Marital Bliss

 Engaged in 4 weeks of knowing one another, married within 6 months?!
Join Matt & Melissa  as they reflect on the wildest decision they ever made!


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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Puzzle is Real podcast where we
will be discussing faith,family, and Relationships
hosted by Matt and MelissaPisani . This is The Puzzle is
Real podcast when you know, youknow.

Speaker 2 (00:16):
All right . Hey, welcome back.

Speaker 1 (00:18):
Hey guys, how you doing?

Speaker 2 (00:21):
This is a super juicy episode, everyone. You're
just gonna love it. It'stremendous. . It's
about our anniversary.

Speaker 1 (00:32):
Yes. Dun , dun , dun . For those of you that were
haters that didn't believe thatit was gonna work,

Speaker 2 (00:39):
Thought it was what ? They're getting married
already.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
I thought it was too quick.

Speaker 2 (00:42):
They don't even know each other.

Speaker 1 (00:44):
Oh yeah. The peanut gallery was loud and loud and
very clear.

Speaker 2 (00:49):
Um , but , uh, Matt , can I, can I, Hey man, I just
wanna talk to you about, I knowlike you've been praying about
this and like, hey, like areyou sure that this isn't, like
this isn't the one and thisisn't too soon? Or,

Speaker 1 (01:01):
Yeah. So just to give a quick synopsis of what
we're talking about. We met ona blind date, got engaged
within four weeks and then wewere married six months after
knowing each other. So yeah,super fast. Definitely crazy.
When we look back, we're like,what? How did we like just meet

(01:23):
and then plan a wedding and getmarried in six months? That is
insanity. Like now that I'm onthe other side of it, it's
literally insanity.

Speaker 2 (01:31):
Yeah, that's wild.
That would never do that again.
.

Speaker 1 (01:34):
But what God wants to join together, no man can
separate. So

Speaker 2 (01:39):
Preach.

Speaker 1 (01:40):
We are excited to share. Um, just some cool
experiences we've had over thelast eight years and just
encouragement to the newlyweds,the people who are maybe
married for under five yearsand just to let you know that
it gets better. Marriage islike a fine wine. It just gets
better even though we don'tdrink. But you know what I'm

(02:01):
the expression, I just wastrying to get that out. It just
gets better. Right ?

Speaker 2 (02:05):
Or like an old cheese that grows mold .

Speaker 1 (02:08):
No, that's disgusting. . So number
one, humor. Obviously we stilllaugh at each other. Matt was
just telling me before westarted recording that I just
break out in like spontaneousdance moves and I think I'm
looking really cool, but Iguess I don't look that cool,

(02:28):
but I'm just trying to besilly. I'm just trying to make
my kids laugh 90% of the time.
So you wanna be yourself.
That's the bigger message Yeah.
Is be yourself, you're married.
Um, have fun

Speaker 2 (02:42):
Dance, like no one's watching

Speaker 1 (02:43):
Dance. Like no one's watching. And encourage each
other. Laugh at each other.
Laugh with each other.

Speaker 2 (02:50):
Pick your nose while talking to each other.

Speaker 1 (02:53):
Um, yeah, it's , it's all good. That happens
sometimes

Speaker 2 (02:55):
Just you get comfortable . So. All
right . We'll do like a littleinterview style here cuz I know
that everyone's really eager toknow. So how long have you been
married?

Speaker 1 (03:03):
Am I talking to you or is this, are you pretending
to be someone else?

Speaker 2 (03:07):
I'm just asking you.

Speaker 1 (03:08):
Oh, . . I was like, are we
roleplaying right now? Likewhat's going on? We have been
married eight, almost eightyears,

Speaker 2 (03:14):
Almost eight years.

Speaker 1 (03:16):
A few days shy.

Speaker 2 (03:17):
We're about to celebrate eight years of
covenant.

Speaker 1 (03:19):
Eight years baby.
Ooh . Eight years is the , uh,year of bronze, I believe.
Okay. How

Speaker 2 (03:26):
Do you,

Speaker 1 (03:27):
Sorry.

Speaker 2 (03:29):
How do you think your life has changed for the
better since like year one togetting to the eight year mark?
Cuz that's a lot's happened inbetween. We were talking about
that recently. Oh man. Butlike, without like going too
far down a rabbit hole, likewhat do you think? Like what
are some things where it'slike, wow, like, like year one
it's like, yeah, we're married,everything's new, fun. We

(03:52):
finally get to like, you know,do life together and, and
that's cool. But now we'regoing onto eight years and
obviously there's been a build.
So like what do you like? Giveus a little bit of like one to
eight.

Speaker 1 (04:07):
Okay. So year one is kind of like being in a go-kart
on in Unpaved Road where it'slike, you're like whoa, this is
a lot of fun. This is crazy.
This is wild. Like it'sexciting. Everything's new,
every bump and like everythingis I guess , um, accentuated in
a lot of ways. Mm-hmm .

(04:28):
. Cause it's allnew and you're still trying to
figure each other out. I mean,there's some of you that have,
that are out there that havedated for a long period before
you got married. Yeah . Somaybe you knew a lot more about
your spouse prior to gettingmarried where I feel like Matt
and I, we didn't know as muchabout each other and I'm just
thankful that we didn't rushinto having kids Right. Right
away because we wouldn't havehad those couple years where it

(04:50):
was just us. Yeah . Um , butnow leading up to eight years,
I feel like now we're likesettled in, we're in now like a
Jeep, maybe like a Wagonerdriving on a very smooth paved
road where it's like, okay, wekind of know where we're going.
We know the direction we'reheading and there's nothing
that's gonna catch us off guardcuz we're more unified now than

(05:12):
ever. Yeah. And I think weunderstand each other more. I
think we can read each other'sbody language. We kind of know
the subtext without having tosay certain things. And I think
as you mature and you grow inyour marriage , um, I , it gets
easier. And that's, I mean,Matt and I are an anomaly in
some ways cuz I feel like weare very in tune with each

(05:32):
other. Where I know there's alot of marriages where you're
not, maybe your spouse doesn'tspeak up as much or share their
heart as much or moreintroverted. So I am very
thankful that God has joined ustogether and literally have
knit our stories together wherewe each other finish each
other's sentences all the time.

Speaker 2 (05:50):
It's kinda ridiculous. I think alluding to
is like communication gotbetter from year one to eight
you think?

Speaker 1 (05:56):
I don't know if it's just communication. I think
it's more like we understandthe full picture now. It's not,
well what did you mean by thattone? Or like, we kind of, we
just know each other better.
You know what I'm trying tosay? So I feel like when things
are coming at us, we know howto deal with it and how Yeah.
And communi , yeah. I guesseverything's gotten better. So

(06:19):
now you, what would you say?

Speaker 2 (06:21):
What's the question?
The

Speaker 1 (06:23):
Question is how would you compare our first
year of marriage to now oureighth year of marriage?

Speaker 2 (06:28):
I think yeah. Year one is definitely not just the
honeymoon, but it's likeawesome . We have all this free
time to just have fun togetherand explore and, and like , um,
we didn't have kids.

Speaker 1 (06:41):
Right.

Speaker 2 (06:41):
And I think that's really important, like to have
that time and not everyone getsthat time, but even mm-hmm.
, even if uh ,you don't get that time for
whatever reason, God still usesit and gives you, you know, I
think a blessed start , uh,progression. I think it's only
gotten better cuz you growdeeper within your walk with

(07:02):
God and then mm-hmm .
you grow deepertogether and your one flesh and
you just find that rhythm andyeah . I mean, very unique
stuff right. That God can dowithin a one to eight year time
period.

Speaker 1 (07:16):
So what's the eight ? Like? Where are you at now?

Speaker 2 (07:19):
I think we're somewhere around a , um, a
house that's sitting on atranquil island with water that
crashes and , um, Kanye Westplaying like from the Jesus'
King album. Nice. Like coolbeats, you know, just like, and

(07:40):
, and we're just vibing. Likewe're , we're in our rhythm and
we are , uh, we're doing whatGod's calling us to do as
parents and as husband andwife. And um, yeah. And I think
also like the cues, likeMelissa said, like everyone I
think perceives that well Mattmust always , always be like
talkative and like energeticand like, you know, like I

(08:01):
think we can, you know , um,expect certain things like oh
wow. Like this is probably howlike they operate. There are
days where Melissa knows thatI'm shot, I'm mushy as far as
like I don't feel like talkinga lot or like , I'm like, she's
like, you all right ? I'm like,I'm just so tired. And like
sometimes I think we even havelike honored each other in like

(08:21):
the down moments, which whenYeah . Year one you don't
realize that there's that cuzyou're just, like Melissa said,
you're on the, what was it? Thego-kart

Speaker 1 (08:30):
. Yeah . I don't know why that just came.
Yeah . Where you're like, so ,so now, now this is fun, this
is

Speaker 2 (08:34):
Exciting now that in the wagoner you can kind of
recline in that passenger seatand like take a nap. Yeah . And
the other person's like, coolwith that because like, you
have like forever together.
Right. So I think that yeah,there's just been this maturity
in the relationship and that'sfor everyone. Like you can keep
maturing and it , and it comesback to also intimacy with the
father, you know, and we sitwith the father and, and we

(08:56):
rest in him. Now we're able topour into our family, into our
spouse in a much deeper way sothat um, when we are an empty,
the flesh is , um, you know,not gonna come in. And sabotage
doesn't mean that we haven'thad, you know, arsenal attacks
of , uh, issues at times wherewe're like, oh man, like we
just blew it and, you know, hadto forgive and continue to give

(09:22):
and move forward. And I thinkthat's really important too. So
yeah, a lot of learning hashappened and we continue to
learn and we have not arrivedand we're always looking to
learn from the oldergeneration, you know, to see
how can we keep, you know,being better husbands and wives
for not just each other, butnow for our kids watching us do
it. Like yeah. That they wouldsee that we're the real deal

(09:44):
inside the house, just likewhen we're out and about.

Speaker 1 (09:46):
Yeah. And I think also just real life has
happened in these eight years.
I was just telling Matt theother day, we were just
reflecting on what's happenedover the last eight years and
so much. I mean, not only havewe moved to another state now
and we've had our third child,but there's also been, you
know, sickness and death anddifferent real life things that

(10:07):
we've had to clinging to eachother. And number one, cling to
the Lord. And I think that hasjust grown us in a lot of ways
where, when my dad got sick, ifyou guys haven't listened to
that episode of , um, walkingin the Miracle, that's a really
good one, just of my dad'sstory. And um, you know, we
flew out to Las Vegas, he wasdiagnosed with stage four brain

(10:28):
cancer and basically we had totake care of him. You'll have
to go back and listen to thestory, but I saw Matt in a
light where he sacrificially ,um, just selflessly took care
of my dad as, as if he was hisown dad. And I think that just
grew a deeper , um, just lovefor him. Just seeing him take

(10:51):
care of someone that's not hisblood. And you know, you just
see different things in the ,in your spouse when you are hit
with , um, tragedy and turmoiland you see true colors come
out and sometimes they'reamazing and other times
obviously they're not. But inour case, I've just seen Matt
as just this true servant wholoves the Lord, loves people

(11:16):
and just serves people in abeautiful way.

Speaker 2 (11:21):
Well, I still make a lot of mistakes, but hey,

Speaker 1 (11:24):
Well yes, but we all do . I'm thankful to all , to

Speaker 2 (11:27):
Uh , to keep having his grace. But yeah, we, we
want to encourage people thatare newly married, don't give
up, don't stop trying to , um,understand each other's , um,
point of views, perspectives,opinions, and even each other's
experience. I've learned a tonfrom Melissa on a lot of
things. She's probably learneda little bit from me and like

(11:49):
hopefully , um,

Speaker 1 (11:51):
Yeah, of

Speaker 2 (11:52):
Course. and that was a joke, and
we're just having funsharpening one another. I think
that's the other part of it islike keep challenging each
other. I think we keep tryingto level up for things that we
feel God wants us to do. Andit's not about like keeping up
with the Joneses as much asit's keeping up with the pace
that God wants you to have. Andsometimes that pace is really

(12:14):
slow. I mean, it's not alwaysthe go-kart. It's not always
the wagoneers. No. Sometimesit's the golf cart. So yeah .
Um, that's important to just ,um, have, have that
understanding that it's okay to, um, to slow down once in a
while, while in that rhythmthat you find in your marriage
and smell the roses and enjoyeverything that God has blessed

(12:35):
you with. We were watching somevideos recently of us in Guyana
when we celebrated our one yearanniversary mm-hmm .
on a missiontrip. Yep . And I , and I don't
even know if it , we reallycould call a mission trip. It
was really a fall out crusademm-hmm . tour
that we did. Um, cause everyday's a mission in our life.
Yeah . But then we looked atother moments that we've had

(12:56):
that are just really powerful,like being on the jumbotron in
Times Square with our daughterMercy and our dear friends
celebrating clean slate. Mm-hmm. with , uh, the
Nasdaq, I mean, God just givingus a lot of favor to do some
fun stuff. Mm-hmm.

Speaker 1 (13:09):
and one cool, or one, one piece of
advice I think my grandma gaveto me a while back before I got
married, this was years ago ofmy twenties. I I asked her with
her and my poppy , I was like,if you could give me one piece
of advice about marriage, whatwould you say? And she would
say , um, if it's not gonnamatter in the morning, don't

(13:31):
argue about it. So if he leaveshis socks on the floor and it
bothers you and you can't standit, don't bring it up because
it's not gonna matter in themorning. And so that was just
something that stuck with me.
So it's like we can't sweat thesmall stuff and you have to
look at the big picture and wehave to see each other as
Christ sees us. And um, we haveto love each other in that way

(13:53):
as well. So I think it'sexciting. Marriage is
beautiful. It's notrestricting. It's amazing.
It's, you know, the wholereason we started this podcast
because we have found thatmissing puzzle piece because
God wants to join the husbandand wife together as the
church. Um, so yeah, we hopethat just encourages you guys.
And you know, and marriage isfun. I can't wait to see what's

(14:18):
gonna be after like the nexteight years what God's gonna
do. Cause he's done a lot.

Speaker 2 (14:26):
If you're single and this doesn't pertain to you
yet, well guess what? Your oneto eight year assessment is
coming soon. Praying it in.

Speaker 1 (14:36):
Oh yeah. Have a good one guys. We'll see you soon
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