October 23, 2025 • 19 mins
If a narcissist were to apologize, what would it sound like? how would it go? Would it be sincere or fake like most of the other things that they do are?
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So what type of apologies will anarcissist offer you?
Like what kind of apologies do they even OfferUp?
Like I think a lot of people understand that narcissist that
people talk to people don't really OfferUp apologies.
But if they were to on the slight chance that they would,
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how would it look? How would it seem?
What would it sound like or whatwould it look like?
That's what we talked about today, y'all.
Of course, if you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
I'm a diagnose narcissist myself.
And let's welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
Let's get it, y'all. Let's get it.
Let's get it. Welcome back, y'all, Welcome
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back y'all. Seriously, the reason I get so
hyped is because this is going to be one of the final episodes
of The Narcissist Code. 1 of thefinal ones, we're shifting to
the Mental illness podcast here soon where we could, we want to
be covering all things mental health, still narcissism, but
encompassing all things mental health.
So thank y'all for being alone on this ride with me, but let's
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hop right into it, y'all. The different types of apologies
that a narcissist or a toxic person will offer, we're going
to hop right into all of them. The first type of apology that a
narcissist will offer, y'all is what I refer to and a lot of
people refer to as a literally as a blanket statement apology.
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Right? A blanket statement apology is
what some narcissistic people will offer you.
Well, Lee, what the hell is a blanket statement apology?
I'm glad you asked A blanket statement.
Apology happens. When they say I'm sorry for
everything, what does that mean?It has no meaning for it.
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It's it it, it's, it's supposed to cover everything.
Like a blanket. It's supposed to keep you warm
until something better comes along, right?
A blanket keeps you warm in coldweather.
A blanket makes things better quickly.
You see what I'm saying? If it's freezing outside or
freezing inside instead of you can turn the heat on or you can
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get a blanket. First, the blanket offers
instant gratification, right? Like a narcissist, a blanket
statement apology is pretty muchthem offering some instant
gratification to you to make youfeel good in the moment.
It's I'm sorry for everything. I'm sorry for hurting you.
I'm sorry I did that. What the hell does that mean?
A blanket a blanket statement apology lacks specificity out it
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has it's not specific a real apology.
A genuine apology has specific words in it.
It they tell you exactly what they do, right, they tell you
exactly what they do. That's what a blanket statement,
that's what a real apology has. It's you did this to me or no, I
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did this to you. I'm sorry for that.
A blanket statement doesn't havethat.
A blanket statement lacks remorse.
It lacks actual remorse. It it doesn't have a plan of
action to correct the behavior, it doesn't mean anything.
I'm sorry for everything. I did a one-on-one recently.
Y'all with a with a young lady. You can find my one on ones
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mental illness.net and she she told me she showed me a message
to her exit center. It's literally said I'm sorry
for everything and I mean everything, everything that I've
done to you, everything that I put you through all the all the
things I'm sorry for them, but specifically everything.
Huh. You're sorry for everything, but
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specifically everything. What the hell?
I was like what me and her, we shared a good laugh about that.
Y'all know we, we laughed doing all like my one on ones, my
coaching, it goes in a lot of different directions.
Y'all, we laughed. It was a good laugh.
We had a very good laugh at thatright there, because it was
silly. It it didn't mean anything
because there is no specificity there.
So that's the first type of apology that a lot of
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narcissistic people will offer. The next one.
Y'all is them Da da da da. Blaming you.
They blame you for everything. But Lee, this is that.
That's that's not an apology. Yes, it is.
They'll say I'm sorry, but what about what you did right?
They'll say I'm sorry, but what about what you did?
Blaming you is a way of putting it off.
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This is how they obfuscate. This is how they get away from
stuff. They might say the words I'm
sorry, but they'll put the blameonto you or someone else.
It's what I'm saying. It doesn't just stick with them.
They have to find a way to put it on to someone else.
It can't just stick with them. They have to put it on to
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someone else. I'm sorry, but you did this.
I'm sorry you made me do this. Like, huh, I'm sorry.
But if anybody says, but after the words I'm sorry, it
eliminates the I'm sorry becausenow they're they're not taking
accountability. I'm sorry, yes, that's partially
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taking accountability, but that's no accountability or
they're divvying, they're divvying it up.
They're blaming you or this is a2 parter, they're blaming you or
they're blaming others. I'm sorry, but this other person
did this to me. I'm sorry, but they made me do
this to you. So it's not really my fault.
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It's on them. They did this.
I didn't really have anything todo with this.
It was on them. They'll put it on to anybody but
themselves. This is how narcissistic people
work. Like they don't want to take
accountability for anything thatthey do.
So they'll instead of just saying I'm sorry I hurt you and
I'll never do it again, which isstill not a real apology,
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they'll say I'm sorry but I'm sorry but BUTTTTT big old butt
ABBL apology big old butt. But it's not real.
No disrespect to my BBL baddies out there, but seriously, I've
always, it's always I'm sorry, but it's very rarely I'm sorry.
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And that's it. You see what I'm saying?
But that's how narcissistic people operate.
That's the mentality of narcissists, right?
That's how we move. That's how we move.
That's how we put it all into everything, right?
And that's how we're going to keep doing it because, well,
Lee, why they why won't they just stop and take
accountability? Because we don't want to take
accountability because blaming you or blaming everybody else
works. The blanket statements work
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because you accept them. If I can keep give you a blanket
statement apology, I'm going to keep giving you a blanket
statement apology because it works.
Why wouldn't I do what works? Again, that's something for
y'all to consider. The next one, drum roll please,
is they admit it, but they also put it on to you, you that I
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know it sounds very similar to blaming you, but this is
getting, this is trying to get you to take accountability,
right? This is trying to get you or
whoever else to take accountability.
They try to say I'm sorry, but what about you?
Did they? So they'll try to draw an
apology out of you. They'll try to draw apology out
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of you. And you know what that is?
That's a red flag, y'all. Shout out to Jessica Montes for
that one, y'all. But that's what goes on right
there. They say I'm sorry, but you made
me do this. They'll put it directly in your
pocket and try to make you apologize.
And if you apologize for something that you did not do,
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you lose. Let's be real.
If you apologize for something that you did not do, you will
lose. You know what I'm saying?
And I tell that to people all the time and This is why and
this is the way it goes. Like if you apologize to me for
something that you did that something for something that I
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did, then you lose. I have no, I, I have no reason
to offer you any type of any type of contrition, any type of
change. Why would I do that?
What? I don't have to.
Why would I do that when I don'tneed to?
You see what I'm saying? That's how the mind of
narcissistic people work. So if I can get you to
apologize, then hell yeah, I ain't saying nothing.
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Why what? Why would I?
Why would I say anything? If you apologize, you know what
I'm saying. I might say I'm sorry, but you
did this. And if you say I'm sorry in the
conversation, we both made mistakes.
We were both in their own, me and whoever both also did
something. I was tricked, right?
I was tricked and whatnot. And they'll put it on to you,
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y'all. So this is what you have to deal
with when you dealing with a toxic narcissistic person.
These are type of apologies or blame shifting type of type,
type of techniques that narcissistic people will do.
Now I'm pretty sure if you dealtwith the narcissist, you've
experienced this in some way, shape or form.
You just have to there's, there's no way escaping this
type of stuff. If you dealt with the
narcissistic person for any, anyvalid amount of time you've
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dealt with this type of stuff. The next thing I have on my list
y'all of apologies or getting away from it is ignoring.
I know it's not funny, but just flat out ignoring it is a way
that narcissistic people will hope that you will hope things
go away, right? It's a weak ass apology.
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It's just like ignoring the issue as a whole.
I know that most people that follow me have dealt with the
narcissist, screaming at them, yelling at them, doing something
horrible to them and then comingback to them, right?
They scream at you, yell at you,do something horrible to you,
and then the next day pretend like nothing happened, right?
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They act like nothing happened at all, like they just, they,
they hope that things just go away on their own.
And this is how it typically, right?
This is how it typically goes. They hope that by dealing with
this type of stuff right here, they hope that while you say
this type of stuff while you're dealing with them, they hope
that it just goes away on its own.
Like they think that silence is the answer.
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Silence will help things go away.
Silence will just do this type of stuff right here.
Silent, silent, silence. And the more silent I, I am.
And if it works, if you come to,let's say I'm silent to you,
right? I'm super silent to you, but
then you come to me. I win, I win.
Or if I make a joke, if I break the silence and now I can avoid
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accountability, I still win in that situation too.
You see what I'm saying? Sometimes it's just simply about
wins. And with a narcissist, it's
simply about wins and losses. It's about wins and losses.
It's about guns and butter. What was it from?
What movie is it from? Guns and butter.
That baby boy. Guns and butter.
I think it is from baby boy. But this is what this, this is
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what transpires, y'all? This is seriously how it goes.
Narcissistic people put you, will take you through the ringer
and put it on to you and just besilent to you and hope it goes
away. Hope it goes well.
Ignore the rash and hope it goesaway on its own.
Like it went away, it's all gone.
It's all gone and that's what ends up happening right there.
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Y'all like if it works, it works.
The next thing that I have on mylist is something that's going
to piss some of y'all I know. Like if you're not sitting down,
go ahead and sit down. Are you seated just yet?
Are you sitting down all right? If you're not, don't say I
didn't warn you. Don't try to sue me.
Like lead to lead knocked me offmy feet.
He he should have warned me buying you something.
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Sometimes they're like, yo, narcissistic people show love
and affection through physical things, right?
It's almost always physical things of how they show love,
how they show care how they showaffection.
So if it's physical things, if it's like you know what I'm
saying, they buy you something, they feel like they can buy your
forgiveness. That's an apology to to them.
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Yeah, I cheated on you and had four kids outside of my
marriage. Yes, I cheated on you and got
pregnant by somebody else. I'm carrying somebody else's
baby right now. But here's the PlayStation 5.
Here is your favorite video game.
Here's Fortnite. Here's here's some V bucks.
Here's some Roebucks. Roebucks.
You mean here? Here's some flowers.
Here's that Pandora bracelet you've been asking for forever.
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I know it's embarrassing. Yeah, but it does happen.
They will just simply buy you something and think that you
should forgive them. Now does this work comment
section, if it worked on you, just drop in the comment
section. This is a safe place.
It's not somewhere you're going to be.
We are not trying to embarrass each other.
We're just trying to show each other or prove to each other
that this is not you're not alone on this journey.
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So if you've been if they've gotten you by buying you
something, then it works. I thought to somebody literally
y'all talk to somebody today. Another one I do a lot of I do a
lot of coaching college. Y'all talk to somebody again one
O 1 and that's why I got the PlayStation thing from literally
dude said yeah man, she got me man she played my face.
She did this she lied to me. She said she was somewhere that
she wasn't and then the next dayshe knew my PlayStation 5
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controller was broke. She bought she came over didn't
say a word just held up that fucking camo PlayStation
control. I think the camo controllers are
a little bit more expensive. Held up a camo PlayStation
controller and they say you knowthis and they're clapping cheeks
got them You see I see you can'tsee how they think about you
again. One O ones mental illness.net.
You can enter the code mental 15for 15% alpha one O 1 y'all, and
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that's where it goes. Y'all seriously?
But yeah, just buy you something.
Buy you something you always been asking for.
It's crazy how they always look.It's crazy how they be
forgetting things all the time, act like they don't know how to
make you happy, and then all of a sudden they do some horrible
ass stuff to you and now they have the magic potion.
Now all of a sudden they have they they know exactly what to
buy you to make you happy. You see how that works right
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there? This is what goes on.
They make it work like that. They know what they're doing,
you know what I'm saying, They know exactly what they're doing.
And last but not least, y'all, the last thing they have written
now for narcissists and how theyapologize or get you to forget
something is if the last one knocked you off of your feet,
this one really going to knock you off your feet.
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Right here. Y'all ready SEX?
Well, y'all know how I be, said it.
Y'all know how I say it on this channel right here.
It's clapping cheeks. They will clap them cheeks.
They absolutely will. Clapping cheeks is a way for a
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lot of narcissistic people to apologize and we especially when
you're angry. This is why I tell people.
This is precisely why tell so many people that if you've been
arguing or fussing or fighting with a narcissistic person,
they've done something horrible to you.
Don't sleep with them, y'all. That's how they get you to bond
to them even more. Yeah, Yeah.
That's what this is one reason Ithink toxic people have pushed
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that makeup. Sex is supposed to be so good
and so passionate. If you're angry, you're
releasing all kinds of endorphins.
You're releasing all kinds of shit.
You, they and they want you to release the anger out of you.
They want, they think an orgasm is supposed to make you forget
the anger. The O is supposed to make you
forget the A. The big O is supposed to make
you forget the big A. The anger that you have for this
person and what they've done to you, what they put you through,
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this is what they do. This is how they get you right
here. Y'all seriously?
This is the type of stuff that they will absolutely do to you
and hold you to account for What?
You see what I'm saying? They'll hold you to account for
the stuff that they do Absolutely will.
So This is why you have to prepare.
You literally have to prepare for this type of stuff.
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Don't sleep with him. I know y'all be horny.
I know y'all little honeys be honeys be hot.
You get a little red bottles, like a little like a little.
What's the monkey with the red bottom?
Little baboons. Or there's a baboon.
It's a baboon baboon with a big red butt.
I know your butt's be getting red.
I know you got the red butt. Butt red is here.
Hot and red. You hot and red like a little
red Little Caesar's pizza. You got a cold, you got to go
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sit on some ice. Go take a ice bath, take a cold
shower. Do not give up the cheeks,
fellas. Do not clap them cheeks.
This is how they get you. It's addictive.
I know. It's I know it can be better in
this situation right here. When you're angry, when you're
pissed off about something, thisis how they get you.
This is how they get you. They'll whip it out, they'll
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strip that, they'll strip down. They'll do all of this stuff to
mess with you. But this is that mentality you
have to protect yourself. You have to got you have to
guard yourself. Do not sleep with them when you
are angry, when you are pissed off and whatnot, because this is
how to get you. This is how this is how they
apologize to you sometime, you know what I mean, But you have
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to prep for it. Do not let them get you.
Do not let do not be angry as hell and them and look, do not
don't be angry as hell at them. And then they're like, you still
angry now, and it's they start taking their clothes off and
you're like, yeah, I'm still angry, but I'll hit it right
now. Look, I'm going to sleep with
you. I'm going to, I'm going to clap
them cheeks, right? I'm going to clap them cheeks,
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but I'm still going to be mad afterwards.
Come here, hop on it. Don't do it.
Please, for the love of all things, don't do it, y'all.
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So what type of apologies will anarcissist offer you?
Like what kind of apologies do they even OfferUp?
Like I think a lot of people understand that narcissist that
people talk to people don't really OfferUp apologies.
But if they were to on the slight chance that they would,
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how would it look? How would it seem?
What would it sound like or whatwould it look like?
That's what we talked about today, y'all.
Of course, if you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
I'm a diagnose narcissist myself.
And let's welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
Let's get it, y'all. Let's get it.
Let's get it. Welcome back, y'all, Welcome
(00:59):
back y'all. Seriously, the reason I get so
hyped is because this is going to be one of the final episodes
of The Narcissist Code. 1 of thefinal ones, we're shifting to
the Mental illness podcast here soon where we could, we want to
be covering all things mental health, still narcissism, but
encompassing all things mental health.
So thank y'all for being alone on this ride with me, but let's
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hop right into it, y'all. The different types of apologies
that a narcissist or a toxic person will offer, we're going
to hop right into all of them. The first type of apology that a
narcissist will offer, y'all is what I refer to and a lot of
people refer to as a literally as a blanket statement apology.
(01:41):
Right? A blanket statement apology is
what some narcissistic people will offer you.
Well, Lee, what the hell is a blanket statement apology?
I'm glad you asked A blanket statement.
Apology happens. When they say I'm sorry for
everything, what does that mean?It has no meaning for it.
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It's it it, it's, it's supposed to cover everything.
Like a blanket. It's supposed to keep you warm
until something better comes along, right?
A blanket keeps you warm in coldweather.
A blanket makes things better quickly.
You see what I'm saying? If it's freezing outside or
freezing inside instead of you can turn the heat on or you can
(02:22):
get a blanket. First, the blanket offers
instant gratification, right? Like a narcissist, a blanket
statement apology is pretty muchthem offering some instant
gratification to you to make youfeel good in the moment.
It's I'm sorry for everything. I'm sorry for hurting you.
I'm sorry I did that. What the hell does that mean?
A blanket a blanket statement apology lacks specificity out it
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has it's not specific a real apology.
A genuine apology has specific words in it.
It they tell you exactly what they do, right, they tell you
exactly what they do. That's what a blanket statement,
that's what a real apology has. It's you did this to me or no, I
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did this to you. I'm sorry for that.
A blanket statement doesn't havethat.
A blanket statement lacks remorse.
It lacks actual remorse. It it doesn't have a plan of
action to correct the behavior, it doesn't mean anything.
I'm sorry for everything. I did a one-on-one recently.
Y'all with a with a young lady. You can find my one on ones
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mental illness.net and she she told me she showed me a message
to her exit center. It's literally said I'm sorry
for everything and I mean everything, everything that I've
done to you, everything that I put you through all the all the
things I'm sorry for them, but specifically everything.
Huh. You're sorry for everything, but
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specifically everything. What the hell?
I was like what me and her, we shared a good laugh about that.
Y'all know we, we laughed doing all like my one on ones, my
coaching, it goes in a lot of different directions.
Y'all, we laughed. It was a good laugh.
We had a very good laugh at thatright there, because it was
silly. It it didn't mean anything
because there is no specificity there.
So that's the first type of apology that a lot of
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narcissistic people will offer. The next one.
Y'all is them Da da da da. Blaming you.
They blame you for everything. But Lee, this is that.
That's that's not an apology. Yes, it is.
They'll say I'm sorry, but what about what you did right?
They'll say I'm sorry, but what about what you did?
Blaming you is a way of putting it off.
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This is how they obfuscate. This is how they get away from
stuff. They might say the words I'm
sorry, but they'll put the blameonto you or someone else.
It's what I'm saying. It doesn't just stick with them.
They have to find a way to put it on to someone else.
It can't just stick with them. They have to put it on to
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someone else. I'm sorry, but you did this.
I'm sorry you made me do this. Like, huh, I'm sorry.
But if anybody says, but after the words I'm sorry, it
eliminates the I'm sorry becausenow they're they're not taking
accountability. I'm sorry, yes, that's partially
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taking accountability, but that's no accountability or
they're divvying, they're divvying it up.
They're blaming you or this is a2 parter, they're blaming you or
they're blaming others. I'm sorry, but this other person
did this to me. I'm sorry, but they made me do
this to you. So it's not really my fault.
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It's on them. They did this.
I didn't really have anything todo with this.
It was on them. They'll put it on to anybody but
themselves. This is how narcissistic people
work. Like they don't want to take
accountability for anything thatthey do.
So they'll instead of just saying I'm sorry I hurt you and
I'll never do it again, which isstill not a real apology,
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they'll say I'm sorry but I'm sorry but BUTTTTT big old butt
ABBL apology big old butt. But it's not real.
No disrespect to my BBL baddies out there, but seriously, I've
always, it's always I'm sorry, but it's very rarely I'm sorry.
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And that's it. You see what I'm saying?
But that's how narcissistic people operate.
That's the mentality of narcissists, right?
That's how we move. That's how we move.
That's how we put it all into everything, right?
And that's how we're going to keep doing it because, well,
Lee, why they why won't they just stop and take
accountability? Because we don't want to take
accountability because blaming you or blaming everybody else
works. The blanket statements work
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because you accept them. If I can keep give you a blanket
statement apology, I'm going to keep giving you a blanket
statement apology because it works.
Why wouldn't I do what works? Again, that's something for
y'all to consider. The next one, drum roll please,
is they admit it, but they also put it on to you, you that I
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know it sounds very similar to blaming you, but this is
getting, this is trying to get you to take accountability,
right? This is trying to get you or
whoever else to take accountability.
They try to say I'm sorry, but what about you?
Did they? So they'll try to draw an
apology out of you. They'll try to draw apology out
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of you. And you know what that is?
That's a red flag, y'all. Shout out to Jessica Montes for
that one, y'all. But that's what goes on right
there. They say I'm sorry, but you made
me do this. They'll put it directly in your
pocket and try to make you apologize.
And if you apologize for something that you did not do,
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you lose. Let's be real.
If you apologize for something that you did not do, you will
lose. You know what I'm saying?
And I tell that to people all the time and This is why and
this is the way it goes. Like if you apologize to me for
something that you did that something for something that I
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did, then you lose. I have no, I, I have no reason
to offer you any type of any type of contrition, any type of
change. Why would I do that?
What? I don't have to.
Why would I do that when I don'tneed to?
You see what I'm saying? That's how the mind of
narcissistic people work. So if I can get you to
apologize, then hell yeah, I ain't saying nothing.
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Why what? Why would I?
Why would I say anything? If you apologize, you know what
I'm saying. I might say I'm sorry, but you
did this. And if you say I'm sorry in the
conversation, we both made mistakes.
We were both in their own, me and whoever both also did
something. I was tricked, right?
I was tricked and whatnot. And they'll put it on to you,
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y'all. So this is what you have to deal
with when you dealing with a toxic narcissistic person.
These are type of apologies or blame shifting type of type,
type of techniques that narcissistic people will do.
Now I'm pretty sure if you dealtwith the narcissist, you've
experienced this in some way, shape or form.
You just have to there's, there's no way escaping this
type of stuff. If you dealt with the
narcissistic person for any, anyvalid amount of time you've
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dealt with this type of stuff. The next thing I have on my list
y'all of apologies or getting away from it is ignoring.
I know it's not funny, but just flat out ignoring it is a way
that narcissistic people will hope that you will hope things
go away, right? It's a weak ass apology.
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It's just like ignoring the issue as a whole.
I know that most people that follow me have dealt with the
narcissist, screaming at them, yelling at them, doing something
horrible to them and then comingback to them, right?
They scream at you, yell at you,do something horrible to you,
and then the next day pretend like nothing happened, right?
(10:03):
They act like nothing happened at all, like they just, they,
they hope that things just go away on their own.
And this is how it typically, right?
This is how it typically goes. They hope that by dealing with
this type of stuff right here, they hope that while you say
this type of stuff while you're dealing with them, they hope
that it just goes away on its own.
Like they think that silence is the answer.
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Silence will help things go away.
Silence will just do this type of stuff right here.
Silent, silent, silence. And the more silent I, I am.
And if it works, if you come to,let's say I'm silent to you,
right? I'm super silent to you, but
then you come to me. I win, I win.
Or if I make a joke, if I break the silence and now I can avoid
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accountability, I still win in that situation too.
You see what I'm saying? Sometimes it's just simply about
wins. And with a narcissist, it's
simply about wins and losses. It's about wins and losses.
It's about guns and butter. What was it from?
What movie is it from? Guns and butter.
That baby boy. Guns and butter.
I think it is from baby boy. But this is what this, this is
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what transpires, y'all? This is seriously how it goes.
Narcissistic people put you, will take you through the ringer
and put it on to you and just besilent to you and hope it goes
away. Hope it goes well.
Ignore the rash and hope it goesaway on its own.
Like it went away, it's all gone.
It's all gone and that's what ends up happening right there.
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Y'all like if it works, it works.
The next thing that I have on mylist is something that's going
to piss some of y'all I know. Like if you're not sitting down,
go ahead and sit down. Are you seated just yet?
Are you sitting down all right? If you're not, don't say I
didn't warn you. Don't try to sue me.
Like lead to lead knocked me offmy feet.
He he should have warned me buying you something.
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Sometimes they're like, yo, narcissistic people show love
and affection through physical things, right?
It's almost always physical things of how they show love,
how they show care how they showaffection.
So if it's physical things, if it's like you know what I'm
saying, they buy you something, they feel like they can buy your
forgiveness. That's an apology to to them.
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Yeah, I cheated on you and had four kids outside of my
marriage. Yes, I cheated on you and got
pregnant by somebody else. I'm carrying somebody else's
baby right now. But here's the PlayStation 5.
Here is your favorite video game.
Here's Fortnite. Here's here's some V bucks.
Here's some Roebucks. Roebucks.
You mean here? Here's some flowers.
Here's that Pandora bracelet you've been asking for forever.
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I know it's embarrassing. Yeah, but it does happen.
They will just simply buy you something and think that you
should forgive them. Now does this work comment
section, if it worked on you, just drop in the comment
section. This is a safe place.
It's not somewhere you're going to be.
We are not trying to embarrass each other.
We're just trying to show each other or prove to each other
that this is not you're not alone on this journey.
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So if you've been if they've gotten you by buying you
something, then it works. I thought to somebody literally
y'all talk to somebody today. Another one I do a lot of I do a
lot of coaching college. Y'all talk to somebody again one
O 1 and that's why I got the PlayStation thing from literally
dude said yeah man, she got me man she played my face.
She did this she lied to me. She said she was somewhere that
she wasn't and then the next dayshe knew my PlayStation 5
(13:29):
controller was broke. She bought she came over didn't
say a word just held up that fucking camo PlayStation
control. I think the camo controllers are
a little bit more expensive. Held up a camo PlayStation
controller and they say you knowthis and they're clapping cheeks
got them You see I see you can'tsee how they think about you
again. One O ones mental illness.net.
You can enter the code mental 15for 15% alpha one O 1 y'all, and
(13:54):
that's where it goes. Y'all seriously?
But yeah, just buy you something.
Buy you something you always been asking for.
It's crazy how they always look.It's crazy how they be
forgetting things all the time, act like they don't know how to
make you happy, and then all of a sudden they do some horrible
ass stuff to you and now they have the magic potion.
Now all of a sudden they have they they know exactly what to
buy you to make you happy. You see how that works right
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there? This is what goes on.
They make it work like that. They know what they're doing,
you know what I'm saying, They know exactly what they're doing.
And last but not least, y'all, the last thing they have written
now for narcissists and how theyapologize or get you to forget
something is if the last one knocked you off of your feet,
this one really going to knock you off your feet.
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Right here. Y'all ready SEX?
Well, y'all know how I be, said it.
Y'all know how I say it on this channel right here.
It's clapping cheeks. They will clap them cheeks.
They absolutely will. Clapping cheeks is a way for a
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lot of narcissistic people to apologize and we especially when
you're angry. This is why I tell people.
This is precisely why tell so many people that if you've been
arguing or fussing or fighting with a narcissistic person,
they've done something horrible to you.
Don't sleep with them, y'all. That's how they get you to bond
to them even more. Yeah, Yeah.
That's what this is one reason Ithink toxic people have pushed
(15:22):
that makeup. Sex is supposed to be so good
and so passionate. If you're angry, you're
releasing all kinds of endorphins.
You're releasing all kinds of shit.
You, they and they want you to release the anger out of you.
They want, they think an orgasm is supposed to make you forget
the anger. The O is supposed to make you
forget the A. The big O is supposed to make
you forget the big A. The anger that you have for this
person and what they've done to you, what they put you through,
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this is what they do. This is how they get you right
here. Y'all seriously?
This is the type of stuff that they will absolutely do to you
and hold you to account for What?
You see what I'm saying? They'll hold you to account for
the stuff that they do Absolutely will.
So This is why you have to prepare.
You literally have to prepare for this type of stuff.
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Don't sleep with him. I know y'all be horny.
I know y'all little honeys be honeys be hot.
You get a little red bottles, like a little like a little.
What's the monkey with the red bottom?
Little baboons. Or there's a baboon.
It's a baboon baboon with a big red butt.
I know your butt's be getting red.
I know you got the red butt. Butt red is here.
Hot and red. You hot and red like a little
red Little Caesar's pizza. You got a cold, you got to go
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sit on some ice. Go take a ice bath, take a cold
shower. Do not give up the cheeks,
fellas. Do not clap them cheeks.
This is how they get you. It's addictive.
I know. It's I know it can be better in
this situation right here. When you're angry, when you're
pissed off about something, thisis how they get you.
This is how they get you. They'll whip it out, they'll
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strip that, they'll strip down. They'll do all of this stuff to
mess with you. But this is that mentality you
have to protect yourself. You have to got you have to
guard yourself. Do not sleep with them when you
are angry, when you are pissed off and whatnot, because this is
how to get you. This is how this is how they
apologize to you sometime, you know what I mean, But you have
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to prep for it. Do not let them get you.
Do not let do not be angry as hell and them and look, do not
don't be angry as hell at them. And then they're like, you still
angry now, and it's they start taking their clothes off and
you're like, yeah, I'm still angry, but I'll hit it right
now. Look, I'm going to sleep with
you. I'm going to, I'm going to clap
them cheeks, right? I'm going to clap them cheeks,
(17:38):
but I'm still going to be mad afterwards.
Come here, hop on it. Don't do it.
Please, for the love of all things, don't do it, y'all.
Please don't do it anyway, y'all.
We made it to the end of this video.
Again. This is one of the final
episodes. I'm still, yeah, I'm still film
videos about narcissists. Do not unsubscribe.
I'm just doing more videos, including more mental health
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thing. I'm talking, I'm talking to some
experts. I'm talking to therapy experts,
people I still have narcissisticabuse victims to come on sharing
their stories. I have yeah.
I've recorded 8 episodes of the mental illness podcast so far. 8
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