December 14, 2023 • 45 mins
Have you ever reflected on the significance of milestones in your life and how they shape your future? Join me in this episode as we unwrap this thought-provoking topic and explore the future possibilities that accompany each milestone. As we step into the new year, I share my personal journey of experimenting with a mushroom-based drink, Mudwater, after taking a break from coffee. Let's discover the potential benefits of this unique concoction together.
The holiday season brings with it a sense of warmth and nostalgia. I invite you to step into my world as we discuss the joy of Christmas, my unique approach to gift-giving, and the essence of the holiday spirit. Let's take a trip down memory lane as we talk about the evolution of Lego kits from simple building blocks to a paint-by-number system. The journey isn't devoid of challenges though. I open up about the ups and downs of my motivational speaking career, and the learning that lies within these personal struggles.
Reflecting on the fear and uncertainty that looms around sustaining success, I delve into my own milestone of 20 years as a professional entertainer and speaker. The prospect of a career change and the fine line between hobbies and career pursuits is something we all grapple with. As we celebrate our milestones together, let's also embrace the unknown future with a positive mindset. Let's ponder on what we want the theme of our next milestone to be and share our thoughts on what we want to be true for ourselves in the future. Don't forget to rate and comment on the podcast. Looking forward to meeting again in the next episode with an exciting guest!
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Hello, welcome to the possibility mindset podcast.
I'm Devin Henderson, I am yourhost and I truly believe that
something greater is alwayspossible for you.
Well, here we are, everybody.
We are coming to an end ofanother year, the end of 2023.
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And today we're going to betalking about milestones.
So what are milestones exactly?
Are they significant, what dothey mean to you and what does
it mean for your future?
So that all just came off thetop of my head.
All I knew is that I wanted totalk to you about milestones,
(00:51):
and so we're going to get tothat later and I'm excited to
just talk about that.
I always get excited for the newyear, for new goals, for new
possibilities.
For me, I feel like it's kindof a time of year where my
possibility mindset always sortof gets reset and focuses on
some kind of new goal, new word,new venture and new
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opportunities that are out there.
So get excited, it's going tobe fun and, by the way, I
haven't done a solo podcast in awhile.
I've been doing all theseinterviews, which have been
awesome, and it's funny because,you know, for so long I did so
many solo podcasts and I keptsaying I'm going to have guests,
I'm going to have guests andfinally it came and then it just
(01:38):
hit and it was awesome and withetc allowing us to use our
space, I've just really lovedthat format Just meeting with
sometimes old friends, sometimesnew friends, over breakfast.
That etc provides in theirreally fun space and I can bring
very minimal equipment, the setups easy and the conversations
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have just been really rich andsometimes surprising.
But for sure I'm learningsomething from the people that I
talk to.
So I hope you've been enjoyingthose.
I mean I've already got someguests lined up.
I've actually got two more inthe queue right now and then
I've got some exciting guests Ican't wait to interview next
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year, even in January.
So it's been a good time.
I feel like I'm bringing todifferent energies today.
A lot of times when I start thepodcast I feel like I'm coming
in with the motivational speakerenergy, like how's everyone
doing, what's going on?
You know bringing that bestearly morning version of myself.
But today I just felt likebeing more conversational and
(02:43):
we'll see over time, you know,who wins inside me the
motivational speaker or the moreconversational Devin with the
podcast.
But I have an idea, I have agood idea, I have a yeah, I
think it's going to be theconversationalist because to
keep that energy going everytime, it's just a lot, you know,
(03:05):
a lot for me, probably a lotfor you listeners too.
So hopefully you're enjoyingthis energy today.
This feels a little more, alittle more natural, all right.
So I do want to let you knowabout mudwater.
Mudwater is awesome.
This is the product right here.
It comes in a canister likethis.
It's powder.
You mix it with hot water, allright, and then I put honey in
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it and this is incredible.
I'm actually 37 days off coffeenow.
So you'll actually watch alater episode with me with
interviewing Candy Whirly, whereat that time I have only been,
like, I think, 23 days off orsomething like that.
So you're going to be like what, is he going backwards?
Is he counting backwards?
(03:47):
No, these are just a little bitout of order, but I am 37 days
off coffee and I mainly quitcoffee because for now I'm
trying it right.
I decided I want to go twomonths.
I want to go into January alittle bit and just see if it
helps me sleep better, helps meout of sleep better, helps me
have more energy throughout theday.
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I drank too much coffee.
I love coffee, I love the taste, I love the ritual of it.
But it's hard for me just tostick to that one cup a day, and
I'm not even sure if one cup aday is good for me or not.
That's why I'm sort of goingcold turkey, backing way off and
figuring out will my bodyrespond better to just lower
amounts of caffeine?
You know, because what's greatabout this mudwater thing?
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This has 35 grams of caffeinewith each serving, where coffee
has more like 100.
So it's like a third the amountof caffeine.
So I can drink more of this.
You know, because I like tohave that hot drink in my hands
throughout the morning.
Just one cup of something won'tdo.
So I've thrown out the coffeefor now, thrown out the black
tea, I'm drinking mudwater.
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I also drink green tea just tohave, you know, some variety.
But this stuff's great.
So let me talk about mudwater.
It's basically it's a mushroombased mixture, right?
So it's meant to not just likereplace coffee and replace
caffeine, but it actually has,like health benefits, right?
So it's got these elements inthere.
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Lion's mane is kind of mushroomfor mental performance I'm not
going to see all these, rightprobably, but Cordyceps for
physical performance, reishi forrecovering immunity, chaga for
overall health, turmeric forinflammation, cacao for mood,
cacao also for the taste, youknow, because who doesn't love
chocolate?
So it's good for those things.
Now what it's, what, what theyclaim and what I'm experimenting
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with is that it's supposed toinduce alertness, not dependency
, improve my mental capacity andfunction, improve my physical
stamina and performance andimprove my immunity and overall
health.
So it's really multifacetedhere.
It's not just a coffeereplacement.
I'm using it also just to seeif I can, you know, feel better,
be healthier and be more alertthroughout the day.
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I was usually with with coffeein the past.
I'm going to blame it on coffeefor now, because it's the only
culprit I can think of.
I haven't.
I haven't slept well.
I've always had problems withnot sleeping well, but I've
never really been caffeine freemy whole life.
I drank pop when I was a kidand then I went straight to
coffee.
Once I got off pop about 10years ago or so, and so now I'm
like, let me just see if I makethis change.
(06:12):
So the reason I'm telling youabout this is because maybe
it'll be fun for you to watch mypossible quitting coffee
journey, but I also wanted youto know that you can get this
too If you go.
Just go to mudwatercom slashDevon.
You can get a good deal rightnow.
And mudwater is MUDWTR theyleft out all the vowels from the
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word water, so mudwatercomslash Devon will put that link
in the show notes.
You can use code Devon If itasks for a code.
Go on there and get yourself adeal.
Just try it out.
Maybe you're at the same placewhere you're trying to quit
coffee.
You know, maybe you're not atthe place where people on
YouTube are like I quit coffeefor 365 days and I'm never going
back.
I'm not there yet, but maybe Iwill be in a year.
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So try it out.
Try mudwater, see if it's rightfor you.
Get on there, get a deal now,and by doing that, by using the
code Devon, you can help supportthe show.
So and so many good things cancome out of that.
All right, well, just just anupdate where I'm at right.
Today it's like the middle ofDecember, it's December 14th.
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A lot of you may know this dayas the day after Taylor Swift's
Swift's birthday.
My daughter right now seems tobe obsessed with Taylor Swift,
so yesterday being TaylorSwift's birthday.
She was going to try to getwith her best friend one of her
best friends to just kind ofcelebrate the birthday together,
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but the friend couldn't play,so it was kind of a downer.
But anyway, that's neither herenor there.
I don't even know what thatmeans, but it felt fun to say
it's neither here nor there.
Or some people say what haveyou?
But the reason I'm pointing outit's the middle of December is
December is my favorite month.
I love the lead up to Christmas, I love the energy, I love just
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the holidays without a hole.
Do you say happy holidays orMerry Christmas?
I don't really get into thatfight.
Okay, but anyway.
Thanksgiving, christmas, newYear's, it's the holidays, it's
a fun season.
There should be snow out there.
Hopefully there will be.
I'm like bring on the cold,bring on the snow, bring on the
Christmas decorations, bring onthe music.
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I think Christmas starts theday after Thanksgiving.
That's when all the decorationsand the music should go up, and
I have this theory.
By the way, this is just a funaside.
This is neither here nor there.
Reminds me of Green Eggs andHam.
My two year old's favorite bookright now is Green Eggs and Ham
Haven.
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She's just like.
Do you like them here or there?
Do you like them anywhere?
I do not like Green Eggs andHam.
I do not like them, the same Iam.
I need to memorize that book.
That'd be a fun one to memorize, but with the I just derailed
myself big time.
Talking about December and Ilove the holidays, I can't
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remember where I was going, butI will tell you where I
ultimately wanted to go with.
It was, I think, we.
I think, like December goes byin a blur if you're not careful.
I think you can slow it down,but it goes by in a blur.
It's my favorite month becauseI love Christmas.
Right, I love everything aboutit and my guilty pleasure is
that I love the good coziness ofChristmas.
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I love, like Silent Night andFire Places and Stockings and
Calm Snow.
I love all that.
But so the Christmas shopping, Ithink, is what kills the
Christmas vibe and the Christmasseason and everything is about
getting those presents.
When people say are you readyfor Christmas, that means have
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you bought all of your Christmaspresents for everyone?
We kind of just don't reallybuy gifts around here very much.
I mean we get some stuff forour kids, yes, and it's not like
we are anti-gift just becausewe're like we don't believe in
gifts, but we believe that thehustle and bustle of it just can
kill your spirit and kill thejoy during this time because you
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just have this checklist,you're trying to get done and
yeah, it's fun in the momentwhere you can.
You know Christmas morningyou've got all these presents to
give to everybody.
But it really really kills that.
So we've kind of just at onepoint told our extended family
hey, we're not really gettinggifts for everybody, we just
don't have.
We don't want to spend Decemberin that way.
So it does slow time down forus a little bit, helps us enjoy
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this time more and reallyappreciate it for what it's
actually meant for and what it'sworth.
So that's, yeah, kind of how wehandle Christmas and I don't
regret it one bit.
I mean, I had, you know, a lotof presents growing up as a kid
and good memories.
But yeah, ultimately we want toteach our kids too just about
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giving and that's okay.
That's enough about all that.
It's the middle of December, canyou tell A little foggy up here
.
I'm a little off my game.
Not a lot of keynotes going onright now.
So this is, we're just chilling.
We're just chilling.
I hope you hang in there.
I hope you stick around.
Got some fun things to talkabout.
I haven't done, yeah, the solothing.
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It's almost like I forgot howto do a solo cast and just sit
here and talk by myself.
I'm so used to having a guestnow to bounce things off of that
.
It's like, man, what do I talkabout?
Well, let me, let me do this.
Let me give my trivialcomplaint.
My trivial complaint for todayis this Excuse me, lego kits.
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Right, when I was a kid, you hadto be a little more creative
with your Lego building, but nowit's more like a paint by
number system or a modelairplane system, which I guess
is fine if that's the goal.
But it's more about like,where's the creativity?
I think it was just it evolvedover time, because I remember,
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okay, when I was a kid andLego's I guess had already been
around for a while, but when Iwas a kid in the 80s, they were
starting to paint littleeyeballs on Lego pieces.
They were starting to makeLegos with the slanted pieces.
I say started.
Maybe that's how Legos firstcame out.
Maybe you could, like, you know, with the Lego with the slanted
side you could make a roof.
(12:24):
So it seemed like, oh, that'scool, you can do more things
with it.
Well, as time went on, I thinkthat just got more and more out
of hand, for lack of betterwords, and now it's like you can
make the Batmobile or Hogwartsor the Titanic or the Delorean
from Back to the Future, justbecause they give you these
pieces that fit into that moldand then they show you exactly
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how to build it and it's like.
It's like going to Ikea andjust building a dresser.
It's the same kind of thing.
You know which Ikea dresserthing?
I'm fine with that, because youneed a dresser.
That's how you put it together,that's how it works.
But Lego the whole goal is likecreativity.
So my trivial complaint is thatwe're taking creativity away
from the kids, where it's like,man, just take these like blank
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slates, these blocks, and whatcan you do with the block and
make out of it?
Right, how can you make theslant of the roof?
By staggering the Legos, ratherthan me just giving you a piece
with the slant.
That's how I feel about it and,yeah, maybe you need more
pieces so that you can make thecreation bigger, to get the
slants that you need within yourstructure.
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But that's how I feel about it.
I felt the same way when I usedto do balloon animals back in
the day and for me it was likeyou should just have the normal
balloon animal style balloonsand twist it into shapes and
twist different colors together.
But now they have the balloonsthat are like heart shape, they
have eyeballs, they have allthese things where it's like
these accessories that you canadd to, just I don't know, make
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it easier.
So I might be alone on this.
I realize that this is just atrivial complaint.
I'm just telling you I just Ifeel like it's cheating.
I think ultimately that's whatit is like.
It's cheating.
No, get creative, find a way tomake that structure and have
people recognize it withoutusing all these accessory type
pieces.
So there, it is Okay.
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So I'm out from what I'velearned from doing the solo
podcast.
I don't like to give acomplaint without some kind of
thanks.
So my thanks for today.
I'm just going to say I'mthankful for my mom.
So, mom, hopefully you'relistening to this one.
I know she listens to thepodcast.
I hope you're listening to thisone.
And I don't know where to start.
Even talking about my mom.
(14:30):
I could do a whole episode onmy mom.
Maybe one point I will have heras a guest and just be like
what's it like having a son whowanted to be a magician?
People is really going throughyour head because you supported
it.
You seem like you're on board,but what were you really
thinking?
No, I'm sure she was always forme, but I could say I'm
thankful for my parents and mydad passed away back in 2018 and
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I am thankful for my dad.
But I'm focusing today on mymom because you know she's we
live just around the corner fromher, so she's in our
neighborhood.
So many awesome things about mymom.
Now, she is the person wholikes to buy gifts Mind the
hustle and bustle of December,which I can appreciate that.
I think her love language isgifts.
She likes getting gifts.
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She especially loves givinggifts and watching the surprise
of you know her grandchildrenespecially opening gifts and
being excited about what theygot.
So it's fun for fun for ourdaughters and really appreciate
that.
What's been really cool about mymom recently is she's been.
She plays the violin and she'sbeen giving violin lessons for
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free right now to two of ourkids, and Charlotte, who's 13
now, is in like an orchestra,you know.
And she learned everything sheknows about violin from her
grandma.
So how awesome is that?
That grandma bought her aviolin, taught her how to play
it and prepared her to the pointwhere now she plays in an
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orchestra Pretty awesome.
And they just had their firstorchestra concert a few weeks
ago.
It was awesome and I was likethat's my daughter.
And I told my mom.
I was like thanks, we wouldn'tbe here if it weren't for you.
And now Cambry's learning alsoCambry's 11.
So this is just really coolthat someone would, you know,
devote their time to somethinglike that.
So, mom, so many things I couldsay about how wonderful you are
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and how awesome you were whenJason Gretchen and I were young,
and how awesome now you arestill to my wife and I and our
kids and really appreciate youand love you.
All right, that's awesome.
Now, confession of amotivational speaker time.
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All right, here we go.
This is I'm going to saysomething you're not going to
hear a lot of motivationalspeakers or maybe entertainers
or maybe entrepreneurs talkabout.
I'm just guessing.
So here it goes.
I'm telling you that Modewateris good, modewatercom slash
Devon.
Go check it out, especiallywhen you put honey in with it.
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The honey that I put in there isLabr2 Honey from Sylvan Grove,
kansas.
That it's amazing.
My wife is from a small town inKansas, sylvan Grove.
Population about 300 people andyeah, there's the Labr2 family
in town makes this honey and weget these huge jars of it and I
put that in the mud water.
So it's incredible.
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I love it.
Okay, it's the honey that's notrunny, it's the honey that's
like crystallized, and I don'tknow how they do that.
I don't know what thedifference is between the two in
terms of how they prepare it.
Someone told me well, all runnyhoney eventually crystallizes,
but not like this.
I don't know what it is.
This stuff is like you have toscoop it out with a spoon from
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the big container, put it inyour mud water.
It's amazing.
I mean, it's like it is likedrinking hot chocolate.
It's amazing.
Okay, well, I'm getting intothe mud water today.
Okay, confession I always getnervous about this time of year.
This.
I'm finishing my 20th year asan entrepreneur, as a full-time
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entertainer, slash speaker 20years, and God has been so good
throughout my journey.
He's always provided it's.
You know people talk aboutfeasts, famine or feast.
I haven't really experiencedthat so much, but there are
times where I get nervous aboutwhat's gonna happen next year.
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I'll just be honest I had mybest year ever this year, just
in terms of you know what's theword when you make money profit
it is December 14th, y'all.
I am slipping into hibernation,but this is gonna be one of
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those episodes where I look backand I'm like why didn't I just
throw that one out Anyway, whereI made my best profit this year
in terms of income, it wasawesome.
Now, this is a weird time ofyear and I'll just speak for
myself.
I don't know about otherspeakers, but inquiries slow
down and bookings slow down Tothe point where you're like,
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well, this happens every timethis year.
Why aren't I used to this?
But I guess there's somethingabout just the survival mode in
people, in me, where it's like Ineed to provide for my wife and
our seven children and I haveto make money, I have to keep
this up.
And then, when you don't get asmany calls to go speak and
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you're not getting booked asmuch, you know, even though it's
normal, and I've seen thepattern with it this time of
year, because I mean, honestly,associations, companies,
corporations.
They're kind of like they're inshutting down mode right now,
trying to get ready for theholidays.
They're not like let's plan ourconference for spring of 2025
or next fall or whatever.
They're kind of like let's finda way to like hit the pause
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button.
So I'm trying to embrace thatthis year you have to where it's
like, hey, kind of go on thebreak with them, shut down with
them, take it as an opportunityto rest a little bit.
And then also, you know, just togo along with the confession
part.
I mean, you know, when youlisten to the media, it's like
inflation's crazy, prices aregoing up.
You know people aren't gonna beable to afford speakers.
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It's kind of like that part ofme freaks out, and so what I
have to do is I have to justlike pause, I have to breathe, I
have to look back and look athow my career has grown and
think about other times where Igot nervous about money coming
in or number of gigs booked, andjust be like it's gonna be okay
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.
You know, trust the big manupstairs.
There's a plan.
Even if all of this speakingand all of that went away,
there's it's gonna be okay.
There's a greater plan.
I always lean on that, so, butthat is my confession, right,
that I still, even when thingsare going the best that they
ever had, I still kind of lackfaith.
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So there you go, there it is.
And the reason I share theconfession with you is, again,
I'm not asking you to be mycounselor, but just to remind
you that even motivationalspeakers, as much as we may seem
to get up like we have it alltogether, we have it all figured
out, we're telling you how torun your life.
We're still dealing with thingstoo.
So, all right, there is that.
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Okay, time for a little girltalk, right?
Some people's favorite part ofevery podcast.
I actually don't know if that'strue or not, I'm just saying
that, but I will say that whenwe put the shorts of the girl
talk stuff on social media, itseems to get the biggest hits.
So I've, we got some dooziestoday.
Here we go, girl talk.
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This is verbatim from mydaughter's, from the mouth of
babes, or here it is Five yearsold, it was a hot day and five
year old said why don't theweather people just make it cold
.
I mean simple solution, right?
Okay, let's see.
Here we were watching Les Misand my daughter said what do you
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think was worse, acting as awife, hair or teeth?
There you go.
If you've seen Les Mis,hopefully you can put that
together.
Also, while watching Les Mis,same kid, my 10 year old, said
actually I, during one of thesongs.
I said I didn't know that inthe play version the other guy
could hear him singing this part, cause apparently they could
hear each other singing.
My daughter said me neither.
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I just thought he was singingto himself.
So that was kind of an epiphanymoment, not hilarious, but
interesting.
And one of my daughters said tothe other stop breathing.
I mean, stop breathing likethat.
I guess she was breathingloudly.
One kid said I wish this nightwould never end.
I had taken her to a sportinggame and how precious is that.
I just wish this night wouldnever end.
Very cool.
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Five year old, are all boogersdifferent?
Like are your boogers big?
10 year old, when I get thingswrong, I stutter and burp, don't
we all All right?
One kid said I have to pee,don't play it.
This one's good Treat life likea popsicle.
Enjoy it before it melts awayFrom a nine year old crazy.
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All right, and we're gonna endon this one, because I'm not
gonna be able to top it.
Five year old daddy does UncleLyle have a weenie too?
I said yes, he does.
And she said what?
All right, and there it is.
That is Girl Talk for today.
What a joy.
How fun, right?
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You just get the best thingsfrom the mouth of kids, whether
they're your kids or someoneelse's your nieces and nephews.
Kids are such a joy.
All right, love my girls.
All right, we got some comments.
I don't wanna brag, but onApple Podcasts I now have two
comments and I've only beendoing this for six months.
(23:56):
People and I already have two,not one.
Two comments.
I read the other one like threemonths ago when it came out,
cause I couldn't wait to read it.
But now I have a second one.
This is from Reichen W-R-Y-K-E-N, and it said inspiring,
encouraging and uplifting.
And Reichen also said Devindoes an amazing job inspiring
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others with his positivitymindset.
Asking yourself what else ispossible, like Devin does, can
give you that extra gear youdidn't know you had to push
things to the next level ratherthan hitting a wall and getting
stuck in the lie that this is asgood as it gets for you.
If you need encouragement,motivation or just something
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that will brighten your day,then this podcast is for you.
That's awesome.
Well, thank you for that,reichen.
And I like how Reichen saidpositivity mindset.
I don't know if he or she,whoever Reichen is meant
possibility mindset, which isthe name of the podcast.
But I will say a lot of people,instead of saying when they're
like, hey, I'm watching yourpodcast, they'll say positivity,
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or usually they say positivity,which makes me think should I
just change the name so that tohelp everyone else be right all
the time?
But anyway, I think you couldsubstitute possibility with
positivity.
They very much go hand in hand.
So, anyway, reichen, thank youso much for that comment.
And then here's an email that Igot from someone which was
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really also really cool, but itwas an email after a keynote.
This person, this lady, said hi, devin, I previously attended
one of your keynotepresentations.
My husband and I enjoyed yourpresentation and found ourselves
saying I wish our kids couldsee this.
You see, we homeschool ourchildren.
They are currently in eighthand 10th grade and they would
just love to see you love allcaps.
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That's why I said it like that.
I don't always say love likethat.
I don't say to my wife I loveyou driving nuts, or at least I
would love to show yourpresentation to them, because it
would be really exceptional forthem to hear as well.
It's a good message that a lotof kids could benefit from
hearing.
I say this as a mom and as aschool psychologist.
(26:02):
See, dishing out the creds here.
I like it.
School psychologist, you havean important message to share
and you share it in a way thatmakes people want to listen to
you.
My son would go crazy over yourtricks.
He recently spent hourslearning how to juggle a golf
ball with a golf club and hasrecently passed 100 juggles.
(26:23):
That's awesome.
Your combination of message onmental health along with
intriguing tricks would keep anaudience of kids captivated.
And then she went on to say morethings.
But I did get my start doingkids shows, speaking of
milestones Maybe this is a goodtransition Doing birthday
parties back in the day, and atone point I thought I'm gonna be
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a like a kids or a youthspeaker right To talk to whether
it's elementary school, middleschool, high school, and I did
some of that, you know, before Ikind of went into corporate
speaking.
But that's cool that someonesees that value and I think,
honestly, what I get from thisisn't oh, I should just be
speaking to kids, because Idon't feel like that's
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ultimately my calling.
I think what I hear is themessage is easily understandable
and easy implementable, andthat's what adults need, too
right?
Sometimes we overcomplicatemessages, strategies, solutions
and then they're just toocomplicated for people to really
grasp.
(27:25):
But it's like hey, here's whatyou want and here's a really
easy way to get there.
Now go do it.
And people are like we got it.
That's what people need,especially from a keynote
presentation.
Not a workshop with deeper divetype stuff, but a keynote where
it's like hey, here'sinspiration.
Right, something greater isalways possible.
Never stop asking the questionwhat else is possible?
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And then everything you areachieving in life or attempting
to achieve, and anything thatwould be in a breakout session
really can fall into theumbrella of hey, now here's
another, here's a greaterpossibility for your life.
And that's what I love aboutthe keynote setting the tone for
the conference, helping peoplerealize that it's time to ignite
untapped potential and defylimits and go out there and keep
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exploring new levels ofgreatness.
So thank you so much for thatemail.
I appreciate that and hopefullynow you're a listener of the
podcast.
Her name is Tracy, I'll justsay that.
So, tracy, thank you for that,really appreciate that and wish
the best for your kids, and Ihope your son just keeps going
on with the golf ball juggles.
That's really cool, all right.
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So now let's get to the mainevent.
As I take another sip of mydelicious, healthy, incredible
mud water here it is OK.
Milestones what is a milestone?
Well, I went ahead and lookedup the definition, because I
used the word quite a bit and Iwas like I should probably look
it up and, before I talk moreabout it, make sure I really
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understand what that means.
Google when I googled it, itjust said milestone is a
significant event or stage inthe life, progress or
development of a person.
Significant event or stage inthe life, progress or
development of a person.
They gave an example to help usout in case that didn't quite
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become clear to you.
Are you ready for the example?
Her getting the job ofsupervisor was a milestone in
her career.
I don't know why I'm getting sosarcastic and snarky all of a
sudden.
I don't know where that camefrom.
I think maybe I'm just tryingto be funny and have a little
fun.
Ok, well here's.
I guess the question for you iswhat milestone are you at right
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now?
What milestones have youachieved in your life and have
you celebrated those moments?
Have those milestones made youhappy, made you sad?
What upcoming milestones do youhave?
And how do you allow milestonesto inspire you, make you feel
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proud and then propel you on tothe next thing?
Because to me, milestones areall about.
They're just as much about thefuture as they are about the
past.
When you hit this milestone,you're like man, I've achieved
this now.
So then, if you have apossibility mindset, you're
asking what else is possible now?
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What's that next milestone?
Now I do want to say that,since it's middle of December
and it's kind of time wherewe're shutting down and
hibernating, in fact for me I'mtrying to clear out the next
three weeks.
I'm trying to get all of mymarketing, sales-y stuff, office
kind of things just done.
So the next three weeks I canjust focus on Christmas, focus
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on the family, new Year's, hangout before I jump back in in
January.
So the reason I bring that upagain is because when I say
something greater is alwayspossible and what's that next
milestone?
I don't mean that we shouldwear ourselves out trying to hit
that next milestone.
I think sometimes somethinggreater just means greater peace
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, greater rest, greatercontentment with where you are
right now.
So sometimes something greateris always possible.
Doesn't mean more success interms of the world or money or
you're standing in society or inthe eyes of other people, but
something greater is alwayspossible in your mental health,
your peace, what's going on uphere between your ears, so that
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you can enjoy theaccomplishments that you've made
.
So, ok, wanted to throw in thatcaveat because I don't want
people to think that I'm sayingwork harder, work harder.
Come on more milestones, getthere.
It's like there's times forthat.
There's times to grind it out,there's times to push hard,
there's times to get there.
But don't forget that toeverything there is a season
Turn, turn, turn and it's likeman.
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There's a time to chasemilestones.
There's also a time to kind ofjust like chill.
I'm not trying to add toscripture here, I'm just saying
life's about balance, right?
So here's the milestone thatI'm at right now and as I
reflect on it, I hope that youcan also be thinking about your
milestone and celebrate that andalso look forward to your next
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milestone, so finishing up 2023right now.
As I look back, 20 years ago Iwas graduating college, so I
graduated at semester inDecember from Kansas State
University in the fall of 2003.
And I can't believe it's been20 years and so much has
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happened.
I am I'm Excuse me I moved outof my parents' house, I got
married, started my career, hadseven kids, transitioned from
magician to speaker in that timeI mean this.
You know we bought a house.
So many things have happened in20 years and it does go fast.
Your kids do grow up quick.
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As I look back, I just rememberhow things started for me with
my career, and I don't want toget into how I landed my first
restaurant gigs I want to savethat for another time.
But basically what happened isI graduated semester with a
degree in family studies andhuman services, and I was.
The plan was to take the springsemester off and then start in
the fall with a marriage andfamily therapy program.
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So, yes, I was going to cancelmarried people and I was either
going to get the master's degreein counseling at Kansas State
University in Manhattan, kansas,or at Friends University here
in Kansas City.
So those are my two options.
I was like I'll figure it out,I'm going to take the spring off
, I'm going to go back and workat the after school day care,
which I had been working at onand off for like eight years,
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and it was like the perfect jobwhen you're, you know, in
transition with anything, sowent back, worked there.
But at that time I was also likeI had an entrepreneurial like
spirit, I, and there was like afire lit in me, like I had been
wanting to be a restaurantmagician for a few years and it
just didn't work out for me topursue that, you know, as I was
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finishing up college.
But I was like now I've got thetime to do it.
And so during that sort ofChristmas season which would
have been, you know, a littleafter this time right now I
started hitting up therestaurants and again, I'm going
to save that deeper story forlater.
But I landed two restaurantgigs and that's what started my
career and, honestly, the restis history.
You know, from there, workingin the restaurants, I started
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handing out business cardsadvertising that I do birthday
parties, private parties,corporate parties and my
repertoire just began to grow.
I could do not only close-upmagic but a kind of a standup
show, like a standup comedymagic show that led into
mentalism, that led intospeaking.
And so at this 20 yearmilestone marker, I'm kind of
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like man, what's what's next?
You know, and and I share thatI already in the confessions
part that I have that fear thatwell, even if things are going
well right now, what's what'sgoing to happen next?
So there's there's so manyquestions, you know, in the
sense that I'm not only comingto the end of year, but I'm
coming to the end of 20 yearsnow, of, oh my gosh, two decades
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of being a professional,full-time entertainer.
And so where to go with thisexactly, I think?
I think first, first thing forme with milestones I have to
deal with is like uncertaintyand fear, because there's a fear
factor in there of this hasgone so well for so long, but
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how am I going to sustain this?
How am I going to keep this up?
So there's the fear factor.
There's also the is this what Iwant to do for the next 20, 30,
40 years?
You know, do I want to continueon this path that I am, that
I'm on, because sometimes I lookat a milestone like a fork in
the road.
Well, maybe here's a chance tomake a change and do something
different.
And honestly, my personality isalways to keep trying and
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exploring new things andthankfully, the things that I've
wanted to explore or try reallyalign sort of with this speaker
thing.
So when I wanted to try likesoccer juggling, well that fit
in with the speaking somehowMentalism comedy, you know, like
stand up comedy it was like Ican use that in my speaking and
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so everything is kind ofconverged into this, which which
, by the way, kind of means likeI don't really have hobbies,
because every time I have ahobby it comes into my career.
That's just the way it works.
So I think it'd be good for meto have a hobby sometime outside
of the career so that I can dosome fun activity without having
to think about work.
But so that's been fun for me.
I've been told that mypersonality type it's there's
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like a name for it.
It's called a scanner.
You're always looking for thenext thing.
You're like I'm tired of this,I want to move on.
I'm tired of this, I want tomove on.
So for me, like starting apodcast was something else.
That was that's been really funfor me to do.
But that also aligns with thespeaking thing, right, because I
can, I can get the messageacross to more people, right, I
speak to them on stage and thenhey, let's, let's go deeper with
this, so.
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So anyway, I'm not saying I'mgoing to quit being a speaker,
but I'm saying it does make mereally open up and think man,
what's, what are the next thingsthat I want to try?
You know, what have I notaccomplished?
I want to accomplish at thatpoint and that's the next point
that it's like what in the last20 years?
Like what quote unquote regretsdo I have?
Or what things could I havedone better, could have gone
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differently, could have workedmore in my favor?
So and then, and then I thinkhow can I learn from those
mistakes?
Like the biggest one is theAmerica's Got Talent audition.
You know that I didn't make itthrough and I have now a new
acronym for AGT.
If you've seen my keynote, youknow, instead of America's Got
Talent, in my mind now, agtmeans always give thanks,
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because I realized thateverything in that whole
audition and me not making itthrough was part of a greater
plan.
You know part of where I'msupposed to be today and I
wouldn't be exactly where I amin my life right now, surrounded
with the exact people I'msurrounded with, had that not
happened, so it's.
You know.
In that way, it's like we don'treally shouldn't really have
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regrets, because it's all comestogether, it's all meant to be
so.
So I do find peace in that, butsometimes I do, even though I,
even though always give thanksyou know, gratitude is my theme,
a major theme of my life Istill look back and think, oh,
what could I have donedifferently to get through that
audition?
I would have picked a differenttrick, I would have said things
differently on stage, you know,I would have prepared
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differently, and so I still getin my head about that stuff.
So, so as as I look forward,then, right, like what's what's
next, there's certain thingsthat I want to be true for
myself about how I handlecertain situations, and I think
I think, going in, I'm thinkingof a word for the new year.
Right, I always try to think ofa theme or a word.
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A recent word I had, I think itwas not for this year, but was
for 2022.
It was like the year of theMaverick.
I wanted to just be someone whowas like doing things my own
way, not worrying about what'swhat's happening with everybody
else out there, but like justjust, you know, handle your
family, your career, your body,your mind the way that you think
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is best.
You know, do it, do it your way.
And that was really fun.
And I think that the what I wantmy theme for this next year to
be, the word I want to settle on, is authenticity, because I
feel like so many times in thepast I have just been
inauthentic, right Like I actthe way people want me to act,
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that I think they want me to act.
A lot of that's based onassumptions, or I say the things
I want.
I think they want me to say dothe things I think people want
me to do, feel the way I thinkpeople want me to feel.
I mean, I base so much of howI'm thinking, doing, feeling,
off of my assumptions, of whatdo the people expect from me.
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And I think if you, if youchase that, if you're just
trying to please other peopleall the time, you're not going
to be authentic and authentic.
I don't mean that in like abullying way, like I don't care
what nobody thinks, man, but Iwant to do it in a way that,
where I can, if I am authentic,I can serve and love my family
and my audience members and mycommunity better.
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And I just want to be a moretrue version of myself.
Recently I thought about youmight have noticed a little gray
in my beard.
This beard is going to go awayat some point.
I'm not, you know, I got, I say, a little gray, I got a lot of
white here on the chin I've beenrecently I saw an ad about oh,
you know, stay young, color yourbeard.
And I was like am I supposed tocolor my beard?
(40:28):
You know, because my hair isn'tlike really turned yet.
So what should I?
You know, bring the beard back.
And I told that to one of mydaughters, my 13 year old.
I was like I was thinking aboutjust putting some color on my
beard and she's like, really shegoes.
That just doesn't seem verydevin.
And I was like that's true, youknow.
And I was.
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I was thinking about you know,I would be fun to like have a
full beard.
And then you know, bring, bringthe color in.
But and I'm not, I'm not sayingsomething against people who
color their hair, okay, I'm justtalking about me here.
I'm not taking a stand on thefact that people shouldn't do
this.
If you want to color your hair,get highlights, color your
beard, go for it.
Okay, I'm not not going tojudge you.
I'm just saying for me, with mytheme being authentic, I don't
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feel like for me that would bean authentic move.
So as I look ahead to the futureand think about you know, what
is that next milestone?
And sometimes we know the nextmilestone, like we're like well,
it's when I graduate or it'swhen I retire.
But sometimes it's like you hita milestone and you're like,
whoa, that was a surprisemilestone.
So I'm not even sure what thenext milestone is for me yet.
(41:33):
But when I do get to thatmilestone, I want to be able to
look back and say, man, maybeeverything didn't go exactly the
way that I wanted to, maybe Icould have been more successful,
maybe I could have less regrets, but at least I was authentic.
Right, I did what I believed inmy heart was the right thing to
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do.
I followed the Lord's leadingin my life.
I wasn't acting, saying,thinking, feeling things based
on my assumptions of otherpeople's expectations.
Right, because whether you'reright in your assumptions or not
, about what people expect fromyou.
That's not the way I want tolive my life, right, I want to
be authentic.
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So my question, my charge, mychallenge to you is this First
of all, think about whatmilestone are you at or have you
recently hit and have youcelebrated that in some way?
And I think that is one thing Ineed to do.
I need to be like it's been 20years.
What's some way that I cancelebrate, and I don't even know
what that looks like yet.
Right, for me, usually it'slike Mexican food and ice cream,
(42:38):
and I could do that.
But I'm kind of like I kind ofwant something different.
You know something special,something I'll remember more,
because Mexican food and icecream a lot of memories of that.
But what's something special Icould do to really commemorate
the achievement of 20 years asan entrepreneur, even making it
through COVID?
I'm so thankful that I had agreat coach helping me through
that time transition to virtualkeynotes, so that I could, you
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know, keep making money, keepfeeding my family Celebrate that
accomplishment.
Okay, so what's your milestoneright now?
How have you celebrated it?
And then, number two, duringyour next milestone, whether you
know what that is or not, andyou look back between this time,
this milestone and thatmilestone.
What do you want the main themeto be Like?
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What are you going to look backand say, man, everything didn't
go right, but at least blank.
You know, at least I left alegacy, at least my marriage
became stronger For me, at leastI was authentic.
What is that thing?
So?
What is it All right?
Well, what I'd love to hear isfrom you in the comments, let me
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know, you know, whether it's onApple or Spotify or YouTube
just say, hey, this is the way Iwant to feel when I hit my next
milestone.
This is what I want to be truefor where my headspace was and
how I approached life andrelationships and work, et
cetera.
So there it is.
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Y'all Milestones so awesome.
Thanks for hanging in there withme today.
Yeah, this was a great day.
Yeah, this was kind of a.
It was.
This was fun.
Fun for me.
I hope it was fun for you.
I hope you got something out ofthe milestones thing.
Hope you enjoyed this.
If you know, merry Christmas, Iwon't do a solo podcast again
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until I don't know, sometimeafter the new year.
Again, stay tuned, because in acouple of weeks we've got some.
I got to have a really funfriend that I had on the show
and then another friend that Ihad a few weeks from there.
So it seems like the podcastwe've been going.
I've been doing about it everyother week schedule.
That seems right now like it'smore doable for me to still be a
(44:49):
family man, to still beeffective in my keynote work and
enjoy life.
So, who knows, maybe that'llchange someday, but for now it's
about every other week.
So thanks for hanging in there.
Rate the podcast comment and,yeah, just let me know what you
got out of today.
All right, so perfect.
Hey, don't forget aboutMudwater.
Mudwatercom slash devon.
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Go on there, try it out, maybe,maybe it's for you.
All right, just give it a shot.
So thank you so much forjoining and remember never stop
asking the question.
What else is possible?
Hello, welcome to the possibility mindset podcast.
I'm Devin Henderson, I am yourhost and I truly believe that
something greater is alwayspossible for you.
Well, here we are, everybody.
We are coming to an end ofanother year, the end of 2023.
(00:26):
And today we're going to betalking about milestones.
So what are milestones exactly?
Are they significant, what dothey mean to you and what does
it mean for your future?
So that all just came off thetop of my head.
All I knew is that I wanted totalk to you about milestones,
(00:51):
and so we're going to get tothat later and I'm excited to
just talk about that.
I always get excited for the newyear, for new goals, for new
possibilities.
For me, I feel like it's kindof a time of year where my
possibility mindset always sortof gets reset and focuses on
some kind of new goal, new word,new venture and new
(01:14):
opportunities that are out there.
So get excited, it's going tobe fun and, by the way, I
haven't done a solo podcast in awhile.
I've been doing all theseinterviews, which have been
awesome, and it's funny because,you know, for so long I did so
many solo podcasts and I keptsaying I'm going to have guests,
I'm going to have guests andfinally it came and then it just
(01:38):
hit and it was awesome and withetc allowing us to use our
space, I've just really lovedthat format Just meeting with
sometimes old friends, sometimesnew friends, over breakfast.
That etc provides in theirreally fun space and I can bring
very minimal equipment, the setups easy and the conversations
(02:00):
have just been really rich andsometimes surprising.
But for sure I'm learningsomething from the people that I
talk to.
So I hope you've been enjoyingthose.
I mean I've already got someguests lined up.
I've actually got two more inthe queue right now and then
I've got some exciting guests Ican't wait to interview next
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year, even in January.
So it's been a good time.
I feel like I'm bringing todifferent energies today.
A lot of times when I start thepodcast I feel like I'm coming
in with the motivational speakerenergy, like how's everyone
doing, what's going on?
You know bringing that bestearly morning version of myself.
But today I just felt likebeing more conversational and
(02:43):
we'll see over time, you know,who wins inside me the
motivational speaker or the moreconversational Devin with the
podcast.
But I have an idea, I have agood idea, I have a yeah, I
think it's going to be theconversationalist because to
keep that energy going everytime, it's just a lot, you know,
(03:05):
a lot for me, probably a lotfor you listeners too.
So hopefully you're enjoyingthis energy today.
This feels a little more, alittle more natural, all right.
So I do want to let you knowabout mudwater.
Mudwater is awesome.
This is the product right here.
It comes in a canister likethis.
It's powder.
You mix it with hot water, allright, and then I put honey in
(03:26):
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I'm actually 37 days off coffeenow.
So you'll actually watch alater episode with me with
interviewing Candy Whirly, whereat that time I have only been,
like, I think, 23 days off orsomething like that.
So you're going to be like what, is he going backwards?
Is he counting backwards?
(03:47):
No, these are just a little bitout of order, but I am 37 days
off coffee and I mainly quitcoffee because for now I'm
trying it right.
I decided I want to go twomonths.
I want to go into January alittle bit and just see if it
helps me sleep better, helps meout of sleep better, helps me
have more energy throughout theday.
(04:07):
I drank too much coffee.
I love coffee, I love the taste, I love the ritual of it.
But it's hard for me just tostick to that one cup a day, and
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That's why I'm sort of goingcold turkey, backing way off and
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You know, because what's greatabout this mudwater thing?
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Just one cup of something won'tdo.
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(04:49):
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cacao also for the taste, youknow, because who doesn't love
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So it's good for those things.
Now what it's, what, what theyclaim and what I'm experimenting
(05:31):
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So it's really multifacetedhere.
It's not just a coffeereplacement.
I'm using it also just to seeif I can, you know, feel better,
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I was usually with with coffeein the past.
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I've always had problems withnot sleeping well, but I've
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coffee.
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All right, well, just just anupdate where I'm at right.
Today it's like the middle ofDecember, it's December 14th.
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A lot of you may know this dayas the day after Taylor Swift's
Swift's birthday.
My daughter right now seems tobe obsessed with Taylor Swift,
so yesterday being TaylorSwift's birthday.
She was going to try to getwith her best friend one of her
best friends to just kind ofcelebrate the birthday together,
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but the friend couldn't play,so it was kind of a downer.
But anyway, that's neither herenor there.
I don't even know what thatmeans, but it felt fun to say
it's neither here nor there.
Or some people say what haveyou?
But the reason I'm pointing outit's the middle of December is
December is my favorite month.
I love the lead up to Christmas, I love the energy, I love just
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the holidays without a hole.
Do you say happy holidays orMerry Christmas?
I don't really get into thatfight.
Okay, but anyway.
Thanksgiving, christmas, newYear's, it's the holidays, it's
a fun season.
There should be snow out there.
Hopefully there will be.
I'm like bring on the cold,bring on the snow, bring on the
Christmas decorations, bring onthe music.
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I think Christmas starts theday after Thanksgiving.
That's when all the decorationsand the music should go up, and
I have this theory.
By the way, this is just a funaside.
This is neither here nor there.
Reminds me of Green Eggs andHam.
My two year old's favorite bookright now is Green Eggs and Ham
Haven.
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She's just like.
Do you like them here or there?
Do you like them anywhere?
I do not like Green Eggs andHam.
I do not like them, the same Iam.
I need to memorize that book.
That'd be a fun one to memorize, but with the I just derailed
myself big time.
Talking about December and Ilove the holidays, I can't
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remember where I was going, butI will tell you where I
ultimately wanted to go with.
It was, I think, we.
I think, like December goes byin a blur if you're not careful.
I think you can slow it down,but it goes by in a blur.
It's my favorite month becauseI love Christmas.
Right, I love everything aboutit and my guilty pleasure is
that I love the good coziness ofChristmas.
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I love, like Silent Night andFire Places and Stockings and
Calm Snow.
I love all that.
But so the Christmas shopping, Ithink, is what kills the
Christmas vibe and the Christmasseason and everything is about
getting those presents.
When people say are you readyfor Christmas, that means have
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you bought all of your Christmaspresents for everyone?
We kind of just don't reallybuy gifts around here very much.
I mean we get some stuff forour kids, yes, and it's not like
we are anti-gift just becausewe're like we don't believe in
gifts, but we believe that thehustle and bustle of it just can
kill your spirit and kill thejoy during this time because you
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just have this checklist,you're trying to get done and
yeah, it's fun in the momentwhere you can.
You know Christmas morningyou've got all these presents to
give to everybody.
But it really really kills that.
So we've kind of just at onepoint told our extended family
hey, we're not really gettinggifts for everybody, we just
don't have.
We don't want to spend Decemberin that way.
So it does slow time down forus a little bit, helps us enjoy
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this time more and reallyappreciate it for what it's
actually meant for and what it'sworth.
So that's, yeah, kind of how wehandle Christmas and I don't
regret it one bit.
I mean, I had, you know, a lotof presents growing up as a kid
and good memories.
But yeah, ultimately we want toteach our kids too just about
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giving and that's okay.
That's enough about all that.
It's the middle of December, canyou tell A little foggy up here
.
I'm a little off my game.
Not a lot of keynotes going onright now.
So this is, we're just chilling.
We're just chilling.
I hope you hang in there.
I hope you stick around.
Got some fun things to talkabout.
I haven't done, yeah, the solothing.
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It's almost like I forgot howto do a solo cast and just sit
here and talk by myself.
I'm so used to having a guestnow to bounce things off of that
.
It's like, man, what do I talkabout?
Well, let me, let me do this.
Let me give my trivialcomplaint.
My trivial complaint for todayis this Excuse me, lego kits.
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Right, when I was a kid, you hadto be a little more creative
with your Lego building, but nowit's more like a paint by
number system or a modelairplane system, which I guess
is fine if that's the goal.
But it's more about like,where's the creativity?
I think it was just it evolvedover time, because I remember,
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okay, when I was a kid andLego's I guess had already been
around for a while, but when Iwas a kid in the 80s, they were
starting to paint littleeyeballs on Lego pieces.
They were starting to makeLegos with the slanted pieces.
I say started.
Maybe that's how Legos firstcame out.
Maybe you could, like, you know, with the Lego with the slanted
side you could make a roof.
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So it seemed like, oh, that'scool, you can do more things
with it.
Well, as time went on, I thinkthat just got more and more out
of hand, for lack of betterwords, and now it's like you can
make the Batmobile or Hogwartsor the Titanic or the Delorean
from Back to the Future, justbecause they give you these
pieces that fit into that moldand then they show you exactly
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how to build it and it's like.
It's like going to Ikea andjust building a dresser.
It's the same kind of thing.
You know which Ikea dresserthing?
I'm fine with that, because youneed a dresser.
That's how you put it together,that's how it works.
But Lego the whole goal is likecreativity.
So my trivial complaint is thatwe're taking creativity away
from the kids, where it's like,man, just take these like blank
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slates, these blocks, and whatcan you do with the block and
make out of it?
Right, how can you make theslant of the roof?
By staggering the Legos, ratherthan me just giving you a piece
with the slant.
That's how I feel about it and,yeah, maybe you need more
pieces so that you can make thecreation bigger, to get the
slants that you need within yourstructure.
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But that's how I feel about it.
I felt the same way when I usedto do balloon animals back in
the day and for me it was likeyou should just have the normal
balloon animal style balloonsand twist it into shapes and
twist different colors together.
But now they have the balloonsthat are like heart shape, they
have eyeballs, they have allthese things where it's like
these accessories that you canadd to, just I don't know, make
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it easier.
So I might be alone on this.
I realize that this is just atrivial complaint.
I'm just telling you I just Ifeel like it's cheating.
I think ultimately that's whatit is like.
It's cheating.
No, get creative, find a way tomake that structure and have
people recognize it withoutusing all these accessory type
pieces.
So there, it is Okay.
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So I'm out from what I'velearned from doing the solo
podcast.
I don't like to give acomplaint without some kind of
thanks.
So my thanks for today.
I'm just going to say I'mthankful for my mom.
So, mom, hopefully you'relistening to this one.
I know she listens to thepodcast.
I hope you're listening to thisone.
And I don't know where to start.
Even talking about my mom.
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I could do a whole episode onmy mom.
Maybe one point I will have heras a guest and just be like
what's it like having a son whowanted to be a magician?
People is really going throughyour head because you supported
it.
You seem like you're on board,but what were you really
thinking?
No, I'm sure she was always forme, but I could say I'm
thankful for my parents and mydad passed away back in 2018 and
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I am thankful for my dad.
But I'm focusing today on mymom because you know she's we
live just around the corner fromher, so she's in our
neighborhood.
So many awesome things about mymom.
Now, she is the person wholikes to buy gifts Mind the
hustle and bustle of December,which I can appreciate that.
I think her love language isgifts.
She likes getting gifts.
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She especially loves givinggifts and watching the surprise
of you know her grandchildrenespecially opening gifts and
being excited about what theygot.
So it's fun for fun for ourdaughters and really appreciate
that.
What's been really cool about mymom recently is she's been.
She plays the violin and she'sbeen giving violin lessons for
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free right now to two of ourkids, and Charlotte, who's 13
now, is in like an orchestra,you know.
And she learned everything sheknows about violin from her
grandma.
So how awesome is that?
That grandma bought her aviolin, taught her how to play
it and prepared her to the pointwhere now she plays in an
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orchestra Pretty awesome.
And they just had their firstorchestra concert a few weeks
ago.
It was awesome and I was likethat's my daughter.
And I told my mom.
I was like thanks, we wouldn'tbe here if it weren't for you.
And now Cambry's learning alsoCambry's 11.
So this is just really coolthat someone would, you know,
devote their time to somethinglike that.
So, mom, so many things I couldsay about how wonderful you are
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and how awesome you were whenJason Gretchen and I were young,
and how awesome now you arestill to my wife and I and our
kids and really appreciate youand love you.
All right, that's awesome.
Now, confession of amotivational speaker time.
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All right, here we go.
This is I'm going to saysomething you're not going to
hear a lot of motivationalspeakers or maybe entertainers
or maybe entrepreneurs talkabout.
I'm just guessing.
So here it goes.
I'm telling you that Modewateris good, modewatercom slash
Devon.
Go check it out, especiallywhen you put honey in with it.
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The honey that I put in there isLabr2 Honey from Sylvan Grove,
kansas.
That it's amazing.
My wife is from a small town inKansas, sylvan Grove.
Population about 300 people andyeah, there's the Labr2 family
in town makes this honey and weget these huge jars of it and I
put that in the mud water.
So it's incredible.
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I love it.
Okay, it's the honey that's notrunny, it's the honey that's
like crystallized, and I don'tknow how they do that.
I don't know what thedifference is between the two in
terms of how they prepare it.
Someone told me well, all runnyhoney eventually crystallizes,
but not like this.
I don't know what it is.
This stuff is like you have toscoop it out with a spoon from
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the big container, put it inyour mud water.
It's amazing.
I mean, it's like it is likedrinking hot chocolate.
It's amazing.
Okay, well, I'm getting intothe mud water today.
Okay, confession I always getnervous about this time of year.
This.
I'm finishing my 20th year asan entrepreneur, as a full-time
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entertainer, slash speaker 20years, and God has been so good
throughout my journey.
He's always provided it's.
You know people talk aboutfeasts, famine or feast.
I haven't really experiencedthat so much, but there are
times where I get nervous aboutwhat's gonna happen next year.
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I'll just be honest I had mybest year ever this year, just
in terms of you know what's theword when you make money profit
it is December 14th, y'all.
I am slipping into hibernation,but this is gonna be one of
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those episodes where I look backand I'm like why didn't I just
throw that one out Anyway, whereI made my best profit this year
in terms of income, it wasawesome.
Now, this is a weird time ofyear and I'll just speak for
myself.
I don't know about otherspeakers, but inquiries slow
down and bookings slow down Tothe point where you're like,
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well, this happens every timethis year.
Why aren't I used to this?
But I guess there's somethingabout just the survival mode in
people, in me, where it's like Ineed to provide for my wife and
our seven children and I haveto make money, I have to keep
this up.
And then, when you don't get asmany calls to go speak and
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you're not getting booked asmuch, you know, even though it's
normal, and I've seen thepattern with it this time of
year, because I mean, honestly,associations, companies,
corporations.
They're kind of like they're inshutting down mode right now,
trying to get ready for theholidays.
They're not like let's plan ourconference for spring of 2025
or next fall or whatever.
They're kind of like let's finda way to like hit the pause
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button.
So I'm trying to embrace thatthis year you have to where it's
like, hey, kind of go on thebreak with them, shut down with
them, take it as an opportunityto rest a little bit.
And then also, you know, just togo along with the confession
part.
I mean, you know, when youlisten to the media, it's like
inflation's crazy, prices aregoing up.
You know people aren't gonna beable to afford speakers.
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It's kind of like that part ofme freaks out, and so what I
have to do is I have to justlike pause, I have to breathe, I
have to look back and look athow my career has grown and
think about other times where Igot nervous about money coming
in or number of gigs booked, andjust be like it's gonna be okay
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.
You know, trust the big manupstairs.
There's a plan.
Even if all of this speakingand all of that went away,
there's it's gonna be okay.
There's a greater plan.
I always lean on that, so, butthat is my confession, right,
that I still, even when thingsare going the best that they
ever had, I still kind of lackfaith.
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So there you go, there it is.
And the reason I share theconfession with you is, again,
I'm not asking you to be mycounselor, but just to remind
you that even motivationalspeakers, as much as we may seem
to get up like we have it alltogether, we have it all figured
out, we're telling you how torun your life.
We're still dealing with thingstoo.
So, all right, there is that.
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Okay, time for a little girltalk, right?
Some people's favorite part ofevery podcast.
I actually don't know if that'strue or not, I'm just saying
that, but I will say that whenwe put the shorts of the girl
talk stuff on social media, itseems to get the biggest hits.
So I've, we got some dooziestoday.
Here we go, girl talk.
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This is verbatim from mydaughter's, from the mouth of
babes, or here it is Five yearsold, it was a hot day and five
year old said why don't theweather people just make it cold
.
I mean simple solution, right?
Okay, let's see.
Here we were watching Les Misand my daughter said what do you
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think was worse, acting as awife, hair or teeth?
There you go.
If you've seen Les Mis,hopefully you can put that
together.
Also, while watching Les Mis,same kid, my 10 year old, said
actually I, during one of thesongs.
I said I didn't know that inthe play version the other guy
could hear him singing this part, cause apparently they could
hear each other singing.
My daughter said me neither.
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I just thought he was singingto himself.
So that was kind of an epiphanymoment, not hilarious, but
interesting.
And one of my daughters said tothe other stop breathing.
I mean, stop breathing likethat.
I guess she was breathingloudly.
One kid said I wish this nightwould never end.
I had taken her to a sportinggame and how precious is that.
I just wish this night wouldnever end.
Very cool.
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Five year old, are all boogersdifferent?
Like are your boogers big?
10 year old, when I get thingswrong, I stutter and burp, don't
we all All right?
One kid said I have to pee,don't play it.
This one's good Treat life likea popsicle.
Enjoy it before it melts awayFrom a nine year old crazy.
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All right, and we're gonna endon this one, because I'm not
gonna be able to top it.
Five year old daddy does UncleLyle have a weenie too?
I said yes, he does.
And she said what?
All right, and there it is.
That is Girl Talk for today.
What a joy.
How fun, right?
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You just get the best thingsfrom the mouth of kids, whether
they're your kids or someoneelse's your nieces and nephews.
Kids are such a joy.
All right, love my girls.
All right, we got some comments.
I don't wanna brag, but onApple Podcasts I now have two
comments and I've only beendoing this for six months.
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People and I already have two,not one.
Two comments.
I read the other one like threemonths ago when it came out,
cause I couldn't wait to read it.
But now I have a second one.
This is from Reichen W-R-Y-K-E-N, and it said inspiring,
encouraging and uplifting.
And Reichen also said Devindoes an amazing job inspiring
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others with his positivitymindset.
Asking yourself what else ispossible, like Devin does, can
give you that extra gear youdidn't know you had to push
things to the next level ratherthan hitting a wall and getting
stuck in the lie that this is asgood as it gets for you.
If you need encouragement,motivation or just something
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that will brighten your day,then this podcast is for you.
That's awesome.
Well, thank you for that,reichen.
And I like how Reichen saidpositivity mindset.
I don't know if he or she,whoever Reichen is meant
possibility mindset, which isthe name of the podcast.
But I will say a lot of people,instead of saying when they're
like, hey, I'm watching yourpodcast, they'll say positivity,
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or usually they say positivity,which makes me think should I
just change the name so that tohelp everyone else be right all
the time?
But anyway, I think you couldsubstitute possibility with
positivity.
They very much go hand in hand.
So, anyway, reichen, thank youso much for that comment.
And then here's an email that Igot from someone which was
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really also really cool, but itwas an email after a keynote.
This person, this lady, said hi, devin, I previously attended
one of your keynotepresentations.
My husband and I enjoyed yourpresentation and found ourselves
saying I wish our kids couldsee this.
You see, we homeschool ourchildren.
They are currently in eighthand 10th grade and they would
just love to see you love allcaps.
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That's why I said it like that.
I don't always say love likethat.
I don't say to my wife I loveyou driving nuts, or at least I
would love to show yourpresentation to them, because it
would be really exceptional forthem to hear as well.
It's a good message that a lotof kids could benefit from
hearing.
I say this as a mom and as aschool psychologist.
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See, dishing out the creds here.
I like it.
School psychologist, you havean important message to share
and you share it in a way thatmakes people want to listen to
you.
My son would go crazy over yourtricks.
He recently spent hourslearning how to juggle a golf
ball with a golf club and hasrecently passed 100 juggles.
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That's awesome.
Your combination of message onmental health along with
intriguing tricks would keep anaudience of kids captivated.
And then she went on to say morethings.
But I did get my start doingkids shows, speaking of
milestones Maybe this is a goodtransition Doing birthday
parties back in the day, and atone point I thought I'm gonna be
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a like a kids or a youthspeaker right To talk to whether
it's elementary school, middleschool, high school, and I did
some of that, you know, before Ikind of went into corporate
speaking.
But that's cool that someonesees that value and I think,
honestly, what I get from thisisn't oh, I should just be
speaking to kids, because Idon't feel like that's
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ultimately my calling.
I think what I hear is themessage is easily understandable
and easy implementable, andthat's what adults need, too
right?
Sometimes we overcomplicatemessages, strategies, solutions
and then they're just toocomplicated for people to really
grasp.
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But it's like hey, here's whatyou want and here's a really
easy way to get there.
Now go do it.
And people are like we got it.
That's what people need,especially from a keynote
presentation.
Not a workshop with deeper divetype stuff, but a keynote where
it's like hey, here'sinspiration.
Right, something greater isalways possible.
Never stop asking the questionwhat else is possible?
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And then everything you areachieving in life or attempting
to achieve, and anything thatwould be in a breakout session
really can fall into theumbrella of hey, now here's
another, here's a greaterpossibility for your life.
And that's what I love aboutthe keynote setting the tone for
the conference, helping peoplerealize that it's time to ignite
untapped potential and defylimits and go out there and keep
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exploring new levels ofgreatness.
So thank you so much for thatemail.
I appreciate that and hopefullynow you're a listener of the
podcast.
Her name is Tracy, I'll justsay that.
So, tracy, thank you for that,really appreciate that and wish
the best for your kids, and Ihope your son just keeps going
on with the golf ball juggles.
That's really cool, all right.
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So now let's get to the mainevent.
As I take another sip of mydelicious, healthy, incredible
mud water here it is OK.
Milestones what is a milestone?
Well, I went ahead and lookedup the definition, because I
used the word quite a bit and Iwas like I should probably look
it up and, before I talk moreabout it, make sure I really
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understand what that means.
Google when I googled it, itjust said milestone is a
significant event or stage inthe life, progress or
development of a person.
Significant event or stage inthe life, progress or
development of a person.
They gave an example to help usout in case that didn't quite
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become clear to you.
Are you ready for the example?
Her getting the job ofsupervisor was a milestone in
her career.
I don't know why I'm getting sosarcastic and snarky all of a
sudden.
I don't know where that camefrom.
I think maybe I'm just tryingto be funny and have a little
fun.
Ok, well here's.
I guess the question for you iswhat milestone are you at right
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now?
What milestones have youachieved in your life and have
you celebrated those moments?
Have those milestones made youhappy, made you sad?
What upcoming milestones do youhave?
And how do you allow milestonesto inspire you, make you feel
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proud and then propel you on tothe next thing?
Because to me, milestones areall about.
They're just as much about thefuture as they are about the
past.
When you hit this milestone,you're like man, I've achieved
this now.
So then, if you have apossibility mindset, you're
asking what else is possible now?
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What's that next milestone?
Now I do want to say that,since it's middle of December
and it's kind of time wherewe're shutting down and
hibernating, in fact for me I'mtrying to clear out the next
three weeks.
I'm trying to get all of mymarketing, sales-y stuff, office
kind of things just done.
So the next three weeks I canjust focus on Christmas, focus
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on the family, new Year's, hangout before I jump back in in
January.
So the reason I bring that upagain is because when I say
something greater is alwayspossible and what's that next
milestone?
I don't mean that we shouldwear ourselves out trying to hit
that next milestone.
I think sometimes somethinggreater just means greater peace
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, greater rest, greatercontentment with where you are
right now.
So sometimes something greateris always possible.
Doesn't mean more success interms of the world or money or
you're standing in society or inthe eyes of other people, but
something greater is alwayspossible in your mental health,
your peace, what's going on uphere between your ears, so that
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you can enjoy theaccomplishments that you've made
.
So, ok, wanted to throw in thatcaveat because I don't want
people to think that I'm sayingwork harder, work harder.
Come on more milestones, getthere.
It's like there's times forthat.
There's times to grind it out,there's times to push hard,
there's times to get there.
But don't forget that toeverything there is a season
Turn, turn, turn and it's likeman.
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There's a time to chasemilestones.
There's also a time to kind ofjust like chill.
I'm not trying to add toscripture here, I'm just saying
life's about balance, right?
So here's the milestone thatI'm at right now and as I
reflect on it, I hope that youcan also be thinking about your
milestone and celebrate that andalso look forward to your next
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milestone, so finishing up 2023right now.
As I look back, 20 years ago Iwas graduating college, so I
graduated at semester inDecember from Kansas State
University in the fall of 2003.
And I can't believe it's been20 years and so much has
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happened.
I am I'm Excuse me I moved outof my parents' house, I got
married, started my career, hadseven kids, transitioned from
magician to speaker in that timeI mean this.
You know we bought a house.
So many things have happened in20 years and it does go fast.
Your kids do grow up quick.
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As I look back, I just rememberhow things started for me with
my career, and I don't want toget into how I landed my first
restaurant gigs I want to savethat for another time.
But basically what happened isI graduated semester with a
degree in family studies andhuman services, and I was.
The plan was to take the springsemester off and then start in
the fall with a marriage andfamily therapy program.
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So, yes, I was going to cancelmarried people and I was either
going to get the master's degreein counseling at Kansas State
University in Manhattan, kansas,or at Friends University here
in Kansas City.
So those are my two options.
I was like I'll figure it out,I'm going to take the spring off
, I'm going to go back and workat the after school day care,
which I had been working at onand off for like eight years,
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and it was like the perfect jobwhen you're, you know, in
transition with anything, sowent back, worked there.
But at that time I was also likeI had an entrepreneurial like
spirit, I, and there was like afire lit in me, like I had been
wanting to be a restaurantmagician for a few years and it
just didn't work out for me topursue that, you know, as I was
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finishing up college.
But I was like now I've got thetime to do it.
And so during that sort ofChristmas season which would
have been, you know, a littleafter this time right now I
started hitting up therestaurants and again, I'm going
to save that deeper story forlater.
But I landed two restaurantgigs and that's what started my
career and, honestly, the restis history.
You know, from there, workingin the restaurants, I started
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handing out business cardsadvertising that I do birthday
parties, private parties,corporate parties and my
repertoire just began to grow.
I could do not only close-upmagic but a kind of a standup
show, like a standup comedymagic show that led into
mentalism, that led intospeaking.
And so at this 20 yearmilestone marker, I'm kind of
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like man, what's what's next?
You know, and and I share thatI already in the confessions
part that I have that fear thatwell, even if things are going
well right now, what's what'sgoing to happen next?
So there's there's so manyquestions, you know, in the
sense that I'm not only comingto the end of year, but I'm
coming to the end of 20 yearsnow, of, oh my gosh, two decades
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of being a professional,full-time entertainer.
And so where to go with thisexactly, I think?
I think first, first thing forme with milestones I have to
deal with is like uncertaintyand fear, because there's a fear
factor in there of this hasgone so well for so long, but
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how am I going to sustain this?
How am I going to keep this up?
So there's the fear factor.
There's also the is this what Iwant to do for the next 20, 30,
40 years?
You know, do I want to continueon this path that I am, that
I'm on, because sometimes I lookat a milestone like a fork in
the road.
Well, maybe here's a chance tomake a change and do something
different.
And honestly, my personality isalways to keep trying and
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exploring new things andthankfully, the things that I've
wanted to explore or try reallyalign sort of with this speaker
thing.
So when I wanted to try likesoccer juggling, well that fit
in with the speaking somehowMentalism comedy, you know, like
stand up comedy it was like Ican use that in my speaking and
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so everything is kind ofconverged into this, which which
, by the way, kind of means likeI don't really have hobbies,
because every time I have ahobby it comes into my career.
That's just the way it works.
So I think it'd be good for meto have a hobby sometime outside
of the career so that I can dosome fun activity without having
to think about work.
But so that's been fun for me.
I've been told that mypersonality type it's there's
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like a name for it.
It's called a scanner.
You're always looking for thenext thing.
You're like I'm tired of this,I want to move on.
I'm tired of this, I want tomove on.
So for me, like starting apodcast was something else.
That was that's been really funfor me to do.
But that also aligns with thespeaking thing, right, because I
can, I can get the messageacross to more people, right, I
speak to them on stage and thenhey, let's, let's go deeper with
this, so.
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So anyway, I'm not saying I'mgoing to quit being a speaker,
but I'm saying it does make mereally open up and think man,
what's, what are the next thingsthat I want to try?
You know, what have I notaccomplished?
I want to accomplish at thatpoint and that's the next point
that it's like what in the last20 years?
Like what quote unquote regretsdo I have?
Or what things could I havedone better, could have gone
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differently, could have workedmore in my favor?
So and then, and then I thinkhow can I learn from those
mistakes?
Like the biggest one is theAmerica's Got Talent audition.
You know that I didn't make itthrough and I have now a new
acronym for AGT.
If you've seen my keynote, youknow, instead of America's Got
Talent, in my mind now, agtmeans always give thanks,
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because I realized thateverything in that whole
audition and me not making itthrough was part of a greater
plan.
You know part of where I'msupposed to be today and I
wouldn't be exactly where I amin my life right now, surrounded
with the exact people I'msurrounded with, had that not
happened, so it's.
You know.
In that way, it's like we don'treally shouldn't really have
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regrets, because it's all comestogether, it's all meant to be
so.
So I do find peace in that, butsometimes I do, even though I,
even though always give thanksyou know, gratitude is my theme,
a major theme of my life Istill look back and think, oh,
what could I have donedifferently to get through that
audition?
I would have picked a differenttrick, I would have said things
differently on stage, you know,I would have prepared
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differently, and so I still getin my head about that stuff.
So, so as as I look forward,then, right, like what's what's
next, there's certain thingsthat I want to be true for
myself about how I handlecertain situations, and I think
I think, going in, I'm thinkingof a word for the new year.
Right, I always try to think ofa theme or a word.
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A recent word I had, I think itwas not for this year, but was
for 2022.
It was like the year of theMaverick.
I wanted to just be someone whowas like doing things my own
way, not worrying about what'swhat's happening with everybody
else out there, but like justjust, you know, handle your
family, your career, your body,your mind the way that you think
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is best.
You know, do it, do it your way.
And that was really fun.
And I think that the what I wantmy theme for this next year to
be, the word I want to settle on, is authenticity, because I
feel like so many times in thepast I have just been
inauthentic, right Like I actthe way people want me to act,
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that I think they want me to act.
A lot of that's based onassumptions, or I say the things
I want.
I think they want me to say dothe things I think people want
me to do, feel the way I thinkpeople want me to feel.
I mean, I base so much of howI'm thinking, doing, feeling,
off of my assumptions, of whatdo the people expect from me.
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And I think if you, if youchase that, if you're just
trying to please other peopleall the time, you're not going
to be authentic and authentic.
I don't mean that in like abullying way, like I don't care
what nobody thinks, man, but Iwant to do it in a way that,
where I can, if I am authentic,I can serve and love my family
and my audience members and mycommunity better.
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And I just want to be a moretrue version of myself.
Recently I thought about youmight have noticed a little gray
in my beard.
This beard is going to go awayat some point.
I'm not, you know, I got, I say, a little gray, I got a lot of
white here on the chin I've beenrecently I saw an ad about oh,
you know, stay young, color yourbeard.
And I was like am I supposed tocolor my beard?
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You know, because my hair isn'tlike really turned yet.
So what should I?
You know, bring the beard back.
And I told that to one of mydaughters, my 13 year old.
I was like I was thinking aboutjust putting some color on my
beard and she's like, really shegoes.
That just doesn't seem verydevin.
And I was like that's true, youknow.
And I was.
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I was thinking about you know,I would be fun to like have a
full beard.
And then you know, bring, bringthe color in.
But and I'm not, I'm not sayingsomething against people who
color their hair, okay, I'm justtalking about me here.
I'm not taking a stand on thefact that people shouldn't do
this.
If you want to color your hair,get highlights, color your
beard, go for it.
Okay, I'm not not going tojudge you.
I'm just saying for me, with mytheme being authentic, I don't
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feel like for me that would bean authentic move.
So as I look ahead to the futureand think about you know, what
is that next milestone?
And sometimes we know the nextmilestone, like we're like well,
it's when I graduate or it'swhen I retire.
But sometimes it's like you hita milestone and you're like,
whoa, that was a surprisemilestone.
So I'm not even sure what thenext milestone is for me yet.
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But when I do get to thatmilestone, I want to be able to
look back and say, man, maybeeverything didn't go exactly the
way that I wanted to, maybe Icould have been more successful,
maybe I could have less regrets, but at least I was authentic.
Right, I did what I believed inmy heart was the right thing to
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do.
I followed the Lord's leadingin my life.
I wasn't acting, saying,thinking, feeling things based
on my assumptions of otherpeople's expectations.
Right, because whether you'reright in your assumptions or not
, about what people expect fromyou.
That's not the way I want tolive my life, right, I want to
be authentic.
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So my question, my charge, mychallenge to you is this First
of all, think about whatmilestone are you at or have you
recently hit and have youcelebrated that in some way?
And I think that is one thing Ineed to do.
I need to be like it's been 20years.
What's some way that I cancelebrate, and I don't even know
what that looks like yet.
Right, for me, usually it'slike Mexican food and ice cream,
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and I could do that.
But I'm kind of like I kind ofwant something different.
You know something special,something I'll remember more,
because Mexican food and icecream a lot of memories of that.
But what's something special Icould do to really commemorate
the achievement of 20 years asan entrepreneur, even making it
through COVID?
I'm so thankful that I had agreat coach helping me through
that time transition to virtualkeynotes, so that I could, you
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know, keep making money, keepfeeding my family Celebrate that
accomplishment.
Okay, so what's your milestoneright now?
How have you celebrated it?
And then, number two, duringyour next milestone, whether you
know what that is or not, andyou look back between this time,
this milestone and thatmilestone.
What do you want the main themeto be Like?
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What are you going to look backand say, man, everything didn't
go right, but at least blank.
You know, at least I left alegacy, at least my marriage
became stronger For me, at leastI was authentic.
What is that thing?
So?
What is it All right?
Well, what I'd love to hear isfrom you in the comments, let me
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know, you know, whether it's onApple or Spotify or YouTube
just say, hey, this is the way Iwant to feel when I hit my next
milestone.
This is what I want to be truefor where my headspace was and
how I approached life andrelationships and work, et
cetera.
So there it is.
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Y'all Milestones so awesome.
Thanks for hanging in there withme today.
Yeah, this was a great day.
Yeah, this was kind of a.
It was.
This was fun.
Fun for me.
I hope it was fun for you.
I hope you got something out ofthe milestones thing.
Hope you enjoyed this.
If you know, merry Christmas, Iwon't do a solo podcast again
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until I don't know, sometimeafter the new year.
Again, stay tuned, because in acouple of weeks we've got some.
I got to have a really funfriend that I had on the show
and then another friend that Ihad a few weeks from there.
So it seems like the podcastwe've been going.
I've been doing about it everyother week schedule.
That seems right now like it'smore doable for me to still be a
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family man, to still beeffective in my keynote work and
enjoy life.
So, who knows, maybe that'llchange someday, but for now it's
about every other week.
So thanks for hanging in there.
Rate the podcast comment and,yeah, just let me know what you
got out of today.
All right, so perfect.
Hey, don't forget aboutMudwater.
Mudwatercom slash devon.
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Go on there, try it out, maybe,maybe it's for you.
All right, just give it a shot.
So thank you so much forjoining and remember never stop
asking the question.
What else is possible?
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