It's Narc season and that means It's The Worst Time of The Year For Narcissists. From October to December, narcissists typically get worse because of all the back to back holidays. So much emotional energy is required to deal with it and narcissists don't have the emotional capacity to handle it all.
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Episode Transcript
It's the worst time of the year for narcissist.
It's narc season, y'all. It is narc season.
The worst time of the year for narcissistic people and damn
near the worst time of the year for anybody that's in a
relationship with a narcissist or a highly toxic person, a
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highly emotionally immature person, somebody who lacks
emotional depth. Of course.
If you're new here, I'm Lee Hammock.
I'm a diagnosed narcissist myself.
Here to give you the inside lookinside look at the mind of a
narcissist. Y'all now by show of hands.
Who here has heard of narc season?
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Me. So many people have heard about
narc season because it's the worst time of the year.
It's like narc season is the time of the year where it goes
from October to damn near February of next year, right?
It's the holiday seasons where it goes back-to-back to back.
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Did you cut your hair? Yes, ma'am, I did.
It goes back-to-back to back. It's called narc season, 'cause
you look, look at it y'all, you got Halloween, you got
Thanksgiving, you got Christmas,then you got New Year's, and
then you got Valentine's Day. In between all of that, there
might be some birthdays, there might be some other stuff that's
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going on. It's narc season.
There's so much emotional energythat is wasted or spent this
time of the year by so many different people.
And as you all know, that narcissist, I do, this is my
belief that narcissists have very limited emotional capacity.
We have the ability to have emotions, right?
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We have the ability to have emotions, but we have low
emotional capacity. We don't have enough to go
around. We get, we get emotionally
overwhelmed very easily. So think about it, if we have
very limited emotional capacity,very low emotional intelligence,
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right, this time of the year, what is all about?
Getting together, spending time together, showing love, giving
gifts, receiving gifts, spendingtime with your family, love,
character, affection. You can see how that right there
means so much. It means so much emotional
energy is being spent, right? Who's it that Coco loves?
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The emotional overload. Absolutely true.
It's an emotional overload. So you get a lot of narcissistic
people during this time period that start to act up.
They start to behave erratically.
They start to withdraw from everything.
And that's the way it goes. It's like you can't.
Yeah, it's year in and year out.Year in and year out is how it
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goes. Like you cannot escape if you
dealt with a narcissist or a toxic person.
You've you've experienced narc season, you've probably had a
bad birthday, you probably had abad holiday season.
It's year in and year out. You ever wonder why around this
time of the year, your narcissistic partner or parent
or whoever it is starts behavingerratically and you're like,
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what the hell is going on with you?
Why do you start acting so weird?
It's just Halloween. It's just Thanksgiving.
It's just Christmas, it's just New Year's, it's just
Valentine's Day. It's just my birthday.
You see how all that's back-to-back to back.
There is no break here. So for that narcissistic person,
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there's absolutely no break. And yeah, you can get one like
the Artist Daily said you will. You can get one that will whine
a lot. You get one that that you get
ones that whine a lot. And This is why sometimes around
this time of the year, they start, they stop giving you
gifts, they stop wanting to do things.
They stop wanting to travel. It's just another holiday.
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It's just that, you know, imagine not only is it the
holiday season, it could be an anniversary in here, your
wedding, your wedding anniversary, right, your dating
anniversary, your birthday, a graduation ceremony, right, a
promotion, something. It's always something going on.
So this time of the year for so many people that are dealing
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with narcissists is going to be rough.
It just is. That's the way, y'all.
That's the way the cookie, the way the cookie is cut, right?
That's the way the cookie is cut.
Vicki says 1228 be that here. That week is going to be
amazing. There you go.
You got. Yeah, she she, she, she already
reframed her. So good for you, Vicki, Good for
you. But that's the way it goes right
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there. Y'all.
They might have a bad attitude. Yeah, bad, bad attitude at the
minimum, Right. I think some people would just
pray for a bad attitude. Well, you can have a stank ass
attitude as long as we get to mymom's house.
OK, Long we long we can survive the holidays with with your with
your parents and your family. You can.
Your attitude can be as stank asyou want it to be.
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I can. Look, I don't give a damn if I
don't give a damn if your attitude so stank.
We can. I can smell it, right?
I don't give a damn if I can smell your attitude from the
from the car. I just don't care.
Just help us make it through right?
So this time of the year right here, y'all is really about you
surviving right? This is a this is a survival
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time for you right here. You just try to have to make it
through because that narcissistic person is going to
act a monkey during this time, right?
They're going to act a monkey during this time of the year.
This is how they operate. This is how they behave.
This is what they do. It's them there.
Like it's very hard and difficult to get out of this
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type of stuff, right? It, it really can be.
So that's why I just tell peoplelike you have to survive this
time of the year, like if you'rewith a narcissist or you're
dealing with them, even if like even if you're not together,
they can still make your life hard.
Even if you're not together withthat narcissistic person, they
can still try to make your life hard by being dismissive by
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trying to keep like you trying to Co parent together.
They'll try to keep the kids like they're supposed to drop
the kids off. They'll keep do ya.
They'll try to keep the kids longer.
They'll do all of this stuff to this to disrupt your day, to
disrupt your Christmas season, to disrupt your holiday season.
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Year in and the year out. Dang, a whole season.
Yeah. It's kind of like, you know,
spring, winter, fall, autumn, whatever.
I'm I'm out of summer. I might have missed one y'all
narc season. It's coming.
It comes and goes. It comes and goes, you know it
and it's kind of yeah, it it's kind of crazy how it works
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because you get this year in andyear out and y'all know it.
I know a lot of people when I first came in here usually like,
well, look, this the this is my first time hearing about narc
season. I have never heard of it before
because a lot of people haven't heard of it, right?
Seasonal NPD is funny. A lot of people haven't heard of
it. But once you've experienced it,
now you understand exactly what you've been going through and
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what you've been dealing with, who, who you've been dealing
with, right? Am I right?
Because the more you deal with this type of person, the more
you recognize, the more you recognize the signs and look,
the better you get at predictingthese behaviors, right?
The better you get at predictingthese behaviors, the better off
you will be because you know, like a lot of times it's not
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knowing that gets you. You don't even know it's coming.
You can't anticipate it and whatnot, right?
So you don't know what's coming.You don't know what's happening,
right? But now, because you see it,
because you've experienced it, because you dealt with it,
you're better prepared for it, right?
You, you're better prepared for it.
And the more you prepare, the better off you are, you know,
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because they're going to try to set you off.
They're going to try to bring you down.
They're going to try to do things to antagonize you on
purpose. They're going to try to do
things to set you back and to set you off on purpose.
But if you know it's coming, youcan prepare for it.
If you know they're going to tryto get a reaction from you, you
already don't give it to them. Don't.
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Yeah, I know. I know when I say it like that,
it sounds super simplistic, right?
He was like, well, Lee, I wish Icould just not give it to him.
You make it sound like it's easy.
I don't want to make it sound like it's easy.
I'm just saying you still have work to do.
You still have to put the work in when you're dealing with
somebody like this. You send divorce papers through
during narc season. Buckle up.
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They might lose their damn mind.Buckle up, right?
Because that's the mentality of a lot of narcissistic people.
Everything is about him. He has so many opportunities to
ruin your day. Then act like the victim.
Yeah, always going to play the victim.
Like it can be look, narcissist.I feel like during narc, during
during narc season, right. During narc season, you're
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going, you might get seasonal depression.
I think a lot of narcissists during narc season are going to
experience this seasonal depression, but they it spreads
like a damn virus. It spreads like a virus like the
seasonal depression and narcissists do spreads like a
damn virus. And you're like, like, what the
hell is wrong with you? You're like, just be happy like
the families together every day,like everybody's happy and
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healthy this year. What the hell is wrong with you?
And they can't explain it. They just are acting weird and
taking it out on you. I heard my cat must be outside,
but that's the way it goes rightthere.
Y'all. So if you're dealing with a
narcissist doing narc season, who said that Jeremiah yes, narc
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season could also be Hoover and season.
Good one good one good one. It's the worst time of the year
for them, especially if they're alone, like the especially if
they're alone and also now they get into the hands like you know
what I know we haven't talked all year and I treat I treated
you horribly all year. I treated you horribly all year.
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But you know what? I think we need to get back
together. I think we need to be.
I think we need to try this again.
I think we need to try this again.
You know, I really, really do. I really do.
Yeah. Yes, they can.
They can be. They can be Narcissists can be
very predictable, but you don't want to tell them that they're
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predictable. You know why?
Because when you tell, when you tell a narcissist how
predictable they are, they startto do certain things to try to
just change up their personality.
They just Absolutely. Yeah.
So it is the way it goes right there, y'all.
So I feel like as you continue to deal with this, don't tell
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them that they're predictable because I'm telling you they
will absolutely try to switch things up just to be
unpredictable towards you, right?
Just to try to set you off, justto do things like that.
I promise you, yeah, narc seasoncan be the worst season of the
year for so many people. But if you anticipate it, if you
prepare for it, you already know.
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You already know. They're like, you already know
that if you're getting ready every year around this time, you
go to your parents house for Thanksgiving, you already know
they're going to act up and justthrow, throw a fit about going.
You know they don't want to go. And if they go, they're going to
make a scene. If they don't go, they're going
to make a scene. Choose what makes you happiest,
right? I know not everybody leaves, not
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everybody wants to leave. I get that, right?
Choose what makes you happiest. You're going to argue if you go.
You're going to argue if you sayyou might as well go and have
fun and just know what the hell they going to do later on.
But of course, be safe. Of course you have to stay safe
and be safe in these situations because you never know how
they'll react at the end of the day, right?
But this is something that you have to prepare for, right?
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This is what this is what goes on.
This is the type of stuff that they will continue to do over
and over and over again, year inand year out.
It does. Yeah.
It does not get better. I know some people hold up, hold
out hope that it will get better.
It won't get better. Ask yourself, why would it get
better if it doesn't have to? Why would they change the
behavior that they feel like they get rewarded for?
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Why would they do that? You see what I'm saying?
This is the worst time of the year to be dealing with the
narcissist. Yeah, especially, right?
Yeah. Cuffing season.
It could be. It could be love bombing cuffing
season as well, right? It could absolutely be love
bombing slash cuffing season forthat narcissistic person.
They could absolutely try to love bomb the hell out of you
during this time of the year too, right?
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Can't they? You know what I mean?
They could just try to get back to you, love bomb you and give
you the gifts to set you up for the next year, right?
They could absolutely set you upfor the next year through love
bombing and cuffing you right now, you know, So it gets good
right there. We can.
My hot narcissist ex love going to my family's house for
Christmas because they spoil himwith my parents.
Yeah. They can go and do that to
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y'all. He can go.
He can go a few different ways. It's not always set in stone how
they're going to ask, you know, covert, but hot, you know,
choose your battles. Absolutely, right.
You have to choose and pick youreverything.
Not worth going to war over, y'all.
Everything is not worth going towar over, right?
It's just not pick and choose your battles.
Yeah, you absolutely have to. That's very important.
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Right there to pick your battle.Is this worth going to war for?
Maybe. You see what I'm saying?
That's what covert. Not.
Oh, covert. Not hot.
Oh, OK. OK.
Oh my God. Oh boy.
I can't believe I missed the beginning of this.
When I get off, it's going to repost.
It'll repost. It'll be right on the channel.
It'll be right on the channel, y'all.
So I'm about to hop off anyway. I need, I got to get out here
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