August 21, 2025 • 36 mins
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Join Alain Dumonceaux on the Revolutionary Man podcast as he dives deep into the inspiring journey of Wayne Forrest, who turned a life-altering injury into a powerful mission to help others. Discover the transformative power of vulnerability, resilience, and the inner warrior within. Key points include Wayne's background and accident, the concept of the inner warrior, the importance of staying curious, and how service to others aids personal healing. This episode is a must-watch for anyone seeking to overcome adversity and redefine their own strength and masculinity.
Key moments in this episode:
00:00 Introduction: Imagining a Life of Strength and Resilience
01:42 The Revolutionary Man Podcast Begins
02:19 Introducing Wayne Forest: A Story of Transformation
03:52 Wayne's Life Before the Accident
04:54 The Life-Changing Accident
07:20 The Journey of Recovery and Reinvention
11:17 Discovering the Inner Warrior
18:33 The Process of Embracing Change
23:04 Facing Adversity and Isolation
26:16 The Importance of Being a Conscious Father
31:53 Final Thoughts and Advice
32:47 Conclusion and Call to Action
How to reach Wayne:
Website: https://www.wayneforrest.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WayneForrestLifeCoach
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wayneforrestnz/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wayne-forrest-b42889299/
YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@CoachWayneForrest?sub_confirmation=1
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
I just want you to take a moment here and imagine
building your life aroundstrength, power and control,
only to have everything changein an instant.
One moment you're at the top ofyour game and the next you're
faced with a reality that youcould never have been prepared
for.
How do you rebuild wheneverything you thought that
defined you is suddenly gone?
(00:26):
How do you find purpose whenlife forces you to start over?
See, the true test of a manisn't how he avoids adversity,
but it's how he rises from it.
And today we're diving into thejourney of a man who turned his
greatest challenge to hisgreatest strength and unlocking
a new definition of masculinity,resilience and personal
transformation.
So if you've ever felt or facedthe obstacles that made you
(00:50):
question your strength, purposeor identity, then this episode,
I think, is going to be for you.
So take a moment to hit like,subscribe and share this episode
with someone who needs to hearit.
It's your support that helps uscontinue to bring conversations
and empower men to live withclarity, courage and confidence.
And with that, let's get onwith today's episode.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
The average man today is sleepwalking through life,
many never reaching their truepotential, let alone ever
crossing the finish line toliving a purposeful life.
Crossing the finish line toliving a purposeful life?
Yet the hunger still exists,albeit buried amidst his
cluttered mind, misguidedbeliefs and values that no
longer serve him.
It's time to align yourself forgreatness.
(01:34):
It's time to become arevolutionary man.
Stay strong, my brother.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
Welcome everyone to the Revolutionary man podcast.
I'm the founder of the Awakenedman Movement and your host,
alan DeMonso.
Before we get started, allow meto ask you a couple of
questions.
How do you define masculinitywhen life strips away everything
you thought made you a man?
And what if the challengesyou're facing with right now
(02:03):
aren't breaking you, but instead, what if the challenges you're
facing with right now aren'tbreaking you but instead are
shaping you into the strongestversion that you could ever be?
No, strength isn't aboutavoiding struggle.
It's about how you show up whenthe storm hits.
And today we're going toexplore the mindset of
resilience, transformation,stepping into your inner warrior
.
And with that, I want tointroduce my guest today and his
profound story.
(02:25):
And so my guest today is WayneForrest, and he comes to us here
after leaving playing rugby asa young man, and he became
paralyzed at the young, ripe ageof 25 years old, and this
really transformed his life,becoming a certified master
consultant, a motivationalspeaker and award-winning
transformational coach.
He's also a TEDx speaker andthe best-selling author of his
(02:49):
new book.
It's called the Inner Warriorthe Power Within, and it was
named in 2023 theTransformational Coach of the
Year by the Brave ThinkingInstitute.
And so Wayne helps men unlockand people their inner warrior,
overcome obstacles and achievetheir biggest goals, all while
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we're living with purpose andwith joy, and I can't think of a
better way to live life.
Welcome to the show, wayne.
How are things, my friend?
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Thank you, alan, it's a pleasure to be here and, mate
, that's the best intro I'veever been or heard on a podcast.
Thank you very much.
It was very well said.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Well, thank you very much for providing such an
inspiring background and, as youknow, here on the Revolution
Rand podcast, we always talkabout everybody being on a
hero's journey, and so I'd liketo explore a little bit about
your journey and tell us aboutthat life, or that death, I
should say, and rebirth moment.
And that life, and or thatdeath, I should say, and rebirth
moment, and that experience ofhow it shaped you into the man
(03:48):
you are today and this work thatyou're doing yeah, I'll just
give a quick background.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
I grew up in a farming lifestyle with farming
parents, immersed myself infarming from a real early age.
So at my age we were allowed tobe on the farm and I was
definitely on the front of mygrandfather's horse and
immersing myself as much as Icould until I had to go to
school.
And school wasn't a place thatI really wanted to be at.
(04:17):
I didn't enjoy it and you knowwhat I knew, what I wanted to do
, and that was farming.
So sport had sport sorry,school we had sport, and that
was my second love.
So farming and sport was myloves and life growing up.
And I came home after schooland worked on the farm and then
(04:42):
found my own independence andstarted a couple of businesses
up.
I'd married a girl that I metoverseas and we had two
beautiful little twin daughtersof 16 months old.
And I was playing for my localclub and was honoured with being
the captain on the day in thisparticular rugby match, and just
(05:04):
in the last moments of the gameI took the ball up into contact
and just in that split secondof contact I made a terrible
mistake and put myself in danger, which ended up with my head
under my shoulder, dislocatingmy neck, and I can remember the
(05:26):
pain was incredible.
I don't know if anyonelistening has ever dislocated
something.
It can be quite nerve pain andall that can be quite horrible.
I spent about an hour and ahalf on that field and waiting
for an ambulance helicopterambulance, because we were quite
rural.
Waiting for an ambulancehelicopter ambulance because we
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were quite rural and the doctorthat came with it gave me some
medicine which took away thepain.
And also I was in and out ofconsciousness from that moment
for about five days and I wokeup looking at a ceiling which I
soon realized was a hospital,looking at a ceiling which I
(06:09):
soon realized was a hospital.
And I don't know if thelisteners have ever woken up
after a horrible experience andjust gone.
Ah god, I hope it's such a baddream.
I woke up like that for probablya couple weeks just wishing,
hoping that it was a bad dreamand it wasn't.
And in that time a doctor camein and said look, pretty pitch
in English, you're not going towalk again.
(06:30):
And I can remember my heartbeing ripped out of my chest and
just hit me right in the pit ofthe stomach and I took on that
belief and I went from this guythat was physical, loved running
, loved being physical.
I used to share sheep as asideline I don't know if you
(06:53):
know what that is, but it'scutting the wool off sheep.
It's like a dance.
A day of that is like runningthree marathons.
I loved it.
I absolutely loved hard workand I loved being physical and
grew up in a very physical sortof ego background and all of a
sudden that was stripped awayand I can remember thinking how
(07:17):
am I going to survive this?
And I in that moment heard avoice inside me.
And I in that moment heard avoice inside me.
It was really calm and peaceful, but didn't argue or answer
back.
It just said you're going to dowhat you love and that kind of
(07:38):
set me on this journey ofreinventing myself.
And there's a lot no, no doubtthat we'll talk about that.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
I've come to light to understand how transformation
and success works and all thosesort of things your story is so
incredible and I just thinkabout how innocent life can seem
for us at any given moment.
And participating in a sportand doing something that you
love and, like you made thecomment that you made a mistake
(08:10):
in that single moment.
And how often in life are wemaking mistakes and we get away
lucky, lucky that not reallyrecognize it.
And then, when we're faced andconfronted with everything that
you've had been confronted with,there must have been moments
when you just felt like it'sthat you just wanted to give up.
Talk a little through, a littlebit about what that's like,
(08:33):
because I'm sure there's peoplelistening to this episode right
now that are at that place ofwhere it's no return and they
want to give up.
Talk a little bit about that.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
There's a whole lot of emotions that you go through.
It's losing your best friendbecause it's part of you.
It's the physical.
For me it was the physical sideof my personality and I thought
that defined me.
So there was a lot of momentsof ups and downs.
(09:05):
My marriage didn't survive it.
There was moments of self-doubtand self-worth Big one, even
shame.
There was moments.
You know what kind of man I'mmeant to be, this big, physical
farmer boy who's tough.
And here I am, I can't evenfeed myself, or in the early
(09:30):
days that is, and I couldn'teven go to the toilet by myself.
And the shame of that, evenbeing a country boy who was
reasonably shy and bodyconscious, and things like that.
There was all those feelingsgoing in and out.
But there was also this part ofme that wanted to survive.
(09:51):
There was a part of me that Ihad twin daughters 16 months.
Life seemed to want to pull mestill as well and I suppose in
the end that's what I listenedto.
I listened to the life in usthat pulled me to want to create
, and that's no doubt we'll talkabout that process.
(10:13):
But there's a process tocreating in life and I think
that's what will pull any of usinto living a life that we can
love, doesn't even matter whatcircumstances where we find
ourselves in, if that makessense.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
Yeah, that makes complete sense.
I just was.
I'll take lots of notes in ourinterviews I just wrote down you
talked about right out of thegate there.
About it, it was like losingyour best friend, and I think
about you know, those momentswhen we have lost somebody close
to us.
And so maybe you're not in asomebody's listening to this
today, maybe you're not in aposition where it's
life-threatening or debilitating.
(10:55):
However, the debilitation canshow up in so many different
ways and can truly paralyze ourlives in many different aspects.
And so when you talk aboutlosing a best friend, I just had
this weight that was sitting onmy shoulders and the idea of
losing a part of me and thenhaving this void and having to
now fill that and change it.
(11:17):
And this is where I think youstarted doing your work and
looking at this concept that youcall an inner warrior, and so I
wonder if we can start talkinga little bit about that.
That probably is going to leadus into this, the creation
process, as well.
But let's talk a little bitabout how you discovered the
inner warrior.
Was that a revelation, or isthat something that slowly grew
(11:38):
to come to what it is today?
Speaker 3 (11:40):
it's beautiful.
It was the latter for me, Ithink.
I think it can come in its aswell.
It's understanding that we'vegot two sides.
This is how I explain it tomost people.
We've got two sides of ourpersonality, or this experience
I should say side which is fromour born birthday right to the
(12:09):
day we die, and a lot of that'sbeen programmed through the
experience itself.
So you know, we came into thislife, we tried to fit into our
group whatever family group thatis, or group we find ourselves
in, and we learn to survive inthat group and we take on
beliefs and we take onsituations that sometimes aren't
(12:30):
great and sometimes they'regreat and we make them mean
something right.
So we, we have this experiencethat most of us take as belief
yeah but then we've got thisother side to our nature, and
that's what I call the warriorside, or you can call it spirit,
(12:52):
you can call it your instincts,higher self, or even god.
I just like in a warrior,because for me it's where the
power is right for me.
And that side is whole, you arewhole.
Right, that side is also ourtrue nature.
(13:14):
It's way more than theexperience that we've had in
this life experience.
Right, there's something moreto it.
It's connected to this universethat we live in.
It's also abundant because,just like nature we have, it's
the same essence as nature in us, because it's connected to
(13:38):
nature, right, so it's got somesort of intelligence with it, so
it's genius.
And if you watch a little baby,this is God.
Aren't they gorgeous.
They just soak everything up,right From zero to six.
We know that a kid is in.
(13:59):
I think it's beta or alphavibration, brain vibration
Please correct me, I don't knowwhich one it is, but I know it's
one of those higher vibrationsand it soaks up knowledge and is
curious and isn't afraid to trythings.
And we've still got that in ournature, even when we're growing
(14:23):
up, right, it's just beenconditioned out of us.
So this side of the nature hasgot four parts to it it's genius
, it's whole, it's abundant.
And the fourth one is it'sunconditional love.
There's a difference betweenconditioned love, which is quite
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often the human experience, andas a parent I've used
conditioned love to get my kidsto do what I want them to do.
If you do this, you can havethat.
That's conditioned love.
But unconditional love is justgiving.
It's a sense of love that'sjust overwhelming, that you just
(15:08):
want to give everybody love,right?
So that's our other side of ournature and it's our instincts.
It's our tingling, spidertingles.
It's your intuition.
It's the part of you that saysget, if you're a woman, don't go
(15:30):
near that guy.
He's giving me the creeps.
It's the part of you that goesmate, take an umbrella at lunch,
it's gonna rain at lunchtime,and you go oh man, I wish I
brought that umbrella.
It's pouring down.
It's the part of you that seemsto know stuff and it's trying
(15:50):
to tell you stuff.
We in this human experience havelearned to trust on our touch,
taste, feel of the humanexperience instead of these
modalities that we have deeperand we've disconnected often.
(16:12):
We haven't disconnected becauseit's there.
We haven't learned to create arelationship with that side of
us often, and so what I do isteach people to connect to that
side, because you've got all theanswers.
You've got all the solutions.
You just need to get the rightquestions.
(16:32):
You've got everything you needwithin you.
That's why I like to call itthe inner warrior.
It's powerful beyond your evenunderstanding, even beyond my
understanding.
So that's what I've found,especially in this journey is
(16:54):
through a whole lot ofexperiences.
Don't worry, I've definitely hadsome ups and downs and it's
been a journey to find my innerwarrior.
I've been in the chair 30 yearsnow we're coming up 30 years in
May.
So yeah, it's, and of courseI've got this knowledge.
I want to help other peoplefind that for themselves.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Yeah, I love that explanation.
I was writing down again abunch of stuff and you talked
about instincts and intuitionand really about learning to
trust and to listen and that.
And then it's really about yousaid it's really about learning
to trust and to listen and that.
And then it's really about yousaid it's really about getting
the right answers or get, orthey're getting, the right
questions to ask and I thatreally resonates with me,
(17:36):
because there is that aspect.
I completely agree with you anddeeply believe that there is a
part that resides in all of usthat is whole and complete, and
that we are all incomplete,regardless of what the exterior
version of us may appear to be.
And when we can trust enough inthat, then I think that's when
(17:57):
we start to move forward.
And so what I like about yourstory and the work that you're
doing is you're really askingmen to do something that's quite
uncomfortable for us.
Asking men to do somethingthat's quite uncomfortable for
us, and that is to be vulnerable, or I'll use a different word
in order to to surrender tosomething that we may not know
yet and maybe even not eventrust.
(18:18):
And so let's talk a little bitabout how you learned you, how
you learned to embrace thatchange in your life and how that
really has shaped yourperspective on masculinity and
strength.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
Yeah, mate, I love that.
I think the best way todescribe it is the process that
I found through this journey,and especially in
self-development, because Irealized that the process took
me to that inner warrior, thatthe process took me to that
inner warrior and I said itmight be different for others
(18:52):
but for me it was understanding,that voice of knowing.
When I had my accent do whatyou love was my inner warrior
right, and so that was that Icreated a vision of going back
to the farm and running the farm.
Wow, I didn't know how, fromthe level of fact, I wasn't even
meant to push out of thehospital, let alone push my own
(19:14):
wheelchair right.
I was meant to go in anelectric wheelchair.
So how was I going to run an1,100-acre farm Sheep and beef
right, our 1100 acre farm sheepand beef right, and so on the
level of fact that it was.
(19:35):
I didn't know how I was goingto do it, but I just knew I had
to try, because it was my firstlove and I think that's where
you start.
You find something that youwould love from your heart and
hopefully it's not something youcan see how to do.
It has to be something biggerthan you.
Yeah, and because that helps usgrow in to the next version of
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us, right, so far it took me acouple of years.
It helped me pull me to the gym, do my exercises, do my weights
, get out on those frostymornings and get out of my
garage and do my weights andlearn to get strong enough to
(20:20):
transfer so I could transferfrom my wheelchair.
I haven't got full limbs forthe listeners, so I haven't even
got finger movements in myhands.
All I've got is a few musclesin my arms.
So this was a process, yeah,and by doing that.
(20:41):
And then all of a sudden Istarted to be able to drive and
there came some fears with that.
Right, I started to haveterrible anxiety, but we won't
talk about that.
But I had to push through thatand I became a better version of
me and a stronger version of me.
And next minute I had somethingadapted for the farm and I had
(21:03):
a six-wheeler actuallyCanadian-made Argo with a car
seat and I could open gates andget in the yards and do stock
work and have my dogs.
And all of a sudden it dawnedon me wow, I've achieved this
dream and I didn't know how thehell I was going to do it at the
(21:27):
beginning.
Oh yeah, that's it.
I want that feeling again.
And then I started to create anew dream and that.
So the process then was okay,create that vision, step into
the vision, do what you can fromwhere you are, decide for the
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thing that you want to create,deciding so powerful, and then
that takes you on a road towherever you're going to go yeah
, absolutely.
Speaker 1 (22:00):
I.
What a, what an appreciativeroadmap that you just shared
with us, and I think for many ofus we think that I'll speak for
myself here there was a pointin time in my life and then it
shows up once in a while stillwhere, if I don't, if I don't
feel I have the entire roadmapwritten out or thought out, then
I'm reluctant to take the firststep, and more often than not,
(22:21):
I find that if I just take astep, that more things reveal
themselves to me, and it's notnecessarily the road, the map
that I had thought it was goingto go on, but I've just trusted
enough.
And then, lo and behold, likeyou were describing, there
you're sitting on your Argo andyou're you're doing farm work,
and how often can we and we inour lives, experience that and
(22:41):
take a moment to recognize thatit's really about what's
happening in front of me today?
It's the only thing I cancontrol.
What can I do today to makethat move one step closer?
And so I think there's a big,there's a big piece there that
I'd like to try and unpack alittle bit more, and it's really
what you're talking about isfacing, really facing our
(23:01):
adversity every day as men.
And it doesn't sound like youisolated yourself too much, but
maybe you did, and I I know formy experience that when I went
through some of my hardship,that was something that I tend
to do is isolate.
What advice would you give forsomebody who's in that they're
at that crux in their life, thatfork in the road, and they're
(23:22):
trying to move themselvesthrough it and they're
considering and maybe theyalready started to isolate
themselves.
What would you talk about, whatwould you say to them and help
them get through that?
Speaker 3 (23:34):
It took me on a path right that process and the next
vision was extreme outdooractivities integrated with
people with disabilities andphysical people, so in other
words, people like myself andlike you, and we both went on
the same extreme outdoorfive-day course right.
This changed my life and thisis what the listeners.
(23:59):
If you're feeling isolated andfeeling down, depressed, anxious
, and it's very hard to get outof that mindset at that moment.
But one thing that I reallyfigured out for me was I
naturally help people overcomefears by just willing to look at
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my own fears and that could bean able person as well, like you
might have a fear of of wateror heights or whatever.
It is right and I, by justbeing encouraging, I was helping
people and that really made mefeel really good about myself,
and I've got a quote that Ioften tell people our own
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healing is in the service ofothers with the same pain.
And this is the problem when weget into those places of
darkness is we look in right, webecome inward.
We're looking poor me.
When I say that, no, I don'tmean spiritually looking in, I'm
(25:16):
looking at selfish, looktowards ourselves.
I'm feeling sad, I'm feelingdark, I'm feeling angry,
whatever that is, it's actuallylook out to help someone else,
even if it's just the old ladywalking across the car park with
the groceries, or if it'ssomeone who's struggling to do
something, or a neighbor who'strimming a tree, or just to help
(25:41):
someone because it'll take yourmind out of where you're at,
the circumstance or thesituation and put it on
something that makes you feelbetter and you have to just
trust me on that one.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
You have to try it.
Speaker 3 (26:01):
Okay, you have to just take my word for it and be
curious and try it, because Ithink you'll find that that it
does make you feel so muchbetter.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
Yeah, I completely agree with that sentiment,
wholeheartedly, and I wasthinking as you were telling
this part of the story and youmentioned earlier that you're a
father of twins, earlier thatyou're a father of twins and
when we're going through ourturbulence, our time, that's
(26:33):
this chapter in our lives we cantend to be less conscious or
less present as fathers.
So talk about let's talk alittle bit about the importance,
you know, of us remaining,finding our way back to that
consciousness and being powerfulrole models for our children.
I would venture to guess thatyou're an extremely powerful
role model for your children forwhat you've accomplished, but
for those of us that arelistening to this, the
importance of what it means tobe a conscious father.
Speaker 3 (26:56):
It's big.
I think consciousness actuallywas Bob Proctor I've heard say.
If you know who Bob Proctor is,he's another Canadian.
He said that it's never arelationship problem, it's never
a money problem, it's always alack of awareness problem.
And so it is becoming conscious.
(27:17):
And for a dad, right, I've gotfour kids now.
I've got two teenagers, one 18and one he's coming up 16, my
younger two plus the 31 year oldtwins who have got five
grandchildren and man.
Have I learnt through thatjourney of learning,
(27:38):
understanding what my innerwarrior stands for Unconditional
love.
And we have to stand as men.
I think the modern masculine isstanding for loving ourselves.
To do that, we have to look atour trauma.
(27:58):
We've all got some sort oftrauma that creates that human
pattern of anger, frustration,sadness, what else?
So any any lack vibration comesfrom some sort of trauma that
(28:18):
we've perceived as a littlechild, and sometimes it is a
horrible trauma that you'veperceived as a little child and
sometimes it is a horribletrauma that you've actually been
through.
Yeah, but it's understandingthat we have to.
As men, we've been taught tohold it down, push it down, like
you said earlier, like a bigbeach ball.
We're holding this beach ballunderwater until we can't hold
(28:40):
it anymore and we burst out inanger or we burst out in sadness
, or we burst out in sadness orwe go into depression or
whatever that is.
It's all different.
So it's understanding that,okay, we've got this trauma.
I have to heal that traumabecause I, we as parents, are a
(29:02):
reflection to our partners, area reflection to our kids and
they reflect us.
They're that.
Both are our best teachers,because every time you trigger
and you react to your kids in away that is in those vibrations
(29:23):
that I've just said, it meansthat's a part of you that you
want to get curious about andheal and love, because that
little boy or girl or whoever islistening to this that has got
that pain Didn't know any betterand neither did the people that
(29:46):
gave it to you.
Speaker 1 (29:48):
So heal that side of you and you will be a reflection
that is going to be magnificentfor your kids and for your
partner what I really appreciateabout what you just said there
is I love the definition yougave of modern the modern
masculine and that is standingfor loving ourselves.
(30:09):
And how many times do we battle, as men, shame and anger and
fear and self-worth and doubtand lots of the things that we
talked about today, but reallywhat it all comes down to is
being able to love and acceptourselves and to work and do
that deep shadow work, the workthat is parts of us that we're
(30:33):
just not happy about, and I lovehow you talked about the family
is a reflection of who we areand how we conduct ourselves.
It is a great training ground.
I like to say that if you reallywant to find out what you're
made of, get married, have kidsand start a business because
everything that's going to gowrong will go wrong- and you'll
have no choice but to face alldifferent aspects of your life
(30:57):
in those moments, and so I thinkit's those are all the things
that you've been doing, and Ithink it's really valid advice
you've been giving.
Speaker 3 (31:04):
Anyway, I was saying go ahead, Just to sew that back.
I understand now that sametrauma of not being enough as a
kid was the same trauma thatcreated the opportunity for me
to put myself in danger and justto create my neck.
All right, that took a processright there.
(31:27):
There's been a road here oflearning to understand that.
But I quite often say myaccident was no accident because
there was now I see the voicein my head at that time was I
have to prove myself because Idon't feel good enough?
Speaker 1 (31:49):
Very interesting, very interesting.
You know, I'm sure, on your waythrough this journey in life,
wayne, you've you've either reada book or you've had some
mentors.
You've come across somethingand I'll call that advice.
Maybe it wasn't advice, it wasa lesson learned or something.
I'll use the word advice forthis question.
What would you say has been thebest piece of advice or the
(32:12):
most profound piece of advicethat you've been given?
How is it still serving youtoday?
Speaker 3 (32:20):
Yeah, that's really good.
Stay curious and don't take onbelief.
Question everything.
Question everything I've saidhere today.
Do your own research and staycurious and find your own truth.
It's so powerful.
If we do that as human beings,we'll find.
We'll find that real truththere and a warrior inside
(32:44):
ourselves.
Speaker 1 (32:46):
Amen, brother, amen.
I love that, wayne, brother.
I just want to say thank you somuch for spending time with me
today and sharing your wisdom,really on resilience and purpose
and what it means to be amodern masculine man today,
because your journey, I trulybelieve, is so powerful and it's
a reminder that our greatestchallenges can become the
foundation of our greateststrengths, and so if men are
(33:07):
interested in getting a hold ofyou and participating in your
work, what's the best way forthem to do that?
Speaker 3 (33:13):
yeah, mate, I've got a couple of things.
If it's okay with you, I'd loveto give your listeners the
opportunity of a complimentarygift.
That complimentary gift is a45-minute to an hour call with
me one-on-one via Zoom, where wereally look at that struggle,
(33:35):
that challenge in their life andget clear on that so that we
understand that is often theblock for us creating what we
would truly love for our lives.
And then we'll get clear onwhat it is that you would really
love, right, dial that in, getreally clear on it.
(33:57):
And then the strategy part,which is looking at there's a
gap there, right?
So what is the step you cantake from where you are with
what you have, in the directionof that goal or dream, that
vision that you would love?
And so this is complimentaryfor 10 listeners.
(34:18):
I only got enough space for 10through my month listeners.
I only got enough space for 10through my month.
But the first 10 that jump onand register on on that link
that we've given you through mywebsite, you'll get a time that
might suit or that they can pick, and there's a value to that.
There's 250 us dollars.
It's very powerful, guys.
(34:39):
If it really resonates, if thisresonates with you.
Jump on there, there and let'shave a look at how we can get
you moving forward and steppinginto that inner warrior more and
more.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
Love that.
I'm going to make sure that isgoing to be in today's show's
notes as well as wherever elsethat you're on social media.
Again to get a hold of Wayneit's wayneforcecom this is his
website.
Again to get a hold of wayneit's wayneforcecom this is
website.
And as long as we close to thisepisode, I just want to
challenge you to with a thoughtthat are you facing struggles
and mindset of a warrior and areyou letting them or letting
(35:11):
your thoughts really trulydefine you?
Because strength isn't aboutavoiding hardship, as we said
all this whole episode, it'sabout how we rise from it.
So I want to also introduce youto a program that we're offering
here at the awakened man.
It's called living withintegrity and it's a program
designed to help men unlock theresilience, step into leadership
and create lives of purpose forthemselves and for their
(35:32):
families.
And so if you're ready to takestep into your full power, then
the first thing you need to dois go to our membership site
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It's an opportunity for you toreally understand where it is
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So be sure you live withintention.
(35:52):
I want you to lead with courageand let's get started now, and
thank you so much for being onthe show today, wayne.
Thank you, alan, it's been apleasure.
Speaker 2 (36:09):
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Speaker 2 (01:13):
The average man today is sleepwalking through life,
many never reaching their truepotential, let alone ever
crossing the finish line toliving a purposeful life.
Crossing the finish line toliving a purposeful life?
Yet the hunger still exists,albeit buried amidst his
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Speaker 1 (01:42):
Welcome everyone to the Revolutionary man podcast.
I'm the founder of the Awakenedman Movement and your host,
alan DeMonso.
Before we get started, allow meto ask you a couple of
questions.
How do you define masculinitywhen life strips away everything
you thought made you a man?
And what if the challengesyou're facing with right now
(02:03):
aren't breaking you, but instead, what if the challenges you're
facing with right now aren'tbreaking you but instead are
shaping you into the strongestversion that you could ever be?
No, strength isn't aboutavoiding struggle.
It's about how you show up whenthe storm hits.
And today we're going toexplore the mindset of
resilience, transformation,stepping into your inner warrior
.
And with that, I want tointroduce my guest today and his
profound story.
(02:25):
And so my guest today is WayneForrest, and he comes to us here
after leaving playing rugby asa young man, and he became
paralyzed at the young, ripe ageof 25 years old, and this
really transformed his life,becoming a certified master
consultant, a motivationalspeaker and award-winning
transformational coach.
He's also a TEDx speaker andthe best-selling author of his
(02:49):
new book.
It's called the Inner Warriorthe Power Within, and it was
named in 2023 theTransformational Coach of the
Year by the Brave ThinkingInstitute.
And so Wayne helps men unlockand people their inner warrior,
overcome obstacles and achievetheir biggest goals, all while
(03:10):
we're living with purpose andwith joy, and I can't think of a
better way to live life.
Welcome to the show, wayne.
How are things, my friend?
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Thank you, alan, it's a pleasure to be here and, mate
, that's the best intro I'veever been or heard on a podcast.
Thank you very much.
It was very well said.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Well, thank you very much for providing such an
inspiring background and, as youknow, here on the Revolution
Rand podcast, we always talkabout everybody being on a
hero's journey, and so I'd liketo explore a little bit about
your journey and tell us aboutthat life, or that death, I
should say, and rebirth moment.
And that life, and or thatdeath, I should say, and rebirth
moment, and that experience ofhow it shaped you into the man
(03:48):
you are today and this work thatyou're doing yeah, I'll just
give a quick background.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
I grew up in a farming lifestyle with farming
parents, immersed myself infarming from a real early age.
So at my age we were allowed tobe on the farm and I was
definitely on the front of mygrandfather's horse and
immersing myself as much as Icould until I had to go to
school.
And school wasn't a place thatI really wanted to be at.
(04:17):
I didn't enjoy it and you knowwhat I knew, what I wanted to do
, and that was farming.
So sport had sport sorry,school we had sport, and that
was my second love.
So farming and sport was myloves and life growing up.
And I came home after schooland worked on the farm and then
(04:42):
found my own independence andstarted a couple of businesses
up.
I'd married a girl that I metoverseas and we had two
beautiful little twin daughtersof 16 months old.
And I was playing for my localclub and was honoured with being
the captain on the day in thisparticular rugby match, and just
(05:04):
in the last moments of the gameI took the ball up into contact
and just in that split secondof contact I made a terrible
mistake and put myself in danger, which ended up with my head
under my shoulder, dislocatingmy neck, and I can remember the
(05:26):
pain was incredible.
I don't know if anyonelistening has ever dislocated
something.
It can be quite nerve pain andall that can be quite horrible.
I spent about an hour and ahalf on that field and waiting
for an ambulance helicopterambulance, because we were quite
rural.
Waiting for an ambulancehelicopter ambulance because we
(05:47):
were quite rural and the doctorthat came with it gave me some
medicine which took away thepain.
And also I was in and out ofconsciousness from that moment
for about five days and I wokeup looking at a ceiling which I
soon realized was a hospital,looking at a ceiling which I
(06:09):
soon realized was a hospital.
And I don't know if thelisteners have ever woken up
after a horrible experience andjust gone.
Ah god, I hope it's such a baddream.
I woke up like that for probablya couple weeks just wishing,
hoping that it was a bad dreamand it wasn't.
And in that time a doctor camein and said look, pretty pitch
in English, you're not going towalk again.
(06:30):
And I can remember my heartbeing ripped out of my chest and
just hit me right in the pit ofthe stomach and I took on that
belief and I went from this guythat was physical, loved running
, loved being physical.
I used to share sheep as asideline I don't know if you
(06:53):
know what that is, but it'scutting the wool off sheep.
It's like a dance.
A day of that is like runningthree marathons.
I loved it.
I absolutely loved hard workand I loved being physical and
grew up in a very physical sortof ego background and all of a
sudden that was stripped awayand I can remember thinking how
(07:17):
am I going to survive this?
And I in that moment heard avoice inside me.
And I in that moment heard avoice inside me.
It was really calm and peaceful, but didn't argue or answer
back.
It just said you're going to dowhat you love and that kind of
(07:38):
set me on this journey ofreinventing myself.
And there's a lot no, no doubtthat we'll talk about that.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
I've come to light to understand how transformation
and success works and all thosesort of things your story is so
incredible and I just thinkabout how innocent life can seem
for us at any given moment.
And participating in a sportand doing something that you
love and, like you made thecomment that you made a mistake
(08:10):
in that single moment.
And how often in life are wemaking mistakes and we get away
lucky, lucky that not reallyrecognize it.
And then, when we're faced andconfronted with everything that
you've had been confronted with,there must have been moments
when you just felt like it'sthat you just wanted to give up.
Talk a little through, a littlebit about what that's like,
(08:33):
because I'm sure there's peoplelistening to this episode right
now that are at that place ofwhere it's no return and they
want to give up.
Talk a little bit about that.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
There's a whole lot of emotions that you go through.
It's losing your best friendbecause it's part of you.
It's the physical.
For me it was the physical sideof my personality and I thought
that defined me.
So there was a lot of momentsof ups and downs.
(09:05):
My marriage didn't survive it.
There was moments of self-doubtand self-worth Big one, even
shame.
There was moments.
You know what kind of man I'mmeant to be, this big, physical
farmer boy who's tough.
And here I am, I can't evenfeed myself, or in the early
(09:30):
days that is, and I couldn'teven go to the toilet by myself.
And the shame of that, evenbeing a country boy who was
reasonably shy and bodyconscious, and things like that.
There was all those feelingsgoing in and out.
But there was also this part ofme that wanted to survive.
(09:51):
There was a part of me that Ihad twin daughters 16 months.
Life seemed to want to pull mestill as well and I suppose in
the end that's what I listenedto.
I listened to the life in usthat pulled me to want to create
, and that's no doubt we'll talkabout that process.
(10:13):
But there's a process tocreating in life and I think
that's what will pull any of usinto living a life that we can
love, doesn't even matter whatcircumstances where we find
ourselves in, if that makessense.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
Yeah, that makes complete sense.
I just was.
I'll take lots of notes in ourinterviews I just wrote down you
talked about right out of thegate there.
About it, it was like losingyour best friend, and I think
about you know, those momentswhen we have lost somebody close
to us.
And so maybe you're not in asomebody's listening to this
today, maybe you're not in aposition where it's
life-threatening or debilitating.
(10:55):
However, the debilitation canshow up in so many different
ways and can truly paralyze ourlives in many different aspects.
And so when you talk aboutlosing a best friend, I just had
this weight that was sitting onmy shoulders and the idea of
losing a part of me and thenhaving this void and having to
now fill that and change it.
(11:17):
And this is where I think youstarted doing your work and
looking at this concept that youcall an inner warrior, and so I
wonder if we can start talkinga little bit about that.
That probably is going to leadus into this, the creation
process, as well.
But let's talk a little bitabout how you discovered the
inner warrior.
Was that a revelation, or isthat something that slowly grew
(11:38):
to come to what it is today?
Speaker 3 (11:40):
it's beautiful.
It was the latter for me, Ithink.
I think it can come in its aswell.
It's understanding that we'vegot two sides.
This is how I explain it tomost people.
We've got two sides of ourpersonality, or this experience
I should say side which is fromour born birthday right to the
(12:09):
day we die, and a lot of that'sbeen programmed through the
experience itself.
So you know, we came into thislife, we tried to fit into our
group whatever family group thatis, or group we find ourselves
in, and we learn to survive inthat group and we take on
beliefs and we take onsituations that sometimes aren't
(12:30):
great and sometimes they'regreat and we make them mean
something right.
So we, we have this experiencethat most of us take as belief
yeah but then we've got thisother side to our nature, and
that's what I call the warriorside, or you can call it spirit,
(12:52):
you can call it your instincts,higher self, or even god.
I just like in a warrior,because for me it's where the
power is right for me.
And that side is whole, you arewhole.
Right, that side is also ourtrue nature.
(13:14):
It's way more than theexperience that we've had in
this life experience.
Right, there's something moreto it.
It's connected to this universethat we live in.
It's also abundant because,just like nature we have, it's
the same essence as nature in us, because it's connected to
(13:38):
nature, right, so it's got somesort of intelligence with it, so
it's genius.
And if you watch a little baby,this is God.
Aren't they gorgeous.
They just soak everything up,right From zero to six.
We know that a kid is in.
(13:59):
I think it's beta or alphavibration, brain vibration
Please correct me, I don't knowwhich one it is, but I know it's
one of those higher vibrationsand it soaks up knowledge and is
curious and isn't afraid to trythings.
And we've still got that in ournature, even when we're growing
(14:23):
up, right, it's just beenconditioned out of us.
So this side of the nature hasgot four parts to it it's genius
, it's whole, it's abundant.
And the fourth one is it'sunconditional love.
There's a difference betweenconditioned love, which is quite
(14:45):
often the human experience, andas a parent I've used
conditioned love to get my kidsto do what I want them to do.
If you do this, you can havethat.
That's conditioned love.
But unconditional love is justgiving.
It's a sense of love that'sjust overwhelming, that you just
(15:08):
want to give everybody love,right?
So that's our other side of ournature and it's our instincts.
It's our tingling, spidertingles.
It's your intuition.
It's the part of you that saysget, if you're a woman, don't go
(15:30):
near that guy.
He's giving me the creeps.
It's the part of you that goesmate, take an umbrella at lunch,
it's gonna rain at lunchtime,and you go oh man, I wish I
brought that umbrella.
It's pouring down.
It's the part of you that seemsto know stuff and it's trying
(15:50):
to tell you stuff.
We in this human experience havelearned to trust on our touch,
taste, feel of the humanexperience instead of these
modalities that we have deeperand we've disconnected often.
(16:12):
We haven't disconnected becauseit's there.
We haven't learned to create arelationship with that side of
us often, and so what I do isteach people to connect to that
side, because you've got all theanswers.
You've got all the solutions.
You just need to get the rightquestions.
(16:32):
You've got everything you needwithin you.
That's why I like to call itthe inner warrior.
It's powerful beyond your evenunderstanding, even beyond my
understanding.
So that's what I've found,especially in this journey is
(16:54):
through a whole lot ofexperiences.
Don't worry, I've definitely hadsome ups and downs and it's
been a journey to find my innerwarrior.
I've been in the chair 30 yearsnow we're coming up 30 years in
May.
So yeah, it's, and of courseI've got this knowledge.
I want to help other peoplefind that for themselves.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Yeah, I love that explanation.
I was writing down again abunch of stuff and you talked
about instincts and intuitionand really about learning to
trust and to listen and that.
And then it's really about yousaid it's really about learning
to trust and to listen and that.
And then it's really about yousaid it's really about getting
the right answers or get, orthey're getting, the right
questions to ask and I thatreally resonates with me,
(17:36):
because there is that aspect.
I completely agree with you anddeeply believe that there is a
part that resides in all of usthat is whole and complete, and
that we are all incomplete,regardless of what the exterior
version of us may appear to be.
And when we can trust enough inthat, then I think that's when
(17:57):
we start to move forward.
And so what I like about yourstory and the work that you're
doing is you're really askingmen to do something that's quite
uncomfortable for us.
Asking men to do somethingthat's quite uncomfortable for
us, and that is to be vulnerable, or I'll use a different word
in order to to surrender tosomething that we may not know
yet and maybe even not eventrust.
(18:18):
And so let's talk a little bitabout how you learned you, how
you learned to embrace thatchange in your life and how that
really has shaped yourperspective on masculinity and
strength.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
Yeah, mate, I love that.
I think the best way todescribe it is the process that
I found through this journey,and especially in
self-development, because Irealized that the process took
me to that inner warrior, thatthe process took me to that
inner warrior and I said itmight be different for others
(18:52):
but for me it was understanding,that voice of knowing.
When I had my accent do whatyou love was my inner warrior
right, and so that was that Icreated a vision of going back
to the farm and running the farm.
Wow, I didn't know how, fromthe level of fact, I wasn't even
meant to push out of thehospital, let alone push my own
(19:14):
wheelchair right.
I was meant to go in anelectric wheelchair.
So how was I going to run an1,100-acre farm Sheep and beef
right, our 1100 acre farm sheepand beef right, and so on the
level of fact that it was.
(19:35):
I didn't know how I was goingto do it, but I just knew I had
to try, because it was my firstlove and I think that's where
you start.
You find something that youwould love from your heart and
hopefully it's not something youcan see how to do.
It has to be something biggerthan you.
Yeah, and because that helps usgrow in to the next version of
(19:59):
us, right, so far it took me acouple of years.
It helped me pull me to the gym, do my exercises, do my weights
, get out on those frostymornings and get out of my
garage and do my weights andlearn to get strong enough to
(20:20):
transfer so I could transferfrom my wheelchair.
I haven't got full limbs forthe listeners, so I haven't even
got finger movements in myhands.
All I've got is a few musclesin my arms.
So this was a process, yeah,and by doing that.
(20:41):
And then all of a sudden Istarted to be able to drive and
there came some fears with that.
Right, I started to haveterrible anxiety, but we won't
talk about that.
But I had to push through thatand I became a better version of
me and a stronger version of me.
And next minute I had somethingadapted for the farm and I had
(21:03):
a six-wheeler actuallyCanadian-made Argo with a car
seat and I could open gates andget in the yards and do stock
work and have my dogs.
And all of a sudden it dawnedon me wow, I've achieved this
dream and I didn't know how thehell I was going to do it at the
(21:27):
beginning.
Oh yeah, that's it.
I want that feeling again.
And then I started to create anew dream and that.
So the process then was okay,create that vision, step into
the vision, do what you can fromwhere you are, decide for the
(21:48):
thing that you want to create,deciding so powerful, and then
that takes you on a road towherever you're going to go yeah
, absolutely.
Speaker 1 (22:00):
I.
What a, what an appreciativeroadmap that you just shared
with us, and I think for many ofus we think that I'll speak for
myself here there was a pointin time in my life and then it
shows up once in a while stillwhere, if I don't, if I don't
feel I have the entire roadmapwritten out or thought out, then
I'm reluctant to take the firststep, and more often than not,
(22:21):
I find that if I just take astep, that more things reveal
themselves to me, and it's notnecessarily the road, the map
that I had thought it was goingto go on, but I've just trusted
enough.
And then, lo and behold, likeyou were describing, there
you're sitting on your Argo andyou're you're doing farm work,
and how often can we and we inour lives, experience that and
(22:41):
take a moment to recognize thatit's really about what's
happening in front of me today?
It's the only thing I cancontrol.
What can I do today to makethat move one step closer?
And so I think there's a big,there's a big piece there that
I'd like to try and unpack alittle bit more, and it's really
what you're talking about isfacing, really facing our
(23:01):
adversity every day as men.
And it doesn't sound like youisolated yourself too much, but
maybe you did, and I I know formy experience that when I went
through some of my hardship,that was something that I tend
to do is isolate.
What advice would you give forsomebody who's in that they're
at that crux in their life, thatfork in the road, and they're
(23:22):
trying to move themselvesthrough it and they're
considering and maybe theyalready started to isolate
themselves.
What would you talk about, whatwould you say to them and help
them get through that?
Speaker 3 (23:34):
It took me on a path right that process and the next
vision was extreme outdooractivities integrated with
people with disabilities andphysical people, so in other
words, people like myself andlike you, and we both went on
the same extreme outdoorfive-day course right.
This changed my life and thisis what the listeners.
(23:59):
If you're feeling isolated andfeeling down, depressed, anxious
, and it's very hard to get outof that mindset at that moment.
But one thing that I reallyfigured out for me was I
naturally help people overcomefears by just willing to look at
(24:22):
my own fears and that could bean able person as well, like you
might have a fear of of wateror heights or whatever.
It is right and I, by justbeing encouraging, I was helping
people and that really made mefeel really good about myself,
and I've got a quote that Ioften tell people our own
(24:45):
healing is in the service ofothers with the same pain.
And this is the problem when weget into those places of
darkness is we look in right, webecome inward.
We're looking poor me.
When I say that, no, I don'tmean spiritually looking in, I'm
(25:16):
looking at selfish, looktowards ourselves.
I'm feeling sad, I'm feelingdark, I'm feeling angry,
whatever that is, it's actuallylook out to help someone else,
even if it's just the old ladywalking across the car park with
the groceries, or if it'ssomeone who's struggling to do
something, or a neighbor who'strimming a tree, or just to help
(25:41):
someone because it'll take yourmind out of where you're at,
the circumstance or thesituation and put it on
something that makes you feelbetter and you have to just
trust me on that one.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
You have to try it.
Speaker 3 (26:01):
Okay, you have to just take my word for it and be
curious and try it, because Ithink you'll find that that it
does make you feel so muchbetter.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
Yeah, I completely agree with that sentiment,
wholeheartedly, and I wasthinking as you were telling
this part of the story and youmentioned earlier that you're a
father of twins, earlier thatyou're a father of twins and
when we're going through ourturbulence, our time, that's
(26:33):
this chapter in our lives we cantend to be less conscious or
less present as fathers.
So talk about let's talk alittle bit about the importance,
you know, of us remaining,finding our way back to that
consciousness and being powerfulrole models for our children.
I would venture to guess thatyou're an extremely powerful
role model for your children forwhat you've accomplished, but
for those of us that arelistening to this, the
importance of what it means tobe a conscious father.
Speaker 3 (26:56):
It's big.
I think consciousness actuallywas Bob Proctor I've heard say.
If you know who Bob Proctor is,he's another Canadian.
He said that it's never arelationship problem, it's never
a money problem, it's always alack of awareness problem.
And so it is becoming conscious.
(27:17):
And for a dad, right, I've gotfour kids now.
I've got two teenagers, one 18and one he's coming up 16, my
younger two plus the 31 year oldtwins who have got five
grandchildren and man.
Have I learnt through thatjourney of learning,
(27:38):
understanding what my innerwarrior stands for Unconditional
love.
And we have to stand as men.
I think the modern masculine isstanding for loving ourselves.
To do that, we have to look atour trauma.
(27:58):
We've all got some sort oftrauma that creates that human
pattern of anger, frustration,sadness, what else?
So any any lack vibration comesfrom some sort of trauma that
(28:18):
we've perceived as a littlechild, and sometimes it is a
horrible trauma that you'veperceived as a little child and
sometimes it is a horribletrauma that you've actually been
through.
Yeah, but it's understandingthat we have to.
As men, we've been taught tohold it down, push it down, like
you said earlier, like a bigbeach ball.
We're holding this beach ballunderwater until we can't hold
(28:40):
it anymore and we burst out inanger or we burst out in sadness
, or we burst out in sadness orwe go into depression or
whatever that is.
It's all different.
So it's understanding that,okay, we've got this trauma.
I have to heal that traumabecause I, we as parents, are a
(29:02):
reflection to our partners, area reflection to our kids and
they reflect us.
They're that.
Both are our best teachers,because every time you trigger
and you react to your kids in away that is in those vibrations
(29:23):
that I've just said, it meansthat's a part of you that you
want to get curious about andheal and love, because that
little boy or girl or whoever islistening to this that has got
that pain Didn't know any betterand neither did the people that
(29:46):
gave it to you.
Speaker 1 (29:48):
So heal that side of you and you will be a reflection
that is going to be magnificentfor your kids and for your
partner what I really appreciateabout what you just said there
is I love the definition yougave of modern the modern
masculine and that is standingfor loving ourselves.
(30:09):
And how many times do we battle, as men, shame and anger and
fear and self-worth and doubtand lots of the things that we
talked about today, but reallywhat it all comes down to is
being able to love and acceptourselves and to work and do
that deep shadow work, the workthat is parts of us that we're
(30:33):
just not happy about, and I lovehow you talked about the family
is a reflection of who we areand how we conduct ourselves.
It is a great training ground.
I like to say that if you reallywant to find out what you're
made of, get married, have kidsand start a business because
everything that's going to gowrong will go wrong- and you'll
have no choice but to face alldifferent aspects of your life
(30:57):
in those moments, and so I thinkit's those are all the things
that you've been doing, and Ithink it's really valid advice
you've been giving.
Speaker 3 (31:04):
Anyway, I was saying go ahead, Just to sew that back.
I understand now that sametrauma of not being enough as a
kid was the same trauma thatcreated the opportunity for me
to put myself in danger and justto create my neck.
All right, that took a processright there.
(31:27):
There's been a road here oflearning to understand that.
But I quite often say myaccident was no accident because
there was now I see the voicein my head at that time was I
have to prove myself because Idon't feel good enough?
Speaker 1 (31:49):
Very interesting, very interesting.
You know, I'm sure, on your waythrough this journey in life,
wayne, you've you've either reada book or you've had some
mentors.
You've come across somethingand I'll call that advice.
Maybe it wasn't advice, it wasa lesson learned or something.
I'll use the word advice forthis question.
What would you say has been thebest piece of advice or the
(32:12):
most profound piece of advicethat you've been given?
How is it still serving youtoday?
Speaker 3 (32:20):
Yeah, that's really good.
Stay curious and don't take onbelief.
Question everything.
Question everything I've saidhere today.
Do your own research and staycurious and find your own truth.
It's so powerful.
If we do that as human beings,we'll find.
We'll find that real truththere and a warrior inside
(32:44):
ourselves.
Speaker 1 (32:46):
Amen, brother, amen.
I love that, wayne, brother.
I just want to say thank you somuch for spending time with me
today and sharing your wisdom,really on resilience and purpose
and what it means to be amodern masculine man today,
because your journey, I trulybelieve, is so powerful and it's
a reminder that our greatestchallenges can become the
foundation of our greateststrengths, and so if men are
(33:07):
interested in getting a hold ofyou and participating in your
work, what's the best way forthem to do that?
Speaker 3 (33:13):
yeah, mate, I've got a couple of things.
If it's okay with you, I'd loveto give your listeners the
opportunity of a complimentarygift.
That complimentary gift is a45-minute to an hour call with
me one-on-one via Zoom, where wereally look at that struggle,
(33:35):
that challenge in their life andget clear on that so that we
understand that is often theblock for us creating what we
would truly love for our lives.
And then we'll get clear onwhat it is that you would really
love, right, dial that in, getreally clear on it.
(33:57):
And then the strategy part,which is looking at there's a
gap there, right?
So what is the step you cantake from where you are with
what you have, in the directionof that goal or dream, that
vision that you would love?
And so this is complimentaryfor 10 listeners.
(34:18):
I only got enough space for 10through my month listeners.
I only got enough space for 10through my month.
But the first 10 that jump onand register on on that link
that we've given you through mywebsite, you'll get a time that
might suit or that they can pick, and there's a value to that.
There's 250 us dollars.
It's very powerful, guys.
(34:39):
If it really resonates, if thisresonates with you.
Jump on there, there and let'shave a look at how we can get
you moving forward and steppinginto that inner warrior more and
more.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
Love that.
I'm going to make sure that isgoing to be in today's show's
notes as well as wherever elsethat you're on social media.
Again to get a hold of Wayneit's wayneforcecom this is his
website.
Again to get a hold of wayneit's wayneforcecom this is
website.
And as long as we close to thisepisode, I just want to
challenge you to with a thoughtthat are you facing struggles
and mindset of a warrior and areyou letting them or letting
(35:11):
your thoughts really trulydefine you?
Because strength isn't aboutavoiding hardship, as we said
all this whole episode, it'sabout how we rise from it.
So I want to also introduce youto a program that we're offering
here at the awakened man.
It's called living withintegrity and it's a program
designed to help men unlock theresilience, step into leadership
and create lives of purpose forthemselves and for their
(35:32):
families.
And so if you're ready to takestep into your full power, then
the first thing you need to dois go to our membership site
it's membersthewakenmannet andtake our free integrity
challenge.
It's an opportunity for you toreally understand where it is
that you're living out ofintegrity and allow you to start
taking that first step.
So be sure you live withintention.
(35:52):
I want you to lead with courageand let's get started now, and
thank you so much for being onthe show today, wayne.
Thank you, alan, it's been apleasure.
Speaker 2 (36:09):
I loved it.
Thank you for listening to therevolutionary man podcast.
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