June 30, 2025 • 38 mins
Have you ever wondered if the resistance you're facing means you're on the wrong path—or exactly the right one? In this raw and unfiltered episode, I share the complete breakdown that happened in my business this week and the profound transformation that followed.
When half my team walked out, construction projects failed spectacularly, and everything seemed to be crumbling around me, I found myself in that familiar space of shame and self-doubt. Why was this happening? Was I even cut out for this? Should I have stayed in the coal mines and never attempted to build something bigger?
The breakthrough came through a powerful mentoring session that completely shifted my perspective. Just as muscles only grow through resistance in bodybuilding, perhaps the challenges in business aren't signs to quit but confirmation you're growing. Most people abandon their path when facing pushback, but what if that resistance is exactly what you need?
I explore the dangerous cycle of self-punishment and how living in low-vibration emotions like guilt, shame and fear only attracts more negative outcomes. The key to breaking this pattern lies in a simple daily practice: acknowledging what you're grateful for, noting what could have gone better (without dwelling on why), and setting clear intentions for tomorrow.
If you've ever felt like everything was falling apart around you, this episode might be the perspective shift you need. Stop asking "why is this happening to me?" and start asking "what is this doing for me?" Success isn't a matter of if—it's a matter of when.
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Speaker 1 (00:36):
Thank you.
It's so hard to act.
Reckless, more jewelry, moreLouis V my mama couldn't get
through to me.
Welcome back to the RecklessCEO podcast, back-to-back weeks.
I'm excited, you know, catchinga little momentum.
I think that's the key toeverything right Is that you got
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to get momentum.
Momentum makes things move.
Momentum makes things easier toovercome, easier to deal with,
and I am excited about today.
Um, first off, I'm just excitedto be, you know, um, back back
in the, the, the studio,consistently, back to um, you
know, creating contentconsistently.
(01:18):
That has been one of my uh,biggest focal points points
since coming back from Hermosi'sevent there a couple weeks ago,
I just realized that it's oneof those things that's weird.
Right, because you've got and Ilook at a business there's kind
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of two sides to the way you getyour business out there.
Right, you've got one side,which is your marketing right,
and marketing is going to belike that's an ROI spend, that's
a.
I know that if I put X intothis, I get X back.
It's kind of that investor lens.
And then you've got yourbranding right and branding is
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really it's the brand, it's thepresence, it's kind of marketing
that you don't necessarily havea direct way to measure an ROI
on it.
But it's also it's hard to say.
You can't say that it's moreimportant than marketing,
because marketing is the thingthat creates the revenue, but I
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mean, branding is the thing thatscales it and makes it
omnipresent, if you will.
And so you know it's been funto get back into and just see
some of the momentum swings.
You know, even in my own life,right, you know, I've been, I've
been very into kind of likefiguring out, like what is it
the thing that makes me tick,what is the thing that is my
(02:42):
unique ability, the thing thatyou know makes me the most
excited?
And really, for me, that'scontent.
Like, I love to create it, Ilove to make it, and so I'm
excited for today.
Today I got a good story foryou.
So let's start out.
This week was how do I say this?
(03:04):
This week was a shit show.
It was probably I meanobviously, anyone that listened
to last week's podcast, you knowyou're kind of aware of
everything that's going on.
It's been, you know, a very agrowth year for me and and this
week did not disappoint, and itwas no different than that.
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So let's start out on Tuesday.
I believe it was Tuesday or no.
No, previous to that, actuallyit was Monday.
So, you know, coming over theweekend, you know I have, like I
shared, I've been frustratedwith the company, right, and
(03:46):
just because of what I haveallowed to be okay.
I know that in order to begreat at anything, in order to
achieve the highest level ofyourself or a business or sports
, whatever it is, you know youhave to especially Indian, when
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you're in a team environment,you need to act as a team, you
need to show up as a team, youneed to support each other as a
team.
You got to know that in orderto do, you know you can go.
You can get there fast byyourself.
You can go far with people andI am, you know the.
You know I'm extremely aware ofthat.
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You know I have done nothingbut play sports and things for
majority of my life and so Iknow that this is the thing that
makes teams successful.
You know, it's the thing thatbrings them together, it's the
training, it's the blood, sweatand tears that's involved in
growing something great.
And you know, over this lastyear I think, I just I don't
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know I felt that I let peopletell me directions and things
that you know I wasn'tnecessarily for, but I also felt
that maybe this, maybe I wasn'tright all the time and maybe
that there's other ways for itto be done regardless.
Um, you know, takeaway on thatis if it's your thing, make it
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your thing right and do it theway that you want to do it.
Um, because I feel that I gotto a point where I'm just like
I'm looking around and I'm like,man, we got a bunch of
motherfuckers half in.
We got a bunch of motherfuckersthat are just doing their own
thing, making their own rules,not fucking following the
standard, not fucking committingto shit, and it's just like you
know what I'm done.
(05:29):
I am fucking done with it.
It's not something I'm going tostand for anymore.
I don't care if I'm the onlymotherfucker left here.
I am not going to operate likethis, because I know what it
takes to be successful.
I'm not saying I'm the mostsuccessful person, but I've
played sports at a high level,I've ran a business, I've
competed bodybuilding at a highlevel, I've done a lot of things
and got into the 1%, and I knowthat in order to get there, it
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takes commitment, it takesdiscipline, it takes all of
these things.
It takes certainty we're goingto get into that, and if you're
not doing those things, thenyou're, you're fucking up and
coming into this week.
I was feeling like that still,and so I go into Mondays.
Or we have our all teamsmeeting on on Monday, which is,
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you know, everybody in the teamcomes in and kind of same shit
again.
Right, we're sitting there andit's just like going through the
motions and everyone's justnodding their head and it's just
, I was sitting, sitting as a asa spectator, watching and just
grinding my teeth at what'sgoing on and it's like, no, well
(06:37):
, no wonder we're not hittinggoals, no wonder we're not doing
the things that, um, you knowwe should be doing is because
this is how we're fuckingshowing up.
Right, how you do one thing ishow you do everything.
So if you're not pushingyourself and pushing everybody
around you, then you're gonna,you ain't gonna change nothing,
and so that's Monday.
So then we come into Tuesday,and so Tuesday is our Tuesday is
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our leadership meeting.
And you know I'm prepping forit Monday evening, kind of
recapping the Monday meeting.
And you know, it just clicks tome on Monday evening and I'm
like you know what, I am notgoing to just go into another
leadership meeting, say the samedamn shit, get the same damn
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results, like I'm done, I'm donewith it, bro, every single
person has made mistakes,including myself.
Um, you know, we've all.
Last week we had our leadershipbook club and you know it's all
about extreme ownership andhave each other's backs and
being a team core at theleadership level.
And then monday just wasbasically blown out the door
(07:45):
again and I'm like you know what?
No, I'm done with this shit.
And so you know, and that's thefunny thing about, uh, you know,
when you're a CEO is that, um,you know, no one, you don't
really fucking know what's rightor wrong, right, like you don't
know what is actually the thingthat's going to work or the
thing that's not going to work.
And so in my mind I'm like I'mgoing to go in there fucking
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Tuesday and I'm going to blowthe fuck up and I'm going to let
them know that I am pissed andI that I am irritated and that I
am not going to stand for thisanymore.
And you know cause in my mindI'm like that's what it takes
Sometimes.
I need a good pattern interruptto just break the pattern and
be like all right, yeah, fuck,open my eyes up, let's go here.
So I do that, and you know itwas methodical, it wasn't
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something I just like lost mymind over.
Right, I had planned it out,right, I'm like I'm going to go
in, we're going to go around thecircle, we're going to give our
wins when it comes to me.
You know it wasn't like out ofa hothead kind of perspective,
which they didn't know any ofthis.
This is just me, you knowgaming it.
And you know I'm like I'm goingto.
When they get to me, I'm goingto say you know what?
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No, I don't really have anywins because I'm sick of the way
that all of this is, in the waythat we're showing up, in the
way that this whole thing isfucking going down right now.
I'm not happy with it.
And so I do that.
I kind of blow up, I go aroundthe table to each leader and
it's like here's what you didwrong, here's what you did wrong
, here's what you did wrong,here's what you did wrong,
here's what I'm doing wrong.
Listen, this isn't me on asoapbox, this is me just being
(09:09):
really fucking honest witheverybody here.
Guys, this has to change right,we're letting people half show
up, we're okay with it.
You know, and that's the hardpart when you run, you know,
with a roofing company orsomething like that, where it's
like you got a bunch of 1099sales guys because really they
don't have to do anything right,they can kind of just do their
own thing.
(09:29):
You can't really hold them to aschedule, hold them to a
commitment, but if you work forme, it's like, yeah, it's
voluntold right.
It's like, yeah, you don't haveto do that thing, but if you
don't do it, we're not gonnastay long, which I have, you
know, allowed that mediocrity toto creep in, and and that's the
thing.
Sorry, I got a lot of tangentsgoing on, but, um, you know, I
(09:52):
think it was nick saban saysthat you know the you can never
have elite people and averagepeople on the same team, because
the average people are going tobring down the elite people and
the elite people are going tobe frustrated about the average
people are going to bring downthe elite people and the elite
people are going to befrustrated by the average people
and that they're going tobecome the sum, really, of the
average, because elite's notgoing to hang around there
anymore.
And so, that being said, I'mtelling the guys what do we got
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to do?
We got to change this thing.
So I blow up, get mad, I stormout and before I'd gone into the
meeting, I wrote a list of justall the issues like this thing.
Like we said we were going todo this.
We didn't do it.
We said we're going to do this.
We didn't do it.
We said we're going to like all, just a list of all the issues
that I know that we've discussedat this, all this leadership
meeting, multiple times and havenot, you know, overcome it, and
(10:50):
you know.
And then I also said you knowthey're not showing up, right,
they, they might be there andthat's the hard part too, right,
one one being a, uh, one of ourtop producers, and you know.
But again, I always use sportsas kind of a, an analogy,
because so, so comparable.
But like, think about if you'veever played sports and you, you
know you had a guy on your team.
It was like the, the, thenumber one guy, right, best
running back or best quarterback, you know, best wide receiver,
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and, like you know, everybodykind of gravitated towards them
because they were so good and itwas so effortless, but they
felt like they didn't have toshow up to anything else.
They could just kind of be ontheir own time.
And you know that gets you far,but it what it starts to do is
erode the control and standardsof everybody else.
(11:32):
Because if the guy that does youknow the best or the best
player, doesn't have to show upto anything, then why would?
Why would anybody else have toshow up to anything?
Right?
And the thing is, is noteverybody is superstars, right?
You've got your 99% of peoplethat aren't that, that actually
need structure, that needconsistency, that need to have
standards In order for them tothrive.
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They need that certainty.
Where you got guys that arereally good, they don't really
need those things.
But you know, allowing that tocontinue to happen is will
destroy a sports team or even acompany.
Right?
You hear those stories of likeman, I had to get, you had this
one guy that was really good andhad to get rid of them, and you
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know it was something I held onto.
And the next thing, you know,the whole team comes together
when that's kind of where Iwould say we were in our app,
right, and so in that meetingI'm like, dude, I'm not going to
stand for anymore.
You know, I'm going to makechanges.
If people aren't willing tocommit all the way, then I don't
want them.
I don't want them to be here,because all it does is create
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disorganization, it createsinconsistency and it just
doesn't work.
I know it doesn't work and I'mfrustrated with myself that I
allowed it to just go because,for fear of losing everything I
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don't know, right, you, you, youknow, you, you you tell
yourself these stories of justlike, ah, man, like I can't say
anything because if we lose them, then we're not going to, you
know, and it's all this stuff,they're going to go out and
they're going to talk shit, andit's like, end of the day, it
doesn't fucking make adifference.
And so I tell them that I say,listen, if they don't show up,
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I'm going to reach out to them.
They can decide.
If they decide to not, you know, do what I'm asking, then I'm
going to let them go.
And so, you know, followingthat meeting on Tuesday, I had
three people reached out to.
All three of them, you know,basically, were like yeah, we're
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not, we don't, we don't.
Just, I guess they don't seethe value in it, right, they
don't want to commit and go, allin, all, right, cool.
Then on Wednesday I get anupdate and one of my leaders
decided that they were going toresign as well.
Okay, and so that it led methrough the week.
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That led me into wednesday.
Then on wednesday I find outthat a job that we did, that we
had to, um, basically there's anissue on the color this, and
that we had to tear the, youknow, tear the roof off and then
go do it again.
Well, then we couldn't find thematerials and there was just
like all these issues, right.
And then, you know, to add toit, on Wednesday as well, a
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pop-up storm came through andlike out of nowhere, right,
there was like nothing on theradar and I was on a storm, hit
on another, on another job, andbasically it rained and it
rained inside the house and itgot the inside of the house wet
and whole issue there too.
And so this is just all thisshit that's going on.
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I hit a point on I think it wasWednesday night and I'm just
like what the fuck is going on,man, like this has been just
crazy.
When I look back over this lastyear, I'm like this has gone
nothing like the way I thoughtit was going to go.
It has been probably the mostdifficult time that I've ever
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had while running a business Ihave been.
I've never been more insecure,I've never been more unsure, and
you know, and it's just all ofthese things, man, it's just
been another fucking week ofjust getting it right, and you
know, and so, to test to say allthis, you know, I reached out
to a mentor of mine on um, youknow, wednesday or Thursday, and
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I was like hey, man, like whatdo you think about coming in and
just talking to the team?
All right, come in and justtalking to us, man, and you know
we need, we need some new, newlife, new, new.
We need some new blood.
Man, like you know he's he'sRyan's a very smart individual
and he knows how to, you know,help motivate people.
You could say everybody, that's, you know, still left.
(15:54):
He says he says, hey guys, youknow, send me, you know, the two
or three things in your lifethat are, you know, your biggest
struggles.
Send me the two or three thingsyou know inside your, your role
, that are your biggeststruggles.
And then two or three thingsthat inside you know CRC itself
that you would like to see, youknow improved.
(16:14):
And so you know he he kind oftakes all of that in and you
know improved, and so you knowhe kind of takes all of that in.
And he comes in this morning andyou know he starts talking to
us through this story and, youknow, sharing all of the all
this stuff with us and it justincredible stuff and I wish I
could, you know, roll it backoff to you verbatim, but no, you
know I'm not, I'm not there yet, but you, but I want to go over
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some of the stuff that heshared with us that was really
insightful and really likeeverything that I think I needed
and I think that a lot of usneeded, and so much of it just
revolves around yourself.
You know yourself, right,there's so much power in the
mind, right, your, your mind isyour, it's your most valuable
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asset, right, it's it's thething that you know creates your
reality, right.
And so I think so often we, wedon't realize that we're, we're
in control of so many of thethings that you know we're
experiencing, right.
And you know, one of the thingsthat he had talked about was
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that, you know, when he wasgrowing up, his stepdad had or
stepdad or dad had, you know,abused him to to some extent and
just did some things that youknow really affected him.
He talked about how you know,when his you know, as he you
know, resented his mother for alot of that for so long.
And you know, he said but thething that I've realized is that
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you know every single likechallenge or you know obstacle
or like negative thing that hashappened to you, you know it can
honestly become a positivething over time, right, so many
of the negative things that havehappened to you.
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Tony Robbins talks about it aswell.
He says you know, I think it'son one of his YouTube shows
there or something on Netflixthere.
And you know he's talking tothis daughter and you know she's
like, oh, I hate my dad forthis and I hate my dad for that,
and you know.
Then he asked her he's like,well, what are you doing?
You know where are you at inyour life today?
And she's like, oh, well, likeyou know, I'm successful and I
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got this and that you know.
And he's like let me, let meask you something.
He said if you can find the, thestrength right or the power to
hate somebody for everythingthey did to you that was
negative, then you have to findthe way.
If you can blame them for allof those negatives, then you
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have to find the way to blamethem for the positives too,
because in those, in the momentswhen these things are happening
, first off, you know everybodyis doing their best with the
playbook they've been given,right, I?
I believe that that most peopleare inherently good or want to
be good.
Now, there are a few, you know,people out there that are just
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demonic to an extent, but Ibelieve that most people are
good and they and they want tobe good, but they're only
they're.
They're they're trying to dothe best they can with the
resources and the experiencesthat they have.
Right, you know what he said.
He's like, you know, as I, as Igot older, I realized, I
realized that you know my, youknow my mom was like very torn
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because she had her insecuritiesfrom when her, you know.
You know that she didn't wantto be left and and you know, and
she didn't know whether todefend me or defend him or you
know vice versa, and he's like,but you know what it did, was it
, you know, drove me out of myhouse by the time I was 17,.
I moved away.
You know, and you know it, itkind of I, I, it really was the
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foundation that I can look backnow and say that I built, I
built my success on, and, and Ithink that's such a powerful
thing, right, is that in, in, init's so much of perspective
because, you know, I thinkeverything can actually be good
when, when you give it longenough, right, when you give it
long enough to be able to lookback and understand the why, or
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understand, maybe, how it'saffected you and and you know,
maybe, the things that you'veactually been able to achieve
and the thing that you havetoday because of that and so
that that was a really powerfulthing and it's cause, you know,
with this week and all of thebullshit that we had go down, um
, you know, I was talking to mybrother and my brother it just
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he's been with us now for a yearand a half.
Um, not sure if I've talked alot about this, but you know I'm
from Wheeling.
My, uh, my, my family was allstill from Wheeling and you know
I moved up here eight, nineyears ago and my brother was an
iron worker but super, supersmart kid engineer, just very
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intelligent.
He was always the brains like Iwas it's not my wheelhouse, you
know and I was like man.
I would love for the day to beable to get you up here and, you
know, have you, be a part ofall of this, and you know what a
dream that would be to be ableto build with your brother and,
you know, with my niece, and gota niece on the way, and just
like that.
That.
That to me, is so much of themy purpose and why is is those
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kinds of things Right?
And so, um, about a year and ahalf ago, almost two years,
probably, a year and a half ago,um, you know he was got laid
off from the iron workers for alittle bit.
And so you know, he reached outto me and I said, dude, come up
, just let's come up and crashwith me for, you know, a couple
of weeks and see if you like it.
You know you don't got to makea commitment, just check it out,
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right.
And so you know he comes up andhe opens up.
You know then he's different,but you know, from an outside
perspective he's, he's prettyshy, kind of keeps to himself.
And you know I throw him intosales and it was the first time
he's like negotiating andtalking to people and selling
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things.
And then, you know, from salesI throw him into quality control
and from quality control I sendthem into project management
and then you know all the thingsthat have happened this year.
You know he ends up in likeproduction and operations and so
you know he has, you know, inthe last year, like pretty much
seen every position of thecompany and with no real
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playbook, right, you knownothing to really train himself
on, to even you know kind ofknow really what's going on.
And so I, you know he's reallyjust done it all as we've gone,
and so you know I watched thethings that happened this week.
He was, you know, beatinghimself up for you know, issues
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that have gone down.
And you know him and I comefrom obviously a similar
background, different, differentdads, same mom, but close to it
.
There's just we grew up similarright and and so, um, and I
used to do this to myself andand Ryan had had shared this
with me before because Iremember I'd I made a mistake in
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business, whether I, you know,invested in the wrong thing or
tried this thing, and you knowit didn't work out.
And you know and in thosemoments it's like you do what
you got to do with the resourcesand the knowledge that you have
.
And you know, obviously, then,depending on how it transpires,
you know three, four, five, sixmonths or a year down the road.
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You know now maybe you'redealing with those repercussions
of that mistake that you made.
And you know, I think, so oftenyou know now maybe you're
dealing with those, thoserepercussions of the of that
mistake that you made.
And you know, I think, so oftenyou know we, we, we beat
ourselves up for it.
Right, I know for myself, likethat's kind of how I grew up.
It was like man, you fucked up,like you knew, you got, let
know, and, and, and you, you,you hold onto that because it's
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you know, it's one of thosethings where you know throughout
your life when you make amistake, you know you don't, you
know when you're young or youdon't have this perspective,
shift right To like understandthat you know everything is, you
know vibrations, everything islike you're the level of you
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know consciousness, the levelthat you're, you know vibrating
on right, and you know, when itcomes to, you know, fear or
guilt, or shame, right, likethose things are on the lowest,
the lowest, the lowest vibration, right, they're like the lowest
that you can go.
And so often you know, you seeone thing happen, then another
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thing happens and another, andit's like all these negative
things keep happening.
And so when you experiencethese things and you're beating
yourself up over it, you knowit's it's all you're doing is
like prolonging the pain for noreason, right?
I told Lane that the other day Isaid, bro, I'm like dude, I
know that you made a mistake,bro, people make mistakes all
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the time.
Like is this shit?
Like we?
And the thing is, it'sconstruction, right, I always
say that, man, it's construction.
There's going to be 99 things,a hundred things are going on,
and you know 99 of them ain'tgoing right.
That's the way that it goessometimes, right.
And so you know, I think it'sjust, it's that perspective of
understanding that, like,nothing is that serious Right
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now, a lot of times inconstruction, when something
goes wrong, you've got a pissedoff homeowner and so you're
trying and they're like rippingyour head off about it and you
can't really say anythingbecause it's their house and you
did fuck up, and so you knowyou're going through this and
you're just beating yourself upfor it because you're like I
need to.
You know, as we get older, noone like holds us, like we're
held accountable, but it's notlike when you're a kid and you
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fuck up and your parents arelike go to your room and think
about what you've done Right.
When you're an adult, no one'sreally telling you to do that
and so you're not being punished.
Therefore, you feel like youneed to punish yourself.
Therefore, you feel like youneed to punish yourself, and
maybe, maybe no one else hasexperienced this and it's just
me.
But I do that, right, I make amistake and you know I don't
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have someone to punish me now,and so when I do it, you know, I
dwell on it, I beat myself upon it, I I will call myself you
know everything but a white manright, right, I will just
demoralize myself, becausethat's what I was used to, right
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, because it was like you made amistake.
No one's there to kind ofpunish you, so you need to
punish yourself until youunderstand what you did, right.
That's the most ridiculous thingwhen you think about it from
this lens, it's the mostridiculous thing.
Why would you punish yourself?
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You don't deserve punishment.
You made a mistake, right?
Is it going to change life?
We're literally this littlespeck in this universe and it's
like we're gonna.
We have this finite amount oftime on this earth and we're
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going to spend it in shame andguilt and fear because we made a
mistake.
You can't do that.
You learned, I think, that whenit comes to that side of it,
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it's like as long as you're Ilook at it like this it's like
as long as your heart was in agood place and you're not doing
something to be manip,manipulative or to, you know,
tear somebody down.
Dude, it's a mistake.
You're going to make a hundredmore of them and the thing is is
how fast can you bounce backfrom it?
Because you know when you thinkabout the, you know where fear
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and shame and guilt are on thisvibration scale.
You know when you're in that,when you're at that level, when
you're at that vibration andyou're beating yourself up and
you're ashamed of yourself andyou're hating yourself, no
wonder more shit happens,because you're asking for it to
happen, you're attracting it,you're bringing it to you,
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you're choosing to do that toyourself and in those moments, I
know it's not easy to pullyourself out of it, right, and
to look at it from a differentlens or to find anything to be
grateful for in that minute, inthat moment.
Right, I've learned that youknow, whatever I feed grows.
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Think about that.
Whatever I feed grows.
If I feed that negative andshameful and fear, oh man, it'll
eat me, it'll take me over.
I've had times where I'veallowed it to cripple me.
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I've had times where I'veallowed it to cripple me.
I look at this year and I'mlike how much of this time have
I been spending in shame, askingmyself why?
What did I do?
Am I not good at this?
Am I pushing people away?
Am I making the right move?
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Do I even deserve this?
I should have just stayed inthe coal mines and been a good
old boy, and who was I to everthink that I could?
You find yourself caught up inthat.
And then it expands and nextthing you know, all you're
seeing is that Whatever you feed, it grows.
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So you've got to take that,you've got to be able to shift
it, because think about this toshift it, because think, think
about this.
For me personally, the mostgrowth that I have ever had has
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always come through pain.
Right, you think about yourbodybuilding.
How do you grow your muscles?
You tear them down and then yourefuel and you rebuild them.
Everything, everything is.
It works like that, I think, alot of times you know same thing
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in bodybuilding, right?
It's like if you're you knowyou're getting stronger when
you're getting resistance.
I could look back over this week, over this year, and I could
say, man, maybe this isn't forme, maybe I'm not supposed to be
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doing this, maybe I'm supposedto be doing something different,
something easier, somethingthat's not going to take so much
time and energy.
Maybe that's what I'm supposedto be doing, because a lot of us
do it, right?
We look at resistance and wethink to ourselves maybe I
shouldn't be doing this thingbecause I'm getting so much
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resistance from it.
I look at this week man, maybeI shouldn't be, maybe I
shouldn't be doing this becausewe're getting sick.
There's all these problemscoming up, or maybe that's the
confirmation that that's exactlywhat I should be doing, right?
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People leaving my organization,quitting, walking away you know
so many people do it withouteven having a conversation with
me.
That's one of the hardestthings to like get through.
When you you spend so much time, energy, money, resources on
somebody and when they decidethey've they've had enough, they
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don't even talk, they don'teven have a conversation with
you.
It's like you don't feel muchlower than scum at that point,
cause it's like damn, I neverwalked away from something
without taking it on the chin alittle bit, having a
conversation at least, like youknow, and having that, that exit
, and I have people do it to meall the time and it beats me up.
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It beats me up Cause I'm likeman is this?
Is it something about the waythat I receive things?
Is it something about the waythat, you know, I?
I perceive them Like what is it?
Why do they?
Why why do they feel like theycan't just come have a
conversation with me?
Because I never get mad, Inever get even.
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I said I got frustrated thisweek.
I didn't.
You know that was planned.
I wasn't even pissed.
Really, I'm just trying to seta pattern, interrupt.
But what, if maybe all of thosethings?
Is this resistance and thispushback no different than when
you're bodybuilding, right?
The resistance is what makesyou stronger, right?
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If it was always easy, youain't going to get no stronger,
you're not going to grow size.
It's that resistance is whatyou need to look for Now.
That's not saying self-sabotage, but it is saying that, hey, if
you're getting resistance, Ithink that's a good thing.
I think that means that you'reheading in the right direction,
because a lot of people quitwhen they get resistance.
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They quit, they give up.
Ah, it's too hard, I'm notsupposed to be doing it.
Man, how much wasted talent isout there because people just
quit when they get a littleresistance.
Something to think about.
Take that shame, take thatguilt.
People just quit when they geta little resistance, something
to think about.
Right, take that shame, takethat guilt.
In those moments, just be ableto remove yourself, just slow
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down.
I find myself doing all thetime I'm like trying to move so
damn fast and I get overwhelmedand I'm frustrated and I'm
living out of fear and I'mliving out of shame.
But whenever I just slow downlike that's why I like shooting
podcasts or shooting content Alot of times it just forces me
to breathe, slow down a littleand actually say, man, like you
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know, all this sucks.
It's been a rough week, a lotof bullshit.
Rough week, a lot of bullshit.
But, man, I get to like sit ina studio on a friday with
cameras and podcast studio andmicrophones, and I get to like
shoot this and then I literallygive it to somebody and they
upload it, and then I gave it tosomebody else and they put it
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on youtube or whatever, makecontent out of it.
It's like that.
That's a pretty cool life, man.
There was a time in my life I'dhave done anything to be able to
have these luxuries and just inthat moment it's like immediate
energy shift.
I feel myself change and Irecognize that, like damn, I've
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been living in this guilt, thisfear, this shame vibration for
months and what has it done forme?
It's only, it's just attractednegative, because there's these
things that I've been fightingand battling and holding onto,
like they're the things thatdefine me and they're not Right.
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The things that we overcome arethe evidence of the things that
we've been through.
That's what makes you who youare, that's what makes you
strong, and it's being able tobe aware of what are the things
that give you energy.
Do more of those things and putpeople around you that have
unique abilities in the areasthat you don't, so that
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everyone's operating at thislevel and check in, make sure
your people are good and beingable to just take that time and
just slow down a little bit andlook around and be like man, you
know when shit's hitting thefan and shit ain't good.
What can you be grateful forRight?
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Rough week, questioningeverything, fortunate enough to
have a you know, a hundredmillion dollar CEO mentor of
mine that's willing to come inand talk to me, myself and my
team and share perspective forthree hours on a Friday Wow, I
mean, there's people that payhundreds of thousands of dollars
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for that.
I have access to it at a textmessage.
Why don't I leverage thatenough?
Because I feel like I don'tdeserve it, because I'm, I'm,
I'm in this low vibrationBecause I'm in this low
vibration.
So I hope that this was helpfulto some extent today.
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I know there's a lot of all overthe place, but think about that
.
Think about that in your ownlife.
Are you beating yourself up formistakes that you made when you
didn't have any other options?
Maybe didn't have any otheroptions, maybe, and can you?
Can you slow down in thesemoments and focus on the things
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to be grateful for Right andjust shift that perspective,
right.
All of this negative, all ofthese bad things, man, it's not
about what they, you know.
It's not about why is thishappening to me?
It's, what is this doing for me?
Who is this making me to become?
And then, you know, startfocusing on creating certainty,
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right, or whatever is going tohelp you start to create that
positive momentum, because it'sgoing to, it's really easy to
fall back into it.
And so it's, it's, it's, it's amajor thing to focus and say,
like man, even if it's, uh, youknow, a daily wins, right, uh,
something that that Ryan hadshared with us, he said, you
know, at the end of the day,take 20 minutes and just write
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down, like, what are threethings I'm grateful for today
and what are three things that Iwish, wish would have went
differently?
Don't, don't dive into the why.
It's, just saying that, likeman, I wish this job wouldn't
have turned into a clusterfuck,right?
And then, what are three thingsthat you're going to focus on
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tomorrow?
If you can do that consistently, day over day, and stack these
wins and stack the certainty,and stay in the vibration,
success is not a matter of if,it's a matter of when.
Reckless CEO out.
Thank you.
It's so hard to act.
Reckless, more jewelry, moreLouis V my mama couldn't get
through to me.
Welcome back to the RecklessCEO podcast, back-to-back weeks.
I'm excited, you know, catchinga little momentum.
I think that's the key toeverything right Is that you got
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to get momentum.
Momentum makes things move.
Momentum makes things easier toovercome, easier to deal with,
and I am excited about today.
Um, first off, I'm just excitedto be, you know, um, back back
in the, the, the studio,consistently, back to um, you
know, creating contentconsistently.
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That has been one of my uh,biggest focal points points
since coming back from Hermosi'sevent there a couple weeks ago,
I just realized that it's oneof those things that's weird.
Right, because you've got and Ilook at a business there's kind
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of two sides to the way you getyour business out there.
Right, you've got one side,which is your marketing right,
and marketing is going to belike that's an ROI spend, that's
a.
I know that if I put X intothis, I get X back.
It's kind of that investor lens.
And then you've got yourbranding right and branding is
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really it's the brand, it's thepresence, it's kind of marketing
that you don't necessarily havea direct way to measure an ROI
on it.
But it's also it's hard to say.
You can't say that it's moreimportant than marketing,
because marketing is the thingthat creates the revenue, but I
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mean, branding is the thing thatscales it and makes it
omnipresent, if you will.
And so you know it's been funto get back into and just see
some of the momentum swings.
You know, even in my own life,right, you know, I've been, I've
been very into kind of likefiguring out, like what is it
the thing that makes me tick,what is the thing that is my
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unique ability, the thing thatyou know makes me the most
excited?
And really, for me, that'scontent.
Like, I love to create it, Ilove to make it, and so I'm
excited for today.
Today I got a good story foryou.
So let's start out.
This week was how do I say this?
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This week was a shit show.
It was probably I meanobviously, anyone that listened
to last week's podcast, you knowyou're kind of aware of
everything that's going on.
It's been, you know, a very agrowth year for me and and this
week did not disappoint, and itwas no different than that.
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So let's start out on Tuesday.
I believe it was Tuesday or no.
No, previous to that, actuallyit was Monday.
So, you know, coming over theweekend, you know I have, like I
shared, I've been frustratedwith the company, right, and
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just because of what I haveallowed to be okay.
I know that in order to begreat at anything, in order to
achieve the highest level ofyourself or a business or sports
, whatever it is, you know youhave to especially Indian, when
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you're in a team environment,you need to act as a team, you
need to show up as a team, youneed to support each other as a
team.
You got to know that in orderto do, you know you can go.
You can get there fast byyourself.
You can go far with people andI am, you know the.
You know I'm extremely aware ofthat.
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You know I have done nothingbut play sports and things for
majority of my life and so Iknow that this is the thing that
makes teams successful.
You know, it's the thing thatbrings them together, it's the
training, it's the blood, sweatand tears that's involved in
growing something great.
And you know, over this lastyear I think, I just I don't
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know I felt that I let peopletell me directions and things
that you know I wasn'tnecessarily for, but I also felt
that maybe this, maybe I wasn'tright all the time and maybe
that there's other ways for itto be done regardless.
Um, you know, takeaway on thatis if it's your thing, make it
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your thing right and do it theway that you want to do it.
Um, because I feel that I gotto a point where I'm just like
I'm looking around and I'm like,man, we got a bunch of
motherfuckers half in.
We got a bunch of motherfuckersthat are just doing their own
thing, making their own rules,not fucking following the
standard, not fucking committingto shit, and it's just like you
know what I'm done.
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I am fucking done with it.
It's not something I'm going tostand for anymore.
I don't care if I'm the onlymotherfucker left here.
I am not going to operate likethis, because I know what it
takes to be successful.
I'm not saying I'm the mostsuccessful person, but I've
played sports at a high level,I've ran a business, I've
competed bodybuilding at a highlevel, I've done a lot of things
and got into the 1%, and I knowthat in order to get there, it
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takes commitment, it takesdiscipline, it takes all of
these things.
It takes certainty we're goingto get into that, and if you're
not doing those things, thenyou're, you're fucking up and
coming into this week.
I was feeling like that still,and so I go into Mondays.
Or we have our all teamsmeeting on on Monday, which is,
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you know, everybody in the teamcomes in and kind of same shit
again.
Right, we're sitting there andit's just like going through the
motions and everyone's justnodding their head and it's just
, I was sitting, sitting as a asa spectator, watching and just
grinding my teeth at what'sgoing on and it's like, no, well
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, no wonder we're not hittinggoals, no wonder we're not doing
the things that, um, you knowwe should be doing is because
this is how we're fuckingshowing up.
Right, how you do one thing ishow you do everything.
So if you're not pushingyourself and pushing everybody
around you, then you're gonna,you ain't gonna change nothing,
and so that's Monday.
So then we come into Tuesday,and so Tuesday is our Tuesday is
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our leadership meeting.
And you know I'm prepping forit Monday evening, kind of
recapping the Monday meeting.
And you know, it just clicks tome on Monday evening and I'm
like you know what, I am notgoing to just go into another
leadership meeting, say the samedamn shit, get the same damn
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results, like I'm done, I'm donewith it, bro, every single
person has made mistakes,including myself.
Um, you know, we've all.
Last week we had our leadershipbook club and you know it's all
about extreme ownership andhave each other's backs and
being a team core at theleadership level.
And then monday just wasbasically blown out the door
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again and I'm like you know what?
No, I'm done with this shit.
And so you know, and that's thefunny thing about, uh, you know,
when you're a CEO is that, um,you know, no one, you don't
really fucking know what's rightor wrong, right, like you don't
know what is actually the thingthat's going to work or the
thing that's not going to work.
And so in my mind I'm like I'mgoing to go in there fucking
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Tuesday and I'm going to blowthe fuck up and I'm going to let
them know that I am pissed andI that I am irritated and that I
am not going to stand for thisanymore.
And you know cause in my mindI'm like that's what it takes
Sometimes.
I need a good pattern interruptto just break the pattern and
be like all right, yeah, fuck,open my eyes up, let's go here.
So I do that, and you know itwas methodical, it wasn't
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something I just like lost mymind over.
Right, I had planned it out,right, I'm like I'm going to go
in, we're going to go around thecircle, we're going to give our
wins when it comes to me.
You know it wasn't like out ofa hothead kind of perspective,
which they didn't know any ofthis.
This is just me, you knowgaming it.
And you know I'm like I'm goingto.
When they get to me, I'm goingto say you know what?
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No, I don't really have anywins because I'm sick of the way
that all of this is, in the waythat we're showing up, in the
way that this whole thing isfucking going down right now.
I'm not happy with it.
And so I do that.
I kind of blow up, I go aroundthe table to each leader and
it's like here's what you didwrong, here's what you did wrong
, here's what you did wrong,here's what you did wrong,
here's what I'm doing wrong.
Listen, this isn't me on asoapbox, this is me just being
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really fucking honest witheverybody here.
Guys, this has to change right,we're letting people half show
up, we're okay with it.
You know, and that's the hardpart when you run, you know,
with a roofing company orsomething like that, where it's
like you got a bunch of 1099sales guys because really they
don't have to do anything right,they can kind of just do their
own thing.
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You can't really hold them to aschedule, hold them to a
commitment, but if you work forme, it's like, yeah, it's
voluntold right.
It's like, yeah, you don't haveto do that thing, but if you
don't do it, we're not gonnastay long, which I have, you
know, allowed that mediocrity toto creep in, and and that's the
thing.
Sorry, I got a lot of tangentsgoing on, but, um, you know, I
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think it was nick saban saysthat you know the you can never
have elite people and averagepeople on the same team, because
the average people are going tobring down the elite people and
the elite people are going tobe frustrated about the average
people are going to bring downthe elite people and the elite
people are going to befrustrated by the average people
and that they're going tobecome the sum, really, of the
average, because elite's notgoing to hang around there
anymore.
And so, that being said, I'mtelling the guys what do we got
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to do?
We got to change this thing.
So I blow up, get mad, I stormout and before I'd gone into the
meeting, I wrote a list of justall the issues like this thing.
Like we said we were going todo this.
We didn't do it.
We said we're going to do this.
We didn't do it.
We said we're going to like all, just a list of all the issues
that I know that we've discussedat this, all this leadership
meeting, multiple times and havenot, you know, overcome it, and
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you know.
And then I also said you knowthey're not showing up, right,
they, they might be there andthat's the hard part too, right,
one one being a, uh, one of ourtop producers, and you know.
But again, I always use sportsas kind of a, an analogy,
because so, so comparable.
But like, think about if you'veever played sports and you, you
know you had a guy on your team.
It was like the, the, thenumber one guy, right, best
running back or best quarterback, you know, best wide receiver,
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and, like you know, everybodykind of gravitated towards them
because they were so good and itwas so effortless, but they
felt like they didn't have toshow up to anything else.
They could just kind of be ontheir own time.
And you know that gets you far,but it what it starts to do is
erode the control and standardsof everybody else.
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Because if the guy that does youknow the best or the best
player, doesn't have to show upto anything, then why would?
Why would anybody else have toshow up to anything?
Right?
And the thing is, is noteverybody is superstars, right?
You've got your 99% of peoplethat aren't that, that actually
need structure, that needconsistency, that need to have
standards In order for them tothrive.
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They need that certainty.
Where you got guys that arereally good, they don't really
need those things.
But you know, allowing that tocontinue to happen is will
destroy a sports team or even acompany.
Right?
You hear those stories of likeman, I had to get, you had this
one guy that was really good andhad to get rid of them, and you
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know it was something I held onto.
And the next thing, you know,the whole team comes together
when that's kind of where Iwould say we were in our app,
right, and so in that meetingI'm like, dude, I'm not going to
stand for anymore.
You know, I'm going to makechanges.
If people aren't willing tocommit all the way, then I don't
want them.
I don't want them to be here,because all it does is create
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disorganization, it createsinconsistency and it just
doesn't work.
I know it doesn't work and I'mfrustrated with myself that I
allowed it to just go because,for fear of losing everything I
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don't know, right, you, you, youknow, you, you you tell
yourself these stories of justlike, ah, man, like I can't say
anything because if we lose them, then we're not going to, you
know, and it's all this stuff,they're going to go out and
they're going to talk shit, andit's like, end of the day, it
doesn't fucking make adifference.
And so I tell them that I say,listen, if they don't show up,
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I'm going to reach out to them.
They can decide.
If they decide to not, you know, do what I'm asking, then I'm
going to let them go.
And so, you know, followingthat meeting on Tuesday, I had
three people reached out to.
All three of them, you know,basically, were like yeah, we're
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not, we don't, we don't.
Just, I guess they don't seethe value in it, right, they
don't want to commit and go, allin, all, right, cool.
Then on Wednesday I get anupdate and one of my leaders
decided that they were going toresign as well.
Okay, and so that it led methrough the week.
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That led me into wednesday.
Then on wednesday I find outthat a job that we did, that we
had to, um, basically there's anissue on the color this, and
that we had to tear the, youknow, tear the roof off and then
go do it again.
Well, then we couldn't find thematerials and there was just
like all these issues, right.
And then, you know, to add toit, on Wednesday as well, a
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pop-up storm came through andlike out of nowhere, right,
there was like nothing on theradar and I was on a storm, hit
on another, on another job, andbasically it rained and it
rained inside the house and itgot the inside of the house wet
and whole issue there too.
And so this is just all thisshit that's going on.
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I hit a point on I think it wasWednesday night and I'm just
like what the fuck is going on,man, like this has been just
crazy.
When I look back over this lastyear, I'm like this has gone
nothing like the way I thoughtit was going to go.
It has been probably the mostdifficult time that I've ever
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had while running a business Ihave been.
I've never been more insecure,I've never been more unsure, and
you know, and it's just all ofthese things, man, it's just
been another fucking week ofjust getting it right, and you
know, and so, to test to say allthis, you know, I reached out
to a mentor of mine on um, youknow, wednesday or Thursday, and
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I was like hey, man, like whatdo you think about coming in and
just talking to the team?
All right, come in and justtalking to us, man, and you know
we need, we need some new, newlife, new, new.
We need some new blood.
Man, like you know he's he'sRyan's a very smart individual
and he knows how to, you know,help motivate people.
You could say everybody, that's, you know, still left.
(15:54):
He says he says, hey guys, youknow, send me, you know, the two
or three things in your lifethat are, you know, your biggest
struggles.
Send me the two or three thingsyou know inside your, your role
, that are your biggeststruggles.
And then two or three thingsthat inside you know CRC itself
that you would like to see, youknow improved.
(16:14):
And so you know he he kind oftakes all of that in and you
know improved, and so you knowhe kind of takes all of that in.
And he comes in this morning andyou know he starts talking to
us through this story and, youknow, sharing all of the all
this stuff with us and it justincredible stuff and I wish I
could, you know, roll it backoff to you verbatim, but no, you
know I'm not, I'm not there yet, but you, but I want to go over
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some of the stuff that heshared with us that was really
insightful and really likeeverything that I think I needed
and I think that a lot of usneeded, and so much of it just
revolves around yourself.
You know yourself, right,there's so much power in the
mind, right, your, your mind isyour, it's your most valuable
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asset, right, it's it's thething that you know creates your
reality, right.
And so I think so often we, wedon't realize that we're, we're
in control of so many of thethings that you know we're
experiencing, right.
And you know, one of the thingsthat he had talked about was
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that, you know, when he wasgrowing up, his stepdad had or
stepdad or dad had, you know,abused him to to some extent and
just did some things that youknow really affected him.
He talked about how you know,when his you know, as he you
know, resented his mother for alot of that for so long.
And you know, he said but thething that I've realized is that
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you know every single likechallenge or you know obstacle
or like negative thing that hashappened to you, you know it can
honestly become a positivething over time, right, so many
of the negative things that havehappened to you.
(18:08):
Tony Robbins talks about it aswell.
He says you know, I think it'son one of his YouTube shows
there or something on Netflixthere.
And you know he's talking tothis daughter and you know she's
like, oh, I hate my dad forthis and I hate my dad for that,
and you know.
Then he asked her he's like,well, what are you doing?
You know where are you at inyour life today?
And she's like, oh, well, likeyou know, I'm successful and I
(18:29):
got this and that you know.
And he's like let me, let meask you something.
He said if you can find the, thestrength right or the power to
hate somebody for everythingthey did to you that was
negative, then you have to findthe way.
If you can blame them for allof those negatives, then you
(18:51):
have to find the way to blamethem for the positives too,
because in those, in the momentswhen these things are happening
, first off, you know everybodyis doing their best with the
playbook they've been given,right, I?
I believe that that most peopleare inherently good or want to
be good.
Now, there are a few, you know,people out there that are just
(19:14):
demonic to an extent, but Ibelieve that most people are
good and they and they want tobe good, but they're only
they're.
They're they're trying to dothe best they can with the
resources and the experiencesthat they have.
Right, you know what he said.
He's like, you know, as I, as Igot older, I realized, I
realized that you know my, youknow my mom was like very torn
(19:38):
because she had her insecuritiesfrom when her, you know.
You know that she didn't wantto be left and and you know, and
she didn't know whether todefend me or defend him or you
know vice versa, and he's like,but you know what it did, was it
, you know, drove me out of myhouse by the time I was 17,.
I moved away.
You know, and you know it, itkind of I, I, it really was the
(19:59):
foundation that I can look backnow and say that I built, I
built my success on, and, and Ithink that's such a powerful
thing, right, is that in, in, init's so much of perspective
because, you know, I thinkeverything can actually be good
when, when you give it longenough, right, when you give it
long enough to be able to lookback and understand the why, or
(20:20):
understand, maybe, how it'saffected you and and you know,
maybe, the things that you'veactually been able to achieve
and the thing that you havetoday because of that and so
that that was a really powerfulthing and it's cause, you know,
with this week and all of thebullshit that we had go down, um
, you know, I was talking to mybrother and my brother it just
(20:40):
he's been with us now for a yearand a half.
Um, not sure if I've talked alot about this, but you know I'm
from Wheeling.
My, uh, my, my family was allstill from Wheeling and you know
I moved up here eight, nineyears ago and my brother was an
iron worker but super, supersmart kid engineer, just very
(21:01):
intelligent.
He was always the brains like Iwas it's not my wheelhouse, you
know and I was like man.
I would love for the day to beable to get you up here and, you
know, have you, be a part ofall of this, and you know what a
dream that would be to be ableto build with your brother and,
you know, with my niece, and gota niece on the way, and just
like that.
That.
That to me, is so much of themy purpose and why is is those
(21:26):
kinds of things Right?
And so, um, about a year and ahalf ago, almost two years,
probably, a year and a half ago,um, you know he was got laid
off from the iron workers for alittle bit.
And so you know, he reached outto me and I said, dude, come up
, just let's come up and crashwith me for, you know, a couple
of weeks and see if you like it.
You know you don't got to makea commitment, just check it out,
(21:47):
right.
And so you know he comes up andhe opens up.
You know then he's different,but you know, from an outside
perspective he's, he's prettyshy, kind of keeps to himself.
And you know I throw him intosales and it was the first time
he's like negotiating andtalking to people and selling
(22:07):
things.
And then, you know, from salesI throw him into quality control
and from quality control I sendthem into project management
and then you know all the thingsthat have happened this year.
You know he ends up in likeproduction and operations and so
you know he has, you know, inthe last year, like pretty much
seen every position of thecompany and with no real
(22:28):
playbook, right, you knownothing to really train himself
on, to even you know kind ofknow really what's going on.
And so I, you know he's reallyjust done it all as we've gone,
and so you know I watched thethings that happened this week.
He was, you know, beatinghimself up for you know, issues
(22:49):
that have gone down.
And you know him and I comefrom obviously a similar
background, different, differentdads, same mom, but close to it
.
There's just we grew up similarright and and so, um, and I
used to do this to myself andand Ryan had had shared this
with me before because Iremember I'd I made a mistake in
(23:10):
business, whether I, you know,invested in the wrong thing or
tried this thing, and you knowit didn't work out.
And you know and in thosemoments it's like you do what
you got to do with the resourcesand the knowledge that you have
.
And you know, obviously, then,depending on how it transpires,
you know three, four, five, sixmonths or a year down the road.
(23:32):
You know now maybe you'redealing with those repercussions
of that mistake that you made.
And you know, I think, so oftenyou know now maybe you're
dealing with those, thoserepercussions of the of that
mistake that you made.
And you know, I think, so oftenyou know we, we, we beat
ourselves up for it.
Right, I know for myself, likethat's kind of how I grew up.
It was like man, you fucked up,like you knew, you got, let
know, and, and, and you, you,you hold onto that because it's
(23:54):
you know, it's one of thosethings where you know throughout
your life when you make amistake, you know you don't, you
know when you're young or youdon't have this perspective,
shift right To like understandthat you know everything is, you
know vibrations, everything islike you're the level of you
(24:14):
know consciousness, the levelthat you're, you know vibrating
on right, and you know, when itcomes to, you know, fear or
guilt, or shame, right, likethose things are on the lowest,
the lowest, the lowest vibration, right, they're like the lowest
that you can go.
And so often you know, you seeone thing happen, then another
(24:37):
thing happens and another, andit's like all these negative
things keep happening.
And so when you experiencethese things and you're beating
yourself up over it, you knowit's it's all you're doing is
like prolonging the pain for noreason, right?
I told Lane that the other day Isaid, bro, I'm like dude, I
know that you made a mistake,bro, people make mistakes all
(24:59):
the time.
Like is this shit?
Like we?
And the thing is, it'sconstruction, right, I always
say that, man, it's construction.
There's going to be 99 things,a hundred things are going on,
and you know 99 of them ain'tgoing right.
That's the way that it goessometimes, right.
And so you know, I think it'sjust, it's that perspective of
understanding that, like,nothing is that serious Right
(25:20):
now, a lot of times inconstruction, when something
goes wrong, you've got a pissedoff homeowner and so you're
trying and they're like rippingyour head off about it and you
can't really say anythingbecause it's their house and you
did fuck up, and so you knowyou're going through this and
you're just beating yourself upfor it because you're like I
need to.
You know, as we get older, noone like holds us, like we're
held accountable, but it's notlike when you're a kid and you
(25:41):
fuck up and your parents arelike go to your room and think
about what you've done Right.
When you're an adult, no one'sreally telling you to do that
and so you're not being punished.
Therefore, you feel like youneed to punish yourself.
Therefore, you feel like youneed to punish yourself, and
maybe, maybe no one else hasexperienced this and it's just
me.
But I do that, right, I make amistake and you know I don't
(26:03):
have someone to punish me now,and so when I do it, you know, I
dwell on it, I beat myself upon it, I I will call myself you
know everything but a white manright, right, I will just
demoralize myself, becausethat's what I was used to, right
(26:24):
, because it was like you made amistake.
No one's there to kind ofpunish you, so you need to
punish yourself until youunderstand what you did, right.
That's the most ridiculous thingwhen you think about it from
this lens, it's the mostridiculous thing.
Why would you punish yourself?
(26:45):
You don't deserve punishment.
You made a mistake, right?
Is it going to change life?
We're literally this littlespeck in this universe and it's
like we're gonna.
We have this finite amount oftime on this earth and we're
(27:06):
going to spend it in shame andguilt and fear because we made a
mistake.
You can't do that.
You learned, I think, that whenit comes to that side of it,
(27:26):
it's like as long as you're Ilook at it like this it's like
as long as your heart was in agood place and you're not doing
something to be manip,manipulative or to, you know,
tear somebody down.
Dude, it's a mistake.
You're going to make a hundredmore of them and the thing is is
how fast can you bounce backfrom it?
Because you know when you thinkabout the, you know where fear
(27:52):
and shame and guilt are on thisvibration scale.
You know when you're in that,when you're at that level, when
you're at that vibration andyou're beating yourself up and
you're ashamed of yourself andyou're hating yourself, no
wonder more shit happens,because you're asking for it to
happen, you're attracting it,you're bringing it to you,
(28:12):
you're choosing to do that toyourself and in those moments, I
know it's not easy to pullyourself out of it, right, and
to look at it from a differentlens or to find anything to be
grateful for in that minute, inthat moment.
Right, I've learned that youknow, whatever I feed grows.
(28:34):
Think about that.
Whatever I feed grows.
If I feed that negative andshameful and fear, oh man, it'll
eat me, it'll take me over.
I've had times where I'veallowed it to cripple me.
(28:59):
I've had times where I'veallowed it to cripple me.
I look at this year and I'mlike how much of this time have
I been spending in shame, askingmyself why?
What did I do?
Am I not good at this?
Am I pushing people away?
Am I making the right move?
(29:27):
Do I even deserve this?
I should have just stayed inthe coal mines and been a good
old boy, and who was I to everthink that I could?
You find yourself caught up inthat.
And then it expands and nextthing you know, all you're
seeing is that Whatever you feed, it grows.
(29:48):
So you've got to take that,you've got to be able to shift
it, because think about this toshift it, because think, think
about this.
For me personally, the mostgrowth that I have ever had has
(30:09):
always come through pain.
Right, you think about yourbodybuilding.
How do you grow your muscles?
You tear them down and then yourefuel and you rebuild them.
Everything, everything is.
It works like that, I think, alot of times you know same thing
(30:30):
in bodybuilding, right?
It's like if you're you knowyou're getting stronger when
you're getting resistance.
I could look back over this week, over this year, and I could
say, man, maybe this isn't forme, maybe I'm not supposed to be
(30:51):
doing this, maybe I'm supposedto be doing something different,
something easier, somethingthat's not going to take so much
time and energy.
Maybe that's what I'm supposedto be doing, because a lot of us
do it, right?
We look at resistance and wethink to ourselves maybe I
shouldn't be doing this thingbecause I'm getting so much
(31:12):
resistance from it.
I look at this week man, maybeI shouldn't be, maybe I
shouldn't be doing this becausewe're getting sick.
There's all these problemscoming up, or maybe that's the
confirmation that that's exactlywhat I should be doing, right?
(31:36):
People leaving my organization,quitting, walking away you know
so many people do it withouteven having a conversation with
me.
That's one of the hardestthings to like get through.
When you you spend so much time, energy, money, resources on
somebody and when they decidethey've they've had enough, they
(31:57):
don't even talk, they don'teven have a conversation with
you.
It's like you don't feel muchlower than scum at that point,
cause it's like damn, I neverwalked away from something
without taking it on the chin alittle bit, having a
conversation at least, like youknow, and having that, that exit
, and I have people do it to meall the time and it beats me up.
(32:22):
It beats me up Cause I'm likeman is this?
Is it something about the waythat I receive things?
Is it something about the waythat, you know, I?
I perceive them Like what is it?
Why do they?
Why why do they feel like theycan't just come have a
conversation with me?
Because I never get mad, Inever get even.
(32:43):
I said I got frustrated thisweek.
I didn't.
You know that was planned.
I wasn't even pissed.
Really, I'm just trying to seta pattern, interrupt.
But what, if maybe all of thosethings?
Is this resistance and thispushback no different than when
you're bodybuilding, right?
The resistance is what makesyou stronger, right?
(33:04):
If it was always easy, youain't going to get no stronger,
you're not going to grow size.
It's that resistance is whatyou need to look for Now.
That's not saying self-sabotage, but it is saying that, hey, if
you're getting resistance, Ithink that's a good thing.
I think that means that you'reheading in the right direction,
because a lot of people quitwhen they get resistance.
(33:26):
They quit, they give up.
Ah, it's too hard, I'm notsupposed to be doing it.
Man, how much wasted talent isout there because people just
quit when they get a littleresistance.
Something to think about.
Take that shame, take thatguilt.
People just quit when they geta little resistance, something
to think about.
Right, take that shame, takethat guilt.
In those moments, just be ableto remove yourself, just slow
(33:51):
down.
I find myself doing all thetime I'm like trying to move so
damn fast and I get overwhelmedand I'm frustrated and I'm
living out of fear and I'mliving out of shame.
But whenever I just slow downlike that's why I like shooting
podcasts or shooting content Alot of times it just forces me
to breathe, slow down a littleand actually say, man, like you
(34:14):
know, all this sucks.
It's been a rough week, a lotof bullshit.
Rough week, a lot of bullshit.
But, man, I get to like sit ina studio on a friday with
cameras and podcast studio andmicrophones, and I get to like
shoot this and then I literallygive it to somebody and they
upload it, and then I gave it tosomebody else and they put it
(34:35):
on youtube or whatever, makecontent out of it.
It's like that.
That's a pretty cool life, man.
There was a time in my life I'dhave done anything to be able to
have these luxuries and just inthat moment it's like immediate
energy shift.
I feel myself change and Irecognize that, like damn, I've
(34:55):
been living in this guilt, thisfear, this shame vibration for
months and what has it done forme?
It's only, it's just attractednegative, because there's these
things that I've been fightingand battling and holding onto,
like they're the things thatdefine me and they're not Right.
(35:19):
The things that we overcome arethe evidence of the things that
we've been through.
That's what makes you who youare, that's what makes you
strong, and it's being able tobe aware of what are the things
that give you energy.
Do more of those things and putpeople around you that have
unique abilities in the areasthat you don't, so that
(35:40):
everyone's operating at thislevel and check in, make sure
your people are good and beingable to just take that time and
just slow down a little bit andlook around and be like man, you
know when shit's hitting thefan and shit ain't good.
What can you be grateful forRight?
(36:03):
Rough week, questioningeverything, fortunate enough to
have a you know, a hundredmillion dollar CEO mentor of
mine that's willing to come inand talk to me, myself and my
team and share perspective forthree hours on a Friday Wow, I
mean, there's people that payhundreds of thousands of dollars
(36:25):
for that.
I have access to it at a textmessage.
Why don't I leverage thatenough?
Because I feel like I don'tdeserve it, because I'm, I'm,
I'm in this low vibrationBecause I'm in this low
vibration.
So I hope that this was helpfulto some extent today.
(36:47):
I know there's a lot of all overthe place, but think about that
.
Think about that in your ownlife.
Are you beating yourself up formistakes that you made when you
didn't have any other options?
Maybe didn't have any otheroptions, maybe, and can you?
Can you slow down in thesemoments and focus on the things
(37:09):
to be grateful for Right andjust shift that perspective,
right.
All of this negative, all ofthese bad things, man, it's not
about what they, you know.
It's not about why is thishappening to me?
It's, what is this doing for me?
Who is this making me to become?
And then, you know, startfocusing on creating certainty,
(37:32):
right, or whatever is going tohelp you start to create that
positive momentum, because it'sgoing to, it's really easy to
fall back into it.
And so it's, it's, it's, it's amajor thing to focus and say,
like man, even if it's, uh, youknow, a daily wins, right, uh,
something that that Ryan hadshared with us, he said, you
know, at the end of the day,take 20 minutes and just write
(37:53):
down, like, what are threethings I'm grateful for today
and what are three things that Iwish, wish would have went
differently?
Don't, don't dive into the why.
It's, just saying that, likeman, I wish this job wouldn't
have turned into a clusterfuck,right?
And then, what are three thingsthat you're going to focus on
(38:13):
tomorrow?
If you can do that consistently, day over day, and stack these
wins and stack the certainty,and stay in the vibration,
success is not a matter of if,it's a matter of when.
Reckless CEO out.
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