May 14, 2025 • 46 mins
Meet Alli from the Valley, who went from living in her car to owning four homes, and somehow still finds time to date disaster after disaster.
Alli’s got stories. From drug-dealing dates to guys who think "honesty" means “I’m totally not a catfish,” her dating life is a sitcom we’d all love to watch (with popcorn in hand).
But here’s the kicker: underneath the tattoos and motorcycle vibes, she’s a total romantic. Alli’s all about finding someone who can keep up with her energy. "If you can't show up for yourself, you won't show up for me!"
Need some dating advice, a good laugh, and a reminder to know your worth? Tune in for Alli’s wild ride through the dating jungle, no seatbelt required.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.
He looks absolutely nothinglike his picture.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is
married with kids.
His wife just reached out to me.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Welcome to the Meat Market.
The single scene is aslaughterhouse and we are here
to devour it.
We are your hosts.
I'm Lindsay, I'm Jess andtoday's sizzling single is Allie
from the Valley.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
Welcome, hey.
Oh my God, I'm super excited tobe here.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
So you had mentioned that you grew up for a part of
your childhood in your car, butnow you own four homes, so tell
us about this transition.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Yeah absolutely so.
My sister and I my twin sisterand I are super close.
Her name is Taylor and you knowit was.
It was kind of unfortunate justbeing a child, you know, a
product of domestic violence andyou know, gosh, we're really
getting in the thick of it rightnow.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
And she's someone.
Better take a Xanax.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
Take a Xanax if you're listening to this like
over here, morphine soup, youknow, but um, no.
So yeah, it was.
It was very interesting at sucha young age like just seeing
the the iciness and thesharpness that life could be.
Um, and it was.
You know, there's funny thingswhen you grow up like we were in
(01:20):
a domestic violence sheltersome days, and some days we
couldn't be there becausethere's so many people that need
help, and so it's like a reasonwhy I hate peanut butter jelly
sandwiches because it's like allyou know we would eat some
weeks like on and on and on, umand then um, yeah, just kind of
saying like, oh, my god, likeyou know, there's no cell phones
(01:41):
, there's no nothing, there's nocall for help.
And seeing how strong my momwas, that she was always just
like, as long as I have my girls, you know I'm good, and that
was so inspiring to me.
But yeah, absolutely, my sisterand I, when we finally got in
school you know first grade itwas pretty apparent that like we
need to get the fuck up out ofhere.
(02:02):
You know, we had traveled fromTexas to Nogales, we had
eventually settled in Tubac andRio Rico.
So I'm a true native here toArizona.
I love Arizona.
I just I love that we'regrowing and all those amazing
things, but it was definitelyjust challenging.
It's something that I wouldnever wish on.
You know my worst enemy justmaking it through that.
(02:23):
But no, you know, I realized Igot to get an education, I got
to better myself.
No one's going to do it for youand if you want something done,
you do it yourself.
So I'm still the only collegegrad from my family.
And yeah, but yeah, very hard.
What was your college degree in?
It was in secondary education.
I have two minors in AfricanAmerican literatureAmerican
(02:44):
literature and businessadministration.
Oh wow.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Yeah, so in high school I was a CB student.
I had to like beg the teacheryou know, can I be in National
Honor Society?
And she's like you got to pullyour GPA up by like two points,
and so it was just always likebackwards planning, like I know
where I want to get, how do Iget there, how do I do it?
Let's work smarter, not harder.
But it was interesting.
All throughout high school Icleaned homes for a lot of my
(03:10):
teachers and I'm like, ooh, okay, here's the underwear drawer
we're going to, or the, the, thecouple, the teacher couple that
were like the most gorgeousthing I've ever seen clean their
house and I'm like, oh, they'rein the bedroom.
Okay, got here a little tooearly oh my gosh, what do we do?
but um no, so it was like itjust was survival mode, like up
(03:31):
until I was pretty much 25, whenI felt like I was really, you
know, making money and livinggood so you're a hustler.
You know the meaning of hardwork and you worked hard to get
to where you are now yeah,absolutely, and it's kind of one
of the things of who yousurround yourself with like a
hundred percent, and you know,um, I know I'd mentioned a
little bit of like my lastrelationship and you know the
(03:53):
thing is is that, um, you know,when you surround yourself with
people who are constantly likeallowing you to be yourself, be
creative, like all my friendsare business owners or um, you
know, they're, they're older andthey offer something, you know,
which I think is just sobeautiful, and I was, um, yeah,
(04:14):
that relationship was a littlebit of a.
It was a little bit of a, youknow, of a, of a, of a mess.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
What did you learn from your last relationship?
Speaker 3 (04:28):
of a mess.
What did you learn from yourlast relationship?
Um, you know, I learned that,unfortunately, I was dating a
shell of a person.
And you know, toxicity can it'snot just associated with
females or it's not.
You know, it's not your sex,your gender, however you
identify with is not, you know,does not associate being toxic
one more with the other.
(04:49):
But you know, I had someone thatwas demanding space at my table
and granted, none of my friends, you know, get to eat at my
table for free, or people thatare in my circle, but you don't
have to.
You know, you don't have toearn your spot.
But you know, some of myfriends, they either bring the
people in my circle, they bringjoy, or they bring mentorship,
(05:10):
or they bring guidance, or theybring passion, or they're
influential to me.
You know, allie, you should gofor that thing that you want to
do.
Or you know, hey, allie, youknow I noticed that.
You know you want to do more ofthis thing.
Let's do it together, let'slearn something together, and so
I think what was difficult withthat is that I had a group of
(05:30):
people in my last relationshipthat really wanted me to provide
for them as well, whether it bespiritual, physical, or hey,
can we use your car, or hey, canyou spot me at dinner?
And I will tell you, older isnot always better.
And I will tell you, older isnot always better.
You know, it's very difficultand challenging to get someone
up to your level and it's go.
It's always going to be easierfor people to bring you down to
(05:51):
their level.
It's always going to be easierfor you to downgrade yourself,
you know, than to say hey, youknow, let's, let's go up here
together.
And you know you're datingsomeone who's 54 years old and
is judging you while they have$12 in the bank and their whole
group of friends are saying youguys are messy, you guys are,
(06:12):
you know, chaotic.
Yeah, man, what the fuck Like.
We're all business owners.
We take care of each other'skids.
You know, sometimes we wake upin the middle of the night with
a great idea and we're callingeach other, or some of my
friends that are in their 60s.
You know they're, they're, theyoffer that, you know, just
(06:36):
guidance and mentorship, like Isaid, and so I, you know I
wasn't really fitting in withthis group of people who, you
know they, they want to seekvalidation from 20 somethings.
They want to still be out inold town.
They want to wake up at 11 and,you know, grab the marijuana
gummies.
And that's not me.
I'm waking up at seven sayinglet's go get this fucking bread
and let's do it together.
Because, you know, I very muchpractice the Michelangelo effect
(06:56):
.
I love being able to like okay,I'm going to reach this level.
But then also I have friendsthat come to me and say, hey,
Ali, I have this amazing idea,how do I monetize it?
What do I do with it?
And I say, oh, my God, you know, let me catch your blind spots
for you.
So it wasn't really working out, because if your lifestyles are
different, it's never going towork out.
(07:17):
And I had a person that was notonly demanding a spot at my
table but then wanted to bringtheir bottom feeder friends with
them and I couldn't provide forthem everything that they
needed.
And if someone can't even showup for themselves, you know, you
don't have to be judgmental ina relationship, but being like,
observant, like, okay, mypartner said they're going to go
(07:37):
to the gym this week, butthey've never gone.
Or my partner said he's goingto start picking up my son from
school.
You know, I didn't even reallyask him that, but it hasn't
happened yet.
He hasn't done it.
So if you can't show up foryourself, there's no way you're
going to show up for me or beable to lead a family or guide a
family.
Or, you know, you're in yourbeta stage of masculinity and
(08:01):
now you're pulling me out of myfeminine space, where I should
never even be I'm.
You know, you've gone from anasset to a liability, and
because I'm so business oriented, that's what I think and um, so
it's gonna be, that's gonna bechallenging you would make the
comment that Scottsdale is theabsolute worst place that you've
ever dated.
(08:21):
So tell us about some of yourbad dates that you've been on oh
god, um, most of them are gonnaend in me like fading into the
bushes, like simpson style I hada guy years ago.
You know, I had a guy years agowho was selling drugs on our
date.
Wait what?
Speaker 1 (08:37):
yeah, he said he was an entrepreneur and I was like
oh okay, that type ofentrepreneur okay cool so, just
like, only fan models areentrepreneurs Right right, yeah,
exactly.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
So I was like, okay, but he kept going to the
bathroom and it was at LocoPatron in Scottsdale.
So the thing is his friends arecoming in the back to meet him
in the bathroom to sell drugsand I'm thinking this guy must
have IBS.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
What kind of drugs, though?
The important question.
What was?
What kind of drugs, though?
The important?
Speaker 3 (09:03):
question.
I don't know.
You know it was like I had no,you know it ended up being
cocaine, but and I'm like youknow I was a high school teacher
at the time, so I'm like, oh myGod, you know, freaked out like
totally just the hair on theback of my neck stood up.
And you know, my sister and Ihave held down like two to three
jobs at a time.
So you know, scottsdale isgoing to be an interesting place
(09:25):
because my sister and I livedin Newport beach, we lived in
Laguna beach, we lived in areaswhere people really have money.
I mean, we worked Coachellalike four to five times.
And you come to Scottsdale andyou're like this person really
thinks they're something, likethis person really thinks you
care.
This person really, you know,thinks that okay, when they walk
in the room everyone's takingnotice and um, that it's just
(09:49):
it's a very weird place and so,and and it's funny, that's where
, you know, my ex is now and, um, again, I don't need validation
from young 20 somethingsbecause that's, I'm past that.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
But yeah, you won't catch me in Scottsdale, I'll
probably be like Arcadia or youknow, just somewhere else, but
yeah, so you made the commentthat you you look like you're an
untraditional woman in thesense that you ride motorcycles,
you have tattoos, but you'reactually traditional at heart.
You're religious.
You waited a very long time tohave sex for the first time.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Tell us about that yeah, oh God, and thank you for
asking about that.
Um, I just feel and I'venoticed, and this kind of leads
back to Scottsdale.
I had a guy who sold drugs on adate, you know.
I had a guy who, like, wastexting two other girls and you
know, one of them sent a pictureof, like her breasts and I saw
it, you know, and all that stuffyou know I had.
Oh my God, I had a guy who,like, didn't have a car and then
(10:44):
, like, lied about it and it'sweird, weird shit, man.
So just don't date inScottsdale, but anyways, so it
was, yeah, like I just didn'tfind my identity in who I was
with or who I was going to havesex with or who I was.
It scared me.
It has scared me growing up.
Like how many people when theygo out, they're not just out to
(11:07):
have a good time with theirfriends?
I had no idea.
Like the ulterior motive islike who can I go home with?
I've never been that person.
I was engaged for a very longtime when I was young and then
when I came out after I lost myvirginity to my fiance at the
time I was 22 and I was celibatefor two years.
So I dated myself.
I got.
My parents would feel so bad.
(11:28):
My dad thought I was a lesbianfor like the longest time.
You know, like Allie, can I askyou something?
I'm like dad, I'm not gay.
Like my God, he's like no,where's the remote?
You know shit?
Okay, but no, so it just to me.
I really wanted to figure outwho I am, and the more and more
that you know who you are, thefaster it is to identify red
(11:52):
flags going into a relationship.
Um, because you're not lookingfrom validation, from from
others and things of that.
But I felt like God, justtotally, just let me know, like
you're beautiful, You're morethan capable.
And I think the good messagefor women these days even like
you're beautiful, you're morethan capable.
And I think the good messagefor women these days, even
though you're hurt, it's for menand women is you know there's a
difference between beingavailable and being accessible.
(12:14):
You can look available and niceand laugh with some guys that
buy you a drink at the bar andbe nice and have really great
bedside manner, but when you'rebitter and you're negative,
that's just not any.
You know you don't want to bearound a person like that.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
So what are you looking for?
Are you looking to get married?
Are you looking to have kids?
So you have been married andyou have kids, right I?
Speaker 3 (12:34):
was almost married and then I found out he cheated
on me three weeks before ourwedding.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
No three weeks before your wedding.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
Before your wedding.
Yeah, yeah, and again, you knowGod, I just did it all wrong
because I'm the one that put thefucking deposit down, you know,
at 21.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Like.
Why am?
Speaker 3 (12:50):
I dating these broke men, like you know.
So anyways, but yeah, I wouldlove to get married.
If I can stay looking like this, I'd love to have four more
kids, three more kids.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Really you want a big family.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
Yeah, like I love the noise in the house.
My sister and I were the firsthomeowners out of our friends
and so I just fit.
I feel like when people come in, you know, like I tell them,
like I'm not gonna offer twice,you know where the food is, you
know where this, like I'malready just that true built-in
best friend.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
So speaking of a lot of kids.
Don't you have a cousin that'smarried or a baby mama?
To Nick Cannon.
Speaker 3 (13:25):
I do, yeah, yeah, elisa, she's living in Long
Beach.
Nick bought her a beautifulhome and you know she is just so
beautiful.
I mean, everyone in my familyis pretty much modeled, so I'm
like what the fuck happened tome?
You're beautiful, what are youtalking about?
No, that's okay, but yeah, yeah, and so it was.
(13:50):
It was sad learning about bb'sin and um, just, that's my mom's
side of the family and thatside of the family is actually
greek and irish, and so that'swhat elisa is.
And then my uncle, scott is, is, uh, this like big, handsome
black guy that used to be like,um, I think he was deputy of
like fresno police or something.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
So yeah, so tell us what your ideal partner is.
Speaker 3 (14:09):
My ideal partner is someone who really knows who
they are and loves themselves.
Because when you go fromsomeone who's looking to you to
be able to provide that, thatsense of identity for them, that
is not only going to bechallenging challenging but it's
going to be very difficultbecause we're not made to
provide that for another.
Um, you know, I mean I, I wantsomeone who, if they're 54, has
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friends that are around 50 andnot 30 somethings, because it
makes them feel younger.
You know, those are things thatI don't identify with, because
I'm like the way that I feelabout myself is totally just
from my internal being, myconnection with God and how I
feel bold and loving andsuccessful, and so, no matter
how much rejection orabandonment you want to throw at
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me, I actually don't have toreceive it.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
And.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
I think that's just so beautiful.
So I would say for my ideal guyis them knowing who they are,
and execution, you know, trustand faith.
All those fucking things areamazing and great, but like
sometimes when the bottom of thebarrel is, like here, like okay
, is he out of jail?
Speaker 2 (15:16):
Does he have a job?
Does he have a job?
Does he have more than $12 inhis bank account?
Speaker 3 (15:20):
Thank you, yeah, exactly Does he have teeth.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
Oh exactly, does he have teeth?
Speaker 3 (15:25):
Oh yeah, or like you know, my ex had two roommates
and I'm just like why are wedealing with roommates right now
, like you guys are in your 40s?
Speaker 2 (15:33):
and your 50s.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
And he was 50-something.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
Yeah, yeah exactly so .
Speaker 3 (15:36):
I would look for someone who's a homeowner credit
score over 700.
If you have a kid, great,whichever.
Like you know, I'm totally notjudgy and I just want someone
who's committed to themselves,because when you observe and see
someone doing so much forthemselves and showing up, you
know that that's a pretty goodindication that they're going to
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be able to do that for you.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
So what are your hobbies?
What do you do on the weekends?
Speaker 3 (16:01):
Oh, cry, have an existential crisis?
Um, you know, ask, you know,increase credit line?
No, I'm kidding.
Um, no, I ride my motorcycle.
I skateboard with my son.
Um, you know, I, I, I paint.
Um, I work a lot.
So I'm a website developer andI love doing things for my
clients, like, even when theydon't ask, I'm like, oh, my God,
(16:22):
you need to see this, like thisis really cool.
So everything I do, like I'mjust so fucking passionate about
it you seem very passionateabout life and about everything
Like.
I'll get up out of bed if I'mlike that's a fucking good idea
and I'll write it down in mylittle black book and so.
But it's spending a lot of timewith good, good people and good
friends.
Like I said, my whole circle iscreatives.
They're here in Phoenix,they're good people, they're
(16:44):
inclusive to everyone, which Ijust think is so beautiful.
You know whether you'reRepublican black, blue, yellow
so a lot of times it's, you know, spending time with my friends
and their kids.
So if you catch me on aSaturday, I'm probably at a park
with a bunch of kids and we'replaying and we're just, we're
just hanging out out so is ittrue that you?
pay child support.
(17:05):
I do, yeah, um, so, please,please, wife me up someone who's
rich someone who's?
and has money and has some money.
Um, yeah, it's.
Uh, arizona is not a motherstate and I just, you know,
there's things that havehappened in my life where I'm
like, of, of course, that wouldfucking happen to me, you know.
(17:26):
But this is, the thing is likethere's every sugar baby under
the sun in Scottsdale and Idress like this I wear $45 Vans,
I wear $25 jeans.
You know, this shirt isprobably from T-Mu, it probably
has some lead in it.
Sponsored by Froyo.
No, sponsored by fro-yo.
(17:51):
No, like I, uh, yeah, like it's.
It's unfortunate, but again, itwas another partner that I was
with that really looked to me tobe the decision maker, to be
the alpha, and that wasexhausting because at our true
core and femininity, we'relooking for rest, we're looking
to be enablers and influencers,but we, we do.
You could be the most like youknow feminine person out there,
but when you get with a man,you're looking for there to be a
(18:11):
man who can also take thoseburdens off of you when it comes
to decision-making.
Or what are we going to havefor dinner?
I don't want to think aboutwhat we're going to fucking have
for dinner.
I made 25 business decisionstoday.
I talked to 10 people, one whowas, like, kind of deaf and with
a cockeyed, you know?
Speaker 2 (18:27):
are you looking at me or?
Speaker 3 (18:28):
the bitch behind me, like I want to get home and I
want you to tell me be ready atseven, we're going to the
Hillstone, or the kids are takencare of, or blah, blah, blah,
blah, blah.
So it's not because, as women,we can't make those decisions
for ourselves.
It's because when we have atrue partnership, we have a lot
of burdens on us.
Just from the workday, justfrom being like god, I can't
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even think about what's the nextthing I need to do or what's
the best move I should do.
So, um, you know, that's kindof that's.
You know, again with my sonWiley, who I love him.
But you know I pay childsupport and I have no qualms
about it because he's going tounderstand that when he's 18 or
19 or 20, that mom provided andshe made it fucking happen,
(19:11):
cause your kids are always goingto be taken care of.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
Have you ever dated a man who's super masculine, who
is able to sort of take you outof that space and put you back
in your feminine?
Speaker 3 (19:21):
No, um, masculine, who is able to sort of take you
out of that space and put youback in your feminine?
No, I don't think I.
You know I've also there's beenlong periods of time where I've
been single because I have togo through a lot of
self-reflection, you know, Iwould say it definitely takes
two, and I have ownership for mylast breakup.
You know, what I did which I'mnot proud about is I started a
fight to get us to the finishline and I did that because you
(19:43):
know he told me he had stagefour cancer, you know and that,
and he didn't.
I don't know your guys'experience with cancer, but
unfortunately I feel like whenpeople have stage four cancer
they have like a year or two tolive, but you know he's still
going to raves and hanging outwith 20 year olds and hanging
(20:03):
out with people that reallydon't have a pot to piss in, and
I don't want it to become thattotally like shitting on people,
but to me it's just matter offact.
You know, the sky is blue oryou have blonde hair, it's just
those are the things that thatare, that were going on, and so
I've never dated a guy.
That's very you.
You know machismo, and if mydad was still here, earth side,
I think he would be not so happywith you, know.
But you know, I think people dotake advantage of good people.
(20:27):
Your first impression ofwhoever you know, I'm going to
believe it.
I've been fucked over so manytimes.
I'm still not that personthat's like, oh, you have to
earn my trust.
No, you fully have it until youbreak it.
So yeah, I probably need amonth.
I've always had more tattoosthan the guy I've dated.
I probably had more balls thananyone that I've dated.
(20:49):
You know, and you knowcertainly I've never dated
anyone who can keep up with meand or rides motorcycles.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
You might butt heads, though, you know, yeah, or do
you think you would be able tosort of submit, I guess?
Speaker 3 (21:07):
for lack of a better word to uh like more of an alpha
, Absolutely.
Um, you know, I did it with myex, you know.
If he said, hey, you know thisis, you know, this is what we're
doing this weekend, oh, okay, Iam going to give every man the
opportunity to show that he's aman.
And that's what's difficultright now in our dating culture,
because we have so many womenwho have had to step in the
masculine space of being thealpha woman.
(21:29):
You know, we hear the term girlboss.
Right, I don't really like thatterm.
It's not something that I use,you know, even with myself, I
would just rather say, hey, I'ma hardworking, dedicated person.
Notice, I didn't even say woman.
You know, I take gender out ofit.
I'm very equal.
I hate both sexes equally, butboth toxic equally.
(21:50):
But, um, yeah, I, I, I will letyou know.
If you say you're going to dosomething, I'm going to let you
do it and then, when it doesn'thappen, I'm not going to say
anything about it, Just knowthat it's like okay, I noticed
that, that you noticed I noticedSpeaking of sugar babies.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
Apparently I still got it Because on TikTok I've
had multiple older men ask yeahgirl To send me money in
exchange for certain things noway.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
I said to my husband, I'm like should I let him pay
for a new wardrobe?
Seriously, if it's like feetpics or some shit like that,
just like it has just the feetand like bigger the bungin, more
the money, or something.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
You know what I mean.
I should be like.
So what exactly are we wantingin return?
Speaker 3 (22:31):
Come on, girl, Take one for the team Like jeez.
I'm over here eating wienerschnel you and your Louis bag
back there.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
I was so chuffed because I'm in my 40s and I
still got it, you still got it.
Yes, are you ready for it?
Speaker 2 (22:45):
I'm ready for it.
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Jenny from the block wants toknow.
I've been dating someoneamazing for six months but I
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recently found out they arestill in touch with their ex.
They say it's no big deal, butit's making me uneasy.
Am I overreacting or is this ared flag?
Speaker 1 (23:16):
I feel like there's no reason to stay in contact
with an ex unless you have kidstogether.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
Personally.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Yeah, what do you think?
Speaker 3 (23:24):
You know I'm going to be very honest.
Like you, have to setboundaries and what I would say
is the way that sometimes it'snot what we say, it's how we say
it.
So I feel, you know, personally, being a Christian woman, like
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I pray, you know, like God,please help me in a way to
deliver this that doesn't hurtor totally annihilate the person
or doesn't make me out to bethe bad guy.
But there is no reason for itunless you have children,
absolutely not.
It tuition, whether you want it, whatever you serve, whether
it's buddha or something, ifsomething is happening
internally that's taking you outof peace and it's bringing
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confusion and chaos.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
You probably need to shut that down right away.
Agreed, agreed, and I feel likeso many people go back to their
exes time and time again.
Yeah, so for you to continue tochat with them and have a
relationship with them.
It always kind of leaves thatdoor open, right?
It?
Speaker 3 (24:20):
does I mean my son's dad?
You know he was waiting for theshoe to drop, you know, on on.
So he was talking to me butstill talking to his ex and you
know, when I ghosted him, youknow they ended up.
They were together like twoweeks later and engaged four
weeks later.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
That's what I feel like a lot of people keep their
exes around as like a backupplan.
Speaker 3 (24:40):
Yeah, and it's more sad For when the new thing
doesn't work out.
If anything, it's more sad forthem because you know that
they're settling.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
For sure, For sure.
So now we're going to discussan article not really an article
, but we posted that video onthe professions most likely to
cheat.
Do you remember that?
Speaker 2 (25:06):
We got a lot of negative feedback from men.
Speaker 1 (25:07):
Surprise, surprise, that thought it was sexist that
we were all referring to mencheating.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
Okay, so then there was this video female
professions most?
Speaker 1 (25:11):
likely to cheat.
There actually was this womanthat released the video talking
about what females are mostlikely to cheat.
Number one females, who are theincome earners, the
breadwinners they're more likelyto cheat yeah, oh for sure I.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
I mean it's funny because I made a joke.
I was talking to this guy.
The guy that, remember, you'llremember, asked me for money for
his rent on our first date yeah, and I remember like I was out
with a girlfriend and she waslike, well, aren't you still
talking to so and so?
And I'm like, yeah, but he'sasking me to pay his rent.
Like I can do whatever the fuckI want it is.
(25:47):
You know, men have that mindset, and so sometimes it's like you
know yeah, it's.
Speaker 3 (25:53):
I mean, there's definitely that dichotomy.
Right like, money equals powerand in a weird way, that I saw
that with my ex was like helooked to his roommate to you
know, make moves or you know,everything depended on his room.
Right, but to some people,money equals power and it also
equals identity and then lackthereof.
(26:13):
They have no identity or theyhave no power.
But the thing is, listen, ifyou're going to be a guy that
has no pot to piss in, then youbetter be the nicest fucking
person I've ever met.
You better be blowing leaves onme or something you know,
listen, pick a struggle.
You cannot be broke and anasshole okay, and so it's true.
(26:35):
You know no it's so true,because that's what I was
dealing with.
I was like, oh my God, I have aguy that has like no money, 54,
dependent on his male roommateswho have money.
But you know, I couldn't evengo out in the dining room and
work or I couldn't be out in thecommon spaces.
I'm like I own four homes.
I don't need to fucking be here, like what the fuck you know.
And so there's that moneyaspect, when you are the
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breadwinner, to be like you knowwhat, at any time I can leave,
and also this person needs memore than I need them, so even
if they break up with me, that'sokay, break up with me.
Tell everyone you broke up withme.
Tell everyone oh, I'm done,that's fine.
You know I instigated a fightto end it with my ex and blocked
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his number, and you know therewas a couple emails exchanged
hey, can I get my stuff?
But I felt immediate reliefbecause that person becomes just
another liability in your lifeof someone that you have to take
care of.
And as women, we're naturallyalready prone to be taking care
of our friends.
You know this or that orwhatever.
So it's interesting to be thewoman with it.
It does equal power and itallows you to be like well, if I
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leave, you know, I don't feelas bad.
Speaker 1 (27:43):
I know a couple girls and they're with rich men who
pay all their bills.
They don't work and the mencheat.
But what are they going to do?
Leave because they don't wantto get a job.
These men take them on lavishvacations and buy them whatever
they want, so it's like they'refine with it.
You know, crazy, hey, differenthorses different courses.
Speaker 3 (27:59):
What are their numbers?
Can I learn something I'm doing?
Speaker 2 (28:02):
it all fucking wrong.
From the valley wants to be asister.
I want to be a sister wife.
Speaker 3 (28:05):
I'm okay with it yeah , are you guys in a commune do
you wear jean skirts like I'mfine with it, like literally
position, please.
No, yeah, like you know, do youneed me to do like a song and
dance jig?
Type of thing like please, mrrich man, I would love to you
know, master, I would just loveif you could provide for me with
the sandals and the monies, orsomething you know because I'm
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like fuck, I'm paying childsupport, own four homes and I'm
like, what am I?
you need a break because you'veworked hard for the money.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
I need a lobotomy, yeah.
So number two was singers andentertainers.
Oh yeah, I feel like actors too.
Oh, I feel like you do a movie,a love scene with the guy you
spend all that time together.
Speaker 3 (28:44):
That's got to be tough to stay well I mean
angelina jolie slept with all ofher coat like her and and then
she married them.
You know, I mean billy bobthornton.
She took from laura dern, right, yeah, you know, you take brad
from you know, I mean she was aserious, I mean, but she knew it
, you can see it.
Brad from you know I mean shewas a serious, I mean, but she
knew it.
You can see it in her eyes.
You know what kind of makes mesad.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
So do you watch 1923?
Speaker 2 (29:04):
Oh, yes, I do, spencer Dutton, I'm in love with
Spencer Dutton.
Hello, yes, so the actor,Brandon Sklenar.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
So he has been in a relationship for since COVID.
It was a COVID relationship.
They were dating online aboutthis and I do and so well and
because he's kind of like ahomebody, he's shy, introverted,
he doesn't go out so he was,like you know, when covid
happened, I went online and Imet her.
She's a nutritionist and apersonal trainer.
Anyways, lovely couple, great,they seem great together and
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he's always been talking abouthow in love he is with her and
how he's so excited to get hometo her and I'm like, oh, that's
nice, finally an actor thatdoesn't you know go around town
with his co-work co-star or hispartner is another actress yeah,
but then there have beenpictures circulating of him at a
concert canoodling with sydneysweeney canoodling.
(29:56):
Who knows, they could just befriends or they could be
practicing for a role.
Speaker 3 (29:59):
No, they're not friends, they're not.
Speaker 2 (30:01):
I don't canoodle with my friends, I'm sorry, but
Sydney Sweeney, have you seenher Like?
If you're canoodling with her,you're more than friends.
She's got a hot body Becauseshe is so fucking hot.
Yeah, like she is so hot, herbody is fire.
Speaker 3 (30:15):
Yeah, because, like face wise, she does look like
the girl next door.
You know like I swear to God.
I just saw Sydney Swinney thismorning at like 99 cent store,
don't?
Speaker 2 (30:23):
ask me why, I was there.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Okay, I just paid shots for her.
Anyways, number three is flightattendants.
Surprise, surprise.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
Flight crew.
Speaker 3 (30:33):
I was going to say nurses, pilots, were on the
men's list anyways.
Yeah, but it is true.
Speaker 1 (30:36):
You have so many flight attendants that not only
become flight attendants to meetthe pilots, but so many of them
play around with the pilots.
Speaker 3 (30:43):
even if the pilots are married, it happens a lot,
oh God, just still fly the planeif we're on Spirit or Frontier.
Do whatever you want, justplease, I don't want to be going
down, right.
Speaker 1 (30:52):
Or someone's going down in that cockpit.
Oh yeah, oh geez.
So the number four one issocial media influencers.
They're just all about gettingattention they love getting
popular and yeah, so that's it.
Speaker 3 (31:05):
Wow, there was another um there were not nurses
on there like oh, I know I am alittle bit surprised yeah well,
female nurses are.
Well, they're big alkeys, sorryare they really?
Speaker 1 (31:16):
I did not know that.
Yeah, I can imagine the thingsthat they see at work.
Speaker 2 (31:21):
Well, and I have a friend who was she cheated on
her husband.
So she she cheated with herdoctor.
So she worked for this doctorand her and the doctor ended up
getting married.
But they both were cheating ontheir spouses.
So he was a doctor, she was hisnurse, they were both in
relationship separately, startedcheating with each other, they
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ended up getting married andthen and then she ended up
cheating on the doctor with herpersonal trainer.
So oh god, wow so karma for himbut she's a good friend, though
no, no she she's a friend that Iam no longer friends with.
I should say an old friend.
She's an old friend.
She's someone I knew in thepast.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
I feel like that's got to be.
The worst is for yoursignificant other to leave you
for someone else and for you tobe sat there single inside and
depressed, and to see them sohappy in a new relationship in
the honeymoon phase.
Hasn't that got to be hard?
Speaker 3 (32:13):
you know what, though I think it's like there's when
you come out of a relationship.
You know, this is what I've.
I full-on practice is like theimmediate feeling you feel,
let's's say the morning of right.
If it's a negative feeling,allow yourself to feel that for
like 15 to 20 minutes.
Get put, at least put a timeron that negative feeling, to
feel that space.
(32:33):
If it's a positive feelingwhereas, like with my ex and
myself, I woke up and feltimmediate relief If it's a
positive feeling, though, leaninto that positive feeling and
run on that feeling, and that issomething that, even coming out
of my most recent relationship,I have.
You know, go back to that placewhere you felt that sense of
(32:53):
relief, but it must beheartbreaking, you know that's
like Shania Twain, you know herhusband went for the best friend
, so she went for the bestfriend's husband, and now
they've been together for like20 years.
Yeah, so, um, I think sometimeswe think the way that you meet
someone is indicative of whetheror not it's going to work out.
I don't think it has anythingto do with anything really, but
I can't imagine.
Speaker 1 (33:13):
Yeah, that's very hard now it's time for the
celebrity cut, where we marinatein the juices of the
celebrities.
Speaking of gold diggers, didyou hear about Bill Belichick
and his 24 year old girlfriendand her attitude on the
interview?
Oh man, so it's crazy to me howthey apparently met on met on a
flight.
Which is that true?
Because I'm sure he was flyingfirst class, or I would assume
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he flies private jet guardianthat got her into first class
her father is a fisherman andher mother owns a sex toy shop,
so does she come from money?
Speaker 2 (33:46):
it doesn't seem to be the case you know there's a ton
of money in sex toys oh, isthere my?
Yeah, my ex wasn't my ex was incommercial real estate and one
of his clients owned somethingin the sex toy industry.
Speaker 1 (33:59):
And there is so much money, so maybe she was flying
first class and maybe they didmeet on an airplane, but so
they've been together for what ayear maybe.
And they did this decent amountof time interview because he's
coming out with the book and thehost asked him hey, how'd you
guys meet?
And she just went off and waslike no, we are not talking
about that you are not asking.
(34:20):
That was last week, that wasrecent, yeah, and she stormed
off and like delayed theinterview for 30 minutes and I
apparently kept interview um,interrupting yeah, and ruined
the whole interview to the pointwhere they really had to like
shut it all down, edit and tryto salvage the interview.
There was supposed to be twoparts to the interview but they
scrapped the second part becauseit was so bad, because she was
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so controlling and keptinterrupting.
Speaker 2 (34:43):
Did she tell them beforehand?
She didn't want to talk aboutthat, though, yeah because they
can do that because journal likeI feel like journalists do do
that is they try, you know, yougive your non-negotiables
beforehand like I'm not talkingabout this, this or this,
because I would be pissed too ifI said, listen, we're not
talking about this, this andthis and then the journalist
tries to ask the question.
Yeah, for that reason I could.
(35:06):
That would be the only reason Icould see the response
warranted but why not answer thequestion?
Speaker 1 (35:11):
what do you have to hide?
That means it was an innocuousquestion, that she just blew up
about it, and if you really didmeet on a plane, just say you.
Just say you met on a plane.
It makes me think was she anonly fans model?
Speaker 2 (35:22):
I say what are the rumors?
Are there rumors that they metsome other place?
Speaker 1 (35:26):
There are rumors that they did not meet on a plane.
Yeah, I would like to see whatI mean?
Speaker 3 (35:30):
you know, it wasn't frontier spirit.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
Okay, I'm back there sitting next to Uncle Cracker
right, who's last hit was like2002, you know, with your knees
in the seat in front of you,southwest is throwing peanuts in
my mouth.
They don't even hand them out,right they?
Speaker 3 (35:42):
just throw it in your bobbing for peanuts you know
there's a 49-year difference.
Speaker 1 (35:47):
She's 24, right.
Speaker 3 (35:49):
So he there's.
Just I don't think there's anybusiness of you being.
I mean, picture that woman as alittle girl.
I just think, that's, you know,my ex was 22 years older than
me and now that I think Like wehad no business actually being
together.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
Was that too much of an age difference for you?
I was just going to ask howthat makes me think it wasn't,
but it was too much of an agedifference for him to be broke
and judging me constantly andtelling me my life was messy and
chaotic.
Speaker 1 (36:13):
If you're going to date way older, at least make
sure he has a ton of money, youknow.
Speaker 3 (36:16):
Yeah, exactly.
So anyways, but I mean yeah, 49age difference.
Speaker 2 (36:21):
49's too much.
I think around 20 years wouldbe the very most I could do.
Speaker 1 (36:27):
49 year age difference is a lot, it's a lot
right, and so she just purchased$9 million in real estate I'm
assuming it was his money andshe just signed on with this
investment firm that you arerequired to have a minimum of $2
million to join them.
And she has a minimum of twomillion to join them.
And she has a minimum of twomillion and she also is now the
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COO of Belichick Productions.
So he's like giving her a lotof responsibility and there's no
ring or anything.
No, ring, no.
And didn't he break up with his60 year old girlfriend?
For for this girl?
Speaker 3 (37:00):
oh well.
I'm sure I mean, and I'm surethey were.
I'm sure they've been togethera lot longer than nine months.
You know a year.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
That's just if I was his kids, I'd be kind of a
little worried and pissed, youknow like.
And what if he leaves all ofhis money to her and his kids
are left out of the will?
Speaker 2 (37:15):
oh, I doubt that will happen.
Speaker 3 (37:17):
I doubt it it's just, it's a lot that's, that's just
crazy bananas so what is yourfavorite place to go on a first
date?
So I'm very old school and thething is I'm not on any dating
apps.
You're not gonna see me on, youknow, tinder, or what's I heard
about grinder the I?
Speaker 2 (37:34):
don't even know what that is, but it had nothing to
do with me.
Speaker 3 (37:36):
It had nothing to do with prosciutto and meat and I
was very upset about it.
Um, I thought, oh man, maybethey have like premium steaks on
there no, no, no no so anyway,but yeah, you're not gonna see
me on any of the dating apps oranything.
But you know, dinner wine, Ihave like one glass alcohol
minima, like that's always justbeen my rule, and it's like, hey
(37:57):
, let's just have a, you know acool two hours together.
But yeah, just anywhere aroundlike Arcadia, phoenix, I love to
go somewhere where it's like,hey, let's, let's go somewhere
here for dinner and then gosomewhere else for dessert and
then, like, have a glass of wineand then I'm in bed by nine,
because I have to be in bed bynine.
You know, my lower lumbar islike screaming at that point.
Speaker 1 (38:16):
So yeah, so now it's time for the most delicious
segment of the show, zoyo andand Tal, sponsored by Zoyo, your
neighborhood yogurt.
Oh, here we go.
Good card, some are innocent.
Speaker 3 (38:27):
Some are not so innocent.
Don't make me sweat like ahorned church over here you
might.
Speaker 2 (38:31):
The cards are spicy.
Oh, I should pick one, you pickone from the bowl.
Speaker 3 (38:38):
Okay, am I answering.
Speaker 2 (38:39):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (38:41):
It's all about you, allie from the Valley.
Oh crap, yeah, you answer.
It's all about you, ali fromthe valley.
Speaker 3 (38:48):
Oh my gosh, this one is not bad at all wait you might
want me to pick a juicier.
Speaker 2 (38:53):
What's?
Speaker 1 (38:53):
your okay, what's your?
Speaker 3 (38:54):
worst habit?
Okay, answer that and then pickanother one.
Okay, my worst habit is that Ican watch dateline in 2020 like
48 hours.
Yeah, um, and I know a lotabout the US statutes from
Dateline, so interesting fact Iknow.
Okay.
Oh, my god, have you ever hadsex with more than one person in
a day?
No, you guys, I haven't.
Speaker 2 (39:17):
I haven't even had sex in the last month.
I know, I know.
Speaker 3 (39:20):
I'm like such a vanilla beige person.
Okay.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
Have you ever gone out on more than one date?
Speaker 3 (39:30):
in a day.
Yes, I was 19 and I reallyneeded food, so we were working.
Listen, we've all done a lotworse for us.
Okay, like, seriously Like alot of my friends are dancers
and strippers and some of myfriends are like and strippers
and some of my friends are likeinto OnlyFans and stuff and I'm
like there's no way I could talkdown upon them, because at
least they're getting fuckingpaid.
(39:50):
I'm getting fucked over herefor free, that's hilarious.
Speaker 1 (39:55):
Did you have any other questions?
Speaker 2 (39:56):
I need to know how you got the nickname Allie from
the Valley.
Speaker 3 (39:59):
Oh my God, Okay, so I was okay.
Valley oh my god, okay, so Iwas okay.
I got this nickname from an ex.
His name, um, is nasium nasiumrazul.
If you're out there, I stillthink you have the most amazing
blue eyes, um, so I was drunk inold town.
Surprise, surprise, we wereright there with you.
Yes, I know, yeah.
(40:20):
So I roll up on my motorcycleand my roommate is dating this
guy and she's dating Najim, andI'm like, first off, you can't
really get a reaction out of meever Like a guy cannot at a bar.
Because I want to be there, Iwant to have fun.
I've gone to bars by myself,like on my motorcycle.
I just sit there, enjoy a drink, leave.
So I was, you know.
I don't know what it was, but Istarted calling him Aladdin
(40:42):
because he's Middle Eastern.
Oh my God, that is hilarious.
Yeah, girl.
And I was like where'd you parkyour magic carpet?
That is hilarious.
And he thought it was thefunniest fucking thing.
And my friends are like they'relike white knuckling, like the
dirty leather seats at thedistrict, like their hands are
sticking to it.
They're like cut, cut, don't beyourself right now, because I'm
(41:04):
just like this is what you'regoing to get, you know.
And so I just thought it wasfunny as fuck.
And so he started talking to meand he was like, hey, your
roommate and I did not work out.
She's like so negative, you'rethe fucking life of the party.
Like I've been wanting to dateyou ever since I saw you two
months ago, like I have beendying to be with you, um, and it
(41:25):
ended up being a really greatrelationship.
That just didn't work out.
But one day I walked in Igraded my students papers.
I used to, you know I I used tobe a middle school and high
school teacher.
So I'm like okay, like Luis'spaper is done, c minus, let's go
out to old town.
Speaker 2 (41:38):
Like fuck this, I'm ready to go and he's like woo
Allie from the Valley's readyand it just stuck.
Speaker 3 (41:45):
But let me tell you, I have it trademarked and I have
it LLC'd and he got so pissed acouple of years ago he actually
reached out to me and said youknow, if you ever make money off
that name, I'm coming after you.
Speaker 1 (41:55):
Wow Are you serious?
Speaker 3 (41:58):
Yes, yes.
And I was like, well, goodthing, I only have like 50 bucks
in my bank account.
Like you have nothing to worryabout right now.
I just got laid off and youknow, it was like a couple of
years ago.
Speaker 2 (42:09):
Did things end badly with him.
Speaker 1 (42:11):
So why did it be?
Speaker 3 (42:12):
that.
Why didn't it work out with?
Speaker 1 (42:13):
Aladdin.
Speaker 3 (42:15):
Oh, we love our little Aladdin.
Oh, my God, um, it just was, um, you know, just a little too
controlling, you know, I mean itwas crazy, I mean and just
disrespectful.
Like I would be out in Old Town, you know he would tell me oh,
I'm going to sit this one out,you know, and he lived at San
Marin, which is like right nextto all the bars.
Speaker 2 (42:37):
That's a red flag living in that apartment complex
, I feel like the fuckboybeehive.
Speaker 3 (42:42):
Right, right, right apartment complex.
I feel like the fuckboy beehive.
Right, right, right, exactly,the fuckboy beehive.
The fuckboy beehive, yeah, yeah.
So if they say you know theylive first of all, if they say
an apartment name, just run,just put your Nikes on, take off
the heels and just be like youknow.
And again, nothing wrong with it.
I mean at least he didn't haveroommates and was 54, so I mean
you got to pick your poison.
But yeah, he sent me this longass message.
(43:04):
I just got back from workingCoachella.
I had just met, like I was in.
I was in charge of Emma Stone'strailer, so I like had to make
sure everything's all good andwhatever.
And so you know it's funny,because I go to Mastro's and
people are like um, reservationfor Allie from the Valley.
I'm like you realize my lastname is or last.
Like hilarious yeah and so I hadgirls that would come up to me
(43:27):
in old town, be like are you,allie from the valley?
And I was like guys, Iliterally am not known for
anything, I'm a high schoolteacher, I'm just trying to make
it high, like I literally don'tcare.
But like he got more pissed offthat, like I didn't really care
about it, it just was like youknow, I'm from Arizona, I'm nice
, I'm a high school teacher, youknow, at the time I ride my
motorcycle, that's it.
So anyway, yeah, he was likeI'm gonna sue and blah, blah,
(43:48):
blah.
But no, it didn't work out justbecause I'd go out to old town
and be like oh, my boyfrienddoesn't feel well, he's in bed
right now, and then he wouldwalk right past me and not even
say hi wow, oh my god, are youkidding?
me, yeah, he would, and like hisfriends would be like, isn't
that like two plus two?
I thought you said he was athome.
Speaker 1 (44:06):
Wait.
So how does the conversation goafter that, when you guys see
each other?
Speaker 3 (44:09):
Oh well, back then I was just a little bit like you
know, that relationship endedbecause I loved to party and my
mom had just died, unfortunately, and my sister and I are really
different.
She, like it, becomes a recluseand I'm like I have to be
(44:30):
surrounded by I didn't evendrink, drink too much, you know
like so anyway, it would just belike, okay, well, you're gonna
have.
I'm not.
I'm never going to publiclyembarrass my man, but I'm the
type that's like when we gethome I'm gonna fucking bop you
you know, like the teeth aren'teven moving you know, like I'm,
like, I'm gonna be in private.
I'm gonna beat your ass.
So yeah, um, I went back.
I actually left the club and Iwalked, do, do, do, do, do, like
dinosaur in my heels and Iclimbed over the San Marin.
(44:52):
I couldn't get in oh my gosh, Iclimbed over hilarious and I
went into his house and I tookthe sharpie marker and I drew a
big dick on his wall.
And the maintenance guy thenext week was like, were you the
one that that drew the bigpenis on his?
What, were you the one who didthat?
And I was like, yeah, I'm sosorry.
And he's like I thought it wasthe funniest thing I'd ever seen
, but it took two coats of paint.
(45:13):
And I'm like, well, that fuckerdeserved it, you know.
And then I took a hundreddollars out of his drawer and I
went out back to old town and Ibought drinks for all me and my
girls.
Speaker 1 (45:21):
Good for you.
Speaker 2 (45:22):
Yeah so you know it's just.
Speaker 3 (45:25):
Payback's a bitch.
I don't go quietly.
Don't fuck with Allie from theValley.
Don't fuck with me you know,because everyone tries to act
hard these days and it's like sofunny because my mom was like
5'10" cowboy boots.
If you even looked at her wrong, she was like, oh, let's
fucking go.
You know, that's funny.
So I remember we were in thefoothills in Tucson.
My mom put the car in park andshe got out of the Mercedes and
(45:46):
she just dragged this girl outby her hair and I was like five.
I was like well, it's justanother Tuesday, like on my
Etch-a-Sketch, like you knowno-transcript, and she's like
(46:11):
this girl's crazy.
I'm like I'm not fucking crazy.
Just don't talk about peoplebehind their backs.
Like don't do that.
You know, like I don't that.
I'll tell you right, right,right away how I fell well.
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(46:44):
Oh my God, I just totally gotcatfished.
He looks absolutely nothinglike his picture.
Speaker 2 (46:51):
So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is
married with kids.
His wife just reached out to me.
Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.
He looks absolutely nothinglike his picture.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is
married with kids.
His wife just reached out to me.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Welcome to the Meat Market.
The single scene is aslaughterhouse and we are here
to devour it.
We are your hosts.
I'm Lindsay, I'm Jess andtoday's sizzling single is Allie
from the Valley.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
Welcome, hey.
Oh my God, I'm super excited tobe here.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
So you had mentioned that you grew up for a part of
your childhood in your car, butnow you own four homes, so tell
us about this transition.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Yeah absolutely so.
My sister and I my twin sisterand I are super close.
Her name is Taylor and you knowit was.
It was kind of unfortunate justbeing a child, you know, a
product of domestic violence andyou know, gosh, we're really
getting in the thick of it rightnow.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
And she's someone.
Better take a Xanax.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
Take a Xanax if you're listening to this like
over here, morphine soup, youknow, but um, no.
So yeah, it was.
It was very interesting at sucha young age like just seeing
the the iciness and thesharpness that life could be.
Um, and it was.
You know, there's funny thingswhen you grow up like we were in
(01:20):
a domestic violence sheltersome days, and some days we
couldn't be there becausethere's so many people that need
help, and so it's like a reasonwhy I hate peanut butter jelly
sandwiches because it's like allyou know we would eat some
weeks like on and on and on, umand then um, yeah, just kind of
saying like, oh, my god, likeyou know, there's no cell phones
(01:41):
, there's no nothing, there's nocall for help.
And seeing how strong my momwas, that she was always just
like, as long as I have my girls, you know I'm good, and that
was so inspiring to me.
But yeah, absolutely, my sisterand I, when we finally got in
school you know first grade itwas pretty apparent that like we
need to get the fuck up out ofhere.
(02:02):
You know, we had traveled fromTexas to Nogales, we had
eventually settled in Tubac andRio Rico.
So I'm a true native here toArizona.
I love Arizona.
I just I love that we'regrowing and all those amazing
things, but it was definitelyjust challenging.
It's something that I wouldnever wish on.
You know my worst enemy justmaking it through that.
(02:23):
But no, you know, I realized Igot to get an education, I got
to better myself.
No one's going to do it for youand if you want something done,
you do it yourself.
So I'm still the only collegegrad from my family.
And yeah, but yeah, very hard.
What was your college degree in?
It was in secondary education.
I have two minors in AfricanAmerican literatureAmerican
(02:44):
literature and businessadministration.
Oh wow.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Yeah, so in high school I was a CB student.
I had to like beg the teacheryou know, can I be in National
Honor Society?
And she's like you got to pullyour GPA up by like two points,
and so it was just always likebackwards planning, like I know
where I want to get, how do Iget there, how do I do it?
Let's work smarter, not harder.
But it was interesting.
All throughout high school Icleaned homes for a lot of my
(03:10):
teachers and I'm like, ooh, okay, here's the underwear drawer
we're going to, or the, the, thecouple, the teacher couple that
were like the most gorgeousthing I've ever seen clean their
house and I'm like, oh, they'rein the bedroom.
Okay, got here a little tooearly oh my gosh, what do we do?
but um no, so it was like itjust was survival mode, like up
(03:31):
until I was pretty much 25, whenI felt like I was really, you
know, making money and livinggood so you're a hustler.
You know the meaning of hardwork and you worked hard to get
to where you are now yeah,absolutely, and it's kind of one
of the things of who yousurround yourself with like a
hundred percent, and you know,um, I know I'd mentioned a
little bit of like my lastrelationship and you know the
(03:53):
thing is is that, um, you know,when you surround yourself with
people who are constantly likeallowing you to be yourself, be
creative, like all my friendsare business owners or um, you
know, they're, they're older andthey offer something, you know,
which I think is just sobeautiful, and I was, um, yeah,
(04:14):
that relationship was a littlebit of a.
It was a little bit of a, youknow, of a, of a, of a mess.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
What did you learn from your last relationship?
Speaker 3 (04:28):
of a mess.
What did you learn from yourlast relationship?
Um, you know, I learned that,unfortunately, I was dating a
shell of a person.
And you know, toxicity can it'snot just associated with
females or it's not.
You know, it's not your sex,your gender, however you
identify with is not, you know,does not associate being toxic
one more with the other.
(04:49):
But you know, I had someone thatwas demanding space at my table
and granted, none of my friends, you know, get to eat at my
table for free, or people thatare in my circle, but you don't
have to.
You know, you don't have toearn your spot.
But you know, some of myfriends, they either bring the
people in my circle, they bringjoy, or they bring mentorship,
(05:10):
or they bring guidance, or theybring passion, or they're
influential to me.
You know, allie, you should gofor that thing that you want to
do.
Or you know, hey, allie, youknow I noticed that.
You know you want to do more ofthis thing.
Let's do it together, let'slearn something together, and so
I think what was difficult withthat is that I had a group of
(05:30):
people in my last relationshipthat really wanted me to provide
for them as well, whether it bespiritual, physical, or hey,
can we use your car, or hey, canyou spot me at dinner?
And I will tell you, older isnot always better.
And I will tell you, older isnot always better.
You know, it's very difficultand challenging to get someone
up to your level and it's go.
It's always going to be easierfor people to bring you down to
(05:51):
their level.
It's always going to be easierfor you to downgrade yourself,
you know, than to say hey, youknow, let's, let's go up here
together.
And you know you're datingsomeone who's 54 years old and
is judging you while they have$12 in the bank and their whole
group of friends are saying youguys are messy, you guys are,
(06:12):
you know, chaotic.
Yeah, man, what the fuck Like.
We're all business owners.
We take care of each other'skids.
You know, sometimes we wake upin the middle of the night with
a great idea and we're callingeach other, or some of my
friends that are in their 60s.
You know they're, they're, theyoffer that, you know, just
(06:36):
guidance and mentorship, like Isaid, and so I, you know I
wasn't really fitting in withthis group of people who, you
know they, they want to seekvalidation from 20 somethings.
They want to still be out inold town.
They want to wake up at 11 and,you know, grab the marijuana
gummies.
And that's not me.
I'm waking up at seven sayinglet's go get this fucking bread
and let's do it together.
Because, you know, I very muchpractice the Michelangelo effect
(06:56):
.
I love being able to like okay,I'm going to reach this level.
But then also I have friendsthat come to me and say, hey,
Ali, I have this amazing idea,how do I monetize it?
What do I do with it?
And I say, oh, my God, you know, let me catch your blind spots
for you.
So it wasn't really working out, because if your lifestyles are
different, it's never going towork out.
(07:17):
And I had a person that was notonly demanding a spot at my
table but then wanted to bringtheir bottom feeder friends with
them and I couldn't provide forthem everything that they
needed.
And if someone can't even showup for themselves, you know, you
don't have to be judgmental ina relationship, but being like,
observant, like, okay, mypartner said they're going to go
(07:37):
to the gym this week, butthey've never gone.
Or my partner said he's goingto start picking up my son from
school.
You know, I didn't even reallyask him that, but it hasn't
happened yet.
He hasn't done it.
So if you can't show up foryourself, there's no way you're
going to show up for me or beable to lead a family or guide a
family.
Or, you know, you're in yourbeta stage of masculinity and
(08:01):
now you're pulling me out of myfeminine space, where I should
never even be I'm.
You know, you've gone from anasset to a liability, and
because I'm so business oriented, that's what I think and um, so
it's gonna be, that's gonna bechallenging you would make the
comment that Scottsdale is theabsolute worst place that you've
ever dated.
(08:21):
So tell us about some of yourbad dates that you've been on oh
god, um, most of them are gonnaend in me like fading into the
bushes, like simpson style I hada guy years ago.
You know, I had a guy years agowho was selling drugs on our
date.
Wait what?
Speaker 1 (08:37):
yeah, he said he was an entrepreneur and I was like
oh okay, that type ofentrepreneur okay cool so, just
like, only fan models areentrepreneurs Right right, yeah,
exactly.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
So I was like, okay, but he kept going to the
bathroom and it was at LocoPatron in Scottsdale.
So the thing is his friends arecoming in the back to meet him
in the bathroom to sell drugsand I'm thinking this guy must
have IBS.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
What kind of drugs, though?
The important question.
What was?
What kind of drugs, though?
The important?
Speaker 3 (09:03):
question.
I don't know.
You know it was like I had no,you know it ended up being
cocaine, but and I'm like youknow I was a high school teacher
at the time, so I'm like, oh myGod, you know, freaked out like
totally just the hair on theback of my neck stood up.
And you know, my sister and Ihave held down like two to three
jobs at a time.
So you know, scottsdale isgoing to be an interesting place
(09:25):
because my sister and I livedin Newport beach, we lived in
Laguna beach, we lived in areaswhere people really have money.
I mean, we worked Coachellalike four to five times.
And you come to Scottsdale andyou're like this person really
thinks they're something, likethis person really thinks you
care.
This person really, you know,thinks that okay, when they walk
in the room everyone's takingnotice and um, that it's just
(09:49):
it's a very weird place and so,and and it's funny, that's where
, you know, my ex is now and, um, again, I don't need validation
from young 20 somethingsbecause that's, I'm past that.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
But yeah, you won't catch me in Scottsdale, I'll
probably be like Arcadia or youknow, just somewhere else, but
yeah, so you made the commentthat you you look like you're an
untraditional woman in thesense that you ride motorcycles,
you have tattoos, but you'reactually traditional at heart.
You're religious.
You waited a very long time tohave sex for the first time.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Tell us about that yeah, oh God, and thank you for
asking about that.
Um, I just feel and I'venoticed, and this kind of leads
back to Scottsdale.
I had a guy who sold drugs on adate, you know.
I had a guy who, like, wastexting two other girls and you
know, one of them sent a pictureof, like her breasts and I saw
it, you know, and all that stuffyou know I had.
Oh my God, I had a guy who,like, didn't have a car and then
(10:44):
, like, lied about it and it'sweird, weird shit, man.
So just don't date inScottsdale, but anyways, so it
was, yeah, like I just didn'tfind my identity in who I was
with or who I was going to havesex with or who I was.
It scared me.
It has scared me growing up.
Like how many people when theygo out, they're not just out to
(11:07):
have a good time with theirfriends?
I had no idea.
Like the ulterior motive islike who can I go home with?
I've never been that person.
I was engaged for a very longtime when I was young and then
when I came out after I lost myvirginity to my fiance at the
time I was 22 and I was celibatefor two years.
So I dated myself.
I got.
My parents would feel so bad.
(11:28):
My dad thought I was a lesbianfor like the longest time.
You know, like Allie, can I askyou something?
I'm like dad, I'm not gay.
Like my God, he's like no,where's the remote?
You know shit?
Okay, but no, so it just to me.
I really wanted to figure outwho I am, and the more and more
that you know who you are, thefaster it is to identify red
(11:52):
flags going into a relationship.
Um, because you're not lookingfrom validation, from from
others and things of that.
But I felt like God, justtotally, just let me know, like
you're beautiful, You're morethan capable.
And I think the good messagefor women these days even like
you're beautiful, you're morethan capable.
And I think the good messagefor women these days, even
though you're hurt, it's for menand women is you know there's a
difference between beingavailable and being accessible.
(12:14):
You can look available and niceand laugh with some guys that
buy you a drink at the bar andbe nice and have really great
bedside manner, but when you'rebitter and you're negative,
that's just not any.
You know you don't want to bearound a person like that.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
So what are you looking for?
Are you looking to get married?
Are you looking to have kids?
So you have been married andyou have kids, right I?
Speaker 3 (12:34):
was almost married and then I found out he cheated
on me three weeks before ourwedding.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
No three weeks before your wedding.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
Before your wedding.
Yeah, yeah, and again, you knowGod, I just did it all wrong
because I'm the one that put thefucking deposit down, you know,
at 21.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Like.
Why am?
Speaker 3 (12:50):
I dating these broke men, like you know.
So anyways, but yeah, I wouldlove to get married.
If I can stay looking like this, I'd love to have four more
kids, three more kids.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Really you want a big family.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
Yeah, like I love the noise in the house.
My sister and I were the firsthomeowners out of our friends
and so I just fit.
I feel like when people come in, you know, like I tell them,
like I'm not gonna offer twice,you know where the food is, you
know where this, like I'malready just that true built-in
best friend.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
So speaking of a lot of kids.
Don't you have a cousin that'smarried or a baby mama?
To Nick Cannon.
Speaker 3 (13:25):
I do, yeah, yeah, elisa, she's living in Long
Beach.
Nick bought her a beautifulhome and you know she is just so
beautiful.
I mean, everyone in my familyis pretty much modeled, so I'm
like what the fuck happened tome?
You're beautiful, what are youtalking about?
No, that's okay, but yeah, yeah, and so it was.
(13:50):
It was sad learning about bb'sin and um, just, that's my mom's
side of the family and thatside of the family is actually
greek and irish, and so that'swhat elisa is.
And then my uncle, scott is, is, uh, this like big, handsome
black guy that used to be like,um, I think he was deputy of
like fresno police or something.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
So yeah, so tell us what your ideal partner is.
Speaker 3 (14:09):
My ideal partner is someone who really knows who
they are and loves themselves.
Because when you go fromsomeone who's looking to you to
be able to provide that, thatsense of identity for them, that
is not only going to bechallenging challenging but it's
going to be very difficultbecause we're not made to
provide that for another.
Um, you know, I mean I, I wantsomeone who, if they're 54, has
(14:34):
friends that are around 50 andnot 30 somethings, because it
makes them feel younger.
You know, those are things thatI don't identify with, because
I'm like the way that I feelabout myself is totally just
from my internal being, myconnection with God and how I
feel bold and loving andsuccessful, and so, no matter
how much rejection orabandonment you want to throw at
(14:55):
me, I actually don't have toreceive it.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
And.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
I think that's just so beautiful.
So I would say for my ideal guyis them knowing who they are,
and execution, you know, trustand faith.
All those fucking things areamazing and great, but like
sometimes when the bottom of thebarrel is, like here, like okay
, is he out of jail?
Speaker 2 (15:16):
Does he have a job?
Does he have a job?
Does he have more than $12 inhis bank account?
Speaker 3 (15:20):
Thank you, yeah, exactly Does he have teeth.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
Oh exactly, does he have teeth?
Speaker 3 (15:25):
Oh yeah, or like you know, my ex had two roommates
and I'm just like why are wedealing with roommates right now
, like you guys are in your 40s?
Speaker 2 (15:33):
and your 50s.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
And he was 50-something.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
Yeah, yeah exactly so .
Speaker 3 (15:36):
I would look for someone who's a homeowner credit
score over 700.
If you have a kid, great,whichever.
Like you know, I'm totally notjudgy and I just want someone
who's committed to themselves,because when you observe and see
someone doing so much forthemselves and showing up, you
know that that's a pretty goodindication that they're going to
(15:57):
be able to do that for you.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
So what are your hobbies?
What do you do on the weekends?
Speaker 3 (16:01):
Oh, cry, have an existential crisis?
Um, you know, ask, you know,increase credit line?
No, I'm kidding.
Um, no, I ride my motorcycle.
I skateboard with my son.
Um, you know, I, I, I paint.
Um, I work a lot.
So I'm a website developer andI love doing things for my
clients, like, even when theydon't ask, I'm like, oh, my God,
(16:22):
you need to see this, like thisis really cool.
So everything I do, like I'mjust so fucking passionate about
it you seem very passionateabout life and about everything
Like.
I'll get up out of bed if I'mlike that's a fucking good idea
and I'll write it down in mylittle black book and so.
But it's spending a lot of timewith good, good people and good
friends.
Like I said, my whole circle iscreatives.
They're here in Phoenix,they're good people, they're
(16:44):
inclusive to everyone, which Ijust think is so beautiful.
You know whether you'reRepublican black, blue, yellow
so a lot of times it's, you know, spending time with my friends
and their kids.
So if you catch me on aSaturday, I'm probably at a park
with a bunch of kids and we'replaying and we're just, we're
just hanging out out so is ittrue that you?
pay child support.
(17:05):
I do, yeah, um, so, please,please, wife me up someone who's
rich someone who's?
and has money and has some money.
Um, yeah, it's.
Uh, arizona is not a motherstate and I just, you know,
there's things that havehappened in my life where I'm
like, of, of course, that wouldfucking happen to me, you know.
(17:26):
But this is, the thing is likethere's every sugar baby under
the sun in Scottsdale and Idress like this I wear $45 Vans,
I wear $25 jeans.
You know, this shirt isprobably from T-Mu, it probably
has some lead in it.
Sponsored by Froyo.
No, sponsored by fro-yo.
(17:51):
No, like I, uh, yeah, like it's.
It's unfortunate, but again, itwas another partner that I was
with that really looked to me tobe the decision maker, to be
the alpha, and that wasexhausting because at our true
core and femininity, we'relooking for rest, we're looking
to be enablers and influencers,but we, we do.
You could be the most like youknow feminine person out there,
but when you get with a man,you're looking for there to be a
(18:11):
man who can also take thoseburdens off of you when it comes
to decision-making.
Or what are we going to havefor dinner?
I don't want to think aboutwhat we're going to fucking have
for dinner.
I made 25 business decisionstoday.
I talked to 10 people, one whowas, like, kind of deaf and with
a cockeyed, you know?
Speaker 2 (18:27):
are you looking at me or?
Speaker 3 (18:28):
the bitch behind me, like I want to get home and I
want you to tell me be ready atseven, we're going to the
Hillstone, or the kids are takencare of, or blah, blah, blah,
blah, blah.
So it's not because, as women,we can't make those decisions
for ourselves.
It's because when we have atrue partnership, we have a lot
of burdens on us.
Just from the workday, justfrom being like god, I can't
(18:49):
even think about what's the nextthing I need to do or what's
the best move I should do.
So, um, you know, that's kindof that's.
You know, again with my sonWiley, who I love him.
But you know I pay childsupport and I have no qualms
about it because he's going tounderstand that when he's 18 or
19 or 20, that mom provided andshe made it fucking happen,
(19:11):
cause your kids are always goingto be taken care of.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
Have you ever dated a man who's super masculine, who
is able to sort of take you outof that space and put you back
in your feminine?
Speaker 3 (19:21):
No, um, masculine, who is able to sort of take you
out of that space and put youback in your feminine?
No, I don't think I.
You know I've also there's beenlong periods of time where I've
been single because I have togo through a lot of
self-reflection, you know, Iwould say it definitely takes
two, and I have ownership for mylast breakup.
You know, what I did which I'mnot proud about is I started a
fight to get us to the finishline and I did that because you
(19:43):
know he told me he had stagefour cancer, you know and that,
and he didn't.
I don't know your guys'experience with cancer, but
unfortunately I feel like whenpeople have stage four cancer
they have like a year or two tolive, but you know he's still
going to raves and hanging outwith 20 year olds and hanging
(20:03):
out with people that reallydon't have a pot to piss in, and
I don't want it to become thattotally like shitting on people,
but to me it's just matter offact.
You know, the sky is blue oryou have blonde hair, it's just
those are the things that thatare, that were going on, and so
I've never dated a guy.
That's very you.
You know machismo, and if mydad was still here, earth side,
I think he would be not so happywith you, know.
But you know, I think people dotake advantage of good people.
(20:27):
Your first impression ofwhoever you know, I'm going to
believe it.
I've been fucked over so manytimes.
I'm still not that personthat's like, oh, you have to
earn my trust.
No, you fully have it until youbreak it.
So yeah, I probably need amonth.
I've always had more tattoosthan the guy I've dated.
I probably had more balls thananyone that I've dated.
(20:49):
You know, and you knowcertainly I've never dated
anyone who can keep up with meand or rides motorcycles.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
You might butt heads, though, you know, yeah, or do
you think you would be able tosort of submit, I guess?
Speaker 3 (21:07):
for lack of a better word to uh like more of an alpha
, Absolutely.
Um, you know, I did it with myex, you know.
If he said, hey, you know thisis, you know, this is what we're
doing this weekend, oh, okay, Iam going to give every man the
opportunity to show that he's aman.
And that's what's difficultright now in our dating culture,
because we have so many womenwho have had to step in the
masculine space of being thealpha woman.
(21:29):
You know, we hear the term girlboss.
Right, I don't really like thatterm.
It's not something that I use,you know, even with myself, I
would just rather say, hey, I'ma hardworking, dedicated person.
Notice, I didn't even say woman.
You know, I take gender out ofit.
I'm very equal.
I hate both sexes equally, butboth toxic equally.
(21:50):
But, um, yeah, I, I, I will letyou know.
If you say you're going to dosomething, I'm going to let you
do it and then, when it doesn'thappen, I'm not going to say
anything about it, Just knowthat it's like okay, I noticed
that, that you noticed I noticedSpeaking of sugar babies.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
Apparently I still got it Because on TikTok I've
had multiple older men ask yeahgirl To send me money in
exchange for certain things noway.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
I said to my husband, I'm like should I let him pay
for a new wardrobe?
Seriously, if it's like feetpics or some shit like that,
just like it has just the feetand like bigger the bungin, more
the money, or something.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
You know what I mean.
I should be like.
So what exactly are we wantingin return?
Speaker 3 (22:31):
Come on, girl, Take one for the team Like jeez.
I'm over here eating wienerschnel you and your Louis bag
back there.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
I was so chuffed because I'm in my 40s and I
still got it, you still got it.
Yes, are you ready for it?
Speaker 2 (22:45):
I'm ready for it.
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We have a listener question.
Jenny from the block wants toknow.
I've been dating someoneamazing for six months but I
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recently found out they arestill in touch with their ex.
They say it's no big deal, butit's making me uneasy.
Am I overreacting or is this ared flag?
Speaker 1 (23:16):
I feel like there's no reason to stay in contact
with an ex unless you have kidstogether.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
Personally.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Yeah, what do you think?
Speaker 3 (23:24):
You know I'm going to be very honest.
Like you, have to setboundaries and what I would say
is the way that sometimes it'snot what we say, it's how we say
it.
So I feel, you know, personally, being a Christian woman, like
(23:47):
I pray, you know, like God,please help me in a way to
deliver this that doesn't hurtor totally annihilate the person
or doesn't make me out to bethe bad guy.
But there is no reason for itunless you have children,
absolutely not.
It tuition, whether you want it, whatever you serve, whether
it's buddha or something, ifsomething is happening
internally that's taking you outof peace and it's bringing
(24:08):
confusion and chaos.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
You probably need to shut that down right away.
Agreed, agreed, and I feel likeso many people go back to their
exes time and time again.
Yeah, so for you to continue tochat with them and have a
relationship with them.
It always kind of leaves thatdoor open, right?
It?
Speaker 3 (24:20):
does I mean my son's dad?
You know he was waiting for theshoe to drop, you know, on on.
So he was talking to me butstill talking to his ex and you
know, when I ghosted him, youknow they ended up.
They were together like twoweeks later and engaged four
weeks later.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
That's what I feel like a lot of people keep their
exes around as like a backupplan.
Speaker 3 (24:40):
Yeah, and it's more sad For when the new thing
doesn't work out.
If anything, it's more sad forthem because you know that
they're settling.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
For sure, For sure.
So now we're going to discussan article not really an article
, but we posted that video onthe professions most likely to
cheat.
Do you remember that?
Speaker 2 (25:06):
We got a lot of negative feedback from men.
Speaker 1 (25:07):
Surprise, surprise, that thought it was sexist that
we were all referring to mencheating.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
Okay, so then there was this video female
professions most?
Speaker 1 (25:11):
likely to cheat.
There actually was this womanthat released the video talking
about what females are mostlikely to cheat.
Number one females, who are theincome earners, the
breadwinners they're more likelyto cheat yeah, oh for sure I.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
I mean it's funny because I made a joke.
I was talking to this guy.
The guy that, remember, you'llremember, asked me for money for
his rent on our first date yeah, and I remember like I was out
with a girlfriend and she waslike, well, aren't you still
talking to so and so?
And I'm like, yeah, but he'sasking me to pay his rent.
Like I can do whatever the fuckI want it is.
(25:47):
You know, men have that mindset, and so sometimes it's like you
know yeah, it's.
Speaker 3 (25:53):
I mean, there's definitely that dichotomy.
Right like, money equals powerand in a weird way, that I saw
that with my ex was like helooked to his roommate to you
know, make moves or you know,everything depended on his room.
Right, but to some people,money equals power and it also
equals identity and then lackthereof.
(26:13):
They have no identity or theyhave no power.
But the thing is, listen, ifyou're going to be a guy that
has no pot to piss in, then youbetter be the nicest fucking
person I've ever met.
You better be blowing leaves onme or something you know,
listen, pick a struggle.
You cannot be broke and anasshole okay, and so it's true.
(26:35):
You know no it's so true,because that's what I was
dealing with.
I was like, oh my God, I have aguy that has like no money, 54,
dependent on his male roommateswho have money.
But you know, I couldn't evengo out in the dining room and
work or I couldn't be out in thecommon spaces.
I'm like I own four homes.
I don't need to fucking be here, like what the fuck you know.
And so there's that moneyaspect, when you are the
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breadwinner, to be like you knowwhat, at any time I can leave,
and also this person needs memore than I need them, so even
if they break up with me, that'sokay, break up with me.
Tell everyone you broke up withme.
Tell everyone oh, I'm done,that's fine.
You know I instigated a fightto end it with my ex and blocked
(27:19):
his number, and you know therewas a couple emails exchanged
hey, can I get my stuff?
But I felt immediate reliefbecause that person becomes just
another liability in your lifeof someone that you have to take
care of.
And as women, we're naturallyalready prone to be taking care
of our friends.
You know this or that orwhatever.
So it's interesting to be thewoman with it.
It does equal power and itallows you to be like well, if I
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leave, you know, I don't feelas bad.
Speaker 1 (27:43):
I know a couple girls and they're with rich men who
pay all their bills.
They don't work and the mencheat.
But what are they going to do?
Leave because they don't wantto get a job.
These men take them on lavishvacations and buy them whatever
they want, so it's like they'refine with it.
You know, crazy, hey, differenthorses different courses.
Speaker 3 (27:59):
What are their numbers?
Can I learn something I'm doing?
Speaker 2 (28:02):
it all fucking wrong.
From the valley wants to be asister.
I want to be a sister wife.
Speaker 3 (28:05):
I'm okay with it yeah , are you guys in a commune do
you wear jean skirts like I'mfine with it, like literally
position, please.
No, yeah, like you know, do youneed me to do like a song and
dance jig?
Type of thing like please, mrrich man, I would love to you
know, master, I would just loveif you could provide for me with
the sandals and the monies, orsomething you know because I'm
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like fuck, I'm paying childsupport, own four homes and I'm
like, what am I?
you need a break because you'veworked hard for the money.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
I need a lobotomy, yeah.
So number two was singers andentertainers.
Oh yeah, I feel like actors too.
Oh, I feel like you do a movie,a love scene with the guy you
spend all that time together.
Speaker 3 (28:44):
That's got to be tough to stay well I mean
angelina jolie slept with all ofher coat like her and and then
she married them.
You know, I mean billy bobthornton.
She took from laura dern, right, yeah, you know, you take brad
from you know, I mean she was aserious, I mean, but she knew it
, you can see it.
Brad from you know I mean shewas a serious, I mean, but she
knew it.
You can see it in her eyes.
You know what kind of makes mesad.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
So do you watch 1923?
Speaker 2 (29:04):
Oh, yes, I do, spencer Dutton, I'm in love with
Spencer Dutton.
Hello, yes, so the actor,Brandon Sklenar.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
So he has been in a relationship for since COVID.
It was a COVID relationship.
They were dating online aboutthis and I do and so well and
because he's kind of like ahomebody, he's shy, introverted,
he doesn't go out so he was,like you know, when covid
happened, I went online and Imet her.
She's a nutritionist and apersonal trainer.
Anyways, lovely couple, great,they seem great together and
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he's always been talking abouthow in love he is with her and
how he's so excited to get hometo her and I'm like, oh, that's
nice, finally an actor thatdoesn't you know go around town
with his co-work co-star or hispartner is another actress yeah,
but then there have beenpictures circulating of him at a
concert canoodling with sydneysweeney canoodling.
(29:56):
Who knows, they could just befriends or they could be
practicing for a role.
Speaker 3 (29:59):
No, they're not friends, they're not.
Speaker 2 (30:01):
I don't canoodle with my friends, I'm sorry, but
Sydney Sweeney, have you seenher Like?
If you're canoodling with her,you're more than friends.
She's got a hot body Becauseshe is so fucking hot.
Yeah, like she is so hot, herbody is fire.
Speaker 3 (30:15):
Yeah, because, like face wise, she does look like
the girl next door.
You know like I swear to God.
I just saw Sydney Swinney thismorning at like 99 cent store,
don't?
Speaker 2 (30:23):
ask me why, I was there.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Okay, I just paid shots for her.
Anyways, number three is flightattendants.
Surprise, surprise.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
Flight crew.
Speaker 3 (30:33):
I was going to say nurses, pilots, were on the
men's list anyways.
Yeah, but it is true.
Speaker 1 (30:36):
You have so many flight attendants that not only
become flight attendants to meetthe pilots, but so many of them
play around with the pilots.
Speaker 3 (30:43):
even if the pilots are married, it happens a lot,
oh God, just still fly the planeif we're on Spirit or Frontier.
Do whatever you want, justplease, I don't want to be going
down, right.
Speaker 1 (30:52):
Or someone's going down in that cockpit.
Oh yeah, oh geez.
So the number four one issocial media influencers.
They're just all about gettingattention they love getting
popular and yeah, so that's it.
Speaker 3 (31:05):
Wow, there was another um there were not nurses
on there like oh, I know I am alittle bit surprised yeah well,
female nurses are.
Well, they're big alkeys, sorryare they really?
Speaker 1 (31:16):
I did not know that.
Yeah, I can imagine the thingsthat they see at work.
Speaker 2 (31:21):
Well, and I have a friend who was she cheated on
her husband.
So she she cheated with herdoctor.
So she worked for this doctorand her and the doctor ended up
getting married.
But they both were cheating ontheir spouses.
So he was a doctor, she was hisnurse, they were both in
relationship separately, startedcheating with each other, they
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ended up getting married andthen and then she ended up
cheating on the doctor with herpersonal trainer.
So oh god, wow so karma for himbut she's a good friend, though
no, no she she's a friend that Iam no longer friends with.
I should say an old friend.
She's an old friend.
She's someone I knew in thepast.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
I feel like that's got to be.
The worst is for yoursignificant other to leave you
for someone else and for you tobe sat there single inside and
depressed, and to see them sohappy in a new relationship in
the honeymoon phase.
Hasn't that got to be hard?
Speaker 3 (32:13):
you know what, though I think it's like there's when
you come out of a relationship.
You know, this is what I've.
I full-on practice is like theimmediate feeling you feel,
let's's say the morning of right.
If it's a negative feeling,allow yourself to feel that for
like 15 to 20 minutes.
Get put, at least put a timeron that negative feeling, to
feel that space.
(32:33):
If it's a positive feelingwhereas, like with my ex and
myself, I woke up and feltimmediate relief If it's a
positive feeling, though, leaninto that positive feeling and
run on that feeling, and that issomething that, even coming out
of my most recent relationship,I have.
You know, go back to that placewhere you felt that sense of
(32:53):
relief, but it must beheartbreaking, you know that's
like Shania Twain, you know herhusband went for the best friend
, so she went for the bestfriend's husband, and now
they've been together for like20 years.
Yeah, so, um, I think sometimeswe think the way that you meet
someone is indicative of whetheror not it's going to work out.
I don't think it has anythingto do with anything really, but
I can't imagine.
Speaker 1 (33:13):
Yeah, that's very hard now it's time for the
celebrity cut, where we marinatein the juices of the
celebrities.
Speaking of gold diggers, didyou hear about Bill Belichick
and his 24 year old girlfriendand her attitude on the
interview?
Oh man, so it's crazy to me howthey apparently met on met on a
flight.
Which is that true?
Because I'm sure he was flyingfirst class, or I would assume
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he flies private jet guardianthat got her into first class
her father is a fisherman andher mother owns a sex toy shop,
so does she come from money?
Speaker 2 (33:46):
it doesn't seem to be the case you know there's a ton
of money in sex toys oh, isthere my?
Yeah, my ex wasn't my ex was incommercial real estate and one
of his clients owned somethingin the sex toy industry.
Speaker 1 (33:59):
And there is so much money, so maybe she was flying
first class and maybe they didmeet on an airplane, but so
they've been together for what ayear maybe.
And they did this decent amountof time interview because he's
coming out with the book and thehost asked him hey, how'd you
guys meet?
And she just went off and waslike no, we are not talking
about that you are not asking.
(34:20):
That was last week, that wasrecent, yeah, and she stormed
off and like delayed theinterview for 30 minutes and I
apparently kept interview um,interrupting yeah, and ruined
the whole interview to the pointwhere they really had to like
shut it all down, edit and tryto salvage the interview.
There was supposed to be twoparts to the interview but they
scrapped the second part becauseit was so bad, because she was
(34:40):
so controlling and keptinterrupting.
Speaker 2 (34:43):
Did she tell them beforehand?
She didn't want to talk aboutthat, though, yeah because they
can do that because journal likeI feel like journalists do do
that is they try, you know, yougive your non-negotiables
beforehand like I'm not talkingabout this, this or this,
because I would be pissed too ifI said, listen, we're not
talking about this, this andthis and then the journalist
tries to ask the question.
Yeah, for that reason I could.
(35:06):
That would be the only reason Icould see the response
warranted but why not answer thequestion?
Speaker 1 (35:11):
what do you have to hide?
That means it was an innocuousquestion, that she just blew up
about it, and if you really didmeet on a plane, just say you.
Just say you met on a plane.
It makes me think was she anonly fans model?
Speaker 2 (35:22):
I say what are the rumors?
Are there rumors that they metsome other place?
Speaker 1 (35:26):
There are rumors that they did not meet on a plane.
Yeah, I would like to see whatI mean?
Speaker 3 (35:30):
you know, it wasn't frontier spirit.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
Okay, I'm back there sitting next to Uncle Cracker
right, who's last hit was like2002, you know, with your knees
in the seat in front of you,southwest is throwing peanuts in
my mouth.
They don't even hand them out,right they?
Speaker 3 (35:42):
just throw it in your bobbing for peanuts you know
there's a 49-year difference.
Speaker 1 (35:47):
She's 24, right.
Speaker 3 (35:49):
So he there's.
Just I don't think there's anybusiness of you being.
I mean, picture that woman as alittle girl.
I just think, that's, you know,my ex was 22 years older than
me and now that I think Like wehad no business actually being
together.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
Was that too much of an age difference for you?
I was just going to ask howthat makes me think it wasn't,
but it was too much of an agedifference for him to be broke
and judging me constantly andtelling me my life was messy and
chaotic.
Speaker 1 (36:13):
If you're going to date way older, at least make
sure he has a ton of money, youknow.
Speaker 3 (36:16):
Yeah, exactly.
So anyways, but I mean yeah, 49age difference.
Speaker 2 (36:21):
49's too much.
I think around 20 years wouldbe the very most I could do.
Speaker 1 (36:27):
49 year age difference is a lot, it's a lot
right, and so she just purchased$9 million in real estate I'm
assuming it was his money andshe just signed on with this
investment firm that you arerequired to have a minimum of $2
million to join them.
And she has a minimum of twomillion to join them.
And she has a minimum of twomillion and she also is now the
(36:48):
COO of Belichick Productions.
So he's like giving her a lotof responsibility and there's no
ring or anything.
No, ring, no.
And didn't he break up with his60 year old girlfriend?
For for this girl?
Speaker 3 (37:00):
oh well.
I'm sure I mean, and I'm surethey were.
I'm sure they've been togethera lot longer than nine months.
You know a year.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
That's just if I was his kids, I'd be kind of a
little worried and pissed, youknow like.
And what if he leaves all ofhis money to her and his kids
are left out of the will?
Speaker 2 (37:15):
oh, I doubt that will happen.
Speaker 3 (37:17):
I doubt it it's just, it's a lot that's, that's just
crazy bananas so what is yourfavorite place to go on a first
date?
So I'm very old school and thething is I'm not on any dating
apps.
You're not gonna see me on, youknow, tinder, or what's I heard
about grinder the I?
Speaker 2 (37:34):
don't even know what that is, but it had nothing to
do with me.
Speaker 3 (37:36):
It had nothing to do with prosciutto and meat and I
was very upset about it.
Um, I thought, oh man, maybethey have like premium steaks on
there no, no, no no so anyway,but yeah, you're not gonna see
me on any of the dating apps oranything.
But you know, dinner wine, Ihave like one glass alcohol
minima, like that's always justbeen my rule, and it's like, hey
(37:57):
, let's just have a, you know acool two hours together.
But yeah, just anywhere aroundlike Arcadia, phoenix, I love to
go somewhere where it's like,hey, let's, let's go somewhere
here for dinner and then gosomewhere else for dessert and
then, like, have a glass of wineand then I'm in bed by nine,
because I have to be in bed bynine.
You know, my lower lumbar islike screaming at that point.
Speaker 1 (38:16):
So yeah, so now it's time for the most delicious
segment of the show, zoyo andand Tal, sponsored by Zoyo, your
neighborhood yogurt.
Oh, here we go.
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Speaker 3 (38:27):
Some are not so innocent.
Don't make me sweat like ahorned church over here you
might.
Speaker 2 (38:31):
The cards are spicy.
Oh, I should pick one, you pickone from the bowl.
Speaker 3 (38:38):
Okay, am I answering.
Speaker 2 (38:39):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (38:41):
It's all about you, allie from the Valley.
Oh crap, yeah, you answer.
It's all about you, ali fromthe valley.
Speaker 3 (38:48):
Oh my gosh, this one is not bad at all wait you might
want me to pick a juicier.
Speaker 2 (38:53):
What's?
Speaker 1 (38:53):
your okay, what's your?
Speaker 3 (38:54):
worst habit?
Okay, answer that and then pickanother one.
Okay, my worst habit is that Ican watch dateline in 2020 like
48 hours.
Yeah, um, and I know a lotabout the US statutes from
Dateline, so interesting fact Iknow.
Okay.
Oh, my god, have you ever hadsex with more than one person in
a day?
No, you guys, I haven't.
Speaker 2 (39:17):
I haven't even had sex in the last month.
I know, I know.
Speaker 3 (39:20):
I'm like such a vanilla beige person.
Okay.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
Have you ever gone out on more than one date?
Speaker 3 (39:30):
in a day.
Yes, I was 19 and I reallyneeded food, so we were working.
Listen, we've all done a lotworse for us.
Okay, like, seriously Like alot of my friends are dancers
and strippers and some of myfriends are like and strippers
and some of my friends are likeinto OnlyFans and stuff and I'm
like there's no way I could talkdown upon them, because at
least they're getting fuckingpaid.
(39:50):
I'm getting fucked over herefor free, that's hilarious.
Speaker 1 (39:55):
Did you have any other questions?
Speaker 2 (39:56):
I need to know how you got the nickname Allie from
the Valley.
Speaker 3 (39:59):
Oh my God, Okay, so I was okay.
Valley oh my god, okay, so Iwas okay.
I got this nickname from an ex.
His name, um, is nasium nasiumrazul.
If you're out there, I stillthink you have the most amazing
blue eyes, um, so I was drunk inold town.
Surprise, surprise, we wereright there with you.
Yes, I know, yeah.
(40:20):
So I roll up on my motorcycleand my roommate is dating this
guy and she's dating Najim, andI'm like, first off, you can't
really get a reaction out of meever Like a guy cannot at a bar.
Because I want to be there, Iwant to have fun.
I've gone to bars by myself,like on my motorcycle.
I just sit there, enjoy a drink, leave.
So I was, you know.
I don't know what it was, but Istarted calling him Aladdin
(40:42):
because he's Middle Eastern.
Oh my God, that is hilarious.
Yeah, girl.
And I was like where'd you parkyour magic carpet?
That is hilarious.
And he thought it was thefunniest fucking thing.
And my friends are like they'relike white knuckling, like the
dirty leather seats at thedistrict, like their hands are
sticking to it.
They're like cut, cut, don't beyourself right now, because I'm
(41:04):
just like this is what you'regoing to get, you know.
And so I just thought it wasfunny as fuck.
And so he started talking to meand he was like, hey, your
roommate and I did not work out.
She's like so negative, you'rethe fucking life of the party.
Like I've been wanting to dateyou ever since I saw you two
months ago, like I have beendying to be with you, um, and it
(41:25):
ended up being a really greatrelationship.
That just didn't work out.
But one day I walked in Igraded my students papers.
I used to, you know I I used tobe a middle school and high
school teacher.
So I'm like okay, like Luis'spaper is done, c minus, let's go
out to old town.
Speaker 2 (41:38):
Like fuck this, I'm ready to go and he's like woo
Allie from the Valley's readyand it just stuck.
Speaker 3 (41:45):
But let me tell you, I have it trademarked and I have
it LLC'd and he got so pissed acouple of years ago he actually
reached out to me and said youknow, if you ever make money off
that name, I'm coming after you.
Speaker 1 (41:55):
Wow Are you serious?
Speaker 3 (41:58):
Yes, yes.
And I was like, well, goodthing, I only have like 50 bucks
in my bank account.
Like you have nothing to worryabout right now.
I just got laid off and youknow, it was like a couple of
years ago.
Speaker 2 (42:09):
Did things end badly with him.
Speaker 1 (42:11):
So why did it be?
Speaker 3 (42:12):
that.
Why didn't it work out with?
Speaker 1 (42:13):
Aladdin.
Speaker 3 (42:15):
Oh, we love our little Aladdin.
Oh, my God, um, it just was, um, you know, just a little too
controlling, you know, I mean itwas crazy, I mean and just
disrespectful.
Like I would be out in Old Town, you know he would tell me oh,
I'm going to sit this one out,you know, and he lived at San
Marin, which is like right nextto all the bars.
Speaker 2 (42:37):
That's a red flag living in that apartment complex
, I feel like the fuckboybeehive.
Speaker 3 (42:42):
Right, right, right apartment complex.
I feel like the fuckboy beehive.
Right, right, right, exactly,the fuckboy beehive.
The fuckboy beehive, yeah, yeah.
So if they say you know theylive first of all, if they say
an apartment name, just run,just put your Nikes on, take off
the heels and just be like youknow.
And again, nothing wrong with it.
I mean at least he didn't haveroommates and was 54, so I mean
you got to pick your poison.
But yeah, he sent me this longass message.
(43:04):
I just got back from workingCoachella.
I had just met, like I was in.
I was in charge of Emma Stone'strailer, so I like had to make
sure everything's all good andwhatever.
And so you know it's funny,because I go to Mastro's and
people are like um, reservationfor Allie from the Valley.
I'm like you realize my lastname is or last.
Like hilarious yeah and so I hadgirls that would come up to me
(43:27):
in old town, be like are you,allie from the valley?
And I was like guys, Iliterally am not known for
anything, I'm a high schoolteacher, I'm just trying to make
it high, like I literally don'tcare.
But like he got more pissed offthat, like I didn't really care
about it, it just was like youknow, I'm from Arizona, I'm nice
, I'm a high school teacher, youknow, at the time I ride my
motorcycle, that's it.
So anyway, yeah, he was likeI'm gonna sue and blah, blah,
(43:48):
blah.
But no, it didn't work out justbecause I'd go out to old town
and be like oh, my boyfrienddoesn't feel well, he's in bed
right now, and then he wouldwalk right past me and not even
say hi wow, oh my god, are youkidding?
me, yeah, he would, and like hisfriends would be like, isn't
that like two plus two?
I thought you said he was athome.
Speaker 1 (44:06):
Wait.
So how does the conversation goafter that, when you guys see
each other?
Speaker 3 (44:09):
Oh well, back then I was just a little bit like you
know, that relationship endedbecause I loved to party and my
mom had just died, unfortunately, and my sister and I are really
different.
She, like it, becomes a recluseand I'm like I have to be
(44:30):
surrounded by I didn't evendrink, drink too much, you know
like so anyway, it would just belike, okay, well, you're gonna
have.
I'm not.
I'm never going to publiclyembarrass my man, but I'm the
type that's like when we gethome I'm gonna fucking bop you
you know, like the teeth aren'teven moving you know, like I'm,
like, I'm gonna be in private.
I'm gonna beat your ass.
So yeah, um, I went back.
I actually left the club and Iwalked, do, do, do, do, do, like
dinosaur in my heels and Iclimbed over the San Marin.
(44:52):
I couldn't get in oh my gosh, Iclimbed over hilarious and I
went into his house and I tookthe sharpie marker and I drew a
big dick on his wall.
And the maintenance guy thenext week was like, were you the
one that that drew the bigpenis on his?
What, were you the one who didthat?
And I was like, yeah, I'm sosorry.
And he's like I thought it wasthe funniest thing I'd ever seen
, but it took two coats of paint.
(45:13):
And I'm like, well, that fuckerdeserved it, you know.
And then I took a hundreddollars out of his drawer and I
went out back to old town and Ibought drinks for all me and my
girls.
Speaker 1 (45:21):
Good for you.
Speaker 2 (45:22):
Yeah so you know it's just.
Speaker 3 (45:25):
Payback's a bitch.
I don't go quietly.
Don't fuck with Allie from theValley.
Don't fuck with me you know,because everyone tries to act
hard these days and it's like sofunny because my mom was like
5'10" cowboy boots.
If you even looked at her wrong, she was like, oh, let's
fucking go.
You know, that's funny.
So I remember we were in thefoothills in Tucson.
My mom put the car in park andshe got out of the Mercedes and
(45:46):
she just dragged this girl outby her hair and I was like five.
I was like well, it's justanother Tuesday, like on my
Etch-a-Sketch, like you knowno-transcript, and she's like
(46:11):
this girl's crazy.
I'm like I'm not fucking crazy.
Just don't talk about peoplebehind their backs.
Like don't do that.
You know, like I don't that.
I'll tell you right, right,right away how I fell well.
Speaker 1 (46:22):
Thank you so much for joining us here at the meat
market this week.
And thank you so much, ali fromthe valley.
If you want to meet Ali fromthe valley, go to our website,
the meat market podcastcom, orany of our social media
platforms at meat market podcast.
And thank you so much to oursponsor, tactical tax strategies
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See you next week at the meatmarket.
(46:44):
Oh my God, I just totally gotcatfished.
He looks absolutely nothinglike his picture.
Speaker 2 (46:51):
So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is
married with kids.
His wife just reached out to me.
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