Teacher Spotlight Series: Becky Therrien on Yoga, Parenting & Navigating the Digital Age

When's the last time you took a breath, left the constant chime of technology behind, and truly connected with yourself? This episode of Modern Yoga Podcast is a heartening reminder of why we all need to prioritize our well-being, even amidst the chaos of our daily lives. We're thrilled to have Becky Therrien on the show, an OG yoga teacher at Modern Yoga, who's been on this physical and spiritual journey for over a decade.

Becky's story is deeply intertwined with yoga. As she walks us through the ebbs and flows of her journey, you'll be inspired by her resilience, and how yoga has been her constant companion - from her first class in a gym, to completing her teacher training at Modern Yoga. But don't think we're keeping it all 'zen'. We delve into the nitty-gritty of parenthood in this digital age, as Becky gets candid about guiding her three children toward responsible technology use. We shine a light on the impacts of social media on kids' well-being and underline the need for mindful conversations about this digital presence.

Beyond yoga and technology, the conversation ventures into the balancing act of family, self-care, and personal time. Becky's story, spanning over a decade with yoga, navigating teenage parenting, and maintaining a balance between self-care and family commitments, is a testament to her strength. You'll find yourself nodding in agreement as she emphasizes the importance of carving out time for yourself and your partner. We also hear about her pre-teen romance turned lifelong partnership, her upcoming challenges and joys - including a house move and her children's school updates. We know you'll enjoy this journey, filled with personal stories, candid discussions, and insightful perspectives - all imbued with a unique blend of yoga's calming influence.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Two microphones and make the fall gas.
Two microphones and you makethe fall gas gas.

Speaker 2 (00:28):
Hi, this is Joyce and this is Marybeth.
Welcome to the Modern Yogapodcast.
Today's guest is Becky Therian.
She is one of our OG teachers.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
Good morning.
Good morning.

Speaker 3 (00:42):
Yeah, like what generation?
One or two?

Speaker 1 (00:44):
I know I don't feel like I've even been teaching
long enough to be an OG teacher,but when I think about how many
years have gone by, I'vealready eaten.

Speaker 3 (00:51):
I don't know COVID did that to us.

Speaker 2 (00:53):
It took that three-year package and just took
it whoop right out of our eyes.
It made time weird.
Yeah, it totally made timeweird.
Yeah, you graduated fromtraining in 2018, right?

Speaker 1 (01:06):
2018,.
I think so.
Yeah, I think I can tell you.

Speaker 2 (01:13):
You graduated with Mel.

Speaker 1 (01:15):
I graduated with?
Who Was it?

Speaker 2 (01:18):
Mel.
Yeah, yeah, we're coming up onfive years.

Speaker 3 (01:25):
Yeah, oh it's crazy.

Speaker 1 (01:28):
Yeah, Mel and I jumped together.

Speaker 3 (01:32):
Yeah, for anybody in the International Podcast
audience that doesn't followModern Yoga on social media.
When one of our teachersgraduates, we take a nice
picture of them taking a big oldleap in front of the Modern
Yoga location that they're, Iguess, closest to.
We only have a couple atBrexvillar, or maybe Josh, yeah.

(01:54):
Lauren and Lindsay graduated inBrexville oh but so those are
always fun watching somebodyjump for joy or because you told
them to jump so you can take apicture.

Speaker 1 (02:05):
Well, both we worked it, but it was definitely very
joyful.
But training is a haul.
It's a lot of the time is justthe tip of the iceberg.
So it's definitely joyful whenyou complete it for sure.

Speaker 3 (02:21):
And when do you get to jump?
Yeah, how often do you get tojump in life anymore?

Speaker 2 (02:27):
Maybe it's often.

Speaker 1 (02:29):
Actually, we just took a family photo and we are
all jumping.
I'll have to share with you.

Speaker 3 (02:34):
Yeah, please do, because our first Christmas card
as a Modern Yoga team, when wehad, you know, the starter
lineup of teachers and teammembers, we did a big jump and
it came out pretty funny because, of course, my giant ape elbow
is slamming either Joyce orStacy Teter in the face and like

(02:56):
blocking them from view.

Speaker 2 (02:58):
It's all about me and your hair is so heavy it barely
lifted.
Yeah, that was a classicpicture.
Now I'm realizing where thesong came from.
So Victoria Stambridge tookthat photo because she did
photos for us early on and shealso was our wedding
photographer.
And I know Victoria like fordecades.

(03:20):
We ice-gated together.
Victoria came to my Mondaynights this week, yeah she's
making her comeback at yoga, butshe we took some wedding photos
in front of the rock hall andshe had the whole wedding party
jump, and so that was for methat was probably the OG jump
photo.
And then that became the.

(03:41):
I forgot about the OG Christmascard.
That was such an awesome card.

Speaker 3 (03:46):
And then Victoria Stambridge photography, who is
not sponsoring this podcast butis welcome to if she'd like to,
takes a really amazing and fun.
I mean, she'll do anything youwant.
She'll do creepy dolls, she'sdone all the roller derby stuff
that she used to be in, so she'sa, if you want, a super
professional, creativephotographer, but one who will

(04:07):
also be a riot boatload of fun,she's your man.

Speaker 2 (04:11):
Yeah, she's kind of artsy and yeah, victoria is
great.
But back to Becky.

Speaker 3 (04:18):
So Becky who, oh, becky Therian.

Speaker 2 (04:23):
Becky, when did you start practicing yoga?

Speaker 1 (04:29):
Probably about 10 years ago, and I had I honestly
like had no idea what yoga was.
I saw people wearing these cuteclothes and I was like what?
What was that was about?
You know?

Speaker 2 (04:44):
like I want those clothes.

Speaker 1 (04:46):
Yeah, and so my first yoga class was like at a gym.
So it was very different thanthe kind of yoga I practice
right now, but you know justreally kind of about your body
and a lot less focus in thoseclasses on or even maybe correct

(05:09):
and such just basic poses andmoving your body, and it felt
delightful At the time my kidswere through, I had to put them
like in the babysitting I cancome to the yoga class and.
I would be grateful to thatwoman.
Her name was Ms Anne and shewas so kind that my church, she

(05:33):
made it possible for me to havesome kind of, you know, fitness
in my life, because she made itfun for my kids to go in there
and that felt so good after yogaclass.
I enjoyed it so much and then Ieventually kind of branched off
from gym because I wanted tolearn more about yoga.

(05:57):
I think I wanted like a littlebit deeper practice.
I wanted more attention toalignment and more poses that
built on, you know, more thanjust kind of the basic
foundational kind of poses, Iguess, or the basic mainstream
poses.
I just, I don't know, justreally piqued my curiosity
because I enjoyed it so much,and so that's how I found myself

(06:18):
at Modern.

Speaker 2 (06:21):
What?
And so if you startedpracticing about 10 years ago,
we're seven and a half years old, so you'd only been practicing
for like a couple of years andthen so Modern showed up as your
like yoga studio.

Speaker 3 (06:35):
Where were you able to try other yoga studios first?

Speaker 1 (06:38):
No, actually it's definitely my first, what I
would call my first.
I've taken classes at otheryoga studios, but I have never
been a constant student at adifferent yoga studio.

Speaker 2 (06:51):
Cool.
So, after taking classes for acouple of years, we opened up
teacher training in 2018, andyou were in the original group,
so I guess you're not like an OG.
You weren't teaching when we,you weren't one of the original
teachers in 2016, but it wasn'tthat long Actually.
You and Mary Beth might be.

(07:12):
Mary Beth is definitely our OG.

Speaker 1 (07:16):
Yeah, no, Mary Beth was definitely a teacher.
Yeah, when I started practicingwith Modern.

Speaker 2 (07:21):
But you and Mel might be on staff.
Let me take a look at that.

Speaker 1 (07:25):
The Suzie, I think, was in.
We started with Suzie as well.
She was an app training class.

Speaker 2 (07:31):
Right, but I think she graduated a little bit after
you.
Yeah, she graduated on December16th, so a whole month later.
Yeah, and let's see.

Speaker 3 (07:45):
Yeah this is a good I think it's a good opportunity
for a little commercial aboutModern Yoga's teacher training,
how it is and can be a groupexperience with lots of your
peers.
But you also have those modulesthat go at your own pace so
you're not necessarilygraduating at the same moment as
the next person.

(08:05):
So there's a lot of flexibilitythere, which is the idea right.

Speaker 1 (08:09):
Yeah, to be honest with you, that's the only reason
I was training was the level offlexibility.
My kids at the time were, Ifeel, like five-ish and seven.
I've got twins and a olderdaughter, so my to be practicing
yoga is not paying the bills.

(08:30):
So obviously my husband is theprimary supporter of our family.
So it's not like I could have awork so I could go to yoga
training right Like that doesn'tmake sense for how our life
works.
So I was able to fit thetraining in a way that worked

(08:51):
for me, whether I got child careor he could come home for an
afternoon or whatever the casemay be.
But when I got advertisementsfor like those immersion weeks
or two weeks or whatever, thatwas just very unrealistic for me
.

Speaker 2 (09:04):
I could have never had something like that.
I'm going to have to give MaryBeth the reins for a moment.
Chloe, I think my dog needs togo out and I don't want to oh,
okay, I have a chance here.

Speaker 3 (09:12):
All right, I've got the reins.

Speaker 2 (09:14):
Now I thought she was going to say.

Speaker 3 (09:16):
I thought she was going to say her dog is barfing.

Speaker 1 (09:19):
You have dogs or a dog, right, I'm just waiting for
him to start barking.

Speaker 3 (09:22):
Yeah, so you know that noise in the middle of the
night that kind of wakes you up.
Oh wait, you have a dead sleepand it's like it's not that loud
but somehow it gets you Likethe dog is going, like mm.
Mm.

Speaker 1 (09:34):
I can sleep through a blaring alarm.
The noise starts out of bedsprinting.

Speaker 3 (09:40):
Oh my gosh, so true.
So tell me about your doggy.

Speaker 1 (09:43):
Oh yeah.
So he is super cute.
His name's Tucker four and he'sa really like.
He's a really sweet dog.
However, when it comes to food,he is a thief and a stinger.
And so we have had someinteresting experiences with him
eating food.
I don't see shouldn't, but heis.

Speaker 3 (10:04):
Yeah, any any dog I ever had would have happily
eaten itself to death, like weused to have a dog named buddy
that we said would do flybys.
He would just come running andlike, take a whole pizza off the
table and go, oh my gosh.

Speaker 1 (10:18):
And he does it so sneaky that he'll like snuggle
up to you and you think he'sbeing like so cute.
You're sort of like let yourguard down and then a second get
your plate and something'smissing.
And he does it so non violentlythat you don't react.

Speaker 3 (10:34):
Does it make sense, like if it got aggressive.

Speaker 1 (10:36):
You might have a big pullback or something, but he's
so smart that you're like youdon't even know something's
happened in your food.

Speaker 3 (10:44):
That's how I do it.
When I steal people's food, Isort of snuggle up, nuzzle a
little in the neck and go in forthe ribs.

Speaker 2 (10:51):
Chloe is so not the one that I just let out a so not
food motivated.
Actually, I'm getting well.
I know we talk about her a lot,but I'm getting worried about
her.
She's she's 13.
And she's got heart issues.
But she basically lays hereuntil about now and I think
she's getting a little senileand like she's 13.

(11:13):
So you know, but she's happy,she's just not food motivated
and she has to take medicationand that's the whole thing.
But our boy, who may make anappearance like he's always
acting like he's starving andthere's nothing covert about
that.
He's like I'm starving.

Speaker 3 (11:32):
I wish I was.
And when I still had Mr Peeperas the cat I found out he was my
first experience with a cat, soI do not have a lot of
information about cats and I wasshocked to find out because
this happened with him in hisolder years.
But I found out throughvolunteering at the cat shelter
and and through my vet and otherpeople that at some point cats

(11:54):
just don't care about eating ordrinking and they might actually
just die because of it, likethey.
For a cat to drink water youhave to buy, like this cute
elaborate fountain.
There was a cream that I, anointment that I rubbed on
Peeper's ears.
That was an appetite stimulantbecause otherwise.
So I was like wait, god made ananimal that's just going to.

(12:15):
It's too lazy to get up and eator drink, so it's just going to
die there.
That is, I have no idea aboutcats like that, and the appetite
stimulant thing was amazing.
You just rub it on his ear andthen suddenly he was eating
things he never ate before,really, yeah, yeah, ask your vet
about it.
Maybe it's a thing they can dofor dogs if you need her to eat.

Speaker 2 (12:35):
I don't know if you need her to eat or not, I mean,
she's not, she's not, she's notnot eating, she's just not like
cold, worse, where, like you putfood out or he, you know, like
he's like, hey, you're supposedto put food in my bowl like 30
seconds ago, yeah, I'm going todie, I'm going to die.
My vet actually told me thestory of it.

Speaker 3 (12:50):
It was another kind of pharmaceutical for humans
that they accidentallydiscovered was an appetite
stimulant in in animals.

Speaker 1 (12:59):
So I don't know why, or how.

Speaker 3 (13:01):
I don't know who figures that out or how Right.
This is why I don't do thescience.

Speaker 2 (13:09):
Actually, as I'm typing it in, it's come like
four cats came up.

Speaker 3 (13:13):
Oh, so not so much for dogs, which also is funny.
Like you think it would justwork in the animal kingdom.

Speaker 2 (13:19):
Right.

Speaker 3 (13:19):
That's what.
I'm saying Having said that, mycat several times during his
life caught mice, but also didnot eat them, just treated them
as a gentle little play toy.

Speaker 1 (13:33):
I think that they yeah, I don't think they helped
them.
I think sometimes they leavethem also as presents for you.

Speaker 3 (13:41):
Yes, yeah, well, I think he brought this present to
to alive and into my bed at 3am.

Speaker 2 (13:48):
Oh yeah it was.
It was kind of like, yeah,barely alive kind of thing and
much like Becky and I.

Speaker 3 (13:56):
Oh no, fully, the fuck alive.
Oh, fully, he didn't hurt it,gently carried it up.
Oh yeah, becky and I were justtalking about the indescribable,
unmistakable sound of a dogabout to vomit.
Oh yeah, well, a house cat,who's not an outdoor cat?
When it has an experience witha mouse or something outdoorsy,

(14:20):
it suddenly becomes an animalagain.
It is their tail is puffed up,they arch their back and they do
make this sound, this purrygrowl that Peepers never made
before by little fluff ball.
We knew something was up andwoke up, and then there was just
a lot of.
I mean, we're big people.
Jeff is running naked down thehallway yelling release.

(14:44):
I'm sorry, did we teach Peepersthe word release?
I don't think I knew thatcommand.
That's so funny.
Then, meanwhile, peepers goesin the other room and has a
cigarette and me and Jeff are atopposite ends of our upstairs
hallway with a bucket and atrash can trying to trap this
mouse, which we successfully dideventually, but it was a rough

(15:04):
run, did.

Speaker 2 (15:06):
Peepers supervise that trapping.

Speaker 3 (15:10):
No, he just went in the other room and was like my
work here is done.
Look at these giant idiots.

Speaker 2 (15:16):
This Tucker probably doesn't catch anything like
squirrels and stuff, oh no.

Speaker 1 (15:21):
I mean he takes a menstrual and chasing squirrels
into the tree where they makeactually funny sounds back down
the assets.

Speaker 2 (15:29):
Yeah, they do it in taunt.
Yeah.
Yeah, chloe will sit thereforever thinking that the
squirrels, she'll just sit thereand look up like go ahead, come
down.
I'm waiting for you, yeah.

Speaker 1 (15:43):
And we actually have a play set in the backyard and
squirrels will run on the top ofthe play set, so he will run
off the ramp onto this bridgepart, chase them and then you'll
see him go down the slide.
Because that's hilarious.

Speaker 3 (15:59):
Oh my God, that's hilarious.
You got to video that.

Speaker 1 (16:01):
It was very funny.

Speaker 3 (16:03):
That's awesome.
I love that.
A dog of any age, shape or sizeclearly believes they're going
to catch that squirrel.
Yeah, that is just your visionof hope and confidence.

Speaker 2 (16:19):
It's the place.
The fun is in the hope, rightLike they're happy to just chase
.

Speaker 1 (16:26):
With their full effort.
I mean runs after everythinghe's got.

Speaker 2 (16:30):
Right Every single time.
It's not like well.
That technique didn't work thelast 300 times, but I'm going to
try it again.

Speaker 1 (16:38):
Every day is a new day.

Speaker 3 (16:40):
Lessons from a dog.

Speaker 2 (16:43):
So, becky, I have always had a lot of respect and
appreciation for you because youhave three young children and
you're so dedicated to yourpractice and to teaching.
And I think that that respectgrew a lot once you know Alina
arrived, because I've never hadmy own child and I have a new

(17:08):
appreciation for all thingsparenting, because they really
take over everything likeeverything, suck the life out of
you.
Well and put life into you too.
It's just a lot.
And I was actually thinkingabout this morning, while I was
getting ready, the fact that youhad twins.

(17:30):
Like I can't imagine two Alinas.
I mean it would be awesome, butat the same time it's like oh
my God, like oh my gosh.
So and then you have, yourtwins are the younger ones.
You know your daughter.
You have an older daughter whois not that much older too.
So like that's just a lot, andI think they're at this age.
Like I feel like I'm justguessing that you're like a taxi

(17:55):
driver.

Speaker 1 (17:57):
Oh, every night.
Yeah, actually, we'redefinitely in this state.
They are because we have threekids and because they're about
the same age, like the oldest is14 and the younger two are 12.
They have very similarcommitment levels to activities,
if that makes sense.
Yeah, and so we're justoutnumbered.
So I actually have been in ahardcore car pool a long time,

(18:23):
but even now I'm having to reachout.
I, my husband and I, are reallylucky that both of our parents
live close to us and are sowilling to help out, because we
definitely have to reach out afair amount to get kids where
they're supposed to be.

Speaker 3 (18:38):
Teenagers, teenagers on the horizon, three of them
all together and female.
Holy crap, I feel bad for you.

Speaker 1 (18:45):
No, it's a one boy.
We've got one boy in there.
Oh got him One of the twins OK.
Yes, yes, yeah so he's actuallythe most sensitive and
emotional.
No, no, no, no.

Speaker 3 (18:58):
How wonderful those girls are going to beat him the
hell up.
Well, I was going to say that's.

Speaker 2 (19:04):
that's usually how it is Boys are very sensitive,
very sensitive, yeah.

Speaker 1 (19:08):
And you know what?
He grew up around girls,because a bunch of our neighbors
were girls or friends of myolder daughters that I was
friends with had girls.
So he grew up playing withgirls all the time.
I can't tell you how many timesthat kid Prince Charming, or
like the dancing with the stars.

Speaker 3 (19:30):
It's so good, though, because he will understand.

Speaker 1 (19:33):
He will understand girls and women like a lot of
boys don't, and that's that'llbe great, I think my husband
used to always give me a hardtime because he was not sure
about this Like he wasn't, youknow, and I told him I go, you
just wait.
When it gets to the stage thatyou know boys and girls are
trying to hang out, he will havezero problems because he knows

(19:56):
girls are actually his friendsand that's starting to Are so
and girls won't be such amystery to him like they are to
some boys that just don't haveany real exposure to girls.

Speaker 3 (20:09):
I'm sure we confuse the heck out of them and he'll
just always be like oh no, I hadsisters, I know what this is
all about.
I'm just going to walk away andignore this and it'll go, It'll
pass.

Speaker 1 (20:20):
Yeah, yeah, he probably has exposure to things
that he preferred to not haveexposure to, but for better or
worse, so you're going to have adriver in your household in the
next few years?
I know she keeps reminding usactually sort of terrifying.

Speaker 2 (20:34):
Becky's like I don't want to talk about it.
We talk about it too much.

Speaker 1 (20:38):
She brings it up a lot because in January so I
think it's 15 and a half theyget to get a long Percent Nike's
.
I know it's terrifying.
The only thing that I'm like alittle bit optimistic on is
she's here to drive right now,so that makes me think she won't
be in a huge hurry to get herlicense.

Speaker 3 (21:00):
I don't know, maybe not I'm telling you that first
time.

Speaker 2 (21:04):
So, ashley, when she got her license, like she did
the same thing.
She got her learner's permit,you know, and she was always
excited to drive.
And then she eventually got herlicense and both James and I
were like, well, it's just goingto be to school, it's going to
be very limited, you know,because we didn't just like any

(21:24):
body else.
You're just like are you reallyready for this kind of thing?
And the night she got herlicense, she's like can I, can I
go to Walgreens?
And I was like sure.
And then she left and I was andcame back and I'm like this is
amazing.
I think James was visiting hisdad in Florida.
I text him like Ashley justleft and I'm 10 minutes later.
I'm like and she's home.
That was great, and she gotwhat she needed and I didn't

(21:47):
have anything to do with it.

Speaker 1 (21:48):
Yeah, I have already had those moments where you like
you need something or they have, you know they need to go
somewhere or whatever.
That you do think like it won'tbe so bad when you can.
Right, you know, do this, do alittle of this yourself, yeah.

Speaker 3 (22:05):
And at least we do live in the age of technology
where your kids will always beable to text you and say I got
somewhere.
Our poor parents had to juststay up till midnight and hope
we brought their car home.
You track them.

Speaker 1 (22:16):
I track them, Mary Beth.
They don't even have to text meyet.
We have this app on our phonescalled Life360, which is amazing
.
So not only do I see where theyare, I see how fast they're
traveling.

Speaker 3 (22:29):
Oh well, that's good for them to know as they, as
they come of age.
But once they are of age, wehave some friends who continue
to track their kids who are nowclose to 30 years old.
One lives in another state andone still lives here and makes

(22:50):
my husband irate.

Speaker 1 (22:52):
Do the children know that they're still being tracked
?

Speaker 3 (22:54):
I'm not sure, I don't know, I don't know.

Speaker 2 (22:58):
So do your kids know that you have that?
Oh gosh, yeah.

Speaker 3 (23:01):
Yeah yeah, it's like a big at their age, it's.
It's an awesome thing andshould be.

Speaker 1 (23:06):
Yeah, and I mean I've always like kind of Explain to
my kids my worries when they'regoing somewhere.
You know, how would I know ifyou didn't get there?
When would I know then thatthere was a problem or whatever.
So it, I think it just like Idon't know.
I'm very transparent about mylevel of stuff.

(23:27):
I tell them to, I take yourphones randomly and I pick
messages to read.
I don't know.
I just think that.

Speaker 3 (23:35):
So they do all have phones.

Speaker 1 (23:37):
Yeah, they do all have phones.
We had this experience.
I never wanted my kids to havea phone till, like middle school
or maybe even older, but whenour oldest was in fifth grade,
we had this experience where shewas supposed to have a
basketball practice at the highschool, and so, if you're like
nine and ten, yeah, and we had acouple other things going on

(23:58):
that night.
So my husband was going to takeher and just drop her off,
which would be a normal thing todo.
She knew how to get to the gym.
She'd be meeting her team andFor whatever reason, and he
couldn't find a parking spot ora reason, or maybe he would walk
her in I think that was it andhe couldn't find a parking spot,
so he didn't want to just haveher go in by herself.

(24:19):
So he walked her in and thenrealized her team had canceled
practice and they had text me,but I didn't get it.
I didn't see it because I wasdoing something else, and so he
was just like her off.
She would have been in thismassive school.
There was a hundred thingsgoing on in the school that
night, which is why theycanceled practice wrestling

(24:41):
tournament and gymnastics, meet,all this other stuff he's like
and she would have had no way ofcalling us or like I don't know
.
It just made us not to have away of connecting with our kids
and giving them a way to connectwith us as we were getting to
this phase of life where theywere going to be apart from us.

Speaker 3 (25:00):
Yeah, because there's these little tastes of
independence like that and youwouldn't have wanted her to have
to rely on a stranger Astranger yeah.
You know, and we just weretalking about this when I was
babysitting my grandkids, so ourgranddaughter Kennedy's nine,
and we were at the pool and shejust wanted to go back to the
house to get something and, ofcourse, like you were just
saying, like Joyce, it's greatwhen you don't have to go with

(25:20):
them.
But I was like she does rideher bike with her friends to the
pool by herself, but she wasgoing to see if a friend was
home and then stay, and I'm likeI can't not know if you got
there when you got there or ifshe was home.
So you either need to wait forme or we need another solution.
So, yeah, I totally get that.

Speaker 1 (25:39):
Yeah, and it was like earlier than I would have
really liked, but I felt like itwas.
It's something that's workedwell for our family and
especially, like each summer,brings more independence with
where you get to ride your biketo and whatever.
So we started with just phonesthat you had to have some kind
of Wi-Fi connection to use, youknow like basically an iPad kind
of thing.
But then real quick we gotactual phones for them off so we

(26:04):
could get in touch with themand just that they're getting to
, you know, from point A topoint B, or you know their plans
change too.
They don't mean to do somethingdifferent than what they told
you.

Speaker 3 (26:15):
They get somewhere in the day of all, or the you know
another friend is home orsomething, we're going to go do
this at So-and-So's house.
So, since you're Go ahead,jason, I was going to say if the
if.

Speaker 2 (26:27):
Since your oldest got a phone, did that automatically
mean that the younger two gotone as well?

Speaker 1 (26:31):
Oh yeah, they were.
They would have probably beenin second grade that year,
second grade then.
So no, they didn't get in fifthgrade, which was on our oldest
Saturday, which I still feel isearly.
I'm definitely not advocatingfor that.
The way our family operates andcomes and goes, that for us,
like that's that gave us more ofa connected kind of being in

(26:53):
control, and just because wegave them a phone, you know like
it was.
They they called, but no onewas.
So the younger two still don'thave any social media, and the
oldest, when she was 13, we lether get Snapchat.

Speaker 3 (27:08):
That was my next question was so now, what do you
do about the social media thingand their peers, like, how many
of their friends have a phonesand be any social media with it?

Speaker 1 (27:19):
So basically, I think all their friends pretty much
have phones.
I think majority of them havehad them for a pretty decent
period of time and I thinkpretty much all of them have
social media and my son tells meevery single day is the only
one that doesn't have snap Afterlast, because it's something
else that you have to monitor.
If we're not familiar withSnapchat messages, delete Like

(27:42):
after you open that.
So as a parent, it's just sohard to monitor what my kid is,
what's coming into my kid,because it goes away.
So that's really my problemwith Snapchat and what I work.
You know we're not reservedthat for a little bit older and
I still am not saying 13 is theright answer.
But I know when she was 13 andwe gave her Snapchat, she was

(28:04):
the only person I knew of ourfriend group that still didn't
have it.
So they do, they get it young,but I don't.

Speaker 3 (28:10):
I mean, I think it's good that you're neither, you
know, promoting it, but alsoopening the conversation,
because, like you said, it hashelped them learn independence
in small doses and made thingswork for your family.
And maybe it's opened up aconversation in the households
of some of their friends too,because at some point you can

(28:34):
talk negatively about socialmedia it has all its pitfalls,
but it's like you know, thefirst people that refuse to have
a television in their house orwhatever, like this is how
things are going to go, this ishow life's going to be.
You got to arm them withinformed, you know conversations

(28:57):
about how this is going to go,and then I mean it's not, it's
not the devil.

Speaker 1 (29:02):
Yeah, but you know there's definitely.
They use Snapchat sometimeswith other apps and then they
can anonymously ask otherquestions.
So that's not always great,because what I was trying to get
my daughter when she was askingfor it for the first time, it's

(29:25):
this app called Send it.
You can post it on Snapchat andsome of them are fun.
But I was also saying to herfor what good reason is someone
asking you something anonymously?
Or does someone want to saysomething to you anonymously?

Speaker 3 (29:41):
Right, there's no good reason.

Speaker 1 (29:43):
Right.
So we have some experienceswith that too, but I feel like
at the time I was like, oh dearGod, they were important
experiences because they werethings that she made her feel
very embarrassed or stressed outand she chose it first to not

(30:05):
come to.
My husband and I we ended upfinding out about it because we
have friends or family membersthat follow her on Snapchat, so
they gave us the heads up,thankfully.
But then when I approached it,I could just tell she had been
so stressed out about it and itwas a good opportunity for me to
know I'm not angry.

(30:26):
I'm coming to you because I'mworried and you carried the
weight of this on your shouldersfor two days and I could have
helped you work through thisthose whole two days.
They're not upset.
I'm not mad.
I like help you work throughthese things in life and you're
going to make mistakes, but it'sa whole lot easier when you

(30:50):
have someone on your side towork through them, when you are
internally keeping that on andtrying to work through it.

Speaker 3 (30:56):
Yeah, so you gave her a good experience about it
instead of being afraid to cometo you.

Speaker 1 (31:02):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (31:04):
Or if you look at as adults, social media sites,
anytime a post is anonymous,it's ridiculously insulting or
negative, I mean.
And if adults can't handle it,how do we expect kids to either
not be so naive that they fallinto saying things that they

(31:25):
wish they wouldn't have or noteven realize how mean and
horrible things can be?

Speaker 2 (31:30):
Just so your daughter's strong.
So moms discuss it.

Speaker 3 (31:34):
That's what I'm speaking of, those sort of sites
and then somebody who's ananonymous poster.
They say things so differentlythan they would say them if
their name was a praying Right.

Speaker 1 (31:44):
Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 (31:49):
This is why you need yoga.
It's got to be so rough anddifferent than I.
Know that you're younger thanMary Beth and I, but when we
were that age and that age is sodifficult anyhow, it's just an
awkward exciting age, but withsocial media and technology and

(32:10):
everything, there's just so muchmore pressure because when we
were in school you would seeyour friends at school and then
you wouldn't at night, so youdidn't realize it You'd have a
break from your social lifebasically.

Speaker 3 (32:22):
Your social pressure.

Speaker 2 (32:26):
Yeah, so it didn't just continue.
If there was a problem, it gota break, but it doesn't get a
break anymore, and that's got tobe just really hard.

Speaker 1 (32:37):
I do think it's really hard.
I think it's.
I actually feel like it'sprobably one of the reasons for
that anxiety in kids is, I mean,because I don't think they ever
really get a break.

Speaker 3 (32:57):
True.

Speaker 1 (32:59):
And I think I certainly could do a better job.
But actually do monitor mykids' screen time and tell them
to put their phones down or theylike to watch YouTube shorts,
so I'll put it on the TV becauseit's also terrible for their
eyes to have this phone in frontof them all day, but they just

(33:23):
I don't know.
I think when you got home atthe end of the day and walked
through your door and leaveschool behind you.
There's sort of like that.
It was just out there and it'snot out there anymore.
It's, I don't know.
So I just feel very concernedfor kids in that.

Speaker 3 (33:44):
FOMO.
The idea of FOMO, by definition, is anxiety.
It's the anxiety of not beingpart of this group that's
chatting.
What if all my friends are on atext message and I don't have
my phone in my hand?
What am I missing tonight?
Are they talking about me,constant?

Speaker 1 (34:01):
Yeah, and the other thing that my husband and I are
constantly battling with them iswhen someone texts them, if
we're in the middle of doingsomething, we're kind of like
they don't respond right now,like we're doing this or
whatever, and they're like butthey're going to see that I left
them unopened.
That's what they say and I'mlike who cares?
Like they're, that's the world.

(34:23):
Like you aren't actually ondemand for them, you know.

Speaker 3 (34:27):
And that's so important, becky, because
whether it's Whether you're anadult and it's work or whatever
it is, once we started doingthat, I mean, I even realized
just like with my mom, who's inher 80s I started answering her
right back, right away, and sheanswers me such that now, if she
doesn't answer me in 20 minutesor I don't answer her, one of

(34:49):
us is worried about the other,and that's silly, so it's I
worry about you when you don'tanswer in 20 minutes.

Speaker 2 (34:55):
Mary Beth.

Speaker 3 (34:56):
I know you have to create a culture of now, like I
will get to this after I'mfinished with this thing, after
I'm finished with dinner, afterI'm finished with my meeting.
But no, we're like on a meeting, on a Zoom meeting.

Speaker 2 (35:09):
I'm sure, joyce, as a business owner, you've got one
eyeball on your phone here, ifsomething goes on Well and I
just messaged Amanda backbecause she asked me a question
before her class and then I gota message this is very timely
from Jamie, because she knowswe're interviewing you, becky,
and she told you to finish yourquestions.

Speaker 1 (35:30):
Tom, I'm working on it.

Speaker 3 (35:33):
You know.
To tie this back to yoga,though, and how we need the
break and the mindfulness, I'mgonna say we've talked about
this before, and I never like tocriticize or call people out
for it, but I just I don't likethe watches and the phones in
your yoga practice.
People are, I know they'reclosing their move rings, I know

(35:57):
they want all that on there,but people are taking a glance,
they're looking at that text,they're looking at the time, and
for them, I hate that.
It doesn't bother me at all,but that is not the bliss of a
one-hour yoga practice where youare uninterrupted, and I feel
bad about that.

Speaker 1 (36:14):
I could not agree with you more.
I hate that too, and it's notbecause I feel offended as a
teacher.
It's because I look at them andI feel like you deserve to this
whole hour.
You deserve the whole thing andyou I don't know If you just
leave your phone in the cubby-yeah, how's that one-armed?

Speaker 3 (36:31):
How's that one-armed downward-facing dog?
Because you're trying to readthat text message.

Speaker 1 (36:36):
Yeah Well, just I think giving your mind the break
from the rest of your day forthat hour better sets you up for
the rest of your day.
So you deprived yourself of itdidn't interfere with my ability
to teach the class or myability to be there for
everybody else, but I feel forthat person that they missed

(36:59):
probably something that theyreally needed, and if you've
ever so when I first startedpracticing yoga, the phones and
stuff were kind of new.

Speaker 3 (37:07):
I think mine was a Blackberry back then, but that
was my dad was starting to getsick and that was the only hour.
The only hour I left the phonein the car and went into Jane's
house and I was like, even ifthe house is on fire, it's going
to burn for one hour until Ifind out about it.

(37:29):
You have to give yourself onehour somewhere, that's like that
, and once you do, you're like,oh, this is really different
than saying to myself, oh, I'mnot going to look at my phone
for the hour, but I know it'shere, get rid of it.

Speaker 2 (37:41):
Remember when cell phones were new and you actually
did leave your phone in the car.
Can you imagine making theconscious decision to leave your
phone in the car right now?
Oh my gosh.

Speaker 3 (37:51):
You'd feel itchy like , oh God, I got to get.
It's be like leaving your purseor your keys behind.
Yeah, yeah it's interesting.

Speaker 2 (38:01):
I am thinking about my practice specifically in
James's class on Sundays and I'malways by the door in case
somebody walks in and then Ialways the phone is usually I
mean 99% of the time forwardedto my cell phone.
So that's the other reason whyI'm by the door in case the
phone rings, my watch buzzes andvibrates and I have to go get

(38:22):
the phone and that's all fine,but it's part of there's nobody
else there to answer the phone.
So it's part of owning abusiness.
But I was taking a class inBrexville a couple weeks ago and
wasn't even thinking about thephone.
My watch didn't buzz oranything until we were in
Chevasse and my arms are out andthe watch is obviously touching

(38:45):
the floor and all of a suddenit buzzes and there's a buzz
sound and I was so mad.
I was just like why now?
And I think I looked at it andit was like potential spam and
I'm like yeah, a waste.

Speaker 1 (38:59):
Yes, but yeah.

Speaker 2 (39:02):
I did this experiment .

Speaker 1 (39:04):
I experienced a couple weeks ago where, joyce, I
had called you for advice.
My daughter plays soccer forthe high school and their coach
must have heard that I taughtyoga.
So she asked if I would want tocome in for the afternoon and
do some yoga with the girls aspart of their recovery day.
They had a couple games thatweek.

(39:26):
So I reached out to Joycebecause I was like I just wanted
to know.
There's kind of a big group ofgirls who were outside.
I didn't know if anyone wouldeven have masks, so I kind of
wanted easy, effective,uncomplicated things to do.
They would maybe engage.

(39:46):
So and, like I said, I didn'tknow what, really what to expect
.
That age group is like 14 yearold girls to 18 year old girls,
so pretty big range.
And that really had to do withthe younger daughter and the
doctor.
She kind of checked up in themiddle of the day and she was
like so what are you doing theother day?
And I said, oh well, actuallyI'm going to teach Ava's soccer

(40:08):
team yoga.
And she looked at me and shegoes well, that'll be a treat,
like.
And I was like why I'm going tolike it.
She was like good luck, oh, Ilove that she's got that little
cynic going on.

Speaker 3 (40:23):
Oh, she is very.
She has a very adult sense ofhumor.

Speaker 1 (40:26):
She kind of always has.
So anyway, I kind of went innot knowing what to expect.
Again, there's a lot of girls,probably about 40 girls, so I
kind of felt like it was goingto be a little bit of a shit
show.
So I like, I was like I thinkmy first response on text was
it's going to be like herdingcats.

Speaker 2 (40:45):
So I was like, okay, let's go.

Speaker 1 (40:48):
And it was amazing.
They were very respectful.
I give a lot of credit to thecoach because she kind of went
them in and she had told themput your cell phones.
You're going to have toseparate them away.
And I kind of jumped on thatand I was like, okay, I'm going
to do it, I'm going to do it,I'm going to do it, I'm going to
separate them away.
And I kind of jumped on that aswell and said I actually want

(41:14):
you to not have your phones onyour mat and they all, very
respectfully, you know, put themkind of in their bags.
And they got on the kidswhatever.
So we did a little bit of kindof just gentle movement and
whatever.
But at the end I did, you know,get them down into Shavasana.
And I felt so frustrated withmyself when it ended because

(41:34):
that age group is, you know,they're kids, so they don't want
to like lay quiet.
You know they don't want to bequiet.
They were kind of chatty, youknow, during the yoga session,
not disrespectfully so, butthey're being kids, so I was not
sure really how long I shouldleave them there and I just kind

(41:55):
of noticed how quiet they wereand still, I mean so still, and
I still pulled them out ofShavasana after only a few
minutes, and afterwards I waslike, oh, I like missed it.
They needed it, you know, theyjust laid there.
So still, because someone tookaway their distractions for a

(42:18):
minute.
And gave them permission to bestill Like they don't, and
without realizing that they werepaying attention to their
breath because I didn't make abig deal.
Hey, today we're going to focuson our breath.
You know, I was queuing kind ofwhen they're going to breathe
in and out as we were moving.
So I think they were mindfullybreathing without even doing it,

(42:40):
which brings, you know, yourlevel of calmness.
It kind of really, I think,just chills you out.
And that gentle movement andthen, like you said, joyce, with
permission to just lay, and I,even after I said, said for you,
today, you know, one move, Imean they just were.

(43:02):
It was like kind of hard.
I thought what are we doing tothese kids that we pile so much
on their plate that they justwanted to lay?

Speaker 3 (43:12):
I don't know.
And here's the thing like somaybe there were, did you say 40
girls there?
Maybe yeah, and so on aninternational podcast years in
the future, some girl that wasthere is going to be asked when
she first got her first taste ofyoga and she's going to say
some future yoga teacher when Iwas playing soccer in high

(43:33):
school.
They just brought somebody infor one day and other girls mom
the magic yeah.

Speaker 2 (43:40):
But what a beautiful lesson.
Not in like and you didn't doanything wrong, but like you
learned.
I, you know, when I recognizedthis, maybe I had an opportunity
to hold them longer, but alsoyou planted, like you planted a
seed that they planted.
They might not start a yogapractice tomorrow, but they

(44:03):
might be in college gettingreally stressed out and it'll
just pop up like I need to doyoga.
They don't even know why I hearthis quite a bit Like I just I
needed yoga, I knew I neededyoga and and like you planted
that seed, you gave them thatexperience.
That that is with them now andyou know it.
It may help them reduce stressin the future as well, I think.

Speaker 1 (44:29):
Yeah, I mean my hope, my goal was to.
Just I wanted them to feel good.

Speaker 2 (44:34):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (44:35):
I wanted to help their body because they're very
physical and, I'm sure, beat upa little, but I wanted them.
I wanted to expose them to yogaand make it feel more
accessible to them at anotherpoint in their life.

Speaker 2 (44:49):
Yep, and actually that's really what we want to do
for everybody is that we wantpeople to feel good.
I know that sometimes peoplethink like, oh, the heat and
this and that, and it's like no,actually we just want you to
feel really good.

Speaker 3 (45:02):
You know it's.
It seems unrelated, but it'sreminding me of you know, when
you said they needed thatpermission.
When my dad first went into anursing home, obviously shit was
crazy and we were strung outwith just the following of this
every minute of every day.
And there's a wonderful nursethat ran the first nursing home

(45:23):
he was in and we took him thereon a Friday.
Within five minutes he wastrying to break out and they
were chasing him down Pearl Roadin Middleburg Heights but she
said to us I'm not lettinganybody in till Monday, I don't
want to see you guys till Monday.
And at first we're like, ohhell, no, this is my dad.
Like we're going to be here.

(45:44):
But then we're like, all right,she's like give me this till
Monday.
Oh, my God, it was the firstnight of sleep any of us got in
so many weeks because somebodysaid, no, you can't be here.
No, you can't bring your phone.
Let's say, in your situationand sometimes you do need that

(46:04):
Somebody else to say no, becauseyou can't say it to yourself,
you won't say it to yourself.

Speaker 2 (46:10):
Or somebody to give you permission to get rest.
No, we just wouldn't have doneit.
You don't do it, no, and it'sOK, because you're caretaking
for your dad and you can restlater.

Speaker 3 (46:23):
Yeah, it's really so tough love like that really is.
That's why it's called toughand love.

Speaker 2 (46:33):
So when do you find time for yourself, Becky?

Speaker 1 (46:36):
That's how I yoga is.

Speaker 2 (46:38):
She's like this, is it?

Speaker 1 (46:41):
Yeah, I am.
You know, I have a great groupof friends and so one of them is
the gatherer.
I will say she'll, like youknow, make plans and get things
on the calendar or whatever.
So I feel very fortunatebecause that's very kind of
fills my cup.
If you will, for time, that'sjust for me, and I don't know.

(47:06):
I just I don't, I feel like Idon't get a ton of time for
myself.
But I don't, I don't mind, Ithink that I get enough, that I
still feel like I hold on to whoI am between time with my girls
and yoga, which not really noneof my friends do.

(47:31):
So it's very, it's very me,it's just for me.
And I think you, when westarted this podcast, joyce, and
you said I was so dedicated, Iwas laughing inside because I
don't feel dedicated to myteaching or yoga.
I feel like I'm hanging on tothis part of my life, just mine

(47:54):
and just for me.
It doesn't.
I'm not doing it for my family,I do it for myself and I do feel
like I barely hang on.
I carve out like enough time toteach two classes a week and
those classes which that preptime is super important.
So I aspire to do more with it.

(48:18):
I better to go to more classes,teach more classes, learn more
about yoga.
But right now I'm definitely inthe hanging on stage first,
feeling like I'm so dedicated,but it's something that still
lets me feel like I am just awife or something that's just

(48:41):
mine.

Speaker 3 (48:43):
And that's a great point because it does it sort of
waxes and wanes, like sometimesyoga is your whole deal for a
while and then sometimes itreally takes a backseat.
That's something that's I'mstruggling with right now.
With a lot of travel and stuff,I'm getting very anxious about
it not being in the forefront.
But as you have years to lookback on, it's like sometimes

(49:05):
it's all the time.
Sometimes it's still there justhanging on, like you said, but
still there.
And Joyce and I have talkedbefore on how hard it is to have
your yoga practice once you'reteaching, because now that takes
priority.
The time you do carve out nowis for your teaching and
prepping for your classes.
You don't get to just go much.

Speaker 1 (49:26):
Right, and not just in that near future.

Speaker 2 (49:30):
I understand that too , but you're hanging on.
I mean, how easy would it be tojust like put one class aside
and then you could fill thattime very easily.
But you don't, and I think Imean I just have a lot of

(49:51):
respect for that because youhave a lot going on and I know
that you all do, but you havethree other lives that depend on
you to make their life happen.
Do you ever see your husband?

Speaker 1 (50:06):
Sometimes we go on dates to the same child's
practice.
Oh nice.

Speaker 3 (50:12):
Hey, I packed a griddle of R you want to share?

Speaker 1 (50:16):
So no, we do.
We actually like eight o'clockand it was so cold out we want
to take a walk, so we took thedog on a walk.

Speaker 2 (50:27):
You know, that was really nice.

Speaker 1 (50:30):
And he has some flexibility in his schedule, so
I'll try to meet for lunch, youknow, and that always feels like
a date too.
So I'm trying to think of thelast time that just he and I
went out to dinner.
That has been a while, andusually I think we're pretty
good at stealing away some timefor ourselves, but that kind of
time that dinner nighttimethings spent a while, since

(50:51):
we've got a dinner date, butyeah because there's all those
activities.
Yeah, no, it's 100% what it is,but I tried it.
So my husband loves sports, heloves sports and I enjoy so much
watching do these things thatthey love doing and I think both
of us feel very strongly.
This time is so fleeting thatwe try to stay connected as a

(51:17):
married couple.
He's a very loving husband so Idon't feel like disconnected
like that.
But I think we both feel likewe feel so sad when we think
about the number of years wehave left with our family
looking like it does, whereeveryone is.
That we're both okay with lasttime.

Speaker 3 (51:40):
With just us it is.
It's terrible how fast it goes.
Like I'm sure you've seen, nowthat social media exists, the
meme where it actually says thisis how many Christmases you
have with them, this is how manysummer vacations.
It's terrible, it stabs you inthe heart because, like you said
, this is what my family lookslike oh, I have three toddlers.
Oh, I have three gradeschoolers.

(52:01):
Like, look, you're about tohave three teenagers.
And it's like, oh, it's such amoving, fluid family picture.

Speaker 2 (52:10):
Well, I don't think, or not Last week Ashley was sick
and the week before she wasn't,but the week before that she
was sick, and when she's sickshe works at the daycare or a
daycare, and then Alina can't goas well.
So they were both home andAshley needed to rest and

(52:31):
there's no other way she canrest unless we watch Alina.
It's just so hard to getanything done when Alina's here.
She's a little hurricane andaffects the whole house.
It's not just work, but like itis work and it's house stuff
and like it's just hard.
I don't know how two parents doit.

(52:52):
I can't.
Again, I don't know how singleparents do it, period.
But there's three adults inthis house and I still feel like
it's it's not out of control,it's just a lot.
And so, anyhow, I was subbingchair yoga last Thursday and my
full intention when I put myselfas the chair yoga sub was to

(53:14):
take Becky's class, but Alinawas home and I just couldn't.
And there's, and what you justsaid like touched on it where,
and I even said this to you onThursday like she's so cute and
she's not going to be three forvery long and we can always
clean the house later or get thework.
I mean we can get the work donelater.

(53:34):
That's probably a little morepressing, but, like you know,
ashley will say something likeyou just have to.
You know she'll be like I'mgoing to take a bath with you.
She doesn't really take a bathwith me, but she stands there
and talks to me and pours wateron me, and you know, and and
she's like you don't have to dothat and I'm like, but she's not
going to be, like I'm just notgoing to, I'm not going to let
her in the bathroom with me forvery much longer.

(53:55):
And she's hilarious and she'sso cute and she's so curious and
, like you know, and she justit's going to fly by so fast
because everything else hasflown by so fast up until this
point Like I just don't want tomiss this and I can imagine I
know that now I'm going to feelthat way for the rest of my life
.

Speaker 1 (54:15):
Yeah, it is.
I mean, I feel like it onlygoes faster.
I know people have always saidthat to me, but I I think it's
just so true.
There was some.
My dad, I went to homecoming acouple of weeks ago and you know
there's an aca door and thenthere's this boy standing
outside with this poster and itwas so cute.

(54:39):
And afterwards you know she'sall excited and we go up there
and my husband just lays on herbed.

Speaker 3 (54:46):
I was just going to say how is your husband with his
little girl?

Speaker 1 (54:50):
He was completely wiped out and he just, I, just I
don't understand how we have akid old enough to go to
homecoming.
How did our oldest daughterjust get asked to homecoming by
a boy, like he just was in atail fin and it, and then the
next day he was like I just keepthinking like what can we do
with that?
What can we like do to spendmore time with them?

(55:10):
It like made him have like amidlife crisis, not like
involving a Corvette, butinvolving one.
Yeah, how do I stop time Likeit just does.
It feels like it's going reallyfast.

Speaker 2 (55:22):
Well, when did you?
You and your husband have beentogether for a long time, right
yeah?
When did you meet in highschool?

Speaker 1 (55:28):
We met when we were like 12, actually.

Speaker 2 (55:32):
So the age of your twins.

Speaker 1 (55:33):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (55:36):
That's probably part of what's hitting him so hard.
Marybeth's eyes just popped out.

Speaker 1 (55:40):
Well, so we were friends for a long time.
We met in junior high and wewere friends right away.
I don't know.
We just kind of clicked and wedidn't start dating.
We were in high school.

Speaker 3 (55:56):
but Well, now I want to dig into that, like how weird
was that Cause?
Now this is your, your pal,like who.
Who got the hots for whom first?
So my husband definitely pardon, I'm going to say he did.

Speaker 1 (56:11):
Yeah.
So I hate telling this story.
They feel so embarrassed.
But he, that's why we're here.
But we're here.
I definitely asked me out inthe seventh grade lunch room and
I definitely turned him down infront of all his friends which
he likes to remind me of, andthen we did surprise you.
Kind of I mean sort of.

(56:34):
But then he asked me out.
I mean I just kind of was like,didn't really know him.
I feel like we were in schoolfor five days, so I was like no.

Speaker 2 (56:43):
Wow, and we were 12.

Speaker 1 (56:45):
So I was also like no .

Speaker 2 (56:47):
Did you grow up in Strongsville?

Speaker 1 (56:49):
Yeah, yeah, but we both did.
Both our families are from here, so that's been really nice to
have our family.
I know you know around us andall that.

Speaker 2 (56:58):
And I know you have a sister, right Does.
Does Adam have siblings as well?

Speaker 1 (57:02):
Yeah, so actually I have a sister and a brother.

Speaker 2 (57:04):
Oh, that's right.

Speaker 1 (57:06):
And he is living in Alabama right now with his
family.
He's two years younger than me,and my sister is almost 10
years younger than me.
She lives across the street,which is delightful.

Speaker 2 (57:18):
Across the street in your, in your old house, right.

Speaker 1 (57:21):
And then Adam has a brother who lives in Pardons.

Speaker 2 (57:25):
Oh yeah, across the street.

Speaker 1 (57:26):
Yeah, right across the street she's got three kids.
She's got um three kids now.
Yeah, she's got a four year old, a three year old and like a
six week old.

Speaker 3 (57:36):
Holy moly.

Speaker 1 (57:37):
I know they're all boys.
They are so cute.
I love they are so closebecause you know you don't
always have a lot to gettogether, but because they're so
close I feel like I get to seethem so much more.

Speaker 2 (57:48):
Yeah, wow.
So she no wonder why she hasn'tbeen doing yoga, she busy.

Speaker 1 (57:55):
Yeah, she, no.
She's definitely up to hereyeballs and children.

Speaker 2 (57:59):
Yeah, wow, that's awesome.
And what would you say?

Speaker 1 (58:04):
Adam has a brother who lives in Lakewood and um a
sister, adopted sister um, wholives in Austin, texas.
Oh wow.

Speaker 3 (58:14):
Yeah, do you go there ever to visit.

Speaker 2 (58:16):
We've been there.
We've been there in a couple ofyears.

Speaker 1 (58:19):
We went there when she turned 21.
She was there on like aninternship and then we went
there again maybe four years ago.
Um, I had a cousin that marriedthere randomly, so we went and
visited her as well in Austin.
Super fun, yeah.
So oddly enough, we have a guyin teacher training.

Speaker 2 (58:39):
I don't know if you guys know him, victor Santana.
Sorry, victor, if I'm throwingyou under the bus, but I don't
think I am.
Um, he's getting married.
That's not a that's not asecret, but they're, they're
doing destination wedding andthey didn't want to.
They didn't want to do it on abeach or, like you know,
tropical or whatever.
So they're getting married inAustin.
That's their destiny.

(58:59):
Oh yeah, yeah.
And he I think he's there now.
Uh, they're there prepping ordoing wedding things.
Now they're.
One of them are from Austin andthey just decided to get.
I'm not sure if it was him orher or both of them.
That's what they're doing.
Yeah, I know it's reallyinteresting, isn't it?
Austin was very fun.
I mean, we had a great time atmy cousin's wedding.

Speaker 1 (59:20):
They planned a lot of fun things.
It was, I think, destinationweddings are so fun, so we had a
great time.
I hope there were some funthings.
Yeah, I'm sure, I'm sure.
Well, james went to schoolthere.

Speaker 2 (59:33):
Um, he hasn't, he hasn't really been back since,
since he graduated and that wasa you know a while ago, so I'm
sure it's much different, but hehad fun there too.
Yeah, I'm sure he did.
I wouldn't I wouldn't mindgoing to Austin, but but I'm.
When is your next uh visit withyour friend?

Speaker 3 (59:52):
Trevor In Mexico.

Speaker 2 (59:58):
Yeah, your rendezvous I booked it uh, December 1st
Coming up, we're going to Mexicofor a long weekend.
Becky, it's like the time ofyear to go to Mexico.
The impetus was this musicfestival that.

Speaker 1 (01:00:11):
Trevor.

Speaker 2 (01:00:11):
Hall is playing in.
And we just figured we haven'tbeen on like a a real thing
Since Brexville opened.
It's been at least, it's beenabout a year and a half that
we've not gotten away from morethan like a day or two.
And I was a little hesitantbecause I felt like this is a

(01:00:31):
little indulgent.
But then it was like, well,then I learned how much it costs
for, like you know, fish andDave Matthews have their
weekends in Mexico, and thoseare way more expensive.
I'd love to see Dave and DaveMatthews have their weekends in
Mexico, and those are way moreexpensive.
I'd love to see Dave Matthews inMexico and my hairdresser was

(01:00:51):
telling me about it because sheloves fish and she was like you
know, those trips are, like theystarted, something like 12
grand a person.
I'm like, are you serious Liketo do a music festival?
Um, so, and then I was like,well, this isn't that expensive
and, um, the resort got reallygood, gets really good reviews
in and of itself, and we justdecided to go.

(01:01:12):
So it's like Friday to Tuesday,but but yeah, I feel, mary Beth
, make me feel like a groupie.

Speaker 3 (01:01:20):
But you got to seize the day.
I love that you're going.

Speaker 1 (01:01:22):
I was just thinking you deserve it.
I'm glad you're going.

Speaker 2 (01:01:25):
It'll be.
And then my hairdresser waslike she does stuff, you know,
like she's done a lot of thingslike that, she's done the jam
crews and whatever, and she'slike it's just like a really
nice vacation and your favoritemusic is playing all the time.
And she's like it's really, youknow, you can still do vacation
things, and it just got me overthe bit of guilt, I guess I
don't know.

(01:01:45):
So there's morning meditationTrevor Hall's leading morning
meditation every day.

Speaker 3 (01:01:51):
I know you're hoping to have a moment alone with him
to ask him about the Pelotonthing.

Speaker 2 (01:01:57):
Yeah, during morning meditation I got mad at him
because he signed a deal withPeloton where they're like using
his music for certain yogaclasses yeah, like there's a
yoga class series with his music.
And I was just like he's so notcommercial, like there is
nothing commercial about him,like for him to make a deal with

(01:02:17):
Peloton, like that's not yoga.
So I messaged him on Instagramand I was like listen, this
thing's a little like that's notyoga and you know it.

Speaker 1 (01:02:27):
Peloton's version of yoga is not yoga Right.

Speaker 2 (01:02:29):
Well, and it's not like the community aspect, the
breathing together, the like youcan't.
I'm not saying that onlinethings or app things are bad,
but yoga is union, it's withpeople, it's, you know, it's
community, and you can't do thatdigitally.
You know like this podcastwould be different if we did it

(01:02:51):
in person.
Yeah, you know like that's whywe never did, why we chose to
not live stream yoga classesthroughout the pandemic, because
when it would have beenincredibly difficult, can you
imagine like teaching a class ofyou know 20 little squares on
your computer Like you can't see, you can't connect the way that

(01:03:13):
that yoga is intended to dothat.
So that's why we decided to dothe digital library.
And you know, I can't I eventhat to myself.
I can argue that Either way.
But yeah, I mean, if you listento his music and stuff like he's
, so you know he's got so muchhistory in like mindfulness and

(01:03:34):
meditation.
He spent so much time in Indiaashrams and like he gets it, he
lives it.
So for him to do a commercialdeal was just a little shocking
to me.
But I also understand that Likehe needs to feed his family too
.
So so, carla, what was thatCarla?

(01:03:54):
Well, carla Gannum has has aPeloton water bottle and she
sent me a photo and she had likeput in there, like Peloton
loves Trevor Hall, oh geez, justto torture you, yeah.
So I think that's what I'mgoing to do.

Speaker 3 (01:04:11):
I think that's what I'm going to do.

Speaker 2 (01:04:18):
But on another note, James's passport has expired and
he's apparently found someonesomeplace through FedEx that you
can get it extremely expedited,and he's just not done it yet,
so listen.

Speaker 3 (01:04:33):
I've said this before he's got to because we had
friends that were ready to boarda plane to Italy and one of
their kids' passports hadexpired within the next six
months.
It wasn't even expired yet andthey did not let them board the
plane.

Speaker 2 (01:04:46):
Oh wow.
Well, he knows, I booked thistrip like three weeks ago, James
for God's sake, this is notEvery day I ask him did you do
it?
Are you starting the process?
And he's like, don't stress meout.
So Tiffany Luccarelli listensto the podcast and she was
asking if I booked it and I saidyeah, and I was telling her
about James's passport and shewas like listen, if it doesn't

(01:05:07):
work out, I'll get on that planewith you.

Speaker 3 (01:05:10):
Oh, she'll be your date.
Yeah, james, dude, I knowyou're not still listening at
this point, but you've got toget on that.
Yeah, so I'm going to Mexico,listen, you're going to have so
much fun, right, it could be thebest thing ever, yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:05:28):
I well, whatever, it's a stupid story.
But his Trevor Hall's wife is apoet, she's an artist too and
she just like, yesterday, herbook, her poetry book, is called
Made of Rivers and she isselling merch and she just like
unveiled this long sleeve shirt.

(01:05:49):
It's really cool, actually it's.
It just says his flowers on theback and it says made of
flowers.
And I'm like, oh, if I got thatand wore it at while he's
playing.
You know I sound like a groupie, and then I get a shout out but
it's $88.

Speaker 3 (01:06:08):
And I'm all yes, and I'm all.

Speaker 2 (01:06:11):
I'm all for paying for things, but like we're.

Speaker 3 (01:06:14):
Instead wear a shirt like Courtney Kardashian and say
, Trevor, I'm pregnant.
Oh that'll get you on TV maybe.

Speaker 2 (01:06:24):
That'll get us attention.

Speaker 3 (01:06:26):
Yeah, adaria.
So that'll be for the sake ofour podcast audience.

Speaker 2 (01:06:33):
You want to have James, james or whoever.
Whoever I'm with video it.

Speaker 3 (01:06:37):
Yeah, yeah, james or Tiffany.

Speaker 2 (01:06:42):
Are you going anywhere soon?
Mary Beth, yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:06:46):
Heading back down to the mountains, maybe right
before Halloween weekend stilltrying to tie that bow.

Speaker 2 (01:06:55):
You think your house will be done soon.

Speaker 3 (01:06:58):
Yeah, another month.
It's what they say every month.
We have floors now.
Appliances are coming this week.
Oh, that's exciting.
It is.
It's exciting but it is.
Another change is it's not likewe're moving there, but just
having to say no to people for alot of things.
Having to tell my mom I'm goingto be gone for a week here and

(01:07:18):
there, telling Joyce I'm goingto be gone for a week here and
there hoping the basementdoesn't flood while we're away,
all things like that.
They're good first worldproblems to have for sure.
But it stresses out theschedule a bit, which I'm sure
you as a mom are.
You're constantly disappointingpeople and making the schedule

(01:07:39):
work like pieces that don't fit.

Speaker 2 (01:07:43):
Becky you're going somewhere pretty soon too,
aren't you?

Speaker 1 (01:07:46):
Yes, I cannot wait.
We are going to Florida,Panamitra.

Speaker 2 (01:07:52):
My cousin's getting married and I just love her and
I love her fiance, so I'm veryforward to that wedding.

Speaker 1 (01:07:59):
My kids are readers in the web.

Speaker 3 (01:08:01):
Anything.
Well, good that they know howto read.

Speaker 1 (01:08:04):
Yeah Well, I mean, it was really questionable.
My son was trying to read whathis little part is.
I was like let's back up.

Speaker 3 (01:08:13):
Do they go to?
Where do your kids go to school?

Speaker 1 (01:08:17):
So the younger two are at the middle school strong
school, middle school and ournieces at high school.

Speaker 3 (01:08:22):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (01:08:23):
Yeah, so we're definitely looking forward to
that.

Speaker 2 (01:08:26):
Is it weird when you teach their teachers yoga?

Speaker 1 (01:08:29):
When I, oh, I love it .
I mean it kind of is a littlebecause I feel like that's some
role reversal.
Yeah, but I love it because youknow, when your kids get out of
elementary school you have somuch less contact in their day,
so opportunity to just, you know, see somebody who's in their

(01:08:53):
day and you know, usually theythrow some tidbits about my kid
my Way, and that's alwaysinteresting and nice to hear.
So yeah, so no, yeah, it isfunny.
I think she likes it less thanme.

Speaker 3 (01:09:09):
Oh yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:09:11):
Well, thanks for hanging out with us and come on
to the podcast.
Your homework is to finish yourteacher spotlight questions.

Speaker 1 (01:09:19):
I dodged that bullet for five years.

Speaker 2 (01:09:22):
That's what Jamie keeps saying, that you're saying
.

Speaker 3 (01:09:27):
Like so yeah, that's why we have Becky.
She's our spotlight teacher atModern Yoga this month, I guess
or for November, October.

Speaker 2 (01:09:35):
We're waiting for her to finish her questions so that
we could put out her spotlightand this podcast together.

Speaker 3 (01:09:41):
Oh, the white hot spotlight.

Speaker 1 (01:09:43):
Yes, well, I know, I just told Jamie, I'm just not
that interesting.

Speaker 2 (01:09:49):
So you're very interesting, Becky, You're very
interesting.
Oh, this is great talking toyou.
I feel like this is the longestconversation I've had with you
since teacher training.
Oh my gosh for sure.

Speaker 1 (01:10:01):
Well, I feel like all our moments feel like stolen
moment.
Well, we cram in either aconversation or a lunch or just
talking.
So it was very nice to chatwith you both.

Speaker 2 (01:10:13):
Yeah, you too.
Well, we'll have to do thisagain.
It won't be five years, I mean,granted, our podcast isn't that
old, but it is two years old,which is kind of crazy, crazy.
So yeah, anytime you want tocome on, I'm sure that you're
not going to volunteer, so we'lljust rope you into it again,
maybe we should just back meinto a corner and make me do it.

(01:10:33):
Yes, I loved it.

Speaker 1 (01:10:35):
I loved talking to people.

Speaker 2 (01:10:36):
Definitely Well.
Thanks so much.
If for all you listeners outthere, please follow if you
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Give us a good rating If youdon't like it that's okay Rate
review subscribe.

Speaker 3 (01:10:50):
There you go.
Yeah, All right, we're done.