October 20, 2025 • 20 mins
Why would a narcissist come back after discarding you? Why would they end the relationship but not fully leave you alone and move on with their lives?
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Boom. Why do narcissists almost always
return after they discard you? Why do they keep coming back?
Why can't they just leave you the hell alone once they
discard? You.
Like they are the ones that end the relationship.
They are the ones that leave you.
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They are the ones that break up with you or file for divorce or
leave you for somebody else. Why the hell do they keep coming
back after they are the ones that ended it?
Why? That's what we're talking about
today, y'all. Of course, if you're new here,
I'm Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist
myself and we just going to hop.Right into it.
I'm here to give you the inside look at the mind of a
(00:43):
narcissist. Sorry, Yeah, got a comment right
here that says they need money, a place to stay, another round
the game of life, Cheek clapping, their side piece
dumped them and the other ones on vacation with her real
boyfriend that cheated on you with your ex.
Yeah. So that right there could
definitely happen, right? That right there could
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definitely happen. What is going on and what is
going on? Jalisa, what's up?
What's up? What's up?
Yes, the main reason why a lot of narcissists and toxic people
refuse to leave you alone once they discard you is because they
feel like you belong to them. You are mine.
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I own you, not me personally. That's how the narcissist there
in your life thinks. They think that because y'all
have shared bodily fluids, y'allhave dated, y'all have been in
love before y'all were married or divorced or whatever the case
may be. They think you are you belong to
them, that you have your ownership papers like your your
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papers, your your driver's license.
If you flip that thing over on the back, it says property of
this narcissistic toxic bastard.That's what the back of it says.
The front has your name and address on it.
The back has all of the other stuff on it, right?
The back has everything else on it.
That's what goes on right there.Y'all, what's going on Lisa?
How you doing girl? This is what goes on.
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I'm just telling you, they thinkthat you belong to them.
Just because I ended with you does not mean I am done with
you. It does not mean that I'm
finished with you. It does not mean that it's
absolutely over. It just means I'm pushing pause
on this section of the relationship, this section of
the relationship, y'all? That's what that's what it
means. That's what it could mean to a
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lot of narcissistic people, right?
I'm just pushing pause on what we have going on right now.
Nothing that nothing more, nothing less.
And this is what you're going toencounter the more you deal with
a toxic narcissistic person. Like who's it?
That sounds like my baby daddy. I bet it does.
Your baby daddy probably think because we have a baby together.
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Glenda, you belong to me you don't get to move on.
Yes, I have 4 kids by four otherpeople.
Yes I cheated on you and had three kids three of those kids
while we were together. Yes I left you for the 4th 1:00
but you don't get to move on because you belong to me now.
How dare you think otherwise? How dare you think you get to
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move on and live your life to the fullest.
How dare you? That's what that's.
Literally the way it goes, I'm telling you, that's the mindset,
that's the mentality of a lot oftoxic, abusive, narcissistic
people. They think that because we've
shared anything before, you belong to me.
And I hate that there's so many people that have to deal with
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that, right? I hate that when you when you
deal with this person or you're trying to heal and you're trying
to leave them alone, like they break up with you, right?
They like they abruptly end yourrelationship.
They abruptly break up with you.They out of out of nowhere, they
suddenly break up with you. And then when you.
Finally start. To heal your Your heart is
broken. You.
It came out of nowhere. They ghosted you.
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Now look, now you're finally starting to heal and guess what?
This toxic bastard calls you. This toxic bastard texts you.
This toxic bastard decides that they missed you and they they
were just thinking about you. They after they broke.
You down and. Try to do this.
They after they broke you down piece by piece, they decided to
come back and try to After they destroyed you, they want to
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check in on you to make sure that you're OK.
How crazy is that sound right there?
How crazy is that? After they destroyed you, they
want to check in on you. After they broke you down, they
want to check. In I just wanted to make sure
hey, hey, Kirsten, I just wantedto make sure that you were OK.
I just wanted to check in and make sure you're doing OK.
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I know things between us didn't end the best.
I just wanted to make sure that you all right, That's it.
That's it. I ain't I ain't want I ain't
want nothing. I just want to check in or
you're still just because we're not together no more don't mean
I don't care about you don't mean I don't worry about you
like right. That's that's not what that
means right there. That's not what that.
Means that's exactly what that means right there y'all.
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So a lot of times narcissists return returns after they
discard you because they think you belong to them and also
y'all, they want to make sure that they still have some type
of access to you. I want to make sure that the
door or the window or the the back door, whatever is still
open for me if and when I decideto come back.
If and when I decide to come back into your life, I want to
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make sure that that door is possibly still open for me.
I, I do. Who said this right here?
Amy said we were shelved. Yep.
Put you on the shelf. They put you on the shelf for
later just in case I find somebody new that fits me
better. I'm putting you on the shelf.
I'm placing you on the shelf forlater, just in case I find
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someone new. Just in case this new person
that I'm dealing with doesn't work out.
I want to be. Able to come back.
Amy, I miss you. Amy I want Amy.
I want my family back. Amy I can't believe I made a
mistake. Amy, did you?
Know what I'm saying? They want to have the ability to
do that right there. They want to have the ability to
try to come back into your life,become disruptive, become
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destructive, and possibly leave again.
I will say this right here. Y'all, if they come into your
life, if they, if they're comingin and out of your life and you
let them, they're going to keep doing it.
If you if they leave you for somebody else and you take them
back, they're going to leave youfor somebody else again later
on. What's going to go?
Like seriously, I'm not trying to hurt anybody's feelings, but
in a lot of times in the in the mind of a narcissist job, it's
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like this. What you allowed me to do is
what I'm going to do. Simply put, whatever I feel like
you allowed me to do, I'm going to do regardless of how you
feel, regardless of what's goingon.
Whatever I feel like you allowedme to do, I'm absolutely going
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to do regardless. I don't care what you have to
say. I don't care what's going on.
Whatever you say have to do, whatever you say is going on.
Y'all my officer right by the Police Department out and it is
just killing me. It'd be blowing by.
It'd be blowing by or whatnot, just constantly.
But who commented this? Like I said, yes.
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Another reason why they return after they discard you because
they might need money, they might be broke.
If look, if you have look, OK, yeah, If you have a bum
narcissistic person that you've been taking care of for years
for you've been taking care of this narcissistic bastard for
years, right? And they leave you with somebody
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else. And it's like if they if you've
been taking the care of this narcissistic bastard for years
and they leave you for somebody else and then they get kicked
out or they get broken up with, or they're still with the
person, they might ask you for money.
Like, wow, you going to really let me suffer out here?
You really going to let me suffer?
You know I need you know I ain'tworked in 40 years because of
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you. You going to let me suffer?
After they broke up with you, after they left you, they come
back asking you for money, right?
They come back asking you for some type of financial
assistance. Look, I just need a little to
get in my feet with the new withmy new Boo.
We looking for a place and I I know you still love me.
You want me to you don't want meto be homeless.
Go. Can you spare a couple of
dollars? Right?
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That's crazy. That's insane.
But that's what happens again, sometimes they do come back
because they need a place to saystay.
They need a place to stay. They need some shelter.
They need food, water and shelter.
They can't do it on their own. They're super dependent.
So sometimes they'll come back into your life just because they
need something from you. Very, yeah, very rarely is it
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because they love you and they care about you and they, they
regret what they've done to you.Most times there ain't most
times they're going to come backinto your life because they need
something from you. It's it's always, almost always
going to be a transactional reason as to why they come back.
They're not just to come back for the the kindness of their
own heart. You know what?
I don't want nothing from you. I just love you, girl, and I
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want you back. I just.
Love you boy, and I want you back.
I want my boob back. I just want my boob back.
I don't want anything from you except another chance.
Very rare. And they might say that, but do
they actually mean that, right? They might say that, but it
actually actually mean that, right?
That's crazy right here. And she said I have BPD, broke
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over him three times because he changed.
When I walked away and went backto him, he said he's already
dating. Yeah.
They only like you keep coming in and out.
I don't like that. Now move on quick.
I can't have you coming in and out of my life even though I'm
not, even though I'm not changing.
You know, if you're dealing witha person like this, this is
something you have to consider. Y'all seriously?
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Now? I know it's a tough thing, but
this is what goes on right here,y'all.
So sometimes another reason why some of these toxic bastards
will come back is because y'all,they do want them.
They, they might want to clap some cheeks, right?
They might want to clap some cheeks.
They might absolutely want to clap some cheeks.
They might miss the buns. They might miss the miss what
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y'all used to do and then come back and, and come back and
sleep with you while they're simultaneously sleeping with
somebody else and you know it. So now they do that type of
stuff sometimes, sometimes y'allwill.
You absolutely know what they'redoing.
You'll hear about it and you won't care.
Just like, well, I just need, I have needs too.
I got my knees now. I don't care if I don't care if
I'm playing second field. They want to make you sometimes
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they'll make you the side person, right?
They'll make you the side personto their new relationship.
Like they were cheating on you, left you for somebody else, left
you for this side person and nowthey're making you the side
person. You sign and you will or will
you willfully do it. You know what I'm saying?
They'd be having out here looking silly as hair like you.
You decide peace to your ex-husband.
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You still fucking your? Ex-wife when she moved, she she.
She engaged somebody else that be happening.
They be happening they be happening Y'all know it right
and they and something like that.
I've heard yeah, I've heard these stories before.
Well, they well, they let like the narcissist was cheating,
left them for the new supply, married the new supply, cheated
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on the new supply with them, gotthem pregnant and still had a
baby outside their new their newaffair marriage.
Ain't that crazy as hell. The narcissist cheated on you,
left you for somebody else, thenstarted cheating with you, got
you pregnant and you had a baby outside their marriage.
I was like, what? The heck what?
It's like Leo was in a differentplace then I was in a different
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place. It's just that now, now the new
supply angry at me because I gota baby, even though she knew I
existed when she was cheating with my man.
Now she's mad at me because of Herman, who was my man, got me
pregnant and that we raising thebaby together.
And I don't I don't want her around the baby and my husband,
my ex-husband still come over here still fucking me.
And then I was like, Oh my goodness, what are we doing?
Y'all? They'd be making my head hurt.
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Like what are we doing? What are we doing here?
Like what's what's what we doing?
Seriously, what are we doing? What we doing is these cross
lies raising the brazing babies in this crazy ass shit.
That's wild. That's wild.
I'm like my head y'all be like, yeah, I'm telling you I'm not
here Be hurry. I'm like, yeah, what are we?
What are we doing? Here, you see what I'm saying?
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I literally asked the question, what are we?
What? What are we doing?
You mean that make somebody saidthat makes them important to
women fighting over their lame ass.
Don't do it like Oh yeah, they make them.
They make them feel super important.
Look how look at me. I ain't got, look, I ain't got
two. I ain't got 2 nickels to rub
together. But I got two women fighting
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over me. I have literally 2 nick.
I have two nickels to rub together.
But I got, look, I got more women fighting over me then I
got nickels to rub together. I let I let that joke sit with
y'all for a second. I got more women fighting over
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me then I got dollars. In my pocket?
That's crazy. I got more.
Women fighting over me. Then I got Dimes.
To rub the. They're pennies to rub together.
That's wild. Yeah, I'll be scrapping fighting
for that bum that much. I'll be fighting for that bum.
Like this is my. Bum get off, get him back, give
him back. Give me this.
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Give me this is my bum. Give him back to me.
Give him bike right now. Give him bike.
I've heard it so many times. I've really heard it so many
times. So I'm like, yeah, what are we
fighting over? You know, I try to, I try to be
judgmental, y'all, but I'm like,look, if this is your friend
fighting over a bum, what would you say?
I'll tell Lily. A bum alone.
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Do you get it? Why is he still living with me,
sleeping in living room for fourmonths, but spending money on me
instead of with his New Girl whoI think may be pregnant?
No, we don't clap cheeks. No, so and I have no and so
that's why he right there. So now it's like he he's still
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in his space right now. Now he think he can have this
dual, dual life. I have this woman at home that I
live with, but I also have this other girl that I'm paying for.
You know what I'm saying? That's how narcissistic people
like to trap you. They like to have these
situations where they that you financially depend on them.
So they can trap you, right. They'll absolutely feel like
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make you feel like you're trapped in here like you can't
deal with you can't leave me. So you have to put up with the
shit I'm doing. You have no incomes.
You get you have to put up with what I'm saying.
You can't just leave me. So you have to understand that I
got a baby on the way and you got to stay here.
Where you going to go? You know what I'm saying?
Yeah. And if I know a bum, yeah y'all
got to stop playing and come back there because these these
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guys are looking for women with good jobs to live off of a Yeah,
It that be happening. Y'all that was saying like y'all
I heard it like it's a it's a it's damn near a tail as old as
time. Like these bum ass people that
have literally nothing to offer you then some sex just be
ruining y'all lives. It'd be ruining your life.
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You'd be cutting your Mama. Daddy friends off.
For a fucking bum. And they'd be blowing my mind.
Like what are we doing? Everybody cut off with this bum,
this bum man, this bum woman, this bum person be cutting
everybody off and now you alone.Now they leave you for somebody.
Else now you alone, like my friends, turn on me, you turn on
your. Friends.
You turn on your. Friends.
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My friends turn on me, don't want to talk to me no more
because who I'm dealing with. You turn on them now you mad I
don't want to talk. Anymore I wouldn't talk to you
more either. You turn on.
Me for this bump. No, no, no.
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But as we yeah, I'm just tellingyou this, what goes on in a lot
of these hot relationship dynamics, this is the space that
so many people fall into repeatedly over and over again.
You're speaking to me. Yeah.
We got to wake up, man. We literally have to wake up
because sometimes a narcissist will come back to you just
because they think you're open to it.
They'll come back to you just because their their new partner
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left them. The new supply broke up with
them and now they have nowhere to go.
So they come back to you. They just come back to you.
Look, I know things didn't end the.
Way I would have wanted. Them to I know I.
Left you for somebody else? But they keep look.
I know I cheated on you, but they cheated on me and they
kicked me out knowing I had nowhere.
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To go and now. You know I have nowhere to go
and you won't let me. Come back.
Wow, you. Really are evil.
That's why I was cheating. See, You really are evil.
You had no heart. I cheated you.
I cheated on you and left you, but you can't have the heart and
let me come back. What about the Bible?
The. Bible say about forgiveness.
You going to leave me out here in the cold?
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I'm needy, I'm needy. I'm one of God.
'S children, I'm needy. Sorry, y'all, I get carried
away, but that's going on right there.
That be that that's what be happening.
I want y'all to wake up and justunderstand that people out here
don't have the they do. They do not have your best
intentions in their hearts. I promise you that they they
that they do not like. They don't have your best
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intention at heart. They just want you to suffer.
They want to talk. They want to come back and get
you. I've been called Lilith.
Oh, Lord of mercy. Oh, Lord of mercy.
When mine heads to his ex, I'll be dropping off his things and
driving the vehicle home. It's in my name.
Everything's in my name because you left me to be responsible.
Oh, goodness. He'd be mad as hell.
He was mad as hell. You.
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Taking my car, you know I'm gonna.
Get to work. You take my car.
Wow. Wow.
You know it's my only car. Wow, wow, wow.
You gonna do me like? That yeah, the tears farted gas
like that. Wow.
Damn you gonna? Take my car.
Shit, I ain't got nowhere. To go.
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You know I ain't got nowhere to go.
You knew I You knew I ain't got nowhere to go.
You gonna do me like this? Wow.
I thought you really. I thought you cared.
I thought you wouldn't like me. You probably nothing like me.
You worse than I am. I would never do you like this.
Never. I would never do you like this.
I would never do. Do you like you?
Do with me. Wow y'all.
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That's what. That's what karma look like
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Boom. Why do narcissists almost always
return after they discard you? Why do they keep coming back?
Why can't they just leave you the hell alone once they
discard? You.
Like they are the ones that end the relationship.
They are the ones that leave you.
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They are the ones that break up with you or file for divorce or
leave you for somebody else. Why the hell do they keep coming
back after they are the ones that ended it?
Why? That's what we're talking about
today, y'all. Of course, if you're new here,
I'm Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist
myself and we just going to hop.Right into it.
I'm here to give you the inside look at the mind of a
(00:43):
narcissist. Sorry, Yeah, got a comment right
here that says they need money, a place to stay, another round
the game of life, Cheek clapping, their side piece
dumped them and the other ones on vacation with her real
boyfriend that cheated on you with your ex.
Yeah. So that right there could
definitely happen, right? That right there could
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definitely happen. What is going on and what is
going on? Jalisa, what's up?
What's up? What's up?
Yes, the main reason why a lot of narcissists and toxic people
refuse to leave you alone once they discard you is because they
feel like you belong to them. You are mine.
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I own you, not me personally. That's how the narcissist there
in your life thinks. They think that because y'all
have shared bodily fluids, y'allhave dated, y'all have been in
love before y'all were married or divorced or whatever the case
may be. They think you are you belong to
them, that you have your ownership papers like your your
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papers, your your driver's license.
If you flip that thing over on the back, it says property of
this narcissistic toxic bastard.That's what the back of it says.
The front has your name and address on it.
The back has all of the other stuff on it, right?
The back has everything else on it.
That's what goes on right there.Y'all, what's going on Lisa?
How you doing girl? This is what goes on.
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I'm just telling you, they thinkthat you belong to them.
Just because I ended with you does not mean I am done with
you. It does not mean that I'm
finished with you. It does not mean that it's
absolutely over. It just means I'm pushing pause
on this section of the relationship, this section of
the relationship, y'all? That's what that's what it
means. That's what it could mean to a
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lot of narcissistic people, right?
I'm just pushing pause on what we have going on right now.
Nothing that nothing more, nothing less.
And this is what you're going toencounter the more you deal with
a toxic narcissistic person. Like who's it?
That sounds like my baby daddy. I bet it does.
Your baby daddy probably think because we have a baby together.
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Glenda, you belong to me you don't get to move on.
Yes, I have 4 kids by four otherpeople.
Yes I cheated on you and had three kids three of those kids
while we were together. Yes I left you for the 4th 1:00
but you don't get to move on because you belong to me now.
How dare you think otherwise? How dare you think you get to
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move on and live your life to the fullest.
How dare you? That's what that's.
Literally the way it goes, I'm telling you, that's the mindset,
that's the mentality of a lot oftoxic, abusive, narcissistic
people. They think that because we've
shared anything before, you belong to me.
And I hate that there's so many people that have to deal with
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that, right? I hate that when you when you
deal with this person or you're trying to heal and you're trying
to leave them alone, like they break up with you, right?
They like they abruptly end yourrelationship.
They abruptly break up with you.They out of out of nowhere, they
suddenly break up with you. And then when you.
Finally start. To heal your Your heart is
broken. You.
It came out of nowhere. They ghosted you.
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Now look, now you're finally starting to heal and guess what?
This toxic bastard calls you. This toxic bastard texts you.
This toxic bastard decides that they missed you and they they
were just thinking about you. They after they broke.
You down and. Try to do this.
They after they broke you down piece by piece, they decided to
come back and try to After they destroyed you, they want to
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check in on you to make sure that you're OK.
How crazy is that sound right there?
How crazy is that? After they destroyed you, they
want to check in on you. After they broke you down, they
want to check. In I just wanted to make sure
hey, hey, Kirsten, I just wantedto make sure that you were OK.
I just wanted to check in and make sure you're doing OK.
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I know things between us didn't end the best.
I just wanted to make sure that you all right, That's it.
That's it. I ain't I ain't want I ain't
want nothing. I just want to check in or
you're still just because we're not together no more don't mean
I don't care about you don't mean I don't worry about you
like right. That's that's not what that
means right there. That's not what that.
Means that's exactly what that means right there y'all.
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So a lot of times narcissists return returns after they
discard you because they think you belong to them and also
y'all, they want to make sure that they still have some type
of access to you. I want to make sure that the
door or the window or the the back door, whatever is still
open for me if and when I decideto come back.
If and when I decide to come back into your life, I want to
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make sure that that door is possibly still open for me.
I, I do. Who said this right here?
Amy said we were shelved. Yep.
Put you on the shelf. They put you on the shelf for
later just in case I find somebody new that fits me
better. I'm putting you on the shelf.
I'm placing you on the shelf forlater, just in case I find
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someone new. Just in case this new person
that I'm dealing with doesn't work out.
I want to be. Able to come back.
Amy, I miss you. Amy I want Amy.
I want my family back. Amy I can't believe I made a
mistake. Amy, did you?
Know what I'm saying? They want to have the ability to
do that right there. They want to have the ability to
try to come back into your life,become disruptive, become
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destructive, and possibly leave again.
I will say this right here. Y'all, if they come into your
life, if they, if they're comingin and out of your life and you
let them, they're going to keep doing it.
If you if they leave you for somebody else and you take them
back, they're going to leave youfor somebody else again later
on. What's going to go?
Like seriously, I'm not trying to hurt anybody's feelings, but
in a lot of times in the in the mind of a narcissist job, it's
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like this. What you allowed me to do is
what I'm going to do. Simply put, whatever I feel like
you allowed me to do, I'm going to do regardless of how you
feel, regardless of what's goingon.
Whatever I feel like you allowedme to do, I'm absolutely going
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to do regardless. I don't care what you have to
say. I don't care what's going on.
Whatever you say have to do, whatever you say is going on.
Y'all my officer right by the Police Department out and it is
just killing me. It'd be blowing by.
It'd be blowing by or whatnot, just constantly.
But who commented this? Like I said, yes.
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Another reason why they return after they discard you because
they might need money, they might be broke.
If look, if you have look, OK, yeah, If you have a bum
narcissistic person that you've been taking care of for years
for you've been taking care of this narcissistic bastard for
years, right? And they leave you with somebody
(07:28):
else. And it's like if they if you've
been taking the care of this narcissistic bastard for years
and they leave you for somebody else and then they get kicked
out or they get broken up with, or they're still with the
person, they might ask you for money.
Like, wow, you going to really let me suffer out here?
You really going to let me suffer?
You know I need you know I ain'tworked in 40 years because of
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you. You going to let me suffer?
After they broke up with you, after they left you, they come
back asking you for money, right?
They come back asking you for some type of financial
assistance. Look, I just need a little to
get in my feet with the new withmy new Boo.
We looking for a place and I I know you still love me.
You want me to you don't want meto be homeless.
Go. Can you spare a couple of
dollars? Right?
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That's crazy. That's insane.
But that's what happens again, sometimes they do come back
because they need a place to saystay.
They need a place to stay. They need some shelter.
They need food, water and shelter.
They can't do it on their own. They're super dependent.
So sometimes they'll come back into your life just because they
need something from you. Very, yeah, very rarely is it
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because they love you and they care about you and they, they
regret what they've done to you.Most times there ain't most
times they're going to come backinto your life because they need
something from you. It's it's always, almost always
going to be a transactional reason as to why they come back.
They're not just to come back for the the kindness of their
own heart. You know what?
I don't want nothing from you. I just love you, girl, and I
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want you back. I just.
Love you boy, and I want you back.
I want my boob back. I just want my boob back.
I don't want anything from you except another chance.
Very rare. And they might say that, but do
they actually mean that, right? They might say that, but it
actually actually mean that, right?
That's crazy right here. And she said I have BPD, broke
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over him three times because he changed.
When I walked away and went backto him, he said he's already
dating. Yeah.
They only like you keep coming in and out.
I don't like that. Now move on quick.
I can't have you coming in and out of my life even though I'm
not, even though I'm not changing.
You know, if you're dealing witha person like this, this is
something you have to consider. Y'all seriously?
(09:35):
Now? I know it's a tough thing, but
this is what goes on right here,y'all.
So sometimes another reason why some of these toxic bastards
will come back is because y'all,they do want them.
They, they might want to clap some cheeks, right?
They might want to clap some cheeks.
They might absolutely want to clap some cheeks.
They might miss the buns. They might miss the miss what
(09:57):
y'all used to do and then come back and, and come back and
sleep with you while they're simultaneously sleeping with
somebody else and you know it. So now they do that type of
stuff sometimes, sometimes y'allwill.
You absolutely know what they'redoing.
You'll hear about it and you won't care.
Just like, well, I just need, I have needs too.
I got my knees now. I don't care if I don't care if
I'm playing second field. They want to make you sometimes
(10:18):
they'll make you the side person, right?
They'll make you the side personto their new relationship.
Like they were cheating on you, left you for somebody else, left
you for this side person and nowthey're making you the side
person. You sign and you will or will
you willfully do it. You know what I'm saying?
They'd be having out here looking silly as hair like you.
You decide peace to your ex-husband.
(10:40):
You still fucking your? Ex-wife when she moved, she she.
She engaged somebody else that be happening.
They be happening they be happening Y'all know it right
and they and something like that.
I've heard yeah, I've heard these stories before.
Well, they well, they let like the narcissist was cheating,
left them for the new supply, married the new supply, cheated
(11:03):
on the new supply with them, gotthem pregnant and still had a
baby outside their new their newaffair marriage.
Ain't that crazy as hell. The narcissist cheated on you,
left you for somebody else, thenstarted cheating with you, got
you pregnant and you had a baby outside their marriage.
I was like, what? The heck what?
It's like Leo was in a differentplace then I was in a different
(11:25):
place. It's just that now, now the new
supply angry at me because I gota baby, even though she knew I
existed when she was cheating with my man.
Now she's mad at me because of Herman, who was my man, got me
pregnant and that we raising thebaby together.
And I don't I don't want her around the baby and my husband,
my ex-husband still come over here still fucking me.
And then I was like, Oh my goodness, what are we doing?
Y'all? They'd be making my head hurt.
(11:47):
Like what are we doing? What are we doing here?
Like what's what's what we doing?
Seriously, what are we doing? What we doing is these cross
lies raising the brazing babies in this crazy ass shit.
That's wild. That's wild.
I'm like my head y'all be like, yeah, I'm telling you I'm not
here Be hurry. I'm like, yeah, what are we?
What are we doing? Here, you see what I'm saying?
(12:09):
I literally asked the question, what are we?
What? What are we doing?
You mean that make somebody saidthat makes them important to
women fighting over their lame ass.
Don't do it like Oh yeah, they make them.
They make them feel super important.
Look how look at me. I ain't got, look, I ain't got
two. I ain't got 2 nickels to rub
together. But I got two women fighting
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over me. I have literally 2 nick.
I have two nickels to rub together.
But I got, look, I got more women fighting over me then I
got nickels to rub together. I let I let that joke sit with
y'all for a second. I got more women fighting over
(12:51):
me then I got dollars. In my pocket?
That's crazy. I got more.
Women fighting over me. Then I got Dimes.
To rub the. They're pennies to rub together.
That's wild. Yeah, I'll be scrapping fighting
for that bum that much. I'll be fighting for that bum.
Like this is my. Bum get off, get him back, give
him back. Give me this.
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Give me this is my bum. Give him back to me.
Give him bike right now. Give him bike.
I've heard it so many times. I've really heard it so many
times. So I'm like, yeah, what are we
fighting over? You know, I try to, I try to be
judgmental, y'all, but I'm like,look, if this is your friend
fighting over a bum, what would you say?
I'll tell Lily. A bum alone.
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Do you get it? Why is he still living with me,
sleeping in living room for fourmonths, but spending money on me
instead of with his New Girl whoI think may be pregnant?
No, we don't clap cheeks. No, so and I have no and so
that's why he right there. So now it's like he he's still
(13:55):
in his space right now. Now he think he can have this
dual, dual life. I have this woman at home that I
live with, but I also have this other girl that I'm paying for.
You know what I'm saying? That's how narcissistic people
like to trap you. They like to have these
situations where they that you financially depend on them.
So they can trap you, right. They'll absolutely feel like
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make you feel like you're trapped in here like you can't
deal with you can't leave me. So you have to put up with the
shit I'm doing. You have no incomes.
You get you have to put up with what I'm saying.
You can't just leave me. So you have to understand that I
got a baby on the way and you got to stay here.
Where you going to go? You know what I'm saying?
Yeah. And if I know a bum, yeah y'all
got to stop playing and come back there because these these
(14:35):
guys are looking for women with good jobs to live off of a Yeah,
It that be happening. Y'all that was saying like y'all
I heard it like it's a it's a it's damn near a tail as old as
time. Like these bum ass people that
have literally nothing to offer you then some sex just be
ruining y'all lives. It'd be ruining your life.
(14:56):
You'd be cutting your Mama. Daddy friends off.
For a fucking bum. And they'd be blowing my mind.
Like what are we doing? Everybody cut off with this bum,
this bum man, this bum woman, this bum person be cutting
everybody off and now you alone.Now they leave you for somebody.
Else now you alone, like my friends, turn on me, you turn on
your. Friends.
You turn on your. Friends.
(15:17):
My friends turn on me, don't want to talk to me no more
because who I'm dealing with. You turn on them now you mad I
don't want to talk. Anymore I wouldn't talk to you
more either. You turn on.
Me for this bump. No, no, no.
(15:40):
But as we yeah, I'm just tellingyou this, what goes on in a lot
of these hot relationship dynamics, this is the space that
so many people fall into repeatedly over and over again.
You're speaking to me. Yeah.
We got to wake up, man. We literally have to wake up
because sometimes a narcissist will come back to you just
because they think you're open to it.
They'll come back to you just because their their new partner
(16:02):
left them. The new supply broke up with
them and now they have nowhere to go.
So they come back to you. They just come back to you.
Look, I know things didn't end the.
Way I would have wanted. Them to I know I.
Left you for somebody else? But they keep look.
I know I cheated on you, but they cheated on me and they
kicked me out knowing I had nowhere.
(16:24):
To go and now. You know I have nowhere to go
and you won't let me. Come back.
Wow, you. Really are evil.
That's why I was cheating. See, You really are evil.
You had no heart. I cheated you.
I cheated on you and left you, but you can't have the heart and
let me come back. What about the Bible?
The. Bible say about forgiveness.
You going to leave me out here in the cold?
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I'm needy, I'm needy. I'm one of God.
'S children, I'm needy. Sorry, y'all, I get carried
away, but that's going on right there.
That be that that's what be happening.
I want y'all to wake up and justunderstand that people out here
don't have the they do. They do not have your best
intentions in their hearts. I promise you that they they
that they do not like. They don't have your best
(17:06):
intention at heart. They just want you to suffer.
They want to talk. They want to come back and get
you. I've been called Lilith.
Oh, Lord of mercy. Oh, Lord of mercy.
When mine heads to his ex, I'll be dropping off his things and
driving the vehicle home. It's in my name.
Everything's in my name because you left me to be responsible.
Oh, goodness. He'd be mad as hell.
He was mad as hell. You.
(17:27):
Taking my car, you know I'm gonna.
Get to work. You take my car.
Wow. Wow.
You know it's my only car. Wow, wow, wow.
You gonna do me like? That yeah, the tears farted gas
like that. Wow.
Damn you gonna? Take my car.
Shit, I ain't got nowhere. To go.
(17:47):
You know I ain't got nowhere to go.
You knew I You knew I ain't got nowhere to go.
You gonna do me like this? Wow.
I thought you really. I thought you cared.
I thought you wouldn't like me. You probably nothing like me.
You worse than I am. I would never do you like this.
Never. I would never do you like this.
I would never do. Do you like you?
Do with me. Wow y'all.
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Y'all boom you said fine. Thanks for what you do.
(18:54):
Appreciate it. I'm putting that work in.
Seek peace, not chaos. Absolutely.
It's called karma and we don't care.
Yeah, you got to give them that karma, y'all?
Sometimes karma means leaving these these stinking asses out
in the cold after they've done you wrong.
That's what. That's what karma look like
sometimes, right? Karma mean leaving them out
there, not picking the phone up,not giving them somewhere a warm
place to stay after they've donesomething horrible to you,
(19:16):
right? Anyway, y'all, I got some videos
I need to record. The podcast is launching.
I got 6 episodes recorded for the podcast.
Y'all. I'm so excited about the
podcast. This channel is transitioning to
a podcast channel, y'all. I'm still going to be doing
narcissist content, but mainly podcast stuff is coming soon,
y'all, Mainly podcast stuff is going to be over here.
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