#130 Outgrowing Success: Why Your Role No Longer Fits — and What’s Next

When success starts to feel like a cage, it’s not failure — it’s growth. Discover why roles that once fit now feel restrictive, how to spot the signs, and what’s next when you outgrow success.

Success was supposed to feel fulfilling. But for many high-capacity humans, the very role you worked so hard to build — the one that gave you security, respect, and purpose — now feels like a cage.

In today’s episode of The Recalibration, Julie Holly unpacks why outgrowing a role doesn’t mean failure — it means your identity is expanding. Drawing on Role Identity Theory and the lived experience of tennis champion Andre Agassi, this episode reveals:

• Why your nervous system clings to roles, even when they no longer fit
  
  
• How role identity attachment develops and why it makes transitions so destabilizing
  
  
• The difference between identity and role — and how to know when you’ve outgrown success
  
  
• What recalibration makes possible when success no longer feels like enough
  
  

Today’s Micro Recalibration:
Ask yourself: What role once served me but now feels constricting? Write it down. Awareness is the first step toward release.

If you’ve ever thought, “I should be happy, but this no longer feels like me,” this episode will help you see the tension for what it really is: a signal that it’s time to recalibrate.

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