April 5, 2025 • 32 mins
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Ready to transform your confidence in just seven days? This episode cuts through the noise of typical confidence advice to deliver three unconventional, soul-aligned methods that create genuine, embodied confidence without the fake hype or pretending.
The first method introduces a magnetic dressing and posture protocol that will shift how people perceive you and, more importantly, how you perceive yourself. Learn how something as simple as standing tall with shoulders back can create an immediate confidence boost, and discover how to identify and wear clothes that genuinely make you feel powerful rather than following trends that don't resonate with your authentic self.
Next, we explore how establishing clean boundaries builds self-respect – the foundation of lasting confidence. Many of us, especially caregivers and people-pleasers, were taught to self-abandon for others, gradually eroding our confidence. Each time you honor a boundary, whether with yourself or others, you reinforce self-trust and demonstrate that your needs and wellbeing matter.
Finally, discover why acting on your aligned impulses before logic talks you out of them is crucial for developing unshakeable confidence. When you live in integrity with your inner knowing rather than allowing fear programming to dictate your choices, you open yourself to synchronicities and opportunities that support your vision.
This episode reveals why confidence is your birthright – we're all born fully in our essence, and it's only the accumulated stories and experiences that dim our natural magnetism. By implementing these three powerful approaches, you'll remove the obstacles blocking your authentic confidence and reconnect with your natural magnetic energy.
Want deeper support on your confidence journey? Reach out about private coaching or the Magnetic Leader Accelerator at info@lisajeffs.com or apply for a consultation at www.lisajeffs.com.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
In this episode, I'm sharing three unconventional,
soul-aligned ways to build true,embodied confidence in just
seven days.
No fake hype, no pretending,just grounded tools that will
shift how you feel, how you leadand how you show up.
Fast, stick around, it's goingto bear.
(00:23):
Tap into your power of anentrepreneur.
Level up.
Step it up because I believe,find your purpose.
(00:49):
Time to be a magnetic leader.
Hey, welcome to the ShowLeaders.
It is Saturday morning when I amrecording this, my coffee maker
has just conked out.
I think it is a gonzo Funnything.
(01:14):
When I was checking my receiptbecause I thought I had an
extended warranty on the coffeemachine, I would have sworn
sworn.
If you asked me that I boughtthis machine maybe two years ago
, I was asking myself andquestioning did I buy it last
(01:35):
year?
No, I think it's two years,maybe in 2023.
And when I went to check thereceipt, I actually bought it in
2021.
That goes to show you how fasttime is going, and I'm not
telling you this to give you apanic attack around how fast
(01:56):
time is going or to make youfeel pressured or anxious, but
to shine a spotlight on andremind you that if you're
waiting on stuff to do, stuffthat matters to you, to make the
changes that are important toyou, that there's no time like
(02:17):
the present, because we don'tknow right how much time we have
on this planet, and I don't saythat to be a Debbie Downer, but
I believe that you can doanything, including change
radically your confidence, atany age.
I don't care if you're freaking105.
As long as you're on the planet, it's for a purpose and you can
(02:40):
still do any of the things thatyou want to do.
But reality is we do have alimited amount of time on this
planet.
If your goal is to increaseyour confidence, because you
know that is going to have aradical effect on your life,
please listen to these threeunconventional ways to shift
(03:02):
into radical confidence in thenext seven days, because
confidence is truly everything,and when I speak about
confidence, especially in myprograms and my coaching, what
I'm really referring to is truemagnetism, confidence at its
core.
(03:22):
A lot of people think that theyneed help with confidence, but
really what they need is helpwith their self-esteem, and when
we align our self-esteem to ourconfidence, what we get is
absolute magnetism.
(03:42):
And this is when life gets alot more fun and you start
magnetizing to you opportunitiesand people and you show up and
you walk into rooms and peopletake notice this Now you may not
(04:10):
like that.
If very introverted and youlike your space, then you may
not like all eyes on you, butyou will start to magnetize
people to you.
And in this episode we're goingto go through three
unconventional ways to trulystep into this energy, because
it's not only going to changeyour life radically, it's also
(04:31):
really fun to be in this energyBecause I believe that when we
come into this world we areconfident, we are fully in our
essence and it's the stories andit's the experiences and it's
all that stuff that gets piledon us over the years that can
(04:54):
dim that confidence, that candim that self-esteem, and it's
unraveling all that stuff, allthat crap that has this
magnetizing effect.
First one, first unconventionalway to radically shift your
(05:20):
confidence in seven days.
I want you to dress and standlike your energy is worth
noticing.
This is a magnetic dressing andposture protocol.
I can't tell you how much yourconfidence is going to shift
(05:44):
simply by shifting your posture,literally shoulders back,
standing up tall.
There's nothing easier thangetting a quick confidence boost
, especially if you need itreally quick, if you're going
into a meeting or you're walkingin to your date it's the first
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date or you're needing to make aphone call, then you stand up
tall, spread your feet out alittle bit nothing crazy,
shoulders back, shoulders back,head up.
(06:31):
You're not only going to feeltaller, you're going to feel
more powerful.
If you're listening and you cando that right now, please stand
up and do this.
This is about you connecting tothe full power of you, and we
cannot be in our full authenticpower when we are hunched over.
And there's no judgment.
My posture is definitely notgreat.
(06:53):
I need to constantly be doingexercises and practices because
I'm on the computer so much.
It's really easy.
Our lifestyle, especially inNorth America, really promotes
terrible posture, so we want tobe consciously and actively
shifting our posture.
It's going to have a massiveeffect on how people perceive
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you and how you feel aboutyourself.
Okay, so that's number one.
It is the magnetic stance andit's super easy.
It's literally you juststanding with really great
posture and when you do this, Iam safe to be seen, I am safe to
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lead with presence.
Now let's talk about dressing.
The way you dress is huge.
(07:59):
The way you dress is huge andit often reflects how you feel
about yourself.
So you can dress in very comfyclothes, casual comfy clothes
that either make you feel reallygood or make you feel really
(08:19):
frumpy.
So it's not always aboutdressing up, because I know I'm
going to hear people that aresaying but Lisa, I work from
home and I don't want to dressup in suits or dress up in a
blouse and dress, pants or adress or all this stuff because
it's not that comfortable, etc.
Etc.
You can dress in verycomfortable, casual clothes that
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still, equally, make you feelfabulous.
Or you can dress in clothesthat make you feel frumpy and
dumpy, in clothes that make youfeel frumpy and dumpy and I have
a closet of clothes that makeme feel frumpy, but those are
(09:05):
clothes that I tend to wear whenI'm going to bed because
they're really cozy and I likethem, but they do not do
anything for my confidencelevels.
When I am wearing something thatI feel truly powerful in, my
confidence goes through the roof.
I remember when I had one of myfirst jobs, when I was really
(09:31):
proactively shifting my identity, I said to myself I want to get
just a normal job at the mall,see how it is.
And this was, of course, a verylong time ago and I had in my
closet.
I actually can't remember if Ibought this for that interview
(09:51):
or I had it in my closet.
I may have actually bought itfor the interview, although in
my memory I remember having itin my closet.
But anyways, I digress.
This was a power suit.
This was a pinstripe suit thatI wore.
It fit me like a glove.
Underneath, I wore a red blouse, or it was a red something.
(10:14):
You went underneath the blazer.
And let me tell you, when Iwalked in and had that interview
with that woman, I could seeinstantly she was impressed, not
only because I looked fantastic, but because I felt great.
I felt confident.
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But because I felt great, Ifelt confident.
This is the power of wearingstuff that you feel good in, not
what other people tell youlooks good, or what you should
wear, or what you think youshould wear because everyone on
Instagram is wearing it, or thecurrent trend or whatever it is,
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unless you feel good in thecurrent trend, of course,
authentically good.
This is about wearing whattruly lights you up, and you may
not have any clue what that is,and that's okay, but I want you
to take if you're serious aboutthis.
I want you to take this seriousand either explore things on
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Pinterest that catch your eye,because that's a really good
indication that this issomething you're going to feel
good into or simply explore yourcloset and see what's in there.
You may have stuff in therethat you haven't worn in forever
, and maybe it's things you havethat you've never worn.
(11:42):
A combination of them, such asputting a shirt with a pair of
pants or a skirt or somethinglike that that you've never done
before that is going to makeyou feel freaking amazing when
you put it on.
But I want you to have threesuits three powerful, confident,
(12:04):
not suits as in an actual suit,but three outfits.
What you can do is think of itin a sense of your comfortable
outfit that you can wear at home, feeling comfortable, but
equally makes you feel fantasticwearing it.
I want you to think about aprofessional outfit that when
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you wear like my pinstripe suitthat when you wear it, you're
going to feel freaking on firewearing it, just absolutely out
of this world, powerful andconfident.
And then something that a moredressy outfit whatever that is.
It can be anything.
It doesn't have to be anythingdressy or elegant it can be.
(12:50):
It can be simply something thatyou'd wear to a concert or out
of the house and feel reallygreat.
Your three outfits First, searchyour closet.
You may already have all thisstuff.
Two, if you have no idea andyou're just like I don't even
know where I'd start I've beenwearing sweatpants for the last
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three years Then I want you,without any guilt, to start
looking either online or in.
Go to the mall.
There's a lot of people instores that will help you and
take this seriously.
If you haven't been feelingconfident in your skin for a
(13:34):
long time, your self-esteem maybe shot.
Your confidence may be shot.
This is one of the fastest waysto shift this and this whole
process.
This is your seven-daychallenge.
So we got to get these outfitsgoing.
I want you to commit to itguilt-free.
Treat yourself to some newclothes.
If you don't have it in yourcloset, it doesn't have to cost
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a lot either.
Or, if you're ready to treatyourself and spend some money on
yourself, spend some money onyourself.
Treat yourself to some niceoutfits that make you feel
extremely good in.
This is the fastest way we canshift this.
Again, if you're not clear whatthat is or you have no idea,
(14:20):
first hit up Pinterest.
Second, maybe you want to lookat hiring a personal stylist.
If that's completely out ofyour ballpark, you know what
else is a really great thing?
You can utilize ChatGPT.
Put in ChatGPT different stylesthat you feel drawn to.
(14:47):
Even if you don't know if it'sgoing to look good on you, it
doesn't matter.
Treat ChatGPT like yourpersonal stylist.
Ask for recommendations.
I've used ChatGPT.
It even tells me the stores Ican get certain looks from it's
great.
So that is number one, right?
We're going to dress and standlike your energy is worth
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noticing.
It's not about style, it'sabout energy, and dressing in a
way that's authentic to you willactivate that, my authentic
dress.
What I feel so, so good on isnot trendy.
It's not what most people willwear.
It's a mix between 70s Harlemand 90s hip hop.
(15:37):
I love it.
I feel so in my element when Iwear this style and I've been
wearing this style since I was15 years old and I remember
wearing an outfit that was sotrue to the core of who I am
when I was 15.
And I remember going intostores.
(15:57):
I was shopping with my mom andI was wearing this coat, and I
remember being approached byadult women and them
complimenting my style and mylook and my energy.
It's because of my energy whenI was wearing it, it wasn't just
the clothes, it wasn't just thestyle, it was my energy that
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was magnetizing those people tome.
So this is what we want to doin number one.
Number two this may bechallenging for some of you
Confidence through cleanboundaries, confidence through
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clean boundaries Confidence partof it is built through our
self-respect right, especiallyif we've been taught at a young
age to self-abandon ourselves,which many of us have.
If you're a woman listening tothis, I wouldn't be surprised if
you were taught that.
If you're a man, especially avery heart-centered man,
potentially in occupations ofcaregiving, likely you've been
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taught this as wellself-abandonment for the sake of
others you've been taught thisas well self-abandonment for the
sake of others.
And we can lose ourself-respect, we can lose that
confidence we get.
That's built throughself-respect and every time you
hold a boundary, you reinforcethat self-trust and that respect
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boundary.
You reinforce that self-trustand that respect, and this is a
big one, especially if youhaven't been honoring your
boundaries, which is okay.
Boundaries has been a biglearning lesson for me in my
life and I can tell you, when Istarted to honor my boundaries
and started to really understandthat they matter and I'm
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deserving of honoring myboundaries, things shifted and
they shifted fast.
How I saw myself shifted quitefast.
Not everyone in your life isgoing to be on board with you
honoring your boundaries, andthat's okay.
We're not.
We don't need to go super crazythe next seven days.
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We can start small.
So this is going to be aboutyou honoring boundaries with
yourself each day, not feelingthe need to over-explain
yourself, not feeling the needto, I should say, over-explain
to other people and even toyourself that it's okay if you
say no to a call, you know whensomeone's calling you and you're
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doing something.
You don't have to jump on thatcall, even if you see it, you
hear it ringing, you don't haveto jump on.
It's okay to honor yourself,honor your focus, honor your
time.
Maybe it is keeping a boundarywith yourself when you said
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you're going to stop working, tostop working so you're no
longer checking emails all hoursof the night, you're no longer
feeling on call for everybodyall day, all night long.
It's okay to honor thoseboundaries, especially if you
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have kids or you have familymembers that have gotten used to
you always jumping when theyneed something and I'm not
talking about little kids thatneed, you know, your care.
My child is not even a childanymore, she's 20.
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But there's still times whereshe'll ask for certain things,
times where she'll ask forcertain things and it'll be
really late at night, and it'sokay for me to set a boundary.
It's okay for you to setboundaries to honor your energy,
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honor your focus, honor yourfocus.
Okay.
So this is number two.
It's starting to set clearboundaries and start with one.
That's it.
All you got to do is start withone.
You don't even have to involveother people in this boundary.
It can be for you.
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Maybe it's a boundary aroundgoing to sleep at night.
Maybe you know that you feelreally good when you go to sleep
around 9 or 10 pm, and latelyyou've been going to sleep
around 11, 12, 1, 2 o'clock.
Okay, set a boundary aroundthat.
Maybe you know that your screentime is a lot higher than you
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want it to be and you knowthat's not serving you.
Well, it doesn't really serveany of us, to be honest.
So it's honoring a boundary andputting yourself first and
foremost, your well-being.
This is going to increase yourconfidence.
Maybe it's going for a walkevery day.
Maybe you know that you willbenefit from more movement.
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Okay, so that's number two.
We're going to start enforcingand or reinforcing our
self-trust through boundaries.
And number three act on youraligned impulses before you talk
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yourself out of them.
This is huge.
Confidence is going to come fromyou living in integrity with
your inner knowing.
When we have an inner knowing,an inner nudge, and we don't
honor it, we second guess, we gointo overthinking rabbit holes,
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we allow fear programming, fearstories to stop us from doing
what felt aligned and exciting.
This is going to start to stripaway at our trust and it's
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incredibly detrimental.
If you are someone that knowsthey are quite intuitive and you
do not act on that innerknowing, it gets all jumbly.
We start to question if thatinner nudge is true or not.
We rely too much on the brain,too much on thinking.
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Your brain is not giving youclear information.
It is regurgitating paststories, past circumstances, all
the data that you've pulledthroughout your life.
It's just circling a wholebunch of stuff, especially if
you're prone to anxieties,catastrophic thinking.
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If your family operates in alot of fear, right.
You're going to have all thesethings going on and it's going
to truly hinder your confidence.
High confidence comes fromliving in integrity with your
inner knowing.
So your challenge for sevendays is notice where or when you
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get that intuitive nudge, and Iwant you to act on it before
you logic your way out of it.
This could look like yougetting a nudge to send a
message to someone.
Follow through with that, sendthem the message.
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That.
Send them the message.
It could look like you sayingyes to an opportunity, if you
get asked or an opportunitycomes and it feels really
exciting, feels really expansive, and then your brain comes in
and says but am I ready for this?
I don't know if I'm ready forthis.
(24:21):
What if this happens?
What if that happens?
What if that happens?
What if all these bad thingshappen and then you end up not
doing anything?
I can tell you that many of theclients who are drawn to me many
of them are drawn to me.
They're divine.
It's divinely orchestrated.
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I get a ton of people that comein that tell me that.
You know, I don't even know howyour website popped up.
I was looking for something ordoing something, and then you
just popped up, or I wassearching for something and then
I saw a blog, or I saw thisrandom, it's never random, it's
not a coincidence.
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When a person is in theirpurpose work, which I am I'm
doing the work that I came hereto do.
We're not in it alone, right?
Synchronicities are there for areason.
People are drawn to me becauseI am the next step to help
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activate them to whatever paththey're meant to go on.
Often, I'm just that next partof the puzzle and I'm aware of
this.
However, people have their ownfree will.
So, even if someone is drawn tome, they still need to make
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that decision and say yes tothemselves.
And if fear program comes in,that fear program, if you allow
it, can talk you out of anything.
That's its job.
Literally, that's its job.
So you need to expect that whenyou get an intuitive nudge
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towards something, it doesn'tmean that there's not going to
be fear.
In fact, oftentimes there isgoing to be fear because
anything outside of your comfortzone, that part of you, your
ego right, that part of you thatis designed to keep you safe,
is going to come in and it'sgoing to start chirping, it's
(26:27):
going to start making noise,it's going to start giving you
scenarios.
So in my case, the people thatI work with, some of the fear
program can be around investingthe money.
Some of the fear program can bein investing the time and
effort Some of it can be in.
Can I actually do this?
Will this make a difference?
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Will I be able to show up formyself?
All these different stories,all these different programs?
That's all it is.
So your job this week is to seethose intuitive nudges and act
on them before you logic it,fear it away with your mind.
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I don't care how small or bigthis is.
This can be as simple as youwaking up and feeling like you
want to go for a walk and go geta nice tea before you jump into
your work.
And this is obviously moreapplicable if it's someone that
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works from home or works forthemselves For my entrepreneur
people here.
But this can be as simple asthat and what can happen is the
brain can come in and say, oh,you can't do that.
We have a schedule to follow.
We got to be productive, we gotto be at our desk by 9 am
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working on something or whateveryour brain program.
Everyone's program is different, but your job is to follow your
intuitive nudges.
What if you got that intuitivenudge?
Because you were meant to meetsomeone some random not quote,
(28:14):
unquote, random, not actuallyrandom person at the coffee shop
where you would have aconversation with and they would
be the perfect next step to bepart of your vision, to help you
in the next step of your vision?
The problem is especially inNorth America.
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We're so wired to be in thispath, totally outside of the
natural flow and synchronicitiesof life, and we allow our brain
to dictate all these things forus.
This is why there's so muchstress, anxieties, worry,
(28:56):
hesitation, because we'reoperating from our brain as
opposed to operating from thetrue inner knowing that is us,
and especially if you are likemy clients, my private clients
and also members of the MagneticLeader Accelerator we operate
(29:20):
on our vision.
We operate on our vision.
We are always creating our lifefrom our North Star because it
anchors us into what is trulyaligned with their core values.
And part of the work that isreally challenging especially a
(29:42):
lot for my type A clients isallowing more of that flow into
our life, because that is wherethe magic happens when you allow
(30:08):
the grip that you have tosoften and you allow the magic
of life to happen through you,as opposed to you trying to
control everything.
Which how's that working foryou?
I know it certainly didn't workfor me very well and it's quite
exhausting.
So I'm going to go through yourthree different challenges this
week to amp up your confidence,to help you let go of the BS
(30:33):
that hinders true confidencefrom coming through, and to have
fun doing it, because this getsto be fun.
So, number one you're going todress and you're going to stand
like your energy is worthnoticing.
Okay, this is your magneticdressing and posture protocol.
Number two creating confidencethrough clean boundaries,
(31:00):
honoring your self-trust andself-respect, building that
confidence through thatself-respect through boundaries.
And number three you're goingto act on aligned impulses,
without you logicking andfearing your way out of it.
(31:21):
You're going to act on it,jicking and fearing your way out
of it.
You're going to act on it andthis is going to radically
change your life in seven days.
Okay, I want you to go for it.
I want you to go full on withthis If you're serious about
your life, you're serious aboutmaking changes and you're
serious about allowing your true, authentic, confident power
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state to come through.
Of course.
If you need more help, if youknow you want to make it really
easy on yourself and you'd liketo talk about and apply for
private coaching or for theMagnetic Leader Accelerator,
reach out at info atlisajeffscom or you can apply
(32:02):
for a test drive.
Consult at wwwlisajeffscom.
Have fun this week.
Let's get it.
Let's go.
I'm gonna go and make my coffeewithout my coffee machine.
Wish me luck.
I love you, I appreciate you,thank you for being here and, as
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always, let's stay connected.
In this episode, I'm sharing three unconventional,
soul-aligned ways to build true,embodied confidence in just
seven days.
No fake hype, no pretending,just grounded tools that will
shift how you feel, how you leadand how you show up.
Fast, stick around, it's goingto bear.
(00:23):
Tap into your power of anentrepreneur.
Level up.
Step it up because I believe,find your purpose.
(00:49):
Time to be a magnetic leader.
Hey, welcome to the ShowLeaders.
It is Saturday morning when I amrecording this, my coffee maker
has just conked out.
I think it is a gonzo Funnything.
(01:14):
When I was checking my receiptbecause I thought I had an
extended warranty on the coffeemachine, I would have sworn
sworn.
If you asked me that I boughtthis machine maybe two years ago
, I was asking myself andquestioning did I buy it last
(01:35):
year?
No, I think it's two years,maybe in 2023.
And when I went to check thereceipt, I actually bought it in
2021.
That goes to show you how fasttime is going, and I'm not
telling you this to give you apanic attack around how fast
(01:56):
time is going or to make youfeel pressured or anxious, but
to shine a spotlight on andremind you that if you're
waiting on stuff to do, stuffthat matters to you, to make the
changes that are important toyou, that there's no time like
(02:17):
the present, because we don'tknow right how much time we have
on this planet, and I don't saythat to be a Debbie Downer, but
I believe that you can doanything, including change
radically your confidence, atany age.
I don't care if you're freaking105.
As long as you're on the planet, it's for a purpose and you can
(02:40):
still do any of the things thatyou want to do.
But reality is we do have alimited amount of time on this
planet.
If your goal is to increaseyour confidence, because you
know that is going to have aradical effect on your life,
please listen to these threeunconventional ways to shift
(03:02):
into radical confidence in thenext seven days, because
confidence is truly everything,and when I speak about
confidence, especially in myprograms and my coaching, what
I'm really referring to is truemagnetism, confidence at its
core.
(03:22):
A lot of people think that theyneed help with confidence, but
really what they need is helpwith their self-esteem, and when
we align our self-esteem to ourconfidence, what we get is
absolute magnetism.
(03:42):
And this is when life gets alot more fun and you start
magnetizing to you opportunitiesand people and you show up and
you walk into rooms and peopletake notice this Now you may not
(04:10):
like that.
If very introverted and youlike your space, then you may
not like all eyes on you, butyou will start to magnetize
people to you.
And in this episode we're goingto go through three
unconventional ways to trulystep into this energy, because
it's not only going to changeyour life radically, it's also
(04:31):
really fun to be in this energyBecause I believe that when we
come into this world we areconfident, we are fully in our
essence and it's the stories andit's the experiences and it's
all that stuff that gets piledon us over the years that can
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dim that confidence, that candim that self-esteem, and it's
unraveling all that stuff, allthat crap that has this
magnetizing effect.
First one, first unconventionalway to radically shift your
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confidence in seven days.
I want you to dress and standlike your energy is worth
noticing.
This is a magnetic dressing andposture protocol.
I can't tell you how much yourconfidence is going to shift
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simply by shifting your posture,literally shoulders back,
standing up tall.
There's nothing easier thangetting a quick confidence boost
, especially if you need itreally quick, if you're going
into a meeting or you're walkingin to your date it's the first
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date or you're needing to make aphone call, then you stand up
tall, spread your feet out alittle bit nothing crazy,
shoulders back, shoulders back,head up.
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You're not only going to feeltaller, you're going to feel
more powerful.
If you're listening and you cando that right now, please stand
up and do this.
This is about you connecting tothe full power of you, and we
cannot be in our full authenticpower when we are hunched over.
And there's no judgment.
My posture is definitely notgreat.
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I need to constantly be doingexercises and practices because
I'm on the computer so much.
It's really easy.
Our lifestyle, especially inNorth America, really promotes
terrible posture, so we want tobe consciously and actively
shifting our posture.
It's going to have a massiveeffect on how people perceive
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you and how you feel aboutyourself.
Okay, so that's number one.
It is the magnetic stance andit's super easy.
It's literally you juststanding with really great
posture and when you do this, Iam safe to be seen, I am safe to
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lead with presence.
Now let's talk about dressing.
The way you dress is huge.
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The way you dress is huge andit often reflects how you feel
about yourself.
So you can dress in very comfyclothes, casual comfy clothes
that either make you feel reallygood or make you feel really
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frumpy.
So it's not always aboutdressing up, because I know I'm
going to hear people that aresaying but Lisa, I work from
home and I don't want to dressup in suits or dress up in a
blouse and dress, pants or adress or all this stuff because
it's not that comfortable, etc.
Etc.
You can dress in verycomfortable, casual clothes that
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still, equally, make you feelfabulous.
Or you can dress in clothesthat make you feel frumpy and
dumpy, in clothes that make youfeel frumpy and dumpy and I have
a closet of clothes that makeme feel frumpy, but those are
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clothes that I tend to wear whenI'm going to bed because
they're really cozy and I likethem, but they do not do
anything for my confidencelevels.
When I am wearing something thatI feel truly powerful in, my
confidence goes through the roof.
I remember when I had one of myfirst jobs, when I was really
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proactively shifting my identity, I said to myself I want to get
just a normal job at the mall,see how it is.
And this was, of course, a verylong time ago and I had in my
closet.
I actually can't remember if Ibought this for that interview
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or I had it in my closet.
I may have actually bought itfor the interview, although in
my memory I remember having itin my closet.
But anyways, I digress.
This was a power suit.
This was a pinstripe suit thatI wore.
It fit me like a glove.
Underneath, I wore a red blouse, or it was a red something.
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You went underneath the blazer.
And let me tell you, when Iwalked in and had that interview
with that woman, I could seeinstantly she was impressed, not
only because I looked fantastic, but because I felt great.
I felt confident.
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But because I felt great, Ifelt confident.
This is the power of wearingstuff that you feel good in, not
what other people tell youlooks good, or what you should
wear, or what you think youshould wear because everyone on
Instagram is wearing it, or thecurrent trend or whatever it is,
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unless you feel good in thecurrent trend, of course,
authentically good.
This is about wearing whattruly lights you up, and you may
not have any clue what that is,and that's okay, but I want you
to take if you're serious aboutthis.
I want you to take this seriousand either explore things on
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Pinterest that catch your eye,because that's a really good
indication that this issomething you're going to feel
good into or simply explore yourcloset and see what's in there.
You may have stuff in therethat you haven't worn in forever
, and maybe it's things you havethat you've never worn.
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A combination of them, such asputting a shirt with a pair of
pants or a skirt or somethinglike that that you've never done
before that is going to makeyou feel freaking amazing when
you put it on.
But I want you to have threesuits three powerful, confident,
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not suits as in an actual suit,but three outfits.
What you can do is think of itin a sense of your comfortable
outfit that you can wear at home, feeling comfortable, but
equally makes you feel fantasticwearing it.
I want you to think about aprofessional outfit that when
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you wear like my pinstripe suitthat when you wear it, you're
going to feel freaking on firewearing it, just absolutely out
of this world, powerful andconfident.
And then something that a moredressy outfit whatever that is.
It can be anything.
It doesn't have to be anythingdressy or elegant it can be.
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It can be simply something thatyou'd wear to a concert or out
of the house and feel reallygreat.
Your three outfits First, searchyour closet.
You may already have all thisstuff.
Two, if you have no idea andyou're just like I don't even
know where I'd start I've beenwearing sweatpants for the last
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three years Then I want you,without any guilt, to start
looking either online or in.
Go to the mall.
There's a lot of people instores that will help you and
take this seriously.
If you haven't been feelingconfident in your skin for a
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long time, your self-esteem maybe shot.
Your confidence may be shot.
This is one of the fastest waysto shift this and this whole
process.
This is your seven-daychallenge.
So we got to get these outfitsgoing.
I want you to commit to itguilt-free.
Treat yourself to some newclothes.
If you don't have it in yourcloset, it doesn't have to cost
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a lot either.
Or, if you're ready to treatyourself and spend some money on
yourself, spend some money onyourself.
Treat yourself to some niceoutfits that make you feel
extremely good in.
This is the fastest way we canshift this.
Again, if you're not clear whatthat is or you have no idea,
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first hit up Pinterest.
Second, maybe you want to lookat hiring a personal stylist.
If that's completely out ofyour ballpark, you know what
else is a really great thing?
You can utilize ChatGPT.
Put in ChatGPT different stylesthat you feel drawn to.
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Even if you don't know if it'sgoing to look good on you, it
doesn't matter.
Treat ChatGPT like yourpersonal stylist.
Ask for recommendations.
I've used ChatGPT.
It even tells me the stores Ican get certain looks from it's
great.
So that is number one, right?
We're going to dress and standlike your energy is worth
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noticing.
It's not about style, it'sabout energy, and dressing in a
way that's authentic to you willactivate that, my authentic
dress.
What I feel so, so good on isnot trendy.
It's not what most people willwear.
It's a mix between 70s Harlemand 90s hip hop.
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I love it.
I feel so in my element when Iwear this style and I've been
wearing this style since I was15 years old and I remember
wearing an outfit that was sotrue to the core of who I am
when I was 15.
And I remember going intostores.
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I was shopping with my mom andI was wearing this coat, and I
remember being approached byadult women and them
complimenting my style and mylook and my energy.
It's because of my energy whenI was wearing it, it wasn't just
the clothes, it wasn't just thestyle, it was my energy that
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was magnetizing those people tome.
So this is what we want to doin number one.
Number two this may bechallenging for some of you
Confidence through cleanboundaries, confidence through
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clean boundaries Confidence partof it is built through our
self-respect right, especiallyif we've been taught at a young
age to self-abandon ourselves,which many of us have.
If you're a woman listening tothis, I wouldn't be surprised if
you were taught that.
If you're a man, especially avery heart-centered man,
potentially in occupations ofcaregiving, likely you've been
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taught this as wellself-abandonment for the sake of
others you've been taught thisas well self-abandonment for the
sake of others.
And we can lose ourself-respect, we can lose that
confidence we get.
That's built throughself-respect and every time you
hold a boundary, you reinforcethat self-trust and that respect
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boundary.
You reinforce that self-trustand that respect, and this is a
big one, especially if youhaven't been honoring your
boundaries, which is okay.
Boundaries has been a biglearning lesson for me in my
life and I can tell you, when Istarted to honor my boundaries
and started to really understandthat they matter and I'm
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deserving of honoring myboundaries, things shifted and
they shifted fast.
How I saw myself shifted quitefast.
Not everyone in your life isgoing to be on board with you
honoring your boundaries, andthat's okay.
We're not.
We don't need to go super crazythe next seven days.
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We can start small.
So this is going to be aboutyou honoring boundaries with
yourself each day, not feelingthe need to over-explain
yourself, not feeling the needto, I should say, over-explain
to other people and even toyourself that it's okay if you
say no to a call, you know whensomeone's calling you and you're
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doing something.
You don't have to jump on thatcall, even if you see it, you
hear it ringing, you don't haveto jump on.
It's okay to honor yourself,honor your focus, honor your
time.
Maybe it is keeping a boundarywith yourself when you said
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you're going to stop working, tostop working so you're no
longer checking emails all hoursof the night, you're no longer
feeling on call for everybodyall day, all night long.
It's okay to honor thoseboundaries, especially if you
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have kids or you have familymembers that have gotten used to
you always jumping when theyneed something and I'm not
talking about little kids thatneed, you know, your care.
My child is not even a childanymore, she's 20.
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But there's still times whereshe'll ask for certain things,
times where she'll ask forcertain things and it'll be
really late at night, and it'sokay for me to set a boundary.
It's okay for you to setboundaries to honor your energy,
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honor your focus, honor yourfocus.
Okay.
So this is number two.
It's starting to set clearboundaries and start with one.
That's it.
All you got to do is start withone.
You don't even have to involveother people in this boundary.
It can be for you.
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Maybe it's a boundary aroundgoing to sleep at night.
Maybe you know that you feelreally good when you go to sleep
around 9 or 10 pm, and latelyyou've been going to sleep
around 11, 12, 1, 2 o'clock.
Okay, set a boundary aroundthat.
Maybe you know that your screentime is a lot higher than you
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want it to be and you knowthat's not serving you.
Well, it doesn't really serveany of us, to be honest.
So it's honoring a boundary andputting yourself first and
foremost, your well-being.
This is going to increase yourconfidence.
Maybe it's going for a walkevery day.
Maybe you know that you willbenefit from more movement.
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Okay, so that's number two.
We're going to start enforcingand or reinforcing our
self-trust through boundaries.
And number three act on youraligned impulses before you talk
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yourself out of them.
This is huge.
Confidence is going to come fromyou living in integrity with
your inner knowing.
When we have an inner knowing,an inner nudge, and we don't
honor it, we second guess, we gointo overthinking rabbit holes,
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we allow fear programming, fearstories to stop us from doing
what felt aligned and exciting.
This is going to start to stripaway at our trust and it's
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incredibly detrimental.
If you are someone that knowsthey are quite intuitive and you
do not act on that innerknowing, it gets all jumbly.
We start to question if thatinner nudge is true or not.
We rely too much on the brain,too much on thinking.
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Your brain is not giving youclear information.
It is regurgitating paststories, past circumstances, all
the data that you've pulledthroughout your life.
It's just circling a wholebunch of stuff, especially if
you're prone to anxieties,catastrophic thinking.
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If your family operates in alot of fear, right.
You're going to have all thesethings going on and it's going
to truly hinder your confidence.
High confidence comes fromliving in integrity with your
inner knowing.
So your challenge for sevendays is notice where or when you
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get that intuitive nudge, and Iwant you to act on it before
you logic your way out of it.
This could look like yougetting a nudge to send a
message to someone.
Follow through with that, sendthem the message.
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That.
Send them the message.
It could look like you sayingyes to an opportunity, if you
get asked or an opportunitycomes and it feels really
exciting, feels really expansive, and then your brain comes in
and says but am I ready for this?
I don't know if I'm ready forthis.
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What if this happens?
What if that happens?
What if that happens?
What if all these bad thingshappen and then you end up not
doing anything?
I can tell you that many of theclients who are drawn to me many
of them are drawn to me.
They're divine.
It's divinely orchestrated.
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I get a ton of people that comein that tell me that.
You know, I don't even know howyour website popped up.
I was looking for something ordoing something, and then you
just popped up, or I wassearching for something and then
I saw a blog, or I saw thisrandom, it's never random, it's
not a coincidence.
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When a person is in theirpurpose work, which I am I'm
doing the work that I came hereto do.
We're not in it alone, right?
Synchronicities are there for areason.
People are drawn to me becauseI am the next step to help
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activate them to whatever paththey're meant to go on.
Often, I'm just that next partof the puzzle and I'm aware of
this.
However, people have their ownfree will.
So, even if someone is drawn tome, they still need to make
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that decision and say yes tothemselves.
And if fear program comes in,that fear program, if you allow
it, can talk you out of anything.
That's its job.
Literally, that's its job.
So you need to expect that whenyou get an intuitive nudge
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towards something, it doesn'tmean that there's not going to
be fear.
In fact, oftentimes there isgoing to be fear because
anything outside of your comfortzone, that part of you, your
ego right, that part of you thatis designed to keep you safe,
is going to come in and it'sgoing to start chirping, it's
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going to start making noise,it's going to start giving you
scenarios.
So in my case, the people thatI work with, some of the fear
program can be around investingthe money.
Some of the fear program can bein investing the time and
effort Some of it can be in.
Can I actually do this?
Will this make a difference?
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Will I be able to show up formyself?
All these different stories,all these different programs?
That's all it is.
So your job this week is to seethose intuitive nudges and act
on them before you logic it,fear it away with your mind.
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I don't care how small or bigthis is.
This can be as simple as youwaking up and feeling like you
want to go for a walk and go geta nice tea before you jump into
your work.
And this is obviously moreapplicable if it's someone that
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works from home or works forthemselves For my entrepreneur
people here.
But this can be as simple asthat and what can happen is the
brain can come in and say, oh,you can't do that.
We have a schedule to follow.
We got to be productive, we gotto be at our desk by 9 am
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working on something or whateveryour brain program.
Everyone's program is different, but your job is to follow your
intuitive nudges.
What if you got that intuitivenudge?
Because you were meant to meetsomeone some random not quote,
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unquote, random, not actuallyrandom person at the coffee shop
where you would have aconversation with and they would
be the perfect next step to bepart of your vision, to help you
in the next step of your vision?
The problem is especially inNorth America.
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We're so wired to be in thispath, totally outside of the
natural flow and synchronicitiesof life, and we allow our brain
to dictate all these things forus.
This is why there's so muchstress, anxieties, worry,
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hesitation, because we'reoperating from our brain as
opposed to operating from thetrue inner knowing that is us,
and especially if you are likemy clients, my private clients
and also members of the MagneticLeader Accelerator we operate
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on our vision.
We operate on our vision.
We are always creating our lifefrom our North Star because it
anchors us into what is trulyaligned with their core values.
And part of the work that isreally challenging especially a
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lot for my type A clients isallowing more of that flow into
our life, because that is wherethe magic happens when you allow
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the grip that you have tosoften and you allow the magic
of life to happen through you,as opposed to you trying to
control everything.
Which how's that working foryou?
I know it certainly didn't workfor me very well and it's quite
exhausting.
So I'm going to go through yourthree different challenges this
week to amp up your confidence,to help you let go of the BS
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that hinders true confidencefrom coming through, and to have
fun doing it, because this getsto be fun.
So, number one you're going todress and you're going to stand
like your energy is worthnoticing.
Okay, this is your magneticdressing and posture protocol.
Number two creating confidencethrough clean boundaries,
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honoring your self-trust andself-respect, building that
confidence through thatself-respect through boundaries.
And number three you're goingto act on aligned impulses,
without you logicking andfearing your way out of it.
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You're going to act on it,jicking and fearing your way out
of it.
You're going to act on it andthis is going to radically
change your life in seven days.
Okay, I want you to go for it.
I want you to go full on withthis If you're serious about
your life, you're serious aboutmaking changes and you're
serious about allowing your true, authentic, confident power
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state to come through.
Of course.
If you need more help, if youknow you want to make it really
easy on yourself and you'd liketo talk about and apply for
private coaching or for theMagnetic Leader Accelerator,
reach out at info atlisajeffscom or you can apply
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for a test drive.
Consult at wwwlisajeffscom.
Have fun this week.
Let's get it.
Let's go.
I'm gonna go and make my coffeewithout my coffee machine.
Wish me luck.
I love you, I appreciate you,thank you for being here and, as
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always, let's stay connected.
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