January 20, 2025 • 13 mins
This episode dives deep into the power of decision-making, exploring how our choices shape our lives. We discuss the importance of intuition, the role of small decisions in achieving success, and how a strong moral compass can guide us in making the best choices for ourselves.
• Exploring the difference between good and bad decisions
• Understanding intuition as a guiding force
• Personal anecdotes highlighting pivotal life choices
• The concept of vitalism and its influence on decision-making
• Overcoming fear to make responsible choices
• The snowball effect of small decisions leading to success
• Emphasizing accountability in decision-making
• Encouraging listeners to take actionable steps towards better choices
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Dr. Daniel (00:02):
Are you a high-performing parent,
entrepreneur, or high-achieverin pursuit of excellence?
Welcome to the Nexus Podcast, apodcast custom-tailored for
families like ours Driven,affluent and eager to lead
extraordinary lives, fromrockstar stay-at-home moms to
high-producing CEOs.
We choose to model success foreveryone we are surrounded by.
We prioritize health oversickness, embrace a vitalistic
lifestyle and seek to tap intothe limitless potential that God
(00:25):
has bestowed upon us.
I'm Dr Daniel Kimble, your host, and on this podcast, we'll
uncover the secrets to living afulfilling and abundant life
where you and your loved onescan thrive physically, mentally
and spiritually.
Together, we'll forge a path togreatness and unleash your
God-given capabilities.
Get ready to say yes to a lifeof true prosperity and
well-being.
This is the Nexus Podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
What up, Nexus fam?
I'm Coco, this is the NexusPodcast and my dad is your host,
Dr Daniel Kimblee, and I hearthim Happy listening.
Dr. Daniel (01:14):
What is up?
Nexus, fam, it is Dr Daniel,back with another episode of the
podcast, and this one looks alittle different.
I'm back in the home officerecording, but neither here nor
there.
What I want to talk about todayis the idea of good decisions
and bad decisions, and you know,I woke up probably in the
middle of the night last night.
So this is fresh, like when youhear this episode, this will be
(01:35):
less than a week old.
I woke up in the middle of thenight last night and I was
thinking about this idea ofobedience and I didn't really
feel like it was my position totalk about obedience from a God
perspective for this episode,necessarily on this episode of
the podcast.
But I'm laying there and I'mthinking like there's got to be
something valuable here that Icould share.
(01:58):
And as I thought more aboutobedience, I really just thought
about the idea of making gooddecisions and one of the things
that I often tell people insideof our office, that I talk to on
pretty much a daily basis,especially moms.
You know like I have a lot offamilies who will ask hey, what
do you think about antibiotics,or what do you think about
vaccines, or what do you thinkabout giving my kid melatonin,
(02:21):
or what do you think aboutgiving my kid vitamin D, or what
do you think I should do for myknee, and what this doctor told
me versus what this otherdoctor told me versus what this
other doctor told me.
So I get all these questionsand sometimes it's difficult to
sift through and I can't imaginehow difficult it must be really
(02:41):
for a family to like sit If youdon't, if you don't have a
compass.
Um, like, one of the one of thecore values for my family
Heather, coco and I is vitalism,and we actually use that inside
of the office to vitalism justmeaning that the body is self
healing, self-regulating andself-maintaining.
And so I I bring that upbecause when you have a compass,
(03:03):
it makes it really easy to makegood decisions.
But when you don't have acompass, if you don't have core
values, if you don't know whatyou stand for, it can make it
very, very difficult to makegood decisions.
And so one of the things kindof a hack or a cheat code, if
you will to making gooddecisions I always tell people
is like just listen to yourintuition.
Now, I would call intuitionHoly Spirit and being guided by
(03:27):
literally what God is like,trying to pull you or get you to
do.
But whatever you call it, Ithink intuition is probably a
good, good word that everybodycan understand and agree with.
And so you know, I always,often tell moms I'm like, hey,
what do you think you should do,like, what do you feel like the
right decision is?
This doctor told you to do X, y, z, but what do you feel like
(03:48):
is the right thing to do in yourheart?
And oftentimes that answer thatpeople will give is different
than what the doctor or theexpert or the guru or whatever
told them.
So I struggle with this, likequite a bit throughout my life
and that's why I feel like Ihave some authority to talk
about it.
So I'll give you an example ofexactly what I'm talking about
(04:08):
and this idea of good decisions.
So when I was in undergrad, Iworked at an oil change shop and
so I like, literally I was thepit guy, so I worked down below
the cars, I would pull the oilplug, I would change the oil
filter, I would let them knowwhen it was ready to fill the
car back up with oil, and I wasgreasy and oily and in this dark
(04:28):
basement like most of the day,four days a week, 10 hour days,
and I absolutely loved it.
And I got so good at it and Iloved it so much that I just
wanted to be the assistantmanager at the oil change shop.
That was like my.
That would be me arriving atthe ultimate destination in my
life.
And so much so that even when Istarted that job, when I was in
(04:50):
high school and I rememberbefore undergrad, I tell my dad
I'm like, dad, listen, like I'mgoing to have a 401k, I'm going
to have the things that mymanager has a house and a car
and a motorcycle, that mymanager has a house and a car
and a motorcycle and I'm goingto have a key to the shop and
like I'll be rolling, like I'llbe doing it, I'm going to make
(05:11):
10 bucks an hour, it's going tobe epic and I'm going to do that
for the rest of my life andI'll be set Bad decision.
My dad knew it was a baddecision.
I did not.
I thought it was like theultimate decision.
And you know, if you work oncars like, that's not, that's
not the point, right.
The point is that my dadunderstood that like, hey, you
being like an assistant managerat the oil chain shop, uh, is
probably not going to get youwhat you want in life forever.
(05:35):
And you're young and you'redumb and you're in high school
and just like, listen to me.
So my dad literally made me, heforced me to go to college.
So I thought I was smarter thanhim and I'm like dad, okay, I
got you.
You're saying I got to go tocollege.
I can't be the assistantmanager at the oil change shop,
I can't take this job.
So I'm going to, I'm going toapply to one college and I'm
(05:55):
going to hope that I don't getaccepted.
And when I don't get accepted,then that will be my out to just
do what I wanted to do, whichwas be the assistant manager of
the oil chain shop.
And wouldn't you know that Godhad different plans for me?
And I got accepted and my plancompletely backfired.
Good decision.
So it was a really, really gooddecision to listen to my dad.
(06:15):
It was a really, really gooddecision to go all in on what I,
what I ultimately would nothave done, and it led me here.
And that's what's so funnyabout it is like how many times
have you made a decision thatyou felt like was going to be
the right decision and then,looking back on it, you're like
(06:35):
I'm so glad it didn't go thatway, and I think this is kind of
what we're talking about.
And so what I tell these mamasis I'm like you're.
Nobody has ever, like in thehistory of the world, ever.
I don't think anyone has eversaid I wish I didn't listen to
my intuition, like I wish Iwouldn't have listened to what
my gut was telling me to do.
I wish I wouldn't have listenedto what my heart was telling me
(06:58):
to do.
And the reason that peopledon't do that is because there's
something to our intuition andmaking good decisions.
So, you know, I go to college, Istart to learn a whole bunch
about success and about thebrain and about how people are
successful and what makessomebody successful, and I get
super, super passionate about itand what makes somebody
(07:22):
successful, and I get super,super passionate about it.
And I find myself at thiscrossroads of teaching and,
while I won't give you all thedetails, I can remember being at
someone's house and I wasoffered some drugs that were
very, very hard.
This was a dark place in mylife, like one of the darkest
places in my life and I don'tknow how many people know this
story.
It's very, very few, but Iwon't give you all the details
(07:44):
of it.
But what I will tell you isthat I had a moment where, even
though I got to become a teacher, I was offered these drugs and
my decision was no, I'm notgoing to do that.
My decision was no, I'm notgoing to do that.
(08:05):
And that decision led to megoing to chiropractic school.
So again, another good decision.
Why, I have no idea, like Iwould, everything in my heart
wanted to pull me in theopposite direction.
I say, everything in my logicalbrain wanted me to pull me in
the opposite direction, butsomething in my heart was just
like no, you need to leave rightnow.
And I left and ended up goingto chiropractic school, leaving
all the old life behind and likeliterally started over.
(08:27):
So again, another good decision.
Um, everybody told us it was aterrible idea to move to Dana
point, california, to start abusiness on your own.
Um, plus the, how much money wehave borrowed from the
government to go throughchiropractic school.
There's a lot in it.
And again, one of arguably oneof the best decisions I could
have possibly ever made in myentire life.
(08:49):
So here's why I share this withyou is because we all know
inherently what's right, like,talk to anybody, Um, I can give
you my dad, for an example.
I'm like, dad, you got to quitsmoking, like, and I would tell
that.
I remember, like my brother andI made a deal with him.
We're like, dad, listen, we'llpaint the whole house for you,
but you got to promise that youwon't smoke inside anymore, and
(09:11):
we thought that would get him toquit smoking.
And he's like nope, he juststarted, he just kept smoking,
but smoked outside and hehonored it, which is super cool,
but he never quit smoking.
And so, like, we would tell himall the time it's like, dad,
you got to quit smoking.
It says literally, it saysright on the box that it'll
cause cancer.
And still, I love him so much,miss him so much, he continued
to smoke.
And so I think the reason thatthis matters and the reason I
(09:34):
shared those stories with you isbecause we all know what's
right and what's wrong.
We all know what a gooddecision is and what a bad
decision is, and yet, for somereason, we make choices that
keep us stuck and keep us fromgoing to where we say that we
(09:55):
want to go.
And my question is why, like?
Why does that happen?
And I think for me, the reasonthat I made decisions that
didn't necessarily line up withwhat I said I wanted in my life,
in the beginning of my life,and obviously I made some good
decisions to get to where I am,and it was one small decision
(10:15):
stacked on top of another smalldecision stacked on top of
another small decision.
That were good decisions,moving me in the right direction
.
But I think a lot of times wemake bad decisions because we're
afraid of what ourresponsibility will be if we
make a good decision.
And I see this with so manypeople inside of our office
(10:36):
where, you know, we sit down andwe talk about hey, what do you
have going on and how long hasit been going on?
And the reality is is like mostpeople struggle, most people
suffer, and that becomes a partof their identity and they don't
(10:57):
want to let it go.
And they don't want to let itgo because it's going to require
them to show up differently inthe world and they don't have
the tools to deal with it.
And my encouragement for you onthis episode is simple.
It's really, really simple.
It's like what can you do tostart to tune into what your gut
, what your heart, is tellingyou?
(11:17):
What can you do to start toexpress more passion and more
purpose and more excitement andfulfillment inside of your life?
Because, ultimately, all of uswere designed to be successful
Like I know this to be truethrough all the research, the
research on the hiddencurriculum and the research on
the brain and the research onstress and the research on
adverse childhood experiences itall leads back to the same idea
(11:38):
that we are designed to besuper successful and the only
thing that holds us back fromthat is making good decisions.
So my question for you is likewhere are you not making good
decisions?
And it's not, it's not the bigones that matter, it's really
the small ones, right?
It's a small one.
For me, it was a small one tosay no.
For me, it was a small one tosay like, yes, dad, okay, I will
(12:01):
apply to college just toappease you.
For me, it was a small one tosay, yes, I'm going to go to
chiropractic school.
For me, it was the small one totell my daughter, no, she can't
climb on that thing, because itwas going to keep her safe and
protected.
And it's the small decisionsthat add up over time that
ultimately allow us to be what Iwould argue ultimately
(12:23):
successful.
So where's inside of your lifeare you making decisions that
may or may not be leading you tosuccess?
And what is one small?
It's not a big one, it's justone.
What's the one small decisionyou could make today that may
alter the trajectory ofeverywhere you go forever from
now on?
(12:43):
And when you stack that onesmall decision with another
small decision and another smalldecision, what I know to be
true from the people that weworked with, from the people
that I've coached to my own lifeand watching my daughter's life
and my wife as well, is thatthe small decisions stacked over
time will completely change thegame for you.
So, my friends, hope you gotsome value out of it and I'll
(13:05):
come back to you again next week.
Peace.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Thank you for listening to the Nexus podcast
with your host, Dr DanielKimbley.
If you're interested inreceiving more information about
optimizing your brain andnervous system, check out our
website atwwwNexusFamilyChiropracticcom.
Are you a high-performing parent,
entrepreneur, or high-achieverin pursuit of excellence?
Welcome to the Nexus Podcast, apodcast custom-tailored for
families like ours Driven,affluent and eager to lead
extraordinary lives, fromrockstar stay-at-home moms to
high-producing CEOs.
We choose to model success foreveryone we are surrounded by.
We prioritize health oversickness, embrace a vitalistic
lifestyle and seek to tap intothe limitless potential that God
(00:25):
has bestowed upon us.
I'm Dr Daniel Kimble, your host, and on this podcast, we'll
uncover the secrets to living afulfilling and abundant life
where you and your loved onescan thrive physically, mentally
and spiritually.
Together, we'll forge a path togreatness and unleash your
God-given capabilities.
Get ready to say yes to a lifeof true prosperity and
well-being.
This is the Nexus Podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
What up, Nexus fam?
I'm Coco, this is the NexusPodcast and my dad is your host,
Dr Daniel Kimblee, and I hearthim Happy listening.
Dr. Daniel (01:14):
What is up?
Nexus, fam, it is Dr Daniel,back with another episode of the
podcast, and this one looks alittle different.
I'm back in the home officerecording, but neither here nor
there.
What I want to talk about todayis the idea of good decisions
and bad decisions, and you know,I woke up probably in the
middle of the night last night.
So this is fresh, like when youhear this episode, this will be
(01:35):
less than a week old.
I woke up in the middle of thenight last night and I was
thinking about this idea ofobedience and I didn't really
feel like it was my position totalk about obedience from a God
perspective for this episode,necessarily on this episode of
the podcast.
But I'm laying there and I'mthinking like there's got to be
something valuable here that Icould share.
(01:58):
And as I thought more aboutobedience, I really just thought
about the idea of making gooddecisions and one of the things
that I often tell people insideof our office, that I talk to on
pretty much a daily basis,especially moms.
You know like I have a lot offamilies who will ask hey, what
do you think about antibiotics,or what do you think about
vaccines, or what do you thinkabout giving my kid melatonin,
(02:21):
or what do you think aboutgiving my kid vitamin D, or what
do you think I should do for myknee, and what this doctor told
me versus what this otherdoctor told me versus what this
other doctor told me.
So I get all these questionsand sometimes it's difficult to
sift through and I can't imaginehow difficult it must be really
(02:41):
for a family to like sit If youdon't, if you don't have a
compass.
Um, like, one of the one of thecore values for my family
Heather, coco and I is vitalism,and we actually use that inside
of the office to vitalism justmeaning that the body is self
healing, self-regulating andself-maintaining.
And so I I bring that upbecause when you have a compass,
(03:03):
it makes it really easy to makegood decisions.
But when you don't have acompass, if you don't have core
values, if you don't know whatyou stand for, it can make it
very, very difficult to makegood decisions.
And so one of the things kindof a hack or a cheat code, if
you will to making gooddecisions I always tell people
is like just listen to yourintuition.
Now, I would call intuitionHoly Spirit and being guided by
(03:27):
literally what God is like,trying to pull you or get you to
do.
But whatever you call it, Ithink intuition is probably a
good, good word that everybodycan understand and agree with.
And so you know, I always,often tell moms I'm like, hey,
what do you think you should do,like, what do you feel like the
right decision is?
This doctor told you to do X, y, z, but what do you feel like
(03:48):
is the right thing to do in yourheart?
And oftentimes that answer thatpeople will give is different
than what the doctor or theexpert or the guru or whatever
told them.
So I struggle with this, likequite a bit throughout my life
and that's why I feel like Ihave some authority to talk
about it.
So I'll give you an example ofexactly what I'm talking about
(04:08):
and this idea of good decisions.
So when I was in undergrad, Iworked at an oil change shop and
so I like, literally I was thepit guy, so I worked down below
the cars, I would pull the oilplug, I would change the oil
filter, I would let them knowwhen it was ready to fill the
car back up with oil, and I wasgreasy and oily and in this dark
(04:28):
basement like most of the day,four days a week, 10 hour days,
and I absolutely loved it.
And I got so good at it and Iloved it so much that I just
wanted to be the assistantmanager at the oil change shop.
That was like my.
That would be me arriving atthe ultimate destination in my
life.
And so much so that even when Istarted that job, when I was in
(04:50):
high school and I rememberbefore undergrad, I tell my dad
I'm like, dad, listen, like I'mgoing to have a 401k, I'm going
to have the things that mymanager has a house and a car
and a motorcycle, that mymanager has a house and a car
and a motorcycle and I'm goingto have a key to the shop and
like I'll be rolling, like I'llbe doing it, I'm going to make
(05:11):
10 bucks an hour, it's going tobe epic and I'm going to do that
for the rest of my life andI'll be set Bad decision.
My dad knew it was a baddecision.
I did not.
I thought it was like theultimate decision.
And you know, if you work oncars like, that's not, that's
not the point, right.
The point is that my dadunderstood that like, hey, you
being like an assistant managerat the oil chain shop, uh, is
probably not going to get youwhat you want in life forever.
(05:35):
And you're young and you'redumb and you're in high school
and just like, listen to me.
So my dad literally made me, heforced me to go to college.
So I thought I was smarter thanhim and I'm like dad, okay, I
got you.
You're saying I got to go tocollege.
I can't be the assistantmanager at the oil change shop,
I can't take this job.
So I'm going to, I'm going toapply to one college and I'm
(05:55):
going to hope that I don't getaccepted.
And when I don't get accepted,then that will be my out to just
do what I wanted to do, whichwas be the assistant manager of
the oil chain shop.
And wouldn't you know that Godhad different plans for me?
And I got accepted and my plancompletely backfired.
Good decision.
So it was a really, really gooddecision to listen to my dad.
(06:15):
It was a really, really gooddecision to go all in on what I,
what I ultimately would nothave done, and it led me here.
And that's what's so funnyabout it is like how many times
have you made a decision thatyou felt like was going to be
the right decision and then,looking back on it, you're like
(06:35):
I'm so glad it didn't go thatway, and I think this is kind of
what we're talking about.
And so what I tell these mamasis I'm like you're.
Nobody has ever, like in thehistory of the world, ever.
I don't think anyone has eversaid I wish I didn't listen to
my intuition, like I wish Iwouldn't have listened to what
my gut was telling me to do.
I wish I wouldn't have listenedto what my heart was telling me
(06:58):
to do.
And the reason that peopledon't do that is because there's
something to our intuition andmaking good decisions.
So, you know, I go to college, Istart to learn a whole bunch
about success and about thebrain and about how people are
successful and what makessomebody successful, and I get
super, super passionate about itand what makes somebody
(07:22):
successful, and I get super,super passionate about it.
And I find myself at thiscrossroads of teaching and,
while I won't give you all thedetails, I can remember being at
someone's house and I wasoffered some drugs that were
very, very hard.
This was a dark place in mylife, like one of the darkest
places in my life and I don'tknow how many people know this
story.
It's very, very few, but Iwon't give you all the details
(07:44):
of it.
But what I will tell you isthat I had a moment where, even
though I got to become a teacher, I was offered these drugs and
my decision was no, I'm notgoing to do that.
My decision was no, I'm notgoing to do that.
(08:05):
And that decision led to megoing to chiropractic school.
So again, another good decision.
Why, I have no idea, like Iwould, everything in my heart
wanted to pull me in theopposite direction.
I say, everything in my logicalbrain wanted me to pull me in
the opposite direction, butsomething in my heart was just
like no, you need to leave rightnow.
And I left and ended up goingto chiropractic school, leaving
all the old life behind and likeliterally started over.
(08:27):
So again, another good decision.
Um, everybody told us it was aterrible idea to move to Dana
point, california, to start abusiness on your own.
Um, plus the, how much money wehave borrowed from the
government to go throughchiropractic school.
There's a lot in it.
And again, one of arguably oneof the best decisions I could
have possibly ever made in myentire life.
(08:49):
So here's why I share this withyou is because we all know
inherently what's right, like,talk to anybody, Um, I can give
you my dad, for an example.
I'm like, dad, you got to quitsmoking, like, and I would tell
that.
I remember, like my brother andI made a deal with him.
We're like, dad, listen, we'llpaint the whole house for you,
but you got to promise that youwon't smoke inside anymore, and
(09:11):
we thought that would get him toquit smoking.
And he's like nope, he juststarted, he just kept smoking,
but smoked outside and hehonored it, which is super cool,
but he never quit smoking.
And so, like, we would tell himall the time it's like, dad,
you got to quit smoking.
It says literally, it saysright on the box that it'll
cause cancer.
And still, I love him so much,miss him so much, he continued
to smoke.
And so I think the reason thatthis matters and the reason I
(09:34):
shared those stories with you isbecause we all know what's
right and what's wrong.
We all know what a gooddecision is and what a bad
decision is, and yet, for somereason, we make choices that
keep us stuck and keep us fromgoing to where we say that we
(09:55):
want to go.
And my question is why, like?
Why does that happen?
And I think for me, the reasonthat I made decisions that
didn't necessarily line up withwhat I said I wanted in my life,
in the beginning of my life,and obviously I made some good
decisions to get to where I am,and it was one small decision
(10:15):
stacked on top of another smalldecision stacked on top of
another small decision.
That were good decisions,moving me in the right direction
.
But I think a lot of times wemake bad decisions because we're
afraid of what ourresponsibility will be if we
make a good decision.
And I see this with so manypeople inside of our office
(10:36):
where, you know, we sit down andwe talk about hey, what do you
have going on and how long hasit been going on?
And the reality is is like mostpeople struggle, most people
suffer, and that becomes a partof their identity and they don't
(10:57):
want to let it go.
And they don't want to let itgo because it's going to require
them to show up differently inthe world and they don't have
the tools to deal with it.
And my encouragement for you onthis episode is simple.
It's really, really simple.
It's like what can you do tostart to tune into what your gut
, what your heart, is tellingyou?
(11:17):
What can you do to start toexpress more passion and more
purpose and more excitement andfulfillment inside of your life?
Because, ultimately, all of uswere designed to be successful
Like I know this to be truethrough all the research, the
research on the hiddencurriculum and the research on
the brain and the research onstress and the research on
adverse childhood experiences itall leads back to the same idea
(11:38):
that we are designed to besuper successful and the only
thing that holds us back fromthat is making good decisions.
So my question for you is likewhere are you not making good
decisions?
And it's not, it's not the bigones that matter, it's really
the small ones, right?
It's a small one.
For me, it was a small one tosay no.
For me, it was a small one tosay like, yes, dad, okay, I will
(12:01):
apply to college just toappease you.
For me, it was a small one tosay, yes, I'm going to go to
chiropractic school.
For me, it was the small one totell my daughter, no, she can't
climb on that thing, because itwas going to keep her safe and
protected.
And it's the small decisionsthat add up over time that
ultimately allow us to be what Iwould argue ultimately
(12:23):
successful.
So where's inside of your lifeare you making decisions that
may or may not be leading you tosuccess?
And what is one small?
It's not a big one, it's justone.
What's the one small decisionyou could make today that may
alter the trajectory ofeverywhere you go forever from
now on?
(12:43):
And when you stack that onesmall decision with another
small decision and another smalldecision, what I know to be
true from the people that weworked with, from the people
that I've coached to my own lifeand watching my daughter's life
and my wife as well, is thatthe small decisions stacked over
time will completely change thegame for you.
So, my friends, hope you gotsome value out of it and I'll
(13:05):
come back to you again next week.
Peace.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Thank you for listening to the Nexus podcast
with your host, Dr DanielKimbley.
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