March 23, 2025 • 38 mins
Meet Tino and Erika, the dynamic duo behind The Other Half podcast, as they dive into what makes their eight-year marriage work despite their horoscopes suggesting otherwise. Their contrasting energies—Tino's go-getter attitude versus Erika's need for downtime—create both harmony and tension that many couples will recognize in their own relationships.
The conversation takes an unexpectedly vulnerable turn as Erika reflects on her recent struggles with what might be depression, sharing how she's gradually withdrawn from social connections and finds even simple tasks exhausting. "I used to be fun," she confesses, expressing a desire to rediscover that side of herself. This raw admission opens up a thoughtful discussion about mental health and how life changes affect our wellbeing.
Their story of moving to Arizona with nothing but "ramen noodles and four frozen pizzas" reveals their courage to start fresh, contrasting with the comfort of staying near family that keeps many people from pursuing new opportunities. Now raising teenagers while juggling work and personal aspirations, they navigate the challenges of maintaining connection amid busy schedules.
The podcast touches on several universal themes: finding balance between work and rest, sustaining intimacy in long-term relationships, managing different personality types, and recognizing when isolation might signal something deeper than just "me time." Their conversation weaves between lighthearted banter and profound insights about marriage, parenting, and personal growth.
Whether you're navigating relationship dynamics, struggling with motivation, or simply curious about how other couples make it work, this authentic conversation offers both comfort and perspective. Subscribe now to join Tino and Erika every Sunday or Monday as they continue to explore life from both sides of the narrative.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Erica was trying to check our horoscopes when we
first got together.
She said we're not compatible,we're not and I'm starting to
believe that.
And it's kind of rude.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
No, it is true, though, and I don't appreciate
it.
It's true.
I can't believe people don'tbelieve in that.
It's very true, you don't thinkwe're compatible.
All right guys.
So I'm Erica.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
And this is.
This is who am I.
This is Tino.
You already know Tino Cruz.
They call me.
You feel me In the streets.
They call me Cruz.
I mean in a barbershop in thestreets.
They call me Tino.
You know, everybody know me.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Yeah, this is the other half podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
So, Mm-hmm.
How's it going?
Speaker 1 (00:48):
It's good.
It's good.
How's your day?
Speaker 2 (00:51):
It's going.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
How's life lately?
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Exhausting.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Why is it?
Exhausting Because I'm alwaysexhausted because I'm getting
older, all right, this is ourfirst episode, so I wanted to
ask you what does the other halfmean to you exactly?
Speaker 2 (01:09):
I think it's supposed to be the other person's
perspective.
So my perspective versus yourperspective on certain topics.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Okay, Okay, Okay.
Well, to me, I mean, I guessthe name of our podcast means of
course I'm doing it with myother half.
So they say, but to me it'smore like the other half,
meaning the other side of thenarrative.
Like somebody puts out anarrative on you or whatever the
case may be, there might be astory out there.
(01:41):
This is your chance to tellyour side.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
The other half.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
That's deep, that's deep.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Yeah, you hear my hands, they ashy.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
We're going to get into our icebreaker segment.
I'm going to have you do this,since you picked this card.
I don't know what this is atall.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
So I just randomly pulled it.
It's the topic is dating At.
It's the topic is dating At.
What point do you have the?
So what are we talk?
Speaker 1 (02:07):
At what point, I don't know.
That's weird.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
I thought about when we first dated and when I pulled
it.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
When did you pull it?
Speaker 2 (02:17):
What?
When did you pull it?
Speaker 1 (02:21):
When did I pull the.
I mean you're talking about thecard.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
I mean when did you?
Speaker 1 (02:23):
ask me, and why.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
I didn't ask you.
You asked me.
That's why I thought about it,did I?
Speaker 1 (02:29):
I don't remember and I said I don't remember, yeah, I
know it.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
I remember the conversation.
It was through text and youasked me basically so what are
we?
And I said said you know whatthis is?
What does that even mean?
Because we were just friendsand I didn't know what we were
and I didn't know if we weregonna actually be something.
So it felt safe to just saywe're friends, but we're talking
(02:59):
dang, I don't remember whatabout you.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
I don't remember that , I don't know when.
When to pull that, that's, Iguess, when it gets more serious
but when does it become moreserious?
Speaker 2 (03:15):
the second date, the third date when you start
catching them.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Serious feelings if you know, you know.
But if it's a, it's a weirdtopic, because what is what if
the other person doesn't feelthe way you feel?
Speaker 2 (03:30):
yeah, or like in our, our instance, I feel like I
wasn't ready, but I liked you,but I wasn't ready to y'all hear
that say yeah, we're a thing,or yeah, we're dating.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
That's, I don't know.
That's tough because you knowwe haven't dated, we haven't, I
guess, not been married in along time.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
So I don't know.
So it's hard to talk aboutanything pertaining to dating.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
I mean, it's not hard .
But with dating, for me it wasalways like I felt like I always
liked the other person more.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
And with you it was like you didn't.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Yeah, it was like yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
No, because I liked you more.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
I know.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
And quickly.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
I mean, who wouldn't, though, you know?
So yeah, so, your answer iswhen things get serious.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
I feel like it's when you start talking about your
goals together and when youstart asking serious questions
and you start seeing each othermore, and then it's when you
start if you're not a title, youstart talking to other more.
And then it's when you start,if you're not a title, you start
talking to other people.
And then you want to know whatare we because?
Speaker 1 (04:52):
I feel like the jealousy, but I feel like in a
relationship that should be likea I'm not talking to anyone
else but you or these are myintentions yeah, but that's.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
That's what the question is I guess, when do you
decide?
Speaker 1 (05:09):
I don't know, I guess I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Everyone has a different perception of it.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
I feel like yeah, that makes sense.
So what are your goals for thisyear?
Your goals for this year.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
I'm not very proud of myself.
I feel like my goals should bewell.
Honestly, I think for me it'smore of finding a balance
between wanting my own me time,being productive, fitting it in
(05:43):
with mom, wife, work life.
That is my goal, because I cannever seem to like balance it
out.
I always feel like I'moverwhelmed, no matter what.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
So find a balance.
Find a balance, that'simportant.
And I need to hang out withpeople more.
You don't have many friends.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
I know, but I keep getting invited to brunches so I
need to just show up becausethe hardest part is showing up.
I don't know if anybody canrelate, but it's hard to show up
.
Then once I'm there and I leave, that I'm glad I went, but
getting out the house is thehardest part.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Facts facts show up.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Yeah, because you're outgoing.
You like to be busy.
I wasn't always like that.
Well then, what made you likethat?
Speaker 1 (06:31):
I don't know being an adult Now.
I have to speak to people everyday.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Your job.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Yeah, yeah, that's facts.
My job made me like that.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Yeah, I feel like I'm going to have to be like that,
since that's what I'm going tobe doing, because I will be a
waxer, so I do have to haverelationships, but Avery knows
I'm not a.
I don't really like to have alot of what is it Like?
I'm not a people person.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
Yeah, you got to get out of that, ma'am.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
I like to be by myself In this industry.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
You got to get out of that, ma'am.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
I know so.
Yeah, that's one of my goalstoo.
Just get out more, hang outwith my friends.
Yeah.
Just not being so isolated allthe time yeah makes sense what
about you?
Speaker 1 (07:27):
my goals this year are to honestly, I feel like
I've done a lot.
I feel like my goals are to getyou where you want to be,
because I've done a lot in myyou know, in my time on this
earth.
There's not much that I wantmore.
(07:49):
You know what I mean.
So I feel like I've done enoughto where I'm happy where I'm at
.
So I want you to be happy whereyou are.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Yeah, which I've already taken steps.
Yep, I was just talking to myfriend about it.
She said you sound a lothappier when I send my voice
text.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
And I said honestly I think it's because I left a
place that I was not happy infor so long and I feel like I
was bringing it home and thataffected a lot.
So I feel like 2024 was like arough, rough year for me, and
now that I'm not there anymoreand I feel like I'm happier
where I'm at now, I feel likeI'm just working on.
(08:31):
Ok, now what?
How can I?
I do need to get out more.
I do need to do things.
I need to stop just staying inmy room.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
Facts, facts.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Because you know how I am, even this is a lot for me.
It's the getting to it.
That's the hardest part for me,but then, once I'm in it, I'm
good.
So yeah, I have a lot that Istill need to do, but I just I'm
a big procrastinator.
That's my problem.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
Facts.
So what made you want to starta podcast?
Speaker 2 (09:07):
Because everyone always tells me I should start
one.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
That's not a reason, that is not a reason?
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Yes, because I always have a lot of.
I always have like thoughts onthings, I always have my
opinions and I feel like I helpa lot of people when I tell them
like thoughts on things.
I always have my opinions and Ifeel like I help a lot of
people when I tell them like mystory or if I tell them things
I've been through.
I think the one thing for surewhy I wanted to start one was to
talk about like my stuff thatI've been through that I'm sure
(09:34):
other people can relate, ormaybe if they've never been
through it, but it kind of makesthem look at life differently
because of all that I've beenthrough.
I think that's what my goal is,yeah that makes sense and a
podcast.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
That makes sense, makes sense.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Why do you want to do a podcast?
Speaker 1 (09:53):
I just like being on camera talking to people.
You know, the reason I starteda podcast in the first place was
because one day we're not goingto be here and I have to leave
something for my children.
That is the number one thing.
Number two is I just, I mean, Ienjoy it.
Yeah, like now that I've putmusic down, it's, it's the next
(10:17):
thing that I enjoy the nextthing that you're doing.
Yeah, I do a lot of stuff,though I do too much stuff.
I get confused.
I do YouTube Twitch stream,gaming podcast, cut hair, all
that.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
Mm-hmm, I don't know how you do it.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
And it's very organized.
I know I don't know how you doit, and it's very organized.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
I know, I don't know how you do that.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
So if you guys don't know, Erica's not organized.
No, I'm not, she doesn't have aroutine, all that stuff.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Okay, and everyone says, like, make a.
You know what I have done.
Better, though, is I've madelittle alarms for me.
That says, like, like, I'vebeen little alarms for me.
That says, like, like, I'vebeen reading what.
I have the audio for the Bible.
That was important to me.
Every time I go to church andthey say you need to be in the
word, so I have the audio.
Because I'm not a reader, so Idon't.
It's like what do I like to do?
(11:10):
I don't like to read.
I don't like to be aroundpeople At.
I used to, but we talked aboutthis last night.
I just I'm not like thatanymore, and I'm trying to get
myself back to that person thatI used to be, where I used to be
fun.
I used to like to go out, and II mean not go out out, but like
to be around people.
I used to have a lot of friends, and then I feel like I just I
(11:37):
think life took over too.
Life has just been reallystressful, so I just yeah, we
talked about this.
I could be in a slump.
I'm trying to get out.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
Facts.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
I think Erica's depressed.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Low key.
You're depressed bro.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
And I just realized that yesterday, when I was
talking to you, I'm like, maybeI am depressed because I just
don't like who sits in the darkon their phone that's the only
light you have.
That's crazy and I'm happythough, but I'm happy, that's my
me time.
You know how like yours is inthe bathroom just sitting.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
My room in the bathroom, ain't no kids exactly
why, yeah, I can have my phoneon yeah, all that.
Well, that's me in the bed yeah, but you, you'll be laying
there all day because maybe I'mdepressed no, you need to get
out of that.
Oh, one of my goals is to to goback to church consistently
(12:37):
yeah, I don't.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
I don't like that.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
We missed the last two days I feel like we've
missed more than I'd like but Ifeel like life's been better
since we've been going to church.
I've been mentally better, um,I stress less, I worry less.
Um, I guess I think about stuffless and I just go with the
flow, you know.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
It's the spirit.
Be like that sometimes it'strue though, hey God, my bad bro
.
That is true.
Yeah, I don't like that.
We've missed the last coupledays.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
But honestly it could Couple Sundays, not couple days
.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Well, I mean the last two Sundays.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
But also it could be me, because I'm in such a funk
internally.
I feel like I'm better than Iwas last year, though I'm not
like unhappy.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
But I'm still trying to pull myself out of that
routine of like not wanting todo anything.
For me, it's hard to want to doanything.
I don't even want to do my hair, my makeup, so I guess that is
depression.
I don't even want to do my hair, my makeup, so I guess that is
depression.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
You wake up happier.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
I am happier because I like my job.
Yeah, I feel like that's a huge, huge thing.
I like my job.
But now I'm like, yeah, nowwhat?
Now, what do I do?
Because Running it, yeah, butI'm still, I'm in, in the
(14:03):
process.
I'm not there yet.
So you see how, what I mean?
I'm still in that middle areaof where I'm not a waxer yet,
but I'm in the field.
So I think maybe when I'm doingit, I'll be happier, because
then I can help, provide more,we can go do things, because I
feel like life is just aboutwork and paying bills.
Also, I need to make moreYouTube videos.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
Yeah, you'd be slacking bro.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
I don't have the motivation.
Well, find it.
I'm trying to.
This is my first step.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
I mean, I guess you got to start somewhere.
Maybe we'll do every Monday.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
Every Monday.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Yeah, that's dedication.
Can you be dedicated to that?
Speaker 2 (14:47):
Well, if we go a week without doing one, I probably
won't do it, so we might as wellstick to every Monday.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Why it's got to be Monday.
Because, it's one of my daysoff.
We could do Sunday or Monday.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Or Sunday or Monday, sunday or Monday, or Sunday or
Monday.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Sunday or Monday After church.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
Okay, yeah, because then I'll already be ready.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
That'd be good.
You'll be dressed already andeverything, and I'll have the
word Exactly.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
I think that'd be good.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
So how do you feel about interracial relationships?
I don't know, I might bemexican because I'll be with the
amigos, I mean, I don't knowshut up shut up amigos.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
Shut up amigos your sister said interracial
relationships.
I mean I feel like it only is abig deal to the parents what do
you mean, like I feel?
Speaker 1 (15:38):
What do you mean by that?
Speaker 2 (15:39):
Because I feel like the way you're raised, it's like
your parents are able to tellyou they'll either tell you I
want you to marry someone who'sthis and this and not that.
So then you grow up with thatmindset, either of you wanting
to marry whoever you want tomarry, or what your mom and your
dad said.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
Did your mom want you to date someone Mexican?
Speaker 2 (15:59):
She didn't have a preference.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
She didn't have a preference.
You could have dated a whiteguy.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
No, but she always said you need to marry someone
that can take care of you.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
So somebody that has money?
That's crazy.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
No, she just wants someone that treats me right and
that could take care of me.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Miss Veronica, you need to.
I don't know Someone that cantake care of you.
Is kind of crazy.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
I mean obviously somebody that would be able to
fight, if you think about it.
Actually, I've been thinkingabout this because it's like
what if something happened to meand I couldn't work?
Your partner has to be able topick up the load.
If something were to happen, Icould be like literally no limbs
.
No, you know, you have to thinkabout stuff like that.
(16:50):
I think about all the time youneed to stay out your room.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
You need to stay out your room, bro.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
What if you were in a wheelchair and you couldn't cut
hair?
What if you lost both your arms?
I would have to be able to pickup the load.
So I don't think race reallymatters, but I think that it's a
society thing Because honestlyI see it all the time, People
are like you should marry withinyour race, not outside your
(17:18):
race, Especially with blackfolks.
Speaker 1 (17:21):
She's being racist.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
And Mexican parents always don't want you to marry
someone who is black.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
I'm one of the amigos , though, so it don't matter.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Yeah, but my mom isn't like that.
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Shout out my boy Jose .
Shout out my boy Tony.
Who else Shout out my boy Jose?
Shout out my boy Tony.
Who else?
Shout out my boy Kenny and I'mFilipino.
Shout out my boy Jazz.
Come on, man.
Shout out Andre, I'm everything, not really.
People think I'm black andwhite all the time.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
I know I asked you that.
I thought you were mixed.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
That's crazy, really.
I'm black and I'm Lebanese.
Speaker 2 (18:03):
Yeah, I didn't think you were white, but I thought
you were mixed with somethingelse.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
Yeah, my mom's dad is straight Lebanese Straight from
the land I don't know what land, but straight from the land I
can tell now though, but I thinkmy mom I don't think she would
care if I dated I mean,obviously, outside of my race.
She prefers a black woman.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
But I mean, we know this.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
I think it's.
I think she preferred me to behappy more than anything, and
even if that was, you know,whatever didn't matter to her
for me.
I was like I feel like I'veseen too many interracial.
Certain races were off limitsfor me because I've seen too
(18:52):
many people in those races, andyou see what comes out of that
and a lot of times it's not good.
A lot of times it's not good.
But shout out to the migos manyour cord's in your mic that's
why shout out to the migos y'allbe accepting me.
You know, when I went towashington, I was really one of
y'all.
I was really one of y' all.
Hey, I would have stayed inwashington had you not wanted to
(19:13):
.
I don't know why.
I probably would have stayed inWashington had you not wanted
to move.
I don't know why.
I probably would have stayed inWashington, I would have never
moved here.
But when I got here I was likeyou know what it's cool out here
and I know some people already.
Speaker 2 (19:29):
So if you had the option to move back to
Washington, you would move back.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
I'm cool.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
Because no.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
I'm cool.
I mean I wouldn't be superagainst it, but I feel like
we've built up so much here.
It wouldn't be, it wouldn'tmake sense.
Like our kids are doing well inschool, they're happy I feel,
like it's a better communityhere too, though, but I feel
like also, you know, a lot ofpeople are like oh, I want to be
around family, I want to bearound this, I want to be around
(19:55):
that.
I mean I've been around familymy whole life.
Speaker 2 (19:59):
Yeah, but the Bible says you got to go on your own
way.
That's actually something.
No, we got to talk about thatbecause that's like something
that people struggle with.
They don't want to be away fromtheir families so they don't
get out of the place thatthey're in.
We talk about this all the time.
People want to stay wherethey're comfortable.
(20:22):
Facts Moving here was notcomfortable.
We came here with absolutelynothing.
So I just feel like sometimeswhen I hear people talking about
, oh, I want to move and I wantto start a new journey, and then
they just talk, talk, talk andthey never do it, it's always
because they're comfortable.
She sneaked this in a lot of myfriends right now no I'm not I'm
(20:42):
just trying to say that, likewe did it so, but it's not for
everybody.
Some people are fine beingcomfortable and they're fine
just being around their family,but you just have to think about
it another way.
Like what, when everybody isgone because they will go then
what are you going to be stuckin a place that you're not
really happy, with no family,because you know everybody's got
(21:04):
to go at some point?
Speaker 1 (21:07):
Facts yeah, mom, she's talking to you, maja,
she's talking to you, caleb,she's talking to you.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
No, I just want the best for everybody and it's it's
not necessarily Arizona factsfor facts.
For me it is, but for y'all itmight be somewhere else.
I don't know better than whereyou're at, but life is too short
.
You just have to make the move,because I'm I mean, yeah, when
I think about we came here withnothing.
I had ramen noodles and likefour frozen pizzas.
(21:35):
I had no furniture well, we hadno furniture.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
Why do you say I liked?
Speaker 2 (21:40):
Because, remember, I came first.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
So that was scary for me because I don't do much on
my own.
Yeah, it was fine to me.
We had air mattresses.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
Dang.
Now look at us.
We got too much furniture.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
I need my own room now.
Mm-hmm Dang, now look at us, wegot too much furniture.
Speaker 2 (22:01):
Yeah, I need my own room now, mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (22:03):
I seen a video where there's a couple together, but
they slept in different rooms.
What do you think about that?
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Why?
I don't know.
Are they married, are they?
Speaker 1 (22:14):
dating.
I have no idea.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
You don't know the background of the story.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
No, it was just a weird dynamic, because they're
like oh yeah, I got my room, shegot her room, everybody's
comfortable.
Speaker 2 (22:26):
And I don't know.
I need to know if they'remarried or they're dating or
what's the situation.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
Because if you're married, Maybe she sleeps wild
and he's tired of that, or maybehe just sleeps and he sweats
out his whole life in his sleep.
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Okay, I've heard of like one person sleeping on the
couch because they can't sleeptogether in the same bed.
I mean to each their own.
If you're happy and you have ahealthy relationship and you do
that, great, but I don't see usdoing that.
No, I feel like yeah, becauseI've been in that situation and
(23:05):
then people started to questionwait, why are you guys in two
different bedrooms for a year?
Yeah, because it's not good andyou get too comfortable and
then, it's just not good, nothealthy.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
So how's life as a?
Mom Better what do you meanbetter Because.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
I get to see my oldest.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
But like.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
More.
But, like what do you mean?
Speaker 1 (23:35):
what do you mean?
Better this year or better Like?
Speaker 2 (23:38):
I feel like better than all the years, but it's
like all the kids are older.
My oldest, as you guys probablynot, have three older kids and
they're growing up.
One's already graduated, one'sabout to graduate come May, and
then I just have one that isstill she'll be in high school
(24:00):
still and Asia and April.
They're growing up.
But you know, april's in sports, asia's what In?
Speaker 1 (24:08):
middle school.
Speaker 2 (24:09):
Orchestra.
They're all busy doingsomething.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
This is your last.
You're having a child inelementary.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
I know, I was just thinking about that yesterday,
you, old as hell dog.
I always wanted another one,but now we have Tubby, so it
feels like a sixth child Tiredof that boy.
Our house is full.
So, yeah, I feel like I'm stilladapting to that.
(24:38):
But life as a mom is busy.
Speaker 1 (24:43):
It's always busy.
There's always someone who hassports.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
There's always someone who has a conference
practice wants to go to theirfriend's house wants to go to
the gym hungry everything yeahor don't want to hang around us
they want to hang around me.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
I'm wonderful until unless I get home, and you
already made them mad.
They don't want to.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
They dad, get out because they don't be listening.
And then just, I mean I feellike they're all teenagers, even
though April's still 10, butAsia's 12.
Then you have Tubby, who's 14.
And then, like they just all.
They're all like teenagers, tobe honest Facts.
(25:34):
And the more I think about itit's like like yes, I do feel
like I spent more time with thegirls when they're younger,
because they're like little kids.
Now they have iphones and theycould care less about being with
us.
But I had started like doing,you know, play cards with them,
do a game, just to spend qualitytime, because if not, they'll
(25:55):
be on their phones all daythat's true.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
Unless it's april, she'll come out.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
I'm bored yeah like she is now.
But yeah, so I mean, I guess,to answer it yeah, life is.
It's busier as a mom.
I think maybe that's why I'malways so mentally tired.
You seem to balance it justfine.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
I'm the GOAT.
It's different for me.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
Not for me.
Speaker 1 (26:26):
I feel, like you think I'm a morning person and I
don't think I am.
I think I do what needs to bedone Because I'd be tired dog.
But I don't like to go to sleepearly at night, like when I
come home and you got all thelights off at seven and you're
in the bed.
No tv on, just your phone.
It's like dog.
We're not that damn old what?
Speaker 2 (26:47):
okay, no, no, no, no, let's, don't even let him play
y'all like that, becauseactually I was thinking about it
.
If we want to be real, I thinka part of my depression Could be
that all we do is Work and comehome.
You know, I feel like we'remarried.
We're married how long now?
Nine years.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
We're together nine married for eight.
Wow and.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
I just feel like Wait , I'm not done.
This will come with morepodcasts.
Is it eight?
Speaker 1 (27:19):
Is it eight?
Speaker 2 (27:21):
I can't keep track.
We've been together for nineyears.
Come April it'll be eight yearsmarried.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
Yep, okay, come September, it'll be what.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
Ten.
I know come september it'll bewhat 10 I know.
So anyway, this will come withmore the more we do more
podcasts.
But I feel like it's soimportant to date even when
you're married and I don't feellike we're not that it's like a
bad thing.
I think we're just busy.
You're always busy, I'm not.
I'm not always doing stuff, sothen, it's like you're always
(27:59):
busy doing something, so thenI'm just by myself.
So it's like, yeah, I'm either,if I'm gonna do something with
the girls, I try to do somethingwith them here and there when I
find the motivation, or I'm bymyself.
So I thought about that alreadyand I'm like you know what it
could be that just don't.
That's why I went to brunch,because it's like I'm gonna and
my friends want to go to brunch,like once a month on a Sunday,
(28:22):
and maybe I need to do thatbecause maybe I need to be
around people, maybe I do needto be pulled out of my
environment because I feel likeI am always stuck in the house.
So I think that has a lot to dowith my depression.
And it's not anything bad onyou, it's just that you're
always busy doing something andthen I'm just left by myself, if
(28:43):
that makes sense, like that'swhat I was saying I wish we had
bikes so we could go ride bikestogether.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
So I was you know how to ride a bike, yeah, Okay, and
I would do that.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
Some people might think that's boring or lame.
I would let's go on a bike ride, you know.
Let's go get I don't know asmoothie afterwards, something
like even when we went to lunchyesterday.
That is that makes me happy,like just doing something
together that's not in the houseis that right.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
well, I feel like, I feel like we'll get to that more
, but I feel like it's when,when, when.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
When, what.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
When I already know your answer After we just get
everything taken care of.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
You know, we'll get to that, we'll get to that.
You don't think so.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
No, it's just.
I already know the answer.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
What's the answer?
Speaker 2 (29:36):
It's like when we have the money to do the extra
stuff, because right now it'sjust priorities.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
But I mean we'll get there.
I just think like you have tohave a.
I know some people probablyrelate to this.
You have to have a balance,though, where you fit that in
somewhere when there is justgoing on a walk.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
I think living in Arizona has made me so fast
paced, because I never used tobe like this, but now I'm like,
oh, what's next?
Oh, what's next, let's get thisdone early, and then we get it
all done.
By the time we get it done, it's7 pm, so that's exactly, I feel
like living in a bigger city, Ihave to prioritize those things
(30:17):
more because when you go to,sometimes you go to the store
later.
You know it's, it's crazy, orsometimes, I don't know, it
takes longer later when everyoneelse is doing it.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
Yeah, because you said you like to get everything
done early in the day Facts andthen have the what.
The rest of the day.
Yeah, that way I ain't gotta gonowhere else you're a planner
too, though like you alreadythink out the day facts, whereas
for me I'm like I'm such a gowith the flow person I don't
plan anything.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
I feel like if I have free time there's something I
could do that so I don't have todo it later.
So yeah, I just like to geteverything done and out the way.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
We're so different, I know.
Speaker 1 (31:05):
Erica was trying to check our horoscopes when we
first got together.
She said we're not compatible,we're not and I'm starting to
believe that and it's kind ofrude.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
No, it is true, though I don't appreciate it.
It's true.
I can't believe people, don'tbelieve in that.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
It's very true.
You don't think we'recompatible.
Speaker 2 (31:21):
I know what.
I know what makes us compatible.
What makes us compatible isthat we we are very family
oriented, like we're a goodfamily team for like the kids
and having a family, but when itcomes to like other stuff, I
feel like we're not compatibleat all wow but I mean not
(31:44):
everybody.
I feel like you balance me outis what I'm trying to say, like
honestly.
It's probably true sometimeswhich could be a lot for you
where I need someone to like,pull me, like, push me you know,
what I mean to do things,because otherwise I don't, I may
not ever do it.
Facts you're very like go go go,and we've talked about this too
(32:07):
.
He's very go go go.
Always has to be doingsomething.
That is very overwhelming forme because I'm just such a which
is not.
I guess it's not good.
I'm very, just chill and You'revery.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
Oh, I need to rest first.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
Yes, I need to relax first.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
Then we can go do that.
I'm a very let's get it donenow, we can relax later.
Speaker 2 (32:32):
I already know those people that agree with you.
That's just me, okay, but it'sawesome.
Speaker 1 (32:36):
But I'm sure there's people who agree with you yeah,
because for me it has but itain't me I know.
Speaker 2 (32:42):
But what I'm saying is, for me it's more of a health
thing.
I've you've already told youeven I'm talking, I'm out of
breath, I am just.
I know that something's goingon with me physically and I'm
trying to figure out what it is,because this, even just this
beginning of the year, I feellike I'm always super tired, I
have no energy.
Like I said, just doing and itcould be the depression, I don't
(33:03):
know but like just doing thesmallest tasks is very
exhausting to me.
So I feel like it's also moreof like mental health.
If I don't mentally feel well, Idon't want to do something like
.
If I'm not mentally feelingwell, I don't want to do
something Like.
If I'm not mentally feelingwell, I don't want to get on
camera to fake the funk.
No, I have to be like in themood and I feel like that's my
(33:27):
problem, like that's what holdsme back a lot is my mood.
I've heard somebody say likeyou can't do like working out,
like you can't, you can't likebased off when you're going to
work out, based off your mood,you have to just do it because
your mood will hold you back.
Well, that's me.
Speaker 1 (33:47):
Your mood's holding you back, huh.
Speaker 2 (33:49):
Yeah, because I'm not .
I'm not motivated to do it, itsounds exhausting.
Speaker 1 (33:57):
Everything sounds exhausting In the words of my
boy Jose motivation, derogationand yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:03):
But I think it's just a phase.
I'll get through it.
I haven't always been like thishave I, have you, I don't know.
I'm asking you now because nowI don't know.
Yeah, but is it worse?
Speaker 1 (34:16):
Yes, it is absolutely worse.
We used to do youtube used tobe like oh, let's do this video.
But even then you were likeright now.
You always used to do that.
Now look at us.
Never did a video again.
You still be like oh we shoulddo a video on this.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
Never did it Because I'm telling you it sounds so
exhausting guys, it's not thathard, I don't know if anyone
relates to me.
For me it is.
Speaker 1 (34:47):
I'm just a creative person, I guess, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (34:49):
You are and I'm not.
But also I just feel like I'vechanged a lot throughout the
years.
Like I we were talking aboutthis yesterday I used to be so
fun and I and I used to do myown YouTube videos.
But now, but think about it,when I used to do my own YouTube
videos, I was a stay-at-homemom.
I had nothing to do and I waslike, what can I do to make
(35:10):
myself feel like more than justa mom, like I wanted more of
something to my identity.
Then I started doing YouTubevideos and that was a time when
I feel like I was that person,like I was creative.
I did it all by myself.
I got sponsorships by myself, Iedited, I learned to edit by
myself and now it's like that'swhat I'm getting at.
(35:33):
I feel like it's just so much,especially since moving it's
true, moving to Arizona I feellike everything is so fast-paced
, I feel like everything's moreexpensive, so you're trying to
hustle more.
I just feel like I'moverwhelmed, more than ever, so
that I have even less energy.
Instead of it feeling, insteadof it being like a motivator to
want for me to do more so that Ican be how do how do I make
(36:00):
that make sense.
Like I wish I was like you,where I would be more motivated
to do Cause.
What if I did do a podcast?
What if I did you do didYouTube videos, and it took off
and then I didn't have to workso much.
But I just I don't know, Ihaven't got there yet.
You're just so great huh Ateverything, except for he has
(36:25):
videos of y'all that he hasn'teven let out Girl, please.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
Anyways, YouTube, YouTube, YouTube.
Speaker 2 (36:32):
We could do YouTube again.
We could do YouTube right now,but you got to go cut hair.
Speaker 1 (36:37):
All right, I guess that is.
It's about that time, man.
Time to wrap it up.
Time to wrap it up.
So, yeah, have your listen tothis podcast.
Spotify, apple Music, whateverApple Podcast, I should say I
(36:59):
don't even know what else is outthere.
No more youtube.
Subscribe to our youtubechannel subscribe or follow our.
Subscribe or follow our.
Everything it's fine.
Subscribe or follow our socialmedias social medias what?
Speaker 2 (37:22):
else what you guys want to see, what topics follow
us talk about on spotify applepodcast.
Speaker 1 (37:30):
And yeah, that's it.
We'll see you next time.
This is the other half podcastwith your host.
I'm the host, right okay, yeahwith our guest Erica and our
host, the big dog, I am not theguest big Tino.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
No, if you know me from the barbershop cruise.
Speaker 1 (37:53):
If I'm in your family , you know me as Avery, but I am
not the guest.
The big dog peace.
I mean your family.
You know me as Avery, but I amnot the guest.
The big dog Peace.
Erica was trying to check our horoscopes when we
first got together.
She said we're not compatible,we're not and I'm starting to
believe that.
And it's kind of rude.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
No, it is true, though, and I don't appreciate
it.
It's true.
I can't believe people don'tbelieve in that.
It's very true, you don't thinkwe're compatible.
All right guys.
So I'm Erica.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
And this is.
This is who am I.
This is Tino.
You already know Tino Cruz.
They call me.
You feel me In the streets.
They call me Cruz.
I mean in a barbershop in thestreets.
They call me Tino.
You know, everybody know me.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Yeah, this is the other half podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
So, Mm-hmm.
How's it going?
Speaker 1 (00:48):
It's good.
It's good.
How's your day?
Speaker 2 (00:51):
It's going.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
How's life lately?
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Exhausting.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Why is it?
Exhausting Because I'm alwaysexhausted because I'm getting
older, all right, this is ourfirst episode, so I wanted to
ask you what does the other halfmean to you exactly?
Speaker 2 (01:09):
I think it's supposed to be the other person's
perspective.
So my perspective versus yourperspective on certain topics.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Okay, Okay, Okay.
Well, to me, I mean, I guessthe name of our podcast means of
course I'm doing it with myother half.
So they say, but to me it'smore like the other half,
meaning the other side of thenarrative.
Like somebody puts out anarrative on you or whatever the
case may be, there might be astory out there.
(01:41):
This is your chance to tellyour side.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
The other half.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
That's deep, that's deep.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Yeah, you hear my hands, they ashy.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
We're going to get into our icebreaker segment.
I'm going to have you do this,since you picked this card.
I don't know what this is atall.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
So I just randomly pulled it.
It's the topic is dating At.
It's the topic is dating At.
What point do you have the?
So what are we talk?
Speaker 1 (02:07):
At what point, I don't know.
That's weird.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
I thought about when we first dated and when I pulled
it.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
When did you pull it?
Speaker 2 (02:17):
What?
When did you pull it?
Speaker 1 (02:21):
When did I pull the.
I mean you're talking about thecard.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
I mean when did you?
Speaker 1 (02:23):
ask me, and why.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
I didn't ask you.
You asked me.
That's why I thought about it,did I?
Speaker 1 (02:29):
I don't remember and I said I don't remember, yeah, I
know it.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
I remember the conversation.
It was through text and youasked me basically so what are
we?
And I said said you know whatthis is?
What does that even mean?
Because we were just friendsand I didn't know what we were
and I didn't know if we weregonna actually be something.
So it felt safe to just saywe're friends, but we're talking
(02:59):
dang, I don't remember whatabout you.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
I don't remember that , I don't know when.
When to pull that, that's, Iguess, when it gets more serious
but when does it become moreserious?
Speaker 2 (03:15):
the second date, the third date when you start
catching them.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Serious feelings if you know, you know.
But if it's a, it's a weirdtopic, because what is what if
the other person doesn't feelthe way you feel?
Speaker 2 (03:30):
yeah, or like in our, our instance, I feel like I
wasn't ready, but I liked you,but I wasn't ready to y'all hear
that say yeah, we're a thing,or yeah, we're dating.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
That's, I don't know.
That's tough because you knowwe haven't dated, we haven't, I
guess, not been married in along time.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
So I don't know.
So it's hard to talk aboutanything pertaining to dating.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
I mean, it's not hard .
But with dating, for me it wasalways like I felt like I always
liked the other person more.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
And with you it was like you didn't.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Yeah, it was like yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
No, because I liked you more.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
I know.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
And quickly.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
I mean, who wouldn't, though, you know?
So yeah, so, your answer iswhen things get serious.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
I feel like it's when you start talking about your
goals together and when youstart asking serious questions
and you start seeing each othermore, and then it's when you
start if you're not a title, youstart talking to other more.
And then it's when you start,if you're not a title, you start
talking to other people.
And then you want to know whatare we because?
Speaker 1 (04:52):
I feel like the jealousy, but I feel like in a
relationship that should be likea I'm not talking to anyone
else but you or these are myintentions yeah, but that's.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
That's what the question is I guess, when do you
decide?
Speaker 1 (05:09):
I don't know, I guess I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Everyone has a different perception of it.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
I feel like yeah, that makes sense.
So what are your goals for thisyear?
Your goals for this year.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
I'm not very proud of myself.
I feel like my goals should bewell.
Honestly, I think for me it'smore of finding a balance
between wanting my own me time,being productive, fitting it in
(05:43):
with mom, wife, work life.
That is my goal, because I cannever seem to like balance it
out.
I always feel like I'moverwhelmed, no matter what.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
So find a balance.
Find a balance, that'simportant.
And I need to hang out withpeople more.
You don't have many friends.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
I know, but I keep getting invited to brunches so I
need to just show up becausethe hardest part is showing up.
I don't know if anybody canrelate, but it's hard to show up
.
Then once I'm there and I leave, that I'm glad I went, but
getting out the house is thehardest part.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Facts facts show up.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Yeah, because you're outgoing.
You like to be busy.
I wasn't always like that.
Well then, what made you likethat?
Speaker 1 (06:31):
I don't know being an adult Now.
I have to speak to people everyday.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Your job.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Yeah, yeah, that's facts.
My job made me like that.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Yeah, I feel like I'm going to have to be like that,
since that's what I'm going tobe doing, because I will be a
waxer, so I do have to haverelationships, but Avery knows
I'm not a.
I don't really like to have alot of what is it Like?
I'm not a people person.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
Yeah, you got to get out of that, ma'am.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
I like to be by myself In this industry.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
You got to get out of that, ma'am.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
I know so.
Yeah, that's one of my goalstoo.
Just get out more, hang outwith my friends.
Yeah.
Just not being so isolated allthe time yeah makes sense what
about you?
Speaker 1 (07:27):
my goals this year are to honestly, I feel like
I've done a lot.
I feel like my goals are to getyou where you want to be,
because I've done a lot in myyou know, in my time on this
earth.
There's not much that I wantmore.
(07:49):
You know what I mean.
So I feel like I've done enoughto where I'm happy where I'm at
.
So I want you to be happy whereyou are.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Yeah, which I've already taken steps.
Yep, I was just talking to myfriend about it.
She said you sound a lothappier when I send my voice
text.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
And I said honestly I think it's because I left a
place that I was not happy infor so long and I feel like I
was bringing it home and thataffected a lot.
So I feel like 2024 was like arough, rough year for me, and
now that I'm not there anymoreand I feel like I'm happier
where I'm at now, I feel likeI'm just working on.
(08:31):
Ok, now what?
How can I?
I do need to get out more.
I do need to do things.
I need to stop just staying inmy room.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
Facts, facts.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Because you know how I am, even this is a lot for me.
It's the getting to it.
That's the hardest part for me,but then, once I'm in it, I'm
good.
So yeah, I have a lot that Istill need to do, but I just I'm
a big procrastinator.
That's my problem.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
Facts.
So what made you want to starta podcast?
Speaker 2 (09:07):
Because everyone always tells me I should start
one.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
That's not a reason, that is not a reason?
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Yes, because I always have a lot of.
I always have like thoughts onthings, I always have my
opinions and I feel like I helpa lot of people when I tell them
like thoughts on things.
I always have my opinions and Ifeel like I help a lot of
people when I tell them like mystory or if I tell them things
I've been through.
I think the one thing for surewhy I wanted to start one was to
talk about like my stuff thatI've been through that I'm sure
(09:34):
other people can relate, ormaybe if they've never been
through it, but it kind of makesthem look at life differently
because of all that I've beenthrough.
I think that's what my goal is,yeah that makes sense and a
podcast.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
That makes sense, makes sense.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Why do you want to do a podcast?
Speaker 1 (09:53):
I just like being on camera talking to people.
You know, the reason I starteda podcast in the first place was
because one day we're not goingto be here and I have to leave
something for my children.
That is the number one thing.
Number two is I just, I mean, Ienjoy it.
Yeah, like now that I've putmusic down, it's, it's the next
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thing that I enjoy the nextthing that you're doing.
Yeah, I do a lot of stuff,though I do too much stuff.
I get confused.
I do YouTube Twitch stream,gaming podcast, cut hair, all
that.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
Mm-hmm, I don't know how you do it.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
And it's very organized.
I know I don't know how you doit, and it's very organized.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
I know, I don't know how you do that.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
So if you guys don't know, Erica's not organized.
No, I'm not, she doesn't have aroutine, all that stuff.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Okay, and everyone says, like, make a.
You know what I have done.
Better, though, is I've madelittle alarms for me.
That says, like, like, I'vebeen little alarms for me.
That says, like, like, I'vebeen reading what.
I have the audio for the Bible.
That was important to me.
Every time I go to church andthey say you need to be in the
word, so I have the audio.
Because I'm not a reader, so Idon't.
It's like what do I like to do?
(11:10):
I don't like to read.
I don't like to be aroundpeople At.
I used to, but we talked aboutthis last night.
I just I'm not like thatanymore, and I'm trying to get
myself back to that person thatI used to be, where I used to be
fun.
I used to like to go out, and II mean not go out out, but like
to be around people.
I used to have a lot of friends, and then I feel like I just I
(11:37):
think life took over too.
Life has just been reallystressful, so I just yeah, we
talked about this.
I could be in a slump.
I'm trying to get out.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
Facts.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
I think Erica's depressed.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Low key.
You're depressed bro.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
And I just realized that yesterday, when I was
talking to you, I'm like, maybeI am depressed because I just
don't like who sits in the darkon their phone that's the only
light you have.
That's crazy and I'm happythough, but I'm happy, that's my
me time.
You know how like yours is inthe bathroom just sitting.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
My room in the bathroom, ain't no kids exactly
why, yeah, I can have my phoneon yeah, all that.
Well, that's me in the bed yeah, but you, you'll be laying
there all day because maybe I'mdepressed no, you need to get
out of that.
Oh, one of my goals is to to goback to church consistently
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yeah, I don't.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
I don't like that.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
We missed the last two days I feel like we've
missed more than I'd like but Ifeel like life's been better
since we've been going to church.
I've been mentally better, um,I stress less, I worry less.
Um, I guess I think about stuffless and I just go with the
flow, you know.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
It's the spirit.
Be like that sometimes it'strue though, hey God, my bad bro
.
That is true.
Yeah, I don't like that.
We've missed the last coupledays.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
But honestly it could Couple Sundays, not couple days
.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Well, I mean the last two Sundays.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
But also it could be me, because I'm in such a funk
internally.
I feel like I'm better than Iwas last year, though I'm not
like unhappy.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
But I'm still trying to pull myself out of that
routine of like not wanting todo anything.
For me, it's hard to want to doanything.
I don't even want to do my hair, my makeup, so I guess that is
depression.
I don't even want to do my hair, my makeup, so I guess that is
depression.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
You wake up happier.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
I am happier because I like my job.
Yeah, I feel like that's a huge, huge thing.
I like my job.
But now I'm like, yeah, nowwhat?
Now, what do I do?
Because Running it, yeah, butI'm still, I'm in, in the
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process.
I'm not there yet.
So you see how, what I mean?
I'm still in that middle areaof where I'm not a waxer yet,
but I'm in the field.
So I think maybe when I'm doingit, I'll be happier, because
then I can help, provide more,we can go do things, because I
feel like life is just aboutwork and paying bills.
Also, I need to make moreYouTube videos.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
Yeah, you'd be slacking bro.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
I don't have the motivation.
Well, find it.
I'm trying to.
This is my first step.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
I mean, I guess you got to start somewhere.
Maybe we'll do every Monday.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
Every Monday.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Yeah, that's dedication.
Can you be dedicated to that?
Speaker 2 (14:47):
Well, if we go a week without doing one, I probably
won't do it, so we might as wellstick to every Monday.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Why it's got to be Monday.
Because, it's one of my daysoff.
We could do Sunday or Monday.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Or Sunday or Monday, sunday or Monday, or Sunday or
Monday.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Sunday or Monday After church.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
Okay, yeah, because then I'll already be ready.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
That'd be good.
You'll be dressed already andeverything, and I'll have the
word Exactly.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
I think that'd be good.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
So how do you feel about interracial relationships?
I don't know, I might bemexican because I'll be with the
amigos, I mean, I don't knowshut up shut up amigos.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
Shut up amigos your sister said interracial
relationships.
I mean I feel like it only is abig deal to the parents what do
you mean, like I feel?
Speaker 1 (15:38):
What do you mean by that?
Speaker 2 (15:39):
Because I feel like the way you're raised, it's like
your parents are able to tellyou they'll either tell you I
want you to marry someone who'sthis and this and not that.
So then you grow up with thatmindset, either of you wanting
to marry whoever you want tomarry, or what your mom and your
dad said.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
Did your mom want you to date someone Mexican?
Speaker 2 (15:59):
She didn't have a preference.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
She didn't have a preference.
You could have dated a whiteguy.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
No, but she always said you need to marry someone
that can take care of you.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
So somebody that has money?
That's crazy.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
No, she just wants someone that treats me right and
that could take care of me.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Miss Veronica, you need to.
I don't know Someone that cantake care of you.
Is kind of crazy.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
I mean obviously somebody that would be able to
fight, if you think about it.
Actually, I've been thinkingabout this because it's like
what if something happened to meand I couldn't work?
Your partner has to be able topick up the load.
If something were to happen, Icould be like literally no limbs
.
No, you know, you have to thinkabout stuff like that.
(16:50):
I think about all the time youneed to stay out your room.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
You need to stay out your room, bro.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
What if you were in a wheelchair and you couldn't cut
hair?
What if you lost both your arms?
I would have to be able to pickup the load.
So I don't think race reallymatters, but I think that it's a
society thing Because honestlyI see it all the time, People
are like you should marry withinyour race, not outside your
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race, Especially with blackfolks.
Speaker 1 (17:21):
She's being racist.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
And Mexican parents always don't want you to marry
someone who is black.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
I'm one of the amigos , though, so it don't matter.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Yeah, but my mom isn't like that.
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Shout out my boy Jose .
Shout out my boy Tony.
Who else Shout out my boy Jose?
Shout out my boy Tony.
Who else?
Shout out my boy Kenny and I'mFilipino.
Shout out my boy Jazz.
Come on, man.
Shout out Andre, I'm everything, not really.
People think I'm black andwhite all the time.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
I know I asked you that.
I thought you were mixed.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
That's crazy, really.
I'm black and I'm Lebanese.
Speaker 2 (18:03):
Yeah, I didn't think you were white, but I thought
you were mixed with somethingelse.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
Yeah, my mom's dad is straight Lebanese Straight from
the land I don't know what land, but straight from the land I
can tell now though, but I thinkmy mom I don't think she would
care if I dated I mean,obviously, outside of my race.
She prefers a black woman.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
But I mean, we know this.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
I think it's.
I think she preferred me to behappy more than anything, and
even if that was, you know,whatever didn't matter to her
for me.
I was like I feel like I'veseen too many interracial.
Certain races were off limitsfor me because I've seen too
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many people in those races, andyou see what comes out of that
and a lot of times it's not good.
A lot of times it's not good.
But shout out to the migos manyour cord's in your mic that's
why shout out to the migos y'allbe accepting me.
You know, when I went towashington, I was really one of
y'all.
I was really one of y' all.
Hey, I would have stayed inwashington had you not wanted to
(19:13):
.
I don't know why.
I probably would have stayed inWashington had you not wanted
to move.
I don't know why.
I probably would have stayed inWashington, I would have never
moved here.
But when I got here I was likeyou know what it's cool out here
and I know some people already.
Speaker 2 (19:29):
So if you had the option to move back to
Washington, you would move back.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
I'm cool.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
Because no.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
I'm cool.
I mean I wouldn't be superagainst it, but I feel like
we've built up so much here.
It wouldn't be, it wouldn'tmake sense.
Like our kids are doing well inschool, they're happy I feel,
like it's a better communityhere too, though, but I feel
like also, you know, a lot ofpeople are like oh, I want to be
around family, I want to bearound this, I want to be around
(19:55):
that.
I mean I've been around familymy whole life.
Speaker 2 (19:59):
Yeah, but the Bible says you got to go on your own
way.
That's actually something.
No, we got to talk about thatbecause that's like something
that people struggle with.
They don't want to be away fromtheir families so they don't
get out of the place thatthey're in.
We talk about this all the time.
People want to stay wherethey're comfortable.
(20:22):
Facts Moving here was notcomfortable.
We came here with absolutelynothing.
So I just feel like sometimeswhen I hear people talking about
, oh, I want to move and I wantto start a new journey, and then
they just talk, talk, talk andthey never do it, it's always
because they're comfortable.
She sneaked this in a lot of myfriends right now no I'm not I'm
(20:42):
just trying to say that, likewe did it so, but it's not for
everybody.
Some people are fine beingcomfortable and they're fine
just being around their family,but you just have to think about
it another way.
Like what, when everybody isgone because they will go then
what are you going to be stuckin a place that you're not
really happy, with no family,because you know everybody's got
(21:04):
to go at some point?
Speaker 1 (21:07):
Facts yeah, mom, she's talking to you, maja,
she's talking to you, caleb,she's talking to you.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
No, I just want the best for everybody and it's it's
not necessarily Arizona factsfor facts.
For me it is, but for y'all itmight be somewhere else.
I don't know better than whereyou're at, but life is too short
.
You just have to make the move,because I'm I mean, yeah, when
I think about we came here withnothing.
I had ramen noodles and likefour frozen pizzas.
(21:35):
I had no furniture well, we hadno furniture.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
Why do you say I liked?
Speaker 2 (21:40):
Because, remember, I came first.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
So that was scary for me because I don't do much on
my own.
Yeah, it was fine to me.
We had air mattresses.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
Dang.
Now look at us.
We got too much furniture.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
I need my own room now.
Mm-hmm Dang, now look at us, wegot too much furniture.
Speaker 2 (22:01):
Yeah, I need my own room now, mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (22:03):
I seen a video where there's a couple together, but
they slept in different rooms.
What do you think about that?
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Why?
I don't know.
Are they married, are they?
Speaker 1 (22:14):
dating.
I have no idea.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
You don't know the background of the story.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
No, it was just a weird dynamic, because they're
like oh yeah, I got my room, shegot her room, everybody's
comfortable.
Speaker 2 (22:26):
And I don't know.
I need to know if they'remarried or they're dating or
what's the situation.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
Because if you're married, Maybe she sleeps wild
and he's tired of that, or maybehe just sleeps and he sweats
out his whole life in his sleep.
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Okay, I've heard of like one person sleeping on the
couch because they can't sleeptogether in the same bed.
I mean to each their own.
If you're happy and you have ahealthy relationship and you do
that, great, but I don't see usdoing that.
No, I feel like yeah, becauseI've been in that situation and
(23:05):
then people started to questionwait, why are you guys in two
different bedrooms for a year?
Yeah, because it's not good andyou get too comfortable and
then, it's just not good, nothealthy.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
So how's life as a?
Mom Better what do you meanbetter Because.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
I get to see my oldest.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
But like.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
More.
But, like what do you mean?
Speaker 1 (23:35):
what do you mean?
Better this year or better Like?
Speaker 2 (23:38):
I feel like better than all the years, but it's
like all the kids are older.
My oldest, as you guys probablynot, have three older kids and
they're growing up.
One's already graduated, one'sabout to graduate come May, and
then I just have one that isstill she'll be in high school
(24:00):
still and Asia and April.
They're growing up.
But you know, april's in sports, asia's what In?
Speaker 1 (24:08):
middle school.
Speaker 2 (24:09):
Orchestra.
They're all busy doingsomething.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
This is your last.
You're having a child inelementary.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
I know, I was just thinking about that yesterday,
you, old as hell dog.
I always wanted another one,but now we have Tubby, so it
feels like a sixth child Tiredof that boy.
Our house is full.
So, yeah, I feel like I'm stilladapting to that.
(24:38):
But life as a mom is busy.
Speaker 1 (24:43):
It's always busy.
There's always someone who hassports.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
There's always someone who has a conference
practice wants to go to theirfriend's house wants to go to
the gym hungry everything yeahor don't want to hang around us
they want to hang around me.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
I'm wonderful until unless I get home, and you
already made them mad.
They don't want to.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
They dad, get out because they don't be listening.
And then just, I mean I feellike they're all teenagers, even
though April's still 10, butAsia's 12.
Then you have Tubby, who's 14.
And then, like they just all.
They're all like teenagers, tobe honest Facts.
(25:34):
And the more I think about itit's like like yes, I do feel
like I spent more time with thegirls when they're younger,
because they're like little kids.
Now they have iphones and theycould care less about being with
us.
But I had started like doing,you know, play cards with them,
do a game, just to spend qualitytime, because if not, they'll
(25:55):
be on their phones all daythat's true.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
Unless it's april, she'll come out.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
I'm bored yeah like she is now.
But yeah, so I mean, I guess,to answer it yeah, life is.
It's busier as a mom.
I think maybe that's why I'malways so mentally tired.
You seem to balance it justfine.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
I'm the GOAT.
It's different for me.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
Not for me.
Speaker 1 (26:26):
I feel, like you think I'm a morning person and I
don't think I am.
I think I do what needs to bedone Because I'd be tired dog.
But I don't like to go to sleepearly at night, like when I
come home and you got all thelights off at seven and you're
in the bed.
No tv on, just your phone.
It's like dog.
We're not that damn old what?
Speaker 2 (26:47):
okay, no, no, no, no, let's, don't even let him play
y'all like that, becauseactually I was thinking about it
.
If we want to be real, I thinka part of my depression Could be
that all we do is Work and comehome.
You know, I feel like we'remarried.
We're married how long now?
Nine years.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
We're together nine married for eight.
Wow and.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
I just feel like Wait , I'm not done.
This will come with morepodcasts.
Is it eight?
Speaker 1 (27:19):
Is it eight?
Speaker 2 (27:21):
I can't keep track.
We've been together for nineyears.
Come April it'll be eight yearsmarried.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
Yep, okay, come September, it'll be what.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
Ten.
I know come september it'll bewhat 10 I know.
So anyway, this will come withmore the more we do more
podcasts.
But I feel like it's soimportant to date even when
you're married and I don't feellike we're not that it's like a
bad thing.
I think we're just busy.
You're always busy, I'm not.
I'm not always doing stuff, sothen, it's like you're always
(27:59):
busy doing something, so thenI'm just by myself.
So it's like, yeah, I'm either,if I'm gonna do something with
the girls, I try to do somethingwith them here and there when I
find the motivation, or I'm bymyself.
So I thought about that alreadyand I'm like you know what it
could be that just don't.
That's why I went to brunch,because it's like I'm gonna and
my friends want to go to brunch,like once a month on a Sunday,
(28:22):
and maybe I need to do thatbecause maybe I need to be
around people, maybe I do needto be pulled out of my
environment because I feel likeI am always stuck in the house.
So I think that has a lot to dowith my depression.
And it's not anything bad onyou, it's just that you're
always busy doing something andthen I'm just left by myself, if
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that makes sense, like that'swhat I was saying I wish we had
bikes so we could go ride bikestogether.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
So I was you know how to ride a bike, yeah, Okay, and
I would do that.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
Some people might think that's boring or lame.
I would let's go on a bike ride, you know.
Let's go get I don't know asmoothie afterwards, something
like even when we went to lunchyesterday.
That is that makes me happy,like just doing something
together that's not in the houseis that right.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
well, I feel like, I feel like we'll get to that more
, but I feel like it's when,when, when.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
When, what.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
When I already know your answer After we just get
everything taken care of.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
You know, we'll get to that, we'll get to that.
You don't think so.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
No, it's just.
I already know the answer.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
What's the answer?
Speaker 2 (29:36):
It's like when we have the money to do the extra
stuff, because right now it'sjust priorities.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
But I mean we'll get there.
I just think like you have tohave a.
I know some people probablyrelate to this.
You have to have a balance,though, where you fit that in
somewhere when there is justgoing on a walk.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
I think living in Arizona has made me so fast
paced, because I never used tobe like this, but now I'm like,
oh, what's next?
Oh, what's next, let's get thisdone early, and then we get it
all done.
By the time we get it done, it's7 pm, so that's exactly, I feel
like living in a bigger city, Ihave to prioritize those things
(30:17):
more because when you go to,sometimes you go to the store
later.
You know it's, it's crazy, orsometimes, I don't know, it
takes longer later when everyoneelse is doing it.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
Yeah, because you said you like to get everything
done early in the day Facts andthen have the what.
The rest of the day.
Yeah, that way I ain't gotta gonowhere else you're a planner
too, though like you alreadythink out the day facts, whereas
for me I'm like I'm such a gowith the flow person I don't
plan anything.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
I feel like if I have free time there's something I
could do that so I don't have todo it later.
So yeah, I just like to geteverything done and out the way.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
We're so different, I know.
Speaker 1 (31:05):
Erica was trying to check our horoscopes when we
first got together.
She said we're not compatible,we're not and I'm starting to
believe that and it's kind ofrude.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
No, it is true, though I don't appreciate it.
It's true.
I can't believe people, don'tbelieve in that.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
It's very true.
You don't think we'recompatible.
Speaker 2 (31:21):
I know what.
I know what makes us compatible.
What makes us compatible isthat we we are very family
oriented, like we're a goodfamily team for like the kids
and having a family, but when itcomes to like other stuff, I
feel like we're not compatibleat all wow but I mean not
(31:44):
everybody.
I feel like you balance me outis what I'm trying to say, like
honestly.
It's probably true sometimeswhich could be a lot for you
where I need someone to like,pull me, like, push me you know,
what I mean to do things,because otherwise I don't, I may
not ever do it.
Facts you're very like go go go,and we've talked about this too
(32:07):
.
He's very go go go.
Always has to be doingsomething.
That is very overwhelming forme because I'm just such a which
is not.
I guess it's not good.
I'm very, just chill and You'revery.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
Oh, I need to rest first.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
Yes, I need to relax first.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
Then we can go do that.
I'm a very let's get it donenow, we can relax later.
Speaker 2 (32:32):
I already know those people that agree with you.
That's just me, okay, but it'sawesome.
Speaker 1 (32:36):
But I'm sure there's people who agree with you yeah,
because for me it has but itain't me I know.
Speaker 2 (32:42):
But what I'm saying is, for me it's more of a health
thing.
I've you've already told youeven I'm talking, I'm out of
breath, I am just.
I know that something's goingon with me physically and I'm
trying to figure out what it is,because this, even just this
beginning of the year, I feellike I'm always super tired, I
have no energy.
Like I said, just doing and itcould be the depression, I don't
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know but like just doing thesmallest tasks is very
exhausting to me.
So I feel like it's also moreof like mental health.
If I don't mentally feel well, Idon't want to do something like
.
If I'm not mentally feelingwell, I don't want to do
something Like.
If I'm not mentally feelingwell, I don't want to get on
camera to fake the funk.
No, I have to be like in themood and I feel like that's my
(33:27):
problem, like that's what holdsme back a lot is my mood.
I've heard somebody say likeyou can't do like working out,
like you can't, you can't likebased off when you're going to
work out, based off your mood,you have to just do it because
your mood will hold you back.
Well, that's me.
Speaker 1 (33:47):
Your mood's holding you back, huh.
Speaker 2 (33:49):
Yeah, because I'm not .
I'm not motivated to do it, itsounds exhausting.
Speaker 1 (33:57):
Everything sounds exhausting In the words of my
boy Jose motivation, derogationand yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:03):
But I think it's just a phase.
I'll get through it.
I haven't always been like thishave I, have you, I don't know.
I'm asking you now because nowI don't know.
Yeah, but is it worse?
Speaker 1 (34:16):
Yes, it is absolutely worse.
We used to do youtube used tobe like oh, let's do this video.
But even then you were likeright now.
You always used to do that.
Now look at us.
Never did a video again.
You still be like oh we shoulddo a video on this.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
Never did it Because I'm telling you it sounds so
exhausting guys, it's not thathard, I don't know if anyone
relates to me.
For me it is.
Speaker 1 (34:47):
I'm just a creative person, I guess, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (34:49):
You are and I'm not.
But also I just feel like I'vechanged a lot throughout the
years.
Like I we were talking aboutthis yesterday I used to be so
fun and I and I used to do myown YouTube videos.
But now, but think about it,when I used to do my own YouTube
videos, I was a stay-at-homemom.
I had nothing to do and I waslike, what can I do to make
(35:10):
myself feel like more than justa mom, like I wanted more of
something to my identity.
Then I started doing YouTubevideos and that was a time when
I feel like I was that person,like I was creative.
I did it all by myself.
I got sponsorships by myself, Iedited, I learned to edit by
myself and now it's like that'swhat I'm getting at.
(35:33):
I feel like it's just so much,especially since moving it's
true, moving to Arizona I feellike everything is so fast-paced
, I feel like everything's moreexpensive, so you're trying to
hustle more.
I just feel like I'moverwhelmed, more than ever, so
that I have even less energy.
Instead of it feeling, insteadof it being like a motivator to
want for me to do more so that Ican be how do how do I make
(36:00):
that make sense.
Like I wish I was like you,where I would be more motivated
to do Cause.
What if I did do a podcast?
What if I did you do didYouTube videos, and it took off
and then I didn't have to workso much.
But I just I don't know, Ihaven't got there yet.
You're just so great huh Ateverything, except for he has
(36:25):
videos of y'all that he hasn'teven let out Girl, please.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
Anyways, YouTube, YouTube, YouTube.
Speaker 2 (36:32):
We could do YouTube again.
We could do YouTube right now,but you got to go cut hair.
Speaker 1 (36:37):
All right, I guess that is.
It's about that time, man.
Time to wrap it up.
Time to wrap it up.
So, yeah, have your listen tothis podcast.
Spotify, apple Music, whateverApple Podcast, I should say I
(36:59):
don't even know what else is outthere.
No more youtube.
Subscribe to our youtubechannel subscribe or follow our.
Subscribe or follow our.
Everything it's fine.
Subscribe or follow our socialmedias social medias what?
Speaker 2 (37:22):
else what you guys want to see, what topics follow
us talk about on spotify applepodcast.
Speaker 1 (37:30):
And yeah, that's it.
We'll see you next time.
This is the other half podcastwith your host.
I'm the host, right okay, yeahwith our guest Erica and our
host, the big dog, I am not theguest big Tino.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
No, if you know me from the barbershop cruise.
Speaker 1 (37:53):
If I'm in your family , you know me as Avery, but I am
not the guest.
The big dog peace.
I mean your family.
You know me as Avery, but I amnot the guest.
The big dog Peace.
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