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July 16, 2025 34 mins

Christy and Marti shine a compassionate light on the fawning response. The people-pleasing survival strategy so many of us adopted to stay safe, loved, or invisible in childhood.

They explore how fawning shows up in the body, in relationships, and in the nervous system — not as a flaw, but as an intelligent adaptation. You'll hear powerful metaphors (like leaky houses and water buckets) that explain why we become hypervigilant caretakers, constantly tending to others' emotions while forgetting our own.

This isn't a conversation about fixing yourself. It's about reclaiming choice, honoring the part of you that learned to please to survive, and gently stepping into the adult Sovereign who can care for the inner child with clarity, grace, and love.

Key Points:

  • What the fawn response is — and why it's often misunderstood
  • The difference between authentic care and hypervigilant over-giving
  • "Leaks in the house" as a metaphor for emotional boundary overwhelm
  • The importance of observing your response instead of reacting automatically
  • Why there's no imaginary finish line in healing, and why that's a good thing
  • The role of the Child Archetype (invisibility, no choice, powerlessness)
  • How the Sovereign Archetype can lovingly re-parent the inner child
  • A reminder to acknowledge small wins, because progress is sacred
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