Some relationships add to your life. Others drain it.
In this episode of The Real Connect Podcast, Tamika Carlton sits down with Portia James for a conversation that goes beyond surface-level talk. They unpack what it actually means to recognize real vs. fake connections through the lens of personal experience, self-awareness, and the energy people bring into your life.
They get honest about friendships that feel forced, business relationships that lack integrity, and the quiet ways people show you who they are.
Here’s what you’ll walk away with:
1. A clearer sense of what intention really looks like in close relationships
2. Signs you’re expending too much emotional labor and how to step back
3. How to create space for connection without abandoning your own needs
This isn’t about cutting people off for sport. It’s about choosing peace over performance and learning how to stay rooted in your values, even when the connection feels blurry.
Chime in below—what’s one lesson you’ve learned about protecting your energy?
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00:00 Introduction and Welcome Back
00:45 Catching Up with Portia James
01:14 Reflecting on Past Conversations
01:35 Diving into Viewer Questions
02:05 Identifying Real vs. Fake Connections
03:05 The Importance of Intentions in Friendships
04:20 Effortless Friendships and Their Value
06:29 Cutting Off Toxic Relationships
12:14 Self-Awareness and Accountability in Relationships
13:10 The Struggles of Dealing with Selfish People
13:52 Challenges in Business Relationships
15:40 Balancing Personal and Professional Boundaries
16:51 The Importance of Integrity in Relationships
19:38 Letting Go and Moving Forward
25:04 Final Thoughts and Farewell
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