March 23, 2025 • 32 mins
Rent must be due!!!! In today's episode, let's talk about my experience receiving an AI-generated cease and desist letter from a content creator desperate for attention and relevancy.
The fake legal document (complete with misspellings and an AI-detection score of 94%) represents something troubling about today's social media landscape: the lengths some people will go to for attention. Whether seeking male validation or internet relevancy, this manufactured drama reveals how content creation can become unhealthy when people value any attention over personal growth.
Although it's a hard concept for some to grasp, words mean things, and there is an important distinction between accountability and harassment. Having a platform means accepting responsibility for your words and actions—and criticism isn't harassment, it's an opportunity to learn and grow. When someone responds to accountability by playing victim months later, that tells me everything I need to know.
Friendly reminder: it's always a good idea to be fucking for real and touch grass. Because at the end of the day, none of this online drama is ever truly that serious.
Alexa, play "Sue Me' by Sabrina Carpenter!!!
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Daijné (00:00):
Is this thing on?
Hello, hello.
Uh-oh, another yapper with amic.
Hello everyone, and welcomeback to the Napkin Inbetween
podcast.
I'm your host, Daijné Jones.
I hope everyone has been havinga good week, except for that
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orange drink lady.
Of course.
I have been having a very goodweek because I have been
sleeping like a baby at nightrecently.
You know how, sometimes, whenyou go to sleep and then you
wake up and you don't know whatday it is, what time it is,
where you're at, who yourparents are.
That's how I have been sleepingrecently and it's because I got
a new bed.
This is the peak of my week, bythe way, because sleep and me
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are like this okay, for theaudio listeners, you can't see,
but my fingers are crossed, wego together.
Real fucking bad.
One thing about me I'm going tosleep.
I love to take a nap.
A nap hates to see me coming,but whenever I'm upset, I take a
nap.
Whenever I am sad, I take a nap.
Whenever I don't feel well, Itake a nap.
I'm not depressed, by the way.
This does sound quitedepressing and like I sleep all
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the time.
But I'm not depressed, I justlove to sleep.
It's like one of my favoriteextracurricular activities top
three and it aint two or three.
But I recently had to get a newbed and when I tell you this is
the most comfortable bed I haveever slept on, like, I feel
like I am sleeping on theperfect pillow.
It's's not too hard, it's nottoo soft, it is the perfect bed.
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But I'm not going to hold youthe chain of events which led to
me having to get a new bedstressful, chaotic, zero out of
ten.
Not a good time.
My poor baby dog is sick.
So I've had my dog, Luna, sinceshe was six months old.
Some of y'all know a little bitof the backstory.
It was the height of COVID andthere was this man walking
around my neighborhood, knockingon every door, telling everyone
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that he had this dog.
If nobody took her, he wasgoing to take her to a shelter.
And I was like, okay, Savannah,slow down.
Like tell me more about the dog, how old is she?
You know, what does she looklike?
Whatever, whatever.
And so he tells me about Luna.
She's six months old.
He shows me a picture and I wasjust like that baby is not
going to a shelter if I haveanything to do with it, like
give her to me.
I need her.
And so he was just like, okay,give me a hundred dollars and
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I'll give you you know, the dog.
She has a crate, she has food.
Like he gave me everything thatshe needed and so I got Luna.
I was actually in a relationshipwith my ex at the time, but
Luna has always really been mydog.
Like she gravitated towards me.
I trained her, being as a withthe height of COVID.
I was working from home, so Iwas always with her, and so when
my ex and I split up, there wasno question like I was keeping
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Luna and like he didn't fight mefor it, as he shouldn't,
because she was my dog.
Also, he cheated on me a monthafter proposing to me, so like
the least you could do is let mekeep my fucking dog.
But Luna has always been been avery healthy dog.
She doesn't get sick very often.
If she does, it's maybe likeonce a year.
I make sure her shots arealways updated.
She gets her exercise Like sheis in great shape.
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She's five years old but shehas the energy of a puppy.
And so a couple of weeks ago Inoticed that there was a bubble
on her ear.
And one thing about me.
One thing about me if I noticeanything wrong about my dog,
we're going straight to the vet,like I don't waste no time
because I do not play about mybaby.
That is my daughter, and so Icalled her vet and I explained
to them like she has this bubbleon her ear.
I'm not sure what it is, I'venever seen it before.
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And thankfully they had justhad a triple cancellation.
So they were like, if you canget her to the vet right now,
like we can see her, so Iimmediately take her to the.
Thankfully it's like one blockaway from me, so not too far.
And they're doing a checkup.
Everything looks good.
They look into her ears andthey see that she has a double
ear infection.
Mind you, like I said, Luna isa very healthy dog.
She's never had an earinfection in her entire life and
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the first time she gets an earinfection she has it in both
ears.
Go big or go home, I guess.
So they put her on a steroidand an antibiotic to help with
the ear infection and becauseshe's on the steroid, it makes
her thirsty, which makes her peemore.
And so me and one of my friends, cole y'all probably know Cole.
He's on TikTok.
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He does a lot of politicalcontent.
We were on live one night andLuna does not like men.
I don't know what happened toher in her first six months of
life, but whenever I find theman who hurt her, trust you will
be dealt with.
Anytime she sees a man or shehears a man's voice, she starts
to growl, she starts to bark.
Mind you, Luna is not a growleror a barker.
I have these neighbors who livethe building over from me.
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It's these two men who livetogether and we don't live in
the same building but we can see, see into their apartment and
anytime they're in the kitchenand Luna can see them, she
growls at them, she barks atthem.
Like my girl does not like menand honestly she's so fucking
real for that because I don'tlike men either.
So I feel her for that.
But me and my friend call heron live and so she can hear
Cole's voice and so she startslike shaking.
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She gets really, really anxiousand I'm trying to calm her down
and like petting her, tellingher it's okay, like he's on the
phone, like nothing's going tohappen.
He's not even in the room withus, but she's so anxious and,
again, mind you, she's on thissteroid that makes her pee more,
because she's drinking more andbecause she got so anxious, she
peed on my bed.
Now I'm not going to hold you.
When she did it I was mad asfuck Because I'm like girl, you
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are potty trained, you know notto pee in the house, like what
the fuck is going on.
But then I had to remember,like you know, she's on this
steroid.
It's not her fault.
So I was mad at her at first,but then she gave me the puppy
eyes and then I remember, youknow, like she doesn't like men,
she's on this steroid.
With all of this combined, likeI was like okay Im not made at
you anymore.
So I immediately strip my bed,I washed all the sheets and I'm
trying to clean the bed.
I scrubbed this bed for like anhour and a half with Clorox,
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with Lysol, with anything that Icould find, and I swear I could
still smell pee.
So I was like you know what?
Fuck it, I'm just going to geta new bed.
Wasn't very happy that I had toget a new bed but nonetheless
we got a new bed and it ended upworking out, because this bed
is so much comfortable than mylast bed, like, maybe Luna knew
what she was doing.
She ate that one little thing.
Thankfully we were able to turnlemons into something
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resembling lemonade, if you know, you know.
But y'all please pray for mybaby.
She is doing a lot better now.
Um, I think that it just tookher body a little bit to adjust
to the steroid.
She's still peeing a lot more,so I'm taking her out more
obviously, but I think that herears are starting to feel better
.
When she first got theirinfection, one of her favorite
things is for me to scratchbehind her ears, and so I would.
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I would try to do that, and shewould like yelp or cry because
her ears were hurting her.
And I don't even know how longher ears were hurting her for,
because she can't tell me.
I hate that about dogs, like Iwish that they could just talk
and tell us what was going on.
You know what I mean, like.
But thankfully the vet said itwas a minor double ear infection
and so it should be able toheal with the steroid and the
antibiotic.
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But y'all keep my baby lifted,because mama's girl is not
feeling good and it makes me so,so sad, as always.
I would love to hear the peak ofyour week, so please leave it
in the comments.
Something that made you smile,kept you grounded, just
something that made you happy inthe chaos that is the world
speaking of sleeping well atnight, segwaying into what we're
gonna talk about today.
As y'all know, I am on mycontent creation journey.
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I would love to make contentcreation my full-time job, make
it the thing that I can dopermanently, and there have been
a few things on this contentcreation journey that have made
me be like do I call LA or dothey call me?
You know what I mean.
For example, monetizing onTikTok, monetizing my podcast,
hitting a thousand subscriberson my podcast.
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Thank you so much for that.
By the way, that happened lastweek.
That was crazy.
I also hit 300k on TikTok lastweek, which was crazy.
I feel like anytime I hit like100k you know what I mean Like
100k, 200k, 300k, like those arejust crazy milestones for me.
Thank you so much for all ofthat.
I appreciate all of you beinghere.
Sometimes I don't understandwhy all of you are here, like
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what's happening, butnonetheless, I appreciate every
single one of you.
But I feel like I've hitanother milestone on this
content creation journey and itis someone trying to manufacture
beef with me, and I don't evenreally want to call it beef,
it's more like tofu orMorningstar.
You know what I mean, becausethis shit is so fucking fake.
But I received a cease anddesist.
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Sorry, I cannot take this shitseriously, bro.
I received a cease and desistfrom someone that I had not
spoken about in two months.
She came to my page two monthsafter I had mentioned her to
comment on the video that I hadmade about a situation which
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included her, and send me acease and desist.
Let's do a story time because,girl, I like people are just
very interesting, very, veryinteresting.
So back in January there wasthis woman.
Her name is Olivia Davis andshe has a podcast with two of
her friends whose names I don'teven know, but in this podcast
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she was talking about her ex,Torrey Craig, who is dating
Megan Thee Stallion.
So she's bringing up this topicand she's like, should we talk
about how my ex is dating?
And then she struggles to sayMegan Thee Stallion.
Actually, she doesn't struggleto say Megan Thee Stallion, she
struggles to say Megan, period,just the name Megan.
And so back in January,me, as well as hundreds of other
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people, made videos about thesituation, just talking about,
like, the weirdness of it andhow strange it was that the only
thing that she seemed tostruggle with was saying Megan
and for the record, I stand byeverything that I have said
throughout this whole situationbecause it is weird, like
struggling to say Megan a verycommon name, the name of several
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people that she follows, sopresumably she's friends with
like it's weird that you'restruggling to say Megan and it
looks forced, like it looks likeyou're pretending not to know
how to say Megan and, mind you,if you go back and look at the
clip, she says Megan's namewrong, then she says it right,
her friends tell her how to sayit and then she proceeds to say
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it wrong again.
Like please be so fucking forreal.
But I made a video, again, mindyou, in January talking about
how weird it was that she waspretending not to know how to
say Megan's name and it gaveforce and it gave jealousy,
which is quite embarrassingbecause again, we're talking
about how she's dating your ex.
So you're doing this all over aman.
(10:09):
Definitely a choice, that's allI'm gonna say.
That's a choice because, mindyou, folks had found receipts of
her listening to Megan's music,posting to Megan's music,
singing along to Megan's music,like number one again, Megan is
a very common name, but numbertwo it's giving fan.
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Like you know who Megan TheeStallion is, you know how to say
her name.
It's very, very odd that you'repretending not to.
So I made my videos back inJanuary, whatever Two months
almost to the day later, becauseI made my video January 9th.
She comments on March 8th andI'm going to read you her
comment, because I screenshot it, of course.
So she comments and says Ihighly suggest you think twice
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before you post misleading infobased off your biased
perspective without showing thefull episode, and you blatantly
being xenophobic and racisttowards a white immigrant.
Can we be serious?
Like?
Can we be serious?
First of all, before thisentire situation and even still
today, I don't know who thiswoman is.
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So I did not know that shewasn't born in America because,
mind you, after hearing her talk, seeing just a few clips that
I've seen, there's no accentdetected.
She sounds like an Americanwoman, so I had no idea that she
was even not from America.
But to say that someone is beingxenophobic and racist towards
you because they're calling outthe way that you've pretended to
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not know how to say Megan,because it's very clear on
camera that you've pretended notto know how to say Megan, is
fucking crazy.
Furthermore, to say thatsomeone is spreading
misinformation again when youractions are on camera is fucking
crazy.
Like can we be serious?
So I responded back to hercomment and I said, girl, wasn't
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nobody racist or xenophobictowards you.
You and your friends are lamefor being microaggressive
towards Megan over a man.
And here you are months laterand still haven't learned.
Do better.
And I stand by that because notonly were her actions weird and
gave jealousy, but they werealso extremely microaggressive,
like as a black woman.
I have experienced the namemicroaggression my entire life.
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I have had teachers, I have hadprofessors, I have had
colleagues, I have had peersmispronounce my name over and
over and over.
And the reason that'smicroaggressive, in case people
don't know, it shows a lack ofeffort and respect to validate
someone's identity.
And like being as though myname is Daijné okay, I get it
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Like.
Sometimes that can be a toughword for Elmo.
The name that we're talkingabout is Megan Megan.
I've never heard another way topronounce Megan other than
Megan.
And then she goes on to say inthe clip like I'm just gonna
call her Megan.
Like yeah, that's her name,what else would you call her?
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Like, can we be serious?
Like she said it, as if it wasdoing Megan a favor for calling
her Megan, like girl, that's hername.
Like what else would you callher?
And like the thing aboutmicroaggressions is I mean, it's
kind of in the namemicroaggression.
You don't even really realizethat you're doing it or it's so
embedded into society, as racismis embedded in society,
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especially in America, becauseAmerica was built on racism.
And when someone points outyour microaggressiveness and
your response is to be defensiveor hostile, what you're showing
is that you don't even reallycare to learn.
And if you don't care to learnabout the micro aggressions and
how you can affect someone withracism on a more personal level,
then you damn sure don't careon a macro level or care about
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understanding how racism cantruly affect people's lives.
And then, mind you the factthat she is coming back two
months later.
You could have taken that timeto truly learn and to truly
understand why people weresaying that what you were doing
was microaggressive.
But instead of doing that, youuse those two months to come
back and make yourself thevictim, which you said you
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weren't going to do, but we'llget to that in a second.
So now she's going back andforth with me in my comment
section just telling me that I'mbeing racist and xenophobic
towards her.
I'm telling her ma'am, I haveno idea who you are Like, this
is a Wendy's.
What are you talking about?
Telling me that I'm spreadingmisinformation.
Mind you, all of this is oncamera.
But okay, girl, go off.
I ended up making a secondvideo of just talking about how
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she had come back two monthslater in my comment section to
accuse me of being racist anddiscriminatory and harassing her
.
Mind you, if you're going toclaim harassment, you can't
interact with the person thatyou're claiming is harassing you
.
That's number one.
Number two I made that video inJanuary and I left it in
January.
I actually left it that daylike I never spoke about it
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again.
So how the fuck am I harassingyou?
Please be fucking serious.
But I make another video and I'mtalking about like how she's in
my comment section, you know,trying to victimize herself and
and say that she had a languagebarrier, which, mind you, she
did an interview where she talksabout how, yes, she was not
born in America, but she speaksproper English and she wasn't
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going to use the fact that shewasn't born in America as a way
to victimize herself or make anexcuse for mispronouncing Megan
Like girl.
Did you forget that you saidthis shit on fucking camera,
because that is exactly whatyou're doing.
She also accused me ofdisregarding the fact that she
is an immigrant and I'm likegirl.
You disregarded that fact.
You were literally on camerasaying, yes, I was not born here
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, but I'm not going to use it asan excuse or use that as a way
to victimize myself.
And then you turned around twocalendar months later and did
that very same thing, like, canwe please be serious girl?
Can we please be fucking forreal?
But I make a video justpointing out literally her own
inconsistencies.
I showed where she said Megan'sname wrong, said it right, then
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continued to say it wrong.
After her friends had correctedher, I showed her interview
where she said that, yes, shewasn't born in America, but that
wasn't an excuse and she wasn'tgonna use it as an excuse.
Just showing that, like, aftertwo months, you've learned
nothing.
You know what I mean.
Like after two months, you cameinto my comment section just
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showing that you learned nothing.
And it's like for what?
This shit was two months oldand she's claiming oh, I'm still
being harassed, not by me,because I stopped talking about
it the very day that I made thatvideo.
I never spoke on it again untilshe came back into my comment
section and brought that shitback up.
Like, please be serious.
So anyway, I make my video andagain disregard the situation
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because it doesn't matter to me.
Like, respectfully, you don'tmatter to me, I don't, I don't
care where you're from, I don'tcare what you have going on.
Like I said what I said and Imeant what the fuck I said when
I said it.
And if you're upset about that,okay, like, what would you like
me to do with this information,truly.
So then I make that video.
On Saturday, March 8th okay,Monday March 10th I wake up to
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an email from her with a ceaseand desist.
Now, mind you, the email isfrom her.
It's it's clear as day thatit's from her.
But she's trying to pose assomeone in the legal field, like
the email that she sent it tome from.
It says legal at and thenthere's like an abbreviation for
her management.
Mind you, her management nameis Olivia Davis Management
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sweetheart.
I'm gonna hold your hand with anapkin in between when I say
this you are your own manager,which is fine.
There's nothing wrong with that.
I too am my own manager rightnow, so I totally get that.
But she's trying to make methink from this email that it's
from this legal portion of herteam and it's not just from her
directly, which isn't evennecessary because a cease and
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desist is not a legal document.
Like, if I wanted to send acease and desist to someone, I
could do that as myself.
You don't have to pose assomeone in the legal field to
send a cease and desist.
It's not necessary, it's not alegal document.
And so to me it gave scaretactic, like it gave.
She wanted me to think that shehad this whole legal team and
they were reaching out to me andthere was like a lawyer or
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someone in the legal field withthis cease and desist and again,
if she wanted to send me acease and desist, all she had to
do was send me a cease anddesist.
Like it didn't have to becrafted in a way that it makes
it look like it's from a legalteam when it's obvious that it's
not.
And it was obvious to me thatit wasn't from a legal team.
Because, number one, she addedthis address and like she made
it like this big header with anaddress and she spelled suite in
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the address wrong, like it wasfrom this address in in LA and
it had like the street address,whatever, and it has a suite
number and she spelled suitelike suit, like she spelled
s-u-i-t, not s-u-i-t-e.
That was my first dead giveaway.
Second giveaway I copy andpasted the entire cease and
desist letter into an aigenerator detector and it came
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back that 94% of the documentwas AI generated.
I'm like, did you even try, girl?
Like, did you even try to makethis look real?
Like, please be serious.
But she sends me this cease anddesist, says that I'm harassing
her, says that I'm beingdiscriminatory, says that I'm
being racist, says that I'mbeing xenophobic, says that I'm
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spreading misinformation,basically saying that I need to
take down all my old videos andnot make any other videos.
And, mind you, I had no plansof making any more videos about
this girl because I did not givea fuck.
Like, I still don't give a fuck.
You know what I mean.
Like you're just veryirrelevant to me and it's to me
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it's giving.
Like you're trying to stayrelevant and so you're trying to
manufacture beef with whoeveryou can.
And it's like, girl, there'sreal problems going on in the
world.
Like Trump is the president,he's trying to lead us into
fucking World War III, likethere is so much going on.
I could not give a fuck lessabout what you're saying to me
right now.
But she sends me the cease anddesist from her legal team, okay
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, and then she DMs me onInstagram, on TikTok.
And then she goes into thecomment section of the video
that I had made about her onMarch 8th to tell me hey, my
team sent you this cease anddesist.
Mind you, her team is just her,which, again, there's nothing
wrong with that.
But the fact that you're tryingto pose as your team and also
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yourself is fucking crazy andyou're not doing a good job at
it.
Like, sorry, bookie, you're notgetting the Oscar for this
performance.
Because here's the thing if sheactually had a legal team and
this cease and desist was comingfrom someone in the legal field
, they would have told her tostop direct communication with
me.
They would have told her to leteverything go through them.
And so the fact that she isstill in communication with me,
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even after she emailed me thiscease and desist from her team,
like giveaway number three thatit was just her.
Like, can we be serious?
So I don't respond to any ofthese dms or these comments
because at this point I'm justlike I'm just gonna let you talk
to yourself in my dms and in mycomments, because I don't give
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a fuck.
Like this is so unimportant tome and so irrelevant to me, like
if you want to talk to yourselfin my dms and shit, okay, have
at it.
Zero out of ten use of free willin my opinion, but it's your
free will to use or to waste notmine, but for her comments that
she had left on my video.
Other people in the commentsection had seen them and so now
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they're responding to hercomments and basically telling
her like you know, you don'treally have a case telling her
it's on camera like we all sawher being microaggressive, we
all saw her pretending to sayMegan's name.
Like basically telling her,like she looks ridiculous,
because she does, honestly, inmy opinion, and she is in my
comment section fighting for herlife, going back and forth
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arguing with other commenters inmy comment section, and my
thing is like you don't have acase and I'm fully aware that
you don't have a case, but ifyou did, all you're doing right
now is weakening your own casebecause in order to claim
harassment, you can't beinteracting with the people that
you're claiming are harassingyou.
Like that's not how harassmentworks.
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Harassment is one-sided.
You know what I mean?
Harassment is unwantedcommunication and by you
responding back, you're notreally showing that this
communication is unwanted.
And that's why I say like Ijust genuinely feel like this is
her begging for attention andrelevancy, because if you really
wanted the situation to go away, you wouldn't, number one, have
re-brought it up two monthslater after no one was still
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talking about it and, number two, you wouldn't be engaging with
the same people that you'reclaiming are harassing you.
I just feel like it isincredibly fucking embarrassing
because, again, this all stemsfrom Megan Thee Stallion dating
your ex.
Doing all of this over a man iscrazy.
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Like, are you not embarrassed?
Yikes on bikes.
I've said this before and Iwill continue to say it until I
am blue in the face Malevalidation means nothing,
because children, corpses,animals, couches, a fucking hole
in the wall if it's moistenough, like anything can get it
.
And so the fact that you'recrashing out this bad over male
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validation go talk to that ladylike I don't know what else to
tell you.
Like I just think it is sofucking embarrassing.
And maybe it's not even malevalidation or because of the
male attention that she's doingthis all for.
But the other alternative to me, in my opinion, is for clout or
for relevancy, and it's like ifyou have to do all of this for
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clout and attention, maybeyou're just not that girl.
Maybe we should consider otheravenues of employment, like
clout and internet.
Relevancy has become such a drugto some people where they will
do anything for it and anystoryline that they have,
whether it showcases them in anegative or a positive light,
they don't care.
They just feel like as long asthey're in the spotlight, that's
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all that matters.
And that is really, reallyscary to me, like doing all of
this for the attention of people, online, strangers, who have no
idea who you are.
Therapy, I beg.
Like it was never that serious.
It was.
It's just never that serious.
It truly isn't.
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And it genuinely makes me feelsad for the people who behave
like this for either malevalidation or for internet
relevancy.
Because it's just, it was neverthat fucking serious.
Neither one is ever thatserious.
I promise you life will go on,whether or not a man is showing
you attention and whether or notstrangers on the fucking
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internet are showing youattention.
I really just cannot wrap mybrain around either one, but I
think that both.
Again, you just need to go talkto that lady.
You need to go figure out whatthe fuck is going on, because
it's just never that deep.
It is not that serious.
Like it's genuinely scary,because she was in my comment
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section for days arguing withpeople.
Like every time I would loginto TikTok, I would see her in
the comment section and I wassending it to my friends and I'd
be like day two of this lady inmy comment section, day three
of this lady in my commentsection, day four of this lady
in my comment section, day fiveof this lady in my comment.
Like for almost a week straightshe was in my comment section
fighting for her fucking lifeand I just like that's sad to me
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, like, like more so than it is,just like ridiculous and a
little bit humorous.
It is sad, like that is notnormal behavior and it kind of
makes me worried for the futureof social media because the more
that social media develops, themore that people like this who
are begging for strangers'attention and clout or whatever
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you want to call it.
I fear it's only going to getworse and, as someone who wants
to be a full-time contentcreator, maybe we shouldn't have
this much access to otherpeople because, like, clearly
some of you bitches cannotfucking handle it like doing
anything and everything forattention.
It's just, it just was neverthat serious.
It is not that deep, I promiseyou.
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It is not that deep because, atthe end of the day especially
if you're someone who wants todo content creation as a
full-time job like all of thisis going into your digital
footprint, all of this is beingdocumented, all of this is going
to be available to the internet, and so it's just like is this
the type of image that you wantthe internet to see?
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And again, some people don'teven care.
They don't care if it's apositive or a negative image, as
long as there's an image.
So maybe I'm just screaminginto the void, but I honestly
just worry about people who seeany type of attention as good.
Attention Like it just wasnever that serious.
And it's like again, I spokeabout this a little bit on last
week's episode if you havedecided that you want to be a
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content creator or you want asocial media platform influencer
, whatever you want to call it,you have to realize that you are
responsible for the things thatyou say and do.
And if you say or do somethingthat is problematic or that has
racial or microaggressiveundertones, like, there are
going to be people who call youout for that thing.
There are going to be peoplewho hold you accountable for the
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things that you do and say, andI'm not talking about like
harassment or bullying.
I do not condone harassment orbullying.
I do not condoneone deaththreats.
That is.
That's too far and I will.
I stand by that and I willalways say that.
But if somebody is genuinelyjust holding you accountable for
the things that you're doingwith your platform, that comes
with the territory Like peopleare going to hold you
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accountable and if you cannothandle that, you should not be
doing social media'm gonna justbe real.
And again, there isa differencebetween holding someone
accountable and harassment andbullying.
I do not condone harassment andbullying.
I am not making this episode sothat you guys will go and
harass this girl or bully her.
I don't condone that.
But at the end of the day, whenyou are held accountable for
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something and if there aremultiple people saying the exact
same thing, instead of becomingdefensive, maybe look at what
people are saying so that youcan learn from it.
I'm not saying that peoplecan't make mistakes.
Sure, people make mistakes,we're fucking human but learn
from those mistakes and the factthat it doesn't seem like she
is interested in learning fromthe mistakes and instead wants
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to manufacture tofu with me islike, crazy to me.
Like, learn, like no one isabove critique, no one is above
being held accountable, and thefact that, instead of seeing
this as a way to learn and grow,she has now come back two
months later in an attempt tovictimize herself, it's crazy to
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me, absolutely crazy, crazy,absolutely crazy.
And this is why I can just nottake white women seriously,
because it's just like the whitewomen tears and the gas
lighting.
Unfortunately, it'll never workon me, and so I said what I
said in my videos back inJanuary everything is there in
4k.
I moved on, yet she's stillstill there.
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Bills can't be this fuckinghigh.
Bills cannot be this high and,if they are, consider other
avenues of employment.
Anyway, again, I am not postingthis so that you guys will go
comment bully, don't do any ofthat.
Um.
I just thought it was really,really crazy that she came back
two months later in an attemptto do Whatever it is she's doing
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right now, um, but at the endof the day, I said what I said.
I stand by what I said.
Like what else do you want?
I don't know, I don't know.
I mean, I hope whatever shehopes to gain from it, she gains
from it.
Hopefully it'll be somethingthat makes her learn and grow,
um, but if not, is life.
I have much better things to do, so I'm gonna go ahead and go
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do those things.
Thank you, guys, so much fortuning in today.
I know this episode wasn'treally an educational one, but I
just felt like I needed to givey'all a life update because,
girl, what the fuck be going onLike it's just extremely
unserious, like there's so muchmore to life than worrying about
attention, whether it be maleor internet.
And, honestly, something that Ihave been feeling like recently
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is that I don't use my freewill enough and I don't
romanticize my life enough, andthose are two things that I feel
like everyone could do more.
Maybe actually I take that backwith the free will part,
because some of y'all don'texercise your free will the way
that I feel Like you should.
But again, it's your free willto to use or to waste however
you want to do it.
But I just feel like there's somuch more to life than any of
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this, this being social mediaattention, whatever it is.
Figure out another way tofucking use your free will.
There's really so much youcould do.
You could take up knitting, youcould go to the dog shelter and
walk dogs, you could volunteerat the soup kitchen, you could
do pottery like there's so muchyou could do.
And, honestly, I'm speaking tomyself here some too, because,
like I said, I realized that Idon't exercise my free will
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enough or romanticize my lifeenough.
So that's definitely somethingthat I want to do more and I
feel like maybe let's just alldo that together.
Let's just all take up a hobbyor something, something that
takes you away from being online.
Just touch some grass, you know.
You know, touch some fuckinggrass.
We all need to take more timeaway from the internet, like
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it's just it's rotting ourbrains.
Let's all just touch grass.
That's as we end the podepisode today.
That's what I want each andevery one of us to do After you
get done watching this episodego touch some grass, because it
can hurt.
Even if you feel like you'vetouched enough grass today,
touch some more.
It can't hurt, it can only help.
So I'm going to go touch somegrass now.
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I hope that you all will do thesame.
Thank you for tuning intotoday's episode.
I hope everyone is having agood day, except for that orange
drink lady, and I will talk toyou in the next episode.
Peace and love.
Talk to you later.
The Napkin in Between, hostedby Daijne Jones, produced by
Daijne Jones, post-production byDaijne Jones, music by Sam
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Champagne and graphics by IsmaVidal.
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Is this thing on?
Hello, hello.
Uh-oh, another yapper with amic.
Hello everyone, and welcomeback to the Napkin Inbetween
podcast.
I'm your host, Daijné Jones.
I hope everyone has been havinga good week, except for that
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orange drink lady.
Of course.
I have been having a very goodweek because I have been
sleeping like a baby at nightrecently.
You know how, sometimes, whenyou go to sleep and then you
wake up and you don't know whatday it is, what time it is,
where you're at, who yourparents are.
That's how I have been sleepingrecently and it's because I got
a new bed.
This is the peak of my week, bythe way, because sleep and me
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are like this okay, for theaudio listeners, you can't see,
but my fingers are crossed, wego together.
Real fucking bad.
One thing about me I'm going tosleep.
I love to take a nap.
A nap hates to see me coming,but whenever I'm upset, I take a
nap.
Whenever I am sad, I take a nap.
Whenever I don't feel well, Itake a nap.
I'm not depressed, by the way.
This does sound quitedepressing and like I sleep all
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the time.
But I'm not depressed, I justlove to sleep.
It's like one of my favoriteextracurricular activities top
three and it aint two or three.
But I recently had to get a newbed and when I tell you this is
the most comfortable bed I haveever slept on, like, I feel
like I am sleeping on theperfect pillow.
It's's not too hard, it's nottoo soft, it is the perfect bed.
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But I'm not going to hold youthe chain of events which led to
me having to get a new bedstressful, chaotic, zero out of
ten.
Not a good time.
My poor baby dog is sick.
So I've had my dog, Luna, sinceshe was six months old.
Some of y'all know a little bitof the backstory.
It was the height of COVID andthere was this man walking
around my neighborhood, knockingon every door, telling everyone
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that he had this dog.
If nobody took her, he wasgoing to take her to a shelter.
And I was like, okay, Savannah,slow down.
Like tell me more about the dog, how old is she?
You know, what does she looklike?
Whatever, whatever.
And so he tells me about Luna.
She's six months old.
He shows me a picture and I wasjust like that baby is not
going to a shelter if I haveanything to do with it, like
give her to me.
I need her.
And so he was just like, okay,give me a hundred dollars and
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I'll give you you know, the dog.
She has a crate, she has food.
Like he gave me everything thatshe needed and so I got Luna.
I was actually in a relationshipwith my ex at the time, but
Luna has always really been mydog.
Like she gravitated towards me.
I trained her, being as a withthe height of COVID.
I was working from home, so Iwas always with her, and so when
my ex and I split up, there wasno question like I was keeping
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Luna and like he didn't fight mefor it, as he shouldn't,
because she was my dog.
Also, he cheated on me a monthafter proposing to me, so like
the least you could do is let mekeep my fucking dog.
But Luna has always been been avery healthy dog.
She doesn't get sick very often.
If she does, it's maybe likeonce a year.
I make sure her shots arealways updated.
She gets her exercise Like sheis in great shape.
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She's five years old but shehas the energy of a puppy.
And so a couple of weeks ago Inoticed that there was a bubble
on her ear.
And one thing about me.
One thing about me if I noticeanything wrong about my dog,
we're going straight to the vet,like I don't waste no time
because I do not play about mybaby.
That is my daughter, and so Icalled her vet and I explained
to them like she has this bubbleon her ear.
I'm not sure what it is, I'venever seen it before.
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And thankfully they had justhad a triple cancellation.
So they were like, if you canget her to the vet right now,
like we can see her, so Iimmediately take her to the.
Thankfully it's like one blockaway from me, so not too far.
And they're doing a checkup.
Everything looks good.
They look into her ears andthey see that she has a double
ear infection.
Mind you, like I said, Luna isa very healthy dog.
She's never had an earinfection in her entire life and
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the first time she gets an earinfection she has it in both
ears.
Go big or go home, I guess.
So they put her on a steroidand an antibiotic to help with
the ear infection and becauseshe's on the steroid, it makes
her thirsty, which makes her peemore.
And so me and one of my friends, cole y'all probably know Cole.
He's on TikTok.
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He does a lot of politicalcontent.
We were on live one night andLuna does not like men.
I don't know what happened toher in her first six months of
life, but whenever I find theman who hurt her, trust you will
be dealt with.
Anytime she sees a man or shehears a man's voice, she starts
to growl, she starts to bark.
Mind you, Luna is not a growleror a barker.
I have these neighbors who livethe building over from me.
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It's these two men who livetogether and we don't live in
the same building but we can see, see into their apartment and
anytime they're in the kitchenand Luna can see them, she
growls at them, she barks atthem.
Like my girl does not like menand honestly she's so fucking
real for that because I don'tlike men either.
So I feel her for that.
But me and my friend call heron live and so she can hear
Cole's voice and so she startslike shaking.
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She gets really, really anxiousand I'm trying to calm her down
and like petting her, tellingher it's okay, like he's on the
phone, like nothing's going tohappen.
He's not even in the room withus, but she's so anxious and,
again, mind you, she's on thissteroid that makes her pee more,
because she's drinking more andbecause she got so anxious, she
peed on my bed.
Now I'm not going to hold you.
When she did it I was mad asfuck Because I'm like girl, you
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are potty trained, you know notto pee in the house, like what
the fuck is going on.
But then I had to remember,like you know, she's on this
steroid.
It's not her fault.
So I was mad at her at first,but then she gave me the puppy
eyes and then I remember, youknow, like she doesn't like men,
she's on this steroid.
With all of this combined, likeI was like okay Im not made at
you anymore.
So I immediately strip my bed,I washed all the sheets and I'm
trying to clean the bed.
I scrubbed this bed for like anhour and a half with Clorox,
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with Lysol, with anything that Icould find, and I swear I could
still smell pee.
So I was like you know what?
Fuck it, I'm just going to geta new bed.
Wasn't very happy that I had toget a new bed but nonetheless
we got a new bed and it ended upworking out, because this bed
is so much comfortable than mylast bed, like, maybe Luna knew
what she was doing.
She ate that one little thing.
Thankfully we were able to turnlemons into something
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resembling lemonade, if you know, you know.
But y'all please pray for mybaby.
She is doing a lot better now.
Um, I think that it just tookher body a little bit to adjust
to the steroid.
She's still peeing a lot more,so I'm taking her out more
obviously, but I think that herears are starting to feel better
.
When she first got theirinfection, one of her favorite
things is for me to scratchbehind her ears, and so I would.
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I would try to do that, and shewould like yelp or cry because
her ears were hurting her.
And I don't even know how longher ears were hurting her for,
because she can't tell me.
I hate that about dogs, like Iwish that they could just talk
and tell us what was going on.
You know what I mean, like.
But thankfully the vet said itwas a minor double ear infection
and so it should be able toheal with the steroid and the
antibiotic.
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But y'all keep my baby lifted,because mama's girl is not
feeling good and it makes me so,so sad, as always.
I would love to hear the peak ofyour week, so please leave it
in the comments.
Something that made you smile,kept you grounded, just
something that made you happy inthe chaos that is the world
speaking of sleeping well atnight, segwaying into what we're
gonna talk about today.
As y'all know, I am on mycontent creation journey.
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I would love to make contentcreation my full-time job, make
it the thing that I can dopermanently, and there have been
a few things on this contentcreation journey that have made
me be like do I call LA or dothey call me?
You know what I mean.
For example, monetizing onTikTok, monetizing my podcast,
hitting a thousand subscriberson my podcast.
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Thank you so much for that.
By the way, that happened lastweek.
That was crazy.
I also hit 300k on TikTok lastweek, which was crazy.
I feel like anytime I hit like100k you know what I mean Like
100k, 200k, 300k, like those arejust crazy milestones for me.
Thank you so much for all ofthat.
I appreciate all of you beinghere.
Sometimes I don't understandwhy all of you are here, like
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what's happening, butnonetheless, I appreciate every
single one of you.
But I feel like I've hitanother milestone on this
content creation journey and itis someone trying to manufacture
beef with me, and I don't evenreally want to call it beef,
it's more like tofu orMorningstar.
You know what I mean, becausethis shit is so fucking fake.
But I received a cease anddesist.
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Sorry, I cannot take this shitseriously, bro.
I received a cease and desistfrom someone that I had not
spoken about in two months.
She came to my page two monthsafter I had mentioned her to
comment on the video that I hadmade about a situation which
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included her, and send me acease and desist.
Let's do a story time because,girl, I like people are just
very interesting, very, veryinteresting.
So back in January there wasthis woman.
Her name is Olivia Davis andshe has a podcast with two of
her friends whose names I don'teven know, but in this podcast
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she was talking about her ex,Torrey Craig, who is dating
Megan Thee Stallion.
So she's bringing up this topicand she's like, should we talk
about how my ex is dating?
And then she struggles to sayMegan Thee Stallion.
Actually, she doesn't struggleto say Megan Thee Stallion, she
struggles to say Megan, period,just the name Megan.
And so back in January,me, as well as hundreds of other
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people, made videos about thesituation, just talking about,
like, the weirdness of it andhow strange it was that the only
thing that she seemed tostruggle with was saying Megan
and for the record, I stand byeverything that I have said
throughout this whole situationbecause it is weird, like
struggling to say Megan a verycommon name, the name of several
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people that she follows, sopresumably she's friends with
like it's weird that you'restruggling to say Megan and it
looks forced, like it looks likeyou're pretending not to know
how to say Megan and, mind you,if you go back and look at the
clip, she says Megan's namewrong, then she says it right,
her friends tell her how to sayit and then she proceeds to say
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it wrong again.
Like please be so fucking forreal.
But I made a video, again, mindyou, in January talking about
how weird it was that she waspretending not to know how to
say Megan's name and it gaveforce and it gave jealousy,
which is quite embarrassingbecause again, we're talking
about how she's dating your ex.
So you're doing this all over aman.
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Definitely a choice, that's allI'm gonna say.
That's a choice because, mindyou, folks had found receipts of
her listening to Megan's music,posting to Megan's music,
singing along to Megan's music,like number one again, Megan is
a very common name, but numbertwo it's giving fan.
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Like you know who Megan TheeStallion is, you know how to say
her name.
It's very, very odd that you'repretending not to.
So I made my videos back inJanuary, whatever Two months
almost to the day later, becauseI made my video January 9th.
She comments on March 8th andI'm going to read you her
comment, because I screenshot it, of course.
So she comments and says Ihighly suggest you think twice
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before you post misleading infobased off your biased
perspective without showing thefull episode, and you blatantly
being xenophobic and racisttowards a white immigrant.
Can we be serious?
Like?
Can we be serious?
First of all, before thisentire situation and even still
today, I don't know who thiswoman is.
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So I did not know that shewasn't born in America because,
mind you, after hearing her talk, seeing just a few clips that
I've seen, there's no accentdetected.
She sounds like an Americanwoman, so I had no idea that she
was even not from America.
But to say that someone is beingxenophobic and racist towards
you because they're calling outthe way that you've pretended to
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not know how to say Megan,because it's very clear on
camera that you've pretended notto know how to say Megan, is
fucking crazy.
Furthermore, to say thatsomeone is spreading
misinformation again when youractions are on camera is fucking
crazy.
Like can we be serious?
So I responded back to hercomment and I said, girl, wasn't
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nobody racist or xenophobictowards you.
You and your friends are lamefor being microaggressive
towards Megan over a man.
And here you are months laterand still haven't learned.
Do better.
And I stand by that because notonly were her actions weird and
gave jealousy, but they werealso extremely microaggressive,
like as a black woman.
I have experienced the namemicroaggression my entire life.
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I have had teachers, I have hadprofessors, I have had
colleagues, I have had peersmispronounce my name over and
over and over.
And the reason that'smicroaggressive, in case people
don't know, it shows a lack ofeffort and respect to validate
someone's identity.
And like being as though myname is Daijné okay, I get it
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Like.
Sometimes that can be a toughword for Elmo.
The name that we're talkingabout is Megan Megan.
I've never heard another way topronounce Megan other than
Megan.
And then she goes on to say inthe clip like I'm just gonna
call her Megan.
Like yeah, that's her name,what else would you call her?
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Like, can we be serious?
Like she said it, as if it wasdoing Megan a favor for calling
her Megan, like girl, that's hername.
Like what else would you callher?
And like the thing aboutmicroaggressions is I mean, it's
kind of in the namemicroaggression.
You don't even really realizethat you're doing it or it's so
embedded into society, as racismis embedded in society,
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especially in America, becauseAmerica was built on racism.
And when someone points outyour microaggressiveness and
your response is to be defensiveor hostile, what you're showing
is that you don't even reallycare to learn.
And if you don't care to learnabout the micro aggressions and
how you can affect someone withracism on a more personal level,
then you damn sure don't careon a macro level or care about
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understanding how racism cantruly affect people's lives.
And then, mind you the factthat she is coming back two
months later.
You could have taken that timeto truly learn and to truly
understand why people weresaying that what you were doing
was microaggressive.
But instead of doing that, youuse those two months to come
back and make yourself thevictim, which you said you
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weren't going to do, but we'llget to that in a second.
So now she's going back andforth with me in my comment
section just telling me that I'mbeing racist and xenophobic
towards her.
I'm telling her ma'am, I haveno idea who you are Like, this
is a Wendy's.
What are you talking about?
Telling me that I'm spreadingmisinformation.
Mind you, all of this is oncamera.
But okay, girl, go off.
I ended up making a secondvideo of just talking about how
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she had come back two monthslater in my comment section to
accuse me of being racist anddiscriminatory and harassing her
.
Mind you, if you're going toclaim harassment, you can't
interact with the person thatyou're claiming is harassing you
.
That's number one.
Number two I made that video inJanuary and I left it in
January.
I actually left it that daylike I never spoke about it
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again.
So how the fuck am I harassingyou?
Please be fucking serious.
But I make another video and I'mtalking about like how she's in
my comment section, you know,trying to victimize herself and
and say that she had a languagebarrier, which, mind you, she
did an interview where she talksabout how, yes, she was not
born in America, but she speaksproper English and she wasn't
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going to use the fact that shewasn't born in America as a way
to victimize herself or make anexcuse for mispronouncing Megan
Like girl.
Did you forget that you saidthis shit on fucking camera,
because that is exactly whatyou're doing.
She also accused me ofdisregarding the fact that she
is an immigrant and I'm likegirl.
You disregarded that fact.
You were literally on camerasaying, yes, I was not born here
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, but I'm not going to use it asan excuse or use that as a way
to victimize myself.
And then you turned around twocalendar months later and did
that very same thing, like, canwe please be serious girl?
Can we please be fucking forreal?
But I make a video justpointing out literally her own
inconsistencies.
I showed where she said Megan'sname wrong, said it right, then
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continued to say it wrong.
After her friends had correctedher, I showed her interview
where she said that, yes, shewasn't born in America, but that
wasn't an excuse and she wasn'tgonna use it as an excuse.
Just showing that, like, aftertwo months, you've learned
nothing.
You know what I mean.
Like after two months, you cameinto my comment section just
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showing that you learned nothing.
And it's like for what?
This shit was two months oldand she's claiming oh, I'm still
being harassed, not by me,because I stopped talking about
it the very day that I made thatvideo.
I never spoke on it again untilshe came back into my comment
section and brought that shitback up.
Like, please be serious.
So anyway, I make my video andagain disregard the situation
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because it doesn't matter to me.
Like, respectfully, you don'tmatter to me, I don't, I don't
care where you're from, I don'tcare what you have going on.
Like I said what I said and Imeant what the fuck I said when
I said it.
And if you're upset about that,okay, like, what would you like
me to do with this information,truly.
So then I make that video.
On Saturday, March 8th okay,Monday March 10th I wake up to
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an email from her with a ceaseand desist.
Now, mind you, the email isfrom her.
It's it's clear as day thatit's from her.
But she's trying to pose assomeone in the legal field, like
the email that she sent it tome from.
It says legal at and thenthere's like an abbreviation for
her management.
Mind you, her management nameis Olivia Davis Management
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sweetheart.
I'm gonna hold your hand with anapkin in between when I say
this you are your own manager,which is fine.
There's nothing wrong with that.
I too am my own manager rightnow, so I totally get that.
But she's trying to make methink from this email that it's
from this legal portion of herteam and it's not just from her
directly, which isn't evennecessary because a cease and
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desist is not a legal document.
Like, if I wanted to send acease and desist to someone, I
could do that as myself.
You don't have to pose assomeone in the legal field to
send a cease and desist.
It's not necessary, it's not alegal document.
And so to me it gave scaretactic, like it gave.
She wanted me to think that shehad this whole legal team and
they were reaching out to me andthere was like a lawyer or
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someone in the legal field withthis cease and desist and again,
if she wanted to send me acease and desist, all she had to
do was send me a cease anddesist.
Like it didn't have to becrafted in a way that it makes
it look like it's from a legalteam when it's obvious that it's
not.
And it was obvious to me thatit wasn't from a legal team.
Because, number one, she addedthis address and like she made
it like this big header with anaddress and she spelled suite in
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the address wrong, like it wasfrom this address in in LA and
it had like the street address,whatever, and it has a suite
number and she spelled suitelike suit, like she spelled
s-u-i-t, not s-u-i-t-e.
That was my first dead giveaway.
Second giveaway I copy andpasted the entire cease and
desist letter into an aigenerator detector and it came
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back that 94% of the documentwas AI generated.
I'm like, did you even try, girl?
Like, did you even try to makethis look real?
Like, please be serious.
But she sends me this cease anddesist, says that I'm harassing
her, says that I'm beingdiscriminatory, says that I'm
being racist, says that I'mbeing xenophobic, says that I'm
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spreading misinformation,basically saying that I need to
take down all my old videos andnot make any other videos.
And, mind you, I had no plansof making any more videos about
this girl because I did not givea fuck.
Like, I still don't give a fuck.
You know what I mean.
Like you're just veryirrelevant to me and it's to me
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it's giving.
Like you're trying to stayrelevant and so you're trying to
manufacture beef with whoeveryou can.
And it's like, girl, there'sreal problems going on in the
world.
Like Trump is the president,he's trying to lead us into
fucking World War III, likethere is so much going on.
I could not give a fuck lessabout what you're saying to me
right now.
But she sends me the cease anddesist from her legal team, okay
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, and then she DMs me onInstagram, on TikTok.
And then she goes into thecomment section of the video
that I had made about her onMarch 8th to tell me hey, my
team sent you this cease anddesist.
Mind you, her team is just her,which, again, there's nothing
wrong with that.
But the fact that you're tryingto pose as your team and also
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yourself is fucking crazy andyou're not doing a good job at
it.
Like, sorry, bookie, you're notgetting the Oscar for this
performance.
Because here's the thing if sheactually had a legal team and
this cease and desist was comingfrom someone in the legal field
, they would have told her tostop direct communication with
me.
They would have told her to leteverything go through them.
And so the fact that she isstill in communication with me,
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even after she emailed me thiscease and desist from her team,
like giveaway number three thatit was just her.
Like, can we be serious?
So I don't respond to any ofthese dms or these comments
because at this point I'm justlike I'm just gonna let you talk
to yourself in my dms and in mycomments, because I don't give
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a fuck.
Like this is so unimportant tome and so irrelevant to me, like
if you want to talk to yourselfin my dms and shit, okay, have
at it.
Zero out of ten use of free willin my opinion, but it's your
free will to use or to waste notmine, but for her comments that
she had left on my video.
Other people in the commentsection had seen them and so now
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they're responding to hercomments and basically telling
her like you know, you don'treally have a case telling her
it's on camera like we all sawher being microaggressive, we
all saw her pretending to sayMegan's name.
Like basically telling her,like she looks ridiculous,
because she does, honestly, inmy opinion, and she is in my
comment section fighting for herlife, going back and forth
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arguing with other commenters inmy comment section, and my
thing is like you don't have acase and I'm fully aware that
you don't have a case, but ifyou did, all you're doing right
now is weakening your own casebecause in order to claim
harassment, you can't beinteracting with the people that
you're claiming are harassingyou.
Like that's not how harassmentworks.
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Harassment is one-sided.
You know what I mean?
Harassment is unwantedcommunication and by you
responding back, you're notreally showing that this
communication is unwanted.
And that's why I say like Ijust genuinely feel like this is
her begging for attention andrelevancy, because if you really
wanted the situation to go away, you wouldn't, number one, have
re-brought it up two monthslater after no one was still
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talking about it and, number two, you wouldn't be engaging with
the same people that you'reclaiming are harassing you.
I just feel like it isincredibly fucking embarrassing
because, again, this all stemsfrom Megan Thee Stallion dating
your ex.
Doing all of this over a man iscrazy.
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Like, are you not embarrassed?
Yikes on bikes.
I've said this before and Iwill continue to say it until I
am blue in the face Malevalidation means nothing,
because children, corpses,animals, couches, a fucking hole
in the wall if it's moistenough, like anything can get it
.
And so the fact that you'recrashing out this bad over male
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validation go talk to that ladylike I don't know what else to
tell you.
Like I just think it is sofucking embarrassing.
And maybe it's not even malevalidation or because of the
male attention that she's doingthis all for.
But the other alternative to me, in my opinion, is for clout or
for relevancy, and it's like ifyou have to do all of this for
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clout and attention, maybeyou're just not that girl.
Maybe we should consider otheravenues of employment, like
clout and internet.
Relevancy has become such a drugto some people where they will
do anything for it and anystoryline that they have,
whether it showcases them in anegative or a positive light,
they don't care.
They just feel like as long asthey're in the spotlight, that's
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all that matters.
And that is really, reallyscary to me, like doing all of
this for the attention of people, online, strangers, who have no
idea who you are.
Therapy, I beg.
Like it was never that serious.
It was.
It's just never that serious.
It truly isn't.
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And it genuinely makes me feelsad for the people who behave
like this for either malevalidation or for internet
relevancy.
Because it's just, it was neverthat fucking serious.
Neither one is ever thatserious.
I promise you life will go on,whether or not a man is showing
you attention and whether or notstrangers on the fucking
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internet are showing youattention.
I really just cannot wrap mybrain around either one, but I
think that both.
Again, you just need to go talkto that lady.
You need to go figure out whatthe fuck is going on, because
it's just never that deep.
It is not that serious.
Like it's genuinely scary,because she was in my comment
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section for days arguing withpeople.
Like every time I would loginto TikTok, I would see her in
the comment section and I wassending it to my friends and I'd
be like day two of this lady inmy comment section, day three
of this lady in my commentsection, day four of this lady
in my comment section, day fiveof this lady in my comment.
Like for almost a week straightshe was in my comment section
fighting for her fucking lifeand I just like that's sad to me
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, like, like more so than it is,just like ridiculous and a
little bit humorous.
It is sad, like that is notnormal behavior and it kind of
makes me worried for the futureof social media because the more
that social media develops, themore that people like this who
are begging for strangers'attention and clout or whatever
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you want to call it.
I fear it's only going to getworse and, as someone who wants
to be a full-time contentcreator, maybe we shouldn't have
this much access to otherpeople because, like, clearly
some of you bitches cannotfucking handle it like doing
anything and everything forattention.
It's just, it just was neverthat serious.
It is not that deep, I promiseyou.
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It is not that deep because, atthe end of the day especially
if you're someone who wants todo content creation as a
full-time job like all of thisis going into your digital
footprint, all of this is beingdocumented, all of this is going
to be available to the internet, and so it's just like is this
the type of image that you wantthe internet to see?
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And again, some people don'teven care.
They don't care if it's apositive or a negative image, as
long as there's an image.
So maybe I'm just screaminginto the void, but I honestly
just worry about people who seeany type of attention as good.
Attention Like it just wasnever that serious.
And it's like again, I spokeabout this a little bit on last
week's episode if you havedecided that you want to be a
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content creator or you want asocial media platform influencer
, whatever you want to call it,you have to realize that you are
responsible for the things thatyou say and do.
And if you say or do somethingthat is problematic or that has
racial or microaggressiveundertones, like, there are
going to be people who call youout for that thing.
There are going to be peoplewho hold you accountable for the
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things that you do and say, andI'm not talking about like
harassment or bullying.
I do not condone harassment orbullying.
I do not condoneone deaththreats.
That is.
That's too far and I will.
I stand by that and I willalways say that.
But if somebody is genuinelyjust holding you accountable for
the things that you're doingwith your platform, that comes
with the territory Like peopleare going to hold you
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accountable and if you cannothandle that, you should not be
doing social media'm gonna justbe real.
And again, there isa differencebetween holding someone
accountable and harassment andbullying.
I do not condone harassment andbullying.
I am not making this episode sothat you guys will go and
harass this girl or bully her.
I don't condone that.
But at the end of the day, whenyou are held accountable for
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something and if there aremultiple people saying the exact
same thing, instead of becomingdefensive, maybe look at what
people are saying so that youcan learn from it.
I'm not saying that peoplecan't make mistakes.
Sure, people make mistakes,we're fucking human but learn
from those mistakes and the factthat it doesn't seem like she
is interested in learning fromthe mistakes and instead wants
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to manufacture tofu with me islike, crazy to me.
Like, learn, like no one isabove critique, no one is above
being held accountable, and thefact that, instead of seeing
this as a way to learn and grow,she has now come back two
months later in an attempt tovictimize herself, it's crazy to
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me, absolutely crazy, crazy,absolutely crazy.
And this is why I can just nottake white women seriously,
because it's just like the whitewomen tears and the gas
lighting.
Unfortunately, it'll never workon me, and so I said what I
said in my videos back inJanuary everything is there in
4k.
I moved on, yet she's stillstill there.
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Bills can't be this fuckinghigh.
Bills cannot be this high and,if they are, consider other
avenues of employment.
Anyway, again, I am not postingthis so that you guys will go
comment bully, don't do any ofthat.
Um.
I just thought it was really,really crazy that she came back
two months later in an attemptto do Whatever it is she's doing
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right now, um, but at the endof the day, I said what I said.
I stand by what I said.
Like what else do you want?
I don't know, I don't know.
I mean, I hope whatever shehopes to gain from it, she gains
from it.
Hopefully it'll be somethingthat makes her learn and grow,
um, but if not, is life.
I have much better things to do, so I'm gonna go ahead and go
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do those things.
Thank you, guys, so much fortuning in today.
I know this episode wasn'treally an educational one, but I
just felt like I needed to givey'all a life update because,
girl, what the fuck be going onLike it's just extremely
unserious, like there's so muchmore to life than worrying about
attention, whether it be maleor internet.
And, honestly, something that Ihave been feeling like recently
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is that I don't use my freewill enough and I don't
romanticize my life enough, andthose are two things that I feel
like everyone could do more.
Maybe actually I take that backwith the free will part,
because some of y'all don'texercise your free will the way
that I feel Like you should.
But again, it's your free willto to use or to waste however
you want to do it.
But I just feel like there's somuch more to life than any of
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this, this being social mediaattention, whatever it is.
Figure out another way tofucking use your free will.
There's really so much youcould do.
You could take up knitting, youcould go to the dog shelter and
walk dogs, you could volunteerat the soup kitchen, you could
do pottery like there's so muchyou could do.
And, honestly, I'm speaking tomyself here some too, because,
like I said, I realized that Idon't exercise my free will
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enough or romanticize my lifeenough.
So that's definitely somethingthat I want to do more and I
feel like maybe let's just alldo that together.
Let's just all take up a hobbyor something, something that
takes you away from being online.
Just touch some grass, you know.
You know, touch some fuckinggrass.
We all need to take more timeaway from the internet, like
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it's just it's rotting ourbrains.
Let's all just touch grass.
That's as we end the podepisode today.
That's what I want each andevery one of us to do After you
get done watching this episodego touch some grass, because it
can hurt.
Even if you feel like you'vetouched enough grass today,
touch some more.
It can't hurt, it can only help.
So I'm going to go touch somegrass now.
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I hope that you all will do thesame.
Thank you for tuning intotoday's episode.
I hope everyone is having agood day, except for that orange
drink lady, and I will talk toyou in the next episode.
Peace and love.
Talk to you later.
The Napkin in Between, hostedby Daijne Jones, produced by
Daijne Jones, post-production byDaijne Jones, music by Sam
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Champagne and graphics by IsmaVidal.
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