Ep 13: Want to Be Respected? Tell People How You Want to Be Helped. (Part 2 of 2)

In part two of this powerful conversation, Dana Tenille Weekes completes the three-part framework for shifting how we think about asking for help, not as a weakness, but as a practice of self-respect.

Picking up from last episode, Dana explores the final and most actionable shift: you must actually tell people how you want to be helped. She offers reflection questions to confront the fear of being a burden and shares a practical framework for making clear, meaningful asks from those we trust.

If you’ve ever struggled with letting people support you or felt resentment when others don’t know how to show up, this episode offers clarity and tools you can use immediately.

🧠 Episode Highlights:

• Recap of the first two shifts:
  1. Redefine respect as an act of mutuality
  2. Believe that people want to help you (with 3 mindset takeaways)
• Deep dive into Shift 3: You must start telling people how you want to be helped
  • Why assuming others are "too busy" or "won’t get it" is often rooted in ego or fear
  • The importance of setting a clear accountability line for how you want to be treated
  • How to identify the narratives and behaviors that make you feel like a burden
  • A framework to help you articulate:
    • What you need
    • How you want to be helped
    • How that help will serve you
  • Personal examples of how Dana asks for help—and what honoring that process can look like

💭 Reflection Questions from This Episode:

1. What is something burdening or bothering you that you feel you must bear alone?
2. What story do you tell yourself about being a burden—and what role do you play to reinforce it?
3. How can you be helped in this moment? What specific action would support you—and who is the right person to ask?

🛠️ Practical Application:

• Use Dana’s 180° method:
  • Rewrite your limiting belief about being helped
  • Replace old behaviors with clear, specific asks
• Practice naming help in real terms (without oversharing or apology)
• Remember: clarity supports compassion—when people know how they can help, they’re more likely to do so with heart

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