving. You're staying the same, you
know, and if you keep staying the same, nothing changes.
And then what's the purpose? Like if we keep doing the same
shit all the time? You've got to figure out a way
that for you it brings fulfilment.
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For you, it brings a sense of purpose, a sense of peace.
Purpose can be whatever the fuckyou want it to be, OK?
Like, don't get twisted and lostin what the world tells you.
You need to figure out or whatever it is.
It's more about, you know, how do I feel within myself?
What am I doing in my life? Am I happy?
Am I content? Is this fulfilling?
Can I see growth and possibilityor not?
(32:59):
And if I can't, well, fuck, makesome changes, man.
How much longer does it need to take for you to go?
I just want to get out of my ownway.
I'm going to do something about it, you know?
And if you don't do anything about it, well, then nothing's
going to change and you'll just be here 12 months later.
Fucking screw it in your own head thinking, fuck, man, how's
things going to change for me? And you're still thinking the
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same, you know? So I really, really do hope
that, you know, this episode andwhat I talked about in terms of
having a staycation or going away for two nights or three
nights, like I'm really looking forward to actually exploring
more. You know, I'm, I'm heading to
Mykonos soon to Greece. I've never been there before,
but my wife has. And she said it's amazing.
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But funny enough, when I was in Italy, my wife was like, you
think this is good? This is nothing.
And I was like, what? She's like, Oh yeah, this is
nothing. Like there's so many nicer
places. And I was like, fucking hell,
man. I haven't seen shit, you know?
So I guess that we are really, really getting into routine and
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flow of this new married life together.
It's fucking nice, man, you know?
And we're here to live it, you know, we're here to have each
other's back and going back to relationships, man.
I annoy the shit out of her, youknow, like sometimes I touch it
for no reason, you know, becauseI love it, you know, it's just
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like, fucking leave me alone. But you know, we try to make
like, keep the humour, like, youknow, and, and keep that
positivity there because, you know, that's the whole purpose
of being in a relationship with your best friend, someone that
you love, someone that you want to be with for the rest of your
life. But it also comes with the
ability to really be able to notlet your ego get in the way, to
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be able to forgive and to be able to receive each other's
suggestions when you know that something is right or that makes
sense, you know, without just being in your ego and going now
fuck you, you know, I'm right, you're wrong.
Listen to me, you know, so I find that that brings peace, you
know, brings peace to be able tocommunicate and to be able to
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agree and to be able to acknowledge each other, you
know, for what you bring. And I even like I was talking to
my brother in There's other stuff that she
does that I'm not going to go into it, but you know, she loves
(35:35):
her meditations, visualisations and all that.
But then, you know, I tend to like look at the house and I'm
like, well, you know, that's notclean or the dishwasher needs to
be emptied or whatever. And like, I don't sit there and
go, that's a woman's job. I'm not fucking touching the
kitchen. She should fucking do that.
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Like fuck off, man. It's my fucking house.
I'll fucking clean the kitchen. I'll do the dishes.
I'll get the fucking dishwashingshit out of there, you know,
I'll make sure it's fucking good.
There's washing outside, hangingon the fucking clothesline.
I'll get the fucking washing andjust stand there and go.
That's a woman's job. I'm going to tell my fucking
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wife after you finish, hurry up and go get the washing off the
line. Like fuck off with your stupid
fucking gender roles and all this bullshit.
It's my fucking house. I'm going to make sure that if
it needs to be cleaned or something needs to be done, I'm
going to do it. You know, like get out of your
fucking head. But you need to fucking know.
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Well, on this side, these are the things that you do on this
side, these are the things that you do, man.
You know, I love this experienceof having each other's back.
And what does that mean? Having each other's back.
Having each other's back means that it doesn't matter what
needs to be done. Fucking do it, you know, because
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at the end of the day, if you'rein a good relationship, your
partner will fucking see the shit that you do and they'll
love you even more and they'll do even more for you.
That's what I'm experiencing. So I hope that you enjoyed this
podcast. I believe in you.
Thank you so much for joining usagain and spending some quality
time on the Luke Mind Power Podcast.
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If you enjoyed this podcast episode and you enjoy what I
talk about and you enjoy what I do, how I speak, you know, my
vulnerability, all that kind of stuff, you know, it is all about
authenticity. And I'm here to be as honest and
truthful as I can with you guys to share with you my personal
life experiences and and inspireyou to to be a better version of
yourself and get out of your ownway and to live your best life
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life, you know. So if this podcast inspired you,
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CrimeLess: Hillbilly Heist
It’s 1996 in rural North Carolina, and an oddball crew makes history when they pull off America’s third largest cash heist. But it’s all downhill from there. Join host Johnny Knoxville as he unspools a wild and woolly tale about a group of regular ‘ol folks who risked it all for a chance at a better life. CrimeLess: Hillbilly Heist answers the question: what would you do with 17.3 million dollars? The answer includes diamond rings, mansions, velvet Elvis paintings, plus a run for the border, murder-for-hire-plots, and FBI busts.