July 7, 2025 • 33 mins
Through her work transitioning from women's fitness to transformational coaching, Danita Young uncovered a powerful truth: when we operate from a contracted energetic state—characterized by limiting beliefs, fear, and generational trauma—we create outcomes that mirror that contraction. The solution isn't just positive thinking or temporary coping mechanisms, but bringing our limiting beliefs to truth and expanding our energetic frequency.
• Finding your voice is the first step to building confidence
• Difficult challenges can lead to profound growth
• Seasons of life remind us that constant action isn't sustainable
• The Align Method developed accidentally through Danita's personal healing journey
• Einstein's quote: "We are all energy - match the frequency of the reality you want"
• Only 8% of people are willing to change; 92% stay stuck in familiar patterns
• Make decisions from an expanded state, never from contraction
If you're interested in experiencing the Align Method, Danita offers a free 20-minute assessment to help you understand your current energetic state. Visit callwithdanita.com to schedule your session.
Connect with Danita
Website: alignwithdanita.com
Instagram: @danitayoung
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Aideen Ni Riada (00:02):
Welcome.
This is the Resonate podcastwith Aideen.
I'm Aideen Nereida, and myguest today is Danita Young.
Hi, Danita.
Danita Young (00:10):
Hello, thank you for having me.
Aideen Ni Riada (00:12):
I'm so excited to speak to you.
Let me tell you a little bitabout Danita before we start.
Danita Young is atransformational coach, nlp
practitioner and creator of theAlign Method, helping people
break free from anxiety, stressand procrastination without meds
or surface fixes.
With over 15 years ofexperience and a background in
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women's fitness, danita'smission is to guide others back
to feeling unstoppable,confident and aligned with their
true purpose.
Well, you know that my wholething is confidence building,
confidence in people.
Danita Young (00:49):
But tell us a little bit more about how you
got to where you are today.
Yeah, we uh, right before thecall, we were kind of talking
about a little bit of somebackground and, um, one of the
things, one of the stories wehad talked about, is being
raised in a religion where itwas more about their voice
rather than your voice, and Ihad kind of expressed that and I
don't believe that religion isbad.
So, for those that lovereligion and that's how they
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find God, I was able to find Godwithout religion.
So there's I think there'salways a common denominator
there of what we're trying toachieve and reach.
But for me, it was being ableto find my own voice without
having to choose a man based offof the religion's decisions, or
being able to choose my ownpath of kids or no kids, and
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that would be my own decision,right, Just kind of really being
able to find my own voice.
And what a beautiful way tostep into our confidence by
being able to learn how to useour voice.
Aideen Ni Riada (01:40):
Is it interesting how we get these
blocks, we get these challengesand the challenge helps you
develop the thing that you needto keep going right.
I just find it so fascinating,like when you look back it can
be either a terrible, you knowkind of hard heartbreak that you
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had to go through something, oryou can look at it differently
and maybe see how far you havegrown through a difficult time
when you were challenged, youwere basically told what to
believe in.
Danita Young (02:15):
Yeah, my analogy to that is anytime that somebody
is going through somethingtough or challenge, as your
words there is.
How would we actually know it'sthe most amazing, magnificent,
awesome day of our life if wedidn't have the opposite?
So yeah, to your point.
I really love seeing life hasthose opposites, those
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polarities is what gives us thatbigger perspective, that
broader view, and how beautifulit is.
We can sit back and go.
The bad is really meant for thegood and the good is needed for
the bad, like it's all unfoldedtogether.
Aideen Ni Riada (02:51):
There's a purpose there, somehow, right,
but we get stuck, and I thinkthat's what what you work toward
, right, that you help peoplewho've getting, who are getting
stuck with that.
But what?
What did you do or how did youget unstuck at the time when you
were most stuck in yourexpression and being yourself?
Danita Young (03:12):
I told you I was an open book so I was going to
go right to the stuckest part ofmy life.
I would say stuckest part of mylife was depression,
hopelessness, guilt, shame,feeling like a failure and
really got to an ending questionof what's the point.
That's not a fun place to be in.
Aideen Ni Riada (03:33):
No, it's not, and I know that I mean, when I
turned 40, I had to retreat backto my mom's house.
I was like trying to doeverything a certain way, I had
my mindset, I was quite stubbornand nothing was working and I
retreated, and so I am.
Did you have a period ofretreating away from life as
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well?
Danita Young (03:55):
Oh yeah, I call that the contracting energy,
where we just isolate, we avoidourself, we avoid people, we
avoid the things we're supposedto be doing and you almost don't
even realize it's happeningbecause it's so subconsciously.
But consciously we're like I'mworking hard or consciously I'm
trying so hard that there's asubconscious retreat.
That's definitely happening forsure.
Aideen Ni Riada (04:13):
And yeah, I don't know if it's if you think
of it this way as well, but Ilove the idea that seasons allow
us to understand that weshouldn't be always in constant
action or constant positivity orconstant achievement, Like
taking a step back can be goodto a point.
Danita Young (04:30):
Especially with the feminine energy right, like
masculine, energy is verystructured, linear and built
that way to keep in that linearpath.
But if you look at feminine,especially with the cycles and
the 28 days, and when they talkabout like even menopause, with
the cycles and the 28 days andwhen they talk about, like even
menopause, how it's our as afemale, if we sync up to us as
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seasons, especially with ourfour cycles and four seasons,
you'll actually identify like,oh, going through a menstruation
is the winter time, that's thetime that we need to rest and
really just relax with our bodyand go towards heat for our body
, for to menstruate, right andthen.
But it, it's, it's so cool I Iwas able to do a podcast with a
hormone expert that related theseasons to being a female and it
made so much more sense toallow ourself, or give ourself
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permission, the grace, duringthose different seasons, to be
able to be more gentle toourselves for sure yeah, and it
applies to men too, because theyneed to step back also
sometimes.
Aideen Ni Riada (05:24):
I know it's a different cycle, it's a
different feel, but gosh, it'sinteresting.
I'm really curious about howyou work with people.
You talk about the align method.
Would you like to tell us alittle bit about how you
developed it and what it means?
Danita Young (05:40):
I tripped completely on it.
It was really one of thosethings, completely accidental.
And next thing, you know, I wasworking with different types of
life experiences, whether thatwas addictions, whether that was
weight loss, whether that wasrelationships or even parents
and teenagers.
So it really was just aninteresting moment.
I sat there and I was like waita minute, I turned into a life
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coach.
How did this happen?
And it was through my owndiscovery and journey of hitting
my rock bottom moments in myown life and pulling myself out
of that discovery and learningthe steps that it takes to go
from a contracted, isolated,retracted version of ourselves
and really like, is anybodygoing to just wish and just drop
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it in our lap of a new life?
Nope, going to just wish andjust drop it in our lap of a new
life, nope.
And so being able to workwithin the laws of frequency,
track and measure, being able toactually see your success, so
it gives you that motive,momentum and the motivation to
keep going.
And then also, I really justneeded the facts, I needed the
physics, I needed theneuroscience, I needed the
understand the subconscious,like rewiring and all that, and
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that is what gave me the stepsto dig my way out and that is
now how I turn around and beable to help others is using the
same tracking and metrics tosay nobody's going to just
randomly give you a differentoutcome in your life If you're
contracted energy.
That works against the laws ofphysics.
We have to be expansive firstto get our expansive outcome.
Aideen Ni Riada (07:04):
Tell us more about that Cause.
I'm curious how that would work.
Danita Young (07:08):
Yes.
So one of my favorite quotes isby Albert Einstein.
I absolutely love this quotebecause it gave me so much hope,
because I think that word iswhere we all initially start is
how much hope do we reallybelieve that we can be expanded?
And the quote says we are allenergy.
All we have to do is match thefrequency of the reality that we
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want.
And if we match it, there's noother way but we will get that
outcome.
It's not philosophy, it'sphysics, and so to me I was like
I was trying everything in thethird dimension world.
I was trying everything as faras working hard and doing all
the tools and researching andlearning and book reading and
podcasts.
I was trying everything as faras working hard and doing all
the tools and researching andlearning and book reading and
podcasts.
I was doing that whole side ofit.
But I wasn't.
I didn't really understand theenergetic frequency side of it.
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I lived a lot of limitingbeliefs, fears and just
contracting kind of generationaltype of trauma, stuff that I
was dealing with and once I wasable to kind of like pinpoint
and this that I was I wasdealing with.
And, uh, once I was able tokind of like pinpoint, and this
is a perfect example for thosethat are listening.
Like you can track and measureyour own belief system.
So, on a one to 10 scale, rateyourself of 10 is the highest
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ones the lowest, and don't thinkof it as your conscious, think
of as your subconscious tellingyou the answer, and so you could
say, like your typical beliefsof like, do I feel in purpose?
Um, am I happy, am I worthy, amI good enough, am I am I worthy
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of love?
Like you know all thesedifferent elements right, you go
down as many beliefs as youwant and then, as you look at
them, anything that is not a 10is technically a limiting belief
, and so what you'll do is in.
What we want to do is bring thelimiting belief to truth.
And when and when?
That quote says when you cometo truth, it will set you free
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as a thousand percent correct.
Because what I got to see nowis that, instead of trying to
meditate and do breath work orpull my earlobe to fix my vagus
nerve, instead I got to actuallylearn how to face the fear,
face the limiting beliefs, bringthem to truth, and naturally,
after that, boundaries wereeasier, automatically.
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People just started leaving mylife that needed to get out.
Naturally, more doors ofopportunities and possibilities
started opening up for me, andit is such a really cool switch
when somebody hits that littleswitch and they finally go oh,
this is it, and I just lovedbeing able to show people the
switch.
Aideen Ni Riada (09:39):
I know because it's something.
There's something veryinteresting about our nervous
system and I just loved beingable to show people the switch.
I know because it's something.
There's something veryinteresting about our nervous
system and you know, if we don'tbelieve something, our nervous
system will completely show thatlike it will react when we're
in a situation we want.
It will react as if you don'treally want it.
It will be unsure of itself,your physical body and that.
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That physical body you cantreat the physical body.
You can, yeah, pull on anearlobe.
Um, singing is a great way tobalance your vagus nerve and all
those things.
But when we can actually healbut basically what you're
talking about is a kind ofhealing it's healing the
vulnerable inner child that hastaken on the generational issues
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, has listened to their mom andpop say you know you can't
afford that.
Or you know, you know my mom'sown was, you know it's, it's,
it's better to have few needs,because then you're always, you
know you're always happy becauseyou have few needs.
So it's about playing smallRight?
So all of those things that weabsorb as kids, those stay with
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us.
We can do the healings and wecan go for a sound bath, but
until we become conscious ofsome of those things, it's very
difficult to completely releasethem, because otherwise they'll
just pop out.
They're deep down in there,right yes, absolutely, and it's
in those.
Danita Young (11:01):
Those are all beneficial, they're all helpful,
um, but they call it the warmbath effect, where you're in the
warm bath and you feel nice andcozy and it feels warm as
you're doing it, but as soon asyou step out you're cold again,
right?
So it's kind of the same effectand so it's more of a
foundational healing of beingable to really get to the root
of it.
And I show people oh my gosh,it's actually so much easier
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than you guys think, it'sactually so much freeing than
you guys think, it's soliberating.
But only about 8% of peopleactually change or are willing
to change.
92% of people are staying stuckin that survival brain because
it's familiar and there is asense of comfort with
familiarity, and so I just showpeople how much more comfortable
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it can be with thisfoundational healing.
Aideen Ni Riada (11:45):
I love it.
This is really amazing.
So, asking yourself, on a scaleof one to 10, do you feel like
you are in purpose, that you'rehappy, that you're worthy, that
you're worthy of love?
So how many people listeningare writing down their rating
right now?
Because I feel like I shouldtry, do it right now, right so,
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when, when I know that somemodalities I know that EFT or
tapping, where you, you know,touch points on your face and it
helps, it's a patterninterrupter and it works on your
nervous system, and they'doften use a rating at the
beginning and at the end as well, and I think that that it can
be useful to rate things at thebeginning and at the end of
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anything, right, Because it'sit's more clear than what's
really happening.
I say to my husband he's like,oh, I feel, you know, annoyed
about this, and I was like, well, how annoyed, like, like, on a
scale of one to 10, how annoyedare you?
Especially, if there's like, ifI'm annoyed and he's annoyed
but he's only a two out of 10annoyed and I'm a 10 out of 10
annoyed, then I think I, youknow, then the thing that's
annoying me has to be fixedfirst.
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I'm tricky like that.
Um.
So the thing about rating it isit.
It clarifies right and there'sa lot of power in clarity.
Danita Young (13:05):
Yes, there is oh boy, because as soon as the
subconscious wants to go back,I'll give you an example.
So let's say, if somebody rightnow is listening and they rate
themselves of a five out of 10of being in purpose as an
example, and then what we would,uh we would do is we'd usually
find, well, purpose is actuallythe outcome.
So what would be the beliefunderneath that purpose?
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So we would usually might find,well, um, maybe I'm just a
failure, right?
And so then we, we could well,so you, everybody's different,
right, but I'm just using anexample.
And so then we would go back toa time in their life where they
felt like they were a failureand, without even having to
relive the experience or go intodetails, it's more of just well
.
Now let's actually take a lookat the bigger picture, because
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often, as children, we havewhat's called the very narrow
focus, we're adopting what'scalled egotism, where we make
everything about ourselves,we're absorbing the world to
identify how we fit into thisworld, and so we just take on
like it's my fault or it's myresponsibility, or it's my issue
.
And so when we go back with adifferent perspective, we can
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say, well, was it technicallyyour fault, and what you'll find
is that everybody is alwaysdoing their best with the tools,
the resources and theenvironment in their head and
around them, and so that's thefirst step is releasing that
guilt and shame they might haveat the beginning, and so when
you bring the clarity to it,then what they do is
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subconsciously, they release itforever.
It's not something that's nowpull my earlobe or tap, it's not
one of those.
It's now being able tocognitively go back and now
reconfirm truth and clarity andhow much.
That's where the freedom comesin, where you just set yourself
free from that type of feelingof a failure which then makes
you go into more of that future,expansive part of us.
Because to me, I show people atimeline right.
There's a past of where we'vecome from, and then you have our
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future, and our future is I'mable to show people.
It's full of possibilities andlimitless and unknowns and new
opportunities.
Exciting opportunities, exactly.
But it could actually be fullof anxiety if we are trying to
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put our past onto our future,trying to predict our future,
therefore making our future ourpast.
And so that's where people getstuck in the loop, is they're
just stuck in that familiarity,survival, comfort zone, and so
when we can take somebody intolike thinking of, yeah, tomorrow
hasn't unfolded yet, and if I'mnot a failure, who could I be,
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you know, and it really justkind of sets really people into
feeling unstoppable and it's themost beautiful energetic
frequency you can really sharewith somebody.
It's pretty cool.
Aideen Ni Riada (15:43):
That is awesome .
I was reading an interestingbook about emotions where it
talked about how our emotionsare really just predictions that
we see something and we predicthow our body should react, and
so this idea of we're constantlyimagining what's going to
happen next, based on the past,is just it's been shown in
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research that this is happening.
So if you've had a difficulttime, if you've been through a
difficult time recently, ifyou've forgotten all your
successes because sometimes theyget buried when we've had a big
disappointment then ourpredictions are we've had a big
disappointment, then ourpredictions are they're probably
not optimized.
Danita Young (16:26):
I'll put it that way, absolutely.
And what's really interestingtoo about this is I will get
somebody to actually come intojoy, peace and happiness, like.
I'll give you an example I hadan addict finally come into like
joy, peace and happiness and hegoes oh my gosh, I'm here,
everything I've been searchingfor the bottom of the bottle.
I found it.
It's right here.
And I go isn't that exciting?
And he goes yeah, but you knowwhat, danita, I have this like
darkness creeping up my arms andmy legs, like it wants to take
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it away.
What is that?
And I'm glad you told me.
I'm glad you asked, because whatthat is is your brain and body,
chemically, are hardwired tokeep you in the known, the
familiar.
So if you've been hardwiredyour whole life to be in more of
a doom and gloom state possiblyyou might have seen that your
mom and dad might've lived kindof more of a familiar, emotional
doom and gloom state thennaturally you're going to say
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that's more familiar and so yourbody is actually going to fight
against things like happiness,joy, peace, freedom, until we
learn to say no, it's safe.
It's safe to feel theseexpansive, enlightened, powerful
, high frequency emotions andthen, as soon as we're able to
tell that survival brain is safe.
Oh boy, oh girl, watch out howamazing life really gets.
Aideen Ni Riada (17:34):
I'm so curious.
I know that you worked infitness and that you found your
way to this method through aprevious business.
Would you like to tell us alittle bit about that, because I
think sometimes that can bevery revealing, knowing the
journey that you went through to, to like what you were working
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at and what you were seeing withclients, how that kind of
evolved for you.
Danita Young (18:00):
Yes, I would love to share that.
It is a beautiful story.
Basically, what it was is I wastaking individuals on to try to
get a transformation that'swhat it comes down to right and
as they were going through theirjourney of fitness, I sat and
meticulously dialed in theirmacros so perfectly and then
meticulously dialed in theirworkouts to the point of
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perfection, and then, as theywere having such a great week,
they would meet with me the nextweek and say I sabotaged it all
, and I'd be like wait, wait,wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
I'm so confused.
And so what we find is thatmost people struggle with a
transformation is going to bethings such as consistency, or
motivation, or thisprocrastination that gets in the
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way, or even perfectionism, oreven people pleasing.
And so I really start to dialin, like where is this?
Like consistency?
Truly, it's going to be otherpiece of the puzzles, like, no
matter how meticulous I gettheir tools, the consistency is
going to be the real secret here, and what I uncovered there was
that there was just so much fogand dirt clouding that
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consistency aspect of them thatwomen actually had.
You know, men or women wouldjust have these fears that were
just so locked in or limitingbeliefs that were so locked in
that were really keeping themfrom their true success.
And so, as a coach that wasjust so determined to get them
to their results, it became justthis obsession of how can I
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really get somebody to asuccessful transformation, as I
was going through my owntransformation through business.
So it was kind of like atwo-part story there of my side
and then their side, which waskind of an indirect, cool direct
there of my side, and thentheir side, which was kind of an
indirect, cool, direct way ofbeing able to reach
transformation.
And one of the interesting factsthat I kind of learned is that
when I was on my podcast is Iwould have all these experts
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that I would meet up with, likefrom doctors to hormone experts,
to digestion specialists, toCEOs and all these different
things.
And what was so fascinatingthat I learned on him is I'll
just recap briefly what thesentences that I pulled from
each one of those.
The digestive expert said nomatter how much tests that you
do on your gut biome or how manysupplements you take, if you're
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stressed out, your digestionwill always be foundationally
off.
Then I heard from a hormoneexpert she goes you could take
all the hormone replacementtherapy that you want, but if
you are living in a state offight or flight, your hormones
will always have a foundationthat you're going to be chasing.
Then I heard from a woman inweight loss and she goes.
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If a woman's stressed out, hercortisol is going to raise her
blood sugar levels without hereven eating.
And then the last, then thelast one was a business expert,
a CEO that sold his business,and he goes.
You can work 80 hours a weekand as hard as you possibly want
, but if you're out of alignmentyou're going to be going in the
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wrong direction, making verycostly mistakes.
Want, but if you're out ofalignment, you're going to be
going in the wrong direction,making very costly mistakes.
And that was the moment it trulyhit me that I said this is such
a foundational aspect tosuccess and transformation and I
really want to find out what isthe root of it.
Not just breath work, not justmeditation, not just positive
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affirmations to the mirror orpulling my earlobe to fix my
vagus nerve like, get me to thefoundation of this.
And that's where I startedtracking and measuring my
success through it, and when Idid it myself, I was able to do
it with my fitness clients andwhen I saw that it worked for
them, I was like, oh, game on.
And then the next thing, itjust, it just happened
organically where, all of asudden, I had addicts,
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relationship, marriages,teenagers, parents.
That's where it all came in.
All of a sudden, I said this isreally cool.
How cool.
And what's interesting is,there's nothing else out there
that's like this that I can seewell, you're the answer for the
community that you're in that.
Aideen Ni Riada (21:56):
This is what happens.
We end up learning what we needto learn through the problems
we have and through the problemswe see, and we become the
answer that's needed in that, inthat place, right?
Um?
So, and I think it really comesdown to I love your, your
energy, like your personality,your, you really care about
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people and I think a lot of thetime, finding the person to work
with is a lot to do with justfinding someone who cares,
someone who actually reallycares, and you really do, I can
feel it.
Danita Young (22:31):
And that's the other part I wanted to talk to
you about, because you're insinging and you're in music and
you're using people's voice.
Well, what was interesting is, Ilook back on all my past videos
of me running my business andmy energy wasn't like this.
It was desperate, it wasprojecting, it was just uh, it
was just very short and and andand just too, it was just too
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much.
And you can see that thatactually propels people away.
It pushes people away.
So I'm over here, sitting here,like working the 80 hours a
week, thinking like why isn'tthis working?
But then when you can use yourfrequency, when you've raised
your frequency, you're going to,like you said there, I can feel
your energy, I can feel thatyou can, you passionately,
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really care about somebody'stransformation and we can also
feel that in the call right now,or if somebody is listening to
the podcast right now, payattention to the frequency of
somebody's voice and it's eithergoing to pull you in more
magnetically or it's going topull you, push you away.
And when you listen to yourintuition right there, you'll
kind of know who's your rightperson by kind of paying
attention to that.
Aideen Ni Riada (23:34):
That's beautiful advice, because this
is all about alignment.
Your whole process is aboutalignment and you have to look
inward to feel before you canknow what's aligned with you,
right, and if we're too outwardfocused or too focused on a goal
, a future goal, or you know,like the end justifies the means
(23:56):
.
I feel like this this issomething I feel is out there in
the world right now wherepeople are like, yeah, we've got
this answer and it doesn'tmatter if it's a shitty way of
getting there Sorry for language, but like it doesn't matter
because you know it'll all begreat in the end.
But I don't believe in that atall.
I believe that each step has tobe aligned.
Each moment being right willbring you somewhere.
(24:20):
That is right.
I, when I was a kid, I used tohave all these different things.
I've done all these differentjobs.
I've mentioned a few of them.
I was I was an airlinestewardess, would you believe
four and a half years.
I I worked in uh, in health andfitness, for about 10 years.
I was an image consultant forfour and a half years and I
didn't do music for so longbecause I didn't believe in
myself.
And then I set up my ownbusiness and it's just been
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evolving.
But I always said, look, I'mgoing to do what I like and
it'll all make sense in the end.
And so that's a piece of adviceI gave myself.
Somehow it's just a belief Ihad and it does.
It does all make sense in theend, and the journey is is the
fun part, um, especially whenyou have some good people on
your side and I bet your clientsfind you very supportive on the
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journey, cause it is.
It isn't meant to be a solojourney, is it?
Danita Young (25:10):
Oh I, we can save us so many years if we really
look at it as a team or apartnership instead of a solo
journey.
And I definitely took on thesolo journey and I look back on
it and say, man, I could havedefinitely saved at least a
decade, at least a decade of mylife, if I would have.
But I had the belief of I'm notworthy enough for that.
So now that I have the beliefof that, now I actually do hire
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coaches and mentors and I'llalways make sure I have coaches
and mentors now.
But, yeah, it's, we don't havea very long life.
You guys right Like so.
So when you kind of like seethat are we valuing our time or
are we valuing our money?
And to me I was valuing mymoney over my time and recognize
that being in a contractedstate was just taking more of my
money.
It's like a perpetual cycle.
(25:53):
And, to your point, what youwere saying there is like we
don't want to make decisions inthat contracted state, because
if we make decisions there,we're always going to be in that
contracted state and so bybeing able to first get into
that expanded state, make allthe decisions you want.
And so I just got done with aclient and they were talking
about well, should I divorce her, should I leave her, should I
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stay with her?
And I said don't you dare makea decision right now because
you're contracted.
And then our next call isyou're expanded.
All of the decisions you makefrom there will always be more
in alignment.
And he go oh, that makes sosense.
I was like, yes, don't make adecision in contraction ever.
Aideen Ni Riada (26:30):
Yes, that's really really good advice.
Is there any strategy or anyother exercise that you'd like
to share with our listeners thatmight help them to become more
aligned or overcome stress oranxiety?
Danita Young (26:46):
Yeah, I would say another tracking tool that I
like to use a lot would be youcan even just Google this but if
you pull up that all of ouremotions are measured to a
frequency, and this also goeswith music, so it kind of is
going back to frequency and youcan actually see a chart of all
the emotions that are actuallymeasured.
And so you'll find that guiltand shame is going to be your
lowest frequency at 20 andenlightenment is going to be
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your highest frequency at 700plus.
And from there you'll want tocircle the top three emotions
you feel the majority of thetime Okay, not your best day,
not your worst day, just average.
And then from there you'regoing to find out your frequency
.
So you'll take those three,you'll add them up, divide them
by three, and you'll typicallyfind if you're in a contracted
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or an expanded state and that isa phenomenal tool I like to use
for people just to show themwell, no wonder why're in a
contracted or an expanded state.
And that is a phenomenal tool Ilike to use for people just to
show them well, no wonder whyyou have a contracted outcome,
because your inside iscontracted and they're like ah,
it makes so much sense.
Aideen Ni Riada (27:48):
So yes yes, and I think that what you're saying
and your approach.
What I really love about it isit takes something so intangible
and something that we tend tointernalize, not really be able
to talk about.
We don't like, we don't evenwrite in our journals Sometimes.
We don't externalize it, wecan't see it, we can't make it
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objective, we can't see itclearly.
The things that you'resuggesting really help you to
take a step back from the, toidentify, but also stand a
little back, take a little bitof a more objective view and see
things as they truly are, whichis such a beautiful thing, not
hiding from yourself anymore theclarity just becomes so real
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when you do exactly what youjust said stepping back and and
objectively looking at thebigger picture instead of just
always being in it, and so it toyour point.
Danita Young (28:44):
How my brain thinks of that is what you just
said is we're all running aroundin the third dimension reality
that we're operating with whatwe can see in front of us.
Right, this is solid.
So I'm just going to push thesolids in my life, which takes
up a lot of time and a lot ofenergy, and that's where people
say I'm just so tired of beingtired, and so my recommendation
(29:05):
to them is, if we work in thefourth dimension, which is going
into the frequency aspect ofwhat we're making tangible right
now, of being able to draw outwhat frequency you're really at,
where are your beliefs reallyat, what you're doing is you're
taking the intangible, makingthem tangible, looking at them
objectively and then being ableto go okay, now, my, my goal is
then to raise these up.
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Now, with the right tools andthe right resources, we can
raise those up.
That's the cool part.
And then, when you get to seethat those are all growing, we
celebrate.
We celebrate those mile markers, we go okay, awesome, you took
your limiting belief to a five,now it's a seven.
What you're going to also seeis that all the other limiting
beliefs are going to go with it,and so it's this really cool
(29:48):
domino effect that starts totake place.
And then they're like oh mygosh, well, all of them are
eights.
And I said, well, if took themfrom a five to an eight, do you
think you can take it from aneight to a 10?
Yeah, and so they get reallyexcited, right.
So then when you get somebodyat a 10 out of a 10, with all of
those beliefs, that's when Isay, that's when they I hear the
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weight is lifted off myshoulders.
It's like I can breathe again.
It's almost like there's thisfog that's starting to clear up,
and I really start to see mylimitless potential of who I can
really become.
Aideen Ni Riada (30:27):
That's amazing.
Why do you think this processis so important for people to
take?
Danita Young (30:32):
Because we're human beings, not human doings.
Aideen Ni Riada (30:35):
because we're human beings, not human doings,
to be in a great state.
It does align you, then, togood things around you, right?
Lots of physics.
We're going to be finishing upin a couple of seconds, denise.
I'm afraid our time is runningout.
Is there any last words ofwisdom you'd like to share
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before we finish?
Danita Young (30:57):
up.
Yeah, I would just love toshare as a gift I'm going to get
emotional, oh my goodness.
As a gift, I just want to helpthe world in the most giving
loving soul to another soul.
And as a gift to all yourlisteners um, I want to be able
to just reach out and just sayif you want to make your
(31:20):
intangible tangible, um, you canjump on a call with me and I
can do actually an assessment onyou, will be free and I don't
expect anything in return.
I just want you to see whereyou might currently be at and
have an understanding of why youcontinue to keep getting that
outcome.
And I can do it within 20minutes.
If you take 20 minutes of yourlife and all you have to do is
(31:42):
just go to callwithdanitacom andI'll do a free assessment on
all your listeners and just letthem see the tangible and a
different perspective.
Aideen Ni Riada (31:55):
That's amazing, that's beautiful gift and if
you're listening, why wouldn'tyou do it?
It's an awesome way to moveforward.
We all need to try to keepmomentum going right.
Life if we get stuck.
I said it to someone recentlythat life was monotone.
You know, the auditory thing isfor big for me.
With the voice I was like for awhile there, life was monotone,
(32:17):
right, but when we get stuck,we deserve to look for the help
that we need, and it's not aboutone person, you know being like
oh, I'm amazing because I'm notstuck.
We've all been stuck at somepoint.
You've shared some of yourmoments, so please don't ever
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think that there's somethingterribly wrong if you're stuck
right now.
It is a contraction that couldlead to an amazing
transformation, like the way acaterpillar gets contracted in
that little chrysalis, you know,and it's pulsing.
So, yes, I think you're anamazing, amazing person and I'm
really happy you were able tocome on the show today.
Thank you so much, danita, forbeing here.
Danita Young (32:59):
Thank you for having me and I love your energy
and thank you so much for whatyou do.
We need more people to be intheir expansive energy, to keep
giving hope to the world thatthere is a thing called
expansive energy, to actuallysee a real smile and go oh my
gosh, it's a real smile.
She's really authenticallysmiling right now.
So thank you for that.
Aideen Ni Riada (33:19):
That's it.
Let's keep the smiles on ourfaces.
Thank you all for listening.
This is the Resonate Podcastwith Aideen, and we will see you
again on the next episode.
Bye-bye.
Welcome.
This is the Resonate podcastwith Aideen.
I'm Aideen Nereida, and myguest today is Danita Young.
Hi, Danita.
Danita Young (00:10):
Hello, thank you for having me.
Aideen Ni Riada (00:12):
I'm so excited to speak to you.
Let me tell you a little bitabout Danita before we start.
Danita Young is atransformational coach, nlp
practitioner and creator of theAlign Method, helping people
break free from anxiety, stressand procrastination without meds
or surface fixes.
With over 15 years ofexperience and a background in
(00:34):
women's fitness, danita'smission is to guide others back
to feeling unstoppable,confident and aligned with their
true purpose.
Well, you know that my wholething is confidence building,
confidence in people.
Danita Young (00:49):
But tell us a little bit more about how you
got to where you are today.
Yeah, we uh, right before thecall, we were kind of talking
about a little bit of somebackground and, um, one of the
things, one of the stories wehad talked about, is being
raised in a religion where itwas more about their voice
rather than your voice, and Ihad kind of expressed that and I
don't believe that religion isbad.
So, for those that lovereligion and that's how they
(01:10):
find God, I was able to find Godwithout religion.
So there's I think there'salways a common denominator
there of what we're trying toachieve and reach.
But for me, it was being ableto find my own voice without
having to choose a man based offof the religion's decisions, or
being able to choose my ownpath of kids or no kids, and
(01:32):
that would be my own decision,right, Just kind of really being
able to find my own voice.
And what a beautiful way tostep into our confidence by
being able to learn how to useour voice.
Aideen Ni Riada (01:40):
Is it interesting how we get these
blocks, we get these challengesand the challenge helps you
develop the thing that you needto keep going right.
I just find it so fascinating,like when you look back it can
be either a terrible, you knowkind of hard heartbreak that you
(02:01):
had to go through something, oryou can look at it differently
and maybe see how far you havegrown through a difficult time
when you were challenged, youwere basically told what to
believe in.
Danita Young (02:15):
Yeah, my analogy to that is anytime that somebody
is going through somethingtough or challenge, as your
words there is.
How would we actually know it'sthe most amazing, magnificent,
awesome day of our life if wedidn't have the opposite?
So yeah, to your point.
I really love seeing life hasthose opposites, those
(02:37):
polarities is what gives us thatbigger perspective, that
broader view, and how beautifulit is.
We can sit back and go.
The bad is really meant for thegood and the good is needed for
the bad, like it's all unfoldedtogether.
Aideen Ni Riada (02:51):
There's a purpose there, somehow, right,
but we get stuck, and I thinkthat's what what you work toward
, right, that you help peoplewho've getting, who are getting
stuck with that.
But what?
What did you do or how did youget unstuck at the time when you
were most stuck in yourexpression and being yourself?
Danita Young (03:12):
I told you I was an open book so I was going to
go right to the stuckest part ofmy life.
I would say stuckest part of mylife was depression,
hopelessness, guilt, shame,feeling like a failure and
really got to an ending questionof what's the point.
That's not a fun place to be in.
Aideen Ni Riada (03:33):
No, it's not, and I know that I mean, when I
turned 40, I had to retreat backto my mom's house.
I was like trying to doeverything a certain way, I had
my mindset, I was quite stubbornand nothing was working and I
retreated, and so I am.
Did you have a period ofretreating away from life as
(03:53):
well?
Danita Young (03:55):
Oh yeah, I call that the contracting energy,
where we just isolate, we avoidourself, we avoid people, we
avoid the things we're supposedto be doing and you almost don't
even realize it's happeningbecause it's so subconsciously.
But consciously we're like I'mworking hard or consciously I'm
trying so hard that there's asubconscious retreat.
That's definitely happening forsure.
Aideen Ni Riada (04:13):
And yeah, I don't know if it's if you think
of it this way as well, but Ilove the idea that seasons allow
us to understand that weshouldn't be always in constant
action or constant positivity orconstant achievement, Like
taking a step back can be goodto a point.
Danita Young (04:30):
Especially with the feminine energy right, like
masculine, energy is verystructured, linear and built
that way to keep in that linearpath.
But if you look at feminine,especially with the cycles and
the 28 days, and when they talkabout like even menopause, with
the cycles and the 28 days andwhen they talk about, like even
menopause, how it's our as afemale, if we sync up to us as
(04:51):
seasons, especially with ourfour cycles and four seasons,
you'll actually identify like,oh, going through a menstruation
is the winter time, that's thetime that we need to rest and
really just relax with our bodyand go towards heat for our body
, for to menstruate, right andthen.
But it, it's, it's so cool I Iwas able to do a podcast with a
hormone expert that related theseasons to being a female and it
made so much more sense toallow ourself, or give ourself
(05:12):
permission, the grace, duringthose different seasons, to be
able to be more gentle toourselves for sure yeah, and it
applies to men too, because theyneed to step back also
sometimes.
Aideen Ni Riada (05:24):
I know it's a different cycle, it's a
different feel, but gosh, it'sinteresting.
I'm really curious about howyou work with people.
You talk about the align method.
Would you like to tell us alittle bit about how you
developed it and what it means?
Danita Young (05:40):
I tripped completely on it.
It was really one of thosethings, completely accidental.
And next thing, you know, I wasworking with different types of
life experiences, whether thatwas addictions, whether that was
weight loss, whether that wasrelationships or even parents
and teenagers.
So it really was just aninteresting moment.
I sat there and I was like waita minute, I turned into a life
(06:01):
coach.
How did this happen?
And it was through my owndiscovery and journey of hitting
my rock bottom moments in myown life and pulling myself out
of that discovery and learningthe steps that it takes to go
from a contracted, isolated,retracted version of ourselves
and really like, is anybodygoing to just wish and just drop
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it in our lap of a new life?
Nope, going to just wish andjust drop it in our lap of a new
life, nope.
And so being able to workwithin the laws of frequency,
track and measure, being able toactually see your success, so
it gives you that motive,momentum and the motivation to
keep going.
And then also, I really justneeded the facts, I needed the
physics, I needed theneuroscience, I needed the
understand the subconscious,like rewiring and all that, and
(06:44):
that is what gave me the stepsto dig my way out and that is
now how I turn around and beable to help others is using the
same tracking and metrics tosay nobody's going to just
randomly give you a differentoutcome in your life If you're
contracted energy.
That works against the laws ofphysics.
We have to be expansive firstto get our expansive outcome.
Aideen Ni Riada (07:04):
Tell us more about that Cause.
I'm curious how that would work.
Danita Young (07:08):
Yes.
So one of my favorite quotes isby Albert Einstein.
I absolutely love this quotebecause it gave me so much hope,
because I think that word iswhere we all initially start is
how much hope do we reallybelieve that we can be expanded?
And the quote says we are allenergy.
All we have to do is match thefrequency of the reality that we
(07:29):
want.
And if we match it, there's noother way but we will get that
outcome.
It's not philosophy, it'sphysics, and so to me I was like
I was trying everything in thethird dimension world.
I was trying everything as faras working hard and doing all
the tools and researching andlearning and book reading and
podcasts.
I was trying everything as faras working hard and doing all
the tools and researching andlearning and book reading and
podcasts.
I was doing that whole side ofit.
But I wasn't.
I didn't really understand theenergetic frequency side of it.
(07:52):
I lived a lot of limitingbeliefs, fears and just
contracting kind of generationaltype of trauma, stuff that I
was dealing with and once I wasable to kind of like pinpoint
and this that I was I wasdealing with.
And, uh, once I was able tokind of like pinpoint, and this
is a perfect example for thosethat are listening.
Like you can track and measureyour own belief system.
So, on a one to 10 scale, rateyourself of 10 is the highest
(08:16):
ones the lowest, and don't thinkof it as your conscious, think
of as your subconscious tellingyou the answer, and so you could
say, like your typical beliefsof like, do I feel in purpose?
Um, am I happy, am I worthy, amI good enough, am I am I worthy
(08:37):
of love?
Like you know all thesedifferent elements right, you go
down as many beliefs as youwant and then, as you look at
them, anything that is not a 10is technically a limiting belief
, and so what you'll do is in.
What we want to do is bring thelimiting belief to truth.
And when and when?
That quote says when you cometo truth, it will set you free
(08:58):
as a thousand percent correct.
Because what I got to see nowis that, instead of trying to
meditate and do breath work orpull my earlobe to fix my vagus
nerve, instead I got to actuallylearn how to face the fear,
face the limiting beliefs, bringthem to truth, and naturally,
after that, boundaries wereeasier, automatically.
(09:18):
People just started leaving mylife that needed to get out.
Naturally, more doors ofopportunities and possibilities
started opening up for me, andit is such a really cool switch
when somebody hits that littleswitch and they finally go oh,
this is it, and I just lovedbeing able to show people the
switch.
Aideen Ni Riada (09:39):
I know because it's something.
There's something veryinteresting about our nervous
system and I just loved beingable to show people the switch.
I know because it's something.
There's something veryinteresting about our nervous
system and you know, if we don'tbelieve something, our nervous
system will completely show thatlike it will react when we're
in a situation we want.
It will react as if you don'treally want it.
It will be unsure of itself,your physical body and that.
(10:00):
That physical body you cantreat the physical body.
You can, yeah, pull on anearlobe.
Um, singing is a great way tobalance your vagus nerve and all
those things.
But when we can actually healbut basically what you're
talking about is a kind ofhealing it's healing the
vulnerable inner child that hastaken on the generational issues
(10:20):
, has listened to their mom andpop say you know you can't
afford that.
Or you know, you know my mom'sown was, you know it's, it's,
it's better to have few needs,because then you're always, you
know you're always happy becauseyou have few needs.
So it's about playing smallRight?
So all of those things that weabsorb as kids, those stay with
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us.
We can do the healings and wecan go for a sound bath, but
until we become conscious ofsome of those things, it's very
difficult to completely releasethem, because otherwise they'll
just pop out.
They're deep down in there,right yes, absolutely, and it's
in those.
Danita Young (11:01):
Those are all beneficial, they're all helpful,
um, but they call it the warmbath effect, where you're in the
warm bath and you feel nice andcozy and it feels warm as
you're doing it, but as soon asyou step out you're cold again,
right?
So it's kind of the same effectand so it's more of a
foundational healing of beingable to really get to the root
of it.
And I show people oh my gosh,it's actually so much easier
(11:21):
than you guys think, it'sactually so much freeing than
you guys think, it's soliberating.
But only about 8% of peopleactually change or are willing
to change.
92% of people are staying stuckin that survival brain because
it's familiar and there is asense of comfort with
familiarity, and so I just showpeople how much more comfortable
(11:41):
it can be with thisfoundational healing.
Aideen Ni Riada (11:45):
I love it.
This is really amazing.
So, asking yourself, on a scaleof one to 10, do you feel like
you are in purpose, that you'rehappy, that you're worthy, that
you're worthy of love?
So how many people listeningare writing down their rating
right now?
Because I feel like I shouldtry, do it right now, right so,
(12:06):
when, when I know that somemodalities I know that EFT or
tapping, where you, you know,touch points on your face and it
helps, it's a patterninterrupter and it works on your
nervous system, and they'doften use a rating at the
beginning and at the end as well, and I think that that it can
be useful to rate things at thebeginning and at the end of
(12:28):
anything, right, Because it'sit's more clear than what's
really happening.
I say to my husband he's like,oh, I feel, you know, annoyed
about this, and I was like, well, how annoyed, like, like, on a
scale of one to 10, how annoyedare you?
Especially, if there's like, ifI'm annoyed and he's annoyed
but he's only a two out of 10annoyed and I'm a 10 out of 10
annoyed, then I think I, youknow, then the thing that's
annoying me has to be fixedfirst.
(12:49):
I'm tricky like that.
Um.
So the thing about rating it isit.
It clarifies right and there'sa lot of power in clarity.
Danita Young (13:05):
Yes, there is oh boy, because as soon as the
subconscious wants to go back,I'll give you an example.
So let's say, if somebody rightnow is listening and they rate
themselves of a five out of 10of being in purpose as an
example, and then what we would,uh we would do is we'd usually
find, well, purpose is actuallythe outcome.
So what would be the beliefunderneath that purpose?
(13:27):
So we would usually might find,well, um, maybe I'm just a
failure, right?
And so then we, we could well,so you, everybody's different,
right, but I'm just using anexample.
And so then we would go back toa time in their life where they
felt like they were a failureand, without even having to
relive the experience or go intodetails, it's more of just well
.
Now let's actually take a lookat the bigger picture, because
(13:48):
often, as children, we havewhat's called the very narrow
focus, we're adopting what'scalled egotism, where we make
everything about ourselves,we're absorbing the world to
identify how we fit into thisworld, and so we just take on
like it's my fault or it's myresponsibility, or it's my issue
.
And so when we go back with adifferent perspective, we can
(14:09):
say, well, was it technicallyyour fault, and what you'll find
is that everybody is alwaysdoing their best with the tools,
the resources and theenvironment in their head and
around them, and so that's thefirst step is releasing that
guilt and shame they might haveat the beginning, and so when
you bring the clarity to it,then what they do is
(14:30):
subconsciously, they release itforever.
It's not something that's nowpull my earlobe or tap, it's not
one of those.
It's now being able tocognitively go back and now
reconfirm truth and clarity andhow much.
That's where the freedom comesin, where you just set yourself
free from that type of feelingof a failure which then makes
you go into more of that future,expansive part of us.
Because to me, I show people atimeline right.
There's a past of where we'vecome from, and then you have our
(14:52):
future, and our future is I'mable to show people.
It's full of possibilities andlimitless and unknowns and new
opportunities.
Exciting opportunities, exactly.
But it could actually be fullof anxiety if we are trying to
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put our past onto our future,trying to predict our future,
therefore making our future ourpast.
And so that's where people getstuck in the loop, is they're
just stuck in that familiarity,survival, comfort zone, and so
when we can take somebody intolike thinking of, yeah, tomorrow
hasn't unfolded yet, and if I'mnot a failure, who could I be,
(15:34):
you know, and it really justkind of sets really people into
feeling unstoppable and it's themost beautiful energetic
frequency you can really sharewith somebody.
It's pretty cool.
Aideen Ni Riada (15:43):
That is awesome .
I was reading an interestingbook about emotions where it
talked about how our emotionsare really just predictions that
we see something and we predicthow our body should react, and
so this idea of we're constantlyimagining what's going to
happen next, based on the past,is just it's been shown in
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research that this is happening.
So if you've had a difficulttime, if you've been through a
difficult time recently, ifyou've forgotten all your
successes because sometimes theyget buried when we've had a big
disappointment then ourpredictions are we've had a big
disappointment, then ourpredictions are they're probably
not optimized.
Danita Young (16:26):
I'll put it that way, absolutely.
And what's really interestingtoo about this is I will get
somebody to actually come intojoy, peace and happiness, like.
I'll give you an example I hadan addict finally come into like
joy, peace and happiness and hegoes oh my gosh, I'm here,
everything I've been searchingfor the bottom of the bottle.
I found it.
It's right here.
And I go isn't that exciting?
And he goes yeah, but you knowwhat, danita, I have this like
darkness creeping up my arms andmy legs, like it wants to take
(16:47):
it away.
What is that?
And I'm glad you told me.
I'm glad you asked, because whatthat is is your brain and body,
chemically, are hardwired tokeep you in the known, the
familiar.
So if you've been hardwiredyour whole life to be in more of
a doom and gloom state possiblyyou might have seen that your
mom and dad might've lived kindof more of a familiar, emotional
doom and gloom state thennaturally you're going to say
(17:07):
that's more familiar and so yourbody is actually going to fight
against things like happiness,joy, peace, freedom, until we
learn to say no, it's safe.
It's safe to feel theseexpansive, enlightened, powerful
, high frequency emotions andthen, as soon as we're able to
tell that survival brain is safe.
Oh boy, oh girl, watch out howamazing life really gets.
Aideen Ni Riada (17:34):
I'm so curious.
I know that you worked infitness and that you found your
way to this method through aprevious business.
Would you like to tell us alittle bit about that, because I
think sometimes that can bevery revealing, knowing the
journey that you went through to, to like what you were working
(17:55):
at and what you were seeing withclients, how that kind of
evolved for you.
Danita Young (18:00):
Yes, I would love to share that.
It is a beautiful story.
Basically, what it was is I wastaking individuals on to try to
get a transformation that'swhat it comes down to right and
as they were going through theirjourney of fitness, I sat and
meticulously dialed in theirmacros so perfectly and then
meticulously dialed in theirworkouts to the point of
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perfection, and then, as theywere having such a great week,
they would meet with me the nextweek and say I sabotaged it all
, and I'd be like wait, wait,wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
I'm so confused.
And so what we find is thatmost people struggle with a
transformation is going to bethings such as consistency, or
motivation, or thisprocrastination that gets in the
(18:44):
way, or even perfectionism, oreven people pleasing.
And so I really start to dialin, like where is this?
Like consistency?
Truly, it's going to be otherpiece of the puzzles, like, no
matter how meticulous I gettheir tools, the consistency is
going to be the real secret here, and what I uncovered there was
that there was just so much fogand dirt clouding that
(19:05):
consistency aspect of them thatwomen actually had.
You know, men or women wouldjust have these fears that were
just so locked in or limitingbeliefs that were so locked in
that were really keeping themfrom their true success.
And so, as a coach that wasjust so determined to get them
to their results, it became justthis obsession of how can I
(19:28):
really get somebody to asuccessful transformation, as I
was going through my owntransformation through business.
So it was kind of like atwo-part story there of my side
and then their side, which waskind of an indirect, cool direct
there of my side, and thentheir side, which was kind of an
indirect, cool, direct way ofbeing able to reach
transformation.
And one of the interesting factsthat I kind of learned is that
when I was on my podcast is Iwould have all these experts
(19:51):
that I would meet up with, likefrom doctors to hormone experts,
to digestion specialists, toCEOs and all these different
things.
And what was so fascinatingthat I learned on him is I'll
just recap briefly what thesentences that I pulled from
each one of those.
The digestive expert said nomatter how much tests that you
do on your gut biome or how manysupplements you take, if you're
(20:13):
stressed out, your digestionwill always be foundationally
off.
Then I heard from a hormoneexpert she goes you could take
all the hormone replacementtherapy that you want, but if
you are living in a state offight or flight, your hormones
will always have a foundationthat you're going to be chasing.
Then I heard from a woman inweight loss and she goes.
(20:37):
If a woman's stressed out, hercortisol is going to raise her
blood sugar levels without hereven eating.
And then the last, then thelast one was a business expert,
a CEO that sold his business,and he goes.
You can work 80 hours a weekand as hard as you possibly want
, but if you're out of alignmentyou're going to be going in the
(20:58):
wrong direction, making verycostly mistakes.
Want, but if you're out ofalignment, you're going to be
going in the wrong direction,making very costly mistakes.
And that was the moment it trulyhit me that I said this is such
a foundational aspect tosuccess and transformation and I
really want to find out what isthe root of it.
Not just breath work, not justmeditation, not just positive
(21:18):
affirmations to the mirror orpulling my earlobe to fix my
vagus nerve like, get me to thefoundation of this.
And that's where I startedtracking and measuring my
success through it, and when Idid it myself, I was able to do
it with my fitness clients andwhen I saw that it worked for
them, I was like, oh, game on.
And then the next thing, itjust, it just happened
organically where, all of asudden, I had addicts,
(21:39):
relationship, marriages,teenagers, parents.
That's where it all came in.
All of a sudden, I said this isreally cool.
How cool.
And what's interesting is,there's nothing else out there
that's like this that I can seewell, you're the answer for the
community that you're in that.
Aideen Ni Riada (21:56):
This is what happens.
We end up learning what we needto learn through the problems
we have and through the problemswe see, and we become the
answer that's needed in that, inthat place, right?
Um?
So, and I think it really comesdown to I love your, your
energy, like your personality,your, you really care about
(22:17):
people and I think a lot of thetime, finding the person to work
with is a lot to do with justfinding someone who cares,
someone who actually reallycares, and you really do, I can
feel it.
Danita Young (22:31):
And that's the other part I wanted to talk to
you about, because you're insinging and you're in music and
you're using people's voice.
Well, what was interesting is, Ilook back on all my past videos
of me running my business andmy energy wasn't like this.
It was desperate, it wasprojecting, it was just uh, it
was just very short and and andand just too, it was just too
(22:52):
much.
And you can see that thatactually propels people away.
It pushes people away.
So I'm over here, sitting here,like working the 80 hours a
week, thinking like why isn'tthis working?
But then when you can use yourfrequency, when you've raised
your frequency, you're going to,like you said there, I can feel
your energy, I can feel thatyou can, you passionately,
(23:13):
really care about somebody'stransformation and we can also
feel that in the call right now,or if somebody is listening to
the podcast right now, payattention to the frequency of
somebody's voice and it's eithergoing to pull you in more
magnetically or it's going topull you, push you away.
And when you listen to yourintuition right there, you'll
kind of know who's your rightperson by kind of paying
attention to that.
Aideen Ni Riada (23:34):
That's beautiful advice, because this
is all about alignment.
Your whole process is aboutalignment and you have to look
inward to feel before you canknow what's aligned with you,
right, and if we're too outwardfocused or too focused on a goal
, a future goal, or you know,like the end justifies the means
(23:56):
.
I feel like this this issomething I feel is out there in
the world right now wherepeople are like, yeah, we've got
this answer and it doesn'tmatter if it's a shitty way of
getting there Sorry for language, but like it doesn't matter
because you know it'll all begreat in the end.
But I don't believe in that atall.
I believe that each step has tobe aligned.
Each moment being right willbring you somewhere.
(24:20):
That is right.
I, when I was a kid, I used tohave all these different things.
I've done all these differentjobs.
I've mentioned a few of them.
I was I was an airlinestewardess, would you believe
four and a half years.
I I worked in uh, in health andfitness, for about 10 years.
I was an image consultant forfour and a half years and I
didn't do music for so longbecause I didn't believe in
myself.
And then I set up my ownbusiness and it's just been
(24:42):
evolving.
But I always said, look, I'mgoing to do what I like and
it'll all make sense in the end.
And so that's a piece of adviceI gave myself.
Somehow it's just a belief Ihad and it does.
It does all make sense in theend, and the journey is is the
fun part, um, especially whenyou have some good people on
your side and I bet your clientsfind you very supportive on the
(25:05):
journey, cause it is.
It isn't meant to be a solojourney, is it?
Danita Young (25:10):
Oh I, we can save us so many years if we really
look at it as a team or apartnership instead of a solo
journey.
And I definitely took on thesolo journey and I look back on
it and say, man, I could havedefinitely saved at least a
decade, at least a decade of mylife, if I would have.
But I had the belief of I'm notworthy enough for that.
So now that I have the beliefof that, now I actually do hire
(25:32):
coaches and mentors and I'llalways make sure I have coaches
and mentors now.
But, yeah, it's, we don't havea very long life.
You guys right Like so.
So when you kind of like seethat are we valuing our time or
are we valuing our money?
And to me I was valuing mymoney over my time and recognize
that being in a contractedstate was just taking more of my
money.
It's like a perpetual cycle.
(25:53):
And, to your point, what youwere saying there is like we
don't want to make decisions inthat contracted state, because
if we make decisions there,we're always going to be in that
contracted state and so bybeing able to first get into
that expanded state, make allthe decisions you want.
And so I just got done with aclient and they were talking
about well, should I divorce her, should I leave her, should I
(26:14):
stay with her?
And I said don't you dare makea decision right now because
you're contracted.
And then our next call isyou're expanded.
All of the decisions you makefrom there will always be more
in alignment.
And he go oh, that makes sosense.
I was like, yes, don't make adecision in contraction ever.
Aideen Ni Riada (26:30):
Yes, that's really really good advice.
Is there any strategy or anyother exercise that you'd like
to share with our listeners thatmight help them to become more
aligned or overcome stress oranxiety?
Danita Young (26:46):
Yeah, I would say another tracking tool that I
like to use a lot would be youcan even just Google this but if
you pull up that all of ouremotions are measured to a
frequency, and this also goeswith music, so it kind of is
going back to frequency and youcan actually see a chart of all
the emotions that are actuallymeasured.
And so you'll find that guiltand shame is going to be your
lowest frequency at 20 andenlightenment is going to be
(27:10):
your highest frequency at 700plus.
And from there you'll want tocircle the top three emotions
you feel the majority of thetime Okay, not your best day,
not your worst day, just average.
And then from there you'regoing to find out your frequency
.
So you'll take those three,you'll add them up, divide them
by three, and you'll typicallyfind if you're in a contracted
(27:32):
or an expanded state and that isa phenomenal tool I like to use
for people just to show themwell, no wonder why're in a
contracted or an expanded state.
And that is a phenomenal tool Ilike to use for people just to
show them well, no wonder whyyou have a contracted outcome,
because your inside iscontracted and they're like ah,
it makes so much sense.
Aideen Ni Riada (27:48):
So yes yes, and I think that what you're saying
and your approach.
What I really love about it isit takes something so intangible
and something that we tend tointernalize, not really be able
to talk about.
We don't like, we don't evenwrite in our journals Sometimes.
We don't externalize it, wecan't see it, we can't make it
(28:10):
objective, we can't see itclearly.
The things that you'resuggesting really help you to
take a step back from the, toidentify, but also stand a
little back, take a little bitof a more objective view and see
things as they truly are, whichis such a beautiful thing, not
hiding from yourself anymore theclarity just becomes so real
(28:34):
when you do exactly what youjust said stepping back and and
objectively looking at thebigger picture instead of just
always being in it, and so it toyour point.
Danita Young (28:44):
How my brain thinks of that is what you just
said is we're all running aroundin the third dimension reality
that we're operating with whatwe can see in front of us.
Right, this is solid.
So I'm just going to push thesolids in my life, which takes
up a lot of time and a lot ofenergy, and that's where people
say I'm just so tired of beingtired, and so my recommendation
(29:05):
to them is, if we work in thefourth dimension, which is going
into the frequency aspect ofwhat we're making tangible right
now, of being able to draw outwhat frequency you're really at,
where are your beliefs reallyat, what you're doing is you're
taking the intangible, makingthem tangible, looking at them
objectively and then being ableto go okay, now, my, my goal is
then to raise these up.
(29:27):
Now, with the right tools andthe right resources, we can
raise those up.
That's the cool part.
And then, when you get to seethat those are all growing, we
celebrate.
We celebrate those mile markers, we go okay, awesome, you took
your limiting belief to a five,now it's a seven.
What you're going to also seeis that all the other limiting
beliefs are going to go with it,and so it's this really cool
(29:48):
domino effect that starts totake place.
And then they're like oh mygosh, well, all of them are
eights.
And I said, well, if took themfrom a five to an eight, do you
think you can take it from aneight to a 10?
Yeah, and so they get reallyexcited, right.
So then when you get somebodyat a 10 out of a 10, with all of
those beliefs, that's when Isay, that's when they I hear the
(30:09):
weight is lifted off myshoulders.
It's like I can breathe again.
It's almost like there's thisfog that's starting to clear up,
and I really start to see mylimitless potential of who I can
really become.
Aideen Ni Riada (30:27):
That's amazing.
Why do you think this processis so important for people to
take?
Danita Young (30:32):
Because we're human beings, not human doings.
Aideen Ni Riada (30:35):
because we're human beings, not human doings,
to be in a great state.
It does align you, then, togood things around you, right?
Lots of physics.
We're going to be finishing upin a couple of seconds, denise.
I'm afraid our time is runningout.
Is there any last words ofwisdom you'd like to share
(30:57):
before we finish?
Danita Young (30:57):
up.
Yeah, I would just love toshare as a gift I'm going to get
emotional, oh my goodness.
As a gift, I just want to helpthe world in the most giving
loving soul to another soul.
And as a gift to all yourlisteners um, I want to be able
to just reach out and just sayif you want to make your
(31:20):
intangible tangible, um, you canjump on a call with me and I
can do actually an assessment onyou, will be free and I don't
expect anything in return.
I just want you to see whereyou might currently be at and
have an understanding of why youcontinue to keep getting that
outcome.
And I can do it within 20minutes.
If you take 20 minutes of yourlife and all you have to do is
(31:42):
just go to callwithdanitacom andI'll do a free assessment on
all your listeners and just letthem see the tangible and a
different perspective.
Aideen Ni Riada (31:55):
That's amazing, that's beautiful gift and if
you're listening, why wouldn'tyou do it?
It's an awesome way to moveforward.
We all need to try to keepmomentum going right.
Life if we get stuck.
I said it to someone recentlythat life was monotone.
You know, the auditory thing isfor big for me.
With the voice I was like for awhile there, life was monotone,
(32:17):
right, but when we get stuck,we deserve to look for the help
that we need, and it's not aboutone person, you know being like
oh, I'm amazing because I'm notstuck.
We've all been stuck at somepoint.
You've shared some of yourmoments, so please don't ever
(32:38):
think that there's somethingterribly wrong if you're stuck
right now.
It is a contraction that couldlead to an amazing
transformation, like the way acaterpillar gets contracted in
that little chrysalis, you know,and it's pulsing.
So, yes, I think you're anamazing, amazing person and I'm
really happy you were able tocome on the show today.
Thank you so much, danita, forbeing here.
Danita Young (32:59):
Thank you for having me and I love your energy
and thank you so much for whatyou do.
We need more people to be intheir expansive energy, to keep
giving hope to the world thatthere is a thing called
expansive energy, to actuallysee a real smile and go oh my
gosh, it's a real smile.
She's really authenticallysmiling right now.
So thank you for that.
Aideen Ni Riada (33:19):
That's it.
Let's keep the smiles on ourfaces.
Thank you all for listening.
This is the Resonate Podcastwith Aideen, and we will see you
again on the next episode.
Bye-bye.
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