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Unpredictable moments can redefine our outlook on life in profound ways. This episode of the Only Child Diaries features two riveting narratives, both laced with lessons on resilience and the importance of community. I reflect on a recent visit to a nursery devastated by fire, confronting the stark realities of loss and the slow journey toward recovery. You’ll hear how witnessing the aftermath in person created a wave of empathy within me. 

Switching gears, I recount a chaotic memory from an Oscar night when the mundane duties of my retail job turned surreal as robbers attempted a daring heist in the jewelry department. The adrenaline, the sense of vulnerability, and the quick decisions we make in the face of fear compel the listener to consider their own experiences with chaos and courage. Life may not always go to plan, but resilience shines through unpredictability. 

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Tracy (00:00):
And so I assumed that it was a bullet right.
Welcome to the Only ChildDiaries podcast.
I'm your host, Tracy Wallace.
Have you ever felt like youdidn't receive the how-to
brochure on life, that youdidn't get enough guidance about
major life issues?

(00:21):
So did I.
You don't have to be an onlychild to feel this way.
In my podcast we'll exploresome of the best ways to better
navigate adulting, while doingso with humor and light.
Welcome everyone to the OnlyChild Diaries podcast podcast.

(00:50):
Today I'm going to tell you oneof my Oscar night stories.
I might have told you before,but it's worth repeating and I'm
also going to tell you about myfirsthand account of driving

(01:12):
into one of the fire areas here,altadena.
Let me start with that, becauseit's one of the more empathetic
, sadder things, and then I'llend on a high note.
So yesterday I wanted to go tothis plant nursery that's up in
altadena.
It had suffered some firedamage.

(01:34):
I had heard and I always wantedto go there because it
specializes in camellias and andazaleas, of which I'm very fond
of.
We have a lot of shade on ourproperty here and I had heard
that at first they had sufferedsome loss.

(01:56):
I had never been there before,by the way, but I'd heard that
they were kind of the premiernursery for camellias.
They were kind of the premiernursery for camellias, having a
lot of specialized floweringplants that they had created,
propagated themselves.
So I was very interested inthat, because in the local

(02:16):
nurseries here it's very easy tofind a white blooming camellia
or a red blooming camellia, butsomething that is like a
two-toned or a striped or pinkand white or something harder to
find.
So I wanted to go there and Ialso wanted to support a

(02:38):
business that had obviouslysuffered some loss.
So I decided to go there.
Saturday is one of the daysthat they're open they're not
open every day and I knew againthat they had suffered some loss
and so I expected to see someof the fire damage in the area.

(03:00):
I drove up, got off the freewayand was driving along and I
guess, when I think about myreaction, I feel like I was kind
of naive in how I was going toreact Because of course, like so
many of us, I've seen thepictures, the film on TV, on the

(03:24):
news, and so I know exactlywhat it was going to be.
But as I drove up I saw someneighborhoods, some blocks, some
businesses that were open,untouched.
And then I kept going and I sawone lot that was burned, in the
middle of things that were notburned burned down cars, et

(03:49):
cetera on that lot.
And then I kept going and thenit started and there would be a
block on this main street thatwas all burned, except maybe one
house, which is so odd.
And then I would look to myright, towards the east, and

(04:10):
everything was gone.
I mean, everything was burnt,everything was just mass
destruction.
And as I proceeded north intoAltadena, towards the mountains,
I continued to see more andmore destruction.
And I, you know, again, I'm anempath kind of person, but I was

(04:36):
really overwhelmed by what Isaw.
I mean, seeing it in person,seeing it close up, was very
impactful to me.
And driving by some of the lotswhere there were people
standing on what used to betheir home, and just seeing the

(05:04):
washed out, the burnt out, theremnants of these homes, it was
a lot and I just felt like Iwanted to just pull over, sit in
my car for like an hour andjust bawl my eyes out.
I mean so much worse, so muchworse than I expected.

(05:29):
So it's devastating.
And then, if you looked, if you.
You know, if I look to the east, it just it's just as far as I
could see.
So anyway, I kept, I kept goingnorth to find the nursery, where

(06:02):
there I guess it was likedrainage channels in the
mountain, there, the foothillsof the mountain, and there were
tractors and things that theyhad, I guess, scraped the dirt
and the mud.
But then you were competing onthis little tiny street for the
dump trucks.
I pulled into the parking lotof the nursery and the dump

(06:23):
trucks were just continuallygoing back and forth, back and
forth from this burnt outmountain, the hillside there,
hillside there.
Don't know exactly wherethey're going, but I can assume
that they're just pulling offthe dirt, scraping the dirt from
the foothills and then takingit somewhere.

(06:43):
So, anyway, pulled into theparking lot of the nursery and
composed myself and said well,tracy, you just got to pull it
together and started walkingthrough the nursery.

(07:03):
And I'm talking about this isnot just like your little
neighborhood nursery, this islike acres and acres of plants
that they have just all sorts ofcolors, camellias, azaleas, all
sorts of just.
I mean, as far as you can see,the public area and then the

(07:25):
staff only area and they don'twant you to touch anything
yourself because they want thestaff to tag it for you and put
it aside and then bring it tothe front.
So I had to wait and I waswandering around and there's
this area in the middle of theproperty that was a grove of

(07:50):
maybe 20 palm trees and theywere burnt, but surrounded by
the nursery plants, and so Itook a picture of that and I'll
share that on social media, andalso the northern part of the
property was burnt.
I understand that they did losea significant amount of plants

(08:11):
that were in the fire and someof the outbuildings that they
had.
So anyway, but business asusual, and very grateful to
support, be able to support thiswonderful place that had just
these absolutely stupendousspecimens of camellias and

(08:33):
azaleas.
So anyway, that was that,camellias and azaleas.
So anyway, that was that.
And I've continued to meetseveral people who have lost
their homes and they've movedinto our town, our city, renting
a home, renting an apartment,and kind of blown away by how

(08:56):
they're coping and how justthey're getting on with life.
And I know they've had darkdays, I mean I can only imagine
but they're moving on and atleast seemingly right.
They're moving on and they'redoing what they have to do.

(09:18):
So there's a lot more to sayabout that, but that was a
little snippet of my experiencethis weekend.
Anyway, today is the Oscars,and for me the Oscars have
always been watching.
The Academy Awards has alwaysbeen a very celebratory event.

(09:40):
I've always enjoyed it.
I've always loved watchingmovies, and so I've enjoyed
seeing the celebrity, thedresses and the political
statements and the comedy andthe mishaps that they have.
One year.
I just want to tell you mystory.

(10:00):
So one year now.
This was back when I was incollege.
I was working retail at the MayCompany and for those of you
that are too young to rememberthe May Company or maybe you're
not from this area or the UnitedStates the May Company was a

(10:21):
department store back in the daywhen department stores were
very popular and it was all overthe Southern California area.
I'm not sure where else it wasbesides our area area.

(10:42):
I'm not sure where else it wasbesides our area, but the May
Company, mayco was kind ofmid-range.
They ended up being absorbedinto Macy's.
Macy's bought them out and Iworked there part-time in
college.
I was a salesperson.
I started out as a floaterbecause they didn't really
necessarily have a departmentfor me.

(11:02):
So I was a floater for aboutsix months, which was
interesting.
Sometimes it was frighteningbecause if I was in a department
where I knew the stuff, if Iknew like, clothes are easy, you
got a tag, you ring it up, youtake the cash, you process the

(11:22):
card, you're all set, it's easy.
But in some of the departments,like housewares, you know, I I
didn't know about housewares.
My nightmare department wasChina, because nothing ever had
a tag on it.
Most of the stuff had to beordered.

(11:43):
People would go, oh, can Iorder this pattern?
Or, you know, I've got theregistry I want to put this.
I'd be like I have no.
I'd always have to go and gethelp and they'd always say, oh,
you're doing a great job.
And I'd be like I have no ideawhat I'm doing.
And they'd never put me incosmetics.

(12:04):
They'd never put me in shoesand they'd never put me in men's
suits, because those were allcommissionaries.
Oh, and fine jewelry.
But the other nightmaredepartment was candy, because if
somebody was buying a box ofcandy, that was fine, but a lot
of people would buy the bulk,you know candy.

(12:24):
They'd come up and they'd say Iwant a quarter pound of that,
or you know, and then you'd haveto weigh it, which was always a
little iffy.
Anyway, I can tell you that itjust didn't seem like a very
sanitary kind of purchasingexperience.
And then you'd have to figureout what the code was, because

(12:47):
the candy didn't have a code onit.
This was before barcodes I'mdating myself but way before
barcodes and so that was alwayslike, ooh, don't put me in candy
.
And I never knew where I wasgoing to go until I got to work.
So I couldn't mentally prepare.
Anyway, so this one night wasOscar night.

(13:10):
This is when the Oscars used tobe on Monday night, and you
would know because nobody wouldbe in the store on Oscar night.
Nobody went anywhere.
This is before things werestreamed.
So if you wanted to see theOscars you had to be at home
watching the TV.

(13:31):
So after I was a floater, Iworked in Mike's place that's
what they called it.
It was like the kind of youngmen's, contemporary men's
clothing, casual clothingsection, and I worked there for
quite a while before I went intowomen's shoes and I was at the
register and there's, like Isaid, there's hardly anybody in

(13:54):
the store and I heard thispopping sound from across the
store, way across the store, andI looked and I saw this
commotion and all this activityand I heard people yelling and
this was over in the directionof the fine jewelry department.

(14:15):
And so I was standing there andI heard something whiz by me in
the air, just whiz right by myear, and I instantly ducked and
I fell down to the floor andthen I heard something hit the

(14:39):
wall next to me.
And then I heard something hitthe wall next to me and my
friend, who's still my friend,craig my friend at the time
worked over across the way inmen's suits and he loves to tell
the story about how he heardthis going on.
He saw it and he looked over atme and he saw this flash of

(14:59):
blonde hair falling, saw thisflash of blonde hair falling.
My hair kind of went up becauseI fell down so fast.
My hair went up and flew up andhe sort of laughs about it, and
so I assumed that it was abullet right and it turned out
that, yes, some people had comein to rob the fine jewelry

(15:23):
department.
They had brought insledgehammers and they went to
the glass and they startedtrying to break the glass.
They grabbed some jewelry andthere had been an off-duty
police officer in the areabeyond that, in women's shoes,
and he had pulled out his gunand shot at, hello, shot at one

(15:51):
of the robbers, and the bullet,you know, had come right.
So when the police arrived andall this commotion and everyone
was freaking out, and no, theydidn't close the store to
customers, which you'd thinkthat they would have done.
And I told one of thesupervisors, I said I think the
story.

(16:11):
And I said, look, this is whathappened.
And I heard it and it hit thewall.
And they said, oh, no, thatcouldn't, that couldn't have
happened.

(16:31):
And I said, well, I heard it.
And then I heard something hitthe wall and they said no, no,
no, they couldn't, it couldn'thave gone that far, that's I
mean, it was, it was way acrossthe store.
And they said, no, it couldnever have happened.
And I said, well, I heard ithit the wall, just go look.

(16:52):
And so the police officer wentover and looked and, sure enough
, yes, there was a bullet.
It hadn't had enough force toactually go in the wall.
It had hit the wall and fallento the floor because the wall at
that part was like a brick.

(17:12):
So I guess it would have had tohave more inertia.
Is that physics?
I'm not sure it would have hadto have more inertia at that
point to go in.
Anyway, they did find the bullet.
I was right.
I told you there was a bullet.
It went past my head.
I heard it.

(17:33):
I know what I heard.
It wasn't a fly, it was abullet.
Anyway, that is my Oscar nightstory.
Anyway, I'm just glad that itdidn't have more inertia going
past me.
It didn't hit me.
That would have been reallyscary, I mean, if it had hit my

(17:58):
head or something or any part ofmy body, but that would have
been a worker's comp claim forsure.
And then there was some timelater when I was in the women's
shoe department, which wasacross from fine jewelry and it
was very busy, it was an Oscarnight and some other people came
in to rob the fine jewelrydepartment and I didn't hesitate

(18:22):
.
Once I saw that there was somecommotion, I just immediately
dropped behind the counter.
I wasn't going to take anychances.
Not that the counter would havesaved me, but it would have at
least provided some barrier tome and any kind of bullet.
So, yeah, so that's it.

(18:43):
So I hope that everyone has hada good week.
It's now March, which is hard tobelieve March 2025.
And next week, well, we'regoing to tackle another topic
together.
I hope you'll join me.
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