Our Ideas of Love - The Other What - S1 E5

From Furniture Building to Family Love: Exploring Parental Influences

In this heartfelt episode, hosts Sharon and Désirée dive deep into the ways their parents have influenced their perceptions of love and relationships. They share personal anecdotes, from Sharon's father's humorous grocery store encounter to Désirée's parents' affectionate marriage. The conversation touches on the contrasts between Eastern and Western concepts of love, the impact of generational trauma, and the importance of love languages in their lives.

Sharon opens up about her parents' reserved expressions of love, rooted in Eastern traditions, while Désirée reflects on the open affection and confidence her parents instilled in her. Together, they explore how these differing backgrounds shaped their views on love, independence, and self-worth. The episode also delves into the significance of chosen families within the LGBTQ+ community and the role of food as an unspoken love language.

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00:00 Sharon: I'm putting together an entertainment center and my body hurts

01:12 How did our parents influence our ideas of love

01:47 How did your parents meet and how your parents met

07:20 Moving out is a very western concept. Why would you get your own place

08:54 Sharon's parents have been married for 46 years

14:13 From my perspective, being from an eastern asian culture, love is different

19:19 I didn't grow up with a lot of that. Love was not kind words. Love is criticism

20:47 This is the stuff that is really tough for me to talk about

27:24 Gay people develop their own family outside of their born family

29:43 The five love languages are discussed in Gary Chapman's book

33:55 There is a 6th love language, which is food

36:45 If you have any, um, comments or feedback, please let us know

Mentioned in this Episode

• Culture Clash: Reconciling Asian collectivist values and Western individualistic values - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/minority-report/201905/culture-clash
• Difference between Eastern and Western Culture - https://thespanishgroup.org/blog/how-is-eastern-culture-different-from-western-culture
• The Myth of Rugged Individualism - https://www.ouropinionsarecorrect.com/shownotes/2019/7/27/episode-43-scientific-racism
• "What My Bone's Know" by Stephanie Foo - https://www.amazon.com/What-My-Bones-Know-Healing/dp/0593238109
• The 5 Love Languages - https://5lovelanguages.com

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