August 24, 2025 • 45 mins
Friendship – it seems so simple when we're young, yet becomes increasingly complex as we navigate adulthood. In this raw and unfiltered episode, we explore the nuanced boundaries that define our closest relationships and when those boundaries might need reinforcing.
When your best friend and your partner clash, who do you choose? Erika shares her powerful experience of cutting off judgmental friends who couldn't accept her relationship with Tino. Ten years later, she stands firmly by that decision, revealing how sometimes losing a friendship can be the price of personal happiness. The discussion highlights a universal truth: relationships often serve as mirrors, reflecting our values and revealing others' true colors.
We tackle the question of standards – are yours too high, too low, or just right? Guy admits his friends criticized him for dating women they deemed not attractive enough, sparking a deeper conversation about superficial expectations versus genuine connection. Tino confesses to being picky about appearance but acknowledges that shared values ultimately matter more.
The heart of the episode emerges when we distinguish between true friends and mere associates. "If you ever feel like you're about to cut your friend off and then the next minute you're cool, you're not real friends," Guy notes, crystallizing the difference between meaningful bonds and casual connections. Erika reveals her selective approach to friendship, distancing herself from energy-draining, one-sided relationships that demand everything while offering nothing in return.
From hilarious first-time drinking stories to profound reflections on loyalty, this episode offers both entertainment and wisdom. Whether you're questioning a friendship, navigating relationship drama, or simply curious about how others maintain their social boundaries, you'll find authentic perspectives that might just change how you view your own circle.
What makes someone worthy of your inner circle? Listen now and join the conversation.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
All right, guys, take us in, hit us with the intro.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
You too.
What's the wheezy?
It's your boy, Manny.
Make sure you're speaking inthe mic.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
We're going to redo that.
We're going to redo that, Dangman.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
You too.
What's the wheezy?
It's your boy, Manny.
Mm-hmm, mack yo green y'allwant to say the rest because
it's a c.
You too.
What's the wheezy?
It's your boy, manny, mmhmm,macky O'Grain.
Y'all don't wanna say the restCause it's a cuss word.
You say you can't cuss.
I ain't gonna cuss.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
This is uh the little guy.
You feel me, he the new.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
I cut my dress off.
You feel me Dress had to go,but it's cool though.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Tell them why you cut it off cause I feel like
cutting them off, oh, okay thatwas just uh.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
You know, I chose professional life instead of the
street life.
You feel me?
Yeah.
I feel you, boy praise Godpraise God, amen praise the Lord
, thanks um on this good Sundaymorning anyways, this our our
co-host for this episode.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
This my little brother guy you already know.
He got his own episode, so wedecided he could be a co-host
today.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
So yeah he's already been on the.
You already been.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
You already been on the podcast, right?
It's Big Tino.
You know it's Baby E over here,right, anyways.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
Queen E.
Thank you very much.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
You tell him girl.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
Yes, yes.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
Anyways, what's our icebreaker?
We got an icebreaker right here, powered by hella.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Awkward on this wonderful sunday all right, you
ready yep okay, as always, Ihave a few just in case we need
icebreakers, just in case wedon't have to do all of them.
Okay, so the first one's basedoff relationships, and this one
is your best friend and yourpartner aren't, aren't vibing.
What do you do?
(01:51):
Aren't so you're with, you'rein a relationship but you have
like a best friend and you knowyou don't get along with them.
But what you mean by aren'tvibing you don't get along, okay
, you don't like them.
You don't like them.
You don't like them for yoursignificant other, your partner.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Oh no, I ain't never had that happen.
That's what you think.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
I ain't gonna lie.
Depending on like the situationand how long y'all been
together and how long you beenfriends with the person,
somebody gotta go.
If they ain't, y'all don't tryto have them talk it out and all
that and it ain't working.
Somebody got to go, whoever.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
But which one though?
Speaker 3 (02:34):
Whoever ain't been there the longest.
That's crazy Dang.
Now, whoever in the room,whoever in the room, if they act
the childish like, if you don'tlike a person for no reason
yeah, yeah, yeah that's what Iwas gonna say.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
I mean that makes sense, I'm gonna tell you like
this though, cause sometimesyour girl is gonna last way
longer than your friendship soit depend on how good you know
what I'm saying.
The relationship is cause.
If it ain't the rightrelationship, then you lost both
yeah, nah, you're gonna have tocut the cut the relationship
off you so you feel like cut therelationship off if it's not
(03:08):
the right relationship.
If it is the right relationship, then obviously you got to
choose your girl over yourfriends, but I don't know.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Okay, that's crazy I think it depends.
So I didn't think of I've had,I have erica cut her friends off
of me don't even go there firstof all.
No, I feel like, okay, yeahbecause, but for good reason.
So when I first started datinghim, my friends there was two
friends that did not like himbecause he was younger than me
(03:39):
and he's not that much youngerthan me, by the way, but he's
younger than me and I, you know,I have kids and stuff.
So people look at that as like,oh, he can't take care of you,
he can't, I didn't need somebodyto take care of me, that's what
they forgot, you tell themyou're talking about two people,
that, two women that are very,very independent.
I don't need a man kind of thing.
So eventually, yeah, I cut themoff because I don't need that
(04:01):
kind of ignorance and negativityin my life and then look we're
still together 10 years inpretty much it.
You know, that's how I see it.
I think it depends facts, facts.
You can't be judgy, judgy.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
That's the whole, my whole point damn, I've never had
a situation where the friend Iguess with you, that's the
friends don't like me or thefamily doesn't like me.
That sounds like the worst whenthe family doesn't like you.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Yeah, but you didn't have that problem.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
I cuss some people and they're like, yeah, I don't
get along with my girl's familyand I'm like, couldn't be me?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
So y'all had just met , and then your friends.
Like how long you been withfriends, with your friends?
Speaker 2 (04:48):
long time, long time long time, years, yeah yeah, and
then you cut them off for himno, I don't feel like it's that
I cut them off for him, but itactually let me see like their
true colors as people right likeI've never been anybody to say
you shouldn't be with them oryou know, unless they were like
beating their ass or somethingor cheating on them, obviously,
(05:09):
right she cussed sorry, justbecause you don't feel like
somebody can take care of me,like they missed the whole memo.
I wasn't looking for that, soI'm saying it depends.
Like I've never been the kindof friend to tell my friends
what they should be doing orshouldn't be doing unless they
(05:29):
ask me.
I didn't ask so.
To me it's just unnecessaryopinions that I don't need and I
felt like at the end of the day, it made me see them for who
they are and to this day I'vewatched their lives, you know,
transform into what it is andI'm still here holding strong 10
years in.
Can you say the same, right?
(05:53):
So in a way, kind of no, I'mjust, you know, I'm going to say
how it is In a way.
No, I didn't cut them off forhim, but I cut them off for me
because I want to be happy.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
I feel you, hey, hey, by the way, we live right now
on tiktok, tiktok.
If y'all got anything y'allwant to say, if y'all want to
put y'all a little two cents in,you feel me slide, let us know
if y'all got any questions.
Anyways, what's the next card,since you got a thousand cards
now, I only have three.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Okay, so that was one .
Tell us about your worst dateguy.
Have you ever been on a worstdate cards?
No, I only have three.
Okay, so that was one.
Tell us about your worst dateGuy.
Have you ever been on a worst?
Speaker 3 (06:30):
date Worst date.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
I don't really be doing the dates.
What you do then People don'treally go on dates no more.
It's like two.
Nowadays it's two mans andstuff.
That's a date.
What is's two mans and stuffand that's a date.
What is a two?
Speaker 1 (06:46):
mans.
You know, we old dog, we ain'tyoung like you.
I know what a two man is.
Explain it for the people inthe back, though, Erica.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Okay so y'all know what a double date is.
So, a double date is like whentwo relationships go on a date
that go on a date.
That's a double date.
A two man is you call this girllike and y'all not dating right
?
So it's not really considered.
So it's a difference, it's nota double date.
So you know somebody like youjust met this girl.
(07:16):
You'd be like you got a friendfrom my homie.
You feel me, y'all don't evenknow, don't, nobody know nobody.
You feel me, y'all don't evenknow, don't, nobody know nobody.
You feel me, except for thefriends.
And so basically y'all all linkup, all four of y'all.
Y'all just getting to know eachother.
You feel me.
That sounds like a double date.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Yeah, but y'all not dating, I mean you don't got to
be dating on a double date.
He too young to know what adouble date you've ever been on,
so you've never been on a datewith somebody and it didn't go
the way that you wanted it to go.
Oh uh, that reminds me of yourother client that went on that
day, this one yeah, this one, Iain't gonna lie.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Uh, I don't know if I should say this on the camera,
but it was the one time when uhI was, I was young and all my
friends ordered me, so that wasencouraging me to you.
Feel me, get some buns and so,and so, uh, this one girl, she
wanted to smoke and I had thecar, and uh, I'm getting in
(08:20):
trouble for this one.
But she, she wanted to smokeand I had the car, and, uh,
usually we'll just link up andsmoke at her crib, but she was
saying it like she was on that.
You feel me On what I wastrying to get down with the get
down, you feel me.
So I called her, I was on theway to her crib.
(08:40):
She was like she said something, crib.
She was like.
She was like she was like shesaid something.
And I was like I was like allright, I'm finna, you feel me,
I'm on that, I'm trying to, I'mtrying to crack so.
So she was like huh, and then,and then come to find out she
wasn't even on that.
So I go over there to smoke,and it was just awkward, dang.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
That is not the worst , that ain't a date?
Speaker 2 (09:07):
That's not cut.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Hey, we need to get him up off the pod right now.
What he telling us?
It got to be a date.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
The worst date you've ever been on.
All right, Erica, tell yourworst date Actually, yeah, so in
high school this is the onlyone I can think of.
In high school, this guy wantedme to date him, so he took me
on a date.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
He took me to.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
A&W got me a root beer float.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Boy, you ain't never been to A&W.
Anyways, go ahead.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
Because I didn't know how to say no but I didn't like
him.
But then right after the date,this is like freshman year, so I
was like 15.
Been a year, so I was like 15.
Then right after the date, weget back to the school and he
asked me out right in thehallway afterwards and I was
like no, sorry.
So I felt kind of bad because Iwent on a date.
I was not into him, I didn'tlike him, I didn't find him
(09:55):
attractive, nothing.
It was probably the worst.
It was very awkward.
He didn't talk, it was quietwhy are you doing like that?
because I didn't know how to sayno that's crazy, nothing crazy
I don't think I've had a a crazydate have you had anything
where somebody like expected youto pay for everything?
Speaker 1 (10:16):
I've never had.
I've never.
You need to tell.
Can you tell me a story about?
Speaker 2 (10:20):
your friend, your client hold on.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
I've never actually paid for a first date, true?
I want y'all to know that I'venever right.
It was girls.
I told them, yeah, I didn'thave no license, right.
But I told them I ain't gonna,uh, I ain't got no car, my car
in the shop right now.
And then we get to the end ofthe date and they was like,
don't worry about it, I pay.
I was like I was it's cool, Iwas gonna pay, but y'all got it
(10:47):
cool, is that bogus?
Speaker 2 (10:50):
okay, tell us, is that bogus though?
Speaker 1 (10:52):
is it bad for a guy to not pay for a first date?
Speaker 2 (10:55):
I think it's bad for a guy to assume, no, no, I feel
like it's bad.
It's a bad look for a guy tonot kind of just pay.
If the woman says, oh, don'tworry about it, I got it, I
think it's fine.
But if a man just like assumesthat, yeah, you were just like,
oh, yeah, you got it, it's cool.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
No, it was like we get to the end and they just be
like I got it.
I didn't.
I didn't ask them to pay for meor nothing like that.
It was just they just naturallytried to pay and I was like it
is what it is.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
I mean, that's different.
They're offering to pay.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
So yeah, but all right.
So I got a client.
I ain't going to say no names.
I ain't going to say no names.
Right, Meets a girl.
He probably going to know andhe won't follow me, so we good,
but look, he's gonna know.
This is about him.
He meets a girl at fogo de chow.
He's leaving fogo de chow.
What?
(11:53):
is that it's a restaurant, okay,it's cost deal.
Meets his girl girl's pickingup food.
She drives a mercedes.
He said, oh yeah, gets hernumber.
All that you want to go out forwhat did he say?
Either seafood or sushi?
She says, oh yeah, let's go toNobu, right?
I don't think he knew what thatwas.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
Nobu is a very expensive restaurant.
It's fancy All the rappers talkabout it all that.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
It's out here at az, I ain't never been and I ain't
going, or california so look he,he gets a haircut by me.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
He's telling me I'm like no, boo, you tripping.
He said, yeah, man, I'm scared.
He was like what, I can't evengo pick her up because I drive
an ultima.
He's driving nissan, she'sdriving mercedes.
Yeah, he's man, I'll just meether there.
So then he goes, meets herthere.
She's mad because she got topay for valet.
(12:51):
Right, they get there.
She ordering dessert, wine,appetizer, all that, remind you,
this guy is cheap, so she doesall that by the end of the date.
It's like you know what I'msaying.
She finds something in herwater.
They give her 40% off becauseshe finds something in her water
(13:13):
.
That bill was still $400.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
I was just going to say, even with a discount.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Even with a discount that was $400.
That boy would have been payingrent if he didn't find that
thing Then he's talking to her.
She's uh, they talk aboutsomething and she was like he
just asked her like what youcooking tonight?
She was like why you paying?
Yeah, you know what kind oftime she was on trying to get
(13:39):
that bag.
She was trying to get that bagup off her.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I'm sure the dating world's rough right now in this
generation.
To be honest, yeah, I'm notgoing to lie.
Speaker 3 (13:49):
If I was in that predicament, I would not have
paid.
Yeah, I would have left herthere.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
He paid for it, then you know, he did, he did.
Speaker 3 (13:56):
Simp.
That's what we call thatStraight simp.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
But look, he thought she was there to pick up food
for her.
She was doing DoorDash.
See and how are you?
That's crazy.
Whole time she ain't even gotit.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
Now, people that do DoorDash actually make a really
good amount of money.
But how are you going to workfor DoorDash and expect somebody
to pay for a $500 bill fordinner?
Speaker 3 (14:18):
That's crazy, couldn't be me, but anyways,
couldn't be me.
I'm the don and ass.
They're gonna lock you up.
It is what it is all right.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
What's your last card , man all?
Speaker 2 (14:31):
right.
Last card okay, according toyour friends, are you.
Are your dating standards toolow, too high or just right?
What do you think?
According to your friend, that?
Is well, we're not dating,that's we can't answer that
because we're not dating.
No, I can't answer it here, buthe dates guy.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Dude is very gross dude.
Do people think your standardsis too high, too low or what are
?
Speaker 3 (14:55):
you picky I go a lot my friends back in iowa.
They used to be like they usedto be cause, like, like you
gotta be somewhat cute, right,right, but like I'm not really
all the way in it for the looks,mhm, cause my mama raised me
right.
So so the girls I went out with, they wasn't the cutest girls,
(15:19):
they wasn't ugly, but theywasn't.
You feel me what?
Was they, they was mild Broshut up bro.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
They was mild.
Shut up bro.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
So, so, uh, every time my friends used to see like
Fat, fat and RJ, they used tobe like bro, you 6'5, what did
you do with her?
It'd be like bro, you can haveanybody you want and you pick
her.
I'm like bro, I'm not even init for all that fuck do you have
a type do you have a type um, Idon't really.
(15:50):
I don't really have a type, butlike I ain't gonna lie if I see
a light skin with curls dang,you're just like Tubby.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
That's how Tubby you, you just like, just like your
brother, I don't know who youlike.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
My knees get weak.
He's like I get so weak in myknees.
Shut up, bro.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
I keep forgetting to speak into the mic, that's not
going to be good.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
What about you?
Do your friends think yourstandards are too high, just
right, or too low, or what?
Speaker 2 (16:19):
I think I have the best standards.
I'm not going to lie.
Erica ain't got no standardsbro.
You're really going to lie likethat just because you're on
camera, bro.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
What you mean.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
You better fix that right now.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
What are your standards?
Fix it right now.
I would not be with you if mystandards were not good.
Erica, it's not standards, it'smore like you're not in it for
the looks.
You're not in it for the looks.
That's what I mean, that's true, yeah exactly.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Okay.
That doesn't mean I have nostandards, though Correct
yourself, I have standards.
I actually have very highstandards.
It's actually not good.
I have very high, highstandards, but sometimes I have
to remember to work on myself.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
You tell them girl.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
But I feel like my standards are just right.
Why?
Because I have a job, you havea job, I pay bills, you pay
bills, I've paid all the billsand then you couldn't, and then
now I couldn't, and now you do.
We don't cheat, we don't lie.
There's nothing to hide.
(17:22):
We meet each other 50-50.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
We listen and we don't judge.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
Period.
So my standards are just right,but according to my friends, I
don't know.
Y'all can tell me, I have noidea.
I don't really care thoughbecause I don't really feel like
I know a lot of people withgood standards in the first
place.
Hold on, let me see the cardagain.
Speaker 3 (17:43):
Hey, we gotta do another card.
Them cards is good.
Are your standards too high,too low?
Speaker 1 (17:48):
according to your friends I ain't gonna lie, I
ain't.
I was outside with no friendswhen I met you.
So you know, don't know, I feellike when I was younger, like I
went with what everyone elsethinks is cool.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
So I didn't really know what was good for me.
Yeah, what.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
I liked.
But now that I'm older, youfeel me, my wife, a 10.
What, oh man, do I have?
Speaker 2 (18:19):
I don't know, you know what I think you have good
standards, oh man, do I have?
Speaker 1 (18:21):
I don't know you know what I think?
I'm gonna say this I feel likesometimes my standards are a
little high because my grandmaand all them used to be like oh
you, you, you don't like nobodybecause it's something small
wrong with this person.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
I think you're very uh picky anyways, back to what I
was saying.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
I'm picky, so yeah, so I got high standards and uh,
but here's the thing I'm short,I'm a tall five seven, you feel
me.
So it'd be like that.
You know, everybody can't besix foot something and all that,
but honestly, I feel likesometimes the tall guys are not
(19:03):
like.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
They don't even, they don't have any personality.
Most of the time.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
Yeah, they're goofies .
Speaker 2 (19:08):
They're very corny because they feel like it's just
like men with muscles.
Like men with muscles thinkthat they don't have to, they
don't have to have anything else, and that's where they lack.
They lack everything else andthey wonder why they're being
cheated on and stuff.
It's because all you do isthink that you have muscles and
that's it and that's good enough.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
Yeah, I've been in the gym.
Speaker 2 (19:29):
I do feel like you're very picky and you can be
judgmental at times and you'revery like what's the word when
you care about looks?
Because does he not alwayspoint out something with
somebody?
I ain't going to lie, though.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
He always talks about somebody's features when I was
younger, like I didn't get a lotof attention from girls, but
now, you know, I feel like Icould if I was single.
I mean, I did before I met youand now I'm just like I don't
really.
I guess I don't, my standardsdon't matter anymore because I'm
married.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
Right To an extent.
You still have standards in arelationship, something like
that.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
With your partner.
But yeah, I wasn't always tall.
I wasn't always sought after bywomen.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
You were never tall.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
You know what I'm saying.
I used to be average height atone point, now not so much, you
know you know getting thathunchback hold on, man, watch
out, watch out.
But my standard I don't know.
I don't know if, if they aretoo high for me, they're just
right I feel.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
I mean I'm married too, so I know I feel like your
standards.
Sometimes it's not wrong,though it's not bad, but I feel
like your standards are veryhigh because you expect a lot
out of me for myself, like youexpect me to be successful, go
to work, you know, make my ownmoney too.
You would like me to go workout successfully, because you
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know that that's what I want formyself.
But you're very like, you're apusher.
You're very pushy.
That could be a lot for somepeople, but I don't think it
means your standards are toohigh, but you do definitely have
high standards.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
Yeah, I guess, I guess.
So what's our topic for today,ma'am?
Speaker 2 (21:24):
What is our topic?
Go ahead.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
I thought you said friends.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
Anyways, we were going to talk about.
Speaker 3 (21:31):
I don't have any friends.
This is going to be hard.
Oh, that's funny.
That's funny.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
I mean, I never knew my father, you definitely have
had friends on the past, right,because this doesn't mean just
like present.
We're talking about like justin general.
Um well, the subject was kindof basically like talking about
what makes a friend a friend,like, what is your experience
with friends?
Do you ever feel like you haveto ghost anybody, cut anybody
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off for any reason?
That's a friend and why.
Speaker 3 (22:04):
I ain't going first.
I ain't going first he's scared.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
Look, my friends know I got kids Right.
We don't talk every day but webe locked in.
My friends know I'm not goingto be out here cheating in the
streets.
They're not going to push me todo that.
My friends know that I meanthey just.
They just I'm not going to beout here cheating in the streets
.
They're not going to push me todo that.
My friends know that I meanthey just, they just you know
they know that if they hit me upit'll be, it'll be like we
(22:30):
never stop talking.
You know, it'll seem like wetalk every day.
Those are the friends.
What's the other part of thetopic?
Speaker 2 (22:38):
Like have you ever had to cut a friend off, and why
?
Speaker 1 (22:40):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
What makes a friend to you?
How do you know someone's yourreal friend and not just someone
in your life?
Speaker 1 (22:49):
All the stuff I said for that part.
But then I've had to cut peopleoff.
I don't want to say cut peopleoff, I just kept distance.
I used to work with a guy in ashop and I got brought him into
the shop, right, I got him a jobthere.
Because he was like, oh, I gotfired from this shop.
(23:09):
He didn't tell me the realreason why he got fired.
Then it's like I'm having mykids around you, I'm bringing
you into this barber shop.
I'm basically telling the ownerI approve of this person.
And he turned around and waslike hey, I don't know why he
has all them clients, he ain'teven that good he said that
about?
oh, he said that about you yeahso it's like sometimes you gotta
(23:32):
ghosting people, sometimes yougotta keep distance.
I don't want to be friends withsomebody who doesn't take care
of their kids for one I don'twant to be friends with somebody
who's going to talk behind myback definitely understood I
don't want to be friends withjust people who are going out
all the time because I don't goout.
So I need more people withcommon goals or to have a lot
(23:54):
more in common with me I agreeso, yeah, what's the third part
of that question?
Speaker 2 (24:01):
boy, do you need the card oh?
Speaker 1 (24:05):
I asked it, she asked it and she don't even see what
I'm talking about.
No, I said, have you ever hadto?
Speaker 2 (24:10):
ghost somebody, or like cut off a friendship and
why that was it?
Or like what makes somebody agood friend to you and why you
done you feel me?
Speaker 1 (24:20):
of course I'm done.
I just I just gave you a bibleverse anyways.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
Um, you could probably speak for me.
I'm very picky when it comes tofriends.
I did not used to be that way.
That's why I always had a bunchof friends she ain't gonna know
friends.
I don't really have a lot offriends now.
For me it's more of like I justget really irritated easily
with people and like theirdecisions.
So if you keep making the samemistakes over and over and over,
(24:50):
but then you want to vent to melike I can only be there to
help you so many times or tellyou what I think you should do,
but when it gets to a pointwhere I feel like you're
draining me, you know, or likeit's mentally exhausting to be
around you, I will literally,yeah, distance myself.
Um, or if I feel like you useme in a way like I love, like I
(25:10):
have a friendship where if I geta coffee for her, she gets a
coffee for me.
If I'm picking her up today,she'll pick me up.
If you know I got her something, she'll get me something, and
we don't do it tit for tat, butwe just were thoughtful about
you know I got her something,she'll get me something, and we
don't do it tit for tat, but wejust were thoughtful about you
know what we would, what we dowith each other.
I've gone over to her housewhenever she just needs me to be
there and I'm just there to bethere, like I truly enjoy being
(25:30):
there to help her with her kids.
I don't need anything in returnand it's fine.
We don't have to talk every day.
But sometimes you just havefriendships that are just
one-sided and you're constantlydoing, doing, doing for them,
but you're not receivinganything back, and not even on a
mental level.
So for me, if it's that, I willdistance myself, and you know I
(25:51):
only speak to you if I have to,but I'm pretty selective when
it comes to my friends facts,because I feel like that's I
mean, yeah, same thing like youwanna have friends that have the
same common goals, cause If not, why are you friends?
They're not doing anything foryou, yep.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
Who's your friend?
Shout out your friends.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
My friends.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Shout out your friends.
Speaker 2 (26:17):
Why are you trying to put me on blast Cause you know
they only fit on one hand.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
Shout them out.
Speaker 2 (26:23):
Okay, well, my number one, my OG friend from the
fourth grade, is going to beMaribel.
We literally don't even talkevery month.
Speaker 1 (26:34):
We talk.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
Every once in a while , we shoot each other a message
on Instagram or something, butthat is my friend from
elementary.
We have been through a lot, alot, but we're still so strong.
So, maribel, stephanieStephanie is my kid's godparent.
Again, we've been through a lottoo, but we always seem to land
(26:58):
on the same page.
We're very mature and cancommunicate about any issues
that we have.
And then there is, uh, jc.
Jc's my friend through avery'sfriend, so her ex boyfriend is
his friend, so they're prettyclose and so I met her that way.
Um, um, that's really it,stephanie.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
She already said Stephanie.
How you on the podcast?
Speaker 2 (27:27):
And then I have friends on social media that I
love, love, love too, but I'venever got to meet them in person
.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
Interesting.
Speaker 3 (27:35):
Man shout out Huncho Shout out Nito.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
Well, huncho, your cousin boy.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
That's so friend.
Speaker 1 (27:43):
Man shut up.
Speaker 3 (27:44):
I'm trying to correct somebody you can tell we
siblings, cause I'll smack buddyanyways go ahead, go ahead yeah
, man shout out to them, but sotalk about it did I ever have to
cut somebody off, like cut afriendship, nah cause.
Or ghost?
Yeah, I mean.
Yeah, it's probably been timeswhere I cut a friendship no
(28:04):
because.
Or ghost?
Yeah, I mean, it's probablybeen times where I cut a person
off, but ghost, no, I don'treally be ghost people.
If I ain't mess with you, I'mjust keeping a bug and tell you
what you did wrong.
I ain't mess with you, no more.
Speaker 1 (28:17):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 3 (28:18):
I mean you don't like it.
Okay, what makes a good friendA good friend?
Perfect example of a goodfriend Me, I feel you.
I don't even know dude Nah, butlook, I don't really know the
(28:40):
specific examples, but like Allmy friends is great friends.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
Why.
Speaker 3 (28:44):
Why you feel me they got my friends.
Why, why you feel me they gotmy back.
You feel me I don't knowWhatever make a friend a good
friend?
Y'all know.
If y'all got good friends,y'all know and I ain't talking
about the people that gotfriends and then be like, oh
y'all, finna, cut him.
No, I ain't talking about thepeople that got friends and then
be like, oh, y'all, finna, cuthim.
(29:05):
No, I ain't talking about y'all.
If you ever feel like you,finna, cut your friend off and
then the next minute y'all cool,y'all not real friends?
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Okay, but actually let's talk about that, because I
feel like not gonna lie.
Speaker 3 (29:15):
Don't cut buddy off.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
Yeah, I struggle with that, though, because Avery
knows we talk about this all thetime, knows we talk about this
all the time, of course, like wevent to each other, right, like
we, we talk to each other aboutcertain things, like we'll be
like, hey, that's crazy, that'ssomething right.
But let me just say I feel likeit's hard because you sometimes
(29:38):
do want to be like I'm done,like I don't even want to deal
with them anymore.
I don't want to, whatever theykeep making the same whatever.
How do you?
It's hard, though, because thenwhat you would come back around
and it's like wait, no, we'restill good.
Like we're good, everything'sfine.
I think it's trying to givepeople like the benefit of the
doubt, trying to give peoplechances, but it's hard because
(30:02):
deep down, you know they'reprobably not a good person to
have in your life.
You know what I mean.
So it's the same thing as likegossiping about your friends,
but then you're cool.
I mean that's like we've talkedabout this.
One of my biggest pet peeves islike having a friend but then
talking about them behind theirback because you don't agree
what they're doing.
I feel like it's kind ofdifferent, though, like when
you're only venting to like yourspouse about it, because y'all
(30:25):
communicate.
Then if I was going to likeanother friend and saying, dang
so, and so did this today andwhatever she got on my nerves
and I keep telling her the samething over and over, I feel like
that's different than like whenwe what do you think?
I feel like?
I don't feel like it's healthy,though I know exactly what
you're saying.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
I feel like.
I feel like if you feel thatway, you should just keep it a
bug with him, be like I feellike you're not a good friend
yeah, I feel like just beinghonest and if y'all get into it.
That's the perfect timing to cutthat right there and then be
like you know what I'm, finna,stop messing with you.
I ain't messing with you nomore.
(31:05):
Yeah, you cut you, feel me.
That's exactly what you gottasay.
Never talk to them again.
Simple as that.
Simple as that you cut, I ain'tmessing with you no more.
Uh, uh.
Speaker 2 (31:20):
I feel like it depends on what it is, though,
because you can have like I said, you can have friends that
don't live the same life as you,or don't live the same life as
you or don't have the samemindset as you, but you're still
cool and you can't make otherpeople be smarter.
You know you can't make otherpeople do what you do.
Speaker 3 (31:34):
You know if you don't want to do that, you can just
keep your distance.
Speaker 2 (31:36):
I think yeah, exactly that's my point just keep your
distance have a have a differentrelationship than with y'all
Right Then, like anotherfriendship, you feel me Exactly.
Speaker 3 (31:45):
It's different between friends, because you got
friends that you call yourbrothers and sisters, then you
got.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
that's just my friends, friends that you're
just cool with, yeah, nice.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
That's facts.
Speaker 2 (31:53):
So I guess that's all I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
See, I got a lot of friends.
And then I got associates.
Yeah, I have a lot of friends.
I got a good amount of friends,be fake.
And then it's a whole bunch ofassociates.
I said you're fake.
Hey, I ain't fake, I just liveoff good vibes, that ain't fake.
All right, no, ain't nobodydoing nothing to me for me to be
(32:16):
like, oh, I don't want to messwith you.
But at the same time, it'swhatever flow his boat.
It's like this I got, I got mycertain group of friends.
I'll talk to them all the time.
And then, outside of that, yougot other people who you.
When you see him, you just belike what's up, bro, that's it
all.
Right, you feel me.
But the friends, they know,friends is the ones you call
(32:39):
when you.
You know I'm saying when you'regoing through your worst times,
or, and like it was a time me,bradley, bradley and Bryce, we
was on the phone like hey, man,who got the lowest bank account
today.
I know we all going through it.
So it be like that.
Sometimes them is your friends,right, kenny Andre, them is
friends, people like that, youknow what I'm saying.
(33:00):
The guys at the shop them isfriends, you know what I'm
saying.
But you know what I'm saying.
The guys at the shop them isfriends.
You know what I'm saying.
But the people outside of thatlike.
Speaker 3 (33:08):
it's certain people that I don't just I don't Like
associates.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
Yeah, they just associates.
We ain't going to say no names.
We ain't going to say no names.
Speaker 2 (33:16):
There's a lot of I'm cool with everybody though you
know what I'm saying I'm coolwith everybody, Because I feel
like even your friends' friends,they know how you are Because
you know I've seen it where theycould be telling you something
or venting to you aboutsomething.
You've already told them how itis and they're still in the
same boat, so you just don't sayanything.
(33:37):
Eventually they change thesubject, Eventually they stop
talking about it and they moveon.
They know not to come to youabout certain things because of
how you are and like you knowwhat you, what you believe or
whatever.
So I feel like it's a littlebit different because you're
pretty straight up about it.
You've already told themdoesn't mean that you can't vent
to me about it.
You've already said somethingto them but they still.
(34:01):
They just are who they are.
Speaker 1 (34:03):
Facts.
I agree with that, you know butIowa's small, so you know
everybody just from knowingeverybody.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:10):
Yeah, you have way too many friends over there.
Speaker 1 (34:12):
Too many associates.
They're not all friends.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
Cousins, I don't know , Cousins, that we do I don't
know who is who that we do.
Speaker 3 (34:19):
That's why I got two of my cousins that I call
friends, but they're my cousinsTo me.
Speaker 2 (34:27):
Anyways, was there anything you want to talk about,
Guy?
Before we end this podcasttoday, End it already.
No, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 3 (34:33):
Yeah, what did you want to talk about?
What did you want to?
Talk about Dang?
I don't know Something.
Let's do another card here, youpick a card.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
All right, Guy ain's supposed to be a co-host.
He ain't asking no questions.
He ain't doing no co-hostduties.
Speaker 3 (34:48):
We need better from you dawg.
I'm going to tell y'allbusiness on this one.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
Buddy it's niche.
All right, look, Buddy, it'sniche.
Speaker 3 (34:56):
It say tell us the story of your first time getting
wasted.
We need all the details.
Speaker 2 (35:03):
He's never been wasted.
Speaker 3 (35:03):
He don't drink and she don't smoke, so she drink
and he don't smoke, but he he bepopping them joints.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
Popping them joints, what?
Speaker 2 (35:15):
you're lying, you lying.
No, not popping them joints.
What?
Speaker 3 (35:19):
do you mean you remember when you was in Vegas
and you was lit?
Speaker 2 (35:22):
oh, yeah, man, he was up there.
He was up there, he was upthere.
Speaker 1 (35:24):
He was up there when you was in Vegas and you was lit
fuck.
Oh yeah, man, this guy tryingto set us up.
I'm going to tell y'all rightnow there's one time I did
edibles in.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
Vegas, that's it.
Speaker 3 (35:34):
Yeah, how'd you feel I don't know, so here's the
thing.
Speaker 1 (35:38):
When I was young, I used to fake smoke, if you know
what that means.
You inhale you inhale and thenyou exhale, but you don't
actually inhale, inhale don't goin your lungs.
Hold on, man, anyways.
So I was doing that and thenone time they was like man, you
(35:59):
ain't even smoking, man, yougotta inhale, I inhale.
That was the first time I saidsay, yeah, this ain't for me,
dog, I, I can't be one of thepeople who relies on marijuana
every single day and cannotfunction without marijuana
drinking.
That's different.
I know a lot of alcoholics inthe family or people I've just
been around that I cannot drink.
(36:21):
I won drink, I'm not trying todrink.
So you want to tell your story?
Okay, mine's pretty bad, we'redone, folks, after this, this is
it All right.
Speaker 2 (36:34):
Okay.
So the one time that I got Ihate saying that wasted, that
sounds trashy but the one time Igot really drunk was when I was
16.
Or 17.
No, when I was 16 or 17.
No, I was 16.
Dang, you was drinking that, yo, and back in the day everybody
used to go get a big old bottleof sangria.
That's what it's called.
It's like a big old bottle ofwine and I'm talking like a jug,
(36:56):
not a bottle, a jug.
So I drank it all.
I'm a lightweight and so I gotreally drunk.
We went to the club, stood inline and that's the last thing I
remember.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
We never made it into the club.
Speaker 2 (37:12):
They said I was falling in line.
I don't remember anything.
I blacked out, woke up the nextmorning and I was so mad that I
did not go to the club.
Speaker 1 (37:21):
Why.
Speaker 2 (37:22):
Because I really wanted to go.
Speaker 1 (37:23):
I was really excited, you was outside.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
I blacked out and there was throw up everywhere.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
It was so bad.
Speaker 2 (37:31):
They had to throw me in the shower Naked, that's
gross Because it was throw upall over my clothes.
Yeah, Threw me in the showernaked.
Cold water it was bad.
Speaker 1 (37:46):
That's the worst story I have.
Yeah that's pretty bad.
I'm a little too messy guy,what's?
Speaker 3 (37:50):
yours what, yeah, tell, tell when you uh, I ain't
gonna lie, I uh, I'm 18, I I'mgrown, I can't get in trouble no
more, you ain't grown shut up,but look, uh, shut up, but look,
I used to.
So we used to have a littleneighborhood group right Sixth
(38:12):
grade, you feel me Sixth grade.
Shut up.
Does your mom know this?
We listen and we don't.
Yeah, I got caught.
I got sent to my daddy'shospital.
I went to go stay with my dadfor like two years after that
and it was this little fat kiddown the street and he stayed
with his grand.
Speaker 2 (38:36):
He stayed with his grand.
Speaker 3 (38:39):
He was like a super duper eighth grader right, Not a
super senior, but he was Dang.
He repeated it like five times,like three times.
I ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 1 (38:46):
Dang.
Speaker 3 (38:47):
So this nigga was like 16, in the eighth grade and
he lived with his granny so heain't had no discipline.
So he had.
You feel me?
I tried to hit the blunt forthe first time.
You feel me?
I was in sixth grade and Iwasn't even smoking for real.
I thought I was smoking.
I wasn't even smoking untilfreshman year.
(39:08):
Fat Fat and Andre.
We was at Fat Fat Crip and Itried it again cause I had.
You know, I got sent with mypops for that cause my mom found
out.
And then seventh and eighth orthe rest of sixth grade and
seventh grade I was, I wasstaying with my dad.
I came back eighth grade and Iwas doing good Freshman year, me
, fat Fat, andre and anotherdude.
(39:32):
We was at Fat Fat Crib and wesmoked.
That was my first time gettinghigh.
I was like, yeah, I wasn't highfor real.
Last time, nigga, I was zooted.
Then it was the middle of thenight and we had to run for the
bus.
We was like 10 blocks away andthe bus was coming in like 5
minutes.
These niggas decided to takeoff running y'all were bad.
(39:53):
I'm like oh heck, you don't theylook at me, I look at them in
the 6th grade.
Speaker 2 (39:57):
That's April's age, so you were 11 he trying to be a
pothead, bro.
Speaker 1 (40:01):
What's wrong with buddy?
Yeah, shut up, man and thengetting drunk.
Speaker 3 (40:08):
First time getting drunk I was like it was like a
little bonfire.
This white kid, his dad, had anabandoned barn, a barn house,
and they would just start a firein the middle of the barn house
and we all used to go in thereand I remember I was off, that
clear joint, what I was off,that I was off that clear joint
what I was off that, what's mycar, what's?
A clear joint I ain't gonna saywhat it was.
Speaker 1 (40:29):
I don't know what's the buddy.
Speaker 3 (40:31):
I was off that.
Speaker 2 (40:32):
Vodka.
Speaker 3 (40:32):
Nope.
Speaker 2 (40:34):
Smirnoff, it was that trunk.
Speaker 3 (40:36):
I was off that trunk.
No, but that's my story.
We got one more card.
Speaker 1 (40:41):
No, we done.
Speaker 3 (40:42):
No, no, no One more, one more.
Speaker 1 (40:43):
We have 40 minutes we done.
Speaker 2 (40:46):
It's going to be short anyways, you got to edit
it.
It says stop fronting.
Speaker 3 (40:50):
You have a favorite friend.
Who is it?
Speaker 1 (40:52):
I don't got no favorite friend.
You a lie, I don't you a lie.
I don't who, I ain't got one.
Who your closest friend, Idon't got one.
Speaker 3 (41:08):
You used to Everybody's different at
different times in my life.
You be talking best about.
Everybody off the camera Are weon camera.
Speaker 1 (41:16):
I'll be on y'all head .
Speaker 2 (41:17):
I'm not going to lie.
Oh my goodness, that's what Imean, though he's very picky
about people.
He's very picky about people inhis life.
He doesn't have the patiencefor nonsense.
Facts.
You know what I feel likedefinitely, mine is Stephanie,
oh, but Maribel's like my.
(41:38):
Okay, that's hard because yeah,thanks to me, we get messy
Because I don't see Maribelanymore so I don't get to have
that connection with her inperson, but like the connection
that we have from afar willnever be different.
I don't have a favorite.
I can't choose, because I feellike Maribel is just, she knows
(42:01):
me like nobody else knows me.
So I'd have to say Maribel,because Stephanie's more like my
sister.
Who's your favorite?
Speaker 1 (42:10):
guy.
Speaker 3 (42:12):
I got a story time for y'all, Nah ain't no story
time.
Speaker 1 (42:14):
Who's your favorite?
Shut up man, who is yourfavorite?
Answer the question.
Speaker 3 (42:21):
Of course I'm going to have to say my cousins, right
, Because them who I hang outwith.
Speaker 1 (42:25):
Them, you got to pick one.
Speaker 3 (42:27):
Shut up, but look.
Speaker 1 (42:30):
He got angry issues.
He drops on his head as a baby.
Speaker 3 (42:33):
Me and Honcho grew up together, so I can't say Nito
and not say Honcho.
But I can't say Honcho and notsay Nito.
You feel me, because me andNito spend more time together
than Hunter do.
But I can't, you feel me, Ican't pick between.
So me and Hunter grew uptogether, but Nito I met Nito at
I was in fifth grade and hermom, her and her mom had just
moved to Des Moines and theyain't know nobody out there.
(42:55):
And yeah, see, I came over, wemet, we used to be in the
basement slot boxing and stuffand so, and so I would say, I
don't know, it's like me andNito spend more time together,
for sure.
But shoot, yeah, it's betweenthem two and I ain't gonna lie,
(43:19):
I'm gonna have to say Nito, nitoonly because we spend more time
together.
But Hancho.
Speaker 1 (43:24):
I still love you time together.
Speaker 3 (43:25):
That's what I'm saying.
But, hancho, I still love youbro.
I still love you bro.
Speaker 1 (43:27):
He choosing size.
It's hard.
Speaker 3 (43:29):
No, I ain't choosing size, it's just, we spend more
time together, you picking size?
No, I'm only picking herbecause we've been through the
most stuff together.
Speaker 2 (43:36):
Exactly yeah.
Speaker 1 (43:46):
Like what time we got somebody she stabbed me on
purpose.
Speaker 3 (43:48):
Yeah, uh, no, I think she was just pulling it out to
scare me, but but we.
Speaker 2 (43:52):
What did she?
What did she?
Speaker 3 (43:53):
would have killed you though we were squabbling and
she was like trying to.
She was trying to fight back.
She had the knife in her hand,but I don't think she was
meaning to stab me, but she justshe had it in her hand but but
we made up.
After that We've been to themost parties together.
Speaker 1 (44:07):
There's always that one dude.
That's six foot, somethingthat's trying to pick on shorter
people.
Speaker 3 (44:13):
She started with me I don't believe that.
She poured juice on me.
I had a fresh barrel to what'sin.
She poured some juice on methrough the car window because
she was mad.
I said I was going to pull offin her car and so I was sitting
in her car and, yeah, she tooktoo far.
She dumped the juice on me so Igot out of the car.
Speaker 1 (44:29):
I would have dumped it on you too.
Speaker 3 (44:30):
She tried to get out but her window was broken and it
didn't roll out of it, so I Idrenched it and then she tried
to open the door and shecould've killed you.
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There's always two sides to the story.
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All right, guys, take us in, hit us with the intro.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
You too.
What's the wheezy?
It's your boy, Manny.
Make sure you're speaking inthe mic.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
We're going to redo that.
We're going to redo that, Dangman.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
You too.
What's the wheezy?
It's your boy, Manny.
Mm-hmm, mack yo green y'allwant to say the rest because
it's a c.
You too.
What's the wheezy?
It's your boy, manny, mmhmm,macky O'Grain.
Y'all don't wanna say the restCause it's a cuss word.
You say you can't cuss.
I ain't gonna cuss.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
This is uh the little guy.
You feel me, he the new.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
I cut my dress off.
You feel me Dress had to go,but it's cool though.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Tell them why you cut it off cause I feel like
cutting them off, oh, okay thatwas just uh.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
You know, I chose professional life instead of the
street life.
You feel me?
Yeah.
I feel you, boy praise Godpraise God, amen praise the Lord
, thanks um on this good Sundaymorning anyways, this our our
co-host for this episode.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
This my little brother guy you already know.
He got his own episode, so wedecided he could be a co-host
today.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
So yeah he's already been on the.
You already been.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
You already been on the podcast, right?
It's Big Tino.
You know it's Baby E over here,right, anyways.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
Queen E.
Thank you very much.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
You tell him girl.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
Yes, yes.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
Anyways, what's our icebreaker?
We got an icebreaker right here, powered by hella.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Awkward on this wonderful sunday all right, you
ready yep okay, as always, Ihave a few just in case we need
icebreakers, just in case wedon't have to do all of them.
Okay, so the first one's basedoff relationships, and this one
is your best friend and yourpartner aren't, aren't vibing.
What do you do?
(01:51):
Aren't so you're with, you'rein a relationship but you have
like a best friend and you knowyou don't get along with them.
But what you mean by aren'tvibing you don't get along, okay
, you don't like them.
You don't like them.
You don't like them for yoursignificant other, your partner.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Oh no, I ain't never had that happen.
That's what you think.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
I ain't gonna lie.
Depending on like the situationand how long y'all been
together and how long you beenfriends with the person,
somebody gotta go.
If they ain't, y'all don't tryto have them talk it out and all
that and it ain't working.
Somebody got to go, whoever.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
But which one though?
Speaker 3 (02:34):
Whoever ain't been there the longest.
That's crazy Dang.
Now, whoever in the room,whoever in the room, if they act
the childish like, if you don'tlike a person for no reason
yeah, yeah, yeah that's what Iwas gonna say.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
I mean that makes sense, I'm gonna tell you like
this though, cause sometimesyour girl is gonna last way
longer than your friendship soit depend on how good you know
what I'm saying.
The relationship is cause.
If it ain't the rightrelationship, then you lost both
yeah, nah, you're gonna have tocut the cut the relationship
off you so you feel like cut therelationship off if it's not
(03:08):
the right relationship.
If it is the right relationship, then obviously you got to
choose your girl over yourfriends, but I don't know.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Okay, that's crazy I think it depends.
So I didn't think of I've had,I have erica cut her friends off
of me don't even go there firstof all.
No, I feel like, okay, yeahbecause, but for good reason.
So when I first started datinghim, my friends there was two
friends that did not like himbecause he was younger than me
(03:39):
and he's not that much youngerthan me, by the way, but he's
younger than me and I, you know,I have kids and stuff.
So people look at that as like,oh, he can't take care of you,
he can't, I didn't need somebodyto take care of me, that's what
they forgot, you tell themyou're talking about two people,
that, two women that are very,very independent.
I don't need a man kind of thing.
So eventually, yeah, I cut themoff because I don't need that
(04:01):
kind of ignorance and negativityin my life and then look we're
still together 10 years inpretty much it.
You know, that's how I see it.
I think it depends facts, facts.
You can't be judgy, judgy.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
That's the whole, my whole point damn, I've never had
a situation where the friend Iguess with you, that's the
friends don't like me or thefamily doesn't like me.
That sounds like the worst whenthe family doesn't like you.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Yeah, but you didn't have that problem.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
I cuss some people and they're like, yeah, I don't
get along with my girl's familyand I'm like, couldn't be me?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
So y'all had just met , and then your friends.
Like how long you been withfriends, with your friends?
Speaker 2 (04:48):
long time, long time long time, years, yeah yeah, and
then you cut them off for himno, I don't feel like it's that
I cut them off for him, but itactually let me see like their
true colors as people right likeI've never been anybody to say
you shouldn't be with them oryou know, unless they were like
beating their ass or somethingor cheating on them, obviously,
(05:09):
right she cussed sorry, justbecause you don't feel like
somebody can take care of me,like they missed the whole memo.
I wasn't looking for that, soI'm saying it depends.
Like I've never been the kindof friend to tell my friends
what they should be doing orshouldn't be doing unless they
(05:29):
ask me.
I didn't ask so.
To me it's just unnecessaryopinions that I don't need and I
felt like at the end of the day, it made me see them for who
they are and to this day I'vewatched their lives, you know,
transform into what it is andI'm still here holding strong 10
years in.
Can you say the same, right?
(05:53):
So in a way, kind of no, I'mjust, you know, I'm going to say
how it is In a way.
No, I didn't cut them off forhim, but I cut them off for me
because I want to be happy.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
I feel you, hey, hey, by the way, we live right now
on tiktok, tiktok.
If y'all got anything y'allwant to say, if y'all want to
put y'all a little two cents in,you feel me slide, let us know
if y'all got any questions.
Anyways, what's the next card,since you got a thousand cards
now, I only have three.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Okay, so that was one .
Tell us about your worst dateguy.
Have you ever been on a worstdate cards?
No, I only have three.
Okay, so that was one.
Tell us about your worst dateGuy.
Have you ever been on a worst?
Speaker 3 (06:30):
date Worst date.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
I don't really be doing the dates.
What you do then People don'treally go on dates no more.
It's like two.
Nowadays it's two mans andstuff.
That's a date.
What is's two mans and stuffand that's a date.
What is a two?
Speaker 1 (06:46):
mans.
You know, we old dog, we ain'tyoung like you.
I know what a two man is.
Explain it for the people inthe back, though, Erica.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Okay so y'all know what a double date is.
So, a double date is like whentwo relationships go on a date
that go on a date.
That's a double date.
A two man is you call this girllike and y'all not dating right
?
So it's not really considered.
So it's a difference, it's nota double date.
So you know somebody like youjust met this girl.
(07:16):
You'd be like you got a friendfrom my homie.
You feel me, y'all don't evenknow, don't, nobody know nobody.
You feel me, y'all don't evenknow, don't, nobody know nobody.
You feel me, except for thefriends.
And so basically y'all all linkup, all four of y'all.
Y'all just getting to know eachother.
You feel me.
That sounds like a double date.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Yeah, but y'all not dating, I mean you don't got to
be dating on a double date.
He too young to know what adouble date you've ever been on,
so you've never been on a datewith somebody and it didn't go
the way that you wanted it to go.
Oh uh, that reminds me of yourother client that went on that
day, this one yeah, this one, Iain't gonna lie.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Uh, I don't know if I should say this on the camera,
but it was the one time when uhI was, I was young and all my
friends ordered me, so that wasencouraging me to you.
Feel me, get some buns and so,and so, uh, this one girl, she
wanted to smoke and I had thecar, and uh, I'm getting in
(08:20):
trouble for this one.
But she, she wanted to smokeand I had the car, and, uh,
usually we'll just link up andsmoke at her crib, but she was
saying it like she was on that.
You feel me On what I wastrying to get down with the get
down, you feel me.
So I called her, I was on theway to her crib.
(08:40):
She was like she said something, crib.
She was like.
She was like she was like shesaid something.
And I was like I was like allright, I'm finna, you feel me,
I'm on that, I'm trying to, I'mtrying to crack so.
So she was like huh, and then,and then come to find out she
wasn't even on that.
So I go over there to smoke,and it was just awkward, dang.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
That is not the worst , that ain't a date?
Speaker 2 (09:07):
That's not cut.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Hey, we need to get him up off the pod right now.
What he telling us?
It got to be a date.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
The worst date you've ever been on.
All right, Erica, tell yourworst date Actually, yeah, so in
high school this is the onlyone I can think of.
In high school, this guy wantedme to date him, so he took me
on a date.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
He took me to.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
A&W got me a root beer float.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Boy, you ain't never been to A&W.
Anyways, go ahead.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
Because I didn't know how to say no but I didn't like
him.
But then right after the date,this is like freshman year, so I
was like 15.
Been a year, so I was like 15.
Then right after the date, weget back to the school and he
asked me out right in thehallway afterwards and I was
like no, sorry.
So I felt kind of bad because Iwent on a date.
I was not into him, I didn'tlike him, I didn't find him
(09:55):
attractive, nothing.
It was probably the worst.
It was very awkward.
He didn't talk, it was quietwhy are you doing like that?
because I didn't know how to sayno that's crazy, nothing crazy
I don't think I've had a a crazydate have you had anything
where somebody like expected youto pay for everything?
Speaker 1 (10:16):
I've never had.
I've never.
You need to tell.
Can you tell me a story about?
Speaker 2 (10:20):
your friend, your client hold on.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
I've never actually paid for a first date, true?
I want y'all to know that I'venever right.
It was girls.
I told them, yeah, I didn'thave no license, right.
But I told them I ain't gonna,uh, I ain't got no car, my car
in the shop right now.
And then we get to the end ofthe date and they was like,
don't worry about it, I pay.
I was like I was it's cool, Iwas gonna pay, but y'all got it
(10:47):
cool, is that bogus?
Speaker 2 (10:50):
okay, tell us, is that bogus though?
Speaker 1 (10:52):
is it bad for a guy to not pay for a first date?
Speaker 2 (10:55):
I think it's bad for a guy to assume, no, no, I feel
like it's bad.
It's a bad look for a guy tonot kind of just pay.
If the woman says, oh, don'tworry about it, I got it, I
think it's fine.
But if a man just like assumesthat, yeah, you were just like,
oh, yeah, you got it, it's cool.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
No, it was like we get to the end and they just be
like I got it.
I didn't.
I didn't ask them to pay for meor nothing like that.
It was just they just naturallytried to pay and I was like it
is what it is.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
I mean, that's different.
They're offering to pay.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
So yeah, but all right.
So I got a client.
I ain't going to say no names.
I ain't going to say no names.
Right, Meets a girl.
He probably going to know andhe won't follow me, so we good,
but look, he's gonna know.
This is about him.
He meets a girl at fogo de chow.
He's leaving fogo de chow.
What?
(11:53):
is that it's a restaurant, okay,it's cost deal.
Meets his girl girl's pickingup food.
She drives a mercedes.
He said, oh yeah, gets hernumber.
All that you want to go out forwhat did he say?
Either seafood or sushi?
She says, oh yeah, let's go toNobu, right?
I don't think he knew what thatwas.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
Nobu is a very expensive restaurant.
It's fancy All the rappers talkabout it all that.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
It's out here at az, I ain't never been and I ain't
going, or california so look he,he gets a haircut by me.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
He's telling me I'm like no, boo, you tripping.
He said, yeah, man, I'm scared.
He was like what, I can't evengo pick her up because I drive
an ultima.
He's driving nissan, she'sdriving mercedes.
Yeah, he's man, I'll just meether there.
So then he goes, meets herthere.
She's mad because she got topay for valet.
(12:51):
Right, they get there.
She ordering dessert, wine,appetizer, all that, remind you,
this guy is cheap, so she doesall that by the end of the date.
It's like you know what I'msaying.
She finds something in herwater.
They give her 40% off becauseshe finds something in her water
(13:13):
.
That bill was still $400.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
I was just going to say, even with a discount.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Even with a discount that was $400.
That boy would have been payingrent if he didn't find that
thing Then he's talking to her.
She's uh, they talk aboutsomething and she was like he
just asked her like what youcooking tonight?
She was like why you paying?
Yeah, you know what kind oftime she was on trying to get
(13:39):
that bag.
She was trying to get that bagup off her.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I'm sure the dating world's rough right now in this
generation.
To be honest, yeah, I'm notgoing to lie.
Speaker 3 (13:49):
If I was in that predicament, I would not have
paid.
Yeah, I would have left herthere.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
He paid for it, then you know, he did, he did.
Speaker 3 (13:56):
Simp.
That's what we call thatStraight simp.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
But look, he thought she was there to pick up food
for her.
She was doing DoorDash.
See and how are you?
That's crazy.
Whole time she ain't even gotit.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
Now, people that do DoorDash actually make a really
good amount of money.
But how are you going to workfor DoorDash and expect somebody
to pay for a $500 bill fordinner?
Speaker 3 (14:18):
That's crazy, couldn't be me, but anyways,
couldn't be me.
I'm the don and ass.
They're gonna lock you up.
It is what it is all right.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
What's your last card , man all?
Speaker 2 (14:31):
right.
Last card okay, according toyour friends, are you.
Are your dating standards toolow, too high or just right?
What do you think?
According to your friend, that?
Is well, we're not dating,that's we can't answer that
because we're not dating.
No, I can't answer it here, buthe dates guy.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Dude is very gross dude.
Do people think your standardsis too high, too low or what are
?
Speaker 3 (14:55):
you picky I go a lot my friends back in iowa.
They used to be like they usedto be cause, like, like you
gotta be somewhat cute, right,right, but like I'm not really
all the way in it for the looks,mhm, cause my mama raised me
right.
So so the girls I went out with, they wasn't the cutest girls,
(15:19):
they wasn't ugly, but theywasn't.
You feel me what?
Was they, they was mild Broshut up bro.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
They was mild.
Shut up bro.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
So, so, uh, every time my friends used to see like
Fat, fat and RJ, they used tobe like bro, you 6'5, what did
you do with her?
It'd be like bro, you can haveanybody you want and you pick
her.
I'm like bro, I'm not even init for all that fuck do you have
a type do you have a type um, Idon't really.
(15:50):
I don't really have a type, butlike I ain't gonna lie if I see
a light skin with curls dang,you're just like Tubby.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
That's how Tubby you, you just like, just like your
brother, I don't know who youlike.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
My knees get weak.
He's like I get so weak in myknees.
Shut up, bro.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
I keep forgetting to speak into the mic, that's not
going to be good.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
What about you?
Do your friends think yourstandards are too high, just
right, or too low, or what?
Speaker 2 (16:19):
I think I have the best standards.
I'm not going to lie.
Erica ain't got no standardsbro.
You're really going to lie likethat just because you're on
camera, bro.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
What you mean.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
You better fix that right now.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
What are your standards?
Fix it right now.
I would not be with you if mystandards were not good.
Erica, it's not standards, it'smore like you're not in it for
the looks.
You're not in it for the looks.
That's what I mean, that's true, yeah exactly.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Okay.
That doesn't mean I have nostandards, though Correct
yourself, I have standards.
I actually have very highstandards.
It's actually not good.
I have very high, highstandards, but sometimes I have
to remember to work on myself.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
You tell them girl.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
But I feel like my standards are just right.
Why?
Because I have a job, you havea job, I pay bills, you pay
bills, I've paid all the billsand then you couldn't, and then
now I couldn't, and now you do.
We don't cheat, we don't lie.
There's nothing to hide.
(17:22):
We meet each other 50-50.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
We listen and we don't judge.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
Period.
So my standards are just right,but according to my friends, I
don't know.
Y'all can tell me, I have noidea.
I don't really care thoughbecause I don't really feel like
I know a lot of people withgood standards in the first
place.
Hold on, let me see the cardagain.
Speaker 3 (17:43):
Hey, we gotta do another card.
Them cards is good.
Are your standards too high,too low?
Speaker 1 (17:48):
according to your friends I ain't gonna lie, I
ain't.
I was outside with no friendswhen I met you.
So you know, don't know, I feellike when I was younger, like I
went with what everyone elsethinks is cool.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
So I didn't really know what was good for me.
Yeah, what.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
I liked.
But now that I'm older, youfeel me, my wife, a 10.
What, oh man, do I have?
Speaker 2 (18:19):
I don't know, you know what I think you have good
standards, oh man, do I have?
Speaker 1 (18:21):
I don't know you know what I think?
I'm gonna say this I feel likesometimes my standards are a
little high because my grandmaand all them used to be like oh
you, you, you don't like nobodybecause it's something small
wrong with this person.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
I think you're very uh picky anyways, back to what I
was saying.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
I'm picky, so yeah, so I got high standards and uh,
but here's the thing I'm short,I'm a tall five seven, you feel
me.
So it'd be like that.
You know, everybody can't besix foot something and all that,
but honestly, I feel likesometimes the tall guys are not
(19:03):
like.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
They don't even, they don't have any personality.
Most of the time.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
Yeah, they're goofies .
Speaker 2 (19:08):
They're very corny because they feel like it's just
like men with muscles.
Like men with muscles thinkthat they don't have to, they
don't have to have anything else, and that's where they lack.
They lack everything else andthey wonder why they're being
cheated on and stuff.
It's because all you do isthink that you have muscles and
that's it and that's good enough.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
Yeah, I've been in the gym.
Speaker 2 (19:29):
I do feel like you're very picky and you can be
judgmental at times and you'revery like what's the word when
you care about looks?
Because does he not alwayspoint out something with
somebody?
I ain't going to lie, though.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
He always talks about somebody's features when I was
younger, like I didn't get a lotof attention from girls, but
now, you know, I feel like Icould if I was single.
I mean, I did before I met youand now I'm just like I don't
really.
I guess I don't, my standardsdon't matter anymore because I'm
married.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
Right To an extent.
You still have standards in arelationship, something like
that.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
With your partner.
But yeah, I wasn't always tall.
I wasn't always sought after bywomen.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
You were never tall.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
You know what I'm saying.
I used to be average height atone point, now not so much, you
know you know getting thathunchback hold on, man, watch
out, watch out.
But my standard I don't know.
I don't know if, if they aretoo high for me, they're just
right I feel.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
I mean I'm married too, so I know I feel like your
standards.
Sometimes it's not wrong,though it's not bad, but I feel
like your standards are veryhigh because you expect a lot
out of me for myself, like youexpect me to be successful, go
to work, you know, make my ownmoney too.
You would like me to go workout successfully, because you
(21:02):
know that that's what I want formyself.
But you're very like, you're apusher.
You're very pushy.
That could be a lot for somepeople, but I don't think it
means your standards are toohigh, but you do definitely have
high standards.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
Yeah, I guess, I guess.
So what's our topic for today,ma'am?
Speaker 2 (21:24):
What is our topic?
Go ahead.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
I thought you said friends.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
Anyways, we were going to talk about.
Speaker 3 (21:31):
I don't have any friends.
This is going to be hard.
Oh, that's funny.
That's funny.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
I mean, I never knew my father, you definitely have
had friends on the past, right,because this doesn't mean just
like present.
We're talking about like justin general.
Um well, the subject was kindof basically like talking about
what makes a friend a friend,like, what is your experience
with friends?
Do you ever feel like you haveto ghost anybody, cut anybody
(22:00):
off for any reason?
That's a friend and why.
Speaker 3 (22:04):
I ain't going first.
I ain't going first he's scared.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
Look, my friends know I got kids Right.
We don't talk every day but webe locked in.
My friends know I'm not goingto be out here cheating in the
streets.
They're not going to push me todo that.
My friends know that I meanthey just.
They just I'm not going to beout here cheating in the streets
.
They're not going to push me todo that.
My friends know that I meanthey just, they just you know
they know that if they hit me upit'll be, it'll be like we
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never stop talking.
You know, it'll seem like wetalk every day.
Those are the friends.
What's the other part of thetopic?
Speaker 2 (22:38):
Like have you ever had to cut a friend off, and why
?
Speaker 1 (22:40):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
What makes a friend to you?
How do you know someone's yourreal friend and not just someone
in your life?
Speaker 1 (22:49):
All the stuff I said for that part.
But then I've had to cut peopleoff.
I don't want to say cut peopleoff, I just kept distance.
I used to work with a guy in ashop and I got brought him into
the shop, right, I got him a jobthere.
Because he was like, oh, I gotfired from this shop.
(23:09):
He didn't tell me the realreason why he got fired.
Then it's like I'm having mykids around you, I'm bringing
you into this barber shop.
I'm basically telling the ownerI approve of this person.
And he turned around and waslike hey, I don't know why he
has all them clients, he ain'teven that good he said that
about?
oh, he said that about you yeahso it's like sometimes you gotta
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ghosting people, sometimes yougotta keep distance.
I don't want to be friends withsomebody who doesn't take care
of their kids for one I don'twant to be friends with somebody
who's going to talk behind myback definitely understood I
don't want to be friends withjust people who are going out
all the time because I don't goout.
So I need more people withcommon goals or to have a lot
(23:54):
more in common with me I agreeso, yeah, what's the third part
of that question?
Speaker 2 (24:01):
boy, do you need the card oh?
Speaker 1 (24:05):
I asked it, she asked it and she don't even see what
I'm talking about.
No, I said, have you ever hadto?
Speaker 2 (24:10):
ghost somebody, or like cut off a friendship and
why that was it?
Or like what makes somebody agood friend to you and why you
done you feel me?
Speaker 1 (24:20):
of course I'm done.
I just I just gave you a bibleverse anyways.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
Um, you could probably speak for me.
I'm very picky when it comes tofriends.
I did not used to be that way.
That's why I always had a bunchof friends she ain't gonna know
friends.
I don't really have a lot offriends now.
For me it's more of like I justget really irritated easily
with people and like theirdecisions.
So if you keep making the samemistakes over and over and over,
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but then you want to vent to melike I can only be there to
help you so many times or tellyou what I think you should do,
but when it gets to a pointwhere I feel like you're
draining me, you know, or likeit's mentally exhausting to be
around you, I will literally,yeah, distance myself.
Um, or if I feel like you useme in a way like I love, like I
(25:10):
have a friendship where if I geta coffee for her, she gets a
coffee for me.
If I'm picking her up today,she'll pick me up.
If you know I got her something, she'll get me something, and
we don't do it tit for tat, butwe just were thoughtful about
you know I got her something,she'll get me something, and we
don't do it tit for tat, but wejust were thoughtful about you
know what we would, what we dowith each other.
I've gone over to her housewhenever she just needs me to be
there and I'm just there to bethere, like I truly enjoy being
(25:30):
there to help her with her kids.
I don't need anything in returnand it's fine.
We don't have to talk every day.
But sometimes you just havefriendships that are just
one-sided and you're constantlydoing, doing, doing for them,
but you're not receivinganything back, and not even on a
mental level.
So for me, if it's that, I willdistance myself, and you know I
(25:51):
only speak to you if I have to,but I'm pretty selective when
it comes to my friends facts,because I feel like that's I
mean, yeah, same thing like youwanna have friends that have the
same common goals, cause If not, why are you friends?
They're not doing anything foryou, yep.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
Who's your friend?
Shout out your friends.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
My friends.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Shout out your friends.
Speaker 2 (26:17):
Why are you trying to put me on blast Cause you know
they only fit on one hand.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
Shout them out.
Speaker 2 (26:23):
Okay, well, my number one, my OG friend from the
fourth grade, is going to beMaribel.
We literally don't even talkevery month.
Speaker 1 (26:34):
We talk.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
Every once in a while , we shoot each other a message
on Instagram or something, butthat is my friend from
elementary.
We have been through a lot, alot, but we're still so strong.
So, maribel, stephanieStephanie is my kid's godparent.
Again, we've been through a lottoo, but we always seem to land
(26:58):
on the same page.
We're very mature and cancommunicate about any issues
that we have.
And then there is, uh, jc.
Jc's my friend through avery'sfriend, so her ex boyfriend is
his friend, so they're prettyclose and so I met her that way.
Um, um, that's really it,stephanie.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
She already said Stephanie.
How you on the podcast?
Speaker 2 (27:27):
And then I have friends on social media that I
love, love, love too, but I'venever got to meet them in person
.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
Interesting.
Speaker 3 (27:35):
Man shout out Huncho Shout out Nito.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
Well, huncho, your cousin boy.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
That's so friend.
Speaker 1 (27:43):
Man shut up.
Speaker 3 (27:44):
I'm trying to correct somebody you can tell we
siblings, cause I'll smack buddyanyways go ahead, go ahead yeah
, man shout out to them, but sotalk about it did I ever have to
cut somebody off, like cut afriendship, nah cause.
Or ghost?
Yeah, I mean.
Yeah, it's probably been timeswhere I cut a friendship no
(28:04):
because.
Or ghost?
Yeah, I mean, it's probablybeen times where I cut a person
off, but ghost, no, I don'treally be ghost people.
If I ain't mess with you, I'mjust keeping a bug and tell you
what you did wrong.
I ain't mess with you, no more.
Speaker 1 (28:17):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 3 (28:18):
I mean you don't like it.
Okay, what makes a good friendA good friend?
Perfect example of a goodfriend Me, I feel you.
I don't even know dude Nah, butlook, I don't really know the
(28:40):
specific examples, but like Allmy friends is great friends.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
Why.
Speaker 3 (28:44):
Why you feel me they got my friends.
Why, why you feel me they gotmy back.
You feel me I don't knowWhatever make a friend a good
friend?
Y'all know.
If y'all got good friends,y'all know and I ain't talking
about the people that gotfriends and then be like, oh
y'all, finna, cut him.
No, I ain't talking about thepeople that got friends and then
be like, oh, y'all, finna, cuthim.
(29:05):
No, I ain't talking about y'all.
If you ever feel like you,finna, cut your friend off and
then the next minute y'all cool,y'all not real friends?
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Okay, but actually let's talk about that, because I
feel like not gonna lie.
Speaker 3 (29:15):
Don't cut buddy off.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
Yeah, I struggle with that, though, because Avery
knows we talk about this all thetime, knows we talk about this
all the time, of course, like wevent to each other, right, like
we, we talk to each other aboutcertain things, like we'll be
like, hey, that's crazy, that'ssomething right.
But let me just say I feel likeit's hard because you sometimes
(29:38):
do want to be like I'm done,like I don't even want to deal
with them anymore.
I don't want to, whatever theykeep making the same whatever.
How do you?
It's hard, though, because thenwhat you would come back around
and it's like wait, no, we'restill good.
Like we're good, everything'sfine.
I think it's trying to givepeople like the benefit of the
doubt, trying to give peoplechances, but it's hard because
(30:02):
deep down, you know they'reprobably not a good person to
have in your life.
You know what I mean.
So it's the same thing as likegossiping about your friends,
but then you're cool.
I mean that's like we've talkedabout this.
One of my biggest pet peeves islike having a friend but then
talking about them behind theirback because you don't agree
what they're doing.
I feel like it's kind ofdifferent, though, like when
you're only venting to like yourspouse about it, because y'all
(30:25):
communicate.
Then if I was going to likeanother friend and saying, dang
so, and so did this today andwhatever she got on my nerves
and I keep telling her the samething over and over, I feel like
that's different than like whenwe what do you think?
I feel like?
I don't feel like it's healthy,though I know exactly what
you're saying.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
I feel like.
I feel like if you feel thatway, you should just keep it a
bug with him, be like I feellike you're not a good friend
yeah, I feel like just beinghonest and if y'all get into it.
That's the perfect timing to cutthat right there and then be
like you know what I'm, finna,stop messing with you.
I ain't messing with you nomore.
(31:05):
Yeah, you cut you, feel me.
That's exactly what you gottasay.
Never talk to them again.
Simple as that.
Simple as that you cut, I ain'tmessing with you no more.
Uh, uh.
Speaker 2 (31:20):
I feel like it depends on what it is, though,
because you can have like I said, you can have friends that
don't live the same life as you,or don't live the same life as
you or don't have the samemindset as you, but you're still
cool and you can't make otherpeople be smarter.
You know you can't make otherpeople do what you do.
Speaker 3 (31:34):
You know if you don't want to do that, you can just
keep your distance.
Speaker 2 (31:36):
I think yeah, exactly that's my point just keep your
distance have a have a differentrelationship than with y'all
Right Then, like anotherfriendship, you feel me Exactly.
Speaker 3 (31:45):
It's different between friends, because you got
friends that you call yourbrothers and sisters, then you
got.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
that's just my friends, friends that you're
just cool with, yeah, nice.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
That's facts.
Speaker 2 (31:53):
So I guess that's all I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
See, I got a lot of friends.
And then I got associates.
Yeah, I have a lot of friends.
I got a good amount of friends,be fake.
And then it's a whole bunch ofassociates.
I said you're fake.
Hey, I ain't fake, I just liveoff good vibes, that ain't fake.
All right, no, ain't nobodydoing nothing to me for me to be
(32:16):
like, oh, I don't want to messwith you.
But at the same time, it'swhatever flow his boat.
It's like this I got, I got mycertain group of friends.
I'll talk to them all the time.
And then, outside of that, yougot other people who you.
When you see him, you just belike what's up, bro, that's it
all.
Right, you feel me.
But the friends, they know,friends is the ones you call
(32:39):
when you.
You know I'm saying when you'regoing through your worst times,
or, and like it was a time me,bradley, bradley and Bryce, we
was on the phone like hey, man,who got the lowest bank account
today.
I know we all going through it.
So it be like that.
Sometimes them is your friends,right, kenny Andre, them is
friends, people like that, youknow what I'm saying.
(33:00):
The guys at the shop them isfriends, you know what I'm
saying.
But you know what I'm saying.
The guys at the shop them isfriends.
You know what I'm saying.
But the people outside of thatlike.
Speaker 3 (33:08):
it's certain people that I don't just I don't Like
associates.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
Yeah, they just associates.
We ain't going to say no names.
We ain't going to say no names.
Speaker 2 (33:16):
There's a lot of I'm cool with everybody though you
know what I'm saying I'm coolwith everybody, Because I feel
like even your friends' friends,they know how you are Because
you know I've seen it where theycould be telling you something
or venting to you aboutsomething.
You've already told them how itis and they're still in the
same boat, so you just don't sayanything.
(33:37):
Eventually they change thesubject, Eventually they stop
talking about it and they moveon.
They know not to come to youabout certain things because of
how you are and like you knowwhat you, what you believe or
whatever.
So I feel like it's a littlebit different because you're
pretty straight up about it.
You've already told themdoesn't mean that you can't vent
to me about it.
You've already said somethingto them but they still.
(34:01):
They just are who they are.
Speaker 1 (34:03):
Facts.
I agree with that, you know butIowa's small, so you know
everybody just from knowingeverybody.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:10):
Yeah, you have way too many friends over there.
Speaker 1 (34:12):
Too many associates.
They're not all friends.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
Cousins, I don't know , Cousins, that we do I don't
know who is who that we do.
Speaker 3 (34:19):
That's why I got two of my cousins that I call
friends, but they're my cousinsTo me.
Speaker 2 (34:27):
Anyways, was there anything you want to talk about,
Guy?
Before we end this podcasttoday, End it already.
No, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 3 (34:33):
Yeah, what did you want to talk about?
What did you want to?
Talk about Dang?
I don't know Something.
Let's do another card here, youpick a card.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
All right, Guy ain's supposed to be a co-host.
He ain't asking no questions.
He ain't doing no co-hostduties.
Speaker 3 (34:48):
We need better from you dawg.
I'm going to tell y'allbusiness on this one.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
Buddy it's niche.
All right, look, Buddy, it'sniche.
Speaker 3 (34:56):
It say tell us the story of your first time getting
wasted.
We need all the details.
Speaker 2 (35:03):
He's never been wasted.
Speaker 3 (35:03):
He don't drink and she don't smoke, so she drink
and he don't smoke, but he he bepopping them joints.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
Popping them joints, what?
Speaker 2 (35:15):
you're lying, you lying.
No, not popping them joints.
What?
Speaker 3 (35:19):
do you mean you remember when you was in Vegas
and you was lit?
Speaker 2 (35:22):
oh, yeah, man, he was up there.
He was up there, he was upthere.
Speaker 1 (35:24):
He was up there when you was in Vegas and you was lit
fuck.
Oh yeah, man, this guy tryingto set us up.
I'm going to tell y'all rightnow there's one time I did
edibles in.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
Vegas, that's it.
Speaker 3 (35:34):
Yeah, how'd you feel I don't know, so here's the
thing.
Speaker 1 (35:38):
When I was young, I used to fake smoke, if you know
what that means.
You inhale you inhale and thenyou exhale, but you don't
actually inhale, inhale don't goin your lungs.
Hold on, man, anyways.
So I was doing that and thenone time they was like man, you
(35:59):
ain't even smoking, man, yougotta inhale, I inhale.
That was the first time I saidsay, yeah, this ain't for me,
dog, I, I can't be one of thepeople who relies on marijuana
every single day and cannotfunction without marijuana
drinking.
That's different.
I know a lot of alcoholics inthe family or people I've just
been around that I cannot drink.
(36:21):
I won drink, I'm not trying todrink.
So you want to tell your story?
Okay, mine's pretty bad, we'redone, folks, after this, this is
it All right.
Speaker 2 (36:34):
Okay.
So the one time that I got Ihate saying that wasted, that
sounds trashy but the one time Igot really drunk was when I was
16.
Or 17.
No, when I was 16 or 17.
No, I was 16.
Dang, you was drinking that, yo, and back in the day everybody
used to go get a big old bottleof sangria.
That's what it's called.
It's like a big old bottle ofwine and I'm talking like a jug,
(36:56):
not a bottle, a jug.
So I drank it all.
I'm a lightweight and so I gotreally drunk.
We went to the club, stood inline and that's the last thing I
remember.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
We never made it into the club.
Speaker 2 (37:12):
They said I was falling in line.
I don't remember anything.
I blacked out, woke up the nextmorning and I was so mad that I
did not go to the club.
Speaker 1 (37:21):
Why.
Speaker 2 (37:22):
Because I really wanted to go.
Speaker 1 (37:23):
I was really excited, you was outside.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
I blacked out and there was throw up everywhere.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
It was so bad.
Speaker 2 (37:31):
They had to throw me in the shower Naked, that's
gross Because it was throw upall over my clothes.
Yeah, Threw me in the showernaked.
Cold water it was bad.
Speaker 1 (37:46):
That's the worst story I have.
Yeah that's pretty bad.
I'm a little too messy guy,what's?
Speaker 3 (37:50):
yours what, yeah, tell, tell when you uh, I ain't
gonna lie, I uh, I'm 18, I I'mgrown, I can't get in trouble no
more, you ain't grown shut up,but look, uh, shut up, but look,
I used to.
So we used to have a littleneighborhood group right Sixth
(38:12):
grade, you feel me Sixth grade.
Shut up.
Does your mom know this?
We listen and we don't.
Yeah, I got caught.
I got sent to my daddy'shospital.
I went to go stay with my dadfor like two years after that
and it was this little fat kiddown the street and he stayed
with his grand.
Speaker 2 (38:36):
He stayed with his grand.
Speaker 3 (38:39):
He was like a super duper eighth grader right, Not a
super senior, but he was Dang.
He repeated it like five times,like three times.
I ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 1 (38:46):
Dang.
Speaker 3 (38:47):
So this nigga was like 16, in the eighth grade and
he lived with his granny so heain't had no discipline.
So he had.
You feel me?
I tried to hit the blunt forthe first time.
You feel me?
I was in sixth grade and Iwasn't even smoking for real.
I thought I was smoking.
I wasn't even smoking untilfreshman year.
(39:08):
Fat Fat and Andre.
We was at Fat Fat Crip and Itried it again cause I had.
You know, I got sent with mypops for that cause my mom found
out.
And then seventh and eighth orthe rest of sixth grade and
seventh grade I was, I wasstaying with my dad.
I came back eighth grade and Iwas doing good Freshman year, me
, fat Fat, andre and anotherdude.
(39:32):
We was at Fat Fat Crib and wesmoked.
That was my first time gettinghigh.
I was like, yeah, I wasn't highfor real.
Last time, nigga, I was zooted.
Then it was the middle of thenight and we had to run for the
bus.
We was like 10 blocks away andthe bus was coming in like 5
minutes.
These niggas decided to takeoff running y'all were bad.
(39:53):
I'm like oh heck, you don't theylook at me, I look at them in
the 6th grade.
Speaker 2 (39:57):
That's April's age, so you were 11 he trying to be a
pothead, bro.
Speaker 1 (40:01):
What's wrong with buddy?
Yeah, shut up, man and thengetting drunk.
Speaker 3 (40:08):
First time getting drunk I was like it was like a
little bonfire.
This white kid, his dad, had anabandoned barn, a barn house,
and they would just start a firein the middle of the barn house
and we all used to go in thereand I remember I was off, that
clear joint, what I was off,that I was off that clear joint
what I was off that, what's mycar, what's?
A clear joint I ain't gonna saywhat it was.
Speaker 1 (40:29):
I don't know what's the buddy.
Speaker 3 (40:31):
I was off that.
Speaker 2 (40:32):
Vodka.
Speaker 3 (40:32):
Nope.
Speaker 2 (40:34):
Smirnoff, it was that trunk.
Speaker 3 (40:36):
I was off that trunk.
No, but that's my story.
We got one more card.
Speaker 1 (40:41):
No, we done.
Speaker 3 (40:42):
No, no, no One more, one more.
Speaker 1 (40:43):
We have 40 minutes we done.
Speaker 2 (40:46):
It's going to be short anyways, you got to edit
it.
It says stop fronting.
Speaker 3 (40:50):
You have a favorite friend.
Who is it?
Speaker 1 (40:52):
I don't got no favorite friend.
You a lie, I don't you a lie.
I don't who, I ain't got one.
Who your closest friend, Idon't got one.
Speaker 3 (41:08):
You used to Everybody's different at
different times in my life.
You be talking best about.
Everybody off the camera Are weon camera.
Speaker 1 (41:16):
I'll be on y'all head .
Speaker 2 (41:17):
I'm not going to lie.
Oh my goodness, that's what Imean, though he's very picky
about people.
He's very picky about people inhis life.
He doesn't have the patiencefor nonsense.
Facts.
You know what I feel likedefinitely, mine is Stephanie,
oh, but Maribel's like my.
(41:38):
Okay, that's hard because yeah,thanks to me, we get messy
Because I don't see Maribelanymore so I don't get to have
that connection with her inperson, but like the connection
that we have from afar willnever be different.
I don't have a favorite.
I can't choose, because I feellike Maribel is just, she knows
(42:01):
me like nobody else knows me.
So I'd have to say Maribel,because Stephanie's more like my
sister.
Who's your favorite?
Speaker 1 (42:10):
guy.
Speaker 3 (42:12):
I got a story time for y'all, Nah ain't no story
time.
Speaker 1 (42:14):
Who's your favorite?
Shut up man, who is yourfavorite?
Answer the question.
Speaker 3 (42:21):
Of course I'm going to have to say my cousins, right
, Because them who I hang outwith.
Speaker 1 (42:25):
Them, you got to pick one.
Speaker 3 (42:27):
Shut up, but look.
Speaker 1 (42:30):
He got angry issues.
He drops on his head as a baby.
Speaker 3 (42:33):
Me and Honcho grew up together, so I can't say Nito
and not say Honcho.
But I can't say Honcho and notsay Nito.
You feel me, because me andNito spend more time together
than Hunter do.
But I can't, you feel me, Ican't pick between.
So me and Hunter grew uptogether, but Nito I met Nito at
I was in fifth grade and hermom, her and her mom had just
moved to Des Moines and theyain't know nobody out there.
(42:55):
And yeah, see, I came over, wemet, we used to be in the
basement slot boxing and stuffand so, and so I would say, I
don't know, it's like me andNito spend more time together,
for sure.
But shoot, yeah, it's betweenthem two and I ain't gonna lie,
(43:19):
I'm gonna have to say Nito, nitoonly because we spend more time
together.
But Hancho.
Speaker 1 (43:24):
I still love you time together.
Speaker 3 (43:25):
That's what I'm saying.
But, hancho, I still love youbro.
I still love you bro.
Speaker 1 (43:27):
He choosing size.
It's hard.
Speaker 3 (43:29):
No, I ain't choosing size, it's just, we spend more
time together, you picking size?
No, I'm only picking herbecause we've been through the
most stuff together.
Speaker 2 (43:36):
Exactly yeah.
Speaker 1 (43:46):
Like what time we got somebody she stabbed me on
purpose.
Speaker 3 (43:48):
Yeah, uh, no, I think she was just pulling it out to
scare me, but but we.
Speaker 2 (43:52):
What did she?
What did she?
Speaker 3 (43:53):
would have killed you though we were squabbling and
she was like trying to.
She was trying to fight back.
She had the knife in her hand,but I don't think she was
meaning to stab me, but she justshe had it in her hand but but
we made up.
After that We've been to themost parties together.
Speaker 1 (44:07):
There's always that one dude.
That's six foot, somethingthat's trying to pick on shorter
people.
Speaker 3 (44:13):
She started with me I don't believe that.
She poured juice on me.
I had a fresh barrel to what'sin.
She poured some juice on methrough the car window because
she was mad.
I said I was going to pull offin her car and so I was sitting
in her car and, yeah, she tooktoo far.
She dumped the juice on me so Igot out of the car.
Speaker 1 (44:29):
I would have dumped it on you too.
Speaker 3 (44:30):
She tried to get out but her window was broken and it
didn't roll out of it, so I Idrenched it and then she tried
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