May 20, 2024 • 13 mins
You have a relationship with every living creature on the planet: your spouse, your mail person, your furry companion, your tax accountant, the stranger behind you in line at Starbucks. When I talk about “getting clear in your relationships,” it’s more than just romance.
To learn more about Corbie, go to https://corbiemitleid.com
I’ve been guiding friends and clients since 1973. It’s my full time job -- I love showing you opportunities and how to grab them, where the tough stuff is and how to get through it, and handing you your toolbox through tarot and oracle cards, past life exploration, spirit guide and angelic conferences and mediumship.
My website corbiemitleid.com is full of articles, blogs, where to find me for live appearances and where to listen to me as I guest on other podcasts.
And there’s a full menu of readings, from short burning questions all the way up to the jewel in the crown, my Soul Plan readings, which are based on the work I did with Robert Schwartz. Whether it’s general questions about your life in practical terms, romance readings, business consultations, discovering your sentence of passion or digging into that single challenge that has run through your life, you can find the appointment that is right for you.
Until next time, keep those ruby slippers polished, and I’ll meet you on the Psychic Yellow Brick Road!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You have a relationship with every living
creature on the planet yourspouse, your male person, your
furry companion, your taxaccountant, the stranger behind
you in line at Starbucks.
When I talk about getting clearin your relationships, it's
more than just romance.
Hi, I'm Corbie Mitleid and thisis the Psychic Yellow Brick
(00:21):
Road.
The world is changing and lifedoesn't have the spark it used
to, so we look around and askwhere do I need to go to catch
the magic again?
You've found it.
Welcome to the Psychic YellowBrick Road, a weekly podcast
that delves into the intuitiveworld, metaphysics, life purpose
(00:42):
and how to connect with thecompassion of spirituality.
I'm Corbie Mitleid and I'vebeen on the Psychic Yellow Brick
Road for 50 years.
I'm a Certified Tarot Master,past life specialist, psychic
medium, channel and author and,most importantly, I'm an Elder
in the field, ready to pass oneverything I've discovered to
you.
So let's hit that PsychicYellow Brick Road where you can
(01:04):
find the real wizards and avoidthe flying monkeys.
Eight golden rules for everyrelationship.
Let me tell you the vastmajority of my readings,
especially the burning questionsand the free reading hour chats
, all start with romancequestions, which I laughingly
(01:27):
call the does Bruce love me?
Question, but the clients alljust call it a relationship
question.
People often assumerelationship means a romantic
bond, not even close.
You have a relationship withevery living creature on the
planet your spouse, your mailperson, your furry companion,
your tax accountant, thestranger behind you in line at
(01:50):
Starbucks.
When I talk about getting clearin your relationships, it's
more than just romance.
These are my eight golden rulesfor making any relationship
last, because they work.
One talk.
You can't expect anyone to knowwhat you want or what's
bothering you if you never tellthem.
So many friendships andpartnerships break up because
(02:13):
too much goes unsaid for far toolong, creating a rift that
feels impossible to cross.
If something's amiss in arelationship or something's
bothering you and you don'tunderstand why it's happening,
then bring it up and put it onthe table.
It's essential.
It's the only way to heal theissue.
Examine it when you feel talkis needed.
(02:33):
Tell the other person beforethe situation escalates.
Make it clear, but work to keepthe emotion out of the request.
When two people go into aconversation as equals, instead
of one making demands and one onthe defensive, they can
accomplish more understanding inless time, with fewer bumps and
bruises.
(02:54):
Two make it about the challenge,not personal sniping.
How would you typically handlethe situation If you say you
always hog all the closet spaceand my stuff ends up on the
floor?
What kind of response would youexpect?
I'd guess an unfavorable one.
What if you said instead myclothing is ending up on the
(03:14):
floor.
Can we figure out a way for meto have more closet space?
Notice the we pulls you and yourpartner together for a
relationship-based solution.
You won't come across as sayingthis isn't fair or you're a
closet pig.
When the talk is about thechallenge and not the person,
our partner's guard doesn't goup.
When we feel included and noton the defensive, we're more
(03:37):
willing to listen and work on acompromise.
A mutual challenge to solve isless provocative than a personal
attack.
Three to versus at Bigdifference here.
When we yell to others becausewe're frustrated or angry, we're
venting about something thatmay not have anything to do with
them at all.
All we want is for someone tohold space for us and validate
(04:01):
our emotions through theircompassionate attention.
When we yell at others, theybecome the target, and if the
person you're with can'tdistinguish between the two.
Miscommunication is usually theresult when you feel your
temper or frustration rising andsomeone's within earshot.
Be clear about whether they'rethe cause or your support system
(04:21):
.
If the individual is in theline of fire and not the
intended target, stop, take adeep breath.
If all you need to do is popyour cork or let loose the steam
vent on your internal pressurecooker, tell them so.
First, prepare your supportteam so they're ready to listen
without needing to duck thefireworks.
And if they are the target ofyour explosion, remember the
(04:45):
idea is to explore a mutualchallenge, not attack Four, fix
versus listen.
In any relationship, but mostespecially a partnered one,
there's always a fixer.
Fixers hear or see a problemand make suggestion after
suggestion until they come upwith a solution.
That's a problem when peoplearen't asking for advice.
(05:08):
Some folks just want to vent orthink out loud to see if a
solution makes sense.
We crave a supportive soundingboard, not someone else's two
cents on a matter.
Trust me, if someone you'rewith is having an out loud
go-round about a problem orchallenge, the magic phrase is
do you want me to try and fixthis?
Or just listen?
(05:29):
If they want your input,they'll invite you to help them
solve the problem.
If they say, please just listen, then put on that spiritual
duct tape over your mouth andhold the space for the other
person to figure things out.
Five the 60-60.
People talk about 50-50relationships, but I believe in
(05:50):
60-60.
It's the idea that everyindividual goes a little bit
more than halfway to listen,appreciate and engage with the
other.
The extra 10% tends to overlapand gives the relationship a
strong anchor for the toughtimes.
To be honest, relationships ofany kind are always in flux.
There's never perfect equality.
(06:11):
Sometimes one person will leanon the other a little more,
needing more attention or helpduring a tough situation.
That, my friends, is life.
If each partner is willing togive more on occasion or in the
face of unforeseen circumstances, there is loving equilibrium.
The leaned-on person knows thattheir own relationship
(06:33):
reservoir has been filled in thepast and they have the
emotional support to give nowwithout feeling used.
When I had my third bout ofbreast cancer early in my
marriage, carl and I already hadfour years of a relationship
and 18 months of marriage behindus.
Carl and I already had fouryears of a relationship and 18
months of marriage behind us.
We both understood the idea of60-60, and had been building up
(06:58):
that reservoir from our firstdate.
As a result, carl was able tobe there for me under terribly
difficult circumstances, onesthat for many other couples
spelled separation or divorce.
Twenty years later, that 60-60means our marriage is stronger
than ever.
The 60-60 is one of the bestpractices you can adopt to keep
(07:18):
a relationship any relationshipintact for the long run.
Six you first, then therelationship.
Wait, what about the 60-60, youask.
Let's not confuse you firstwith it should be all about me.
The reality is simple If youfail to take care of yourself
first, you have nothing to giveto anyone else.
(07:39):
Sometimes you're unable to movea work deadline, sometimes
someone is asking for a personalappointment that can derail
your health and stable progress,and sometimes you simply need
some time for yourself, withoutdemands.
In all of these cases, don'tsay a yes.
(08:03):
You don't mean.
Learn when saying no is afabulous idea.
Most importantly, remove theguilt you attach to making
yourself unavailable.
Calmly, making it clear thatyou are a priority too, can help
your friends, family andpartner.
Except that when you say no,it's not a rejection but a point
of self-care.
7.
Don't sublimate needs.
(08:23):
Familiarity is comforting formost people, especially in
relationships, but life asks usto change and grow, and that
can't help but affect ourconnections with others.
In order to honor ourauthenticity within a
relationship, we need to admitwhen changes are necessary.
Otherwise communicationbreakdowns and misunderstandings
(08:44):
are sure to result.
Remember that.
Make it about the challengerule.
If a habitual part of therelationship needs changing or
if your life has altered partsof the relationship's
expectations, talk about it.
Ignoring the changes oravoiding the conversation will
always end up fueling amisunderstanding.
The relationship will thank youin the long run if you both
(09:08):
address what you want and needfrom each other.
8.
Give the relationship the timeit requires.
Just as we all need me time,relationships need us time.
While some of us are incrediblylucky to have those friendships
that last through long bouts ofnon-communication, most
(09:28):
relationships need some propercare and feeding.
Between the pandemic workschedules and just plain 21st
century craziness, the old ideaof coming over for an evening or
spending a day together doingan amiable bunch of nothing is
hard to come by.
And because our globe isshrinking, sometimes our best
friends are in Nairobi when welive in Nevada.
(09:49):
That can put a double strain onthings, because getting
together physically these daysis rare to impossible.
So make a conscious effort.
Send an email or text therelationship equivalent of an
MRE.
Get on a phone call or Zoom.
Make time for a friendship togrow.
If you're lucky enough to bewithin meeting distance, set
(10:11):
aside time to be in each other'scompany.
It's tempting to let have toget in the way of want to, but
any friendship worth keeping isworth cultivating and is far
easier than looking for a newone.
As for a romantic relationship,my philosophy is always friends
before lovers, not lovers beforefriends.
Why?
(10:32):
When you're friends, you'vebuilt up some degree of trust
and understanding of eachother's foibles and worldviews.
That level of confidence ineach other makes the evolution
to the physical part of therelationship sweeter and easier.
Lovers before friends cancreate sticky situations where
you're unsure about the personyou woke up next to.
(10:53):
You have no idea what they'rethinking or how they're going to
react.
And later that afternoon iswhen you usually pick up the
phone and call me for a psychicgreeting, isn't it?
And call me for a psychicgreeting, isn't it?
When a relationship, anyrelationship, is clear to both
partners, the bond can growstrong and healthy roots, as any
good gardener knows the beautyof the blooming garden is worth
(11:15):
every bit of effort and love youcan lavish on it.
I encourage you, look at eachof your relationships as a
personal flower patch.
Pull up the weeds, feed andwater your delicate flowers
sufficiently.
They'll repay you with heart'sease, nourishment and beauty for
a long time to come.
(11:38):
I've been guiding friends andclients since 1973.
I love showing youopportunities and how to grab
them, where the tough stuff isand how to get through it, and
handing you your toolbox throughtarot and oracle cards, past
life exploration, spirit guidesand angelic conferences and
mediumship.
My website corbiemitleid.
com is full of articles, blogs,where to find me for live
(12:01):
appearances and where to listento me as I guest on other
podcasts.
There's a full menu of readings, from short burning questions
all the way up to the jewel ofthe crown, my soul plan readings
, which are based on the work Idid with Robert Schwartz.
Whether it's general questionsabout your life in practical
terms, romance readings,business consultations,
(12:22):
discovering your sentence ofpassion or digging into that
single challenge that has runthrough your life, you can find
the appointment that's right foryou.
You know your opinion matters alot, so if you enjoy this, take
a few minutes to leave a review.
Word of mouth is key withpodcasts, so share it with
(12:42):
others.
And if you really want to helpmake the magic happen, go find
me at patreon.
com.
There's a tier called I Believein you and for just a couple of
dollars a month, you can be anofficial roadie and help all the
things I do the podcast, thebooks, the classes, the videos
keep on coming.
This has been Corbie Mitleid,and until next time, keep those
(13:04):
ruby slippers polished and I'llmeet you on the Psychic Yellow
Brick Road.
You have a relationship with every living
creature on the planet yourspouse, your male person, your
furry companion, your taxaccountant, the stranger behind
you in line at Starbucks.
When I talk about getting clearin your relationships, it's
more than just romance.
Hi, I'm Corbie Mitleid and thisis the Psychic Yellow Brick
(00:21):
Road.
The world is changing and lifedoesn't have the spark it used
to, so we look around and askwhere do I need to go to catch
the magic again?
You've found it.
Welcome to the Psychic YellowBrick Road, a weekly podcast
that delves into the intuitiveworld, metaphysics, life purpose
(00:42):
and how to connect with thecompassion of spirituality.
I'm Corbie Mitleid and I'vebeen on the Psychic Yellow Brick
Road for 50 years.
I'm a Certified Tarot Master,past life specialist, psychic
medium, channel and author and,most importantly, I'm an Elder
in the field, ready to pass oneverything I've discovered to
you.
So let's hit that PsychicYellow Brick Road where you can
(01:04):
find the real wizards and avoidthe flying monkeys.
Eight golden rules for everyrelationship.
Let me tell you the vastmajority of my readings,
especially the burning questionsand the free reading hour chats
, all start with romancequestions, which I laughingly
(01:27):
call the does Bruce love me?
Question, but the clients alljust call it a relationship
question.
People often assumerelationship means a romantic
bond, not even close.
You have a relationship withevery living creature on the
planet your spouse, your mailperson, your furry companion,
your tax accountant, thestranger behind you in line at
(01:50):
Starbucks.
When I talk about getting clearin your relationships, it's
more than just romance.
These are my eight golden rulesfor making any relationship
last, because they work.
One talk.
You can't expect anyone to knowwhat you want or what's
bothering you if you never tellthem.
So many friendships andpartnerships break up because
(02:13):
too much goes unsaid for far toolong, creating a rift that
feels impossible to cross.
If something's amiss in arelationship or something's
bothering you and you don'tunderstand why it's happening,
then bring it up and put it onthe table.
It's essential.
It's the only way to heal theissue.
Examine it when you feel talkis needed.
(02:33):
Tell the other person beforethe situation escalates.
Make it clear, but work to keepthe emotion out of the request.
When two people go into aconversation as equals, instead
of one making demands and one onthe defensive, they can
accomplish more understanding inless time, with fewer bumps and
bruises.
(02:54):
Two make it about the challenge,not personal sniping.
How would you typically handlethe situation If you say you
always hog all the closet spaceand my stuff ends up on the
floor?
What kind of response would youexpect?
I'd guess an unfavorable one.
What if you said instead myclothing is ending up on the
(03:14):
floor.
Can we figure out a way for meto have more closet space?
Notice the we pulls you and yourpartner together for a
relationship-based solution.
You won't come across as sayingthis isn't fair or you're a
closet pig.
When the talk is about thechallenge and not the person,
our partner's guard doesn't goup.
When we feel included and noton the defensive, we're more
(03:37):
willing to listen and work on acompromise.
A mutual challenge to solve isless provocative than a personal
attack.
Three to versus at Bigdifference here.
When we yell to others becausewe're frustrated or angry, we're
venting about something thatmay not have anything to do with
them at all.
All we want is for someone tohold space for us and validate
(04:01):
our emotions through theircompassionate attention.
When we yell at others, theybecome the target, and if the
person you're with can'tdistinguish between the two.
Miscommunication is usually theresult when you feel your
temper or frustration rising andsomeone's within earshot.
Be clear about whether they'rethe cause or your support system
(04:21):
.
If the individual is in theline of fire and not the
intended target, stop, take adeep breath.
If all you need to do is popyour cork or let loose the steam
vent on your internal pressurecooker, tell them so.
First, prepare your supportteam so they're ready to listen
without needing to duck thefireworks.
And if they are the target ofyour explosion, remember the
(04:45):
idea is to explore a mutualchallenge, not attack Four, fix
versus listen.
In any relationship, but mostespecially a partnered one,
there's always a fixer.
Fixers hear or see a problemand make suggestion after
suggestion until they come upwith a solution.
That's a problem when peoplearen't asking for advice.
(05:08):
Some folks just want to vent orthink out loud to see if a
solution makes sense.
We crave a supportive soundingboard, not someone else's two
cents on a matter.
Trust me, if someone you'rewith is having an out loud
go-round about a problem orchallenge, the magic phrase is
do you want me to try and fixthis?
Or just listen?
(05:29):
If they want your input,they'll invite you to help them
solve the problem.
If they say, please just listen, then put on that spiritual
duct tape over your mouth andhold the space for the other
person to figure things out.
Five the 60-60.
People talk about 50-50relationships, but I believe in
(05:50):
60-60.
It's the idea that everyindividual goes a little bit
more than halfway to listen,appreciate and engage with the
other.
The extra 10% tends to overlapand gives the relationship a
strong anchor for the toughtimes.
To be honest, relationships ofany kind are always in flux.
There's never perfect equality.
(06:11):
Sometimes one person will leanon the other a little more,
needing more attention or helpduring a tough situation.
That, my friends, is life.
If each partner is willing togive more on occasion or in the
face of unforeseen circumstances, there is loving equilibrium.
The leaned-on person knows thattheir own relationship
(06:33):
reservoir has been filled in thepast and they have the
emotional support to give nowwithout feeling used.
When I had my third bout ofbreast cancer early in my
marriage, carl and I already hadfour years of a relationship
and 18 months of marriage behindus.
Carl and I already had fouryears of a relationship and 18
months of marriage behind us.
We both understood the idea of60-60, and had been building up
(06:58):
that reservoir from our firstdate.
As a result, carl was able tobe there for me under terribly
difficult circumstances, onesthat for many other couples
spelled separation or divorce.
Twenty years later, that 60-60means our marriage is stronger
than ever.
The 60-60 is one of the bestpractices you can adopt to keep
(07:18):
a relationship any relationshipintact for the long run.
Six you first, then therelationship.
Wait, what about the 60-60, youask.
Let's not confuse you firstwith it should be all about me.
The reality is simple If youfail to take care of yourself
first, you have nothing to giveto anyone else.
(07:39):
Sometimes you're unable to movea work deadline, sometimes
someone is asking for a personalappointment that can derail
your health and stable progress,and sometimes you simply need
some time for yourself, withoutdemands.
In all of these cases, don'tsay a yes.
(08:03):
You don't mean.
Learn when saying no is afabulous idea.
Most importantly, remove theguilt you attach to making
yourself unavailable.
Calmly, making it clear thatyou are a priority too, can help
your friends, family andpartner.
Except that when you say no,it's not a rejection but a point
of self-care.
7.
Don't sublimate needs.
(08:23):
Familiarity is comforting formost people, especially in
relationships, but life asks usto change and grow, and that
can't help but affect ourconnections with others.
In order to honor ourauthenticity within a
relationship, we need to admitwhen changes are necessary.
Otherwise communicationbreakdowns and misunderstandings
(08:44):
are sure to result.
Remember that.
Make it about the challengerule.
If a habitual part of therelationship needs changing or
if your life has altered partsof the relationship's
expectations, talk about it.
Ignoring the changes oravoiding the conversation will
always end up fueling amisunderstanding.
The relationship will thank youin the long run if you both
(09:08):
address what you want and needfrom each other.
8.
Give the relationship the timeit requires.
Just as we all need me time,relationships need us time.
While some of us are incrediblylucky to have those friendships
that last through long bouts ofnon-communication, most
(09:28):
relationships need some propercare and feeding.
Between the pandemic workschedules and just plain 21st
century craziness, the old ideaof coming over for an evening or
spending a day together doingan amiable bunch of nothing is
hard to come by.
And because our globe isshrinking, sometimes our best
friends are in Nairobi when welive in Nevada.
(09:49):
That can put a double strain onthings, because getting
together physically these daysis rare to impossible.
So make a conscious effort.
Send an email or text therelationship equivalent of an
MRE.
Get on a phone call or Zoom.
Make time for a friendship togrow.
If you're lucky enough to bewithin meeting distance, set
(10:11):
aside time to be in each other'scompany.
It's tempting to let have toget in the way of want to, but
any friendship worth keeping isworth cultivating and is far
easier than looking for a newone.
As for a romantic relationship,my philosophy is always friends
before lovers, not lovers beforefriends.
Why?
(10:32):
When you're friends, you'vebuilt up some degree of trust
and understanding of eachother's foibles and worldviews.
That level of confidence ineach other makes the evolution
to the physical part of therelationship sweeter and easier.
Lovers before friends cancreate sticky situations where
you're unsure about the personyou woke up next to.
(10:53):
You have no idea what they'rethinking or how they're going to
react.
And later that afternoon iswhen you usually pick up the
phone and call me for a psychicgreeting, isn't it?
And call me for a psychicgreeting, isn't it?
When a relationship, anyrelationship, is clear to both
partners, the bond can growstrong and healthy roots, as any
good gardener knows the beautyof the blooming garden is worth
(11:15):
every bit of effort and love youcan lavish on it.
I encourage you, look at eachof your relationships as a
personal flower patch.
Pull up the weeds, feed andwater your delicate flowers
sufficiently.
They'll repay you with heart'sease, nourishment and beauty for
a long time to come.
(11:38):
I've been guiding friends andclients since 1973.
I love showing youopportunities and how to grab
them, where the tough stuff isand how to get through it, and
handing you your toolbox throughtarot and oracle cards, past
life exploration, spirit guidesand angelic conferences and
mediumship.
My website corbiemitleid.
com is full of articles, blogs,where to find me for live
(12:01):
appearances and where to listento me as I guest on other
podcasts.
There's a full menu of readings, from short burning questions
all the way up to the jewel ofthe crown, my soul plan readings
, which are based on the work Idid with Robert Schwartz.
Whether it's general questionsabout your life in practical
terms, romance readings,business consultations,
(12:22):
discovering your sentence ofpassion or digging into that
single challenge that has runthrough your life, you can find
the appointment that's right foryou.
You know your opinion matters alot, so if you enjoy this, take
a few minutes to leave a review.
Word of mouth is key withpodcasts, so share it with
(12:42):
others.
And if you really want to helpmake the magic happen, go find
me at patreon.
com.
There's a tier called I Believein you and for just a couple of
dollars a month, you can be anofficial roadie and help all the
things I do the podcast, thebooks, the classes, the videos
keep on coming.
This has been Corbie Mitleid,and until next time, keep those
(13:04):
ruby slippers polished and I'llmeet you on the Psychic Yellow
Brick Road.
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