The Lulu Essey Podcast

 When your Mental Fitness hits empty and the usual routines stop helping, this episode reframes it as information, not a personal failure, and gives you simple ways to feel steadier without forcing yourself. This is not about doing more, which adds to your overwhelm but about doing different. 
 This episode was born from my own experience of hitting the red zone, and I’d like to offer what works when overwhelm takes over s...

When self-care turns into self-criticism. From sleep score stress to fitness tracker guilt and the quiet weight of wellness burnout, this episode explores how health tracking and optimization can quietly become another form of self-attack—and how to reclaim self-care as compassion instead of a report card.

In this episode, I share why I returned my unopened Whoop band and how wellness perfectionism is creating health-trac...

2.7 billion people on YouTube. 37 watched my last video. This is what happens when the person teaching self-love gets dunked in self-doubt.
In this unscripted, unedited episode, I take you behind the mic with no script, no polish, just the messy truth about finding and holding onto your worth, dropping numbers, and why showing up matters most when it feels like things are falling apart.

This isn't about seeking sympathy. I...

What if your most profound healing begins when you stop allowing trauma to write your story? You are so much more than the worst things that have happened to you.

In the final part of this Trauma and Healing Series with Hawa Who from KEEPCALM.ORG we explore the most transformative shift of all: moving from “this trauma is who I am” to “this trauma is part of what shaped me.”

Recorded during my own mental health crisis in April, this ...

What does it take to keep building emotional resilience and healing when life keeps getting harder?

In Part 2 of this raw series with Hawa Who from KeepCalm.org, we explore the practical side of living with trauma : how to build emotional resilience, find safe spaces for healing, and navigate setbacks without losing hope.

This conversation was recorded during my own mental health relapse in April. My words weren’t polished, my voice ...

What happens when the most important conversation of your life happens in the middle of a mental health relapse? In Part 1 of this powerful three-part series, I share an unfiltered conversation on trauma, healing, and resilience that might change the way you see your own story.

During my mental health relapse back in April, I sat down with Hawa Who from KeepCalm.org for a conversation that became the start of a powerful series on tr...

Ever left a conversation feeling completely drained, like you’re carrying someone else’s sadness, stress, or anxiety, and you don’t know how it happened? If you're the one people lean on but your nervous system feels like it's always on high alert, this episode is your reset.

In this final part of our powerful Mental Fitness series, Lulu explores the art of emotional boundaries. You’ll learn why some of us absorb others’ f...

Ever felt like Confidence and Joy were things you had to earn—by achieving more, pleasing everyone, or performing perfectly? In this episode, I share the science that flips that myth on its head. You’ll learn why real Confidence and genuine Joy aren’t achievements—they’re natural states you access when you stop pretending and start being authentically yourself.

Backed by the neuroscience of Dr. Amy Cuddy (embodied Confidence), Dr. B...

People-pleasing isn’t just a bad habit—it’s a nervous system response rooted in ancient survival instincts. In this episode, we unpack the hidden neuroscience behind your fear of disappointing others, explore the emotional cost of Approval Addiction, and show you two powerful tools to help you build boundaries, reclaim your energy, and stop saying yes when you mean NO.
 
 Ever said YES when every fiber of your being was scr...

Your body often knows something’s off before your mind does. That racing heart? Tight shoulders? Stomach in knots? In this episode, we unpack the neuroscience behind those automatic reactions—and show you how to decode them.

Still dismissing your body’s signals as “overreacting” or “too sensitive”? Using Dr. Stephen Porges’ groundbreaking polyvagal theory, I break down your internal traffic light system—Green, Yellow, and Red Zones—...

You don't need anyone's approval to rest, say no, or want what you want. This episode reveals the 5 permission slips you've been waiting for—and why the only signature that matters is yours.

Still waiting for someone to give you the green light to rest, say no, or want something different? This final Summer Superfood episode explores Self-Permission—the most powerful ingredient for mental fitness and authentic living....

Your gut’s not overreacting—it’s predicting. Discover your body’s 4 secret superpowers (plus the science that makes it real).
 
 Your body is basically a walking, talking supercomputer and it's been trying to send you messages this entire time. Most of us? We've been ignoring the hell out of it.

We treat our bodies like inconvenient vehicles we're stuck with, something to manage or fix. But here's the ref...

Feeling burnt out, joyless, or stuck in the productivity loop? In this bite-sized episode, discover how to reclaim your joy—without quitting your job, escaping to Bali, or fixing everything in your life.

Welcome to Joy Thievery: the second instalment of the Summer Superfood Series, where we expose the four hidden thieves stealing your happiness—and teach you how to steal it back.

Meet the joy thieves: your productivity-obsessed brain...

Discover the truth about real confidence—and why everything you’ve been told is probably backwards.
 Are you tired of confidence advice that sounds great on social media but crumbles the moment you need it most? What if everything you've been told about confidence is actually keeping you stuck in an exhausting performance?

Welcome to the Summer Superfood Series—where we're serving up 15 minutes of pure, unfiltered nour...

Are you stuck in the same painful relationship patterns? What if every repeated conflict actually starts with the most important relationship of all—the one with yourself?

In this transformative episode, I reveal how your inner world drives your external relationships & introduce the Trigger Pause Revolution—the life-changing difference between reacting & responding. You'll discover why your relationships are mirrors, h...

What if every hard relationship in your life—your partner, your friends, your colleagues, even your family—could be traced back to one relationship you tend to forget?

The one with yourself.

This week on The Lulu Essey Podcast, I’m exploring the relationship that sets the tone for every other one in your life. Because when you change your relationship with yourself, build self-trust, and develop curiosity... everything else begins to...

Spring is here—and with it comes the perfect moment to reset your mind, refresh your energy, and clear out the mental clutter that’s been weighing you down.

This episode is a Mental Fitness refresher—a highlights reel of the most powerful tools, frameworks, and Tiny Tools I’ve shared so far on the podcast. If you’ve been listening for a while, this is your invitation to revisit what works. If you’re new here, welcome—this is the per...

Feeling lost without your job title? In this raw and honest episode, Lulu reveals what really happens to our self-worth when work disappears—and how to rebuild your identity from the inside out.

Discover Lulu’s original WHOLE Identity Framework—a science-backed, soul-anchored approach to reclaiming your self-worth beyond work, status, and external validation.

Discover the neuroscience behind our attachment to professional identity—an...

In this energizing episode of The Lulu Essey Podcast, Lulu shares how creativity functions as essential neurological medicine—fueling not just artistic expression but emotional resilience, mental clarity, and business innovation.

You’ll discover how tiny, science-backed creative acts can literally rewire your brain (hello, neuroplasticity!) and build the cognitive pathways we need to adapt, solve, lead, and thrive—especially in high...