November 21, 2025 • 18 mins
We share the two wolves parable and turn it into a practical framework for managing emotions, shaping identity, and making better choices. Small promises, repeated daily, starve the dark wolf and strengthen the habits that carry you through stress, fatigue, and doubt.
• the two wolves parable as a decision framework
• reactions over events and training your default
• defining “feeding the wolf” as repetition and attention
• catching negative loops and building reframes
• dark wolf patterns like avoidance and rumination
• light wolf habits: gratitude, courage, consistency
• drift, chosen pain, and non‑negotiable plans
• practice over wanting and evidence over affirmations
• micro decisions, daily reviews, and end‑of‑year resolve
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SPEAKER_00 (00:18):
Hello guys, welcome back to another episode of the
Mindset Cafe Podcast.
It's your boy Devin Gonzalez,and today I want to talk about
the story of the two wolves andhow everyone has the two wolves
in them, and how you essentiallyget to shape your identity by
picking which which wolf.
So there's an old story about agrandfather who tells his
(00:42):
grandson, Inside of you, there'stwo wolves, and they're always
fighting.
One wolf is darkness, it'sanger, fear, jealousy, and
despair.
The other wolf is light, whichis hope, discipline, compassion,
and strength.
The grandfather asks, sorry, thegrandson asks, which wolf wins?
(01:03):
And the grandfather answers,Well, the wolf that wins is the
one that you feed.
And most people hear that andthink it's a cute little
metaphor and a cute littlestory, but it's not.
It's one of the most accuratedescriptions of the human
experience.
Every day you're feedingsomething, right?
(01:24):
You're with your habits, withyour thoughts, with your
reactions, with your discipline,or on the other hand, the lack
of it.
And the wolf that gets fedbecomes the one that you
controls your life.
So today I want to break downthe story in ways that you can
use not just as a moral lesson,but as a practical framework,
(01:45):
essentially, for you choosingyour identity and managing your
emotional state and taking backcontrol of the direction of your
life.
So let's dive in a little bit.
Every day there's situationsthat happen that aren't planned,
right?
And they have an emotional tollon you, whether positive or
negative.
(02:06):
And you get to choose, likewe've talked about on previous
episodes, you get to choose yourreactions to these events.
You can't change the eventnecessarily, right?
You get in a car accident, youknow, um the power goes out,
your alarm doesn't go off.
You can't change the event, butyour reaction to the event is
fully your your control.
(02:29):
And that is essentially thebasis of what the two wolves
are.
You get to choose the way youview the world, the way you get
to view your circumstances, theway you get to view the events
that happen to you or the thingsthat happen to you.
So it's really justunderstanding that you are who
(02:54):
you choose to be.
You are if you if you're viewingthe world in a negative manner,
then everything's gonna appearthat it's you know going against
you, everything's gonna seemlike a problem.
If you're viewing things on thelighter side and seeing
everything as an opportunity oras a lesson, well, then you're
(03:17):
gonna seek out more opportunity.
Opportunity is gonna find you.
You wonder how people, you know,some people are just you know,
quote unquote, lucky, andopportunity just finds them.
Well, those are the people thatsee the world and see their day
through that opportunity, uh,opportunistic lens.
And so what I want to talk aboutis really, you know, what does
(03:38):
feeding the wolf really mean?
Right.
And so I want to clarify whatthat actually means so that you
can actually start to break itdown and and add this to your
daily habits, essentially.
You have to think what whatfeeding the wolf is.
Damn, that's actually soundspretty cool.
Um, but what feeding the wolf isum it's what gets your
(04:01):
attention, what you're whatyou're doing on a repetition,
right?
And in in repetition.
So, what are you constantlydoing that is a habit?
What are your habitual responsesto certain things?
What is your view or your takewhen a negative thing happens?
(04:25):
Whatever you repeat becomes yourdefault, right?
People think that they rise tothe occasion, you don't, you
default down to your level oftraining, and so it's not like
you can flip the switch and justyou know see everything through
the light wolf, right?
You know, through an opportunityopportunistic lens or through a
(04:46):
positive mindset, but anytimeyou anytime you essentially
catch yourself viewing things ina negative mindset or with a
negative connotation to it,that's where you put the brakes
on it.
That's where you put a littlepause to it, and that's where
you take a step back and thenyou try to reshift.
(05:09):
This isn't this one event isn'tmaking my day a bad day.
It was maybe a bad moment, maybea bad minute, but what can I
learn from this?
And so, for example, if you arenaturally an anxious person,
(05:30):
right, and you you fight, youknow, having anxiety, well, what
happens when you focus on youranxiety?
You start to become more anxiousif you in turn want to focus on,
let's say, becoming morecourageous, it's gonna feel like
(05:52):
a manual action.
You trying to become morecourageous, you trying to
becoming more mentally strong,but over time, you feeding that
habit in that mental state, itstarts to become your default.
Then you don't have to thinkabout it as much.
So the dark wolf, right?
Your fear, your doubt, yourdespair, um, resentment,
(06:15):
jealousy, uh, apathy,insecurity, avoidance, you know,
those are some just someeveryday examples that can
happen.
Like, let's say, instead oflet's let's take it even more
simplistic, instead of gettingstarted on the task, you're
scrolling on Instagram.
Instead of instead of looking atsomething that went wrong in
(06:41):
conversation, in a sales pitch,in a game, um, whatever the
scenario may be, instead oftrying to extract what went
wrong so that you can find asolution so that it doesn't
happen again, you're justreplaying that it went wrong.
And you're not looking at it aswhat can I learn from this?
And it's just playing on a loop,and then all of a sudden that
(07:02):
starts to wear on you, and thenyou start to lose
self-confidence.
You another one is I know thisis for a lot of people,
especially when you're trying tolevel up, whether it's fitness,
whether it's business, you know,professionally, whatever.
The dark wolf would allow you ordoes allow you currently to
(07:22):
choose the comfort path, right?
Anytime there's a resistance, oryou have to, you know, get
outside your comfort zone, youtake a step back.
You're like, okay, well, andthen you make 10 different
excuses why that can't be donetoday.
And so you have to realize thatyou have to focus on the growth
and focus on gettinguncomfortable, even when those
(07:45):
times happen, so that you cancontinue to push forward, right?
Where on the other hand, it'salmost like the two devils that
sit on your shoulder, right?
The good and the bad, right?
Same thing with the wolves,right?
You have the dark wolf, you havethe light wolf, and the light
wolf is gonna be, you know,hope, strength, discipline,
compassion, responsibility,courage, consistency.
(08:07):
And while all those words, youknow what they mean, but
everyday examples of thesethings tend to be like let's say
showing up early for work orshowing up early for an event,
um, taking the first step beforeyou feel ready, practicing
gratitude, as simple as that.
You know, be thankful for whatyou've accomplished, what you've
(08:30):
what you have currently, becauseif you're not grateful for what
you have currently, then you'renot gonna be grateful for what
you get moving forward.
So the point of that is realizethat light grows through choice,
and so it's especially in thebeginning, it's gonna be
difficult, but you are going tohave to try to make this where
(08:51):
it becomes a habit.
So it's day after day, you know,like I said, consistency, making
these things so that it becomesyour default.
You have to feed the right wolflong before you realize that
you're on that side, meaningthat if you're trying to choose
the light wolf, you're gonnahave to feed that and and
(09:13):
practice it long before yourealize that it's already become
a habit.
Most people don't consciouslychoose to go to the dark wolf,
they kind of slowly drift, andit happens to all of us, but is
when you catch that drift, oreven if you're all the way over,
it's like you realize it, andnow you have a decision to make.
(09:36):
Are you gonna stay there, or areyou gonna actively do things to
try to shift and drift back theopposite way?
Because if you're gonna staythere, then that is also your
choice.
Growing physically, I mean, likein your fitness, in your
business, all those things arepainful mentally, physically,
emotionally sometimes, but alsostaying where you are is also
(09:59):
painful physically, mentally,emotionally, right, financially.
And so you have a choice.
Which route of pain do you wantto choose?
The one that has a bigger upsideor the one that has less
friction, but you're you'reaccepting complacency.
And if you're acceptingcomplacency, you also like for
(10:24):
me personally, I hate whenpeople complain about being the
same or not not achieving theirgoals, but then you look at
their actions, and there'snothing to back up why that you
should even get those goals.
Like you're doing nothing toprove to the world, the life,
(10:44):
you know, life in general,right?
The grind, whatever you want tocall it, you're not doing enough
or anything at all to even makeit reasonable for you to say
that you deserve that goal.
Take Kobe Bryant, for example.
You know, he used to shoot freethrows, you know, for hours and
(11:05):
hours and hours.
He didn't just say, I'm in theNBA, I can just kick back.
You have to constantly work.
Do you think pro pro athletes?
Do you think that you know thetop CEOs that they just kick
back, they're constantlyperfecting their craft.
(11:26):
They know that nothingguarantees them staying where
they are.
So they're not allowing the darkwolf to creep in because they
know if they let it happen,they're going to slide down the
mountain of success that they'recurrently on.
But for you to be able to climbthat mountain of success, you
need to start shifting yourmindset and realize that that
(11:47):
mindset shift and what youchoose starts to become your
identity, right?
Your identity is built throughrepetition, it's not built
through just intention.
You become what you constantlyreinforce.
Your wolves don't care aboutwhat you want, they care about
what you practice.
Wanting is is you know all goodin your head, but in reality,
(12:12):
wanting means nothing.
You can want the world, doesn'tmean you're gonna get it.
You can want a Ferrari, doesn'tmean you're gonna get it.
That's why when people say, youknow, the whole like vision
boards and stuff like that, likeI think they're cool tools, but
like just speaking affirmationsin the mirror and creating a
(12:33):
vision board isn't gonna get youthe results that you want.
You need to also back that up bywork.
That's supposed to be a toolthat you use for you to also
follow it up with by work.
It's a reminder that you need toput in the work today.
But just by saying that you wantsomething doesn't mean you're
gonna get it.
I mean, damn, if if that was thecase, my three-year-old wants
(12:55):
ice cream every morning.
She's not getting it, she canwant it all she wants, right?
But that's not what you need,that's not what you are gonna
get.
So an example of this also iswanting confidence versus being
(13:18):
confident.
Well, you can want to beconfident all you want, but you
need to do things that are gonnastart to reinforce your
self-confidence, which is gonnatake you outside of your comfort
zone.
And if you're not willing to dothat because it's uncomfortable,
then you're not gonna becomeconfident.
(13:39):
It's that simple.
You done enough times and donethrough enough repetition, your
goal is not just about fightingthe dark wolf, it's about
letting it starve.
You should be focusing andputting so much work into
(14:00):
feeding the light wolf that thedark wolf is literally starving.
It's not that you even have toworry about drifting anymore,
and that won't happen overnight.
But over time, when you stopfeeding it, it goes away, it
becomes less strong, right?
Like, think about think about uhan actual wolf, right?
(14:23):
Or a dog, right?
If if you can picture that alittle bit better, if you have
two dogs and you're feeding oneconstantly and one's not, and
you call both of them over toyou, which one's gonna get up
and run to you?
Well, the one you've beenfeeding because it's stronger,
it has more muscle, it has youknow the energy from the food.
Like you, that's the same thingwith this and with your mindset.
The thing that you practice isgoing to come a lot faster to
(14:44):
you and be a lot stronger inyour mind than the thing you're
not feeding.
So you have to constantly feedthe light wolf, right?
Focus on the habits that aregonna make you proud.
If you make a promise toyourself, for example, I hear
this one all the time.
I'm gonna work out today afterwork.
Well, then fucking go to the gymafter work.
(15:05):
Let's say, God forbid you can'tgo to the gym.
Well, then do a workout at home.
The main thing is you kept thepromise to yourself that you
were going to work out afterwork.
You didn't say you're gonna workout at the gym, and if you
can't, then you're not gonnawork.
No, you said you're going towork out.
I heard an interview with KobeBryant.
Um, and actually, this is kindof a little off script of what I
(15:28):
was planning to talk about, butI think this kind of goes right
into what I'm saying is hetalked about his game plan, and
you know, someone was askinghim, you know, was it hard
sticking to your plan and andyou know, pushing yourself
throughout the season?
And he said, Yeah, that honestlythat's one of the hardest
things, right?
(15:48):
You know, before the seasonstarts, you have a game plan,
you write everything out, likethis is what I'm gonna do after
each game, this is what I'mgonna do um at this point, and
so forth.
And then all of a sudden you hitthat point, and then you know
your body's sore and you'retired, and you know, you're
succeeding, and you're like, andthen it starts to creep in.
Well, maybe I could just take arest day today, or maybe I could
(16:09):
just, you know, I'm gonna dohalf the workout.
And then that's when he waslike, Nope.
Is I said I was gonna do this,I'm gonna do it, regardless of
how I feel.
That was the plan.
There is no, this is not anegotiation, right?
You cannot negotiate withyourself if you set the plan,
follow the plan.
You told yourself you're gonnado X, then do X.
(16:30):
There is no A, B, or C.
You said I'm gonna do A, then doA.
Then you said after A, I'm gonnado B, then do A, and then do B.
That's simple, right?
And I'm not saying it's thatsimple in the terms of like
you're just gonna be able to doit.
Like you're gonna have tomentally battle yourself on
certain things, but it getseasier.
(16:51):
I promise you.
It gets easier.
The more you practice it and themore you keep the promises to
yourself, the easier it gets.
The more you do theuncomfortable reps, the more
comfortable you get at beinguncomfortable.
I'm not saying it goes away, butyou start to accept that feeling
of uncomfort a little bit more,right?
(17:16):
So I want you to analyze yourday and realize that there's
micro decisions that you'remaking all throughout the day.
And I want you to review justeven like what's happened so far
today.
What did you start to feed theopposite wolf today?
What could you have done nexttime to not do so?
(17:38):
So when it happens tomorrow, youdon't feed the dark wolf, right?
It's your choice which wolf youchoose.
But again, no one can do it foryou.
You have to choose, and you haveto want it bad enough, and then
you have to do it so many timesthat it becomes a habit, and the
(17:59):
dark wolf is starving out therein the dark.
I hope this guy, I hope thishelps.
I know we're wrapping up towardsthe end of the year, and I know
you guys still have goals to hitby the the end of this year
before the new year's hits andall that kind of stuff.
And if we're talking aboutfitness and everything like
that, like the holidays are allcoming up.
So this is the time that you getto reinforce your light wolf.
(18:19):
But I hope that helped you guys.
I love you guys.
I appreciate y'all.
I'll see you guys on the nextvideo.
Hello guys, welcome back to another episode of the
Mindset Cafe Podcast.
It's your boy Devin Gonzalez,and today I want to talk about
the story of the two wolves andhow everyone has the two wolves
in them, and how you essentiallyget to shape your identity by
picking which which wolf.
So there's an old story about agrandfather who tells his
(00:42):
grandson, Inside of you, there'stwo wolves, and they're always
fighting.
One wolf is darkness, it'sanger, fear, jealousy, and
despair.
The other wolf is light, whichis hope, discipline, compassion,
and strength.
The grandfather asks, sorry, thegrandson asks, which wolf wins?
(01:03):
And the grandfather answers,Well, the wolf that wins is the
one that you feed.
And most people hear that andthink it's a cute little
metaphor and a cute littlestory, but it's not.
It's one of the most accuratedescriptions of the human
experience.
Every day you're feedingsomething, right?
(01:24):
You're with your habits, withyour thoughts, with your
reactions, with your discipline,or on the other hand, the lack
of it.
And the wolf that gets fedbecomes the one that you
controls your life.
So today I want to break downthe story in ways that you can
use not just as a moral lesson,but as a practical framework,
(01:45):
essentially, for you choosingyour identity and managing your
emotional state and taking backcontrol of the direction of your
life.
So let's dive in a little bit.
Every day there's situationsthat happen that aren't planned,
right?
And they have an emotional tollon you, whether positive or
negative.
(02:06):
And you get to choose, likewe've talked about on previous
episodes, you get to choose yourreactions to these events.
You can't change the eventnecessarily, right?
You get in a car accident, youknow, um the power goes out,
your alarm doesn't go off.
You can't change the event, butyour reaction to the event is
fully your your control.
(02:29):
And that is essentially thebasis of what the two wolves
are.
You get to choose the way youview the world, the way you get
to view your circumstances, theway you get to view the events
that happen to you or the thingsthat happen to you.
So it's really justunderstanding that you are who
(02:54):
you choose to be.
You are if you if you're viewingthe world in a negative manner,
then everything's gonna appearthat it's you know going against
you, everything's gonna seemlike a problem.
If you're viewing things on thelighter side and seeing
everything as an opportunity oras a lesson, well, then you're
(03:17):
gonna seek out more opportunity.
Opportunity is gonna find you.
You wonder how people, you know,some people are just you know,
quote unquote, lucky, andopportunity just finds them.
Well, those are the people thatsee the world and see their day
through that opportunity, uh,opportunistic lens.
And so what I want to talk aboutis really, you know, what does
(03:38):
feeding the wolf really mean?
Right.
And so I want to clarify whatthat actually means so that you
can actually start to break itdown and and add this to your
daily habits, essentially.
You have to think what whatfeeding the wolf is.
Damn, that's actually soundspretty cool.
Um, but what feeding the wolf isum it's what gets your
(04:01):
attention, what you're whatyou're doing on a repetition,
right?
And in in repetition.
So, what are you constantlydoing that is a habit?
What are your habitual responsesto certain things?
What is your view or your takewhen a negative thing happens?
(04:25):
Whatever you repeat becomes yourdefault, right?
People think that they rise tothe occasion, you don't, you
default down to your level oftraining, and so it's not like
you can flip the switch and justyou know see everything through
the light wolf, right?
You know, through an opportunityopportunistic lens or through a
(04:46):
positive mindset, but anytimeyou anytime you essentially
catch yourself viewing things ina negative mindset or with a
negative connotation to it,that's where you put the brakes
on it.
That's where you put a littlepause to it, and that's where
you take a step back and thenyou try to reshift.
(05:09):
This isn't this one event isn'tmaking my day a bad day.
It was maybe a bad moment, maybea bad minute, but what can I
learn from this?
And so, for example, if you arenaturally an anxious person,
(05:30):
right, and you you fight, youknow, having anxiety, well, what
happens when you focus on youranxiety?
You start to become more anxiousif you in turn want to focus on,
let's say, becoming morecourageous, it's gonna feel like
(05:52):
a manual action.
You trying to become morecourageous, you trying to
becoming more mentally strong,but over time, you feeding that
habit in that mental state, itstarts to become your default.
Then you don't have to thinkabout it as much.
So the dark wolf, right?
Your fear, your doubt, yourdespair, um, resentment,
(06:15):
jealousy, uh, apathy,insecurity, avoidance, you know,
those are some just someeveryday examples that can
happen.
Like, let's say, instead oflet's let's take it even more
simplistic, instead of gettingstarted on the task, you're
scrolling on Instagram.
Instead of instead of looking atsomething that went wrong in
(06:41):
conversation, in a sales pitch,in a game, um, whatever the
scenario may be, instead oftrying to extract what went
wrong so that you can find asolution so that it doesn't
happen again, you're justreplaying that it went wrong.
And you're not looking at it aswhat can I learn from this?
And it's just playing on a loop,and then all of a sudden that
(07:02):
starts to wear on you, and thenyou start to lose
self-confidence.
You another one is I know thisis for a lot of people,
especially when you're trying tolevel up, whether it's fitness,
whether it's business, you know,professionally, whatever.
The dark wolf would allow you ordoes allow you currently to
(07:22):
choose the comfort path, right?
Anytime there's a resistance, oryou have to, you know, get
outside your comfort zone, youtake a step back.
You're like, okay, well, andthen you make 10 different
excuses why that can't be donetoday.
And so you have to realize thatyou have to focus on the growth
and focus on gettinguncomfortable, even when those
(07:45):
times happen, so that you cancontinue to push forward, right?
Where on the other hand, it'salmost like the two devils that
sit on your shoulder, right?
The good and the bad, right?
Same thing with the wolves,right?
You have the dark wolf, you havethe light wolf, and the light
wolf is gonna be, you know,hope, strength, discipline,
compassion, responsibility,courage, consistency.
(08:07):
And while all those words, youknow what they mean, but
everyday examples of thesethings tend to be like let's say
showing up early for work orshowing up early for an event,
um, taking the first step beforeyou feel ready, practicing
gratitude, as simple as that.
You know, be thankful for whatyou've accomplished, what you've
(08:30):
what you have currently, becauseif you're not grateful for what
you have currently, then you'renot gonna be grateful for what
you get moving forward.
So the point of that is realizethat light grows through choice,
and so it's especially in thebeginning, it's gonna be
difficult, but you are going tohave to try to make this where
(08:51):
it becomes a habit.
So it's day after day, you know,like I said, consistency, making
these things so that it becomesyour default.
You have to feed the right wolflong before you realize that
you're on that side, meaningthat if you're trying to choose
the light wolf, you're gonnahave to feed that and and
(09:13):
practice it long before yourealize that it's already become
a habit.
Most people don't consciouslychoose to go to the dark wolf,
they kind of slowly drift, andit happens to all of us, but is
when you catch that drift, oreven if you're all the way over,
it's like you realize it, andnow you have a decision to make.
(09:36):
Are you gonna stay there, or areyou gonna actively do things to
try to shift and drift back theopposite way?
Because if you're gonna staythere, then that is also your
choice.
Growing physically, I mean, likein your fitness, in your
business, all those things arepainful mentally, physically,
emotionally sometimes, but alsostaying where you are is also
(09:59):
painful physically, mentally,emotionally, right, financially.
And so you have a choice.
Which route of pain do you wantto choose?
The one that has a bigger upsideor the one that has less
friction, but you're you'reaccepting complacency.
And if you're acceptingcomplacency, you also like for
(10:24):
me personally, I hate whenpeople complain about being the
same or not not achieving theirgoals, but then you look at
their actions, and there'snothing to back up why that you
should even get those goals.
Like you're doing nothing toprove to the world, the life,
(10:44):
you know, life in general,right?
The grind, whatever you want tocall it, you're not doing enough
or anything at all to even makeit reasonable for you to say
that you deserve that goal.
Take Kobe Bryant, for example.
You know, he used to shoot freethrows, you know, for hours and
(11:05):
hours and hours.
He didn't just say, I'm in theNBA, I can just kick back.
You have to constantly work.
Do you think pro pro athletes?
Do you think that you know thetop CEOs that they just kick
back, they're constantlyperfecting their craft.
(11:26):
They know that nothingguarantees them staying where
they are.
So they're not allowing the darkwolf to creep in because they
know if they let it happen,they're going to slide down the
mountain of success that they'recurrently on.
But for you to be able to climbthat mountain of success, you
need to start shifting yourmindset and realize that that
(11:47):
mindset shift and what youchoose starts to become your
identity, right?
Your identity is built throughrepetition, it's not built
through just intention.
You become what you constantlyreinforce.
Your wolves don't care aboutwhat you want, they care about
what you practice.
Wanting is is you know all goodin your head, but in reality,
(12:12):
wanting means nothing.
You can want the world, doesn'tmean you're gonna get it.
You can want a Ferrari, doesn'tmean you're gonna get it.
That's why when people say, youknow, the whole like vision
boards and stuff like that, likeI think they're cool tools, but
like just speaking affirmationsin the mirror and creating a
(12:33):
vision board isn't gonna get youthe results that you want.
You need to also back that up bywork.
That's supposed to be a toolthat you use for you to also
follow it up with by work.
It's a reminder that you need toput in the work today.
But just by saying that you wantsomething doesn't mean you're
gonna get it.
I mean, damn, if if that was thecase, my three-year-old wants
(12:55):
ice cream every morning.
She's not getting it, she canwant it all she wants, right?
But that's not what you need,that's not what you are gonna
get.
So an example of this also iswanting confidence versus being
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confident.
Well, you can want to beconfident all you want, but you
need to do things that are gonnastart to reinforce your
self-confidence, which is gonnatake you outside of your comfort
zone.
And if you're not willing to dothat because it's uncomfortable,
then you're not gonna becomeconfident.
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It's that simple.
You done enough times and donethrough enough repetition, your
goal is not just about fightingthe dark wolf, it's about
letting it starve.
You should be focusing andputting so much work into
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feeding the light wolf that thedark wolf is literally starving.
It's not that you even have toworry about drifting anymore,
and that won't happen overnight.
But over time, when you stopfeeding it, it goes away, it
becomes less strong, right?
Like, think about think about uhan actual wolf, right?
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Or a dog, right?
If if you can picture that alittle bit better, if you have
two dogs and you're feeding oneconstantly and one's not, and
you call both of them over toyou, which one's gonna get up
and run to you?
Well, the one you've beenfeeding because it's stronger,
it has more muscle, it has youknow the energy from the food.
Like you, that's the same thingwith this and with your mindset.
The thing that you practice isgoing to come a lot faster to
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you and be a lot stronger inyour mind than the thing you're
not feeding.
So you have to constantly feedthe light wolf, right?
Focus on the habits that aregonna make you proud.
If you make a promise toyourself, for example, I hear
this one all the time.
I'm gonna work out today afterwork.
Well, then fucking go to the gymafter work.
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Let's say, God forbid you can'tgo to the gym.
Well, then do a workout at home.
The main thing is you kept thepromise to yourself that you
were going to work out afterwork.
You didn't say you're gonna workout at the gym, and if you
can't, then you're not gonnawork.
No, you said you're going towork out.
I heard an interview with KobeBryant.
Um, and actually, this is kindof a little off script of what I
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was planning to talk about, butI think this kind of goes right
into what I'm saying is hetalked about his game plan, and
you know, someone was askinghim, you know, was it hard
sticking to your plan and andyou know, pushing yourself
throughout the season?
And he said, Yeah, that honestlythat's one of the hardest
things, right?
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You know, before the seasonstarts, you have a game plan,
you write everything out, likethis is what I'm gonna do after
each game, this is what I'mgonna do um at this point, and
so forth.
And then all of a sudden you hitthat point, and then you know
your body's sore and you'retired, and you know, you're
succeeding, and you're like, andthen it starts to creep in.
Well, maybe I could just take arest day today, or maybe I could
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just, you know, I'm gonna dohalf the workout.
And then that's when he waslike, Nope.
Is I said I was gonna do this,I'm gonna do it, regardless of
how I feel.
That was the plan.
There is no, this is not anegotiation, right?
You cannot negotiate withyourself if you set the plan,
follow the plan.
You told yourself you're gonnado X, then do X.
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There is no A, B, or C.
You said I'm gonna do A, then doA.
Then you said after A, I'm gonnado B, then do A, and then do B.
That's simple, right?
And I'm not saying it's thatsimple in the terms of like
you're just gonna be able to doit.
Like you're gonna have tomentally battle yourself on
certain things, but it getseasier.
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I promise you.
It gets easier.
The more you practice it and themore you keep the promises to
yourself, the easier it gets.
The more you do theuncomfortable reps, the more
comfortable you get at beinguncomfortable.
I'm not saying it goes away, butyou start to accept that feeling
of uncomfort a little bit more,right?
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So I want you to analyze yourday and realize that there's
micro decisions that you'remaking all throughout the day.
And I want you to review justeven like what's happened so far
today.
What did you start to feed theopposite wolf today?
What could you have done nexttime to not do so?
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So when it happens tomorrow, youdon't feed the dark wolf, right?
It's your choice which wolf youchoose.
But again, no one can do it foryou.
You have to choose, and you haveto want it bad enough, and then
you have to do it so many timesthat it becomes a habit, and the
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dark wolf is starving out therein the dark.
I hope this guy, I hope thishelps.
I know we're wrapping up towardsthe end of the year, and I know
you guys still have goals to hitby the the end of this year
before the new year's hits andall that kind of stuff.
And if we're talking aboutfitness and everything like
that, like the holidays are allcoming up.
So this is the time that you getto reinforce your light wolf.
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But I hope that helped you guys.
I love you guys.
I appreciate y'all.
I'll see you guys on the nextvideo.
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