Swiping Left on Dating Apps and Right on Authenticity with Lex

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What happens when airline industry insights collide with modern dating adventures? In this candid conversation, Chris welcomes Lex from the Sidebar Pod to share her journey through both professional challenges and romantic explorations in Hawaii.

Lex pulls back the curtain on her seven-year career with Hawaiian Airlines, from her beginnings as a guest service agent to her current management role. Her stories range from hilarious to jaw-dropping—including an unforgettable encounter with an irate passenger who called her the C-word during a flight diversion crisis. Even more impressive is her dedication to advancement, once commuting daily between islands for three months straight just to secure a full-time position.

The conversation shifts to the battlefield of modern dating, where Lex describes the frustration of app-based connections that rarely materialize into real meetings. "I'm 30, I don't want a pen pal," she confesses, echoing the sentiments of many singles navigating digital romance in 2025. Her entertaining story about being recognized from TikTok at a sports bar demonstrates that sometimes the most promising connections still happen organically.

Both hosts open up about their therapy journeys, discussing how professional support has improved their communication skills and self-awareness. Their honest dialogue normalizes mental health conversations while highlighting how therapy can enhance relationship capability—whether with romantic partners, roommates, or family members.

Throughout the episode, Lex shares insights on adapting to island life as a Seattle transplant, maintaining her sports loyalties while embracing Hawaiian culture, and finding community in new places. The pair wrap up with a playful exploration of where to meet potential partners in everyday settings, from Target's home goods section to Costco's notorious free sample stations.

Join us for this authentic, humor-filled conversation that weaves together professional growth, dating adventures, and the universal search for connection. Whether you're navigating career challenges, swiping through dating apps, or considering therapy, this episode offers both practical wisdom and the comforting reminder that you're not alone in your journey.

• Working as a manager for Hawaiian Airlines and dealing with difficult passengers including one who used the C-word
• The logistics of commuting between islands for work, including a period when Lex flew daily from Honolulu to Maui
• Dating app experiences and the challenge of moving from online matching to real-life meetings
• How organic meetings can sometimes lead to more meaningful connections than dating apps
• The benefits of therapy and personal growth for improving communication skills
• Living with roommates versus enjoying the freedom of living alone
• Navigating life in Hawaii as a transplant from Seattle
• Potential places to meet people organically in everyday settings like Target and Costco

Follow Lex on Instagram and TikTok, and check out the Sidebar Pod for more entertaining conversations.

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:05):
five, four, three, two, one.
Welcome back to another episodeof the relationship method fuck
me podcast.
Um, damn, um, I'm chris.
Uh, fuck, uh, yeah, hold on.
Uh, I'm ch.
Thank you for joining me todaywhile I fix my shit.

(00:25):
So unprepared, sounprofessional, god damn.
Today I have a lovely guest.
I've been on her ass for a coomin it.
Now you know what Fuck it.
She goes by the name of Lex.

Speaker 2 (00:39):
Yay.

Speaker 1 (00:43):
Fuck, that was like that kind of sucked for like the
last 10 seconds.

Speaker 2 (00:45):
You know, I thought I didn't have my shit together,
but you're making me feel reallygood about myself, thank you.

Speaker 1 (00:51):
That's what I do.
That's what I do.
I make you feel comfortable,lex.
Before we start dipping into,you know these.
Before we start dipping intoshit.
How did I get the yes from you?
Well, after.

Speaker 2 (01:10):
I don't even know.
It's been months.
Yeah, it has been months.
I want to say we're likecreeping up on a year.
Yeah, okay, okay, okay, okay,tlc, yeah.
But you know, I was just I'm inthis very like let's fucking do
it kind of mood.
I got bangs and I'm just readyto conquer the world all it took
was a haircut and she all gravyyeah, 2025, new year, new me.

(01:32):
Let's do things.

Speaker 1 (01:33):
Let's do great things .
Hell yeah, new year, new me.
Same me, though, yeah yeah samebullshit yeah, same bullshit,
but yeah, how did I get the yes?
Uh, is it just me justconstantly dm in?

Speaker 2 (01:44):
yeah, it was a little annoying, but it's fine cool.

Speaker 1 (01:46):
You know what I'll take it um, as long as it's
annoying and not stalker ish no,it wasn't, it was just very
persistent and I applaud you onthat.
Like that was great okay, well,you know what I do appreciate
you for finally saying yes, youknow, uh, happy to be here.
Oh, thank you.
Thank you reminded me of, likeyou know, barney Stinson you,
how I Met your Mother.

Speaker 2 (02:04):
I haven't gotten into it I tried to start it, but I
don't know, I can't get it tostick.

Speaker 1 (02:10):
Oh well, Barney Stinson gets the yes almost all
the time.
Not with me, though.
I've gotten a lot of no's, butyeah, what do you do on the
outside world, Ms Lex?

Speaker 2 (02:27):
do on the outside world?
Uh, miss lex.
Um, I work for horn airlines.
I am a manager at the guestservice um well at the airport?

Speaker 1 (02:31):
yeah.
Guest service agents, oh okay.
Um, any crazy ones have you hadto deal with like crazy people
yet?

Speaker 2 (02:37):
yes, oh, because I don't know how much you travel,
but every time you go to theairport, the common what am I
trying to say?
The common travelers don'treally have common sense.

Speaker 1 (02:54):
Common is not so common.

Speaker 2 (02:55):
No.
So once they start getting tothe airport, they just start
getting dumber and dumber thecloser they get to the airport.
And I'm sorry, but thepassengers just they're crazy,
Like there's something differentevery single day.

Speaker 1 (03:09):
Really, what's the most craziest customer you had?
Oh, I, something that justpopped.
Like you remember this supervivid.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
This one passenger.
This actually happened recently.
This one passenger called methe C word.

Speaker 1 (03:25):
For a letter Yep With a vowel after the C.
Yep Got you Okay.

Speaker 2 (03:30):
N-T.
You know, you know?

Speaker 1 (03:34):
Okay, was it a guy or a girl?

Speaker 2 (03:36):
It was a guy, a father.

Speaker 1 (03:38):
Ew Okay, I know.

Speaker 2 (03:40):
Yeah, so I mean it was.
There was a storm that happened.
We, yeah, so I mean it was.
There was a storm that happened.
We had a lot of delays,diversions, okay, a flight came
in that was supposed to go toMaui, came to Honolulu and they
were waiting for their stroller,but it was irregular operations
and so we didn't have a teamready like to.
You know, we weren't expectingthis plane to come in and the

(04:04):
passenger just was gettingfrustrated and didn't want to
wait for his stroller anymore.
Actually, no, it was a car seat, so they weren't even going to
use it through the terminal.
So I don't understand what hisbig because I was.
I offered let's bring it tobaggage.
You're going to have to go downthere anyways.
It just makes it easier for you.
He just got kept gettingfrustrated and it?
It just makes it easier for you.

(04:25):
Yeah, he just kept gettingfrustrated and it was all my
fault that that plane gotdiverted.

Speaker 1 (04:30):
So then he just popped off and called me the C
word.
He used the C word.
Was he like English, or was heAustralian?

Speaker 2 (04:37):
Oh no, he was very much English, American.

Speaker 1 (04:40):
Oh really, mm-hmm See , because across the pond they
use that word very looselyreally, yeah, they do actually.

Speaker 2 (04:50):
Oh, interesting, now you know.
Yeah, I wouldn't give him thatbenefit, okay, yeah but he was
just.

Speaker 1 (04:56):
He was an american guy that just used that c word
yeah, he was a real dick himself.

Speaker 2 (05:01):
How hard was it for you to maintain your composure
at that time well, that wasactually after I've walked away
from him twice and I came backand was like I'm so sorry, but
you know they're working on it,but I'm happy to have everything
brought to you baggage servicefor you, to make it easier for
you and he didn't want to hearit and um, so, yeah, by the time

(05:21):
I came back to him to give hima complaints card.
I'm like here, here you go,write in your experience.
And then, yeah, it happened.
And I just looked at him and Iwas like you know what?
I hope you have the day thatyou deserve after this.
Oh, you actually said that.
I said that to him.

Speaker 1 (05:36):
Wow, what do you think was going on in his mind
when he heard that comment?
He probably wanted to to likego off even more, but I walked
away.
Could it have been?

Speaker 2 (05:47):
a viral moment, like if, like, say, if there were
other people around.

Speaker 1 (05:48):
Well, there were other people around, but yeah,
it probably could have been oh,I would have been like oh, I
have the girl that just mouthoff on some customer like I know
my shit right now leave them.
I'm a male dude girl.
That's crazy.
Um, all the times that I'vetraveled, I've never had a
problem like I.
I still be dumb, though,because I still don't know how

(06:09):
to use the kiosk sometimes, or Istill don't know which ticket
goes on the bag, which sticker.
You feel me I'd be stupid likethat yeah, no, because it's okay
.

Speaker 2 (06:19):
The bag tags are different, I think, at every
kiosk at every airport.
So that's okay, we'll let thatone go.

Speaker 1 (06:25):
Okay, cool, but, um, I do be pulling out my ID to the
person and I'm like yes, ma'am,yes, sir, that's perfect.

Speaker 2 (06:31):
As long as you have your IDs ready, we love you.

Speaker 1 (06:33):
Oh cool, well, shit, tips, have your ID out.
It's okay to fuck up yourbaggage and yes, sir, yes, ma'am
goes a long way.

Speaker 2 (06:42):
Yes.

Speaker 1 (06:46):
Please, and thank you , and thank you.
A smile a day.
Ah, good day, mate man.
Hell, yeah, that's what's upand um lex, you are one half of
the sidebar pot correct?

Speaker 2 (06:55):
yes, me and my girlfriend leva leva, not
girlfriend partner.

Speaker 1 (06:59):
I don't know um pod co-host uh, friend pod co-host
partner, but she's not friend.
Who's a girl?

Speaker 2 (07:06):
yeah, we're not a thing, but not a thing you're.
You're a unit yeah, we're ateam there, they go there.

Speaker 1 (07:12):
Go that's.
That's politically correct.
Yes, you're a team, okay?
Um, I've listened to your shit.
You guys are.
You're fucking hilarious, right?
And?
Um, thanks, we think we'refunny oh no, y'all, y'all funny
I if I think y'all's funny,other people will think you're
funny.
Um, I love the hijinks thaty'all be going into coming into,
especially when you tell youruh, your swipe stories, your,

(07:33):
your men's stories.
I think it's hilarious becauseI haven't, um, I haven't dabbled
in that in like so long, youknow, because I've been married
for x amount of years now yeahbut hearing other people's
stories of how dating is nowdude, I'm just like fuck.
I'm so lucky that I it's a hardworld out.

Speaker 2 (07:50):
There is it.
It is not for the week at all.

Speaker 1 (07:54):
Give me an example.
So you're the girl, the guy'slooking at you, you guys match.
Uh what?
What happens after you guysmatch?
Is there a text text?
Is there a call?

Speaker 2 (08:04):
So usually, so when you match like, you both
mutually have to like each other.

Speaker 1 (08:08):
Okay, okay, so like.

Speaker 2 (08:09):
I could be swiping and I could be X-ing everybody
out, because normally I do.
But every now and then there'sa diamond in the rough and I'm
like, oh okay, I like that, andthen it'll notify you if they've
already seen your profile andliked you.
So if I like the guy back,it'll immediately match and
it'll tell you.
And then you can start aconversation on the app itself

(08:30):
oh, the app.

Speaker 1 (08:30):
So no, calling your number doesn't get posted out.

Speaker 2 (08:33):
No, no, it's up to you if you want to give out your
number, your like instagram,your whatever communication
preference you want to have oh,wow see, I'm learning these
things cool or you can stay onthe app, but I always get weird
about that.

Speaker 1 (08:46):
I don't know why.
What do you mean?
You stay on the app like you.
You were texting via.

Speaker 2 (08:50):
Yeah, yeah, you can like stay on the app if you want
to.
Oh.

Speaker 1 (08:55):
Interesting.
Have you had had females swipedon you?
No, because so I have apreference Okay.

Speaker 2 (09:01):
I only see guys on that side.
But you can have it where youcan see both or you can only see
girls.
Like they make it very genderneutral friendly these.
Okay.

Speaker 1 (09:08):
Yeah, that's cool I was always, always wondered that
because you know, like you know, how women are aggressive now
and they would try, they wouldtry to turn a straight woman
sideways right instantly so Iwas like it has happened or,
wait, it has been attempted atme Okay, not accomplished.
No.

Speaker 2 (09:29):
Okay, okay.
I have my reasons, okay Okay.

Speaker 1 (09:33):
So you do this and the third, and then how does the
oh, is it falling?
I'm sorry, I don't know.

Speaker 2 (09:40):
Ah, it's okay, Gravity is strong over here no,
it is like fuck god damn.

Speaker 1 (09:45):
Well, I guess we're on jupiter or some shit
mercury's drinking the gatorade.

Speaker 2 (09:50):
I know right, god damn.

Speaker 1 (09:52):
Uh, fuck, I lost my train of thought.
Okay, okay, the meetup.
Now you guys are texting or youguys are texting on the app.
Um, how does the meetup happen?

Speaker 2 (10:04):
so that's my issue is that the guys that I match with
I'll like talk to them, like onthe app or like I'll get their
Instagram or something and we'llcontinue to talk, but then I'm
like who's supposed to be theone to initiate the like let's
grab a drink or let's go out todinner, kind of guy.

Speaker 1 (10:20):
Yeah, that's what I would think too, oh but, it's
you.

Speaker 2 (10:25):
No, like I do.
But then something fallsthrough or they're not very
taken like initiative on thatkind of shit, and so I'm I just
get frustrated.
I'm like I don't, I'm 30, Idon't want a pen pal, I want
like someone to date and likemeet in person, because like
it's easy to meet people online.
Yeah, and then I'm I just don'tknow.
I don't know why I have not hada successful date off of the

(10:47):
apps so 2025 came around.
I'm like my out dating appshave you met someone organically
yet?

Speaker 1 (10:53):
no, oh my gosh, guys, do better.
I swear y'all dm in me.
It's like oh man, who is she?
This in the third?
I'm like yo but I also don't goout in public that much you're
a liar, because I see yourstories and you are out, but
you're not out here in Hawaii,you are out in different states.

Speaker 2 (11:11):
Yeah, I have been traveling a lot right now.

Speaker 1 (11:14):
Yeah, that's good for you girl.

Speaker 2 (11:15):
I know.

Speaker 1 (11:16):
I'm very proud of you for doing that Using my
benefits.
Airline.

Speaker 2 (11:19):
Yes Is it free?

Speaker 1 (11:21):
Yes.

Speaker 2 (11:23):
Can you bring people with you I?
Is it free?
Yes, can you bring people withyou?
I can, but they would have topay a little bit of money.
Full price no, like taxes Is itthe red eye, it's whatever
flight is open.

Speaker 1 (11:33):
Oh so.

Speaker 2 (11:34):
Hawaiian Airlines.
I can fly for free.
It's just based on spaceavailable.

Speaker 1 (11:42):
Ah, not red eye, I mean, if I want to do a red eye,
oh oh, in the military, if welike say, if I want to take my
family somewhere, I would haveto fly red eye.
If I want a free flight, ohyeah, oh gosh, yeah, oh, it's
correct restrictive superrestrictive and and if there's
like room on there, but it wouldgo.
It won't go to your like localairline or whatever.
It will go to a military, Iguess, like an air force airway.

Speaker 2 (12:08):
It would go somewhere military where you're not going
to like the general public yeahI'm not, so it's.

Speaker 1 (12:13):
It's super hard to catch one of them.
Flights on a good day for freeyeah oh my god.

Speaker 2 (12:20):
Yeah, traveling standby is not for the week oh
girl, it is not.
Let me tell you if you don't getin, like you have to have your
backup plans, like if youactually need to be somewhere,
you kind of have to have likeplan A, b, c, d, e.
Like how am I going to getthere?
Am I going to take a differentroute and then drive, especially
because coming from like Hawaiito the mainland?
Once you get there, yourairline options open up a little

(12:41):
bit more and we can travelstandby on other airlines.
We just have to pay, like taxes.
Okay, okay, okay.

Speaker 1 (12:48):
Shoot.
There's a story where Itraveled no problem traveling
here to the mainland.
Coming back from the mainlandhere because I was on military
orders, that shit was a fuckingmess.
Like I tell you, texas kind ofsucks, I've never been, oh my.

Speaker 2 (13:04):
God, now I don't want to go.
Yeah, please don't go.

Speaker 1 (13:06):
That airline fucking.
I mean not airline, but theokay.
So the airport, it was prettycool, it was big as shit.

Speaker 2 (13:12):
I was going to ask was it airline or airport,
Because that does make adifference.

Speaker 1 (13:16):
Oh okay, the airport's cool, but the airline
kind of sucked.
I forgot what airline I was on.
American Could have beenAmerican.

Speaker 2 (13:23):
They're big down there.

Speaker 1 (13:25):
Are they?
Yeah, that's what she said.
Pause, I had to.
No, but okay, so I was supposedto fly back, I guess.
Okay, so I was in Louisiana.
I flew from Louisiana to Texas.
Right, Our flight in Louisianagot delayed, Not our fault.
Flew to.

(13:45):
I had to get a connectingflight.
Flew to hot damn Texas.
That flight that I was supposedto be on in Texas motherfucking
flew away.
So I was like, oh wait, hold up, my shit is on that.

Speaker 2 (13:55):
It left without you.

Speaker 1 (13:57):
Yeah, it left because you know like it was the
airline was, it was delayed.
So I'm saying like two hoursdelayed this flight, just
freaking.
It left 30 minutes before welanded.
So I was like, oh fuck, what amI supposed to do?
So, you know, I called myfucking boss you know my bosses
and everything and they're likeoh, can you try to get another
flight?

Speaker 2 (14:15):
I'm like, motherfucker, this is your job
you know, I'm just letting youknow I'm not physically on that
plane so what?

Speaker 1 (14:21):
we because I was in a group what we all did was like,
yo, man, can we put a?
Can you put us on standby?
When's the next fight?
It's like, oh, there's no, no,flights direct, uh, directed to
hawaii.
You have to like, um, what's itcalled connecting flights?
Right, yeah, I was like, okay,I'm cool with the connecting
flight, but like the layoverfucking sucked, so I wasn't
doing that.
So we waited, like uh, for onewhole night.

(14:43):
We waited there and then, ofcourse, we got a hotel room,
because me it was like me andlike six other people I was like
, dude, I'm just gonna stayright here.
There's a bathroom right there,I'll take a shit, there's food
here.
But then they were closingeverything down.
I'm like dude, are we supposedto get the fuck out, or can we
stay here?
They're like oh, no, you got toleave, because there's these
certain hours where no one'ssupposed to be in there.

Speaker 2 (15:05):
Yeah, I fucking kid.

Speaker 1 (15:05):
Yeah, that killed us.
So we're on the standby thingand then we're supposed to fly.
We're supposed to fly out at,let's say, 10 o'clock, right,
but we're like, fuck this, we'regoing to fucking come here at
five o'clock in the morning andhopefully flight could get all

(15:26):
of our asses on.
Luckily, girl, let me tell you,we kicked off because we're in
military.
We kicked off some like firstclass people, because they were
because they were late.
Oh yeah, they're like super lateoh yeah, if you're late yeah,
so all six of us got to go home,you know, on that same day.
But I was like fuck thisairline suck it's.

Speaker 2 (15:39):
It's a hard world out there, oh my god I wanted to
cry but I couldn't cry.

Speaker 1 (15:42):
I was just like damn.
So I binged eat.
You know I'm saying so.
I was pooping a lot.
Um, yeah, happens, oh no, girl,I was like air fucking drama
yeah, has that ever happened toyou, where you got frustrated
with flights going to any ofthese places that you've been
going to no oh shit, I can'trelate.

Speaker 2 (16:03):
I know right Well you know, Okay, well, let me just
say, it hasn't happened yet.

Speaker 1 (16:08):
I guess, oh, okay.

Speaker 2 (16:09):
Because normally, like I'm pretty flexible with
going my travel plans, yeah.
So if I'm going somewhere andlike it's really tight and I
don't make it, I'm like allright, whatever, I'll just try
tomorrow.

Speaker 1 (16:18):
Oh.
You know, You're that good,yeah, oh shit.
Are you an OG Hawaii, or areyou born here, or did you?

Speaker 2 (16:27):
Actually born and raised in Seattle.

Speaker 1 (16:28):
Hey, I'll stay in there.
Seattle Washington.
Yeah, is that why you're such aSeahawks fan?

Speaker 2 (16:32):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (16:34):
Sorry, it's in my blood.

Speaker 2 (16:35):
Except I'm so upset with the changes that have been
making and all the trades I kindof don't want to talk about it
Okay.
I kind of don't want to talkabout it, it would make me
emotional, oh really.
Because DK was my guy and nowhe's on the Steelers and that's
the ugliest team I've everexisted.
Why Black and white, Black andyellow.

Speaker 1 (16:53):
Those are ugly colors , are they Look?

Speaker 2 (16:55):
at our colors Blue and green, navy, blue, green,
white.

Speaker 1 (17:04):
All blend well, okay, okay, you know I'm not lying,
you're not lying okay.
Um okay, we'll talk aboutfootball.
Just just one.
Should Wilson should haveWilson?
Should he have given it toLynch at that one play, at the
very end?
Oh or were you okay with thepick or the throw?

Speaker 2 (17:21):
no, sorry, I don't know what that was.

Speaker 1 (17:25):
I don't know what was distracting that question.
It's like I don't want toanswer that, so hey there's a
fly here.

Speaker 2 (17:33):
Um, yeah, no, he shouldn't have thrown the ball
on the one yard line okay, Iagree too I actually.
So I remember that super bowl.
I had my gopro underneath thetv facing us, like me and my
family, yeah, and it was youknow one yard line.
We were right there we got thebest running back in the seat,
like in the whole franchise.
Oh, I see it.
Yeah, see, I wasn't joking.

(17:54):
We're not playing, so of coursewe're like, oh easy in, you're
gonna win it two years in a row.
Let's fucking go.
Nope, I have the recording, mydad standing up like yeah, and
then just all the whole roomjust went silent I could see
that and I'm pretty sure I criedew, did you?

Speaker 1 (18:16):
I got emotional.
That's a little right, I I knowit's like oh fuck, oh girl um,
were you a supersonics fan aswell?

Speaker 2 (18:29):
Yes, but that was pretty early in my age.
But I do remember we wouldalways have a TV dinner night
growing up, yeah, and we wouldall have.
We'd go to the store, pick outour TV dinners and then go
downstairs to the family roomand watch the Sonics games.
Oh, yeah, so it was always.
It's like a good memory, Ithink.

Speaker 1 (18:48):
Oh that's good, like growing up yeah.

Speaker 2 (18:50):
It's just like oh, it's TV dinner night because
it's basketball.
I think I was really young so Idon't know if I was really
paying attention to the actualgame.
But I think also just Seattlesports is very embedded in me.

Speaker 1 (19:01):
Yeah, so I'm sports is very embedded in me.

Speaker 2 (19:02):
Yeah, I'm also a seattle mariners fan.

Speaker 1 (19:04):
I was gonna ask you that um, what's your, what's
y'all's hockey team?
Is it the uh kraken?

Speaker 2 (19:09):
yeah, it's the kraken I haven't been to a game yet,
though oh, okay hockey's hardfor me to understand why it's a
bunch of black guys.

Speaker 1 (19:16):
I mean black guys, oh oh, I was gonna say white man
hitting a black puck racist.
But okay, we could go thereit's a bunch of guys hitting a
puck through a net.
God damn, my bad y'all.
Um, I'm not gonna x that out,man.
It's cool, man.

(19:36):
It just shows that I'm humanyeah you know you're cultured,
yeah, of super culture.

Speaker 2 (19:41):
You know, oh, that was bad, I don't care, oh, but
yeah, so you haven't gone to ayou haven't gone to a hockey
game no, not yet I kind of Iwanted to get into it, like a
while ago when I had a roommatethat was into hockey and I was
trying to bond with him.
But I don't know.

Speaker 1 (19:57):
We just never went and watched hockey together
roommate was uh, were you livingin seattle or were you living
here?

Speaker 2 (20:03):
living out here roommate guy right yeah, I lived
with two guys for about fourand a half years gay or straight
?
They were both straight didthey try?

Speaker 1 (20:14):
one of them did.
How did that go?

Speaker 2 (20:17):
but you know, it was like really early when we it was
right, okay, one of them triedbefore we moved in okay, and
then we moved in together and itwas like all brothers oh really
I was their brother too.
Yeah, we were for the boys oh,oh, okay, okay, okay, okay.

Speaker 1 (20:33):
So he tried before y'all moved in.

Speaker 2 (20:35):
So there was a friendship there yes and then
y'all okay, yeah, huh,interesting and they knew each
other, growing up like they grewup in um Temecula, california
oh wow together and then theyboth moved out here separately
and then they found each other,I think at like a bar uh-huh and
regrouped, and then we, justall three of us, just decided to

(20:56):
live together how did you knowthem?

Speaker 1 (20:58):
were you guys go to school together, or was it?

Speaker 2 (21:01):
one of them.
I met them through friends also.
Oh really, it was like hey letmove in.

Speaker 1 (21:05):
So are you living alone now?

Speaker 2 (21:06):
Yes, I've been living alone for the last like three
years now.
How do you like it?
I love it.
Oh, my gosh right oh my God,after living with two boys.

Speaker 1 (21:14):
Were they dirty.

Speaker 2 (21:16):
Yes and no.
Like they were dirty.
And in our last house, the onethat we moved out and like kind
of all separated they were, theyhad the upstairs.
The upstairs was two bedroomsand a bathroom, and then the
downstairs was another bedroom,the like more public bathroom,
and then the kitchen living area.
So I had the.
Yeah, I had the downstairs.

(21:37):
I had to fight for it but I waslike yo, it just makes the most
sense.
Yeah, and I shared a bathroomwith one of the guys at one of
our other houses and I was likeI'm not doing that again.
I had to clean most of the time, so it was a lot see with that.

Speaker 1 (21:51):
Okay, I'm gonna back up our guys real quick.
By ourselves we're clean, right, but collectively we are dirty
as shit yeah yeah, collectively,but like by ourselves, like,
let's say, I'm living by myselfor like I yeah, we're like I'm
clean to a certain extent, youknow.
Oh, it's the lip.

Speaker 2 (22:10):
I just I want to, just because, like you guys have
different levels of cleanliness.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, so likeI get that, I can agree with
that, but yeah, I guess.

Speaker 1 (22:17):
Like deep dive clean, yeah.
So when a girl comes into thepicture, her level of clean is
going to be a lot higher.
It goes boosted yeah, even ifyou think you're the cleanest
man, you're not.
Oh, yeah, you know what?
I agree that because my wifesays, oh, my clean is different
from your clean.
I'm like yeah, you right, likeyeah, but being in a like
military, my clean is likefucking like spot on oh yeah,

(22:40):
I've been pretty good lately.
That does make a difference yeah, it's, it's like nope, you
better Windex that motherfucker,you better mop that shit again.
You know, I see a little spot.

Speaker 2 (22:50):
As long as you yourself, your body, is clean,
then that's always going to be agood thing.
What made your roommates dirty?
I think just like the littlethings, like they would leave
dishes in the sink for days andyou know it's just frustrating
because that's a communal space.

Speaker 1 (23:06):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (23:06):
And so I'm like, hey, like your dishes have been in
here, can you at least attemptto clean them or rinse them out?

Speaker 1 (23:13):
So you communicated that.
Yes, all the time I don't girl,so you're a good communicator,
of course.

Speaker 2 (23:18):
Wow, I like to think so actually I can't stand on
that.
I like to think that I'm a goodcommunicator I've actually
grown into it, I think I used tobe a really terrible
communicator and then I thinkyou know, just after therapy and
just self-work, I think I'mpretty good at it, girl, you
take therapy are you?

Speaker 1 (23:35):
absolutely um, uh, I started going.
Uh, my second session was likelast week oh, you're like fresh,
fresh.
Oh, I'm super fresh, Do youlike it?
You know what?
The guy, that Russ, he's prettycool, Like I like opening up to
him.
I went because one in themilitary they said I had like

(23:59):
anger issues or whatever and Ihave some like PTSD sort of
drama situation going on.
That's valid, so they're likehey uh, we want you to go to
therapy and I was like man fuckthat I'm not going.
You know like as a guy you'relike who the?

Speaker 2 (24:13):
fuck needs I don't.
I don't need to talk to nobody.

Speaker 1 (24:15):
I got my feeling yeah right exactly, I got my boy jim
, I got my my other boy, hoop,and you know what I'm saying
like I'm good, I should be good,no, but I went and he said that
I'm a, I'm a good communicatorbut there's, like you know,
these three um tiers ofcommunicating and I'm I guess
I'm like the middle one I forgotwhat the name of it was.

(24:37):
It's not passive, it's notaggressive, it's something else
and yeah so, but therapy is,it's.
It's pretty cool.
Yeah, I guess.

Speaker 2 (24:46):
Yeah, I've been doing therapy for like a long time.
I used to have a therapist inseattle.
Why did you start going?
Well, back then I went becauseI was in like a long-term
relationship and we were kind oflike on the rocks.
He moved to portland and I wasstill in seattle, so it was
really hard for me to kind ofgauge all of that you know,
together and I was going justhaving like and I was like I
don't want to take medication.

Speaker 1 (25:06):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (25:07):
So I was like what's my other alternative?
And it was therapy and I waslike, might as well try it out.
I connected with my therapistthere and he actually was the
one who encouraged me to moveout to Hawaii when I was like
thinking about it.

Speaker 1 (25:28):
And he was like just'm like yo dip the fuck out.

Speaker 2 (25:30):
Like it's always going to be like explore the
world.
There's more to the rock thanyou know the rock so you can
always come back.
Like there's always the backpedal, like I know a lot of
people see that as like a youknow you don't want to ever go
backwards in life, but there'salways going to be that safety
net oh, yeah, definitely yeah.

Speaker 1 (25:48):
Like when I moved out of my, uh, my dad's spot, I
went to I was living in dago forschool for a little bit moved
back, moved to las vegas, thatshit didn't work out moved back,
but I mean I was only at homefor like a week and some change
yeah, yeah, it's not like along-term thing.

Speaker 2 (26:04):
It's like I just need a break to figure my shit out.
I'll get back out there Likejust throw me back in the game.

Speaker 1 (26:08):
Oh, definitely.
What made you leave?
What made you pick Hawaii?

Speaker 2 (26:13):
Just because I have family out here, like extended
family out here, so I would comeout here all the time.
My ex-boyfriend from highschool, his family, would live
out here.
So we've come out together soit's a very like comfortable,
like very familiar environmentand island that I was just like.
You know, I know it's expensiveas shit, but I'm gonna be
working and I have a job withthe airline so I can travel back

(26:35):
home when I want to yeah so itmakes all those factors make it
so much easier to just like liveaway from them oh, are you
feeling to stay here?
I yeah, I see it likeindefinitely.
Everyone's like oh, are yougonna ever move back to seattle?
I was like I don't think soI've been out here for seven
years now, so I think I'm goingpretty strong.
Wow, congratulations, girl fromyou for deciding.

Speaker 1 (26:59):
Oh yeah, I might stay out here for indefinitely.
Big word I know, I know rightholy dictionary where the um
word of the day indefinitely,indefinitely, uh, oh yeah, we
got lots of time.
Um, uh, I moved out here in2018 and coming from washington
because I was stationed thereand, um girl, uh, did you have a

(27:22):
hard time, I guess,understanding the folk, the?

Speaker 2 (27:28):
pigeon yeah.

Speaker 1 (27:30):
Oh, no, because you came out here several times.

Speaker 2 (27:32):
Yeah, because I have uncles and cousins and that's
all that.
They know how to talk, and soit just I understood it.
It came naturally.
I know the slang and stuff.

Speaker 1 (27:42):
For the most part Do you start speaking it Like do
you catch yourself speaking thekind that sounds super white?

Speaker 2 (27:51):
Yeah, see.
No, that's why I don't.

Speaker 1 (27:53):
Oh, okay, because I will sound like that.

Speaker 2 (27:54):
Oh, really yeah.

Speaker 1 (27:56):
Ooh, your girl Leva.
Is she local or is she fromsomewhere else?

Speaker 2 (27:59):
too.
Yeah, she's from Molokai.

Speaker 1 (28:02):
Where's that?
Is that north, no south.
It's by Maui.
Oh, okay, it's a differentisland.

Speaker 2 (28:08):
It's a smaller island .

Speaker 1 (28:10):
Okay, cool, cool, cool cool, cool, cool, cool cool
.

Speaker 2 (28:11):
Yeah, cool Um.

Speaker 1 (28:14):
I I'm a hermit.
I stay at home a lot, so likewhen?

Speaker 2 (28:18):
I know all of the islands no big island.

Speaker 1 (28:23):
Is Maui a part of the big island?

Speaker 2 (28:24):
No, Maui is its own island.

Speaker 1 (28:25):
Okay, maui, big island, maui, this one Oahu,
that's three.

Speaker 2 (28:35):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (28:36):
There's an.

Speaker 2 (28:37):
I think there's eight total.

Speaker 1 (28:38):
Man Hell no.

Speaker 2 (28:43):
I don't.
What are they, girl?
What are they?

Speaker 1 (28:44):
well, I know that okay, I don't know all of them,
but okay, see, you on my ass,girl.

Speaker 2 (28:48):
It's like the, the tiny, tiny ones.
I don't know okay and I don'twant to try and pronounce them,
but there's oahu, the big island, which is like hawaii island,
maui, kawai, oklokei and Lanai,okay, and then I don't know what
the eighth one is.

Speaker 1 (29:02):
I've heard of.

Speaker 2 (29:03):
Lanai, it's a really small one.
It's very inclusive.
You have to kind of like beinvited to get out there.

Speaker 1 (29:08):
Oh, really, yeah.
Isn't there an island like fullof rats, like that's just its
own thing?
Or am I tripping?
I don't know, okay, so when Iwas, you'll have to ask a true
local okay, when I was in maui.
Um, I would see, you know, likedown yonder I would see, uh, I
would see an island.
I was like dog, does anyonelive on an island?
And one of the locals was like,oh, no, no one ever goes to

(29:30):
that island because it's likeit's full of rats, that's like
that's the right island.
And I was like dog, is that forreal?

Speaker 2 (29:36):
and they're like, yeah, so I don't know if they're
fucking with me with that butthat was in maui, because
there's also rabbit island outhere, like on the east side.

Speaker 1 (29:43):
Rabbit island yeah, it looks like a rabbit girl, I
thought it was like full ofrabbits it might be, I don't
know.
I don't go out there.
Well, you should.

Speaker 2 (29:52):
I was literally thinking rabbits man I wish I
had more information on that.
I'll dig diverant or I'll digdeeper into that one next time.
Oh, yeah, yeah, please I'll domy research.

Speaker 1 (30:01):
Yeah, dig deeper, dig deep in them, cheeks, please,
thank you.
Thank you, I got you appreciate, appreciate?
Uh, all right, let's go.
Let's go to these questionsthat, uh, you've been um, you've
been getting, and now also Ifiltered them so from okay to uh
to cool, all right, cool, cool,cool, cool, cool.
Um, being complacent in oneplace, do you?

(30:21):
Uh, have you ever had, like,say, the urge just to move?
Or like say, work wise, becauseyou've been working for the
airlines for a cool minute?

Speaker 2 (30:31):
yeah, for seven years .
So when I moved out, here'swhen I started the job with
hawaiian airlines.
Okay, so what made you stick?
Um?
Just the opportunities, ohreally because, like, once you
get your foot into the door withthe airline, you have so many
like internal opportunities,like different departments you
could go into.
Yeah, so I guess I could talkabout that.
Yeah, I started off as a guestservice agent at the Honolulu

(30:52):
airport.

Speaker 1 (30:53):
That's the person in the front with the dress.

Speaker 2 (30:57):
We don't wear dresses .
Oh okay, the flight attendantswear dresses.
I the dress.
We don't wear dresses.
Oh okay, the flight attendantswear dresses.
I mean, I guess some of ouragents can wear skirts.
I never did, I was just pantsbecause it was more comfortable
okay, okay, okay we move a lotso it's easier to just be in
pants.
Oh, pants and sneakers got it?
Yeah, okay, always, um, but no.
So I started off as the guestservice agent, so their ticket
agents, counter agents, thebaggage agents, and then the

(31:18):
boarding agents, so the onesthat let you on the plane, but
they're not the flightattendants.
Flight attendants differentokay, yeah, that's their own
department.
And then there's ramp lineservice.
There's a lot of differentdepartments.
That makes the operations go.
But I say with guest service, Iactually worked in maui for a
few months just to get full-timeseniority and I lived commuted

(31:40):
to Maui every day for threemonths.

Speaker 1 (31:43):
Wait, hold up, so you would.
Okay, I'm going to break thisdown.
Woke up for work, got ready,went to the airport, flew to
Maui, started your shift Yep.
Finished your shift, hopped ona plane back here.
Repeat.

Speaker 2 (32:05):
Mm-hmm, Wow you are persevered.

Speaker 1 (32:05):
I know I was really motivated really okay.

Speaker 2 (32:06):
I really wanted full-time and it was really hard
to just go from part-time tofull-time in honolulu really at
that time it was just everyonewas competing against it.
It's a lot easier for everyoneto get it now, but it's fine.
I'm a little bitter about itbecause of the shit that I had
to do to get my status.
Yeah, but yeah, so I did that.
And then I was actually workingat the airport as a guest

(32:27):
service agent here during covidand that was crazy.
We were sending planes out withlike two or three people I
remember that yeah uh for acovid uh mission, I flew out to
maui.

Speaker 1 (32:41):
We stayed in lahaina and um, that's in the same place
, right?
I didn't want you to be likethis motherfucker, don't know
what he's I would have.
I would have stopped you okay,cool thank you, I do appreciate
you welcome, thank you miss lexum.
So I flew out there and dude usarmy people.
We were the only ones on thatplane.

Speaker 2 (33:02):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (33:02):
Like during that COVID thing, and I was like God
damn this shit Uh it was a crazytime to travel it was pretty
cool, like I had my own fuckingrow and everything, but again,
it's only like an hour away,yeah.

Speaker 2 (33:11):
Yeah, 20 minutes.

Speaker 1 (33:12):
Oh, is it 20 minutes?

Speaker 2 (33:14):
It's like a 20 minute flight.
Yeah, basically go up, have tochug your juice and then go back
down.

Speaker 1 (33:18):
You're there already, yeah why does this feel so much
longer?

Speaker 2 (33:22):
because of the whole process of going through
security and waiting at yourgate, boarding the flight and
then taxiing and then takeoffslike you're really only in the
air for about like 20 taxing,huh, yeah, taxing you don't
ubering, you don't uber or wasit?
Was it lifting?
Yeah you don't do the lifting,no, so you taxi yeah, that's
what they call it when theaircraft is on the ground.

Speaker 1 (33:44):
Oh, oh oh, my bad.
I thought you was talking about, like going to your spot, so
you get an uber no, that's likethe terminology for like okay.
Yeah, I'm real stupid in thisepisode today.

Speaker 2 (33:56):
I'm learning you can't say like oh, I drove to
the tarmac.
You're taxiing on the aircraftto the tarmac, the runway, and
then you take off oh, the moreyou know I know insider thoughts
I know.

Speaker 1 (34:07):
Thank you, thank you thank you you're very welcome oh
my god, you're so appreciative.
Um, okay, so after you, you didthat maui thing.

Speaker 2 (34:14):
Yes, and then uh worked here at guest service for
covid and then I moved over tothe hangar to do purchasing.
So I bought aircraft parts forour planes and our mechanics to
have stored in like the supplyyeah so I did that for a few
years.
Couldn't really move up intothat department, for I don't

(34:34):
know there's drama and then Icame back to the guest service
side, but now as a manager, sokind of back to my roots, yeah
it was nice.
It was an easy transition backbecause I already knew the
operation.
So it was just now.
I'm just gaining thatmanagement experience, which is
kind of like always been a goalof mine is to be a leader okay,
okay, so um.

(34:56):
I was like, oh, there's a thirdguest.

Speaker 1 (34:58):
I know we just popped in no he, so uh, my bad gavin.
So that's, that's gavin, ourphotographer uh, okay, okay, he
had a gig going on on the otherside.
Oh okay, if you ever need likeposes, pictures or whatever
professionally done, he's yourguy good to know.
Good to know yeah, I know right, instead of, you know, putting
sheets over your heads andtaking pictures at the bar hey,
but that also was a professionalphotographer, that shit was hot

(35:20):
, though I ain't going to lie,that shit was awesome I was like
, ooh, these motherfuckers arehot.

Speaker 2 (35:23):
I was like we should just have fun and we really
wanted to do the ghost trend andI was like if we're going to do
it, we're going to do it.
Yeah, go ham.
Full blast, Like we um friendshay and I was like hey this is
a weird request, but would yoube able to do this trend with us

(35:43):
?
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And she was like yeah, where doyou want it?
We're like I'm at this mexicanbar in kalihi kalihi yeah, okay,
but like we go there for tacotuesdays.
And we asked them.
We were like hey, would youguys mind if we had a shoot,
like it would be kind of earlierin the day before like the big
like nighttime rush, yeah.
And they were like, yeah,that's fine.
Okay, they're like yeah, aslong as you're not like kicking
anyone out of the way.
And we're like no, we wouldnever do that.

(36:05):
We won't be in anyone's way.
If it's too busy, we won't do ituh-huh but we got there and it
was empty and okay, just, wejust had fun and I was like
we're gonna do two, we're gonnaor like kind of the in the same
shoot.
So we did like just regularphotos for like our podcast, and
then we did the ghost trend.

Speaker 1 (36:20):
Oh, it was fun.
I enjoyed y'all's podcast.
We were very nervous why?

Speaker 2 (36:24):
Well, leva's anxiety was like through the roof.
She almost didn't get out ofher car.
I was like bitch, we need to goI was like we only have her for
an hour.

Speaker 1 (36:31):
We need to get our shit going.
Yeah, so you use.
I have anxiety.

Speaker 2 (36:46):
I don't know.
I always say I have anxiety,and then I say I feel anxious.
Oh Huh, okay, okay, okay, Ilike that one too, you know,
because anxious is the feeling.

Speaker 1 (36:56):
Oh shit, english.
All right, here we go.
Okay, anxious is the feeling,feeling and anxiety is the
action.
Sure, no man.
No, what was he gonna say?
Knowledge?
I actually don't know what Iwas gonna say.
I was trying to think of itwhile you were talking.

Speaker 2 (37:11):
I was like you know what I think?
Yeah, yeah, yeah, we'll do,we'll go with that an improv
conversation, an improvisationokay now you just make enough
work.
I actually been saying realwords there just might be a
little bigger, but well, it madesense.

Speaker 1 (37:27):
So you know, okay, complacent, complacent,
complacent, okay.
Okay, you stayed at the job.
Yeah, you be complacent in arelationship too.
I think yeah so you're, you'relong one, right?
Yeah, Pause, when you were inthis, were you guys like
comfortable with each other, ordid it come to a point where it

(37:48):
was like, damn, this is like thesame thing over.
We need a little spice Notspice, but things need to change
.

Speaker 2 (37:52):
Yeah, I think so, Like we were together.
We started being together inhigh school, like sophomore year
in high school.

Speaker 1 (38:08):
So you were like high school sweethearts, oh yeah, I
know it.

Speaker 2 (38:09):
Okay.
No, I have no hard feelings forhim.
I think you know at the timethat we ended it.
Yeah, because we were togetherfor I think, like six and a half
, almost seven years marriagenever popped up uh, it was
thrown around but weren't likeserious about it.

Speaker 1 (38:21):
Girl, did you get a promise ring?
No, thank God, promise braceletno.

Speaker 2 (38:25):
Good job.
He did give me a necklace thathad his, like the nickname that
I called him Uh-huh, which.

Speaker 1 (38:33):
You forgot.

Speaker 2 (38:33):
I think it was Bug.

Speaker 1 (38:35):
Oh, okay.

Speaker 2 (38:35):
Because like love Bug .
But I didn't like the love Bug,uh-huh, because I love.
Bug but I didn't like the loveBug.
I was like that's kind ofcringy, so I would just call him
Bug.
Okay, okay okay, like, insteadof Babe Baby, I was just like
Bug.
I thought it was cute.

Speaker 1 (38:45):
No, I like that because me and my wife, we have
our own nicknames and shit.
I hate Babe, I hate Muffin, Ihate Sweetheart and all shit.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, so bug.
I was like oh, um, I arrangedthe word rearranged babe and I
call her ebops well, that's cute, yeah, and creative.
It's like no one else has that,yeah, so yeah, I do, I do that

(39:07):
with her and she was like oh,why don't you call me babe, or
whatever.
I was like that's just fuckingugly like it's too common.

Speaker 2 (39:12):
Yeah, I told her straight up let's be creative.
Yeah, I was like oh, love,sweet, mahal.

Speaker 1 (39:16):
I'm like come on, man .

Speaker 2 (39:18):
And then, like she's in the hall yeah, she's hispanic
, so uhhal.
I'm like, ooh, Come on man.

Speaker 1 (39:20):
And then like she says Not the mahal.
Yeah, she's Hispanic.
So, mi amor, I'm like.
You know.
It's cool if, like, we'retrying to like fuck around and
be like what's it called theAddams Family?
Oh mon chéri, yeah.
I think it's cool, Like in thatmood yeah, when your mexican
accent comes out, I'm like nahman, I'm cool I'm straight.

Speaker 2 (39:39):
I am straight, never mind, yeah also complacent.

Speaker 1 (39:43):
Okay, so tangents right.

Speaker 2 (39:45):
Yeah, I know um, and that's why our my podcast with
leva the sidebar.
That's why it's called thesidebar, because we will be
talking and then we just go allthe way off the rant, girl I
love that and that's why ittakes us so long.

Speaker 1 (39:57):
Sometimes, you, I'll get back to the point, yeah, the
.

Speaker 2 (39:59):
The amount of editing we have, because we'll
literally just sit there and belike what the fuck were we just
talking about?
Oh shit and then half the timewe don't even know how to get
back to that.
We'll try and backtrack.
Yeah, Doesn't always work.

Speaker 1 (40:10):
Doesn't always work when it comes to editing of
y'all.
Y'all, um, do y'all really editor y'all just really run it
through, and then you just chopup the shit that really doesn't
make sense and then you candelete it, put in a different
section like what, how do y'alledit?

Speaker 2 (40:30):
well, so leva edits, okay.
Yeah, so we record.
So that's why our setup'sghetto it's on my couch, but we
so we have professionalmicrophones and then it's like
usb corded up to our iphones andthat's what's recording our
videos no, that's cool, I'm notknocking it.

Speaker 1 (40:47):
I am definitely not knocking it.
Don't, nope, nope, don't knowit works.

Speaker 2 (40:51):
The quality is not terrible, no it's not dude, no
you know, and, like I said, costsavings, like we were trying.
This is just a fun hobby yeah,so we're like we're not going to
dive into it, get all thisprofessional gear yet, we'll see
where it goes.
Yeah, um, and so we record it.
And then I like airdrop myvideo to Liva and then she tries
to match it all up on hercomputer and she edits it.

(41:12):
So I don't really know muchabout her editing.
I know that it does stress herout and she will usually like
freak out about it or like ittakes her a while to do it, just
because I think she's justconstantly listening, chopping,
listening, chopping, kind ofthing yeah

Speaker 1 (41:25):
it takes a while, but she does a really good job on
doing it it is yeah, I mean it's, I would have, uh like watching
your guys's stuff.
It's like, oh damn, did theyhire someone?

Speaker 2 (41:35):
no you know, no, she's really good and she, yeah,
she, you know, um, she didn'trequest, but she offered to be
the one to edit it and I waslike, yeah, that's fine.
I was like I'll do the socialmedia then.
So all the reels and stuff thatI make are off of her edit.
So she edits the whole video,uploads it to youtube and
spotify and wherever else allyour podcasting sites and shit

(41:58):
yes, follow um, and then I takethat video and I just edit it
into whatever sections I want tomake for our reels for
instagram and tiktok oh, they docome out good thank you I give
you a freaking round of applauseand two snaps girl, thank you

Speaker 1 (42:15):
yes, yes, um, I'll speak into, uh, one of the one
of these podcasters here on theisland and he said that it's
freaking time-consuming, likeclicking, clicking, clicking,
clicking, yeah, and he hates it.
So he likes the, I guess, theraw footage of you know, just to
you know, like, instead ofgoing back and forth, because

(42:36):
that's what I try to do and Iwas like, fuck this, this is too
much work, so I'm just doing itraw now like yeah yeah, so I
don't know that's just could bea.
It is time consuming yeah, tolessen her anxiety or be her
being more anxious.
Um, she could just leave it rawand just make it look nice yeah
oh, don't be complacent, uh, uh.

(42:58):
Next one is uh, is it true thata man having a masculine woman
woman is a result of theenvironment he created?
Oh, this is an intelligent oneoh yeah, that's a thinker yes,
girl, think away man, I don't,so a masculine.

Speaker 2 (43:15):
so so a man having a masculine woman, what it turns
him feminine, I guess, or likehe's just more feminine it's a
result of the environment thathe created.

Speaker 1 (43:23):
So he let the woman be more masculine than him and
he can't get mad if he's tryingto be masculine and the woman's
like yo man, shit your ass down,I'm the man now type of
situation.

Speaker 2 (43:36):
Oh, interesting.
Okay, I don't really know thatit would fall necessarily all on
the man.
I mean it could because you,you put yourself in that
situation like you knew who shewas yeah when you started dating
and now you guys are together.
It just so happens that shejust has a strong personality.
That's fine.
Girls do that all the time.
Bad bitches unite we're gonnatalk about bad bitches too, um

(44:00):
all right, so, but I don't thinkthat, like it shouldn't
necessarily reflect on the manit'll, I think it'll only blame
he.
Should blame himself if he's,if he's trying to change the
woman because that's not who sheis.
Like you can't demasculinizeyour woman because then you're
asking her to change.
Like if you really love her,are you really gonna ask her to
change can that flip around towhere, yeah, she wants him to

(44:24):
change?
yeah, like she knew what she wasgetting into exactly, and I get
it like people will change overtime, or like, yeah, in our, in
my long-term relationship, likewe just got so comfortable and
like used to each other likethere was no growth zone is what
I, like would always refer toit as like we were stuck in our
bubble and we were in ourcomfort zone the entire time,
yeah so, and like we didn't, youknow, ask each other to change.

(44:45):
I think we just got like reallyused to each other always being
around has he ever fartedaround you?
all the time oh, okay, um and I,and you know I got comfortable.
Yeah, oh, you know, lay in bed,you fart, you like?
Lift the covers over well,that's in bed.

Speaker 1 (44:59):
I'm talking about, like, say, you're in the kitchen
and making up something andhe's just walking and he's just
boop.

Speaker 2 (45:06):
Oh yeah, why are you going to hold it in, girl, if
you've been with someone forlike seven years?
Okay, it's weird if you don'tfart in front of them.

Speaker 1 (45:13):
Okay, see, I could understand the accident, but I
still have to go somewhere elsewith my wife.
I still got to go somewhereelse and fart.

Speaker 2 (45:20):
Is that a respect thing?
Like, are you doing that out ofrespect?

Speaker 1 (45:23):
Or are you just?

Speaker 2 (45:23):
doing that because you feel like self-conscious and
like uncomfortable doing it.

Speaker 1 (45:27):
I think it's a respect To me.
It's a respect thing Because Icould fart with my like, my
sisters, and you know mybrothers.

Speaker 2 (45:32):
Yeah, yeah, your family, because you're
comfortable, but I guess itcould be respecting you know.

Speaker 1 (45:38):
But with the homies I'd be farting all kinds, but if
it's a female homie, then I'dbe walking out too.
Though.

Speaker 2 (45:43):
Okay, so more respect .
That's classy.
Yeah, that's respectful.

Speaker 1 (45:46):
Yeah, because I mean I don't, I mean I'll be dropping
the SBDs, don't get me wrong.
But I'd be like ooh, ooh, youknow.
But yeah, like, like the wholeloud ones, like I I have to get
out, okay, yeah like I don'teven pick my nose around her
because I think it's yeah, yeah,I don't know, is that weird as
a married person?
Like, are you able to?

Speaker 2 (46:08):
because like I guess, like if that's just how you see
, I guess you could totally turnit into like that's just how
you respect your guys's spacetogether, that you don't want to
have her see you being allgross and oh okay, you know like
I don't let her touch mylaundry.
Oh hell no really, oh fuck yeah.
Is that an ocd thing or is that?
Just like?
I don't want you to do my work,it's, I think it's that do her

(46:29):
laundry.

Speaker 1 (46:30):
Oh no, she won't let me.
I like doing laundry, actuallyyou do, or don't I like it?
I like it yeah yeah, but I knowyou fold your shit in the right
way, someone else does it theyfuck it up.

Speaker 2 (46:41):
You have to refold it anyway.
So it's just like you know what.
I've always been like that tooso is that ocd?
I don't know, oh maybe it'sjust like a personality trait oh
, my therapist says I have adhd,do you undiagnosed?

Speaker 1 (46:54):
no, I'm diagnosed adhd.
No, I feel like I'm undiagnosed.

Speaker 2 (47:00):
It's never been brought up in my therapy.
You should ask.

Speaker 1 (47:03):
Are you still going to therapy?

Speaker 2 (47:04):
Oh yeah.

Speaker 1 (47:05):
You should definitely ask Just one time, Just like
you know what I was on a podcast, he asked me to ask you can you
diagnose me if I have ADHD ornot?

Speaker 2 (47:14):
Oh no for real.

Speaker 1 (47:15):
Do it please.
Okay, yeah, I will, I'll bugyou.
I'll do it please.
Okay, yeah, I will, I'll bugyou, I'll do it okay.
Cool, cool how I got.
Adhd is um funny story.
No, you know what?
It's not a funny story.
Um, I was talking to the dudeand he saw me fidget, like I was
just like.

Speaker 2 (47:31):
I was like this, but my hands were always like this,
but I'm like this oh, so you'relike always moving yeah, and
then that's adhd, I thought thatwas just like a no, it's adhd
symptom of anxiety havinganxiety, being anxious, whatever
anxious, whatever the we'regonna use being anxious all
right okay, I'm playing, don'tbe no, but uh, he saw me doing

(47:51):
that and now I you know I'm verylike observant, so I watched
him you.
You could feel when he was likelooking at yeah yeah, and then
he was fidgeting as well.

Speaker 1 (48:02):
So he was like picking up something.
He was like like he had abracelet on his desk.
He would pick it up and go likethis for a good I'm going to
say seven seconds, Just likelistening to me talk, and then
he would put it back down andthen he would do it again, but
with his left hand.
I was like, hmm, and then hesaw me.
He was like do you want to takean ADHD test?

(48:23):
I was like man, I ain't noretard.
What the fuck do you mean?
I took real offense to it, butI was trying to be funny at the
same time.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, he was like no, no, no, I meant it as, like
you know, an ADHD and I, yeah,yeah, I understand what you're
saying, man, I'm not trying tobe a dick, so he did?

Speaker 2 (48:39):
I just used my humor as a defense mechanism, right,
oh my.

Speaker 1 (48:43):
God, I'm glad you caught that shit.
So we did.
And then he was like I haveADHD too.
And I was like sorry you'retrying to say I have it.
Yeah, just because you have it,doesn't?

Speaker 2 (48:58):
mean I.

Speaker 1 (48:58):
I have it.
And he was like how did you gofor so long without being
diagnosed?
I was like dog, I don't know.
And he asked me these questionslike do you blurt out things to
get you on track?
And I was like yeah.
And he was like do you um, whatis it?
Your attention span isn't aslike.
I was like yeah, but isn'tevery adult?

Speaker 2 (49:20):
tension span isn't as like I was like yeah, but isn't
every adult you know?
And then she's like oh, do youuh, that not normal?

Speaker 1 (49:23):
yeah, I was like do you fidget?
I was like, who doesn't fidget,you know?

Speaker 2 (49:26):
but I guess you sit still like I think something's
wrong with you.
Right, yeah, right no, but yeah.

Speaker 1 (49:32):
so I took these tests and he was like, yeah, um, and
then I told him I was like, well, when it comes to me like
really focusing, I focusing, Iwrite, like, I write the info
down yeah.
And like that's how I've beenpassing my test, because I'm
really bad in school.
But if I'm like writing downwhatever the person's saying or
whatever, like I could rememberit.

Speaker 2 (49:50):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (49:51):
And then when it comes to like tasks, I guess
when I get instruction, hearingit, I'm like oh, no, no, I'm
fucking stupid, but I'm a morehands-on person, so like, oh,
I'm there visual and like I needto like, jump out of adhd
really girl, maybe I'd have ittoo.

Speaker 2 (50:06):
You probably do you know, I'm not knocking, because
like so, back to the schoolthing and writing it down.
Yeah, like.
So how I found the best studymethod for myself was I would
make a cheat sheet.
So like, yeah, if I was gonnabe cheating, I would make a
little post, like a little indexcard of all the shit that I
needed to study and remember.
I wouldn't use it, but justhaving that mentality of like,

(50:27):
oh, I'm gonna use this cheatyeah it just all went in there
and I like I was a good studentbecause of my cheat sheets that
I never used were you avaledictorian?
Uh no fun fact I was avaledictorian of my Hawaiian
Airlines guest service class.
Shut your.

Speaker 1 (50:44):
Wait, wait, wait, valedictorian for your Hawaiian
Airlines.

Speaker 2 (50:48):
To pass my training.

Speaker 1 (50:49):
Oh, you got the highest scores.
Congratulations, I'm so proudof you.

Speaker 2 (50:53):
Because I didn't want to have to move back right away
.
If I failed, what the fuck am Igoing to do?

Speaker 1 (50:58):
Oh really.

Speaker 2 (50:59):
Yeah, I took a lot of time to study for that training
class.

Speaker 1 (51:03):
Oh girl.
Fun fact then, when I went toSLC and this is called the
Senior Leadership Course in theArmy I got honor grad myself.

Speaker 2 (51:13):
Oh my God, Look at us , I know right.

Speaker 1 (51:15):
Fucking doing this shit girl.

Speaker 2 (51:17):
Oh my.

Speaker 1 (51:18):
God, no, because there were a lot of people in my
class.
I was like man, I'm fucking, Iwant undergrad, I'm fucking
taking this shit yeah, like Iwas like okay, I'm just here to
pass like in my head, I'm justlike dude, it ain't that fucking
serious as long as I don't fail, I'm good, exactly I was like
you know I'm trying, but I'm notgonna like like the pt test
right, I'm not gonna get nofucking 600 that's a high score.

(51:39):
Okay, girl, the to pass is a 350.
Girl 352, hell yeah, I'm just,I'm just trying to make it.
And then these tests.
I'm like I'm not buying.
No, I'm not buying nothingextra.
I'm not buying no, boards I'mnot buying no, you know, like
the graphics on the powerpointshit.
I'm not doing nothing, I'm justfollowing the template that

(51:59):
they gave me and all this shit.
And then these fuckers aregoing above and beyond.
I'm like, dude, there's nothingin instruction that say fucking
, go above and beyond.

Speaker 2 (52:07):
It's not that serious , yeah, fucking extra credit,
you know.

Speaker 1 (52:10):
But yeah, girl, I came out on top and I was like
whoa, this is a fucking surpriseto me.
Love that.

Speaker 2 (52:20):
Oh love that, oh gosh right for you motherfuckers
were sour as hell.

Speaker 1 (52:22):
Of course I was like oh, they're always like that.

Speaker 2 (52:23):
I apologize, but you know y'all shouldn't have went,
that you guys did that toyourself.
Yeah, it's like respectfully,you know, but good job, good,
good job to you, right back atyou oh, thank you.

Speaker 1 (52:35):
Um, I forgot what we're fucking talking about.
Um the okay oh man, the manbeing c tangent um the man being
um.
Okay, so you guys werecomplacent that that what we
talked about therapy, um,complacency, um okay, I'm going
to go back to uh, fucking tinderor whatever right yeah um, when

(52:57):
you finally meet the dude, likeyou guys finally set the date
yeah uh, was this guy chivalrousyeah, they usually are at first
, at first, yeah so there's asecond date, third day, or is it
just the beginning of the night?

Speaker 2 (53:09):
you know, sometimes there's multiple dates.
I you know, I'll be honest,it's been a while since I've
been on an actual date withsomeone outside of, like my
friend group or like, uh, likean unknown.
Yeah, yeah, like, yeah, exactly, are you open to?

Speaker 1 (53:23):
the unknown person.

Speaker 2 (53:24):
Yeah, absolutely yeah .

Speaker 1 (53:25):
You are.

Speaker 2 (53:26):
How can an unknown uh-huh, here you go, yes.

Speaker 1 (53:29):
How does an unknown person uh, get your, you know,
get your fancy?
I'm not talking about like inthe sheets, but like it's you,
uh like, oh okay, uh, yes.
How can an unknown get the yesfrom miss lex?

Speaker 2 (53:42):
um I should wind did.
Um, you know, just don't beannoying about it, so I will.
I will tell a story.
So about this one guy he'sstill like loitering around in
my dms, which is fine I like theword use lording l-o-u-r right
loitering oh loitering.

Speaker 1 (54:02):
Oh, okay, okay, okay, uh.

Speaker 2 (54:06):
English is my second language um, yeah, so how we met
was football.
I was at buffalo wild wingswatching football.
I remember specifically I thinkit was like a sunday night game
seahawks versus sealers um, soit was the only game showing at
the bar.
I was the only girl and one ofthe only few well, like only

(54:29):
girl by herself, okay, sorry andone of the only few seahawks
fans in that sitting at the bar.

Speaker 1 (54:36):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (54:37):
And at that time there was a huge Steelers fan
base in that area, okay, andthey were all there and they
were just being obnoxiousSteeler fans that you guys are
Mm-hmm.
And so single girl sitting byherself watching football
Apparently that's a fast track,for, oh, let's play a game to
see how many guys can hit onthis girl.

(54:58):
And they were all Steelers fans.
And let me tell you, I at leastI so I knew the bartenders and
everyone.
There was a time I had to tellthem take this chair away from
me, I need to sit by myself.
Because they were like theywere trying to talk to me during
the game.
I'm like you need to wait for acommercial or, like you know,
injury break or some shit.
Like don't be talking to me onthird second down at all.

(55:22):
Like we have the ball shut up,you know, yeah, and they like
wouldn't leave me alone.
So I had to have the bartenderstep in and be like yo, she's
trying to be nice, but she alsojust doesn't want you around her
yeah and so then they took thechair away, so it was just me by
myself.
But this other guy came fromlike.
He was sitting with his friendsat like a far table.

(55:42):
He came over to order a drinknext to me at the bar and he was
.
He just turned to me.
He goes, you know, you lookreally familiar and I was like,
oh, what do you mean?

Speaker 1 (55:51):
like okay, I don't really get out much.

Speaker 2 (55:54):
I was like I come here like a lot, but I was like
I also work at the airport.
I don't know, do you fly a lot?
And he was just like no, youjust like look really familiar.
And he kept saying that and Iwas just like, okay, well, like
I didn't grow up out here so Idon't really know what you're
getting at.
Like he tried to ask like whathigh school did you go to?
And I was like oh, one inwashington.
And so, like he kept using thatline.
I'm like what the fuck doesthis guy want?

(56:15):
And so he goes are you onTikTok?
And that was back in the day,like I was posting a lot of
TikToks, and somehow it likescrolled on his For you page and
I showed up and I was just like, oh, yeah, so then we just like
small talk, like I was actuallyengaged in that because I don't
know, I don't know what it waslike.
He's a good looking man too,and it was just the way that he

(56:39):
wasn't like aggressive or likeyou know anything crazy.
It was just oh, I think I I seeyou on tiktok.
And then he was like well, hewas like I know you're a
seahawks fan.
I was like I'm not a fan butlike let's make a friendly wager
.
He goes if the steelers win,I'll buy you a drink.
If the seahawks win, you buy mea drink.
If the Seahawks win, you buy mea drink.
And I was like okay, that'sfine.
And then he walked away, likethat was it.

(56:59):
Like he got his beer and leftand I'm just carrying on
watching my game, eating mychicken.
And then I finished my beer andbefore I could order another
one, the bartender brings me abeer and like this is from him
and I just like waving at me Isthe game done.

Speaker 1 (57:14):
No, oh, okay, it was still going.

Speaker 2 (57:16):
I had just finished my beer and he just bought one
for me anyways, but like the wayhe did it, I was just like okay
, that's memorable and that waslike years ago, that was like
four years ago.

Speaker 1 (57:28):
And he's still loitering around, loitering,
he's still there.

Speaker 2 (57:31):
He was coming and in for a while and he's still there
.
Oh, keep him in my back pocket.

Speaker 1 (57:37):
Oh, um, you know the story that you said.
I remember hearing it on one ofyour yep.
Y'all need to listen followsidebar pod.
There's more stories like that.
I think it's cool.

Speaker 2 (57:48):
But no, that's that's the story.
That like cause I've been hiton before, but it's just like
how you do it Like don't come atme and be like aggressive and a
lot of guys would like ask formy numbers.
I wouldn't give them my number.
I would take their number.
So like balls in my court.
Now I'm like if I didn't vibewith you then I'm not going to
text you.

Speaker 1 (58:06):
Yeah, oh, I like that Take action oh girl, when I was
like playing the field years,years, years, years ago, years
or years ago, uh, I used to givepeople, uh, my email address,
or I used to ask the theopposite sex.
Their email address was like oh, you don't want my number.
I was like no, I just want youremail address.

(58:28):
And they're like the fuck why?
Because I want to write alengthy uh, an email.
I want to be your pen pal, yeahno, because if, uh, my thing was
, if I emailed you and you emailme like a an intelligent
response oh, and I'm like okaycool, like I have something in
common, because I don't want no,I didn't want nothing ditzy or

(58:49):
anything yeah because I've been,you know, I've been around the
block a couple times, so I Iknow what I like now.
So it's like if I could hold aconversation with you, or if you
could hold a conversation withme via email, and I'm interested
.
I'm like bet, you know you'relike a dime a dozen, but yeah,
email address.
I never asked for an ig crazyyeah, right, uh, look, can I get
your email address?

Speaker 2 (59:09):
oh my, god, if someone came up to me and said
that I'm just you're like, Idon't even know what I would do
really, what would you do ifthat happened?

Speaker 1 (59:18):
okay scenario time here we go ready, ready, ready.
Okay, cool.
Five, four, three, two, one.
Hi.
How's it going?
Just do it.
Come on, hi.
How's it going?

Speaker 2 (59:28):
oh, it's good.
How are you?

Speaker 1 (59:29):
good, good do.
Would you happen to know howmuch a polar bear weighs?
No enough to break the ice.
Hi, my name's chris.
Um, what you drinking?
Oh, hennessy here, all right,uh bye oh not the hennessy.
Okay, cool, uh, beer hurt withit.

Speaker 2 (59:43):
With that line would have worked I guess, like it
would have made me laugh, coollike it did, like that was
natural, okay, cool coming back.
It's a little corny but supercorny it was kind of more of
like an uncomfortable laugh,like is this conversation gonna
get better or is it gonna end?

Speaker 1 (59:57):
yeah, uh, it's gonna get better.
Uh, um, just wait, girl, I'llfind you interesting.
Uh, can I get your emailaddress?
You know what it's not gonnawork?
Fuck it.
No, it has to be like in adifferent setting.

Speaker 2 (01:00:11):
You know what I would I would have maybe considered
if it was a different, like oh,okay, okay, I think your like
delivery was a little super issuper off.
I've been out of the game inyears and it shows, but you know
, lucky for your wife oh yeah,thank you, but no, the playing
field out there today is it?
It's hard, that tough yeah I'velike kind of taken a break from

(01:00:32):
like actually trying, but likeone of these days I'll get out
there and, you know, meetsomeone organically what's?

Speaker 1 (01:00:38):
what's an?
What's a?
Okay, before we dip, what's agood organic place to meet you
or meet someone like the?
The um, the washing machineplace?
What's it called laundromat?

Speaker 2 (01:00:50):
well, I have washer and dryer in units.
Well then, fuck this.
Um oh okay okay, um, okay.

Speaker 1 (01:00:55):
They don't have Barnes and Nobles here, a
Foodland.

Speaker 2 (01:00:58):
Oh, maybe, yeah, Target Costco.

Speaker 1 (01:01:00):
Of course Target Women and Target Okay, target In
the houseware section.
Would you be caught in there?

Speaker 2 (01:01:12):
Yeah, I like to peruse around see how I can
upgrade my living space.

Speaker 1 (01:01:17):
Yeah, Okay, looking for a rug, I think your drapes
would match this rug color.

Speaker 2 (01:01:26):
There we go.
Yep, there it is.
Yeah, that's the one.
Oh wow, just like that.
Here's my email address.

Speaker 1 (01:01:35):
Subject the rug matched the curtains confirming
this organic target um starbucks?
Can you do it at a starbucks?

Speaker 2 (01:01:46):
um, or is that just too fast?

Speaker 1 (01:01:50):
yeah, maybe, but I usually do mobile order because
of my anxiety no, you're justsuper anxious, okay, um, uh,
okay, this target walmart, youdon't go.

Speaker 2 (01:02:03):
I don't go to one, I go to target costco oh, costco
because you have to have amembership to get in oh shit, oh
yeah, you're right.

Speaker 1 (01:02:13):
How about um?

Speaker 2 (01:02:14):
they don't just let anybody in there?
No, but how about?

Speaker 1 (01:02:17):
What's the other place?
Is it like a Costco?

Speaker 2 (01:02:19):
Sam's Club.
Sam's Club, I don't have.

Speaker 1 (01:02:20):
Sam's Club though.
Oh okay, yeah, let me ask youthis real quick.
Yeah, costco, do you double dipthe goddamn free samples?

Speaker 2 (01:02:30):
Yeah, hell yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:02:31):
Oh my gosh, I go like three, four times different
disguises.

Speaker 2 (01:02:33):
You just got to block around.
Take your hat off, put yourpurse somewhere else, Put your
glasses on.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, take off theglasses, or put the glasses
sideways like this or like ifyou're with someone and be like,
okay, you go get this round,I'll go get the other one.
Yeah, it's like oh, auntie, Ineed some for my cousin.
I'm grabbing for her.
She doesn't want to.

Speaker 1 (01:02:52):
Sundays right.

Speaker 2 (01:02:53):
I think so yeah, hell yeah.
See, that would be a greatplace.
We both reach for the samesample.

Speaker 1 (01:03:00):
Oh wow, that's like some fucking serendipity shit.
Do you like rom-coms?
I do.
What's your favorite Top three?

Speaker 2 (01:03:09):
Let's see, I like Miss Congeniality.

Speaker 1 (01:03:13):
Sandra Bullock's Seas yes, no Strings Attached.

Speaker 2 (01:03:16):
That's with Ashton Kutcher and.

Speaker 1 (01:03:19):
Brittany.

Speaker 2 (01:03:20):
No, what's her name?
It's like the same thing as theone with Justin Timberlake and
Mila Kunis.

Speaker 1 (01:03:28):
Is Mila Kunis in this one?
No, no, ok.
I forgot the similar storylinethough.
Oh, ok, friends, they do likefriends with benefits, and then
they end up falling in love.
Okay, yeah, what's your otherone?

Speaker 2 (01:03:40):
oh, geez, you said three yeah, well, you gave me
two uh, I can't even think of athird right now loser I know, I
guess I'm not that much of a fan, oh right, my top three is um,
serendipity, that's one.

Speaker 1 (01:03:58):
Uh.
Next one would be uh, have youever watched the wood?
Is that a rom-com?

Speaker 2 (01:04:05):
I've never seen it.
You've never seen the wood, no,so I I'm not.
I'm that bitch that you're likeoh, have you watched this or
have you watched this?
No, really I stick to my likefive things that I watch.

Speaker 1 (01:04:15):
Oh for real Over and over again yeah, oh, okay, well,
okay, I know awkward, it alwayschanges the stuff.

Speaker 2 (01:04:21):
Everyone's always just like, okay, never mind
Super awkward, you know earlieryou were like have you watched
how I Met your Brother?

Speaker 1 (01:04:26):
No.

Speaker 2 (01:04:26):
I watched like two episodes, oh, and then I
switched back to like Friends.

Speaker 1 (01:04:32):
Friends is Southern California's favorite show.
Everyone in Southern Californialoves Friends.

Speaker 2 (01:04:39):
I will do a Friends reference Like no one's business
.
Oh for real, yeah, how youdoing Exactly.

Speaker 1 (01:04:44):
Oh, hell, yeah, Hell yeah, lex, that was fun.
Yeah, do you have any shoutouts, or where can these people
find you at?

Speaker 2 (01:04:51):
You guys can find me on Instagram, I guess, and
TikTok too.

Speaker 1 (01:04:57):
Because I guess I'm very familiar, right?
Oh, you look very familiartiktok.

Speaker 2 (01:04:59):
Okay, uh, and yeah also, the sidebar pod is on
instagram and tiktok hell yeahhell yeah hell.

Speaker 1 (01:05:08):
Yeah, uh tiktok.
I thought he was gonna pullside note sidebar.
I thought I was gonna be like,oh, I've seen you in my dreams,
type shit you know, I waswaiting for it to get fucking
corny, yeah, and it didn't.

Speaker 2 (01:05:19):
And that's why I think I was just like, oh, you
know what he was like, maybeactually making conversation.

Speaker 1 (01:05:23):
Okay, yeah, good job to you, guy yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:05:30):
I don't know your name, but good job to you.
He knows who he is, ooh, on mypodcast and he was just like you
said my name.
I was like no, I didn't sayyour name.
Yeah, I didn't even say likewhat location we were at Uh-huh,
because that would give it awaytoo.
Wait, hold up.
You said you were at B-Dubs.

Speaker 1 (01:05:43):
Yeah, okay, but there's like four on the island
so Is there yeah yo peoples andmy peoples, be my wingman,
literally your wingman, rightwith ranch, please.
Ko Studios.
Thank you for the lovely home.
Rafi Byte, thank you for thelovely vibes man with that.

(01:06:05):
I'm Chris and I'm Lex and weout this bitch peace.