Have you ever felt ashamed of a habit you couldn’t control?
In this episode of The OCD Whisperer Podcast, Kristina Orlova speaks with Aneela Idnani, co-founder of HabitAware and mental health advocate. Aneela opens up about living with trichotillomania (hair pulling disorder), how shame kept her silent for decades, and how awareness and acceptance transformed her recovery journey.
Aneela shares:
• Her early experiences with hair pulling and intrusive thoughts
• The hidden shame and secrecy that fueled her struggle for 20+ years
• How pregnancy and stress intensified her compulsions
• The turning point—finally opening up to her husband and seeking help
• How HabitAware’s Keen Smart Bracelet helps build awareness and break the cycle
This conversation also dives into:
• Why awareness is the first step to any lasting change
• The role of self-care, mindfulness, and acceptance in recovery
• How shifting perspective can turn struggle into strength
• The importance of removing shame and embracing your full self
Whether you’re navigating OCD, BFRBs (Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors), or supporting someone who is, this episode offers hope, tools, and strategies for healing.
📲About Aneela Idnani (guest):
- Co-founder of HabitAware
- Long-time lived experience: pulled hair since adolescence; integrated intrusive thoughts and self-soothing behaviors into her journey
- HabitAware: habitaware.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aneelaidnani
✂️ TIMESTAMPS:
[00:30] Aneela’s Untold Story
[01:39] When Hair Pulling First Began—and Why No One Saw It
[03:46] Living in Silence: The Hidden Shame No One Talks About
[06:11] The Moment Everything Changed—Her Husband Finds Out
[07:33] From Struggle to Solution: How HabitAware Was Born
[11:01] The Game-Changer: Turning Awareness Into Freedom
[14:18] ADHD, Intrusive Thoughts & The Spiral of Self-Criticism
[15:55] Shutting Down the Inner Bully: Mindfulness That Works
[20:47] From Self-Hate to Self-Grace: Reframing the Struggle
[24:43] Losing It All, Finding Meaning: Processing Grief Differently
[26:47] Want to Heal? Here’s How to Reach Aneela & HabitAware
✅ Free Resources & Links
- 🎁 Free OCD Survival Kit & Classes → www.shorturl.at/KcTxM
- 📖 OCD CBT Journal → www.shorturl.at/7pUxB
- 🌐 Website → www.korresults.com/
- ✍️ OCD Academy→ www.ocdacademy.thinkific.com/
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✅ About OCD Whisperer
Welcome to OCD Whisperer! Each episode shares tools and insights for OCD recovery, managing intrusive thoughts, ERP therapy, CBT techniques, anxiety relief, and mindfulness practices. Join me for expert interviews and personal insights into overcoming OCD. Subscribe to find support, strategies, and hope for your OCD journey.
⚠️ Disclaimer: Please note while the host is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in OCD and anxiety disorders in the state of California, this podcast is for educational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for therapy.
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