July 29, 2019 • 31 mins
If you can be grateful for your life with you're at your lowest, imagine the happiness you'd experience when you're at your highest. There is no value to a life without struggle or hardships. Challenges are part of the path toward your goal. Find the reasons to be glad that life is difficult, and you will be beyond glad when life is easy.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Straw media. Let me tell you something you already know.
The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very
mean and nasty place, and I don't care how tough
you are. It will beat you to your knees and
keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me
or Nobody's gonna hit as hard as life. But it
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ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard
you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much
you can take and keep moving forward. That's how wein
it has done. Now, if you know what you're worth,
then go out and get what you're worth. But you
gotta be willing to take the hits and not pointing
fingers saying you ain't where you want to be because
of him or her or anybody. Cowards do that, and
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that ain't you. You're better than that.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Maybe some of you are familiar with that quote. That's
from one of my favorite movies, my all time favorite franchise,
Rocky the First Rocky is my favorite movie, actually, but
that's Rocky Balboa number six. They just keep going, you know. Now,
we got Creed one, Creed two, and they're all good.
Even I'm the one person who likes Rocky five. A
lot of people say it's bad, go back watch it again.
I promise it's not that bad. I pulled that quote
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because I've always you know, I listened to some motivational speeches,
but I love motivational speeches in movies because they're always
heightened drama. You know, they're always like more dramatic and
more impactful, especially when it's a character that you love.
But I've always, since that movie came out, really latched
onto that speech and the notion of it's not about
how hard you can hit, but about how much you
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can take and keep moving forward. Meaning resilience is truly
the most key in success to anything. No matter what
your goal is, you have to be resilient and you
have to have a thick skin. The past couple episodes
have been me sort of working my way out of
one burnout and then two thinking about failure, how you
actively become a failure. Now the big focus I think
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is how do you stay resilient in trying times wanting
to pursue any kind of career. For me, one in
the arts. For you, it might be business, it might
be science. I don't know. Whatever your goal is, the
path towards your goal is not going to be easy,
and if it is, something's wrong. I don't know. Nepotism
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isn't really a real thing. In some ways it is,
But truly, most people who have all the money flowing
and surging through the economy, the ninety nine percent, their
path toward their goal is not a simple one. It's
hard at times, it might be easy at others. It's
fortunate at times, and it's misfortunate at others. You're always
going to come up against walls and problems and situations
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and things that push you back or push back against you.
But all these things that are pushing you seemingly off
your path or back down your path, you have to
have the resilience to push back and keep moving forward.
So it's not about how hard you can do that
one thing. It's that any resistance you encounter is never
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going to be enough to deter you from achieving your goal.
Your goal has to be so specific and so meaningful
to you that yes, you will experience setbacks, but there
is literally nothing that can get in your way to
achieving the thing that you want. And so for me,
in the couple of months that I was away dealing
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with my burnout. The conversation I was having inside my
head a lot was, you know, there's self doubt, there's
all those kind of things. But I didn't want to
do anything else, right. I want to be an entertainer,
I want to be a writer, I want to be
a speaker. In this way, I want those things and
I don't want anything else. So there is some level
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of resistance despite the burnout. But the biggest thing I
kept telling myself was learn to love the struggle. A
lot of people forget that because we all assume that
in a moment on our journey, everything is supposed to
be going according to plan. And what's the phrase, you know,
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you want to make God laugh, make a plan? Something
like that. Nothing goes according to plan. Everybody knows that
as soon as you think you're going to be a
little ahead financially, you have some major car payment, or
you've got something happens, and you're always trying to catch
up to life because life moves way faster than any
of us. It's good to have a plan, but you
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have to know how to be malleable and flexible with
that plan when life inevitably fucks it up, because it's
going to happen, and I promise, and you're going to
feel like your goal is unattainable because it's difficult. But
if you learn and train your brain to say, I
love the struggle, you're going to learn how to not
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only appreciate life when it's at its highest, but you're
going to learn how to appreciate your life when it's
at its lowest. Because you could have all the money
in the world and it might not solve your problems, right,
but if you know how to be happy when you
have nothing, that's what's going to make you happy in
the long run. It doesn't mean that that your goals
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are not important. If your goal is money, go for it,
go after it. If you want to be a rich person,
God bless you, go be a rich person. Treat other
people with kindness along the way, and treat them with
kindness when you become a rich person. But I don't
care what your goal is. There's only two things that
I think that we need to worry about, which is one,
learn to love the struggle. Learn to love your life
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when you have nothing, and to be kind. If you
can do those two things, you will be successful. Because
not only will you develop resilience. You'll also remember that
all the people around you are dealing with a similar
struggle in a different capacity. And that's empathy, kindness, compassion, empathy.
That's rule number two. All three of those things kind
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of are in the same pot. Learn to love the
struggle and have passion. Wow, yeah, have passion, compassion, empathy,
and kindness. It's easy to forget about your morals and
the things, the little things in your life when you
are in a place of fortune or privilege. It's easy
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to forget. It's like even when I was in church,
people would always say, don't forget to pray to God
when times are good too. And you know, you can
practice whatever religion you want to practice. I don't really care,
but that notion God aside, whatever energy is out in
the universe. It's for yourself. Prayer is for the self.
It's not for God, you know what I mean. God
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is all knowing, whatever etherial being God is or energy
things spiritually God is. Even if you don't believe in God,
it doesn't matter psychologically. Prayer is for the self. Prayer
keeps us real zlient when times are tough, because we
want to believe that there is something else in control,
and that our suffering will be limited. So we put
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our energy out into the universe, either verbally out loud,
or internally in our heads as we pray or meditate
or whatever it is, believing that eventually the struggle will
subside and then we will be in a place of fortune.
But if you can recognize that to struggle is actually
a good thing, you are already fortunate. We could break
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it down to the most fundamental things, which is, if
you're just alive, you're in a good place. It is
a blessing to wake up every day with a new
chance to fight towards your goal. Even if you failed yesterday,
you have today to try again. And one of the
other prays one of the old sayings, if you're tired
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of starting over, stop quitting. But even if you quit
and you change your mind and you want to come back,
you have tomorrow. You're still alive if you have food
on the table and a roof over your head. We
forget all of the minor blessings in our lives because
we believe the thing that will make us happy is
the one big thing in the distance that we don't
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really know how to get to. Yet because life is hard,
and I posit this to a lot of people and
I have. I'm sure I talked about it on an
episode forever ago, but it's been like sixty something episodes ago,
So forgive me. When someone's having a hard day, we
you know, and you notice that in their body. We
usually say what's wrong, right, what's going wrong? And they'll
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tell you a list of some things or a thing,
or vent about a bunch of things, even if they
told you one hundred and two hundred one thousand things.
They have a list of things that are wrong in
their life. But it ends. That list ends. But if
you consider that, if you celebrate every tiny little blessing
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in your life, from the smallest to the biggest, the
things that are going right in your life are infinite.
So your misfortunes are finite, and your blessings, your fortunes
are infinite. And it sounds dumb, but we have to
practice this mentality every single day to learn to love
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the struggle, because then when we get to our goal
and we do become successful and we do reach what
we want, we will look back and say, I have
an appreciation for all of these things in my life.
You didn't miss the heavenly glory. As Brusley would say,
you know, it's like a finger pointing to the moon.
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Don't concentrate on the finger, otherwise you'll miss all that
heavenly glory. So if the finger pointing to the moon
is the problem, right, that's the obvious thing you stare
at that. You're like, there's this finger in the way.
You're not looking past one single thing to see the
infinite amount of beautiful things in front of you. And
it it starts very very small. Think about things that
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you like, and nothing is too small, and nothing is
too stupid. I'm gonna consider this right now. I'm gonna
give you like five seconds. Think first thing that comes
to mind, think about something that you like. I can
almost guarantee that it's not gonna sound as stupid as
this green grass. Did anybody think I like green grass?
Did that pop in anybody's head? Or was the first
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thing that came to mind something a little bigger? Your phone,
the internet, a book, a movie, an animal, a friend,
a person, strip it all the way back to the beginning.
Everything has a period of growth process. See it's become trees,
become plants, become whatever. People grow, should die, rebirth, blah
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blah blah. I don't know. It's a cycle, right, So
go all the way to the back in the beginning,
And what are you appreciative of? Do you have a
good relationship with your parents and your friends even if
you don't, what is going right in your life? Think
about it? Here we go. I'm gonn laundry list a
bunch of dumb things. I like chairs. I like coffee.
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I like green leaves on plants. I like empty wine
bottles that I can put flowers in. I like the
smell of dog treats because they remind me of my dog.
I like the Peanuts by Charles Schultz. I like candles.
Those are really nice. They set a room really well.
I like Jean jackets. I like my bike. I like
this little elephant statue I have in my house, as
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well as this little draft statue I have. It's pretty cool.
I got an old antique candy jar that I really like.
I like the lamp that I have. There's a wood
shelf that I really like. That's really nice. I like
my record player. I like drawers because they let us
hold stuff. I like closets because you could put clothes
in them. I like board games. I like blue skies,
I like clouds, I like rainy days. I like cold weather,
like hot weather. You can like everything. How often do
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you think about all the things that are going right
in your life that bring you joy? Or have you
forgotten about them because you just want one big thing
and you haven't gotten it yet and you haven't learned
to love the struggle because you don't have the right perspective.
We get so caught up thinking that the one big
thing is going to make us happy, that our lives
are a waste. You waste your life if you are
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only focused on the finger pointing to the moon. You're
only focused on the direction of the one big thing
that you want, the one goal, and you lose focus
of all the things around you that are beautiful, that
bring your life meaning and joy. And you haven't spent
the time to know what it means to love the struggle.
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That you resent the struggle, and then you won't get
to your goal because you're sad and you're pissed off,
and you don't know how to deal with problems when
they come at you. You have no toolbox or skill
set to stop and push back against life's hardships. You're unqualified,
like we talked about last show, You're unqualified. You don't
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have the skill set to do it, to effectively fight,
to effectively change and grow. But if you slow down
and you look around you, and you say, when you
wake up every day today, I'm gonna start from a
place of gratitude. A lot of people talk about this.
If you know me by now and you've listened to
enough episodes of the show, I hate most of the
motivational mumbo jumbo stuff that most people do. I'm not
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gonna really give you, like a list of homework bullshit
like fuck off, I don't care, post it notes, whatever.
If we have works for you, live your life, God bless,
like do what makes you happy and do what motivates you.
But a lot of these buzzwords are true from a
core place. You know, I'm gonna go after notions like
the grind and the side hustle to break them down
to say why in a weird way, they're a little
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toxic one misused, but also have truth and value. And
gratitude is the same thing. Because here's what happens when
people tell you that you have to have gratitude. Excuse me, gratitude,
they say, wake up every day and make a list
of all the things that make you happy. You start
to do that, and it might work for I don't know,
a week, two weeks, six weeks, I don't know, a
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couple months maybe. But then life gets harder and harder
and harder and harder, and you stop making your lists
in the morning, and you start to get resentful of
the exercise of practicing gratitude because you're like, fuck this,
life is hard, and I'm pissed off, and I'm angry.
Good good, I'm glad you're angry. Don't do the gratitude
stuff for a minute, you know you need to do
feel your feelings. Life is really hard right now, in
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this moment. Maybe you listening to this right now are
in this place where you're really, really upset, and you've
given up on all these other bullshit little exercises that
everybody's told you to do and love languages, I don't care.
Right now, what we're gonna do is we're gonna find
the blood, sweat and tears of what it means to suffer,
and we're gonna learn how to love the struggle because
that's almost in a possible thing, but it is doable.
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It is possible because life is hard. But look around you.
You don't have to convince yourself that you have to
be grateful for things you already are because they are
in your day to day without you thinking about them.
Your life is a common, plex machine of cogs that
are spinning and running and operating, and you don't really
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have to do anything, and it's helping push your life
in the direction you want to go without you even
knowing about it, and that is something to be grateful for.
You get in your car, you go to work. You
might hate your job, but you're in your car. It's working.
It's virtually a magic machine. Unless you are a mechanic.
When our cars break down, we're like, fuck, what do
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we do? I have no idea. I got to take
it in costs us a bunch of money. But when
your stuff is working right, it's like magic right. Nobody knows,
Nobody has the time or energy to invest, like how
do all these things work? Unless you're really passionate about it.
That's something to be grateful for. But I'm talking about
flipping the gratitude into understanding that when you're mad and
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you're angry. You are allowed to feel those feelings. It
is not helpful when you are pissed off and struggling
for someone to then have the advice to say, what
you need to do is the exact opposite of what
you're doing, and you need to be happy instead of
being sad. Usually what that kind of advice does is
make people more mad because they're like, fuck you, you don't
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know me. My life is hard. Sure, okay, everybody's life
is hard. It's true, some more than others. But everybody
has hardships, even people with the most fortune and the
least fortune. Everybody has highs and lows. But you can't
learn to truly love and appreciate the highest of highs
if you haven't appreciated your life. When you're at the
lowest of your lows, when you have nothing. In a
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contradictory way, you already have everything. Remember that there is
a delicate ecosystem going on around you, and an ecosystem
what will we call this the internal organs of the body.
Some scientists correct me on this, but the system of
the body that's going on unconsciously. There is oxygen in
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the air that your body is breathing without you thinking
about it. Could you imagine if you had to be
consciously thinking about how all your organs were working, you'd
have no time to do anything else. But evolution and
science and all of these things have progressed in such
a way that now all of these machine parts inside
the body are running in the back of the brain
and the subconscious. The world runs on a similar thing.
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Trees grow and die, they put oxygen into the air,
they absorb carbon dioxide. Animals become food for other animals,
vice versa. Whatever. There is an incredible sequence of things
at work that you don't have to do any work
to make them operate, and they bring your life purpose
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and meaning because they allow you to keep pushing and
living your life in a forward direction. You don't have
to get up every day and forage for food in
the woods. Maybe you do if you're listening to a
podcast and you're like a hermit. Wow, congratulations, you're the
only person. But truly, however, a lot of people don't
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have a lot of money, and they have to bust
their asses to make enough money to feed their families.
Do you have to do that? Do you not have
to do that? Where are you on that ladder? But
the important thing to remember is that no person has
an inherent value above any other person because it's all
part of the same ecosystem, it's all part of the
same cycle. No individual, You are not more important than
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your neighbor, and your neighbor is not more important than you,
which means that your goal is different but similar in
your trajectory toward it as everybody else, but it is
not more important than anybody else's goal, which is why
on the path toward your goal you have to practice compassion, empathy,
and kindness because everybody's on a different journey, but everybody's
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sort of living the same life. And because we're all
sort of living the same life, remember that when you
have nothing, you have every thing. All of the things
that are operating keeping you alive. Those are blessings. Those
are things to be grateful for. But you can only
appreciate and be grateful for things when you've spent enough
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time excuse me, going through and feeling your feelings of
being pissed off, of being angry, of being hurt. Those
are valid and you need to go through them. People
always say get over your problems, right it's not a wall.
You don't get over being upset. You fucking break through it.
You break it down, and then you keep moving forward.
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You don't climb over problems. That means the walls are
still existing in the past, and some point they're gonna
catch back up with you. You have to break them down.
And when it's hard and you have to spend all
the energy you possibly have to break down the wall.
A feeling angry and a feeling upset, and a feeling
like a failure, and a feeling like you'll never reach
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your goal or you'll never be successful, or you'll never
be where you want to be. In that moment, you
have to convince yourself that this work is worth it
and you like it. I talk about this all the time.
You have to know the difference between pain and discomfort.
Pain is something that physically halts you, and you need
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to stop and let pain heal, but you have to
push through discomfort. Discomfort is ninety nine percent of life's problems.
Pain is like one percent. Did you break your leg
and now you can't walk, Okay, that's pain. Don't try
to walk on a broken leg. That would be horrible.
You'd fall. Every blood to be bone sticking. It'd look
like a movie. Everyone would be screaming. It'd be a nightmare.
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Don't do that. What I'm talking about is when you
find a minor problem or a major problem and you go,
this is hard, I don't want to do it, and
you wait, or you quit, or you stall whatever it
is that we've been talking about these past couple episodes.
You're afraid. You're afraid because of the work it's going
to take to break through that wall. But if you do,
that's what take you towards your goal. And if you
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can consciously keep telling yourself that in your day to
day you have an infinite amount of things to be
grateful for, take all of that power and channel it
through you and break down that fucking wall because you can.
I promise you have all the power in the world,
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because if you can understand what it means to when
you have nothing have everything, you have infinite power and
control over your own life. But you're not using that power.
You're not channeling it because no one ever gave you
the permission to use it. To be angry, to go
through your emotions, be sad, cry, be depressed, do what
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you need to do. But you have to recognize when
it's time to go through it. When the sun sets,
what do we do do We just magically wish for
the day and then all of a sudden the day comes. No,
we have to go through the night. We have to
wait it out. Either be patient or keep working. But
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the night has to pass for the next day to come.
You can't hit a hurdle and be like, when is
my fortune gonna come? It's not gonna come if you're
standing there waiting. It's only gonna come if you keep
pushing and you keep working. That is the struggle, and
it is a joy to be alive and struggle, because
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if you didn't struggle, what else would you do? What
does fortune without hard work actually look like to you?
If people have it, if it does exist, I can
guarantee that those are some pretty vacant, absent, boring people,
and you do not want to be like them, because
when you get to your goal and you get to
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a place of success, now you have some fucking scars
and an awesome backstory. You're interesting because you're not normal.
You're interesting because you've suffered. You're interesting because you're broken,
not because you're perfect. You're interesting because life is difficult,
not because life is always good. Now you're interesting, Now
you matter, Now you have purpose because you learn to
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love the struggle when life got uncomfortable, when there was discomfort,
everybody else says, this is too hard. I quit, and
you said, ha, I like it. This is what I
thrive on. This is what brings me energy. And I'm
gonna tap into how I feel when I'm upset, and
I'm gonna use it to knock down the wall and
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I'm gonna get to my goal because literally nothing can
stop me from getting there. That's what I want for you.
I'm worked up in this episode. I know, remember the
last time it's I'm sweating. It's hot. It's hot in
la am boiling chicken for meal prep on the stove.
The fumes something's going on. But there's a fire here.
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Because what matters is that if you know how to
appreciate your life when you're at the lowest, the highest
is gonna be like the most over exuberant joy you've
ever felt in your life. Could you imagine people who
come into seemingly easy or effortless fortune are not happy.
People who have learned to go to therapy or process
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their emotions and feelings and give themselves space and grace
to feel their feelings when they feel them, and use
that energy to break down walls of discomfort and misfortune.
Those people, funny enough, are happier because the struggle isn't
the end. The struggle is not a wall that cannot
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be broken through. The struggle is just the challenge. Imagine
playing a game where you just went from the beginning
to the end and then you won. They would be boring.
A video game, a boor game, anything where there was
no challenges. You just started and then you ended, and
you're like, well, I got to the end. I guess
that's kind of cool. No, you gotta fight bad guys
and shit and cast spells and kick people whatever. I
don't know. I don't play a lot of video games,
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but that's what makes video games entertaining is the strategy
in the challenge. That's what makes life interesting. That's what
makes life worth living. Not that it's easy, but that
it's really fucking hard, and that's something to be grateful for.
The struggle is important. Learn to love the struggle because
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if you can't love the struggle, you're not going to
be successful. And if you find success without struggle, you
will not be able to maintain it. That's what we
talked about last episode. That's how you find failure. If
you find a shortcut and you cheat and you find fortune,
you're gonna fall from grace really hard, and it's gonna
hurt like a bitch, and then you're gonna have to remember, Oh,
that's right. I didn't really work to get here. I
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didn't go through the struggle to get to where I
wanted to be. This is a magic thing. Life is
there for you to take. Your goal is there for you.
You might get it tomorrow, you might get it a
week from now, you might get it in twenty years.
I don't know. I'm on the same path. But the
important thing to remember is that, you know when people
talk about so the motto is make America great again, right,
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we know it's hogwash, But a lot of people say
a similar thing when they think back on their life
and they think, I remember the good old days, right,
as if things were easier in the past. Two years ago,
my ex wife and I split up and we're in
the process of a divorce, and I moved and it
was the hardest summer period that I can recall in
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my entire life since my mother passed away. That was
the hardest thing I ever went through. And this summer,
from the winter to now, I was so stressed and
had so much anxiety and burnt out that right now,
two years removed from my separation and all that crazy stuff,
I look back on that summer with fondness because despite
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all the shit that was going on around it, there
was a lot of great things happening for me too.
I got closer to my friends, I got closer to
my family, I got closer to my dog. I got
a great roommate who I door a lot, and we
get along. She's a best friend. So many positives came
from a negative. But in the moment, all I saw
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I was read because I was hurt. But you know
what I didn't do. I didn't quit. I kept moving.
And now, two years later, because I learned to love
the struggle, that summer is one of the most important
moments of my life, and I look back on it
with love. I am so grateful for that darkness because
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I would not be in the light if I had
not gone through it. Remember this these right now, today,
these are the good old days. A teacher of mine
in film school told me that, and I never forgot
it because twenty five years from now, you're going to
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look back on this summer. If you're struggling, whatever you're feeling,
whatever you're going through, go through it. Remember these are
the good old days. If you can learn to love
the struggle, you're going to find happiness. But there's always
going to be new struggles and new problems. But then
you will have the skill set to break down those
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walls as they come at you, because you understand that
the very notion of doing the work to move past
an obstacle is the reward in and of itself. It
isn't always about the goal. It isn't about how hard
you hit. It's about how much you can take and
keep moving forward. That's why I chose that quote, because
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the goal isn't always the thing you want. Sometimes your
plan changes. The goal is the struggle, and if you
can break through these walls as they come at you,
you are succeeding. I said that two episodes ago. If
you're working towards your goal right now, you are already
a success. You're already doing it. If you are working,
if you're trying, if you're busting your ass, you are succeeding.
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If you're having a hard day today right now listening
to this, or a hard week, or it's been a
hard month in your life, you feel like you just
can't see the light and you can't get through the night,
I promise you will. You will, but you have to
keep moving and you have to keep fighting. Take all
of those things that life is giving to you. Feel
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your feelings authentically and truthfully. Don't hurt other people. Keep
compassion in your right hand, but feel anything you're feeling
positive or negative, and channel that and break down those walls.
Because you have to learn to love this struggle right now,
and then once you do that, you're gonna realize happiness
is already in your pocket. The amount of thing is
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going right in your life are infinite, and the amount
of things going wrong are finite. These are the good
old days. Celebrate them now while you still can. The
dream is already happening. You are a success. The struggle
is your greatest tool and is your greatest gift. Learn
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to love it and you will find happiness. I promise.
Thank you for listening to the Motivation Report. It is
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dot com. Let me know what you think. If you're happy, sad,
what you feel if you're loving the struggle, I you're
hating the struggle. There are no wrong emotions in life.
Remember that feeling how you feel in a moment. None
of it's incorrect, Some of it is necessary, some of
it might become unnecessary. But in a moment, if you
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can learn to think and process before you react, you
use those emotions to your benefit. You're going to be
a lot happier, and your friends around you are going
to be happier too, because if you don't know how
to take care of your own problems, that becomes a
problem for them. But if you learn to love the
struggle because the struggle is important to you, because you
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understand that these are the good old days and one
day you will look back on them with fondness, you're
going to be a lot happier. Thank you so much
for listening, and I'll catch you next time.
Straw media. Let me tell you something you already know.
The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very
mean and nasty place, and I don't care how tough
you are. It will beat you to your knees and
keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me
or Nobody's gonna hit as hard as life. But it
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ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard
you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much
you can take and keep moving forward. That's how wein
it has done. Now, if you know what you're worth,
then go out and get what you're worth. But you
gotta be willing to take the hits and not pointing
fingers saying you ain't where you want to be because
of him or her or anybody. Cowards do that, and
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that ain't you. You're better than that.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Maybe some of you are familiar with that quote. That's
from one of my favorite movies, my all time favorite franchise,
Rocky the First Rocky is my favorite movie, actually, but
that's Rocky Balboa number six. They just keep going, you know. Now,
we got Creed one, Creed two, and they're all good.
Even I'm the one person who likes Rocky five. A
lot of people say it's bad, go back watch it again.
I promise it's not that bad. I pulled that quote
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because I've always you know, I listened to some motivational speeches,
but I love motivational speeches in movies because they're always
heightened drama. You know, they're always like more dramatic and
more impactful, especially when it's a character that you love.
But I've always, since that movie came out, really latched
onto that speech and the notion of it's not about
how hard you can hit, but about how much you
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can take and keep moving forward. Meaning resilience is truly
the most key in success to anything. No matter what
your goal is, you have to be resilient and you
have to have a thick skin. The past couple episodes
have been me sort of working my way out of
one burnout and then two thinking about failure, how you
actively become a failure. Now the big focus I think
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is how do you stay resilient in trying times wanting
to pursue any kind of career. For me, one in
the arts. For you, it might be business, it might
be science. I don't know. Whatever your goal is, the
path towards your goal is not going to be easy,
and if it is, something's wrong. I don't know. Nepotism
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isn't really a real thing. In some ways it is,
But truly, most people who have all the money flowing
and surging through the economy, the ninety nine percent, their
path toward their goal is not a simple one. It's
hard at times, it might be easy at others. It's
fortunate at times, and it's misfortunate at others. You're always
going to come up against walls and problems and situations
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and things that push you back or push back against you.
But all these things that are pushing you seemingly off
your path or back down your path, you have to
have the resilience to push back and keep moving forward.
So it's not about how hard you can do that
one thing. It's that any resistance you encounter is never
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going to be enough to deter you from achieving your goal.
Your goal has to be so specific and so meaningful
to you that yes, you will experience setbacks, but there
is literally nothing that can get in your way to
achieving the thing that you want. And so for me,
in the couple of months that I was away dealing
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with my burnout. The conversation I was having inside my
head a lot was, you know, there's self doubt, there's
all those kind of things. But I didn't want to
do anything else, right. I want to be an entertainer,
I want to be a writer, I want to be
a speaker. In this way, I want those things and
I don't want anything else. So there is some level
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of resistance despite the burnout. But the biggest thing I
kept telling myself was learn to love the struggle. A
lot of people forget that because we all assume that
in a moment on our journey, everything is supposed to
be going according to plan. And what's the phrase, you know,
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you want to make God laugh, make a plan? Something
like that. Nothing goes according to plan. Everybody knows that
as soon as you think you're going to be a
little ahead financially, you have some major car payment, or
you've got something happens, and you're always trying to catch
up to life because life moves way faster than any
of us. It's good to have a plan, but you
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have to know how to be malleable and flexible with
that plan when life inevitably fucks it up, because it's
going to happen, and I promise, and you're going to
feel like your goal is unattainable because it's difficult. But
if you learn and train your brain to say, I
love the struggle, you're going to learn how to not
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only appreciate life when it's at its highest, but you're
going to learn how to appreciate your life when it's
at its lowest. Because you could have all the money
in the world and it might not solve your problems, right,
but if you know how to be happy when you
have nothing, that's what's going to make you happy in
the long run. It doesn't mean that that your goals
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are not important. If your goal is money, go for it,
go after it. If you want to be a rich person,
God bless you, go be a rich person. Treat other
people with kindness along the way, and treat them with
kindness when you become a rich person. But I don't
care what your goal is. There's only two things that
I think that we need to worry about, which is one,
learn to love the struggle. Learn to love your life
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when you have nothing, and to be kind. If you
can do those two things, you will be successful. Because
not only will you develop resilience. You'll also remember that
all the people around you are dealing with a similar
struggle in a different capacity. And that's empathy, kindness, compassion, empathy.
That's rule number two. All three of those things kind
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of are in the same pot. Learn to love the
struggle and have passion. Wow, yeah, have passion, compassion, empathy,
and kindness. It's easy to forget about your morals and
the things, the little things in your life when you
are in a place of fortune or privilege. It's easy
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to forget. It's like even when I was in church,
people would always say, don't forget to pray to God
when times are good too. And you know, you can
practice whatever religion you want to practice. I don't really care,
but that notion God aside, whatever energy is out in
the universe. It's for yourself. Prayer is for the self.
It's not for God, you know what I mean. God
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is all knowing, whatever etherial being God is or energy
things spiritually God is. Even if you don't believe in God,
it doesn't matter psychologically. Prayer is for the self. Prayer
keeps us real zlient when times are tough, because we
want to believe that there is something else in control,
and that our suffering will be limited. So we put
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our energy out into the universe, either verbally out loud,
or internally in our heads as we pray or meditate
or whatever it is, believing that eventually the struggle will
subside and then we will be in a place of fortune.
But if you can recognize that to struggle is actually
a good thing, you are already fortunate. We could break
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it down to the most fundamental things, which is, if
you're just alive, you're in a good place. It is
a blessing to wake up every day with a new
chance to fight towards your goal. Even if you failed yesterday,
you have today to try again. And one of the
other prays one of the old sayings, if you're tired
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of starting over, stop quitting. But even if you quit
and you change your mind and you want to come back,
you have tomorrow. You're still alive if you have food
on the table and a roof over your head. We
forget all of the minor blessings in our lives because
we believe the thing that will make us happy is
the one big thing in the distance that we don't
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really know how to get to. Yet because life is hard,
and I posit this to a lot of people and
I have. I'm sure I talked about it on an
episode forever ago, but it's been like sixty something episodes ago,
So forgive me. When someone's having a hard day, we
you know, and you notice that in their body. We
usually say what's wrong, right, what's going wrong? And they'll
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tell you a list of some things or a thing,
or vent about a bunch of things, even if they
told you one hundred and two hundred one thousand things.
They have a list of things that are wrong in
their life. But it ends. That list ends. But if
you consider that, if you celebrate every tiny little blessing
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in your life, from the smallest to the biggest, the
things that are going right in your life are infinite.
So your misfortunes are finite, and your blessings, your fortunes
are infinite. And it sounds dumb, but we have to
practice this mentality every single day to learn to love
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the struggle, because then when we get to our goal
and we do become successful and we do reach what
we want, we will look back and say, I have
an appreciation for all of these things in my life.
You didn't miss the heavenly glory. As Brusley would say,
you know, it's like a finger pointing to the moon.
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Don't concentrate on the finger, otherwise you'll miss all that
heavenly glory. So if the finger pointing to the moon
is the problem, right, that's the obvious thing you stare
at that. You're like, there's this finger in the way.
You're not looking past one single thing to see the
infinite amount of beautiful things in front of you. And
it it starts very very small. Think about things that
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you like, and nothing is too small, and nothing is
too stupid. I'm gonna consider this right now. I'm gonna
give you like five seconds. Think first thing that comes
to mind, think about something that you like. I can
almost guarantee that it's not gonna sound as stupid as
this green grass. Did anybody think I like green grass?
Did that pop in anybody's head? Or was the first
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thing that came to mind something a little bigger? Your phone,
the internet, a book, a movie, an animal, a friend,
a person, strip it all the way back to the beginning.
Everything has a period of growth process. See it's become trees,
become plants, become whatever. People grow, should die, rebirth, blah
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blah blah. I don't know. It's a cycle, right, So
go all the way to the back in the beginning,
And what are you appreciative of? Do you have a
good relationship with your parents and your friends even if
you don't, what is going right in your life? Think
about it? Here we go. I'm gonn laundry list a
bunch of dumb things. I like chairs. I like coffee.
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I like green leaves on plants. I like empty wine
bottles that I can put flowers in. I like the
smell of dog treats because they remind me of my dog.
I like the Peanuts by Charles Schultz. I like candles.
Those are really nice. They set a room really well.
I like Jean jackets. I like my bike. I like
this little elephant statue I have in my house, as
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well as this little draft statue I have. It's pretty cool.
I got an old antique candy jar that I really like.
I like the lamp that I have. There's a wood
shelf that I really like. That's really nice. I like
my record player. I like drawers because they let us
hold stuff. I like closets because you could put clothes
in them. I like board games. I like blue skies,
I like clouds, I like rainy days. I like cold weather,
like hot weather. You can like everything. How often do
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you think about all the things that are going right
in your life that bring you joy? Or have you
forgotten about them because you just want one big thing
and you haven't gotten it yet and you haven't learned
to love the struggle because you don't have the right perspective.
We get so caught up thinking that the one big
thing is going to make us happy, that our lives
are a waste. You waste your life if you are
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only focused on the finger pointing to the moon. You're
only focused on the direction of the one big thing
that you want, the one goal, and you lose focus
of all the things around you that are beautiful, that
bring your life meaning and joy. And you haven't spent
the time to know what it means to love the struggle.
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That you resent the struggle, and then you won't get
to your goal because you're sad and you're pissed off,
and you don't know how to deal with problems when
they come at you. You have no toolbox or skill
set to stop and push back against life's hardships. You're unqualified,
like we talked about last show, You're unqualified. You don't
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have the skill set to do it, to effectively fight,
to effectively change and grow. But if you slow down
and you look around you, and you say, when you
wake up every day today, I'm gonna start from a
place of gratitude. A lot of people talk about this.
If you know me by now and you've listened to
enough episodes of the show, I hate most of the
motivational mumbo jumbo stuff that most people do. I'm not
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gonna really give you, like a list of homework bullshit
like fuck off, I don't care, post it notes, whatever.
If we have works for you, live your life, God bless,
like do what makes you happy and do what motivates you.
But a lot of these buzzwords are true from a
core place. You know, I'm gonna go after notions like
the grind and the side hustle to break them down
to say why in a weird way, they're a little
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toxic one misused, but also have truth and value. And
gratitude is the same thing. Because here's what happens when
people tell you that you have to have gratitude. Excuse me, gratitude,
they say, wake up every day and make a list
of all the things that make you happy. You start
to do that, and it might work for I don't know,
a week, two weeks, six weeks, I don't know, a
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couple months maybe. But then life gets harder and harder
and harder and harder, and you stop making your lists
in the morning, and you start to get resentful of
the exercise of practicing gratitude because you're like, fuck this,
life is hard, and I'm pissed off, and I'm angry.
Good good, I'm glad you're angry. Don't do the gratitude
stuff for a minute, you know you need to do
feel your feelings. Life is really hard right now, in
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this moment. Maybe you listening to this right now are
in this place where you're really, really upset, and you've
given up on all these other bullshit little exercises that
everybody's told you to do and love languages, I don't care.
Right now, what we're gonna do is we're gonna find
the blood, sweat and tears of what it means to suffer,
and we're gonna learn how to love the struggle because
that's almost in a possible thing, but it is doable.
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It is possible because life is hard. But look around you.
You don't have to convince yourself that you have to
be grateful for things you already are because they are
in your day to day without you thinking about them.
Your life is a common, plex machine of cogs that
are spinning and running and operating, and you don't really
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have to do anything, and it's helping push your life
in the direction you want to go without you even
knowing about it, and that is something to be grateful for.
You get in your car, you go to work. You
might hate your job, but you're in your car. It's working.
It's virtually a magic machine. Unless you are a mechanic.
When our cars break down, we're like, fuck, what do
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we do? I have no idea. I got to take
it in costs us a bunch of money. But when
your stuff is working right, it's like magic right. Nobody knows,
Nobody has the time or energy to invest, like how
do all these things work? Unless you're really passionate about it.
That's something to be grateful for. But I'm talking about
flipping the gratitude into understanding that when you're mad and
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you're angry. You are allowed to feel those feelings. It
is not helpful when you are pissed off and struggling
for someone to then have the advice to say, what
you need to do is the exact opposite of what
you're doing, and you need to be happy instead of
being sad. Usually what that kind of advice does is
make people more mad because they're like, fuck you, you don't
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know me. My life is hard. Sure, okay, everybody's life
is hard. It's true, some more than others. But everybody
has hardships, even people with the most fortune and the
least fortune. Everybody has highs and lows. But you can't
learn to truly love and appreciate the highest of highs
if you haven't appreciated your life. When you're at the
lowest of your lows, when you have nothing. In a
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contradictory way, you already have everything. Remember that there is
a delicate ecosystem going on around you, and an ecosystem
what will we call this the internal organs of the body.
Some scientists correct me on this, but the system of
the body that's going on unconsciously. There is oxygen in
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the air that your body is breathing without you thinking
about it. Could you imagine if you had to be
consciously thinking about how all your organs were working, you'd
have no time to do anything else. But evolution and
science and all of these things have progressed in such
a way that now all of these machine parts inside
the body are running in the back of the brain
and the subconscious. The world runs on a similar thing.
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Trees grow and die, they put oxygen into the air,
they absorb carbon dioxide. Animals become food for other animals,
vice versa. Whatever. There is an incredible sequence of things
at work that you don't have to do any work
to make them operate, and they bring your life purpose
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and meaning because they allow you to keep pushing and
living your life in a forward direction. You don't have
to get up every day and forage for food in
the woods. Maybe you do if you're listening to a
podcast and you're like a hermit. Wow, congratulations, you're the
only person. But truly, however, a lot of people don't
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have a lot of money, and they have to bust
their asses to make enough money to feed their families.
Do you have to do that? Do you not have
to do that? Where are you on that ladder? But
the important thing to remember is that no person has
an inherent value above any other person because it's all
part of the same ecosystem, it's all part of the
same cycle. No individual, You are not more important than
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your neighbor, and your neighbor is not more important than you,
which means that your goal is different but similar in
your trajectory toward it as everybody else, but it is
not more important than anybody else's goal, which is why
on the path toward your goal you have to practice compassion, empathy,
and kindness because everybody's on a different journey, but everybody's
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sort of living the same life. And because we're all
sort of living the same life, remember that when you
have nothing, you have every thing. All of the things
that are operating keeping you alive. Those are blessings. Those
are things to be grateful for. But you can only
appreciate and be grateful for things when you've spent enough
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time excuse me, going through and feeling your feelings of
being pissed off, of being angry, of being hurt. Those
are valid and you need to go through them. People
always say get over your problems, right it's not a wall.
You don't get over being upset. You fucking break through it.
You break it down, and then you keep moving forward.
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You don't climb over problems. That means the walls are
still existing in the past, and some point they're gonna
catch back up with you. You have to break them down.
And when it's hard and you have to spend all
the energy you possibly have to break down the wall.
A feeling angry and a feeling upset, and a feeling
like a failure, and a feeling like you'll never reach
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your goal or you'll never be successful, or you'll never
be where you want to be. In that moment, you
have to convince yourself that this work is worth it
and you like it. I talk about this all the time.
You have to know the difference between pain and discomfort.
Pain is something that physically halts you, and you need
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to stop and let pain heal, but you have to
push through discomfort. Discomfort is ninety nine percent of life's problems.
Pain is like one percent. Did you break your leg
and now you can't walk, Okay, that's pain. Don't try
to walk on a broken leg. That would be horrible.
You'd fall. Every blood to be bone sticking. It'd look
like a movie. Everyone would be screaming. It'd be a nightmare.
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Don't do that. What I'm talking about is when you
find a minor problem or a major problem and you go,
this is hard, I don't want to do it, and
you wait, or you quit, or you stall whatever it
is that we've been talking about these past couple episodes.
You're afraid. You're afraid because of the work it's going
to take to break through that wall. But if you do,
that's what take you towards your goal. And if you
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can consciously keep telling yourself that in your day to
day you have an infinite amount of things to be
grateful for, take all of that power and channel it
through you and break down that fucking wall because you can.
I promise you have all the power in the world,
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because if you can understand what it means to when
you have nothing have everything, you have infinite power and
control over your own life. But you're not using that power.
You're not channeling it because no one ever gave you
the permission to use it. To be angry, to go
through your emotions, be sad, cry, be depressed, do what
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you need to do. But you have to recognize when
it's time to go through it. When the sun sets,
what do we do do We just magically wish for
the day and then all of a sudden the day comes. No,
we have to go through the night. We have to
wait it out. Either be patient or keep working. But
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the night has to pass for the next day to come.
You can't hit a hurdle and be like, when is
my fortune gonna come? It's not gonna come if you're
standing there waiting. It's only gonna come if you keep
pushing and you keep working. That is the struggle, and
it is a joy to be alive and struggle, because
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if you didn't struggle, what else would you do? What
does fortune without hard work actually look like to you?
If people have it, if it does exist, I can
guarantee that those are some pretty vacant, absent, boring people,
and you do not want to be like them, because
when you get to your goal and you get to
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a place of success, now you have some fucking scars
and an awesome backstory. You're interesting because you're not normal.
You're interesting because you've suffered. You're interesting because you're broken,
not because you're perfect. You're interesting because life is difficult,
not because life is always good. Now you're interesting, Now
you matter, Now you have purpose because you learn to
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love the struggle when life got uncomfortable, when there was discomfort,
everybody else says, this is too hard. I quit, and
you said, ha, I like it. This is what I
thrive on. This is what brings me energy. And I'm
gonna tap into how I feel when I'm upset, and
I'm gonna use it to knock down the wall and
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I'm gonna get to my goal because literally nothing can
stop me from getting there. That's what I want for you.
I'm worked up in this episode. I know, remember the
last time it's I'm sweating. It's hot. It's hot in
la am boiling chicken for meal prep on the stove.
The fumes something's going on. But there's a fire here.
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Because what matters is that if you know how to
appreciate your life when you're at the lowest, the highest
is gonna be like the most over exuberant joy you've
ever felt in your life. Could you imagine people who
come into seemingly easy or effortless fortune are not happy.
People who have learned to go to therapy or process
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their emotions and feelings and give themselves space and grace
to feel their feelings when they feel them, and use
that energy to break down walls of discomfort and misfortune.
Those people, funny enough, are happier because the struggle isn't
the end. The struggle is not a wall that cannot
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be broken through. The struggle is just the challenge. Imagine
playing a game where you just went from the beginning
to the end and then you won. They would be boring.
A video game, a boor game, anything where there was
no challenges. You just started and then you ended, and
you're like, well, I got to the end. I guess
that's kind of cool. No, you gotta fight bad guys
and shit and cast spells and kick people whatever. I
don't know. I don't play a lot of video games,
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but that's what makes video games entertaining is the strategy
in the challenge. That's what makes life interesting. That's what
makes life worth living. Not that it's easy, but that
it's really fucking hard, and that's something to be grateful for.
The struggle is important. Learn to love the struggle because
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if you can't love the struggle, you're not going to
be successful. And if you find success without struggle, you
will not be able to maintain it. That's what we
talked about last episode. That's how you find failure. If
you find a shortcut and you cheat and you find fortune,
you're gonna fall from grace really hard, and it's gonna
hurt like a bitch, and then you're gonna have to remember, Oh,
that's right. I didn't really work to get here. I
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didn't go through the struggle to get to where I
wanted to be. This is a magic thing. Life is
there for you to take. Your goal is there for you.
You might get it tomorrow, you might get it a
week from now, you might get it in twenty years.
I don't know. I'm on the same path. But the
important thing to remember is that, you know when people
talk about so the motto is make America great again, right,
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we know it's hogwash, But a lot of people say
a similar thing when they think back on their life
and they think, I remember the good old days, right,
as if things were easier in the past. Two years ago,
my ex wife and I split up and we're in
the process of a divorce, and I moved and it
was the hardest summer period that I can recall in
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my entire life since my mother passed away. That was
the hardest thing I ever went through. And this summer,
from the winter to now, I was so stressed and
had so much anxiety and burnt out that right now,
two years removed from my separation and all that crazy stuff,
I look back on that summer with fondness because despite
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all the shit that was going on around it, there
was a lot of great things happening for me too.
I got closer to my friends, I got closer to
my family, I got closer to my dog. I got
a great roommate who I door a lot, and we
get along. She's a best friend. So many positives came
from a negative. But in the moment, all I saw
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I was read because I was hurt. But you know
what I didn't do. I didn't quit. I kept moving.
And now, two years later, because I learned to love
the struggle, that summer is one of the most important
moments of my life, and I look back on it
with love. I am so grateful for that darkness because
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I would not be in the light if I had
not gone through it. Remember this these right now, today,
these are the good old days. A teacher of mine
in film school told me that, and I never forgot
it because twenty five years from now, you're going to
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look back on this summer. If you're struggling, whatever you're feeling,
whatever you're going through, go through it. Remember these are
the good old days. If you can learn to love
the struggle, you're going to find happiness. But there's always
going to be new struggles and new problems. But then
you will have the skill set to break down those
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walls as they come at you, because you understand that
the very notion of doing the work to move past
an obstacle is the reward in and of itself. It
isn't always about the goal. It isn't about how hard
you hit. It's about how much you can take and
keep moving forward. That's why I chose that quote, because
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the goal isn't always the thing you want. Sometimes your
plan changes. The goal is the struggle, and if you
can break through these walls as they come at you,
you are succeeding. I said that two episodes ago. If
you're working towards your goal right now, you are already
a success. You're already doing it. If you are working,
if you're trying, if you're busting your ass, you are succeeding.
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If you're having a hard day today right now listening
to this, or a hard week, or it's been a
hard month in your life, you feel like you just
can't see the light and you can't get through the night,
I promise you will. You will, but you have to
keep moving and you have to keep fighting. Take all
of those things that life is giving to you. Feel
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your feelings authentically and truthfully. Don't hurt other people. Keep
compassion in your right hand, but feel anything you're feeling
positive or negative, and channel that and break down those walls.
Because you have to learn to love this struggle right now,
and then once you do that, you're gonna realize happiness
is already in your pocket. The amount of thing is
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going right in your life are infinite, and the amount
of things going wrong are finite. These are the good
old days. Celebrate them now while you still can. The
dream is already happening. You are a success. The struggle
is your greatest tool and is your greatest gift. Learn
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to love it and you will find happiness. I promise.
Thank you for listening to the Motivation Report. It is
brought to you by straw Hut Media. If you want
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straw hutmedia dot com. A whole lot of other great shows.
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You can find them on social at straw hut Media.
I am on social at will Sterling Underscore. I don't
really use socials for the show anymore, so if you
guys are finding those, I probably will deactivate them just
because the quotes everything it comes from me, So find
me on social follow me. That's where it's all gonna
come from. The email address is still working, though, so
if you have anything you want to say, you know
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you can DM me. I do check my dms from
time to time, but also the Motivation Report at gmail
dot com. Let me know what you think. If you're happy, sad,
what you feel if you're loving the struggle, I you're
hating the struggle. There are no wrong emotions in life.
Remember that feeling how you feel in a moment. None
of it's incorrect, Some of it is necessary, some of
it might become unnecessary. But in a moment, if you
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can learn to think and process before you react, you
use those emotions to your benefit. You're going to be
a lot happier, and your friends around you are going
to be happier too, because if you don't know how
to take care of your own problems, that becomes a
problem for them. But if you learn to love the
struggle because the struggle is important to you, because you
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understand that these are the good old days and one
day you will look back on them with fondness, you're
going to be a lot happier. Thank you so much
for listening, and I'll catch you next time.
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