Day In The Life Of Your Two Favorite Stay-At-Home Moms: First Date Night Postpartum + Self-Care Routine Shift

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All right, let's get this party started.
Welcome to episode 6 of the Mom Sense podcast with Molly and
Meg. I am Molly.
And I'm Meg. OK, tell me.
We recorded like 3 days ago. So tell me, what have you been
doing for the last three days? What have I been doing?
My answer is nothing. So yeah, don't.

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You don't have to come up with awhole lot.
My answer is not. I mean, my answer is a whole ton
of stuff, but not fun stuff. Mine's been talking to my
accountant. Stuff like that.
Just like tasks and appointmentsand podcast stuff.
Lots and lots and lots of podcast stuff.
Yeah, as a few. And we had Reese's.

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Let's see if I can name this event correctly.
Rehearsal. We'll just leave it at a long
like. Her dress rehearsal where she's
like, in costume. Yeah, I said that earlier and
then I second guessed myself andyou didn't correct me, so I
thought. That Yeah, no, I didn't know why
you were second guessing yourself.
It's a dress rehearsal if they're all dressed up in hand.
Costume. Yeah, yeah, we had that tonight
and that was so awesome, yeah. You get to like, watch the show.

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We got there early, which we have not done the previous two
years. And so we got to watch all of
the dances up until her call time.
And I had to walk her back. And so we watch.
I I take her back and then she goes on stage.
I sent you the video. She does so well.
It was so sweet. Every single girl.
They all nailed it. Yeah, they all nailed it.

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All of them. Like they've been working so
hard. They all show up like her.
Her group is so sweet and great.Anyways, they killed it.
And then Reese came out like, you go back and get them
directly after they're done, andthen we watch the rest of the
show and she comes out and she had more energy than when she
went back. And she was like, so excited.

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Yeah, she was on a. Yeah, she was on a.
Did she got that right? She, I guess not.
I mean she seemed so confident. That's what she said to me
afterwards, she said you looked very confident, She said.
I was so confident and I'm so proud.
Oh my God, she's so cute. Oh my gosh, yeah, she yeah, she
melts my heart. The first year she stood on her

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spot, arms to her side, and did now move on the stage she was.
I love that newly. Three, I was proud of her.
I was like, you got up there. And then last year Reese like
kind of remembered a few things.This year she's been like she's
on top of it. I have like a they're called
creative Tonys and you can put music on them or stories or

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whatever you want to put on it. And I put her recital song.
And so she's been practicing it and like her confidence is just
skyrocketed. Like she had a huge smile on her
face. So I don't know if she didn't
seem nervous. We'll see how she feels when,
like, the whole auditorium is filled.
But yeah, she did great. It was so fun.
Good for her. OK, so I have something that I

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want to complain about. I don't want your opinion on it,
but I don't want you to just be like, Megan needs validation and
this. And there's some things I can
validate. I want you just to tell me your
last opinion, especially as somebody who works with kids.
Right. OK.
So Reese. OK, Reece has been doing
gymnastics. She did a summer class.

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She ended up doing it with a particular coach and she was
great. So research her fall gymnastics
season and it matches that of dance where she starts in
September and it goes all the way to May.
So it's long, right? Yeah, I would say long.
So Reece has that's. Year, like all school year.

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Yeah, it's a school year, right?So Reece?
Yeah. Yep, Reese has seven kids in her
class. In her gymnastics class.
Yes OK I would say small group for one instructor to manage.
Personally and this experience Idon't think Reese has noticed
which is great, but I am findingmyself for the first time being

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super frustrated with her instructor.
There's a girl in Reese's class in Darnish.
She a sweet girl. She's really sweet.
She does not follow instruction and in between instruction she
gets very distracted. I'm not going to put a label on
it because I don't know, but sheneeds some.
Redirection. Redirection, perfect word and

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all season long I've been rubbedwrong by the instructor because
she has been super short with this girl and very short
tempered and is not maybe picking up on what I'm picking
up on. Then in general it just feels
like she does not enjoy working with this age group.
She, I feel like she does well with older folks, but she seems
very annoyed with this age group.

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And then the last few weeks she's been making comments.
So there's a half wall like where the stairwell is, so I
can't see unless they're directly in front of me.
And there have been multiple times in the last few weeks
where I have stood up just to make sure that she's not talking
to my child because I would haveto say something.
She I heard her, I heard her like asking someone to do some

(05:17):
sort of technique or whatever. And she goes, are you even
trying to do what I'm doing or are you trying to do the
opposite? That was the exact thing she
said to a 5 year old. And I was like, I don't care for
that. At all?
No. And then she's.
I can't. Wait to find out what your
question is. Well, and then she's going
around the room Tuesday, their very last session.

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They've been in session since September.
And she looks at Reese and she goes, what's your name?
Again, There are 7 kids in this group.
And like the whole season I've just been kind of rubbed the
wrong way because, you know, this is Reese's second
introduction to gymnastics. And again, I don't know if Reese
has even noticed. She's never said anything, but
I've noticed. I just don't appreciate the way

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that I've heard her speak to kids.
I don't appreciate the fact thatshe seems like she's not
involved. It just rubs me the wrong way
and it makes me think there's going to be many cases in my
parenting experience where I feeling feisty over somebody's
treatment of my child and children around them, and I
don't know how I'm going to navigate stuff like that.

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If I would have stood up and seen that she was talking to
Reece, I would have stayed afterclass and went and said
something. Yeah, I'm just, I can't believe
that she does, especially knowing that like all the
parents are right there. Man, everybody's.
Yeah, but still being in her shoes.

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Like why would you ever do that if the parents are half a wall
away? Exactly my thought.
Exactly my thought. It So it makes me think like,
well, how would you be talking to them if we weren't here?
I don't. Know seriously?
OK so you just want my opinion on the story?
Yeah, I'm just curious. All right, I have an anecdote
for you and then I'll give you my opinion.

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So I danced from like 2 to my junior year of high school.
So I was almost 17. And the reason that I quit dance
was because there was a So I was17.
I was one year away from going to college.

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There was a college student thatwas that worked at the studio
and she was teacher for a lot ofmy classes, whether she was an
assistant teacher or she was thelead teacher, whatever.
She was there a lot. And for my tap class that year
was like 1 helped choreograph itbut was in the dance and she was

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in college and she was dancing with high school students.
Like also she put herself dead center in the front.
No. That just gives you an idea of
who she is, right? She was the lead choreographer
for my hip hop class. And there was this combination
that we had just started learning and we were figuring it
out and we were all clustered together.
So we all needed to be like right in step with each other.

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And there was a part where we did a turn and I kept turning
the wrong way. This was like the first day of
learning this, right Kept turning the wrong way.
And she looked at me in front ofthis group of what, 12 girls and
was like, Molly, are you dyslexic?
Why do you keep turning the wrong way, like in front of
everybody? And she had said multiple
comments through that year specifically to me in front of

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everybody. And she had me in a different
combo, like same class, different section of the dance.
She had me in the 2nd row behindwhat she called the Blues, who
were the competition girls. They all wore blue sports bras
and black shorts. That's why she called them the
Blues. They were in the front of every
dance. And she told me in front of

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everybody that I needed to step it up because I was behind a
blue so people were going to seeme.
And I was like, like it was justshe purposefully embarrassed
people. And I remember after, I'm pretty
sure it was after the dyslexic comment telling my mom and my
mom went off 1 because like she's like we pay a ton of money
to go there and to be publicly embarrassed in front of kids I

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go to school with like at 17. Like it was embarrassing.
But also she just like, you know, stood up for me.
So I just don't understand a teacher or a coach or something
in a performance based sport, which is any sport, every sport
is performance based and how well you do.
Why would you embarrass somebody, especially a 5 year

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old kid like to say are you eventrying to do it the way I told
you like? Right.
I just don't. Understand by the way.
I could I cannot fathom like that kid could be doing a
freaking somersault when you told him to do a cartwheel.
And you should applaud them. Like good job, you're doing so
great. Great try.
Look what? Right.

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OK, so how old is this lady? Like, is she an adult?
Is she a college student? High school student.
Adult older than me got to be early 40s if I had I guess.
So it's not like she's doing it like when you had described her
to me, when you described the story, I was thinking like,
maybe she's a high school student looking for something to
put on a college application. She doesn't want to be there.

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She just is doing it because shehas to.
No, that's the vibe it gave is like, she doesn't actually want
to be working with kids. She's just doing it for an
ulterior alternative reason. No, I mean, OK, so from a
professional standpoint, I wouldtell you not to intervene unless
it bugged Reese, or at least notto intervene to a point where
Reese knows, right? If you're really uncomfortable

(10:41):
and you feel like you need to say something, don't let Reese
know that you did it. Because if she's fine with it
and she's confident and it's nothurting herself esteem, Yeah,
she she's dealing with a hard person and she's rolling with
it. That's.
Great, right? And it makes her environment
uncomfortable to know her mom went in and, you know, minimal
situation for her. Yeah, it just is like you're

(11:01):
taking away the hardship where she's dealing with it just
great. And that's furthering her as a
person. Now, if her feelings are her or
she's she's five years old, if her feelings are her or she's
using her voice to tell you she's uncomfortable, then listen
to that and you can do what you want.
But I do think that unless she'scomplaining, you kind of leave

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it alone and you just amp her upand like when she gets in the
car, you tell her that you saw her and she did so great things
like that. That's really good.
I'm moving forward. And yeah, I think that I would
do that as well. And depending on her age,
perhaps not 5, depending on her age, I would encourage her to
speak up first. And if that didn't go anywhere,
then I would probably help. But.

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Or like, go with her and let hertell the coach how she feels,
but be there to know like she's got somebody in her corner too,
in case this coach is mean. I also think that if you're
really uncomfortable, it would warrant you double checking if
she's going to be the coach nextyear.
You know, like when you go to enroll her next year and if
there's an alternative option, then you can pick that.

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Yeah, I feel validated though, by you.
And if something is to occur in the future, do you feel like I
know how I'll navigate it? Nope.
Thanks. Will somebody complaining?
All right, give me your. Updates coming out.
OK, let me think. So we did an extra recording
this week. So I just talked to you on
Monday. But since then Penny was like

(12:27):
weirdly Moody today, like super whiny and would cry for
seemingly no reason. So my plan was to just hang out
at home today. She's like, it's got to be a
week or two away from crawling. So I've been trying to give her
extra floor time to practice, but she was like really whiny
and cry today. So we left the house and we went

(12:48):
shopping for Taylor's Father's Day present and Taylor keeps
eating the bananas that I buy for pennies.
So I had to go buy more bananas.We love that photo this morning.
What I send you. You sent us a picture of Penny
this morning when eating. The wrong side of a banana?
Yeah. Yeah.
And Brooke kept saying that she said no, eat there, no eat
there. She kept like saying that to the
screen. And I was like, you should be

(13:09):
Facetimer. You want to give her some
constructive. In the moment feedback, yeah.
She was screeching when you werevoice messaging and she was
screeching in the car, but she sounded so like, at least in
that moment, she said, oh, pen happy, Yeah.
Yeah, no, she, I mean, she wasn't crying.
She was just loud. But she didn't do her wailing
thing tonight, which is good. Good.
Let me think of anything else. I made fajitas for dinner

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tonight. It was part of our meal plan.
It's pretty good. What else?
I made meatloaf the other day. I haven't made meatloaf in like
a year. It was good.
Yeah, yeah. Look at you.
I know. Look well, look at you.
You gave me the. Best idea?
Do you want to give an update onyour You were talking about the
transfer issue and how she was waking up at the bitter end, and

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then you also were talking aboutyour supply dips.
Do you feel like providing updates on that?
I'm personally curious. So for the sleeping thing
actually, so last night was the same as always.
It was rough. We had to like do 3 rounds of
trying to put her in her crib after she'd fallen asleep.
But this trying to think of which nap it was this morning,
she fell asleep and transferred beautifully this afternoon.

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And tonight I was able to put her down awake and she didn't
cry. She just rolled around and
played with her fingers for like30 minutes before she fell
asleep. So today was like the daytime
awake time was really fussy and weird, but the sleep time
actually went really well. Go ahead.
Yeah. So I think we might be coming

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out of that. Help.
Yeah, good. As far as the supply, it did go
back up. I have added a third pumping
session into my day so I would love to be able to kind of take
that back out, but I think I'll probably wait until I introduce
lunch to take it out. I also have decreased her
bottles, like I'm giving her 4 bottles now instead of five and

(15:03):
I think that has helped. I haven't had to diff thaw as
much milk lately. Sorry if you just have this, but
what how many ounces are you giving it right now each time?
I give her 6 ounce bottles, six to seven ounce bottles
throughout the day and then I give her 10 oz bottle at night.
Yeah, like a hefty 1. Yes.
Sleep good, Penny girl. I want her to have as much as
she could possibly take and I always want there to be like 1

(15:27):
oz in the tank. That way I know she's gotten all
she wants. If she drinks the whole bottle
then I'm like would she have drank more if I gave her?
More right? No.
Yeah, every single time. I remember that as well.
OK, Improved. Yep.
So yes, both of those situationsfrom last week have improved a
lot and my mood has definitely reflected that.
I feel so much more relief, yeah.

(15:49):
Good, I'm glad to hear that. Yeah, tonight being able to just
rock her, feed her and put her down and then let her do her
thing. Like it gave me time to actually
get ready for recording. OK, side note, I don't know
what's been going on. It's been like this since
postpartum started, but I haven't been like a full face
makeup person in quite a few years, Right?

(16:11):
Like, I'll do light foundation powder and like a little bit of
everything else, but I don't do like the full eye anymore.
I don't do full foundation, likea tinted moisturizer Right?
But I don't quite understand what's going on.
Since I had Penny. I feel like I'll do that at like
10 in the morning when I put herdown for her first nap.
I'll get ready and by the end ofthe day it literally looks like

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I'm not wearing any makeup and Ilook like a hot freaking mess.
I don't see what's going on because it's got to be the.
Physical. I try.
It's got to because like I try and it looks like I am a slob
that doesn't put any effort in ever, right, Right you.
Want to right? You want to maintain your level
of physical personal care. Yes personal care upkeep great

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but like yes I don't understand what's going on.
It's like my face like deters the makeup and won't stay on.
Yeah, no, the same. Thing happens to me, like I said
though, I don't stop moving. I'm like constantly.
I'm like feet. And so I mean you're constantly
engaged with a almost an infant.She is an infant, I guess.

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Yeah, but like, I think it's because I rub my face on her so
much, like giving her kisses andlike playing with her that that.
Too It just like rubs. Off it's gotta because I'm like
I don't understand the same. I'm also overstimulated so my
hair is in a claw clip by noon every single day.
Yeah, no, same exact same thing.I wonder if other people feel

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this like right somebody. Weigh in like remind like tell
me that it's not just me or tellme it is just me and I need to
get better products. I don't know.
You know you need to. Get better mascara.
We'll figure out other stuff, yeah.
Maybe we should do a poll on what's the best mascara because
I use a different kind like every time I run out so I've
tried them all get the same. One, I don't know that name of

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that, but I know what it looks like, yeah.
Yes, but other than that, feeling much better.
Good. Good.
OK, let's. Move on to mentally strong moms.
Make mentally strong kids. We believe that doing things for
ourselves helps us be better moms, more patient, easier to be
present, and so we hold each other accountable for doing

(18:23):
something for ourselves every week.
This week, to be honest, I haven't done anything for myself
in the last three days. We recorded early this week, so
I'm not even gonna pretend like I did.
I'll be honest. But.
This weekend Taylor and I are going on our first date since
Penny's been born. Tell us about it.
I'm so excited. So my birthday is on Sunday and

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I said last week that my mom offered to come watch Penny
while we do something. So she's going to be here on
Saturday and Saturday night we're going to go to my favorite
restaurant. And then Sunday after I put
Penny down for her first nap, we're going to go golfing, which
is our favorite hobby. I have not golfed a full round

(19:06):
since February of last year. Yeah, because what's a full
round? For us non golfers like 18.
Holes. OK, we went.
I found out I was pregnant beginning of January and then we
went to Florida on a golf trip end of February last year.
So I was like 11 weeks pregnant,something like that.

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And then we came back to Michigan, of course, and it's
cold. So we didn't golf again until
early June and we went on our annual June golf trip.
We go every year and we play a lot of golf.
We play like 36 holes a day, which is like 2 rounds a day.
Oh, golf from like sunup to sundown.

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And I was going on, I think I was 27 weeks pregnant, 26 weeks,
something like that. And because I said last in our
last episode how much joint painI had, I played as much as I
could, but that wasn't very much.
And riding in the golf cart alone was enough to make me cry
by the end of the day. So I didn't golf as much as I

(20:12):
had wanted to. So I didn't golf at all for the
rest of the year. I just rode whenever Taylor
went, which was torture, by the way.
Like, it's my favorite thing to do.
And I had to just watch. It was terrible.
So yeah, I'm very excited for this weekend because I finally.
To go again, it's going to be a good time.
Penny will be here with her grandma and she loves her
grandma and her grandma's going to is more excited to see her

(20:35):
than from than to see me. So that's a very.
Exciting. Is the restaurant you're going
to the one that you were considering having cater for
your wedding? No.
Actually this one is cocktail bar and looks like it's came
right out of a magazine. Like it's so cute and the food
is very like high end. So I'm excited to get all

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dressed up and go split a bottleof wine with my husband.
Good for you. That's so exciting.
We used to before. Penny we had a date night almost
every week. If not like, if not every week,
then like every two weeks. We would always go out to dinner
on like a Saturday night and it was just fun that that was
something we did so often. So to go like almost nine months

(21:19):
without a date is wild. Yeah, I.
Got that? Good, I hope you enjoy it.
Is your mom spending the night and then going home on Sunday?
Your mom's awesome. I know now that.
We have guest rooms, it's so much easier.
Like before our renovation was over she would sleep on the
couch like she's an all time grandma.
I'm not surprised. At all I could have anticipated

(21:40):
that was going to be the case when I met her eons ago.
Yeah, she's. The best.
But yeah, now we have guest rooms and a guest bathroom, and
so it's all more comfortable andI love having her come over.
She's so helpful in character, like you've got to be on.
People would love it. We'll give her.
What were we drinking on your birthday?

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Jen and no. Jen and Jen and Squirt.
Squirt, Yes. It was Squirt.
Why was it Squirt? It was.
Delightful I I I haven't had a single one of those since your
me either 21st birthday weekend,but I do remember loving it.
It was her. She was the one that was like,
we have to try gin and squirts. I love those.

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When our kids get to an age where they're less needed by us,
we should plan a mom's trip oncea year, maybe once every two
years if we don't want to. But like where we go do
something for a whole weekend, like a Thursday to Sunday?
I would love that. I have like a new fun confidence
to be like, hey Colton, like I wrote the stuff on for our

(22:44):
meetings on the calendar, put itin my phone.
I'm like this is I don't need toask this.
Is exactly what this podcast wassupposed to do, like make us
cool spending time on our own and encouraging each other to do
that. I'm so happy about that.
Yeah, it definitely. Has done that, that it like it?
Yeah. It's served its purpose.
It's done that for me. Too, like our kids will be fine

(23:05):
with their dad and their dad would love the time with the
kids. He's not babysitting, he's
parenting. And it's OK.
You don't need to ask. If there's nothing else on the
calendar, how was I to know I'm first?
Yep. I get to go fast.
Yeah. Dibs.
I have dibs on this weekend day.Hate, hate, hate, hate, hate,
hate, hate. When people say is you're the

(23:26):
husband, right? We're not talking about Taylor.
We're talking about just like right, the husband watching the
kids. It's like, no, he's being a dad.
Would you say is Molly watching the kids?
No, because no, I'm the mom. No, I hate it's me too.
I would be speechless. Speechless.
I would definitely talk about that person in the car at home.

(23:46):
Yep. Yep, no.
But Speaking of this podcast, doing things beneficial for us,
I have a laundry list of all thegood things that's done for me.
One of the things that I said last week was that when we were
talking about the default parentstuff, I said when it comes to
my own needs, I often don't think about them because I'm
consistently thinking about the current and future needs of my

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children. And I did not like that answer.
If Reese, I always use Reese as an example just because she's
the oldest, not because I do notalso apply this Brook, just for
the record, but I thought if Reese were to say that that
she's not thinking about her ownneeds because she's just
focusing on her kids, I would think something needs to be done
about that. I would not think that that is a
good thing. So my one thing that I did for

(24:30):
myself this week as I well, I put a journal in my Amazon cart
and then I realized that I have 5 journals that I really like
that I've never used because I always have this like I'm going
to do it and then I don't. But I started journaling so that
I can actually think through what the heck's going on up
here, because nice. There's a lot.
Of healthy. Coping skill, hopefully.

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I mean, so proud of you. Thanks.
Thank you. When we get to our next section,
I've got some help so hopefully I can maintain this.
I started and I'm like, after this, this is hard.
I don't want to think about my feelings.
And then I stopped doing it. I also.
Have two journals have a love hate relationship with
journaling. I have this like weird thought
process that like someday when Idie someone's gonna read them.

(25:15):
Same I'll. Come through your house and I'll
clear them out. Thank God.
You blow up my phone. I'll clear out your journals.
Yes, and I won't read them. It's fine, you could.
Read them. I mean, I'm gonna be dead so I
don't care. That's true.
I love that you're doing that. I feel like that is such a good
thing to do. And it does build
self-awareness, yes. You have to take care of

(25:36):
yourself so that you're one for yourself, of course.
But two, I'm modeling how to take care of myself.
And if Reese was a 3333 33 year old adult and was talking to her
friend and was like, I don't know what my needs are.
I don't know. Like I can't articulate them.
I don't really think about it. I would be like, OK, let's work

(25:57):
on that together because that's not OK.
So I'm going to do that for myself.
You don't know how much. It pained me as a therapist to
hear you say that last week, I bet.
I bet I watch your body languagesometimes you'll like Now I will
go down or that's what people onTikTok say.
I'm like, oh really? It's because she wants to tell
me something from her her therapist standpoint and.

(26:20):
I try so hard not to be that person, right?
Like, no one, yeah, no one likesthe therapist.
That's like constantly being a therapist especially.
But like, right now I would. I have a nasty itch that I
cannot scratch because I'm not working.
Like I need to give someone therapy.
And you're probably. Thinking no better person.

(26:41):
Person who needs therapy that I talk to every week.
No, because this is for the public that I cannot give you
therapy while people are listening.
Yeah, well, you don't have my insurance information, so
seriously. Lose my license, bringing it
back to If Reese was feeling this way, it wouldn't be OK.
I feel like I have had some level of depression forever, to

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be honest, but I was so resistant to any form of
treatment for that because I wasjust like, it comes in waves, it
goes away, It will go away at some point.
It's fine. And the second that I had Penny
and it got really bad, there wasnot a doubt in my mind that I
was going to do something about it.
Before I had Penny, it only affected me.

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It did not affect anything else in my life.
I could still work and my relationships were fine, but it
would have impacted my ability to be a good mom.
And so when you put it into perspective of your kids, what
you would have done prior to kids, it changes all of that.
Yeah. 100% isn't that crazy? That is, if you ever like, my

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God, I don't feel like you're good mom.
People who aren't great moms don't think like that.
You don't think about like bettering yourself.
You don't think about being the best version of yourself for
your children. That's I think, the perfect
example of being a good mom. Yeah, I think so.
Too, That's why we do this segment.
Yeah, what a great. Way to close that out, right?
All right, let's get into our new segment things that we

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googled or ChatGPT D this week. OK, so it can be mother related,
not mother related, but has to be honest.
Can I get my? Damage control statement.
Oh yeah. OK, so.
Last week I was talking about myChatGPT use and I figured that I
made myself sound like a psychopath and I'm not edited a

(28:33):
lot. Of it out OK, like I kept in
there that Colton uses it for recommendations that you use it
a lot and then I kept in the part that you were like
destroying my phone if some would fight if like I die
because I'm glad you kept. That because that's funny.
Yeah. Yeah.
I didn't keep though a lot of like the extra OK well.

(28:54):
I'm still going to get my disclaimer in case I am out
myself again in the future. So I do use ChatGPT.
I am not unhinged with it. Like, like I don't think if
anybody looked at what I've put in my phone, they would think
that I'm a different person thanwhat I portray.
Like it's very in line with, youknow, the insecurities and areas

(29:16):
of opportunity that I know and voice that is it.
If you were to look at it like some something her like how to
boost your memory because I'm sitting because I'm sitting with
you and you were talking about your birth story and you're
like, they gave me. I can't even remember the
medication because it was trauma.
That's what Colton said. Because I was talking to her
about it, I was like, she remembers everything.

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She remembers the medication, she remembers the time she got
it. She remembers all these things.
I'm like, my nurse said something nice to me.
I don't know, can't remember anyof it.
So I'm like I got to fix this because I'm noticing that my
memory is not so great in a lot of different areas.
Yeah, I know. So like.
It's stuff like that. It's just like, hey, need a
little help with this? Yeah.
No, I think that the reason I remember so much is, is

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routinely with anything quote UNquote traumatic, I remember
every single detail. I think there are a multitude of
ways people respond to traumaticevents.
Some people remember stuff, somepeople block it totally out and
some people like there's, you know, mixes.
But no, I remember like everything.

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Not to be rude. That sounds like the worst case
scenario. I mean, I think it's pretty.
Bad. I would prefer.
To not remember anything. Not everything, yeah.
I know, sorry it. Sounds terrible.
It's a control. Thing if I don't remember, then
I feel like it could happen again.
Well, yeah. Yeah.
How epfed up is that? Yeah, that's.

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Rough. Yeah, yeah.
But yeah, you're OK. Well, now I feel bad because I
was like, Oh no, it's. Fine, I'm impressed.
By her but yeah to know my partytrick yeah sorry though
unfortunate circumstances to have a killer memory OK so the
first. Thing I I was getting really
sick of feeding Penny. I'm going to feed her.

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Everybody chill. I'm getting really sick of
giving her bottles, right? Because she's in this phase
where she doesn't love to be cradled anymore.
She wants to sit up and she wants to move around, but to eat
a bottle you have to be cradled or at least tipped backwards for
20 minutes. So feeding's just been
frustrating. So I googled, at what age do
babies hold their own bottles? Because I don't.

(31:25):
I don't want to hold your bottleanymore.
Unfortunately, it gave me a lot,a big range.
And yeah. As they do real, yeah, no, that
anything you Google for ages or like when is this
developmentally appropriate? They're like, you're not going
to lock us into that six months to 18.
Years. Exactly if they're not.

(31:45):
Walking by 18, you might want tocall the pediatrician.
We will not be held liable. Seriously.
Could have any time. Yeah, so it.
Said six to 10 months. However, I am a very big
advocate. I don't know if that's the right
word for a glass bottle. She uses glass bottles only and
I don't want to give her plastic, but I know that the

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glass bottles are heavier and babies have a hard time holding
those. So I don't know that's what
you're saying. Yep.
I mean, I know why you're doing that.
It makes a little sense to me, but means you got to suffer a
little bit longer. Yeah, she.
Also, like, doesn't really try to hold it.
Like when I'm feeding her, she'drather punch me in the face or
claw my nose. Yeah, somebody was just doing.

(32:27):
It for me, I'd be like, yeah, what?
Are these for? I've started.
Giving her water during meal times in a baby bottle and
she'll just she's sitting up andshe sticks her head out.
Let me see if I can show you. You can demo.
Yeah. So she'll sit up straight but

(32:48):
lean her head as far forward as she can and then tilt her head
down. So there's no way I can tip the
bottle up. I'm like, dude, this is not
working. Why is?
She doing that, she's trying to make it difficult on purpose.
I barely. She's just like her dad.
She loves to make things harder than they need to be.
She's just like Colden. Too, I tell.

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Taylor this all the time. I'm always like, I don't know
why you make things so difficult.
Okay, I don't give you an you do.
Yeah, he's like, I'm not, I'm just doing it my way.
I'm like, your way is hard. It sucks.
Doesn't. Have to be.
Hard like for example, multitasking.
It's not a man's Forte. So I'll have him do like

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laundry. I ask him like, hey, can you
switch the laundry? Can you do XY or Z?
But he's also putting his clothes away, right?
And instead of putting somethingin the washer, then going to put
your clothes away. That way by the time you're
done, you can switch it to the dryer.
He'd rather put all of his clothes away and then start the
washer and then be like, oh, I can't go mow the lawn because I

(33:52):
have to wait for it to be done. It's like, you could have
multitasked that, right? Like made it easier for
yourself. You're not.
You're not washing your clothes by hand in a bucket.
Who knows? There's some support for this.
Yeah. Like you have a 30 minute gap
between putting the clothes in and having to switch them that

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you could then do your second thing, but instead you'd rather
do like one thing then the otherthan wait and then finish.
It's like what I mean. If it's always mowing the lawn
that he's trying to get out of, I get it.
If this is a issue across the any sort of other task that he
doesn't want to do, then like I see your complaint, but I
wouldn't want to mow your lawn either.

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Well, we. Got lawn service, so we don't
have you guys did anymore. Nice.
Yeah. Today.
Was the second week they've cometo do it and holy cow it has
made a world of difference. Like tears all around.
A happier person, I bet. And you?
Get 8 hours back with your husband so that's nice and he.
Doesn't have to pick between a summer weekend activity and

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mowing the lawn, which has to bedone.
It can't just be neglected. So like a task that takes
forever and is not fun or like afun weekend.
Now we get to we get to do that.So I'm very excited about it.
He's very happy about it. OK, tell me that perfectly
describes Taylor. When he left this morning, the
people were here mowing the lawn.
So he knew that they were mowing.

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He was at work and he called me in the middle of the day to ask
me how the lawn looked. And I was like, looks like a
mowed lawn looks fine. And then he asked me to send him
pictures of the lawn. And I was like, Taylor, do you
think that I just, like, sit around and wait for you to text
me and do something? What I would have said.

(35:37):
I said do. You think I sit around and wait
for you to need me? I was like, you can, you'll be
home before dark. You can see it when you get
home. And then we hung up and we
laughed and stuff. And then he texted me 30 minutes
later. So am I not getting pictures of
the lawn? Were they still?
There, like did he want you to go to dress it?
Okay, no. They had left by then, but I
must go talk. To him, seriously, I was like.

(35:59):
Taylor, it looks like a mowed lawn.
You have lived in this house foralmost 6 years.
Like you know what the lawn looks like when it's mowed?
Yeah. So anyway, I said to pictures of
the lawn and he was like, Oh my God, it looks so good.
I was like, it looks the same asit did last week.
You can't make the same. Joke two weeks in a row, but it
doesn't make me want to say Taylor sounds like he's really

(36:20):
fun at parties Again, Seriously.Though, Yeah, seriously.
But The funny thing is, is but I've seen Taylor in party
scenarios and he has fun. Oh no, it's not what you're
going to say. I'm just going to say he's.
Terrible, but no, actually at your wedding he was fun.
My wedding. Your wedding, he was really fun
too, Yeah. That's true actually.

(36:41):
Get a couple beers in him and he's a wedding guy.
He loves. Weddings loves wedding come
alive. OK, so we.
Were at my cousins wedding in April and it was a very chill
time for both of us because it was the first time we'd been
away from Penny. We wanted to be in be there for
the wedding, be there for the beginning of the reception and

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leave early so that we could gethome.
And we had been sitting at our table.
We really weren't in the party mood and I was it was going on
9:00 and we had a 2 hour drive home.
So I was like, all right, are weabout ready to leave?
And he was like Molly, dead serious.
I cannot leave until I dance. I've been really the.
Same person and I was like. Are you serious?

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We've been here for 9:00. Go dance.
Like, why are you not? And then he went and danced on
his own. I was talking to people, and
they were, like, raving about how funny Taylor was and how
great he was. And like, we were watching
Taylor dance. I was like, yeah.
I feel like a. Proud dance mom right now Go
honey, you're doing great. Yes.

(37:44):
That's so. Funny doesn't check, yeah?
It is hilarious, I remember. At your wedding, Taylor, I feel
like he was in the exact same spot the entire night, the
entire night, but not standing still, like dancing and like
engaging and like he danced withnear Reese.
I don't know if he danced with Reese, but near Reese, yeah.
But I feel like he was like, if I needed Taylor, I knew where to

(38:05):
go and he was. Meanwhile I think I got to dance
to maybe 3 songs I get. Sad people needed.
Me every 5 seconds. I was like what could possibly
be going on right now? Can't you need someone?
Else ask someone can you need anyone else look at him?
He's having a great time. Yeah.
Go call him. He'd be like Molly.

(38:25):
They have a question. Yes, Yeah.
He'd be Let me go get Molly. Jeez, that's so.
Funny. All right.
I do have one other one, the only other one that I did was I
was looking up 1st birthday party themes.
I'm trying to figure out what todo for pennies Ask chat TBT.
I mean I have three options. So I was always going to do

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Penny in Wonderland and do Alicein Wonderland theme.
I'm not a Disney. Person.
Well, it was in. Love that.
Idea the Wonderland. Theme was cute, but then I
watched. Alice in.
Wonderland. It's really not my favorite
Disney movie. A lot it's.
Like an acid trip. You know I'm gonna have to do
drugs. The.
Other two are Penny is wonderfuland then I can do like whatever

(39:09):
color scheme I want. And the other one is she's a
sweet 1 and it would be like alllike sweets and candies and
stuff. Yeah, that's what I did.
For Brooke's birthday decorations, I like the second
one's more freeing, but the options are endless.
That would overwhelm me, so I. Don't know those are my options
as of right now, but it also might change.
Gotcha. Really.
Quick before I forget, if you did do the Wonderland theme, I

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mean, you don't have to do like like the cat and the and a crazy
man with a hat on. You could just do a tea party
that could be really cute. We can make that really like
classy and a configure vibe too.And then you could still plan
the words. Yeah, and then I can have like
eat me signs and drink me signs on stuff and clocks everywhere

(39:53):
cuz everything's a clock little Bunny, stuff like that, yeah.
OK, I like that. OK.
Can I do my chat with GPT stuff really quick?
Hang on. Like that, Raheem, OK.
I'm going to keep that in OK, so.
Number one, I wrote my exact verbiage.

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I said based on everything I've asked you about and all that you
know about me, provide 30 days of journal prompts and help me
build this habit by starting outlight but engaging and gradually
increasing to support growth andkeep me engaged.
AKA don't ask me too deep of stuff too early because I'll
quit. And also ask me entertaining

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stuff so that I'll get in the habit of it because I have to
build this habit. And it did.
It gave me a whole bunch of them.
Some of them I don't know, I'll probably swap out because I'm
like, that's, that's stupid. But by and large, as a whole,
pretty good. I.
Love that you said based on everything I've told you, as if
it's like your friend and everything you know about me.

(40:56):
Like, do they know you that well?
We, OK, so when we started our social media accounts, one thing
that I like do, which has yield 0 results, but it has it has
been helpful for other businesses that I've worked for
with social media in the past isgoing through and like engaging
in people, other people's comments.

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And one person, I don't rememberwhat they had posted about our
account. I'd said one time Jet Jet GBT
told me that it recommends that I talk to a friend about this.
And I'm like, what? You're my friend, like I'm
talking to you, you about this because I can't let anyone in my
real life know this this. Is litter.
That's like our top liked comment.

(41:39):
I get notifications that people more and more people like that
comment all of the time. You've never.
Said anything to me about. I mean, no, there's one other
one. You comment.
On stuff from our mom sense pod account a lot.
So like I just figured it was what you were doing, right?
You're trying to increase our engagement.
So you're like interacting with other posts.

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That is what. I am doing Yes I did.
Notice that like so many people liked that comment, that one was
a. Good one.
The other one that people are really liking is I told them
that I will sometimes just add things to my Amazon cart with 0
intention to buy it because it'sstill a rush.
That one is also a fan favorite.I do that too. 0 followers.
I don't even think people have looked at our profile from that

(42:21):
I know. That's OK.
Anyways, Judge BT helped me out with my journal prompts and then
the other thing. Went over to Google for this
one. I looked up 2026 sky liner
refurb dates. Do you know what that means?
Molly? No.
Is a sky liner if there's over a.
Week that you're out of town, I'm going to record by myself.
All I'm going to do is talk about all my Disney knowledge

(42:41):
because I have a lot up here that I just, I should share with
the public. I the sky liner is a mode of
transportation in Disney World. They have buses, they have a
monorail, they have a boat and they have a sky liner.
Sky Liner is at some of the resorts, not all of them.
And one of the resorts that I'm interested in is a Sky Liner
resort. And the Sky Liner will take you

(43:02):
to Hollywood Studios or Epcot and it's really, really, really
convenient. And so I was just wondering if I
went the same dates. I was looking at the dates that
we went last year because I recommend them.
They were outstanding. No cheer competition, no, no
heavy crowds because of breaks, whatever.
So I was looking at those dates and then I was like, they're

(43:22):
going to fix the sky liner that week, aren't they?
That's exactly right. So the sky liner's down.
So there's no reason for me to go to the sky liner resort that
I was looking at because can't be on the sky liner.
So I'm bummed about that. We'll move on.
Is this like? You're planning to go in January
of 2026? I would love.
To Yeah, I am pitching this to you right now as well.
I was just going. To say, does this include us?

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Because, like we said, we were going to go together.
Yeah, but. I'm picky about when we go.
I have strong opinions of when we go in January, particularly
the end of January is outstanding.
The weather is great, there's not a lot of people and there's
no cheerleaders. Very important.
All right, let's. I'm excited.
I will pitch it to Taylor, but just.
Tell him the sky liners down andthat's a bummer.

(44:06):
Well, we'll go. Whenever you say it's back up,
well, it's only. A certain amount of resorts.
So yeah, anyway, so those are the things that I googled in
chat this week. Cool.
All right, well then that bringsus to our episode topic.
We just have so much to catch upon after three days apart.

(44:29):
Well. Lots.
OK, so we have decided that we are going to run you through
days in the life of us as stay at home moms.
I feel like watching a day in the Life on social media or
YouTube or whatever is so fascinating.
And I don't know why because people are just doing mundane
everyday tasks. But I think there's something

(44:51):
psychological about the way thatpeople compare their lives to
other people's lives. And it's interesting to see what
other people do with their time.I think they're fascinating too.
When I watch them, I look at it from a standpoint of like I
could be doing better and I'm just trying to see do you have a
better option? In the earlier days it was like
what's your nap schedule look like?
Because maybe I'm going to copy it now.
It's like how are you keeping it?

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5 year old entertained all day long.
Anyways, I look for inspiration.Psychological comparison.
OK, Maine's going to go first this time.
I always go first. OK.
I'll go first really quick. I do just want to remind
everyone because there I mean there could be new listeners.
I have a 2 year old, a new 2 year old, which is a big deal to

(45:33):
point out by the way, a new 2 year old and a five year old at
home, also a new five year old, but not a big deal because
whatever. Not huge gaps, not not huge
gaps. And someone I meant they knew 2
year old versus a end of two year old is a completely
different person. It's 4 1/2 year old to a 5 year
old to that. I mean, it's not a huge change.

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And then Molly has an 8 month old.
And so we're going to go throughwhat our days look like and then
we're going to set goals for ourself at the end because
accountability. OK, so my day in life, I'm going
through the weekday and there's no scheduled activity.
So no dance, no gymnastics, no soccer, no story time, no, no

(46:13):
play date scheduled. OK, so when we're staying at
home, this is what I do. OK so I wake up at 5:00 AM and
on an average day I'll doom scroll until like 6:00 and then
I'll start getting ready so. Tell us what doom scrolling is
TikTok. I don't have interruptions.

(46:35):
Yeah, I don't have a personal Instagram and I would get rid of
Facebook. I think about it all the time.
But then I keep finding these new opportunities to to be an
admin of a page and you have to have your own personal Facebook
to have a page anyways. So I'm not looking at like
social media per SE. Well, it is social media.
I'm looking at Tiktok. And then on a more than an

(46:56):
average day, when I'm feeling good, I will read or I will, I
wrote podcast work or I'll prep stuff for racist school work.
Like I'll do something more thanjust look at my phone.
But yeah, I get up early, but sometimes it doesn't, it doesn't
look great. It's not protective.
It's you time. Yeah, it's always me time.
But it's not always what I, you know, not what I'm proud of

(47:16):
sharing, but it's true. And then?
Around. 6:00 I will get ready before the girls wake up for
getting ready. Get changed, brush my teeth.
I shower at night. I like get dressed though, and I
do my makeup. I don't always do my hair, but
it helps me feel more put together.
And if I feel more put together,I'm more, I'm more likely to

(47:41):
like make a spontaneous decisionto go do something fun out of
the house. I just like feel better so I'll
be more productive. It's just what I found for
myself. And then I start prepping
breakfast and sometimes Reese will come upstairs during that
time. She's usually up before Brooke.

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And then when I go down to get Brooke, I bring a laundry basket
because our laundry is downstairs.
And I will start laundry every single day.
OK, what breakfast do you? Typically do for the girls
scrambled. Eggs and then a fruit and wait a
minute, I don't know, they get scrambled eggs every day unless
they ask for something different.
Do they like do? Both of them like scrambled eggs
then, yeah. And there's not a whole lot of

(48:25):
opportunity after breakfast for them to get protein in.
And so I I had just rode this wave of they'll accept scrambled
eggs in the morning and it's ouropportunity to get some protein
in. So yeah.
Yeah, I don't. Strive far away from that.
I will make pancakes recently. I will make them because we have
a recipe we like. And then sometimes we'll do

(48:46):
French toast, but those are, like, not common.
OK. And then what?
Yeah, when I go downstairs to get Brooke is when I start
laundry for the day, since I do it every single day and never
piles up too much, like, and still takes me some time and I
still hate it so, so much. But it's manageable.
So then we do breakfast and reading and then I unload the

(49:10):
dishwasher because Colton alwaysruns the dishwasher at night.
So in the morning I'm able to unload and put everything away.
And when I say read, mentioned this in the last said, but I'll
read a chapter book typically tothe girls.
Sometimes I'll just read like a general book if they have like
one that they really want me to read.
But I'm trying to get in the habit more of going through
chapter books because it keeps them engaged.

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And if you have a child that's not a booster seat anymore, you
know, they like to get down fromthe table and run around and not
eat their food and then breakfast time takes full over
and it's so annoying. So that helps.
And then we clean up the table. Reese is responsible for taking
her plate up as of now because Brooke isn't cannot be trusted

(49:53):
with a ceramic plate. I'm she'll help her sister out
too. And then Reese has to do her
morning routine. I used to have like a chart on
the fridge, but she's gotten pretty good at doing this on her
own now. So the chart showed and this is
what she does get dressed, make her bed, brush her hair and
teeth, put her dirty clothes in the laundry room.
And then if I I haven't already done this, she'll feed the dogs.

(50:15):
So she goes to that stuff every morning.
And it's also like a bargaining tactic as well because she'll be
like, can I do this one thing? I'm like, yeah, for sure.
Is your morning routine done yet?
No, Then she'll go anyway. So, well, you're teaching her.
Responsibility, which is good. You have to do things you don't
like in order to do things you do like well.
We're home all I mean, we're actually not home all day every

(50:38):
day, but she's home a lot more than the average 5 year old.
And so I want her to start, one,picking up chores and having
responsibility, and two, I want her to have a routine.
Like, I don't want to just to belike we sit in our pajamas all
day and turn on the TVI want herto have structure and routine,
definitely. Yeah.

(50:58):
And then after all that stuff's done, which I usually takes
forever, after all that song anddance is done, then we'll either
go outside or the girls will play together while I do
something, or we'll say go outside or we'll do crafts.
We'll pull the watercolor paintsor play DoH or something like

(51:19):
that. We'll do something that needs
Will. Reese doesn't need the
supervision, but Brooke does. During this time, I usually dish
out 50 million snacks because they hardly eat breakfast like a
like graze. Both of them, especially Brooke.
That's OK. I was going to put this in my
thing, but since you just said it, OK, so Penny will eat.
I'll put her in her little seat,let's just say for breakfast.

(51:40):
And I've tried it multitude of ways, like putting stuff on a
plate and putting the plate in front of her and letting her
like play with it or putting it right on the, you know, high
chair thing. How long do you let them play
and or have the food in front ofthem if they're not actually
eating it? Penny will play with her

(52:02):
scrambled eggs and then she'll pull them to the side and drop
them on the floor. And she'll do that over and
over. I give her strips of toast,
she'll put it in her mouth, stuck on it, look at it and then
drop it on the floor. And we do this forever.
And I don't know at what point are you like, she's not going to
eat it. Might as well just clean up and
be done. Call it good.

(52:22):
Do I let her sit there for 30 minutes and I don't understand?
Yeah. I would.
I don't know what I did, but with the information you just
gave me and the knowledge I knownow, I would let her sit in
there until she tells me she doesn't want to sit in there
anymore and I would take that time to do something or just not
be crawled on for a little bit. OK.
That's probably what I would do,but no wonder why?

(52:43):
I mean, I know that there are multiple layers of course, to
the solid food stuff that you are experiencing, but I wouldn't
be gung ho to make her a bunch of new stuff either if I knew
that she was just going to play with it and toss it on the
floor. It takes you time and energy to
prepare that stuff and then justhave to clean it up off the
floor later. I wouldn't want to do that
either. You know what?
I told Taylor this morning I waslike, sometimes if it was just

(53:05):
me, I would skip breakfast because I don't feel like making
it, or I would have a granola bar because I don't feel like
dirtying dishes and making food.When you have a kid, you have to
legit make food for every singlemeal.
There's no skipping meals because you're feeding someone
else. Your kitchen is.
Never clean and will never be cleaning it because it's eating.
Cleaning. Cleaning over and over and over

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again until you go to bed. Then it all starts again in the
morning. I don't like that. 18 years,
baby. Well, well, they start to do it
on their own. But seriously.
It's a lot. As early as possible.
They're going to be making theirown food.
Yeah. And then after that time, it's
usually creeping up on lunchtimeslash when Brooke goes down for

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her nap, she goes down anytime between 12:00 and 1:00.
When you say when you do lunch time for your nap, does she
easily go? Yeah, Cole and I were just.
Talking about this the other day.
This is newer, but now she'll usually tell us we'll be like
Brooke, you ready for a nap and she'll say Yep.
And she'll say goodnight Reese love you.
And then she'll blow her a kiss and start walking down the

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stairs. She's like excited for her nap.
And then she like you had mentioned this about Penny with
her last nap. But if I let Brooke go she would
sleep until 6 O clock like she Ihave to stop her, which
sometimes that's so hard becausesometimes I'm like I don't I
want her nap a little bit longer.
I have stuff to do, what time do?
You wake her up because she goesdown around noon, right?

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Yeah, she. Goes down 12 to one and the
honest answer is that sometimes I have to wake her up because we
are leaving for gymnastics or anappointment or whatever.
And so those days they wake her up at 3:30 and then she sleeps.

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For 3 1/2 hours, she. Molly, did you not hear me a
second ago? And I said she will sleep until
six if I allow her. She sleeps, she will sleep, but
she'll. Still sleep at night even though
she sleeps that much during the day.
Oh yeah. I'm so freaking jealous.
I don't know what. I did to deserve the sleepers
that I have, but they they're both great and they've both been

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great for a long, long, long, long time.
And I don't think it's me just got to be them.
I don't know. I'm not that structured to they
deserve this dude. All kids are.
Different. That's the unfortunate answer.
Yeah, they have Brooks. I'm I'm lucky go Brooke and then
OK. So yeah, Brooke will go down for
a nap and then I do school work with Reese This times I have

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skirted around this topic. Molly and I are going to talk
about it on a different full episode of the episode topic
sometime in the future. I don't know when, but we did
make the decision to homeschool Reese and we've been doing that
since preschool. However, preschool started
early. I like, had gotten a workbook
literally for fun just to give us something to do throughout

(56:02):
our days. And she loved it and cruised
right through it. And so and I was like, what do I
do now? And I ultimately decided to go
ahead and get a kindergarten curriculum.
So she completed that in March. And so now in the fall, she's
going to be starting first grade.
And yeah, it's been going great.We're really flexible.
Like I'm not bound to it. I'm not.
I'll go into all the details andthe whys and what's and all that

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stuff in the future episode. But just for now, we do school
work when Brooke's down for a nap and then I fold and put away
laundry. And then I usually choose a room
to clean unless something is like dire like needs my
attention ASAP. And then Reese usually will play
or I put on story time with Kay and Google.

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She keeps herself entertained while I do what I need to do.
And then when you. Fold and put away laundry?
Yeah. Do you put away Colton's
laundry? Yeah.
You said that you didn't the other day and I was like, I do,
I don't know, I'm already doing it and we do it every day.
So there's not a lot. I.
Probably need to. I don't want to say need to

(57:05):
because I don't need to, but I do think it probably would make
things easier in the long run ifI would just do it.
But Taylor does not have a system like every other person
in the whole world. He will just put clothes
wherever there's room in the drawers.
Like not even like undershirts, socks, underwear, pants.

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Like he'll take a stack of clothes and put them in a drawer
that has room and then ask me where stuff is.
Like I don't know you psycho. So you're torn.
Because you're like, I would like you to help with this
thing. And then you're like, I also
don't want you to touch this because you're going to mess it
up. A psychopath.

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Who does that, Taylor? I'd OK, I am almost.
Done OK and then once Brooke wakes up from her nap, we either
play outside and when the weather's nice, that's usually
what we'll do or if we are goingto go somewhere, that's when
we'll do it so park, petting zoo, library we've recently
moved the aquatic centers like swimming into our.

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Rotation. I don't know that is something
I'd like to change. I I don't know if it's a post
having children thing or if it'sa 33 year old thing or if it's a
my body thing. But I don't do heat well anymore
and I don't know when it happened and I'm very aware of
it and it's like I feel embarrassed almost like I hate
it. If it's 89° outside and everyone

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wants to go outside and play. I'm like, but the but we'll
leave the ACI don't want to. It's terrible.
So I need to start moving our outings until earlier in the
day. But like I said, Reese has a
breakfast takes forever, and Reese likes to drag her feet on
her morning routine. So I don't know.
Yeah, I'll adjust it at some point, maybe.

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So, yeah, we'll go out if we're going to go out at that point.
And then, OK, so then we're probably around like, 4:00 in
the day, if I had to guess. I'll start prepping dinner.
The girls will play. They've been playing together.
It took, I don't know, almost like 18 months for them to
actually play together. So that's a tree.
So I have opportunity to go and prep dinner, usually eat dinner

(59:15):
on 5/30 when Colton gets home. And then all of us or just
Colton and the girls will go outside after dinner and then
they come in, we do baths and wedo the bedtime routine and then
the girls are in bed by 8. And on a good day, healthy day,
I'll do something productive. A lot of times lately it's been

(59:35):
podcast work or spending time with Colton and I day where I am
fried and can't put effort into anything else.
Doom scrolling nice. You guys aren't TV people.
Not. TV people, we don't watch shows,
we don't watch movies. If we do watch a movie, I fall
asleep. I've always been that way.

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So he will watch movies. He's watched hundreds of movies.
Like he just watches things randomly.
He doesn't have a genre. He will watch anything.
And I think I've read that for him.
He's a. Movie guy not ATV show guy like
what does he do? What after the girls go to bed
reads He was. Woodworking and doing that thing

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for four years. And so that always took his
evenings. And since then, now he reads
like he's reading the Wayward Pine trilogy right now.
He read 4th Wing like that series?
Did he like it? 4th Wing.
Yeah, I think he thought it was fine.
I mean, I'm curious. I didn't.
Know he was like a fantasy guy. I mean like Harry.

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Potter and I had fourth Wing, sohe was just grabbing a book that
was available to him. He wrote The Nightingale just
because it is one of my favoritebooks.
Yeah, yeah. He really likes reading.
Cool. He also really.
Likes his phone. Yeah.
Who? Doesn't, don't we?
All. Don't we all?
Yeah. Taylor They're huge TV people I

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know. I know.
Yeah, I like that. Like, I like that.
I like, like the comfort shows and stuff.
I used to be that way with Gilmore Girls.
I've just like have it on. I loved it.
I like it. Sometimes I think like, I should
just turn the TV on. It just would be nice.
And then I'm like to what? Sounds terrible, making the
decision of what I would watch. Nothing.
Although, yeah, I do watch Secret Lives and Mormon Wives.

(01:01:22):
I reinstall, do Hulu. I sign up for Hulu again and
cancel when I'm done. I don't know why.
Is it good? No, I mean, I like reality TV,
so like, I might think it's funny.
I mean, if you. Watched Taylor, Frankie, Paul on
TikTok back in the day and like solve or drama then it pulls you
in for that reason. And then I'm but I like Taylor

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personally. I don't like like Taylor and
Macy. I don't like any of the other
ones. Not that I don't like them, I'm
just not entertained by them or I find them frustrating.
But other than that, not TV people.
And I admire that you are. Yes, I am.
Very much TV person. Well OK, so I'll go through my
day in the life. I feel like it's roughly the
same every day. Which I mean, given it's because

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of Penny's age and as she gets older I hope to implement more
things, but I'm also getting used to doing things on my own
with her, right? So we're working on it.
OK, so I wake up when Penny wakes up, that's usually around
7. She's been sleeping until 7,
which is fantastic. So that gives me hope for the

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future. I will give Penny a bottle and
she'll have floor play time while I pump in the morning and
have coffee. So her bottle will take roughly
20 minutes and then I pump for about 30 minutes and then and
she just plays on the floor. During that time, Taylor will be
in and out getting ready for work.

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So he'll kind of come and roll around on the floor with her for
a few minutes and then he'll go get ready.
And at some point when I'm done pumping, we'll have breakfast.
If Taylor's still there, I'll make some for him and I.
And if Taylor is not still thereby the time we're having
breakfast, I'll just cook for Penny.
I'll always give her a fruit. She's very much an orange or

(01:03:10):
banana kid, so I'll give her a fruit and I'll try to give her
some other options. So sometimes I do toast,
sometimes I do scrambled eggs, which I've made her scrambled
eggs I think about 6 times and she has yet to put it in her
mouth. She has not.
Ever put eggs in her mouth? And I try to give them to her

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all the time because you're right, I need a protein.
Like I feel very bad not giving her a protein. 9 times out of 10
I give her a Greek yogurt. That's OK, that's OK, but I
guess I'm having fun with it once we go.
Through the hoopla of let me throw absolutely everything on
the floor and make mom pick it up 20 times.
Then I go through the whole shebang of cleaning her up,

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which usually involves an outfitchange and a lot of wet paper
towels or baby wipes, whatever Ihave on the counter.
After that we do more play time.Usually I'll put her in her
activity Center for minutes and or I'll put her in her baby
Bjorn bouncer in the kitchen while I clean up from breakfast.

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Then she'll do more floor time for 30 minutes until it's nap
time. She usually goes down for her
first nap around 10. Is she content?
On the floor or is she is it short lived and you have to she
would prefer. To be on the floor, that's nice.
Yeah, she loves. The floor and I, I feel really
good about that. She's always done so much floor
time ever since she was like a month old.

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We do tons of floor time becauseI really want her to have free
play that way she can and practice her motor skills.
She's going to torture our cat. She's obsessed with our cat.
Anytime Bailey walks by Penny squeals so loud and kicks and
throws her arms around like wants to get to Bailey so bad.

(01:04:55):
So I feel so bad for her. As soon as Penny can move, she
is not safe anywhere she'll fire.
I mean, she'll go upstairs or something.
Yeah, she'll hide. For sure, but it's a good
motivator for Penny, yeah. Yeah, Go find Bailey.
Yeah, that's going to be exciting.
It keeps you. You're very busy once I start

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moving. But I was so thrilled by
watching Moon develop this new skill.
It's too exciting. That's how I feel too.
Like every new thing she does isso cute and fun that even if
it's more work, it's still better, you know?
Oh, she'll go down for her firstnap and I it just, I just get
her up by 12:30. Then after that, some days we

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stay home and just do like lots of floor time and lots of like
playing, read a lot of books, that kind of stuff, depending on
what's going on. Like Penny rolls around.
So I do try to keep like one eyeon her, but I will like walk
back and forth to go do stuff from the kitchen as she plays.

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We did have one of those big wooden like playpen things in
our living room. But Taylor and I were talking
and we were wondering, wonderingif maybe that thing was
hindering her ability to start crawling because she didn't have
to move very far to get to everything she wanted.
So I just took that down 2 days ago.
So now she's like, not containedat all.

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So I feel like I can't be out ofthe room for very long.
Yeah. So I will do laundry during that
time or we'll run errands. Sometimes we go visit Taylor at
work, which means we go pick up lunch for him and then we drive
to see him. We spend 15 and it's seeing him
and then we come home. We'll go for a walk sometimes if
it's nice outside because we have we live right by the

(01:06:47):
hospital in our town and they have like walking trails by it.
So we will go walk on those trails sometimes when it's nice
out. OK, you.
Do a lot more than what I did when I had little one.
I mean, we don't do a whole lot,but other than that, yeah, you
couldn't really do a whole lot Then.

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We're working on nap #2 already try to put Penny down for her
second nap at 3:30, and I do tryto get her up between 5:00 and
5:30. That way we have a typical 830
bedtime during her first nap. I miss this part.
During her first nap, I will getready for my day, do my hair and
makeup and get dressed and stufflike that.
If I haven't eaten already, I'lleat whether it's breakfast or

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lunch, whatever I need to eat, and I'll pump again.
During her second nap I will usually do.
I'll either edit the podcast if I still need to do that or I'll
clean. Those are my 2 second nap
activities typically. But when she wakes up then
she'll sit in the kitchen with me while I prep and make her

(01:07:52):
dinner. I haven't yet gotten to the
point where she eats what we eat.
Usually it includes some kind oflike mash or puree.
So I have to like help her eat, like feed her or load her spoons
or something. So I can't really multitask
during that time. We usually do.
Like today, for example, she hada chicken puree pouch for her

(01:08:15):
protein. Then she had mashed sweet
potatoes, which, you know, I don't know if she likes so much
she ate them, but she'll make a face every time she eats them.
So I put cinnamon in it. So I think that made a
difference. I don't think she likes that too
much. Yeah, try without.
Cinnamon. And then we're part back.
Yeah, I. Mean.
She's had pureed sweet potatoes and she loves them.
It's the mash she doesn't like. OK, Yeah.

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She is like or something. Picky.
I mean, I've given her mashed sweet potatoes without cinnamon
and she still is. I got you unsure a huge.
Picky, yeah, another layer to the to the solid food.
Yeah, she, I mean. She just, yeah, she doesn't
really like lunch for any food. It's not like she's ravenous for
anything. Which is frustrating.

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I wish she liked liked stuff. She'll tolerate things though.
And then I gave her some homemade bread because I made
bread yesterday. Did you get another starter?
Going yeah, good for you. Yep, I did.
So I made my normal sandwich bread, the kind that I made for
you last time I came over, and then I made sourdough discard

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chocolate chip cookies. It was good.
Yeah, they're like. The best recipe of chocolate
chip cookies that I have. We use Sun.
Maker starter. Oh yeah?
You asked me. To do that.
That's OK because I probably wouldn't have started.
Doesn't sound easy. It's so overwhelming.
So the first time. I'm.
Alive, so the first. Time I did it, I was really
overwhelmed and then like I said, I let it go and it died.

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So I had to do it again and thistime I'm so much more like
flexible with it. I don't know if it's a good
starter or if it's not. I haven't yet made a like active
sourdough loaf with this new starter yet because I have to
like make sure it's active and good before you can use it.
OK. So yeah, when she wakes up I
will prep her dinner and feed her.

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And depending on the time I'll either prep my dinner after.
It really depends on what we're eating too.
If it's a quick meal I'll do that later and then we have play
time until her bedtime at 8 so but typically by.

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The. Time I reach like at 8:30 I'm
starving and then he just eats, you know, when he gets home.
But sometimes I'll try to wait for him.
So we've just always ate pretty late.
Even before Penny. I find it easier to eat

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uninterrupted after she's already in bed.
But now that I have to cook meals for her, it's just easier
for me to like cook all at the same time.
After she goes to bed at 8, Taylor and I will typically
watch TV together. That is most likely what we do.
If I have a podcast to edit, I'll edit the podcast after she

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goes to bed and I have to pump one more time before I go to
sleep. And if dishes aren't done, I'll
do dishes at that time. But typically we watch TV
together when we think of anything else.
And then I do fit in laundry anddishes because those are the two
reoccurring chores, you know, for every person ever whenever I

(01:11:37):
can. So there will be days where we
have mountains of dirt dishes because I haven't been able to
get to them and I have to do like 3 loads of dishes before
bed or there will be days where it's all cut up and that is very
few and far between. To be very honest, dishes are my
least favorite chore so I'm never jumping yet doing them.

(01:11:57):
What's your favorite laundry? Probably.
I would way rather do laundry I think I hate.
I don't mind vacuuming either. No, you're right.
Yeah. Yeah, I like floor lines because
I can see nothing. You can't see the your work.
Yeah, yeah. Totally.
Also I think the reason I hate dishes so much lately is because
I got stainless steel pots and pans for my for Christmas.

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I was very excited I wanted themreally bad and we got them.
But as healthy as stainless steel is to cook on, everything
sticks to it like everything. I have not quite perfected how
to fix that and so cleaning themis horrible.
Like I hate it. I want stainless steel, so I
will. I would not choose to get the

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other kind, but I've got to figure out how to make things
not stick to it. It's like, what do you?
Want cancer or just have to scrub?
Easy cleaning. Seriously.
Like yeah, yeah, that's. Very obnoxious.
Ours are like that too. I get it.
Yeah, I just put it in the sink and let it soak and probably
damage the pot. Seriously, I.
Wish I could just put them in the dishwasher.

(01:13:02):
Same. I think that with.
Everything that's stainless steel that we own.
Seriously. So yeah, OK, let's do your
goals. My goals.
Yeah. OK.
So the goals that I wrote down for myself is I would love,
love, love, love to move school work to after breakfast and so
that during Brooke's nap I can be more productive.

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So yeah, I'd love to move schoolwork to after breakfast and not
during lunchtime, number one. Number two, which directly, it
completely contradicts number one, I would like to have
breakfast flexibility because Reese, the 2nd that I start to
push her and tell her to hurry up and like pressure her, she

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shuts down. She does not like that.
So having more flexibility, whatdid I do on Tuesday?
I had landscaping that Colton and I had started that I was
going to go finish up and so I brought the breakfast outside.
It was like a picnic basically. And they ate probably more than
they have ate for breakfast in two months.
Doing stuff like that and being flexible and creative, I think

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we'll go a long way. And then my last one is develop
a schedule for podcast work. So now I'm right now I'm just
doing it like I'm finding moments and doing it here and
there, you and I. Feel that way, both of us.
Because yeah, I feel the exact same way.
It would be 1. Thing if I was saying, hey, you
know, I'm going to go spend whatever 30 minutes on the
computer to Reese because I think it's good for her to see

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that I have a commitment and I'mfollowing through on that
commitment. But my problem is that a lot of
the stuff that I'm doing is on my cell phone and like the other
day she she asked me what I was doing and I said I'm getting a
little bit of work done. She goes, but you're doing it on
your phone. How do you work on your phone?
I just don't like the perceptionof it.
So I want to create a schedule so that I'm doing it like

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earlier in the mornings or like at a set time on a certain day
or like the multiple days, whatever.
That way she just knows what to expect and I'm not having to.
I just feel guilty about the phone being on the phone.
So. Those are my goals.
Love that. What are yours my?
Goals is to make my day, just like Megan's.

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Just. OK, my first goal is definitely
to wake up before a penny like that's going to be.
I did it one day this week. So I think my goal is to wake up
at 6:00. That would include me needing to
go to bed before 12:30 at night.You said you've done that once,
so. Far.

(01:15:33):
Yeah. Want to be able to wake up so

(01:16:01):
that I I can pump, clean the kitchen and get ready before she
wakes up. And then if she is a miraculous
kid and starts waking up later like 830 or 9, then I would
start editing podcasts in the morning as opposed to whenever I
have time or on the weekends. The other goal is that I would

(01:16:22):
like to find more activities to do outside of the house other
than like grocery shopping because that's what we do most
of the time. I just have to think of other
options, like we could go for walks.
I don't know why I don't. We probably go for like one walk
a week. I don't know why we don't do it
more often. I just kind of feel like it's a
lot of work for not a lot of gain.

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I've talked to you a lot about trying to do story time at the
library, but the story times arealways at 10:30 in the morning
and that's right in the middle of pennies nap time.
So we can't really do that. So yeah, I'm just trying to
figure out more things that we could do and have more of like a
schedule like you do, which I really love.
I think that would make me feel more sane.
And then I need to come up with like a meal plan prep for

(01:17:04):
Penny's meals now that I have under my belt, like a good idea
for us. I hate just giving Penny
whatever I have on hand. Those are my three goals for the
time being. Those are good.
Ones yeah, so I. Think that we could like, update
each other on the podcast every week, every couple weeks on how
we're doing with those. I like that.

(01:17:25):
Yeah, me too. I'll let you know how many days
each week I wake up at 6. I never did.
At that age, so I I'd pass no judgement.
Yeah, OK. Do we want to go through our
questions for the Mamas? Yeah, sure.
For. Yours because I'm.
Very interested to understand what it is that you wrote my.
Question is for when it comes tobrushing teeth.

(01:17:49):
When you have a child that is young that is a non spitter,
what do you so they don't? She doesn't spit out the
toothpaste, no. No, she we practice and she
makes the sound but she does notdiscard anything in her mouth
and so the she goes to the dentist.
Obviously she spends the dentistmultiple times and Dennis says

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we were supposed to do is just dip the toothbrush onto the
toothpaste and like, you know, just use little mounts or
whatever. So use that.
No, no. Well, I mean.
You said Brooke's been to the dentist multiple times.
Could you imagine? I'm just like, no, Reese is good
to go. We're got our covered.
This is Brooke. I'm sorry.
Well, like. Multiple times.

(01:18:32):
How many times has she been to the dentist they're supposed to
take? Penny to the.
Dentist. They're supposed to.
Go. I think it's six months after
they get there. No, no.
Shortly after they get their first teeth.
That's your pediatrician? Shit.
Yeah, I should probably. Go.
Also, when do you start brushingteeth?
My pediatrician said a year old.No, mine did too.
My first one did and it backfired on us with threes

(01:18:53):
right away when they get teeth. Oh Dang I got to so like just
like brush it with like a toothbrush or whatever.
At least that's what I've been told, but I've gotten different
information from different pediatricians.
Do you used to be? Creased with a baby?
That's OK. Hence my question, Molly, Sorry.
Child doesn't. Spit you do?
Yeah. I don't know.
Because yeah, we dip it on and they're still it foams.

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That's what happens with four eyed toothpaste is like it foams
UPS. My question for the moms is when
you're brushing a kids teeth, ifthey're too young or not
grasping the concept of spitting, what do you do?
Please and thank you. I'm trying.
To decorate the newly renovated parts of our house.
So I need to buy stuff right? So my question is, how do you go

(01:19:38):
buy big things with your baby? I'm trying to think of a good
example. Like wall art, right?
Like you need it typically doesn't fit in a car.
You need both hands. Like, how do you do that with a
baby? In my mind, I would just wait
for a weekend and Taylor would watch her while I go do that.
But if that's not an option, what do you do with your baby?

(01:19:59):
I don't know. We'll have to do a hashtag for
men on this because Colton will take the kids to do anything.
He goes to that with. He takes them to Home Depot, and
I'm like, I would never do that,never seriously.
So there's got to be ways to do it.
No, I don't. Yeah.
I feel like I have a lot of questions this time because also
like, at what age do you put your baby in the cart when

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they're sitting? Up for long periods of time with
them, feel comfortable, like I can look back at my phone.
It was like around the same month period for both kids.
Yeah, I've never. Put her in a actual cart because
I feel like she'll like flop. Yeah, she.
Will because they're very like they're very nice 90° angle so
and buckle. Things aren't like super tight,

(01:20:45):
so there's like she could just tip over.
All right. So anyway, I just have to put
her in her stroller anytime I goin, which leaves me very limited
space to like buy anything. Yeah.
So that's my dilemma. How do you shop for big things
when you have your baby? Everyone's going to say put her
in a baby carrier. Penny hates baby carrier.
She whines and pushes on me and like, thrashes, acts like I'm

(01:21:09):
the plague or something. OK, what are your final thoughts
for us on Episode 6? I'm going to be so.
Honest there, I liked it. I I had fun.
I feel like we go back and forthand things are good and the
second we get to any episode topic, even though this or that
one, I mean we could joke with it, our entire demeanor changes.

(01:21:30):
So I know we're doing this. I was like, you know what I need
to do after? I need to go watch, go look at
our analytics and see when I mean something.
That might be a good switch up if you do look at the analytics
and you find that this is what we think is happening, is
happening. Something that might be fine is
if both of us come with like some kind of conversation.

(01:21:50):
It doesn't have to be a topic, doesn't have to be something
that we prep for, but like conversation that we bring up.
It's just like discussion, like the first half of our episode.
Yeah, but it's not so like specific.
I'm so. Interested in that, but I hope
the analytics don't say I know anything in the contrary.
It would be really hard to plan for though, like if we didn't

(01:22:12):
have a topic it'd be a lot less prep though which would be
awesome. Yeah, but how annoying would it
be if like every time you came with something and I was like, I
don't really have anything good this week, You'd be like, carry
your weight. I don't.
Think that that would be a you thing.
What are your thoughts? I also thought today went
better. We recorded for two hours and 45

(01:22:33):
minutes, which is significantly better than previous days.
I think that we got through it pretty good and I feel like it
was nice to see how you lay out your day.
I mean, I enjoyed hearing about how you lay out your day.
But you're right, I do think that like every segment except
the topic feels natural and comfortable and the topic feels

(01:22:54):
scripted, even though it's not like we don't have a script.
We have bullet points, but still, it literally feels like
we're reading off of a piece of paper.
Yeah, we got to. Figure out how to fix that.
We're not taking recommendations.
That's a between my own and then.
Please don't provide. Feedback.
Yes. No, we don't let us do trial and
error. We do keep track of who's

(01:23:16):
watching. So when people stop watching,
we'll realize that's the wrong thing to do.
Yeah, yeah. Don't want your opinions though,
no. Yeah, the reason being is.
Because it'll influence ours andif we follow everybody else's
stuff and we're going to get to a point where we're like, we
hate everything. Exactly.
Like if we think too hard about it, I just have a feeling that
we're going to not feel like it's our idea and, you know, be

(01:23:37):
second guessing. Like, is this really what the
audience wanted? Doing it correctly?
If we're doing what we like to do, people will enjoy it.
Hopefully Megan and I. Also talked about implementing
like a monthly podcast meeting where we get together, just us 2
and talk podcast, get coffee, have a little face to face thing
and I'm very excited for that. I'm excited to like, make a

(01:24:00):
little date out of it. Me.
Too. I'm very excited about it as
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