October 16, 2025 • 24 mins
Luck isn’t random—it’s engineered by how you work and who you are while you work. In this Mindset Café episode, we break down 10 practical moves to expand your opportunity surface area: reframing luck, defining the work-ethic/attitude equation, compounding daily reps, turning attitude into a credibility multiplier, making yourself findable, stacking interlocking skills, moving fast when windows open, choosing hard rooms, staying resilient without drama, and closing the loop with follow-ups and proof. If you want more serendipity in business and life, build the habits that invite it in and keep the door open.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:18):
What's up, guys?
People call it luck, I call itmath.
Do the reps, bring the attitude,and watch what the odds tilt.
Today we're engineering goodluck on purpose.
Right?
Welcome back to another episodeof the Mindset Cafe podcast.
It's your boy Devin.
And if you've ever looked atsomeone and thought, man, they
get all the breaks.
(00:39):
Like they're just lucky.
Right.
This episode is going todeconstruct, but also just
reshift your mindset about luck,right?
And what's really happening.
So we're going to cover a fewdifferent points, and hopefully
it will allow you to expand yourmind and expand your attitude,
(01:00):
right?
And allow you to actually seethe opportunities that are in
front of you, right?
Because most of the time,opportunities are every day.
It's just your mindset and yourview of the world and your view
of your day that allows you tomiss those opportunities.
So this isn't, we're not goingto go off of theory, we're not
going to go off of you knowmake-believe, you know,
(01:21):
hypothetical things.
Like this is practical, this isrepeatable, and you can honestly
start it today.
So you guys already know I'm aI'm a big analogy person, and I
want you to think as luck is thedoor, right?
The door to your next level, thedoor to the opportunity that
you've been seeking.
And your work ethic isessentially the key.
(01:45):
That is the key to unlock thedoor of luck.
But to keep that door open,you're gonna need those hinges
to work, and that's yourattitude.
Your attitude towards your day,your attitude towards others,
and your attitude just in yourattitude just to everything.
So I want you to think aboutluck in the sense that it's not
(02:05):
a lottery ticket, right?
Just like success is not alottery ticket.
You don't just get handedsuccess, get handed, you know,
your your dream opportunity.
It's a visit, and the way youget that visit to luck, and the
way you get to be able to go toyou know, uh get that
opportunity essentially is yourwork ethic.
(02:26):
That's how you get the invite,right?
And your attitude's gonna keepthat invite open because if you
have a positive attitude and youhave you know an attitude people
want to be around and and youknow, so forth, that's how you
get referred, that's how you youknow meet new people and so
forth.
So I want you to shift your mindfrom thinking about luck as some
(02:49):
random magic that just happens,you know, and if you just keep
hoping and praying and wishingthat you know it's gonna
increase your odds becausethat's not how it works.
I'm gonna go a little off topic.
You know, we've talked aboutvision boards and we've talked
about those things, like thoseare all awesome tools, right?
You should have you know avision or a game plan of where
(03:11):
you're going, but at the sametime, just because the vision is
there, just because you'vemapped it out in your head or
you mapped it out on a board,doesn't mean that the world is
gonna hand it to you.
That's not how it works.
You have to take action and youhave to do it whether you feel
like it or not.
We've said this, I've said thismultiple times.
(03:33):
You have to think of your workethic every single day because
how you do one thing is how youdo everything.
Your work ethic every singleday, showing up when you don't
feel like it, showing up whenyou do feel like it, but either
way, you're showing up with apositive attitude, you're
showing up with an attitude thatother people want to be around
because that's what creates agravitational pull towards you.
(03:56):
Opportunities start comingtowards you, people you know
want to be around you.
Um, you know, success juststarts to you know happen,
right?
Because it's your outlook.
If you have a positive outlook,then you're going to naturally
start to see things from apositive view, and you're gonna
see the opportunity in each andeverything versus what could
(04:18):
happen negatively.
So many different things canhappen negatively, but whatever
happens is because you thinkabout it.
How many times have you been,you know, actually, hopefully
you haven't been doing this alot, but have you ever been
driving or have you ever let'ssay if you you know have ever
(04:39):
tried snowboarding and yourfirst time snowboarding, you're
like, don't fall, don't fall,don't fall, don't fall, and all
of a sudden you fall, right?
Because you're thinking aboutfalling.
So your brain is gonna make youdo what you're thinking about.
But if you're not thinking aboutfalling, then typically you'll
go a little bit further.
You might still fall, but it'snot, you're not all of a sudden
(05:00):
anticipating the fall and theneventually throwing yourself off
balance to fall.
And you're like, see, I knew Iwas gonna fall, right?
And like that's that's theoutlook we have a lot of times
on certain situations.
We look for the negative, andthen when it does happen, we're
like, see, I knew that was gonnahappen.
When in reality, if we weren'tthinking about that and we were
(05:20):
thinking about the potentials,what if that native you know
event happened or that roadblockcame out?
Instead of being like, oh see, Iknew it wasn't gonna work out,
being like, okay, well, thishappened, how do we get around
this?
How do we keep going?
Because that's what we talkedabout in the last episode,
right?
Your obstacle can be the endpoint, which it is for a lot of
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people, or it creates anopportunity for you to find the
path that most people don't, andthat's why at each level on
whatever journey you're goingtowards, each level you get to,
there's less and less people,right?
That's that's one of the biggestthings, let's say for myself,
being an entrepreneur, how manypersonal trainers say they're
(06:01):
gonna open a gym?
I'm sure you've worked with apersonal trainer, you know, a
personal trainer, and when theyfirst become a personal trainer,
the first thing they say, youknow, in the back of their mind,
I'm gonna own my own gym oneday, and and so forth.
Not very many actually do it.
From there, it's like, okay,well, how many people now take
that gym and actually expand it?
(06:22):
Very few.
Each level gets less and lesspeople because the roadblock
appears and then they stopthere.
You have to be willing to lookaround and see the positive
opportunities, whether it worksor not, that's just the next
obstacle for you to now look forthe next path, the next
destination or next, you know, Iguess path uh round so that you
(06:48):
keep moving forward.
No, no path to success is astraight line, right?
It's gonna be jagged, it's gonnatwist all up and all over the
place.
But at the end of the day, aslong as you started here and
you're ending up here, it's awin.
Whether someone else's is hereand yours is way spread out,
that doesn't matter.
At the end of the day, you bothgot there, and that's where I
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think a lot of people start tostruggle is they see someone
else, let's say, losing weight,and one person's losing weight a
little bit faster, and all of asudden they start to you know
critique themselves and like itthis isn't working for me, or
you know, I'm doing somethingwrong.
It's like, no, maybe your bodyis just starting off a little
bit slower.
(07:29):
Maybe you've been working outfor a certain amount of time,
maybe you need to switch up yourworkouts, maybe you need to
switch up your nutrition moretimes than not.
It's the nutrition, right?
If it's not working for you,then find the new path that
allows you to continue on whatyou're doing, but sometimes you
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have to make a little minortweak.
So I want you to think of luckis man-made.
There is, I mean, obviously, youwin the lottery and stuff like
that.
That's you know, you're morelikely to get hit by lightning.
But true luck is man-made,right?
It is made by your work ethic,how hard you work, if you're
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truly putting 100% intoeverything that you're doing,
and then it's your attitudeevery time you show up.
I can't tell you how many timeswhen I was a personal trainer,
you know, when I had my ownpersonal training company, and I
would show up, and man, I wouldbe tired, uh, physically,
mentally, you know, justdrained.
But whether my my face lookedlike it or not, I still showed
(08:38):
up with energy.
And I remember countless clientsbeing like, You look tired.
Like, no, I'm good.
Like, let's let's get it, youknow.
And my response to them was wastrue.
Even though I felt tired, lookedtired, whatever, I knew that I
was still good to go, and I keptpushing forward.
And then they didn't ask methroughout the session if I was
(09:00):
still tired because they see Iwas showing up.
Didn't matter how I looked,didn't matter how you know, my
if I had back was under my eyesor not, they knew I was there
and I was present.
I've told this story before.
Um but for those of you guysthat haven't heard it, I was
talking with my, I was getting ahaircut from my previous barber
and who was a friend and he wasa natural plant mine and
(09:24):
everything like that.
And I was his last client of theday, right?
I would train him and he, youknow, he would cut me up.
And I showed up and he startedoff the haircut just going on
and on about how tired he wasand how it was such a long day
and how busy he is and all thisstuff.
I'm sitting there for like 10minutes just listening, just
(09:44):
listening.
And then finally I was like, yo,I was like, I'm not gonna sit
here and compare who is moretired, right?
We both know like if we're goinghour for hour who worked more,
like I would out outdo you,right?
But that's not what it's about.
Have you ever showed up to oneof our training sessions?
And I and you you tell me, youknow, you look tired, and I
(10:07):
responded, yeah, I am, I'm youknow, so busy right now.
And then he sat there for aminute, you know, turned the
clippers off and thought aboutit.
And I was like, think about it.
Any have have I ever told you Iwas tired?
And he thought about research,honestly, no.
And I was like, there's a reasonfor that.
The more you tell yourselfyou're tired, the more tired you
(10:29):
get.
But also think about this.
Every time we trained, youlooked forward to coming to see
me to train.
So why would I make you feellike I didn't want to be there?
Because I would I was tired, Iwould rather be resting, I would
rather be doing something elsethan being present with you
(10:50):
right now.
I was like, don't get me wrong,you're telling me all this right
now, that's fine.
We're boys and all that kind ofstuff, but I guarantee if you're
telling me telling me this, Iguarantee you you tell this to
other clients.
And you will start to loseclients if you continue to do
this.
I promise.
May not happen the first time,but how you do one thing is how
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you do everything, and Iguarantee you're gonna repeat it
again to the same client, it'sgonna be a kind of a little
trend, and then all of a sudden,that dude's gonna be like, yo,
like my barber just doesn't wantto cut me up.
He he's you know always tiredand and whatever.
And so I told him that, and eversince then, he never told me
(11:35):
that he was tired.
I you know, he's mentioned to memultiple times how that that one
one little best is, that littleone little talk, you know,
resonated with them.
And his work ethic was good,don't get me wrong.
Like, even when he was tired andtelling me how tired he was,
like he still cut good, stilldid everything good, but it was
his attitude, right?
And that's what kills a lot ofthe time is your attitude.
(11:59):
You could be the hardest workerand and and be the best best
person in your trade or youknow, in as a friend, but if
every time you show up, yourattitude shit, it's not gonna
last very long.
I don't care what the situationis, I promise.
Um, but you get to realize thatlike that's why would I refer
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someone to let's say that barberif I knew he was and I did we
didn't have this talk, and Iknew he was gonna be, you know,
telling each person that I senthim how tired he was and how
this and how that.
And it's like this is you know,for not for me.
Like honestly, I know there's alot of guys love getting
haircuts, and it's like theirspa time.
Like, my barbers know that yo, Iwant to be in and out.
(12:43):
Like, we can talk as we cut, butdon't stop cutting to you know
go on with the whole story, butwe don't have time for that.
Um, but why would I send someoneto him that it's their highlight
of the day?
Like they love getting cut upevery week or every other week,
and I'm and I'm like, yo, he'sreally good, and I and I refer
you um a client, and all of asudden that's their experience,
(13:07):
just hearing all this negativityand and all that kind of stuff,
and feeling like they don't youdon't want them there, like I
wouldn't refer anyone to that.
So you have to think of that ashow opportunity is as well.
Why would opportunity seek youout if you're always gloomy, if
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you're always down, if you'realways negative.
No opportunity is gonna seekthat out except for the negative
ones.
And then you're gonna tellyourself, well, look, I told you
it wasn't gonna do this, orlook, I told you this was gonna
happen.
Well, yeah, no shit.
You were looking for that.
If you're looking for that, it'sgonna find you.
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It's it's that simple.
Yeah, we have good days, andyeah, we have bad days, but at
the same time, actually, I'llrephrase that.
Every day is a good day, andthat's not to sound cheesy, but
throughout your day, you havegood moments, you have so-so
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moments, and you have momentsthat aren't so favorable, right?
Bad moments.
But that one bad moment doesn'tmake the day a bad day unless
you let it.
Let's say you get into, this hashappened to me before, let's say
you get into a fender bender,you get in a car accident,
right?
How long does that car accidenthappen?
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Right?
Then there's the paperwork andyou know, taking pictures and
all that kind of stuff.
Five minutes, ten minutes max.
Maybe let's say you take yourcar to, you know, the auto shop
or whatever case, let's say anhour total.
Well, there's still 23 otherhours in the day.
So why would I let one out of 23more, right?
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24 total, affect me and say thiswhole day is bad.
Like it doesn't make sense.
So you gotta think in every inevery bad situation or bad event
in the day, there's a lesson tobe learned.
The heart accident, could haveleft a little bit earlier, not
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been a rush.
Could have made sure I waschecking this and that, right?
You know, looking out my sidemirrors more.
Whatever the case may be, takethe lesson, learn so it doesn't
happen again.
That's how life works.
You get knocked down, you getback up, you get knocked down,
you get back up.
Each time you get back up, youshould get back up stronger, you
should have learned something,you should have become a better
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version of you.
Um and so, like all that is tosay you have to make yourself
essentially findable for luck,right?
Because your days compound, andthat's where opportunity sits.
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There's not maybe not theopportunity that you're looking
for in every single day, but atthe same time, it might just be
tomorrow, it might be in anhour, you don't know, so you
show up like it's going topresent itself each and every
day, each and every moment,because you don't know.
No one knows.
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But if you should have preparedfor opportunity to find you,
then it will.
Right?
And the compound effectessentially is you have to think
that 30 minutes focused a daycan add up to 180 plus hours in
a year.
So let's say you're focusing ona task or focusing on a new
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skill, and you're shit at ittoday.
Right?
Let's say you're working out,right?
First time you've ever workedout in your life.
Do a 30-minute workout, whoopsyour ass.
Well, you do it again tomorrow,whoops your ass.
Next day, it whoops your ass,right?
But all of a sudden in a year,you're doing 30-minute workouts
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daily.
Well, you've already worked outfor over 180 plus hours in the
year.
Don't you think by you know 170the workout's not gonna be as
bad?
Yeah.
If you can do anything for youknow that long, you're gonna get
better at it.
It's inevitable.
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You learn what doesn't work, youlearn how to do it better, you
learn how to improve throughoutthe process.
You're not gonna start off, youknow, a professional.
Just not how it works.
I don't care what people tellyou, I don't care, you know,
who's done it, you know, and andstruck gold on the first go,
that's just not how it goes.
99.99% of the time.
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So you have to realize that ifyou're invisible to luck, to
opportunity, then it can't findyou, right?
And that you're gonna stayinvisible if your attitude is
shit you didn't get a goodweigh-in, you know, reading,
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okay.
How are you gonna improve?
Ask for help.
No self- self-reflect, see whatyou're look back on what you did
wrong, right?
But don't let that affect thenext week, the next two weeks,
the next four weeks.
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You gotta think that, you know,your attitude essentially is a
multiplier.
It can multiply the good and itcan multiply the bad, but at the
end of the day, attitude iseverything.
And I should not wear it today.
You know, even one of the shirtsthat we have at the gym, you
(18:58):
know, shout out to RBO becauseI've copied their shirt, but um
the attitude is everythingwithin the shirt, right?
That is a hundred percent thetruth.
Attitude is everything.
You have to be early, you haveto be ready, and you have to be
willing to say yes to the rightthings.
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But if you don't have anopposite, if you don't have an
opportunistic mindset and theopposite uh man, I'm just
getting all tongue-tied rightnow.
If you if you're not looking foropportunity and you're not
willing to try, and you're notwilling to fail, and you're not
willing to learn, then you'realways gonna stay where you're
at.
And you're always gonna look atother people like they got
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lucky, but that's not the case.
You have to find the things thatare more difficult that are
gonna level you up, right?
Friction in your path is a goodthing.
Anytime you have to do somethingthat is outside your comfort
zone, outside your norm, that isyou growing.
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Think about working out, right?
Let's say you can't do 10push-ups.
All of a sudden, over you know,a year, now you do 10 push-ups.
But just because you can do 10push-ups when you're doing the
10 now, that's not the work.
The work happens once the burnstarts happening.
Muhammad Ali used to say, youknow, they asked how many
push-ups can you do?
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I don't know.
I don't start counting until itstarts burning.
Because that's where the changeis.
If it's not, if there's nofriction, if there's no
resistance, that's your yourhomeostasis, that's your normal.
That's something you couldalready do.
You have to push past that toachieve more.
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So I want you to hopefully lookat some of the some of the
things that are going throughoutyour day and realize, are you
showing up with 100% effort?
Because if not, then you're justwasting your time.
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If you're just showing up andgoing through the motions,
wasting your time.
100%.
If you're going to show up andyou're willing to spend your
time, the most invaluable thingthat you have, if you're willing
to spend your time doingsomething, why not give it 100%
of the effort?
Or why do it at all?
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If you show up with that kind ofwork ethic and a positive
attitude, opportunity is goingto find you.
I can promise you.
So I just want you to take that,and you know, today is not going
to be a super long one oranything like that.
I just want you to realize thatyou have to make sure that
you're self-checking yourselfand giving yourself that reality
(21:52):
pep talk that I had with mybarber.
And realize sometimes you haveto lie to yourself, and even
though you might not feel good,if you're at work or if you're
with your family and you'resupposed to be present with
them, be present with them.
My three-year-old daughterdoesn't care if I had a long day
at work.
She just knows I get home, shewants to play with me.
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It doesn't matter how I feel, itdoesn't matter how stressed I
am.
It doesn't matter that I had agood or a bad, you know,
business meeting.
It's playtime.
Think about that.
How many times do you show up,you know, and someone's looking
forward to seeing you, orwhether it's at work, whether
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it's family, you're asignificant other, and you show
up and you're not even there.
Because, and then you, you know,sorry, say it was a long day, I
just don't feel you know, I feelout of it.
How do you think that makes theother person feel?
There's gonna be more days likethat.
And when those days compound,that's where separation starts
to sink in.
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And that's the same separationthat's sinking in with your luck
or your opportunities becauseyou're showing up and saying,
sorry, I just don't feel like ittoday.
So hopefully that that sinks ina little bit for you.
Um make sure you guys shareshare this episode with a
friend, right?
I want you to share this episodewith someone that's told you
that they're tired, that youknow they're that they've had
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the mindset we've been talkingabout where you know they always
are that person that the woe isme, or that you know, other
people are lucky.
I'm just I'm just naturallyunlucky.
Share this episode with them.
I challenge you to do that.
But I just want to let you guysknow you can create your own
luck starting today, startingright now.
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But are you going to?
That's the real question.
Hopefully, you guys do.
See you guys on the next one.
I appreciate you guys.
I love you guys.
You guys need anything?
Send me out.
SPEAKER_01 (24:00):
Like my set caught shots.
I can't be distracted.
I'm a find a time to be back.
What's up, guys?
People call it luck, I call itmath.
Do the reps, bring the attitude,and watch what the odds tilt.
Today we're engineering goodluck on purpose.
Right?
Welcome back to another episodeof the Mindset Cafe podcast.
It's your boy Devin.
And if you've ever looked atsomeone and thought, man, they
get all the breaks.
(00:39):
Like they're just lucky.
Right.
This episode is going todeconstruct, but also just
reshift your mindset about luck,right?
And what's really happening.
So we're going to cover a fewdifferent points, and hopefully
it will allow you to expand yourmind and expand your attitude,
(01:00):
right?
And allow you to actually seethe opportunities that are in
front of you, right?
Because most of the time,opportunities are every day.
It's just your mindset and yourview of the world and your view
of your day that allows you tomiss those opportunities.
So this isn't, we're not goingto go off of theory, we're not
going to go off of you knowmake-believe, you know,
(01:21):
hypothetical things.
Like this is practical, this isrepeatable, and you can honestly
start it today.
So you guys already know I'm aI'm a big analogy person, and I
want you to think as luck is thedoor, right?
The door to your next level, thedoor to the opportunity that
you've been seeking.
And your work ethic isessentially the key.
(01:45):
That is the key to unlock thedoor of luck.
But to keep that door open,you're gonna need those hinges
to work, and that's yourattitude.
Your attitude towards your day,your attitude towards others,
and your attitude just in yourattitude just to everything.
So I want you to think aboutluck in the sense that it's not
(02:05):
a lottery ticket, right?
Just like success is not alottery ticket.
You don't just get handedsuccess, get handed, you know,
your your dream opportunity.
It's a visit, and the way youget that visit to luck, and the
way you get to be able to go toyou know, uh get that
opportunity essentially is yourwork ethic.
(02:26):
That's how you get the invite,right?
And your attitude's gonna keepthat invite open because if you
have a positive attitude and youhave you know an attitude people
want to be around and and youknow, so forth, that's how you
get referred, that's how you youknow meet new people and so
forth.
So I want you to shift your mindfrom thinking about luck as some
(02:49):
random magic that just happens,you know, and if you just keep
hoping and praying and wishingthat you know it's gonna
increase your odds becausethat's not how it works.
I'm gonna go a little off topic.
You know, we've talked aboutvision boards and we've talked
about those things, like thoseare all awesome tools, right?
You should have you know avision or a game plan of where
(03:11):
you're going, but at the sametime, just because the vision is
there, just because you'vemapped it out in your head or
you mapped it out on a board,doesn't mean that the world is
gonna hand it to you.
That's not how it works.
You have to take action and youhave to do it whether you feel
like it or not.
We've said this, I've said thismultiple times.
(03:33):
You have to think of your workethic every single day because
how you do one thing is how youdo everything.
Your work ethic every singleday, showing up when you don't
feel like it, showing up whenyou do feel like it, but either
way, you're showing up with apositive attitude, you're
showing up with an attitude thatother people want to be around
because that's what creates agravitational pull towards you.
(03:56):
Opportunities start comingtowards you, people you know
want to be around you.
Um, you know, success juststarts to you know happen,
right?
Because it's your outlook.
If you have a positive outlook,then you're going to naturally
start to see things from apositive view, and you're gonna
see the opportunity in each andeverything versus what could
(04:18):
happen negatively.
So many different things canhappen negatively, but whatever
happens is because you thinkabout it.
How many times have you been,you know, actually, hopefully
you haven't been doing this alot, but have you ever been
driving or have you ever let'ssay if you you know have ever
(04:39):
tried snowboarding and yourfirst time snowboarding, you're
like, don't fall, don't fall,don't fall, don't fall, and all
of a sudden you fall, right?
Because you're thinking aboutfalling.
So your brain is gonna make youdo what you're thinking about.
But if you're not thinking aboutfalling, then typically you'll
go a little bit further.
You might still fall, but it'snot, you're not all of a sudden
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anticipating the fall and theneventually throwing yourself off
balance to fall.
And you're like, see, I knew Iwas gonna fall, right?
And like that's that's theoutlook we have a lot of times
on certain situations.
We look for the negative, andthen when it does happen, we're
like, see, I knew that was gonnahappen.
When in reality, if we weren'tthinking about that and we were
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thinking about the potentials,what if that native you know
event happened or that roadblockcame out?
Instead of being like, oh see, Iknew it wasn't gonna work out,
being like, okay, well, thishappened, how do we get around
this?
How do we keep going?
Because that's what we talkedabout in the last episode,
right?
Your obstacle can be the endpoint, which it is for a lot of
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people, or it creates anopportunity for you to find the
path that most people don't, andthat's why at each level on
whatever journey you're goingtowards, each level you get to,
there's less and less people,right?
That's that's one of the biggestthings, let's say for myself,
being an entrepreneur, how manypersonal trainers say they're
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gonna open a gym?
I'm sure you've worked with apersonal trainer, you know, a
personal trainer, and when theyfirst become a personal trainer,
the first thing they say, youknow, in the back of their mind,
I'm gonna own my own gym oneday, and and so forth.
Not very many actually do it.
From there, it's like, okay,well, how many people now take
that gym and actually expand it?
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Very few.
Each level gets less and lesspeople because the roadblock
appears and then they stopthere.
You have to be willing to lookaround and see the positive
opportunities, whether it worksor not, that's just the next
obstacle for you to now look forthe next path, the next
destination or next, you know, Iguess path uh round so that you
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keep moving forward.
No, no path to success is astraight line, right?
It's gonna be jagged, it's gonnatwist all up and all over the
place.
But at the end of the day, aslong as you started here and
you're ending up here, it's awin.
Whether someone else's is hereand yours is way spread out,
that doesn't matter.
At the end of the day, you bothgot there, and that's where I
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think a lot of people start tostruggle is they see someone
else, let's say, losing weight,and one person's losing weight a
little bit faster, and all of asudden they start to you know
critique themselves and like itthis isn't working for me, or
you know, I'm doing somethingwrong.
It's like, no, maybe your bodyis just starting off a little
bit slower.
(07:29):
Maybe you've been working outfor a certain amount of time,
maybe you need to switch up yourworkouts, maybe you need to
switch up your nutrition moretimes than not.
It's the nutrition, right?
If it's not working for you,then find the new path that
allows you to continue on whatyou're doing, but sometimes you
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have to make a little minortweak.
So I want you to think of luckis man-made.
There is, I mean, obviously, youwin the lottery and stuff like
that.
That's you know, you're morelikely to get hit by lightning.
But true luck is man-made,right?
It is made by your work ethic,how hard you work, if you're
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truly putting 100% intoeverything that you're doing,
and then it's your attitudeevery time you show up.
I can't tell you how many timeswhen I was a personal trainer,
you know, when I had my ownpersonal training company, and I
would show up, and man, I wouldbe tired, uh, physically,
mentally, you know, justdrained.
But whether my my face lookedlike it or not, I still showed
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up with energy.
And I remember countless clientsbeing like, You look tired.
Like, no, I'm good.
Like, let's let's get it, youknow.
And my response to them was wastrue.
Even though I felt tired, lookedtired, whatever, I knew that I
was still good to go, and I keptpushing forward.
And then they didn't ask methroughout the session if I was
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still tired because they see Iwas showing up.
Didn't matter how I looked,didn't matter how you know, my
if I had back was under my eyesor not, they knew I was there
and I was present.
I've told this story before.
Um but for those of you guysthat haven't heard it, I was
talking with my, I was getting ahaircut from my previous barber
and who was a friend and he wasa natural plant mine and
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everything like that.
And I was his last client of theday, right?
I would train him and he, youknow, he would cut me up.
And I showed up and he startedoff the haircut just going on
and on about how tired he wasand how it was such a long day
and how busy he is and all thisstuff.
I'm sitting there for like 10minutes just listening, just
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listening.
And then finally I was like, yo,I was like, I'm not gonna sit
here and compare who is moretired, right?
We both know like if we're goinghour for hour who worked more,
like I would out outdo you,right?
But that's not what it's about.
Have you ever showed up to oneof our training sessions?
And I and you you tell me, youknow, you look tired, and I
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responded, yeah, I am, I'm youknow, so busy right now.
And then he sat there for aminute, you know, turned the
clippers off and thought aboutit.
And I was like, think about it.
Any have have I ever told you Iwas tired?
And he thought about research,honestly, no.
And I was like, there's a reasonfor that.
The more you tell yourselfyou're tired, the more tired you
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get.
But also think about this.
Every time we trained, youlooked forward to coming to see
me to train.
So why would I make you feellike I didn't want to be there?
Because I would I was tired, Iwould rather be resting, I would
rather be doing something elsethan being present with you
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right now.
I was like, don't get me wrong,you're telling me all this right
now, that's fine.
We're boys and all that kind ofstuff, but I guarantee if you're
telling me telling me this, Iguarantee you you tell this to
other clients.
And you will start to loseclients if you continue to do
this.
I promise.
May not happen the first time,but how you do one thing is how
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you do everything, and Iguarantee you're gonna repeat it
again to the same client, it'sgonna be a kind of a little
trend, and then all of a sudden,that dude's gonna be like, yo,
like my barber just doesn't wantto cut me up.
He he's you know always tiredand and whatever.
And so I told him that, and eversince then, he never told me
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that he was tired.
I you know, he's mentioned to memultiple times how that that one
one little best is, that littleone little talk, you know,
resonated with them.
And his work ethic was good,don't get me wrong.
Like, even when he was tired andtelling me how tired he was,
like he still cut good, stilldid everything good, but it was
his attitude, right?
And that's what kills a lot ofthe time is your attitude.
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You could be the hardest workerand and and be the best best
person in your trade or youknow, in as a friend, but if
every time you show up, yourattitude shit, it's not gonna
last very long.
I don't care what the situationis, I promise.
Um, but you get to realize thatlike that's why would I refer
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someone to let's say that barberif I knew he was and I did we
didn't have this talk, and Iknew he was gonna be, you know,
telling each person that I senthim how tired he was and how
this and how that.
And it's like this is you know,for not for me.
Like honestly, I know there's alot of guys love getting
haircuts, and it's like theirspa time.
Like, my barbers know that yo, Iwant to be in and out.
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Like, we can talk as we cut, butdon't stop cutting to you know
go on with the whole story, butwe don't have time for that.
Um, but why would I send someoneto him that it's their highlight
of the day?
Like they love getting cut upevery week or every other week,
and I'm and I'm like, yo, he'sreally good, and I and I refer
you um a client, and all of asudden that's their experience,
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just hearing all this negativityand and all that kind of stuff,
and feeling like they don't youdon't want them there, like I
wouldn't refer anyone to that.
So you have to think of that ashow opportunity is as well.
Why would opportunity seek youout if you're always gloomy, if
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you're always down, if you'realways negative.
No opportunity is gonna seekthat out except for the negative
ones.
And then you're gonna tellyourself, well, look, I told you
it wasn't gonna do this, orlook, I told you this was gonna
happen.
Well, yeah, no shit.
You were looking for that.
If you're looking for that, it'sgonna find you.
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It's it's that simple.
Yeah, we have good days, andyeah, we have bad days, but at
the same time, actually, I'llrephrase that.
Every day is a good day, andthat's not to sound cheesy, but
throughout your day, you havegood moments, you have so-so
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moments, and you have momentsthat aren't so favorable, right?
Bad moments.
But that one bad moment doesn'tmake the day a bad day unless
you let it.
Let's say you get into, this hashappened to me before, let's say
you get into a fender bender,you get in a car accident,
right?
How long does that car accidenthappen?
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Right?
Then there's the paperwork andyou know, taking pictures and
all that kind of stuff.
Five minutes, ten minutes max.
Maybe let's say you take yourcar to, you know, the auto shop
or whatever case, let's say anhour total.
Well, there's still 23 otherhours in the day.
So why would I let one out of 23more, right?
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24 total, affect me and say thiswhole day is bad.
Like it doesn't make sense.
So you gotta think in every inevery bad situation or bad event
in the day, there's a lesson tobe learned.
The heart accident, could haveleft a little bit earlier, not
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been a rush.
Could have made sure I waschecking this and that, right?
You know, looking out my sidemirrors more.
Whatever the case may be, takethe lesson, learn so it doesn't
happen again.
That's how life works.
You get knocked down, you getback up, you get knocked down,
you get back up.
Each time you get back up, youshould get back up stronger, you
should have learned something,you should have become a better
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version of you.
Um and so, like all that is tosay you have to make yourself
essentially findable for luck,right?
Because your days compound, andthat's where opportunity sits.
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There's not maybe not theopportunity that you're looking
for in every single day, but atthe same time, it might just be
tomorrow, it might be in anhour, you don't know, so you
show up like it's going topresent itself each and every
day, each and every moment,because you don't know.
No one knows.
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But if you should have preparedfor opportunity to find you,
then it will.
Right?
And the compound effectessentially is you have to think
that 30 minutes focused a daycan add up to 180 plus hours in
a year.
So let's say you're focusing ona task or focusing on a new
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skill, and you're shit at ittoday.
Right?
Let's say you're working out,right?
First time you've ever workedout in your life.
Do a 30-minute workout, whoopsyour ass.
Well, you do it again tomorrow,whoops your ass.
Next day, it whoops your ass,right?
But all of a sudden in a year,you're doing 30-minute workouts
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daily.
Well, you've already worked outfor over 180 plus hours in the
year.
Don't you think by you know 170the workout's not gonna be as
bad?
Yeah.
If you can do anything for youknow that long, you're gonna get
better at it.
It's inevitable.
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You learn what doesn't work, youlearn how to do it better, you
learn how to improve throughoutthe process.
You're not gonna start off, youknow, a professional.
Just not how it works.
I don't care what people tellyou, I don't care, you know,
who's done it, you know, and andstruck gold on the first go,
that's just not how it goes.
99.99% of the time.
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So you have to realize that ifyou're invisible to luck, to
opportunity, then it can't findyou, right?
And that you're gonna stayinvisible if your attitude is
shit you didn't get a goodweigh-in, you know, reading,
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okay.
How are you gonna improve?
Ask for help.
No self- self-reflect, see whatyou're look back on what you did
wrong, right?
But don't let that affect thenext week, the next two weeks,
the next four weeks.
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You gotta think that, you know,your attitude essentially is a
multiplier.
It can multiply the good and itcan multiply the bad, but at the
end of the day, attitude iseverything.
And I should not wear it today.
You know, even one of the shirtsthat we have at the gym, you
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know, shout out to RBO becauseI've copied their shirt, but um
the attitude is everythingwithin the shirt, right?
That is a hundred percent thetruth.
Attitude is everything.
You have to be early, you haveto be ready, and you have to be
willing to say yes to the rightthings.
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But if you don't have anopposite, if you don't have an
opportunistic mindset and theopposite uh man, I'm just
getting all tongue-tied rightnow.
If you if you're not looking foropportunity and you're not
willing to try, and you're notwilling to fail, and you're not
willing to learn, then you'realways gonna stay where you're
at.
And you're always gonna look atother people like they got
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lucky, but that's not the case.
You have to find the things thatare more difficult that are
gonna level you up, right?
Friction in your path is a goodthing.
Anytime you have to do somethingthat is outside your comfort
zone, outside your norm, that isyou growing.
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Think about working out, right?
Let's say you can't do 10push-ups.
All of a sudden, over you know,a year, now you do 10 push-ups.
But just because you can do 10push-ups when you're doing the
10 now, that's not the work.
The work happens once the burnstarts happening.
Muhammad Ali used to say, youknow, they asked how many
push-ups can you do?
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I don't know.
I don't start counting until itstarts burning.
Because that's where the changeis.
If it's not, if there's nofriction, if there's no
resistance, that's your yourhomeostasis, that's your normal.
That's something you couldalready do.
You have to push past that toachieve more.
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So I want you to hopefully lookat some of the some of the
things that are going throughoutyour day and realize, are you
showing up with 100% effort?
Because if not, then you're justwasting your time.
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If you're just showing up andgoing through the motions,
wasting your time.
100%.
If you're going to show up andyou're willing to spend your
time, the most invaluable thingthat you have, if you're willing
to spend your time doingsomething, why not give it 100%
of the effort?
Or why do it at all?
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If you show up with that kind ofwork ethic and a positive
attitude, opportunity is goingto find you.
I can promise you.
So I just want you to take that,and you know, today is not going
to be a super long one oranything like that.
I just want you to realize thatyou have to make sure that
you're self-checking yourselfand giving yourself that reality
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pep talk that I had with mybarber.
And realize sometimes you haveto lie to yourself, and even
though you might not feel good,if you're at work or if you're
with your family and you'resupposed to be present with
them, be present with them.
My three-year-old daughterdoesn't care if I had a long day
at work.
She just knows I get home, shewants to play with me.
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It doesn't matter how I feel, itdoesn't matter how stressed I
am.
It doesn't matter that I had agood or a bad, you know,
business meeting.
It's playtime.
Think about that.
How many times do you show up,you know, and someone's looking
forward to seeing you, orwhether it's at work, whether
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it's family, you're asignificant other, and you show
up and you're not even there.
Because, and then you, you know,sorry, say it was a long day, I
just don't feel you know, I feelout of it.
How do you think that makes theother person feel?
There's gonna be more days likethat.
And when those days compound,that's where separation starts
to sink in.
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And that's the same separationthat's sinking in with your luck
or your opportunities becauseyou're showing up and saying,
sorry, I just don't feel like ittoday.
So hopefully that that sinks ina little bit for you.
Um make sure you guys shareshare this episode with a
friend, right?
I want you to share this episodewith someone that's told you
that they're tired, that youknow they're that they've had
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the mindset we've been talkingabout where you know they always
are that person that the woe isme, or that you know, other
people are lucky.
I'm just I'm just naturallyunlucky.
Share this episode with them.
I challenge you to do that.
But I just want to let you guysknow you can create your own
luck starting today, startingright now.
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But are you going to?
That's the real question.
Hopefully, you guys do.
See you guys on the next one.
I appreciate you guys.
I love you guys.
You guys need anything?
Send me out.
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I can't be distracted.
I'm a find a time to be back.
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