187: Let’s Talk About Painful Sex: Vulvas and Vaginas

This episode gets real as Melissa and Kate talk to Shannon who opens up about her personal experience with painful sex and vulvodynia and vaginismus. She shares how these challenges have shaped her live, relationships, and self-esteem, while also tackling the pressures society places on sexuality. It’s a candid, heartfelt conversation that’s all about breaking the stigma and encouraging empathy. 

What We Talked About: 

• Real-Life Struggles: Shannon shares her journey with vulvodynia and vaginismus, including the physical pain and emotional impact. 

• Society’s Unrealistic Expectations: They chat about how society often sets women up with impossible expectations around sex and why it’s okay to redefine intimacy on your terms. 

• Getting Help: Shannon talks about her treatment journey, including using prescribed creams, considering therapy, and learning about her anatomy to take charge of her recovery. 

• Redefining Intimacy: A look at how sex is about so much more than just penetration and why communication and trust are key in relationships. 

• Let’s Get Empathetic: Melissa and Kate highlight why talking about these issues openly is so important for reducing stigma and creating a more supportive world. 

Big Takeaways: 

1. Pain During Sex Isn’t Normal: If you’re struggling, speak up and seek help. 

1. Support is Everything: Having a supportive partner, friends, and medical team can make a huge difference. 

1. Sex is Personal: Don’t let anyone tell you what intimacy should look like—it’s about what works for you and your partner. 

1. You’re Not Alone: So many people deal with these issues. Let’s talk about them and support each other. 

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Resources We Mentioned: 

• Counselling and therapy for sexual trauma. 

• Pelvic floor physio options. 

• Online support groups and forums for those with vulvodynia or vaginismus. 

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