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December 19, 2024 • 14 mins

Unlock the secrets to successful crate training as we delve into the art of balancing a puppy's natural inclination to cry with effective soothing techniques. I'm Amy Jensen, founder of BAXTER and Bella, and today, we're tackling one of the most common challenges new puppy families face: the dreaded crate cries. This episode is brimming with insights on understanding your puppy's sounds, whether they stem from discomfort, overstimulation, or a simple plea for attention. We'll discuss why creating a secure environment for your dog is crucial and how consistent routines can reduce anxiety, helping your puppy adjust to their new haven.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Today on the podcast we are talking about how to find
balance with puppy crying.
When we first crate train apuppy, there can be some whining
and crying because they don'tknow how to be alone yet.
So today we want to talk aboutbalancing the crying with
soothing, without rewarding theunwanted behavior, and helping
our puppies love their crates.

(00:20):
Welcome to the Puppy TrainingPodcast.
I'm Amy Jensen, founder ofBaxter and Bella, the online
puppy school.
Here we are all about helpingyou create the best possible
experience raising a puppy, fromtraining tips to practical
tricks, all aimed at fostering ahappy, well-behaved dog who

(00:40):
truly feels like part of thefamily.
So if you are ready to enjoythe journey and strengthen the
bond with your dog, let's getstarted.
Welcome to the puppy trainingpodcast.
I'm glad you're here today.
Thanks for listening.
Today we want to talk aboutfinding balance.
So when our puppies first cometo us and we're trying to crate

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train them or get them used tobeing alone, where we're not
constantly entertaining them,they struggle a little bit and
sometimes they're going to throwa tantrum and sometimes they
really are sad.
So when they first come to us,they don't know how to be alone
and there's a lot of justtraining them to be able to
handle that without crying.
So this is one of the keyhurdles that both new puppy

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families and their dogsexperience.
Crates provide a safe andsecure environment for puppies,
but this process of trainingthem to be happy in one can
sometimes be difficult,particularly when it comes to
managing barking and whining.
Now, while it's normal for apuppy to express their
discomfort or loneliness throughbarking or whining, it's
important to handle this phasewith care.

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We don't want to inadvertentlyreinforce unwanted behavior Now.
The key to success lies inbalancing soothing and
reassurance, because we want ourpuppies to feel safe with us,
with consistency, patience andclear boundaries.
Today let's talk about how toachieve that.
First, let's understand the roleof crate training and why we
use it.
So it's important to understandthe role of crate training in a

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puppy's development.
A crate is not meant to bepunishment.
This is not somewhere we justput our puppy and say, okay,
you're on your own, but rather asafe, comfortable space where
they can feel secure.
It's a tool that helps withhouse training.
It gives our puppy boundaries.
We can put their chews in there, where they get to learn oh,
these are the things I love tochew on without creating
unwanted habits out in our homeby chewing table legs or sofas,

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for example.
So we prevent destructivebehavior when we're not able to
closely supervise our puppy Now.
Crate training can also helpour puppy develop good habits,
such as learning to sleep aloneand calming themselves down when
it's time for rest.
However, because puppies aresocial and they often feel
anxious when left alone, andbecause when they first come to

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us, they've never been aloneLikely, they've always been with
litter mates it is common thatthey'll start to cry or bark
when initially placed in a crateor an exercise pen.
And again, this behavior is dueto them simply never having
been alone before.
They've always been withlittermates, so they don't know
what it means to be alone andthey don't know if they can feel

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safe that way if somebody'scoming back.
Okay, there's some time thatneeds to be built up in that
trust factor.
So we can help them through it,though, and we do it in a very
compassionate way.
Now, why do puppies bark or crywhen they're in their crate or
exercise pen?
There are several reasons whythey might do this.
One would be discomfort.
We're always checking out thecomfort or need of our puppy

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first, so we want to make sureit's not too hot or too cold, or
do they need to go to thebathroom.
They might cry as a way ofexpressing some kind of
discomfort.
So we always check that outfirst.
Then the next one is, as Imentioned, learning to be alone.
Puppies, again, are naturallysocial creatures and when
they're isolated then they canfeel stress.
But because we live in a busyworld and there's no way our

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puppy can come everywhere withus, there are times our puppy
will have to learn to be alone,that it's important that we help
them through this process.
The next one would beoverstimulation.
So a puppy's excitement orenergy levels might lead them to
vocalize.
So if they have some energy andthey need to release that
energy there's not a lot ofspace to do it in a crate or an
exercise pen they might start tovocalize.

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Hey, I really just need to move.
The last one would be the needfor attention.
So puppies, again, might learnthat crying or barking gets them
what they want.
Like I will talk to them, Iwill look at them, I will go
over and open the gate for themand let them out.
We want to be careful not toinadvertently reward this
unwanted behavior because theycan quickly learn ah, this works

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, barking works, whining works,this is how I get out, okay.
So understanding the underlyingreason for the barking is
important in determining how wecan respond appropriately.
Now let's talk about thebalance between soothing and not
reinforcing unwanted behavior.
Now the challenge in cratetraining is to find that balance
between comforting my puppy andthen preventing them from

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learning that barking leads torewards or being let out of the
crate.
Here are several strategies thatcan help us.
Number one is establish aroutine.
Puppies love routine.
They love to know what's comingnext.
This helps them relax.
Establishing a consistent dailyschedule for feeding, potty
breaks, playtime, crate timehelps our puppy understand what

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to expect and when.
A regular schedule can reduceanxiety and it minimizes the
likelihood of unnecessarybarking or crying in the crate,
as our puppy will becomeaccustomed to when it's time to
settle down.
So if your puppy just knows toexpect nap time, they'll settle
down much more quickly.
Number two is being gradualabout it.
So if our puppy's not used tobeing in a crate maybe they've

(05:47):
never been in one before we wantto introduce it gradually, and
I always introduce my crates inaddition to an exercise pen, so
they have what we call a Zen Denarea.
It's a space that's theirs.
They have the crate that theycan go into to take naps or
relax or chew toys.
Then they have the little bitbigger area where their food and
their water bowls are.

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But this is their space.
It becomes their bedroom.
We can spend time in that placewith them and then sometimes we
are outside of the gate rightor the door so that there is a
little bit of separation there.
There's a boundary in placewhere they can't always get to
us, but we're close enough thatthey can smell us, they can lick
us if needed, they can soothethemselves because we're close

(06:30):
enough by them.
So we walk you through how todo this in our first week
together program.
It's part of the online puppyschool.
We teach you how to make thistransition over the first seven
days.
The first few days, we're withour puppy as much as possible.
So if they're in the crate,that crate is right next to me.
But by day seven I'm headed tothe grocery store and the
puppy's all alone.

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Number three would be ignoringthe crying when appropriate.
I have to be careful sayingignoring.
I don't want you guys to allsend me emails now or send me
messages, but I want to be clearthat sometimes our puppy is
going to be barking or cryingand it's really tempting to rush
in and to just rescue themright.
However, responding to thebarking, particularly in the

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early stages of crate training,can reinforce the behavior.
Our puppies will begin toassociate crying with getting
attention or being let out.
Instead, we want to try toignore the barking.
If we are sure our puppy'sneeds are met and they are
comfortable meaning they don'tneed to go to the bathroom,
they're not too hot or cold andthey've had enough exercise,

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they're okay.
During this period, it's reallyimportant to be consistent.
If you give in to the cryingonce, your puppy may learn that
persistence leads to a reward.
Instead, wait until your puppysettles down and becomes quiet
before letting them out of thecrate.
This will teach them that calmbehavior is what gets them
attention.
Number four is comfort, but wedon't want to reward, so this is

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where we have to balance right.
There will be times when ourpuppy's crying is due to genuine
distress and we might feel theneed to intervene, which is
important.
We should do so.
In these situations, we cancomfort our puppy without
reinforcing the barking, gentlyspeaking to them or offering a
calming voice can help soothethem.
Or even just sitting next tothem reading a book, decreasing
the distance that we are awayfrom them and not necessarily

(08:20):
giving them any attention.
We're just literally movingcloser to them and working on
emails or reading a book orwatching a show.
But we're closer to them tohelp them feel safe can really
help them calm down.
We want to avoid immediatelyletting them out of the crate as
soon as they're quiet.
Help them be quiet for two tothree minutes, even if you can,
and if you can't do that with ayoung puppy, at least several

(08:42):
seconds, right 10, 15, 20seconds.
We don't want to justimmediately walk over they,
quiet down for one second andopen the door.
We want it to be a little whileof a wait.
We want that calm behavior thatthey're able to give us to
lengthen out over time.
So if we respond too quickly,our puppy might start to
associate barking with receivingattention.
We don't want that.
Instead, again, try to wait forthem to calm down and then

(09:05):
lengthen out the time thatthey're calm before.
Number five would be providingpositive reinforcement for calm
behavior.
So when we notice our puppysettling down, we can reward
that calm behavior.
Positive reinforcement is apowerful tool in training and by
rewarding our puppy for beingcalm in the crate we reinforce

(09:26):
that behavior that we want tosee more of.
We can use food, praise, toysas rewards, but be sure to do so
when the puppy's calm, ratherthan in the middle of their
crying or barking For crate time.
I like to just already havechews and toys in the puppy's
crate ready to go.
Then I don't interrupt any sortof barking or whining with a
reward.
They already have their rewardsready to go and something to do

(09:50):
.
It's not like we're puttingthem in their crate and just
having them be bored.
We're offering things for themto be able to play with, chew on
that kind of thing, or they cansimply just take a nap.
That's fine too.
Number six is exercise andmental stimulation.
A tired puppy is a more calmpuppy.
Now be careful with this one,because sometimes our puppy
looks like they need morephysical exercise when in

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actuality they need a nap, theyneed more sleep.
But we do want to make surethat throughout the day they're
getting good mental and physicalexercise, that they are running
around and playing.
Maybe they've worked on somepuzzle toys or they've done a
training session.
That way, when we place them intheir crate or exercise pen,
they'll be ready to settle down,especially if they're tired and
need that nap.

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Now there might be some initialbarking or whining because they
are throwing a little tantrumabout not wanting to settle down
, but it's really important thatthey do get sleep, and so if we
put them in these smallerspaces they're more likely to
settle themselves down and takethe nap that they really need.
So a nice go sniff, walk, aplay session, a puzzle toy can
help burn off energy and preparepuppies to settle down in their

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crates and pens.
Keep in mind that puppies havehigh energy levels and without
sufficient outlets for thisenergy they may become restless
in the crate.
We definitely don't want toleave them in their crates or
pens too long, so every so oftenwe're getting them out of their
pens and crates to go out, runaround, play, do some training
sessions, get a drink of water,go to the bathroom, and then
they can go back into theirsmaller area.

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But we want to make sure thatthroughout the day they're
getting plenty of breaks as well.
Number seven would be to makethe space comfortable.
Make sure that our puppy'scrate is an inviting place to be
.
This means it can be the rightsize it's not too large or too
small and maybe it has a softbed in it or a blanket our puppy
loves.
You can put those in the pen aswell.
I like to attach the pen to thecrate so that my puppy has

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several spaces that they can laydown and rest if they would
like.
It's again their bedroom, so wemake it a comfortable place to
be In the beginning.
You can also put an item inthere that smells like you,
maybe a sweatshirt that you woreor a t-shirt that you recently
had on, so that that can comfortthe puppy as well, because they
feel like you're nearby.
Last, make sure we avoidpunishment.

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Crate training should be apositive experience for our
puppy.
We're not going to punish ourpuppy for crying or barking,
which can lead to fear andanxiety and a breakdown of trust
, which we don't want.
We don't use the crate as aform of punishment.
We can use it as a timeoutplace, but again, inside the
crate they have their favoritethings.
So it's more of a redirectiontool, not a here go to the

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corner and do nothing tool.
Okay, so it's more of aredirection tool, not a here, go
to the corner and do nothingtool.
Okay, so we can use it in apositive way, not in a punishing
way.
We want to focus on reinforcingthe good behaviors that we see
and gradually building ourpuppy's comfort with being in
the crate and pen area.
House training is an essentialpart of a puppy's upbringing.
If they're going to live in ahome with humans, they've got to
learn how to go to the bathroomin an appropriate area.

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So, a home with humans, they'vegot to learn how to go to the
bathroom in an appropriate area.
So using crates and pens whenour puppies are small or new to
our homes is super helpful andvery valuable.
So the process can come withinitial challenges, but the
results are well worth theeffort.
Managing barking and cryingdoes require that we are patient
, consistent and we have abalanced approach.
But ensuring that our puppy'sneeds are met, providing

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positive reinforcement whenthey're calm, avoiding rewarding
unwanted crying or whining, wecan help our puppy adjust to
their crate and pen area in away that is both humane and
effective.
Over time, our puppies willlearn to see their crates and
pens as a safe and peacefulspace.
It's their bedroom and theylove their bedroom.
They love spending time inthere.
It's where all the good thingshappen and the barking and

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whining will become a thing ofthe past.
Thanks for listening today.
You guys have an awesome restof your week, happy training.
Thanks for tuning in to thepuppy training podcast.
I hope today's tips help youfeel more confident and excited
about raising your dog.
Remember, with a littlepatience and consistency, you
can create a loving bond and awell-behaved pup who's a joy to
have in your dog.
Remember, with a littlepatience and consistency, you
can create a loving bond and awell-behaved pup who's a joy to
have in your family.
If you found this episodehelpful, be sure to subscribe,

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For more resources, visitBaxter and Bella online.
Until next time, happy training.
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