March 25, 2025 • 55 mins
What happens when the right person comes along after you've given up on dating apps? Anu returns to the Relationship Method podcast with a refreshing love story that defies modern dating norms. From meeting through mutual friends to consciously taking things slow, she shares how her current relationship differs from past dating experiences.
The conversation takes us through Anu's journey of finding someone who respects her boundaries and understands the delicate balance of introducing children into a new relationship. Unlike many modern connections built on physical attraction first, Anu explains why choosing celibacy until establishing a deeper connection has actually strengthened their bond. Her partner's respect for this decision stands out as one of many green flags she's noticed—a stark contrast to her previous dating experiences with a Navy serviceman and others who weren't ultimately compatible.
Between heartfelt relationship insights, Anu shares the hilarious story of getting banned from a local nightclub after defending a friend that escalated into a "squabble" during an early outing with her now-boyfriend. Rather than being deterred by witnessing this chaotic side of her, he stuck around—further confirming she'd found someone worth investing in. The episode closes with powerful advice about shooting your shot, being authentic, and communicating clearly about relationship boundaries: "You can't get mad at somebody for acting a certain way if you don't set those boundaries with them."
Ready to rethink your approach to relationships? Listen now and discover why sometimes the best connections happen when you stop playing games and start being genuine. Follow Anu on Instagram and TikTok to continue following her refreshingly honest relationship journey.
• Taking relationships slow can lead to deeper connections
• Meeting someone organically through friends versus dating apps
• Introducing children to a new partner requires careful consideration
• Setting clear boundaries early in relationships avoids misunderstandings
• Finding someone who respects your decision to be celibate initially is a green flag
• The story behind getting "86'd" from a nightclub after defending a friend
• Why being authentic matters more than playing games
• Dating multiple people is fine if everyone understands the situation
• Communication is key to avoiding misunderstandings in relationships
• When to "shoot your shot" and how to handle rejection
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
oh god, okay, here we go.
Five, four, three, two, one.
Welcome back to another episodeof the relationship method
podcast.
I am chris and today I have oneof my faves coming back on.
Uh, you know her as anu, I knowher as mama bear, I know her as
the um, the girl that workswith the, with one of them lime
(00:26):
green sweaters.
I'm not gonna tell you.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Tell you their her occupation I got me a pink one.
Oh, she got a pink one now.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Okay, cool and um, last time that we were on she
was going through some, uh,single face shit, and now she
has some news for us.
So I don't know.
Welcome back on the podcast.
Yay, man, hell yeah, how youbeing girl, I've been good yeah,
you were.
You've been good.
(00:53):
Yeah, yeah, wink, wink, nudge,nudge.
And she hooked your boy up withsome coffee today and, um, this
is the first, so she popped myfirst coffee.
Uh, drop off cherry.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
So thank you gotta love smiley face too shut your
ass where, oh was that was thedude.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Was it a dude or a girl?
Speaker 2 (01:10):
it was a dude at the window of course it was a dude.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Hey, shout out to the um the guy that hooked her up
with a smiley face.
Do you have a smile face onyours too?
Speaker 2 (01:20):
no, I gotta.
Thank you very much.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
What kind did you get ?
Speaker 2 (01:25):
Strawberry acai.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
That's why, okay, what did you think of the cups
going from the plastic to paper?
Not a big fan.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Not a fan, but I understand it, respect it.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
How do you understand it?
Break that shit down to me Savethe turtles.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Oh, okay, okay, okay, I'm guessing guessing oh,
you're guessing, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
Biodegradable save the planet okay, I get it, I get
whatever.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
I honestly, yeah right, I honestly don't give a
fuck, um man, what you been upto living life living life uh
still on the west side no, I wasnever on the west side, no I
mean like with um uh, livinglife with the guys on the west
side you like, on the west sidethat's what I mean it's a
(02:16):
white-eyed boy oh, so you areliving with a guy from the west
side?
Speaker 1 (02:22):
oh, why not?
Okay, so last time we were um,we were on, you were single.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Correct.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Mingling, but you weren't on the apps because I
remember you telling me you gotoff.
Yeah, what changed all that?
I believe it was.
I'm going to say at least whatseven, eight months ago, five
months.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
I think it was last I saw you was in March or April.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Wow Of last year, okay, almost a year.
Wow, a lot of things change.
I mean, you're still the sameheight.
Still the same height, youstill got your tan on girl.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Still got my tan Babies are still good.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Yeah, yes, babies are delish, yes, so tell me, how
are you?
Like first of of all, how didit happen, from you being single
and a man?
Finally, you know, taming thebeast.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
He applied that pressure.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Oh, okay.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Okay, no, so I actually Met him from Going out.
Everybody knows I was in mylittle Going out phase.
Yes, okay.
So I met him Through mutualfriends and nothing happened.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
And then six months Went by and then we just
reconnected and it was a wrapfrom there really, um, is this
one of those guys where like sayyou made out with and you
tapped him on the show's like,nah, not, it was he one of them
no, we didn't even make out oh,okay, it was it was very
wholesome.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
The first time I met him was very wholesome.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Really Gentleman-like .
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Also, he wasn't going out looking to mingle with
anybody, okay, he was just goingout with his friends to have a
good time, type shit, that'sgood yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
So throughout that meeting you came along and, hey
friend, this is Anu.
Anu, this is friend who shallremain nameless.
Yep, okay, good, good, good.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
He knows who he is.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Oh, I know right.
Does he live on his own or ishe with the parents or cousins
or roommates?
He lives with family.
Okay, that's good, that's good.
Next question is do you haveyour toothbrush or your clothes
at a spot already?
Speaker 2 (04:31):
We haven't had sleepovers.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Good, that is good.
Take your time, girl.
Yeah, take your time.
Oh, that's cute.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
We very much so are Like I think that's what's
different is we are doing itslow.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Okay, doing different uh-huh is we are doing it slow
okay and what right, what'swhat's slow and right to you
like, um, is it the whole, uh,the whole chivalrous thing and
all that?
Speaker 2 (04:54):
well, okay yeah, really found a good one in wine
eye.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Let me tell you is he a construction worker as well
no, but he is a blue collar man,so okay he does that type of
stuff.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
I don't know exactly what he does, but he's working
hard.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
I know a lot of parents would like to know have
the kids met him yet?
Oh, okay.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
We went to the carnival together.
We went to the movies togetherwith the kids.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Was the dynamic good?
Good, was he weirded outbecause you have kids or
anything?
Does he have kids?
He has?
Speaker 2 (05:28):
a daughter, so okay, okay it made it easier oh but
yeah, like there was no pressurefor him to meet them yeah, like
he understood all of thatbecause he has his own kids, so
it makes it easier okay yeah,the kids did meet him.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
How do they feel about him?
Speaker 2 (05:45):
Well, my daughter?
She don't like nobody.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
But my son got along with him pretty easily.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
And his child with you.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
I haven't met her yet .
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
But I will today.
Oh, wow I mean like we talk onFaceTime.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Me and her.
But today will be the firsttime how old is?
Um is his little girl hisdaughter is older than my kids.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
I think she's six okay, so she understands the
dynamic which is why, even moreso.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
We took it slower on that's good and oh, that's real
good.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
And um what else was good, was I gonna ask okay uh,
we, I had this discussion withum several people.
Um, when it comes to like sayyou know you guys are going down
, you know this path of beingtogether.
Um, if he for do you do, canyou foresee him forcing you to,
(06:39):
like have a relationship withhis daughter or vice versa?
And if so, um, would you forcethat upon him or would it?
Would you let that happen?
Speaker 2 (06:48):
naturally um probably let it happen, naturally okay
just because I don't want toforce a relationship with
anybody yeah, definitely adultsanything I think that good
things will take time.
Uh-huh, and even if, like shewas, she's really not
standoffish like she was reallyfrom the beginning, like he had
(07:10):
conversations with her and shewas like she's very smart for
how young she is and she wasjust like well, as long as
you're happy, then, like sheasked him, like are you happy?
And we're like whoa,six-year-old clock okay but she
like.
So when I did talk to her onfacetime and stuff, she was just
like I'm so happy for you guyslike this and that.
So I think that made it easierfor me, like I don't need to
(07:32):
force anything.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
He doesn't need to force anything yeah and my kids
are young, so they'll just growup being around him and so how
are the, let's say, the babydaddy and his baby mama?
Is there any issues with that?
Speaker 2 (07:48):
My baby daddy, no issues.
That's good, that's good Idon't really know how his ex
feels about it, because we alsodidn't tell anybody.
Oh, like you know how we were,my posts were like yeah, super
discreet, you didn't see hisface Like.
I think, for Valentine's Daywas the first time I posted him
and actually tagged him, and soa lot of people found out who he
(08:09):
was.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
But yeah, that's him.
Really, was there friends andfamily?
Did they know prior to theValentine's Day post?
Speaker 2 (08:18):
My close friends and family did know.
So the people who are reallyimportant to me knew.
Obviously, our friends whointroduced us to each other knew
.
Uh, we went out a couple oftimes with each other and our
friends.
So the people who knew, knew,knew okay, ah, the mystery man
is revealed.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
Okay, and um, we're gonna backtrack.
Now, before you met this guy,you told me that we're gonna get
t-spoked.
Uh, you told me that you were.
Um, I'm gonna say, uh, gettingestablished.
Yeah, okay, you're talking tosomeone and he was in the
military navy yeah navy.
(09:00):
Yes, I'm not gonna to.
Yeah, no names.
Why didn't that pan out?
Speaker 2 (09:07):
Okay, well, let's backtrack to when I first met
him which was like a year ago,like last January.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
So this is before you came on the podcast.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Before I came on the podcast yes, Nothing was serious
, but you knew him.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
So my friend, yazzie, like introduced us because her
boyfriend at the time was on thesame ship as him, and so that
was when I was going through myI want to be in a relationship
but also I don't know phase.
So yazzy just was like why notjust email this navy guy and you
can like get to know him?
Speaker 1 (09:42):
she said email him yes, oh because they're on the
ship.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
They're on the ship, they're on deployment when she
like tried to play matchmaker.
So we like emailed and I didn'tlike it, like I didn't fuck
with it at all the wholeemailing thing.
Yeah, okay because what am Igonna?
Be sitting on my phone fuckingrefreshing my email yeah and
then like wasn't feeling it sothat didn't work out.
(10:07):
They came back from deploymentin like february and his first
day back, like he texted me andthen he was like, oh, but I'm
going to go out with my guyfriends.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Understandable, I mean they just.
But you two were Okay.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Excuse my finest pardon.
You want to get to know me, butyou want to go out with the
boys who you were just on a shipfor seven months with.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
My finest pardons.
I like that.
Keep going.
That was a good one.
I'm no cap.
That was a good one.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
But so I was just like, oh okay, go out with the
boys.
Then, even though you just sawthe boys and you guys were out,
I mean, yeah, you guys wereworking, but I know you guys be
going out when you're ondeployment.
So I kind of ghosted him and itwas like that for like three
months where we would talk, Iwould lose interest, wouldn't
talk to him, something wouldcome up, he would text me.
(10:57):
I would text him back Completelyghost him again, and then I
finally, I think it was hisbirthday you gave in and I told
him happy birthday and then he,like, asked me out again, so I
finally went on a date with him.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Which was like eight months, nine months later, and
then we were getting to knoweach other.
He was a cool guy, he was verysweet, he was a gentleman, but
we just didn't click.
Okay, I just think it justdidn't work.
Plus, he was leaving fordeployment again.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
As a Navy person.
They are on the ships like atleast nine months out of the 12
months a year.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Yeah, and like they have like duty and stuff, so
he's on a ship for like 24 hours.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:40):
Talking to them.
Sometimes they got to go dotheir thing.
So he leaves for like a weekand then we're back to emailing
and stuff.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
But he was a really sweet guy.
I just think it was a just ourpersonalities, didn't.
Oh y'all clashed a lot.
Not so much clash, but like thefirst time we hung out he was
wearing shoes in the house and Iwas like oh wait, was he a
white?
Boy.
He was a white boy.
Oh, of course, yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
I reckon.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Yep.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Is he one of them?
Speaker 2 (12:11):
white boys like down yonder type no but like I, just
I was like take your shoes off.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Oh, he's like oh my bad.
And I was like take your shoesoff.
Speaker 2 (12:20):
Oh, he's like.
Oh my bad, and he would like hewould try to accommodate that,
but I just think our differences.
I was getting like little aches.
But it wasn't anything to likestart big fights about or
anything like that.
It just didn't work out.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
And then he was leaving again on deployment.
So I was like what is the pointin even trying to.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
But yeah, he did try oh well, well, kudos, uh, kudos,
kudos, whatever kudos and kudosyeah, kudos to him for even
trying.
He didn't like play on you oranything, right it, just the
thing um the whole you and himsituation just fizzled yeah,
okay and like that's good.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
He came to like my birthday party and stuff and
there was like he didn't reallymesh with my friends either was
he the only white guy there?
Speaker 1 (13:10):
that is why, um, I've gone to a couple, um, uh,
island folk hawaiian birthdayparties and I tell you, uh, it's
a different dynamic because, uh, you know, I'm brown so I could
get along with people, but Icould see how, uh, a non-brown
person would go into a party andeveryone's like who the fuck is
(13:31):
this?
You know?
Speaker 2 (13:33):
but also like didn't say hi to them, like oh, okay
kind of just stayed by himself.
When we were in the club,Everybody was asking him do you
want a drink?
And he was like no, oh, so yourbirthday was at a club.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
It wasn't with, like, let's say, at a picnic type
area or anything.
Club.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
Oh, okay, no.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
I was in a club.
Oh, you and your, is your clubday still popping happening?
Speaker 2 (13:56):
No, this man's got me back inside.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
Really.
I'm in bed by 9 pm.
Do you miss the club days?
Speaker 2 (14:05):
I don't, you don't, I don't.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
That's really good.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
No.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
And is this okay?
Well, we're not going to talkabout your old man's now your
new man.
Is he older than you, or?
Speaker 2 (14:18):
He's yes.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
How old is too old?
10 years, 20 years?
Speaker 2 (14:26):
No, I'm just kidding, oh snap, no, he's the same age
as me.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Okay, that's good.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
His birthday's in July.
I'm in November, so yeah, areyou?
Speaker 1 (14:35):
was it signs?
Are you into that, like thebirthday signs or the?
I mean I know I'm a sagittariussagittarian.
Is that what you're gonna?
Speaker 2 (14:45):
say no, I was gonna say sagittarius oh, and what is?
Speaker 1 (14:48):
he don't know I think he's a cancer you say july,
july leo no it's early july ohcancer oh, he's like me yeah,
we're crabby and then we go onour shell and then we really
don't talk about our feelings alot, yeah, so watch out for that
I can see that yeah, like webottle things in and then.
(15:11):
But the good thing is is, whenwe bottle things in, we, we, our
outlet is, uh, it's productive,it's a productive outlet.
So if he's mad he'll probablylike build a house or something,
or, or you know, I'm saying orbuild a shoe rack or go to the
blue collar man yeah, he'll makesomething.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
He'll make something if I see him tinkering away, I'm
gonna be like, are you okay?
Speaker 1 (15:34):
and he's a local boy, yeah he is a local boy oh, and
you wanted the.
You wanted a local boy.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
I wanted that local white-eyed boy and you got him,
and I got him.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
When you were, let's say, in the talking phase with
your current boo, were youthinking of future and beyond
future?
Is that what kept you down withhim?
Speaker 2 (15:59):
I think so.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
I think we had that conversation.
Oh, you guys conversated aboutthat?
Speaker 2 (16:04):
like well, like what are you looking for?
Like what?
Yeah, like um like, let's saymarriage or more kids, or
getting a home together orapartment, whatever the case,
like we didn't go into depth,like that, but it was like we
don't want the fling, we're notinto that kind of thing.
We both have kids, so figure itout, what do you want?
Speaker 1 (16:25):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
So I know how to proceed with this, like if I
want to even keep you around ornot.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
And then he gave you a game plan.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
Pretty much yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
That's good, good for him.
Yeah, like for thinking thatfar ahead with you.
Yeah, cause I know a lot ofrelationships they have and it's
bad to say they have expirationdates.
You know, and people don't wantto think that, but I mean
honestly they do.
So that's what I'm asking youlike, do you see an expiration
date on this or this guy's along term, unless you know he
(16:54):
does some stupid like make outwith a guy, but then you said it
making out with the guy's.
Okay, yeah, I you do you boo?
Speaker 2 (16:58):
do you, I mean you best not Making out with a guy
is okay.
Yeah, Do you boo?
Do you?
I mean you best not be makingout with nobody but me at this
point?
Speaker 1 (17:05):
Yeah, yeah, do you.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
We don't judge, we listen.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
We listen.
All right.
Here's one of the questions andI'm not going to your other one
the stages in the beginning ofthe relationship.
Was everything, everything likegood in the very beginning,
like, did you found any achesthat you didn't like, but you
like okay, you know what.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
I could live with this I don't think he's given me
any aches yet that's good,that's good, which is surprising
because I tend to I know I?
I like to overanalyze things.
Why is he doing that?
But he hasn't given me anyaches, which is wild.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
Right, okay.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
But no, yeah, I can't think of anything that.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
No red flags, no, nothing.
A lot of green.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
A lot of green.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
That's good.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Like when I told him, like I don't want to do nothing
.
I want to be celibate with thisone.
I want to be celibate with thisone.
I want to see where it goes.
You know, he was completelylike.
That's cool.
Like, like I said, I haven'teven been talking to females for
the past year, so I'm chillingLike red, green flags, green
flags all around.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
Yeah, Is that?
Is it really a green flag?
Like if a guy is not into thewhole physical thing anymore and
it just straight into your.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
Oh he's into it, but he like he could wait.
Yeah, that's good, there's nopressure.
He understood where I wascoming from.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
He's very respectful it is in my soul.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
That's what really made me like even more.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
So wow, like oh, that turned you on a little bit more
yeah, because sometimes they'dbe like, oh no, we'll see about
you know how they're like.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
Yeah, because sometimes they'd be like oh no,
We'll see about it.
You know how they're like,we'll see about that.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
I'd be like blocked.
Speaker 1 (18:46):
Oh, okay.
Well, when that day comes, boy,hey, if you're watching and
listening, you finna get it.
That's a lot of pent up shit.
This is going to come off alittle gross, right, but since
you guys aren't knocking theboots, do you mind if he's like
(19:09):
masturbating?
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Do what you got to do .
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Okay, at least it's not with someone else, it's him
yeah girl Okay.
Okay, okay, okay, you know what?
Because I know.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
I mean, I understand it.
You know me personally.
No, I'm not doing anything.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
But if you gotta do what you gotta do, then yeah, to
relieve the tension withhimself, not with other people,
but with himself.
He's like okay, you know whatshe looking good, I gotta go
home, babe.
Uh, let me call you back infive minutes, because that's all
I need.
Ah, babe, how you doing?
We good, we good.
Oh, I'm good now, thank you.
Thank you, you don't mind thatat all.
(19:45):
Hey, kudos to you.
I know women that is liketotally against the whole
masturbating thing because ofthe you know.
Uh, they think of that ascheating a form of cheating.
But I mean, if you're sendinghim picture, are you sending him
pictures of yourself?
No, all he has is a picture ofyourself.
Okay, so I mean, but it's okaywith him to do what he's doing.
(20:07):
Do what you gotta do Coolbecause the real thing is coming
soon, my friend.
It is coming soon.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
I also like, haven't asked him like.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
Okay, yeah, you shouldn't.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
I just don't think that I need to know.
You don think that I need toknow, you don't.
I don't as a man.
No, I'm gonna lie you jacked up.
No, I'm not gonna ask him likeyou, just do what you gotta do
and thank you for being patientwith me.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
Oh, that's girl.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
I'm happy for you well, let me find out.
I mean, I probably would have adifferent answer for you find
out that he's masturbating.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
Oh god okay I would like to think that it wouldn't
bother me good clear browserdude and I know he's gonna watch
this too I know I'm gonna makethis a clip clear your.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
It's gonna say clear your browser for real.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
I'm hooking him up you know what I'm gonna call
your fbi agent on your phone.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
We about to get oh dude, uh, nah, man, nah, what if
?
What if he was a?
Uh, what if his name wasn'tlike his real name?
What if he was an undercoverperson?
Speaker 2 (21:10):
that would suck it would be my luck oh, wouldn't it
be your luck?
Speaker 1 (21:15):
huh, it would be my luck.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
She always has like bad luck with these guys right,
oh, an undercover hitch orwhatever.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
I could just see anu now on the news.
Hey, this motherfucker told mehe was this, this and this I
promise I did not know he was arussian spy.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
Okay exactly.
Oh god, I knew he was a littlelight skinned, but I didn't know
it was.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
That's funny, that is funny, just to think about it.
That's funny.
That's funny, oh girl.
Okay, here's one of thequestions how do you feel about
the people that talk shit?
Speaker 2 (21:53):
Okay, we got to go into depth with it.
Like, what are they talkingshit about?
Speaker 1 (21:57):
You know what.
She didn't even tell me, butyou know her and she sent you a
lot.
Um, uh, yeah, how do you feel?
Okay?
So, in general, how do you feelabout people just talking shit
about you?
Speaker 2 (22:08):
talk shit get hit talk shit, get hit.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Okay, um, just right off the bat.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
It really depends, like what are you talking shit
about?
Because okay, yeah to me ifyou're like talking about a
situation that's not reallytalking shit uh-huh and I think
if people see it as somebodytalking shit, then maybe you
should change your shittybehavior oh, and she looked at
the camera too.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
Okay, um, has this ever happened to you?
Uh, because my wife was tellingme a story.
She went out clubbing and, um,it's at this place, next to the
Pearl City Mall.
What do you call it?
Pearl Ridge?
It's on the second floor of 7-.
Fowler In the food court no no,no, no, Not in that place, but
(22:54):
it's right near there, though.
But on the bottom floor it'slike 7-Eleven Teddy's, and then
if you go around the backthere's another parking lot.
Oh, I've never been there.
It's where all the locals go to, okay, well, anywho, she went
clubbing with her friends.
Some girl jumped her coworkerbecause she was pretty.
Is that a known thing?
Speaker 2 (23:11):
That's crazy.
You're a real hater for that.
Pretty girls don't fight likethat.
I would just say are you thatinsecure?
Speaker 1 (23:21):
yeah, wild, jumping somebody because they're
prettier than you isembarrassing right, right,
because, uh, she told me,because it happened that night.
She got the call that night andI was like, oh, what happened?
She's like, oh, one of myco-workers got jumped.
I was like, oh god, whathappened?
Was she like on a guy?
She's like no, the girls justcame up just like, hey, you're
that pretty girl on the on theinternet.
I was like, wait, hold up, isthere any more context to that?
(23:44):
She's like no, that's, that'sall I got.
You're that pretty girl oninstagram.
And then she got mopped and Iwas like, oh god, that just
sucks, that's embarrassing,that's embarrassing, that's
crazy getting jumped becauseyou're pretty or embarrassing
girls who jump, because a girlis pretty.
Yeah, why?
Why do you think womenespecially like in Hawaii, why
(24:04):
do they do that?
Speaker 2 (24:05):
You asking the wrong girl because we're making
friends with a pretty girl Hello.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
Yeah Right, I mean there's.
There's a lot of ups to beingfriends with a pretty girl.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
I mean, why not?
But that's wild, I don't know,Well, I must not be that pretty,
because I had never been jumpedin public for that.
Speaker 1 (24:24):
Well, they probably know you.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
Maybe that's why I swing back.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
Oh, I know you would, I know.
Can I ask you what is a TLB?
Speaker 2 (24:36):
Typical local boy.
Speaker 1 (24:38):
Typical local boy, and that's the type of boys that
you like that I love that youlove okay well, I am a tlg
typical local typical local girlum, that acronym.
Is that a thing like if Iwalked around with a mic and
said, hey, are you a tlg?
Would they know what that is?
Or tlb?
Speaker 2 (24:58):
I only found out what a tlg was from my friend who's
from maui, so I don't know ifit's like a maui thing oh, okay,
okay, okay or what.
But like when I've said tlb topeople, they're like I don't
know what is that okay, so Idon't think it's like in a wahoo
thing, I think it's like a mauithing.
Speaker 1 (25:15):
Oh, wow, yeah, when's the last time you went to maui.
The last time you went to Maui.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
The last time I went to Maui was for my
sister-in-law's graduation.
Hey In 2023.
23.
Yeah, Mm.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
Congratulations.
Late, belated, sorry.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
Yeah, she a D1 athlete now.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Shut up For real.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
She just had a softball game yesterday that we
watched.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
So I took my kids to go watch her play.
Like, even though me and thedad are split, like I'll still
go to her things I think I didsee a post of that.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
That's what's up.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
That's awesome yeah, so like his dad was there he
wasn't there because I think hewas at work, but I can still be
around his family and do thatkind of stuff, which is cool
even better, even better.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
Have you, uh, have you checked out the new don
story yet?
The don don no coyote, whateverit's called capolei capolei.
Speaker 2 (26:08):
Yeah, I saw the line.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
No, I didn't oh girl, let me tell you, I went
yesterday, uh, with my wifebecause she wanted to meet with
her friends.
I wasn't all into it because Iknow about the line we went.
I had a pretty cool time.
I tell you it's, it's, it's anasian wally world and target
it's like donkey hot day I'venever been in the one yeah so my
(26:32):
very first time in there, Imean the food selection awesome,
I'm not gonna front.
I hated the people.
Well, you know, I know, I justhated how crowded it was.
Crowded, it was super crowded.
Maybe it's because it wasopening day, but yeah, it'd be
like that.
Yeah, I'm like dog.
Isn't there one like in town orsomewhere around the island?
Speaker 2 (26:55):
So I think it's the.
It used to be Don Quixote.
And then they changed.
They just rebranded oh, it'sthe.
It used to be don quixote, andthen they changed.
Speaker 1 (27:04):
They just rebranded.
Oh really, it's pretty much donquixote.
Okay it's, it's cool andeverything I liked it.
Uh, when I go back, definitelywill go back.
My fucking camera went off, butit's okay.
I got an extra battery, um, butI'm gonna keep on talking
because this is going, so we'regood.
Uh, should I change it?
No see, I don't know, but thatone's still going, that's cool
you want to fix it.
Oh, for real, I'm chilling.
(27:25):
Okay, cool, cool, cool, we'regoing to fix it.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
Intermission, intermission, intermission.
We're still talking.
I got some shit to say.
Can I talk my shit now?
Who said that?
Speaker 1 (27:48):
Was that now?
Who said that was that drake?
I don't even know, all right,so you probably hear me.
Uh, guys, I mean girls that arelike trying, have they tried
hitting your boy up?
Speaker 2 (28:00):
that I know of no.
But what I really like abouthim is like he is a social media
ghost, like I have how manyfollowers?
Like a lot, and he has all oflike 200, like he just be doing
(28:25):
his own thing.
I love that.
I love a guy who nobody knows,so I don't gotta worry about
shit.
So his secret admirers I haveno idea who they are.
He probably doesn't even knowwho they are Good.
Speaker 1 (28:43):
We're just talking about secret admirers, and her
man doesn't have any.
Speaker 2 (28:47):
That I know of.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
That you know of.
But if he did have a secretadmirer, I mean you're taken, or
he wouldn't even know, though,right.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
Yeah, I guess that's the point of a secret admirer,
yeah.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
Do you have any secret admirers?
I don't know.
Has anyone Let me ask you thishas anyone confessed that they?
Speaker 2 (29:06):
Anu, I'm feeling you, oh my gosh, do you want to read
the craziest DM I got?
Speaker 1 (29:11):
I get to read it.
Speaker 2 (29:12):
You get to read it.
It's in the request and Ithought it was crazy.
Speaker 1 (29:16):
And I get to comment on that.
You can Do.
I get to read it out loud.
Yeah, you can Do.
You know this person.
Speaker 2 (29:23):
No, how do you?
But, like just read it.
Speaker 1 (29:28):
You can read it out loud Wow, this is fucking long
no, but read it.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
It's crazy.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
Okay, I'm going to read it.
Okay, I don't know you andnever met you, but I think I
honestly fell in love.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
Hold met you, but I think I honestly fell in love.
Okay, let's just analyze thatpart.
I don't know you, I've nevermet you, but I think I fell in
love.
Speaker 1 (29:51):
I see it as a what is it, love at first sight type
shit in this dying age, that's,that's, that's not gonna happen,
it's nah, make, it make sense.
The math isn't mathing, okayokay, fell in love with you
after seeing that post.
(30:11):
When you called someone andtold them you love them, did you
post something that?
Speaker 2 (30:16):
yeah, so I like called a group of my friends and
like because I feel like peoplein hawai, hawaii don't do this
enough where we tell each otherlike it literally was, like oh,
I'm proud of you, I love you,like.
Speaker 1 (30:27):
I do that too, yeah.
Speaker 2 (30:28):
I don't do that.
My friends don't do that.
So, like I thought it was goingto be a hee, hee, ha, ha thing,
and people are going to be likeAnu, I do appreciate that.
That's what I would havethought If somebody called me
and they're like hey girl, likeI just wanted to tell you I love
you, like, randomly, out of theblue, I'd be like Are you okay?
Oh so like here in Hawaii, wedon't do that, like we don't.
(30:51):
We don't do the Random check incalls.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
Like so Surprising you.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
Yes, really, and coming from me, I don't be
telling nobody I love them.
They know it through my actions, yeah, so I thought that they
were going to trip out, but myfriend was just like they broke
down.
Some of my friends were cryingon the phone and they were like
I had a hard day and so I postedit and shit went viral.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
Really.
Speaker 2 (31:18):
Yes, and everybody in Hawaii were like this needs to
happen more and I'm like I agree, but anyways.
Speaker 1 (31:23):
We'll talk about that .
Yeah, we'll talk about that,and you're proud of them.
That was so touching.
It gave me tears.
That was so awesome.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (31:33):
Period.
You're so beautiful and I betyou're way more beautiful on the
inside and I wish you were mygf.
Look, let me tell you, guy,she's cool and all that which I
don't got layers.
After talking to her, she'sbeen on the pod like what?
Two times, two, three timesalready.
This motherfucker got layers.
All right, let's see.
(31:54):
Uh, here we go.
And girlfriend boy, please youready to stop?
Oh, I honestly will pray to Godfor you.
Speaker 2 (32:01):
Okay, that's okay Cool.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
In fact, I can't do that.
I-d-e-k.
I don't even know, okay, okay,I don't even know.
If you're taken, which I doubt.
You're single, okay, you'reright there.
She is not single there, buddy,but you are the most beautiful
woman in the world.
I feel that way and I promisethat.
Compliments, kudos, compliments.
(32:23):
Okay, I never told any womanthat in my life, but you only.
Wait, hold on the grammar's,not grammar-ing right.
I never told any woman that inmy life, but you only.
I've said to other womenthey're one of the most
beautiful, but not the most.
And you are it.
Look, I am reading thisverbatim.
(32:43):
It's not me, I put it on mydaddy, it is not me.
So, um, this person has 3.4kfollowers.
That shit probably slipped outof his mouth once or three times
.
You know, oh, my gosh, becauseI mean, I've been on this earth
like I don't know a couple oddyears now.
(33:04):
I've said beautiful to you knowseveral women not just one, I'm
the most you're the most he'snever said that before Anybody.
Red flag Red flag.
Speaker 2 (33:16):
Red flag.
Why the fuck you lying, yeah,why you always lying All right,
last sentence.
Speaker 1 (33:26):
Hope you at least made you smile.
Wait, hope you at least madeyou smile.
Thank you for being sobeautiful.
I aloha, you, okay, break thatdown.
Aloha, that's another.
Love Okay, love Hope.
And you, okay, break that down.
Aloha, that's another love.
Oh okay, love hope.
And then he spelled lease, asin like I'm leasing a car, I'm
(33:48):
hey, dude, I'm sorry uh you'reabout to unfollow me.
After this, unfollow you he'sprobably gonna look for me like
hey, you that fucker, and I'mlike no dude I'm not that fucker
.
Speaker 2 (33:58):
He's gonna message me and be like you know they take
it back.
You're not the most beautiful,yeah but you know what?
Speaker 1 (34:02):
we're not saying his name out.
So hey, dude um wear it.
Lace, that bitch up um, from aguy it's real heartfelt, right.
Um, I think he's.
You know he's coming from agood place one.
Um, I think he's trying to playthat game.
Speaker 2 (34:20):
I think what threw me off was the I don't know you
and never met you, but I think Ihonestly fell in love with you.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
Did that post go viral?
Is that how?
Speaker 2 (34:44):
So on Instagram as1 comments and it was shared 3,000
times.
Speaker 1 (34:50):
Oh yeah.
So that's pretty much.
Why Is anyone able to do that?
Fall in love with someone thatposted, let's say, a thing like
that.
Can that happen?
I mean, it happened to him.
But I'm not laughing at you,dude, I'm sorry.
It's just my we're laughingwith you.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
Yeah yeah, we're laughing with you, yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:12):
Is that possible?
Like falling for someone thatyou've never met.
Can that happen?
I mean you, you gotta know atleast something about like oh,
she likes turtles, he likesrainbows, something about him
that you could fall in love with, but never not meeting someone.
That's like me falling in lovewith cindy crawford that I've
never met in my life right orthat's like you met, you falling
(35:34):
in love with jason momoabecause he's a great actor, but
you don't know him I don't thinkthat like that's love, if
that's what it it's aninfatuation, yeah yeah, like it,
it's definitely not love sorry,brother you're
not in love with me yeah, you'renot, but hey, feel free to uh,
(35:56):
feel free to share her posts,get her there like comment
subscribe right, um, if I everget this on live, like if we
ever do this, if I ever get thispodcast live, like, say, in
alamuana, I'm definitely gonnahave you on and get your secret
admirers there.
But hey, I'm that guy.
And then I, I swear to god, I'dlaugh, I laugh my ass off.
(36:18):
If that ever happened.
Oh my gosh, okay.
Next question why did you get86 from the Big D?
And I don't even know what thatmeans 86?
86, yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:34):
You can't enter an establishment.
Speaker 1 (36:36):
Like you're done, oh, and what's the Big D District
District A club?
Yeah, okay.
Punishment like oh, you're done, oh yeah, and what's the big d
district district a club?
Yeah, okay, this is a story.
How did that happen were?
Speaker 2 (36:46):
you just too drunk or you fought someone.
No, I was not.
I actually wasn't drunk at all,like we went to lucky strike
before we went to the club Iknow that place very last minute
decision.
Uh-huh, some of my friend groupwent to district and since we
were at alamo, it's in alamuanadistrict is in alamuana yeah,
okay, um like in that side, notin the mall, but it's connected
(37:08):
to the mall like yes, yes sothey were like oh, just come
down to district, you guys arealready there.
Like I wasn't even dressed to goto the club, like I was wearing
shorts and just a t-shirt.
I wasn't even dressed to go tothe club, I was wearing shorts
and just a t-shirt, lucky striketype stuff.
So we weren't even drinking.
We went to district.
A girl was pressing one of myguy friends, like will you buy
(37:29):
me a drink, take a shot with me,or whatever?
And my friend was like no, I'mnot interested.
And instead of just taking thatand leaving him alone, she got
in his face and was like what doyou mean?
And so, like me being the onlygirl in the group, I was like
sissy said he's good.
Like I wasn't trying to be rude, but, girl, he's good.
Speaker 1 (37:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
And she didn't like that.
So she she called me out tofight.
We were inside of the club andI was like girl get out of here
Like I'm not about to body slamyour ass, yeah, middle of a club
.
So when me and my this wasactually like the first time I
went out with my man- what, whata date right?
(38:10):
No, so that's even more of agreen flag.
Like he saw me crash out and hedidn't, like he didn't just
ghost me, oh okay, yeah okay,yeah, did he try and stop?
Speaker 1 (38:19):
Oh, you know what?
Continue, continue.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
So we went outside because, like, the mood was
killed, Like me and a handful ofmy other friends who saw what
happened, we all went outsidejust to chill because the fuck
was that?
And as we're standing outside,the girl and her friend group
walk out and then it was justout from there.
Speaker 1 (38:41):
We got into a little squabble, squabble up, squabbled
it up um on your post.
Was that when you had like thatlittle thing on your head?
Yes, okay, I saw I saw thatshit.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
She hit my head with her phone like the corner of her
phone, and then I had to walkher like a dog oh, goofy head
ass.
Yeah, I got 86 from district.
Speaker 1 (39:00):
Never again you could return.
Speaker 2 (39:02):
I don't know.
I haven't asked, I haven'ttried to go back Because it was
embarrassing.
You know what I mean.
Like you don't go out trying tostart any problems.
Speaker 1 (39:11):
Yeah, this is true, yeah.
Speaker 2 (39:12):
But I'm also not one to get punked out.
Yeah, you got something elsecoming.
If you're going to try topunked out, yeah you got
something else coming if you'regonna try to punk me out,
because I'm not the one.
Two or three right, we'repulling those layers, the layers
, the layers.
Speaker 1 (39:27):
Why, um, why do you think that that female got so
offended, when you're like yo,sis?
Speaker 2 (39:33):
no, and like the thing was like I wasn't even
trying to be rude, which is whyI think when it did come to the
squabble and when she did hit mein the face with her phone,
like I was just like you knowwhat, like I genuinely was not
trying to start nothing with you, I just wanted to let you know,
because my guy friends are mean, like they'll tell you nicely
the first time, like oh, I'm notinterested.
The second time they're going tobe like look, you're fucking
(39:54):
ugly.
That's why I don't want todrink with you.
Get out of my face, was sheugly?
Speaker 1 (40:06):
oh, yes, girl, I got pictures somewhere.
Speaker 2 (40:06):
But I literally pull those up and I'll let you know,
like I literally.
Well, it's gonna be the video.
We just have to zoom in on herface oh, okay, okay okay, but um
no, yeah, I was just trying toprevent anything from happening,
because my guy friends willvery they're not going to like
hit a girl, but they're going tobe like get the fuck out of my
face and so I just was honestlytrying to prevent that.
(40:27):
So when she got all crazy, Iwas like I'm trying to help you
out.
Speaker 1 (40:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (40:34):
Backstory, though that's not my first interaction
with her, which I think is crazy.
Speaker 1 (40:39):
So were you guys friends or are you guys no?
Speaker 2 (40:41):
So after the squabble I recognized her from one of my
friend's birthday parties.
She was outside of the clubwith her friend group and we
were sitting down on thesidewalk and some random guy
came up to her outside and liketrying to get her to go home
with him oh, maybe.
Speaker 1 (41:02):
Maybe she was like she was boosted right wait hold
up I think I know her hold onyou're fucking lying she was
white she looked white.
Is it um?
Is her thingies fake?
Speaker 2 (41:16):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (41:17):
Does she look like a clown?
Speaker 2 (41:18):
She kind of I mean she acts like a clown.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
Okay, she's Okay, she Does.
She have like tats on her otherside.
Let me, see I don't know, onher left arm Is she like way
more tatted?
Speaker 2 (41:32):
No, I don't think so.
Speaker 1 (41:34):
Is her man?
Japanese slash black.
Speaker 2 (41:40):
Do you know if she has a man?
I don't know if she has a man,because she was trying to get a
drink with my friend.
Speaker 1 (41:44):
Um, okay.
Speaker 2 (41:45):
There was a black man with her.
Speaker 1 (41:48):
Did he have braids?
Speaker 2 (41:49):
No.
Speaker 1 (41:51):
I want to say someone , but I don't know.
Speaker 2 (41:55):
I have a better picture of her face.
You know what?
Speaker 1 (41:58):
We're going to compare pictures.
Pause, guys.
I think I know who it is, but Iwant to make sure it is you
smell me?
Speaker 2 (42:07):
I don't think so.
She don't have tattoos.
Speaker 1 (42:09):
Okay, good, good, good, good good, because See how
sad her face is yeah, that'safter you get your shit rocked.
Yeah, she got no back, she gota little fupa lupa.
Speaker 2 (42:24):
Oh, titties were out, ass were out and they weren't
mine.
Speaker 1 (42:28):
Ew, Ew.
She ain't even that cute y'all.
Speaker 2 (42:33):
But anyways, that's why I got 86.
I was trying to help one of myguy friends out.
It turned into a squabble butit all worked out.
Because that was the first timeI went out with my boyfriend, I
got 86 from the club.
So now there's not even adiscussion Like oh, can I have a
girls night at district,because I can't go.
Speaker 1 (42:52):
That's funny.
I thought it was her.
Oh, they look familiar.
They do right, it's the white,it's the curly hair.
No, this girl looks a lotprettier than her, though okay
like yeah, no, that's not her sofunny thing is is that, um,
this particular person she workswith my wife and my wife works
(43:14):
with a lot of uh it's not theone that got jumped.
Huh no no, uh, but she workswith a lot of um homosexuals.
I don't want to okay, yeah, okay, and they said that she looks
um don't even say it okay, Iwon't, but she looks like don't
even say it yeah, okay, okay,because she gets, she got.
(43:34):
She gets a lot of.
Don't even say it, okay, no,but side note.
She gets a lot of shit work'teven say it, okay, no, but side
note.
She gets a lot of shit workdone, but you know where I'm
going.
Speaker 2 (43:42):
I know where you're going.
Speaker 1 (43:43):
Okay good, At least we're here.
Speaker 2 (43:44):
We're here.
Speaker 1 (43:46):
And I'm like, yeah, and she was like, oh, you like
that, chris?
And I'm like, oh no, I've neverfound her attractive like that,
even when before she got thethings done.
I'm like, nah, man, that's likejust not my type of female you
know I mean I don't knock girls,who do?
Speaker 2 (44:03):
I mean, if you got the money?
Speaker 1 (44:04):
to do it do it girl.
Speaker 2 (44:06):
Like I wish I could Shit.
Speaker 1 (44:09):
How do you get money like that?
Because I understand it's likeexpensive out here, it is
expensive.
Have you ever got anything done?
Speaker 2 (44:14):
No, I haven't Are.
No, I haven't.
Speaker 1 (44:16):
Are you interested?
I'm not trying to promote it oranything I had two kids.
Speaker 2 (44:20):
Yes, Give me my tummy tuck, Tummy tuck Again.
Lift the tits please.
Speaker 1 (44:25):
Lift the tits.
That's what you would get done,probably Just the tummy tuck
and anything with the face likelips or, I guess, chin extract.
Speaker 2 (44:36):
I had that conversation with my boyfriend.
What if I got lip fillers, justbecause I I don't know, I
already have lips.
But yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:45):
Just to have that conversation.
What if?
Speaker 2 (44:47):
I got lip fillers.
What would you do?
Speaker 1 (44:49):
And he's like Fuck on them.
Speaker 2 (44:55):
But no, he, yeah.
No, I haven't thought aboutdoing anything to my face, but
because that just scares me,like I feel like you fuck up
your face yeah, that's permanent.
Speaker 1 (45:06):
Yeah, girl, I would, um, if they ever did have like a
knee growing thing where yourbottom half.
No, I'm not talking about likethe dick in the balls, but I'm
talking about like my kneesabout knee implants shut your
ass.
Is that real?
Speaker 2 (45:18):
I heard about it from white chicks my bad.
Speaker 1 (45:23):
Oh, I dropped the n word.
Speaker 2 (45:24):
Girl, that's a movie you don't remember that scene.
When they're like oh my gosh,you got taller.
And she's like is that is?
Speaker 1 (45:35):
that real though?
No, okay, if it is like I wouldbe like interested in that, but
then my proportions would betotally off, like I'm, and then
my arms are like short as hell.
So what am I supposed to do?
Right, Right.
But I would definitely think ofgetting like being a little
taller.
Speaker 2 (45:53):
My proportions are off.
I have really long legs andthen, like my, arms are no, my
torso is short, oh so, like myupper butt, my, like my hips are
long.
Yeah, that's good for likerunning, though running in
soccer I did hurdles in highschool yeah so I mean, yeah,
she's an athlete, y'all sheathlete, yes, per um, let's go
(46:14):
back to this.
Speaker 1 (46:15):
Uh 86, yeah, we still got time you got 86.
Let's see, here we go.
Why and I boys?
Or why Manala boys?
Why and I and what?
Why and I why?
What's the difference?
Besides, one is on the east andwhy Manala is on the south?
Speaker 2 (46:35):
Why Manala is on the east and why Manala is on the
west, why Manala is on the south, waimanalo is on the east and
Waianae is on the west.
Speaker 1 (46:40):
Waianae is on the west Waianae.
Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Why is that?
Speaker 2 (46:42):
Honestly, like I've only Tiare, I hate you.
I've only encountered with oneWaimanalo boy like dated, and it
just wasn't a good experience.
Speaker 1 (46:55):
Why not?
It just didn't work out, okay,okay, it didn't work out uh-huh,
but um, like he's a good, he'sa good person he's a good person
who did shitty things oh, okayyeah, but the shitty outweighed
(47:18):
the good.
Oh, the pros and cons list.
Okay, yeah.
Speaker 2 (47:23):
But like I can't, like he had a rough life, so I
kind of was like yes, I think itexplains itself, but that's why
I'm going to stay in Waianae,like I went to Waimanalo, just
because everybody was like maybeyou should try an East boy.
Speaker 1 (47:40):
Never again, never boy Never again, never again,
never again.
Huh, one and done, one and oneand done.
Um, I don't want to talk aboutany other boys because, yeah, I
don't want your man thinking, oh, was he trying to hook you up
with a North boy dated?
You know what I'm gonna askhave you dated or like talked to
someone from the north side andfrom what's the south side of
(48:01):
the island?
Um?
Ever okay, sure, why not?
Speaker 2 (48:04):
yeah, I asked, so I did talk to a boy from wailua
wailua is north, north okay um,he was talking to his
ex-girlfriend the whole time, sothat dropped?
Yeah, dropped him yeah, um, Idid talk to a boy from eva.
He was cool, he was.
Speaker 1 (48:23):
He was a cool guy but , it just same thing didn't work
out with all the guys thatyou've talked to um?
Are they still friends with you?
Do they still follow you on thegram?
Speaker 2 (48:32):
and vice versa yes that's good.
Yeah, oh uh, they follow me Ican block them if you want me,
yeah right, you know what I meanuh-huh, but like it not like,
like just getting to know them.
Yeah, they still follow methat's good guys who?
I actually dated.
I think talking and dating arevery different actually.
Speaker 1 (48:53):
No, it's kind of the same thing uh, okay, please,
okay, please, uh, break thatshit down, the talking and
dating, because it isn't dating.
In my, in my eyes, you'reactually going out as a talking
you go out, but it's it's a raregoing out.
You're just more of you knowthe texts or more the calls
(49:13):
that's.
Speaker 2 (49:14):
That's kind of where I think I'm going with it.
Like if you're talking tosomebody, it's more so.
Just like you said, not reallygoing out dating, I feel like
you're out there and you'reactively going out getting to
know, to know people.
Like when I was single, Ialways said dating you can date
multiple people.
But I feel like some peopledon't like that.
(49:34):
Like I can go on a date with aguy on monday and tuesday when I
don't have my kids, I'm gonnago on a date with another guy on
Monday and Tuesday when I don'thave my kids.
I'm going to go on a date withanother guy?
Yeah, because I'm just gettingto know you guys.
I'm not going to be exclusiveto you unless you have that
conversation with me.
And then talking I think ismaybe the early stages of dating
, like you're having interest insomebody and then it turns into
(49:54):
dating and then if you wantthat exclusive, whatever.
Speaker 1 (50:01):
Just mind your mind type stuff, yeah, and then then
comes a relationship I think allof it is just communication of
the steps let me ask you this um, dating, dating multiple people
, right, if you're not like, say, laying it down on the first
date, second date or third date,can you still date other people
?
So, per ejemplo, a guy and agirl they're, they go on a date,
(50:23):
nothing happens at the end nokiss, no, nothing.
They just hung out, have dinner.
They do that two, three moretimes.
Right, they see it nothing,nothing went down, nothing
physical.
He goes out with another person.
Is he now considered a cheaterin the woman's eyes because
nothing went down or becausethey were dating those three
(50:45):
times they went out together?
Does that label him somethingdifferent?
Speaker 2 (50:50):
well, like I said, you have to have that
conversation conversation okaylike.
You can't get mad at somebodyfor acting a certain way if you
don't set those boundaries withthem.
Speaker 1 (51:01):
This is real.
Speaker 2 (51:02):
Or like if you don't just tell them like, hey, I'm
not doing this, I don't want youdoing this, if you do do it,
then I don't see why I woulddate you anymore.
Okay, you know it's all aboutcommunication, because they
can't read your mind.
I can't read your mind, like Ididn't expect my boyfriend to be
loyal to me from the jump, buthe, that's just the kind of guy
(51:23):
he was.
So that made it so much easier.
But I would have had thatconversation with him like if
you're gonna go out doingwhatever you want to do, then
I'm gonna go out do whatever Iwant to do.
But I think that's where welack nowadays is people don't
know how to talk shit out oh andit's that easy, like it
literally is like no, I'm justtrying to fuck.
Like okay, well, if that's whatyou want to do, that's not what
(51:45):
I want to do, so keep it moving,find somebody else but there
are females like that that aredown just like that there's a
lot that are down just like that.
You just have to talk to themwomen are as bad as guys.
Speaker 1 (51:59):
They just keep it on the low down right 100, some
females don't, and that'scompletely fine too.
Speaker 2 (52:05):
We listen and we don't judge over here yes, we do
.
This is your life, you only gotone life, do what you want to
do.
Speaker 1 (52:10):
Oh my gosh, I've been telling people that um like
when, when people ask me hey,should I shoot my shot?
Speaker 2 (52:16):
I'm just like shoot it, just do it, shoot it just
fucking do it, shoot it, justfucking do it.
I mean, if it ends up in adivorce, it's fine.
Speaker 1 (52:22):
You know what it is.
I can't.
That's okay, Because at the endof divorce at least you know
what you want.
Like you have your limitationsand your restrictions on what
you want next.
Speaker 2 (52:37):
Shoot your shot.
I am always an advocate forshoot your shot, because what's
the worst they can do?
Say no, okay.
Well then, I'm going to keep itmoving.
Speaker 1 (52:44):
Keep it moving.
Speaker 2 (52:45):
Shoot your shot.
Speaker 1 (52:46):
Ooh girl, yeah, always, always.
Can I ask you this one thing?
And then, before we dip out,when I messaged you the very
first time right, wait, did Imessage you?
No, no, nohea got you on.
But then, after that time, whenI asked you to come back on
what made it easy for you to sayyes and keep coming back, you
(53:07):
replying to my shit, I mean it'salways a good time it is right,
it is.
I have a good time with you allthe time.
Speaker 2 (53:15):
When we had Nohea's podcast I didn't feel
uncomfortable.
It was cool and like.
We exchanged social media so Icould see all the stuff that
you're posting, like I saw yourfamily, your wife, like all of
that stuff.
So we friends, now we homiesman.
Speaker 1 (53:33):
Hell yeah, that's what's up.
Where can um?
If they're not following youyet, where can these people find
you at?
Speaker 2 (53:40):
On Instagram.
He gon' tag me.
Speaker 1 (53:43):
I am, I actually am yeah.
Speaker 2 (53:45):
And then I'm on TikTok, your.
Speaker 1 (53:47):
TikTok is going Pretty good.
Speaker 2 (53:49):
TikTok be poppin'.
I've seen that shit.
Speaker 1 (53:51):
TikTok be poppin'.
It is your shit's funny.
I am a funny person.
It's funny.
It's a dry sense of humor Typeshit, but people can relate to
it.
Speaker 2 (53:59):
He said dry sense of humor, it is dry.
Speaker 1 (54:02):
It is, I'm not going to lie, it's dry, because you're
just talking and I'm like, ohshit, I could totally relate,
and that's what makes it sofunny.
Speaker 2 (54:09):
I think I don't even try to be funny.
Sometimes I just genuinely I'mbored and I just gotta say some
shit, Right, exactly.
And then other people are like,yeah, this shit's funny, but I
just be myself and people likethat.
Speaker 1 (54:24):
That's good.
Speaker 2 (54:25):
Some people don't, but that's okay.
You can't make everybody happy.
Speaker 1 (54:28):
Right, right Be genuine.
Speaker 2 (54:30):
Be yourself.
Speaker 1 (54:31):
Be yourself, be genuine.
They teach you that All thisfake shit don't like it, don't
like it Mm-mm.
Speaker 2 (54:36):
Don't like it at all.
Be yourself.
Speaker 1 (54:39):
Real eyes, real eyes, real eyes.
Speaker 2 (54:42):
Real Gs move in silence like lasagna.
Speaker 1 (54:47):
I got that.
I actually, because the G issilent, Mm-mm-mm.
With that being said, KSStudios.
Thank you for the lovely home.
Rafi Bayi, thank you for thelovely beats man.
I'm Chris, I'm Anu and we outthis bitch Peace.
Speaker 2 (55:04):
Did you hear me loud and clear?
Speaker 1 (55:06):
Yeah, you did yeah.
oh god, okay, here we go.
Five, four, three, two, one.
Welcome back to another episodeof the relationship method
podcast.
I am chris and today I have oneof my faves coming back on.
Uh, you know her as anu, I knowher as mama bear, I know her as
the um, the girl that workswith the, with one of them lime
(00:26):
green sweaters.
I'm not gonna tell you.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Tell you their her occupation I got me a pink one.
Oh, she got a pink one now.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Okay, cool and um, last time that we were on she
was going through some, uh,single face shit, and now she
has some news for us.
So I don't know.
Welcome back on the podcast.
Yay, man, hell yeah, how youbeing girl, I've been good yeah,
you were.
You've been good.
(00:53):
Yeah, yeah, wink, wink, nudge,nudge.
And she hooked your boy up withsome coffee today and, um, this
is the first, so she popped myfirst coffee.
Uh, drop off cherry.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
So thank you gotta love smiley face too shut your
ass where, oh was that was thedude.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Was it a dude or a girl?
Speaker 2 (01:10):
it was a dude at the window of course it was a dude.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Hey, shout out to the um the guy that hooked her up
with a smiley face.
Do you have a smile face onyours too?
Speaker 2 (01:20):
no, I gotta.
Thank you very much.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
What kind did you get ?
Speaker 2 (01:25):
Strawberry acai.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
That's why, okay, what did you think of the cups
going from the plastic to paper?
Not a big fan.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Not a fan, but I understand it, respect it.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
How do you understand it?
Break that shit down to me Savethe turtles.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Oh, okay, okay, okay, I'm guessing guessing oh,
you're guessing, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
Biodegradable save the planet okay, I get it, I get
whatever.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
I honestly, yeah right, I honestly don't give a
fuck, um man, what you been upto living life living life uh
still on the west side no, I wasnever on the west side, no I
mean like with um uh, livinglife with the guys on the west
side you like, on the west sidethat's what I mean it's a
(02:16):
white-eyed boy oh, so you areliving with a guy from the west
side?
Speaker 1 (02:22):
oh, why not?
Okay, so last time we were um,we were on, you were single.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Correct.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Mingling, but you weren't on the apps because I
remember you telling me you gotoff.
Yeah, what changed all that?
I believe it was.
I'm going to say at least whatseven, eight months ago, five
months.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
I think it was last I saw you was in March or April.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Wow Of last year, okay, almost a year.
Wow, a lot of things change.
I mean, you're still the sameheight.
Still the same height, youstill got your tan on girl.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Still got my tan Babies are still good.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Yeah, yes, babies are delish, yes, so tell me, how
are you?
Like first of of all, how didit happen, from you being single
and a man?
Finally, you know, taming thebeast.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
He applied that pressure.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Oh, okay.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Okay, no, so I actually Met him from Going out.
Everybody knows I was in mylittle Going out phase.
Yes, okay.
So I met him Through mutualfriends and nothing happened.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
And then six months Went by and then we just
reconnected and it was a wrapfrom there really, um, is this
one of those guys where like sayyou made out with and you
tapped him on the show's like,nah, not, it was he one of them
no, we didn't even make out oh,okay, it was it was very
wholesome.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
The first time I met him was very wholesome.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Really Gentleman-like .
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Also, he wasn't going out looking to mingle with
anybody, okay, he was just goingout with his friends to have a
good time, type shit, that'sgood yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
So throughout that meeting you came along and, hey
friend, this is Anu.
Anu, this is friend who shallremain nameless.
Yep, okay, good, good, good.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
He knows who he is.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Oh, I know right.
Does he live on his own or ishe with the parents or cousins
or roommates?
He lives with family.
Okay, that's good, that's good.
Next question is do you haveyour toothbrush or your clothes
at a spot already?
Speaker 2 (04:31):
We haven't had sleepovers.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Good, that is good.
Take your time, girl.
Yeah, take your time.
Oh, that's cute.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
We very much so are Like I think that's what's
different is we are doing itslow.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Okay, doing different uh-huh is we are doing it slow
okay and what right, what'swhat's slow and right to you
like, um, is it the whole, uh,the whole chivalrous thing and
all that?
Speaker 2 (04:54):
well, okay yeah, really found a good one in wine
eye.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Let me tell you is he a construction worker as well
no, but he is a blue collar man,so okay he does that type of
stuff.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
I don't know exactly what he does, but he's working
hard.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
I know a lot of parents would like to know have
the kids met him yet?
Oh, okay.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
We went to the carnival together.
We went to the movies togetherwith the kids.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Was the dynamic good?
Good, was he weirded outbecause you have kids or
anything?
Does he have kids?
He has?
Speaker 2 (05:28):
a daughter, so okay, okay it made it easier oh but
yeah, like there was no pressurefor him to meet them yeah, like
he understood all of thatbecause he has his own kids, so
it makes it easier okay yeah,the kids did meet him.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
How do they feel about him?
Speaker 2 (05:45):
Well, my daughter?
She don't like nobody.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
But my son got along with him pretty easily.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
And his child with you.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
I haven't met her yet .
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
But I will today.
Oh, wow I mean like we talk onFaceTime.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Me and her.
But today will be the firsttime how old is?
Um is his little girl hisdaughter is older than my kids.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
I think she's six okay, so she understands the
dynamic which is why, even moreso.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
We took it slower on that's good and oh, that's real
good.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
And um what else was good, was I gonna ask okay uh,
we, I had this discussion withum several people.
Um, when it comes to like sayyou know you guys are going down
, you know this path of beingtogether.
Um, if he for do you do, canyou foresee him forcing you to,
(06:39):
like have a relationship withhis daughter or vice versa?
And if so, um, would you forcethat upon him or would it?
Would you let that happen?
Speaker 2 (06:48):
naturally um probably let it happen, naturally okay
just because I don't want toforce a relationship with
anybody yeah, definitely adultsanything I think that good
things will take time.
Uh-huh, and even if, like shewas, she's really not
standoffish like she was reallyfrom the beginning, like he had
(07:10):
conversations with her and shewas like she's very smart for
how young she is and she wasjust like well, as long as
you're happy, then, like sheasked him, like are you happy?
And we're like whoa,six-year-old clock okay but she
like.
So when I did talk to her onfacetime and stuff, she was just
like I'm so happy for you guyslike this and that.
So I think that made it easierfor me, like I don't need to
(07:32):
force anything.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
He doesn't need to force anything yeah and my kids
are young, so they'll just growup being around him and so how
are the, let's say, the babydaddy and his baby mama?
Is there any issues with that?
Speaker 2 (07:48):
My baby daddy, no issues.
That's good, that's good Idon't really know how his ex
feels about it, because we alsodidn't tell anybody.
Oh, like you know how we were,my posts were like yeah, super
discreet, you didn't see hisface Like.
I think, for Valentine's Daywas the first time I posted him
and actually tagged him, and soa lot of people found out who he
(08:09):
was.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
But yeah, that's him.
Really, was there friends andfamily?
Did they know prior to theValentine's Day post?
Speaker 2 (08:18):
My close friends and family did know.
So the people who are reallyimportant to me knew.
Obviously, our friends whointroduced us to each other knew
.
Uh, we went out a couple oftimes with each other and our
friends.
So the people who knew, knew,knew okay, ah, the mystery man
is revealed.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
Okay, and um, we're gonna backtrack.
Now, before you met this guy,you told me that we're gonna get
t-spoked.
Uh, you told me that you were.
Um, I'm gonna say, uh, gettingestablished.
Yeah, okay, you're talking tosomeone and he was in the
military navy yeah navy.
(09:00):
Yes, I'm not gonna to.
Yeah, no names.
Why didn't that pan out?
Speaker 2 (09:07):
Okay, well, let's backtrack to when I first met
him which was like a year ago,like last January.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
So this is before you came on the podcast.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Before I came on the podcast yes, Nothing was serious
, but you knew him.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
So my friend, yazzie, like introduced us because her
boyfriend at the time was on thesame ship as him, and so that
was when I was going through myI want to be in a relationship
but also I don't know phase.
So yazzy just was like why notjust email this navy guy and you
can like get to know him?
Speaker 1 (09:42):
she said email him yes, oh because they're on the
ship.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
They're on the ship, they're on deployment when she
like tried to play matchmaker.
So we like emailed and I didn'tlike it, like I didn't fuck
with it at all the wholeemailing thing.
Yeah, okay because what am Igonna?
Be sitting on my phone fuckingrefreshing my email yeah and
then like wasn't feeling it sothat didn't work out.
(10:07):
They came back from deploymentin like february and his first
day back, like he texted me andthen he was like, oh, but I'm
going to go out with my guyfriends.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Understandable, I mean they just.
But you two were Okay.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Excuse my finest pardon.
You want to get to know me, butyou want to go out with the
boys who you were just on a shipfor seven months with.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
My finest pardons.
I like that.
Keep going.
That was a good one.
I'm no cap.
That was a good one.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
But so I was just like, oh okay, go out with the
boys.
Then, even though you just sawthe boys and you guys were out,
I mean, yeah, you guys wereworking, but I know you guys be
going out when you're ondeployment.
So I kind of ghosted him and itwas like that for like three
months where we would talk, Iwould lose interest, wouldn't
talk to him, something wouldcome up, he would text me.
(10:57):
I would text him back Completelyghost him again, and then I
finally, I think it was hisbirthday you gave in and I told
him happy birthday and then he,like, asked me out again, so I
finally went on a date with him.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Which was like eight months, nine months later, and
then we were getting to knoweach other.
He was a cool guy, he was verysweet, he was a gentleman, but
we just didn't click.
Okay, I just think it justdidn't work.
Plus, he was leaving fordeployment again.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
As a Navy person.
They are on the ships like atleast nine months out of the 12
months a year.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Yeah, and like they have like duty and stuff, so
he's on a ship for like 24 hours.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:40):
Talking to them.
Sometimes they got to go dotheir thing.
So he leaves for like a weekand then we're back to emailing
and stuff.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
But he was a really sweet guy.
I just think it was a just ourpersonalities, didn't.
Oh y'all clashed a lot.
Not so much clash, but like thefirst time we hung out he was
wearing shoes in the house and Iwas like oh wait, was he a
white?
Boy.
He was a white boy.
Oh, of course, yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
I reckon.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Yep.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Is he one of them?
Speaker 2 (12:11):
white boys like down yonder type no but like I, just
I was like take your shoes off.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Oh, he's like oh my bad.
And I was like take your shoesoff.
Speaker 2 (12:20):
Oh, he's like.
Oh my bad, and he would like hewould try to accommodate that,
but I just think our differences.
I was getting like little aches.
But it wasn't anything to likestart big fights about or
anything like that.
It just didn't work out.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
And then he was leaving again on deployment.
So I was like what is the pointin even trying to.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
But yeah, he did try oh well, well, kudos, uh, kudos,
kudos, whatever kudos and kudosyeah, kudos to him for even
trying.
He didn't like play on you oranything, right it, just the
thing um the whole you and himsituation just fizzled yeah,
okay and like that's good.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
He came to like my birthday party and stuff and
there was like he didn't reallymesh with my friends either was
he the only white guy there?
Speaker 1 (13:10):
that is why, um, I've gone to a couple, um, uh,
island folk hawaiian birthdayparties and I tell you, uh, it's
a different dynamic because, uh, you know, I'm brown so I could
get along with people, but Icould see how, uh, a non-brown
person would go into a party andeveryone's like who the fuck is
(13:31):
this?
You know?
Speaker 2 (13:33):
but also like didn't say hi to them, like oh, okay
kind of just stayed by himself.
When we were in the club,Everybody was asking him do you
want a drink?
And he was like no, oh, so yourbirthday was at a club.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
It wasn't with, like, let's say, at a picnic type
area or anything.
Club.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
Oh, okay, no.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
I was in a club.
Oh, you and your, is your clubday still popping happening?
Speaker 2 (13:56):
No, this man's got me back inside.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
Really.
I'm in bed by 9 pm.
Do you miss the club days?
Speaker 2 (14:05):
I don't, you don't, I don't.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
That's really good.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
No.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
And is this okay?
Well, we're not going to talkabout your old man's now your
new man.
Is he older than you, or?
Speaker 2 (14:18):
He's yes.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
How old is too old?
10 years, 20 years?
Speaker 2 (14:26):
No, I'm just kidding, oh snap, no, he's the same age
as me.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Okay, that's good.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
His birthday's in July.
I'm in November, so yeah, areyou?
Speaker 1 (14:35):
was it signs?
Are you into that, like thebirthday signs or the?
I mean I know I'm a sagittariussagittarian.
Is that what you're gonna?
Speaker 2 (14:45):
say no, I was gonna say sagittarius oh, and what is?
Speaker 1 (14:48):
he don't know I think he's a cancer you say july,
july leo no it's early july ohcancer oh, he's like me yeah,
we're crabby and then we go onour shell and then we really
don't talk about our feelings alot, yeah, so watch out for that
I can see that yeah, like webottle things in and then.
(15:11):
But the good thing is is, whenwe bottle things in, we, we, our
outlet is, uh, it's productive,it's a productive outlet.
So if he's mad he'll probablylike build a house or something,
or, or you know, I'm saying orbuild a shoe rack or go to the
blue collar man yeah, he'll makesomething.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
He'll make something if I see him tinkering away, I'm
gonna be like, are you okay?
Speaker 1 (15:34):
and he's a local boy, yeah he is a local boy oh, and
you wanted the.
You wanted a local boy.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
I wanted that local white-eyed boy and you got him,
and I got him.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
When you were, let's say, in the talking phase with
your current boo, were youthinking of future and beyond
future?
Is that what kept you down withhim?
Speaker 2 (15:59):
I think so.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
I think we had that conversation.
Oh, you guys conversated aboutthat?
Speaker 2 (16:04):
like well, like what are you looking for?
Like what?
Yeah, like um like, let's saymarriage or more kids, or
getting a home together orapartment, whatever the case,
like we didn't go into depth,like that, but it was like we
don't want the fling, we're notinto that kind of thing.
We both have kids, so figure itout, what do you want?
Speaker 1 (16:25):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
So I know how to proceed with this, like if I
want to even keep you around ornot.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
And then he gave you a game plan.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
Pretty much yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
That's good, good for him.
Yeah, like for thinking thatfar ahead with you.
Yeah, cause I know a lot ofrelationships they have and it's
bad to say they have expirationdates.
You know, and people don't wantto think that, but I mean
honestly they do.
So that's what I'm asking youlike, do you see an expiration
date on this or this guy's along term, unless you know he
(16:54):
does some stupid like make outwith a guy, but then you said it
making out with the guy's.
Okay, yeah, I you do you boo?
Speaker 2 (16:58):
do you, I mean you best not Making out with a guy
is okay.
Yeah, Do you boo?
Do you?
I mean you best not be makingout with nobody but me at this
point?
Speaker 1 (17:05):
Yeah, yeah, do you.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
We don't judge, we listen.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
We listen.
All right.
Here's one of the questions andI'm not going to your other one
the stages in the beginning ofthe relationship.
Was everything, everything likegood in the very beginning,
like, did you found any achesthat you didn't like, but you
like okay, you know what.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
I could live with this I don't think he's given me
any aches yet that's good,that's good, which is surprising
because I tend to I know I?
I like to overanalyze things.
Why is he doing that?
But he hasn't given me anyaches, which is wild.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
Right, okay.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
But no, yeah, I can't think of anything that.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
No red flags, no, nothing.
A lot of green.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
A lot of green.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
That's good.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Like when I told him, like I don't want to do nothing
.
I want to be celibate with thisone.
I want to be celibate with thisone.
I want to see where it goes.
You know, he was completelylike.
That's cool.
Like, like I said, I haven'teven been talking to females for
the past year, so I'm chillingLike red, green flags, green
flags all around.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
Yeah, Is that?
Is it really a green flag?
Like if a guy is not into thewhole physical thing anymore and
it just straight into your.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
Oh he's into it, but he like he could wait.
Yeah, that's good, there's nopressure.
He understood where I wascoming from.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
He's very respectful it is in my soul.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
That's what really made me like even more.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
So wow, like oh, that turned you on a little bit more
yeah, because sometimes they'dbe like, oh no, we'll see about
you know how they're like.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
Yeah, because sometimes they'd be like oh no,
We'll see about it.
You know how they're like,we'll see about that.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
I'd be like blocked.
Speaker 1 (18:46):
Oh, okay.
Well, when that day comes, boy,hey, if you're watching and
listening, you finna get it.
That's a lot of pent up shit.
This is going to come off alittle gross, right, but since
you guys aren't knocking theboots, do you mind if he's like
(19:09):
masturbating?
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Do what you got to do .
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Okay, at least it's not with someone else, it's him
yeah girl Okay.
Okay, okay, okay, you know what?
Because I know.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
I mean, I understand it.
You know me personally.
No, I'm not doing anything.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
But if you gotta do what you gotta do, then yeah, to
relieve the tension withhimself, not with other people,
but with himself.
He's like okay, you know whatshe looking good, I gotta go
home, babe.
Uh, let me call you back infive minutes, because that's all
I need.
Ah, babe, how you doing?
We good, we good.
Oh, I'm good now, thank you.
Thank you, you don't mind thatat all.
(19:45):
Hey, kudos to you.
I know women that is liketotally against the whole
masturbating thing because ofthe you know.
Uh, they think of that ascheating a form of cheating.
But I mean, if you're sendinghim picture, are you sending him
pictures of yourself?
No, all he has is a picture ofyourself.
Okay, so I mean, but it's okaywith him to do what he's doing.
(20:07):
Do what you gotta do Coolbecause the real thing is coming
soon, my friend.
It is coming soon.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
I also like, haven't asked him like.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
Okay, yeah, you shouldn't.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
I just don't think that I need to know.
You don think that I need toknow, you don't.
I don't as a man.
No, I'm gonna lie you jacked up.
No, I'm not gonna ask him likeyou, just do what you gotta do
and thank you for being patientwith me.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
Oh, that's girl.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
I'm happy for you well, let me find out.
I mean, I probably would have adifferent answer for you find
out that he's masturbating.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
Oh god okay I would like to think that it wouldn't
bother me good clear browserdude and I know he's gonna watch
this too I know I'm gonna makethis a clip clear your.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
It's gonna say clear your browser for real.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
I'm hooking him up you know what I'm gonna call
your fbi agent on your phone.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
We about to get oh dude, uh, nah, man, nah, what if
?
What if he was a?
Uh, what if his name wasn'tlike his real name?
What if he was an undercoverperson?
Speaker 2 (21:10):
that would suck it would be my luck oh, wouldn't it
be your luck?
Speaker 1 (21:15):
huh, it would be my luck.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
She always has like bad luck with these guys right,
oh, an undercover hitch orwhatever.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
I could just see anu now on the news.
Hey, this motherfucker told mehe was this, this and this I
promise I did not know he was arussian spy.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
Okay exactly.
Oh god, I knew he was a littlelight skinned, but I didn't know
it was.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
That's funny, that is funny, just to think about it.
That's funny.
That's funny, oh girl.
Okay, here's one of thequestions how do you feel about
the people that talk shit?
Speaker 2 (21:53):
Okay, we got to go into depth with it.
Like, what are they talkingshit about?
Speaker 1 (21:57):
You know what.
She didn't even tell me, butyou know her and she sent you a
lot.
Um, uh, yeah, how do you feel?
Okay?
So, in general, how do you feelabout people just talking shit
about you?
Speaker 2 (22:08):
talk shit get hit talk shit, get hit.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Okay, um, just right off the bat.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
It really depends, like what are you talking shit
about?
Because okay, yeah to me ifyou're like talking about a
situation that's not reallytalking shit uh-huh and I think
if people see it as somebodytalking shit, then maybe you
should change your shittybehavior oh, and she looked at
the camera too.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
Okay, um, has this ever happened to you?
Uh, because my wife was tellingme a story.
She went out clubbing and, um,it's at this place, next to the
Pearl City Mall.
What do you call it?
Pearl Ridge?
It's on the second floor of 7-.
Fowler In the food court no no,no, no, Not in that place, but
(22:54):
it's right near there, though.
But on the bottom floor it'slike 7-Eleven Teddy's, and then
if you go around the backthere's another parking lot.
Oh, I've never been there.
It's where all the locals go to, okay, well, anywho, she went
clubbing with her friends.
Some girl jumped her coworkerbecause she was pretty.
Is that a known thing?
Speaker 2 (23:11):
That's crazy.
You're a real hater for that.
Pretty girls don't fight likethat.
I would just say are you thatinsecure?
Speaker 1 (23:21):
yeah, wild, jumping somebody because they're
prettier than you isembarrassing right, right,
because, uh, she told me,because it happened that night.
She got the call that night andI was like, oh, what happened?
She's like, oh, one of myco-workers got jumped.
I was like, oh god, whathappened?
Was she like on a guy?
She's like no, the girls justcame up just like, hey, you're
that pretty girl on the on theinternet.
I was like, wait, hold up, isthere any more context to that?
(23:44):
She's like no, that's, that'sall I got.
You're that pretty girl oninstagram.
And then she got mopped and Iwas like, oh god, that just
sucks, that's embarrassing,that's embarrassing, that's
crazy getting jumped becauseyou're pretty or embarrassing
girls who jump, because a girlis pretty.
Yeah, why?
Why do you think womenespecially like in Hawaii, why
(24:04):
do they do that?
Speaker 2 (24:05):
You asking the wrong girl because we're making
friends with a pretty girl Hello.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
Yeah Right, I mean there's.
There's a lot of ups to beingfriends with a pretty girl.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
I mean, why not?
But that's wild, I don't know,Well, I must not be that pretty,
because I had never been jumpedin public for that.
Speaker 1 (24:24):
Well, they probably know you.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
Maybe that's why I swing back.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
Oh, I know you would, I know.
Can I ask you what is a TLB?
Speaker 2 (24:36):
Typical local boy.
Speaker 1 (24:38):
Typical local boy, and that's the type of boys that
you like that I love that youlove okay well, I am a tlg
typical local typical local girlum, that acronym.
Is that a thing like if Iwalked around with a mic and
said, hey, are you a tlg?
Would they know what that is?
Or tlb?
Speaker 2 (24:58):
I only found out what a tlg was from my friend who's
from maui, so I don't know ifit's like a maui thing oh, okay,
okay, okay or what.
But like when I've said tlb topeople, they're like I don't
know what is that okay, so Idon't think it's like in a wahoo
thing, I think it's like a mauithing.
Speaker 1 (25:15):
Oh, wow, yeah, when's the last time you went to maui.
The last time you went to Maui.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
The last time I went to Maui was for my
sister-in-law's graduation.
Hey In 2023.
23.
Yeah, Mm.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
Congratulations.
Late, belated, sorry.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
Yeah, she a D1 athlete now.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Shut up For real.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
She just had a softball game yesterday that we
watched.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
So I took my kids to go watch her play.
Like, even though me and thedad are split, like I'll still
go to her things I think I didsee a post of that.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
That's what's up.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
That's awesome yeah, so like his dad was there he
wasn't there because I think hewas at work, but I can still be
around his family and do thatkind of stuff, which is cool
even better, even better.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
Have you, uh, have you checked out the new don
story yet?
The don don no coyote, whateverit's called capolei capolei.
Speaker 2 (26:08):
Yeah, I saw the line.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
No, I didn't oh girl, let me tell you, I went
yesterday, uh, with my wifebecause she wanted to meet with
her friends.
I wasn't all into it because Iknow about the line we went.
I had a pretty cool time.
I tell you it's, it's, it's anasian wally world and target
it's like donkey hot day I'venever been in the one yeah so my
(26:32):
very first time in there, Imean the food selection awesome,
I'm not gonna front.
I hated the people.
Well, you know, I know, I justhated how crowded it was.
Crowded, it was super crowded.
Maybe it's because it wasopening day, but yeah, it'd be
like that.
Yeah, I'm like dog.
Isn't there one like in town orsomewhere around the island?
Speaker 2 (26:55):
So I think it's the.
It used to be Don Quixote.
And then they changed.
They just rebranded oh, it'sthe.
It used to be don quixote, andthen they changed.
Speaker 1 (27:04):
They just rebranded.
Oh really, it's pretty much donquixote.
Okay it's, it's cool andeverything I liked it.
Uh, when I go back, definitelywill go back.
My fucking camera went off, butit's okay.
I got an extra battery, um, butI'm gonna keep on talking
because this is going, so we'regood.
Uh, should I change it?
No see, I don't know, but thatone's still going, that's cool
you want to fix it.
Oh, for real, I'm chilling.
(27:25):
Okay, cool, cool, cool, we'regoing to fix it.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
Intermission, intermission, intermission.
We're still talking.
I got some shit to say.
Can I talk my shit now?
Who said that?
Speaker 1 (27:48):
Was that now?
Who said that was that drake?
I don't even know, all right,so you probably hear me.
Uh, guys, I mean girls that arelike trying, have they tried
hitting your boy up?
Speaker 2 (28:00):
that I know of no.
But what I really like abouthim is like he is a social media
ghost, like I have how manyfollowers?
Like a lot, and he has all oflike 200, like he just be doing
(28:25):
his own thing.
I love that.
I love a guy who nobody knows,so I don't gotta worry about
shit.
So his secret admirers I haveno idea who they are.
He probably doesn't even knowwho they are Good.
Speaker 1 (28:43):
We're just talking about secret admirers, and her
man doesn't have any.
Speaker 2 (28:47):
That I know of.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
That you know of.
But if he did have a secretadmirer, I mean you're taken, or
he wouldn't even know, though,right.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
Yeah, I guess that's the point of a secret admirer,
yeah.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
Do you have any secret admirers?
I don't know.
Has anyone Let me ask you thishas anyone confessed that they?
Speaker 2 (29:06):
Anu, I'm feeling you, oh my gosh, do you want to read
the craziest DM I got?
Speaker 1 (29:11):
I get to read it.
Speaker 2 (29:12):
You get to read it.
It's in the request and Ithought it was crazy.
Speaker 1 (29:16):
And I get to comment on that.
You can Do.
I get to read it out loud.
Yeah, you can Do.
You know this person.
Speaker 2 (29:23):
No, how do you?
But, like just read it.
Speaker 1 (29:28):
You can read it out loud Wow, this is fucking long
no, but read it.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
It's crazy.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
Okay, I'm going to read it.
Okay, I don't know you andnever met you, but I think I
honestly fell in love.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
Hold met you, but I think I honestly fell in love.
Okay, let's just analyze thatpart.
I don't know you, I've nevermet you, but I think I fell in
love.
Speaker 1 (29:51):
I see it as a what is it, love at first sight type
shit in this dying age, that's,that's, that's not gonna happen,
it's nah, make, it make sense.
The math isn't mathing, okayokay, fell in love with you
after seeing that post.
(30:11):
When you called someone andtold them you love them, did you
post something that?
Speaker 2 (30:16):
yeah, so I like called a group of my friends and
like because I feel like peoplein hawai, hawaii don't do this
enough where we tell each otherlike it literally was, like oh,
I'm proud of you, I love you,like.
Speaker 1 (30:27):
I do that too, yeah.
Speaker 2 (30:28):
I don't do that.
My friends don't do that.
So, like I thought it was goingto be a hee, hee, ha, ha thing,
and people are going to be likeAnu, I do appreciate that.
That's what I would havethought If somebody called me
and they're like hey girl, likeI just wanted to tell you I love
you, like, randomly, out of theblue, I'd be like Are you okay?
Oh so like here in Hawaii, wedon't do that, like we don't.
(30:51):
We don't do the Random check incalls.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
Like so Surprising you.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
Yes, really, and coming from me, I don't be
telling nobody I love them.
They know it through my actions, yeah, so I thought that they
were going to trip out, but myfriend was just like they broke
down.
Some of my friends were cryingon the phone and they were like
I had a hard day and so I postedit and shit went viral.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
Really.
Speaker 2 (31:18):
Yes, and everybody in Hawaii were like this needs to
happen more and I'm like I agree, but anyways.
Speaker 1 (31:23):
We'll talk about that .
Yeah, we'll talk about that,and you're proud of them.
That was so touching.
It gave me tears.
That was so awesome.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (31:33):
Period.
You're so beautiful and I betyou're way more beautiful on the
inside and I wish you were mygf.
Look, let me tell you, guy,she's cool and all that which I
don't got layers.
After talking to her, she'sbeen on the pod like what?
Two times, two, three timesalready.
This motherfucker got layers.
All right, let's see.
(31:54):
Uh, here we go.
And girlfriend boy, please youready to stop?
Oh, I honestly will pray to Godfor you.
Speaker 2 (32:01):
Okay, that's okay Cool.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
In fact, I can't do that.
I-d-e-k.
I don't even know, okay, okay,I don't even know.
If you're taken, which I doubt.
You're single, okay, you'reright there.
She is not single there, buddy,but you are the most beautiful
woman in the world.
I feel that way and I promisethat.
Compliments, kudos, compliments.
(32:23):
Okay, I never told any womanthat in my life, but you only.
Wait, hold on the grammar's,not grammar-ing right.
I never told any woman that inmy life, but you only.
I've said to other womenthey're one of the most
beautiful, but not the most.
And you are it.
Look, I am reading thisverbatim.
(32:43):
It's not me, I put it on mydaddy, it is not me.
So, um, this person has 3.4kfollowers.
That shit probably slipped outof his mouth once or three times
.
You know, oh, my gosh, becauseI mean, I've been on this earth
like I don't know a couple oddyears now.
(33:04):
I've said beautiful to you knowseveral women not just one, I'm
the most you're the most he'snever said that before Anybody.
Red flag Red flag.
Speaker 2 (33:16):
Red flag.
Why the fuck you lying, yeah,why you always lying All right,
last sentence.
Speaker 1 (33:26):
Hope you at least made you smile.
Wait, hope you at least madeyou smile.
Thank you for being sobeautiful.
I aloha, you, okay, break thatdown.
Aloha, that's another.
Love Okay, love Hope.
And you, okay, break that down.
Aloha, that's another love.
Oh okay, love hope.
And then he spelled lease, asin like I'm leasing a car, I'm
(33:48):
hey, dude, I'm sorry uh you'reabout to unfollow me.
After this, unfollow you he'sprobably gonna look for me like
hey, you that fucker, and I'mlike no dude I'm not that fucker
.
Speaker 2 (33:58):
He's gonna message me and be like you know they take
it back.
You're not the most beautiful,yeah but you know what?
Speaker 1 (34:02):
we're not saying his name out.
So hey, dude um wear it.
Lace, that bitch up um, from aguy it's real heartfelt, right.
Um, I think he's.
You know he's coming from agood place one.
Um, I think he's trying to playthat game.
Speaker 2 (34:20):
I think what threw me off was the I don't know you
and never met you, but I think Ihonestly fell in love with you.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
Did that post go viral?
Is that how?
Speaker 2 (34:44):
So on Instagram as1 comments and it was shared 3,000
times.
Speaker 1 (34:50):
Oh yeah.
So that's pretty much.
Why Is anyone able to do that?
Fall in love with someone thatposted, let's say, a thing like
that.
Can that happen?
I mean, it happened to him.
But I'm not laughing at you,dude, I'm sorry.
It's just my we're laughingwith you.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
Yeah yeah, we're laughing with you, yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:12):
Is that possible?
Like falling for someone thatyou've never met.
Can that happen?
I mean you, you gotta know atleast something about like oh,
she likes turtles, he likesrainbows, something about him
that you could fall in love with, but never not meeting someone.
That's like me falling in lovewith cindy crawford that I've
never met in my life right orthat's like you met, you falling
(35:34):
in love with jason momoabecause he's a great actor, but
you don't know him I don't thinkthat like that's love, if
that's what it it's aninfatuation, yeah yeah, like it,
it's definitely not love sorry,brother you're
not in love with me yeah, you'renot, but hey, feel free to uh,
(35:56):
feel free to share her posts,get her there like comment
subscribe right, um, if I everget this on live, like if we
ever do this, if I ever get thispodcast live, like, say, in
alamuana, I'm definitely gonnahave you on and get your secret
admirers there.
But hey, I'm that guy.
And then I, I swear to god, I'dlaugh, I laugh my ass off.
(36:18):
If that ever happened.
Oh my gosh, okay.
Next question why did you get86 from the Big D?
And I don't even know what thatmeans 86?
86, yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:34):
You can't enter an establishment.
Speaker 1 (36:36):
Like you're done, oh, and what's the Big D District
District A club?
Yeah, okay.
Punishment like oh, you're done, oh yeah, and what's the big d
district district a club?
Yeah, okay, this is a story.
How did that happen were?
Speaker 2 (36:46):
you just too drunk or you fought someone.
No, I was not.
I actually wasn't drunk at all,like we went to lucky strike
before we went to the club Iknow that place very last minute
decision.
Uh-huh, some of my friend groupwent to district and since we
were at alamo, it's in alamuanadistrict is in alamuana yeah,
okay, um like in that side, notin the mall, but it's connected
(37:08):
to the mall like yes, yes sothey were like oh, just come
down to district, you guys arealready there.
Like I wasn't even dressed to goto the club, like I was wearing
shorts and just a t-shirt.
I wasn't even dressed to go tothe club, I was wearing shorts
and just a t-shirt, lucky striketype stuff.
So we weren't even drinking.
We went to district.
A girl was pressing one of myguy friends, like will you buy
(37:29):
me a drink, take a shot with me,or whatever?
And my friend was like no, I'mnot interested.
And instead of just taking thatand leaving him alone, she got
in his face and was like what doyou mean?
And so, like me being the onlygirl in the group, I was like
sissy said he's good.
Like I wasn't trying to be rude, but, girl, he's good.
Speaker 1 (37:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
And she didn't like that.
So she she called me out tofight.
We were inside of the club andI was like girl get out of here
Like I'm not about to body slamyour ass, yeah, middle of a club
.
So when me and my this wasactually like the first time I
went out with my man- what, whata date right?
(38:10):
No, so that's even more of agreen flag.
Like he saw me crash out and hedidn't, like he didn't just
ghost me, oh okay, yeah okay,yeah, did he try and stop?
Speaker 1 (38:19):
Oh, you know what?
Continue, continue.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
So we went outside because, like, the mood was
killed, Like me and a handful ofmy other friends who saw what
happened, we all went outsidejust to chill because the fuck
was that?
And as we're standing outside,the girl and her friend group
walk out and then it was justout from there.
Speaker 1 (38:41):
We got into a little squabble, squabble up, squabbled
it up um on your post.
Was that when you had like thatlittle thing on your head?
Yes, okay, I saw I saw thatshit.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
She hit my head with her phone like the corner of her
phone, and then I had to walkher like a dog oh, goofy head
ass.
Yeah, I got 86 from district.
Speaker 1 (39:00):
Never again you could return.
Speaker 2 (39:02):
I don't know.
I haven't asked, I haven'ttried to go back Because it was
embarrassing.
You know what I mean.
Like you don't go out trying tostart any problems.
Speaker 1 (39:11):
Yeah, this is true, yeah.
Speaker 2 (39:12):
But I'm also not one to get punked out.
Yeah, you got something elsecoming.
If you're going to try topunked out, yeah you got
something else coming if you'regonna try to punk me out,
because I'm not the one.
Two or three right, we'repulling those layers, the layers
, the layers.
Speaker 1 (39:27):
Why, um, why do you think that that female got so
offended, when you're like yo,sis?
Speaker 2 (39:33):
no, and like the thing was like I wasn't even
trying to be rude, which is whyI think when it did come to the
squabble and when she did hit mein the face with her phone,
like I was just like you knowwhat, like I genuinely was not
trying to start nothing with you, I just wanted to let you know,
because my guy friends are mean, like they'll tell you nicely
the first time, like oh, I'm notinterested.
The second time they're going tobe like look, you're fucking
(39:54):
ugly.
That's why I don't want todrink with you.
Get out of my face, was sheugly?
Speaker 1 (40:06):
oh, yes, girl, I got pictures somewhere.
Speaker 2 (40:06):
But I literally pull those up and I'll let you know,
like I literally.
Well, it's gonna be the video.
We just have to zoom in on herface oh, okay, okay okay, but um
no, yeah, I was just trying toprevent anything from happening,
because my guy friends willvery they're not going to like
hit a girl, but they're going tobe like get the fuck out of my
face and so I just was honestlytrying to prevent that.
(40:27):
So when she got all crazy, Iwas like I'm trying to help you
out.
Speaker 1 (40:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (40:34):
Backstory, though that's not my first interaction
with her, which I think is crazy.
Speaker 1 (40:39):
So were you guys friends or are you guys no?
Speaker 2 (40:41):
So after the squabble I recognized her from one of my
friend's birthday parties.
She was outside of the clubwith her friend group and we
were sitting down on thesidewalk and some random guy
came up to her outside and liketrying to get her to go home
with him oh, maybe.
Speaker 1 (41:02):
Maybe she was like she was boosted right wait hold
up I think I know her hold onyou're fucking lying she was
white she looked white.
Is it um?
Is her thingies fake?
Speaker 2 (41:16):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (41:17):
Does she look like a clown?
Speaker 2 (41:18):
She kind of I mean she acts like a clown.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
Okay, she's Okay, she Does.
She have like tats on her otherside.
Let me, see I don't know, onher left arm Is she like way
more tatted?
Speaker 2 (41:32):
No, I don't think so.
Speaker 1 (41:34):
Is her man?
Japanese slash black.
Speaker 2 (41:40):
Do you know if she has a man?
I don't know if she has a man,because she was trying to get a
drink with my friend.
Speaker 1 (41:44):
Um, okay.
Speaker 2 (41:45):
There was a black man with her.
Speaker 1 (41:48):
Did he have braids?
Speaker 2 (41:49):
No.
Speaker 1 (41:51):
I want to say someone , but I don't know.
Speaker 2 (41:55):
I have a better picture of her face.
You know what?
Speaker 1 (41:58):
We're going to compare pictures.
Pause, guys.
I think I know who it is, but Iwant to make sure it is you
smell me?
Speaker 2 (42:07):
I don't think so.
She don't have tattoos.
Speaker 1 (42:09):
Okay, good, good, good, good good, because See how
sad her face is yeah, that'safter you get your shit rocked.
Yeah, she got no back, she gota little fupa lupa.
Speaker 2 (42:24):
Oh, titties were out, ass were out and they weren't
mine.
Speaker 1 (42:28):
Ew, Ew.
She ain't even that cute y'all.
Speaker 2 (42:33):
But anyways, that's why I got 86.
I was trying to help one of myguy friends out.
It turned into a squabble butit all worked out.
Because that was the first timeI went out with my boyfriend, I
got 86 from the club.
So now there's not even adiscussion Like oh, can I have a
girls night at district,because I can't go.
Speaker 1 (42:52):
That's funny.
I thought it was her.
Oh, they look familiar.
They do right, it's the white,it's the curly hair.
No, this girl looks a lotprettier than her, though okay
like yeah, no, that's not her sofunny thing is is that, um,
this particular person she workswith my wife and my wife works
(43:14):
with a lot of uh it's not theone that got jumped.
Huh no no, uh, but she workswith a lot of um homosexuals.
I don't want to okay, yeah, okay, and they said that she looks
um don't even say it okay, Iwon't, but she looks like don't
even say it yeah, okay, okay,because she gets, she got.
(43:34):
She gets a lot of.
Don't even say it, okay, no,but side note.
She gets a lot of shit work'teven say it, okay, no, but side
note.
She gets a lot of shit workdone, but you know where I'm
going.
Speaker 2 (43:42):
I know where you're going.
Speaker 1 (43:43):
Okay good, At least we're here.
Speaker 2 (43:44):
We're here.
Speaker 1 (43:46):
And I'm like, yeah, and she was like, oh, you like
that, chris?
And I'm like, oh no, I've neverfound her attractive like that,
even when before she got thethings done.
I'm like, nah, man, that's likejust not my type of female you
know I mean I don't knock girls,who do?
Speaker 2 (44:03):
I mean, if you got the money?
Speaker 1 (44:04):
to do it do it girl.
Speaker 2 (44:06):
Like I wish I could Shit.
Speaker 1 (44:09):
How do you get money like that?
Because I understand it's likeexpensive out here, it is
expensive.
Have you ever got anything done?
Speaker 2 (44:14):
No, I haven't Are.
No, I haven't.
Speaker 1 (44:16):
Are you interested?
I'm not trying to promote it oranything I had two kids.
Speaker 2 (44:20):
Yes, Give me my tummy tuck, Tummy tuck Again.
Lift the tits please.
Speaker 1 (44:25):
Lift the tits.
That's what you would get done,probably Just the tummy tuck
and anything with the face likelips or, I guess, chin extract.
Speaker 2 (44:36):
I had that conversation with my boyfriend.
What if I got lip fillers, justbecause I I don't know, I
already have lips.
But yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:45):
Just to have that conversation.
What if?
Speaker 2 (44:47):
I got lip fillers.
What would you do?
Speaker 1 (44:49):
And he's like Fuck on them.
Speaker 2 (44:55):
But no, he, yeah.
No, I haven't thought aboutdoing anything to my face, but
because that just scares me,like I feel like you fuck up
your face yeah, that's permanent.
Speaker 1 (45:06):
Yeah, girl, I would, um, if they ever did have like a
knee growing thing where yourbottom half.
No, I'm not talking about likethe dick in the balls, but I'm
talking about like my kneesabout knee implants shut your
ass.
Is that real?
Speaker 2 (45:18):
I heard about it from white chicks my bad.
Speaker 1 (45:23):
Oh, I dropped the n word.
Speaker 2 (45:24):
Girl, that's a movie you don't remember that scene.
When they're like oh my gosh,you got taller.
And she's like is that is?
Speaker 1 (45:35):
that real though?
No, okay, if it is like I wouldbe like interested in that, but
then my proportions would betotally off, like I'm, and then
my arms are like short as hell.
So what am I supposed to do?
Right, Right.
But I would definitely think ofgetting like being a little
taller.
Speaker 2 (45:53):
My proportions are off.
I have really long legs andthen, like my, arms are no, my
torso is short, oh so, like myupper butt, my, like my hips are
long.
Yeah, that's good for likerunning, though running in
soccer I did hurdles in highschool yeah so I mean, yeah,
she's an athlete, y'all sheathlete, yes, per um, let's go
(46:14):
back to this.
Speaker 1 (46:15):
Uh 86, yeah, we still got time you got 86.
Let's see, here we go.
Why and I boys?
Or why Manala boys?
Why and I and what?
Why and I why?
What's the difference?
Besides, one is on the east andwhy Manala is on the south?
Speaker 2 (46:35):
Why Manala is on the east and why Manala is on the
west, why Manala is on the south, waimanalo is on the east and
Waianae is on the west.
Speaker 1 (46:40):
Waianae is on the west Waianae.
Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Why is that?
Speaker 2 (46:42):
Honestly, like I've only Tiare, I hate you.
I've only encountered with oneWaimanalo boy like dated, and it
just wasn't a good experience.
Speaker 1 (46:55):
Why not?
It just didn't work out, okay,okay, it didn't work out uh-huh,
but um, like he's a good, he'sa good person he's a good person
who did shitty things oh, okayyeah, but the shitty outweighed
(47:18):
the good.
Oh, the pros and cons list.
Okay, yeah.
Speaker 2 (47:23):
But like I can't, like he had a rough life, so I
kind of was like yes, I think itexplains itself, but that's why
I'm going to stay in Waianae,like I went to Waimanalo, just
because everybody was like maybeyou should try an East boy.
Speaker 1 (47:40):
Never again, never boy Never again, never again,
never again.
Huh, one and done, one and oneand done.
Um, I don't want to talk aboutany other boys because, yeah, I
don't want your man thinking, oh, was he trying to hook you up
with a North boy dated?
You know what I'm gonna askhave you dated or like talked to
someone from the north side andfrom what's the south side of
(48:01):
the island?
Um?
Ever okay, sure, why not?
Speaker 2 (48:04):
yeah, I asked, so I did talk to a boy from wailua
wailua is north, north okay um,he was talking to his
ex-girlfriend the whole time, sothat dropped?
Yeah, dropped him yeah, um, Idid talk to a boy from eva.
He was cool, he was.
Speaker 1 (48:23):
He was a cool guy but , it just same thing didn't work
out with all the guys thatyou've talked to um?
Are they still friends with you?
Do they still follow you on thegram?
Speaker 2 (48:32):
and vice versa yes that's good.
Yeah, oh uh, they follow me Ican block them if you want me,
yeah right, you know what I meanuh-huh, but like it not like,
like just getting to know them.
Yeah, they still follow methat's good guys who?
I actually dated.
I think talking and dating arevery different actually.
Speaker 1 (48:53):
No, it's kind of the same thing uh, okay, please,
okay, please, uh, break thatshit down, the talking and
dating, because it isn't dating.
In my, in my eyes, you'reactually going out as a talking
you go out, but it's it's a raregoing out.
You're just more of you knowthe texts or more the calls
(49:13):
that's.
Speaker 2 (49:14):
That's kind of where I think I'm going with it.
Like if you're talking tosomebody, it's more so.
Just like you said, not reallygoing out dating, I feel like
you're out there and you'reactively going out getting to
know, to know people.
Like when I was single, Ialways said dating you can date
multiple people.
But I feel like some peopledon't like that.
(49:34):
Like I can go on a date with aguy on monday and tuesday when I
don't have my kids, I'm gonnago on a date with another guy on
Monday and Tuesday when I don'thave my kids.
I'm going to go on a date withanother guy?
Yeah, because I'm just gettingto know you guys.
I'm not going to be exclusiveto you unless you have that
conversation with me.
And then talking I think ismaybe the early stages of dating
, like you're having interest insomebody and then it turns into
(49:54):
dating and then if you wantthat exclusive, whatever.
Speaker 1 (50:01):
Just mind your mind type stuff, yeah, and then then
comes a relationship I think allof it is just communication of
the steps let me ask you this um, dating, dating multiple people
, right, if you're not like, say, laying it down on the first
date, second date or third date,can you still date other people
?
So, per ejemplo, a guy and agirl they're, they go on a date,
(50:23):
nothing happens at the end nokiss, no, nothing.
They just hung out, have dinner.
They do that two, three moretimes.
Right, they see it nothing,nothing went down, nothing
physical.
He goes out with another person.
Is he now considered a cheaterin the woman's eyes because
nothing went down or becausethey were dating those three
(50:45):
times they went out together?
Does that label him somethingdifferent?
Speaker 2 (50:50):
well, like I said, you have to have that
conversation conversation okaylike.
You can't get mad at somebodyfor acting a certain way if you
don't set those boundaries withthem.
Speaker 1 (51:01):
This is real.
Speaker 2 (51:02):
Or like if you don't just tell them like, hey, I'm
not doing this, I don't want youdoing this, if you do do it,
then I don't see why I woulddate you anymore.
Okay, you know it's all aboutcommunication, because they
can't read your mind.
I can't read your mind, like Ididn't expect my boyfriend to be
loyal to me from the jump, buthe, that's just the kind of guy
(51:23):
he was.
So that made it so much easier.
But I would have had thatconversation with him like if
you're gonna go out doingwhatever you want to do, then
I'm gonna go out do whatever Iwant to do.
But I think that's where welack nowadays is people don't
know how to talk shit out oh andit's that easy, like it
literally is like no, I'm justtrying to fuck.
Like okay, well, if that's whatyou want to do, that's not what
(51:45):
I want to do, so keep it moving,find somebody else but there
are females like that that aredown just like that there's a
lot that are down just like that.
You just have to talk to themwomen are as bad as guys.
Speaker 1 (51:59):
They just keep it on the low down right 100, some
females don't, and that'scompletely fine too.
Speaker 2 (52:05):
We listen and we don't judge over here yes, we do
.
This is your life, you only gotone life, do what you want to
do.
Speaker 1 (52:10):
Oh my gosh, I've been telling people that um like
when, when people ask me hey,should I shoot my shot?
Speaker 2 (52:16):
I'm just like shoot it, just do it, shoot it just
fucking do it, shoot it, justfucking do it.
I mean, if it ends up in adivorce, it's fine.
Speaker 1 (52:22):
You know what it is.
I can't.
That's okay, Because at the endof divorce at least you know
what you want.
Like you have your limitationsand your restrictions on what
you want next.
Speaker 2 (52:37):
Shoot your shot.
I am always an advocate forshoot your shot, because what's
the worst they can do?
Say no, okay.
Well then, I'm going to keep itmoving.
Speaker 1 (52:44):
Keep it moving.
Speaker 2 (52:45):
Shoot your shot.
Speaker 1 (52:46):
Ooh girl, yeah, always, always.
Can I ask you this one thing?
And then, before we dip out,when I messaged you the very
first time right, wait, did Imessage you?
No, no, nohea got you on.
But then, after that time, whenI asked you to come back on
what made it easy for you to sayyes and keep coming back, you
(53:07):
replying to my shit, I mean it'salways a good time it is right,
it is.
I have a good time with you allthe time.
Speaker 2 (53:15):
When we had Nohea's podcast I didn't feel
uncomfortable.
It was cool and like.
We exchanged social media so Icould see all the stuff that
you're posting, like I saw yourfamily, your wife, like all of
that stuff.
So we friends, now we homiesman.
Speaker 1 (53:33):
Hell yeah, that's what's up.
Where can um?
If they're not following youyet, where can these people find
you at?
Speaker 2 (53:40):
On Instagram.
He gon' tag me.
Speaker 1 (53:43):
I am, I actually am yeah.
Speaker 2 (53:45):
And then I'm on TikTok, your.
Speaker 1 (53:47):
TikTok is going Pretty good.
Speaker 2 (53:49):
TikTok be poppin'.
I've seen that shit.
Speaker 1 (53:51):
TikTok be poppin'.
It is your shit's funny.
I am a funny person.
It's funny.
It's a dry sense of humor Typeshit, but people can relate to
it.
Speaker 2 (53:59):
He said dry sense of humor, it is dry.
Speaker 1 (54:02):
It is, I'm not going to lie, it's dry, because you're
just talking and I'm like, ohshit, I could totally relate,
and that's what makes it sofunny.
Speaker 2 (54:09):
I think I don't even try to be funny.
Sometimes I just genuinely I'mbored and I just gotta say some
shit, Right, exactly.
And then other people are like,yeah, this shit's funny, but I
just be myself and people likethat.
Speaker 1 (54:24):
That's good.
Speaker 2 (54:25):
Some people don't, but that's okay.
You can't make everybody happy.
Speaker 1 (54:28):
Right, right Be genuine.
Speaker 2 (54:30):
Be yourself.
Speaker 1 (54:31):
Be yourself, be genuine.
They teach you that All thisfake shit don't like it, don't
like it Mm-mm.
Speaker 2 (54:36):
Don't like it at all.
Be yourself.
Speaker 1 (54:39):
Real eyes, real eyes, real eyes.
Speaker 2 (54:42):
Real Gs move in silence like lasagna.
Speaker 1 (54:47):
I got that.
I actually, because the G issilent, Mm-mm-mm.
With that being said, KSStudios.
Thank you for the lovely home.
Rafi Bayi, thank you for thelovely beats man.
I'm Chris, I'm Anu and we outthis bitch Peace.
Speaker 2 (55:04):
Did you hear me loud and clear?
Speaker 1 (55:06):
Yeah, you did yeah.
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