The Point of the Matter

Have you ever sat at a 4-way stop with folks who can't figure out who goes next? Have you played a game with someone who doesn't, or worse, won't learn the rules? Have you witnessed the chaos and rage that happens when people didn't know, or refuse to follow, the simple rules of standing in line to check out at a store or enter a concert venue? ⁠

Maddening madness. Anarchy. Mayhem. ⁠

All of which is avoided when e...

You can’t scroll for half a hot second and not see some pithy plea to practice gratitude. Usually, this type of thing makes us a bit nuts but this is perhaps the only exception to that rule. 

Gratitude IS the bomb-diggity. It is the shizzle. The juice. And it's because it works.  

Grateful to, grateful for, grateful because, grateful in spite of, whatever you choose, it doesn’t matter. Because as soon as you ...

If you thought Halloween’s episode about fear was scary, you aren’t ready for the Holidays. 

Grandma/Mimi/Nana in the kitchen: Well, if YOU prefer a DRY turkey, fine! Brother/Sister/Cousin at the supper table: Yeah, remember that time you [insert embarrassing made-up bullshit here]. Crazy Uncle Joe watching the game/parade: pro/anti-mask rant on repeat. Loopy Aunt Lucy over coffee and dessert: you push your kids too hard/not enough....

Ladies, there’s a lot of bullsh*t in this world and a lot of that bullsh*t has some new names. Whatever it’s called, it’s emotionally manipulative AND it’s effin’ bullsh*t. More importantly, being on the receiving end of this BS can make you question your sanity, your judgement, and your relationships. 

In this episode, we want to know what the hell is the difference between “ghosting” and “caspering”? Who the hell came up...

Halloween is coming up this weekend and everyone is getting excited about getting scared! Woo hoo! That’s the fun type of chest-pounding, horror-movie watching, jump-out-of-your-skin terror that we can TOTALLY get behind. What we can’t (and absolutely WON’T) get behind is the never-ending fearmongering that many women—and girls—live with every single day. 

Is “That’s so scary!” part of your daily vocabulary? Do you say, “I’m so afra...

Sometimes the tiniest, most random fork in the road changes the entire direction of your life. A disrupted mother/daughter day out (Stasha), an ex’s demand (Cheryl), a bus stop fist fight (both). Looking back in our 50s, and knowing how it's turned out so far, we can pinpoint the exact moment our lives changed…for the better.
 
 Why is this important? Because learning how to look back can be as valuable as knowing how...

There are two things we KNOW to be true: 1) it’s hard to make and keep friends as you get older and 2) it’s nearly impossible to be happy without friends. 

From your local hang-out peeps to your shared-interest [book/bike/kayak/fitness/whatevs] club to your bury-the-body-bestie, knowing who is—as well as what makes—a “good” friend is a life skill every woman should have, especially women in midlife. 

How do you find them? How do you ...

Sometimes recent events bring up a subject that grabs us by the heart and we need to talk about it. Gaslighting—a specific type of psychological abuse, usually directed at women in order to control them—is one of those topics.

What is it? What are the signs? What can you do if someone is gaslighting you? What should you do if you suspect a friend is being mentally or emotionally abused?

From intimate relationshi...

Like everything else, handling life like a boss is a skill that can be cultivated or that can wither on the vine. First step to being a setback badass? Learn the difference between an inconvenience, a setback, a crisis, and a catastrophe. (Hint: it has nothing to do with how you feel.) Step two: ask the right questions in the right order. Step three, four, and beyond? Plan, act, repeat.

So, grab a frosty glass of somethin...

If there’s anything we love it’s something that makes life a little easier. And while there’s certainly isn’t a shortage of life hack advice on the internetz, both good and WTF, our standing rule remains: a good hack works for YOU. This week, we share some of our tried-and-true make-life-easy tips (Stasha is ALL about the baskets) as well as some ideas from around the web (Cheryl is ALL about saving money and time). We also talk ab...

Remember when you were in your 20s or 30s? Lifetime goals were a lifetime away. Well guess what, WarriorQueens? You’re now hip deep in midlife (or later) and there are still things you want to do, to achieve, and to be in your 50s, 60s, 70s and beyond.

Whatever comes next, there are two ways to get there: Sit around and see how it turns out OR get real about setting goals. 1) Assess where you are, 2) decide where you want to go, and...

Ladies, if we had a nickel for every bit of dumbass advice we’ve heard regarding what women in their 50s “need to do!” we could retire rich. Today. And you don’t have to look far. It’s everywhere. 10 THINGS YOU MUST DO NOW! 25 ACTIONS YOU MUST TAKE TODAY!! 50 WAYS TO KICK 50s ASS THIS YEAR!!! Holy exclamation points, Batwoman.
 
This week we scoured the web looking for the worst-of-the-worst (Spend more time in bed! And no...

Lots of folks claim lots of things about their values…while the rest of us sit over here with popcorn and see how the act. (We’re looking at you, pearl-clutching Family Values chick; and you too, Mr. Personal Responsibility dude.) But other people, often women in midlife, choose to take time and take stock; to re-examine and re-discover; and shape who they want to be in their next chapter. 

In this episode, Values, Stasha shares a f...

Ever had a conversation that starts off on a normal track then veers off the highway, jumps the curb, skids across the ditch, blasts through the trees, then ends up on a totally different road careening towards a completely unknown destination? Yeah, this one’s like that. 

Society is more than shared beliefs and ideas. It’s the feeling you get when you feel like you have to keep your mouth shut around certain people. It’s the feelin...

Men! They’re everywhere, amiright?? Fathers, brothers, sons, friends, cousins, co-workers, partners, clients, customers, employers, employees. The list goes on and on. But most important for this conversation, men are much, much more than husbands or boyfriends. In this episode, we talk about the best (like our fathers), to the worst (they know who they are), how they got that way, and how they impact our lives. So, get comfy. Grab...

What do two long-time married women know about dating in midlife? The answers will surprise you. Whether it’s supporting friends re-entering the dating world or being in it ourselves (What?! Listen to the episode!) there’s a lot of wisdom and experience that women know but sometimes need refreshed. So, whether you’re the dater, the wing-woman, the shoulder to cry on, or the hired gun when some douchenozzle needs an ass-kicking, gra...

Breaking news! Sometimes life is hard and work isn’t fun. People who handle that fact like a boss have something called grit, the ability to gut it out in order to achieve a long-term goal. In this episode we get down and dirty on the importance of grit in our own lives and how women can cultivate more of it as we move into our fifties and beyond. So sit back, dig in, and drink up. We’re powering through what to do when the going g...