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August 12, 2025 69 mins

Join Mark Divine as he sits down with Elliott Connie, internationally recognized as the "Friend of Solutions" and co-author of "Change Your Questions, Change Your Future." In this powerful episode, Elliott shares his journey from a turbulent childhood to becoming a leading psychotherapist and trainer, and reveals how asking better questions can transform your life, career, and sense of purpose.


Discover the mindset shifts and daily practices that helped Mark become a Navy SEAL and Elliott to find meaning and resilience.


Whether you're feeling stuck, seeking more fulfillment, or want to lead with courage and clarity, this conversation is packed with actionable wisdom.


Key Takeaways:

•The power of intentional questions

•Overcoming limiting beliefs and societal expectations

•Building resilience through micro-goals and positive self-talk

•Redefining success and happiness

•Applying solution-focused thinking in everyday life


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Elliott's Links:

Website: https://elliottconnie.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elliottspeaks/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elliott-connie-852b787/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elliottspeaks


Mark's Links:

Website: https://markdivine.com/coaching

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/markdivine/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markdivineofficial

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/markdivineofficial/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@markdivineleadership/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@markdivineofficial/


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Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction: The Power of Asking Better Questions

03:45 Early hardships, family dynamics, and the search for peace

10:52 Redefining happiness and success

17:26 Breaking free from societal expectations and finding purpose

22:01 The importance of asking "Who am I?" and "Who am I not?"

27:11 Mindset, micro-goals, and building resilience (Navy SEAL lessons)

34:01 The four skills for overcoming adversity

38:00 Applying solution-focused thinking to daily life

43:00 Navigating change, identity, and life transitions

50:00 The role of service, adaptability, and redefining riches

55:00 About Elliott’s book: "Change Your Questions, Change Your Future"

58:00 How to stay optimistic and agile in a changing world

1:05:00 Closing thoughts, resources, and where to find more

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