September 15, 2025 • 27 mins
Ready to transform your midlife wellness journey with practical, powerful strategies that actually work? This episode delivers a comprehensive roadmap for creating sustainable change through mindful movement, emotional freedom, and simple daily pleasures.
Step into my world as I share exciting news about my wellness and nutrition coach certifications, plus advanced courses in GLP-1 and massive weight loss through NASM. I break down my current gym routine—a carefully structured weekly plan balancing strength training, cardiovascular exercise, recovery periods, and nutrition that's bringing real results without feeling punishing or overwhelming.
Discover four game-changing mindset tricks that have carried me through three years of successful weight loss. Learn how reframing setbacks as valuable feedback rather than failures transforms your relationship with progress. I'll coach you through recognizing cravings for what they truly are—your brain seeking dopamine—and developing practical "if-then" plans that eliminate decision fatigue when challenges arise.
The episode takes a powerful turn when we explore the hidden "manuals" we unconsciously create for relationships. These unspoken expectations often lead to disappointment and frustration when others don't follow our invisible scripts. I'll guide you through identifying these patterns and reclaiming your emotional freedom by replacing control with healthy boundaries.
Your skin's radiance begins in your gut! I share my personal experience with functional medicine testing that revealed candida overgrowth and food sensitivities affecting my skin. Learn why avoiding raw foods after 4pm dramatically improves digestion and complexion, plus the specific probiotic strain that transformed my skin health.
We close with delightful ways to "romanticize" your wellness journey—simple practices like drinking morning coffee from vintage teacups or serving berries in crystal dishes that transform ordinary moments into meaningful rituals. These small touches of luxury and mindfulness elevate self-care from mere functionality to true pleasure.
Leave a positive review to help other midlife women discover these transformative strategies, and join me on Instagram, Facebook, Threads, TikTok, and jackstyescom to continue the conversation!
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Speaker 1 (01:02):
Well, hello everyone.
Welcome back to the MidlifeGlobe Report.
I'm Jax.
I'm so glad you're here today.
This week has been a great week, a big week.
I officially enrolled in mywellness coach certification and
nutrition coach certification,plus two advanced courses of
GLP-1 and massive weight lossthrough NASM.
(01:25):
So it's going to be an intensenext four to six months, about
10 to 15 hours a week for therest of the year and maybe
beyond.
But I am so committed and Ican't wait to bring you all the
knowledge back here online andon the podcast to share with you
all online and on the podcastto share with you all.
(01:46):
So in today's episode I'm goingto take you inside my current
gym and wellness routine, sharefour powerful mindset tricks
that have carried me throughweight loss the last three years
.
Coach you on throwing away themanuals we secretly write for
our relationships.
Give you some skincare tipsthat ties directly to your gut
(02:11):
health and, of course, we'llwrap up with a couple of fun
romantic little touches to makeyour glow-up journey feel extra
special.
So let's dive in.
So, again to circle back, I didpurchase those two certification
programs wellness and nutritioncoach certification.
(02:32):
I've already started thewellness.
That's the first step.
I've gotten through fourchapters.
I'm on chapter five.
I do them downtime, I do themin the evenings, I do them early
mornings.
I you know I do wake up atabout 4 am every morning.
On the weekends I really packin hours of doing the
(02:56):
certification.
At least that's what I did thispast weekend.
So I'm really excited about it.
I'm really interested in whatI'm going to learn and what I
can bring to all of you, what Ican bring to the table and, you
know, just expand my knowledgeand what I can apply to myself,
(03:16):
since I am still on a weightloss journey.
So I'm very excited.
So that's coming along.
Also, I did sign back up forthe gym and I'm hitting the gym.
I do have a routine that Iplanned out, so I will give a
little bit of it right here,right now.
(03:39):
So, monday mornings I wake upearly.
I do not go to the gym.
On Mondays, I use the vibrationplates and I do walk for 45
minutes before work.
And then, tuesdays, I wake upearly, I use the vibration plate
, I go to the gym at 5 am, I dolegs and glutes, I do HIIT for
(04:00):
15 to 20 minutes and then I usethe sauna for 10 to 15 minutes.
I come home, have some water,have some protein and then I go
for a walk for 30 minutes.
So it's probably a packed-inmorning on Tuesdays.
Wednesdays is my gym off day.
I do do a walk for 45 minutesand use the vibration plates in
(04:22):
the morning.
Thursdays I again hit the gymat 5 am.
I do upper body.
This day I use the HIIT for 15,20 minutes and then do the
sauna and then I come home havesome protein and go for a walk
for about 30 minutes.
Friday I wake, I do not go tothe gym, I use the vibration
plate and walk for 45 minutes.
(04:43):
Saturday is I go to the gym at 5am.
I do legs and glutes.
I do HIIT for walk for 45minutes.
Saturday is I go to the gym At5 am.
I do legs and glutes.
I do HIIT for 15, 20 minutes.
I use the sauna vibration plate.
When I come home have someprotein with fiber I forgot to
mention that I always pack infiber with the protein and then
I walk for 30 minutes.
Sunday again I go to the gym 5am.
(05:04):
I do upper body HIIT for 15, 20minutes, sauna for 10 to 15
minutes, come home, use thevibration plate and in the
afternoon, on Sundays, I walkfor 45 minutes.
And I do make sure my diet isin check.
I eat a lot of fiber, a lot ofprotein, so yeah and healthy
(05:24):
fats.
So that's where I'm at rightnow.
I have done this routine thelast one and a half 10 days it's
been, so I am sticking to it.
We'll see how long that lasts,fingers crossed.
If I need to make adjustments,you know, if I'm under the
weather, just really not feelingup to it, or if I have too much
to do, then I will make thenecessary adjustments.
(05:46):
But I will definitely try toget to the gym at least four
days a week.
So that is my gym routine.
Okay, the next segment iscovering some weight loss
mindset tricks I have developedover the last three years on my
weight loss journey.
They've been super helpful, soI'll share them here with you so
(06:08):
maybe you could apply them toyourself if you are on a weight
loss journey.
So the first one is reframingsetbacks as feedback, not
failure.
So, like, every slip up hassome sort of data to provide
what worked, what didn't andwhat needs adjusting.
So just taking that failure andflipping it and using it as
(06:32):
knowledge and some sort of datato apply to the next time, to
improve.
So, instead of feeling guilty,I always ask what can I learn
from this?
What can I take away from this?
So progress is not linear.
Feedback loops keep you movingforward.
So always gain some sort ofknowledge, some sort of feedback
(06:57):
from a mistake or a setback.
Next is I name my cravings whenI crave something.
Next is I name my cravings whenI crave something, and I'll be
honest, I don't crave sweets, Icrave salty, you know savory.
When I crave something, I callit what it is, that it is my
brain is chasing a dopamine hit.
(07:19):
That's what it is when youcrave something and you're not
literally hungry and you caneventually feel the difference
if you are mindful with yourself.
That is a dopamine hit.
You just want to feed yourbrain.
So that's what I call it.
I separate me from the cravingand I say to myself this is a
(07:40):
dopamine hit.
And so I say it out loud.
I pause and I just say it outloud instead of actually just
going at it and reacting andeating those tortilla chips or
those potato chips.
So, yeah, I name when cravingsarise, I ride the urge.
(08:05):
I don't divulge in it, I don'tdo the action.
So I'll drink water or I will,uh, look at social media and
look at my friends and my thepeople that I follow and I'll
make comments on social mediaand I'll like their posts and
(08:27):
maybe I'll go.
There is a one app I use thatis a learning app and I will
start going through somelearning information on that app
.
They do highlight certain booksand whatnot, so it's a quick
learning and I get a dopaminehits, a positive dopamine hits,
from that learning.
So I ride the cravings, I ridethe urge and I don't do the
(08:53):
action of the urge, but I rideit till they leave, till they're
over with.
I do deep breathing, I drinkwater, I go social media, I'll
learn something, I'll listen toan audio book, and it's till it
passes.
So this is not when I'm hungry,this is when I'm just having an
(09:14):
urge, so I write it.
Finally, let's see here I useif-then plans so I create
automatic responses for toughmoments.
So if I'm having a craving, Idrink water.
This has the same thing to dowith writing the urge.
I have preset ideas to prohibitdecision fatigue.
(09:40):
So if I'm going to get an urge,my go-to is to grab my big
40-ounce water bottle and justhave some sips and just sit in
the moment and then or I will,if I'm at home, I will go on the
walking pad too.
So I have reactions to the urge, I have use.
(10:03):
If, then plans, if I have acraving, then I do this.
So you have them in your mind.
You don't have to think whatcan I do?
I'm having a craving, or I dothat craving, I actually do the
actual action and I eat thosechips.
(10:24):
I have an if and then then planalready preset in my mind.
So if I'm at work and it'slunchtime and I want something
not healthy because I didn'tpack, I have a backup plan.
I have my go-tos.
I go get my unsandwiched fromJimmy John's, which is a
(10:48):
sandwich wrapped in lettuce withvegetables and protein.
Or I go to Core Life, which Iknow it's all antibiotic-free.
Or I go to Core Life, which Iknow it's all antibiotic-free
grass-fed beef, all organicvegetables, and I get something
from Core Life.
So I have my go-tos.
So my reaction to that craving.
(11:12):
So those are my four mindsettips.
Okay, so now I'm going to touchinto a life coaching segment.
This has to do with us asindividuals, having manuals for
our relationships, for thepeople in our lives, having set
(11:33):
manuals, set expectations ofthose people in our lives.
So we all carry invisiblemanuals for people in our lives.
They are kind of unspoken rulesabout how these people in our
lives should act.
Examples should be like heshould always text me back right
(11:56):
away, or my kids should visitevery Sunday, or my friends
should remember my birthdayevery year.
These are manuals, expectationswe carry.
When people don't follow ourmanuals, we often make it mean
(12:18):
like they don't care about us,that they don't respect us and
that they don't value us.
But that is not the case.
Manuals feel comfortable to thebrain because they create
predictability.
That's why we have manuals.
It's the predictability.
It's just like this is what'sgoing to happen.
But they are not real.
(12:39):
Manuals are not real.
So you have to remember thatother adults get to make their
own choices, just like we do.
Trying to control them createsa frustration and a distance
between you and them.
You cannot control others.
So freedom comes when we stoptying our happiness to whether
(13:06):
others follow our script.
So that's our freedom as wellas their freedom.
We can't expect them to followour manual, our script.
So we have to remember midlifeis a crucial time to release
manuals.
We're reinventing ourselves inmidlife and waiting on others'
(13:29):
approval just keeps us stuck.
Your value, progress and worthdon't depend on someone else
recognizing them.
You get to decide what's trueabout you.
You have to have the shift from, instead of controlling others,
to leading yourself in midlife.
(13:54):
Boundaries aren't aboutcontrolling someone else's
behaviors, so you need to setboundaries.
That's what you should do, nota manual, and it's not about
controlling someone else'sbehaviors.
Boundaries, they're aboutdeciding what you will do if
this line is crossed.
This is a boundary, not amanual, and you need to ask
(14:18):
yourself what do I want to think, feel and do in this situation,
instead of spinning infrustration?
So a practical step you cantake is notice whose behavior
you want to change and writedown your secret manual rules.
Write them down and then askwhy do I want them to act this
(14:42):
way?
What am I making it mean?
Reclaim your power by remindingyourself my feelings come from
my thoughts, not this person'sactions.
Letting go of manuals createlighter, freer relationships.
People will start to feel safewith you, not judged or tested.
(15:08):
The result more genuine love,deeper connections and more
peace in your own life.
So again, here is the journalexercise, this practice you can
do, to explore these manuals youhave and maybe put an end to
them.
Write down one manual rule youhave for someone in your life
(15:31):
Maybe it's your partner or yourchild, or a parent or a sibling
or a friend and ask yourselfwhat am I making it mean when
they don't follow this?
What am I making it mean?
And journal it and then rewriteit.
As I'm responsible for myfeelings, I choose to feel blank
(15:57):
this today, no matter what.
So I choose to feel light andhappy today, no matter what.
So you are responsible.
Your feelings, not this otherperson's actions.
This other person's actions arenot responsible for your
feelings.
Only you are responsible foryour feelings.
(16:18):
So you do this, you know, dailyfor a week and notice the shift
.
You'll feel lighter, freer andmore in control, not of them,
but of yourself, and this iswhere your true power lies.
Okay, so next segment is this isjust a really quick skincare
tip that I read in a book Aboutthree years ago and I have
(16:43):
totally applied to myself and ittotally makes sense, so I'm
going to share it with you.
It's um, so I don't have anyraw foods after 4 pm In the
afternoon.
You know raw vegetables, sushi,things like that.
Most you know I don't have anyraw foods.
Raw foods are harder on thebody to break down.
It is best to give them time todigest and eating them at four
(17:06):
o'clock is not going to bedigested by the time you sleep.
So I only eat raw foods before4 pm, when your metabolism is
fired up and your stomach isbetter equipped to digest foods.
Now the reason is why I'm soconcerned with stomach and
digestion is because it's nowunderstood that your gut biome
(17:32):
has a lot to do with your skinhealth.
That's what they have found inresearch and data.
So you want to slow downdigestion and you don't want to
digest a lot of food in yoursleep, which you can't.
So you want to eat all your rawfoods before 4 pm so your body
(17:57):
can digest by the time you go tobed.
Between you know 8, 9, 10, 11o'clock at night.
So that's what I do and that'swhat I practice and I'm telling
you ever since I saw thatfunctional medicine doctor with
the Cleveland Clinic, with theFunctional Medicine Institute,
(18:17):
last year or no, it was thisyear, it was in January and I
saw him and he was so thoroughand he did.
I had about 32 vials of bloodcollected.
He had so many tests orderedand it was found that I had
overgrowth of candida, which isvery common.
(18:37):
But I did have it in my gutbiome and I got a very good
probiotic.
I'll let you know what I take.
I take Florestor, the reasonwhy it has a certain strain that
he has suggested to fight thecandida.
But he has suggested to fightthe candida.
It is called Saccharomycesbolodipine, so Bollardi.
(19:04):
So I totally butchered that.
I apologize, but it's Florestorand you can literally get this
on their website.
That Florestor isF-L-O-R-A-S-T-O-R.
It is such a good probiotic.
My skin has never looked so good, I am telling you.
I don't get breakouts, I have aglow and I just feel so much
(19:27):
better about my skin health eversince I started helping my gut,
eating more healthy.
I got these tests.
I saw what was wrong.
I saw I was allergic to.
I have some sort of issues withbeets just beets, you know,
grown beets, garden beets, justbeets.
You know, grown beets, gardenbeets, b-e-e-t-s beets.
I do not take those.
(19:49):
Well, I have to stay away fromthose.
And the other thing that mybody doesn't do well with is
baker's yeast baker's yeast, sothat cuts out a lot of baking
products.
So yeah, that's what I foundthat my body doesn't do well
with beets and baker's yeast andthat I had an overgrowth of
(20:17):
candida.
So I do suggest if you haveaccess to a functional medicine
doctor, take advantage of it.
Another thing that I'm doing toget my follow-up blood work is
I've been researching and it'squite expensive through the
blood work through my doctor'sinstitute and the hospital
system.
It's quite expensive and Ifound a more affordable way to
get the same blood work andbeyond more tests, and that's
(20:40):
through Function Health.
Now, the stats is sponsored oranything.
I literally believe in functionhealth.
The gentleman who startedfunction health, dr Mark Hyman,
started the Cleveland Institute,cleveland Clinic Functional
Medicine Institute years ago.
He is very knowledgeable, he isthorough and I'm going to get
(21:02):
my blood work done, which isabout $500 a year for over 100
tests of blood work twice a year, which is very reasonable
because I'm telling you, theblood work I had done back in
January cost, you know, with myinsurance and it didn't cover a
lot.
It was over $1,200.
And that was not nearly as muchtests as Function Health does.
(21:26):
So that's where I'm going toget my follow-up blood work done
.
They do review your blood workand let you know what they find.
So you do get feedback.
So it is a really good tool andthat's what I'm going to use.
I'm planning on doing that inOctober.
But so I don't eat raw foods.
I know that I went on a tangent, but I do not eat raw foods
(21:49):
after 4 pm.
That's my skincare tip for theday.
So I have the perfect closingsegment.
This is warm, playful andthings that I got ideas from the
young girlies in their 20s ofromanticizing your life, and I
(22:11):
kind of take a different take onit romanticizing my glow-up
journey.
So doing little actions toromanticize little actions in
life.
And I'll give you two of themthat I actually did this past
week in life.
And I'll give you two of themthat I actually did this past
week.
First, you drink your morningcoffee or tea from a vintage
(22:33):
teacup with a saucer.
So I have some of mygrandmother's teacups and
saucers.
I literally pulled it out of mychina cabinet and there's a
little dust.
I washed it out and I poured acup of espresso in a teacup with
saucer.
I sat at my kitchen table.
(22:54):
I had dim lighting on.
I know you're gonna think I'mcrazy.
I have a TV in my kitchenbecause I watch news, or I watch
TV while I cook, and I had thenews on.
This was early in the morning.
I had the news on this wasearly in the morning.
I had the news on light dimlights, and a teacup and saucer
full of espresso, and it turns asimple ritual into a little
(23:17):
ceremony, making you feelelegant and intentional, which
is exactly what it did.
It signals to your brain thatthis is my moment.
I'm slowing down and savoringlife.
Romanticizing small routineshelp you anchor joy in everyday
habits, and that's what I did.
(23:38):
It's not about the cup.
It's about giving yourselfpermission to feel special daily
.
So this really made me feelspecial.
I felt like a queen.
The other way I romanticized myglow up journey was I had a
crystal little dish that Iusually put candies in.
(23:58):
I had a crystal dish full ofred raspberries on my desk and
it stood there and sat therelike a queen's snack.
It elevates an ordinary snackinto a treat that feels
indulgent and royal.
Every time I reached for theberries, I was reminded that I
(24:21):
deserve beauty and nourishment.
It creates a visual cue ofabundance.
Healthy food can be just asaesthetic as it is functional.
These small touches of luxurymake your glow-up journey fun,
light and delicious.
So, yeah, I had a little crystaldish of red raspberries.
(24:45):
They were firm and fresh.
I bought them from Costco theday before and I sat there
typing away on my blog, pullingeach red raspberry from a
crystal dish, and I just feltlike a queen and it put my mind
in such a different mindset, adifferent feeling, and it felt
(25:07):
amazing.
So I highly suggest you trythese two.
I'll be coming out with more ofthese of how to romanticize
your life and your glow-upjourney now in midlife.
So again, I'm taking this tipfrom the young girlies in their
20s.
This was the big thing I saw onsocial media and I'm applying
(25:29):
it to me in my midlife and Ihighly suggest you do the same.
It feels amazing.
All right, my friends, that's awrap for today's episode of the
Midlife Glow Report.
We've covered a lot, from themindset shifts that make me
going on this weight lossjourney to freeing ourselves in
relationships by throwing awaythose invisible manuals, to
(25:53):
caring for our skin from theinside out and even adding a
touch of magic and vintageteacups and crystal berry bowls.
Remember your glow up isn'tjust about big changes.
Remember your glow up isn'tjust about big changes.
It also is about the littlethings you do daily that make
you feel strong, free and alive.
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Keep showing up for yourself,keep leading with love and keep
writing your own story.
If today's episode inspired you, share it with another midlife
woman who's ready to awaken andglow up right alongside you.
Please leave a positive reviewso other women like you can find
(26:34):
this podcast.
And don't forget, you canalways find me on Instagram,
facebook Threads, tiktok and atjackstyescom and at jackstyescom
.
Until next time, keep glowing,keep growing and never forget
midlife is your time to shine.
Love, jax.
Well, hello everyone.
Welcome back to the MidlifeGlobe Report.
I'm Jax.
I'm so glad you're here today.
This week has been a great week, a big week.
I officially enrolled in mywellness coach certification and
nutrition coach certification,plus two advanced courses of
GLP-1 and massive weight lossthrough NASM.
(01:25):
So it's going to be an intensenext four to six months, about
10 to 15 hours a week for therest of the year and maybe
beyond.
But I am so committed and Ican't wait to bring you all the
knowledge back here online andon the podcast to share with you
all online and on the podcastto share with you all.
(01:46):
So in today's episode I'm goingto take you inside my current
gym and wellness routine, sharefour powerful mindset tricks
that have carried me throughweight loss the last three years
.
Coach you on throwing away themanuals we secretly write for
our relationships.
Give you some skincare tipsthat ties directly to your gut
(02:11):
health and, of course, we'llwrap up with a couple of fun
romantic little touches to makeyour glow-up journey feel extra
special.
So let's dive in.
So, again to circle back, I didpurchase those two certification
programs wellness and nutritioncoach certification.
(02:32):
I've already started thewellness.
That's the first step.
I've gotten through fourchapters.
I'm on chapter five.
I do them downtime, I do themin the evenings, I do them early
mornings.
I you know I do wake up atabout 4 am every morning.
On the weekends I really packin hours of doing the
(02:56):
certification.
At least that's what I did thispast weekend.
So I'm really excited about it.
I'm really interested in whatI'm going to learn and what I
can bring to all of you, what Ican bring to the table and, you
know, just expand my knowledgeand what I can apply to myself,
(03:16):
since I am still on a weightloss journey.
So I'm very excited.
So that's coming along.
Also, I did sign back up forthe gym and I'm hitting the gym.
I do have a routine that Iplanned out, so I will give a
little bit of it right here,right now.
(03:39):
So, monday mornings I wake upearly.
I do not go to the gym.
On Mondays, I use the vibrationplates and I do walk for 45
minutes before work.
And then, tuesdays, I wake upearly, I use the vibration plate
, I go to the gym at 5 am, I dolegs and glutes, I do HIIT for
(04:00):
15 to 20 minutes and then I usethe sauna for 10 to 15 minutes.
I come home, have some water,have some protein and then I go
for a walk for 30 minutes.
So it's probably a packed-inmorning on Tuesdays.
Wednesdays is my gym off day.
I do do a walk for 45 minutesand use the vibration plates in
(04:22):
the morning.
Thursdays I again hit the gymat 5 am.
I do upper body.
This day I use the HIIT for 15,20 minutes and then do the
sauna and then I come home havesome protein and go for a walk
for about 30 minutes.
Friday I wake, I do not go tothe gym, I use the vibration
plate and walk for 45 minutes.
(04:43):
Saturday is I go to the gym at 5am.
I do legs and glutes.
I do HIIT for walk for 45minutes.
Saturday is I go to the gym At5 am.
I do legs and glutes.
I do HIIT for 15, 20 minutes.
I use the sauna vibration plate.
When I come home have someprotein with fiber I forgot to
mention that I always pack infiber with the protein and then
I walk for 30 minutes.
Sunday again I go to the gym 5am.
(05:04):
I do upper body HIIT for 15, 20minutes, sauna for 10 to 15
minutes, come home, use thevibration plate and in the
afternoon, on Sundays, I walkfor 45 minutes.
And I do make sure my diet isin check.
I eat a lot of fiber, a lot ofprotein, so yeah and healthy
(05:24):
fats.
So that's where I'm at rightnow.
I have done this routine thelast one and a half 10 days it's
been, so I am sticking to it.
We'll see how long that lasts,fingers crossed.
If I need to make adjustments,you know, if I'm under the
weather, just really not feelingup to it, or if I have too much
to do, then I will make thenecessary adjustments.
(05:46):
But I will definitely try toget to the gym at least four
days a week.
So that is my gym routine.
Okay, the next segment iscovering some weight loss
mindset tricks I have developedover the last three years on my
weight loss journey.
They've been super helpful, soI'll share them here with you so
(06:08):
maybe you could apply them toyourself if you are on a weight
loss journey.
So the first one is reframingsetbacks as feedback, not
failure.
So, like, every slip up hassome sort of data to provide
what worked, what didn't andwhat needs adjusting.
So just taking that failure andflipping it and using it as
(06:32):
knowledge and some sort of datato apply to the next time, to
improve.
So, instead of feeling guilty,I always ask what can I learn
from this?
What can I take away from this?
So progress is not linear.
Feedback loops keep you movingforward.
So always gain some sort ofknowledge, some sort of feedback
(06:57):
from a mistake or a setback.
Next is I name my cravings whenI crave something.
Next is I name my cravings whenI crave something, and I'll be
honest, I don't crave sweets, Icrave salty, you know savory.
When I crave something, I callit what it is, that it is my
brain is chasing a dopamine hit.
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That's what it is when youcrave something and you're not
literally hungry and you caneventually feel the difference
if you are mindful with yourself.
That is a dopamine hit.
You just want to feed yourbrain.
So that's what I call it.
I separate me from the cravingand I say to myself this is a
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dopamine hit.
And so I say it out loud.
I pause and I just say it outloud instead of actually just
going at it and reacting andeating those tortilla chips or
those potato chips.
So, yeah, I name when cravingsarise, I ride the urge.
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I don't divulge in it, I don'tdo the action.
So I'll drink water or I will,uh, look at social media and
look at my friends and my thepeople that I follow and I'll
make comments on social mediaand I'll like their posts and
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maybe I'll go.
There is a one app I use thatis a learning app and I will
start going through somelearning information on that app
.
They do highlight certain booksand whatnot, so it's a quick
learning and I get a dopaminehits, a positive dopamine hits,
from that learning.
So I ride the cravings, I ridethe urge and I don't do the
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action of the urge, but I rideit till they leave, till they're
over with.
I do deep breathing, I drinkwater, I go social media, I'll
learn something, I'll listen toan audio book, and it's till it
passes.
So this is not when I'm hungry,this is when I'm just having an
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urge, so I write it.
Finally, let's see here I useif-then plans so I create
automatic responses for toughmoments.
So if I'm having a craving, Idrink water.
This has the same thing to dowith writing the urge.
I have preset ideas to prohibitdecision fatigue.
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So if I'm going to get an urge,my go-to is to grab my big
40-ounce water bottle and justhave some sips and just sit in
the moment and then or I will,if I'm at home, I will go on the
walking pad too.
So I have reactions to the urge, I have use.
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If, then plans, if I have acraving, then I do this.
So you have them in your mind.
You don't have to think whatcan I do?
I'm having a craving, or I dothat craving, I actually do the
actual action and I eat thosechips.
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I have an if and then then planalready preset in my mind.
So if I'm at work and it'slunchtime and I want something
not healthy because I didn'tpack, I have a backup plan.
I have my go-tos.
I go get my unsandwiched fromJimmy John's, which is a
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sandwich wrapped in lettuce withvegetables and protein.
Or I go to Core Life, which Iknow it's all antibiotic-free.
Or I go to Core Life, which Iknow it's all antibiotic-free
grass-fed beef, all organicvegetables, and I get something
from Core Life.
So I have my go-tos.
So my reaction to that craving.
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So those are my four mindsettips.
Okay, so now I'm going to touchinto a life coaching segment.
This has to do with us asindividuals, having manuals for
our relationships, for thepeople in our lives, having set
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manuals, set expectations ofthose people in our lives.
So we all carry invisiblemanuals for people in our lives.
They are kind of unspoken rulesabout how these people in our
lives should act.
Examples should be like heshould always text me back right
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away, or my kids should visitevery Sunday, or my friends
should remember my birthdayevery year.
These are manuals, expectationswe carry.
When people don't follow ourmanuals, we often make it mean
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like they don't care about us,that they don't respect us and
that they don't value us.
But that is not the case.
Manuals feel comfortable to thebrain because they create
predictability.
That's why we have manuals.
It's the predictability.
It's just like this is what'sgoing to happen.
But they are not real.
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Manuals are not real.
So you have to remember thatother adults get to make their
own choices, just like we do.
Trying to control them createsa frustration and a distance
between you and them.
You cannot control others.
So freedom comes when we stoptying our happiness to whether
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others follow our script.
So that's our freedom as wellas their freedom.
We can't expect them to followour manual, our script.
So we have to remember midlifeis a crucial time to release
manuals.
We're reinventing ourselves inmidlife and waiting on others'
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approval just keeps us stuck.
Your value, progress and worthdon't depend on someone else
recognizing them.
You get to decide what's trueabout you.
You have to have the shift from, instead of controlling others,
to leading yourself in midlife.
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Boundaries aren't aboutcontrolling someone else's
behaviors, so you need to setboundaries.
That's what you should do, nota manual, and it's not about
controlling someone else'sbehaviors.
Boundaries, they're aboutdeciding what you will do if
this line is crossed.
This is a boundary, not amanual, and you need to ask
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yourself what do I want to think, feel and do in this situation,
instead of spinning infrustration?
So a practical step you cantake is notice whose behavior
you want to change and writedown your secret manual rules.
Write them down and then askwhy do I want them to act this
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way?
What am I making it mean?
Reclaim your power by remindingyourself my feelings come from
my thoughts, not this person'sactions.
Letting go of manuals createlighter, freer relationships.
People will start to feel safewith you, not judged or tested.
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The result more genuine love,deeper connections and more
peace in your own life.
So again, here is the journalexercise, this practice you can
do, to explore these manuals youhave and maybe put an end to
them.
Write down one manual rule youhave for someone in your life
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Maybe it's your partner or yourchild, or a parent or a sibling
or a friend and ask yourselfwhat am I making it mean when
they don't follow this?
What am I making it mean?
And journal it and then rewriteit.
As I'm responsible for myfeelings, I choose to feel blank
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this today, no matter what.
So I choose to feel light andhappy today, no matter what.
So you are responsible.
Your feelings, not this otherperson's actions.
This other person's actions arenot responsible for your
feelings.
Only you are responsible foryour feelings.
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So you do this, you know, dailyfor a week and notice the shift
.
You'll feel lighter, freer andmore in control, not of them,
but of yourself, and this iswhere your true power lies.
Okay, so next segment is this isjust a really quick skincare
tip that I read in a book Aboutthree years ago and I have
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totally applied to myself and ittotally makes sense, so I'm
going to share it with you.
It's um, so I don't have anyraw foods after 4 pm In the
afternoon.
You know raw vegetables, sushi,things like that.
Most you know I don't have anyraw foods.
Raw foods are harder on thebody to break down.
It is best to give them time todigest and eating them at four
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o'clock is not going to bedigested by the time you sleep.
So I only eat raw foods before4 pm, when your metabolism is
fired up and your stomach isbetter equipped to digest foods.
Now the reason is why I'm soconcerned with stomach and
digestion is because it's nowunderstood that your gut biome
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has a lot to do with your skinhealth.
That's what they have found inresearch and data.
So you want to slow downdigestion and you don't want to
digest a lot of food in yoursleep, which you can't.
So you want to eat all your rawfoods before 4 pm so your body
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can digest by the time you go tobed.
Between you know 8, 9, 10, 11o'clock at night.
So that's what I do and that'swhat I practice and I'm telling
you ever since I saw thatfunctional medicine doctor with
the Cleveland Clinic, with theFunctional Medicine Institute,
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last year or no, it was thisyear, it was in January and I
saw him and he was so thoroughand he did.
I had about 32 vials of bloodcollected.
He had so many tests orderedand it was found that I had
overgrowth of candida, which isvery common.
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But I did have it in my gutbiome and I got a very good
probiotic.
I'll let you know what I take.
I take Florestor, the reasonwhy it has a certain strain that
he has suggested to fight thecandida.
But he has suggested to fightthe candida.
It is called Saccharomycesbolodipine, so Bollardi.
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So I totally butchered that.
I apologize, but it's Florestorand you can literally get this
on their website.
That Florestor isF-L-O-R-A-S-T-O-R.
It is such a good probiotic.
My skin has never looked so good, I am telling you.
I don't get breakouts, I have aglow and I just feel so much
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better about my skin health eversince I started helping my gut,
eating more healthy.
I got these tests.
I saw what was wrong.
I saw I was allergic to.
I have some sort of issues withbeets just beets, you know,
grown beets, garden beets, justbeets.
You know, grown beets, gardenbeets, b-e-e-t-s beets.
I do not take those.
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Well, I have to stay away fromthose.
And the other thing that mybody doesn't do well with is
baker's yeast baker's yeast, sothat cuts out a lot of baking
products.
So yeah, that's what I foundthat my body doesn't do well
with beets and baker's yeast andthat I had an overgrowth of
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candida.
So I do suggest if you haveaccess to a functional medicine
doctor, take advantage of it.
Another thing that I'm doing toget my follow-up blood work is
I've been researching and it'squite expensive through the
blood work through my doctor'sinstitute and the hospital
system.
It's quite expensive and Ifound a more affordable way to
get the same blood work andbeyond more tests, and that's
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through Function Health.
Now, the stats is sponsored oranything.
I literally believe in functionhealth.
The gentleman who startedfunction health, dr Mark Hyman,
started the Cleveland Institute,cleveland Clinic Functional
Medicine Institute years ago.
He is very knowledgeable, he isthorough and I'm going to get
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my blood work done, which isabout $500 a year for over 100
tests of blood work twice a year, which is very reasonable
because I'm telling you, theblood work I had done back in
January cost, you know, with myinsurance and it didn't cover a
lot.
It was over $1,200.
And that was not nearly as muchtests as Function Health does.
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So that's where I'm going toget my follow-up blood work done
.
They do review your blood workand let you know what they find.
So you do get feedback.
So it is a really good tool andthat's what I'm going to use.
I'm planning on doing that inOctober.
But so I don't eat raw foods.
I know that I went on a tangent, but I do not eat raw foods
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after 4 pm.
That's my skincare tip for theday.
So I have the perfect closingsegment.
This is warm, playful andthings that I got ideas from the
young girlies in their 20s ofromanticizing your life, and I
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kind of take a different take onit romanticizing my glow-up
journey.
So doing little actions toromanticize little actions in
life.
And I'll give you two of themthat I actually did this past
week in life.
And I'll give you two of themthat I actually did this past
week.
First, you drink your morningcoffee or tea from a vintage
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teacup with a saucer.
So I have some of mygrandmother's teacups and
saucers.
I literally pulled it out of mychina cabinet and there's a
little dust.
I washed it out and I poured acup of espresso in a teacup with
saucer.
I sat at my kitchen table.
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I had dim lighting on.
I know you're gonna think I'mcrazy.
I have a TV in my kitchenbecause I watch news, or I watch
TV while I cook, and I had thenews on.
This was early in the morning.
I had the news on this wasearly in the morning.
I had the news on light dimlights, and a teacup and saucer
full of espresso, and it turns asimple ritual into a little
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ceremony, making you feelelegant and intentional, which
is exactly what it did.
It signals to your brain thatthis is my moment.
I'm slowing down and savoringlife.
Romanticizing small routineshelp you anchor joy in everyday
habits, and that's what I did.
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It's not about the cup.
It's about giving yourselfpermission to feel special daily
.
So this really made me feelspecial.
I felt like a queen.
The other way I romanticized myglow up journey was I had a
crystal little dish that Iusually put candies in.
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I had a crystal dish full ofred raspberries on my desk and
it stood there and sat therelike a queen's snack.
It elevates an ordinary snackinto a treat that feels
indulgent and royal.
Every time I reached for theberries, I was reminded that I
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deserve beauty and nourishment.
It creates a visual cue ofabundance.
Healthy food can be just asaesthetic as it is functional.
These small touches of luxurymake your glow-up journey fun,
light and delicious.
So, yeah, I had a little crystaldish of red raspberries.
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They were firm and fresh.
I bought them from Costco theday before and I sat there
typing away on my blog, pullingeach red raspberry from a
crystal dish, and I just feltlike a queen and it put my mind
in such a different mindset, adifferent feeling, and it felt
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amazing.
So I highly suggest you trythese two.
I'll be coming out with more ofthese of how to romanticize
your life and your glow-upjourney now in midlife.
So again, I'm taking this tipfrom the young girlies in their
20s.
This was the big thing I saw onsocial media and I'm applying
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it to me in my midlife and Ihighly suggest you do the same.
It feels amazing.
All right, my friends, that's awrap for today's episode of the
Midlife Glow Report.
We've covered a lot, from themindset shifts that make me
going on this weight lossjourney to freeing ourselves in
relationships by throwing awaythose invisible manuals, to
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caring for our skin from theinside out and even adding a
touch of magic and vintageteacups and crystal berry bowls.
Remember your glow up isn'tjust about big changes.
Remember your glow up isn'tjust about big changes.
It also is about the littlethings you do daily that make
you feel strong, free and alive.
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Keep showing up for yourself,keep leading with love and keep
writing your own story.
If today's episode inspired you, share it with another midlife
woman who's ready to awaken andglow up right alongside you.
Please leave a positive reviewso other women like you can find
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this podcast.
And don't forget, you canalways find me on Instagram,
facebook Threads, tiktok and atjackstyescom and at jackstyescom
.
Until next time, keep glowing,keep growing and never forget
midlife is your time to shine.
Love, jax.
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