December 15, 2024 • 41 mins
In this inspiring episode, I speak with Amira Alvarez, founder of The Unstoppable Woman, about what it means to be unstoppable, and how introverts and quiet achievers can step into their power. Amira shares her personal journey, how she overcame invisible barriers, and the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies in life and business. She provides practical insights into powering through self-limiting beliefs, learning to receive, and using faith and intellect to take bold steps toward creating an exquisite life.
Key Topics Discussed:
- Amira’s Personal Story:
- Transition from a comfortable, structured life to entrepreneurship and coaching.
- Realizing the need to change deep-seated beliefs about success, money, and identity.
- The Concept of Invisible Barriers:
- How unconscious beliefs block progress.
- Recognizing and moving through emotional and mental blocks, even when it feels uncomfortable.
- Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies:
- Using masculine energy for structure, discipline, and focus.
- Embracing feminine energy for creativity, intuition, and receptivity.
- Achieving harmony to live a more integrated and fulfilling life.
- Overcoming the Fear of Mistakes:
- Shifting from a mindset of perfectionism to embracing learning from mistakes.
- Letting go of childhood beliefs that equate mistakes with unworthiness.
- Living an Exquisite Life:
- Understanding that an exquisite life is unique to each individual.
- Tuning into your true nature and allowing life to unfold authentically.
- Trusting intuition and taking inspired action.
Guest Bio:
Amira Alvarez, Founder and CEO of The Unstoppable Woman® and host of The Unstoppable Woman® podcast, is a celebrated entrepreneur, who inspires already
accomplished women to achieve further financial wealth and success while leading fulfilling lives.
Unwilling to compromise her drive for success, she crafted a methodology for an exquisite life, allowing individuals to embrace their inner drive while finding deep fulfillment. Her path guides high-achieving women toward a life rich inside and out, where they realize their dreams without diminishing their hard-earned successes.
Resources Mentioned:
- Visit Amira Alvarez’s website: TheUnstoppableWoman.com to explore her private podcast and book a consult with her.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hi, I'm Serena Loh.
If you're used to hearing thatintroverts are shy, anxious,
antisocial and lack goodcommunication and leadership
skills, then this podcast is foryou.
You're about to fall in lovewith the calm, introspective and
profound person that you are.
Discover what's fun, unique andpowerful about being an
(00:22):
introvert, and how to make theelegant transition from quiet
achiever to quiet warrior inyour life and work anytime you
want, in more ways than youimagined possible.
Welcome.
Welcome to another episode ofthe Quiet Warrior podcast.
Today, we're talking about whatit means to be unstoppable.
(00:44):
Now, I know that, as anintrovert, as a quiet achiever,
maybe that word is not quite onyour list of preferred words, or
maybe it's not.
Let's find out.
Today I'm talking with AmiraAlvarez.
She's the host of theUnstoppable Woman podcast and
we're here to explore what thatmeans for you.
(01:04):
Welcome, amira, to the QuietWarrior podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Thank you so much for having me, Serena.
It's an honor to be here.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Amira, I'm really curious.
Could you tell us a little bitabout your story, your
background, what has led to thisjourney that has you
emphasizing and communicatingand focusing so much on what it
means to be unstoppable?
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Absolutely so.
I had an upbringing that was anice middle class upper middle
class upbringing, very academic,went to a really good
university, checked all theboxes, was doing life the way I
had been brought up to do life,and I started my own business.
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It was in the health andwellness field and then I moved
across the country and decidedto try my hand at this thing
called coaching that I had beenkind of testing the waters on in
this other business and and andso I hung my shingle out and I
started studying about business,cause I I, I had confidence in
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myself at being good at like,research, study, academics, that
kind of thing, and I realizedthat there was a lot I didn't
know about running a businessand I started to build my
repertoire of what that took torun a business, because I didn't
want to be poor running thisbusiness, I wanted to make good
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money.
And in that journey of reallylearning what it took to run my
own business, I went to aseminar and I sat there I was in
the front row, of course, withmy pen and pad and taking notes
and listening very intently.
And this person who was runningthe seminar later became a
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mentor of mine said it's easierto make a lot of money than a
little money.
And why don't you make yourannual income, your monthly
income?
How is that possible?
And I realized that I had a lotof beliefs, my identity, how I
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saw myself.
So beliefs about myself,beliefs about the way the world
worked, beliefs about money, allsorts of things that was
keeping me playing out a verystandard, middle-class, great
lifestyle, but not the nextlevel that I wanted.
And so I realized that I had tolearn how to change my beliefs.
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And I went into deep studybecause that's again what I do
and and I I, you know hired amentor and studied successful
people.
And I realized that in order tochange your beliefs and these
are beliefs about how the waythe world works, how you work,
what's possible for you you haveto move through invisible
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barriers that feel like terrorbarriers.
They feel like emotional panicand every cell in your body is
saying no, this is the wrongthing to do.
You're going to be hurt in someway if you move through this
block that you're facing, but ifyou don't move through it,
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you're going to be stuck,reinforcing these old beliefs,
and I didn't want to be stuck.
So I had to become unstoppable,right.
I had to move through thesemoments where everything in my
body was saying this is notcorrect, this is wrong, you're
going to be hurt.
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You're going to hurt someoneelse, you're going to be shamed.
Whatever it was, there was someemotional block that was coming
up saying, no, you can't dothis, when, in fact, what I
needed to do was to move throughit, because I could see that
other people were doing thingsthat I wanted to do, that this
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wasn't an accurate perception,and yet it was keeping me
limited and blocked.
So that's where the origin ofbeing unstoppable comes from,
and it's not just me being theunstoppable woman.
This is what I've taught manypeople to do is how to recognize
beliefs that are stopping themand move through them.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
I love the phrase you used invisible barriers,
because they're not visible tous, they're not visible to other
people, but they are there.
They are very, very strong,very present, and they drive our
behaviors.
So you're talking about almostbringing those barriers into
your visibility.
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It's like you suddenly put yourattention on them.
You've noticed them, now youknow, now you've connected the
dots backwards and you figuredout why you were stuck in
certain areas, and so theinvisible has become visible for
you.
You can now put your attentionand your energy to, as you say,
work through them, move throughthem, and that's beautiful,
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because there's somethingmagical about that process,
isn't it?
And that's beautiful becausethere's something magical about
that process, isn't it?
It's not just a left brain.
I'm going to power through thisthing.
I'm going to eliminate it,overcome it, get over it, get it
out of my way.
There's something else.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
There's a different kind of energy.
I'm picking up 100% Now.
I will tell you that in thebeginning, for me, I had to
power through it, right, likeonce I let me clarify that once
I identified a belief that washolding me back.
And this is where people likeyou, mentors, come into play,
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right, they?
We can see.
We're not in the forest for thetree, we're not in the forest,
we're outside of the forest.
We can see.
We're not in the forest for thetree, we're not in the forest,
we're outside of the forest.
We can see everything.
You're in the forest, theindividuals in the forest, and
we're blinded.
We can only, you know, see alimited distance.
So in the beginning I had totrust an outside perspective
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that would help me see what Icouldn't see for myself, those
invisible barriers.
And then I had to use faith,this belief in a positive
outcome, versus a belief in anegative outcome.
We can have negative faith aswell, that's just belief that
everything's going to go to hellin a handbasket.
Right, I had to have faith in apositive outcome and take
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action quickly before I talkedmyself out of it.
So in the beginning I did.
There was a little bit ofpowering through, there was an
intellectual understanding.
Once I got it intellectually,then I actually had to do the
thing that was so scary, Iactually had to do the thing
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that was so scary and that, um,that I had to use my will, my,
my will, to do that.
Now you can do use your will ina loud, boisterous, you know
kind of crazy, radical way, oryou could use your will in a
very steady, steady way, but itwas still.
I had to.
I had to power through thethose blocks.
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That was not an easy thing andand for anyone who's looking to
do something challenging, I, I,I call you forward and I ask you
to start paying attention to,when you're about to make a
decision or you're about to act,what comes up for you, and
you'll get a lot of mind chatterabout it, but you'll also get a
(08:52):
very strong emotional responsein your body, reaction, really
in your body, and that's themoment that you actually need to
do it differently.
That's the moment where youactually have to make a
different choice.
If you fully understand, ifyou've recognized and thought it
through, okay, this is theright choice, this is the right
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path, this does make logicalsense, but all this noise is
coming up trying to talk me outof it and telling me no, it's
like this.
No, it's like this.
You have to override that withyour will.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
It sounds to me like there are two forces that we
need to employ in a balanced way.
And so there is that sense ofthat energy of getting things
done regardless of how you feelabout it, but there's also the
noticing how your body feels andnoticing what you call, you
know, the emotional response.
So when you feel that anxiety,that resistance that you know
(09:54):
internal, that mind chattergoing on, besides employing your
will, how do you also talk yourbody or calm your body or get
your body to, to be on boardwith your mind?
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Such a great question , very perceptive.
So I think this brings us tothese two energies, that that
the masculine energy and thefeminine energy.
We're human, so all humans haveboth energies that are at play
really all the time.
We're never a hundred percentin one or the other and we need
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the two to create anything.
To create, you know, take anidea into form, requires the
masculine and the feminine tocome together.
This is creative life force,just like making a baby right
Needs the masculine and thefeminine.
So the masculine is very muchabout that decision, the will,
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the discipline to move forward,the focus.
It can be very linear and thisis my next step.
Okay, I'm going to take it,let's go, let's go, let's go
Right.
And and it's both are actionoriented, but they're very
different kinds of action.
And the, the feminine, isreally about being receptive and
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being open and allowing, andit's it's our emotions and they
flow right.
It's about currency and flowand and emotions live in our
body and if we're too in ourheads, in that sort of masculine
analytical thinking type of inour heads, there's a lot of
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different ways to be in our head, but that type of being in your
head, that type of being inyour head, you're most likely
cutting off your connection tothe feedback your body is giving
you.
And your body is where youremotions live, where your, and
it's also where your connectionto spirit, the divine, your
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intuition, is.
We'll get a download, we'll geta hit.
We know that in our bodies,okay, we don't know that it
comes from our body into athought and we're like, oh yeah,
that's it.
So you know, one thing that Iwould share with people is that
you have to slow down enough tobe able to plug into what's
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going on for you.
Now, when I was in full speedahead, build my business, you
know, go, go, go I I stillallowed myself time in the
mornings, every morning toreally tap into what was going
on for me.
And that morning time, thatquiet time, was essential
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because it gave me so muchfeedback about what was
happening and gave me so manyinsights.
And so I think there's a wayfor people to create, to live in
both worlds.
You know, business running,running a business, being in
corporate, um, it requires youto be in your masculine a lot,
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requires you to to be in thatsort of analytical mind quite a
bit.
So you, you have to carve outtime throughout the day where
you can tap into your feminineor come back to it.
Sometimes it's just as assimple as a few quiet breaths,
closing your eyes and and goinginside, and that takes less than
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less than a minute.
Right, we all have time forthat, but you, you do need this.
To circle back to that movingthrough the invisible barriers
concept.
You need to understandintellectually what's going on.
That's the masculine.
You do need to have the sort offocus and drive and discipline
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to move through it.
That's the masculine.
But you also have to be tappedinto your emotions and know
what's true for you anddifferentiate that between old
beliefs sending up fear signalsto keep you from changing.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
So what you're saying is we need to know how to
balance our masculine andfeminine side, and I see a lot
of overlap for introverts whoare also high achievers.
There are some introverts whoare very much in their heads, so
they spend a lot of timeoverthinking it and not
executing on it.
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So they have all these creativeideas, a lot of profound
thoughts, a lot of insights,because they spend so much time
reflecting and that's wheretheir strength lies, but then,
when it comes to actuallyputting it out in the world,
something holds them back.
So there is very much thatsense of needing to get back in
touch with feelings, with whattheir body is telling them, with
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what emotions are coming upthose invisible barriers and not
just coming at it from acognitive, logical level only,
but also owning their feminine,creative side.
And then, at the same time, Ialso see introverts who do the
opposite and that they're verymuch in their feminine.
Also see introverts who do theopposite and that they're very
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much in their feminine and theylove creating and all the ideas
and go with the flow and theintuition and all that, but then
they're not tapping into theirmasculine energy to get things
done.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
Yeah, you really need .
I mean, this is what creationrequires.
It requires both.
It's not an either, or you needthe masculine, you need the
feminine, and I think youbeautifully articulated the two
challenges there.
When you're on an extreme andfiguring out for yourself, okay,
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do I fit into the overanalytical side, like I'm, I'm
thinking too much about, um, youknow the execution, but not
actually executing.
Or am I in this kind ofcreative the next idea, the next
idea, the next idea, but I'mnot putting it into action?
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From that perspective, I thinkit's really important to see
which, which lane you're.
You.
You might be stuck in right, oryou lean towards and come up
with little cheats for yourself,almost Little memes that you
can repeat to yourself.
(16:40):
So, although I was veryacademic and analytical and, uh,
had a very strong sense of that, I was also very much in my
feminine and I could overthinkthings from that perspective,
you know, create a new idea ortalk myself out of things.
(17:01):
And I came up with this, thismeme that I taught my clients,
which is quick decisions, makequick decisions.
Make quick decisions becauseyou'll get feedback.
Not every decision you makewill be a great decision,
meaning it won't necessarily.
Let me qualify what that means.
It won't necessarily give youwhat you had intended when you
made that decision, but alldecisions are great because they
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move you along and you getfeedback and then you can course
, correct, you can adjust and um, you know that was, that was
something that really helped mefor years get over myself, like
just get over the inertia, andso if you find yourself in that
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place, that's a that's a goodlittle meme, right, and and
probably people will come backand say, but I can't make a
quick decision because there'stoo much at risk and all of
these things.
And that's where those beliefscome up, right, and yeah, that's
where you have to do thedigging on on the beliefs that
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are keeping you from actuallyacting, which is a big deal.
Now, serena, I'm in a differentphase of my business.
Right, I've built a successfulbusiness and it's done really
well and I'm proud of it and allof that.
And I am more grounded in my,the confidence that I I have in
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my ability to move throughblocks and I I no longer need to
to rush myself, if you will,through things, um, because I
trust myself, uh, to still actwhen I'm clear and it's time.
So I think there are differentseasons in your life and your
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business.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
I love that you mentioned that there are
different seasons, because thepeople who are listening to this
episode some of you mayidentify as very early on in the
journey.
This is all new to you, you'rejust starting out.
Everything's confusing, there'sjust too much information and
some of you who are listeningyou may feel, oh, I've been
doing this for about 10 yearsnow.
You know, I've got someexperience, I have figured some
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things out.
And then some of you, you knowit's another different chapter
of your life.
You're exploring new options,you are figuring some things out
, but you also have abundantlife experience under your belt
and so all of these things aregoing to be such gifts for your
journey and it doesn't matterwhere exactly on the journey you
are.
It's about giving yourself timeto ground yourself, like what
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Amira is saying, because thatcan't be rushed.
That is just part of theprocess.
It takes its own time and it'sdifferent for every person and
if you rush it too much or tryto achieve the same way you do
in corporate life with your KPIsand your milestones and all the
smart goals and everything,there's some joy that gets lost.
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I think, in the journey offinding out and surrendering and
trusting and having that faiththat there's going to be a
positive outcome out of all this.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
Yeah, you know, be in business going out on your own,
you are faced with being moreresponsible, you recognize.
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I want to clarify this.
I think we're all personallyresponsible for our outcomes, no
matter whether we are workingfor someone else or running our
own business our own business.
However, when we're working forsomeone else, we can very
easily not connect the dots onthat, and when you're running
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your own business, there's noway not to connect the dots, and
I think that can be reallydaunting for people because they
don't want to make a mistake.
They don't want to beresponsible for making a mistake
, and I would just emphasizethat it's not about I had to
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really learn this, serena.
I learned this on the field ofplay.
I run a multimillion dollarbusiness.
Right, I've gone through theschool of hard knocks around
this that you have to make adecision and experience you do
have to ground.
Right, you have to make cleardecisions and good decisions for
yourself.
But you have to make a decisionat some point and some of them
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are going to work out and someof them are not going to work
out the way you had conceived ofthem.
But if you put it in a rightwrong modality, if you say that
was a wrong decision, right, andI'm wrong for that, or that was
a right decision and I'm goodfor that, right, I'm a good
person, I'm correct for that.
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You're putting value judgmenton something that's just
experience.
There is no right or wrong,good or bad, it just is, and
this is one, this is the greatlaw of the universe.
Everything just is, it's just.
It's just energy, right, andthat might be a little woo, but
go with me here that that, thatit's our perspective on it that
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makes it right or wrong.
So why, why do that to yourself, when it's just experience and
we're just here to grow andwe're just here to, to, to, to
expand.
Now, I understand we don't wantto be in the you know poor house
or anything like that, and youknow there are, there are
consequences to our, our actions.
But I think that was one of themost important lessons on my
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life journey, my businessjourney, was to recognize that
right and wrong is a conception,a perspective in our thinking,
and that if we can freeourselves from that, we can just
have experiences.
Now do I ever get frustrated bylife and have you know, have a
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you know a justice thing goingon?
That's not right.
Of course I'm human, right.
But I move through it reallyquickly now and realize, ah, you
know what, if this was the bestthing that ever happened to me?
Right?
And when I use that kind ofthinking then I'm like, ah, okay
, because inevitably and I thinkeveryone can look back in their
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lives and see this if they'retruly honest inevitably the
challenges that we experienceare the things that got us to
the greatness that we've alsoexperienced the opportunities.
So don't get stuck in theright-wrong dilemma there.
Speaker 1 (23:59):
I'm so glad you brought that up because I
noticed that with introverts,with high achievers, quiet
achievers, there is also thatsense of it's not safe for me to
make mistakes, it's not safefor me to be wrong or to be seen
to be failing, to fail publicly.
There is that whole sense ofshame, there's humiliation,
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embarrassment, and some of itcan go really deep, back to
childhood experiences and thingswe've been through.
And this is one of thoseinvisible barriers you mentioned
.
Isn't it this concept that Ihave to get it right?
I can't afford to get it wrong.
I need everything to be perfectfrom the start.
And so we then go in very intoour heads and we try to make
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sure no mistakes, have I checkedeverything?
You know, detail, detail,detail.
And then, like you say, we getlost in the forest, we can't see
the big picture anymore.
We forgot why we got started onthis journey 100%, and you know
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that was me.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
I had that right, like I grew up like well-loved
but also with exacting standards, right, high standards, and you
know stories of my fathersaying standards and you know
stories of my father saying youknow that's de-work, amira, you
know when I made one littleerror right, and you know now I
can laugh about it, but it wascrushing at the time and it
built a belief that it was notsafe.
It was not safe to make amistake.
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So I'd rather be inertia, right, inactive, than risk making a
mistake because what was therewas too much at stake.
I was going to lose love,safety and belonging.
And as a little child which iswhen your beliefs get, get
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embedded you're not able tosurvive and we know this
instinctually as humans.
We're not able to survivewithout the adults in our life
taking care of us, and so wecan't make them wrong.
The way I teach this is that'smother God and father God.
We can't make them wrongbecause they're where our
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survival comes from.
So when we experience somethingin life that causes us pain,
like being a little kid and yourparent getting mad at you for
making a mistake, we can't makethem wrong.
For that we have to, we, weturn it against ourselves.
We're wrong, okay, and and andit's not okay to make mistakes,
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because that love is going to beshut off and then we're not
going to have a sense of safetyand belonging and best survival.
And so we create a.
We create a whole structure,belief structure around who we
are and what it takes to be safeand survive in this world.
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And yet anybody who has doneanything big, like really great,
in their lives made a ton ofmistakes.
They had to, because we're notborn knowing how to do
everything.
So the belief that you can't besuccessful or you can't be safe
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or succeed unless you'reperfect, it just doesn't play
out Like go find someone, youwon't, okay, you just won't.
Okay, you won't, you just won't.
Speaker 1 (27:37):
So you have to be willing to face that invisible
barrier of fear that comes uponce you intellectually
understand this and do your lifedifferently intellectual level
and introverts will love to hearthat because they're very much
about that, about the accuracy,about knowledge, about finding
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out as much as possible, doingyour research, making an
informed decision.
But then you also recognizethat you have some invisible
barriers and you work throughthem and you also employ your
feminine energy, which is thecreative perspective, a
different way of doing life thatis mindful of other gifts, your
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gift of intuition, creativityflow, the ability to receive,
which I think is a huge one forintroverts who just try to do
and to achieve more.
But when it comes to asking forhelp or receiving good from
other people, it's like oh, Ican't.
You know, I have to be thegiver, I have to be the doer, I
have to be the one that gives toothers, but to receive makes me
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look weak.
Can you speak to that?
Speaker 2 (28:51):
Yeah, there's a number of things there so
beautifully spoken, beautifullyarticulated.
That feminine, you get thatintuition and I just want to
close the loop.
That feminine, you get thatintuition and I just want to
close the loop on that.
When you get that intuition,you have to trust it and that's
where there's a leap of faith.
You have to act on that andtrust that, and the only way you
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will start unequivocallytrusting it is to start and have
the experience, have the reallife feedback.
Okay so, but then to thequestion of can you articulate
that last question again.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
It was, it was really important, but I lost the train
that last question again, itwas really important but I lost
the train that it's okay to bethe giver and the doer, but to
be the taker and the receiver ishard for some of us, because it
feels like asking is a sign ofweakness.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
Yeah, absolutely so.
That would be a great place forsomeone to dig into the
unconscious, the subconsciousbeliefs around that and where
that got created for them.
And inevitably there was apoint where someone gave
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something to you, right, butthere was a bad experience
around that.
When you receive something,maybe someone manipulated you.
That's an experience that a lotof people have.
Oh, someone gives me somethingand then they expect me to be
different or jump through a hoopor do something, and that was
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too much for me to compromisemyself and yet I had to do that
and I don't want to do thatanymore.
That would be an example.
But inevitably we have to figureout what that early memory is
for the individual to reallyhave it land for them and not
just have it be thisintellectual concept, but have
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it be correct in their body,something that they recognize,
okay, and then we can movethrough it, okay, so, so, uh,
there's a lot of differentscenarios where it might not be
safe to receive but, but we haveto learn that it's that, that
(31:20):
that is a belief, belief that'san invisible barrier, belief,
okay, and that that's notserving us, and that it's not
always correct.
It might've been correct at thetime, but now that belief is no
longer serving me and I have toreframe it.
I have to recreate my ownbelief structure around that.
Speaker 1 (31:42):
Thank you for clarifying that Now on your
website, Amira, you mentionedthat you work with ambitious
women to create an exquisitelife.
I'm just fascinated by thatword.
What does an exquisite lifemean to you?
Speaker 2 (31:58):
Well, first of all, I think an exquisite life means
different things to differentpeople.
Okay, so my version of anexquisite life probably has
different elements in it thanyour version of an exquisite
life, but I think there are somecommonalities.
I think that we all want tofeel lit up in a light, alive,
(32:30):
we all want to feel like lifeforce is moving through us, that
we are excited to be alive.
And excitement looks differentfor different people, right?
It looks different for me ondifferent days what that looks
like.
Sometimes it's a very quiet witha cup of tea, kind of great
life, and sometimes it's aspeaking on a stage kind of
excitement.
Right, there's a breath there.
(32:50):
But I believe that an exquisitelife is really you being in
touch with your true nature andliving that out and having life
force move through you andallowing you to really do your
(33:11):
work in this world, be the trueexpression of who you are, and I
don't think that we need tocompromise that in our journey
to build businesses or to createany kind of achieve any kind of
goal or create any kind ofsuccess that we put our minds to
(33:33):
.
I think, rather, it's aboutreally having an integrated
whole life and being willing totrust that it's possible for you
.
Speaker 1 (33:50):
What I'm getting from this whole conversation we've
had is the importance ofstarting at the level of
knowledge and intellect, soemploying our minds fully and
the cognitive gifts that we'vebeen given, and then also
trusting.
So that means trustingourselves, trusting life,
trusting the process, trustingother people, trusting that
(34:14):
things are unfolding as theyshould, in a positive way.
And that requires a leap offaith.
So it's almost like you can'treason your way into it, it's
like you know, but then you haveto believe before you see it.
And in doing so, that's whereyou gain the proof that, yes,
(34:37):
this really works.
This magic is available to me, Ican access it, I can become
this other version of me, I cando more, I can be more, I can
show up more fully and be moremyself in this world and walk
more comfortably in my own skin.
And so there is that magicaljump, that leap of faith.
(34:59):
You mentioned going from themasculine into the feminine,
embracing both sides and beingour whole selves in that sense,
and then creating for ourselveswhat an exquisite life looks
like, and that could change fromseason to season and that could
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look different in differentparts of the journey.
And it's okay.
Nobody's here to judge anyoneelse's version of an exquisite
life.
It's just something we'regiving ourselves and creating
for ourselves as our fullestexpression.
Speaker 2 (35:34):
Beautifully, beautifully summarized.
I love that.
I think that the one thing thatI would add to the process sort
of how this plays out is that Iused my intellect a lot in the
beginning and it was aniterative process.
Right, I would learn the lawsof success, universal law.
(36:00):
I would learn how businesspeople did things.
I would learn so.
So there was a wide breadth oflearning that I had to do.
That was all intellectual.
And then I would be faced with ablock and I would have to go
back to the intellectuallearning.
Okay, like, what did I learnthat would be applicable to this
, and that's what helped me makethe leap of faith and trust and
(36:27):
go for it.
Right, and I would do that overand over and over again.
Okay, here I am again.
I get this new download, I'vereceived this new thing.
I'm talking myself out of it.
I don't want to talk myself outof it.
What do I need?
Oh, let's go back to theintellect.
What do I know?
(36:47):
What did I study?
What did I learn?
What was the construct that Ican reference to help me through
this?
And then I would do that, and itwould be this play back and
forth, and then I would takeaction in that Right, and again,
and again, and again.
And that's what build, built thefaith there is.
(37:08):
There is a leap of faith eachtime you do it, but the more
times you do it, the bigger yourfaith is, and, and that keeps
growing Absolutely, absolutely.
And then you get to liveexquisitely, which is, you know,
what I love helping people, youknow, lead them into this way.
(37:31):
And there are a lot ofsuccessful people out in the
world who have gone through muchof this but haven't made that
next step, have gone throughmuch of this but haven't made
that next step into livingexquisitely, and they're a
little bit lost, they're alittle bit stuck because the
(37:52):
tools that they've used to getto the level of success that
they're at right now aren'tnecessarily the tools that they
need to make this next leap.
And so there's there's another,there's another learning curve,
which you know my, my clients,I think your clients too, based
on how you're, you're speakingabout things like that
intellectual journey, thatlearning, that growth that's
(38:16):
there for them.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
So for our listeners, who resonate with your journey
and your story and are lookingfor a way to make that leap into
creating an exquisite life, tobecoming an unstoppable woman,
how is the best way for them toget in touch with you?
Speaker 2 (38:35):
Thank you for asking.
The absolute best way is ourwebsite, so it's
theunstoppablewomancom, easy toremember, and on the website
there's two things that you cando.
It's a very simple website.
There's a lot of informationabout the exquisite life and
integrating your ambitions andalso the shadows of success.
(38:58):
We have that outlined.
But there's a private podcastthat you can download and that's
very useful in terms ofbreaking through something that
I call loyalty packs and thesecore things that we built up
that are these invisiblebarriers.
(39:19):
So that's worth listening to.
And then, if you're, if youwant to have a conversation with
me, there's a button to book aconsult, and those are the two
best ways to to reach out andstay in contact, fantastic.
Speaker 1 (39:34):
So for those of you who are listening to Amira
Alvarez's story and you resonatewith her journey and you're
curious, or you are excited, oryou're ready to move on, you
know, explore this new chapter,this new season in your life of
being an unstoppable woman,creating an exquisite life,
overcoming the invisiblebarriers, or simply going deeper
(39:55):
to do some of this deep innerwork of healing that can help
you trust more easily.
Then get in touch with Amira.
All the links are below in theshow notes.
So, amira, thank you so muchfor coming on the Quiet Warrior
podcast today.
I have really appreciated yourwisdom, your sharing your
journey and all the gentle waysyou've highlighted the invisible
(40:17):
barriers that all of us faceand also the reassurance that we
can tap into our intellect oneof the strongest you know assets
of the introvert, and also thereassurance that we can tap into
our intellect one of thestrongest you know assets of the
introvert and the quietachiever to start this journey
anytime, at any point, whereverwe are right now.
We already have theseadvantages.
We can make use of them, we canexplore, we can go deeper, we
(40:39):
can ask questions and we canallow a new chapter to unfold.
Thank you, amira.
Speaker 2 (40:46):
Thank you, serena, this was a great conversation.
Speaker 1 (40:51):
I'm so grateful that you're here today.
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See you on the next episode.
Hi, I'm Serena Loh.
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Discover what's fun, unique andpowerful about being an
(00:22):
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Welcome.
Welcome to another episode ofthe Quiet Warrior podcast.
Today, we're talking about whatit means to be unstoppable.
(00:44):
Now, I know that, as anintrovert, as a quiet achiever,
maybe that word is not quite onyour list of preferred words, or
maybe it's not.
Let's find out.
Today I'm talking with AmiraAlvarez.
She's the host of theUnstoppable Woman podcast and
we're here to explore what thatmeans for you.
(01:04):
Welcome, amira, to the QuietWarrior podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Thank you so much for having me, Serena.
It's an honor to be here.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Amira, I'm really curious.
Could you tell us a little bitabout your story, your
background, what has led to thisjourney that has you
emphasizing and communicatingand focusing so much on what it
means to be unstoppable?
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Absolutely so.
I had an upbringing that was anice middle class upper middle
class upbringing, very academic,went to a really good
university, checked all theboxes, was doing life the way I
had been brought up to do life,and I started my own business.
(01:51):
It was in the health andwellness field and then I moved
across the country and decidedto try my hand at this thing
called coaching that I had beenkind of testing the waters on in
this other business and and andso I hung my shingle out and I
started studying about business,cause I I, I had confidence in
(02:14):
myself at being good at like,research, study, academics, that
kind of thing, and I realizedthat there was a lot I didn't
know about running a businessand I started to build my
repertoire of what that took torun a business, because I didn't
want to be poor running thisbusiness, I wanted to make good
(02:37):
money.
And in that journey of reallylearning what it took to run my
own business, I went to aseminar and I sat there I was in
the front row, of course, withmy pen and pad and taking notes
and listening very intently.
And this person who was runningthe seminar later became a
(02:58):
mentor of mine said it's easierto make a lot of money than a
little money.
And why don't you make yourannual income, your monthly
income?
How is that possible?
And I realized that I had a lotof beliefs, my identity, how I
(03:18):
saw myself.
So beliefs about myself,beliefs about the way the world
worked, beliefs about money, allsorts of things that was
keeping me playing out a verystandard, middle-class, great
lifestyle, but not the nextlevel that I wanted.
And so I realized that I had tolearn how to change my beliefs.
(03:42):
And I went into deep studybecause that's again what I do
and and I I, you know hired amentor and studied successful
people.
And I realized that in order tochange your beliefs and these
are beliefs about how the waythe world works, how you work,
what's possible for you you haveto move through invisible
(04:07):
barriers that feel like terrorbarriers.
They feel like emotional panicand every cell in your body is
saying no, this is the wrongthing to do.
You're going to be hurt in someway if you move through this
block that you're facing, but ifyou don't move through it,
(04:31):
you're going to be stuck,reinforcing these old beliefs,
and I didn't want to be stuck.
So I had to become unstoppable,right.
I had to move through thesemoments where everything in my
body was saying this is notcorrect, this is wrong, you're
going to be hurt.
(04:52):
You're going to hurt someoneelse, you're going to be shamed.
Whatever it was, there was someemotional block that was coming
up saying, no, you can't dothis, when, in fact, what I
needed to do was to move throughit, because I could see that
other people were doing thingsthat I wanted to do, that this
(05:12):
wasn't an accurate perception,and yet it was keeping me
limited and blocked.
So that's where the origin ofbeing unstoppable comes from,
and it's not just me being theunstoppable woman.
This is what I've taught manypeople to do is how to recognize
beliefs that are stopping themand move through them.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
I love the phrase you used invisible barriers,
because they're not visible tous, they're not visible to other
people, but they are there.
They are very, very strong,very present, and they drive our
behaviors.
So you're talking about almostbringing those barriers into
your visibility.
(05:58):
It's like you suddenly put yourattention on them.
You've noticed them, now youknow, now you've connected the
dots backwards and you figuredout why you were stuck in
certain areas, and so theinvisible has become visible for
you.
You can now put your attentionand your energy to, as you say,
work through them, move throughthem, and that's beautiful,
(06:20):
because there's somethingmagical about that process,
isn't it?
And that's beautiful becausethere's something magical about
that process, isn't it?
It's not just a left brain.
I'm going to power through thisthing.
I'm going to eliminate it,overcome it, get over it, get it
out of my way.
There's something else.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
There's a different kind of energy.
I'm picking up 100% Now.
I will tell you that in thebeginning, for me, I had to
power through it, right, likeonce I let me clarify that once
I identified a belief that washolding me back.
And this is where people likeyou, mentors, come into play,
(07:00):
right, they?
We can see.
We're not in the forest for thetree, we're not in the forest,
we're outside of the forest.
We can see.
We're not in the forest for thetree, we're not in the forest,
we're outside of the forest.
We can see everything.
You're in the forest, theindividuals in the forest, and
we're blinded.
We can only, you know, see alimited distance.
So in the beginning I had totrust an outside perspective
(07:23):
that would help me see what Icouldn't see for myself, those
invisible barriers.
And then I had to use faith,this belief in a positive
outcome, versus a belief in anegative outcome.
We can have negative faith aswell, that's just belief that
everything's going to go to hellin a handbasket.
Right, I had to have faith in apositive outcome and take
(07:46):
action quickly before I talkedmyself out of it.
So in the beginning I did.
There was a little bit ofpowering through, there was an
intellectual understanding.
Once I got it intellectually,then I actually had to do the
thing that was so scary, Iactually had to do the thing
(08:07):
that was so scary and that, um,that I had to use my will, my,
my will, to do that.
Now you can do use your will ina loud, boisterous, you know
kind of crazy, radical way, oryou could use your will in a
very steady, steady way, but itwas still.
I had to.
I had to power through thethose blocks.
(08:29):
That was not an easy thing andand for anyone who's looking to
do something challenging, I, I,I call you forward and I ask you
to start paying attention to,when you're about to make a
decision or you're about to act,what comes up for you, and
you'll get a lot of mind chatterabout it, but you'll also get a
(08:52):
very strong emotional responsein your body, reaction, really
in your body, and that's themoment that you actually need to
do it differently.
That's the moment where youactually have to make a
different choice.
If you fully understand, ifyou've recognized and thought it
through, okay, this is theright choice, this is the right
(09:14):
path, this does make logicalsense, but all this noise is
coming up trying to talk me outof it and telling me no, it's
like this.
No, it's like this.
You have to override that withyour will.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
It sounds to me like there are two forces that we
need to employ in a balanced way.
And so there is that sense ofthat energy of getting things
done regardless of how you feelabout it, but there's also the
noticing how your body feels andnoticing what you call, you
know, the emotional response.
So when you feel that anxiety,that resistance that you know
(09:54):
internal, that mind chattergoing on, besides employing your
will, how do you also talk yourbody or calm your body or get
your body to, to be on boardwith your mind?
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Such a great question , very perceptive.
So I think this brings us tothese two energies, that that
the masculine energy and thefeminine energy.
We're human, so all humans haveboth energies that are at play
really all the time.
We're never a hundred percentin one or the other and we need
(10:31):
the two to create anything.
To create, you know, take anidea into form, requires the
masculine and the feminine tocome together.
This is creative life force,just like making a baby right
Needs the masculine and thefeminine.
So the masculine is very muchabout that decision, the will,
(10:54):
the discipline to move forward,the focus.
It can be very linear and thisis my next step.
Okay, I'm going to take it,let's go, let's go, let's go
Right.
And and it's both are actionoriented, but they're very
different kinds of action.
And the, the feminine, isreally about being receptive and
(11:16):
being open and allowing, andit's it's our emotions and they
flow right.
It's about currency and flowand and emotions live in our
body and if we're too in ourheads, in that sort of masculine
analytical thinking type of inour heads, there's a lot of
(11:40):
different ways to be in our head, but that type of being in your
head, that type of being inyour head, you're most likely
cutting off your connection tothe feedback your body is giving
you.
And your body is where youremotions live, where your, and
it's also where your connectionto spirit, the divine, your
(12:03):
intuition, is.
We'll get a download, we'll geta hit.
We know that in our bodies,okay, we don't know that it
comes from our body into athought and we're like, oh yeah,
that's it.
So you know, one thing that Iwould share with people is that
you have to slow down enough tobe able to plug into what's
(12:30):
going on for you.
Now, when I was in full speedahead, build my business, you
know, go, go, go I I stillallowed myself time in the
mornings, every morning toreally tap into what was going
on for me.
And that morning time, thatquiet time, was essential
(12:55):
because it gave me so muchfeedback about what was
happening and gave me so manyinsights.
And so I think there's a wayfor people to create, to live in
both worlds.
You know, business running,running a business, being in
corporate, um, it requires youto be in your masculine a lot,
(13:17):
requires you to to be in thatsort of analytical mind quite a
bit.
So you, you have to carve outtime throughout the day where
you can tap into your feminineor come back to it.
Sometimes it's just as assimple as a few quiet breaths,
closing your eyes and and goinginside, and that takes less than
(13:39):
less than a minute.
Right, we all have time forthat, but you, you do need this.
To circle back to that movingthrough the invisible barriers
concept.
You need to understandintellectually what's going on.
That's the masculine.
You do need to have the sort offocus and drive and discipline
(14:02):
to move through it.
That's the masculine.
But you also have to be tappedinto your emotions and know
what's true for you anddifferentiate that between old
beliefs sending up fear signalsto keep you from changing.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
So what you're saying is we need to know how to
balance our masculine andfeminine side, and I see a lot
of overlap for introverts whoare also high achievers.
There are some introverts whoare very much in their heads, so
they spend a lot of timeoverthinking it and not
executing on it.
(14:45):
So they have all these creativeideas, a lot of profound
thoughts, a lot of insights,because they spend so much time
reflecting and that's wheretheir strength lies, but then,
when it comes to actuallyputting it out in the world,
something holds them back.
So there is very much thatsense of needing to get back in
touch with feelings, with whattheir body is telling them, with
(15:08):
what emotions are coming upthose invisible barriers and not
just coming at it from acognitive, logical level only,
but also owning their feminine,creative side.
And then, at the same time, Ialso see introverts who do the
opposite and that they're verymuch in their feminine.
Also see introverts who do theopposite and that they're very
(15:28):
much in their feminine and theylove creating and all the ideas
and go with the flow and theintuition and all that, but then
they're not tapping into theirmasculine energy to get things
done.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
Yeah, you really need .
I mean, this is what creationrequires.
It requires both.
It's not an either, or you needthe masculine, you need the
feminine, and I think youbeautifully articulated the two
challenges there.
When you're on an extreme andfiguring out for yourself, okay,
(15:59):
do I fit into the overanalytical side, like I'm, I'm
thinking too much about, um, youknow the execution, but not
actually executing.
Or am I in this kind ofcreative the next idea, the next
idea, the next idea, but I'mnot putting it into action?
(16:19):
From that perspective, I thinkit's really important to see
which, which lane you're.
You.
You might be stuck in right, oryou lean towards and come up
with little cheats for yourself,almost Little memes that you
can repeat to yourself.
(16:40):
So, although I was veryacademic and analytical and, uh,
had a very strong sense of that, I was also very much in my
feminine and I could overthinkthings from that perspective,
you know, create a new idea ortalk myself out of things.
(17:01):
And I came up with this, thismeme that I taught my clients,
which is quick decisions, makequick decisions.
Make quick decisions becauseyou'll get feedback.
Not every decision you makewill be a great decision,
meaning it won't necessarily.
Let me qualify what that means.
It won't necessarily give youwhat you had intended when you
made that decision, but alldecisions are great because they
(17:25):
move you along and you getfeedback and then you can course
, correct, you can adjust and um, you know that was, that was
something that really helped mefor years get over myself, like
just get over the inertia, andso if you find yourself in that
(17:45):
place, that's a that's a goodlittle meme, right, and and
probably people will come backand say, but I can't make a
quick decision because there'stoo much at risk and all of
these things.
And that's where those beliefscome up, right, and yeah, that's
where you have to do thedigging on on the beliefs that
(18:07):
are keeping you from actuallyacting, which is a big deal.
Now, serena, I'm in a differentphase of my business.
Right, I've built a successfulbusiness and it's done really
well and I'm proud of it and allof that.
And I am more grounded in my,the confidence that I I have in
(18:31):
my ability to move throughblocks and I I no longer need to
to rush myself, if you will,through things, um, because I
trust myself, uh, to still actwhen I'm clear and it's time.
So I think there are differentseasons in your life and your
(18:51):
business.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
I love that you mentioned that there are
different seasons, because thepeople who are listening to this
episode some of you mayidentify as very early on in the
journey.
This is all new to you, you'rejust starting out.
Everything's confusing, there'sjust too much information and
some of you who are listeningyou may feel, oh, I've been
doing this for about 10 yearsnow.
You know, I've got someexperience, I have figured some
(19:15):
things out.
And then some of you, you knowit's another different chapter
of your life.
You're exploring new options,you are figuring some things out
, but you also have abundantlife experience under your belt
and so all of these things aregoing to be such gifts for your
journey and it doesn't matterwhere exactly on the journey you
are.
It's about giving yourself timeto ground yourself, like what
(19:39):
Amira is saying, because thatcan't be rushed.
That is just part of theprocess.
It takes its own time and it'sdifferent for every person and
if you rush it too much or tryto achieve the same way you do
in corporate life with your KPIsand your milestones and all the
smart goals and everything,there's some joy that gets lost.
(20:01):
I think, in the journey offinding out and surrendering and
trusting and having that faiththat there's going to be a
positive outcome out of all this.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
Yeah, you know, be in business going out on your own,
you are faced with being moreresponsible, you recognize.
(20:44):
I want to clarify this.
I think we're all personallyresponsible for our outcomes, no
matter whether we are workingfor someone else or running our
own business our own business.
However, when we're working forsomeone else, we can very
easily not connect the dots onthat, and when you're running
(21:05):
your own business, there's noway not to connect the dots, and
I think that can be reallydaunting for people because they
don't want to make a mistake.
They don't want to beresponsible for making a mistake
, and I would just emphasizethat it's not about I had to
(21:26):
really learn this, serena.
I learned this on the field ofplay.
I run a multimillion dollarbusiness.
Right, I've gone through theschool of hard knocks around
this that you have to make adecision and experience you do
have to ground.
Right, you have to make cleardecisions and good decisions for
yourself.
But you have to make a decisionat some point and some of them
(21:49):
are going to work out and someof them are not going to work
out the way you had conceived ofthem.
But if you put it in a rightwrong modality, if you say that
was a wrong decision, right, andI'm wrong for that, or that was
a right decision and I'm goodfor that, right, I'm a good
person, I'm correct for that.
(22:10):
You're putting value judgmenton something that's just
experience.
There is no right or wrong,good or bad, it just is, and
this is one, this is the greatlaw of the universe.
Everything just is, it's just.
It's just energy, right, andthat might be a little woo, but
go with me here that that, thatit's our perspective on it that
(22:33):
makes it right or wrong.
So why, why do that to yourself, when it's just experience and
we're just here to grow andwe're just here to, to, to, to
expand.
Now, I understand we don't wantto be in the you know poor house
or anything like that, and youknow there are, there are
consequences to our, our actions.
But I think that was one of themost important lessons on my
(22:58):
life journey, my businessjourney, was to recognize that
right and wrong is a conception,a perspective in our thinking,
and that if we can freeourselves from that, we can just
have experiences.
Now do I ever get frustrated bylife and have you know, have a
(23:18):
you know a justice thing goingon?
That's not right.
Of course I'm human, right.
But I move through it reallyquickly now and realize, ah, you
know what, if this was the bestthing that ever happened to me?
Right?
And when I use that kind ofthinking then I'm like, ah, okay
, because inevitably and I thinkeveryone can look back in their
(23:40):
lives and see this if they'retruly honest inevitably the
challenges that we experienceare the things that got us to
the greatness that we've alsoexperienced the opportunities.
So don't get stuck in theright-wrong dilemma there.
Speaker 1 (23:59):
I'm so glad you brought that up because I
noticed that with introverts,with high achievers, quiet
achievers, there is also thatsense of it's not safe for me to
make mistakes, it's not safefor me to be wrong or to be seen
to be failing, to fail publicly.
There is that whole sense ofshame, there's humiliation,
(24:22):
embarrassment, and some of itcan go really deep, back to
childhood experiences and thingswe've been through.
And this is one of thoseinvisible barriers you mentioned
.
Isn't it this concept that Ihave to get it right?
I can't afford to get it wrong.
I need everything to be perfectfrom the start.
And so we then go in very intoour heads and we try to make
(24:46):
sure no mistakes, have I checkedeverything?
You know, detail, detail,detail.
And then, like you say, we getlost in the forest, we can't see
the big picture anymore.
We forgot why we got started onthis journey 100%, and you know
(25:12):
that was me.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
I had that right, like I grew up like well-loved
but also with exacting standards, right, high standards, and you
know stories of my fathersaying standards and you know
stories of my father saying youknow that's de-work, amira, you
know when I made one littleerror right, and you know now I
can laugh about it, but it wascrushing at the time and it
built a belief that it was notsafe.
It was not safe to make amistake.
(25:33):
So I'd rather be inertia, right, inactive, than risk making a
mistake because what was therewas too much at stake.
I was going to lose love,safety and belonging.
And as a little child which iswhen your beliefs get, get
(25:55):
embedded you're not able tosurvive and we know this
instinctually as humans.
We're not able to survivewithout the adults in our life
taking care of us, and so wecan't make them wrong.
The way I teach this is that'smother God and father God.
We can't make them wrongbecause they're where our
(26:18):
survival comes from.
So when we experience somethingin life that causes us pain,
like being a little kid and yourparent getting mad at you for
making a mistake, we can't makethem wrong.
For that we have to, we, weturn it against ourselves.
We're wrong, okay, and and andit's not okay to make mistakes,
(26:43):
because that love is going to beshut off and then we're not
going to have a sense of safetyand belonging and best survival.
And so we create a.
We create a whole structure,belief structure around who we
are and what it takes to be safeand survive in this world.
(27:03):
And yet anybody who has doneanything big, like really great,
in their lives made a ton ofmistakes.
They had to, because we're notborn knowing how to do
everything.
So the belief that you can't besuccessful or you can't be safe
(27:25):
or succeed unless you'reperfect, it just doesn't play
out Like go find someone, youwon't, okay, you just won't.
Okay, you won't, you just won't.
Speaker 1 (27:37):
So you have to be willing to face that invisible
barrier of fear that comes uponce you intellectually
understand this and do your lifedifferently intellectual level
and introverts will love to hearthat because they're very much
about that, about the accuracy,about knowledge, about finding
(28:01):
out as much as possible, doingyour research, making an
informed decision.
But then you also recognizethat you have some invisible
barriers and you work throughthem and you also employ your
feminine energy, which is thecreative perspective, a
different way of doing life thatis mindful of other gifts, your
(28:23):
gift of intuition, creativityflow, the ability to receive,
which I think is a huge one forintroverts who just try to do
and to achieve more.
But when it comes to asking forhelp or receiving good from
other people, it's like oh, Ican't.
You know, I have to be thegiver, I have to be the doer, I
have to be the one that gives toothers, but to receive makes me
(28:47):
look weak.
Can you speak to that?
Speaker 2 (28:51):
Yeah, there's a number of things there so
beautifully spoken, beautifullyarticulated.
That feminine, you get thatintuition and I just want to
close the loop.
That feminine, you get thatintuition and I just want to
close the loop on that.
When you get that intuition,you have to trust it and that's
where there's a leap of faith.
You have to act on that andtrust that, and the only way you
(29:13):
will start unequivocallytrusting it is to start and have
the experience, have the reallife feedback.
Okay so, but then to thequestion of can you articulate
that last question again.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
It was, it was really important, but I lost the train
that last question again, itwas really important but I lost
the train that it's okay to bethe giver and the doer, but to
be the taker and the receiver ishard for some of us, because it
feels like asking is a sign ofweakness.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
Yeah, absolutely so.
That would be a great place forsomeone to dig into the
unconscious, the subconsciousbeliefs around that and where
that got created for them.
And inevitably there was apoint where someone gave
(30:14):
something to you, right, butthere was a bad experience
around that.
When you receive something,maybe someone manipulated you.
That's an experience that a lotof people have.
Oh, someone gives me somethingand then they expect me to be
different or jump through a hoopor do something, and that was
(30:38):
too much for me to compromisemyself and yet I had to do that
and I don't want to do thatanymore.
That would be an example.
But inevitably we have to figureout what that early memory is
for the individual to reallyhave it land for them and not
just have it be thisintellectual concept, but have
(30:58):
it be correct in their body,something that they recognize,
okay, and then we can movethrough it, okay, so, so, uh,
there's a lot of differentscenarios where it might not be
safe to receive but, but we haveto learn that it's that, that
(31:20):
that is a belief, belief that'san invisible barrier, belief,
okay, and that that's notserving us, and that it's not
always correct.
It might've been correct at thetime, but now that belief is no
longer serving me and I have toreframe it.
I have to recreate my ownbelief structure around that.
Speaker 1 (31:42):
Thank you for clarifying that Now on your
website, Amira, you mentionedthat you work with ambitious
women to create an exquisitelife.
I'm just fascinated by thatword.
What does an exquisite lifemean to you?
Speaker 2 (31:58):
Well, first of all, I think an exquisite life means
different things to differentpeople.
Okay, so my version of anexquisite life probably has
different elements in it thanyour version of an exquisite
life, but I think there are somecommonalities.
I think that we all want tofeel lit up in a light, alive,
(32:30):
we all want to feel like lifeforce is moving through us, that
we are excited to be alive.
And excitement looks differentfor different people, right?
It looks different for me ondifferent days what that looks
like.
Sometimes it's a very quiet witha cup of tea, kind of great
life, and sometimes it's aspeaking on a stage kind of
excitement.
Right, there's a breath there.
(32:50):
But I believe that an exquisitelife is really you being in
touch with your true nature andliving that out and having life
force move through you andallowing you to really do your
(33:11):
work in this world, be the trueexpression of who you are, and I
don't think that we need tocompromise that in our journey
to build businesses or to createany kind of achieve any kind of
goal or create any kind ofsuccess that we put our minds to
(33:33):
.
I think, rather, it's aboutreally having an integrated
whole life and being willing totrust that it's possible for you
.
Speaker 1 (33:50):
What I'm getting from this whole conversation we've
had is the importance ofstarting at the level of
knowledge and intellect, soemploying our minds fully and
the cognitive gifts that we'vebeen given, and then also
trusting.
So that means trustingourselves, trusting life,
trusting the process, trustingother people, trusting that
(34:14):
things are unfolding as theyshould, in a positive way.
And that requires a leap offaith.
So it's almost like you can'treason your way into it, it's
like you know, but then you haveto believe before you see it.
And in doing so, that's whereyou gain the proof that, yes,
(34:37):
this really works.
This magic is available to me, Ican access it, I can become
this other version of me, I cando more, I can be more, I can
show up more fully and be moremyself in this world and walk
more comfortably in my own skin.
And so there is that magicaljump, that leap of faith.
(34:59):
You mentioned going from themasculine into the feminine,
embracing both sides and beingour whole selves in that sense,
and then creating for ourselveswhat an exquisite life looks
like, and that could change fromseason to season and that could
(35:19):
look different in differentparts of the journey.
And it's okay.
Nobody's here to judge anyoneelse's version of an exquisite
life.
It's just something we'regiving ourselves and creating
for ourselves as our fullestexpression.
Speaker 2 (35:34):
Beautifully, beautifully summarized.
I love that.
I think that the one thing thatI would add to the process sort
of how this plays out is that Iused my intellect a lot in the
beginning and it was aniterative process.
Right, I would learn the lawsof success, universal law.
(36:00):
I would learn how businesspeople did things.
I would learn so.
So there was a wide breadth oflearning that I had to do.
That was all intellectual.
And then I would be faced with ablock and I would have to go
back to the intellectuallearning.
Okay, like, what did I learnthat would be applicable to this
, and that's what helped me makethe leap of faith and trust and
(36:27):
go for it.
Right, and I would do that overand over and over again.
Okay, here I am again.
I get this new download, I'vereceived this new thing.
I'm talking myself out of it.
I don't want to talk myself outof it.
What do I need?
Oh, let's go back to theintellect.
What do I know?
(36:47):
What did I study?
What did I learn?
What was the construct that Ican reference to help me through
this?
And then I would do that, and itwould be this play back and
forth, and then I would takeaction in that Right, and again,
and again, and again.
And that's what build, built thefaith there is.
(37:08):
There is a leap of faith eachtime you do it, but the more
times you do it, the bigger yourfaith is, and, and that keeps
growing Absolutely, absolutely.
And then you get to liveexquisitely, which is, you know,
what I love helping people, youknow, lead them into this way.
(37:31):
And there are a lot ofsuccessful people out in the
world who have gone through muchof this but haven't made that
next step, have gone throughmuch of this but haven't made
that next step into livingexquisitely, and they're a
little bit lost, they're alittle bit stuck because the
(37:52):
tools that they've used to getto the level of success that
they're at right now aren'tnecessarily the tools that they
need to make this next leap.
And so there's there's another,there's another learning curve,
which you know my, my clients,I think your clients too, based
on how you're, you're speakingabout things like that
intellectual journey, thatlearning, that growth that's
(38:16):
there for them.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
So for our listeners, who resonate with your journey
and your story and are lookingfor a way to make that leap into
creating an exquisite life, tobecoming an unstoppable woman,
how is the best way for them toget in touch with you?
Speaker 2 (38:35):
Thank you for asking.
The absolute best way is ourwebsite, so it's
theunstoppablewomancom, easy toremember, and on the website
there's two things that you cando.
It's a very simple website.
There's a lot of informationabout the exquisite life and
integrating your ambitions andalso the shadows of success.
(38:58):
We have that outlined.
But there's a private podcastthat you can download and that's
very useful in terms ofbreaking through something that
I call loyalty packs and thesecore things that we built up
that are these invisiblebarriers.
(39:19):
So that's worth listening to.
And then, if you're, if youwant to have a conversation with
me, there's a button to book aconsult, and those are the two
best ways to to reach out andstay in contact, fantastic.
Speaker 1 (39:34):
So for those of you who are listening to Amira
Alvarez's story and you resonatewith her journey and you're
curious, or you are excited, oryou're ready to move on, you
know, explore this new chapter,this new season in your life of
being an unstoppable woman,creating an exquisite life,
overcoming the invisiblebarriers, or simply going deeper
(39:55):
to do some of this deep innerwork of healing that can help
you trust more easily.
Then get in touch with Amira.
All the links are below in theshow notes.
So, amira, thank you so muchfor coming on the Quiet Warrior
podcast today.
I have really appreciated yourwisdom, your sharing your
journey and all the gentle waysyou've highlighted the invisible
(40:17):
barriers that all of us faceand also the reassurance that we
can tap into our intellect oneof the strongest you know assets
of the introvert, and also thereassurance that we can tap into
our intellect one of thestrongest you know assets of the
introvert and the quietachiever to start this journey
anytime, at any point, whereverwe are right now.
We already have theseadvantages.
We can make use of them, we canexplore, we can go deeper, we
(40:39):
can ask questions and we canallow a new chapter to unfold.
Thank you, amira.
Speaker 2 (40:46):
Thank you, serena, this was a great conversation.
Speaker 1 (40:51):
I'm so grateful that you're here today.
If you found this contentvaluable, please share it on
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Together, we can help moreintroverts thrive.
To receive more upliftingcontent like this, connect with
me on Instagram at Serena LoQuiet Warrior Coach.
(41:11):
Thank you for sharing your timeand your energy with me.
See you on the next episode.
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