June 3, 2025 • 24 mins
Frank and Darcie explore the emotional roller coaster of their son's high school graduation and the identity crisis that can come during major life transitions.
• Not every good opportunity is a God opportunity – Satan can present attractive options to draw us away from God's plan
• Life transitions can trigger questions about our identity and purpose
• Darcie shares her struggle with self-worth as her role as stay-at-home mom changes
• Biblical figures like Moses, Gideon, Jeremiah, and Peter all experienced moments where they forgot their identity
• Jesus and Paul maintained unshakeable identity despite challenges and temptations
• The "orphan spirit" makes us feel abandoned and seek external validation
• As believers, we are permanently adopted into God's family with full inheritance rights
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Speaker 1 (00:18):
you were listening to the restored podcast with frank
and darcy Montgomery.
How are you today, Darcy?
Speaker 2 (00:24):
I'm good.
How are you?
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Little emotional still.
We have graduation for our onlychild tomorrow and it's the
official mark of him moving fromchildhood into adulthood and
completing his education journey, at least to this point primary
education.
And it's been a littleemotional.
I'm sure people listening aretired of hearing us talk about
(00:47):
it.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Well, good news that's our only kid, so you
won't hear anymore.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
But the other day I had the privilege of spending
the entire day with Hayden and Idon't get that a whole lot, but
we were able to spend the dayat the golf tournament and I had
a lot of one-on-one time withthem and able to talk to them.
And something happened that Iwould like to discuss before we
really move into what we hadplanned to talk about, and
(01:12):
that's the fact that youngpeople and I think older people
do it as well when they see agood opportunity, they feel
obligated to jump on that and,as you know, hayden was planning
to move to Arizona to go worksometime this summer, and that
was a little hard on us thethought of him being two states
(01:32):
away, with the only personremotely close that he knew or
loved or cared for him any ofthat was your dad.
But it's a good opportunity.
It's at a place to where hecould make a career out of this
job, and so, in a way, we almostpushed it, encouraging Hayden
because it was a good job.
(01:54):
But after talking to him thatday I realized he had a little
hesitation and it got me tothinking every opportunity is
not a God opportunity.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Correct, and that's why we pray over things before
we step into them.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
And I encouraged him to do that.
I told him, I said, Hayden, youdon't have to jump on any
decision.
I said, A, you're young, youhave a lot of options in front
of you.
You don't have to jump on thefirst thing.
And I said, most importantly,pray about it and really think
about it and weigh all youroptions.
But pray about it and whereverGod wants you to be, you'll be
(02:32):
happy and successful.
And so now you'll be happy toknow he's considering options a
little closer to home with us.
But I thought that that was agood thing for people to know,
and me myself.
At 44 years old, you know when agood opportunity comes along.
It doesn't mean that wenecessarily need to jump on that
(02:53):
good opportunity because it's agood opportunity.
The enemy can present you withgood opportunities as well to
draw you further away from Godand further away from his will
that he has for you.
And so I just want to encourageanybody if you're facing making
a career change, or maybeyou're our son's age and you're
(03:13):
starting your career path, orwhat you want to do starting a
family, having children,whatever that choice might be,
whatever good opportunity ispresenting itself in front of
you right now.
Just remember that not everygood opportunity is presenting
itself in front of you right now.
Just remember that not everygood opportunity is a God
opportunity, and pray aboutevery move you make, even if it
seems minor Right.
(03:34):
Minor decisions and minorchoices can lead to major
consequences and major reactionsthat we don't necessarily want.
So, with that being said, Ifigured you'd be a little more
happier that Hayden's thinkingof staying closer to home.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
I am excited about that and I think there's
opportunities that I mean I wanthim to be where God wants him
to be.
If that's with us, great.
If it's not, we'll handle thoseemotions that come with that.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Over the past few weeks we've been doing all the
senior activities.
It's been even you mentionedearlier today.
We have graduation tomorrow,but you're like, I'm just ready
to get it over with.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
I feel drained.
I mean honestly, it's somethingall the time and the excitement
that's in me and I've beenexcited for a long time and it's
physically making me exhausted.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
But it's more than excitement.
It's a roller coaster ofemotions, because we're excited
that Hayden is completing highschool, graduating.
We're excited at the potentialthat he has for his future and
what's ahead for him.
But yet we're also sad becausehis childhood is over.
(04:49):
What we've known for the past,past 18 years raising a child,
forming that child's beliefsystem, and everything that's
coming to a close.
He is 18 years old, his beliefsare formed right, his
foundation is set and now it'stime for him to build upon that
foundation.
And we have to trust God thateverything moving forward is
(05:12):
good.
But during this emotional swing, you told me one day that you
don't know who you are anymore.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
I did, and that was fear of change.
That was I had, I don't knowFor whatever reason I had given
the devil a foothold, he couldmake his own lunch.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
He could make his own dinner if he needed to.
He didn't necessarily need youfor those essentials.
You were still a stay-at-homemom and he knew mom was there if
(05:54):
he did need anything.
But because of the world, theworld's viewpoint and we've
discussed this on a previousepisode, how not every family,
not every family, is able tohave a stay at home mom, not
bringing in that income, andwe've made sacrifices to make
that happen.
But the world doesn't view thatnecessarily as a job.
(06:16):
They view that as almost.
You know beneath women.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
A luxury, and it's not a luxury.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
It's either a luxury that women who can't stay at
home but want to can't do.
They see it as a luxury.
Other women they view it as aprison.
But you've been a stay-at-homemom for 18 years and now we've
been talking about me going backto work, you going back to work
(06:45):
to really, you know, start upin our retirement savings and
putting back as much as we canin between now and retirement
age.
Talking about going back to work.
But you struggle because forthe past 18 years you've been a
stay-at-home mom and it led youto believe that that's all you
(07:06):
were or that's all you are andthat's who you are.
Right, that is a big part ofyour calling on this earth is to
be hayden's mom, and you tookthat calling to the full extent
to where you dedicatedeverything to your family,
making sure that the house wastaken care of for your husband
(07:29):
and your son.
And now, when you start lookingat job applications and
responses and you don't have awhole lot of job history because
, with the exception of workingfor our company and maybe one
other job in that 18 years, twoother jobs You've been a
stay-at-home mom.
So it kind of and where youwere going from the way that the
(07:50):
world tells you about being astay-at-home mom and that's in
the workplace that allowed Satanto come in.
And at the crux of the matteris we all have an identity in
Christ Right and Satan used thistransition time to make me
question mine.
Absolutely, and you're not thefirst person to struggle with
(08:13):
this.
You're not going to be the lastperson to struggle with it.
It's very difficult, wheneverwe're being attacked on every
side, to remain confident and toremain strong and rooted in who
we are, in who Christ says weare, in who God says we are what
(08:33):
the Word of God says we are asbelievers.
The Word of God says that weare his sons, and that includes
women as well, sons anddaughters.
Some more modern translationsadd sons and daughters, but
that's you know, given that sonsmeans everybody pretty much on
(08:53):
the earth.
But there's people in the Biblethat have struggled with
identity issues and not knowingwho they are in Christ.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Yeah, while I was studying for this episode
because I knew this is what wewere going to talk about I did a
little studying and researchand I came up with a few people
actually that were heroes of thefaith in some ways, that
struggled with that at one pointor another.
(09:26):
Um, if you look in exodus, it'smoses.
He argued with god and he wasinsecure because he wasn't
secure in his identity in christ.
And I think at one point sometranslations have who am I?
The exact same thing that Isaid I don't know who I am.
(09:47):
Who am I?
Speaker 1 (09:49):
and and it's crazy what led him to not be confident
in who he was was.
I've heard different scholarssay that he had a speech
impediment.
I've heard other people saythat he just had a severe
shyness and fear of speaking infront of others.
And so Satan took that fear,that insecurity that he had
(10:17):
about his speech, or fear thathe had about his speech, and
made him forget that he's God'sservant.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Right.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
That was.
That was BC, so it's beforeChrist and the atonement, but
Moses was God's servant.
It's before Christ and theatonement, but Moses was God's
servant and Moses knew wouldlater come to find out and know
who he was.
And I think whenever Moses diedhe wasn't quite so insecure.
I think he had a better grip onwho he was in Christ, because
(10:55):
after that, I mean, god splitthe red sea and they walked on
dry land.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
He delivered what some of us do.
He said God, please sendsomeone else.
I mean I know sometimes in ourcallings if they're
uncomfortable or they look scary, we'll be like God, please,
anything else, anybody else,please don't send me to this,
because we question and we letthat slip into us that we aren't
who God says we are.
(11:21):
We doubt, we have insecurityand I have personally prayed
that God would put somebody elsein some of my callings.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
But God did give Moses somebody else, but Moses
still had to be obedient wasobedient, along with Aaron, his
brother, but God did answer hisprayer and gave him Aaron.
But he still said you know, youare my servant and you are my
(11:52):
mouthpiece, and I am going tofree my people from Egypt
through you.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
Right.
Another example is Gideon.
Gideon felt weak and he haddoubt and you know he questioned
God.
He said you know, show me asign to prove your power.
And you know, if you don't knowthe authority that you have in
God and you don't wield thatpower, satan will run all over
(12:22):
you.
And then there's Jeremiah, whoGod told him before I formed you
in the womb I knew you Beforeyou were born.
I set you apart, I appointedyou as a prophet to the nations,
and he just basically said I'mtoo young.
He used the age to disqualifyhim and we still do that today.
(12:45):
I mean, as you were talkingabout earlier, my age has got me
scared to go back on a job hunt.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
You know, there's one thing I listened to different
preachers and one of the guys Ilistened to is Kenan Clark, and
I watched a real not too longago.
I think you showed it to me,but I've seen it in his full
sermon at times.
But he's talking about Satanusing that age and he said
(13:17):
something along the lines of,yeah, satan says yeah, that'll
do good, you know, you'll fit ingreat there in that ministry or
whatever, but right now you'retoo young, right, and the next
day he's still coming at you.
You're too young.
The next day you're too young.
The next day you're too young.
So on, so on.
You're too young.
And then one day you wake up andthen all of a sudden you're too
(13:40):
old.
You're too old, the opportunityhas passed you by.
But what God is saying there isthat I have formed you.
I knew you before I formed youin your mother's womb.
I've had time to think about,I've had time to plan, I've had
time to know your purpose foryour life on this earth, and it
doesn't matter if you're 16, 26,or 46.
(14:03):
Your calling is your calling.
And if you know that, if youknow your identity in Christ,
and you're rooted in it.
And you're rooted in it andnothing can shake that it
doesn't matter your age.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
Right Peter walked with Jesus.
Peter knew his place, yet hedenied him three times.
It doesn't matter your age,right Peter walked with Jesus.
Peter knew his place, yet hedenied him three times because
he questioned or lost sight ofhis calling.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Well, there was a lot going on during that time too.
I mean in Peter's defense.
Yes, he was one of Jesus'sinner circle friends.
He was one of the ones that wascalled away to pray, uh, with
jesus, he, he walked on waterwith jesus.
And again it just goes back tosatan.
He will use anything andeverything to create confusion,
(14:55):
and I'm sure there was a ton ofconfusion in Peter's life at
that moment.
His friend, the king of kings,the, our savior, was, you know,
being arrested right there infront of G, in front of Peter,
and was being carried away bythe guards and Peter's, fearful
(15:19):
of what's going on.
They're doing this to Jesus,what are they going to do to me?
And out of that fear, he forgotwho he was.
Out of that fear, he forgotthat he was co-heirs with Christ
.
And we look at all thoseexamples in the Bible of people
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who didn't know, or maybe theyknew, but they had moments where
they forgot who they were.
Satan used externalcircumstances, satan used age,
satan used, you know,deficiencies or fears.
But there are a couple ofexamples and the first one, you
(16:03):
know, is Jesus.
He had a little bit of a youknow, I would think, an
advantage, but also we as humans.
We struggle with the fact, andwe have a hard time grasping,
that when Jesus came to earth,he was fully man.
(16:25):
Yes, he was fully God at thetime too, but he was fully man.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
He felt everything we feel.
He's been through everythingwe've been through.
There's nothing that weexperience, that he didn't.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
There's nothing that we experienced that he didn't
Now.
At the beginning of hisministry on earth, when he was
baptized, God audibly spoke andsaid this is my son, whom I love
.
And Jesus knew right then whohe was.
(17:01):
And do you know what happened?
Where Jesus went right afterbeing baptized?
Speaker 2 (17:08):
Tell me.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Right after that he was led into the wilderness by
Satan to be tempted, and I haveno doubt that.
Well, I say I have no doubt,but you got to think that that
little affirmation duringJesus's baptism, from his father
(17:30):
in heaven, reaffirming who heis, gave him the strength to go
through that temptation noteating or drinking for 40 days,
then being tempted with foodbecause he's hungry, or all
these different things.
And Jesus knew who he was.
Jesus knew that he was the sonof God, he knew who he was and
(17:55):
he was firmly rooted.
So he didn't fail in thattemptation and ultimately,
that's why we are able toworship him today is because he
didn't fail.
He became that sacrifice thatwe needed for our sins, and it's
all because he knew who he was.
And then you also look at PaulBefore Paul, and I really think
(18:25):
that Paul was firmly rooted inhis identity on both sides of
his life.
Before the road to Damascus,before he was saved and found
Christ, paul knew who he was.
He was a prosecutor, he was aJew of Jews is what Paul says.
But whenever he was saved,whenever he had his road to
(18:50):
Damascus moment and I say hisroad to Damascus moment, that
was the road to Damascus moment,and I say his road to Damascus
moment.
That was the road to Damascusmoment.
He knew after that who he was.
He had that encounter with Godand he knew that encounter was
real.
And after that encounter thathe had, he never questioned who
(19:12):
he was in Christ.
All throughout the New Testament, in his letters, he's always
stating who he is.
He's a bondservant of Christ,he's an apostle meant to preach
the good news.
And you know what?
He knew who he was and he didwhat he was called to do and he
didn't falter in that, not whenfaced with prison, not when
(19:35):
faced with a shipwreck, not whenfaced with you know, capital
punishment.
Paul stood firm in his identityof who he was and what God had
called him to do here on thisearth.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Yeah, he became a new creation and you know we are
new creations when we come toChrist.
And he held that.
I mean Saul was dead and Paulwas here and we need to remember
that the old is gone andrealized and knew who he was in
(20:12):
Christ.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
from that moment forward, we too, as Christians,
whenever we are saved, wheneverwe enter into that relationship
with God and we do those thingsto grow closer to God, he'll
begin to reveal his identity forus, our identity, and it's so
important that our identity isrooted in him, and there's
(20:37):
things that I mean.
Satan's only goal on this earthis to keep us out of heaven,
and if he can't keep us out ofheaven, he's going to keep us
from getting other people to goto heaven.
To keep us from getting otherpeople to go to heaven, ie keep
us from reaching our fullpotential, from us stepping into
our calling, into what God hascalled for us in our life.
(20:59):
And one of the major attacksthat Satan uses is a spirit of
the orphan spirit.
Speaker 2 (21:11):
Right, and when you say that, let me try to explain
that a little bit more.
Um, that's not a term that Ihave heard until recently and
when I did, it kind of clickedwith me.
I was like, oh, let me praythat off.
Um, but it's a feeling ofabandonment, rejection and
lacking a sense of belonging,and usually it stems from
(21:33):
childhood trauma, unresolvedchildhood trauma and instability
.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
It's real simple.
Satan wants you to think thatyou're walking this world alone.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Right, and I mean it's a belief that one's
identity is tied to externalvalidation.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
Ie you being a stay-at-home mom, you were
feeling that you weren'tqualified to go work at a gas
station because of I felt like Iwas only qualified to work at a
gas station.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
I felt like I had to go back to where I was at 18.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Right, and that I mean the, the orphan spirit.
It wants to put you on anIsland.
It wants you to think that youare all by yourself.
But God tells us that we areadopted.
We are adopted into his family,we are his children.
(22:36):
And let me tell you somethingabout adoption.
Adoption isn't something thatjust goes away.
Adoption isn't just temporary.
God isn't saying I'll be yourfoster dad until you're grown.
I'll be your foster dad untilyou get the wind beneath your
wings, so to speak.
No, god says I have adopted you, I've given you my last name,
I've given you access to mykingdoms.
(22:57):
I've given you access to myriches, I've given you access to
my authority.
That's who we are in Christ.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
Right.
Our identity I've heard it putthis way is rooted in God's love
and sonship.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
So never forget who you are in Christ.
Never forget of what Christ didfor you to give you that
identity.
Until next time.
My name is Frank.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
I'm Darcy.
Speaker 1 (23:25):
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(23:49):
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Thank you.
you were listening to the restored podcast with frank
and darcy Montgomery.
How are you today, Darcy?
Speaker 2 (00:24):
I'm good.
How are you?
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Little emotional still.
We have graduation for our onlychild tomorrow and it's the
official mark of him moving fromchildhood into adulthood and
completing his education journey, at least to this point primary
education.
And it's been a littleemotional.
I'm sure people listening aretired of hearing us talk about
(00:47):
it.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Well, good news that's our only kid, so you
won't hear anymore.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
But the other day I had the privilege of spending
the entire day with Hayden and Idon't get that a whole lot, but
we were able to spend the dayat the golf tournament and I had
a lot of one-on-one time withthem and able to talk to them.
And something happened that Iwould like to discuss before we
really move into what we hadplanned to talk about, and
(01:12):
that's the fact that youngpeople and I think older people
do it as well when they see agood opportunity, they feel
obligated to jump on that and,as you know, hayden was planning
to move to Arizona to go worksometime this summer, and that
was a little hard on us thethought of him being two states
(01:32):
away, with the only personremotely close that he knew or
loved or cared for him any ofthat was your dad.
But it's a good opportunity.
It's at a place to where hecould make a career out of this
job, and so, in a way, we almostpushed it, encouraging Hayden
because it was a good job.
(01:54):
But after talking to him thatday I realized he had a little
hesitation and it got me tothinking every opportunity is
not a God opportunity.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Correct, and that's why we pray over things before
we step into them.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
And I encouraged him to do that.
I told him, I said, Hayden, youdon't have to jump on any
decision.
I said, A, you're young, youhave a lot of options in front
of you.
You don't have to jump on thefirst thing.
And I said, most importantly,pray about it and really think
about it and weigh all youroptions.
But pray about it and whereverGod wants you to be, you'll be
(02:32):
happy and successful.
And so now you'll be happy toknow he's considering options a
little closer to home with us.
But I thought that that was agood thing for people to know,
and me myself.
At 44 years old, you know when agood opportunity comes along.
It doesn't mean that wenecessarily need to jump on that
(02:53):
good opportunity because it's agood opportunity.
The enemy can present you withgood opportunities as well to
draw you further away from Godand further away from his will
that he has for you.
And so I just want to encourageanybody if you're facing making
a career change, or maybeyou're our son's age and you're
(03:13):
starting your career path, orwhat you want to do starting a
family, having children,whatever that choice might be,
whatever good opportunity ispresenting itself in front of
you right now.
Just remember that not everygood opportunity is presenting
itself in front of you right now.
Just remember that not everygood opportunity is a God
opportunity, and pray aboutevery move you make, even if it
seems minor Right.
(03:34):
Minor decisions and minorchoices can lead to major
consequences and major reactionsthat we don't necessarily want.
So, with that being said, Ifigured you'd be a little more
happier that Hayden's thinkingof staying closer to home.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
I am excited about that and I think there's
opportunities that I mean I wanthim to be where God wants him
to be.
If that's with us, great.
If it's not, we'll handle thoseemotions that come with that.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Over the past few weeks we've been doing all the
senior activities.
It's been even you mentionedearlier today.
We have graduation tomorrow,but you're like, I'm just ready
to get it over with.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
I feel drained.
I mean honestly, it's somethingall the time and the excitement
that's in me and I've beenexcited for a long time and it's
physically making me exhausted.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
But it's more than excitement.
It's a roller coaster ofemotions, because we're excited
that Hayden is completing highschool, graduating.
We're excited at the potentialthat he has for his future and
what's ahead for him.
But yet we're also sad becausehis childhood is over.
(04:49):
What we've known for the past,past 18 years raising a child,
forming that child's beliefsystem, and everything that's
coming to a close.
He is 18 years old, his beliefsare formed right, his
foundation is set and now it'stime for him to build upon that
foundation.
And we have to trust God thateverything moving forward is
(05:12):
good.
But during this emotional swing, you told me one day that you
don't know who you are anymore.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
I did, and that was fear of change.
That was I had, I don't knowFor whatever reason I had given
the devil a foothold, he couldmake his own lunch.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
He could make his own dinner if he needed to.
He didn't necessarily need youfor those essentials.
You were still a stay-at-homemom and he knew mom was there if
(05:54):
he did need anything.
But because of the world, theworld's viewpoint and we've
discussed this on a previousepisode, how not every family,
not every family, is able tohave a stay at home mom, not
bringing in that income, andwe've made sacrifices to make
that happen.
But the world doesn't view thatnecessarily as a job.
(06:16):
They view that as almost.
You know beneath women.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
A luxury, and it's not a luxury.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
It's either a luxury that women who can't stay at
home but want to can't do.
They see it as a luxury.
Other women they view it as aprison.
But you've been a stay-at-homemom for 18 years and now we've
been talking about me going backto work, you going back to work
(06:45):
to really, you know, start upin our retirement savings and
putting back as much as we canin between now and retirement
age.
Talking about going back to work.
But you struggle because forthe past 18 years you've been a
stay-at-home mom and it led youto believe that that's all you
(07:06):
were or that's all you are andthat's who you are.
Right, that is a big part ofyour calling on this earth is to
be hayden's mom, and you tookthat calling to the full extent
to where you dedicatedeverything to your family,
making sure that the house wastaken care of for your husband
(07:29):
and your son.
And now, when you start lookingat job applications and
responses and you don't have awhole lot of job history because
, with the exception of workingfor our company and maybe one
other job in that 18 years, twoother jobs You've been a
stay-at-home mom.
So it kind of and where youwere going from the way that the
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world tells you about being astay-at-home mom and that's in
the workplace that allowed Satanto come in.
And at the crux of the matteris we all have an identity in
Christ Right and Satan used thistransition time to make me
question mine.
Absolutely, and you're not thefirst person to struggle with
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this.
You're not going to be the lastperson to struggle with it.
It's very difficult, wheneverwe're being attacked on every
side, to remain confident and toremain strong and rooted in who
we are, in who Christ says weare, in who God says we are what
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the Word of God says we are asbelievers.
The Word of God says that weare his sons, and that includes
women as well, sons anddaughters.
Some more modern translationsadd sons and daughters, but
that's you know, given that sonsmeans everybody pretty much on
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the earth.
But there's people in the Biblethat have struggled with
identity issues and not knowingwho they are in Christ.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Yeah, while I was studying for this episode
because I knew this is what wewere going to talk about I did a
little studying and researchand I came up with a few people
actually that were heroes of thefaith in some ways, that
struggled with that at one pointor another.
(09:26):
Um, if you look in exodus, it'smoses.
He argued with god and he wasinsecure because he wasn't
secure in his identity in christ.
And I think at one point sometranslations have who am I?
The exact same thing that Isaid I don't know who I am.
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Who am I?
Speaker 1 (09:49):
and and it's crazy what led him to not be confident
in who he was was.
I've heard different scholarssay that he had a speech
impediment.
I've heard other people saythat he just had a severe
shyness and fear of speaking infront of others.
And so Satan took that fear,that insecurity that he had
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about his speech, or fear thathe had about his speech, and
made him forget that he's God'sservant.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Right.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
That was.
That was BC, so it's beforeChrist and the atonement, but
Moses was God's servant.
It's before Christ and theatonement, but Moses was God's
servant and Moses knew wouldlater come to find out and know
who he was.
And I think whenever Moses diedhe wasn't quite so insecure.
I think he had a better grip onwho he was in Christ, because
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after that, I mean, god splitthe red sea and they walked on
dry land.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
He delivered what some of us do.
He said God, please sendsomeone else.
I mean I know sometimes in ourcallings if they're
uncomfortable or they look scary, we'll be like God, please,
anything else, anybody else,please don't send me to this,
because we question and we letthat slip into us that we aren't
who God says we are.
(11:21):
We doubt, we have insecurityand I have personally prayed
that God would put somebody elsein some of my callings.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
But God did give Moses somebody else, but Moses
still had to be obedient wasobedient, along with Aaron, his
brother, but God did answer hisprayer and gave him Aaron.
But he still said you know, youare my servant and you are my
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mouthpiece, and I am going tofree my people from Egypt
through you.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
Right.
Another example is Gideon.
Gideon felt weak and he haddoubt and you know he questioned
God.
He said you know, show me asign to prove your power.
And you know, if you don't knowthe authority that you have in
God and you don't wield thatpower, satan will run all over
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you.
And then there's Jeremiah, whoGod told him before I formed you
in the womb I knew you Beforeyou were born.
I set you apart, I appointedyou as a prophet to the nations,
and he just basically said I'mtoo young.
He used the age to disqualifyhim and we still do that today.
(12:45):
I mean, as you were talkingabout earlier, my age has got me
scared to go back on a job hunt.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
You know, there's one thing I listened to different
preachers and one of the guys Ilistened to is Kenan Clark, and
I watched a real not too longago.
I think you showed it to me,but I've seen it in his full
sermon at times.
But he's talking about Satanusing that age and he said
(13:17):
something along the lines of,yeah, satan says yeah, that'll
do good, you know, you'll fit ingreat there in that ministry or
whatever, but right now you'retoo young, right, and the next
day he's still coming at you.
You're too young.
The next day you're too young.
The next day you're too young.
So on, so on.
You're too young.
And then one day you wake up andthen all of a sudden you're too
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old.
You're too old, the opportunityhas passed you by.
But what God is saying there isthat I have formed you.
I knew you before I formed youin your mother's womb.
I've had time to think about,I've had time to plan, I've had
time to know your purpose foryour life on this earth, and it
doesn't matter if you're 16, 26,or 46.
(14:03):
Your calling is your calling.
And if you know that, if youknow your identity in Christ,
and you're rooted in it.
And you're rooted in it andnothing can shake that it
doesn't matter your age.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
Right Peter walked with Jesus.
Peter knew his place, yet hedenied him three times.
It doesn't matter your age,right Peter walked with Jesus.
Peter knew his place, yet hedenied him three times because
he questioned or lost sight ofhis calling.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Well, there was a lot going on during that time too.
I mean in Peter's defense.
Yes, he was one of Jesus'sinner circle friends.
He was one of the ones that wascalled away to pray, uh, with
jesus, he, he walked on waterwith jesus.
And again it just goes back tosatan.
He will use anything andeverything to create confusion,
(14:55):
and I'm sure there was a ton ofconfusion in Peter's life at
that moment.
His friend, the king of kings,the, our savior, was, you know,
being arrested right there infront of G, in front of Peter,
and was being carried away bythe guards and Peter's, fearful
(15:19):
of what's going on.
They're doing this to Jesus,what are they going to do to me?
And out of that fear, he forgotwho he was.
Out of that fear, he forgotthat he was co-heirs with Christ
.
And we look at all thoseexamples in the Bible of people
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who didn't know, or maybe theyknew, but they had moments where
they forgot who they were.
Satan used externalcircumstances, satan used age,
satan used, you know,deficiencies or fears.
But there are a couple ofexamples and the first one, you
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know, is Jesus.
He had a little bit of a youknow, I would think, an
advantage, but also we as humans.
We struggle with the fact, andwe have a hard time grasping,
that when Jesus came to earth,he was fully man.
(16:25):
Yes, he was fully God at thetime too, but he was fully man.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
He felt everything we feel.
He's been through everythingwe've been through.
There's nothing that weexperience, that he didn't.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
There's nothing that we experienced that he didn't
Now.
At the beginning of hisministry on earth, when he was
baptized, God audibly spoke andsaid this is my son, whom I love
.
And Jesus knew right then whohe was.
(17:01):
And do you know what happened?
Where Jesus went right afterbeing baptized?
Speaker 2 (17:08):
Tell me.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Right after that he was led into the wilderness by
Satan to be tempted, and I haveno doubt that.
Well, I say I have no doubt,but you got to think that that
little affirmation duringJesus's baptism, from his father
(17:30):
in heaven, reaffirming who heis, gave him the strength to go
through that temptation noteating or drinking for 40 days,
then being tempted with foodbecause he's hungry, or all
these different things.
And Jesus knew who he was.
Jesus knew that he was the sonof God, he knew who he was and
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he was firmly rooted.
So he didn't fail in thattemptation and ultimately,
that's why we are able toworship him today is because he
didn't fail.
He became that sacrifice thatwe needed for our sins, and it's
all because he knew who he was.
And then you also look at PaulBefore Paul, and I really think
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that Paul was firmly rooted inhis identity on both sides of
his life.
Before the road to Damascus,before he was saved and found
Christ, paul knew who he was.
He was a prosecutor, he was aJew of Jews is what Paul says.
But whenever he was saved,whenever he had his road to
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Damascus moment and I say hisroad to Damascus moment, that
was the road to Damascus moment,and I say his road to Damascus
moment.
That was the road to Damascusmoment.
He knew after that who he was.
He had that encounter with Godand he knew that encounter was
real.
And after that encounter thathe had, he never questioned who
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he was in Christ.
All throughout the New Testament, in his letters, he's always
stating who he is.
He's a bondservant of Christ,he's an apostle meant to preach
the good news.
And you know what?
He knew who he was and he didwhat he was called to do and he
didn't falter in that, not whenfaced with prison, not when
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faced with a shipwreck, not whenfaced with you know, capital
punishment.
Paul stood firm in his identityof who he was and what God had
called him to do here on thisearth.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Yeah, he became a new creation and you know we are
new creations when we come toChrist.
And he held that.
I mean Saul was dead and Paulwas here and we need to remember
that the old is gone andrealized and knew who he was in
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Christ.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
from that moment forward, we too, as Christians,
whenever we are saved, wheneverwe enter into that relationship
with God and we do those thingsto grow closer to God, he'll
begin to reveal his identity forus, our identity, and it's so
important that our identity isrooted in him, and there's
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things that I mean.
Satan's only goal on this earthis to keep us out of heaven,
and if he can't keep us out ofheaven, he's going to keep us
from getting other people to goto heaven.
To keep us from getting otherpeople to go to heaven, ie keep
us from reaching our fullpotential, from us stepping into
our calling, into what God hascalled for us in our life.
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And one of the major attacksthat Satan uses is a spirit of
the orphan spirit.
Speaker 2 (21:11):
Right, and when you say that, let me try to explain
that a little bit more.
Um, that's not a term that Ihave heard until recently and
when I did, it kind of clickedwith me.
I was like, oh, let me praythat off.
Um, but it's a feeling ofabandonment, rejection and
lacking a sense of belonging,and usually it stems from
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childhood trauma, unresolvedchildhood trauma and instability
.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
It's real simple.
Satan wants you to think thatyou're walking this world alone.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Right, and I mean it's a belief that one's
identity is tied to externalvalidation.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
Ie you being a stay-at-home mom, you were
feeling that you weren'tqualified to go work at a gas
station because of I felt like Iwas only qualified to work at a
gas station.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
I felt like I had to go back to where I was at 18.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Right, and that I mean the, the orphan spirit.
It wants to put you on anIsland.
It wants you to think that youare all by yourself.
But God tells us that we areadopted.
We are adopted into his family,we are his children.
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And let me tell you somethingabout adoption.
Adoption isn't something thatjust goes away.
Adoption isn't just temporary.
God isn't saying I'll be yourfoster dad until you're grown.
I'll be your foster dad untilyou get the wind beneath your
wings, so to speak.
No, god says I have adopted you, I've given you my last name,
I've given you access to mykingdoms.
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I've given you access to myriches, I've given you access to
my authority.
That's who we are in Christ.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
Right.
Our identity I've heard it putthis way is rooted in God's love
and sonship.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
So never forget who you are in Christ.
Never forget of what Christ didfor you to give you that
identity.
Until next time.
My name is Frank.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
I'm Darcy.
Speaker 1 (23:25):
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