June 15, 2025 • 28 mins
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Join Alain Dumonceaux in this episode of the Revolutionary Man podcast as he delves into the concept of discipline—a misunderstood yet powerful tool that bridges ambition with achievement. Alain challenges men to redefine success by building daily discipline, providing actionable tips and real-life examples to help you stay consistent and focused. Discover how discipline can liberate you from chaos, reduce anxiety, and build lasting confidence. Don’t miss out on learning how to implement small daily habits that lead to big transformations. Tune in to awaken your true potential and become the man you were meant to be.
00:51 The Importance of Discipline
02:15 Mindset Shifts and Daily Practices
05:04 Building Consistent Habits
06:11 The Role of Identity in Discipline
07:18 Motivation vs. Discipline
10:00 Creating a Disciplined Environment
19:24 Practical Tips for Lasting Discipline
24:12 Recommended Resources and Conclusion
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome everyone to the Revolutionary man Podcast,
the show where we challenge mento redefine success, to lead
with integrity and to create alasting impact.
And I'm your host, alan DeMonso.
And today we're driving intoone of the most misunderstood
weapons that we can have in ourarsenal, and that's discipline.
And so allow me to ask yousomething when was the last time
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that you said you'd change andfollowed through, and what would
your life look like if youstopped starting over and maybe
instead became the kind of manwho finishes?
Most men say they want success,but few are willing to do what
it takes consistently.
Not because they're lazy,because they lack the structure
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that discipline demands.
And here's the cost it's goingto be unfulfilled goals, it's
broken promises and it's a lifeof drift instead of direction.
And so in today's episode, we'regoing to break it all down why
discipline isn't a restriction,it's actually liberation, and
we're going to unpack some mythskeeping you stuck and tools to
help you forge habits that carryyou to where motivation just
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won't go.
And so if you're ready tofinally close that gap between
who you are and who you're meantto be, then I think this
episode is going to be yourwake-up call.
And if you're serious aboutmastering discipline and
breaking free from inconsistency, I want you to take action
right now.
Hit that like button, subscribeto the podcast and drop a
comment sharing the one area ofyour life where discipline just
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keeps on slipping.
It's your engagement thatspreads this message and helps
more men rise up.
So just take 10 seconds,subscribe, comment and let's
keep this brotherhood strong.
And with that, let's get onwith today's episode.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
And with that, let's time to align yourself for
greatness.
It's time to become arevolutionary man.
Stay strong, my brother.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
We've established the challenge and you've asked
yourselves the hard questions,and now it's time to dig into
the mindset shifts, the systemsand the practices that built
discipline, not once, but daily,because disciplined men don't
rely on willpower.
He built structure that carrieshim when emotions fail, and so
the first thing I want to talkabout is discipline truly is
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that bridge between ambition andachievement, and so ambition
without discipline is likehorsepower without a steering
wheel, isn't it?
Discipline channels our driveinto action, and repeated action
, and even when the mood failsor fades from us, and so the
discipline isn't a punishment,it's actually permission, isn't
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it?
Too often men are are going tohear discipline and immediately
we're going to associate thatwith restriction and control and
deprivation of some sort, butthat mindset is rooted in
juvenile relationship toresponsibility.
I know that might be hard tosay and hear, but that's what we
face, isn't it?
And then, in reality, whatdiscipline does is it frees us
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to operate at our best byeliminating chaos and indecision
, and so it's the system that'sgoing to truly support our
purpose.
And so think about it like thiswhen you have discipline,
especially like your morningroutine, you're not limiting
your freedom, you're actuallycreating space to think to lead
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and then into execution.
So you're not scrambling or notreacting, and you're definitely
not apologizing for being late.
You're on fire because theworld, even all around you,
actually wakes up.
And so let's reframe disciplinefrom something that we have to
do to something that we get todo in order to unlock the man
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that we were meant to become.
And so a calendar, a schedule,a plan, think of it in those
terms.
It's not really a cage, it'sdefinitely a weapon, because
discipline really separatesintentions from results.
And so let's get blunt hereGood intentions are worthless
without consistent execution,and so many men, me included,
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live in this cycle of wantingmore income, more energy, more
intimacy, but we fail to closethat loop between intention and
implementation.
Discipline is the thing thatbuilds that bridge, and so every
man has said I'm going to starton Monday, I'll do better next
week, after this week calms down.
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But high achievers just don'twait for conditions to be right.
They move with structure, evenand especially through chaos.
That's how they get results,because they don't let feelings
set the pace.
And so how do I want you toimplement this?
I want you to choose one goalyou've been sitting on and now
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ask yourself what's the smallestdaily discipline I can apply
that doesn't depend onmotivation.
Then lock into that piece.
Make results non-negotiable byeliminating anything that causes
you to have decision makinginvolved.
See men who master disciplinealso master their identity.
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And see, your identity isn'twhat you say you are, it's truly
what you do consistently.
And discipline is how you proveto yourself that who you are
over and over again.
And when you honor your word,especially when no one's
watching, you've become a manyou can trust.
And when you trust yourself,confidence especially when no
one's watching you've become aman you can trust.
And when you trust yourself,confidence becomes natural.
It's not manufactured.
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And so consider this A manwho's looking to lose 30 pounds
right, or he's 30 pounds over 8.
That's me.
And he wants to get fit that'sme.
But I keep skipping workouts ormaking excuses and indulging in
whatever is really the easiestformat means I'm never going to
get there.
And so what did I do?
I hired a fitness coach.
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Someone that has community,gives me opportunity to stay
consistent and accountabilitybuilt in, because the problem
for me isn't about fitness, it'sabout identity.
About fitness, it's aboutidentity.
And so when I can attachidentity about who I am to my
fitness, then I'd rather be theguy who tries that's the old Al,
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not the guy that actually whotrains.
So this discipline was reallythat lever that really helps to
change the story that was goingon in my mind.
And so what can you do withthis action step?
How about, every morning, startby asking what does a
disciplined man do today?
Then act accordingly, notbecause that's going to be easy
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for you, but it's because it'saligned with who you see
yourself as.
And then each rep, each choiceis a vote for you to becoming
the man that you've alwayswanted to be.
And so I love Jim Rohn.
He's one of my favoritemotivational guys out there, and
he says we must all suffer oneof two things.
We can either suffer the painof discipline or the pain of
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regret.
And so when I think about themyth of what we've been talking
around here is all about thismotivation, because we've been
sold this lie that motivation isthe key to success.
But motivation is trulyfleeting, isn't it?
And discipline is what remainswhen motivation completely
disappears.
And so John Maxwell is alsofamous for saying motivation
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gets you going, but it'sdiscipline that keeps you
growing.
So if we rely on motivation,then it's going to create
inconsistency.
I know that's what my lifelooked like, especially around
fitness.
And so motivation is that spark, it is that piece that gets us
up off the chair and gets usexcited.
It's emotional fuel, and whileit can really help to start the
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fire, it just can't keep itburning.
And so the moment that we startto depend on motivation to get
us going, we've already lost thegame, haven't we?
Because motivation is driven byemotion, and emotions are
completely unstable, aren't they?
And so one hard day or one badnight's sleep, and right away
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we're off course.
So think about it.
How many gym memberships haveyou bought since January?
Or maybe you've bought everyJanuary, and how long did it
take before you abandoned it?
Was it February, march, april,may?
Is it just keep on paying itand you've totally forgotten?
See, that's not the failure ofintention, it's a failure of a
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system.
And so high-performing men don'tjust chase feelings.
They're going to chase results,and those results come from
discipline and not from hype.
And so let's stop trying tofeel motivated to do something,
and instead let's build somemicro disciplines into our day
that we can execute regardlessof how we feel or the mood that
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we're in, and then let's focuson showing up instead of showing
off.
Discipline will honor yourcommitment.
It's not the emotion that'll dothat, and so our commitments
then become non-negotiables.
And so, when we have thediscipline and we step into it,
then our feelings may want us toopt out, but what does allow us
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to stay in the game?
It says I don't feel like it,but I'll do it anyway because I
want to follow through.
See, that's true power andthat's true sovereignty.
And so one of the most dangerousthings or patterns that we can
do is waiting for us to feellike doing something, to do
something that builds our future.
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But business calls hardconversations, workouts,
budgeting.
The moment that you outsourceaction to emotion, then we've
just surrendered leadership ofour lives, haven't we?
And so I want you to create adisciplined audit.
Write down three things.
You often procrastinate becauseyou don't feel like it.
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Then, once you have those three, commit to doing those things
at the same time, every day,just for a week, for the next
seven days.
Treat it like it's your missionand not a maybe.
Our masculine edge is going tocome from routine.
It's not going to come from ourinspiration, because masculine
power is sharpened in therepetition of action, and it's
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not in waiting for this muse toarrive or a disciplined man.
He just doesn't look for a rushof inspiration.
He builds rituals and systemsthat stack on the victory after
victory, and so when life feelsheavy, he doesn't have to worry
about it, because that's trulyhow leadership is forged, not
just over others, it'sespecially over ourselves.
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And so think about thestrongest warriors, the CEOs,
the fathers and the athletesthat don't have any more
motivation than you do.
They have routines that maketheir performance automatic, and
while it may not be sexy, it'struly effective, and in a
distracted, dopamine drunkculture, routine is our edge.
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So also think about how you canapply this.
So establish a personaloperating rhythm, a morning
routine, a workout schedule, oreven set a power hour in your
business.
You name it, then protect itand live by it, and treat this
as truly your non-negotiableevery day.
Why do you want to do that?
Because you don't rise to yourgoals, you're going to fall to
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your systems.
And again, we go to Jim RohnR-Y-U-N, not Rohn R-O-H-N, and
Jim says motivation is what getsyou started.
It's habit that keeps you going.
See, discipline isn't just abouttask completion, it's about
energy regulation.
Discipline isn't just abouttask completion, it's about
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energy regulation.
It creates mental bandwidth andemotional strength to lead your
life with conviction.
And so Jocko always saysdiscipline equals freedom.
And so a lack of discipline isgoing to create mental chaos.
And so every time we undo atask, or every missed workout,
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or every time we wait and sayI'll do and get at it later,
that becomes a psychologicalclutter in our mind.
It's not just about the misseddeadline, it's one more
unresolved promise pulling atour mental bandwidth.
And so discipline clears therunway.
It tells our brain we're notnegotiating today, we're in
execution mode.
And so look at the mostoverwhelmed men.
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Are they truly out of time orare they out of rhythm?
It's because discipline reallyeliminates decision fatigue.
So when your daily rituals arelocked in, you free up your
energy to lead to love and tocreate.
Without structure, our brainjust stays in this reactive mode
all day long.
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And so how can you implementthis?
Build a decision-free zone intoyour day.
Create a consistent morning andevening routine.
Make the first 30 minutes andthe last 30 minutes of your day
automatic.
Eliminate choice, and then youcan eliminate the chaos.
Automatic.
Eliminate choice, and then youcan eliminate the chaos, and
discipline is going to alsoreduce our anxiety, because it's
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going to build some stabilityin our lives.
Most anxiety doesn't come fromwhat's happening right now.
It comes from what's unresolvedor unclear.
And so when we're undisciplined, then our mind's going to go
through this never-ending loop,through unfinished business, and
when we are disciplined, thenwe bring structure to that
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uncertainty.
And that's where true powerresides.
And so think about how calm youfeel when your finances are
dialed in, your calendar isorganized, your training is on
point.
That's not a coincidence, myfriends.
That's the result of beingconsistent.
Chaos breeds fear, anddiscipline breeds certainty, and
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certainty will ultimately breedpeace.
And so start with some anchorblocks in your week.
Schedule these non-negotiabletime for you, your top three
priorities.
Make sure that they're in therein, not just in your day, but
also within your week, forhealth, some purpose and
connection, because these aregoing to be the things that's
going to come and bringemotional grounding points when,
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no matter how unpredictablelife gets, you're going to be,
stay you're, you will stay onpoint.
So you don't need anothermotivational speaker, you need a
win.
One, then another and another.
That's how confidence getsbuilt.
It's not by hype, but it'sthrough follow-through.
And so discipline is going tocreate those daily wins, isn't
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it?
And so, each time we do what wesay we're going to do, we stack
another brick in the house ofself-respect.
Most men don't lack talent oropportunity.
What they lack is traction.
Traction comes from progress.
Discipline gives you thattangible evidence that you're
becoming who you said you wouldbe, and that's not just
motivation, that's momentum.
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And so let's start tracking ourwins, gentlemen.
Let's do that either through ajournal or a log, wherever you
can check off your dailycommitments, celebrate those
reps that you complete, not justas a result of the things that
you want, but every box that'schecked off is proof that you're
no longer the man who talks,but you're going to be the man
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who acts.
And so James Clear tells usthat you don't rise to the level
of our goals, but we fall tothe level of our systems, and we
mentioned that a little bitearlier today, didn't we?
And so clarity doesn't comefrom thinking.
It comes from doing things withpurpose.
Discipline will align our mind,our emotions and our mission.
It's not just about ourperformance.
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It's going to be about havingpeace, finally peace in our life
.
So let me tell you a story aboutTyler.
He's a 42-year-old husband, afather of two and a co-owner of
a growing construction company.
And from the outside he lookedlike the man on the rise.
He had a decent income, respectin the community, but inside he
felt like a fraud.
Every Monday he told himself hewould get back on track.
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He'd wake up early, train again, cut the junk, he'd get
organized, finally startjournaling.
But by Thursday he was sleepingin.
He's missing the workouts,eating convenience store crap
and truly numbing out on YouTubeuntil midnight.
And his wife had stopped askinghim how his new plan was going
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because she already knew.
And then it was one morning.
He looked in the mirror and hecould see clearly.
It was the gut, the tired eyes,the defeated posture, and he
whispered to himself what thehell happened to you?
It was that same day his12-year-old son asked if they
could train together afterschool, just like they used to,
and of course Tyler said yes,but the guilt was instant.
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He couldn't remember the lasttime he'd done anything that
modeled discipline and his sonwas looking for a mentor, and he
felt like a complete hypocrite.
It was that night he sat in thegarage after everyone went to
bed and opened a notebook, andat the top of the page he wrote
Discipline is how I take my lifeback.
And under it he scribbled Wakeup at 5 am, train five times a
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week, one hour of focused workbefore distractions, no phone in
bed.
And I intentionally act withwife and kids daily.
And so he just didn't know howlong it was going to last this
new structure he had put in.
But he knew he had to start now, and so the next morning he
beat his alarm.
The first rep at the gym wasrough, of course, because his
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body was resisting and his brainnegotiated.
But something had shifted forTyler.
He wasn't doing this to lookgood for summer, he was doing it
to stop lying to himself.
Each early morning meant a win.
Each completed workout becameproof.
He wasn't relying on motivation, he was creating identity, and
so his wife noticed first he wascreating identity, and so his
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wife noticed first he was lessreactive.
Tyler was more present, and hisbusiness partner commented on
how focused he'd become.
And his son?
He started setting his ownalarm, just to lift with his dad
.
That same day the fire hadfinally returned for Tyler
because he got it got.
Life got easier for him, butbecause Tyler got discipline.
And so six months later, tylerwasn't in, wasn't perfect, but
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he was a lot more aligned, hisbody was leaner, his calendar
was locked in his marriage andenergy was regained and his son
had a man worth following.
Tyler didn't change because ofa breakthrough.
He changed because of adecision.
He stopped starting over, hestopped chasing hacks and he
stopped hoping discipline wouldshow up.
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Instead, he built it, and thatbecame Tyler's legacy Not just a
fitter body or a sharper mind,but a son who learned that real
strength isn't loud, it's daily.
And so discipline just didn'ttransform Tyler's schedule.
It really rewired his identity.
He gave his family a man backthat they could trust and gave
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him back a life that herespected.
And so what are some practicaltips for helping us build
discipline that truly lasts inour life?
And so creating these dailynon-negotiables and we've been
talking about that throughoutthis episode.
And so discipline isn't aboutdoing everything, it's about
doing the essential thingsconsistently.
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And so one non-negotiable habitwill help build trust with
yourself.
It's going to create thatmomentum for you as well.
Habit will help build trustwith yourself.
It's going to create thatmomentum for you as well.
And so it helps us also to becareful, because when we start
with too many, making too manychanges at once, like 5am
workouts and no carbs, a newplanner and meditation
journaling, all on day one thenwe're going to be burnt out by
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day three, and so, instead, Iask you to just take one
keystone habit, the habit thathelps you move the needle in
your life.
Maybe it is working out, maybeit's working up early, maybe
it's writing or planningtomorrow, the night before,
whatever that is.
Just lock that one piece in for30 days, no matter what it is,
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and even if you don't feel likedoing it especially when you
don't feel like doing it you canstart to build wins.
Another strategy to help buildthis we can anchor our
discipline to a much bigger why,and so we're not just getting
up early to be productive.
We're doing it because we wantto become the man that our wives
respect, that our kids admire,want to become the man that our
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wives respect, that our kidsadmire and what our future truly
demands of us.
And so write down a bigger whywhat is the reason for you
pursuing this discipline, andthen post it somewhere that's
visible.
Say it out loud every morning,maybe before your first task.
It could be something as simpleas hey, I get up at five
because I lead my family, Itrain because I keep my promises
.
I plan because my missiondeserves some order.
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Whatever that looks like foryou is your key to helping you
unlock this next piece and thenbuild a tactical environment
that's going to help supportyour discipline.
We already talked aboutwillpower is pretty weak,
especially when it comes underpressure, and so our environment
will always win, and so if ourspace invites chaos, then guess
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what?
Our habits are going to reflectit, and so most of us will make
this mistake that we're goingto try to resist distraction
instead of removing it, and sowe keep junk food around, toxic
apps or energy draining peopleclose by us, and then we blame
ourselves for everythingslipping.
So why not do an audit?
Do a physical, a digital and asocial environment audit, and
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then remove whatever thetemptations are, and so that way
, you can place friction betweenwho you are, you and those bad
habits.
And so think about it.
Set up our gym clothes thenight before, use a website
blockers to prevent you fromscrolling the internet, silence
the phone notifications andprotect your space.
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This is the things thatdiscipline is demanding upon us
if we truly want to be seriousin our life, and tip four is
plan our days, or the day isgoing to plan ourselves, and
discipline thrives on structure,and so if we don't command our
time, then it will be stolen bydistractions, emergencies or,
worse yet, somebody else'spriorities.
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And so most of us wake up withgreat intentions, don't we?
And then we wonder why nothingtruly gets done, and so, every
evening, take 10 minutes to plantomorrow.
What is my number one priority?
Take 10 minutes to plantomorrow.
What is my number one priority?
What distractions do I need toeliminate?
Where do I need to lead withdiscipline instead of mood?
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When we lock these things in,then we can follow it just like
a battle plan.
Tip five stack early wins in theday.
The first 60 minutes of our dayset the tone for the next 16
hours that we're up, startingstrong, and we're going to feel
like a weapon Start reactive,and we're going to feel like
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we're chasing the day all daylong.
And so most of us will make themistake of getting up, and
either it's checking our emailsor going to be scrolling through
social media or hitting thesnooze alarm.
So all we're doing is justtruly inviting chaos into our
lives even before we get anopportunity to take control.
And so, it said design a simple, repeatable warrior's hour Each
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morning.
Maybe there's three, fouractions that help you prime your
mind and your body to wake up,rehydrate, to move, to review
your mission.
Do this daily, with noexceptions, because it's that
first win that's going to fuelall the rest of the day.
And so discipline is built inthe dark, before the world even
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sees that we're winning.
And so let's start small, let'sstart early and let's start now
.
And so I want to leave you witha few resources and some extra
support.
And so I want to leave you witha few resources and some extra
support to help you with thisidea of discipline in our lives.
And I love James Clear's work,and we did an entire monthly
lesson on atomic habits and whyI think it's so powerful.
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His book is that it's a modernclassic, and it really teaches
us what true transformation thatit doesn't come from these
massive shifts, but it comesfrom these tiny little habits
done consistently.
And so James really outlineshow to build a system that
sticks and why identity-basedhabits are the foundation of
building our discipline, and sothis is perfect for men who want
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to start building disciplinewith small, consistent actions
that allows themselves acompound over time.
You know, jocko wilnick isanother great read for you out
there.
Discipline equals freedom, andso he just doesn't sugarcoat it.
Jocko is pretty much in yourface kind of guy and it's
straight to the punch of whatmasculine clarity and
responsibility is all about, andhe really frames discipline as
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this path to freedom in allareas of our life, and so it's
not just for fitness, but it'smental health or mental strength
into leadership.
And he says don't count onmotivation, you got to count on
discipline, and so that bookwould be great if you're the
kind of person that needs tokickstart into a military grade
type of structure with clarityand self-leadership, and so it's
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that mindset shift for anyonewho's still trying instead of
executing.
And the third book I'd like torecommend for you is by cal
newport, and it's called deepwork, and so his focus is on
this rare skill that we have,that we need in this digital age
, and the book lays out a casefor eliminating distractions and
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going deep and focused workthat actually moves your mission
forward.
It's discipline and focus thatgo hand in hand and he quote
from his book is clarity aboutwhat matters provides clarity
about what doesn't, and so thisis essential for any of us that
are entrepreneurs the men whoneed discipline in their
professional lives, workflow andthen want to separate the noise
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from constant interruptions.
And so I have a bonus for you.
It's a download.
It's called the DailyDiscipline Blueprint and it's a
downloadable PDF.
It's a one-page morning, evenroutine tracker.
It's an opportunity for you tocreate space for your
non-negotiables, weeklyreflection questions, and it's a
got a why statement builder init, and it has an accountability
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grid in there to help you stackyour wins, and so this is an
opportunity for you to get this.
It will be in today's shownotes.
And so, gentlemen, at the end ofthe day, discipline isn't
punishment, it's a declaration.
It's how a man proves himselfthat the world means something,
or his word means something, andit's how we stop drifting and
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we start dominating.
And so every man has ambition,but few build the habits to
carry it out.
And if we want a life ofpurpose, we need structure.
If you want clarity, you needconsistency.
If you want legacy, you needconsistency.
If you want legacy, you needdiscipline.
And so here's your challenge.
I want you just to pick oneprinciple from this episode,
just one, and put that intoaction today.
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Don't wait for the perfectmoment.
Just create it.
Prove to yourself that you'redone negotiating with excuses.
And so, if you're serious abouttransforming your life through
discipline, don't just listen.
I want you to act.
Go to our membership page,memberstheawakenedmannet, and
take our integrity challenge.
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It's free, it's clear and it'sgoing to give you a roadmap to
align your daily habits withyour mission.
As a man, and because here'sthe truth, the strongest men
don't rely on motivation.
They choose discipline, theylive with intention and they
lead with integrity.
So don't wait for the righttime, gentlemen.
Let's decide, and I'll see youthe next time on the
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the show where we challenge mento redefine success, to lead
with integrity and to create alasting impact.
And I'm your host, alan DeMonso.
And today we're driving intoone of the most misunderstood
weapons that we can have in ourarsenal, and that's discipline.
And so allow me to ask yousomething when was the last time
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that you said you'd change andfollowed through, and what would
your life look like if youstopped starting over and maybe
instead became the kind of manwho finishes?
Most men say they want success,but few are willing to do what
it takes consistently.
Not because they're lazy,because they lack the structure
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that discipline demands.
And here's the cost it's goingto be unfulfilled goals, it's
broken promises and it's a lifeof drift instead of direction.
And so in today's episode, we'regoing to break it all down why
discipline isn't a restriction,it's actually liberation, and
we're going to unpack some mythskeeping you stuck and tools to
help you forge habits that carryyou to where motivation just
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won't go.
And so if you're ready tofinally close that gap between
who you are and who you're meantto be, then I think this
episode is going to be yourwake-up call.
And if you're serious aboutmastering discipline and
breaking free from inconsistency, I want you to take action
right now.
Hit that like button, subscribeto the podcast and drop a
comment sharing the one area ofyour life where discipline just
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keeps on slipping.
It's your engagement thatspreads this message and helps
more men rise up.
So just take 10 seconds,subscribe, comment and let's
keep this brotherhood strong.
And with that, let's get onwith today's episode.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
And with that, let's time to align yourself for
greatness.
It's time to become arevolutionary man.
Stay strong, my brother.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
We've established the challenge and you've asked
yourselves the hard questions,and now it's time to dig into
the mindset shifts, the systemsand the practices that built
discipline, not once, but daily,because disciplined men don't
rely on willpower.
He built structure that carrieshim when emotions fail, and so
the first thing I want to talkabout is discipline truly is
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that bridge between ambition andachievement, and so ambition
without discipline is likehorsepower without a steering
wheel, isn't it?
Discipline channels our driveinto action, and repeated action
, and even when the mood failsor fades from us, and so the
discipline isn't a punishment,it's actually permission, isn't
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it?
Too often men are are going tohear discipline and immediately
we're going to associate thatwith restriction and control and
deprivation of some sort, butthat mindset is rooted in
juvenile relationship toresponsibility.
I know that might be hard tosay and hear, but that's what we
face, isn't it?
And then, in reality, whatdiscipline does is it frees us
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to operate at our best byeliminating chaos and indecision
, and so it's the system that'sgoing to truly support our
purpose.
And so think about it like thiswhen you have discipline,
especially like your morningroutine, you're not limiting
your freedom, you're actuallycreating space to think to lead
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and then into execution.
So you're not scrambling or notreacting, and you're definitely
not apologizing for being late.
You're on fire because theworld, even all around you,
actually wakes up.
And so let's reframe disciplinefrom something that we have to
do to something that we get todo in order to unlock the man
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that we were meant to become.
And so a calendar, a schedule,a plan, think of it in those
terms.
It's not really a cage, it'sdefinitely a weapon, because
discipline really separatesintentions from results.
And so let's get blunt hereGood intentions are worthless
without consistent execution,and so many men, me included,
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live in this cycle of wantingmore income, more energy, more
intimacy, but we fail to closethat loop between intention and
implementation.
Discipline is the thing thatbuilds that bridge, and so every
man has said I'm going to starton Monday, I'll do better next
week, after this week calms down.
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But high achievers just don'twait for conditions to be right.
They move with structure, evenand especially through chaos.
That's how they get results,because they don't let feelings
set the pace.
And so how do I want you toimplement this?
I want you to choose one goalyou've been sitting on and now
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ask yourself what's the smallestdaily discipline I can apply
that doesn't depend onmotivation.
Then lock into that piece.
Make results non-negotiable byeliminating anything that causes
you to have decision makinginvolved.
See men who master disciplinealso master their identity.
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And see, your identity isn'twhat you say you are, it's truly
what you do consistently.
And discipline is how you proveto yourself that who you are
over and over again.
And when you honor your word,especially when no one's
watching, you've become a manyou can trust.
And when you trust yourself,confidence especially when no
one's watching you've become aman you can trust.
And when you trust yourself,confidence becomes natural.
It's not manufactured.
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And so consider this A manwho's looking to lose 30 pounds
right, or he's 30 pounds over 8.
That's me.
And he wants to get fit that'sme.
But I keep skipping workouts ormaking excuses and indulging in
whatever is really the easiestformat means I'm never going to
get there.
And so what did I do?
I hired a fitness coach.
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Someone that has community,gives me opportunity to stay
consistent and accountabilitybuilt in, because the problem
for me isn't about fitness, it'sabout identity.
About fitness, it's aboutidentity.
And so when I can attachidentity about who I am to my
fitness, then I'd rather be theguy who tries that's the old Al,
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not the guy that actually whotrains.
So this discipline was reallythat lever that really helps to
change the story that was goingon in my mind.
And so what can you do withthis action step?
How about, every morning, startby asking what does a
disciplined man do today?
Then act accordingly, notbecause that's going to be easy
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for you, but it's because it'saligned with who you see
yourself as.
And then each rep, each choiceis a vote for you to becoming
the man that you've alwayswanted to be.
And so I love Jim Rohn.
He's one of my favoritemotivational guys out there, and
he says we must all suffer oneof two things.
We can either suffer the painof discipline or the pain of
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regret.
And so when I think about themyth of what we've been talking
around here is all about thismotivation, because we've been
sold this lie that motivation isthe key to success.
But motivation is trulyfleeting, isn't it?
And discipline is what remainswhen motivation completely
disappears.
And so John Maxwell is alsofamous for saying motivation
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gets you going, but it'sdiscipline that keeps you
growing.
So if we rely on motivation,then it's going to create
inconsistency.
I know that's what my lifelooked like, especially around
fitness.
And so motivation is that spark, it is that piece that gets us
up off the chair and gets usexcited.
It's emotional fuel, and whileit can really help to start the
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fire, it just can't keep itburning.
And so the moment that we startto depend on motivation to get
us going, we've already lost thegame, haven't we?
Because motivation is driven byemotion, and emotions are
completely unstable, aren't they?
And so one hard day or one badnight's sleep, and right away
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we're off course.
So think about it.
How many gym memberships haveyou bought since January?
Or maybe you've bought everyJanuary, and how long did it
take before you abandoned it?
Was it February, march, april,may?
Is it just keep on paying itand you've totally forgotten?
See, that's not the failure ofintention, it's a failure of a
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system.
And so high-performing men don'tjust chase feelings.
They're going to chase results,and those results come from
discipline and not from hype.
And so let's stop trying tofeel motivated to do something,
and instead let's build somemicro disciplines into our day
that we can execute regardlessof how we feel or the mood that
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we're in, and then let's focuson showing up instead of showing
off.
Discipline will honor yourcommitment.
It's not the emotion that'll dothat, and so our commitments
then become non-negotiables.
And so, when we have thediscipline and we step into it,
then our feelings may want us toopt out, but what does allow us
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to stay in the game?
It says I don't feel like it,but I'll do it anyway because I
want to follow through.
See, that's true power andthat's true sovereignty.
And so one of the most dangerousthings or patterns that we can
do is waiting for us to feellike doing something, to do
something that builds our future.
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But business calls hardconversations, workouts,
budgeting.
The moment that you outsourceaction to emotion, then we've
just surrendered leadership ofour lives, haven't we?
And so I want you to create adisciplined audit.
Write down three things.
You often procrastinate becauseyou don't feel like it.
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Then, once you have those three, commit to doing those things
at the same time, every day,just for a week, for the next
seven days.
Treat it like it's your missionand not a maybe.
Our masculine edge is going tocome from routine.
It's not going to come from ourinspiration, because masculine
power is sharpened in therepetition of action, and it's
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not in waiting for this muse toarrive or a disciplined man.
He just doesn't look for a rushof inspiration.
He builds rituals and systemsthat stack on the victory after
victory, and so when life feelsheavy, he doesn't have to worry
about it, because that's trulyhow leadership is forged, not
just over others, it'sespecially over ourselves.
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And so think about thestrongest warriors, the CEOs,
the fathers and the athletesthat don't have any more
motivation than you do.
They have routines that maketheir performance automatic, and
while it may not be sexy, it'struly effective, and in a
distracted, dopamine drunkculture, routine is our edge.
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So also think about how you canapply this.
So establish a personaloperating rhythm, a morning
routine, a workout schedule, oreven set a power hour in your
business.
You name it, then protect itand live by it, and treat this
as truly your non-negotiableevery day.
Why do you want to do that?
Because you don't rise to yourgoals, you're going to fall to
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your systems.
And again, we go to Jim RohnR-Y-U-N, not Rohn R-O-H-N, and
Jim says motivation is what getsyou started.
It's habit that keeps you going.
See, discipline isn't just abouttask completion, it's about
energy regulation.
Discipline isn't just abouttask completion, it's about
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energy regulation.
It creates mental bandwidth andemotional strength to lead your
life with conviction.
And so Jocko always saysdiscipline equals freedom.
And so a lack of discipline isgoing to create mental chaos.
And so every time we undo atask, or every missed workout,
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or every time we wait and sayI'll do and get at it later,
that becomes a psychologicalclutter in our mind.
It's not just about the misseddeadline, it's one more
unresolved promise pulling atour mental bandwidth.
And so discipline clears therunway.
It tells our brain we're notnegotiating today, we're in
execution mode.
And so look at the mostoverwhelmed men.
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Are they truly out of time orare they out of rhythm?
It's because discipline reallyeliminates decision fatigue.
So when your daily rituals arelocked in, you free up your
energy to lead to love and tocreate.
Without structure, our brainjust stays in this reactive mode
all day long.
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And so how can you implementthis?
Build a decision-free zone intoyour day.
Create a consistent morning andevening routine.
Make the first 30 minutes andthe last 30 minutes of your day
automatic.
Eliminate choice, and then youcan eliminate the chaos.
Automatic.
Eliminate choice, and then youcan eliminate the chaos, and
discipline is going to alsoreduce our anxiety, because it's
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going to build some stabilityin our lives.
Most anxiety doesn't come fromwhat's happening right now.
It comes from what's unresolvedor unclear.
And so when we're undisciplined, then our mind's going to go
through this never-ending loop,through unfinished business, and
when we are disciplined, thenwe bring structure to that
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uncertainty.
And that's where true powerresides.
And so think about how calm youfeel when your finances are
dialed in, your calendar isorganized, your training is on
point.
That's not a coincidence, myfriends.
That's the result of beingconsistent.
Chaos breeds fear, anddiscipline breeds certainty, and
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certainty will ultimately breedpeace.
And so start with some anchorblocks in your week.
Schedule these non-negotiabletime for you, your top three
priorities.
Make sure that they're in therein, not just in your day, but
also within your week, forhealth, some purpose and
connection, because these aregoing to be the things that's
going to come and bringemotional grounding points when,
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no matter how unpredictablelife gets, you're going to be,
stay you're, you will stay onpoint.
So you don't need anothermotivational speaker, you need a
win.
One, then another and another.
That's how confidence getsbuilt.
It's not by hype, but it'sthrough follow-through.
And so discipline is going tocreate those daily wins, isn't
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it?
And so, each time we do what wesay we're going to do, we stack
another brick in the house ofself-respect.
Most men don't lack talent oropportunity.
What they lack is traction.
Traction comes from progress.
Discipline gives you thattangible evidence that you're
becoming who you said you wouldbe, and that's not just
motivation, that's momentum.
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And so let's start tracking ourwins, gentlemen.
Let's do that either through ajournal or a log, wherever you
can check off your dailycommitments, celebrate those
reps that you complete, not justas a result of the things that
you want, but every box that'schecked off is proof that you're
no longer the man who talks,but you're going to be the man
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who acts.
And so James Clear tells usthat you don't rise to the level
of our goals, but we fall tothe level of our systems, and we
mentioned that a little bitearlier today, didn't we?
And so clarity doesn't comefrom thinking.
It comes from doing things withpurpose.
Discipline will align our mind,our emotions and our mission.
It's not just about ourperformance.
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It's going to be about havingpeace, finally peace in our life
.
So let me tell you a story aboutTyler.
He's a 42-year-old husband, afather of two and a co-owner of
a growing construction company.
And from the outside he lookedlike the man on the rise.
He had a decent income, respectin the community, but inside he
felt like a fraud.
Every Monday he told himself hewould get back on track.
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He'd wake up early, train again, cut the junk, he'd get
organized, finally startjournaling.
But by Thursday he was sleepingin.
He's missing the workouts,eating convenience store crap
and truly numbing out on YouTubeuntil midnight.
And his wife had stopped askinghim how his new plan was going
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because she already knew.
And then it was one morning.
He looked in the mirror and hecould see clearly.
It was the gut, the tired eyes,the defeated posture, and he
whispered to himself what thehell happened to you?
It was that same day his12-year-old son asked if they
could train together afterschool, just like they used to,
and of course Tyler said yes,but the guilt was instant.
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He couldn't remember the lasttime he'd done anything that
modeled discipline and his sonwas looking for a mentor, and he
felt like a complete hypocrite.
It was that night he sat in thegarage after everyone went to
bed and opened a notebook, andat the top of the page he wrote
Discipline is how I take my lifeback.
And under it he scribbled Wakeup at 5 am, train five times a
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week, one hour of focused workbefore distractions, no phone in
bed.
And I intentionally act withwife and kids daily.
And so he just didn't know howlong it was going to last this
new structure he had put in.
But he knew he had to start now, and so the next morning he
beat his alarm.
The first rep at the gym wasrough, of course, because his
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body was resisting and his brainnegotiated.
But something had shifted forTyler.
He wasn't doing this to lookgood for summer, he was doing it
to stop lying to himself.
Each early morning meant a win.
Each completed workout becameproof.
He wasn't relying on motivation, he was creating identity, and
so his wife noticed first he wascreating identity, and so his
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wife noticed first he was lessreactive.
Tyler was more present, and hisbusiness partner commented on
how focused he'd become.
And his son?
He started setting his ownalarm, just to lift with his dad
.
That same day the fire hadfinally returned for Tyler
because he got it got.
Life got easier for him, butbecause Tyler got discipline.
And so six months later, tylerwasn't in, wasn't perfect, but
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he was a lot more aligned, hisbody was leaner, his calendar
was locked in his marriage andenergy was regained and his son
had a man worth following.
Tyler didn't change because ofa breakthrough.
He changed because of adecision.
He stopped starting over, hestopped chasing hacks and he
stopped hoping discipline wouldshow up.
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Instead, he built it, and thatbecame Tyler's legacy Not just a
fitter body or a sharper mind,but a son who learned that real
strength isn't loud, it's daily.
And so discipline just didn'ttransform Tyler's schedule.
It really rewired his identity.
He gave his family a man backthat they could trust and gave
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him back a life that herespected.
And so what are some practicaltips for helping us build
discipline that truly lasts inour life?
And so creating these dailynon-negotiables and we've been
talking about that throughoutthis episode.
And so discipline isn't aboutdoing everything, it's about
doing the essential thingsconsistently.
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And so one non-negotiable habitwill help build trust with
yourself.
It's going to create thatmomentum for you as well.
Habit will help build trustwith yourself.
It's going to create thatmomentum for you as well.
And so it helps us also to becareful, because when we start
with too many, making too manychanges at once, like 5am
workouts and no carbs, a newplanner and meditation
journaling, all on day one thenwe're going to be burnt out by
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day three, and so, instead, Iask you to just take one
keystone habit, the habit thathelps you move the needle in
your life.
Maybe it is working out, maybeit's working up early, maybe
it's writing or planningtomorrow, the night before,
whatever that is.
Just lock that one piece in for30 days, no matter what it is,
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and even if you don't feel likedoing it especially when you
don't feel like doing it you canstart to build wins.
Another strategy to help buildthis we can anchor our
discipline to a much bigger why,and so we're not just getting
up early to be productive.
We're doing it because we wantto become the man that our wives
respect, that our kids admire,want to become the man that our
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wives respect, that our kidsadmire and what our future truly
demands of us.
And so write down a bigger whywhat is the reason for you
pursuing this discipline, andthen post it somewhere that's
visible.
Say it out loud every morning,maybe before your first task.
It could be something as simpleas hey, I get up at five
because I lead my family, Itrain because I keep my promises
.
I plan because my missiondeserves some order.
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Whatever that looks like foryou is your key to helping you
unlock this next piece and thenbuild a tactical environment
that's going to help supportyour discipline.
We already talked aboutwillpower is pretty weak,
especially when it comes underpressure, and so our environment
will always win, and so if ourspace invites chaos, then guess
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what?
Our habits are going to reflectit, and so most of us will make
this mistake that we're goingto try to resist distraction
instead of removing it, and sowe keep junk food around, toxic
apps or energy draining peopleclose by us, and then we blame
ourselves for everythingslipping.
So why not do an audit?
Do a physical, a digital and asocial environment audit, and
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then remove whatever thetemptations are, and so that way
, you can place friction betweenwho you are, you and those bad
habits.
And so think about it.
Set up our gym clothes thenight before, use a website
blockers to prevent you fromscrolling the internet, silence
the phone notifications andprotect your space.
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This is the things thatdiscipline is demanding upon us
if we truly want to be seriousin our life, and tip four is
plan our days, or the day isgoing to plan ourselves, and
discipline thrives on structure,and so if we don't command our
time, then it will be stolen bydistractions, emergencies or,
worse yet, somebody else'spriorities.
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And so most of us wake up withgreat intentions, don't we?
And then we wonder why nothingtruly gets done, and so, every
evening, take 10 minutes to plantomorrow.
What is my number one priority?
Take 10 minutes to plantomorrow.
What is my number one priority?
What distractions do I need toeliminate?
Where do I need to lead withdiscipline instead of mood?
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When we lock these things in,then we can follow it just like
a battle plan.
Tip five stack early wins in theday.
The first 60 minutes of our dayset the tone for the next 16
hours that we're up, startingstrong, and we're going to feel
like a weapon Start reactive,and we're going to feel like
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we're chasing the day all daylong.
And so most of us will make themistake of getting up, and
either it's checking our emailsor going to be scrolling through
social media or hitting thesnooze alarm.
So all we're doing is justtruly inviting chaos into our
lives even before we get anopportunity to take control.
And so, it said design a simple, repeatable warrior's hour Each
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morning.
Maybe there's three, fouractions that help you prime your
mind and your body to wake up,rehydrate, to move, to review
your mission.
Do this daily, with noexceptions, because it's that
first win that's going to fuelall the rest of the day.
And so discipline is built inthe dark, before the world even
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sees that we're winning.
And so let's start small, let'sstart early and let's start now
.
And so I want to leave you witha few resources and some extra
support.
And so I want to leave you witha few resources and some extra
support to help you with thisidea of discipline in our lives.
And I love James Clear's work,and we did an entire monthly
lesson on atomic habits and whyI think it's so powerful.
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His book is that it's a modernclassic, and it really teaches
us what true transformation thatit doesn't come from these
massive shifts, but it comesfrom these tiny little habits
done consistently.
And so James really outlineshow to build a system that
sticks and why identity-basedhabits are the foundation of
building our discipline, and sothis is perfect for men who want
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to start building disciplinewith small, consistent actions
that allows themselves acompound over time.
You know, jocko wilnick isanother great read for you out
there.
Discipline equals freedom, andso he just doesn't sugarcoat it.
Jocko is pretty much in yourface kind of guy and it's
straight to the punch of whatmasculine clarity and
responsibility is all about, andhe really frames discipline as
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this path to freedom in allareas of our life, and so it's
not just for fitness, but it'smental health or mental strength
into leadership.
And he says don't count onmotivation, you got to count on
discipline, and so that bookwould be great if you're the
kind of person that needs tokickstart into a military grade
type of structure with clarityand self-leadership, and so it's
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that mindset shift for anyonewho's still trying instead of
executing.
And the third book I'd like torecommend for you is by cal
newport, and it's called deepwork, and so his focus is on
this rare skill that we have,that we need in this digital age
, and the book lays out a casefor eliminating distractions and
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going deep and focused workthat actually moves your mission
forward.
It's discipline and focus thatgo hand in hand and he quote
from his book is clarity aboutwhat matters provides clarity
about what doesn't, and so thisis essential for any of us that
are entrepreneurs the men whoneed discipline in their
professional lives, workflow andthen want to separate the noise
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from constant interruptions.
And so I have a bonus for you.
It's a download.
It's called the DailyDiscipline Blueprint and it's a
downloadable PDF.
It's a one-page morning, evenroutine tracker.
It's an opportunity for you tocreate space for your
non-negotiables, weeklyreflection questions, and it's a
got a why statement builder init, and it has an accountability
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grid in there to help you stackyour wins, and so this is an
opportunity for you to get this.
It will be in today's shownotes.
And so, gentlemen, at the end ofthe day, discipline isn't
punishment, it's a declaration.
It's how a man proves himselfthat the world means something,
or his word means something, andit's how we stop drifting and
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we start dominating.
And so every man has ambition,but few build the habits to
carry it out.
And if we want a life ofpurpose, we need structure.
If you want clarity, you needconsistency.
If you want legacy, you needconsistency.
If you want legacy, you needdiscipline.
And so here's your challenge.
I want you just to pick oneprinciple from this episode,
just one, and put that intoaction today.
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Don't wait for the perfectmoment.
Just create it.
Prove to yourself that you'redone negotiating with excuses.
And so, if you're serious abouttransforming your life through
discipline, don't just listen.
I want you to act.
Go to our membership page,memberstheawakenedmannet, and
take our integrity challenge.
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It's free, it's clear and it'sgoing to give you a roadmap to
align your daily habits withyour mission.
As a man, and because here'sthe truth, the strongest men
don't rely on motivation.
They choose discipline, theylive with intention and they
lead with integrity.
So don't wait for the righttime, gentlemen.
Let's decide, and I'll see youthe next time on the
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Revolutionary man Podcast.
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Thank you for listening to the revolutionary
man podcast.
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you are destined to be?
Join the brotherhood that isthe awakened man at
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