Catfishing, Creepy Dates, and College Confessions

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SPEAKER_03 (00:10):
The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.

SPEAKER_06 (00:24):
Welcome back to the Refreshingly Normal Podcast.
I am Kefla.

SPEAKER_02 (00:28):
I am Lucretia.

SPEAKER_06 (00:30):
And we are so excited to be back again.
This week has been a chill week.
We're on our fall break.

SPEAKER_02 (00:35):
Yeah.
Yeah, I've been chill but busy.

unknown (00:38):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (00:39):
Because we don't have to go to work.

SPEAKER_06 (00:40):
Right, right, right.
I mean, everything that we'vedone is what you have wanted to
do.

SPEAKER_02 (00:45):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (00:46):
You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 (00:47):
So well, according to this guy, we get to go to
work.

SPEAKER_06 (00:51):
That's right.
You get to go to work.
You don't say I have to go towork because there's a lot of
people that wish they could goto work.

SPEAKER_02 (00:57):
So we get to work.
I don't know if that sentenceworks that you said earlier.

SPEAKER_06 (01:02):
You still working, right?

SPEAKER_02 (01:03):
See, see, senor.

SPEAKER_06 (01:04):
Still able to pay the bills, right?
Still able to get your nailsdone, your hair done.
That's right.
So we get to go to work.
Oh, corn.
Exactly.
Um, so let's talk about uh whatyou know how we you like to
start off the week, you say.
What great thing has occurred inyour life this week that you

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would like to share?
Anything great, funny,shareable?
All right, I'll go ahead andtalk.
Um, because someone has thisidea we were gonna have a
podcast.

SPEAKER_02 (01:46):
I need a think time.

SPEAKER_06 (01:48):
So I'll start.

SPEAKER_02 (01:49):
Well, good.

SPEAKER_06 (01:50):
Uh of course we're on our break, and um we we you
know had a chance to go uh to myhometown in Foley, Alabama.
I mean the real LA, lowerAlabama, and uh had a good time
down there.
Um you know, seeing seeing myparents is always a good time.
It was hot.

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Hot.
I'm talking about like you couldcut it.
You know, the humidity isalready there because you're
close to the beach.
It was so freaking hot, man.
Um just crazy.
Um But we we went fishing, itwas too hot to fish.
I didn't I only caught a smallbass.
My mama caught a big one.
It was it was like uh a good,I'll say about maybe what, 14

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inches.
And that's about like this.
Nice size, nice size bass,probably a little bigger than,
yeah, nice size bass.
Um and on our property, and thenuh Kahari caught one, his uh
girlfriend caught one, but itwas small, she caught a small
fish.
Kahari small caught a small.

SPEAKER_02 (02:54):
Yeah, his was small too.

SPEAKER_06 (02:55):
Yeah.
And uh we got a chance to rideon the little, we didn't ride
the four-wheels this time, butwe rode the my dad's new toy,
which is what they call a mule,Kawasaki mule, it's like a
side-by-side, has a little look,look like a small truck.
So for his hunting stuff.
So we rode around there.
You and I rode, I took you on atour of the community, the

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commerity.

SPEAKER_02 (03:19):
First of all, he took me on a tour, y'all.
However, we've been married 22years.
I know the community, but whenhe rolled me around, I just act
like I didn't know all thethings.
But he's told me all the thingsbefore.
We went on a tour, though.
Keep going.

SPEAKER_06 (03:41):
Okay, so I I I think what she's trying to say is I
should I shouldn't repeatanything that I've already
stated before.

SPEAKER_02 (03:49):
But it was a nice tour because it was different
because we were on the meal.

SPEAKER_06 (03:54):
But I would definitely make a note that not
to repeat anything that I'vealready repeated to her.

SPEAKER_02 (04:02):
It was a lover's ride.

SPEAKER_06 (04:04):
So you know, we'll we'll we'll we'll yeah, middle
note.
So um we ran.
Well, you ran every day.
I didn't run one day.
Um it was hot.
Yeah, it was very hot.
So uh I was still trying to getmy lungs back conditioned.

SPEAKER_00 (04:26):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (04:26):
But uh I definitely couldn't run full.
That third day was hurting.
I could feel it in my left arm.
So that's a sign that I need tochill out.
Um and so I did.
But it was a good trip.
Um now the the key, I mean notthe key, one of the highlights
was on our way back when I wentand we stopped by Alabama State,

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old Mother Dear, and saw Kimani.
Um, we went into the bookstoreand ran into some um people who
were there, some um notteachers, but they worked in the
um student affairs and stufflike that.
Uh Miss Christberg.
Yeah, I forgot the othergentleman's name.

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And she was like, Yeah, Iremember you, Keith.
I was like oh, it felt good thatshe remembered me.
She said, You just didn't haveall that stuff on your face the
last time.
And so that's been like almost30 years since I've been there.
Uh well, 25 to be exact.
And so she uh said, I'm justhere because they got a sale on
in the bookstore.
And I was like, a sale thing in10% off.

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She said, no, 50%.
I said, 50%.
And you know, that stuff at thebookstore is expensive.
So I asked the guy, he said,yeah, 50% for the next 17
minutes until we closed.
And I turned around and I wentback and was getting idols just
half.

SPEAKER_02 (05:46):
Wait, wait, tell them how you really did it.
So that lady said, 50%.
You said 50%, and he just leftthat lady standing there.

SPEAKER_06 (05:54):
I didn't even say bye.

SPEAKER_02 (05:55):
He didn't even say bye.
He just went back and got allthe things.
Sorry, Miss Craigberry.
So I kept talking to her.
But he just left all out ofthere.

SPEAKER_06 (06:06):
I always want to get a lot of stuff because they have
some cool stuff sometimes.
But it's just crazy.
It's like the basketball jersey,the uh the cream color one that
they wore in the playoffs, was$90.
And I don't even have jerseys.
Every jersey that I have hasbeen given to me.
The only jersey I had was aDeion Sanders jersey that I

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bought when I worked at Starterback in college, and that was
like 93.
And so uh other than that, man,I don't I don't buy jersey, but
when I saw that one, I was like,90, oh, now it's 50%.
Oh, I went and got that one.
And uh that was a highlight ofmy day.
Um actually of my break rightnow, so I'm happy I got some
gear, some new gear, some uhbeanies and stuff like that.

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But uh other than that, whatelse?

SPEAKER_02 (06:55):
Um so my highlight, well, since you talked about uh
Foley, the only thing I'll addto Foley is like they do have
the rose, the antique rosegarden trail that you can run or
walk or or whatever.
We ran the trail, but along thetrail, we found a coffee shop.

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Oh yeah, and so um what's itcalled?
Uh Drowsy Poet, the Drowsy Poet.
Yeah, um, oh, it was so good, itwas so good.
We um so we ended up going thereevery day, but they have really
good espresso, like the flavoron it is so rich.

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I don't know where the beans arefrom, but I I believe they like
ground their own beans andeverything there, but it was so
good.

SPEAKER_06 (07:51):
So if you're ever in the Gulf Shores area off of um
McKenzie Street or Highway 59,yeah, go to the drowsy poet.

SPEAKER_02 (08:01):
The the ladies there were so sweet.
Um, but yeah, that is definitelymy new favorite coffee shop.
Yeah.
So anyway, that that was good.
But um, other than that,Saturday was our niece, which we
said last time.
Oh, yeah.
It was um Deja's birthday andher um what her daddy said

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turned into what?
Dirty 30.
Dirty 30.

SPEAKER_06 (08:29):
Dirty 30.

SPEAKER_02 (08:30):
Her daddy kept saying, baby, dirty 30.
Yeah.
So they had a um her boyfriendplaying the whole weekend with
her with surprise people fromout of town.
And um, so we had told her weweren't coming, and then we did
end up there.
So she was really surprised thatuh we had made it to her dinner
and everything.

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So um that was a good time tosee her so surprised and excited
for to see everybody that showedup for her, for her, um, to
celebrate her dirt third.

SPEAKER_06 (09:00):
Because the only people that were there in that
city were us.

SPEAKER_02 (09:05):
Yeah, that's true.

SPEAKER_06 (09:06):
That was the only people that were that were in
the city.
But I think that's how theyinvited the people.
Yeah, but I'm just saying that'sstill that there's a lot when
they come travel, you know.
Like the same thing when you didmy surprise party, and those
everybody came out.
Oh, from other places.
Yeah, that was that means a lot,yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (09:22):
Yeah, so some of her yeah, her line sisters came from
Alabama.
Right.
Um then her previous umcolleagues um just recently
started working somewhere else,and so she came from West
Virginia.
And so, anywho, she had um shehad a great time for her
birthday, and we had a greattime celebrating her.

SPEAKER_06 (09:43):
So yeah, and her um her colleagues set it up real
nice in the restaurant.
She had some cool little thingswith the uh they said she did
the the little stickers on thelemon.

SPEAKER_02 (09:52):
Yeah, there are stickers on the lemon that said
30th something.
Yeah, when we did the lemon.
Deja 30th for the lemon dropshots.
And yeah, she did a real goodjob.
She did, and then littlepictures of Deja when she was a
little girl on the tables andeverything.
So organized very well.
Um that's the first time I everlike been to a restaurant where

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it's like a party of people andthe waiters had the tickets down
packed.

SPEAKER_06 (10:17):
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Like there were no issues aboutwho was paying for what or eight
or more people, no split checks.
No, no, they were on it.
They were on it.
Split checks, everything.

SPEAKER_02 (10:27):
Yeah, and that was was MCK.

SPEAKER_06 (10:30):
Yes, MCK.

SPEAKER_02 (10:31):
And let me tell you also, the their drinks were very
good.
My whiskey sour.

SPEAKER_06 (10:38):
No, that was good.
Your whiskey sour was very good.

SPEAKER_02 (10:40):
So good.
Like sometimes you get a whiskeysour and you can't really taste
the whiskey.

SPEAKER_06 (10:44):
Yeah, I like to taste the first drink you had
was called the side chick.

SPEAKER_02 (10:48):
The side chick was very good.
That was bourbon, I think.

SPEAKER_06 (10:51):
Like some honey and stuff.
That was very good.

SPEAKER_02 (10:53):
That one was very good.
And my whiskey sour, they madeit with Sir Davis.
Yeah, and um, yeah, Sir Davis isthe good whiskey, anyways, but
um, they they did an excellentjob.
So, and I don't think everybodylike really loved their drink.
So, yeah, nobody complained.
Nobody complained.
So, um, and the food was goodtoo.
Yeah, so anywho, it's a greatlittle they are made for like

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birthday celebrations.
They got that down pat um largeparties celebrating something.
So if you are thinking of whereshould I go for my birthday,
that is a great place.
MCK, right in Buckhead.

SPEAKER_06 (11:27):
Yeah, small um establishment, intimate.
So you're not small though.
But I'm saying, like as when youthink of like birthday
celebrations in Atlanta, a lotof people are thinking the big
with the people coming with thecan't, you know, the Oh yeah,
yeah, yeah.
Nothing like that.
No, it's it's small and intimateto the point where you and your
party will be able to enjoy youand your party.

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Yeah, you're not being uh likeother people in your area.

SPEAKER_02 (11:52):
Oh, yeah, we didn't have that.
Right.
And very nice inside, very cute.
And uh they have a that bar waslarge.
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah, a long bar area.
Yeah.
So, anywho, that's what we did,and came back home, and now just
trying to get the last bit ofrelaxation before getting to go
back to work.

SPEAKER_06 (12:13):
And I'll save the other part of that for my side
out of the week.

SPEAKER_02 (12:18):
Okay.

SPEAKER_06 (12:19):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (12:19):
All right.

SPEAKER_06 (12:20):
So, but uh, yeah, we we get to go back to work uh
next week.

SPEAKER_00 (12:24):
Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_06 (12:25):
And uh looking forward to it, because I got I
start my IEP.
That's my first one.

SPEAKER_02 (12:30):
You're really looking forward to it?

SPEAKER_06 (12:32):
Yeah, because when I finish it, when I get that first
one out the way, then, you know,cardwells are dusted.
Oh.
And then I can handleeverything.
Because it's it's just gettingthe stuff in order, uh, you
know, meeting with the parentsand making sure that that uh
their kid gets what they need.
And and a lot of times, youknow, if if the kid is doing

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what they're supposed to do,those meetings are easy because
they already know.

SPEAKER_02 (12:58):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (12:58):
You know what I mean?
You know, it's they already knowwhat their kid needs.
They already, we've alreadydiscussed it in emails and stuff
like that.
So they they become just piecesof cake.
The hard part of uh is justmaking sure they're doing what
they're supposed to do.
That's it.
But uh so once I get that firstone, let's go.

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Let's go.
I got the rest of them.
All right.
What else?
What else?
Um, okay, so what have youwatched on television this week?

SPEAKER_02 (13:31):
Um, I have watched um Zatima.

SPEAKER_00 (13:37):
Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_02 (13:38):
Um that's like a spin-off of Sustas.
Yeah.
Tyler Perry.
It's the whole Tyler Perry week.
Yeah.
What is it called?

SPEAKER_06 (13:47):
Black Beauty or Beauty and Black.

SPEAKER_02 (13:49):
Beauty and Black.

SPEAKER_06 (13:50):
There's a lot going on with that.

SPEAKER_02 (13:51):
Yeah, so a second season of Beauty and Black, um,
watching that.
But today we watched WrongParis.
The wrong Paris.
The wrong Paris.

SPEAKER_06 (14:04):
The wrong Paris.

SPEAKER_02 (14:05):
I loved it.
It was so cute.
It was iCarly within there.

SPEAKER_06 (14:09):
She's all grown up now.

SPEAKER_02 (14:10):
Yeah, iCarly's all grown.

SPEAKER_06 (14:12):
And um, what's that girl?

SPEAKER_02 (14:13):
Yvonne Orgy.

SPEAKER_06 (14:15):
Yvonne Orgy, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (14:16):
Yeah.
That's a cute little chickflick.
I love chick flicks.
Um, just movies that just kindof make you smile.
And so, anywho, I watched that.
Um, those are about the onlythings that I watched this week
were those shows.
Yeah.
Um, because we didn't watch muchTV um out of town.

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Yeah.
Um, and we were just busy.
I mean, I don't we just watch weI just really feel like we don't
watch a lot of TV.
Now, I do watch a lot of TikTok.

SPEAKER_06 (14:50):
Yeah, we watch TikTok and Facebook is too
depressing.

SPEAKER_02 (14:55):
Yeah, Facebook is dreary.

SPEAKER_06 (14:58):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (14:58):
Cause you don't really, I don't feel like your
your algorithms get fixed asmuch on Facebook.
Like, like my Instagram andTikTok are all very light and
inspirational because those arethe things that I look at most.
Um, and so I'll get good quotesand good videos.
Um, so on my TikTok andInstagram, I know some people

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say you need to take a breakfrom your social media, but my
social media is algorithm, isall inspirational.
So it's actually uplifting forme.

SPEAKER_06 (15:32):
Yeah, mine is funny.
So I'm always watching bloopersand memes and stuff like that.
So that's what mine is, too.
I'll check mine out.
Yeah.
But like you said, Facebook isis depressing because it's all
you know political and and allthat kind of stuff.

SPEAKER_02 (15:49):
Nobody has time for that.

SPEAKER_06 (15:50):
No, you got to get off of that right now.

SPEAKER_02 (15:52):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (15:53):
You know, since you can't talk about it anyway, or
you lose your job, you mightlose your job.
I ain't trying to lose my job.
You about to lose your job.
I ain't trying to lose mine.
So um let's see.
What else?
What else?
What else?
Am I looking forward to watchinganything?
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (16:08):
Uh I am looking forward to a few things.

SPEAKER_06 (16:10):
What you looking forward to?

SPEAKER_02 (16:12):
I really want to, even though people said demonic
things about it, I really wantto watch Marlon Wayne's in him.
Yeah.
Because I just want to see howhe does in it.
Um, I I I just I don't know.
I'm not looking forward the deepdemonic part of it.
There he really says it's just amovie of good and evil.

SPEAKER_00 (16:32):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (16:33):
But I just want to see him.
His range.
His range.
Yeah, I I want to see his range.
Then I've seen a lot of of umthe previous press.
Press with Tiana Taylor.
That's what I was about to say.

SPEAKER_06 (16:48):
What is the name of that movie?

SPEAKER_02 (16:49):
I don't know.
I I do know, but I don't know.

SPEAKER_06 (16:51):
It has my favorite.
Regina Hall.
That's she's my favorite, justyeah.

SPEAKER_02 (16:55):
I don't know if she's if this personality, I
guess.
I don't think in this movie it'sfunny.
She's funny.
I'm not, I don't think, I'm notsure.
Maybe.
I don't know, but but I justlove her.
Her press has been funny.
Yeah, her press has beenhilarious.
Her press is definitely funny.
So I I do I do want to see umthat movie because I like Tiana

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Taylor.
I kind of want to see how shedoes with those actors.
Yeah.
Because um, she has LeonardoDiCaprio in it and Regina Hall
and some really good otheractors in there.
So I want to see how she has tostep her game up.

SPEAKER_06 (17:31):
It can't be like that little one police movie she
was in recently.

SPEAKER_02 (17:34):
I didn't even watch it.
That one are you talking about?
I didn't watch it.
I didn't watch that one.
Um, but yeah, I'm I'm I want tosee those two.
Those are two movies I want tosee.
What about you?

SPEAKER_06 (17:44):
And I I need to see some more killing.
I ain't seen no killing in aminute.
You know, I gotta see somethingwith people's arms get broke
back or somebody getting shotfrom like 90 days away.
Then all of a sudden it hitthem.
You know, those uh good littleaction, you know, male movies.
I like those sometimes.
So I gotta see that something.

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And uh I don't know which one isout there.

SPEAKER_00 (18:08):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (18:08):
There's something out there.
I'm gonna check it out.
I don't know.
Um other than that, I mean, youknow, sports.
I think this weekend, though,Alabama plays Georgia coming up.
So that's gonna be I'm gonnawatch that game.

SPEAKER_02 (18:24):
Okay.

SPEAKER_06 (18:25):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (18:25):
That's this weekend.

SPEAKER_06 (18:26):
Yeah, like the How are you gonna do it?
Well, not this weekend, likethis Saturday, but the following
Saturday.
Oh, okay.
Is it?
No, because Alabama was off lastweek.
Yeah, so I want to say it'smaybe this week.

SPEAKER_02 (18:36):
Oh, you mean this coming Saturday?

SPEAKER_06 (18:39):
I think so.

SPEAKER_02 (18:40):
Okay.

SPEAKER_06 (18:41):
Because I saw something about it, but maybe,
maybe I'm lying.
I could be lying, guys, but Ithat's that's let you know I'm
not.
My um sports meter has gone downso much over the last couple of
years, but definitely this year.
Because I'm like, I'm notcoaching nothing, I'm not doing
nothing, no sports talk.
It is what it is.
So I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 (19:02):
He is doing sport talk, though.

SPEAKER_06 (19:05):
Where?

SPEAKER_02 (19:06):
On all those text messages that come in on the
football fantasy thread.

SPEAKER_04 (19:11):
Do I talk?
I ever be blooploop.

SPEAKER_06 (19:14):
I don't I don't talk on it.

SPEAKER_02 (19:15):
Wow, well then why you what you doing?
Why are you joining the fantasyfootball if you ain't gonna
talk?

SPEAKER_06 (19:19):
I just wait and see when the the uh How are you
doing on it?

SPEAKER_02 (19:23):
Are you doing well?

SPEAKER_06 (19:25):
No, I think I've lost every game.
Every matchup, but I just do itfor the brotherhood, man.
I don't, you know.
It's fancy foot fantasyfootball, they like that.
I mean, you can't control it.

SPEAKER_04 (19:38):
Okay.

SPEAKER_06 (19:38):
So it's like, oh yeah, it's fun.
Yeah, I I it's like you can'ttalk trash on me, or they gonna
beat you.
Oh, they oh, yeah, there's I cantalk trash on me.
Okay because I can control myaccent.
Oh, okay.
Can't talk trash on somebodyelse.

SPEAKER_02 (19:52):
Oh, okay.
I don't know how fantasyfootball works.
So to be honest.

SPEAKER_06 (19:57):
Yeah.
It's it's it's a fantasy.
Like you create a team, and thenyou got all these different
players from different teams onyour team and how they perform
that week.
Oh, the time.
They get rated.
Yeah.
Oh, okay.
So then you get a total of likethree 200 points.
Uh-huh.
And then your opponent may,their people that they picked
that week may only did a hundredpoints.

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So then you won that week.

SPEAKER_02 (20:19):
Okay.

SPEAKER_06 (20:19):

SPEAKER_02 (20:20):
Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_06 (20:21):
Yeah.
It's you can't control it.

SPEAKER_02 (20:24):
Okay.

SPEAKER_06 (20:24):
You know?
And then when my brothers text,they be texting a lot too.
And like they text long stuff.
I don't, I can't, I don't know.
Yeah, you don't like to do that.
Yeah.
Because my fingers I Theyprobably don't either.

SPEAKER_02 (20:35):
They probably talk into their phone.

SPEAKER_06 (20:37):
That's what most people direct Siri so many
times.

SPEAKER_02 (20:41):
Most most people, that's what they do.
They just talk into their phone.
And if you do it enough, theSiri will know your voice and
what you say.
Maybe it'll be more accurate.

SPEAKER_06 (20:52):
I need to change my Siri to a man then, because
maybe.
She's a woman, she don't want tolisten.
Oh my God.
So I'm gonna change it to a man.
You're trying to say, no, I'mnot trying to say this, Siri.
I'm trying to say what I'mtrying to say.

SPEAKER_02 (21:07):
Maybe she's not trying to enunciate your words.

SPEAKER_06 (21:10):
And then maybe so.
So maybe I need a countryseries.

SPEAKER_02 (21:14):
Yeah, find you one.

SPEAKER_06 (21:15):
Yeah.
Find me somebody.

SPEAKER_02 (21:16):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (21:17):
All right.
So this week I would like totalk about uh dating stories.
You know, so we scoured the net.
Scoured.
And we found all kinds ofdifferent dating stories.
We found some funny, we foundsome scary, some uh, what is it?

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Funny, scary.
Oh hell no.
And stupid.
And some stupid.
So we s selected our top ones,and we're gonna read it and just
have a little discussion aboutit.
And um after that, keep itpushing.

SPEAKER_02 (21:57):
Okay.
So we're gonna start with afunny one.

SPEAKER_06 (21:59):
Okay, let's go.

SPEAKER_02 (22:00):
This one is called um The Multiple Dates.
Let me turn my phone off becausesomebody's asking us, did we eat
dinner?
And he's seeing we filming apodcast.
The multiple, I mean, themultiplying dates.
Sorry.
A college student realizedhalfway through dinner that her

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date has scheduled two otherdates that same night at the
same restaurant.
She spotted him waving anothergirl over while she was still
eating her entree.
Instead of leaving upset, sheand the other girls teamed up,

(22:45):
sat together, and enjoyed dinnerwhile he awkwardly paid the
bill.

SPEAKER_06 (22:51):
So he was trying to give him a little threesome or
something, or case dates?

SPEAKER_02 (22:56):
Maybe it kind of was like speed dating.
But he thought he was his ownspeed dating.
So he's not really locked in.
At the same time.

SPEAKER_06 (23:05):
That's why speed dating work.
But not at the same time.
When speed dating, you're notdating them at the same time.
You date and then they'll say,click, move.

SPEAKER_02 (23:11):
Oh, so it was like he was sitting at the table.
I started with her.
So I'm out with Tanya, and then,oh, here comes Sasha.
Oh, Sasha, come on over.
So then all of a sudden he hadthree people.

SPEAKER_04 (23:23):
Yeah, because he's sitting with them.
So he thought he thought he wasbig ish.
Big show.
He thought he was big dog.

SPEAKER_02 (23:28):
Uh-huh.
Yeah, he might have been tryingto put a little thing together,
a little three.

SPEAKER_06 (23:32):
Thought he was gonna get a little threesome.
Oh the triple triple play.

SPEAKER_02 (23:36):
You know what?
I probably would have stayed andfinished my food too.
Because listen, free food.

SPEAKER_06 (23:41):
So you said that you was a free fooder.

SPEAKER_02 (23:44):
Mm-hmm.
My dating days.
I ain't free food.

SPEAKER_06 (23:49):
Nope.
Uh-uh.

SPEAKER_02 (23:50):
I'll take a free dinner.
So I would have sat there andate my dinner too.
Especially then I would I wouldknow at this point, oh, after
tonight, that's it.
So let me go on and order oneother thing.

unknown (24:00):
No.

SPEAKER_06 (24:00):
You mess around and get somebody crazy, and then
they're gonna be stalking you.
You ate dinner and you treatedthis.

SPEAKER_02 (24:06):
But first of all, you had three ladies there.

SPEAKER_06 (24:08):
I'm just saying.
I'm just saying.
Off of a meal and you didn't paythem no attention.
So you I'm just saying, peopleare crazy.
Well, what that's what I wasthinking back in my days when I
was like, nah, I ain't gonna goout with just for no food.

SPEAKER_02 (24:23):
But you don't have to be mean to people.

SPEAKER_06 (24:25):
I know, but if you didn't like, oh, well, you don't
know.

SPEAKER_02 (24:28):
Well, first of all, you got to you also got to know
vibe feel the vibe of people.

SPEAKER_06 (24:33):
But that's part of dating.

SPEAKER_02 (24:34):
No, no, no.

SPEAKER_06 (24:36):
You don't know yet.

SPEAKER_02 (24:37):
No, no, no, no, no.
If I uh people that act likethat before, when they approach
you, something don't feel right.
I'm I'm dead, I'm I've neverdealt with no crazy people.
The stalking me.

SPEAKER_06 (24:52):
You had to have dealt with people.
The stalking me.
Well, but you had to have dealtwith people whose vibe you
didn't get.
Because if you did, you wouldn'tbe with me.
No, because you haven't hadpeople.

SPEAKER_04 (25:02):
You said stalking crazy vibe.
But I'm stuck, but that's a lotof that's undercover now.

SPEAKER_02 (25:07):
What I'm saying is there might have been a vibe
like, no, you can't be my manforever.
But but that's different thanstalking crazy.
That vibe I can feel.
I'm not even I'm not even goingto dinner with uh with them.
And I ain't taking a chance onthat.
No, if I get a vibe you kind ofcrazy, no, then I'm not going,

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I'm not going out to eat withcrazy.

SPEAKER_06 (25:32):
How many people we know that all of a sudden reveal
themselves like, whoa, we gottastand back from you folks.
We know people like that.
We do.

SPEAKER_02 (25:44):
I'm saying.

SPEAKER_04 (25:48):
Go ahead.

SPEAKER_02 (25:49):
I if I there has been nobody that has been
stalker crazy.
That's a different crazy.

SPEAKER_06 (25:56):
Yeah, it is.

SPEAKER_02 (25:56):
Where you got to be like, oh Lord Jesus.

SPEAKER_06 (25:59):
You're lucky.
You're lucky.
Okay.
You're lucky.

SPEAKER_02 (26:02):
Yeah.
I haven't had stalker crazy.

SPEAKER_06 (26:06):
Just know to my knowledge.
Just know if I if I leave thisearth and you start over again,
be careful for a meal.

SPEAKER_04 (26:13):
Just know this lady ain't starting over.
Be careful for a meal.
Just saying.

SPEAKER_02 (26:17):
I'm growing, I got my own money now.

SPEAKER_06 (26:20):
Okay.
I'm just saying.
I'm just saying.
Just be careful.
But this reminds me of a storywhen I was teaching in
California.
We had this project, and thisproject was called the um
identity box.
And so what the kids was doing,we did at the beginning of the
year, you know, high schoolhealth education.

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And so we get a shoebox, and youhad to put like uh your favorite
food.
Um, the outside of the boxrepresented what we could see
about you.
So I know you, you know, whatkind of sports you play.
I could tell that without evenyou telling me if I see you
hooping all the time.
Um what your clothes whatclothes you like.
I could see that based off ofyou.
Um, you know, so they had thethe outside of the box was all

(27:05):
those things.
Then on the inside was thingsthat we wouldn't know about you
unless we open up the box, openup you, and then we talk about
it.
And so one of the things was apicture of your uh person that
means a lot to you.
It could be parent, it could bea boyfriend or girlfriend, or
whatever.

(27:26):
And so this young lady waspresenting her box.

unknown (27:29):
Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (27:30):
And when she got into the inside of the box, and
it was her significant other,you know, because other people
like, like remember uh Ari, shedid Bow Wow.
Yes.
She loved it.
And so she opened up the box andit was a picture of her
boyfriend.
She said, This is a picture ofmy boyfriend.
And I looked and I knewimmediately, I was like, Wait,

(27:52):
that's such a boyfriend.
I knew that was somebody else'sboyfriend.

SPEAKER_01 (27:55):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (27:55):
And that person was in the class.
And so when I saw that, Ilooked, I said, and I and I and
I kind of cut my eye, and I sawthat girl, and it was like a few
other kids that knew that thatboy dated that girl in the class
too.
And so it kind of got awkward.
Uh-huh.
And so the girl, it was her turnto present her box.

SPEAKER_01 (28:16):
She had a minute.

SPEAKER_06 (28:16):
She didn't, she didn't show that part.

SPEAKER_01 (28:18):
Okay.

SPEAKER_06 (28:19):
So, but I had already thought about it because
I always look at the box to makesure.
Because back then it was stillmagazines like source and stuff.
So kids would say, Mysignificant or my the person of
my dream would be, and it wouldbe like somebody with thongs or
those pasties, or I was like,No, we can't show that.
And so she said, I had a pictureof my um person, but she said,

(28:39):
but it didn't look right.
So I was like, I didn't evenwant to show that picture.
And so I knew something wasgonna pop off.
So I was like, When the girlthat presented, I said, Hey, can
you help me, you know, stackthese boxes up?
I said, I'll write you a pass.
And then I told the other girl,I need you to help me too.
So they both stayed out to clasafter class, and then I started,

(29:00):
I said, okay, now I got y'allhere because I want y'all to
talk about an awkward situationthat occurred in the class.
And so the girl that showed theboyfriend she didn't know.

SPEAKER_02 (29:14):
Oh, you done set up mess.
He is called.
No, no, no, no.
Look at Mar.
Look at look at Jerry, Jerry,Jerry, Jerry.

SPEAKER_06 (29:22):
This is because they were both good girls.

SPEAKER_02 (29:24):
Okay.

SPEAKER_06 (29:25):
And so I didn't want nothing to pop, and I didn't
want the school other people toinfluence them.
And so um I went and I and Italked to her and I said, Okay,
well, this is what I said, thethis significant other that you
have, open your box, show meyour significant other.
And she showed her hersignificant other.
And they was like, and the othergirl that didn't know, she was

(29:48):
like, Oh my god, I can't whatwhat?
And I said, I said, Look, Isaid, now this ain't between
y'all two.
I said, 'Cause neither one ofy'all knew about each other.
It's it's him.
Right?
And then so they was like, youright, you right, Mr.
Because I wasn't coachingnothing then.
They were like, You right, Mr.
Hare, you right, you right, Mr.

(30:08):
Hare.
They said, that's cold.
So they was talking like, sowhen how long you been dating?
She said, We've been dating forlike three months.
She said, that's about almostthe same time for us.
Okay.
So this was probably like aTuesday.
All right.
And you know, every justeverything was peaceful.
A little, you know, no, I'msorry, take it back.
This was Thursday, so I didn'tsee them because we were on

(30:28):
block schedule.
So I didn't see them thatFriday.
So that was B Day.
And so they come back to me onMonday, because on Monday you
see everybody.

SPEAKER_00 (30:37):
Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_06 (30:37):
Um, periods one through six.
And then it's A Day, B Day afterthat.
So they said, Mr.
Hell, we gotta talk to you.
I said, What, what, what, what,what, what?
So guess what we did?
They said, what?
We went out on a date.
I said, You did?
With who?
With the with such such.
I said, hold on.
Both of y'all?
They said, yes.
I said, okay.
So the girl who showed thepicture, she said, Won't you

(31:01):
take me out somewhere?
And she said, Cool, where youwant to go?
So these are, you know, kids,they they love in and out of
little places like that.
So they went, they went to, butthey went to, uh man, where was
it?
It was some little restaurant.
Wherever it was, it was a coollittle sit-down restaurant.
And she said, and and then shesaid, Mr.
Harry, guess who I invited?
And then the girl said, Yep,sure did.
And I said, Did you go?

(31:22):
She said, Yes, I did.
So she said, So what she did wasshe went to the bathroom.
She said, I'll be back.
I'm going to the bathroom.
So when she went to thebathroom, that was the other
girl's cue to come and sit down.
So she said, and I came and satdown.
You should have seen his eyes.
His eyes got so big.
And I was like, Oh, what youdoing here?
He said, What are you doing?
He said, Oh, well, I suppose wemeeting my um friend here.

(31:42):
She told me to come, yeah, wewere supposed to be eating um
lunch or whatever.
He said, Oh, oh, oh, oh, well,um, okay, well, how long are you
gonna be here?
He said, Well, she said, I don'tsee her nowhere.
And then she said, by that time,the girl was coming back from
the bathroom and she said, Oh,there she is.
And then she walks, and then shesits down and said, Oh, hey.
And so they both sat down andthey said, and then he was just
looking at both of them like,what like, you know, they

(32:05):
couldn't say they say, okay, wealready know.
We already know.
So, uh, and they say, and thenthe girl had already ordered a
lot of food before she went tothe bathroom.
And so they said, Well, youknow, we'll let you enjoy your
dinner and we'll see you later.
And they left, you know, out thedoor saying, not together, but
they left together out the door.
And they said, Oh my God, itfelt so good.

(32:26):
It felt so good to get thatrevenge.
I was like, that was pretty goodof y'all.

SPEAKER_02 (32:29):
Oh, that's good.

SPEAKER_06 (32:30):
Yeah.
See, and see, I saved her, Ibrought peace together.

SPEAKER_01 (32:33):
Jerry, Jerry, Jerry.

SPEAKER_06 (32:35):
It wasn't no Jerry.
It wasn't no Jerry, but it wasthat was that was crazy.
So just that's like a littledate part.
All right.

SPEAKER_02 (32:42):
Oh, okay.
You well, okay.
So that was one of the funnydays.
Or I don't know how funny.
I guess it's funny because hewhat was funny about the three
ladies sitting there and havinga good time.

SPEAKER_06 (32:56):
I don't know.
You want to see another funny?

SPEAKER_02 (33:00):
Um, I don't know where it's just move on.
Yeah, let's move on.
All right, so this one is calledStupid Dating Stories.
Okay.
So this is called the ToothFairy Guy.
So sh this lady went on a date,and her date brought a little
baggie with one of his babyteeth in it, claiming he always

(33:25):
carried it for good luck.
He even showed her the toothmid-meal like it was a normal
conversation.

SPEAKER_05 (33:35):
Okay, what you would have done?

SPEAKER_02 (33:38):
I don't like, I don't, I've never walked out on
somebody on a date.
So that just would have been aone and done.
Like, that's kind of strange tobe carrying your teeth.
Even if it is good luck, thenyou just keep it in your pocket.
But even I think later on, atsome point, you're gonna find

(33:59):
out about the lucky lucky toothbaby tooth.
Yeah.
And so it would have been doneat some point because that is
just weird carrying around.

SPEAKER_06 (34:12):
His baby tooth for good luck.

SPEAKER_02 (34:13):
Your baby tooth.
Don't you still got your babyteeth?

SPEAKER_06 (34:15):
At home.
I think.
Are they at home?
They might be here.
Uh but I don't carry themaround.
Like shake them up and say, hey,look what I got.

SPEAKER_02 (34:24):
But why why you still got white?

SPEAKER_06 (34:27):
I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 (34:27):
We always always told them.
Did we got the boy's baby?
No, I made you throw them away.
He tried to keep the boys' babyteeth.
I said, child, just throw thoseteeth away.

SPEAKER_06 (34:35):
Uh because I kept them.
My my parents told me to keepmine.
Maybe, maybe from the start,they didn't want you to, you
know, they probably Is there asuperstition?
That's what I'm saying.
They probably thought it wastied to you know how they stake
up people's teeth and bones, andthey probably said, keep the
teeth with you, so won't nobodybe practicing no hoodoo.
No hoodoo with your teeth.
So, I mean, that's probably whywe kept them.

SPEAKER_02 (34:57):
Well, you should have kept one.
They lucky.

SPEAKER_06 (35:00):
Child, please.
I got some more in here.
I got some.

SPEAKER_00 (35:03):
Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_06 (35:05):
For now.
Although people say it don'tlook like I have teeth when I'm
talking, so that's all good.
Yeah, that's crazy.
I I don't I don't know what Iwould do if somebody.
That's weird.
What's the weirdest date youever been on?

SPEAKER_02 (35:19):
Oh gosh.
I've been dating.

SPEAKER_06 (35:23):
Or the weirdest thing somebody has ever done.
Like, even not necessarily whileyou were on a date or that you
have dated.
I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 (35:32):
I don't I can tell this is like it goes with teeth.

SPEAKER_01 (35:36):
Okay.

SPEAKER_02 (35:36):
Okay, so my very first date ever.
So I met someone like at a houseparty, right?
And the house party was dark,like it was in somebody's
basement, it was dark.
And they seemed to lookattractive.
And so I was like, sure.
So he was like, got his phonenumber, he calls like to go on a
date.
I was 15, and the rule was I hadto be 16 to go on a date.

(36:01):
But I was like turning 16 inlike two months.
And so um, so I told him, I waslike, I gotta ask on a date, I
really would like to go.
And my daddy was like, no, andmy mom was like, just go over to
one of my friends' houses.
Look at God and look how good Iworked.

(36:21):
Then go on the date.
Just y'all call me when youleave and when you're coming
back, because my friend knew theperson, so it wasn't like a
stranger or anything like that.
So he comes to pick me up.
It is no, he comes to her door,and he and then he smiles and

(36:45):
his two front teeth.
And I was like, oh no.

SPEAKER_06 (36:55):
That's what you did.

SPEAKER_02 (36:58):
Oh, they look real bad.

SPEAKER_06 (37:00):
Maybe if you could have waited until you were 16,
they probably would have turned.

SPEAKER_02 (37:03):
Maybe so.

SPEAKER_06 (37:04):
They weren't ripe yet.

SPEAKER_02 (37:05):
Yeah, it was so bad.
And so I still went on the date.

SPEAKER_06 (37:10):
Oh, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (37:11):
I went to, I think it was the movies or something.
I think it were movies or toeat.
To get them even more yellowwith butter popcorn.
Oh my gosh.
I still went, but that was itwas like first date, last date.
So, yeah, that was with theteeth.

SPEAKER_06 (37:29):
I don't I can't recall any weird dates.
Uh a catfish.
I had a catfish one time.

SPEAKER_01 (37:39):
What was your catfish?
I had a catfish too.
Um what was your catfish?
How'd you meet your catfish?

SPEAKER_06 (37:44):
Um, I had done the show, you know, and I was
getting a lot of like fan mailand stuff like that when I first
did uh Road Rules in '98.
And so I was getting fan mailand um I don't even think it was
I don't even think becausesometimes you would meet people
on Black Planet, but I thinkthis person was through actual

(38:05):
fan mail, like written fan fanmail.
And the person knew people atthe school was coming down.
So I was like, cool.
She said, all right, just hookup, you know, describe yourself.
She described herself and umathletic and the weight-wise,
like 120 something, you know,probably like five, five.

SPEAKER_05 (38:22):
I said, oh, shoot, you know.
Yeah.
And I said, all right, good,bet.

SPEAKER_06 (38:26):
Yeah, described, say, I'm a little lighter than
you.

SPEAKER_04 (38:28):
I said, oh, okay, bet.

SPEAKER_06 (38:30):
And so uh I had my wingman at the time, uh,
Sharita, I said, look, I got auh person that's supposed to be
meeting me at the Applebee's.
Um at a certain amount of time,I want you to come in and say,
hey, what's going on?
If I, if I, you know, if if Ihold my drink up like this, I

(38:53):
want you to come and it'spositive.

SPEAKER_00 (38:54):
Okay.

SPEAKER_06 (38:55):
If I don't hold my drink up, I want you to come and
say, yo, is something wrong?
Your brothers or whatever, youneed to come and handle
business.
I said, all right, cool.
That was the plan.
Okay.
So I get there and I'm ridingand I pull up in the parking lot
and I t I ask her what she hadon to describe what she had on.
She said, What you gonna wear?
And I said, What I was gonnawear, but I didn't wear what I
was gonna wear because I wantedto be sure.

unknown (39:17):
Okay.

SPEAKER_06 (39:18):
And so she said, What she had on, and I was like,
I get up to the thing.
And I'm like, And she said whoshe was with, and I see who she
was with, and I'm I know her, Iknow him.
That's her.
Oh no.

SPEAKER_02 (39:37):
Oh no, what's she?

SPEAKER_06 (39:38):
And she didn't look like nothing like that.

SPEAKER_02 (39:40):
Well, so it was like Friday when she said she looked
like Janet Jackson.

SPEAKER_06 (39:43):
He's like, you look more like Fred of Jackson.
Yes.
Like she, she was like, oh man.
And um, I got up out of there.
Well, I didn't even get up outof there.
I I was like, I didn't go in.

SPEAKER_00 (39:57):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (39:58):
And so I dipped and um went back to the to the uh my
apartment.
What did Sharita say?
Because I called Sharita andsaid, hey, never mind, don't
even worry about coming.
It's like, oh my, what's what'sgoing on?
And I suppose she, you know, Ishould Oh, you lying.
Let's go back up there.

SPEAKER_00 (40:16):
I said, no, for what?

SPEAKER_06 (40:18):
I want to see, I wanna see.
I was like, nah.
I said, we I said, you know,because it would have been cool
just to meet a fan, but shelying, you know.
Yeah, what she looked like andall that stuff.
And I was like, child, you don'tlook nothing like you said you
did, you know.
And so uh that was my littlecatfish.

SPEAKER_02 (40:35):
I had a catfish off of Black Planet.
It was like when I moved toDallas and the person, they
wanted to, we met at the palmrestaurant.
So I was like, oh, it's a prettynice restaurant.
And honey, I promised he had tobe like five foot and was much

(40:56):
heavier than what he said hewas.
But I didn't, I didn't thinklike you thought to not say, and
then that would have been agreat strategy.
So I did the dinner.

SPEAKER_06 (41:10):
Oh, you didn't have an exit plan.

SPEAKER_02 (41:11):
I didn't have an exit plan, so I did the dinner
and was like, well, all right,one and done.
Yeah, but I remember that theylooked nothing.
They I don't know where maybethat was a few years ago, but
they had certainly uh shrunk inheight and became a little
wider.

SPEAKER_06 (41:30):
Yeah, I would see a lot of people, because when I
would do speaking engagementsand stuff, and so people would
find out I'm coming to theiruniversal their city.

SPEAKER_00 (41:38):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (41:38):
You know, the radio would promote or whatever.
And so they would hit me up onBlack Planet, hey, we come, you
know, hook this, hook up, youknow, whatever.
But not hook up like that, butyou know, I would just, I would
love to, like, we would love tomeet you and say, cool, so meet
me at whatever.
Yeah.
So then when they get there,they're like, uh, hey, I'm such
and such, such and such.
I'm like, who?
You know, I didn't have a wedidn't have phones to reference

(42:00):
back there.

SPEAKER_02 (42:01):
And I was like, So where would you see the picture?
They send you a picture orsomething?

SPEAKER_06 (42:05):
No, they on Black Planet.
They would do it on BlackPlanet, and so I would be like,
and see, also, I would also likeI would get on there and say,
hey, I'll be at uh, for example,when I had to go to University
Central Florida, hey, I'll be atUniversity of Central Florida
this weekend, looking forward tomeeting everybody, you know, and
especially I always reached outto my Alpha brothers.
And um, so then they would call,like, because they would what we

(42:28):
call DM now, they would hit mein the message and say, hey,
bro, you want to come to aparty?
So they would, because theywould, they would hit me a
message, ask for my phonenumber, or I would get theirs,
and then we would call, we wouldcommunicate like that.
So then when they find outcoming, then you have other
people start to send messages,hey, I want to see you,
da-da-da-da-da.
And then you see all thesepeople like, don't look nothing
like their photos.

(42:48):
Nothing.
And you be like, because youknow, like so you couldn't
reference who they were becausewe didn't have a phone in front
of us.
Like nowadays, you go to theirpage.

SPEAKER_04 (42:57):
You can see me like, oh no.

SPEAKER_06 (42:58):
Yeah.
Then it was just like, and thenwhen they be talking, you're
like, I don't know who Well,people still get catfish today?
No, they do.
They definitely do.
So I was just saying, that wasback then black planet catfish,
though.
That was that was fried fishback then.
You know, on black planet.
That was catfish nuggets.

SPEAKER_01 (43:14):
Why do they call it catfish?

SPEAKER_06 (43:17):
I don't know.
Maybe because they look likemost of them be looking like
catfish.

SPEAKER_02 (43:21):
They don't.

SPEAKER_06 (43:22):
And whiskers.

SPEAKER_02 (43:24):
That's a good question.
Why do they call it catfish?

SPEAKER_06 (43:28):
Maybe because catfish is ugly, but it tastes
so good.
And so they be like feeding you,feeding you all the stories
about either, oh man, so good.
Then when you get that fish,you're like, dude, this is a
catfish?

SPEAKER_02 (43:38):
Maybe you got hooked on something bad.

SPEAKER_06 (43:39):
Probably so.

SPEAKER_02 (43:41):
A bottom feeder.

SPEAKER_06 (43:42):
But it's some other, it's some other fish that are
ugly than catfish.

SPEAKER_02 (43:45):
Now I'm interested in why they call it catfish.

SPEAKER_06 (43:48):
Yeah.
Because a flounder is an uglyfish.
You know, it eyes, both of hiseyes on the same side.
Mm-hmm.
Now you see somebody.

SPEAKER_02 (43:57):
What is it?
Well, for real, have you everseen a cute fish?
Some of them are.

SPEAKER_06 (44:04):
That's why we have an aquarium.
What's the angel fish?
It was a nice fish.

SPEAKER_02 (44:08):
I guess.

SPEAKER_06 (44:09):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (44:09):
I guess you think of the colors of the fish and the
things.
Right.
But the face.

SPEAKER_06 (44:14):
I mean, it's but it's not as ugly as like that
one fish with them big oldcowlips on the teeth.
Yeah.
Look like they chat.

SPEAKER_02 (44:21):
Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (44:21):
Right.
So it's an ugly fish.
Yeah.
And the ones with them big old,big old eyes.

SPEAKER_02 (44:27):
Yeah, yeah.
There's some ugly fish outthere.
That's interesting.
Maybe y'all know why they callit why you're a big thing.

SPEAKER_06 (44:32):
We used to call this one girl at Troy uh a sea bass.

SPEAKER_02 (44:38):
No, I don't, that ain't right.
What do y'all call that child asea bass?

SPEAKER_06 (44:44):
She just looked like a.
Look like something that'd be inthe water.

SPEAKER_02 (44:50):
You know, my daddy, we when we were little, and I
think it was my daddy that madeup this name for this.
There was this girl on ourblock, and my daddy used to call
her Thriller.

SPEAKER_06 (45:01):
She looked like Thriller for real?

SPEAKER_02 (45:03):
I'm not saying that.
And that was her nickname,Thriller.

SPEAKER_06 (45:07):
Well, you know, it's only a few people on your block,
probably better, so you mightwant to be quiet.
That's true.
She's listening.
She's gonna look at you and belike, it wasn't me.

SPEAKER_02 (45:18):
It was my daddy.
It wasn't me.

SPEAKER_06 (45:22):
You was talking about me.

SPEAKER_02 (45:24):
Oh my gosh.
Okay, let's talk about scarydating stories.
All right.
So this one.
Oh, yes, I had.
This calls this lady's on a vanride.
And so she went on a date with aguy.
He was supposed to be on herway, taking her home, but he
started going another way, andshe noticed that he was going um

(45:50):
to darker streets, um, not thedirection of her home, and she
had to jump out of the car.

SPEAKER_04 (45:57):
Oh my.

SPEAKER_02 (45:58):
Um, and then when she um later spoke to people
about the guy, like that wasn'this first time.
Doing that?
Yeah.
I'm like, ain't nobody turnedhim in to the police?
Like, why y'all just still?
Did she turn them in?
Yeah, did you turn him in?
Because why y'all all stillain't nobody turned in this man?
But knowing the police, theyprobably like, well, he ain't

(46:20):
captured none of y'all yet.
It's right.
We can't do nothing about it.
What do you pick up in a vague?
Because I uh so uh I know Ihaven't had anybody try to do
that.

SPEAKER_06 (46:29):
No, not that, but the scariest date I've been on
was me and my best friend doingtelly I was talking about.
Um was I I was in college then,and I came home and we met some
girls in Mobile, and we wentback to their house.
Um and then while we were attheir house, all of a sudden
this car pulled up.
And we in Mobile now.

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Like we in, but but where wewere was like kind of like
wooded area, kind of.
Like, so I was like, yo, if wegot the go-tell, I said, we're
gonna run straight through themwoods and just stay.
I said, grab the back of myshirt and we're gonna keep
running.
I said, I think these city boys,they ain't gonna be able to
handle the woods like they canhandle them.
And uh I said, we just gonnakeep running straight.

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And uh so the guys uh came andthen and the dude, and the girl
said her dad broke up, you know,but he was he was mad that
somebody was there.
She was like, he does this allthe time.
I said, Why are you telling mehe always coming, you know, to
see if somebody at your crib?

SPEAKER_00 (47:27):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (47:28):
And so she wound up calling her brother, and her
brother came over at the house.

SPEAKER_03 (47:32):
But them Jokers was talking about, we're gonna kill
them, Joker, we're gonna killthem, you know.

SPEAKER_06 (47:36):
I said, Oh Lord, tell her, we getting ready to
die in Mobile.

SPEAKER_00 (47:39):
Oh my god.

SPEAKER_06 (47:40):
And so uh we wind up, um, you know, his brother,
her brother came, and herbrother knew some people that we
knew.
So, you know, especially what Iknew from college, playing
football.
And he was, oh yeah, I mean, Iknow, y'all know all, oh, you
good folk then, you know, good.
So I said, all right, well, youmake sure you joke and go.
Yeah.
He said, No, y'all good, baby.
Y'all ain't got nothing to worryabout.
I I matter of fact, I'm gonnasit here.

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I said, nah, you ain't gotta sithere.
I'm gonna I'm gonna be gone.
I'm gonna go sit in my car andI'm gonna dip.
And we left.
And um, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (48:10):
Oh my goodness.
I I remember dating somebody,and we were at a store, a record
store, and some other guy was, Iguess, looking at me, and they
got so upset by that and triedto fight the person in the
store.
I said, Oh no, child, this is adone deal.
Like, you can't be fightingeverybody.

(48:31):
Look at somebody.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So to me, that was scary.

SPEAKER_00 (48:34):
Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (48:36):
Because you don't know what that could turn out to
be.

SPEAKER_00 (48:38):
You don't, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (48:39):
I did not think that that was charming or ooh, he
don't know.
Fight for me.
Mm-mm.
Not at all.
That was done.
That just is just silly.
Nah.
So mm-mm.
So that was that to me wasscary.
It wasn't me getting umkidnapped or yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (49:00):
No, I ain't never been on the verge of being
kidnapped.
No thing.

SPEAKER_02 (49:03):
I did not, and this wasn't a stalker, but I had a
secret admirer once.
It was a parent at a school Itaught at.
And we were trying to figure itout because chocolates, like the
diver chocolates, would bedelivered, and they would put
like secret admirer flowerswould be delivered to the

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school.
Um, um, somehow they knew Iworked out extra worked out,
exercise clothes.
So then my teacher friend acrossthe hall, she said, I'm just
gonna, you stand by your doorlike you greet your students.

(49:48):
She said, I'ma just watch everydad that comes by here and see
who I notice really like lookingat you some kind of way.
So she said, I think I know whoit is.
And so um, I forgot all thethings that we did to pinpoint
that it was him.

SPEAKER_00 (50:06):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (50:07):
So then the next, so once we figured out who it was,
he was married.

SPEAKER_06 (50:13):
Oh Lord.

SPEAKER_02 (50:14):
And so Tyler Perry movie.
Yeah, and so she I was like, I'mnot all these like, because you
don't know who to give the giftsback to.
So like the flowers and thechocolate and then the workout
clothes, and I was like, I knowwho it is.
I was like, this isinappropriate.
And so I gave it to the child'steacher.

SPEAKER_06 (50:37):
Oh, I thought we were about to say the child to
take home.

SPEAKER_02 (50:41):
And told her to give it back to the dad to say that
this is inappropriate.

SPEAKER_06 (50:49):
I wonder what that child teacher did.

SPEAKER_02 (50:53):
She gave it to the it was actually our lead
teacher.
And she gave it back to the dad,and he actually came by my
classroom and told me that I wasinappropriate for giving that
back to his son's teacher andhis son um You're blowing his

(51:16):
cover.
Yes.
He was inappropriate for blowinghis cover.

SPEAKER_04 (51:18):
I was inappropriate.
He was crazy.

SPEAKER_02 (51:20):
Yes, he was.
So that one I was a littlenervous of stalkery things like
that because the things that heknew, like workout clothes and
certain things, I was like, he'sgotta be like watching me.
Like, how does he know all thesethings?
So that's how I felt at first.

SPEAKER_06 (51:35):
But once he realized, oh, she gonna tell my
cover, blew the lid off already.
Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_02 (51:42):
So he didn't want to mess up his livelihood.
So then that was I said that'sthe only thing that will stop
it.
Wow.
So that ended that real fast.

SPEAKER_05 (51:51):
Crazy.

SPEAKER_02 (51:52):
Mm-hmm.
Sure enough.
Yes, that is very bold.
Trifling.
Yeah.
Very bold and trifling.
All right, go ahead.
What's next?
Okay.
So uh we did scary.

(52:13):
So this is the old hell no.

SPEAKER_06 (52:17):
Um, I read one, I forgot which one it was.

SPEAKER_02 (52:22):
Was it something about the feet?

SPEAKER_06 (52:24):
Yes.
It was, I think I read all theold hell no, but that one's
definitely one that was like,whoa, wait a minute.

SPEAKER_02 (52:31):
Okay, yeah.
So a lady went on a date, andher date asked if she would take
her shoes off on the table.
First of all, now I would havebeen like, let me get on up on
this table.
But anyways, unless she had alittle freak in them.
She's like, okay, like my toes.
So thinking it was a quirkything, she did it.

SPEAKER_06 (52:48):
See, had a little freak in them.

SPEAKER_02 (52:49):
Mm-hmm.
Then he leaned down,mid-conversation, grabbed her
foot, and whispered, perfect.
She immediately left.
First of all, you should haveleft when he told me, Take your
shoe off, fool.

SPEAKER_06 (53:02):
But then also, why you take your shoe off?
If he said, Oh, these areperfect.
Most women said, You know it,thank you.

SPEAKER_02 (53:08):
Maybe it's the way he said it, because she said
maybe he said it really creepy,like whispering, like perfect.

SPEAKER_04 (53:16):
Perfect.

SPEAKER_02 (53:17):
Well, I would have been interested.
I would have first said, perfectfor what?
Right.
So I gotta figure out what he'sgonna say.
Sucking these toes, you'd belike, Oh no, if it was a first
date, I'd have been like, no,that's a little too merge.
That's a niche merge.
You're talking about sucking onmy toes.

(53:38):
Hey, yeah, maybe somebody wouldhave, but some other somebody
else might have been like, theywouldn't be like that.
Turned on by him talk saying allthat.
But taking my shoes off, was ittheir first date?
I don't know if it's their firstdate.

SPEAKER_06 (53:55):
But it was somewhere up in there.

SPEAKER_02 (53:58):
No, she just says on a date that her date acts.
It didn't say if it was a firstdate or not.
She said just on a date.
What about this one?
Where on a first date, a guybrought out tarot cards in the
middle of the dinner and toldthe lady that my card say I am
destined to marry that you and Iare destined to marry within six

(54:19):
months.

SPEAKER_05 (54:21):
Yeah, that's a little crazy.

SPEAKER_02 (54:23):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (54:23):
That's a little crazy, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (54:25):
There are some people into tarot cards.
Maybe he should have found thatout first.

SPEAKER_05 (54:29):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (54:30):
Because there are people that are into tarot cards
and they might have been likeYeah.
I even But what if it was true?

SPEAKER_06 (54:39):
I don't know.
Well, is it she then shewouldn't have found it weird.

SPEAKER_00 (54:43):
Yeah, that's true.

SPEAKER_06 (54:44):
She'd have been like, oh yeah,cool.
You gotta share the samebeliefs, I guess.
Cause I even like I mean Youknow, people do astrological
science.
I understand that, you know,they do it, but there are some
people that are so hung up withit that they be like, what are
you?
Or Virgo?
Oh no.
Virgos don't don't coincide witha such and such and such and
such and such and such.
You'd be like, all right, bet,thank you for allowing me to

(55:06):
dodge this bullet.
You know?

SPEAKER_02 (55:09):
What's um has anybody you ever been on a date
where somebody had like aquirky, they were did something
strange or quirky, and you werelike, I don't know about that.

SPEAKER_06 (55:20):
Um one time this girl, uh, I didn't know she
smoked, because we were alwayson campus every time I talked to
her.
And um and they invited me over,her roommates invited me over
for dinner.
And so when I get over there, Ikind of smelled it, but I didn't
think none of it because youknow it's three young ladies

(55:40):
there living.
Just like when I was with myroommate, the first one, he was
a smoker.
Yeah, you know, into the tweedsand stuff.
So, you know, but um so I'm overthere chilling, and then she's
uh, you know, grease me and getsgets comfortable.
Next thing you know, just pullthat pack.

SPEAKER_02 (56:03):
I was like, what?

SPEAKER_06 (56:04):
Pull that pack out and smoking and whoop whoop.
And I said, oh because I I justdidn't, you know, I'm not a a
fan of smokers.
But I was like, dang.
She's smoking.
And she just kept smoking, keptsmoking.
I mean, and I was like, just shewas a nice young lady, but he's
smoking.

SPEAKER_02 (56:21):
And you told her?

SPEAKER_06 (56:23):
Yeah, I told her the reason why yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (56:25):
And what'd she say?

SPEAKER_06 (56:26):
And she was like, What?
I said, yeah.
I said, you know, just we cool,you know.
But it was just like the firstpart of dating, just kind of it
wasn't even like, you know, Ihave feelings for you.
It was just like it was, youknow, I said, nah, we can't, you
smoke, man.
You don't get down with smokers.
And it's like, oh well, youknow, so but she we s we're
still cool as far as you know,talk to each other in class and

(56:48):
all that stuff.
Yeah.
But it was definitely a personlike, oh, I I could, I hope this
goes well so I can go out onanother date with her.
Because in class she was cool.
She was cool, yeah.
Yeah, but after that, I waslike, uh, oh well.

SPEAKER_02 (56:59):
I when I was in college, I dated somebody that
was a smoker.
And I said, I would never dothat.
And I did.
And then I remember one time,like we were dating, I was in
the car with him and his cousin,and they both were smoking.
I was like, oh, Jesus.
It was so it was just like youjust trapped in cigarette, and

(57:20):
that's when I was like, What?
I said I would not date asmoker.
And yeah, it really was justvery unattractive.
Yeah, stayed true.
Yeah, I just just stuck withwith uh with that.
I remember somebody else I datedin college, they had a best
friend who had really badhalitosis.
He was riding in the backseat,and every time he talked, oh

(57:44):
man, it was so bad that you likedon't even ask a question.
Don't everybody just everybodyjust be quiet.
This is a silent trip.

SPEAKER_06 (57:54):
Mm-mm.
Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_02 (57:56):
It was bad.

SPEAKER_06 (57:58):
That ain't good at all, right there.

SPEAKER_02 (58:00):
It was bad.
It was so bad.

SPEAKER_06 (58:04):
I know it.
Yeah, nah, I I I'm just not afan of, you know, the smoke.
Um breath is something, but Iain't never got close enough to
a girl and realize, oh shoot,her breath state.
No.
Um anything else?
I can't think.
That's that's probably somethingelse I think about.

(58:24):
It's like, oh, I forgot allabout such and such.

SPEAKER_04 (58:26):
Yeah, you think about it later.

SPEAKER_06 (58:28):
I forgot all about this person.
Yeah.
Yeah.
But uh, nah.
I mean, of course, like peopletelling me I was too nice.

SPEAKER_02 (58:37):
Oh, like you go on date and they say, Oh, you're
just too nice.

SPEAKER_06 (58:40):
Yeah, you're too nice.

SPEAKER_02 (58:41):
Yeah, I don't think I'm I always think that's so
crazy if people say that peopleare too nice.

SPEAKER_06 (58:47):
Mm-hmm.
No, I no, there were people whosaid I was too nice, and then
later on in the relations intheir relationships, I see why,
because they were in harborrelationships.
And those weren't used to it.
And those relationships lasted.
And I was like, yo, y'all aretoxic for each other.
Well, he's toxic for you.
And they was almost like, and itwas funny because when they see

(59:09):
me, it was like a help.
It was like they'll see me like,and I'll say, hey, what's up?

SPEAKER_02 (59:14):
And they were like, look at me like, like, oh no.

SPEAKER_06 (59:20):
I'm too nice.

SPEAKER_00 (59:21):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (59:22):
And so it but they knew that I'min this relationship.
And I was like, hey, what's up?
Because I speak to everybody,whether, you know, whatever.
Like, I don't have nobody, evenpeople that have probably try to
do me crazy, I still speak.

SPEAKER_01 (59:42):
Very kind.

SPEAKER_06 (59:42):
Because I'm over it.

SPEAKER_01 (59:43):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (59:44):
You know, and I can still speak to you, you know,
hey.

SPEAKER_02 (59:47):
That's true.

SPEAKER_06 (59:48):
Yeah.
And a lot of times that thathurts them even more to know
that you're seen it seemingunfazed by then.
But yes, they would I've I'vehad a few people tell me I was
too nice.
Yeah.
So I'm like, hey, if that's thereason, thank you.
I dodged that bullet.

SPEAKER_02 (01:00:05):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (01:00:06):
You know?
So I'm cool with that.

SPEAKER_02 (01:00:08):
Yeah.
I wonder what they would saynow.
Did they what did they end up inthe end with?
Because I think uh I won't sayeverybody goes through a bad boy
phase, but people probably havedated somebody that I think
there's different classes of badboys.
But I you know, like did theyget stuck in that phase?

(01:00:32):
Was it just a phase and now theyended up marrying the good guy?
I wonder.

SPEAKER_06 (01:00:36):
Yeah, because I know like a lot of when, you know, in
college, because especially whenI was at state, because I
cheered.
So when I cheered, you know, Ihung around the whole Chilean's
fuck, you know, all the time.
And so, and their friends andstuff, and they would be like
horrible situations in theirrelationships, you know.
And I was like, why?
Why y'all, why are y'allattracted to these knuckleheads?

(01:00:59):
And then us, they consider us tobe squares or whatnot, but we
kick it just as hard as the restof them, but it's just the fact
that we are respectful, youknow, things like that is so I
don't know, but it's definitelya phase that I have, like I say,
I ain't never been no woman, butI have experienced women

(01:01:19):
fiending for the bad boys.
They want that, you know whatI'm saying?
And then they, like you said,some of them grow out of that
phase.

SPEAKER_00 (01:01:26):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (01:01:27):
And some of them get stuck in it.
And then unfortunately, forthem, some of them got stuck in
that phase too long because whenI moved on, they were finally
looking for that good guy.
I was with someone else.
You know, and it was an allshoot.
Especially like that one timethat I went when went to the uh
Well they say all shooting.

(01:01:47):
But that's what it made me thinkof the girl at home.
This girl at home, boy, she wasbad, boy.
That girl, whoo, she was put onthem uh Jordan's jeans.
Mm-hmm.
And you know the Jordan jeansmake y'all booties look right
back then.
You know, we little boys, weanything, right?
And so, but you know, I wentthrough my phases of being fat

(01:02:08):
and you know, my pants, thighsrubbing together, and I had to
wear corrective shoes, and youknow what I'm saying?
And I got slapped in public bymy girlfriend so she could prove
that she didn't like me like me.
So I was I was a little mess.
But I went home for dad'sprocedure.
The first time daddy had aprocedure, I had to go home.

(01:02:28):
And um she was in the hospitalwaiting room, and she and I saw
it, I was like, oh my goodness.
She was like real, just umretained a lot of water and um
everywhere.

SPEAKER_02 (01:02:46):
Her face, I think it was water, but it was everywhere
like her eyes like this, andthen she You going to hell by
yourself.
I ain't going to hell with you.

SPEAKER_06 (01:02:56):
And then she said, Hey Keefla.
Oh, mm, you know, and I said,and I look, I had to remember
who she was, I said, Oh, Iremember who she was.
And that's one I remember.
I tell you, she said, how manychillin' you got now?
Chillin'?
Ooh, so I I know some lady letyou give her about 12 chillings.
I said, Nah, I ain't got numbertwo twins.

(01:03:18):
And she was like, Oh, you gottwins?
I said, mmm.
I thought you would have hadabout 12, 12, uh 20 chillin'
now.
I said, nah, I'm good.
And I knew she had a lot, but Iwas just like, oh man, I dodged
that bullet.
Shout out to God for that.
That was a good one.
That was a good one.
But uh anyway, anyway, sometimesbeing nice helps, man.

(01:03:43):
See, there's nice and I told herto boy, I had thought about you.
I said, nah, when I was younger,I was too nice, remember?
Yeah, he just started laughing.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
I said, Well, you know, left itlike that.
I said, I was too nice.
Thank God I was too nice.

SPEAKER_02 (01:04:03):
Oh my God.
Yes.
Chow, chow, chow, child, chow.
How old were you and you on yourfirst date?
Because you got all yourcousins.
Yeah, I mean, who uh Foley isall your cousins.
I was How old were you?

SPEAKER_06 (01:04:18):
16.
Oh.
I was in 11th grade.

SPEAKER_02 (01:04:21):
Okay.

SPEAKER_06 (01:04:22):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (01:04:23):
Um It wasn't with your cousin.
I'm just kidding.
I'm just kidding.

SPEAKER_06 (01:04:28):
I was in the 11th grade, and I had, of course,
had, you know, you had to askthe parent, um, can I Oh did
you?
I want to take your daughterout.
Uh that's like a proposal.
To the movies.
You know, and I'll take her outto the movies.

SPEAKER_00 (01:04:43):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (01:04:43):
Um it's gonna be Saturday.
We're gonna go to the moviesright up here.
Well, no, we went to Pensacola.

SPEAKER_00 (01:04:49):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (01:04:49):
We're gonna go to Pensacola, we'll leave here at
six, and um I'll have her backby well, my curfew then.
Was it 9 30?
So I think we went or 'cause wewatched a seven o'clock movie.
So eight.

SPEAKER_00 (01:05:05):
Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_06 (01:05:05):
No, so about six o'clock movie, yeah.
So I because I had to be home bynine thirty.
Okay.
Um so that means I had to haveher back at least at nine.
Yeah.
So um, yeah, we had to ask, youknow, I had to ask my parents,
of course, too, first.
Then I asked and I said, my dadsaid it was okay.
And so, yeah, so I went on s at16.
And man, I probably only went my11th grade year, I probably only

(01:05:29):
went on about maybe three dates.

SPEAKER_00 (01:05:31):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (01:05:31):
And then my senior year, um, I was dating someone,
and her parents was real strict.

SPEAKER_00 (01:05:38):
Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_06 (01:05:38):
But she was out of school then.
And so we only well, we onlydated, we only dated for the
first, like the first fewmonths, and then she started
dating this other dude, thisanother non-nice dude.
Yeah.
And um, so I would date peoplethat was in other cities, like
in Banget or Nobody Mobile.

(01:06:00):
I didn't date nobody mobileuntil like after college.
But it was just too far, Icouldn't really look at it.
So I didn't really have no date.
So when I that's why when I wentto college, I went Buck Wild.
Because it was like, oh my God,I can date people, um, you know,
not just this one.
I can it's not like you standingin line waiting on somebody to
break up with this person.

(01:06:21):
Uh uh-huh.
Then you hopefully get yourchance.
Um, so that yeah, I I went crazyin college because I was like,
oh my God, I could date.
So I was just thinking about, Iwas thinking my priorities was
girls, football, then academics.
Oh.
Because then my freshman year, Iplay as too.

(01:06:42):
So when I play as I was thinkingabout just making sure I knew my
stuff.
And then so my GPA went downdrastically after my freshman
year.
Yeah, so um, but I was yeah, Iwasn't a a big dater.
And like I said, I was I wasgreen.
I had common sense, yeah, but Iwas green to thinking somebody

(01:07:06):
wouldn't do me that way.

SPEAKER_04 (01:07:08):
Oh, I learned that out real fast.

SPEAKER_06 (01:07:10):
Yeah, I got I got uh I got when I I'm in one night
coming from you knowfestivities.
College?
Yeah, okay, in college comingfrom um fraternal festivities.

SPEAKER_00 (01:07:23):
Okay.

SPEAKER_06 (01:07:24):
My freshman year.
And um we're out and aboutlooking for stuff, doing what we
was supposed to be doing, and Isee this person I was supposed
to be boyfriend and girlfriendwith, and she creeping over to
this uh other guys, huh?
Yeah, to other fraternitymembers.

(01:07:44):
One of them fraternity members.
I said, I be got so I calledher, I said, What you did?
You know, what you do lastnight?
Oh, we stayed in the dorm allnight.
I said, and this mother's gonnalie.
I said, at least you could havesaid you went to such such
apartment, you know, somebodythat lived in that apartment,
and and then Flynn was like, shelying, why?
She lied.
We saw her, we saw She lying.

(01:08:09):
I said, I know she lying, Flynn,I know she lied.
And so uh that situation, andthen like before another time in
college, uh I ran into one of mywe weren't, we were, we were
dating at the time, ran into herboyfriend, her other boyfriend
at a basketball game.
Didn't know neither one of uswas coming to see her play,

(01:08:29):
because she played collegially.
And uh that was crazy.
And it just, you know, I wasjust so green at little stuff
like that, man.
Because like I said, I didn't Ididn't date, you know, and so
when I was starting, I was like,okay, so be smart about it.
Be smart about it.
And uh yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (01:08:45):
I learned that quick in high school, my freshman
year, huh?
They was ooh, they're they theythose little high schoolers.
Yeah, I I can imagine.
Yeah, and so then to me, it madeso for me, I was like, well,
this the game y'all playing.
Yeah, look, I'm do I need to beplaying the same game so that

(01:09:06):
your feelings don't get hurt,you know, because you get your
feelings hurt.
And so yeah, I learned thatquick in high school that, yeah,
that's yeah, I tried to getemotionally unattached.

SPEAKER_06 (01:09:18):
Uh-huh.
Yeah.
You know, um, but it was justhard for me to beat because I
was just feeling like I'm notdoing right.
I'm not doing right by somebodyby not being emotionally
attached, by not opening up allof who I am, you know, to, you
know, to dating someone orwhatever.
And but, yo, it was, I wasseeing people do it all the
time.
I was like, dang.

(01:09:38):
And then I was being done thatway, and the next thing you
know, I'm hanging with somebody,like I say, well, I don't share.
Hey, man, who you dating?
And I want to tell her becauseone day say, well, Keithla can
pull her.
I know I can pull her, andthat's what they would be trying
to do.

SPEAKER_02 (01:09:49):
Well, and I guess when I said you were being
Jerry, Jerry, that was kind ofgood because it would be that
way where people, I don't knowif like how people, the the
person who was the cheater wouldspin the story to make it look
like you, you know.
So then the girl is mad at you,and you like, wait, I didn't
even know y'all were boyfriend,girlfriend.
And so um, yeah, that that allbecomes real real tricky um with

(01:10:18):
dating.
And I know everybody wants likethese little high schoolers, you
come home talking about all theheartbreaks and all the things
they go through trying to bedating somebody and getting
their feelings hurt.

SPEAKER_06 (01:10:32):
Yeah, you know I heard it.
Coaching all the girls' sportsI've coached, high school
sports.
Oof.
Storytime, that's what theytake.
They say, coach hair, story timeis all Lord.
That means something went down.

SPEAKER_02 (01:10:45):
And even dating now for them, like if you take some
a girl to the movies and to outto eat, goodness gracious,
that's a hundred dollars.
It is, it's a lot.
I mean, it was not nearly thatexpensive when we were young,
dating or whatever, but now Idon't even know how they can
afford to take somebody out anddate.

SPEAKER_06 (01:11:04):
And for us too, like I was like, even somebody just
like, hey, let's just go to thePizza Hut Buffet.

SPEAKER_01 (01:11:10):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (01:11:11):
They they can't even do that now because that's
looked as why you do that?
Oh, you went to buffet, you wentto get coffee, you went to do,
you know what I'm saying,Starbucks.
And so it's it's uh it's astatus thing for them when they
go out to eat.

SPEAKER_02 (01:11:24):
Let me tell you something.
I think it's okay if a girldon't want you on the first date
just to go to coffee or to gohave a glass of wine or how
depending on how old you are.
I think that's appropriate.
Because let me first see howmuch I want to invest into this
thing.
Let's see first, do we clickbefore I even go and do that?

(01:11:46):
I personally for me, if I werelike dating age or still dating,
and a guy asks me out to coffeeor for a glass of wine, that
would be fine for me.

SPEAKER_00 (01:11:56):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (01:11:57):
Because it also is not gonna waste my time.
I I don't have to spend a wholeevening and I'm like, ah, I'm
not feeling this.
But it's to me, it's save, it'ssaving me time and me and me
like wait wasting your time.
Right.
I don't know.
I think that's fine becausesometimes there are some people
who have stories of they'll dothe coffee or the wine and then

(01:12:17):
they like really click, theyspend two hours just talking and
they end up going to get dessertsomewhere or they do something
else, they extend the datebeyond that.
But I think that to me, uh, inthese days and times, that's
what I would do.
And if she does not want to dothat, then that is not the one
for you.

SPEAKER_06 (01:12:36):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (01:12:36):
That's how I personally feel.

SPEAKER_06 (01:12:38):
But uh for me, cooking was my thing.
Like I would be like, I inviteyou over to my apartment and
cook for you.
Because, you know, it was it wascheap for me.
And I could cook.
And I knew in college, you know,whatever I'm saying in college,
because when I girls, shoot,they was in a dorm.
They wanted some real food.

SPEAKER_02 (01:12:57):
And that's true.

SPEAKER_06 (01:12:58):
They wanted some real food.

SPEAKER_02 (01:13:00):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (01:13:01):
You know, or, you know, uh one of the other things
was where me and um, like, whatRuss would do, Russ and I, we
would, like, uh, he would comeand visit me sometimes.
And so I would just invite over,like, uh some cheerleaders and
tell Sharita to invite some ofher girls, and it'll probably

(01:13:23):
me, Russ, or probably two otherguys.
So it may be like 10 girls.
And so I'm cooking, and then noweverybody's chilling.
Yeah, and we're just trying tosee who out of the bunch you
vibe with.
Yep.
Who's worth it and who's who'sbusy trying to worry about is
such and such coming to pickthem up from my house or
whatever like that.

(01:13:43):
So, you know, little things likethat.
Um, but it was cheap, becauseeven if you just did a cheap
spaghetti, you know, it was justthe the company and the
atmosphere.
But you do you try to pull thatover now, these girls would
cause they want some lamb chops.
I'm telling you what my studentssaid.

SPEAKER_00 (01:14:00):
Oh, really?

SPEAKER_06 (01:14:01):
Yes.
Yes.
Coach Hare, he took me and hewas talking about just go to uh
was like one of the little umWhat's that little like it's not
like Hooters, the one we just Ijust mentioned it.
It's like they could like barfood, though.
It was over there where it usedto be California Dreaming.
Oh Mills Air High.

SPEAKER_00 (01:14:21):
Oh, that wasn't good enough?

SPEAKER_06 (01:14:22):
No.

SPEAKER_00 (01:14:22):
Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (01:14:23):
No, they wanted to go into the city or down
somewhere at the battery downthere and and yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (01:14:29):
Oh no, that that would be some time for me before
I did that.
That's not a they want to that'snot a first, second, or third.
That's a uh we boyfriend,girlfriend date.
That's how it would be for me.

SPEAKER_06 (01:14:40):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (01:14:41):
And most of these girls I mean, they are high
school students.

SPEAKER_06 (01:14:44):
Yeah, most of my students, though, it's funny
because this what this is theirrange of of uh menu.
Chicken tenders or lamb chops.
Like they ain't gonna trynothing to do.
Ain't no in between.
No, it's either it's gonna be ifif if they don't have lamb
chops, just give me chickentenders.

SPEAKER_02 (01:14:58):
Well, guess what?
You can go for chicken tenders.

SPEAKER_06 (01:15:00):
Zaxby's.
Zaxby's Chick-fil-A everywherefor chicken tenders.
Guthrie's.
Yes, but they they gotta havethat fancy stuff.
Oh no.
That's why I always I said, man,if y'all was, I said, my boys
right now would be struggling.

SPEAKER_02 (01:15:13):
Oh, they would be, because we didn't, I mean, like,
they do know fancy.
Yeah.
Um, but if they came to us andsaid they go on a f they go on a
first date and they taking thegirl to some place.
Now this a first date, why arewe going there?
Yeah.
Like we would that would listen,I'm not, I'm not funding that.
And she ain't the girl if that'swhere she's trying to tell you

(01:15:36):
to take her.

SPEAKER_06 (01:15:36):
Right, right, right.

SPEAKER_02 (01:15:37):
No, not on a first date.
No.
Mm-mm.
That is not happening.

SPEAKER_06 (01:15:41):
Yeah.
But all right, let's move on tothe uh latter part of our
episode.
Let's get to the side out of theweek.

unknown (01:15:50):
Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_01 (01:15:51):
What's your side?

SPEAKER_06 (01:15:52):
All right, my side out of the week.
Remember when we took uh we w wecelebrated with Deja this this
past weekend, right?

SPEAKER_00 (01:15:58):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (01:15:59):
And so once we left the restaurant, we were trying
to find somewhere to go.

SPEAKER_00 (01:16:04):
Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_06 (01:16:04):
So we go to this little spot where everybody was
young, right?
So I'm I'm pulling up.
I'm already knowing the vibebecause I'm looking, I'm saying,
man, these little young kids.
They were young.
You know, you could tell by thelittle clothes they had on,
young clothes, everything was uhhot topic, Claire's, what's the

(01:16:25):
other little rainbow, look,whatever y'all go?

SPEAKER_02 (01:16:29):
I don't know.
Yeah, that's rainbow still lookslike that.

SPEAKER_06 (01:16:32):
And the fellas, you know, you could tell they was
all dressed the same, you know,the jeans the same and the, you
know, all that stuff, but justlooking Sheen.
Yeah, so I said, oh man, we wedon't belong here.
We're too old for this.
So we're trying to just pre-nelland the entourage trying to
decide what they want to do, butI'm like, okay, this is where
they told us to go.
Let's go ahead and get in line,because the line is growing.

(01:16:54):
If if we're going in, let's goahead and go in and do whatever.
So I'm standing in line.
All right.
Um, I'm dressed nice, okay?
Uh, and these little young catscome up.
Oh my God.
They weren't too young, they wasin their 20s or whatever, but I
mean, they're still young.
So don't joke is just gonnacatch.

(01:17:14):
And he was he was sincere.
He said, OG, OG, hey, hey, OG.
Yeah, you sure where you getthat shirt from that shirt, dope
as hell, OG.
I said, smile.
OG.
I said, I said, man.
You know, I said, what?
I said, because even unc wouldhave been, because you could be

(01:17:35):
a you could be an uncle youngerthan your nephew.
Yeah.
You know, in the hood.
You could be an uncle youngerthan your nephew.
But when you can't be an OG andbe young, you're, you're,
you're, that's old status.
And I said, well, not oldstatus, but that's older than
the rest status.
So I was like, so I said, thisman called me OG.

(01:17:56):
I know we ain't supposed to bein that club.
I'm chaperoning a field trip.
That's what I'm doing.
And they still over there downat the bottom.
I'm standing in line because I'mlike, okay, I got it.

SPEAKER_02 (01:18:06):
I wasn't standing in line.

SPEAKER_06 (01:18:07):
Yeah, none of y'all was standing in line except me.
And then I knew we, I was like,they don't want to be here, but
we got to be in line.
Because if not, then, you know.
So then I was just had enough.
I said, you know what?
Screw it.
Let me get out of line.
Because they everybody talkingabout OG, and then you see if
people look, they got it like,why do these old folks doing up

(01:18:28):
in here?
So let me get out of line.
So I got out of line.
That was my side out of the weekbeing caught OG in the line up
in the midst of all these littleyoung cats, while uh everybody
else was over there uh chilling.
I was like, oh, I was taking thedog.

SPEAKER_02 (01:18:42):
Oh no, babe, they called you OG.

SPEAKER_06 (01:18:45):
Right, yeah.
Uh, but you're in a nurse.
Yeah, it's on it.
No, it's too late.
I was already injured andeverything by the.

SPEAKER_02 (01:18:54):
Oh my gosh, his little feelings were so hurt.

SPEAKER_06 (01:18:58):
OG, where you get that shirt from.

SPEAKER_02 (01:19:00):
And you was looking good.
I know I was looking good.
They were looking a pickle, too.
Talking about his shirt.
You should have seen theirlittle raggedy outfits in line.
They looked a pickle.

SPEAKER_06 (01:19:10):
And I said I don't fault the young man because you
could tell he was sincere.
Because he was he was dressednicely in his streetwear.

SPEAKER_02 (01:19:21):
We were more like And they were some nice
gentlemen.

SPEAKER_06 (01:19:24):
They were now they were Oh, they were nice
gentlemen.
They were good cats.

SPEAKER_02 (01:19:27):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (01:19:27):
But you know, I can, you know, I you know how we know
we know ain't no ain't nojudgment.
Like I was like, yeah, they justcool cats.
You know, but OG, I said,because he was being respectful.

SPEAKER_00 (01:19:38):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 (01:19:38):
OG, I said, dang.
So that's my side eye.

SPEAKER_02 (01:19:45):
Oh no.
I I'm trying to think that Ihave a side eye um since the
last time we were here.
And nothing is standing out.
The only thing that's a side eyefor me, and it's not really like
a side eye, but our niece, um,for her birthday weekend, her

(01:20:09):
boyfriend had things planned,and as they're trying to decide,
because the line was too longand deciding what the actor was
gonna look like.
She was so wanting to pleaseeverybody, and I kept having to
tell her, this is your day.
You do what you want to do.

(01:20:30):
You don't have to worry aboutother people, they're here to
celebrate you.
So wherever you go, wherever youdo, they're gonna roll with it.
You, this is the one day thatyou can be completely selfish
and be able to think about you.
And that was so challenging forher.

(01:20:50):
Yeah, we talked about it later,and she was saying, you know,
because people had traveled andhad come, she, you know, just
didn't want them to like nothave a good time.
I said, Well, they have theycame to be with you.
So whatever you, whatever washappening to celebrate your
birthday, they would have beenfine with that.

(01:21:12):
So, and I and I I would have tosometimes even probably give
myself the side eye for thatbecause I I always I I'll say I
used to because now I do not.
I don't know that because I'mtwo years away from 50, but now
I I'm not going to I'm gonna dowhat I want to do.

(01:21:35):
I'm not gonna sacrifice my peaceor my happiness or have to
complain about it later.
I'm just gonna do what I need todo, and then whoever didn't like
it.

SPEAKER_05 (01:21:48):
Sorry about that, my bad.

SPEAKER_02 (01:21:49):
You'll be all right, yeah.
So, but um, she just turned 30.
So if in my 30, I definitelywould plan things and put
everybody else first, thinkingabout that, and then later be
like, ah, why did I do that?
I should have da da da.

(01:22:09):
So um, yeah, and so she wasdoing what she was she was
trying to put people first, andit was her day.

SPEAKER_01 (01:22:20):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (01:22:20):
So we talked about it later.
Um, that no, you you have toremember that it's your day.
You do what you want to do onyour day.

SPEAKER_06 (01:22:29):
Yeah.
So I get you you don't get thoseparticular milestones again.
Like you do, you get othermilestones.
Like you get a, you know, thiswas her 30, so she'll get a
40th, she'll get a 45, she'llget a 50, you know, but you
don't get your 30th again.
So just make sure you maximizeit.
Um and then, you know, if ifpeople get disappointed or

(01:22:52):
offended or mad that you didsomething you wanted to do on
your day, maybe that's anevaluation you need to have
about them.

SPEAKER_02 (01:23:00):
About them.

SPEAKER_06 (01:23:01):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (01:23:02):
Especially if they bring it, like if they come to
you about it, then thatdefinitely is uh well, look like
you won't be in my 40s.

SPEAKER_06 (01:23:10):
Right, right, correct.
Correct.

SPEAKER_02 (01:23:12):
But um, yeah.
So that was a little bit of aside eye, but just because her
remembering that it was her day,that yo, no, it ain't it's not
about everybody else, it's aboutyou.

SPEAKER_06 (01:23:25):
Yep.

SPEAKER_02 (01:23:25):
And that's okay.

SPEAKER_06 (01:23:26):
That's right.
That's right.
All right.
So what are you looking forwardto?
Um, what are you thankful for?
You know, what are you thankfulfor?

SPEAKER_02 (01:23:38):
Let's see.
Um, I'm thankful um that I havea job or career where we get
fall breaks.
Um, yeah.
And and you still get paidduring your fall break.

SPEAKER_00 (01:23:53):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (01:23:54):
Um, so anyways, I appreciate the time to just kind
of reset, reboot, and be readyto do it all over again.
So I'm thankful for that.
And then this is what I'mlooking forward to.
I know we have an event.
Um, if you wanted to share thatpart about this weekend, we're
going to Alabama State umhomecoming.

(01:24:14):
Homecoming.

SPEAKER_04 (01:24:15):
Right.

SPEAKER_02 (01:24:15):
But um, one thing I'm excited about, I'm gonna try
a new nail technique on mynails.
I've been saying I'm gonna getit, but this I'm gonna really
get it this time.
I'm gonna get the cat eye thingwith a magnet little trick on
your nail thing that looks kindof glassy.
I'm gonna get those nails for umhomecoming.

(01:24:38):
Um, somebody was wanting me toget um get a hornet on there.
Yeah, this morning, y'all.
He was like, get a little, whydon't you get a hornet on your
nail?
Uh yeah.
I'm not getting a hornet on mynail.
I wouldn't even get anythinglike that on my nail.

SPEAKER_06 (01:24:54):
Get a wheat shocker on there.

SPEAKER_02 (01:24:56):
I wouldn't get a wheat shocker either.

SPEAKER_06 (01:24:58):
Right.
I wouldn't get a wheat shockeron nothing.
Not even a shirt.
On stuff it's supposed to be on.

SPEAKER_02 (01:25:04):
Don't talk about my college.

SPEAKER_06 (01:25:06):
Right.

SPEAKER_02 (01:25:07):
But anywho, I'm not getting a hornet nor a wheat
shocker, but I'm gonna get themetal.
Well, it's not even metallic,but it's you they do like little
things with the with the magnet,but it's called a cat eye, but
it looks like glassy like.
Anywho, I'm gonna try that formy nails this week.
Okay.
So I'm looking forward to thatbecause I've been saying I'm

(01:25:28):
gonna do it, so I'm gonnafinally do it.

SPEAKER_06 (01:25:30):
Cool.
Well, I'm looking forward to uh,of course, homecoming this
weekend.
Um it's always good to to see uhjust everybody because you know,
my fraternity brothers and justjust friends, period.
You know, I it's so many peoplethat I've rocked with um at
Alabama State, and it's justalways good to be back home and

(01:25:51):
see them.
Um see the band, uh, be in thatpresence.
Uh what else am I lookingforward to?
Oh, I'm approaching, I'm closeto getting out of these last two
class not last two classes.
Uh these two classes I'm takingright here, that is mini
semester.
Then I have two more fromOctober to December, and then

(01:26:15):
practicum internship.
And I think two more.
So they have four classes totalon top of my practicum
internship.
So I'm kinda happy to get donewith all this stuff, so to see
what happens next.
Um I still need to get myinternship site though.
Yes.
I gotta get by January.
So anybody out there in theMetro Atlanta area, close, not

(01:26:38):
too far, that's willing to takeme on as an internship and uh
you do mental health counselingor um um what is it,
psychological testing, anythinglike that, um let me know.
Hit me up.
All right, I need a site.
All right, uh let's get up outof here.
Thank y'all for watching.

(01:27:00):
Thank you for listening, thankyou for supporting.
And uh can't wait to continueon.

SPEAKER_02 (01:27:08):
This is can't wait to continue on.

SPEAKER_04 (01:27:12):
Continue on what?
Continue on with the podcast.

SPEAKER_06 (01:27:15):
Oh, sometimes, man, when when the fragrance of hate
is so rich in other people'sperfume.

SPEAKER_02 (01:27:25):
I just was not expecting you to say I can't
wait to continue on.

SPEAKER_06 (01:27:30):
All right, y'all.
Well, it's always something atthe end, huh?

SPEAKER_02 (01:27:34):
Continue on, sir.

SPEAKER_06 (01:27:35):
There's always something at the end.
So I'm gonna just go ahead andget up out of here.
Thank you for listening to theRefreshing Normal Podcast.

SPEAKER_02 (01:27:43):
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I am Keyflo.

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We'll see you when we see.

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Adios bye.

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