Actress, dancer, and bartender Stacey joins Chris for a captivating conversation about navigating creative careers and personal relationships with authenticity and resilience. Their discussion weaves between professional insights and deeply personal revelations, creating an episode that's both entertaining and profoundly relatable.
Stacey's multifaceted career offers a unique lens on human behavior. Behind the bar, she's developed an uncanny talent for reading people within seconds—"If I can tell you're trouble, I will not open a tab with you"—a skill that translates seamlessly to her work in acting. Her journey from dancing at age 13 to acting professionally reveals the technical challenges most viewers never consider, like mastering "eye lines" when transitioning from dance to film.
The conversation takes a particularly powerful turn when Stacey shares her journey of healing after heartbreak, including an impulsive solo trip to Thailand that became a transformative experience of self-discovery. "I was going to be okay by myself," she realized—a lesson that continues to inform her approach to relationships. This vulnerability opens up a broader discussion about setting boundaries, recognizing red flags, and the challenge of maintaining identity while connecting authentically with others.
Cultural perspectives add depth to their discussion of relationships, with Stacey noting that divorce remains illegal in the Philippines, highlighting how cultural contexts significantly shape relationship expectations. Both agree that modern relationships face unique challenges, including social media pressures and the paradox of endless options leading to commitment hesitation.
Whether you're navigating creative careers, healing from heartbreak, or simply seeking authentic perspectives on modern relationships, this episode offers both entertainment and thoughtful insights from someone who has successfully balanced professional ambition with personal growth. Find Stacey behind the bar at Asia Sticks in Waikiki, where her bartending skills and life wisdom can be experienced firsthand.
• Bartending taught Stacey to read people instantly and protect her energy by closing tabs with difficult customers
• Acting and filming require mastering technical elements like "eye lines" which differ significantly from dance performance
• Started dancing at age 13 after seeing a performance that inspired her confidence and self-expression
• Impulsively booked a solo trip to Thailand after a heartbreak, which became a transformative journey to independence
• Learning to detox from unhealthy relationships requires giving yourself "time and a whole lot of grace"
• In the film industry, reliability and communication are crucial - never turn down auditions if you're represented
• Traveling solo and finding your independence is key to recovering from heartbreak
• The contrast between modern relationships and traditional arrangements (like in the Philippines where divorce is illegal)
• Social media creates unrealistic expectations in relationships - not everything needs to be shared publicly
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Speaker 1 (00:08):
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Welcome back to another episodeof the relationship method
podcast.
It's your boy, chris, and todayI have a very lovely guest.
Her name's stacy.
She's an actress, a dancer, um,can I say the?
Uh, your job yes she is also,um a giver of drinks during the
(00:30):
nightlife, so, um, she's abartender.
God damn it.
Uh welcome to the motherfuckingpod yay stacy.
Thank you for uh rollingthrough this, motherfucker thank
you for having me.
Girl, before we start going onthis shit, how did I get the yes
from you to come on?
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Oh, you just asked.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Oh yeah.
Oh so ask and you shall receivetype of situation.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
But then you knew one of the other girls I worked
with.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
We all FBI agents.
We have to be like who's thisand who do you know and who's
(01:21):
your mutual friends?
Yeah, yeah yeah, I liked it andI listened to some of the girls
talking and I was like, wow,this is so funny.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
I love it.
I love it, okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Like.
I just like the first two,three seconds of one of the
videos.
I was like this is cool.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Hey, thank you so much.
Thank you so much for listening.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
I'm like ADD here and if you can't catch my attention
in like three seconds I move on.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
You're like this right.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
I was like oh my God, this is actually funny.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
So you say ADD is it?
Did you go through a therapistfor that Like, are you for sure?
Speaker 2 (01:53):
I'm like self one of those like self-diagnosed Like I
just feel like certain thingsdon't catch my attention.
Yeah, like it's very, like Ihave to like it uh huh, it's
just hard.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Are you like that in school?
Oh, like, when you went toschool, were you like man?
This class is fucking boring.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Yes, math, oh, but I liked all right, but everything
else that was like art yeahsocial studies, english creative
things.
It was more um something thatwas uh interesting to me.
Yeah.
And then I realized that's likehow my brain works.
It's more creative.
Math is always like onesolution.
I'm not a one solution person.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Oh, so you're a type of you're the girl.
That's like there's a way, butthen there's other ways to solve
this problem.
So I'm going to go those otherways.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Yeah, like like there's 10 different outcomes,
like the multiverse.
You know that whatever you do,there's something else is gonna
happen, and it's fine and it'sokay.
And then math always just gaveme anxiety, because it's like
what, if I anything I did wronghere, if it doesn't come out to
that answer, then you better doit again.
And it's like I just math wasvery hard for me.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Girl facts.
I fucking hated math.
I hated the polygraphic, thosetheorems that you have to do.
When am I ever gonna use thatshit in life?
You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2 (03:14):
No, I just asked my coworker who's really smart with
money and counting.
I just asked him to like herewhat is this?
That's it.
You can do it.
You know, my coworkers are verysupportive, but I'm like yeah,
no, don't even, Don't ask me,Even with tips.
(03:34):
It's like 50%.
I know 50%.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Any other percent.
I'm like I don't know.
Ooh girl, how long have youbeen bartending for?
Speaker 2 (03:41):
I've been bartending now for five or six years.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Girl, was it hard when you started off, like
remembering drinks and mixingthem for you know, for people,
because I could only imagine,especially in the nightlife
they're like oh, I want thisthis, this all quick.
Was it hard for you, like thefirst go around?
Speaker 2 (04:01):
No, oh shit.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
So you knew your shit .
Speaker 2 (04:03):
No, it's just because I actually like putting things
together.
I don't know it's a creativething for me.
But uh, with customers and ifthey're being difficult, I'm
really good at diffusing it.
Like you can kind of, if you'rea nightlife person, you can
kind of read the person alreadyhow they're going to be, what
type of person they're going tobe, what type of person they're
going to be, so you kind ofdiffuse that.
(04:25):
So like to even like easestress for me, especially for
busy, I will tell, I'll tell thecustomer, hey, we're really
busy.
So just so you know, your drinkmight be a little bit late, but
what can I get for you?
I do that to every person.
I'm very, I'm a good person,like I can tell, or I can tell
if someone's going to be trouble.
I'm a good person.
I can tell or I can tell ifsomeone's going to be trouble,
yeah, and if I can tell you'retrouble, I will not open a tab
(04:48):
with you.
Oh really.
Because I don't want to go backto you, I just close you out.
Oh, that's a freaking good tip.
So if you see this podcast andyou're mad about that, yeah,
because maybe you're mean to meand I'm just going to close you
out- oh, to me, and I'm justgoing to close you out, oh girl.
Like when you leave a tab open.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, you have to keep going back to them
right, yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Like you know, if I have someone that's just really
just like about to ruin my night, I'm like, okay, pay it out,
bye, and I don't even have to goto you ever again.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Really has a situation ever came where they
didn't pay?
Yes, yes, last night.
Ooh, let them know.
Last night Was it a gentlemanor a female?
Speaker 2 (05:28):
It was a female too.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
No way I thought females would be more classier
at the bar.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
They were just gone, and then they just Local or was
this person from?
Local.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Oh, oh.
In your occupation plural youmessed with local and, I guess,
mainlanders and stuff who arethe easiest to like, say, work
with or get along with, in youropinion.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Oh my gosh, the locals.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Locals.
Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Yeah, they tip more Okay they tip more, all right.
Yes, they're the most easygoing.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
How about, in the acting field, locals or like
easy to work with or easy to bearound, locals or people from
the mainland, or can you yeah?
Speaker 2 (06:13):
It depends.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
It depends because in the mainland they have certain
expectations that work withinthe industry that you need to be
a certain way, work within theindustry that you need to be a
certain way, and then locals.
It's just hard when they don't.
Which industry are we talkingabout?
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Are we talking about the filming industry?
The filming industry, yeah, yes, the filming industry.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Locals would be a little bit harder if they don't
know enough about what isexpected of them to the mainland
standards in the film industry.
Does that make sense?
Yes.
Yeah, they have a differentlearning, a different structure
and you know it's kind of hardwhen you're on an island, you're
far from everything.
What they know, what theirexpectations are, you may not
(07:00):
agree with but you have to.
It's what works.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Okay, let me ask you this We'll stick on filming when
you're auditioning, right, andyou and I could connect on this
one, because I did an auditionand I kind of bombed it.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
No, you didn't.
No, hell yeah.
No, there's no such thing asbombing.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
He will try next time I didn't get the callback.
But I mean it was one of thoseshits and giggles.
Hey, why not?
Because it was an ad onInstagram.
It was like oh, we need acertain character field or
whatever.
So I sent in, I guess, myresume and a headshot.
My resume was freaking blank.
(07:43):
I just put host of a podcastand that was it.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Okay, he's something.
At least he knows how to talk,yeah, so.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
I did that and then it was somewhere in Kaneohe.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Okay.
I map-quested that motherfuckerand then Damn, I did that for
here too, oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
So I talked to several people and then I was
like, oh, we'll call you back.
And then in my head I was like,fuck.
So yeah, like what do you dobefore auditions to lessen, like
, say, the anxious anxietyinside you, or does it come
natural when you're trying toget these roles?
Speaker 2 (08:18):
I learned that you have to prepare.
You have to prep.
And when I say say prep, it'snot even just the night before,
although, like you will getauditioned and stuff last minute
.
But I've been like, I've beentraining.
I do have a coach, um, that Italk to on zoom, and it's the
(08:40):
more you do it.
You have to treat yourauditions also like educational
pieces.
You know you have to treat yourauditions also like educational
pieces.
You know you have to changeyour mindset.
It's just change that mindsetof okay, I'm going to get it,
I'm going to be famous this andthis and this.
No, why do you love acting?
Why do you love film?
So I'm going to keep going tothese auditions.
(09:00):
Treat it like classes.
I'm going to go to theseclasses.
Treat it like oh, this is likeyou're pursuing journalism or
something.
This is my speaking class.
You have to approach it likethat and when you approach it
like that, change your mindset.
You're less anxious, you'reless anxiety because you're
treating it like that's thefirst thing I have to do.
But no, just remember thereason why you're even going.
(09:23):
Okay, but definitely prepare,prepar, do, but no, like just
remember the reason why you'reeven going.
Okay, not like you know, butlike definitely prepare,
preparation, you know.
And then just um, stay focusedand that's what I have to do oh,
um, first time being on camera.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
How was that like for you?
Because, uh, my first time oncamera, I was I can't even do a
regular photo shoot withoutbeing so like goofy on set.
You know how were you when youfirst got on camera Were you
like did you feel awkward?
Or like when they startedfilming you were you like, oh
shit, what am I doing wrong?
(09:57):
Because in my head I'm doingeverything right.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
So I'm a dancer.
Yes girl, we both talk aboutthis, we're both dancers.
He used to dance.
We're very aware with ourbodies, we're aware of how we
look, so I don't have a problembeing on camera.
But when it comes to filming, Ididn't know.
They have things called eyelines.
So eye lines are like, so we'relooking directly here.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
This is a podcast.
It's okay to look directly here, but when you're acting you
gotta look like somewhere else,because on screen right, what
actor is looking directly?
Speaker 1 (10:30):
at the camera.
Yeah, you're not.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Your eye lines are here and it's like you know
whoever you're talking to, right.
But it's so hard when you knowthat equipment is right here but
you gotta ignore that.
You know eye lines.
Eye lines were the hardest forme, yeah.
So every time I audition forsomething, the first thing I
think of is my eyelines, becausethat's my biggest weakness.
(10:53):
I'm so used to.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Looking at the camera .
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Even if I'm dancing, we're not looking off anywhere,
unless that's what you have todo, but I'm like looking right
at the camera.
So, yeah, I don't have aproblem being on camera.
But it's my eyelines if it's,you know, film work.
Oh okay, everything is training, everything is just like.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Just training, huh.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Yeah, little things like this, people don't know.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Oh, okay.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
And then in dancing too, because I've seen your
posts and dancing.
I love your facials.
Your facials are on point.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
You have to.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
BT dub.
How'd you get into the wholedancing thing?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
I'm a 90s baby.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
Yes, girl.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
So I grew up with no cameras.
Guys, do you remember thecamera with the small one right?
Speaker 1 (11:41):
You have the small cameras.
You also got the big ones too.
Yes, small ones where you justflip open, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
So everyone realized now that in the 90s we didn't.
When you did take a dance class, you had to remember that
choreo, you didn't take home avideo.
Mm-hmm.
Like but you know, we're luckynow we have that video, but I I
remember drawing thechoreography out like my arms
(12:07):
were like here or whatever.
I had little stick figures butlike it just.
But you know, remember now wedidn't have anything to film us
and whatnot you just had toremember retain it.
But it was good training becauseyou learn retention.
And then you learned um to haveconfidence in yourself that you
could retain it, and then itjust helps you learn things more
faster.
But then I got started when Iwas about 13 years old, 12 or 13
(12:31):
.
And I remember it was KnicksPack.
They had a performance and theywere dancing contemporary to
Patti LaBelle's New Attitude.
And.
I just remembered this for thepodcast because I felt like
you're going to ask that.
And they look so confident.
These dancers look so confident, they look so beautiful and
(12:54):
they were just talented.
They could turn, they couldflip and I was like I want to do
that, but I was so shy.
But also I loved all thosemusic videos.
I love Britney Spears, I loveChristina Aguilera and I was
like I want to dance like that.
They look so hot.
You know, Everyone wants tolook good.
Oh, yeah, definitely, yeah,yeah.
And also because I was so young.
(13:15):
Also I tell this to all myfriends too.
They ask me.
They all see other reasonsBecause I wasn't like the
coolest person back inelementary.
I was such a dork and I wasquiet and no boy would ever like
talk to me, but they did when Istarted dancing.
But anyway, yeah, so that's howI got it started, because I saw
that performance and then Ilooked into studios in Kaneohe
(13:39):
and, yes, I did start with DanceForce 24-7.
I did and I Force 24-7.
I did and I just remember myfirst class.
I was just really scared, LikeI remember, after we did the,
they taught us a combo.
Yeah, I actually ran off.
You know when they were likeokay, let's do it as a group.
(14:00):
Like, yeah, groups of four orfive, yeah, and I think I didn't
like I messed up on a fewthings and I just was like, oh
my gosh, and then I just ran off.
But you know what I mean?
I was young, but it was also alearning tool too.
Like, as you get older, whenyou mess up, you have to keep
going, and I take these thingswith me.
I still dance, but yeah, that'show I got started.
(14:22):
I saw a performance and Iwanted the boys to like me
Shaking that shit for all theboys and then, like now I don't
care anymore, I'm like no, Iactually truly love this.
Oh, good for you girl, good foryou.
I never stop.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
Girl, I remember the first time I messed up on, like
in a group's combo or whatever,and I just stood there because I
couldn't get back into it,because I was like damn, I tried
, I was like hmm, Sometimes thatworks.
Oh yeah, so next time around Icame through, I killed it
afterwards.
But those groups, like whenthey say, hey, let's just do
(15:00):
groups it's intimidating,because I mean, it's, the focus
is on you Now, you're notwatching other people.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
I'm guilty of that.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Oh yeah, I'd be watching all the time.
I'm like I like being in theback, but now, like after paying
for a class, I'm like, fuckthis, I'm trying to go to the
front.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
He's the same like me .
That's how I think, too hidingabout like you.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
just okay, back in the day it was like 10 a class.
Now you're paying 25.
You better push yourself tothat girl.
Yeah, 25, yeah, so I'll begoing up um in these classes now
yeah I've noticed a lot ofpeople be coming dressed up you
paid for your outfit too,absolutely like I remember like
when I was dancing it was justshorts, maybe some vans and a
tee, and I'm just he's callingme out too, yeah, yeah no.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
And in high tops and for the girls.
It was like we had the whole2000s, like I don't know, it was
like your, it was like a tank.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
Yeah, a tank and like some, like big baggy sweats or
a flannel I had a flannel,sometimes a fitted.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, dime piece, yeah, oh my.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
God, yes, so I remember all that.
And then, yeah, oh man, you'retaking me down memory lane.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
It better be fitted.
That's so cool.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
Oh my gosh, yeah, so that's when I was dancing.
But now I'm seeing peopledancing in teams.
I'm like, dude, that's sofreaking hard and they're
wearing jeans too and I'm like,fuck, I'm sweating in.
Like in sweats, you're sweatingyour ass off.
Have you ever done that?
Have you ever like came likesuper fitted or I mean, you know
(16:35):
yeah.
You have no, no.
Speaker 2 (16:39):
Your question of like have I like Wonderful, great to
see, because a lot.
So now, like I dance with likeadults maybe they just start
dancing and I feel like whateverenhances your confidence If you
(17:00):
just some girls, I'm just like,where did you get that?
She looks good.
And you know, I grew up I grewup where, like, we didn't always
cheer people on, but now we gotbetter with that, so it makes
me happy to see girls.
Yes.
Even guys too, no mattereveryone, because it's also your
(17:22):
expression, and I just feellike when you do dress up, you
know, depending on what you'redancing to, it brings it out
more.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
However, there it is.
I was waiting for the however.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
No, I do love it when people dress up, but make it
make sense yes, when you'redancing like.
So I, and also I believe thisyou can wear the most, you can
be all decked out, but have itmatch your performance.
I'll see girls there's nothingwrong with it, but like they're
all decked out because, yes, youknow you want to have the look,
(17:53):
but if it doesn't match whatyou're doing, or maybe like your
heel or your shoe gets caughtin something hanging then no, it
actually does not matter whatyou wear, what you look like.
I've seen girls who don't evendress up.
They just show up with aponytail, but they but they're
killing it.
Yes, you don't even rememberwhat she's wearing, but she
killed it.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
She's like doing a headstand and whatever.
Whatever, you're not looking atwhat she's wearing, you're
looking at you know hertechnique, what she brought to
the table.
But I do remember like dancingwith some girls and maybe they
had a baggy shirt that lookedcute, whatever, but the heel got
caught on it or they have someaccessory and it's like and it
(18:35):
breaks, or like or likesomething gets caught.
But you know like, yeah, whenyou're a dancer, like you know,
you know like if you look atwhat they uh compete in, you
know leotards clean everything,hair back, it's all for a reason
yeah you know.
So like it's okay to look good,but like just remember you
might be on the floor, you mightbe turning.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
This might like get caught.
Get snug and snaggy and shit.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Oh my gosh and Dance.
Have you ever competed, or didyou just do a lot of
performances?
Speaker 2 (19:06):
I did a lot of performances.
I've never competed.
When I look back, would I haveever competed?
No.
When I look back, would I haveever competed?
Speaker 1 (19:14):
No it was a lot of you know why not?
Why wouldn't you have?
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Oh man, anxiety, A lot of anxiety, and I was still
a little bit shy and I was stillkind of figuring out where.
I wanted to go and dance.
Would I compete now as an adult?
Absolutely, but like I wasstill like getting out of a lot
of things, like growing up, um,dance wasn't something that
supported in my family, you knowthis is true, yes, I grew up in
(19:38):
a very strict family and, um, I, I, me and my sister did that
on our own.
We were just like we want to dothis and we're gonna do it.
She didn't stick around to itthat much, but, um, she actually
was the first one to takeclasses and then I followed
after.
Okay, she was actually actuallythe one to do theater.
First.
I got into film.
Later she actually minored intheater.
(19:59):
Really.
That's another thing I tellpeople.
I was like if my sisteractually did theater work first,
she was a theater girl.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
So she knew the ins and outs of theater.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Yeah, she knew theater, but then theater and
film are two different things.
But, she was very confident onstage and everything like that.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
I was actually shy.
I had to grow up.
It's okay you bursted out ofthat bubble I did.
You sure fucking did.
Yes, hell yeah, you're an actor.
Can you see yourself behind thecamera, like, say, directing,
producing, writing and?
Speaker 2 (20:33):
all that shit yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
Yes, have you started behind the camera like, say,
directing, producing writing andall that shit?
Yeah, yes, um, have you started?
Have you?
Have you ever tried doing thatyet?
Speaker 2 (20:39):
uh, so also I keep bringing up dancing.
We dancers, choreographers yesthey I don't know if anyone, but
I know they're the bestdirectors or the best everything
.
We're always coming out withcontent.
We know how to film, likeyou've seen those dance videos.
They are the best filmers.
So I've like done my own, likedance videos with a storyline
(21:03):
and things like that, becauseI'm a dancer, I know angles.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
So I know the camera angles, I know to go low, I know
to go up, I know all thesethings I've done go low, I know
to go up, I know all thesethings, I've done it before.
It's stressful and I just Iwould just say the number one
thing is that it's okay to gosolo, guys, you can.
It's okay to not work witheverybody, but you must work
with people who are at the samelevel as you, same passion same
(21:29):
drive yeah yeah, they're verytalented and communicate,
communicate and um, yeah,because you know I like a lot of
anything that you do, film,whatever, you may not always
work well with that person, soyou just gotta find someone that
you click with.
Speaker 1 (21:44):
you know, it's like a marriage oh shut up, yeah you
know, it's no, it is, it is, itis communicate with whoever you
want to work with.
Speaker 2 (21:51):
Be like this is first of all.
This is how I can be.
Yeah, I'm very type A.
I'm not saying I'm type A, I'mjust saying like, just address
everything, put it on the table.
Don't be that person where,like, we work with you about
maybe like a month or so, thenwe find out you're crazy, like.
Oh Like.
I'd oh shit, mm-mm, womp, womp,just let us know like, hey, I
(22:21):
did this and this, but I am areally talented writer, I'm a
very okay cool.
Speaker 1 (22:26):
Then we know we have this long to work with you
before you have to go back tojail, you know yeah to jail you
know, yeah, I'm just so kiddingabout that, but I'm just saying
like it can happen, though I'veworked with people where it's
like oh, you're actually crazy,oh my god, have you ever like
turned down, like said no to anuh, to a part that was offered
(22:46):
to you or to a director that waslike, oh, I think you'd suit
this role real good.
Have you you ever said no?
And if so, like how did you?
Speaker 2 (22:55):
I've doubted myself, but I never turned down a role.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
That's good.
Speaker 2 (22:59):
Because I.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
You never know if that role.
Speaker 2 (23:02):
Also, certain agencies are not really certain,
maybe actually all of them Inthe mainland.
If you're signed with them, youcan't turn down an audition, no
way.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
Yeah, you know that.
Yeah, you can't turn down anaudition.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
No way.
Yeah, you know that.
Yeah, you have to.
Yes, guys, don't turn on yourauditions.
If you ever signed?
Yes Because it's like so.
You can't because they'regetting an audition.
That already is an honor.
Like someone saw you and waslike hey, I want to see this
person, I want to see thisperson.
(23:33):
The more you submit, the morethat's also putting yourself out
there.
They're like oh yeah, we cantrust this person.
We can keep giving this personauditions because they're going
to answer.
It shows, like you know, you'regood at communicating, You're
very reliable, all those things,because you're just going to do
it and you're not giving up.
You love to challenge yourself.
I used to like ignore myauditions when I was younger,
(23:57):
but now I'm like no, I take it?
Speaker 1 (23:59):
you take it serious?
Yeah, I just take it.
Yeah, oh, girl, that was.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
Oh, my god but if it's something where it's a
little racy, you can askquestions.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
You're allowed you know as in like showing skin
yeah, showing skin like theracist thing or whatever.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
Yeah, we're going to Nora over here, but I love that
movie and I love her.
But you know what I mean.
Yeah, like something like thatPlaying an exotic dance or
things like that.
If it's outside your comfortzone, you can ask, you can talk
about it, like you can be like,oh, you know, like what this is
entail, whatnot that where Ifeel like as a woman or any
person.
(24:34):
If it's outside your comfortzone, you can ask about it and
then proceed from there shit.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
Good to know.
Good to know before we get tothese questions.
One more thing having an agent,is it easier to like, I guess,
find these gigs, opposed todoing it on your own?
Speaker 2 (24:51):
I'm gonna going to say 50-50.
Speaker 1 (24:54):
50-50.
Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
I think a lot of the times I've been finding things
on my own but my agent has beenreally good finding commercials
and things like that.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
Do you have to tell your agent if you found
something on your own?
Yes.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
Yeah, read your contracts, guys, read.
I know we don't like to read,but you need to read, yeah,
because you know what I mean.
That's going to get you introuble if it's just read your
contract.
Don't just sign guys, Just readit.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Yeah, don't sign that and talk to them, talk to them.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
Hey, if I find something on my own,
na-na-na-na-na, because chancesare whatever you found found on
your own.
Speaker 1 (25:30):
They probably found it.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
Yes, someone already you know.
And then you have to pay yourfees and stuff.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
Oh damn.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
Hmm, All right, let's get to these questions.
Um dude, the first one uh, haveyou ever detox from someone?
Detoxing, as in?
Um, you're with a person for along time, you know he or she is
probably good for you, but youjust can't be around them no
(25:57):
more.
So you eased off, you stayedaway from that situation.
Have you ever done that?
Speaker 2 (26:06):
This is such a beautiful question.
It hits home and I starteddoing it recently.
I hope whoever hears this fromhis podcast just know you can do
this too.
Hell yeah, give yourself I'mgoing to start with this Give
yourself time and a whole lot ofgrace, because you can't get
(26:27):
over something overnight, andthen you need to just surround
yourself by people who love you,and that should be enough.
So this was just all recently.
Oh, wow.
And it's the opposite of whatyou said.
He said he was good for her,absolutely not.
Maybe some parts, maybe thememories.
(26:48):
We all love our memories.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
Oh, yeah, definitely yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
But you know, what Do we like?
Speaker 3 (26:57):
let me ask real quick and then I will answer that, no
problem.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
No problem, I'm here for it like I feel like now
relationships.
It's like are you able to likekeep it off of instagram, or
does that matter so much to youthat you show that girl?
Let me tell you that I want me,me and my wife.
Speaker 1 (27:12):
We got, um, this is I'm not gonna say months ago,
but it was a.
It was a while back.
We got into this argument.
Yeah, she asked me why aren'tyou posting me anymore?
And I'm like what do you mean?
I'm not posting you?
I post you and the kids.
And where she says no, whyaren't you posting me?
And I was like I, I told her.
I responded I was like yo, I'min the moment, I'm in the with
(27:33):
you.
I don't need to take picturesof what's happening.
You could do that because Iknow she likes to take pictures
and she likes to post.
But I also told her I was likeI don't think everyone needs to
know our business.
If we're happy, shoot, let's behappy.
If we're sad, man, we don'tneed to let everyone know that
we're mad.
So it took her a while tounderstand that, especially when
(27:57):
I started podcasting.
I I'm not going to lie, like Ihave like very pretty women on
here.
And of course she she asked melike oh, why don't you post in?
Or are you kind of scared inposting me or whatever, or
ashamed, I'm like dude, I'mrocking the ring, I talk about
you on the pod.
So it's like talking about it,yeah it's like you shouldn't,
(28:19):
you shouldn't feel any type ofany type of way.
And um, I also tell her, likeeverything that's on the pod,
I'm, it's strictly professional.
Yeah, you know, I'm not tryingto.
I'm old enough to where I'mlike man, I'm okay.
You know, like I don't, I don'tneed to get it from anywhere
else anywhere.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
And we're all adults to the point where it's like
lawsuits.
Do we have the money for this,guys?
Speaker 1 (28:42):
Exactly, I'm trying to think long term we need to
let Diddy take care of himself.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
We're not trying.
No, you know what I mean.
Oh, that's so weird.
We're at this point Like, okay,all these people are coming
forward.
No, we're good.
Yeah, we're not going to be inlawsuits, that's great.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
So yeah, yeah, I told her that.
And I'm just like yo, noteveryone needs to know what's
happening with me and you Like,of course I'll post the kids and
you Just, you know, here andthere, but doing it all the time
, every day, I'm just like, nah,I'm good, and also it's my shit
too, like, why can't I postwhat I want to post?
Why do you have to, you know,add your two cents in, because I
(29:24):
don't do that with her.
So I'm hoping that but you'restill there yeah you're still
there, he comes home.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
He's coming home.
Right, I come home every day,because if he be missing for a
week or two, then there he comeshome, he's coming home, right
yeah come home every day, Imight be missing for a week or
two yeah by all means come downto the studio and bang on that
door.
I'd be like where is he where?
Is he?
You know, check the storiesthen you yeah, so real quick.
I want to add on that, becausealso you have to think about
(29:51):
celebrities.
How hard is it for thesecouples?
oh to tell everybody facts.
Hey, we're no longer, you know,and I I do love the way they
posted.
They're like hey, as everyoneknows that we are no longer
together, but we're gonnaprioritize our kids first and we
ask the public for privacy.
How hard is that?
(30:12):
And you know they face judgmentcomments.
But it's like you, we all don'tknow angelina jolie, we don't
all know brad, but like you knowlike.
Treat them like normal humanbeings, like how hard is that to
?
not that hard at all this likeidea of what a marriage is, what
a relationship is, and then allof a sudden they're not
together.
Speaker 1 (30:31):
Everyone's like like I thought they were just, I
thought they were what theyadopted all these kids, what you
know.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
So there's that.
So, to go back to how did Idetox?
Yeah.
Okay, I used to be and you knowI came from a strict family.
I wasn't.
I didn't really have anyguidance to any emotional
(31:00):
consequences or anything thatwould happen into entering a
relationship or whatnot.
It was like I had to navigateit on my own, which was a
journey, was the worst thingever.
But I would not be here todaywithout really really good
people and friends in my lifeand also traveling.
I met a lot of people in mytravels too that like coached me
through everything.
Speaker 1 (31:14):
Oh, that's good yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:16):
So detoxing.
One of the first ones wastraveling solo, because ha.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
Wait, when you say travel solo like going to the
supermarket by yourself or areyou talking about like going out
of state somewhere else byyourself?
Solo?
Speaker 2 (31:28):
Okay, I'm so glad we're doing this podcast because
I'm going to finally say this,my friends are going to be so
proud of me.
So, podcast, because I'm goingto finally say this, my friends
are going to be so proud of me.
So, once upon a time, we'rejust going to.
It's going to be quick andshort, I'm not going to go, but
if you, you guys, can like askme the real story Once upon a
time.
Somebody like made me mad.
Well, you know, the guy made memad without even thinking.
(31:49):
I was 27 years old and I bookeda flight to Thailand.
He lied to me.
He lied to me.
We're not going to get intothat.
It was Thanksgiving.
I found out from his friend andI was like what he's going
where?
Speaker 1 (32:02):
And you booked a flight right after that, and
then I did everything wrong.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
I did all my flights wrong.
So my friend when I wassleeping, bless her heart.
Can I say her name?
Yeah, yeah, yeah, definitely oh, my god, adrian, I love you
shout out to you.
Okay, but we're not gonna sayher last name.
But oh yeah, definitely notyeah, but I was like passed out
in her apartment and I was justlike you know, when you're that
friend you have to go over yourfriend's house apartment.
(32:26):
You're just like, you're likein a wreck and they have to calm
you down, break open wine, allthat she had to.
Uh, because she's been therebefore and she had to fix my
itinerary.
She had to fix my tickets.
I woke up with a and I go what,what?
You did that for me.
You fixed my stuff.
I was like, but a while ago yousaid, don't do it.
She was like, well, I thinkit's funny.
(32:48):
And then I like went, yeah, Iwas yeah, but like I didn't end
up like in the right area as him, but anyway, but hell hath no
fury, but a woman pissed offLike I went to this country this
is my first time traveling bymyself.
No, I'm sorry.
Second, no, first timetraveling to a different country
(33:09):
by myself, second timetraveling by myself, uh-huh, but
I look back on all of thatbecause I don't actually travel
with people.
I meet them, I meet my friendsin the places, but it taught me
that was one of the first thingsthat taught me I was going to
be okay by myself andindependence and how to control
(33:30):
my emotions better not be likebooking somewhere I don't even
know, but like.
So I did a lot of that.
I did a lot of traveling aloneand I had to teach myself also,
I was okay before this person.
I can be okay after.
Speaker 1 (33:46):
Oh 100%.
Speaker 2 (33:47):
And, yes, for a little bit I was not going to
dance class.
I wasn't dancing for five yearsat one point, and then I I
strictly just went into yoga.
So yes, I'm a registered yogateacher guys huh oh, hell yeah
yeah, so I use that also as aform of therapy but, also to
keep training and movement, justso in case.
(34:08):
I went back into dance.
So I guess, to sum it up, it isso hard to find yourself again,
find who you are, so easy togive up everything you love for
one person.
But what I was taught from allthese people that I met on my
travels, whether it be dance,whatever, that's not the only
(34:28):
kind of love that's out there.
And even my own coworker toldme she said she told a customer.
I hate that society teaches usthat in order to be happy or
loved, that you have to have apartner.
Yeah.
Because I don't know if you knowthis I know we have like this
run around communication it'sactually illegal to divorce in
the Philippines.
Speaker 1 (34:48):
Illegal.
It's illegal to divorce in thePhilippines.
Speaker 2 (34:51):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
So if you're, if you get married in the Philippines,
you want to get a divorce, youhave to go to the Philippines,
right?
Speaker 2 (34:58):
No, it's just illegal .
When you're in the Philippines,you cannot divorce because it's
under the church.
These laws.
Speaker 1 (35:07):
Oh yeah, you call.
Speaker 2 (35:09):
Filipino women crazy.
No, it's just like we can't,they just can't.
And they're still fighting itto this day.
Uh-huh, can you imagine?
It's not working out.
It's all this.
Yeah, and then you can't leavethem no way.
Because, yeah, so like and theseare things she talked to me
about I didn't know about that,yeah, so it puts you into
(35:35):
perspective if something's notright for you and you have that
ability to just go.
Yeah, it will take time, butit's probably the best thing for
you and just it's okay to loveyourself and focus on yourself
you're not being selfish.
I love myself.
I've always have.
I just, you know, I was like inlove, you know, but then yeah
why do you think people thinkit's selfish of them to love
themselves?
Speaker 1 (35:55):
Why do you think certain people think that way?
Has that ever crossed your mind?
Speaker 2 (36:00):
Yes, and I figured this out.
I do have a question, oh goahead.
Not a question, sorry, I dohave an answer for that.
So we're all recovering people,pleasers.
It's those people in our lives.
Let's go back and think aboutthat one person who made you
feel bad for not doing something.
But you wanted to say nobecause you knew it wasn't going
(36:23):
to do any good for you, but itmade them happy.
But were they ever there whenyou needed them?
It's when those I would say Iwas like so much of a pleaser
because somebody made me feelbad if I didn't do it.
Like I was a failure Like oh,I'm not a good friend.
And then you know, years passby, we learn boundaries.
(36:43):
Yeah.
You know.
So that's why I feel likepeople feel like they need to
you never, ever.
It's very rare to have that oneperson that tells you like hey,
I know you're busy, just so youknow it, you're good.
So I I try to do that to people.
I've done that to people andthey're like wait, wow, why are
you so chill and understanding.
(37:03):
I was like I know what it'slike to have that one person,
one friend, who's like oh, soyou just left my whatever,
whatever late like, or likeearly like, you don't care, like
I'm like.
But now that I'm older and I'min my 30s, shit makes sense now,
like why you left early.
Maybe I don't care about you I'mthe same exact way.
Speaker 1 (37:24):
Oh my gosh, yeah I've .
I've been fortunate enough tohave to not have those
conversations, because when Idip out I'm like, hey y'all, I'm
out peace you the irish goodbye, yeah, yeah it's like I'm like
I'm out of here, I get my daps,you know I'm out, you know so
where's chris?
Speaker 2 (37:41):
yeah?
Oh, that motherfucker left ohyeah, let's just check his
instagram.
Where is he?
Oh, he left.
He's out.
He's at arby's guys down theroad, that's what girl.
Speaker 1 (37:49):
Yeah.
So like I've done that so manytimes, to where, the very first
time I'm like man, would theythink something.
But then, after I started doingit, like, say, the sixth time,
I'm like man, I don't give afuck, I honestly don't care what
they think, I'm just, I'm gone,I'm gonna go to sleep.
You know I'm saying aren't?
You a better friend person,brother, cousin, when you do
(38:11):
that yeah, like without givingno explanation, just hey, man,
this ain't for me, man, I'm out.
Why, why I'm out what do youmean?
I'm like nope, nope, I'm gone.
Speaker 2 (38:23):
I mean it was cool when we were younger and hanging
out in the parking lot tilllike 6 am.
Speaker 1 (38:28):
But you know we're like yeah, when you get older,
you got priorities and then,when, once those priorities hit,
you're like, man, I can't be,I'm not gonna take this other
shot because I know where it'sgonna take me.
Man, you're a pussy, I don'tgive a fuck, I'm a pussy that's
gonna be home, you know, are yougonna see me in?
No jail cell, but uh, you knowwhat I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (38:49):
So, yeah, be responsible, y'all there you go
and just let your friend dip outearly yeah, like let them this
you know he's alive.
He or she's alive.
You're fine, you know.
Be like.
You know.
Be that friend.
Now my friends are very like.
Just text us when you get home,yeah, yeah it's like that too.
And then you get all ADD andyou're like just scrolling Are
you home?
I?
Speaker 1 (39:08):
was like oh my yes.
Yeah, my bad dog, Are you agood like replier when it comes
to texting?
Speaker 2 (39:16):
Absolutely I agree with that.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
Do you prefer texting or the phone calls?
Speaker 2 (39:20):
Phone calls, guys and voice notes.
I am everyone knows I am thequeen of voice notes.
Speaker 1 (39:24):
You did send me a voice note.
Speaker 2 (39:26):
Yeah, I was driving.
Yeah okay, okay.
I'm not trying to like get intoan accident and die before this
show.
Speaker 1 (39:31):
Girl, I feel you, I feel you.
Speaker 2 (39:33):
I was like Chris no, no, no, no, no, no, no, Boom.
Speaker 1 (39:37):
Oh girl, we had.
I had this conversation with acouple of my friends because
texting you could read a textthree, four different ways,
right?
So I would rather just hear itfrom them and it's just done,
deal, because you could hear theoctaves in their voice.
Speaker 2 (39:56):
Yeah, I hate like when some people text me and
they have to like, you know,send me.
Sorry that sounded kind of rude, but that's not what I was
trying to mean and I'm like, ohmy God, like no, I get that.
But also, you know, sometimeswhen I text you I'm like I'm not
.
I try to use a lot of happyemojis, a lot of exclamation
points, so you don't think likeI'm having an attitude.
Speaker 1 (40:21):
I'm not, but man.
You take it as it is, man.
Speaker 2 (40:25):
I've done that recently.
I'm so proud of myself.
After a friend had a little bitof an attitude with me, I just
left it on red.
Speaker 1 (40:34):
Really, Are you a big person on that, leaving people
on red?
Speaker 2 (40:39):
if I don't know If you're mean to me ah like what
how about?
Speaker 1 (40:46):
how about in your DMs ?
Do you leave a lot of DMs onread, or do you?
I answer them?
Speaker 2 (40:49):
you reply yeah, I answer them.
Oh good, hey, good for you yeah, well, like cause when you work
in the film industry.
Speaker 1 (40:54):
Oh, yes, yes, I totally forgot about that.
That should skip my head.
Speaker 2 (40:58):
So communication's really important and if you
choose not to answer and theyfind out why you didn't answer,
you just costed a movie.
Ooh girl.
Your brain is all working parts.
You know what.
I mean, I asked you a questionIs so-and-so available, yes or
no?
Okay, we're all waiting.
Every department's waiting onyou.
Yeah, it's not that hard to sayyes or no, or just leave a
(41:22):
little brief explanation LikeI'll have friends that are like
like they don't, they're just,you know, they're always like
sorry, I saw, sorry, I saw yourtext.
We'll explain that I forgot tohit send.
Did you really forget to hitsend, girl?
Because you hit post prettyfast when it was you and your
(41:42):
boyfriend hanging out it's theside eye for me he said he loved
my facial that was likeeverybody's gonna agree with me
on this that's facts.
Yeah, oh my god really youforget to hit send but you hit
post about the same time on yourstory.
Speaker 1 (42:02):
Girl, I'd be guilty with like reading it and it's
like, all right, I'm going toget back to it, but then I've
done that once or twice, but itwasn't like a big deal.
Yeah, yeah Like life be life in, or it's just.
Speaker 2 (42:17):
I get so caught up because I have ADHD.
Speaker 1 (42:19):
So it's like together yeah, so it'd be dude.
I'd be like on like wavelengthsand streams of trying to get
shit done and I'd be forgettingand I'm like, oh fuck.
And then once I remember, I'mlike a day, two, three days
later I'm like, damn, my bad dog, like for real yes, I can show
up.
Yeah, I'd be like dude, I'm,I'm showing up to that party,
(42:40):
ooh.
Mm-mm-mm girl.
Next question Okay, meetingsomeone for the first time.
What's a good way for them to?
Okay, you guys already met.
What's too much information toshare that first meeting?
Like, could you give them yourwhole life story?
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Or you're giving them yourwhat's happening currently,
right now.
Like what's a good way to havehim or her like inside your life
, but not fully inside your life?
Like what's a good way to dothat?
Speaker 2 (43:17):
that is like a 50 50 do you mean like pursuing a
relationship or friendship?
Speaker 1 (43:21):
Not even pursuing, just like your first meeting
with someone.
What's too much information orwhat's not enough information?
Speaker 2 (43:30):
Oh, my gosh Because I'm a chill person.
People are comfortable to tellme what kind of person they are.
Speaker 1 (43:38):
Okay, I'll throw this scenario at you then, miss
Stacey.
Okay, yeah, all right.
Filming party I met.
Throw the scenario at you then,miss Stacey.
Okay, yeah, all right.
Filming party.
I met you at a filming party.
I guess I'm an extra, yeah.
Speaker 2 (43:49):
Yeah, okay, you're good at this, I'm a
motherfucking extra.
Speaker 1 (43:52):
I see you, you're like the kind of the co-stars or
whatever.
Yes, I'm starting aconversation with you.
What's too much info for youlike, oh damn, you didn't have
to tell me all that shit.
Or that's enough for me to belike oh okay, this is him.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
I'm gonna say something like if you share too
much to the point where it'slike I think I have to report
you oh okay, so if it becomesthat much okay in that context,
but about friendships andrelationships I I don't like
talking too much about.
(44:30):
Oh, my god, I hate this.
I even have it at Filipinoparties and everything like what
do you do?
Speaker 1 (44:37):
and oh like like an occupation, like what do you do?
Do, yeah, you know you're insome countries.
Speaker 2 (44:42):
That's actually like inconsiderate to ask.
Speaker 1 (44:44):
Yeah, like, oh, how much you make a year?
Yeah, you can't ask that inEurope.
Hell, no, yeah you know what Imean.
Speaker 2 (44:49):
When are you going to get married, have kids or
things like that?
But I think if you're trying topursue somebody and you, yes,
state that ahead of time, okay,you know, at a certain age you
don't want your time wasted.
Speaker 1 (45:02):
Facts.
Speaker 2 (45:02):
But, man, you know, you ever watch those like
reality shows, like Love andLocked Up and all this.
Yes, I do.
Speaker 1 (45:10):
Or like True.
Speaker 2 (45:11):
Crime or all these like couples and stuff.
Like I like to watch True Crime, but it's like you know you
watch this as a third person.
You're you watch this as athird person.
You're like, did she?
Not?
See the red flags.
Yeah, like I would say that ifthey some people, if they want
to pursue a relationship orfriendship, they are overly nice
.
How about that?
I'll say that.
Oh, okay, okay okay, it's notmaybe the things they say, but
(45:31):
what probably is like a like iswhen they're overly nice,
because in my head I'm like areyou overly nice every single day
?
Can you keep this up everysingle day?
Speaker 1 (45:44):
Oh yeah, but are you?
Speaker 2 (45:46):
Yeah, I'm very nice a lot.
So because it just alwayshappens Like someone would be
like over nice and like it'slike, but then you get to know
these people and then it diesdown and you're like huh,
because you know when we firstmet.
Speaker 1 (45:59):
You got what you wanted, right, the booty.
I'm just playing, I'm playing.
Speaker 2 (46:05):
No, he's right though .
Speaker 1 (46:06):
He's the booty, that hell.
Yeah, I could say.
Speaker 2 (46:08):
And then like, maybe you like, maybe you just keep
this person going for like ayear, and then it's like they
figure out like, oh, thisperson's not even going to, ok,
I'm going to leave, ok.
So then you weren't actuallythat happy-go-lucky person we
met at the party.
Speaker 1 (46:21):
First impressions mean a lot.
Speaker 2 (46:23):
Yeah, and it's lasting.
I usually show up and be likehey, you know, my name is Stacey
, I'm a little bit crazy andunhinged, but you can stay, you
can leave.
Usually they stay, oh reallyyeah.
Speaker 1 (46:34):
That's your intro.
Speaker 3 (46:36):
Yeah, I love that intro it's like it's straight to
the point.
Speaker 1 (46:41):
Yeah, stay early and you gave them the option of
leaving or staying.
Yeah, and then you say theyusually stay yeah they would
love to see how the show turnsout yeah, and it's fun.
Speaker 2 (46:51):
You know you don't want to find out later who they
really I'm like, I don't reallywant to find out who you are
like, you know.
Speaker 1 (46:57):
Oh God, I'll be nice, but yeah so.
Oh girl Question Next question.
Speaker 2 (47:11):
Does liking or loving someone hit harder?
As you know, us people getolder.
Speaker 1 (47:14):
I'm going to have Chris say his thing first.
Speaker 2 (47:15):
Okay, I'll say my thing first, because that was
beautiful, oh thank you.
Speaker 1 (47:17):
Thank you so much.
It wasn't rehearsed, it wasfreestyled it was it was from
the Hort, you know from the Hort.
I think as we get older we dofall for people with connection,
(47:37):
that we connect with a littlebit harder because we know
ourselves more, a little bitmore than we did when we were,
like in our 20s and in our teenswe were like in our 20s and in
our teens, so the connection islike stronger and it's um
especially if we know what wedon't like and we don't want and
we see what we want in thatother person.
It's.
It's hard to let that go,because it's like damn, I really
want that, I can get it, but inall reality, in all sense, I
(47:59):
can't have it, you know.
So yeah, I think, as we getolder, I think it's harder.
Speaker 2 (48:05):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (48:09):
And it takes us a little bit longer than you know
to get with someone after thatconnection, because it's like
damn, I was mentally because thewhole physical part right, you
could move on to the next, youknow, to the next, you know you
could canoodle with someoneafterwards, Right, but with the
whole brain it's dude.
The brain is a crazy thing.
Speaker 2 (48:26):
And yeah, the whole, yeah, that was me, so I agree
with him.
The difference between today,oh, today.
And like the past, you knowrelationships and marriages are
like they were like actuallylike a business deal, OK, right,
(48:47):
and back in the day, back wayin the day you got married for
finances and survival.
Speaker 1 (48:52):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (48:52):
You know, and then relationships, who.
That was hard to back in theday, like you had, it was class,
depending what yeah, dependingwhat culture.
Yeah, it's class.
So now we're more free, youknow, like you can have
interracial relationships andwe're more accepting of lgbtq
and things like that, you know.
But now we have the rise oflike social media video pictures
(49:18):
, having to put up some sort ofshow or whatever.
When it comes to, I guessthat's what makes relationships
hard yeah also, I don't know,man, people use this as an
excuse.
This is what I always like hereand stuff.
It's always like that person.
Maybe they want to get into arelationship.
They know it's good, butthey're like no, no, no, but I
(49:39):
don't want it because of fear ofbeing rejected, fear of, like,
putting in too much into thisrelationship because they did it
before and it didn't work outand I don't.
Nobody wants to feel heartbreak, definitely not definitely
nobody wants to feel that.
However, this is life and it'ssomething that god I I will say
this, my one heartbreak.
(50:00):
I'm never going through that,ever again.
Speaker 1 (50:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (50:02):
I'd rather walk this earth, like by myself, with my
future dog.
Yeah, my future dog.
I don't have one now becauseI'm so busy.
Speaker 1 (50:10):
Manifesting this dog.
Speaker 2 (50:11):
With my future dog like that looks like a wolf.
See, I have this all likeplanned out, then.
To be with someone who doesn'treally like wants to be into me,
yeah, and to be with someonewho doesn't really like wants to
be into me.
Yeah, but we're also stuck inthis culture where it's like,
hey, I want some of the stuff asa girlfriend, but I don't want
to commit to you.
Speaker 1 (50:29):
Oh, oh yes.
Speaker 2 (50:30):
Or like I want to whatever Listen.
If that I don't judge anybodywho wants to be in that kind of
relationship.
Just never lose yourself.
Okay, this person needs 10years to think.
If they want to be with you,Then you make that choice.
I don't deserve this.
I'm going to move on.
Yeah, oh, yeah but don't everwait for that person.
You know, Like I know I havebefore, but because I'm so busy
(50:55):
and I'm just so into otherthings that love me back, I'm
just very like, all right, youtake your time.
Speaker 1 (51:01):
Oh yeah, definitely yeah, You're doing, you boo.
Speaker 2 (51:03):
Yes, and that's.
It's a true thing.
That's what my friends wouldalways tell me They'd be like
just focus on you, focus on you.
And when you're going throughso much pain and turmoil, you
don't even understand or knowwhat they mean.
When you finally do it and youfinally let go of what doesn't
serve you and whatnot, thenyou're like, oh, like, okay, so
all those excuses they evergiven you, like, yeah, but this
(51:27):
and this, but I'm not ready,You're ready, Go Like you're
that person, You're ready.
So like, that's how I see withthe relationships.
Yes, I think it's harder, butdon't like.
I mean like, don't allow justone person, thing, whatever, to
make you feel like oh, this isit, I guess.
Speaker 1 (51:49):
Oh hey man, there's a lot of fish in the sea.
Speaker 2 (51:52):
Yeah, I'm saying go to Thailand, guys.
Get on that random plane.
Lady boy, yo, they didn't wantme.
That's why I survived Thailand.
They actually Shut up.
Speaker 1 (52:01):
They didn't want you.
They were like hey.
Speaker 2 (52:03):
They asked me, though they were like ladyboy, and I
go no, full woman, they're likemm-mm-mm.
Speaker 1 (52:07):
Shut your ass.
Speaker 2 (52:08):
Yeah, you would not survive, Chris.
Speaker 1 (52:10):
You know what?
Speaker 2 (52:13):
They would take you to the club.
They would Chris before me.
Oh well, shit man.
So you better like watch thisstuff.
Yeah, they wanted men, I got atrunk.
Speaker 1 (52:23):
you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2 (52:24):
I got a booty, yeah like they were all into the men
and I was like no way, I didn'tknow Thailand was like that.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (52:32):
Oh God, ladyboys yeah , they're so beautiful though.
Speaker 2 (52:38):
So if a woman goes out there with her friends,
they're safe.
Speaker 1 (52:39):
Yeah, no one wants us oh shit, all right, I'm gonna
send my wife and her home girlsout there.
Speaker 2 (52:44):
Yeah, have a time of your life, you need to be like
with you need to be withsomebody like you're gonna get
snatched man is that a realthing, though?
Speaker 1 (52:51):
like would they really snatch you didn't watch
the hangover I did.
I did watch that.
I didn't know it was yes, man.
So there's a little truth tothat shit.
Speaker 2 (52:59):
Yes, oh god I knew, because I knew it, because I was
like by myself, partying inPhuket, and then, like they
asked me, you know, and I waslike no, a full woman.
They're like oh.
Speaker 1 (53:10):
No, they fucking showed you the show.
Speaker 2 (53:12):
I'm like yeah.
Speaker 1 (53:13):
Uh-uh no.
Speaker 2 (53:16):
And then they would just talk to all the guys.
It's fine.
Speaker 1 (53:19):
Is this in the main part of Thailand?
Speaker 2 (53:22):
Phuket is a party area.
Speaker 1 (53:24):
It's a party area, so is.
Speaker 2 (53:26):
Bangkok, I mean obviously.
Speaker 1 (53:27):
By the name of it, by the name.
Speaker 2 (53:31):
But I just arrived there and then went to Phuket.
Speaker 1 (53:35):
Oh, okay.
So you haven't explored therural, not the rural, but the
suburbs.
Speaker 2 (53:39):
But Phuket is a party hearty like.
Speaker 1 (53:42):
Is it I?
Speaker 2 (53:42):
don't know if you guys saw the White Lotus season
three.
Speaker 1 (53:45):
Yes, yeah, oh yeah, that's Phuket that moonlight
party, situation whatever.
That's it.
Speaker 2 (53:50):
It's that raging yeah .
Speaker 1 (53:52):
Oh shit, yeah, I like White Lotus.
Meanwhile I binge watched thatone.
I binge.
Speaker 2 (53:56):
White Lotus, white lotus.
That shit is hilarious.
Tell me that season two waslike.
Speaker 1 (54:01):
Is season two, the one where they're in.
Speaker 2 (54:03):
Italy oh.
Speaker 1 (54:05):
I don't know, man, I didn't know that girl played him
Spoiler alert.
That's why I love season two.
She played him hard because Ithought she was going to go home
with him.
Back to.
Speaker 2 (54:16):
LA.
Listen, this is no spoiler, butthis girl got with grandpa, dad
and son.
Speaker 1 (54:22):
Oh my gosh.
Yes, she walked away with 50K.
She played it, she played thatpart and I was like dang, so the
guy was in on it too then yeah,the worker.
The pimp.
Speaker 2 (54:34):
It was a worker.
Speaker 1 (54:35):
He was a worker.
Speaker 2 (54:36):
Like worker, Disguised worker, yeah.
Speaker 1 (54:38):
Oh Crazy disguised worker.
Yeah, oh god, white lotus, hbomax, hit me up.
Please hook me up.
Yes, white lotus was prettygood.
The first, the first one, yeah,the first one, got me too the
um the first season like this isour faces, right?
Speaker 2 (54:52):
when you're watching at like, you're like just
watching in the beginning justto see what it's like and you're
just like what?
Speaker 1 (54:57):
And you're like like Right Stifler's mom.
Speaker 3 (55:02):
she's in season one and season two.
Oh, she's the best.
Speaker 1 (55:05):
I love her Like, even though she's like out there
yeah.
Speaker 2 (55:10):
But it's like she's sweet Could you imagine someone
else playing Tanya's role?
Absolutely not.
It had to be her, yeah.
Yeah, Like seeing it now likefinishing it.
I can't unsee it and they youknow, if you watch White Lotus
from the beginning all the wayto the season 3, it intertwines
(55:30):
the story from season 1 oh, yes,you're right.
Speaker 1 (55:35):
What's her name?
The black girl.
She was in one, not in two, butthen went in three and I'm like
what the fuck.
Speaker 2 (55:46):
I can't wait for White Lotus is good.
Speaker 1 (55:48):
White Lotus is good.
Y'all.
I suggest y'all y'all binge,watch that.
What I'm gonna say a good twoand a half, three days yeah of
watching that yeah girl,absolutely, hell yeah.
Miss Stacey, that was fun.
Yeah, do you have any shoutouts or anything?
Or where can these people thatdon't know you, where can they
find you at?
Speaker 2 (56:07):
you can find me in a dance studio or at the airport,
because I'm always flyingsomewhere to Thailand or yeah, I
bartend too.
So come down to Waikiki, asiaSticks Asia.
Speaker 1 (56:20):
Sticks Waikiki, asia Sticks, asia Sticks Waikiki.
Hey man, it used to be.
Speaker 2 (56:22):
Yokochou guys.
Speaker 1 (56:24):
Oh, for real.
Speaker 2 (56:25):
Yeah, remember, I don't know if you saw.
Speaker 1 (56:27):
Nah, I don't, I really don't party out there.
Speaker 2 (56:29):
It's Waikiki Shopping Plaza and that basement floor
it used to be Yokochou.
Then it closed down, gotrenovated and became Asia Sticks
.
Speaker 1 (56:36):
Asia Sticks.
Is there a dress code?
Now you're in Hawaii, sothere's no dress code.
No dress codes.
Okay.
And then is it just a bar.
There's music and everythingtoo, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (56:45):
So just imagine a night out in Japan, that night
market.
Look, that's what it looks likedown there.
Speaker 1 (56:51):
No way.
Speaker 2 (56:51):
With a bar in the middle.
Speaker 1 (56:52):
Yeah, I'm feeling to find you, me and my wife, and
I'm a Hennessy drinker, so Iwant some top shelf Hennessy.
Speaker 2 (57:00):
You're going to get a lot of like wait, you like
whiskey?
Yeah, you like whiskey.
Tequila oh, we have a lot.
Speaker 1 (57:05):
Well, not tequila but I am wanting to try the one
with the bell.
We have that.
I don't know if the hype's realit is.
Is it really?
I want to taste that tequila.
Speaker 2 (57:15):
You know what I learned, guys?
You um from a customer, youcan't just hit it, you have to
like hit it from the side reallyso I call it like a slap.
You gotta, yeah, yeah, yougotta do that.
So remember, you gotta sideslap it.
You can't, because we were alllike why isn't?
Speaker 1 (57:34):
it.
Why isn't it working?
Speaker 2 (57:35):
yeah, okay and then this one cool customer, she goes
give that to me, I'll show you.
You, she fixes it.
Speaker 1 (57:40):
She's just like and then you heard the bing.
Speaker 2 (57:43):
Yeah, so you guys got a side bitch slap.
Speaker 1 (57:46):
Side bitch, that tequila.
Hell, yeah, that was fun.
Ko Studios, thank you for thelovely home.
Raffy Bite, thank you for thelovely beats man.
As for that, I'm Chris.
Speaker 2 (57:57):
I'm Stacey.
Speaker 1 (57:58):
And we out this bitch Peace.
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Welcome back to another episodeof the relationship method
podcast.
It's your boy, chris, and todayI have a very lovely guest.
Her name's stacy.
She's an actress, a dancer, um,can I say the?
Uh, your job yes she is also,um a giver of drinks during the
(00:30):
nightlife, so, um, she's abartender.
God damn it.
Uh welcome to the motherfuckingpod yay stacy.
Thank you for uh rollingthrough this, motherfucker thank
you for having me.
Girl, before we start going onthis shit, how did I get the yes
from you to come on?
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Oh, you just asked.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Oh yeah.
Oh so ask and you shall receivetype of situation.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
But then you knew one of the other girls I worked
with.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
We all FBI agents.
We have to be like who's thisand who do you know and who's
(01:21):
your mutual friends?
Yeah, yeah yeah, I liked it andI listened to some of the girls
talking and I was like, wow,this is so funny.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
I love it.
I love it, okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Like.
I just like the first two,three seconds of one of the
videos.
I was like this is cool.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Hey, thank you so much.
Thank you so much for listening.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
I'm like ADD here and if you can't catch my attention
in like three seconds I move on.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
You're like this right.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
I was like oh my God, this is actually funny.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
So you say ADD is it?
Did you go through a therapistfor that Like, are you for sure?
Speaker 2 (01:53):
I'm like self one of those like self-diagnosed Like I
just feel like certain thingsdon't catch my attention.
Yeah, like it's very, like Ihave to like it uh huh, it's
just hard.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Are you like that in school?
Oh, like, when you went toschool, were you like man?
This class is fucking boring.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Yes, math, oh, but I liked all right, but everything
else that was like art yeahsocial studies, english creative
things.
It was more um something thatwas uh interesting to me.
Yeah.
And then I realized that's likehow my brain works.
It's more creative.
Math is always like onesolution.
I'm not a one solution person.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Oh, so you're a type of you're the girl.
That's like there's a way, butthen there's other ways to solve
this problem.
So I'm going to go those otherways.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Yeah, like like there's 10 different outcomes,
like the multiverse.
You know that whatever you do,there's something else is gonna
happen, and it's fine and it'sokay.
And then math always just gaveme anxiety, because it's like
what, if I anything I did wronghere, if it doesn't come out to
that answer, then you better doit again.
And it's like I just math wasvery hard for me.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Girl facts.
I fucking hated math.
I hated the polygraphic, thosetheorems that you have to do.
When am I ever gonna use thatshit in life?
You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2 (03:14):
No, I just asked my coworker who's really smart with
money and counting.
I just asked him to like herewhat is this?
That's it.
You can do it.
You know, my coworkers are verysupportive, but I'm like yeah,
no, don't even, Don't ask me,Even with tips.
(03:34):
It's like 50%.
I know 50%.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Any other percent.
I'm like I don't know.
Ooh girl, how long have youbeen bartending for?
Speaker 2 (03:41):
I've been bartending now for five or six years.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Girl, was it hard when you started off, like
remembering drinks and mixingthem for you know, for people,
because I could only imagine,especially in the nightlife
they're like oh, I want thisthis, this all quick.
Was it hard for you, like thefirst go around?
Speaker 2 (04:01):
No, oh shit.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
So you knew your shit .
Speaker 2 (04:03):
No, it's just because I actually like putting things
together.
I don't know it's a creativething for me.
But uh, with customers and ifthey're being difficult, I'm
really good at diffusing it.
Like you can kind of, if you'rea nightlife person, you can
kind of read the person alreadyhow they're going to be, what
type of person they're going tobe, what type of person they're
going to be, so you kind ofdiffuse that.
(04:25):
So like to even like easestress for me, especially for
busy, I will tell, I'll tell thecustomer, hey, we're really
busy.
So just so you know, your drinkmight be a little bit late, but
what can I get for you?
I do that to every person.
I'm very, I'm a good person,like I can tell, or I can tell
if someone's going to be trouble.
I'm a good person.
I can tell or I can tell ifsomeone's going to be trouble,
yeah, and if I can tell you'retrouble, I will not open a tab
(04:48):
with you.
Oh really.
Because I don't want to go backto you, I just close you out.
Oh, that's a freaking good tip.
So if you see this podcast andyou're mad about that, yeah,
because maybe you're mean to meand I'm just going to close you
out- oh, to me, and I'm justgoing to close you out, oh girl.
Like when you leave a tab open.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, you have to keep going back to them
right, yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Like you know, if I have someone that's just really
just like about to ruin my night, I'm like, okay, pay it out,
bye, and I don't even have to goto you ever again.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Really has a situation ever came where they
didn't pay?
Yes, yes, last night.
Ooh, let them know.
Last night Was it a gentlemanor a female?
Speaker 2 (05:28):
It was a female too.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
No way I thought females would be more classier
at the bar.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
They were just gone, and then they just Local or was
this person from?
Local.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Oh, oh.
In your occupation plural youmessed with local and, I guess,
mainlanders and stuff who arethe easiest to like, say, work
with or get along with, in youropinion.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Oh my gosh, the locals.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Locals.
Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Yeah, they tip more Okay they tip more, all right.
Yes, they're the most easygoing.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
How about, in the acting field, locals or like
easy to work with or easy to bearound, locals or people from
the mainland, or can you yeah?
Speaker 2 (06:13):
It depends.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
It depends because in the mainland they have certain
expectations that work withinthe industry that you need to be
a certain way, work within theindustry that you need to be a
certain way, and then locals.
It's just hard when they don't.
Which industry are we talkingabout?
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Are we talking about the filming industry?
The filming industry, yeah, yes, the filming industry.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Locals would be a little bit harder if they don't
know enough about what isexpected of them to the mainland
standards in the film industry.
Does that make sense?
Yes.
Yeah, they have a differentlearning, a different structure
and you know it's kind of hardwhen you're on an island, you're
far from everything.
What they know, what theirexpectations are, you may not
(07:00):
agree with but you have to.
It's what works.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Okay, let me ask you this We'll stick on filming when
you're auditioning, right, andyou and I could connect on this
one, because I did an auditionand I kind of bombed it.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
No, you didn't.
No, hell yeah.
No, there's no such thing asbombing.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
He will try next time I didn't get the callback.
But I mean it was one of thoseshits and giggles.
Hey, why not?
Because it was an ad onInstagram.
It was like oh, we need acertain character field or
whatever.
So I sent in, I guess, myresume and a headshot.
My resume was freaking blank.
(07:43):
I just put host of a podcastand that was it.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Okay, he's something.
At least he knows how to talk,yeah, so.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
I did that and then it was somewhere in Kaneohe.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Okay.
I map-quested that motherfuckerand then Damn, I did that for
here too, oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
So I talked to several people and then I was
like, oh, we'll call you back.
And then in my head I was like,fuck.
So yeah, like what do you dobefore auditions to lessen, like
, say, the anxious anxietyinside you, or does it come
natural when you're trying toget these roles?
Speaker 2 (08:18):
I learned that you have to prepare.
You have to prep.
And when I say say prep, it'snot even just the night before,
although, like you will getauditioned and stuff last minute
.
But I've been like, I've beentraining.
I do have a coach, um, that Italk to on zoom, and it's the
(08:40):
more you do it.
You have to treat yourauditions also like educational
pieces.
You know you have to treat yourauditions also like educational
pieces.
You know you have to changeyour mindset.
It's just change that mindsetof okay, I'm going to get it,
I'm going to be famous this andthis and this.
No, why do you love acting?
Why do you love film?
So I'm going to keep going tothese auditions.
(09:00):
Treat it like classes.
I'm going to go to theseclasses.
Treat it like oh, this is likeyou're pursuing journalism or
something.
This is my speaking class.
You have to approach it likethat and when you approach it
like that, change your mindset.
You're less anxious, you'reless anxiety because you're
treating it like that's thefirst thing I have to do.
But no, just remember thereason why you're even going.
(09:23):
Okay, but definitely prepare,prepar, do, but no, like just
remember the reason why you'reeven going.
Okay, not like you know, butlike definitely prepare,
preparation, you know.
And then just um, stay focusedand that's what I have to do oh,
um, first time being on camera.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
How was that like for you?
Because, uh, my first time oncamera, I was I can't even do a
regular photo shoot withoutbeing so like goofy on set.
You know how were you when youfirst got on camera Were you
like did you feel awkward?
Or like when they startedfilming you were you like, oh
shit, what am I doing wrong?
(09:57):
Because in my head I'm doingeverything right.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
So I'm a dancer.
Yes girl, we both talk aboutthis, we're both dancers.
He used to dance.
We're very aware with ourbodies, we're aware of how we
look, so I don't have a problembeing on camera.
But when it comes to filming, Ididn't know.
They have things called eyelines.
So eye lines are like, so we'relooking directly here.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
This is a podcast.
It's okay to look directly here, but when you're acting you
gotta look like somewhere else,because on screen right, what
actor is looking directly?
Speaker 1 (10:30):
at the camera.
Yeah, you're not.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Your eye lines are here and it's like you know
whoever you're talking to, right.
But it's so hard when you knowthat equipment is right here but
you gotta ignore that.
You know eye lines.
Eye lines were the hardest forme, yeah.
So every time I audition forsomething, the first thing I
think of is my eyelines, becausethat's my biggest weakness.
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I'm so used to.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Looking at the camera .
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Even if I'm dancing, we're not looking off anywhere,
unless that's what you have todo, but I'm like looking right
at the camera.
So, yeah, I don't have aproblem being on camera.
But it's my eyelines if it's,you know, film work.
Oh okay, everything is training, everything is just like.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Just training, huh.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Yeah, little things like this, people don't know.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Oh, okay.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
And then in dancing too, because I've seen your
posts and dancing.
I love your facials.
Your facials are on point.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
You have to.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
BT dub.
How'd you get into the wholedancing thing?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
I'm a 90s baby.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
Yes, girl.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
So I grew up with no cameras.
Guys, do you remember thecamera with the small one right?
Speaker 1 (11:41):
You have the small cameras.
You also got the big ones too.
Yes, small ones where you justflip open, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
So everyone realized now that in the 90s we didn't.
When you did take a dance class, you had to remember that
choreo, you didn't take home avideo.
Mm-hmm.
Like but you know, we're luckynow we have that video, but I I
remember drawing thechoreography out like my arms
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were like here or whatever.
I had little stick figures butlike it just.
But you know, remember now wedidn't have anything to film us
and whatnot you just had toremember retain it.
But it was good training becauseyou learn retention.
And then you learned um to haveconfidence in yourself that you
could retain it, and then itjust helps you learn things more
faster.
But then I got started when Iwas about 13 years old, 12 or 13
(12:31):
.
And I remember it was KnicksPack.
They had a performance and theywere dancing contemporary to
Patti LaBelle's New Attitude.
And.
I just remembered this for thepodcast because I felt like
you're going to ask that.
And they look so confident.
These dancers look so confident, they look so beautiful and
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they were just talented.
They could turn, they couldflip and I was like I want to do
that, but I was so shy.
But also I loved all thosemusic videos.
I love Britney Spears, I loveChristina Aguilera and I was
like I want to dance like that.
They look so hot.
You know, Everyone wants tolook good.
Oh, yeah, definitely, yeah,yeah.
And also because I was so young.
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Also I tell this to all myfriends too.
They ask me.
They all see other reasonsBecause I wasn't like the
coolest person back inelementary.
I was such a dork and I wasquiet and no boy would ever like
talk to me, but they did when Istarted dancing.
But anyway, yeah, so that's howI got it started, because I saw
that performance and then Ilooked into studios in Kaneohe
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and, yes, I did start with DanceForce 24-7.
I did and I Force 24-7.
I did and I just remember myfirst class.
I was just really scared, LikeI remember, after we did the,
they taught us a combo.
Yeah, I actually ran off.
You know when they were likeokay, let's do it as a group.
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Like, yeah, groups of four orfive, yeah, and I think I didn't
like I messed up on a fewthings and I just was like, oh
my gosh, and then I just ran off.
But you know what I mean?
I was young, but it was also alearning tool too.
Like, as you get older, whenyou mess up, you have to keep
going, and I take these thingswith me.
I still dance, but yeah, that'show I got started.
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I saw a performance and Iwanted the boys to like me
Shaking that shit for all theboys and then, like now I don't
care anymore, I'm like no, Iactually truly love this.
Oh, good for you girl, good foryou.
I never stop.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
Girl, I remember the first time I messed up on, like
in a group's combo or whatever,and I just stood there because I
couldn't get back into it,because I was like damn, I tried
, I was like hmm, Sometimes thatworks.
Oh yeah, so next time around Icame through, I killed it
afterwards.
But those groups, like whenthey say, hey, let's just do
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groups it's intimidating,because I mean, it's, the focus
is on you Now, you're notwatching other people.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
I'm guilty of that.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Oh yeah, I'd be watching all the time.
I'm like I like being in theback, but now, like after paying
for a class, I'm like, fuckthis, I'm trying to go to the
front.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
He's the same like me .
That's how I think, too hidingabout like you.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
just okay, back in the day it was like 10 a class.
Now you're paying 25.
You better push yourself tothat girl.
Yeah, 25, yeah, so I'll begoing up um in these classes now
yeah I've noticed a lot ofpeople be coming dressed up you
paid for your outfit too,absolutely like I remember like
when I was dancing it was justshorts, maybe some vans and a
tee, and I'm just he's callingme out too, yeah, yeah no.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
And in high tops and for the girls.
It was like we had the whole2000s, like I don't know, it was
like your, it was like a tank.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
Yeah, a tank and like some, like big baggy sweats or
a flannel I had a flannel,sometimes a fitted.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, dime piece, yeah, oh my.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
God, yes, so I remember all that.
And then, yeah, oh man, you'retaking me down memory lane.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
It better be fitted.
That's so cool.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
Oh my gosh, yeah, so that's when I was dancing.
But now I'm seeing peopledancing in teams.
I'm like, dude, that's sofreaking hard and they're
wearing jeans too and I'm like,fuck, I'm sweating in.
Like in sweats, you're sweatingyour ass off.
Have you ever done that?
Have you ever like came likesuper fitted or I mean, you know
(16:35):
yeah.
You have no, no.
Speaker 2 (16:39):
Your question of like have I like Wonderful, great to
see, because a lot.
So now, like I dance with likeadults maybe they just start
dancing and I feel like whateverenhances your confidence If you
(17:00):
just some girls, I'm just like,where did you get that?
She looks good.
And you know, I grew up I grewup where, like, we didn't always
cheer people on, but now we gotbetter with that, so it makes
me happy to see girls.
Yes.
Even guys too, no mattereveryone, because it's also your
(17:22):
expression, and I just feellike when you do dress up, you
know, depending on what you'redancing to, it brings it out
more.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
However, there it is.
I was waiting for the however.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
No, I do love it when people dress up, but make it
make sense yes, when you'redancing like.
So I, and also I believe thisyou can wear the most, you can
be all decked out, but have itmatch your performance.
I'll see girls there's nothingwrong with it, but like they're
all decked out because, yes, youknow you want to have the look,
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but if it doesn't match whatyou're doing, or maybe like your
heel or your shoe gets caughtin something hanging then no, it
actually does not matter whatyou wear, what you look like.
I've seen girls who don't evendress up.
They just show up with aponytail, but they but they're
killing it.
Yes, you don't even rememberwhat she's wearing, but she
killed it.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
She's like doing a headstand and whatever.
Whatever, you're not looking atwhat she's wearing, you're
looking at you know hertechnique, what she brought to
the table.
But I do remember like dancingwith some girls and maybe they
had a baggy shirt that lookedcute, whatever, but the heel got
caught on it or they have someaccessory and it's like and it
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breaks, or like or likesomething gets caught.
But you know like, yeah, whenyou're a dancer, like you know,
you know like if you look atwhat they uh compete in, you
know leotards clean everything,hair back, it's all for a reason
yeah you know.
So like it's okay to look good,but like just remember you
might be on the floor, you mightbe turning.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
This might like get caught.
Get snug and snaggy and shit.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Oh my gosh and Dance.
Have you ever competed, or didyou just do a lot of
performances?
Speaker 2 (19:06):
I did a lot of performances.
I've never competed.
When I look back, would I haveever competed?
No.
When I look back, would I haveever competed?
Speaker 1 (19:14):
No it was a lot of you know why not?
Why wouldn't you have?
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Oh man, anxiety, A lot of anxiety, and I was still
a little bit shy and I was stillkind of figuring out where.
I wanted to go and dance.
Would I compete now as an adult?
Absolutely, but like I wasstill like getting out of a lot
of things, like growing up, um,dance wasn't something that
supported in my family, you knowthis is true, yes, I grew up in
(19:38):
a very strict family and, um, I, I, me and my sister did that
on our own.
We were just like we want to dothis and we're gonna do it.
She didn't stick around to itthat much, but, um, she actually
was the first one to takeclasses and then I followed
after.
Okay, she was actually actuallythe one to do theater.
First.
I got into film.
Later she actually minored intheater.
(19:59):
Really.
That's another thing I tellpeople.
I was like if my sisteractually did theater work first,
she was a theater girl.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
So she knew the ins and outs of theater.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Yeah, she knew theater, but then theater and
film are two different things.
But, she was very confident onstage and everything like that.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
I was actually shy.
I had to grow up.
It's okay you bursted out ofthat bubble I did.
You sure fucking did.
Yes, hell yeah, you're an actor.
Can you see yourself behind thecamera, like, say, directing,
producing, writing and?
Speaker 2 (20:33):
all that shit yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
Yes, have you started behind the camera like, say,
directing, producing writing andall that shit?
Yeah, yes, um, have you started?
Have you?
Have you ever tried doing thatyet?
Speaker 2 (20:39):
uh, so also I keep bringing up dancing.
We dancers, choreographers yesthey I don't know if anyone, but
I know they're the bestdirectors or the best everything
.
We're always coming out withcontent.
We know how to film, likeyou've seen those dance videos.
They are the best filmers.
So I've like done my own, likedance videos with a storyline
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and things like that, becauseI'm a dancer, I know angles.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
So I know the camera angles, I know to go low, I know
to go up, I know all thesethings I've done go low, I know
to go up, I know all thesethings, I've done it before.
It's stressful and I just Iwould just say the number one
thing is that it's okay to gosolo, guys, you can.
It's okay to not work witheverybody, but you must work
with people who are at the samelevel as you, same passion same
(21:29):
drive yeah yeah, they're verytalented and communicate,
communicate and um, yeah,because you know I like a lot of
anything that you do, film,whatever, you may not always
work well with that person, soyou just gotta find someone that
you click with.
Speaker 1 (21:44):
you know, it's like a marriage oh shut up, yeah you
know, it's no, it is, it is, itis communicate with whoever you
want to work with.
Speaker 2 (21:51):
Be like this is first of all.
This is how I can be.
Yeah, I'm very type A.
I'm not saying I'm type A, I'mjust saying like, just address
everything, put it on the table.
Don't be that person where,like, we work with you about
maybe like a month or so, thenwe find out you're crazy, like.
Oh Like.
I'd oh shit, mm-mm, womp, womp,just let us know like, hey, I
(22:21):
did this and this, but I am areally talented writer, I'm a
very okay cool.
Speaker 1 (22:26):
Then we know we have this long to work with you
before you have to go back tojail, you know yeah to jail you
know, yeah, I'm just so kiddingabout that, but I'm just saying
like it can happen, though I'veworked with people where it's
like oh, you're actually crazy,oh my god, have you ever like
turned down, like said no to anuh, to a part that was offered
(22:46):
to you or to a director that waslike, oh, I think you'd suit
this role real good.
Have you you ever said no?
And if so, like how did you?
Speaker 2 (22:55):
I've doubted myself, but I never turned down a role.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
That's good.
Speaker 2 (22:59):
Because I.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
You never know if that role.
Speaker 2 (23:02):
Also, certain agencies are not really certain,
maybe actually all of them Inthe mainland.
If you're signed with them, youcan't turn down an audition, no
way.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
Yeah, you know that.
Yeah, you can't turn down anaudition.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
No way.
Yeah, you know that.
Yeah, you have to.
Yes, guys, don't turn on yourauditions.
If you ever signed?
Yes Because it's like so.
You can't because they'regetting an audition.
That already is an honor.
Like someone saw you and waslike hey, I want to see this
person, I want to see thisperson.
(23:33):
The more you submit, the morethat's also putting yourself out
there.
They're like oh yeah, we cantrust this person.
We can keep giving this personauditions because they're going
to answer.
It shows, like you know, you'regood at communicating, You're
very reliable, all those things,because you're just going to do
it and you're not giving up.
You love to challenge yourself.
I used to like ignore myauditions when I was younger,
(23:57):
but now I'm like no, I take it?
Speaker 1 (23:59):
you take it serious?
Yeah, I just take it.
Yeah, oh, girl, that was.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
Oh, my god but if it's something where it's a
little racy, you can askquestions.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
You're allowed you know as in like showing skin
yeah, showing skin like theracist thing or whatever.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
Yeah, we're going to Nora over here, but I love that
movie and I love her.
But you know what I mean.
Yeah, like something like thatPlaying an exotic dance or
things like that.
If it's outside your comfortzone, you can ask, you can talk
about it, like you can be like,oh, you know, like what this is
entail, whatnot that where Ifeel like as a woman or any
person.
(24:34):
If it's outside your comfortzone, you can ask about it and
then proceed from there shit.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
Good to know.
Good to know before we get tothese questions.
One more thing having an agent,is it easier to like, I guess,
find these gigs, opposed todoing it on your own?
Speaker 2 (24:51):
I'm gonna going to say 50-50.
Speaker 1 (24:54):
50-50.
Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
I think a lot of the times I've been finding things
on my own but my agent has beenreally good finding commercials
and things like that.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
Do you have to tell your agent if you found
something on your own?
Yes.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
Yeah, read your contracts, guys, read.
I know we don't like to read,but you need to read, yeah,
because you know what I mean.
That's going to get you introuble if it's just read your
contract.
Don't just sign guys, Just readit.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Yeah, don't sign that and talk to them, talk to them.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
Hey, if I find something on my own,
na-na-na-na-na, because chancesare whatever you found found on
your own.
Speaker 1 (25:30):
They probably found it.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
Yes, someone already you know.
And then you have to pay yourfees and stuff.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
Oh damn.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
Hmm, All right, let's get to these questions.
Um dude, the first one uh, haveyou ever detox from someone?
Detoxing, as in?
Um, you're with a person for along time, you know he or she is
probably good for you, but youjust can't be around them no
(25:57):
more.
So you eased off, you stayedaway from that situation.
Have you ever done that?
Speaker 2 (26:06):
This is such a beautiful question.
It hits home and I starteddoing it recently.
I hope whoever hears this fromhis podcast just know you can do
this too.
Hell yeah, give yourself I'mgoing to start with this Give
yourself time and a whole lot ofgrace, because you can't get
(26:27):
over something overnight, andthen you need to just surround
yourself by people who love you,and that should be enough.
So this was just all recently.
Oh, wow.
And it's the opposite of whatyou said.
He said he was good for her,absolutely not.
Maybe some parts, maybe thememories.
(26:48):
We all love our memories.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
Oh, yeah, definitely yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
But you know, what Do we like?
Speaker 3 (26:57):
let me ask real quick and then I will answer that, no
problem.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
No problem, I'm here for it like I feel like now
relationships.
It's like are you able to likekeep it off of instagram, or
does that matter so much to youthat you show that girl?
Let me tell you that I want me,me and my wife.
Speaker 1 (27:12):
We got, um, this is I'm not gonna say months ago,
but it was a.
It was a while back.
We got into this argument.
Yeah, she asked me why aren'tyou posting me anymore?
And I'm like what do you mean?
I'm not posting you?
I post you and the kids.
And where she says no, whyaren't you posting me?
And I was like I, I told her.
I responded I was like yo, I'min the moment, I'm in the with
(27:33):
you.
I don't need to take picturesof what's happening.
You could do that because Iknow she likes to take pictures
and she likes to post.
But I also told her I was likeI don't think everyone needs to
know our business.
If we're happy, shoot, let's behappy.
If we're sad, man, we don'tneed to let everyone know that
we're mad.
So it took her a while tounderstand that, especially when
(27:57):
I started podcasting.
I I'm not going to lie, like Ihave like very pretty women on
here.
And of course she she asked melike oh, why don't you post in?
Or are you kind of scared inposting me or whatever, or
ashamed, I'm like dude, I'mrocking the ring, I talk about
you on the pod.
So it's like talking about it,yeah it's like you shouldn't,
(28:19):
you shouldn't feel any type ofany type of way.
And um, I also tell her, likeeverything that's on the pod,
I'm, it's strictly professional.
Yeah, you know, I'm not tryingto.
I'm old enough to where I'mlike man, I'm okay.
You know, like I don't, I don'tneed to get it from anywhere
else anywhere.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
And we're all adults to the point where it's like
lawsuits.
Do we have the money for this,guys?
Speaker 1 (28:42):
Exactly, I'm trying to think long term we need to
let Diddy take care of himself.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
We're not trying.
No, you know what I mean.
Oh, that's so weird.
We're at this point Like, okay,all these people are coming
forward.
No, we're good.
Yeah, we're not going to be inlawsuits, that's great.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
So yeah, yeah, I told her that.
And I'm just like yo, noteveryone needs to know what's
happening with me and you Like,of course I'll post the kids and
you Just, you know, here andthere, but doing it all the time
, every day, I'm just like, nah,I'm good, and also it's my shit
too, like, why can't I postwhat I want to post?
Why do you have to, you know,add your two cents in, because I
(29:24):
don't do that with her.
So I'm hoping that but you'restill there yeah you're still
there, he comes home.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
He's coming home.
Right, I come home every day,because if he be missing for a
week or two, then there he comeshome, he's coming home, right
yeah come home every day, Imight be missing for a week or
two yeah by all means come downto the studio and bang on that
door.
I'd be like where is he where?
Is he?
You know, check the storiesthen you yeah, so real quick.
I want to add on that, becausealso you have to think about
(29:51):
celebrities.
How hard is it for thesecouples?
oh to tell everybody facts.
Hey, we're no longer, you know,and I I do love the way they
posted.
They're like hey, as everyoneknows that we are no longer
together, but we're gonnaprioritize our kids first and we
ask the public for privacy.
How hard is that?
(30:12):
And you know they face judgmentcomments.
But it's like you, we all don'tknow angelina jolie, we don't
all know brad, but like you knowlike.
Treat them like normal humanbeings, like how hard is that to
?
not that hard at all this likeidea of what a marriage is, what
a relationship is, and then allof a sudden they're not
together.
Speaker 1 (30:31):
Everyone's like like I thought they were just, I
thought they were what theyadopted all these kids, what you
know.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
So there's that.
So, to go back to how did Idetox?
Yeah.
Okay, I used to be and you knowI came from a strict family.
I wasn't.
I didn't really have anyguidance to any emotional
(31:00):
consequences or anything thatwould happen into entering a
relationship or whatnot.
It was like I had to navigateit on my own, which was a
journey, was the worst thingever.
But I would not be here todaywithout really really good
people and friends in my lifeand also traveling.
I met a lot of people in mytravels too that like coached me
through everything.
Speaker 1 (31:14):
Oh, that's good yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:16):
So detoxing.
One of the first ones wastraveling solo, because ha.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
Wait, when you say travel solo like going to the
supermarket by yourself or areyou talking about like going out
of state somewhere else byyourself?
Solo?
Speaker 2 (31:28):
Okay, I'm so glad we're doing this podcast because
I'm going to finally say this,my friends are going to be so
proud of me.
So, podcast, because I'm goingto finally say this, my friends
are going to be so proud of me.
So, once upon a time, we'rejust going to.
It's going to be quick andshort, I'm not going to go, but
if you, you guys, can like askme the real story Once upon a
time.
Somebody like made me mad.
Well, you know, the guy made memad without even thinking.
(31:49):
I was 27 years old and I bookeda flight to Thailand.
He lied to me.
He lied to me.
We're not going to get intothat.
It was Thanksgiving.
I found out from his friend andI was like what he's going
where?
Speaker 1 (32:02):
And you booked a flight right after that, and
then I did everything wrong.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
I did all my flights wrong.
So my friend when I wassleeping, bless her heart.
Can I say her name?
Yeah, yeah, yeah, definitely oh, my god, adrian, I love you
shout out to you.
Okay, but we're not gonna sayher last name.
But oh yeah, definitely notyeah, but I was like passed out
in her apartment and I was justlike you know, when you're that
friend you have to go over yourfriend's house apartment.
(32:26):
You're just like, you're likein a wreck and they have to calm
you down, break open wine, allthat she had to.
Uh, because she's been therebefore and she had to fix my
itinerary.
She had to fix my tickets.
I woke up with a and I go what,what?
You did that for me.
You fixed my stuff.
I was like, but a while ago yousaid, don't do it.
She was like, well, I thinkit's funny.
(32:48):
And then I like went, yeah, Iwas yeah, but like I didn't end
up like in the right area as him, but anyway, but hell hath no
fury, but a woman pissed offLike I went to this country this
is my first time traveling bymyself.
No, I'm sorry.
Second, no, first timetraveling to a different country
(33:09):
by myself, second timetraveling by myself, uh-huh, but
I look back on all of thatbecause I don't actually travel
with people.
I meet them, I meet my friendsin the places, but it taught me
that was one of the first thingsthat taught me I was going to
be okay by myself andindependence and how to control
(33:30):
my emotions better not be likebooking somewhere I don't even
know, but like.
So I did a lot of that.
I did a lot of traveling aloneand I had to teach myself also,
I was okay before this person.
I can be okay after.
Speaker 1 (33:46):
Oh 100%.
Speaker 2 (33:47):
And, yes, for a little bit I was not going to
dance class.
I wasn't dancing for five yearsat one point, and then I I
strictly just went into yoga.
So yes, I'm a registered yogateacher guys huh oh, hell yeah
yeah, so I use that also as aform of therapy but, also to
keep training and movement, justso in case.
(34:08):
I went back into dance.
So I guess, to sum it up, it isso hard to find yourself again,
find who you are, so easy togive up everything you love for
one person.
But what I was taught from allthese people that I met on my
travels, whether it be dance,whatever, that's not the only
(34:28):
kind of love that's out there.
And even my own coworker toldme she said she told a customer.
I hate that society teaches usthat in order to be happy or
loved, that you have to have apartner.
Yeah.
Because I don't know if you knowthis I know we have like this
run around communication it'sactually illegal to divorce in
the Philippines.
Speaker 1 (34:48):
Illegal.
It's illegal to divorce in thePhilippines.
Speaker 2 (34:51):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
So if you're, if you get married in the Philippines,
you want to get a divorce, youhave to go to the Philippines,
right?
Speaker 2 (34:58):
No, it's just illegal .
When you're in the Philippines,you cannot divorce because it's
under the church.
These laws.
Speaker 1 (35:07):
Oh yeah, you call.
Speaker 2 (35:09):
Filipino women crazy.
No, it's just like we can't,they just can't.
And they're still fighting itto this day.
Uh-huh, can you imagine?
It's not working out.
It's all this.
Yeah, and then you can't leavethem no way.
Because, yeah, so like and theseare things she talked to me
about I didn't know about that,yeah, so it puts you into
(35:35):
perspective if something's notright for you and you have that
ability to just go.
Yeah, it will take time, butit's probably the best thing for
you and just it's okay to loveyourself and focus on yourself
you're not being selfish.
I love myself.
I've always have.
I just, you know, I was like inlove, you know, but then yeah
why do you think people thinkit's selfish of them to love
themselves?
Speaker 1 (35:55):
Why do you think certain people think that way?
Has that ever crossed your mind?
Speaker 2 (36:00):
Yes, and I figured this out.
I do have a question, oh goahead.
Not a question, sorry, I dohave an answer for that.
So we're all recovering people,pleasers.
It's those people in our lives.
Let's go back and think aboutthat one person who made you
feel bad for not doing something.
But you wanted to say nobecause you knew it wasn't going
(36:23):
to do any good for you, but itmade them happy.
But were they ever there whenyou needed them?
It's when those I would say Iwas like so much of a pleaser
because somebody made me feelbad if I didn't do it.
Like I was a failure Like oh,I'm not a good friend.
And then you know, years passby, we learn boundaries.
(36:43):
Yeah.
You know.
So that's why I feel likepeople feel like they need to
you never, ever.
It's very rare to have that oneperson that tells you like hey,
I know you're busy, just so youknow it, you're good.
So I I try to do that to people.
I've done that to people andthey're like wait, wow, why are
you so chill and understanding.
(37:03):
I was like I know what it'slike to have that one person,
one friend, who's like oh, soyou just left my whatever,
whatever late like, or likeearly like, you don't care, like
I'm like.
But now that I'm older and I'min my 30s, shit makes sense now,
like why you left early.
Maybe I don't care about you I'mthe same exact way.
Speaker 1 (37:24):
Oh my gosh, yeah I've .
I've been fortunate enough tohave to not have those
conversations, because when Idip out I'm like, hey y'all, I'm
out peace you the irish goodbye, yeah, yeah it's like I'm like
I'm out of here, I get my daps,you know I'm out, you know so
where's chris?
Speaker 2 (37:41):
yeah?
Oh, that motherfucker left ohyeah, let's just check his
instagram.
Where is he?
Oh, he left.
He's out.
He's at arby's guys down theroad, that's what girl.
Speaker 1 (37:49):
Yeah.
So like I've done that so manytimes, to where, the very first
time I'm like man, would theythink something.
But then, after I started doingit, like, say, the sixth time,
I'm like man, I don't give afuck, I honestly don't care what
they think, I'm just, I'm gone,I'm gonna go to sleep.
You know I'm saying aren't?
You a better friend person,brother, cousin, when you do
(38:11):
that yeah, like without givingno explanation, just hey, man,
this ain't for me, man, I'm out.
Why, why I'm out what do youmean?
I'm like nope, nope, I'm gone.
Speaker 2 (38:23):
I mean it was cool when we were younger and hanging
out in the parking lot tilllike 6 am.
Speaker 1 (38:28):
But you know we're like yeah, when you get older,
you got priorities and then,when, once those priorities hit,
you're like, man, I can't be,I'm not gonna take this other
shot because I know where it'sgonna take me.
Man, you're a pussy, I don'tgive a fuck, I'm a pussy that's
gonna be home, you know, are yougonna see me in?
No jail cell, but uh, you knowwhat I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (38:49):
So, yeah, be responsible, y'all there you go
and just let your friend dip outearly yeah, like let them this
you know he's alive.
He or she's alive.
You're fine, you know.
Be like.
You know.
Be that friend.
Now my friends are very like.
Just text us when you get home,yeah, yeah it's like that too.
And then you get all ADD andyou're like just scrolling Are
you home?
I?
Speaker 1 (39:08):
was like oh my yes.
Yeah, my bad dog, Are you agood like replier when it comes
to texting?
Speaker 2 (39:16):
Absolutely I agree with that.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
Do you prefer texting or the phone calls?
Speaker 2 (39:20):
Phone calls, guys and voice notes.
I am everyone knows I am thequeen of voice notes.
Speaker 1 (39:24):
You did send me a voice note.
Speaker 2 (39:26):
Yeah, I was driving.
Yeah okay, okay.
I'm not trying to like get intoan accident and die before this
show.
Speaker 1 (39:31):
Girl, I feel you, I feel you.
Speaker 2 (39:33):
I was like Chris no, no, no, no, no, no, no, Boom.
Speaker 1 (39:37):
Oh girl, we had.
I had this conversation with acouple of my friends because
texting you could read a textthree, four different ways,
right?
So I would rather just hear itfrom them and it's just done,
deal, because you could hear theoctaves in their voice.
Speaker 2 (39:56):
Yeah, I hate like when some people text me and
they have to like, you know,send me.
Sorry that sounded kind of rude, but that's not what I was
trying to mean and I'm like, ohmy God, like no, I get that.
But also, you know, sometimeswhen I text you I'm like I'm not
.
I try to use a lot of happyemojis, a lot of exclamation
points, so you don't think likeI'm having an attitude.
Speaker 1 (40:21):
I'm not, but man.
You take it as it is, man.
Speaker 2 (40:25):
I've done that recently.
I'm so proud of myself.
After a friend had a little bitof an attitude with me, I just
left it on red.
Speaker 1 (40:34):
Really, Are you a big person on that, leaving people
on red?
Speaker 2 (40:39):
if I don't know If you're mean to me ah like what
how about?
Speaker 1 (40:46):
how about in your DMs ?
Do you leave a lot of DMs onread, or do you?
I answer them?
Speaker 2 (40:49):
you reply yeah, I answer them.
Oh good, hey, good for you yeah, well, like cause when you work
in the film industry.
Speaker 1 (40:54):
Oh, yes, yes, I totally forgot about that.
That should skip my head.
Speaker 2 (40:58):
So communication's really important and if you
choose not to answer and theyfind out why you didn't answer,
you just costed a movie.
Ooh girl.
Your brain is all working parts.
You know what.
I mean, I asked you a questionIs so-and-so available, yes or
no?
Okay, we're all waiting.
Every department's waiting onyou.
Yeah, it's not that hard to sayyes or no, or just leave a
(41:22):
little brief explanation LikeI'll have friends that are like
like they don't, they're just,you know, they're always like
sorry, I saw, sorry, I saw yourtext.
We'll explain that I forgot tohit send.
Did you really forget to hitsend, girl?
Because you hit post prettyfast when it was you and your
(41:42):
boyfriend hanging out it's theside eye for me he said he loved
my facial that was likeeverybody's gonna agree with me
on this that's facts.
Yeah, oh my god really youforget to hit send but you hit
post about the same time on yourstory.
Speaker 1 (42:02):
Girl, I'd be guilty with like reading it and it's
like, all right, I'm going toget back to it, but then I've
done that once or twice, but itwasn't like a big deal.
Yeah, yeah Like life be life in, or it's just.
Speaker 2 (42:17):
I get so caught up because I have ADHD.
Speaker 1 (42:19):
So it's like together yeah, so it'd be dude.
I'd be like on like wavelengthsand streams of trying to get
shit done and I'd be forgettingand I'm like, oh fuck.
And then once I remember, I'mlike a day, two, three days
later I'm like, damn, my bad dog, like for real yes, I can show
up.
Yeah, I'd be like dude, I'm,I'm showing up to that party,
(42:40):
ooh.
Mm-mm-mm girl.
Next question Okay, meetingsomeone for the first time.
What's a good way for them to?
Okay, you guys already met.
What's too much information toshare that first meeting?
Like, could you give them yourwhole life story?
(43:00):
Or you're giving them yourwhat's happening currently,
right now.
Like what's a good way to havehim or her like inside your life
, but not fully inside your life?
Like what's a good way to dothat?
Speaker 2 (43:17):
that is like a 50 50 do you mean like pursuing a
relationship or friendship?
Speaker 1 (43:21):
Not even pursuing, just like your first meeting
with someone.
What's too much information orwhat's not enough information?
Speaker 2 (43:30):
Oh, my gosh Because I'm a chill person.
People are comfortable to tellme what kind of person they are.
Speaker 1 (43:38):
Okay, I'll throw this scenario at you then, miss
Stacey.
Okay, yeah, all right.
Filming party I met.
Throw the scenario at you then,miss Stacey.
Okay, yeah, all right.
Filming party.
I met you at a filming party.
I guess I'm an extra, yeah.
Speaker 2 (43:49):
Yeah, okay, you're good at this, I'm a
motherfucking extra.
Speaker 1 (43:52):
I see you, you're like the kind of the co-stars or
whatever.
Yes, I'm starting aconversation with you.
What's too much info for youlike, oh damn, you didn't have
to tell me all that shit.
Or that's enough for me to belike oh okay, this is him.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
I'm gonna say something like if you share too
much to the point where it'slike I think I have to report
you oh okay, so if it becomesthat much okay in that context,
but about friendships andrelationships I I don't like
talking too much about.
(44:30):
Oh, my god, I hate this.
I even have it at Filipinoparties and everything like what
do you do?
Speaker 1 (44:37):
and oh like like an occupation, like what do you do?
Do, yeah, you know you're insome countries.
Speaker 2 (44:42):
That's actually like inconsiderate to ask.
Speaker 1 (44:44):
Yeah, like, oh, how much you make a year?
Yeah, you can't ask that inEurope.
Hell, no, yeah you know what Imean.
Speaker 2 (44:49):
When are you going to get married, have kids or
things like that?
But I think if you're trying topursue somebody and you, yes,
state that ahead of time, okay,you know, at a certain age you
don't want your time wasted.
Speaker 1 (45:02):
Facts.
Speaker 2 (45:02):
But, man, you know, you ever watch those like
reality shows, like Love andLocked Up and all this.
Yes, I do.
Speaker 1 (45:10):
Or like True.
Speaker 2 (45:11):
Crime or all these like couples and stuff.
Like I like to watch True Crime, but it's like you know you
watch this as a third person.
You're you watch this as athird person.
You're like, did she?
Not?
See the red flags.
Yeah, like I would say that ifthey some people, if they want
to pursue a relationship orfriendship, they are overly nice
.
How about that?
I'll say that.
Oh, okay, okay okay, it's notmaybe the things they say, but
(45:31):
what probably is like a like iswhen they're overly nice,
because in my head I'm like areyou overly nice every single day
?
Can you keep this up everysingle day?
Speaker 1 (45:44):
Oh yeah, but are you?
Speaker 2 (45:46):
Yeah, I'm very nice a lot.
So because it just alwayshappens Like someone would be
like over nice and like it'slike, but then you get to know
these people and then it diesdown and you're like huh,
because you know when we firstmet.
Speaker 1 (45:59):
You got what you wanted, right, the booty.
I'm just playing, I'm playing.
Speaker 2 (46:05):
No, he's right though .
Speaker 1 (46:06):
He's the booty, that hell.
Yeah, I could say.
Speaker 2 (46:08):
And then like, maybe you like, maybe you just keep
this person going for like ayear, and then it's like they
figure out like, oh, thisperson's not even going to, ok,
I'm going to leave, ok.
So then you weren't actuallythat happy-go-lucky person we
met at the party.
Speaker 1 (46:21):
First impressions mean a lot.
Speaker 2 (46:23):
Yeah, and it's lasting.
I usually show up and be likehey, you know, my name is Stacey
, I'm a little bit crazy andunhinged, but you can stay, you
can leave.
Usually they stay, oh reallyyeah.
Speaker 1 (46:34):
That's your intro.
Speaker 3 (46:36):
Yeah, I love that intro it's like it's straight to
the point.
Speaker 1 (46:41):
Yeah, stay early and you gave them the option of
leaving or staying.
Yeah, and then you say theyusually stay yeah they would
love to see how the show turnsout yeah, and it's fun.
Speaker 2 (46:51):
You know you don't want to find out later who they
really I'm like, I don't reallywant to find out who you are
like, you know.
Speaker 1 (46:57):
Oh God, I'll be nice, but yeah so.
Oh girl Question Next question.
Speaker 2 (47:11):
Does liking or loving someone hit harder?
As you know, us people getolder.
Speaker 1 (47:14):
I'm going to have Chris say his thing first.
Speaker 2 (47:15):
Okay, I'll say my thing first, because that was
beautiful, oh thank you.
Speaker 1 (47:17):
Thank you so much.
It wasn't rehearsed, it wasfreestyled it was it was from
the Hort, you know from the Hort.
I think as we get older we dofall for people with connection,
(47:37):
that we connect with a littlebit harder because we know
ourselves more, a little bitmore than we did when we were,
like in our 20s and in our teenswe were like in our 20s and in
our teens, so the connection islike stronger and it's um
especially if we know what wedon't like and we don't want and
we see what we want in thatother person.
It's.
It's hard to let that go,because it's like damn, I really
want that, I can get it, but inall reality, in all sense, I
(47:59):
can't have it, you know.
So yeah, I think, as we getolder, I think it's harder.
Speaker 2 (48:05):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (48:09):
And it takes us a little bit longer than you know
to get with someone after thatconnection, because it's like
damn, I was mentally because thewhole physical part right, you
could move on to the next, youknow, to the next, you know you
could canoodle with someoneafterwards, Right, but with the
whole brain it's dude.
The brain is a crazy thing.
Speaker 2 (48:26):
And yeah, the whole, yeah, that was me, so I agree
with him.
The difference between today,oh, today.
And like the past, you knowrelationships and marriages are
like they were like actuallylike a business deal, OK, right,
(48:47):
and back in the day, back wayin the day you got married for
finances and survival.
Speaker 1 (48:52):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (48:52):
You know, and then relationships, who.
That was hard to back in theday, like you had, it was class,
depending what yeah, dependingwhat culture.
Yeah, it's class.
So now we're more free, youknow, like you can have
interracial relationships andwe're more accepting of lgbtq
and things like that, you know.
But now we have the rise oflike social media video pictures
(49:18):
, having to put up some sort ofshow or whatever.
When it comes to, I guessthat's what makes relationships
hard yeah also, I don't know,man, people use this as an
excuse.
This is what I always like hereand stuff.
It's always like that person.
Maybe they want to get into arelationship.
They know it's good, butthey're like no, no, no, but I
(49:39):
don't want it because of fear ofbeing rejected, fear of, like,
putting in too much into thisrelationship because they did it
before and it didn't work outand I don't.
Nobody wants to feel heartbreak, definitely not definitely
nobody wants to feel that.
However, this is life and it'ssomething that god I I will say
this, my one heartbreak.
(50:00):
I'm never going through that,ever again.
Speaker 1 (50:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (50:02):
I'd rather walk this earth, like by myself, with my
future dog.
Yeah, my future dog.
I don't have one now becauseI'm so busy.
Speaker 1 (50:10):
Manifesting this dog.
Speaker 2 (50:11):
With my future dog like that looks like a wolf.
See, I have this all likeplanned out, then.
To be with someone who doesn'treally like wants to be into me,
yeah, and to be with someonewho doesn't really like wants to
be into me.
Yeah, but we're also stuck inthis culture where it's like,
hey, I want some of the stuff asa girlfriend, but I don't want
to commit to you.
Speaker 1 (50:29):
Oh, oh yes.
Speaker 2 (50:30):
Or like I want to whatever Listen.
If that I don't judge anybodywho wants to be in that kind of
relationship.
Just never lose yourself.
Okay, this person needs 10years to think.
If they want to be with you,Then you make that choice.
I don't deserve this.
I'm going to move on.
Yeah, oh, yeah but don't everwait for that person.
You know, Like I know I havebefore, but because I'm so busy
(50:55):
and I'm just so into otherthings that love me back, I'm
just very like, all right, youtake your time.
Speaker 1 (51:01):
Oh yeah, definitely yeah, You're doing, you boo.
Speaker 2 (51:03):
Yes, and that's.
It's a true thing.
That's what my friends wouldalways tell me They'd be like
just focus on you, focus on you.
And when you're going throughso much pain and turmoil, you
don't even understand or knowwhat they mean.
When you finally do it and youfinally let go of what doesn't
serve you and whatnot, thenyou're like, oh, like, okay, so
all those excuses they evergiven you, like, yeah, but this
(51:27):
and this, but I'm not ready,You're ready, Go Like you're
that person, You're ready.
So like, that's how I see withthe relationships.
Yes, I think it's harder, butdon't like.
I mean like, don't allow justone person, thing, whatever, to
make you feel like oh, this isit, I guess.
Speaker 1 (51:49):
Oh hey man, there's a lot of fish in the sea.
Speaker 2 (51:52):
Yeah, I'm saying go to Thailand, guys.
Get on that random plane.
Lady boy, yo, they didn't wantme.
That's why I survived Thailand.
They actually Shut up.
Speaker 1 (52:01):
They didn't want you.
They were like hey.
Speaker 2 (52:03):
They asked me, though they were like ladyboy, and I
go no, full woman, they're likemm-mm-mm.
Speaker 1 (52:07):
Shut your ass.
Speaker 2 (52:08):
Yeah, you would not survive, Chris.
Speaker 1 (52:10):
You know what?
Speaker 2 (52:13):
They would take you to the club.
They would Chris before me.
Oh well, shit man.
So you better like watch thisstuff.
Yeah, they wanted men, I got atrunk.
Speaker 1 (52:23):
you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2 (52:24):
I got a booty, yeah like they were all into the men
and I was like no way, I didn'tknow Thailand was like that.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (52:32):
Oh God, ladyboys yeah , they're so beautiful though.
Speaker 2 (52:38):
So if a woman goes out there with her friends,
they're safe.
Speaker 1 (52:39):
Yeah, no one wants us oh shit, all right, I'm gonna
send my wife and her home girlsout there.
Speaker 2 (52:44):
Yeah, have a time of your life, you need to be like
with you need to be withsomebody like you're gonna get
snatched man is that a realthing, though?
Speaker 1 (52:51):
like would they really snatch you didn't watch
the hangover I did.
I did watch that.
I didn't know it was yes, man.
So there's a little truth tothat shit.
Speaker 2 (52:59):
Yes, oh god I knew, because I knew it, because I was
like by myself, partying inPhuket, and then, like they
asked me, you know, and I waslike no, a full woman.
They're like oh.
Speaker 1 (53:10):
No, they fucking showed you the show.
Speaker 2 (53:12):
I'm like yeah.
Speaker 1 (53:13):
Uh-uh no.
Speaker 2 (53:16):
And then they would just talk to all the guys.
It's fine.
Speaker 1 (53:19):
Is this in the main part of Thailand?
Speaker 2 (53:22):
Phuket is a party area.
Speaker 1 (53:24):
It's a party area, so is.
Speaker 2 (53:26):
Bangkok, I mean obviously.
Speaker 1 (53:27):
By the name of it, by the name.
Speaker 2 (53:31):
But I just arrived there and then went to Phuket.
Speaker 1 (53:35):
Oh, okay.
So you haven't explored therural, not the rural, but the
suburbs.
Speaker 2 (53:39):
But Phuket is a party hearty like.
Speaker 1 (53:42):
Is it I?
Speaker 2 (53:42):
don't know if you guys saw the White Lotus season
three.
Speaker 1 (53:45):
Yes, yeah, oh yeah, that's Phuket that moonlight
party, situation whatever.
That's it.
Speaker 2 (53:50):
It's that raging yeah .
Speaker 1 (53:52):
Oh shit, yeah, I like White Lotus.
Meanwhile I binge watched thatone.
I binge.
Speaker 2 (53:56):
White Lotus, white lotus.
That shit is hilarious.
Tell me that season two waslike.
Speaker 1 (54:01):
Is season two, the one where they're in.
Speaker 2 (54:03):
Italy oh.
Speaker 1 (54:05):
I don't know, man, I didn't know that girl played him
Spoiler alert.
That's why I love season two.
She played him hard because Ithought she was going to go home
with him.
Back to.
Speaker 2 (54:16):
LA.
Listen, this is no spoiler, butthis girl got with grandpa, dad
and son.
Speaker 1 (54:22):
Oh my gosh.
Yes, she walked away with 50K.
She played it, she played thatpart and I was like dang, so the
guy was in on it too then yeah,the worker.
The pimp.
Speaker 2 (54:34):
It was a worker.
Speaker 1 (54:35):
He was a worker.
Speaker 2 (54:36):
Like worker, Disguised worker, yeah.
Speaker 1 (54:38):
Oh Crazy disguised worker.
Yeah, oh god, white lotus, hbomax, hit me up.
Please hook me up.
Yes, white lotus was prettygood.
The first, the first one, yeah,the first one, got me too the
um the first season like this isour faces, right?
Speaker 2 (54:52):
when you're watching at like, you're like just
watching in the beginning justto see what it's like and you're
just like what?
Speaker 1 (54:57):
And you're like like Right Stifler's mom.
Speaker 3 (55:02):
she's in season one and season two.
Oh, she's the best.
Speaker 1 (55:05):
I love her Like, even though she's like out there
yeah.
Speaker 2 (55:10):
But it's like she's sweet Could you imagine someone
else playing Tanya's role?
Absolutely not.
It had to be her, yeah.
Yeah, Like seeing it now likefinishing it.
I can't unsee it and they youknow, if you watch White Lotus
from the beginning all the wayto the season 3, it intertwines
(55:30):
the story from season 1 oh, yes,you're right.
Speaker 1 (55:35):
What's her name?
The black girl.
She was in one, not in two, butthen went in three and I'm like
what the fuck.
Speaker 2 (55:46):
I can't wait for White Lotus is good.
Speaker 1 (55:48):
White Lotus is good.
Y'all.
I suggest y'all y'all binge,watch that.
What I'm gonna say a good twoand a half, three days yeah of
watching that yeah girl,absolutely, hell yeah.
Miss Stacey, that was fun.
Yeah, do you have any shoutouts or anything?
Or where can these people thatdon't know you, where can they
find you at?
Speaker 2 (56:07):
you can find me in a dance studio or at the airport,
because I'm always flyingsomewhere to Thailand or yeah, I
bartend too.
So come down to Waikiki, asiaSticks Asia.
Speaker 1 (56:20):
Sticks Waikiki, asia Sticks, asia Sticks Waikiki.
Hey man, it used to be.
Speaker 2 (56:22):
Yokochou guys.
Speaker 1 (56:24):
Oh, for real.
Speaker 2 (56:25):
Yeah, remember, I don't know if you saw.
Speaker 1 (56:27):
Nah, I don't, I really don't party out there.
Speaker 2 (56:29):
It's Waikiki Shopping Plaza and that basement floor
it used to be Yokochou.
Then it closed down, gotrenovated and became Asia Sticks
.
Speaker 1 (56:36):
Asia Sticks.
Is there a dress code?
Now you're in Hawaii, sothere's no dress code.
No dress codes.
Okay.
And then is it just a bar.
There's music and everythingtoo, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (56:45):
So just imagine a night out in Japan, that night
market.
Look, that's what it looks likedown there.
Speaker 1 (56:51):
No way.
Speaker 2 (56:51):
With a bar in the middle.
Speaker 1 (56:52):
Yeah, I'm feeling to find you, me and my wife, and
I'm a Hennessy drinker, so Iwant some top shelf Hennessy.
Speaker 2 (57:00):
You're going to get a lot of like wait, you like
whiskey?
Yeah, you like whiskey.
Tequila oh, we have a lot.
Speaker 1 (57:05):
Well, not tequila but I am wanting to try the one
with the bell.
We have that.
I don't know if the hype's realit is.
Is it really?
I want to taste that tequila.
Speaker 2 (57:15):
You know what I learned, guys?
You um from a customer, youcan't just hit it, you have to
like hit it from the side reallyso I call it like a slap.
You gotta, yeah, yeah, yougotta do that.
So remember, you gotta sideslap it.
You can't, because we were alllike why isn't?
Speaker 1 (57:34):
it.
Why isn't it working?
Speaker 2 (57:35):
yeah, okay and then this one cool customer, she goes
give that to me, I'll show you.
You, she fixes it.
Speaker 1 (57:40):
She's just like and then you heard the bing.
Speaker 2 (57:43):
Yeah, so you guys got a side bitch slap.
Speaker 1 (57:46):
Side bitch, that tequila.
Hell, yeah, that was fun.
Ko Studios, thank you for thelovely home.
Raffy Bite, thank you for thelovely beats man.
As for that, I'm Chris.
Speaker 2 (57:57):
I'm Stacey.
Speaker 1 (57:58):
And we out this bitch Peace.
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