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Welcome back.
Yeah, those back.
We back.
Welcome to season five
Malcom (00:29):
The master plan yeah, I don't want to get caught up in
the copyright infringement.
But yeah.
Uh, that's that?
She was the one mouth for aminute.
AEM here with the Nike hoodie.
Again, like I'm trying to getsponsored, but you know, I ain't
putting out.
No.
No tweets or no.
I'm not reposting shit.
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Or I'm not taking my, get to theclub, show it off like that
either.
Thug.
But yeah, man, it's good to beback.
I know if I was going to be backwith the, get back.
Uh, well, you know, podcast isin my soul.
Well, at least talking, Iapparently can't shut the fuck
up.
So.
Why not.
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Uh, record some of it.
You know what I'm saying andshare with y'all.
but like every season goingthrough some different shit,
some of the same shit.
But somebody topics I am talkingabout.
It just stuff we all deal with.
So hopefully you can relate.
You know what I'm saying?
But this is episode 51.
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Not every of 51.
Show time.
And this is about showing thefuck up.
Sometimes it's not about if yougoing to be good or bad.
Sometimes you just got to keepgetting there until you get
good.
Sometimes you're going to haveto be a little bad and you're
going to have to accept thatshit.
But without further ado, let'sget into that.
I quoted a date with the Fuckwas that.
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Hi.
Let's go let's go.
When you show up and keep putting your work out
there.
Good things start to happen.
You make new connections.
People reach out to you,opportunities.
Start to present themselves.
So pretty much you don't showup.
You get nothing, you get snowopportunities.
You get no new connections.
You get no new possibilities.
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You just do the same shit.
So it was definitely good toshow up.
Uh, currently I started a newjob.
You know what I'm saying?
I'm not going to say, you know,for private policy and condition
terms, I'm not going to saywell, company.
But, um, yes, I knew, you knowwhat I'm saying?
And, um, At first, I was justworried about so much about
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being good or bad.
But, you know, one thing I wasreminded is I just, just keep
showing up and I just beenshowing up.
And I broke through a lot ofthe.
Should that was making me unsuremyself.
You know what?
You start a new job.
Or you start a new, anything youknow, When I started this
podcast, I started out likeLeBron James.
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I was saying expectations.
I mean, as far as, you know, Befeeling uncomfortable.
But not, not in the numbersdepartment.
Not yet.
At least we going to get there.
It's going to be the Caesar.
We going to break through ourceiling.
You know what I'm saying?
We go.
Going to raise the roof likeLuke yard.
But yeah, let's get into theepisode.
It's Showtime, baby.
When it comes to show wind up.
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there's a lot of power in it.
Yeah.
Like let's say you're great.
Every now and then.
Someone who does it?
Not as good as you, but does itconsistently is going to give
father.
And yeah, we're not incompetition with people, but.
doing things repeatedly is theonly way to get better.
Like there's no way around it.
Like, I don't understand.
Listen, when I say, when I'mtalking to somebody, I'm talking
to me.
Like.
If you do something once in awhile.
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You're not going to be come themassive or nothing.
You're going to master notbecoming the master of nothing.
So it was important todefinitely be consistent, man.
That's very important.
And.
How you do something is how youdo everything.
So you want to be consistent atwork, be consistent at home with
your relationships.
Uh, which a health.
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which are decisions.
You know what I mean?
I know we not.
Yeah, we human.
We gonna fuck up.
Was it just make sure.
Like we get that lesson andlike, Consciously, try to
change.
Well, let us in the wrongdirection instead of like, Like
just leaving it up to fate,like.
You know, I believe in a higherpower.
I believe you had this.
Some things you got to leave inhis hands.
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but.
You got to do your part to manthat there's nothing in this
world that.
Can't get, I mean, you could getmarried to yourself, you know
what I'm saying?
But.
Partnerships.
Help.
You know what I'm saying?
Some point to have relationshipsand, and showing up for your
family, man, like.
I'm going to be the one thatkeep it a buck like, yo, I'm not
great with keeping in touch withfamily.
Like.
I mean, you would think, right?
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My jolly ass over here.
With the self-help.
But yeah, man, I I'm like I'mthe worst, like.
You know, the certain familymembers that I haven't seen my
kids yet.
I don't call.
You know, sometimes I go monthswithout calling.
Like, I'm always in my head.
Like, that's crazy.
Like.
Most of my time is spent me.
I'm in the I'm in the whirlwindof the past and the future.
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And it's like, I'm barely I, andI know being, being present.
It's one of the best things youcould do, right?
Because it pulls you away fromthat.
And that's when you realize thatyou really in your head cause
you like yo.
When I'm not thinking about whatI did wrong before and how I
might mess up again in thefuture.
I'm like, I'm all messed up, butwhen I'm like, yo right now,
where you doing right now,you're not fucking up right now.
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Your kids are healthy.
You got a roof over your head,you got food to eat.
You know what I'm saying?
You've got this new Nike.
Because the other one I had waswild.
Dusty.
You know, And I can still talkabout tall ass.
I still got the podcast.
So.
But yeah, man, you've got toshow up for your family.
And think about it, right?
Like.
There's actors.
There's.
Like they're CEO's that started?
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In the mail room.
And.
The difference that set thatsets us apart is like just, they
kept showing up.
And in continuing to show up,they give themselves a chance to
be better.
And.
You know, you have excuses.
There are excuses that like arereasonable.
Like y'all already know.
I got kids there's healthreasons and all that, but.
You got to be honest withyourself.
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You know what I'm saying?
You know, sometimes you'll bebullshitting yourself.
You'd be like, Nah, I can't dothis because it is, you know
what I mean?
But.
You know, you could have did it.
Like we got to, the more we getrid of those moments and just.
At the moments where the excusesacceptable.
Uh, because there's no wayaround it.
You know what I'm saying?
Like there's gonna, that's gonnahappen.
sucks that it is, but that'sjust part of life.
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And it's the price to pay, man.
Like, I feel like everything gota price to pay.
Right?
You want to be great.
You want to make what you wantthis.
Comfort life, but it's going totake.
Uncomfortable moves at first.
To give you that comfort at youwant.
And then if you want to maintainit, you got to continue.
The uncomfort shit.
Uh, or the shit that make youcut out of your element to give
you that.
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Lifestyle you want life?
You want.
I always keep it a buck.
But that's.
That's not what it is for meright now, but I know.
That's why I need to get tolike, The little shit that we
don't pay attention to.
It affects us in the bigmoments.
You know what I'm saying?
So.
It could be.
Something simple.
Fuck.
But if you did, as simple asfuck.
In that area, you're going to dothat.
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You going to do that shit allover the place.
So.
And, you know, confidence playsa big key, but.
I feel like you got to just pushthat to the side, whether you
feel good about yourself or yourself esteem is low.
Like just go.
Give that speech.
Going from the class.
Fight that mobile.
Fuck.
Like just go do it bad.
Like.
And it's the only way to howyou're going to overcome
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obstacles because obstacles area part of this journey, no
matter what, there's obstaclesin life.
You have obstacles to get whereyou at right now?
That's not going to stop.
But, you know, the bigger, therisk, the better the reward and.
And I, and I noticed, man, this,you learn something every time.
You do something new from thisjob?
Yo.
I was so like, Down on myself,like.
Like I couldn't do it or.
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I feel like I was never going tofigure it out.
And now that.
That I'll be, you know what I'msaying?
I'll be.
You know, I can get the work.
I and I get the work.
Yeah.
Like I don't, I don't over thinkit, um, Because you want to be
better, but that, that comeswith time.
But I also don't want to havelike that.
I want to make sure I take thatscarcity shit.
Like if for whatever reason itdon't work out or whatever the
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case may be.
I don't want to like, think mylife is over because.
Before I get any job, I alwaysthink I'm not going to get the
job and I get the job.
I have a little bit more faith.
We've got to start speaking alittle bit more positive, man.
Like sometimes in my self talk,I be negative as fuck man.
No need for a lot.
But yeah, man, overcomingobstacles.
And if you have anxiety,depression, or any type of
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physical limitation, it could beharder, but there's people out
there that have done it, man, isthere's someone in a wheelchair.
Uh, that they said we'll neverwalk again is either walking
again.
Oh, he's flying right now in theprivate jet.
You know what I mean?
Like.
Canada obstacles.
Gain your weight.
I mean anxiety, depression.
Because I deal with that, Sothat's the type of season I'm in
right now.
I'm in a.
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I'm in a funk man, like.
You know, I would just wake upevery day.
Not being the, my gratefulnessjust.
Pressure.
Waco with pressure every day.
You know, I mean, All parentsknow.
sometimes no matter how good youthink you are, you.
It's never good enough for youto be at peace with it.
At least for me right now.
I mean, Maybe if I level up.
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But.
That's okay.
Yeah, have I just got to learnto live with that?
I had to learn to do withoutmoms.
I don't know how to live withoutbeing in New York.
You know what I'm saying?
Sometimes that's still a littletough.
I still miss my city, but I likethe calmness out here in mass.
You know, it's chill.
But yeah, man, overcomingobstacles to staying committed.
That's all discipline.
That's all part of you reallywanting to do it.
And so when you start overcomingobstacles, It's like, you know,
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you get that's where thatconfidence comes in, right?
Because you don't get confidencefrom doing easy shit.
Like, that's what I realizedwhen I played ball.
I was just the dude, the peoplethat I know that I could bust,
they ass, he going to say that Icould've gotten me.
I just keep.
Playing against them.
And then out.
Then I wonder why I never gotbetter.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, You need that challenge,those challenges bring the best
out of you.
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And.
Fear as much as fucked up as itfeels, man.
That like everybody feels it.
Just, some people just goforward with it.
Now I mentioned earlier aboutbeing present, present.
Present can get you where.
You know, just being mindfulwhere you at right now.
And.
You know, filling yourfingertips.
You know what I'm saying?
Your toes like.
Seeing what's in front of youright now gets you out of that.
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That could get you out of thatmental loop where you just think
about all the shit that.
Didn't go good or it's not goinggood or might not go good in the
future.
You don't even know.
I'm seeing a new therapist.
Last therapist I had, I think Imentioned her last season.
She was eating her lunch.
While trying to make me feelbetter.
Or, you know, wild.
While doing her job.
some unprofessional more miss,you know what I'm saying?
I ain't going to go all out withit.
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But I got a new therapist andshe's great.
I've been.
I've been using some of her tipsto kind of like.
You know, saying, you know, justcatch myself.
recently I realized I.
I mean, I it's like how younotice this now, but yeah, I
could be a little bit dramaticsometimes when, when I'm not
getting something.
It's like I get into victim orlike, oh, I could never figure
this out.
I.
I am never going to do this.
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I am not strong enough.
And you like, yo.
And then there was like, yo,what, what story are you telling
yourself?
So it goes from messing up.
To.
Being homeless.
To be in a shitty dad to allthese other things.
He's like, none of that'shappened yet.
And it makes you think like, yo.
We've got to think about thestory that we're telling
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ourself.
That's the most important story.
In your life.
Because the story that you'retelling yourself, Is what you're
going to follow and believe it.
So, if you're telling yourself.
You nothing and you never goingto get nothing.
That's what your story willalways be.
But to change the story isliterally just changing the
mindset.
Right.
Nah.
Um, I am great.
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And because I'm going to keepshowing up.
It's only a matter of timebefore.
I get to do whatever I want andenjoy the life that I, that I
always wanted.
Like, You know what I'm saying?
So.
May show and, and the story issimple is just.
Sometimes I'll catch myself justthinking about fucked up shit.
Why not?
Like, think about like really.
Think about what you want.
Why are you going to sit thereand think about what's not going
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right.
Think about, think about goodstuff.
Right.
Like, you're not going to watcha bad movie, but you're going to
focus on the bad thought.
You know what I mean?
Like we got to like open ourminds up a little bit, like.
You know what.
I'm not going to wa I'm notgoing to focus on his bathroom.
We're focused on some goodthoughts.
And the focus on as good asmovie like John wick four,
actually, it was like, I waslike a action packed.
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Nonstop thriller, like.
You know, it was like, You knowhow they'd be like, oh, it was
only 10 minutes of action.
It was only like 10 minutes oftalking.
She was great though.
being a personal, your wordsshowing up for your friends, for
your family for work.
You know what I'm saying givesyou that good credibility, that
good reputation, but the mostimportant reputation is the one
you have with yourself, man,like.
Yes.
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So reputation means everythingbecause.
It will always change becausesometimes.
The way you do something.
That's that may not how it ma.
That's not how it might beconveyed to others.
Right.
Uh, so.
you gotta be aware of that, butif you make sure that you like.
When you say you going to dosomething, you keep your word to
you.
Like, I feel like my friendthat's suddenly stoppable.
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Trade or whatever the fuck it isto have like.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, you keep your word to you.
So you say, yo, I'm not going tostop doing this and I'm making
20,000 a month.
If you keep your word.
So you guess who's making 20,000a month, bro, like stop playing
with it, man.
Or ma'am.
I feel like when you call awoman, man, that's what she
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knows you.
Oh, she's just fucked her wholeday up.
You can have gray hair andeverything.
You'd be like, yo, all right,well, have a good day.
Ma'am she's like, damn, I'm afucking man.
Uh, you know, I ain't going tofry even when.
When I, you know, sir, you knowwhat I'm saying?
I'm like, damn, I'm a sir level.
Or no, Mr.
That's what you be like.
Damn.
But yo, but one thing you cannever do.
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It's never called Mr.
Or Mrs to a doctor cause theywill check your ass real quick.
I don't know.
Y'all.
That's show out there with'em.
Uh, Dan, what was the showcalled?
Oh, follow the leader.
Where, you know what I'm saying?
I had Dr.
Marty Solon, and I didn't say itat first.
And she checked my, she checkedme right on the, on the thing.
And I'm like, yo, I'm keepingthat that's fucking.
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That's footage.
Oh man.
And another thing you might comeacross through your quest to.
Be better.
Be successful.
Competence anything.
and the process of showing up.
Is being a little, a little bitvulnerable.
Vulnerable.
Fuck.
Honorable.
I can't say it now.
Vulnerable.
But you gotta be a little bitvulnerable.
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Showing up being successful,accomplishing.
The things you want toaccomplish the goals you want to
reach.
You got to put yourself outthere.
So that means that you're goingto make mistakes.
You're going to fail.
You're going to go do someemotions in the process, but.
Your willingness to keep goingand not stopping no matter what
gets in your ways, the only way.
And that's real facts.
Everybody got a story, everybodygoing through some shit.
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Everybody.
Have doubts about themselves.
But why everybody don't get thesame results because everybody
takes different actions.
You know, actions speak louderthan words.
And.
You know, it's going to belouder than the things that
you'd sell yourself in yourhead.
Borrowers.
Thank you.
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So.
What happens if you don't showup, what happens if you just
stay in bed?
What happens if you just callout what happens if you don't
work?
When you got free time.
And decide to distract yourself.
You'll never see.
Or even be in the position oreven have potential to see the
life that you dream of.
You'll never be able to.
No, who you really are.
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Because who you are is notsomebody that stays home.
and.
Does it have hope for anything?
Good to happen to them.
That's not, you.
That's.
Not knowing.
That fail is all part of life.
And.
Well, it makes us better as whenwe move on and move forward in.
And just keep trying.
And if.
And I'm not going to lie.
Everybody cares about.
Well, the people think to anextent.
So.
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Everyone respects someone thatwon't give up.
No matter what they go through.
I mean, sometimes I can.
Share my personal stuff.
And be all out with it, but.
People still gotta go and dealwith these stuff at the end of
the day.
And no one's going to be reallybe thinking about.
What you didn't do the only onethat's going to be.
On that shit as you So it's upto you to make those decisions
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and those actions that.
Lead you up that ladder.
Not down that hill.
And even if you fall down thathill, like Jackie jail, get your
ass up and get to that.
Well, yeah.
Ah, man.
Yeah, man.
Not showing up.
You just remove possibilities.
You remove connections.
All these things in.
I feel like the reason my babiesare here right now is because
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once upon a time I was reallybold.
And at that moment I realizedthat.
Life rewards.
The bold.
But like, you know, for me, it'sharder to.
Continue my destructive paththen than it is to.
Embrace.
You know what I'm saying?
Motivation to, to move up inlife.
Easy the easy way.
Most likely it's always,everybody else can do it.
It's not going to challenge you.
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And you'll just be the same.
And you're not trying to be thesame.
You're trying to be better.
So.
If you're not better in thethings that you're doing now.
I think that's a notice.
You know what I'm saying?
Taped on your door.
But I, you know, it's taped onyour head or taped in front of
you.
You see it and you ignore it.
But it's time to pay attention.
Tom to finally walk into thatlight, embrace those things that
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are good about you.
Embrace those things that arenot cause.
I also make you human.
Right cause.
I just feel like there's noworld that.
It could not, you know, there'snot going to be something wrong
with you, right?
Like, In a perfect world.
Something will still be wrongwith somebody cause.
If all of all our perceptions isdifferent.
Then this perfection reallyexists.
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It's just only in the meat, themind of there'll be holder like
beauty or.
And one thing, when you on thisjourney of.
Trying to.
Get to a place in your lifewhere you happy with.
There's nothing like sharingthat experience with people
that's on the same level.
Now.
You know, it's sucks that thepeople we grew up with or the
people that we love the most nowmay not always be on that same
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vibration.
But they might not be there forthat.
That's not what they role inyour movie is their movie.
Their role is to love you.
To know you got somebody that's,you know, that they there for
you.
And then you got people that seelife similar to you.
Because it will never be exact.
And.
Yeah, able to speak in.
Give each other insight onthings you've done.
Seeing someone in a positionwhere you at.
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Or want to be.
But they also can understandwhere you are.
You know what I'm saying?
That's, that's what it's allabout.
my and my 50th episode.
Uh, the guests I had on theshow.
He bought a community and like,that's something.
That I never really embraced,but it does make a difference,
right?
Because you hang out with peoplethat just complain all day,
you're going to complain to.
It's like, if you.
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I always like from experience.
When there's a whole group andlike, Out of the 10 people, nine
smoke that 10th one.
That's just common for you.
You going to one day, you'regoing to get mad and there's
going to be smoke around you.
And you're gonna be like, yo,gimme that shit.
So that's why, you know, yougot.
You gotta be careful who youhang out with.
And I say, who you hang out withon a regular basis because you
know, you hang out with certainpeople once in a blue, it ain't
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nothing, but you hang out withnegative people in the reg.
Forget about it.
But yeah, man, like they, um, Ithere's this quote that says,
uh, 80% of success is justshowing up.
So imagine the things you canachieve.
The experiences you can have thepeople in places.
That you could potentially go.
And witness and be part of.
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You might, in some cases youmight be part of some history.
Just because you showed up.
Yeah.
I was saying the goodbye.
There'll be boy.
Uh, You don't million man, Marchor Mon gave a speech or.
You know what I mean?
They probably didn't want to go,but let me see what we got to
talk about it.
And they, they.
Pull them now you bought ahistory.
Or you don't, I don't believe innone of this.
Politics ship blood when Obamabecame president.
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especially if you still believedin them, you know, at the time I
believed in the bullshit.
It was like, wow, like I voted,I was, I felt part of something,
you know, but.
That's another story.
Yeah, man, but I, I hope I gotit through to you.
Like, yo, it doesn't matter.
How good you are, how you knowhow bad you are or what you've
done and what you didn't do.
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Consistency showing up beingthere.
Eventually things would getbetter.
especially when you don't focuson not being better, like.
You got to focus on what's that.
Hand.
Not.
You know, where you at with it?
Because sometimes when you wentwith it, My discourage you.
Like right now.
It'll say new job.
My numbers.
Ain't great.
Well, you know what I'm saying?
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I'm showing up.
I'm getting there on time.
I may not always thought.
You know my shift all the time,but I'm always there all the
time.
Sometimes.
Shit.
She takes a minute to load up.
But, And that's what that taughtme, man.
Like, Now, if I apply this toanything.
To the podcast.
To my business.
You know, it's, uh, even withfamily, man sometimes.
I can't be there.
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You know, and this sucks, but.
I put myself in a position.
So I could show up and not missimportant things.
I've right now.
One of my closest friend losthis pops.
I'm at rest in peace.
Um, You know, and I don't knowif I'm going to be able to make
it.
You know what I'm saying?
Don't got the money calling inthe greatest condition.
wish I could show up to that,but.
we all go through things and,you know, sometimes when we
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going through something, wedon't understand why people just
can't push whatever they goingthrough aside and just be there
for us.
And me being in this situation.
And others maybe realize, youknow, sometimes.
It's about, as you want to showup, sometimes you just can't.
I mean, I ain't going to Rob myway to, to New York, you know
what I'm saying?
Like, and I got to take a chanceon my car.
And I can't take certainchances.
Like I used to cause.
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My kids depend on me coming backhome.
So.
And I think about shit likethat, man, like.
You know what I'm saying?
I need to be in their life is aslong as possible.
You know, as long as God.
You know, as long as God wantedto be, of course, but.
Share.
If I could stay in their lifefor till I'm more hunted, 120
hours, the age limits.
The 300 and twenties.
You never know.
Well, yeah, man, this was agreat episode.
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Let's get it to that final soon.
When you indoubt.
Showing up makes a difference.
If you stay with you all, youwon't get far.
I mean, how could you.
If you haven't made a move.
Play the hand you're dealt.
They find a way to beat thedealer.
And every time you take a stepcloser to your goal.
You won't be as far away as youonce was.
But a better version.
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That's showing up like the batsignal.
It's a habit you embodied.
And nobody can take that awayfrom you.
You it's a reputation you onlyhave with yourself.
But the great thing is itaffects everyone around you.
So be there be present.
But most importantly, be you.
I know that's not my usualflashy Dashy shit, but that's
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what I had.
And that's what I'm going to gowith.
Thank you for joining me on thisepisode.
51st.
Or not.
You know, I have more, but.
Uh, preciate ya Rocko me anotherseason.
Even though Lassie season wasthe not season, but it was a
season is still in a way.
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It, this is your first timelistening.
Or you will regular degular.
I appreciate you till next time.
Peace love wound though, as.
Welcome back.
Yeah, those back.
We back.
Welcome to season five
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The master plan yeah, I don't want to get caught up in
the copyright infringement.
But yeah.
Uh, that's that?
She was the one mouth for aminute.
AEM here with the Nike hoodie.
Again, like I'm trying to getsponsored, but you know, I ain't
putting out.
No.
No tweets or no.
I'm not reposting shit.
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Or I'm not taking my, get to theclub, show it off like that
either.
Thug.
But yeah, man, it's good to beback.
I know if I was going to be backwith the, get back.
Uh, well, you know, podcast isin my soul.
Well, at least talking, Iapparently can't shut the fuck
up.
So.
Why not.
(01:11):
Uh, record some of it.
You know what I'm saying andshare with y'all.
but like every season goingthrough some different shit,
some of the same shit.
But somebody topics I am talkingabout.
It just stuff we all deal with.
So hopefully you can relate.
You know what I'm saying?
But this is episode 51.
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Not every of 51.
Show time.
And this is about showing thefuck up.
Sometimes it's not about if yougoing to be good or bad.
Sometimes you just got to keepgetting there until you get
good.
Sometimes you're going to haveto be a little bad and you're
going to have to accept thatshit.
But without further ado, let'sget into that.
I quoted a date with the Fuckwas that.
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Hi.
Let's go let's go.
When you show up and keep putting your work out
there.
Good things start to happen.
You make new connections.
People reach out to you,opportunities.
Start to present themselves.
So pretty much you don't showup.
You get nothing, you get snowopportunities.
You get no new connections.
You get no new possibilities.
(02:16):
You just do the same shit.
So it was definitely good toshow up.
Uh, currently I started a newjob.
You know what I'm saying?
I'm not going to say, you know,for private policy and condition
terms, I'm not going to saywell, company.
But, um, yes, I knew, you knowwhat I'm saying?
And, um, At first, I was justworried about so much about
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being good or bad.
But, you know, one thing I wasreminded is I just, just keep
showing up and I just beenshowing up.
And I broke through a lot ofthe.
Should that was making me unsuremyself.
You know what?
You start a new job.
Or you start a new, anything youknow, When I started this
podcast, I started out likeLeBron James.
(02:58):
I was saying expectations.
I mean, as far as, you know, Befeeling uncomfortable.
But not, not in the numbersdepartment.
Not yet.
At least we going to get there.
It's going to be the Caesar.
We going to break through ourceiling.
You know what I'm saying?
We go.
Going to raise the roof likeLuke yard.
But yeah, let's get into theepisode.
It's Showtime, baby.
When it comes to show wind up.
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there's a lot of power in it.
Yeah.
Like let's say you're great.
Every now and then.
Someone who does it?
Not as good as you, but does itconsistently is going to give
father.
And yeah, we're not incompetition with people, but.
doing things repeatedly is theonly way to get better.
Like there's no way around it.
Like, I don't understand.
Listen, when I say, when I'mtalking to somebody, I'm talking
to me.
Like.
If you do something once in awhile.
(03:39):
You're not going to be come themassive or nothing.
You're going to master notbecoming the master of nothing.
So it was important todefinitely be consistent, man.
That's very important.
And.
How you do something is how youdo everything.
So you want to be consistent atwork, be consistent at home with
your relationships.
Uh, which a health.
(03:59):
which are decisions.
You know what I mean?
I know we not.
Yeah, we human.
We gonna fuck up.
Was it just make sure.
Like we get that lesson andlike, Consciously, try to
change.
Well, let us in the wrongdirection instead of like, Like
just leaving it up to fate,like.
You know, I believe in a higherpower.
I believe you had this.
Some things you got to leave inhis hands.
(04:20):
but.
You got to do your part to manthat there's nothing in this
world that.
Can't get, I mean, you could getmarried to yourself, you know
what I'm saying?
But.
Partnerships.
Help.
You know what I'm saying?
Some point to have relationshipsand, and showing up for your
family, man, like.
I'm going to be the one thatkeep it a buck like, yo, I'm not
great with keeping in touch withfamily.
Like.
I mean, you would think, right?
(04:40):
My jolly ass over here.
With the self-help.
But yeah, man, I I'm like I'mthe worst, like.
You know, the certain familymembers that I haven't seen my
kids yet.
I don't call.
You know, sometimes I go monthswithout calling.
Like, I'm always in my head.
Like, that's crazy.
Like.
Most of my time is spent me.
I'm in the I'm in the whirlwindof the past and the future.
(05:02):
And it's like, I'm barely I, andI know being, being present.
It's one of the best things youcould do, right?
Because it pulls you away fromthat.
And that's when you realize thatyou really in your head cause
you like yo.
When I'm not thinking about whatI did wrong before and how I
might mess up again in thefuture.
I'm like, I'm all messed up, butwhen I'm like, yo right now,
where you doing right now,you're not fucking up right now.
(05:22):
Your kids are healthy.
You got a roof over your head,you got food to eat.
You know what I'm saying?
You've got this new Nike.
Because the other one I had waswild.
Dusty.
You know, And I can still talkabout tall ass.
I still got the podcast.
So.
But yeah, man, you've got toshow up for your family.
And think about it, right?
Like.
There's actors.
There's.
Like they're CEO's that started?
(05:43):
In the mail room.
And.
The difference that set thatsets us apart is like just, they
kept showing up.
And in continuing to show up,they give themselves a chance to
be better.
And.
You know, you have excuses.
There are excuses that like arereasonable.
Like y'all already know.
I got kids there's healthreasons and all that, but.
You got to be honest withyourself.
(06:04):
You know what I'm saying?
You know, sometimes you'll bebullshitting yourself.
You'd be like, Nah, I can't dothis because it is, you know
what I mean?
But.
You know, you could have did it.
Like we got to, the more we getrid of those moments and just.
At the moments where the excusesacceptable.
Uh, because there's no wayaround it.
You know what I'm saying?
Like there's gonna, that's gonnahappen.
sucks that it is, but that'sjust part of life.
(06:25):
And it's the price to pay, man.
Like, I feel like everything gota price to pay.
Right?
You want to be great.
You want to make what you wantthis.
Comfort life, but it's going totake.
Uncomfortable moves at first.
To give you that comfort at youwant.
And then if you want to maintainit, you got to continue.
The uncomfort shit.
Uh, or the shit that make youcut out of your element to give
you that.
(06:45):
Lifestyle you want life?
You want.
I always keep it a buck.
But that's.
That's not what it is for meright now, but I know.
That's why I need to get tolike, The little shit that we
don't pay attention to.
It affects us in the bigmoments.
You know what I'm saying?
So.
It could be.
Something simple.
Fuck.
But if you did, as simple asfuck.
In that area, you're going to dothat.
(07:05):
You going to do that shit allover the place.
So.
And, you know, confidence playsa big key, but.
I feel like you got to just pushthat to the side, whether you
feel good about yourself or yourself esteem is low.
Like just go.
Give that speech.
Going from the class.
Fight that mobile.
Fuck.
Like just go do it bad.
Like.
And it's the only way to howyou're going to overcome
(07:26):
obstacles because obstacles area part of this journey, no
matter what, there's obstaclesin life.
You have obstacles to get whereyou at right now?
That's not going to stop.
But, you know, the bigger, therisk, the better the reward and.
And I, and I noticed, man, this,you learn something every time.
You do something new from thisjob?
Yo.
I was so like, Down on myself,like.
Like I couldn't do it or.
(07:47):
I feel like I was never going tofigure it out.
And now that.
That I'll be, you know what I'msaying?
I'll be.
You know, I can get the work.
I and I get the work.
Yeah.
Like I don't, I don't over thinkit, um, Because you want to be
better, but that, that comeswith time.
But I also don't want to havelike that.
I want to make sure I take thatscarcity shit.
Like if for whatever reason itdon't work out or whatever the
(08:09):
case may be.
I don't want to like, think mylife is over because.
Before I get any job, I alwaysthink I'm not going to get the
job and I get the job.
I have a little bit more faith.
We've got to start speaking alittle bit more positive, man.
Like sometimes in my self talk,I be negative as fuck man.
No need for a lot.
But yeah, man, overcomingobstacles.
And if you have anxiety,depression, or any type of
(08:30):
physical limitation, it could beharder, but there's people out
there that have done it, man, isthere's someone in a wheelchair.
Uh, that they said we'll neverwalk again is either walking
again.
Oh, he's flying right now in theprivate jet.
You know what I mean?
Like.
Canada obstacles.
Gain your weight.
I mean anxiety, depression.
Because I deal with that, Sothat's the type of season I'm in
right now.
I'm in a.
(08:50):
I'm in a funk man, like.
You know, I would just wake upevery day.
Not being the, my gratefulnessjust.
Pressure.
Waco with pressure every day.
You know, I mean, All parentsknow.
sometimes no matter how good youthink you are, you.
It's never good enough for youto be at peace with it.
At least for me right now.
I mean, Maybe if I level up.
(09:10):
But.
That's okay.
Yeah, have I just got to learnto live with that?
I had to learn to do withoutmoms.
I don't know how to live withoutbeing in New York.
You know what I'm saying?
Sometimes that's still a littletough.
I still miss my city, but I likethe calmness out here in mass.
You know, it's chill.
But yeah, man, overcomingobstacles to staying committed.
That's all discipline.
That's all part of you reallywanting to do it.
And so when you start overcomingobstacles, It's like, you know,
(09:33):
you get that's where thatconfidence comes in, right?
Because you don't get confidencefrom doing easy shit.
Like, that's what I realizedwhen I played ball.
I was just the dude, the peoplethat I know that I could bust,
they ass, he going to say that Icould've gotten me.
I just keep.
Playing against them.
And then out.
Then I wonder why I never gotbetter.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, You need that challenge,those challenges bring the best
out of you.
(09:53):
And.
Fear as much as fucked up as itfeels, man.
That like everybody feels it.
Just, some people just goforward with it.
Now I mentioned earlier aboutbeing present, present.
Present can get you where.
You know, just being mindfulwhere you at right now.
And.
You know, filling yourfingertips.
You know what I'm saying?
Your toes like.
Seeing what's in front of youright now gets you out of that.
(10:15):
That could get you out of thatmental loop where you just think
about all the shit that.
Didn't go good or it's not goinggood or might not go good in the
future.
You don't even know.
I'm seeing a new therapist.
Last therapist I had, I think Imentioned her last season.
She was eating her lunch.
While trying to make me feelbetter.
Or, you know, wild.
While doing her job.
some unprofessional more miss,you know what I'm saying?
I ain't going to go all out withit.
(10:37):
But I got a new therapist andshe's great.
I've been.
I've been using some of her tipsto kind of like.
You know, saying, you know, justcatch myself.
recently I realized I.
I mean, I it's like how younotice this now, but yeah, I
could be a little bit dramaticsometimes when, when I'm not
getting something.
It's like I get into victim orlike, oh, I could never figure
this out.
I.
I am never going to do this.
(10:58):
I am not strong enough.
And you like, yo.
And then there was like, yo,what, what story are you telling
yourself?
So it goes from messing up.
To.
Being homeless.
To be in a shitty dad to allthese other things.
He's like, none of that'shappened yet.
And it makes you think like, yo.
We've got to think about thestory that we're telling
(11:19):
ourself.
That's the most important story.
In your life.
Because the story that you'retelling yourself, Is what you're
going to follow and believe it.
So, if you're telling yourself.
You nothing and you never goingto get nothing.
That's what your story willalways be.
But to change the story isliterally just changing the
mindset.
Right.
Nah.
Um, I am great.
(11:39):
And because I'm going to keepshowing up.
It's only a matter of timebefore.
I get to do whatever I want andenjoy the life that I, that I
always wanted.
Like, You know what I'm saying?
So.
May show and, and the story issimple is just.
Sometimes I'll catch myself justthinking about fucked up shit.
Why not?
Like, think about like really.
Think about what you want.
Why are you going to sit thereand think about what's not going
(12:01):
right.
Think about, think about goodstuff.
Right.
Like, you're not going to watcha bad movie, but you're going to
focus on the bad thought.
You know what I mean?
Like we got to like open ourminds up a little bit, like.
You know what.
I'm not going to wa I'm notgoing to focus on his bathroom.
We're focused on some goodthoughts.
And the focus on as good asmovie like John wick four,
actually, it was like, I waslike a action packed.
(12:22):
Nonstop thriller, like.
You know, it was like, You knowhow they'd be like, oh, it was
only 10 minutes of action.
It was only like 10 minutes oftalking.
She was great though.
being a personal, your wordsshowing up for your friends, for
your family for work.
You know what I'm saying givesyou that good credibility, that
good reputation, but the mostimportant reputation is the one
you have with yourself, man,like.
Yes.
(12:42):
So reputation means everythingbecause.
It will always change becausesometimes.
The way you do something.
That's that may not how it ma.
That's not how it might beconveyed to others.
Right.
Uh, so.
you gotta be aware of that, butif you make sure that you like.
When you say you going to dosomething, you keep your word to
you.
Like, I feel like my friendthat's suddenly stoppable.
(13:03):
Trade or whatever the fuck it isto have like.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, you keep your word to you.
So you say, yo, I'm not going tostop doing this and I'm making
20,000 a month.
If you keep your word.
So you guess who's making 20,000a month, bro, like stop playing
with it, man.
Or ma'am.
I feel like when you call awoman, man, that's what she
(13:24):
knows you.
Oh, she's just fucked her wholeday up.
You can have gray hair andeverything.
You'd be like, yo, all right,well, have a good day.
Ma'am she's like, damn, I'm afucking man.
Uh, you know, I ain't going tofry even when.
When I, you know, sir, you knowwhat I'm saying?
I'm like, damn, I'm a sir level.
Or no, Mr.
That's what you be like.
Damn.
But yo, but one thing you cannever do.
(13:46):
It's never called Mr.
Or Mrs to a doctor cause theywill check your ass real quick.
I don't know.
Y'all.
That's show out there with'em.
Uh, Dan, what was the showcalled?
Oh, follow the leader.
Where, you know what I'm saying?
I had Dr.
Marty Solon, and I didn't say itat first.
And she checked my, she checkedme right on the, on the thing.
And I'm like, yo, I'm keepingthat that's fucking.
(14:06):
That's footage.
Oh man.
And another thing you might comeacross through your quest to.
Be better.
Be successful.
Competence anything.
and the process of showing up.
Is being a little, a little bitvulnerable.
Vulnerable.
Fuck.
Honorable.
I can't say it now.
Vulnerable.
But you gotta be a little bitvulnerable.
(14:29):
Showing up being successful,accomplishing.
The things you want toaccomplish the goals you want to
reach.
You got to put yourself outthere.
So that means that you're goingto make mistakes.
You're going to fail.
You're going to go do someemotions in the process, but.
Your willingness to keep goingand not stopping no matter what
gets in your ways, the only way.
And that's real facts.
Everybody got a story, everybodygoing through some shit.
(14:52):
Everybody.
Have doubts about themselves.
But why everybody don't get thesame results because everybody
takes different actions.
You know, actions speak louderthan words.
And.
You know, it's going to belouder than the things that
you'd sell yourself in yourhead.
Borrowers.
Thank you.
(15:12):
So.
What happens if you don't showup, what happens if you just
stay in bed?
What happens if you just callout what happens if you don't
work?
When you got free time.
And decide to distract yourself.
You'll never see.
Or even be in the position oreven have potential to see the
life that you dream of.
You'll never be able to.
No, who you really are.
(15:32):
Because who you are is notsomebody that stays home.
and.
Does it have hope for anything?
Good to happen to them.
That's not, you.
That's.
Not knowing.
That fail is all part of life.
And.
Well, it makes us better as whenwe move on and move forward in.
And just keep trying.
And if.
And I'm not going to lie.
Everybody cares about.
Well, the people think to anextent.
So.
(15:53):
Everyone respects someone thatwon't give up.
No matter what they go through.
I mean, sometimes I can.
Share my personal stuff.
And be all out with it, but.
People still gotta go and dealwith these stuff at the end of
the day.
And no one's going to be reallybe thinking about.
What you didn't do the only onethat's going to be.
On that shit as you So it's upto you to make those decisions
(16:14):
and those actions that.
Lead you up that ladder.
Not down that hill.
And even if you fall down thathill, like Jackie jail, get your
ass up and get to that.
Well, yeah.
Ah, man.
Yeah, man.
Not showing up.
You just remove possibilities.
You remove connections.
All these things in.
I feel like the reason my babiesare here right now is because
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once upon a time I was reallybold.
And at that moment I realizedthat.
Life rewards.
The bold.
But like, you know, for me, it'sharder to.
Continue my destructive paththen than it is to.
Embrace.
You know what I'm saying?
Motivation to, to move up inlife.
Easy the easy way.
Most likely it's always,everybody else can do it.
It's not going to challenge you.
(16:57):
And you'll just be the same.
And you're not trying to be thesame.
You're trying to be better.
So.
If you're not better in thethings that you're doing now.
I think that's a notice.
You know what I'm saying?
Taped on your door.
But I, you know, it's taped onyour head or taped in front of
you.
You see it and you ignore it.
But it's time to pay attention.
Tom to finally walk into thatlight, embrace those things that
(17:19):
are good about you.
Embrace those things that arenot cause.
I also make you human.
Right cause.
I just feel like there's noworld that.
It could not, you know, there'snot going to be something wrong
with you, right?
Like, In a perfect world.
Something will still be wrongwith somebody cause.
If all of all our perceptions isdifferent.
Then this perfection reallyexists.
(17:41):
It's just only in the meat, themind of there'll be holder like
beauty or.
And one thing, when you on thisjourney of.
Trying to.
Get to a place in your lifewhere you happy with.
There's nothing like sharingthat experience with people
that's on the same level.
Now.
You know, it's sucks that thepeople we grew up with or the
people that we love the most nowmay not always be on that same
(18:02):
vibration.
But they might not be there forthat.
That's not what they role inyour movie is their movie.
Their role is to love you.
To know you got somebody that's,you know, that they there for
you.
And then you got people that seelife similar to you.
Because it will never be exact.
And.
Yeah, able to speak in.
Give each other insight onthings you've done.
Seeing someone in a positionwhere you at.
(18:24):
Or want to be.
But they also can understandwhere you are.
You know what I'm saying?
That's, that's what it's allabout.
my and my 50th episode.
Uh, the guests I had on theshow.
He bought a community and like,that's something.
That I never really embraced,but it does make a difference,
right?
Because you hang out with peoplethat just complain all day,
you're going to complain to.
It's like, if you.
(18:45):
I always like from experience.
When there's a whole group andlike, Out of the 10 people, nine
smoke that 10th one.
That's just common for you.
You going to one day, you'regoing to get mad and there's
going to be smoke around you.
And you're gonna be like, yo,gimme that shit.
So that's why, you know, yougot.
You gotta be careful who youhang out with.
And I say, who you hang out withon a regular basis because you
know, you hang out with certainpeople once in a blue, it ain't
(19:07):
nothing, but you hang out withnegative people in the reg.
Forget about it.
But yeah, man, like they, um, Ithere's this quote that says,
uh, 80% of success is justshowing up.
So imagine the things you canachieve.
The experiences you can have thepeople in places.
That you could potentially go.
And witness and be part of.
(19:29):
You might, in some cases youmight be part of some history.
Just because you showed up.
Yeah.
I was saying the goodbye.
There'll be boy.
Uh, You don't million man, Marchor Mon gave a speech or.
You know what I mean?
They probably didn't want to go,but let me see what we got to
talk about it.
And they, they.
Pull them now you bought ahistory.
Or you don't, I don't believe innone of this.
Politics ship blood when Obamabecame president.
(19:50):
especially if you still believedin them, you know, at the time I
believed in the bullshit.
It was like, wow, like I voted,I was, I felt part of something,
you know, but.
That's another story.
Yeah, man, but I, I hope I gotit through to you.
Like, yo, it doesn't matter.
How good you are, how you knowhow bad you are or what you've
done and what you didn't do.
(20:11):
Consistency showing up beingthere.
Eventually things would getbetter.
especially when you don't focuson not being better, like.
You got to focus on what's that.
Hand.
Not.
You know, where you at with it?
Because sometimes when you wentwith it, My discourage you.
Like right now.
It'll say new job.
My numbers.
Ain't great.
Well, you know what I'm saying?
(20:31):
I'm showing up.
I'm getting there on time.
I may not always thought.
You know my shift all the time,but I'm always there all the
time.
Sometimes.
Shit.
She takes a minute to load up.
But, And that's what that taughtme, man.
Like, Now, if I apply this toanything.
To the podcast.
To my business.
You know, it's, uh, even withfamily, man sometimes.
I can't be there.
(20:52):
You know, and this sucks, but.
I put myself in a position.
So I could show up and not missimportant things.
I've right now.
One of my closest friend losthis pops.
I'm at rest in peace.
Um, You know, and I don't knowif I'm going to be able to make
it.
You know what I'm saying?
Don't got the money calling inthe greatest condition.
wish I could show up to that,but.
we all go through things and,you know, sometimes when we
(21:13):
going through something, wedon't understand why people just
can't push whatever they goingthrough aside and just be there
for us.
And me being in this situation.
And others maybe realize, youknow, sometimes.
It's about, as you want to showup, sometimes you just can't.
I mean, I ain't going to Rob myway to, to New York, you know
what I'm saying?
Like, and I got to take a chanceon my car.
And I can't take certainchances.
Like I used to cause.
(21:33):
My kids depend on me coming backhome.
So.
And I think about shit likethat, man, like.
You know what I'm saying?
I need to be in their life is aslong as possible.
You know, as long as God.
You know, as long as God wantedto be, of course, but.
Share.
If I could stay in their lifefor till I'm more hunted, 120
hours, the age limits.
The 300 and twenties.
You never know.
Well, yeah, man, this was agreat episode.
(21:54):
Let's get it to that final soon.
When you indoubt.
Showing up makes a difference.
If you stay with you all, youwon't get far.
I mean, how could you.
If you haven't made a move.
Play the hand you're dealt.
They find a way to beat thedealer.
And every time you take a stepcloser to your goal.
You won't be as far away as youonce was.
But a better version.
(22:15):
That's showing up like the batsignal.
It's a habit you embodied.
And nobody can take that awayfrom you.
You it's a reputation you onlyhave with yourself.
But the great thing is itaffects everyone around you.
So be there be present.
But most importantly, be you.
I know that's not my usualflashy Dashy shit, but that's
(22:36):
what I had.
And that's what I'm going to gowith.
Thank you for joining me on thisepisode.
51st.
Or not.
You know, I have more, but.
Uh, preciate ya Rocko me anotherseason.
Even though Lassie season wasthe not season, but it was a
season is still in a way.
(22:56):
It, this is your first timelistening.
Or you will regular degular.
I appreciate you till next time.
Peace love wound though, as.
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