February 21, 2024 • 38 mins
As the frost of winter melts into the warmth of spring, my Uncle Danny, affectionately known as Dan Coletta, and I sit by the fireside to dissect the enigma of love. With the season of affection upon us, we find ourselves mulling over the profound effects love has on our lives, from the sacrifices it demands to the unbridled joy it delivers. Whether it's the parental instincts that compel us to elevate our children's needs or the leadership roles that charge us with the welfare of those we guide, our conversation takes us through the complexities of love's impact on family and beyond. We relive the simple pleasures of our youth, tossing snowballs with the innocence of childhood friendship, and recognize these as the roots of our understanding of love.
The tapestry of our dialogue weaves through the essential ties between respect and love, revealing how these forces shape our interactions both at home and in the workplace. Dealing with a difficult team member? We've got insights on fostering a respectful, drama-free atmosphere and ensuring a positive team spirit. At home, we delve into the art of conflict resolution through love and understanding, and how these elements can fortify the bonds within our family. Cultural nuances in love's expression catch our eye, especially the candid American way of saying "I love you," as we ponder how such declarations vary across the globe.
Dan and I round off our heartfelt exchange with the transformative effects of love and the art of communication. From the power held by a simple greeting to the profound impact of face-to-face conversations, we affirm that love remains an omnipresent force capable of healing societal ailments like drug addiction, through the compassion that fills the voids in our hearts. We underscore the necessity of self-love and forgiveness, and extend a hand to those in need, especially the vulnerable children amongst us. So, join us for an episode that promises not just to explore love but to leave you with a renewed sense of connection and understanding in the ever-spinning carousel of life.
The tapestry of our dialogue weaves through the essential ties between respect and love, revealing how these forces shape our interactions both at home and in the workplace. Dealing with a difficult team member? We've got insights on fostering a respectful, drama-free atmosphere and ensuring a positive team spirit. At home, we delve into the art of conflict resolution through love and understanding, and how these elements can fortify the bonds within our family. Cultural nuances in love's expression catch our eye, especially the candid American way of saying "I love you," as we ponder how such declarations vary across the globe.
Dan and I round off our heartfelt exchange with the transformative effects of love and the art of communication. From the power held by a simple greeting to the profound impact of face-to-face conversations, we affirm that love remains an omnipresent force capable of healing societal ailments like drug addiction, through the compassion that fills the voids in our hearts. We underscore the necessity of self-love and forgiveness, and extend a hand to those in need, especially the vulnerable children amongst us. So, join us for an episode that promises not just to explore love but to leave you with a renewed sense of connection and understanding in the ever-spinning carousel of life.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Five four, three, two , one.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Take a breath, let's die then.
All right, welcome back.
We have Uncle Danny once again,aka Dan Coletta.
Oh boy here we go.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Now he wants me to talk about love.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
I mean, it is the season Valentine's Day is coming
up Right around the corner, solet's talk about love.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Love.
Well, yeah, let's tear thatword apart.
What is love?
Speaker 2 (00:44):
If you spell it backwards, it's evil.
Because, love makes us do crazythings sometimes.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Yeah, it does.
You're saying for the love ofGod.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
For the love of God, exactly.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Yes, love, love, love is what.
What is love?
What is love is something thatprobably from it makes you feel
great.
I mean, I think love is likethat.
Love is what everybody wants,everybody wants that love.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
I think love is a burden.
Really it is.
I think love is a heavy weightto carry, because if you love
anything, you know that love isalso sacrifice.
Love can also mean that you puteveryone else first and you put
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yourself last.
Love could be that too.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
That's love.
Yes, that is.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Love hurts sometimes.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Yes, there's a song like that.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Love is pain.
Love is everything, both goodand bad, because we can do bad
things out of love yes you canFor the ones that we love.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
That's what you call protection.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
You have to protect the ones you love.
Yes, love does come in manydifferent ways.
You put that way.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Yes, you know what I was thinking about the other day
.
I was lifting weights andstruggling.
I was like man.
I can't lift weights like I didbefore.
It's because before I'd workout six days a week With the
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first kid, I got down to workingout two, maybe three days a
week.
Then, with the second kid, ittook me nine months to get back
into the gym.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
It's like well, that's why that is the reason
you, that's love, love for yourchildren.
There it is, yes, yousacrificed yourself for your
children, for your family.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
That's what love is right.
There there's some family thatthey may be married and they
could have children and they say, well, children are going to
bog me down from my routineBecause you and your wife would
talk about having children orwhatever, whoever she wants.
(03:46):
You don't listen to thatbecause it's going to interfere
with this and that it does.
But that's where love comes in.
That's where you're saying thesacrifice of love for your
children and your family.
That love goes.
Once you have that love foryour family, I think it goes
broader.
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Yes, it grows and grows andgrows, because you see the other
families, you see your innerand outer families and it just
keeps on growing, like asnowball going down a hill,
bigger and bigger and bigger.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
One of the things that's happened to me since I
became a dad and I think,especially because I have a
daughter as well is I love and Iunderstand more than I did
before.
I think when my son was born,my heart grew for the world.
(04:41):
Oh yes, it does.
Yes.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Look at the emotions, you get the love.
Let's say your family.
You go visit your mother orfather, or vice versa, or your
wife.
When those grandparents aresaying goodbye to their children
or their grandkids, could yougo back home or miles away, or
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whatever?
The love of them.
That's why they bring the tearsto their eyes.
It's the love.
You can grab your children oryour grandchildren and squeeze
them.
Squeeze them See, ah, that islove.
It is, yes, everybody,everybody in the world has that,
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everybody.
You can go anywhere and theyhave that.
Now, does the man have morelove than the mother?
I think the mother, I think ofa family.
The mother holds the familytogether.
Yeah the mother has love.
That love it's probably like a,like a flower.
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She's the center and when itbooms out, you know, when it's
booming, that's the family.
The pedals yeah, because that'swhere it's at.
It's like that.
So you know, when I was growingup my dad says oh, you ever
thought bad, why, that's justthe way, your respect.
(06:19):
Yeah, you know it's respect.
It's respect, yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
I think respect is love too.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Yeah, and you know, hey, you know, you know Jesus
had a mother.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
This is true, he's gonna have a mother.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Yeah, the holy mother man, and there's the love right
there, you know.
So it's it.
The love is wow, love is strong, strong.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
You know, I don't think that the people who work
under me would ever realize howmuch I love them, because the
moment that I became a parentand I looked at the world
differently, because I looked atthe world With the
understanding that everyone hasa mom and a dad, everyone is
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important and, as the leader, IAm responsible for them when
they're on the clock and I takethat responsibility very
seriously and I believe thatit's my job to protect them as
well.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
That is absolutely right.
You have to.
You have anybody working onanything, you protect those guys
or the girls.
You protect them because thatis your job.
You know it's like love.
Okay, I'll put another way.
Driving down the street I'mfrom the north, so Everyone's
well you'll get the kids make asnowball throw at you.
(07:50):
Yeah yeah, you don't get mad.
I Me, I laugh because you knowwhat.
I did it and I was a kid.
Yeah, we all threw snowballs,you know, and then we Laugh a
little bit and run, but you know, that's just.
That was the way it was, youknow, and we didn't get mad.
The other guys they get madsometimes they'll stop.
(08:13):
Well, snowballs back and forth,you know, fight, but that's
just the way it is.
I mean that.
But that's love, that's anotherform of love.
Is is Just going with thatmoment exactly this being
understanding.
Yeah, mm-hmm Just not notgetting mad and running the kids
down, you know that I?
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Yeah, you're a kid too.
I think that a lot of peopleforget that you were a kid too.
You did the same thing.
Now shows to show somecompassion.
Mm-hmm yeah maybe I'm justgetting soft, I don't wow, you
do.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
I mean, yeah, because you do start looking at you
still start.
You start looking that way andyou do, you get soft.
You get soft for everything.
You know you don't want you.
You can't walk around with achip.
Have to that.
You have to have that passionfor everybody.
It has to be there.
Yep and yes.
(09:13):
That's what love is you know Iam.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
I Love thinking about how much I love my life because
we've had maybe For actual badarguments in our relationship,
but the arguments never matter.
You know what I mean.
(09:39):
Like it's a guy that after it'sdone, it's it's done.
I've never, I don't know, I'venever went to bed angry.
You know I never.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Let me give you a word of advice about that.
You should never go betterangry.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Uh-huh.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
The word of advice is that if and everybody has
arguments yeah, and they're bigdisagrees Every marriage does.
That's like I said before youhave disagreements, you settle
the disagreements and never,ever put your head down a pillow
Mad at each other, never, ever,ever, ever do that.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
You wake up, you're done.
You're done with your argument.
Tell each other you love themand go to sleep that you say you
know you're forgiven You're,you know I forgive you, you
forgive me.
Love each other and go to sleep, because you cannot kid, not,
pull a bed, do mad at each other.
Exactly that's the worst thingto do.
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And Any relationship or anywork relationship, it's the same
thing.
Disagree, you work it out andyou move on, and it's the same
foot that you know, I, like I'lltell my guys.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
I said all business is personal, it is personal.
It's personal because you're aperson.
That's what makes it personal,because it, if I Come here, I
wanted to be treated withrespect.
I'm gonna treat you withrespect, because if it wasn't
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personal, then it wouldn'tmatter if we didn't respect you.
Well, you, you, you.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
What you gotta do is, when it comes to respect, you
respect that person and they'llrespect you, like you said, but
I always try to work theopposite way.
You know, with with that youShow them respect, you'll get
respect.
Yes, yes and it some peopletakes a long time to get that,
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but you still have to keepworking on because you as a, as
a boss, has to show them thatand you have to show them how to
guide through those ruffleDiscrimination that show me
respect and that's how you youbecome a good Working companion.
(12:08):
I agree that way.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Yeah, you know it's not like, it's not hard.
Sometimes you, everyone hasthat one guy or that one girl on
their team.
That is just a pain in the buttand you know it made in the
more and the the more how shouldI put it that everyone else is
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good and everyone does the rightthing the more aggravating it
is when that person does thewrong thing.
And when I say the wrong thing,I'm not talking about just
being a good worker or good workethic, I mean just being a good
person.
Like some people, they justhave to create drama and they
have to spread rumors.
They have to do things likethat are that stuff that I
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personally don't like and Ithink that, as as I get older, I
Want less of that in whateverenvironment I'm in.
So it's frustrating dealingwith that you know?
Speaker 1 (13:13):
Well, that's what you call.
Like a, there's the bad apple,yes, the bad apple.
The bad apple in them In thatbasket will wreck the whole
basket.
Yeah you know, so that you'llsee that in family too.
We're gonna go back to thefamily part of it.
So what you do?
Because every family has.
You know we're sleeping, so youknow brother and sister is
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there arguing back and forth, soa bit snap.
And so the mom or dad's got toget involved and say hey guys,
just work this out, let's dothis now.
And it is you.
You got different.
You know it goes, it goes.
They love each other, they do,but that love can't become hate.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
And and there is a lot of that that goes around
today.
There's a lot of hate in theirfamilies and it has to Somehow.
They have to work it outBecause they still their love is
still there.
They've got that.
Search themselves, we find outwhere is that love inside me?
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Can I bring it back out againtoward my brother, my sister, my
mother, my father?
Where is that love?
I have to search for, searchfor that and Once you find it,
it'll be okay.
But you can't the the brother,sister that the other ones are
all mad that one bad apple.
(14:40):
Yeah you can't.
Yeah, I'll scream this and thatthey will come.
They will come back.
Let them find themselves.
Work with them.
Show, show them.
You know what they always saidkill them with kindness.
Yeah, they say, kill them withkindness, they'll come back and
that's the other point lovetakes work.
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Well, it takes, like you saidearlier, understanding.
Yes, it takes that, it takes anunderstanding and and and.
When you have that love thereand understanding, you know,
there he goes, you know the guyswill bring home the flowers,
bring home the candy to theirwives and stuff like that.
When it comes to your children,well, you're bringing them home
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something, you bring them.
All the time you go somewhereyou bring home a present, or you
, even when they get older, youknow they'll say mom, dad, you
have to give me anything too oldfor this stuff.
Well, you bring it, you'rebringing for their children.
Yeah you know, for theirchildren here.
I want this for this, you know,for your kids and your.
Your children will see that andthey'll learn from that,
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because once their kids getolder, they'll see the same
thing.
You know, they just keepsgrowing down and but that's, you
know.
Love is this understanding andeverything it's.
It's, it's a whole bunch ofstuff.
It's a huge word.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
It is a huge issue.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
It's a huge word.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
And then that's when I first came to America.
You know, one of the things Ididn't like I thought was really
weird was I Remember thinking,man, I had never heard the words
I love you like culturally Ilove you is more of like a
goodbye, you know, like it'slike you're like, or like you
like you've done something sogood that your parents are like
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I love you, but you're not likeI love you is not something that
was ever really said like andjust don't hear it.
You know, you know you're inthe music, you know hear it, you
know you know things like that.
But in America I was, Iremember saying man, Americans
must be the most loving peoplein the entire world.
Everyone says I love you.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
I just it's like when you're talking on a phone.
Okay, hey, I love you.
Yeah, you know you know.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
So that was just so.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
And because that's it , you know, they you have to.
I Don't.
It just brings out and they do.
You know, everybody should dothat, you know.
And now you have a yeah, youhave a blessed day, I have a
great day, or something likethat.
That's another form.
When he say that, when you saythat, or God bless you, or
something like that is anotherform of love.
Yeah and so you're expressingyourself.
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You're that?
That?
yeah you know you don't say I,you know you also.
You know, if you have a bad day, you don't bring that bad day
home.
You, boom, get rid of it.
Get rid of it.
Don't even lock it inside.
Yeah, just get rid of it,because that's what you gotta do
.
Just boom, get rid of it.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
And then, and then you're okay again.
Speaker 2 (17:39):
Yeah, it's true.
Speaker 1 (17:41):
You have to.
You know some guy you'redriving your car, somebody
passes you on, cut your off orsomething like that.
You know what they might have,that they might be in the
emergency.
You don't know that.
So don't cost Adam, don't,don't go up there.
Give them, you know, give him asign, or something like that.
No, don't give him the finger.
Yeah, you just, you know, justlet him go, let him do it.
You don't know the circumstanceof that person, you know it.
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That's just how I live, butthat is another form.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
That's forgiveness, you know that is, forgiveness,
is love.
Speaker 1 (18:16):
Yeah, and that's another form.
You know, that's what I'msaying.
It just started, it's huge, bigword and uh, yeah.
So what is love Done?
Love is the universe.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
Yeah, yeah.
Sometimes love is Making thepause to just say hello to the
stranger.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
Mm-hmm.
You know, yeah, you're walking.
You walk in the parking lotmorning.
Good morning, how are you, youknow?
Speaker 2 (18:44):
You know, a couple weeks ago I told you I had to go
to this convention and therewas a homeless guy outside and
he said I don't need money oranything, I just need someone to
talk to.
And I said, okay, we could talk.
And I'm sure most people I'mnot going to say most people and
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we forget that everyonedeserves a hello.
You know, everyone deserves tojust be treated like people.
And just because you're notbeing mean to someone doesn't
mean you're treating them like aperson, Because when you're not
saying hello, that means thatthat person is invisible and you
just walk past and you justthey don't have anyone to talk
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to.
And he said something thatbroke my heart.
He said that, being on thestreets, you know, you see all
the things that everyone elsedoesn't see.
You see the criminals, you seethe drug dealers and you're
living in that, Whereas everydaypeople may not see the drug
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dealers dealing drugs and thingslike that.
You may not be because you'renot in that world.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
Well, you know, we talk about the drug dealers and
the drugs.
Isn't that Okay.
What makes a drug dealer?
If somebody out there that islost, even lost love, they have
to feel that void and they feelthat if they do, the drugs do
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something.
That's and you know, our youngsociety is very smart, they're
always smarter, each side issmarter than the last and
they're smart and they know whatthey're doing.
But there's that void andthey're using that drug to fill
a void.
You know they're not there.
I don't believe they're thereto hurt themselves, but it's
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just that void.
The void is not having love.
They have to fill it becauseit's hurting them so bad and
that drug is satisfying themfrom that void, which I don't
know if they weren't huggedenough and when they were young,
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or hugged enough when they gotolder, you know the teenagers if
they weren't hugged enough,where they could feel that just
a little of itself is a high andthey have to get that back.
And that's how you're going tocontract some of the.
You know the place where we'reat now.
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We're overcome by that.
You know, and if we can show,if they can fill that love, they
wouldn't go with that, that inthat position they would be in
and we wouldn't have the problemwe have today with what we have
everywhere.
It's everywhere.
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It's not just here, it'severywhere.
Every neighborhood has it.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Every neighborhood, it's true.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
And I really believe that's how it has to be.
You have to get that back intoyou.
But there's nothing, there'slove.
Love will heal your body.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
It is.
It's true, if you're depressed,if you're stressed out, that
can harm your body.
Stress kills, yeah.
So stress kills and love heals.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (22:26):
We should put that on the shirt.
Speaker 1 (22:32):
Yep, but oh yeah, and we all have to talk.
I mean, you can't sit in thecorner, you can't sit in your
room in front of a computer allday.
No, that's not what.
That's not communication.
It's face to face.
It's eyes to eyes.
Your eyes is communicating withthe other eyes You're looking
at while you're talking.
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So you have that communication.
It's not on Facebook, it's noton whatever social media you
want to go to.
It's not on that.
It's human being talking,showing the emotions, showing
that.
And we have to try to stressthat because we're getting to
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more and more communicationsthrough our devices which we're
losing.
We're losing that feeling oflove.
Then yeah, it's true, and thatseparates us from that
communication between skills,between what would you want to
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call it?
Or I mean, what would that be?
You know, just face to facecommunication.
Speaker 2 (23:40):
Yeah, it's scary to a lot of people.
I mean most people.
You go to a lot of places.
People don't say hello anymore.
Speaker 1 (23:47):
No.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
And that's so weird to me.
And when you go out and you'regoing to have dinner with
friends or a family and thewaiter or the waitress comes up
to you and they're like, oh,what will you be having?
And they don't say hello, yes,Would you like a?
Then you go in and they gowould you like a high top or
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would you like a booth?
You know, like no one says howare you doing today?
So, yeah, my head, I'm like whyam I even here?
You know, now the meal isn'tappetizing anymore because I
didn't feel the love.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
You got to show the love there again.
You got to show it wherever yougo.
Huge word.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
And you know this.
I wanted to do this episode.
I didn't know how I wanted todo it, because love is
complicated.
But I like to think about loveand the way that I understand it
, that we say love iscomplicated but love is really
simple.
Love is just.
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We all have a gut, we have agut feeling.
We know when we do bad things,you know we can, we can make
excuses for the bad things we do, but it doesn't mean we still
don't know what love is.
It's just that some of us areafraid to love because we don't
want to be hurt.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
Well, you know what I mean, like, I know what you're
saying.
Yeah, yeah, like, but you gotto have that, you got to have it
.
If you want, you just have tohave that Love you got to have.
And so that's where it comesback to Valentine's Day.
Valentine's Day, yeah,valentine's Day, there you go
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and they're trying to get thatlove out where everybody has, go
out and hug everybody in thatone day.
You love everybody in the world, you love each other.
You know we are the world.
You know here's that song andwe are the world and it goes.
Get the world together and loveeach other.
You know, there it is.
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Show the emotion of love foreach other.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
You know, the hardest thing to do is I think it's
hard for a lot of people to lovethemselves.
I think people try to mostpeople will try to love a lot of
people and then they don't lovethemselves.
So they're giving somethingthey don't really have for
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themselves and that makes themdry.
You know, like how you meetsome people that just try to
please everyone.
They're trying to constantlyplease everyone happy.
They're good people, but theyalso get used and abused because
they just want to be loved andbe accepted by everybody else
around them.
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That's sad Totally.
I'm getting old, so that's whatthings like that make me sad,
whenever I see it, or whenever Isee two people in a
relationship and you know that.
You know from experience thatthat person loves the other
person but the other persondoesn't.
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Well, there's where you have togo.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
So there's where it comes back, where it says when
you lose it, you've got to getit back.
Exactly, that is, that fallsright back into that again.
And you know, when you lost ityou got to really fight to get
that back because you got tohave that back.
To survive anything, you haveto have that love still in you.
You got to have that glow.
If you don't have it yes, youdon't have that glow for
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yourself.
You know it's, you know we havethat sense.
I really believe we do havethat sense.
If you know you have, you cantell that guy's a nice guy, that
guy has, that guy has love inhis heart.
Yes, and there again there'swhere love you know the sign of
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the heart is love, valentine'sDay, the big heart.
There it's where it is.
You know the old saying thatguy has, that girl has a big
heart.
Well then they are yep, thereit is again.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1 (28:16):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
If you could do anything in the world that could
show or teach people just likewhat love is, what would it be?
What would the thing be thatyou do?
Just teach people how to loveand just show love, whatever
Forgiveness.
Speaker 1 (28:38):
Forgiveness.
Forgiveness is love.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
Well, why, why, why do you choose forgiveness?
Speaker 1 (28:45):
Why there's a lot of forgiveness, just real needs,
and that'll show the love rightthere.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
Forgiveness is hard.
Mm-hmm, it is, yes, it is.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
It is, and you've got to swallow your pride.
Yeah, and swallow it and bringyour love out.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
Yeah, you know it's funny how, like you can forgive
so many people in the world andit can be so hard to forgive the
people you love the most.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
Well, because you love those people, they'll say
and they did something badtowards you.
You know, yeah, and they reallydidn't mean it, but they could
be in the same way yeah, like alittle hardness and a little
hard towards you and they didsomething that really you know.
But you're loving the personand yeah, it hurts you because
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you gave him the love and yougave her the love.
Whatever you know the show andthey come back and do that.
That is hard but you just gotto fight for it.
You got to try to help themthere.
Bring it out, get rid of thatnegative.
Speaker 2 (29:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
And bring it out.
You know it's, it is tough, itis tough.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
Like me and my father , we're not on a good term.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
Yeah, Well, you've got to be on a good term so you
won't have a father.
No, no no, your father.
You know it is tough.
There's a tough thing for youright there.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
It is, it is.
I'm not going to lie.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
You know, fathers are always rough on the boys
because they that's just the waythey were.
My dad was rough on me, youknow.
Hey, he put me in a spot whereyou've got to work, work, work,
work, work, work, provide,provide, provide for your family
.
And then, when they grew up,your kids, yes, work, work, work
, teach them.
I mean, don't you know you workfor what you got.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:40):
Don't look for him.
You work for what you got, andthat's the way it is.
You will be rewarded at the end.
You'll be rewarded at the end,but you have to really keep
going.
And in what I'm talking aboutwhen I say work, that's helping
everybody that's out there tohelp people, to help them, help
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the need that needs it, thatthey may not be able to do.
That you know.
Watch out for your little, thelittle children of this world.
I mean, that's where it's attoo.
You know there's too much ofthat stuff going on, and
everybody, every adult, every,every person, a young adult,
everyone out there has to payattention to the young, young
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kids of this world and protectthem, every one of them, it's
true.
You protect those littlechildren, you'll be very well
awarded in life, I agree, andthat's another thing.
Speaker 2 (31:38):
Forgiveness, though you know that part, I think that
it's true, Pride makes it hard.
You know, pride does make ithard.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
Everybody has pride, you gotta have pride.
Everybody has pride, but youhave to control it.
You control pride, you know.
You don't flaunt it, you justcontrol it.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
I never try to be anything that I'm not.
I think being true to who youare and being honest with people
it goes a very long way.
That's a way that they canreally show love, too.
Love isn't just like throughthe actions of oh, I bought you
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this or I did that.
Love is also you being honestwith yourself and you being real
in general.
When you're an honest person,you're a good person.
Everyone sees that you neverknow who's watching you.
One of the things that Ilearned in the last couple of
(32:54):
years you never choose to beanyone's hero.
If someone respects you andsomeone looks up to you, you
didn't choose that for yourself.
The moment that someonerespects you and looks up to you
, you now have a responsibilityfor that person.
Isn't that crazy?
Speaker 1 (33:13):
Wow, that's what that goes for everybody.
That's everybody.
Now, if they had that, the lookcould happen.
You wouldn't have what we had.
We wouldn't have to have thepolice and not as many as we had
.
We wouldn't have the crime.
(33:34):
We wouldn't have the crime.
If we did that, we wouldn'thave the high crime.
We wouldn't have it around theworld.
We would be very, very goodwith that.
Yes, maybe your smaller townshave that little bit close-knit
(33:55):
thing.
Your bigger cities they have tobecome.
Just because you're a big citydoesn't mean you can't be a
close-knit.
You can't know people andrespect them and honor them
where you're not trying to stealfrom them.
Speaker 2 (34:13):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
Just trying to make a quick buck yes.
This would come for acomfortable life.
Oh yes, there's a lot to it.
There's a lot to it, but youjust got to high-law.
Speaker 2 (34:30):
I told you, love is a burden, but sometimes it is a
burden.
Speaker 1 (34:34):
But you have to have it, but it's necessary, it is
very necessary.
It's necessary that fulfillsyour heart.
Speaker 2 (34:39):
It does.
Love is tiring man.
I realize that since I became aparent, there's no amount of
sleep that I could ever get thatwill ever make me not tired.
I'm all about that.
I don't know, maybe it'sbecause I'm on the younger side
(35:02):
of being a parent, but it's like, oh, it's like I'm always tired
, wow, but I'm happy, though.
That's the other part of it.
It's not a miserable tired,it's a happy tired.
Oh, I just came from work.
Oh, we're going to play outsidefor four hours.
Speaker 1 (35:24):
The reason why you do it.
I'm going to tell you something.
It goes by super fast.
Speaker 2 (35:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
You only do it once.
You only do it once and it goesby real fast.
It does.
That's the way it is.
You never know when your parentis, and so grab them, hug them.
And I was telling me to hugthem.
Speaker 2 (35:53):
You're right.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
When.
Speaker 2 (35:56):
I grow up, I want to be just like you.
Speaker 1 (35:58):
Oh my goodness, no, not like me.
Better, always better, alwaysbetter, better, better, better.
And then the world will be abetter place.
Everybody grow on it, grow onit, grow, grow, grow and be
better, better with the love andthe understanding and the
forgiveness you can do that,that is, you're going to be in a
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happier place.
That's about it.
Speaker 2 (36:26):
It means a lot to me that you're on the podcast.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
I really appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (36:33):
Well, good, good.
Speaker 2 (36:35):
I love the nuggets of wisdom.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
Basically, you know, you said wisdom, but you know
what it's almost like a, it'slike common sense, but that's
what we were here for.
We're here for them.
We're not here for the chaos,we're not here to drive people
for it.
We're here to understand andlove each other and, yes, we
(36:59):
have to forgive each other tosome of the things.
Some of the things.
It could be not all, notperfect, it's not a perfect one.
On this, there was only one guy, one that was perfect, and that
was it One.
Everyone else, you know we havesins.
Speaker 2 (37:18):
That's true every day , and I should have said that.
Speaker 1 (37:23):
But we do.
But that's where you knowforgiveness.
You know that's where the lovecomes.
You know understanding.
You got to have that, got to,and with that word, god bless
you.
Speaker 2 (37:39):
Thank you, yep.
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Five four, three, two , one.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Take a breath, let's die then.
All right, welcome back.
We have Uncle Danny once again,aka Dan Coletta.
Oh boy here we go.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Now he wants me to talk about love.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
I mean, it is the season Valentine's Day is coming
up Right around the corner, solet's talk about love.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Love.
Well, yeah, let's tear thatword apart.
What is love?
Speaker 2 (00:44):
If you spell it backwards, it's evil.
Because, love makes us do crazythings sometimes.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Yeah, it does.
You're saying for the love ofGod.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
For the love of God, exactly.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Yes, love, love, love is what.
What is love?
What is love is something thatprobably from it makes you feel
great.
I mean, I think love is likethat.
Love is what everybody wants,everybody wants that love.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
I think love is a burden.
Really it is.
I think love is a heavy weightto carry, because if you love
anything, you know that love isalso sacrifice.
Love can also mean that you puteveryone else first and you put
(01:44):
yourself last.
Love could be that too.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
That's love.
Yes, that is.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Love hurts sometimes.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Yes, there's a song like that.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Love is pain.
Love is everything, both goodand bad, because we can do bad
things out of love yes you canFor the ones that we love.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
That's what you call protection.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
You have to protect the ones you love.
Yes, love does come in manydifferent ways.
You put that way.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Yes, you know what I was thinking about the other day
.
I was lifting weights andstruggling.
I was like man.
I can't lift weights like I didbefore.
It's because before I'd workout six days a week With the
(02:53):
first kid, I got down to workingout two, maybe three days a
week.
Then, with the second kid, ittook me nine months to get back
into the gym.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
It's like well, that's why that is the reason
you, that's love, love for yourchildren.
There it is, yes, yousacrificed yourself for your
children, for your family.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
That's what love is right.
There there's some family thatthey may be married and they
could have children and they say, well, children are going to
bog me down from my routineBecause you and your wife would
talk about having children orwhatever, whoever she wants.
(03:46):
You don't listen to thatbecause it's going to interfere
with this and that it does.
But that's where love comes in.
That's where you're saying thesacrifice of love for your
children and your family.
That love goes.
Once you have that love foryour family, I think it goes
broader.
(04:06):
Yes, it grows and grows andgrows, because you see the other
families, you see your innerand outer families and it just
keeps on growing, like asnowball going down a hill,
bigger and bigger and bigger.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
One of the things that's happened to me since I
became a dad and I think,especially because I have a
daughter as well is I love and Iunderstand more than I did
before.
I think when my son was born,my heart grew for the world.
(04:41):
Oh yes, it does.
Yes.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Look at the emotions, you get the love.
Let's say your family.
You go visit your mother orfather, or vice versa, or your
wife.
When those grandparents aresaying goodbye to their children
or their grandkids, could yougo back home or miles away, or
(05:09):
whatever?
The love of them.
That's why they bring the tearsto their eyes.
It's the love.
You can grab your children oryour grandchildren and squeeze
them.
Squeeze them See, ah, that islove.
It is, yes, everybody,everybody in the world has that,
(05:32):
everybody.
You can go anywhere and theyhave that.
Now, does the man have morelove than the mother?
I think the mother, I think ofa family.
The mother holds the familytogether.
Yeah the mother has love.
That love it's probably like a,like a flower.
(05:58):
She's the center and when itbooms out, you know, when it's
booming, that's the family.
The pedals yeah, because that'swhere it's at.
It's like that.
So you know, when I was growingup my dad says oh, you ever
thought bad, why, that's justthe way, your respect.
(06:19):
Yeah, you know it's respect.
It's respect, yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
I think respect is love too.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Yeah, and you know, hey, you know, you know Jesus
had a mother.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
This is true, he's gonna have a mother.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Yeah, the holy mother man, and there's the love right
there, you know.
So it's it.
The love is wow, love is strong, strong.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
You know, I don't think that the people who work
under me would ever realize howmuch I love them, because the
moment that I became a parentand I looked at the world
differently, because I looked atthe world With the
understanding that everyone hasa mom and a dad, everyone is
(07:13):
important and, as the leader, IAm responsible for them when
they're on the clock and I takethat responsibility very
seriously and I believe thatit's my job to protect them as
well.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
That is absolutely right.
You have to.
You have anybody working onanything, you protect those guys
or the girls.
You protect them because thatis your job.
You know it's like love.
Okay, I'll put another way.
Driving down the street I'mfrom the north, so Everyone's
well you'll get the kids make asnowball throw at you.
(07:50):
Yeah yeah, you don't get mad.
I Me, I laugh because you knowwhat.
I did it and I was a kid.
Yeah, we all threw snowballs,you know, and then we Laugh a
little bit and run, but you know, that's just.
That was the way it was, youknow, and we didn't get mad.
The other guys they get madsometimes they'll stop.
(08:13):
Well, snowballs back and forth,you know, fight, but that's
just the way it is.
I mean that.
But that's love, that's anotherform of love.
Is is Just going with thatmoment exactly this being
understanding.
Yeah, mm-hmm Just not notgetting mad and running the kids
down, you know that I?
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Yeah, you're a kid too.
I think that a lot of peopleforget that you were a kid too.
You did the same thing.
Now shows to show somecompassion.
Mm-hmm yeah maybe I'm justgetting soft, I don't wow, you
do.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
I mean, yeah, because you do start looking at you
still start.
You start looking that way andyou do, you get soft.
You get soft for everything.
You know you don't want you.
You can't walk around with achip.
Have to that.
You have to have that passionfor everybody.
It has to be there.
Yep and yes.
(09:13):
That's what love is you know Iam.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
I Love thinking about how much I love my life because
we've had maybe For actual badarguments in our relationship,
but the arguments never matter.
You know what I mean.
(09:39):
Like it's a guy that after it'sdone, it's it's done.
I've never, I don't know, I'venever went to bed angry.
You know I never.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Let me give you a word of advice about that.
You should never go betterangry.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Uh-huh.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
The word of advice is that if and everybody has
arguments yeah, and they're bigdisagrees Every marriage does.
That's like I said before youhave disagreements, you settle
the disagreements and never,ever put your head down a pillow
Mad at each other, never, ever,ever, ever do that.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
You wake up, you're done.
You're done with your argument.
Tell each other you love themand go to sleep that you say you
know you're forgiven You're,you know I forgive you, you
forgive me.
Love each other and go to sleep, because you cannot kid, not,
pull a bed, do mad at each other.
Exactly that's the worst thingto do.
(10:40):
And Any relationship or anywork relationship, it's the same
thing.
Disagree, you work it out andyou move on, and it's the same
foot that you know, I, like I'lltell my guys.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
I said all business is personal, it is personal.
It's personal because you're aperson.
That's what makes it personal,because it, if I Come here, I
wanted to be treated withrespect.
I'm gonna treat you withrespect, because if it wasn't
(11:13):
personal, then it wouldn'tmatter if we didn't respect you.
Well, you, you, you.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
What you gotta do is, when it comes to respect, you
respect that person and they'llrespect you, like you said, but
I always try to work theopposite way.
You know, with with that youShow them respect, you'll get
respect.
Yes, yes and it some peopletakes a long time to get that,
(11:43):
but you still have to keepworking on because you as a, as
a boss, has to show them thatand you have to show them how to
guide through those ruffleDiscrimination that show me
respect and that's how you youbecome a good Working companion.
(12:08):
I agree that way.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Yeah, you know it's not like, it's not hard.
Sometimes you, everyone hasthat one guy or that one girl on
their team.
That is just a pain in the buttand you know it made in the
more and the the more how shouldI put it that everyone else is
(12:36):
good and everyone does the rightthing the more aggravating it
is when that person does thewrong thing.
And when I say the wrong thing,I'm not talking about just
being a good worker or good workethic, I mean just being a good
person.
Like some people, they justhave to create drama and they
have to spread rumors.
They have to do things likethat are that stuff that I
(12:59):
personally don't like and Ithink that, as as I get older, I
Want less of that in whateverenvironment I'm in.
So it's frustrating dealingwith that you know?
Speaker 1 (13:13):
Well, that's what you call.
Like a, there's the bad apple,yes, the bad apple.
The bad apple in them In thatbasket will wreck the whole
basket.
Yeah you know, so that you'llsee that in family too.
We're gonna go back to thefamily part of it.
So what you do?
Because every family has.
You know we're sleeping, so youknow brother and sister is
(13:35):
there arguing back and forth, soa bit snap.
And so the mom or dad's got toget involved and say hey guys,
just work this out, let's dothis now.
And it is you.
You got different.
You know it goes, it goes.
They love each other, they do,but that love can't become hate.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
And and there is a lot of that that goes around
today.
There's a lot of hate in theirfamilies and it has to Somehow.
They have to work it outBecause they still their love is
still there.
They've got that.
Search themselves, we find outwhere is that love inside me?
(14:18):
Can I bring it back out againtoward my brother, my sister, my
mother, my father?
Where is that love?
I have to search for, searchfor that and Once you find it,
it'll be okay.
But you can't the the brother,sister that the other ones are
all mad that one bad apple.
(14:40):
Yeah you can't.
Yeah, I'll scream this and thatthey will come.
They will come back.
Let them find themselves.
Work with them.
Show, show them.
You know what they always saidkill them with kindness.
Yeah, they say, kill them withkindness, they'll come back and
that's the other point lovetakes work.
(15:01):
Well, it takes, like you saidearlier, understanding.
Yes, it takes that, it takes anunderstanding and and and.
When you have that love thereand understanding, you know,
there he goes, you know the guyswill bring home the flowers,
bring home the candy to theirwives and stuff like that.
When it comes to your children,well, you're bringing them home
(15:24):
something, you bring them.
All the time you go somewhereyou bring home a present, or you
, even when they get older, youknow they'll say mom, dad, you
have to give me anything too oldfor this stuff.
Well, you bring it, you'rebringing for their children.
Yeah you know, for theirchildren here.
I want this for this, you know,for your kids and your.
Your children will see that andthey'll learn from that,
(15:45):
because once their kids getolder, they'll see the same
thing.
You know, they just keepsgrowing down and but that's, you
know.
Love is this understanding andeverything it's.
It's, it's a whole bunch ofstuff.
It's a huge word.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
It is a huge issue.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
It's a huge word.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
And then that's when I first came to America.
You know, one of the things Ididn't like I thought was really
weird was I Remember thinking,man, I had never heard the words
I love you like culturally Ilove you is more of like a
goodbye, you know, like it'slike you're like, or like you
like you've done something sogood that your parents are like
(16:27):
I love you, but you're not likeI love you is not something that
was ever really said like andjust don't hear it.
You know, you know you're inthe music, you know hear it, you
know you know things like that.
But in America I was, Iremember saying man, Americans
must be the most loving peoplein the entire world.
Everyone says I love you.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
I just it's like when you're talking on a phone.
Okay, hey, I love you.
Yeah, you know you know.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
So that was just so.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
And because that's it , you know, they you have to.
I Don't.
It just brings out and they do.
You know, everybody should dothat, you know.
And now you have a yeah, youhave a blessed day, I have a
great day, or something likethat.
That's another form.
When he say that, when you saythat, or God bless you, or
something like that is anotherform of love.
Yeah and so you're expressingyourself.
(17:16):
You're that?
That?
yeah you know you don't say I,you know you also.
You know, if you have a bad day, you don't bring that bad day
home.
You, boom, get rid of it.
Get rid of it.
Don't even lock it inside.
Yeah, just get rid of it,because that's what you gotta do
.
Just boom, get rid of it.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
And then, and then you're okay again.
Speaker 2 (17:39):
Yeah, it's true.
Speaker 1 (17:41):
You have to.
You know some guy you'redriving your car, somebody
passes you on, cut your off orsomething like that.
You know what they might have,that they might be in the
emergency.
You don't know that.
So don't cost Adam, don't,don't go up there.
Give them, you know, give him asign, or something like that.
No, don't give him the finger.
Yeah, you just, you know, justlet him go, let him do it.
You don't know the circumstanceof that person, you know it.
(18:06):
That's just how I live, butthat is another form.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
That's forgiveness, you know that is, forgiveness,
is love.
Speaker 1 (18:16):
Yeah, and that's another form.
You know, that's what I'msaying.
It just started, it's huge, bigword and uh, yeah.
So what is love Done?
Love is the universe.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
Yeah, yeah.
Sometimes love is Making thepause to just say hello to the
stranger.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
Mm-hmm.
You know, yeah, you're walking.
You walk in the parking lotmorning.
Good morning, how are you, youknow?
Speaker 2 (18:44):
You know, a couple weeks ago I told you I had to go
to this convention and therewas a homeless guy outside and
he said I don't need money oranything, I just need someone to
talk to.
And I said, okay, we could talk.
And I'm sure most people I'mnot going to say most people and
(19:11):
we forget that everyonedeserves a hello.
You know, everyone deserves tojust be treated like people.
And just because you're notbeing mean to someone doesn't
mean you're treating them like aperson, Because when you're not
saying hello, that means thatthat person is invisible and you
just walk past and you justthey don't have anyone to talk
(19:33):
to.
And he said something thatbroke my heart.
He said that, being on thestreets, you know, you see all
the things that everyone elsedoesn't see.
You see the criminals, you seethe drug dealers and you're
living in that, Whereas everydaypeople may not see the drug
(19:56):
dealers dealing drugs and thingslike that.
You may not be because you'renot in that world.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
Well, you know, we talk about the drug dealers and
the drugs.
Isn't that Okay.
What makes a drug dealer?
If somebody out there that islost, even lost love, they have
to feel that void and they feelthat if they do, the drugs do
(20:28):
something.
That's and you know, our youngsociety is very smart, they're
always smarter, each side issmarter than the last and
they're smart and they know whatthey're doing.
But there's that void andthey're using that drug to fill
a void.
You know they're not there.
I don't believe they're thereto hurt themselves, but it's
(20:52):
just that void.
The void is not having love.
They have to fill it becauseit's hurting them so bad and
that drug is satisfying themfrom that void, which I don't
know if they weren't huggedenough and when they were young,
(21:13):
or hugged enough when they gotolder, you know the teenagers if
they weren't hugged enough,where they could feel that just
a little of itself is a high andthey have to get that back.
And that's how you're going tocontract some of the.
You know the place where we'reat now.
(21:35):
We're overcome by that.
You know, and if we can show,if they can fill that love, they
wouldn't go with that, that inthat position they would be in
and we wouldn't have the problemwe have today with what we have
everywhere.
It's everywhere.
(21:56):
It's not just here, it'severywhere.
Every neighborhood has it.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Every neighborhood, it's true.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
And I really believe that's how it has to be.
You have to get that back intoyou.
But there's nothing, there'slove.
Love will heal your body.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
It is.
It's true, if you're depressed,if you're stressed out, that
can harm your body.
Stress kills, yeah.
So stress kills and love heals.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (22:26):
We should put that on the shirt.
Speaker 1 (22:32):
Yep, but oh yeah, and we all have to talk.
I mean, you can't sit in thecorner, you can't sit in your
room in front of a computer allday.
No, that's not what.
That's not communication.
It's face to face.
It's eyes to eyes.
Your eyes is communicating withthe other eyes You're looking
at while you're talking.
(22:52):
So you have that communication.
It's not on Facebook, it's noton whatever social media you
want to go to.
It's not on that.
It's human being talking,showing the emotions, showing
that.
And we have to try to stressthat because we're getting to
(23:14):
more and more communicationsthrough our devices which we're
losing.
We're losing that feeling oflove.
Then yeah, it's true, and thatseparates us from that
communication between skills,between what would you want to
(23:34):
call it?
Or I mean, what would that be?
You know, just face to facecommunication.
Speaker 2 (23:40):
Yeah, it's scary to a lot of people.
I mean most people.
You go to a lot of places.
People don't say hello anymore.
Speaker 1 (23:47):
No.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
And that's so weird to me.
And when you go out and you'regoing to have dinner with
friends or a family and thewaiter or the waitress comes up
to you and they're like, oh,what will you be having?
And they don't say hello, yes,Would you like a?
Then you go in and they gowould you like a high top or
(24:09):
would you like a booth?
You know, like no one says howare you doing today?
So, yeah, my head, I'm like whyam I even here?
You know, now the meal isn'tappetizing anymore because I
didn't feel the love.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
You got to show the love there again.
You got to show it wherever yougo.
Huge word.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
And you know this.
I wanted to do this episode.
I didn't know how I wanted todo it, because love is
complicated.
But I like to think about loveand the way that I understand it
, that we say love iscomplicated but love is really
simple.
Love is just.
(24:53):
We all have a gut, we have agut feeling.
We know when we do bad things,you know we can, we can make
excuses for the bad things we do, but it doesn't mean we still
don't know what love is.
It's just that some of us areafraid to love because we don't
want to be hurt.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
Well, you know what I mean, like, I know what you're
saying.
Yeah, yeah, like, but you gotto have that, you got to have it
.
If you want, you just have tohave that Love you got to have.
And so that's where it comesback to Valentine's Day.
Valentine's Day, yeah,valentine's Day, there you go
(25:39):
and they're trying to get thatlove out where everybody has, go
out and hug everybody in thatone day.
You love everybody in the world, you love each other.
You know we are the world.
You know here's that song andwe are the world and it goes.
Get the world together and loveeach other.
You know, there it is.
(25:59):
Show the emotion of love foreach other.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
You know, the hardest thing to do is I think it's
hard for a lot of people to lovethemselves.
I think people try to mostpeople will try to love a lot of
people and then they don't lovethemselves.
So they're giving somethingthey don't really have for
(26:26):
themselves and that makes themdry.
You know, like how you meetsome people that just try to
please everyone.
They're trying to constantlyplease everyone happy.
They're good people, but theyalso get used and abused because
they just want to be loved andbe accepted by everybody else
around them.
(26:46):
That's sad Totally.
I'm getting old, so that's whatthings like that make me sad,
whenever I see it, or whenever Isee two people in a
relationship and you know that.
You know from experience thatthat person loves the other
person but the other persondoesn't.
(27:07):
Well, there's where you have togo.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
So there's where it comes back, where it says when
you lose it, you've got to getit back.
Exactly, that is, that fallsright back into that again.
And you know, when you lost ityou got to really fight to get
that back because you got tohave that back.
To survive anything, you haveto have that love still in you.
You got to have that glow.
If you don't have it yes, youdon't have that glow for
(27:33):
yourself.
You know it's, you know we havethat sense.
I really believe we do havethat sense.
If you know you have, you cantell that guy's a nice guy, that
guy has, that guy has love inhis heart.
Yes, and there again there'swhere love you know the sign of
(27:57):
the heart is love, valentine'sDay, the big heart.
There it's where it is.
You know the old saying thatguy has, that girl has a big
heart.
Well then they are yep, thereit is again.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1 (28:16):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
If you could do anything in the world that could
show or teach people just likewhat love is, what would it be?
What would the thing be thatyou do?
Just teach people how to loveand just show love, whatever
Forgiveness.
Speaker 1 (28:38):
Forgiveness.
Forgiveness is love.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
Well, why, why, why do you choose forgiveness?
Speaker 1 (28:45):
Why there's a lot of forgiveness, just real needs,
and that'll show the love rightthere.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
Forgiveness is hard.
Mm-hmm, it is, yes, it is.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
It is, and you've got to swallow your pride.
Yeah, and swallow it and bringyour love out.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
Yeah, you know it's funny how, like you can forgive
so many people in the world andit can be so hard to forgive the
people you love the most.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
Well, because you love those people, they'll say
and they did something badtowards you.
You know, yeah, and they reallydidn't mean it, but they could
be in the same way yeah, like alittle hardness and a little
hard towards you and they didsomething that really you know.
But you're loving the personand yeah, it hurts you because
(29:41):
you gave him the love and yougave her the love.
Whatever you know the show andthey come back and do that.
That is hard but you just gotto fight for it.
You got to try to help themthere.
Bring it out, get rid of thatnegative.
Speaker 2 (29:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
And bring it out.
You know it's, it is tough, itis tough.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
Like me and my father , we're not on a good term.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
Yeah, Well, you've got to be on a good term so you
won't have a father.
No, no no, your father.
You know it is tough.
There's a tough thing for youright there.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
It is, it is.
I'm not going to lie.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
You know, fathers are always rough on the boys
because they that's just the waythey were.
My dad was rough on me, youknow.
Hey, he put me in a spot whereyou've got to work, work, work,
work, work, work, provide,provide, provide for your family
.
And then, when they grew up,your kids, yes, work, work, work
, teach them.
I mean, don't you know you workfor what you got.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:40):
Don't look for him.
You work for what you got, andthat's the way it is.
You will be rewarded at the end.
You'll be rewarded at the end,but you have to really keep
going.
And in what I'm talking aboutwhen I say work, that's helping
everybody that's out there tohelp people, to help them, help
(31:01):
the need that needs it, thatthey may not be able to do.
That you know.
Watch out for your little, thelittle children of this world.
I mean, that's where it's attoo.
You know there's too much ofthat stuff going on, and
everybody, every adult, every,every person, a young adult,
everyone out there has to payattention to the young, young
(31:22):
kids of this world and protectthem, every one of them, it's
true.
You protect those littlechildren, you'll be very well
awarded in life, I agree, andthat's another thing.
Speaker 2 (31:38):
Forgiveness, though you know that part, I think that
it's true, Pride makes it hard.
You know, pride does make ithard.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
Everybody has pride, you gotta have pride.
Everybody has pride, but youhave to control it.
You control pride, you know.
You don't flaunt it, you justcontrol it.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
I never try to be anything that I'm not.
I think being true to who youare and being honest with people
it goes a very long way.
That's a way that they canreally show love, too.
Love isn't just like throughthe actions of oh, I bought you
(32:34):
this or I did that.
Love is also you being honestwith yourself and you being real
in general.
When you're an honest person,you're a good person.
Everyone sees that you neverknow who's watching you.
One of the things that Ilearned in the last couple of
(32:54):
years you never choose to beanyone's hero.
If someone respects you andsomeone looks up to you, you
didn't choose that for yourself.
The moment that someonerespects you and looks up to you
, you now have a responsibilityfor that person.
Isn't that crazy?
Speaker 1 (33:13):
Wow, that's what that goes for everybody.
That's everybody.
Now, if they had that, the lookcould happen.
You wouldn't have what we had.
We wouldn't have to have thepolice and not as many as we had
.
We wouldn't have the crime.
(33:34):
We wouldn't have the crime.
If we did that, we wouldn'thave the high crime.
We wouldn't have it around theworld.
We would be very, very goodwith that.
Yes, maybe your smaller townshave that little bit close-knit
(33:55):
thing.
Your bigger cities they have tobecome.
Just because you're a big citydoesn't mean you can't be a
close-knit.
You can't know people andrespect them and honor them
where you're not trying to stealfrom them.
Speaker 2 (34:13):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
Just trying to make a quick buck yes.
This would come for acomfortable life.
Oh yes, there's a lot to it.
There's a lot to it, but youjust got to high-law.
Speaker 2 (34:30):
I told you, love is a burden, but sometimes it is a
burden.
Speaker 1 (34:34):
But you have to have it, but it's necessary, it is
very necessary.
It's necessary that fulfillsyour heart.
Speaker 2 (34:39):
It does.
Love is tiring man.
I realize that since I became aparent, there's no amount of
sleep that I could ever get thatwill ever make me not tired.
I'm all about that.
I don't know, maybe it'sbecause I'm on the younger side
(35:02):
of being a parent, but it's like, oh, it's like I'm always tired
, wow, but I'm happy, though.
That's the other part of it.
It's not a miserable tired,it's a happy tired.
Oh, I just came from work.
Oh, we're going to play outsidefor four hours.
Speaker 1 (35:24):
The reason why you do it.
I'm going to tell you something.
It goes by super fast.
Speaker 2 (35:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
You only do it once.
You only do it once and it goesby real fast.
It does.
That's the way it is.
You never know when your parentis, and so grab them, hug them.
And I was telling me to hugthem.
Speaker 2 (35:53):
You're right.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
When.
Speaker 2 (35:56):
I grow up, I want to be just like you.
Speaker 1 (35:58):
Oh my goodness, no, not like me.
Better, always better, alwaysbetter, better, better, better.
And then the world will be abetter place.
Everybody grow on it, grow onit, grow, grow, grow and be
better, better with the love andthe understanding and the
forgiveness you can do that,that is, you're going to be in a
(36:21):
happier place.
That's about it.
Speaker 2 (36:26):
It means a lot to me that you're on the podcast.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
I really appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (36:33):
Well, good, good.
Speaker 2 (36:35):
I love the nuggets of wisdom.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
Basically, you know, you said wisdom, but you know
what it's almost like a, it'slike common sense, but that's
what we were here for.
We're here for them.
We're not here for the chaos,we're not here to drive people
for it.
We're here to understand andlove each other and, yes, we
(36:59):
have to forgive each other tosome of the things.
Some of the things.
It could be not all, notperfect, it's not a perfect one.
On this, there was only one guy, one that was perfect, and that
was it One.
Everyone else, you know we havesins.
Speaker 2 (37:18):
That's true every day , and I should have said that.
Speaker 1 (37:23):
But we do.
But that's where you knowforgiveness.
You know that's where the lovecomes.
You know understanding.
You got to have that, got to,and with that word, god bless
you.
Speaker 2 (37:39):
Thank you, yep.
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