September 14, 2025 • 38 mins
Can you invite intimacy back into your life by first healing your relationship with yourself?
In this tender conversation, I’m joined by Hani Cheng, Intimacy Transformation Facilitator, bestselling author, and global speaker. Grounded in over 33 healing approaches — including Tantra, Shamanic Breathwork, Advanced NLP, Daoist Sexuality, and Quantum Healing — Hani guides individuals, especially those who identify as sensitive, intuitive, or empathic, in transforming inner blocks related to intimacy, self-worth, and personal power, so they can access deep pleasure, confidence, and authentic connection..
We explore how self-confidence blossoms when you embrace your authentic desires, how aliveness is an indicator of alignment with your infinite being and higher purpose, and how embodying your truth transforms the way you lead at work.
If you’ve ever felt disconnected — either from yourself or from what you care about — this episode is a quiet, brave invitation to return to your truest, most sensual self.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
- The sacredness and beauty of sexuality and sensuality from nature’s perspective
- The challenge of being fully expressed as a corporate leader
- How self-empowerment transforms the way you lead
- What does it mean to be alive and sovereign, to walk in your truth, and embody it in every aspect of your life including your work
- Living in truth vs. living in mediocrity
- The trouble with separating our personal and professional selves
- The game of self-alignment and how to get closer to your truth by trusting more
- How to hold yourself through the messy process of doing the inner work
- How to find the right community to grow with
About Hani Cheng
Hani Cheng is a bestselling author, speaker, and globally renowned Intimacy Transformation Facilitator. She empowers ambitious leaders to bridge sexuality, spirituality, and leadership through her signature YUMM Programs. With her unique blend of lived wisdom and transformative practices, Hani helps individuals reclaim their
self-worth, embrace self-love, and embody their full sensual and spiritual power.
How to Connect and Work with Hani:
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi, I'm Serena Loh.
If you're used to hearing thatintroverts are shy, anxious,
antisocial and lack goodcommunication and leadership
skills, then this podcast is foryou.
You're about to fall in lovewith the calm, introspective and
profound person that you are.
Discover what's fun, unique andpowerful about being an
(00:21):
introvert, and how to make theelegant transition from quiet
achiever to quiet warrior inyour life and work anytime you
want, in more ways than youimagined possible.
Welcome, welcome to the QuietWarrior podcast.
Today I'm speaking with anintimacy transformation
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facilitator, best-selling authorand founder of the Yum Sensual
Liberation Programs, which helpambitious leaders bridge
sexuality, spirituality andleadership.
In the last 15 years of herwork, she empowered clients to
experience liberated leadershipin both personal relationships
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and professional life.
With certifications andtrainings across over 33
holistic modalities, hosting800-plus events and a background
in global business, she offersa unique approach to
transformation, merging personalgrowth with professional
success.
Her work has been featured onCNN, bbc, abc and Fox,
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highlighting her impact inrelational and personal
empowerment.
Welcome Hani Cheng to the QuietWarrior podcast.
It's a pleasure to be here,hani.
Tell us a bit about your storyand how you come to be doing
this work.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
You come to be doing this work.
There's so many parts of my lifethat I've just felt so
disconnected with my truth andmy infinite desires and visions
and self and potential that alldovetailed into this, including
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a 15-year disease, going deepwithin it, figuring out how to
defy all experts' advice to findactual solutions where nobody
could from the medical side, andeven from the Chinese medical
side, and then the Western, andall that and that led me to go
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down the rabbit hole ofalternative medicines, energy
work and inner voice work, tounderstand that we actually had
the self-healing capabilitiesand also looking at and
self-healing this processthrough existential clarity.
And then, when I realized that,then taking that experience of
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energy healing healinginternally through existential
alignments, and and thenunderstanding how that blossoms
into how important truth,clarity and infinite potential
can all exist in one version ofus and one person, one entity
within us, was really profound.
(03:07):
So, yeah, so healing that15-year disease was definitely
this catalyst and then thatopened up a whole world of
possibilities.
And then, facing every singlefear of facing my truth, of what
I desired in terms ofexperiencing this work ripple
out and reach people who thiscould help.
So that came in the form of abook, book tours all around the
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world and then diving in deepwithin the healing journeys and
energy work journey is lookingthrough every potential modality
that could support furtherbreakthroughs and deeper freedom
and sovereignty.
Really, this work is all aboutexperiencing true freedom and
true sovereignty and then fullyaccepting ourselves in these
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truths, even if we hate it, um,how to be at peace with it and
um.
And then moving through thatinto the deepest parts of our
truth, which includes ourinnermost vulnerable areas of
how we see ourselves, includingsexuality and including our
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femininity, our masculinity andour identification with the
physical essence of ourselves.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Wow, that's quite an introduction.
Thank you for that.
So what exactly is an intimacytransformation facilitator?
What do you do?
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I basically take people to the most intimate
parts of themselves.
Whether that is a feeling ofhow close you are with yourself,
or it's a relationship withself-love or a relationship with
you know, what does loveultimately mean to you?
And then, from that space, wecraft and explore and uncover.
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What is that translation ofthat space in the form of a
career?
What is that space desire foryou to express with your lover?
What is this space that is sotrue and so real and so deep
within you?
Desire to experience in theoutside world?
Speaker 1 (05:20):
I imagine that most people who hear of this work or
come to you would not have founda way to express this in a
corporate context.
Those are words we don't use inour everyday vocabulary, and
especially not in a Singaporeanculture where we are a bit more
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conservative, Singaporeanculture where we're a bit more
conservative.
Do you see that there's somekind of difficulty in expressing
that sensuality, the sexuality,the intimacy that we're craving
?
It's like we crave it but wecan't talk about it.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
There's definitely a lack of nuanced vocabulary that
come with it right.
So there are a lot of, I wouldsay, hijacked narratives by
large media, by capitalism, byreligion, by puritanical
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propaganda, in some ways or not,of what it should and shouldn't
be talked about and how itshould be talked about and the
approaches and the mindsetsurrounded.
So it does limit the curiosityand the purity of what it
actually is.
And when we look at sexualityand sensuality from a
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perspective of nature andorganic nature, how beautiful
can it actually be?
How sacred, right, howspiritual is it?
When a woman first has hermenstruation for the very first
time?
You know the way that I look atit is like it can be a
celebration you know of.
If I had a young girl, we'd besitting in the forest, you know,
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letting her blood drip into theearth and just pray for and
celebrate this transition in avery intimate way, of this
blossoming femininity that ishappening within her, of this
blossoming femininity that ishappening within her.
And so it can.
These concepts can be reallyclear and dear to us, or it
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could be simply as a okay, letme go to Guardian and Watson's
and a pharmacy and get a pad.
So there's many different waysto approach our femininity.
You can do it in a verycommercial way oh, let's do
polarity work.
Or let's do like definition ofwho is a woman.
Or it could be really likegoing inside and experiencing
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the softness I feel like it's alot of.
It is, um, the lack of time andguidance to experience this,
because we were never broughtthrough a system of awakening
and remembering of that pathway.
You know, it's a very imagineif our grandmothers,
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grandmothers, grandmothers,grandmothers, if they had these
rituals and tribes that wouldbring them through this journey,
how that might look like forwomen and men right In men.
They had these vision questswhere they would send young boys
out into the forest and havethem be outside for like a few
days to fend for themselves, andthat's how they embrace their
masculinity.
(08:33):
Whereas in the world today,like, our milestones are college
, secondary school.
You know these are likeeducational, like these are very
.
It's a different type ofmindset and so sexuality.
Do we have any milestones forthat?
Do we have any true discussionsthat are vulnerable within the
family?
Or where are theseconversations that you had in
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health class?
Speaker 1 (08:59):
I imagine if it was in health class, there would be
not so much conversations asmaybe teenagers rolling their
eyes or thinking it's reallycringy, or maybe they already
know because they've talkedamong themselves about it.
They found out on TikTok orInstagram or something.
But you're right, they wouldprobably not have had that
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conversation at home in thatvulnerable, authentic way that
feels safe, that is supported,that is open and, at the same
time, that is empowering.
I'm sure there are some familiesthat do, but I would think most
would not have made the spacefor that.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
And so, at the end of the day, you know, as we're
even in, we're in corporate,we're always separating
ourselves, right, or like a lotof times where we're at work,
we're even in, we're incorporate, we're always
separating ourselves right, orlike a lot of times where we're
at work, we're like, well, youknow, vulnerability, femininity,
who we are, is a separate thingfrom who we are at work, and so
the invitation is really abouthow do you even know, like who
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you are as a fully expressedleader, if this part that is so
deep and so sacred and sospecial to you hasn't been
allowed to see the light of day,unless in a intimate session
with a partner and a lover, andmaybe you don't want to mix that
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.
However, giving that part ofyou some space allows you to
hold that safe space for her andhim tell us more about that.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
what do you mean by not having those um, that, that
silo mentality and thereforebringing that part of you and
expressing that as a leader oras part of a team in the
corporate space?
How do you do that?
Speaker 2 (10:50):
In many ways, I think there's a misconception that
when you are fully integrated,let's aliveness because
sexuality is part of creation,which is also a sense of
aliveness and a sense ofvibrance.
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Right After you do a workout,you feel a sense of euphoria.
That same aliveness exists whenyou fully embrace who you are,
and so the physical experienceof that is when you speak right.
Your voice doesn't justresonate from your throat and up
, it resonates from yourgenitals all the way through
your stomach, through your chestand your lungs and then your
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throat and up.
So the embodiment and theintegration your whole body is
communicating, instead of justyour head, which is usually
people live in their heads right, and so, from a physical
perspective and somaticexperience, you're walking.
Who you are, your essence andyour spirit, is taking up all of
your body, to the size of yourskin.
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So you're not just this blockof consciousness that lives in
the confines of your face.
Your whole being is alive andthat feels more energetically
efficient because you are ableto express yourself in a way
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that your body is an extensionof your communication tool as
well.
So that would be a very clearexperience of what embodiment
and alignment feels like whenall parts of your body are part
of the experience, conceptuallyspeaking, are you going to say
something?
Speaker 1 (12:35):
That makes a lot of sense, because mind, body,
spirit, they're meant to be onewhole entity.
But I think perhaps Westernphilosophy has emphasized,
overemphasized, the importanceof the brain and the mind, the
rational mind particularly, sothe conscious mind is viewed as
superior to our feelings, so allthe other things.
(12:57):
So you're right that maybe weonly live in that five or 10%,
that is not fullyrepresentational of who we are,
and so when we communicate thenwe're only communicating from
here, from the neck up.
And do you see how, how do yousee this playing out in
relationships and communication?
Speaker 2 (13:18):
and in leadership in a corporate space, relationships
is about the heart.
So a lot of times when we'reresolving a fight with the head
and not the heart, the heartstill feels uneasy.
So it's an incompletecommunication Leadership-wise.
And I'm simplifying a lot ofthis right, we can have like a
whole podcast on each of thesetopics, so I'm just giving you
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small, little, bite-sized piecesto think about the next step.
It's not a complete picture,but it is simply a food for
thought.
In leadership, when you're notfully embodied, you're missing a
lot of communication potentialto your constituents or your
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co-leaders or your level ofempowerment, because your level
of empowerment empowers otherpeople.
And so when you are selfempowered and you feel more
congruent and integrated, you'renot only just leading a
strategy, you're leading a wayof being, and if you're looking
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to be more holistic and tobecome a better person and a
more integrated person as partof your leadership, you know
this could be a spiritualleadership.
Even if you're doing profit andloss and you're a director of a
company and you're looking atyou know very clear numbers you
can still lead, also with yourpresence.
Right, it's about your presenceand how people can show up for
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themselves in a way that betterstheir lives.
So it's outside of just thecold, hard facts which some
people desire and some peoplewould really like to have that
separate.
So it's just another option andgiving you another chance to
grow right.
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So sometimes stagnation can comein the form of accounting or it
can come in the form of um, theway you approach your life.
It also, and the way youapproach leadership, could also
grow in the thoughts that youthink about, in the quality of
those relationships.
The other topic you saidrelationships, leadership, and
what was the third one?
Speaker 1 (15:30):
I forgot.
That's okay, but it was relatedto that the idea of how do we
authentically embody and expressourselves in those spaces, in
the corporate context, becausethat's where it's very much
about power dynamics, it's aboutefficiency, kpis, about all
those things which are veryleft-brained and logic-centered,
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it is very left-brained andit's also a lot about
discernment who we decide isappropriate to express this with
and in the context of a morecorporate left-brain context.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
right, you love, it is very much like that is the
way that is being rewarded,valued and validated and
recognized.
Left brain, accurate, precise,proper, generating thoughts.
And so if you're having fundoing it this is how I always
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put it if you're having fundoing it and it's energizing you
, continue.
The problem only comes ifyou're starting to find that
it's draining, it's starting tobore you.
Then it's about how can we addmore life and more excitement
into it and that sense ofaliveness and lightness and ease
and flow that comes fromembodying more of your life
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force and life force.
Where does life force come?
In?
Happiness, joy, that comes inbeing more you.
So that's sort of the train ofthought we're looking at.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
Do you think personality types have anything
to do with this?
Absolutely yeah.
I'm thinking of our introvertsand our quiet achievers who
might struggle with the idea ofspeaking their truth, standing
up for the things they reallybelieve in, because there is
that side of them that is reallyattached to the certainty, the
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compliance, the getting it right, the perfection, the goal
seeking all that side of things.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
And that is totally celebrated as well.
Right, and if that is yourtruth and that is who you are,
and you get filled by gettingaccurate, compliant, you know,
ticking off all the boxes andcrossing all your T's and
dotting all your I's, and that'sgiving you aliveness and that's
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it's still aliveness.
We're not judging the food youinput into your energy field to
create more energy.
We're simply asking are youfeeling free?
Are you feeling sovereign?
Are you feeling like your lifeis worth living right now?
And not only that, but you areexcited and you're looking
forward to your life.
And if that is a yes, with allof your introverted preferences,
then that is great I like the.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
I like your take on this, because you're giving
people options and you're notjudging it you.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
You just need to look at the truth and if you are
lying to yourself about it, thenyou also know that you are
lying to yourself about it andthere's no shame, right?
Then it's about do I actuallywant to live in truth, or do I
want to live in mediocrity, ordo I want to live in compromised
life?
Some people are very cognizantthat a life that they're
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choosing is A and B compromise.
A and B compromise.
A and B compromise.
So by the time you hit 80,you've lived an iterative life
of total, always choosingcompromise.
So it could be like a 0.000001%of like your actual truth, and
that's fine, because that's yourdecision and that's what you've
chosen.
Right, and that is the certaintywas so important to you that
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this is that's happiness for youand then for some people,
that's the mysterious call tolive a authentic life sometimes
seems just alluring and you justwonder what would it feel like
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to be a little bit more alignedon my path?
And if I had the choice, whatwould it feel like to venture a
little more out of my comfortzone but it's still true to me a
little bit more embodied, andyou start taking the edges and
you start facing.
What would it feel like if Ijust trusted my truth a little
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bit more and you start makingdecisions that are more like 80%
my truth, 81% my truth, 82% mytruth, and you're getting closer
and closer to living a life Ooh, that was very scary and I
failed right there.
I still did it a little bitdifferent, and if you're finding
joy and excitement inuncovering your self-trust and
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that your inner true voice candirect you, that's a different
choice of life.
It's a different game too.
It's a game of self-alignment.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
Self-alignment has to come from that place of
self-awareness, and I thinkthat's what you meant.
You have to know yourselfreally well before you know what
your truth is.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Either you have to know yourself really well or you
have to have a tool that canaccess that knowing in any given
time, Because right now I mightnot be aware of what the true
answer is to a variety of topicsIn my life that's happening
right now.
Maybe I just got a piece ofinformation right, so the
fallacy of truth is that it'sstagnant.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
Yeah, can you talk to us more about that?
Speaker 2 (21:16):
sure like let's say, this decision right, um, should
I do this in two years?
Should I do this in three years?
Should I do this in four years?
Should I do this in five years?
That truth may be shiftingbased on the information input.
The new information comes.
Maybe that will be clearer whatthe truth is.
Maybe it's not now decision,maybe it's later decision.
When should you have a baby?
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There's no true answer to that.
You can only tune into yourpersonal truth to understand
when that right decision is, andthat could shift based on an
internal alignment.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
And.
I think it's really importantfor people to know that there is
this internal truth that shifts, because we, if we are very
attached to certainty, we wantto know things in advance, we
want to be able to predict andcontrol.
But what you're saying is, ifthat is, this inner calling, is
a sacred work or a kind ofunfolding, a kind of becoming,
and that takes time and it hasits own timeline.
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It's not something we can say Ineed to finish this within one
year.
I need to complete all myevolution within one year.
We?
That's not how it works, is it?
Speaker 2 (22:30):
the evolution is a system of, or in a system, right
In an ecosystem of a symbioticrelationship, hopefully, with
nature and the earth.
So anytime there's a new inputthat comes in, we're dynamically
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shifting to grow.
So we're living in a forest andwe're little plants right.
Anytime the sun goes up and thesun goes down, every day we're
looking at okay, where's thesunshine, let's go get a little
bit more sun.
Where's the water?
Let's go grow towards the watera little bit.
We're looking at like, we'reconstantly checking in with what
the inputs of the world are andwe're growing towards things
that give life, unless you'regoing towards things that are
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destructive and give death.
You know it's a choice, like,luckily we have a choice and so
the sun is going to be at 50degrees north and we will every
day, without questioning andchecking in to where the sun is,
we're just going to go in thatdirection.
Okay, even the sun has moved.
I still believe the sun is in,like, even though the sun is
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literally like a differentdegree.
So we're constantly shiftingour reference point based on the
inputs of the world.
Covid happened Did anyone planfor that?
But how many people would belike oh, I'm just going to
ignore that this happened.
I'm going to continue my lifeas I planned it the day before
you know, the year before ithappened or the day month before
it happened.
So we're constantly shiftingwith shifting inputs, and so
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truth shifts with the shifts ofthe world.
What we can count on is ourinner connection with our own
truth.
Life can change.
Economics can change.
The trading stock market canchange.
Our relationships can change.
People can die and live and newlife can come into the world.
Everything can change but ourrelationship to live and new
life can come into the world.
Everything can change but ourrelationship to ourselves and
our truth and our peace.
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That can be something that wecan count on.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
So when you say it's important for us to discern our
truth, how do we learn to becomebetter at doing that?
How do we know that we cantrust ourselves?
Speaker 2 (24:38):
to become better at doing that.
How do we know that we cantrust ourselves?
It's through identifying whatis our true voice versus what's
not our true voice.
So, for example, in a session Ihad right before this podcast,
I was teaching my client who'san incredibly successful, just a
senior manager or somethinglike that for um, for a really
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nice brand, and for her it'slike we were looking and we were
connecting to an expanded space.
So how do I put this?
We go through a three-stepprocess first aligning with what
I call your infinite being andyour infinite body.
The infinite being is a part ofyou that sees everything that
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is connected to creativity, thatis connected to this full
potential, and also then theinfinite body is a part of your
body that's also along for thisride, that is supportive of the
vision of your infinite being.
So we're kind of our bodies andour beings are working together
to create.
And then there is something else.
Something else can include anydoubts, any emotions, any fears,
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any judgments.
It could be from yourself, itcould be from outside of you.
It could be constructs, itcould be implanted, ideas that
you didn't even know camethrough.
It could be conventionalthoughts that you didn't even
know came through.
It could be conventionalthoughts, it could be a myriad
of things that is not this placeof peace and this place of I
can see everything and I knowit's not a knowing.
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It could be an analyticaldeduction, which is nothing
wrong with it.
It's just a different source ofinformation.
And so how can we find the truthwe have to be able to discern,
like is this thought coming frommy infinite self and peace and
safety and trust, or is thisthought coming from something
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else, infinite being, infinitebody or something else?
And once we discern that, thenwe need to get rid of that
energy and actually tune into,without all of this, what is the
actual truth and do I have afear of facing that truth?
Because sometimes we have somuch fear of facing that truth
we don't even let ourselves gothere.
It's like I'm just going toignore this decision for like
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weeks because I know that Imight not like the truth, I
might not want to do it.
I will avoid this exercisebecause I don't want to know the
truth.
I want the truth to be this, soI'm going to fake it.
That that's the truth.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
So what you're saying also is it takes courage and
honesty to do this work, becauseit requires you to face the
truth, and you're right.
Sometimes the truth doesn'tlook like what we want it to be.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
Sometimes it's not palatable, it's not comfortable,
it can be very frightening forpeople to face extremely
frightening, and so for us totrust ourselves is frightening
because you're trusting that,despite that frightening feeling
and despite that oh my gosh, Ifeel like I'm going to die if I
make this decision existentialcrisis.
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Despite that, to trust that itleads you to a more beautiful
place on the other end is hard.
It takes a lot of courage andself-trust to be able to hold
yourself through that process.
Imagine the fear that you wouldhave to leave an abusive
relationship.
The certainty of knowing thepain and knowing the pattern
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could be stronger than the fearof letting that go.
And are you going to be able tosurvive that?
And so the dilemma is there.
And, of course, our souls in atoxic pattern that could
manifest itself in a pattern ora comfort zone.
And to leave that comfort zone,no matter if it's good or bad
for you to go for something thatis now has been updated
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software, update new truth thatis more aligned to you.
Software is still verycomforting, even though it's not
the right, not necessarilytaking all.
It hasn't caught up to yourlevel of growth yet Sometimes it
can be very scary.
So, yes, the long story shortself-trust is one of the deepest
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ways that we can explore thenew frontier for ourselves and
for those who decide and dare tolook there.
The greatest growth lies thereand the greatest reward and the
greatest pride.
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You are accelerating yourgrowth because your truth will
always guide you to a moreexpanded place.
If you're really listening tothe infinite being and it's not
like a manipulative, like like asheep's wolf and sheepskin oh,
I'm the truth.
Listen to me like you know,like that kind of a truth, um,
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because there's a lot of truththat also are disguised voices
that are not actually true.
So when you are actuallylistening to an infamy, you will
expand, you will grow, you willbecome a better person.
That's the direction of whereyour infinite self is desiring
to take you to a place that ismore resonant to who you are,
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that is more free, moresovereign, more loving.
Feel more of you in this body.
Speaker 1 (30:04):
When you use the word sovereign, what does it mean to
you?
What does it mean to besovereign?
Speaker 2 (30:13):
The first thing that comes to mind is to not be
controlled.
Not be controlled by fear, bydoubt, by the anticipation that
something might go wrong do youthink that is to do with?
Speaker 1 (30:36):
that is closely intertwined with your self-trust
, isn't it?
Because if I believe in myself,if I trust that things are
going to come out okay, thatsomehow on the other side of
this something more beautiful isgoing to emerge, then I can
relax into that.
I can allow that as opposed tobracing ourselves.
What if, what?
What if, what if it all goeswrong and I lose everything?
Speaker 2 (30:59):
Absolutely, and it's so much easier said than done.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
Yes, and you mentioned holding yourself
through that messy middle, thattransition.
So what are some ways forpeople to hold themselves
through while they're doing thisdeep work?
Speaker 2 (31:16):
Definitely get the support of a facilitator to hold
that space with you so that youcan fall apart as you're
accessing that truth.
For someone to just hold youwith you doing it yourself can
be terrifying.
You could be delaying for years.
And then, secondly, finding theresources to get rid of the
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things that you're bracingyourself against.
You're walking through the fireto see your truth.
Your truth could be seen in avery nurturing environment.
It doesn't have to be sointense.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
And I suppose that's where the power of community
comes in, and that's why wedon't want to walk this road
alone.
We are looking for the rightpeople, the safe, safe kind of a
community, to support us andwalk alongside with us, and
that's what you do, isn't itcreating that?
Speaker 2 (32:06):
community.
The community, yes, and it'svery important to pick a
community that doesn't imposetheir own judgment on you.
Don't impose their own opinionsor their own pathway on you,
because this is ultimately yourpath.
You're not looking for otherpeople's advice.
This is ultimately your truth,is your advisor.
(32:28):
So we're detaching ourselvesfrom from walking a combination
of everybody else's average path, from other data points and
statistics yes, keep that inmind as an input and, at the
same time, look inside to seewhat's wanting to grow.
(32:52):
And then the community thatyou're looking for are also
people that are listening totheir truth.
That's the community you got tofind, the community that is
inspiring you, that's going outof their comfort zone.
So, if you're looking atcommunity, you're looking for
people who are also doing thisjourney, this fearless journey
(33:15):
of self-trust.
Speaker 1 (33:20):
That makes a lot of sense.
If you're growing, you want tobe with people who are also
growing, then that's the way toencourage everyone and be in
alignment.
So you're in alignment withyour external environment in
that sense, because they areseeking something similar and
you're reattuning, reattuning toyourself within, so that's your
own internal alignment.
So then you become thatcongruent person who can express
(33:42):
yourself, embody all thosequalities, become connected with
your higher self, your infinitemind that you're referring to,
yeah, and put out that differentkind of energy into the world
and put out.
So then your courage is nolonger external, it is in your
it's, in your vibration it is,and you'll walk differently,
(34:04):
you'll speak differently, yourtone will be different,
everything will be different.
Speaker 2 (34:07):
Yes, my client was like I'm walking into the subway
station and I'm just, myposture is me.
I'm not thinking about my newposture.
It is like I'm looking atmyself, my new posture, it is
like I'm looking at myself in myreflection.
I'm like, wow, who is this?
He's just like.
I've never really experiencedthis, this way of being in the
(34:27):
world, so conscious, yes, so.
Speaker 1 (34:35):
So tell us about your programs and who are they for?
Speaker 2 (34:39):
so we have a program called the central liberation
program.
We also have a program calledliberated leadership.
They're all for people whodesire this deeper connection
with their self-trust.
And the trust comes from theinner, like we spoke about the
(35:05):
inner, most beautiful parts andthe truest part of you through
breath, work, through practice,through connection, community,
and how to find that within us,through sensuality, through
meditation, through inner workor simply through joy and
(35:27):
excitement and playfulness andinspiration.
So we go through many layers ofcommunication frameworks, how
to do that within ourselves,within a partnership, within a
lovership, and then how toexpress that in terms of
leadership.
So every step of the way and wealso train orgasmic energy
(35:48):
transmutation, we trainvisualizations, we're training
how to open your energy from theinside out with many, many
precise tools that cultivatelife force, energy through the
form of pleasure, and then howto become more effective and
(36:11):
embodied in the potential thatyou can contribute to the world
and work.
Embodied in the potential thatyou can contribute to the world
and work without compromisingyourself as much or at all.
The idea is to be positivelyfeeling, authentically living
your life while contributing themost that you can.
(36:31):
The idea is a win-win you beyou, you get to add value and
experience the impact of yourvalue.
That's the vision, and so, so,yeah, so there's two tracks.
One track is totally aboutliberating your sexuality and
liberating your full alivenessin all areas, and then the other
(36:52):
track is doing that throughresonating with your values,
resonating with your commitments, and they both are approaching
it from all the angles ofphysical, psychological,
energetic and orgasmic.
Speaker 1 (37:10):
Okay, so what's the best way, honey, for people to
get in touch and find out more?
Speaker 2 (37:15):
You can find me on TantraSingaporecom H-T-T-P-S dot
dot slash slash.
Tantrasingaporecom, intimacyCoaching or YoloAbundancecom,
where a lot of the leadershipstuff is.
So these are the two locations.
I've got a YouTube channel aswell and many, many, many, many
books and eBooks and resourcesall over the internet, for
(37:39):
tantalizing questions is one ofthem.
Speaker 1 (37:42):
Fabulous.
So we'll make sure to includeyour links in the show notes so
that people can read up more andget in touch with you and find
out more about your programs.
So thank you so much, honey,for coming on the podcast today
and sharing your verytantalizing view of spirituality
.
You know what is sacred.
What does it mean to be alive?
What does it mean to besovereign?
(38:02):
How do you walk in your truthand how do you embody so that
you are showing up in the world,being in the world, in a whole
new way?
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You're welcome.
It was a pleasure.
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(00:21):
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want, in more ways than youimagined possible.
Welcome, welcome to the QuietWarrior podcast.
Today I'm speaking with anintimacy transformation
(00:42):
facilitator, best-selling authorand founder of the Yum Sensual
Liberation Programs, which helpambitious leaders bridge
sexuality, spirituality andleadership.
In the last 15 years of herwork, she empowered clients to
experience liberated leadershipin both personal relationships
(01:02):
and professional life.
With certifications andtrainings across over 33
holistic modalities, hosting800-plus events and a background
in global business, she offersa unique approach to
transformation, merging personalgrowth with professional
success.
Her work has been featured onCNN, bbc, abc and Fox,
(01:25):
highlighting her impact inrelational and personal
empowerment.
Welcome Hani Cheng to the QuietWarrior podcast.
It's a pleasure to be here,hani.
Tell us a bit about your storyand how you come to be doing
this work.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
You come to be doing this work.
There's so many parts of my lifethat I've just felt so
disconnected with my truth andmy infinite desires and visions
and self and potential that alldovetailed into this, including
(02:02):
a 15-year disease, going deepwithin it, figuring out how to
defy all experts' advice to findactual solutions where nobody
could from the medical side, andeven from the Chinese medical
side, and then the Western, andall that and that led me to go
(02:22):
down the rabbit hole ofalternative medicines, energy
work and inner voice work, tounderstand that we actually had
the self-healing capabilitiesand also looking at and
self-healing this processthrough existential clarity.
And then, when I realized that,then taking that experience of
(02:44):
energy healing healinginternally through existential
alignments, and and thenunderstanding how that blossoms
into how important truth,clarity and infinite potential
can all exist in one version ofus and one person, one entity
within us, was really profound.
(03:07):
So, yeah, so healing that15-year disease was definitely
this catalyst and then thatopened up a whole world of
possibilities.
And then, facing every singlefear of facing my truth, of what
I desired in terms ofexperiencing this work ripple
out and reach people who thiscould help.
So that came in the form of abook, book tours all around the
(03:30):
world and then diving in deepwithin the healing journeys and
energy work journey is lookingthrough every potential modality
that could support furtherbreakthroughs and deeper freedom
and sovereignty.
Really, this work is all aboutexperiencing true freedom and
true sovereignty and then fullyaccepting ourselves in these
(03:50):
truths, even if we hate it, um,how to be at peace with it and
um.
And then moving through thatinto the deepest parts of our
truth, which includes ourinnermost vulnerable areas of
how we see ourselves, includingsexuality and including our
(04:12):
femininity, our masculinity andour identification with the
physical essence of ourselves.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Wow, that's quite an introduction.
Thank you for that.
So what exactly is an intimacytransformation facilitator?
What do you do?
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I basically take people to the most intimate
parts of themselves.
Whether that is a feeling ofhow close you are with yourself,
or it's a relationship withself-love or a relationship with
you know, what does loveultimately mean to you?
And then, from that space, wecraft and explore and uncover.
(05:01):
What is that translation ofthat space in the form of a
career?
What is that space desire foryou to express with your lover?
What is this space that is sotrue and so real and so deep
within you?
Desire to experience in theoutside world?
Speaker 1 (05:20):
I imagine that most people who hear of this work or
come to you would not have founda way to express this in a
corporate context.
Those are words we don't use inour everyday vocabulary, and
especially not in a Singaporeanculture where we are a bit more
(05:41):
conservative, Singaporeanculture where we're a bit more
conservative.
Do you see that there's somekind of difficulty in expressing
that sensuality, the sexuality,the intimacy that we're craving
?
It's like we crave it but wecan't talk about it.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
There's definitely a lack of nuanced vocabulary that
come with it right.
So there are a lot of, I wouldsay, hijacked narratives by
large media, by capitalism, byreligion, by puritanical
(06:22):
propaganda, in some ways or not,of what it should and shouldn't
be talked about and how itshould be talked about and the
approaches and the mindsetsurrounded.
So it does limit the curiosityand the purity of what it
actually is.
And when we look at sexualityand sensuality from a
(06:45):
perspective of nature andorganic nature, how beautiful
can it actually be?
How sacred, right, howspiritual is it?
When a woman first has hermenstruation for the very first
time?
You know the way that I look atit is like it can be a
celebration you know of.
If I had a young girl, we'd besitting in the forest, you know,
(07:10):
letting her blood drip into theearth and just pray for and
celebrate this transition in avery intimate way, of this
blossoming femininity that ishappening within her, of this
blossoming femininity that ishappening within her.
And so it can.
These concepts can be reallyclear and dear to us, or it
(07:30):
could be simply as a okay, letme go to Guardian and Watson's
and a pharmacy and get a pad.
So there's many different waysto approach our femininity.
You can do it in a verycommercial way oh, let's do
polarity work.
Or let's do like definition ofwho is a woman.
Or it could be really likegoing inside and experiencing
(07:52):
the softness I feel like it's alot of.
It is, um, the lack of time andguidance to experience this,
because we were never broughtthrough a system of awakening
and remembering of that pathway.
You know, it's a very imagineif our grandmothers,
(08:13):
grandmothers, grandmothers,grandmothers, if they had these
rituals and tribes that wouldbring them through this journey,
how that might look like forwomen and men right In men.
They had these vision questswhere they would send young boys
out into the forest and havethem be outside for like a few
days to fend for themselves, andthat's how they embrace their
masculinity.
(08:33):
Whereas in the world today,like, our milestones are college
, secondary school.
You know these are likeeducational, like these are very
.
It's a different type ofmindset and so sexuality.
Do we have any milestones forthat?
Do we have any true discussionsthat are vulnerable within the
family?
Or where are theseconversations that you had in
(08:56):
health class?
Speaker 1 (08:59):
I imagine if it was in health class, there would be
not so much conversations asmaybe teenagers rolling their
eyes or thinking it's reallycringy, or maybe they already
know because they've talkedamong themselves about it.
They found out on TikTok orInstagram or something.
But you're right, they wouldprobably not have had that
(09:21):
conversation at home in thatvulnerable, authentic way that
feels safe, that is supported,that is open and, at the same
time, that is empowering.
I'm sure there are some familiesthat do, but I would think most
would not have made the spacefor that.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
And so, at the end of the day, you know, as we're
even in, we're in corporate,we're always separating
ourselves, right, or like a lotof times where we're at work,
we're even in, we're incorporate, we're always
separating ourselves right, orlike a lot of times where we're
at work, we're like, well, youknow, vulnerability, femininity,
who we are, is a separate thingfrom who we are at work, and so
the invitation is really abouthow do you even know, like who
(10:00):
you are as a fully expressedleader, if this part that is so
deep and so sacred and sospecial to you hasn't been
allowed to see the light of day,unless in a intimate session
with a partner and a lover, andmaybe you don't want to mix that
(10:21):
.
However, giving that part ofyou some space allows you to
hold that safe space for her andhim tell us more about that.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
what do you mean by not having those um, that, that
silo mentality and thereforebringing that part of you and
expressing that as a leader oras part of a team in the
corporate space?
How do you do that?
Speaker 2 (10:50):
In many ways, I think there's a misconception that
when you are fully integrated,let's aliveness because
sexuality is part of creation,which is also a sense of
aliveness and a sense ofvibrance.
(11:12):
Right After you do a workout,you feel a sense of euphoria.
That same aliveness exists whenyou fully embrace who you are,
and so the physical experienceof that is when you speak right.
Your voice doesn't justresonate from your throat and up
, it resonates from yourgenitals all the way through
your stomach, through your chestand your lungs and then your
(11:32):
throat and up.
So the embodiment and theintegration your whole body is
communicating, instead of justyour head, which is usually
people live in their heads right, and so, from a physical
perspective and somaticexperience, you're walking.
Who you are, your essence andyour spirit, is taking up all of
your body, to the size of yourskin.
(11:54):
So you're not just this blockof consciousness that lives in
the confines of your face.
Your whole being is alive andthat feels more energetically
efficient because you are ableto express yourself in a way
(12:14):
that your body is an extensionof your communication tool as
well.
So that would be a very clearexperience of what embodiment
and alignment feels like whenall parts of your body are part
of the experience, conceptuallyspeaking, are you going to say
something?
Speaker 1 (12:35):
That makes a lot of sense, because mind, body,
spirit, they're meant to be onewhole entity.
But I think perhaps Westernphilosophy has emphasized,
overemphasized, the importanceof the brain and the mind, the
rational mind particularly, sothe conscious mind is viewed as
superior to our feelings, so allthe other things.
(12:57):
So you're right that maybe weonly live in that five or 10%,
that is not fullyrepresentational of who we are,
and so when we communicate thenwe're only communicating from
here, from the neck up.
And do you see how, how do yousee this playing out in
relationships and communication?
Speaker 2 (13:18):
and in leadership in a corporate space, relationships
is about the heart.
So a lot of times when we'reresolving a fight with the head
and not the heart, the heartstill feels uneasy.
So it's an incompletecommunication Leadership-wise.
And I'm simplifying a lot ofthis right, we can have like a
whole podcast on each of thesetopics, so I'm just giving you
(13:41):
small, little, bite-sized piecesto think about the next step.
It's not a complete picture,but it is simply a food for
thought.
In leadership, when you're notfully embodied, you're missing a
lot of communication potentialto your constituents or your
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co-leaders or your level ofempowerment, because your level
of empowerment empowers otherpeople.
And so when you are selfempowered and you feel more
congruent and integrated, you'renot only just leading a
strategy, you're leading a wayof being, and if you're looking
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to be more holistic and tobecome a better person and a
more integrated person as partof your leadership, you know
this could be a spiritualleadership.
Even if you're doing profit andloss and you're a director of a
company and you're looking atyou know very clear numbers you
can still lead, also with yourpresence.
Right, it's about your presenceand how people can show up for
(14:47):
themselves in a way that betterstheir lives.
So it's outside of just thecold, hard facts which some
people desire and some peoplewould really like to have that
separate.
So it's just another option andgiving you another chance to
grow right.
(15:10):
So sometimes stagnation can comein the form of accounting or it
can come in the form of um, theway you approach your life.
It also, and the way youapproach leadership, could also
grow in the thoughts that youthink about, in the quality of
those relationships.
The other topic you saidrelationships, leadership, and
what was the third one?
Speaker 1 (15:30):
I forgot.
That's okay, but it was relatedto that the idea of how do we
authentically embody and expressourselves in those spaces, in
the corporate context, becausethat's where it's very much
about power dynamics, it's aboutefficiency, kpis, about all
those things which are veryleft-brained and logic-centered,
(15:52):
it is very left-brained andit's also a lot about
discernment who we decide isappropriate to express this with
and in the context of a morecorporate left-brain context.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
right, you love, it is very much like that is the
way that is being rewarded,valued and validated and
recognized.
Left brain, accurate, precise,proper, generating thoughts.
And so if you're having fundoing it this is how I always
(16:28):
put it if you're having fundoing it and it's energizing you
, continue.
The problem only comes ifyou're starting to find that
it's draining, it's starting tobore you.
Then it's about how can we addmore life and more excitement
into it and that sense ofaliveness and lightness and ease
and flow that comes fromembodying more of your life
(16:50):
force and life force.
Where does life force come?
In?
Happiness, joy, that comes inbeing more you.
So that's sort of the train ofthought we're looking at.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
Do you think personality types have anything
to do with this?
Absolutely yeah.
I'm thinking of our introvertsand our quiet achievers who
might struggle with the idea ofspeaking their truth, standing
up for the things they reallybelieve in, because there is
that side of them that is reallyattached to the certainty, the
(17:22):
compliance, the getting it right, the perfection, the goal
seeking all that side of things.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
And that is totally celebrated as well.
Right, and if that is yourtruth and that is who you are,
and you get filled by gettingaccurate, compliant, you know,
ticking off all the boxes andcrossing all your T's and
dotting all your I's, and that'sgiving you aliveness and that's
(17:55):
it's still aliveness.
We're not judging the food youinput into your energy field to
create more energy.
We're simply asking are youfeeling free?
Are you feeling sovereign?
Are you feeling like your lifeis worth living right now?
And not only that, but you areexcited and you're looking
forward to your life.
And if that is a yes, with allof your introverted preferences,
then that is great I like the.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
I like your take on this, because you're giving
people options and you're notjudging it you.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
You just need to look at the truth and if you are
lying to yourself about it, thenyou also know that you are
lying to yourself about it andthere's no shame, right?
Then it's about do I actuallywant to live in truth, or do I
want to live in mediocrity, ordo I want to live in compromised
life?
Some people are very cognizantthat a life that they're
(18:51):
choosing is A and B compromise.
A and B compromise.
A and B compromise.
So by the time you hit 80,you've lived an iterative life
of total, always choosingcompromise.
So it could be like a 0.000001%of like your actual truth, and
that's fine, because that's yourdecision and that's what you've
chosen.
Right, and that is the certaintywas so important to you that
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this is that's happiness for youand then for some people,
that's the mysterious call tolive a authentic life sometimes
seems just alluring and you justwonder what would it feel like
(19:41):
to be a little bit more alignedon my path?
And if I had the choice, whatwould it feel like to venture a
little more out of my comfortzone but it's still true to me a
little bit more embodied, andyou start taking the edges and
you start facing.
What would it feel like if Ijust trusted my truth a little
(20:02):
bit more and you start makingdecisions that are more like 80%
my truth, 81% my truth, 82% mytruth, and you're getting closer
and closer to living a life Ooh, that was very scary and I
failed right there.
I still did it a little bitdifferent, and if you're finding
joy and excitement inuncovering your self-trust and
(20:24):
that your inner true voice candirect you, that's a different
choice of life.
It's a different game too.
It's a game of self-alignment.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
Self-alignment has to come from that place of
self-awareness, and I thinkthat's what you meant.
You have to know yourselfreally well before you know what
your truth is.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Either you have to know yourself really well or you
have to have a tool that canaccess that knowing in any given
time, Because right now I mightnot be aware of what the true
answer is to a variety of topicsIn my life that's happening
right now.
Maybe I just got a piece ofinformation right, so the
fallacy of truth is that it'sstagnant.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
Yeah, can you talk to us more about that?
Speaker 2 (21:16):
sure like let's say, this decision right, um, should
I do this in two years?
Should I do this in three years?
Should I do this in four years?
Should I do this in five years?
That truth may be shiftingbased on the information input.
The new information comes.
Maybe that will be clearer whatthe truth is.
Maybe it's not now decision,maybe it's later decision.
When should you have a baby?
(21:37):
There's no true answer to that.
You can only tune into yourpersonal truth to understand
when that right decision is, andthat could shift based on an
internal alignment.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
And.
I think it's really importantfor people to know that there is
this internal truth that shifts, because we, if we are very
attached to certainty, we wantto know things in advance, we
want to be able to predict andcontrol.
But what you're saying is, ifthat is, this inner calling, is
a sacred work or a kind ofunfolding, a kind of becoming,
and that takes time and it hasits own timeline.
(22:17):
It's not something we can say Ineed to finish this within one
year.
I need to complete all myevolution within one year.
We?
That's not how it works, is it?
Speaker 2 (22:30):
the evolution is a system of, or in a system, right
In an ecosystem of a symbioticrelationship, hopefully, with
nature and the earth.
So anytime there's a new inputthat comes in, we're dynamically
(22:51):
shifting to grow.
So we're living in a forest andwe're little plants right.
Anytime the sun goes up and thesun goes down, every day we're
looking at okay, where's thesunshine, let's go get a little
bit more sun.
Where's the water?
Let's go grow towards the watera little bit.
We're looking at like, we'reconstantly checking in with what
the inputs of the world are andwe're growing towards things
that give life, unless you'regoing towards things that are
(23:13):
destructive and give death.
You know it's a choice, like,luckily we have a choice and so
the sun is going to be at 50degrees north and we will every
day, without questioning andchecking in to where the sun is,
we're just going to go in thatdirection.
Okay, even the sun has moved.
I still believe the sun is in,like, even though the sun is
(23:33):
literally like a differentdegree.
So we're constantly shiftingour reference point based on the
inputs of the world.
Covid happened Did anyone planfor that?
But how many people would belike oh, I'm just going to
ignore that this happened.
I'm going to continue my lifeas I planned it the day before
you know, the year before ithappened or the day month before
it happened.
So we're constantly shiftingwith shifting inputs, and so
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truth shifts with the shifts ofthe world.
What we can count on is ourinner connection with our own
truth.
Life can change.
Economics can change.
The trading stock market canchange.
Our relationships can change.
People can die and live and newlife can come into the world.
Everything can change but ourrelationship to live and new
life can come into the world.
Everything can change but ourrelationship to ourselves and
our truth and our peace.
(24:21):
That can be something that wecan count on.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
So when you say it's important for us to discern our
truth, how do we learn to becomebetter at doing that?
How do we know that we cantrust ourselves?
Speaker 2 (24:38):
to become better at doing that.
How do we know that we cantrust ourselves?
It's through identifying whatis our true voice versus what's
not our true voice.
So, for example, in a session Ihad right before this podcast,
I was teaching my client who'san incredibly successful, just a
senior manager or somethinglike that for um, for a really
(24:59):
nice brand, and for her it'slike we were looking and we were
connecting to an expanded space.
So how do I put this?
We go through a three-stepprocess first aligning with what
I call your infinite being andyour infinite body.
The infinite being is a part ofyou that sees everything that
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is connected to creativity, thatis connected to this full
potential, and also then theinfinite body is a part of your
body that's also along for thisride, that is supportive of the
vision of your infinite being.
So we're kind of our bodies andour beings are working together
to create.
And then there is something else.
Something else can include anydoubts, any emotions, any fears,
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any judgments.
It could be from yourself, itcould be from outside of you.
It could be constructs, itcould be implanted, ideas that
you didn't even know camethrough.
It could be conventionalthoughts that you didn't even
know came through.
It could be conventionalthoughts, it could be a myriad
of things that is not this placeof peace and this place of I
can see everything and I knowit's not a knowing.
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It could be an analyticaldeduction, which is nothing
wrong with it.
It's just a different source ofinformation.
And so how can we find the truthwe have to be able to discern,
like is this thought coming frommy infinite self and peace and
safety and trust, or is thisthought coming from something
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else, infinite being, infinitebody or something else?
And once we discern that, thenwe need to get rid of that
energy and actually tune into,without all of this, what is the
actual truth and do I have afear of facing that truth?
Because sometimes we have somuch fear of facing that truth
we don't even let ourselves gothere.
It's like I'm just going toignore this decision for like
(26:51):
weeks because I know that Imight not like the truth, I
might not want to do it.
I will avoid this exercisebecause I don't want to know the
truth.
I want the truth to be this, soI'm going to fake it.
That that's the truth.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
So what you're saying also is it takes courage and
honesty to do this work, becauseit requires you to face the
truth, and you're right.
Sometimes the truth doesn'tlook like what we want it to be.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
Sometimes it's not palatable, it's not comfortable,
it can be very frightening forpeople to face extremely
frightening, and so for us totrust ourselves is frightening
because you're trusting that,despite that frightening feeling
and despite that oh my gosh, Ifeel like I'm going to die if I
make this decision existentialcrisis.
(27:43):
Despite that, to trust that itleads you to a more beautiful
place on the other end is hard.
It takes a lot of courage andself-trust to be able to hold
yourself through that process.
Imagine the fear that you wouldhave to leave an abusive
relationship.
The certainty of knowing thepain and knowing the pattern
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could be stronger than the fearof letting that go.
And are you going to be able tosurvive that?
And so the dilemma is there.
And, of course, our souls in atoxic pattern that could
manifest itself in a pattern ora comfort zone.
And to leave that comfort zone,no matter if it's good or bad
for you to go for something thatis now has been updated
(28:28):
software, update new truth thatis more aligned to you.
Software is still verycomforting, even though it's not
the right, not necessarilytaking all.
It hasn't caught up to yourlevel of growth yet Sometimes it
can be very scary.
So, yes, the long story shortself-trust is one of the deepest
(28:52):
ways that we can explore thenew frontier for ourselves and
for those who decide and dare tolook there.
The greatest growth lies thereand the greatest reward and the
greatest pride.
(29:12):
You are accelerating yourgrowth because your truth will
always guide you to a moreexpanded place.
If you're really listening tothe infinite being and it's not
like a manipulative, like like asheep's wolf and sheepskin oh,
I'm the truth.
Listen to me like you know,like that kind of a truth, um,
(29:32):
because there's a lot of truththat also are disguised voices
that are not actually true.
So when you are actuallylistening to an infamy, you will
expand, you will grow, you willbecome a better person.
That's the direction of whereyour infinite self is desiring
to take you to a place that ismore resonant to who you are,
(29:55):
that is more free, moresovereign, more loving.
Feel more of you in this body.
Speaker 1 (30:04):
When you use the word sovereign, what does it mean to
you?
What does it mean to besovereign?
Speaker 2 (30:13):
The first thing that comes to mind is to not be
controlled.
Not be controlled by fear, bydoubt, by the anticipation that
something might go wrong do youthink that is to do with?
Speaker 1 (30:36):
that is closely intertwined with your self-trust
, isn't it?
Because if I believe in myself,if I trust that things are
going to come out okay, thatsomehow on the other side of
this something more beautiful isgoing to emerge, then I can
relax into that.
I can allow that as opposed tobracing ourselves.
What if, what?
What if, what if it all goeswrong and I lose everything?
Speaker 2 (30:59):
Absolutely, and it's so much easier said than done.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
Yes, and you mentioned holding yourself
through that messy middle, thattransition.
So what are some ways forpeople to hold themselves
through while they're doing thisdeep work?
Speaker 2 (31:16):
Definitely get the support of a facilitator to hold
that space with you so that youcan fall apart as you're
accessing that truth.
For someone to just hold youwith you doing it yourself can
be terrifying.
You could be delaying for years.
And then, secondly, finding theresources to get rid of the
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things that you're bracingyourself against.
You're walking through the fireto see your truth.
Your truth could be seen in avery nurturing environment.
It doesn't have to be sointense.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
And I suppose that's where the power of community
comes in, and that's why wedon't want to walk this road
alone.
We are looking for the rightpeople, the safe, safe kind of a
community, to support us andwalk alongside with us, and
that's what you do, isn't itcreating that?
Speaker 2 (32:06):
community.
The community, yes, and it'svery important to pick a
community that doesn't imposetheir own judgment on you.
Don't impose their own opinionsor their own pathway on you,
because this is ultimately yourpath.
You're not looking for otherpeople's advice.
This is ultimately your truth,is your advisor.
(32:28):
So we're detaching ourselvesfrom from walking a combination
of everybody else's average path, from other data points and
statistics yes, keep that inmind as an input and, at the
same time, look inside to seewhat's wanting to grow.
(32:52):
And then the community thatyou're looking for are also
people that are listening totheir truth.
That's the community you got tofind, the community that is
inspiring you, that's going outof their comfort zone.
So, if you're looking atcommunity, you're looking for
people who are also doing thisjourney, this fearless journey
(33:15):
of self-trust.
Speaker 1 (33:20):
That makes a lot of sense.
If you're growing, you want tobe with people who are also
growing, then that's the way toencourage everyone and be in
alignment.
So you're in alignment withyour external environment in
that sense, because they areseeking something similar and
you're reattuning, reattuning toyourself within, so that's your
own internal alignment.
So then you become thatcongruent person who can express
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yourself, embody all thosequalities, become connected with
your higher self, your infinitemind that you're referring to,
yeah, and put out that differentkind of energy into the world
and put out.
So then your courage is nolonger external, it is in your
it's, in your vibration it is,and you'll walk differently,
(34:04):
you'll speak differently, yourtone will be different,
everything will be different.
Speaker 2 (34:07):
Yes, my client was like I'm walking into the subway
station and I'm just, myposture is me.
I'm not thinking about my newposture.
It is like I'm looking atmyself, my new posture, it is
like I'm looking at myself in myreflection.
I'm like, wow, who is this?
He's just like.
I've never really experiencedthis, this way of being in the
(34:27):
world, so conscious, yes, so.
Speaker 1 (34:35):
So tell us about your programs and who are they for?
Speaker 2 (34:39):
so we have a program called the central liberation
program.
We also have a program calledliberated leadership.
They're all for people whodesire this deeper connection
with their self-trust.
And the trust comes from theinner, like we spoke about the
(35:05):
inner, most beautiful parts andthe truest part of you through
breath, work, through practice,through connection, community,
and how to find that within us,through sensuality, through
meditation, through inner workor simply through joy and
(35:27):
excitement and playfulness andinspiration.
So we go through many layers ofcommunication frameworks, how
to do that within ourselves,within a partnership, within a
lovership, and then how toexpress that in terms of
leadership.
So every step of the way and wealso train orgasmic energy
(35:48):
transmutation, we trainvisualizations, we're training
how to open your energy from theinside out with many, many
precise tools that cultivatelife force, energy through the
form of pleasure, and then howto become more effective and
(36:11):
embodied in the potential thatyou can contribute to the world
and work.
Embodied in the potential thatyou can contribute to the world
and work without compromisingyourself as much or at all.
The idea is to be positivelyfeeling, authentically living
your life while contributing themost that you can.
(36:31):
The idea is a win-win you beyou, you get to add value and
experience the impact of yourvalue.
That's the vision, and so, so,yeah, so there's two tracks.
One track is totally aboutliberating your sexuality and
liberating your full alivenessin all areas, and then the other
(36:52):
track is doing that throughresonating with your values,
resonating with your commitments, and they both are approaching
it from all the angles ofphysical, psychological,
energetic and orgasmic.
Speaker 1 (37:10):
Okay, so what's the best way, honey, for people to
get in touch and find out more?
Speaker 2 (37:15):
You can find me on TantraSingaporecom H-T-T-P-S dot
dot slash slash.
Tantrasingaporecom, intimacyCoaching or YoloAbundancecom,
where a lot of the leadershipstuff is.
So these are the two locations.
I've got a YouTube channel aswell and many, many, many, many
books and eBooks and resourcesall over the internet, for
(37:39):
tantalizing questions is one ofthem.
Speaker 1 (37:42):
Fabulous.
So we'll make sure to includeyour links in the show notes so
that people can read up more andget in touch with you and find
out more about your programs.
So thank you so much, honey,for coming on the podcast today
and sharing your verytantalizing view of spirituality
.
You know what is sacred.
What does it mean to be alive?
What does it mean to besovereign?
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How do you walk in your truthand how do you embody so that
you are showing up in the world,being in the world, in a whole
new way?
Thank you so much.
You're welcome.
It was a pleasure.
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