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What makes motherhood a divine calling rather than just a biological function? In this heartfelt Mother's Day episode, we peel back the layers of what truly defines a mother's heart and impact.

Motherhood comes in many beautiful forms—biological mothers, adoptive mothers, and spiritual mothers who guide younger women through life's challenges. The common thread? That remarkable capacity for selfless love that seems woven into women's hearts by divine design. As Frank observes, while men often struggle with putting others first, mothers naturally prioritize their children's needs above their own.

Perhaps most profound is how mothers establish the emotional climate of their homes. "If mom is feeling relaxed, everyone feels relaxed. If mom's edgy, everyone feels on edge." This tremendous influence means mothers must prioritize not just physical self-care, but spiritual nourishment through prayer and Scripture. The biblical framework for motherhood outlined in Titus 2 and Proverbs 31 isn't an impossible standard—it's God's beautiful design waiting to be embraced.

Darcie vulnerably shares her journey from actively resisting motherhood to treasuring it: "I never wanted to be a mom or wife, and that came from a place of fear. I thought staying home meant you were controlling me and keeping my dreams from happening. Now I'm so thankful for this calling." Her transformation reminds us that our greatest joy often waits where we least expect it. What sacred calling might you be resisting today? Join us weekly as we continue exploring how God restores our understanding of His perfect design for our lives.

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Speaker 1 (00:20):
You are listening to the Restored Podcast with Frank
and Darcy Montgomery.
Welcome back to another episodeof the Restored Podcast with
Frank and Darcy Montgomery.
Welcome back to another episodeof the Restored Podcast.
My name is Frank and I'm herealongside my beautiful wife,
Darcy.

Speaker 2 (00:34):
Hello.

Speaker 1 (00:35):
And today we're recording.
It is Mother's Day, so I wantto start by wishing you a very
happy Mother's Day.

Speaker 2 (00:47):
Thank you.

Speaker 1 (00:48):
And to let you know how thankful I am for you and
how blessed I am that not onlyare you my wife, but you are the
mother to my child, are themother to my child.

(01:08):
I also feel blessed that forthe past 18 years we were
blessed with the ability for youto stay at home and really
spend a lot of time with him,raising him, and I know you have
dedicated your entire life tomaking sure the wants and needs
of your family myself and Haydenmade sure that they were always

(01:33):
taken my wife and to tell youthank you, thank you, and to let
you know that if we don't saythank you enough and I'm

(01:54):
speaking for Hayden here as wellthat we really are appreciative
and we love you and just sothankful for you.

Speaker 2 (02:06):
Thank you, you got me over here crying.

Speaker 1 (02:09):
Now, since today is Mother's Day, we wanted to spend
some time talking about mothersand what that is and what that
entails, and so, now that you'redone crying, why don't you take

(02:37):
us down that path?

Speaker 2 (02:39):
Well, when I think of mothers, I think of women,
obviously, but there aredifferent types of mothers.
There are the ones thatactually give birth, there are
the adoptive, there are thespiritual mothers, and all of
them you know, love and nurtureand try to help others grow.

(03:00):
To me, that's what you knowbeing a mother truly is, and
it's a selfless thing, or itshould be.
It's the way that God designedit.
It's a selfless thing, theselfless love.

Speaker 1 (03:16):
Well, I think any mother who loves their child,
they do love them selfishly.
Not selfishly, well that too.
But um, I mean, I've seen itfirsthand with you.
I mean you've, you've gonewithout something, that you've

(03:39):
wanted to make sure that haydenhad what he needed or what he
wanted.
I've seen you, you know,console him, be there for him
when you yourself neededconsoling.
That's what being a mother isall about and, to be honest, I

(04:06):
don't know if guys can do that.

Speaker 2 (04:10):
I don't know if that was in God's design.
I mean, they love.
They love their kids, they lovetheir wives, but they love in a
different way.

Speaker 1 (04:18):
Absolutely.
I mean, I'm a guy and I cantell you that it's difficult for
me at times to love selflessly.
You know, and I think a lot ofguys have that as well to where

(04:45):
you know, and it's from theenemy- yeah.
That's all it is.
Because the first thought thatcomes to mind well, I work hard,
so I deserve this, or I shouldget this, and so we do it, even
if maybe that means somebodyelse in the house doing without

(05:11):
Right, and I've gotten betterabout that.
I mean, I try to put your wantsand needs in front of us, but
it seems like mothers justnaturally do that.
I mean don't even think aboutit, they just automatically put
their child before them.
And I've watched again, I'vewatched you do it countless

(05:35):
times.
And, yes, God created men andwomen differently.
He created man and woman andthey work together as a team.

Speaker 2 (05:49):
Right, you have to have that balance is what it
creates, is the balance, becauseyou are the protector, the
provider, the leader, whereas Icome in and I'm the heart.

Speaker 1 (06:03):
You're the heart, and I would dare say that moms are
the glue that holds the housestogether, that holds the homes
together.
It is that mom's love, it isthat mom's care, it is that

(06:35):
mom's care, it is that mom'snurturing spirit, mom, and
that's the way that I believeGod intended it.
But I know that people have towork and we have to meet a
certain financial obligation tobe able to survive in today's
world.
To be able to survive intoday's world.
And all that to say this, thatyou set the tone of the house.

Speaker 2 (07:04):
Unfortunately, yes, I carry that I can't have a bad
day, because if I have a bad day, everybody's having a bad day.

Speaker 1 (07:10):
And I think part of it goes into the word homemaker.
That's what you do.
You make the home.
But and it's not just you, Ibelieve moms set the tone of the
house.
Yeah, is the house going to berelaxing, a calm, nice

(07:31):
environment, or is it going tobe chaotic and unruly?
Yeah, and I think it all beginswith the mom and how she
carries herself and how she doesthat around the house.
And the woman is the moodsetter of the house.

(07:51):
The other people in the familythey feed of mom, they look to
mom to see how mom is feeling.
And if mom is feeling good, ifmom is feeling relaxed, then
we're going to be relaxed andwe're going to be chill.
If mom's, you know, having arough day and kind of edgy, then
we're going to tend to be alittle bit more edgy that day as

(08:16):
well.

Speaker 2 (08:17):
And that's why it's so important for self-care.
And when I say self-care, I'mnot talking about the salon, or
nails or, you know, a massage.

Speaker 1 (08:24):
But you enjoy that too right.

Speaker 2 (08:26):
I do, but I'm talking about your soul self-care.
How are you pouring intoyourself with the word and
prayer and all of that?
You pouring into yourself withthe word and prayer and all of
that, because if that's not inthe right place, then there's
going to be problems foreverybody, and I've learned that
from my own experience.
I mean, you can testify to that.

Speaker 1 (08:49):
It's so much better to hear you testify about it,
though.

Speaker 2 (08:50):
Well, I mean you.
Obviously you know and you cantell me.
And you ask me are you readingthe Bible like you're supposed
to?
When was the last time you wentinto deep prayer and all that I
?
When we talk about me being astay at home mom, that was not
something I wanted to do.
I fought against you on thatbecause, to be completely honest

(09:11):
, I never wanted to be a mom ora wife, and that came from a
place of fear, from coming froma broken home.
And when I met you and we foundout we were having Hayden, I was
happy about it.
I was scared, but now I am justso thankful.

(09:32):
God gave me what I needed whenI needed it, and I just rely on
that.
And I used to be mad at you.
I thought you were controllingme.
I thought you were keeping mydreams from happening.
I felt like I was nothing butjust a support for Frank's
dreams and goals, and I don'tfeel that way anymore.
I am so thankful for thiscalling this position, this

(09:55):
place that I'm at.
I'm so thankful for Hayden.
Well, and we're thankful for you, you talk about the position
that you're in the I look at itas a calling now, before I
looked at it as a prism.

Speaker 1 (10:10):
And if you look at it as a calling, I mean in Titus,
in Titus 2, beginning in verse 3, and this is the amplified
version it says older women,similarly, are to be reverent in
their behavior, not maliciousgossips, nor addicted to much
wine, teaching what is right andgood so that they may encourage

(10:34):
the young.
Yeah, where God is honored,good natured, being subject to
their own husbands so that theword of God will not be
dishonored.
That sounds like a pretty highcalling, yeah, and you brought

(10:57):
it up earlier that you know.
Today we celebrate all moms,not just moms who have given
birth or even moms that haveadopted.

Speaker 2 (11:09):
Right.

Speaker 1 (11:11):
There are some ladies out there that have been unable
to have children by adoption ornaturally, and yet they still
have that motherly spirit aboutthem, because that's the way God
designed and created women.
And so they seek out youngerwomen to mentor and to teach and

(11:33):
to help raise them up, just asthe scripture says that they
help those younger women.
Maybe it's learning how to cook, maybe it's learning how to,
you know, manage a familycalendar.
Maybe it's learning thoselittle things that not every
young woman knows coming into amarriage, right coming into a

(11:53):
marriage Right.
And then, likewise, I mean, wecan turn to you know, proverbs
31, and probably the mostfamiliar chapter in the Bible to
most women, and just read upand down that chapter of what a

(12:14):
godly woman is.
And that's the way that Goddesigned you.
And that's the way that goddesigned you, that's the way
that god made you women act.
Like that's hard to attain,right, but really it's not,
because that's the way goddesigned women right.
But then it is not hardsometimes if you've got stuff

(12:34):
that you haven't healed, stuffyou haven't given to god, and
that will trip you up every timethat and if you're not
submitting to god's will in yourlife, if you're not, if you, if
you're just out livingwilly-nilly, doing whatever,
then yeah, you're not going toshow those traits of a proverbs

(12:55):
31 woman, just as you're notgoing to be showing any fruit,
you know.

Speaker 2 (13:01):
Right and there was a time that I tried to hide those
traits Like I intentionally setout, to not show the love, to
not show the you know sensitiveside to anybody, to not show the
sensitive side to anybody.
And God worked with me on thatno-transcript For y'all.

(13:25):
And you remember, because youcalled me out on it.
You know you used to get upsetwith me because I would try to
look like a harsh person or comeacross as you know, not caring,
you know.

Speaker 1 (13:43):
And that came from a place of hurt, of you trying to
defend yourself and have thatrough, tough exterior, even
though God created you a kind,loving, caring, nurturing woman.
And but getting back toeverything I mean when I look at

(14:09):
the godly mothers in my life.
The first one is my mom.
First of all, she chose toadopt me.
We've discussed this before,but she had five full-grown

(14:35):
children of her own beforeadopting me and my younger
sister, and she had alreadyadopted my older biological
brother as well, making a grandtotal of eight children.
But she chose me and the womanloved everybody and everybody

(14:56):
and everything she was the mostloving and forgiving person.

Speaker 2 (15:03):
She could love the unlovable and forgive the.
And I watched her, I listenedto her.

Speaker 1 (15:14):
So there's that love and Pastor talked about that
this morning in his sermon aboutthat unending love, that
selfless love.
And you know, I look at my momand I see that.
I look at you and I see thatwhenever you're not trying to be

(15:35):
tough and put on that, put onthat tough exterior, I've gotten
better.
But along with, along with thatlove that the women possess,
that God created women possess,that God created placed inside
of them, there's also, when Ithink of godly women, that

(16:00):
prayer relationship and youtalked about it earlier, about
the self-care you know, andthat's part of prayer, and you
said that your prayer life andand not just you know, regular
communication with God.
But a godly mother, she iscovering her children, she is

(16:21):
covering her husband, she iscovering her house in prayer and
oil, literal oil.

Speaker 2 (16:30):
Right.

Speaker 1 (16:32):
And I know my mom called out every member of the
family Right and by the time shepassed away, eight children,
every child but one married withchildren of their own Right.

(16:54):
Those children had children.
Some of those children hadchildren.
Yeah, and a couple of thosechildren had children.

Speaker 2 (17:02):
That was a long list.

Speaker 1 (17:05):
And I mean without fail.
She called their names outevery day.
And those are the two mainqualities that I really see
universally across whenever Ithink of a good godly mother.

(17:31):
Those two main things you canbe nurturing, but not a godly
mother.

Speaker 2 (17:38):
Right.

Speaker 1 (17:43):
Going from being a mom who God created you to be
that way, going from that tobeing a godly mom.
I think those two things arekey that prayer relationship and

(18:05):
that ability to love and loveno matter what you hurt me.

Speaker 2 (18:14):
I'm going to pray for you.

Speaker 1 (18:15):
But I love you.

Speaker 2 (18:16):
Right.

Speaker 1 (18:17):
And I'm going to pray for you because I love you,
Right?
So one last time I just wantedto say happy Mother's Day.
Thank you time.
I just wanted to say happyMother's Day and for a little
housekeeping before we close up.
It's been a little bit since weposted an episode and I

(18:39):
apologize for that.
I've allowed other things totake priority and not allow this
to be a priority in my life.
Some of it's legitimate,between work and Hayden stuff
going on and all of that.
But from today moving forward,we are going to record every

(19:05):
Sunday.

Speaker 2 (19:06):
Y'all hear him and hold him to it every Sunday.

Speaker 1 (19:09):
Y'all hear him and hold him to it and every episode
will be uploaded every Monday.
So every Monday this one willbe published on Mother's Day
tonight.
As soon as we finish recording,I'll go ahead and post it and
we'll have that live.

(19:30):
But moving forward, we will beweekly.
We'll record on Sundays andpost them and upload them on
Mondays.
We are going to switch up whatwe're doing on the podcast a
little bit.
We're going to dive more intothe Bible and do more of a Bible
study.
After a little bit of prayerand really a lot of discussion

(19:52):
back and forth, we've decidedthat we feel that's where this
is supposed to be more of aBible study.
We'll still talk about thingsgoing on in our life and you
know what God is showing usthrough that and how he's
directing us and what we'relearning, and we'll have guests
on as well.

(20:12):
This is the restored podcastand we want to celebrate when
God has restored somebody.
So we'll still do that and welook forward to it, as always.
If you have any praise reportsor prayer requests, you can
submit those to us on Facebook.
Find us at the Restored Podcaston Facebook and we also have an

(20:39):
email that is therestoredcastat gmailcom and I guarantee you
if you have a prayer request itwill be taken to the Lord.
Darcy is up every morning andshe will take that request to

(20:59):
the Lord and she will stay on ituntil the Lord answers.
So we love you, we thank you.
Happy Mother's Day to all thewomen and until next week.
I am Frank.

Speaker 2 (21:15):
I am Darcy.

Speaker 1 (21:16):
And you have been listening to the Restored
Podcast.
Thank you.
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