March 30, 2025 • 32 mins
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Magnetism is your key to attracting better opportunities, more money, and deeper relationships without working hard for them. When you operate from your authentic power state rather than fear programs, you naturally draw people and opportunities to you.
• Magnetism comes from being authentically you, not from looking or acting a certain way
• People are magnetized by what they desire for themselves - when you embody something they want, they're drawn to you
• The most magnetic people aren't always the most conventionally attractive or wealthy - they're the most authentic
• Desperate energy repels while confident, grounded energy attracts
• Speaking from certainty (not arrogance) is more magnetic than speaking from hesitation
• Slowing down and being present creates more magnetism than rushing and achieving
• Showing genuine interest in others is one of the easiest ways to be more magnetic
• Gossiping and complaining about others instantly diminishes your magnetism
• Magnetic people make confident decisions - both yes and no - without excessive hesitation
• You don't need external validation or another credential to own your space - decide you already belong
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
If you want to have better opportunities coming to
you, make more money, have awildly enticing selection to
choose from in the datingcommunity.
If you want to walk into a roomand have everyone turn and look
(00:28):
at you, now maybe that mightterrify you depending on your
personality, but if you want allthese things and you want it in
a very easy way, which is notabout you working really hard to
get any of these things thenthe key to this is to be more
(00:51):
magnetic.
Being more magnetic is your keyto the castle.
People love magnetic people.
People want to be aroundmagnetic people.
People who are magnetic, are intheir true authentic power
(01:14):
state.
Why are most people notmagnetic and in their true
authentic power state?
Because they are operating infear programs the majority of
the day, because their nervoussystem has been hijacked and
they are in fight or flightconstantly.
(01:34):
But in this episode, I'm goingto start telling you things you
can do today to be more magneticand I will promise you, if you
implement these things for thenext seven days, you will notice
a substantial difference inyour life, in your work and in
(01:57):
your relationships.
Get ready, it's going to be agood one.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Tap into your power of an entrepreneur.
Level up.
Step it up because I believe.
Find your purpose time to be amagnetic leader.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Welcome to the show leaders.
I am your host, lisa Jeffs,your coach, your intuitive.
I work with top leaders,business owners, entrepreneurs,
professionals, creatives whowant a magnetic life and
business and career.
(02:55):
I'm going to share with you inthis episode something really,
really important, because I seea lot of people and, side note,
you know, I think this got a lotworse when social media came on
board, in particular, instagramA lot of people chasing this
(03:20):
thing where they think they needto look a certain way, they
need to act a certain way, theyneed to be a certain way, to be
magnetic, to appear confidentand carefree and lovable or
whatever is going on in theworld.
(03:41):
It's actually kind of crazy.
Certain things that I've seen inthe last few weeks.
I've just been more hyper awareof the narrative in the beauty
industry and the cosmetic I'mnot even sure what it's called.
I have a lot of plasticsurgeons on my Instagram and I'm
(04:07):
very hyper aware of languagethat's being used and there's
nothing.
Again, I have nothing againstplastic surgery or anything like
that or any kind of cosmeticwork or anything.
I've been taking care and doingthings with my own skincare
since my 20s, in fact, I thinkeven earlier than that in my
teens, so this isn't a judgmentagainst any of that, but the
(04:32):
language that I've been hearingbeing used is very detrimental.
Talking about women's and men'sfaces, things that are
happening to faces as they age,things that are going on as
problems.
Let me tell you something yoursagging skin that is sagging
(04:57):
over years of you being on thisplanet is not a problem.
It is not something that needsto be fixed.
If you choose that you wouldlike to do something with it for
your own self, that is adifferent story.
But believing that there is aproblem with anything on your
(05:20):
body how you look, your shape,your size, the colors of your
eyes I don't know what's goingon with this eye color surgery,
but listen, you do not need tobe putting your eyesight at risk
to change your color.
That's actually one that I havea problem with.
I don't think anybody should bedoing that.
(05:41):
To me, that's insane, and I saythat's insane that the doctor
shouldn't be doing that.
I understand why people get intheir mind that they are not
good enough the way that theyare and they want to change it.
I understand that my problem iswith the doctors doing that,
and I don't care who you are orhow much you say it's safe.
(06:03):
I don't buy it.
Anyways, I digress.
I don't want to go on a rantabout eye color change surgery,
but this belief, this mentality,is pulling us farther away from
magnetism.
You cannot be magnetic when youbelieve that there is something
(06:25):
wrong with you.
So have you ever met thosepeople, the ones that can walk
into a room and instantly youjust feel their presence?
Right, they're not trying hard,they're not.
They're not over explainingthemselves, educating themselves
(06:48):
, they're not putting on a show,they just are.
That is magnetism, and it's notsomething that you have to be
born with.
Yes, there are children thatare.
Honestly, I think they're justkind of born like that and you
can see it from day one, butmany people who are magnetic are
not like that At birth.
It's something that you cancreate, and I'm going to start
(07:12):
breaking down how you can createthat type of unshakable
presence without faking it,without forcing it, without
waiting for it to magicallyappear.
You can be the creator of this,in fact, the most magnetic
person that I ever met and Italk about this person regularly
because he's a wonderfulexample that you don't need to
(07:35):
be what society says is the mostbeautiful version of a person.
Mind you, different societieshave different views and
sometimes they are completeopposites of each other, which
(07:55):
just shows you what kind of asham the whole thing is.
It's just an illusion, right?
It's just perception.
But this person was not likewhat society said was supposed
to be attractive, confident,magnetizing.
(08:15):
In fact, he was quite theopposite.
Did that deter him from holdingthe energy of magnetism and
magnetizing people towards him?
He didn't have a lot of money.
He wasn't dressed a certain way.
He didn't have the physicallooks that society tells us we
(08:41):
should have to be thatattractive person.
But what he did have was anunapologetic energy about him
that shined through so much towhere women would just flock to
(09:04):
this man.
Beautiful, gorgeous women thatare aligned with society's
standards would be flocking tothis man.
And that is why I said hedidn't have money, because I
know some people are thinking oh, he must have money, he must
have money.
That's what it is.
Nope, he was not wearingdesigner clothes.
(09:26):
He did not, you know, try tofake being anyone but himself,
and that's what made him sounapologetically magnetic.
People loved it.
The fact that he walked in aroom, the fact that he walked in
(09:54):
a room like he.
He knew he was the ish and heheld his head high, his
shoulders back in a very naturalway, like this wasn't something
he was.
I don't even think he wasconsciously doing this.
This was just him, wildly inhis body, grounded presence.
He wasn't overthinking anything, he wasn't thinking, he wasn't
trying to cultivate anything.
(10:15):
He allowed that universal flowto just flow through him.
He spoke from his heart.
You could tell he wasn't aperson who held back.
He was authentically himselfand it was wildly magnetic.
(10:36):
Wildly magnetic.
Anyone on this planet can tapinto that energy by simply being
authentically them.
When you are authentically youand I know some people are like
I don't even know who the heck Iam, that's okay, we'll get into
(10:57):
that when you are authenticallyyou, you magnetize people.
You, you magnetize people.
People are magnetized by whatthey desire for themselves.
I'll say that again People aremagnetized by what they desire
(11:18):
for themselves.
If you are holding within yourenergy something that is a part
of someone else, but they're notfully allowing themselves to
embody that part, they are drawnto you.
You will magnetize them.
This is why so many people aremagnetized by celebrities or
rock stars.
It's not the rock starthemselves.
(11:41):
It's what that rock starembodies, right?
That sex appeal, or thatmusical mastery, that stage
presence, right?
People are magnetized by whatyou hold within you that they
want.
(12:02):
So when you are authenticallyyou coming into a room,
confident, head held highshoulders back, light, relaxed,
allowing the flow of informationto flow through you, you're not
overthinking what you're saying, you're not holding yourselves
(12:26):
back, you're just allowing.
People want to be around that.
They love it, they feel it,they feel the realness of it.
It's not fake, it's not phony,it's not cultivated, it's not
weird, it's not this strangedystopia that can happen
(12:47):
sometimes when you go downcertain social media rabbit
holes and you're just like whatis happening here.
None of this feels real.
It is magnetizing to beauthentically you.
Let me give you an example ofwhen I completely fell out of my
(13:11):
own magnetism by getting in myhead and thinking I needed to be
something that I wasn't when Ifirst started my business.
I don't know where it got in myhead.
Someone said something to me,or I just just had this belief
(13:31):
within me, but I thought that Ihad to be uber, uber, like this
very professional doll, likecardboard cutout of a person
with no personality that youknow.
I ended up straightening.
I remember I straightened myhair.
(13:52):
I was like, oh, curly hair islike too much.
I got to straighten my hairNeutral colors, by the way, my
skin tone.
I don't look that great inneutral colors.
They're okay, but it completelywashed me out.
I had no nails on, like veryneutral nail polish, like
(14:14):
nothing.
Mind you, the real me I loveanimal print, I love red lips, I
love nails, I love eyelashes.
I have big curly hair.
I am not a neutral cardboardcutout, but I remember being in
this feeling like I had to justkeep showing up as this weird
(14:38):
I'm not even sure dystopianprofessional lady.
Dystopian professional ladyuntil I remember I'm in bed and
I'm just feeling into the energyof me in that moment and I'm
thinking to myself what the hellhave I been doing for the past
(15:00):
months?
Year, I'm not even sure if itwas over a year I cannot do this
anymore.
I feel frumpy, dumpy, mumpy.
I feel so ugh in my skin.
Not only do I not feel magnetic, I feel the complete opposite
of magnetic, I feel like I'mrepelling people.
(15:23):
The next day, I put my nails on,I put my lips on, I put my red
lipstick on, and just putting onmy nails and putting on my lips
shifted the energy so much.
It changed the way I startedmoving.
(15:45):
It changed the way I showed upon camera.
It changed the energy.
I felt like, oh, a release.
This is my authentic self and Iremember that post that I did
that day I think I did a videoor a live actually.
That post that I did that day Ithink I did a video or a live
(16:07):
actually, I think, did I do alive Facebook and I got more
comments than ever.
I got more people responding tome.
Why Not?
Because I was faking something,cultivating something or trying
to be some cardboard cutoutlady, because I was in my
authentic energy, right.
So we got to put on our nails,we got to put on our lips.
(16:29):
Please don't take that literally.
If you don't wear nails and youdon't wear red lipstick, don't
put it on.
That's not authentically you.
I'm using that as a mantra tobe authentic to you, to be
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authentic to you, not trying tofit into a cardboard box.
It doesn't work.
If you want to be magnetic, itdoesn't matter what you look
like, it doesn't matter whatyou're dressing like.
I know a lot of people will sayyou know, dress a certain way.
Yes, obviously a certain way.
Yes, obviously, when you dressa certain way, people respond to
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it.
I'm not saying just loungearound in sweatsuits all day,
however.
You can lounge around insweatsuits all over if that is
true to you and you feelfreaking amazing in it.
You feel like your powerfulself, and if you go out in that,
people will respond.
What I'm getting at here is ittruly comes from the inside
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first.
Magnetism is an inside jobfirst, and then externally we
can add to that first, and thenexternally we can add to that.
We can add to that.
So, using my example, when I wasfeeling frumpy and dumpy, it
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really had nothing to do withthe external.
What I had done.
It was because inside myself, Ihad a belief that I couldn't
just show up as me.
I had to change myself to fitin.
I had to tone down certainthings about myself because I
thought that I would beperceived as quote unquote
professional, which is reallyfunny when I think back, because
(18:24):
I have my own personal brand.
So I don't know why I thought Ihad to be professional.
Like that doesn't even.
It's not even connecting now,but at that moment it made sense
to me.
But putting on that lipstickand putting back on my nails it
really wasn't about the external.
It was about me just sayingscrew it, it's not even worth it
(18:47):
.
I'd rather be myself and havethe whole business implode than
try to be someone else to makeit work.
And, of course, when we areourself, it works.
We don't need to be anyone else.
Are ourself, it works.
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We don't need to be anyone else.
Being magnetic, you don't needto chase anything you attract.
Magnetic people are not in adesperate state state.
They move like they alreadybelong.
They move like they can haveanything that they desire.
(19:33):
And I don't mean that in acreepy way, I mean that in a
universal way.
If they are desiring somethingto create something in their
life, they move like it'salready done.
Desperate energy takes awayfrom magnetism the difference
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between someone who blends inand someone who owns the room.
It's in their energy.
It's not their looks.
It's not their money, it's nottheir title, it's their energy.
Yes, someone who has good looksaccording to society's
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standards, has money, has atitle.
They can be magnetic, but it'snot because of those things,
it's because of their energy.
But it's not because of thosethings.
It's because of their energy.
Magnetism isn't about what yousay.
It's about what people feelwhen they are around you.
Remember you are mirroringsomething to them that they want
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within themselves Confidence,belief in themselves.
Unapologetic I am the ish beingmagnetic.
You don't need to be so hyperon the go.
(21:03):
I remember years ago I wouldjust like be speeding down the
highway warp speed, not evensure where I was going.
Everything was just so fast.
I had so many things I wantedto do.
I was achieving all thesethings.
Sure, it was great things.
(21:30):
Sure, it was great, but that'snot magnetism.
You can't speed through lifeand be magnetic.
Magnetic people don't need torush.
They understand that they cango at their own pace what feels
good to them.
There is no rush because, again, they're not chasing anything.
They are attracting.
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Magnetic people own their space.
If you want to be magnetic thisweek, start slowing down and
being present.
Start really tuning in to thespace you are in, tune in to the
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people that are around.
You Know, like, like trustfactor.
Are you embodying that?
You know the easiest ways to bemore liked start being
interested in other people.
Don't just talk about yourselfand certainly do not complain
(22:40):
about other people.
That is the fastest way to notbe magnetic.
To repel people is to gossipabout other people, talk crap
about other people, put otherpeople down.
That is not magnetic at all.
It is very repelling.
Be interested in other people,ask questions, be present with
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them, genuinely want to know howthat person is doing.
This is incredibly magnetic.
You're going to want, peopleare going to ask you, to come
everywhere, be a part of allthese different opportunities.
Not that you have to say yesAgain.
You don't want to be saying yesto everything.
Magnetic people have boundaries.
They know where to share theirenergy, where to keep it to
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themselves.
Speak from certainty, notarrogance.
Certainty, certainty, notarrogance, certainty.
Stop telling people and usinglanguage that is you know, I
think so, I hope so.
No, I know so I am.
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This is what I'm doing.
Let's go, have a confident yesthis week.
Make confident decisions,whether it's a yes or no.
Stop sitting in hesitation.
That is siphoning your energy.
(24:24):
You are not magnetic when youare hesitating and unsure and
overthinking and in your headand looping around stories and
stories and stories.
You're magnetic when you're inyour body, when you allow the
flow of life to flow through you.
You are flowing through life.
You're not getting stuck inyour head and overthinking going
through life.
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You're not getting stuck inyour head and overthinking.
You can shift into magneticenergy instantly by being
present and in your body andlightening up.
Magnetism comes from who youdecide to be, not what you
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achieve.
A lot of my clients and myselfwe're very focused on what we
want to achieve.
What we want to achieve, whatwe want to do, and a lot of
times people get into the beliefsystem that they want it
because they want to be moreconfident and they want to be
more magnetic, and they thinkthat achieving something like a
(25:26):
title or a certain amount ofmoney or so they can buy certain
things is going to make themmore magnetic, and that is the
farthest thing from the truth.
It's not going to give youanything until you get there
internally.
First.
You do not need anothercredential.
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You do not need the perfectbody.
You do not need permission toown your space.
You just need to decide thatyou already belong at the table.
This is an inside deal first.
The moment you stop waiting forproof, for validation, for
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something to give you permissionto be magnetic, that's the
moment you become magnetic andyou start calling people into
your space.
I want you, this week, to walkinto every room like you already
belong.
No shrinking, no overexplaining.
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Own your space.
I want you to speak fromcertainty, not hesitation.
Practice saying what you knowto be true, without watering it
down, without trying to tiptoearound other people's emotions
(26:59):
or triggers.
It doesn't mean blasting people.
It simply means you're allowingthe natural flow of what wants
to come out to come out.
Catch any thoughts aboutwaiting for permission or
(27:25):
waiting for certainty andreplace them with I already am,
I'm ready.
Have a confident yes.
Have a confident no this week.
Have a confident yes.
Have a confident no this week.
(27:49):
If you resonate with my storyaround feeling like I had to
dress a certain way, look acertain way, tone down who the
true, authentic version of me is, to fit in, to be professional,
then I want you to also assessin the next seven days where am
I doing that?
Where am I trying to fit in?
Somewhere To be accepted, tonot be, you know, outcasted or
(28:15):
to be pointed at as someone whoyou know that, as someone who
you know.
I'm trying to think of theright words here.
I have remembered certainmoments where even me being in
my authentic state.
I would sometimes try to softenthat, to not gain as much
(28:38):
attention, simply becausethere's a part of me that was
uncomfortable with it, but I wasself-rejecting that part of me
before other people could.
And part of being magnetic istruly knowing and understanding
and embodying the fact that youare safe to be you and
(29:01):
understanding and embodying thefact that you are safe to be you
.
You are safe to be you and whenyou fully own that, your
external world will start tomirror that back to you that you
are safe and appreciated andloved for being the full
expression of you.
(29:22):
Magnetic people give otherpeople permission to be their
full, authentic selves, thepeople who stand out, the ones
who get opportunities, the oneswho make an impact.
They aren't the smartest,they're not always the most
(29:44):
qualified.
They're the ones who own whothey are fully and
unapologetically.
So my challenge to you stepinto that energy this week.
(30:07):
Walk into every space like youalready belong, and watch what
happens.
Dm me and tell me what's oneway you're stepping into your
next level magnetism this week,or send me an email at info at
lisajeffscom.
At info at lisajeffscom.
(30:30):
This week is about you being inyour authentic power state.
If you would like to learn moreabout the opportunities I have
working with me in my magneticleadership accelerator or in a
one-on-one capacity, then sendme an email at info at
(30:52):
lisajeffscom, or you can applyfor a test drive consult.
This is a part of the work I dowith all of my clients, no
matter where they are in theirjourney, because it has such a
what's the word?
I'm looking?
There's not even a word thatcan fit into the magnitude of
(31:16):
how this can change your lifewhen you embody this energy.
I want it for you.
I want it for you, especiallyif you've been in a place where
you haven't been feeling it,where you've been feeling like
you're shrinking or you relateto that magnetism, but you
(31:37):
haven't felt it in a while.
I want you to feel it.
I want you to feel it runningthrough your veins, because it
will change every aspect of yourlife, and that is when we are
in our true divine energy.
Okay, leaders, I love you.
I appreciate you If you'restill on.
I love you.
I appreciate you If you'restill on.
(32:00):
Thank you for listening.
Please rate and subscribe.
Speaker 3 (32:42):
Share this with someone if you think it will be
helpful for them and, as always,let's stay connected.
Outro Music it up because Ibelieve find your purpose time
to be a magnetic leader.
If you want to have better opportunities coming to
you, make more money, have awildly enticing selection to
choose from in the datingcommunity.
If you want to walk into a roomand have everyone turn and look
(00:28):
at you, now maybe that mightterrify you depending on your
personality, but if you want allthese things and you want it in
a very easy way, which is notabout you working really hard to
get any of these things thenthe key to this is to be more
(00:51):
magnetic.
Being more magnetic is your keyto the castle.
People love magnetic people.
People want to be aroundmagnetic people.
People who are magnetic, are intheir true authentic power
(01:14):
state.
Why are most people notmagnetic and in their true
authentic power state?
Because they are operating infear programs the majority of
the day, because their nervoussystem has been hijacked and
they are in fight or flightconstantly.
(01:34):
But in this episode, I'm goingto start telling you things you
can do today to be more magneticand I will promise you, if you
implement these things for thenext seven days, you will notice
a substantial difference inyour life, in your work and in
(01:57):
your relationships.
Get ready, it's going to be agood one.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Tap into your power of an entrepreneur.
Level up.
Step it up because I believe.
Find your purpose time to be amagnetic leader.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Welcome to the show leaders.
I am your host, lisa Jeffs,your coach, your intuitive.
I work with top leaders,business owners, entrepreneurs,
professionals, creatives whowant a magnetic life and
business and career.
(02:55):
I'm going to share with you inthis episode something really,
really important, because I seea lot of people and, side note,
you know, I think this got a lotworse when social media came on
board, in particular, instagramA lot of people chasing this
(03:20):
thing where they think they needto look a certain way, they
need to act a certain way, theyneed to be a certain way, to be
magnetic, to appear confidentand carefree and lovable or
whatever is going on in theworld.
(03:41):
It's actually kind of crazy.
Certain things that I've seen inthe last few weeks.
I've just been more hyper awareof the narrative in the beauty
industry and the cosmetic I'mnot even sure what it's called.
I have a lot of plasticsurgeons on my Instagram and I'm
(04:07):
very hyper aware of languagethat's being used and there's
nothing.
Again, I have nothing againstplastic surgery or anything like
that or any kind of cosmeticwork or anything.
I've been taking care and doingthings with my own skincare
since my 20s, in fact, I thinkeven earlier than that in my
teens, so this isn't a judgmentagainst any of that, but the
(04:32):
language that I've been hearingbeing used is very detrimental.
Talking about women's and men'sfaces, things that are
happening to faces as they age,things that are going on as
problems.
Let me tell you something yoursagging skin that is sagging
(04:57):
over years of you being on thisplanet is not a problem.
It is not something that needsto be fixed.
If you choose that you wouldlike to do something with it for
your own self, that is adifferent story.
But believing that there is aproblem with anything on your
(05:20):
body how you look, your shape,your size, the colors of your
eyes I don't know what's goingon with this eye color surgery,
but listen, you do not need tobe putting your eyesight at risk
to change your color.
That's actually one that I havea problem with.
I don't think anybody should bedoing that.
(05:41):
To me, that's insane, and I saythat's insane that the doctor
shouldn't be doing that.
I understand why people get intheir mind that they are not
good enough the way that theyare and they want to change it.
I understand that my problem iswith the doctors doing that,
and I don't care who you are orhow much you say it's safe.
(06:03):
I don't buy it.
Anyways, I digress.
I don't want to go on a rantabout eye color change surgery,
but this belief, this mentality,is pulling us farther away from
magnetism.
You cannot be magnetic when youbelieve that there is something
(06:25):
wrong with you.
So have you ever met thosepeople, the ones that can walk
into a room and instantly youjust feel their presence?
Right, they're not trying hard,they're not.
They're not over explainingthemselves, educating themselves
(06:48):
, they're not putting on a show,they just are.
That is magnetism, and it's notsomething that you have to be
born with.
Yes, there are children thatare.
Honestly, I think they're justkind of born like that and you
can see it from day one, butmany people who are magnetic are
not like that At birth.
It's something that you cancreate, and I'm going to start
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breaking down how you can createthat type of unshakable
presence without faking it,without forcing it, without
waiting for it to magicallyappear.
You can be the creator of this,in fact, the most magnetic
person that I ever met and Italk about this person regularly
because he's a wonderfulexample that you don't need to
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be what society says is the mostbeautiful version of a person.
Mind you, different societieshave different views and
sometimes they are completeopposites of each other, which
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just shows you what kind of asham the whole thing is.
It's just an illusion, right?
It's just perception.
But this person was not likewhat society said was supposed
to be attractive, confident,magnetizing.
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In fact, he was quite theopposite.
Did that deter him from holdingthe energy of magnetism and
magnetizing people towards him?
He didn't have a lot of money.
He wasn't dressed a certain way.
He didn't have the physicallooks that society tells us we
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should have to be thatattractive person.
But what he did have was anunapologetic energy about him
that shined through so much towhere women would just flock to
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this man.
Beautiful, gorgeous women thatare aligned with society's
standards would be flocking tothis man.
And that is why I said hedidn't have money, because I
know some people are thinking oh, he must have money, he must
have money.
That's what it is.
Nope, he was not wearingdesigner clothes.
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He did not, you know, try tofake being anyone but himself,
and that's what made him sounapologetically magnetic.
People loved it.
The fact that he walked in aroom, the fact that he walked in
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a room like he.
He knew he was the ish and heheld his head high, his
shoulders back in a very naturalway, like this wasn't something
he was.
I don't even think he wasconsciously doing this.
This was just him, wildly inhis body, grounded presence.
He wasn't overthinking anything, he wasn't thinking, he wasn't
trying to cultivate anything.
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He allowed that universal flowto just flow through him.
He spoke from his heart.
You could tell he wasn't aperson who held back.
He was authentically himselfand it was wildly magnetic.
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Wildly magnetic.
Anyone on this planet can tapinto that energy by simply being
authentically them.
When you are authentically youand I know some people are like
I don't even know who the heck Iam, that's okay, we'll get into
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that when you are authenticallyyou, you magnetize people.
You, you magnetize people.
People are magnetized by whatthey desire for themselves.
I'll say that again People aremagnetized by what they desire
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for themselves.
If you are holding within yourenergy something that is a part
of someone else, but they're notfully allowing themselves to
embody that part, they are drawnto you.
You will magnetize them.
This is why so many people aremagnetized by celebrities or
rock stars.
It's not the rock starthemselves.
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It's what that rock starembodies, right?
That sex appeal, or thatmusical mastery, that stage
presence, right?
People are magnetized by whatyou hold within you that they
want.
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So when you are authenticallyyou coming into a room,
confident, head held highshoulders back, light, relaxed,
allowing the flow of informationto flow through you, you're not
overthinking what you're saying, you're not holding yourselves
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back, you're just allowing.
People want to be around that.
They love it, they feel it,they feel the realness of it.
It's not fake, it's not phony,it's not cultivated, it's not
weird, it's not this strangedystopia that can happen
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sometimes when you go downcertain social media rabbit
holes and you're just like whatis happening here.
None of this feels real.
It is magnetizing to beauthentically you.
Let me give you an example ofwhen I completely fell out of my
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own magnetism by getting in myhead and thinking I needed to be
something that I wasn't when Ifirst started my business.
I don't know where it got in myhead.
Someone said something to me,or I just just had this belief
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within me, but I thought that Ihad to be uber, uber, like this
very professional doll, likecardboard cutout of a person
with no personality that youknow.
I ended up straightening.
I remember I straightened myhair.
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I was like, oh, curly hair islike too much.
I got to straighten my hairNeutral colors, by the way, my
skin tone.
I don't look that great inneutral colors.
They're okay, but it completelywashed me out.
I had no nails on, like veryneutral nail polish, like
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nothing.
Mind you, the real me I loveanimal print, I love red lips, I
love nails, I love eyelashes.
I have big curly hair.
I am not a neutral cardboardcutout, but I remember being in
this feeling like I had to justkeep showing up as this weird
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I'm not even sure dystopianprofessional lady.
Dystopian professional ladyuntil I remember I'm in bed and
I'm just feeling into the energyof me in that moment and I'm
thinking to myself what the hellhave I been doing for the past
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months?
Year, I'm not even sure if itwas over a year I cannot do this
anymore.
I feel frumpy, dumpy, mumpy.
I feel so ugh in my skin.
Not only do I not feel magnetic, I feel the complete opposite
of magnetic, I feel like I'mrepelling people.
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The next day, I put my nails on,I put my lips on, I put my red
lipstick on, and just putting onmy nails and putting on my lips
shifted the energy so much.
It changed the way I startedmoving.
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It changed the way I showed upon camera.
It changed the energy.
I felt like, oh, a release.
This is my authentic self and Iremember that post that I did
that day I think I did a videoor a live actually.
That post that I did that day Ithink I did a video or a live
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actually, I think, did I do alive Facebook and I got more
comments than ever.
I got more people responding tome.
Why Not?
Because I was faking something,cultivating something or trying
to be some cardboard cutoutlady, because I was in my
authentic energy, right.
So we got to put on our nails,we got to put on our lips.
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Please don't take that literally.
If you don't wear nails and youdon't wear red lipstick, don't
put it on.
That's not authentically you.
I'm using that as a mantra tobe authentic to you, to be
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authentic to you, not trying tofit into a cardboard box.
It doesn't work.
If you want to be magnetic, itdoesn't matter what you look
like, it doesn't matter whatyou're dressing like.
I know a lot of people will sayyou know, dress a certain way.
Yes, obviously a certain way.
Yes, obviously, when you dressa certain way, people respond to
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it.
I'm not saying just loungearound in sweatsuits all day,
however.
You can lounge around insweatsuits all over if that is
true to you and you feelfreaking amazing in it.
You feel like your powerfulself, and if you go out in that,
people will respond.
What I'm getting at here is ittruly comes from the inside
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first.
Magnetism is an inside jobfirst, and then externally we
can add to that first, and thenexternally we can add to that.
We can add to that.
So, using my example, when I wasfeeling frumpy and dumpy, it
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really had nothing to do withthe external.
What I had done.
It was because inside myself, Ihad a belief that I couldn't
just show up as me.
I had to change myself to fitin.
I had to tone down certainthings about myself because I
thought that I would beperceived as quote unquote
professional, which is reallyfunny when I think back, because
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I have my own personal brand.
So I don't know why I thought Ihad to be professional.
Like that doesn't even.
It's not even connecting now,but at that moment it made sense
to me.
But putting on that lipstickand putting back on my nails it
really wasn't about the external.
It was about me just sayingscrew it, it's not even worth it
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.
I'd rather be myself and havethe whole business implode than
try to be someone else to makeit work.
And, of course, when we areourself, it works.
We don't need to be anyone else.
Are ourself, it works.
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We don't need to be anyone else.
Being magnetic, you don't needto chase anything you attract.
Magnetic people are not in adesperate state state.
They move like they alreadybelong.
They move like they can haveanything that they desire.
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And I don't mean that in acreepy way, I mean that in a
universal way.
If they are desiring somethingto create something in their
life, they move like it'salready done.
Desperate energy takes awayfrom magnetism the difference
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between someone who blends inand someone who owns the room.
It's in their energy.
It's not their looks.
It's not their money, it's nottheir title, it's their energy.
Yes, someone who has good looksaccording to society's
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standards, has money, has atitle.
They can be magnetic, but it'snot because of those things,
it's because of their energy.
But it's not because of thosethings.
It's because of their energy.
Magnetism isn't about what yousay.
It's about what people feelwhen they are around you.
Remember you are mirroringsomething to them that they want
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within themselves Confidence,belief in themselves.
Unapologetic I am the ish beingmagnetic.
You don't need to be so hyperon the go.
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I remember years ago I wouldjust like be speeding down the
highway warp speed, not evensure where I was going.
Everything was just so fast.
I had so many things I wantedto do.
I was achieving all thesethings.
Sure, it was great things.
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Sure, it was great, but that'snot magnetism.
You can't speed through lifeand be magnetic.
Magnetic people don't need torush.
They understand that they cango at their own pace what feels
good to them.
There is no rush because, again, they're not chasing anything.
They are attracting.
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Magnetic people own their space.
If you want to be magnetic thisweek, start slowing down and
being present.
Start really tuning in to thespace you are in, tune in to the
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people that are around.
You Know, like, like trustfactor.
Are you embodying that?
You know the easiest ways to bemore liked start being
interested in other people.
Don't just talk about yourselfand certainly do not complain
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about other people.
That is the fastest way to notbe magnetic.
To repel people is to gossipabout other people, talk crap
about other people, put otherpeople down.
That is not magnetic at all.
It is very repelling.
Be interested in other people,ask questions, be present with
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them, genuinely want to know howthat person is doing.
This is incredibly magnetic.
You're going to want, peopleare going to ask you, to come
everywhere, be a part of allthese different opportunities.
Not that you have to say yesAgain.
You don't want to be saying yesto everything.
Magnetic people have boundaries.
They know where to share theirenergy, where to keep it to
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themselves.
Speak from certainty, notarrogance.
Certainty, certainty, notarrogance, certainty.
Stop telling people and usinglanguage that is you know, I
think so, I hope so.
No, I know so I am.
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This is what I'm doing.
Let's go, have a confident yesthis week.
Make confident decisions,whether it's a yes or no.
Stop sitting in hesitation.
That is siphoning your energy.
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You are not magnetic when youare hesitating and unsure and
overthinking and in your headand looping around stories and
stories and stories.
You're magnetic when you're inyour body, when you allow the
flow of life to flow through you.
You are flowing through life.
You're not getting stuck inyour head and overthinking going
through life.
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You're not getting stuck inyour head and overthinking.
You can shift into magneticenergy instantly by being
present and in your body andlightening up.
Magnetism comes from who youdecide to be, not what you
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achieve.
A lot of my clients and myselfwe're very focused on what we
want to achieve.
What we want to achieve, whatwe want to do, and a lot of
times people get into the beliefsystem that they want it
because they want to be moreconfident and they want to be
more magnetic, and they thinkthat achieving something like a
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title or a certain amount ofmoney or so they can buy certain
things is going to make themmore magnetic, and that is the
farthest thing from the truth.
It's not going to give youanything until you get there
internally.
First.
You do not need anothercredential.
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You do not need the perfectbody.
You do not need permission toown your space.
You just need to decide thatyou already belong at the table.
This is an inside deal first.
The moment you stop waiting forproof, for validation, for
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something to give you permissionto be magnetic, that's the
moment you become magnetic andyou start calling people into
your space.
I want you, this week, to walkinto every room like you already
belong.
No shrinking, no overexplaining.
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Own your space.
I want you to speak fromcertainty, not hesitation.
Practice saying what you knowto be true, without watering it
down, without trying to tiptoearound other people's emotions
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or triggers.
It doesn't mean blasting people.
It simply means you're allowingthe natural flow of what wants
to come out to come out.
Catch any thoughts aboutwaiting for permission or
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waiting for certainty andreplace them with I already am,
I'm ready.
Have a confident yes.
Have a confident no this week.
Have a confident yes.
Have a confident no this week.
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If you resonate with my storyaround feeling like I had to
dress a certain way, look acertain way, tone down who the
true, authentic version of me is, to fit in, to be professional,
then I want you to also assessin the next seven days where am
I doing that?
Where am I trying to fit in?
Somewhere To be accepted, tonot be, you know, outcasted or
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to be pointed at as someone whoyou know that, as someone who
you know.
I'm trying to think of theright words here.
I have remembered certainmoments where even me being in
my authentic state.
I would sometimes try to softenthat, to not gain as much
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attention, simply becausethere's a part of me that was
uncomfortable with it, but I wasself-rejecting that part of me
before other people could.
And part of being magnetic istruly knowing and understanding
and embodying the fact that youare safe to be you and
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understanding and embodying thefact that you are safe to be you
.
You are safe to be you and whenyou fully own that, your
external world will start tomirror that back to you that you
are safe and appreciated andloved for being the full
expression of you.
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Magnetic people give otherpeople permission to be their
full, authentic selves, thepeople who stand out, the ones
who get opportunities, the oneswho make an impact.
They aren't the smartest,they're not always the most
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qualified.
They're the ones who own whothey are fully and
unapologetically.
So my challenge to you stepinto that energy this week.
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Walk into every space like youalready belong, and watch what
happens.
Dm me and tell me what's oneway you're stepping into your
next level magnetism this week,or send me an email at info at
lisajeffscom.
At info at lisajeffscom.
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This week is about you being inyour authentic power state.
If you would like to learn moreabout the opportunities I have
working with me in my magneticleadership accelerator or in a
one-on-one capacity, then sendme an email at info at
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lisajeffscom, or you can applyfor a test drive consult.
This is a part of the work I dowith all of my clients, no
matter where they are in theirjourney, because it has such a
what's the word?
I'm looking?
There's not even a word thatcan fit into the magnitude of
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how this can change your lifewhen you embody this energy.
I want it for you.
I want it for you, especiallyif you've been in a place where
you haven't been feeling it,where you've been feeling like
you're shrinking or you relateto that magnetism, but you
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haven't felt it in a while.
I want you to feel it.
I want you to feel it runningthrough your veins, because it
will change every aspect of yourlife, and that is when we are
in our true divine energy.
Okay, leaders, I love you.
I appreciate you If you'restill on.
I love you.
I appreciate you If you'restill on.
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