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Imagine leaving behind a stable career and a life surrounded by loved ones, driven by an unexplainable calling. Dr. Agi Keramidas did just that, transitioning from a dentist in Greece to a passionate podcaster and author in the UK. Join us as Dr. Karamidas shares his incredible story of courage, intuition, and the pursuit of true fulfillment. This episode offers an inspiring exploration of how one can break free from societal expectations and master their mind to live a life aligned with their truest passions.
Personal growth often comes from embracing change, and Agi's journey is a testament to that. We dive into the emotional complexities of leaving behind a supportive network in Greece, including the challenges it posed to his relationships. Agi’s story reveals the power of intention and acceptance, showing how following one's dreams can lead to both remarkable personal development and inevitable hurdles. Together, we discuss the critical role mentors play in guiding us through these life transitions and the profound impact of a consistent morning routine.
Discover the art of overcoming limiting beliefs through intuition, as Agi recounts his transformative experiences, including a pivotal Tony Robbins event that reshaped his perspective. Learn about the inspiration behind his book, "88 Actionable Insights for Life," and how it offers readers practical steps towards personal development. Our conversation also highlights the surprising insights gained from trusting intuition over logic, setting a positive tone for the day, and empowering oneself through personal growth. This episode is a call to question your path and embrace the possibilities that unfold when you align with your true purpose.
Key moments in this episode:
04:01 Agi's Journey: From Dentist to Podcaster
06:29 The Power of Self-Reliance
12:48 Transforming Shyness into Confidence
18:40 Trusting Your Intuition
23:21 Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
30:11 The Importance of a Morning Routine
33:14 Impactful Books and Mentors
37:44 Final Thoughts and Takeaways
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Book: 88 Actionable Insights for Life
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/agikeramidas/
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Have you ever felt like you were walking the path
that wasn't truly your own?
Perhaps you've pursued a careeror a lifestyle that was
expected of you, only to realizethat truly deep inside, there
was a calling pulling you in adifferent direction.
And what if that calling ledyou to transform your life
entirely?
Today we're going to explore anincredible journey of breaking
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free from societal expectations,trusting your intuition and
stepping to your true purpose.
This is a story of overcominglimiting beliefs, mastering your
mind and turning shyness intoconfidence.
To speak your truth, there'sonly really one part of our
equation that self-education,spiritual growth and personal
(00:46):
mastery can lead to a life ofprofound fulfillment.
So if you've wondered how toalign your life with true
purpose, this episode is goingto guide you on that journey.
And before we get into today'sepisode, let's come to grips
about one other thing, and thatis inevitably.
There will come a time in yourlife when you will hit a wall,
whether it's a marriage that'snot working, a career or
(01:07):
business that's stagnated, oryour personal life has flatlined
.
So if you're dealing with anyof these, or a combination of
them, and are finally fed upwith where your life is at, then
allow me to help you get clearabout what needs to be done and
how to do that, so you can getahead, get on with living the
life you were meant to live.
Just go to TheAwakenedMannetand download the free Setting
(01:29):
the Compass exercise to getstarted today.
And with that let's get on withtoday's episode.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
The average man today is sleepwalking through life,
many never reaching their truepotential, let alone ever
crossing the finish line toliving a purposeful life.
Many never reaching their truepotential, let alone ever
crossing the finish line toliving a purposeful life.
Yet the hunger still exists,albeit buried amidst his
cluttered mind, misguidedbeliefs and values that no
longer serve him.
It's time to align yourself forgreatness.
(01:59):
It's time to become arevolutionary man.
Stay strong, my brother.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Welcome everyone to the Revolutionary man Podcast.
I'm the founder of the Awakenedman Movement and your host,
alan DeMonso.
Let me ask you have you everquestioned whether the path
you're on is truly your own orsimply the one laid out before
you by others?
What would it take for you tostep into a life that feels
aligned with your deepestcallings, and how often do you
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truly trust your intuition overlogic, societal expectations?
So what changes or could unfoldin your life if you let your
intuition guide you just alittle bit more often?
You know it requires courage toquestion the path that you're
on and to overcome limitingbeliefs that hold you back and
to reprogram your mind forself-mastery.
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But imagine the possibilitieswhen you do, when you step out
of the shadows of expectationsand into the light.
And it's not just aboutachieving success in the
traditional sense.
It's about finding fulfillmentand living life that resonates
with your true self, and just asit did for my guest today.
So allow me to introduce myguest.
Dr Aji Karamaitis is originallyfrom Greece and has been living
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in the UK since 2010, and hispersonal development journey has
taken him from a dentist with amaster's degree to becoming a
podcaster, knowledge broker andan author and, despite his
formal education and being acritical thinker, he's a big
believer in the immense power ofself-education and, at the same
time, deeply being deeplyspiritual.
He's the author of 88actionable insights for life and
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the host of the personaldevelopment mastery podcast, and
his mission is to inspire anaudience to stand out to take
action toward living apurposeful and fulfilling life.
Welcome to the show, agi.
How are you, my friend?
Speaker 3 (03:48):
Alain, it's such a pleasure to be here.
Thank you so much and I willsay straight away I appreciate
how you prefaced this with yourintroduction, this conversation,
it is incredible.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Yes, and I as well.
I'm so grateful to be able tocome across touch past in this
journey of being a podcaster andhosting so many profound people
on my show, and you're anotherone of those individuals and I
just love your story and is here.
We talk a lot about everyonebeing on their own hero's quest
or their hero's journey, and so,while I tickled everybody with
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a little bit of your story, dotell us about that time in your
life when you knew things werejust weren't great and what did
you do about that, and how didthat experience shape you into
the man you are today and thework you're doing?
Speaker 3 (04:33):
It's a great way to start, and there have been two
distinct periods like that in mylife, and I will start with the
one.
That is the first one, and inmany ways it led to the second
one that happened a few yearsafterwards.
That was I'm greek originally.
I grew up and started to be adentist as my mom, and after a
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few years of working there, Irealized that my life was really
not I how I wanted it to be,and I don't mean externally,
because on the outside it wouldlook like I'm doing really well.
I had my dental practice, I wasengaged to be married, I had my
family support me and so on butinside I felt empty.
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Really, I felt like this is notwhat I want to do.
I didn't want to, in a way,repeat the kind of life that my
parents had living in myhometown.
It was something that didn'tfeel right for me.
I was in my 30s, early-mid-30sat that time and it took me a
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long time to realize that thisfeeling that I was feeling was
actually a calling for somethingelse.
And the reason why I wasfeeling discontent with what I
was doing was not because I washating it or anything like that.
It was because I had adifferent path or purpose, if
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you want to be discovered oruncovered in the future.
So after it took a while, butafter a long deliberation, I
decided to leave my home country, greece, and move to the UK.
Because of that, as I said, acalling.
It was like I felt somethingdrawing me there.
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Everything about England wasfascinating to me for some
reason.
I couldn't explain it, but Itook all this as a sign that
there's something for me toexplore.
At the very least, if not findsomething there, I took the
decision to leave behind my lifeas I knew it in Greece, my home
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country, my family, my fiancé,my dental practice, everything
basically.
So I got two suitcases and aone-way ticket to England, where
I had already an offer to workas a dentist there.
So in a new country, newenvironment, on my own.
So that was a very and I willwill answer because I liked very
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much.
One thing that you asked inyour question about this
transition was how has thatshaped me as a man?
And for me that was probablythe most important thing I have
done, for that has shaped me asa man, simply because I realized
very soon after I changedcountry, that I must rely on
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myself and that gave me a lot ofconfidence because I had to
deal with everything on my own.
I couldn't call on my mom andsay, can you help me, or
whatever.
Everything was up to me.
And taking on thatresponsibility gave me a great
deal of tools and mental toolsto face on other things
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afterwards.
But yeah, that is in a nutshellwhat the transition that was 15
years ago.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Thank you so much for sharing that, Agi.
What I find so inspiring aboutyour story is similar to now.
I didn't have as big a move asyou did, but similar to your
story when I was a young mancoming out of culinary school.
I was fortunate enough to finda role for me to jump into, but
it wasn't in my hometown or evenin my home province and I had
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to move away.
And I can remember making thatdecision to take on this new
career and to take that role.
And, similar to what you said,this is if I'm going to make it,
I'm going to make it on my own.
And now I didn't have some ofthe other pieces on to deal with
, like a fiance.
Yes, my parents, I think, werehappy about me getting on my
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career, but talk a little bitabout the impact on that.
We understand a little bit onthe impact for you, but what
about your family and yourfiance and having to deal with
that as well?
Because I think at times men ingeneral will not make a hard
decision like that because theywant to protect.
Speaker 3 (09:03):
So let's talk a little bit about that aspect of
this transition I love yourquestion, Len, and it's
something that I'm not surewhether I have spoken about this
before.
So it's great.
There are two separate elements.
My parents are very supportive,so I'm really grateful for that
.
They saw that I was passionateabout it.
They also saw that I had a joboffer in the UK, so I was not
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going as a refugee.
It was something thateverything was ready for me.
I just needed to work, fulfillmy commitment, my professional
commitment.
So they did support me and Iwas blessed.
My fiancée, on the other hand,was very different, because she
did not want to change countries.
She was happy living the lifethat I was unhappy living.
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She wanted to be close to herfamily.
She had a secure, stable joband she wanted to keep that.
That led us to split up.
And the important thing here,of course, that was very
difficult for me.
I still remember the last timeI saw her.
I didn't think that the personcould cry so much as I saw her
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crying.
So that image of her remainedwith me and, to be honest, it
took me many years and I'mopening up here and then
straight away because it is deepit took me many years to get
over that feeling of guilt thatI had for a series of years that
I left her behind and I didwhat I wanted to do and I ruined
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her life or whatever thoughtswere coming up that were
creating guilt.
So I think that is an importantthing to discuss here and I do
believe now, in hindsight andnow that I have made peace with
what has happened, that this wasfor the best interest of
everyone.
So it was not.
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I did not.
Yes, she went through pain, alot of pain at that time when
she saw me move on my own to adifferent country, but on the
other hand, that the life thatshe wanted to live and, from
what I learned afterwards, shedid that.
She did the kind of marriageand family that she wanted to
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have.
So it was necessary for her togo through that emotional pain.
So I think everyone in the endand that's really what I'm now
on reflection each of us is inthe end, responsible for their
own life and actions, and ifsomeone will get hurt for a
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period of time as a result ofthat, I think that's part of
life.
Hurt for a period of time as aresult of that, I think that's
part of life.
At the moment, I see it thatwhen you do it with the right
intentions, you do not want tohurt the other person, there is
no malice involved.
It's just I won't follow mydream.
I'm inviting you to come withme.
You don't, because you havedifferent dreams.
Obviously our lives are not togo parallel from now on.
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It went for a few years now.
It is like that, and that'slife really.
With all human relationships,some of them are for a short
time, some for longer, some forforever, and we don't know that
in the beginning.
It sure is.
Thank you so much for beingvulnerable and open and sharing
that with us because I think it.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
it is important for our listeners to understand that
, as I said in the part of theintro, there will come this time
when you will hit a wall.
Your wall was deciding tofollow your calling or not to do
that, and that doesn't meanthese decisions are ever going
to be easy.
That doesn't mean thesedecisions are ever going to be
easy.
People may get hurt most likelywill but it also is the best
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decision for all.
And she had the opportunity.
Her fiancé got the opportunityto live story is that when there
are tough times, then we haveto make difficult decisions.
That, as men, were called to dothat, and when we do it with
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compassion and with care andthought, then we can still make
those decisions what's best forall.
And so thank you so much forsharing that.
And I wanted to pivot a littlebit and talk about what you talk
about in your bio, about reallytransforming yourself from this
shy individual to beingcomfortable doing public
speaking and even being apodcaster.
(13:33):
So what were some of the keysteps that you took to overcome
your discomfort in these socialsituations?
Speaker 3 (13:40):
Good question, and the discomfort in the social
situations was also one of thereasons that I wanted to change,
and I will backtrack a littlebit and tell you about this.
It was a few years.
To continue the story, a fewyears after I was living in the
UK, I enrolled to do a master'sdegree in dentistry.
(14:05):
So I did a master's degree andI had just turned 40 at that
time, which, as many of us know,especially the ones that have
experienced it there are thingsthat change in a man's life, not
only a man's, in a woman's lifealso, but for men, certainly
around that age, there issomething happening.
(14:25):
So we can go into that or not,but it's okay.
For me, what happened was thatI found myself finishing this
master's degree, graduating, andinstead of feeling super
motivated and pumped to practicethis very high-end knowledge
that I had acquired and do allthose things with my patients, I
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found myself completely theopposite.
I was not interested, I did notwant to do any of that.
I was feeling the word thatcomes to mind is directionless,
or like I'm just spinning thewheel and nothing is really
happening the way that I want to.
So my first to all that is thatthere must be something wrong
(15:08):
with me Because really, rightnow, this is again on the
outside.
This is success.
I had rebuilt a new life and anew career in the UK instead of
Greece, but I found myself in asimilar situation and initially
I started wondering what's wrongwith myself.
Thank goodness I didn't stay inthat mode for too long, because
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then I started looking foranswers, and that's something
that, at the very least least,the master's degree helped me
with developing a criticalthinking and some self-awareness
, so I could look inside foranswers rather than trying to
find out what of my externalenvironment it is that is
causing that.
So led me to personaldevelopment.
(15:54):
I started reading books.
I went to some.
Eventually, I went to a TonyRobbins event in 2017.
And that's when a big shifthappened to me and, to bring it
to what you asked me originallyin your question, what happened
at that event was that all mylife until then, I was always
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very reserved and shy and closedperson with other people,
especially people I didn't know.
Actually, being reserved is oneway to put it.
I was very uncomfortable.
That is the truth and I alwayshave believed that.
This is who I am.
It's my character.
I am a shy person, an identity.
I didn't think of it like that,in those terms at that time,
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but now I can.
At that Tony Robbins event Irealized very clearly, with a
very huge emotional reaction Ihad during the process, that
crying on the floor for one hourit was very intense, but I
realized anyway.
The point was that I realizedthat this was not who I am, the
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shyness this was only merely aset of limiting beliefs.
Again, I didn't know they werecalled limiting beliefs at that
time.
At that time I realized thatthere was a voice at the back of
my head, because that's what itwas.
It was a thought or a voicethat was saying literally agi,
people are not interested inwhat you have to say.
(17:23):
So there was that dialogue, buton a subtle level.
It was not a loud voice, but itwas every time I would find
myself in a situation withpeople that I didn't know I that
would be triggered and then youwould see Aggie feeling
uncomfortable, not sayinganything.
I remember being in an elevatorwith a person that I didn't
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know.
I felt terrible.
I felt so because I thought Ididn't want to speak and I don't
mean it.
Anyway, there are many exampleslike that.
To demonstrate how I was, I willtell you one more quickly.
The first time I went to anetworking event, someone pushed
me, said you have to go.
There was a speech in thebeginning, so I sat down and
watched the speech.
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It was very interesting.
And then the presenter said andnow it's time for networking,
so we will have 10 minutes foreveryone to go and meet someone
else.
I went to the toiletimmediately and spent 10 minutes
in the toilet until I made surethat networking thing had
finished to return back to theroom.
That's how uncomfortable it was.
When I realized that this was alimiting voice at the back of
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my head, then that was the veryfirst step.
I think it was that awarenessthat, wow, this is what's
causing it and I realized thatthis is not how I want to live
the rest of my life.
I have something of valueinside me to share.
And then one thing led to theother, and then I found myself
in a public speaking course,which was the thing that took me
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completely out of my comfortzone.
But I realized also that thiswas exactly what I needed to do.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
Lots of profound changes happen at Tony Robbins
events and, obviously, takingsome public speaking courses to
really help us.
And really what I'm some of thetakeaway I'm getting from
hearing you talk about issomething else that you wrote
about in your book, and that'sreally about trusting our
intuition.
We keep referencing this voiceas something was guiding you
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along, and so why is it?
Do you think that we don'ttrust that our intuition, we
don't trust that voice?
What does it really take for usto start to do that and trust
and take action?
Speaker 3 (19:37):
I think the main reason that many people do not
trust it is that they have notlearned, but I would dare say
they have been conditioned inmany ways, especially in some
Western countries like the UNID,not to trust it and to put
logic and reason aboveeverything else.
(19:58):
So you have to make a decision,so you want to make a decision,
you do a pros and cons and puteverything in.
It has to be logic and I thinka big reason why many of us
don't trust is because theydon't know it, they don't
recognize it or they don'tbelieve its value.
They don't recognize it or theydon't believe its value.
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The thing with trusting it's adifficult thing to explain
because there is no logic behindit.
It is some kind of a decisionyou make that there is something
that I will trust and I willfollow, and with intuition,
that's something.
It is not abstract and I dobelieve that all of us have felt
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it.
It might not have been a veryloud or clear voice and actually
the word voice I don't think itis.
In my experience anyway, theword it is not a voice.
The intuition, it's more like aknowing and it's always it's a
heart, or it comes from theheart or it bubbles up from the.
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It is not like a thought.
So that's how I, at least frommy experience, that's how it
feels, the intuition, the, if Ican say, characteristic that
helps me recognize it.
And from others I've spoken,they agree it has a optimistic
or think or good feeling,outcome or whatever.
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It is annoying, that has apositive let's say positive
energy about.
It is not the other side, whichis the, the rational mind or
the fear that will appear whenit is a thought.
It has a different can call itvibration.
It has a different energy,shall we say, than intuitive I
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was about to say voice, but itis annoying again, I would say.
So I think to answer yourquestion, recognizing that and
becoming aware of it more andmore is the first step, because
you won't trust it before youactually recognize that there is
something there.
For me, I think that's thefirst step to do Listen to it
and when you feel it, perhapswrite it down.
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That's what I felt.
You don't even have to doanything about it if you want to
improve this connection withyour intuition.
When you feel something thatcould be intuition, put it on,
write it down and then look atthem and see.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
I would completely agree with you, the moments of
intuition that come.
For me, you're right, right,it's not really a voice at all.
I was going to say it's almostlike a nudge, which is something
just to go do something, andit's just, and it isn't more of
a knowing, a knowing of it.
The annoying side of it is thatvoice at least from my
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experience, and it's usually nota helpful voice, it's a tend to
be negative and I alwaysassociate that with my ego
trying to protect me, trying toprotect itself, because it's
uncomfortable of what it doesn'tknow.
And so just taking theopportunity and I like the idea
of just writing it down andtaking a moment and looking at
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what is being called up from youand really this ties into the
other part that you've beentalking about also so far today
is all of us having theselimiting beliefs, and it's lots
of the work that we do here,here at the Waken man, is
helping men unpack the limitingbeliefs, and they don't
necessarily see them as that.
So I just say let's just talkabout your beliefs, and beliefs
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around money, your beliefsaround your profession, about
who you are, as you were talkingabout and then through those
conversations we start to seewhere the limitations are.
Some of them are pretty broad,like they don't have a lot of
framework around it, but othertimes it's really.
The box is really tight.
So let's talk a little bitabout how these beliefs get so
ingrained to us and what aresome significant ways that we
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can use to help overcome themand really change our lives.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
I think where they come from is childhood sabotage
one in their tracks.
I believe they come from ourchildhood up to I think it's
seven years, where we developthat part of the brain and they
get absorbed.
So that's a big topic on itsown.
To where they come from andwhat can we do to eliminate them
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from that level, but that isprobably a different
conversation.
I'm not really the mostappropriate person to give those
answers on dealing with thesethings, but bringing it to the
actual limiting beliefs thathave formed and we are all
adults now listening, sayingabout intuition is to become
aware of them, of the beliefsthat we have, and there are
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beautiful exercises I'm sure youdo those with your clients.
There are online resources thatcan help you recognize these
beliefs that you have in a veryclear manner.
Then you look at them andthat's based on the answers that
you had given.
So I think the first necessaryingredient for that is
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self-inquiry, the desire to lookinside and figure things out.
Otherwise, the moment you say,okay, I need to do that work.
Let me see what are the beliefsthat drive my behavior, that
drive my results in life,because it all starts from
beliefs, from thoughts orpatterns of thoughts by getting
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the desire to investigate that.
Then you start looking insideand then you realize the beliefs
and whether it's many of thebeliefs that we have that are
limiting now at some pointearlier in our lives they were
not limited.
None of us chooses to havelimiting beliefs.
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We keep them on because at somepoint in the past they served
us one way or the other, evenwhen we were children.
But I'm sure since that timeeach of us have practiced their
limiting beliefs in variousscenarios in life, so they have
established them very well.
So let's recognize them firstand look at them.
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And one way that I like lookingat beliefs rather than using
the term limiting, which I thinkit's not the most appropriate
term to describe them.
What I prefer to do instead iswhen I have my beliefs, do I say
does this belief serve me ordoes it not serve me anymore?
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I don't have to label them aslimiting, because that maybe
creates other feelings of guilt,or I love that idea.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
We talk a lot about that as well, about how you
mentioned, maybe at some pointthis belief served us and it did
, and it served us well.
And now the question is doesthis belief still serve me?
Maybe it does in some aspectsand in other times it doesn't.
And it's to have thatself-awareness, and because I
think it's important that werecognize that anything that
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we're talking about here isn'tdon't paint with too broad of a
brush here.
There's every scenario willbring up a different, different
things to consider, and so Ilike the direction that you're
going with this and having usreally consider what's going on
for us first in order to takethat next step.
And so that really leads meinto your book.
I love the book 88 ActionableInsights for Life, but it's got
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a ton of advice in there.
But tell me about what inspiredyou to write this book and give
us one insight that you believewould be the most profound
impact on someone's life fromthat book.
Speaker 3 (27:55):
I know that last question is a difficult one and
you know it, but the book is.
Is here the 88 actionableinsights.
What inspired me to write?
It's a great question, and that, again, I wanted to write a
book for a long time years.
I had never an idea of what towrite about.
So once I started doing thepodcast my podcast personal
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development mastery after acouple of years I realized that
I had enough material purelyfrom my podcast to somehow
convert into a book.
However, I still didn't knowwhat to do with it and then one
day, literally it came to me,alan, it really came to me.
I was just looking at mybookshelf and I discovered a
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book that I had for years thatit said something like oh, I
remember the title was 100Property Investing Tips.
So that guy had collated tipsfrom different person and you
could pick them up and dosomething.
If you invest in property, youcould use these tips.
And I had that book for yearsand that particular day, I got
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inspired Ah, I can write 100personal development tips.
I don't need to put any orderin them, it's just.
That's very easy.
Eventually, that 100 became 88.
And that, in a way, again wasit came to me that number and I
thought okay, then if it comesto me, there must be a reason.
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So I left it at 88 and then Inarrowed down the focus rather
than tips, because not manypeople especially.
Personal development is not asexy topic.
As the title personaldevelopment there is also some
bad rap about it from some side,so I didn't want to use that.
(29:46):
I decided to put actionableinsights because it is exactly
that.
It is things that the readercan take and pick up.
If they resonate with him, hecan pick it up and implement in
their life, because self-masteryand personal development
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require action.
It's not about reading.
You can read every single bookthere is on there.
If you don't do anything withthe knowledge, nothing changes.
It is not about how muchinformation you have in your
head.
That's useless if you don't doanything.
So that's why my book hasactionable insights, so that
they are, they can beimplemented straight away.
(30:30):
And you asked me about one.
I will tell you one that it,for me, has made a profound
effect in my journey and manyother people, I'm sure.
When I tell you what it is, yousay oh, yes, of course, and
that is morning routine.
Having a morning routine Inever had before, not a
conscious morning routine anywayI did have.
(30:52):
Every one of us has a morningroutine, but for most people
it's not an intentional,empowering morning routine.
They might wake up and turn onthe TV and watch the news, for
example which is one of theworst things you could do,
probably or scroll on socialmedia immediately.
So having a consistent and whenI say consistent I don't mean
(31:13):
rigid.
There was always flexibility,because life happens.
But consistency means daily, asthe name says, daily routine.
So even if I have to shorten itdown to 10-15 minutes because I
don't have time that day, Iwill still do some elements of
it, and I will mention brieflymeditation is one of them,
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journaling is another, some sortof physical exercise like yoga
or push-ups or whatever it isthat is in my schedule or in my
desire anyway for that day, andsome other elements like that
that I have realized that theyreally set the tone for the day
(31:56):
ahead.
For the day ahead, and when youstart the day in a good way,
there are much morepossibilities that your day will
be a good day, a productive day, a successful day, rather than
starting with what we say.
A bad day starts from thebeginning.
Then everything gets to worse.
So that time in the morning isthe probably only opportunity
(32:19):
that each of us has to be incontrol of their day, before the
children wake up, before we goto the office, before anything
else.
Then it's not up to us.
We don't know what life willthrow at us, but that half an
hour in the morning, or whateveryou choose to devote to that,
is truly yours and it can reallychange your life.
Speaker 1 (32:40):
I agree with you there, agi on that, that makes
total sense.
And when I find the days that Idon't dedicate my routine, my
morning routine, to doing atleast parts of it and I'm glad
to hear you say that it's aboutbeing consistent, not rigid.
There are individuals out inthe world today that are very
structured and that's just partof their makeup.
For somebody like me, I havefour or five different parts to
it today that are verystructured and they can do and
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that's just part of their makeup.
For somebody like me, I havefour or five different parts to
it.
Sometimes it's all they allparticipate.
I do all of it, other timesit's just part of it.
But one thing that is the goalis to be consistent and
appreciate that to that insightfor sure I remember looking at
your go ahead I will add.
Speaker 3 (33:18):
So I will add very quickly there is one of those 88
actionable insights that talksabout the minimum morning
routine.
Yeah, absolutely so.
I will just say that I wasnoticing on your website.
Speaker 1 (33:27):
You have a picture of yourself and you're standing
beside a stack of books almostas tall as you are, and
obviously these are probablysome pretty profound books, and
so I'm not sure if you're inbetween books right now, or if
there's one on a nightstand.
My question for you is whatbook has had the most impact for
you in your life?
Speaker 3 (33:47):
There are quite a few , actually, and again, trying to
find the one that had the mostimpact is probably an impossible
question, but I will tell youone of the most impactful ones
that it was how to Win Friendsand Influence People Dale
Carnegie, which I read when Iwas 41 I think 41 years old and
(34:09):
I thought, oh my god, why did Inot read that book as a teenager
?
It would have changed my lifeand how I interact with people.
So, yeah, I can't recommendthat book enough.
It's been for almost a hundredyears now.
I think it is an all-timeclassic, definitely a fantastic
book.
Speaker 1 (34:29):
The skills that there are there, agreed, I agree,
they should be teaching thosethings in school, carnegie also
from his work there also hadspeaking courses and leadership
courses, and that was one of thebooks that made a profound
difference for me.
The other one was Augmentino ismy favorite author, and he wrote
a book called the University ofSuccess and it sits on in my
(34:51):
office because it's 50, I thinkit's 50 of the greatest books
ever written.
Some of them are the entirebook, like the Richest man in
Babylon, and others are keypoints out of it, but the key of
it the way he set that up isbasically takes you from really
being this child, this infantyour first steps into
understanding who you are tobecoming a master of your life,
(35:13):
and so I'm always curious to seemy guests how their journey has
transformed and how the booksin their lives have done that.
And so the next question I havefor you is about mentors and
it's about getting advice, and Iknow that you coach and you
lead others, but this is reallyabout, for you, what has been
the best or a profound piece ofadvice that you've been given
(35:36):
throughout your life and thathas made an impact and is still
using you, and you're stillusing it today.
Speaker 3 (35:40):
Mentors?
Yes, of course, it's anabsolutely essential part of the
journey and we all have mentors, sometimes unknowingly because
we haven't really thought thatthese people actually mentor us.
But when you become intentionalabout the mentoring and you
choose and that's, I think, thegreat power of it is that you
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can choose.
And when I say mentor, when wesay mentors, it doesn't have to
be a physical, not even physicalpresence.
You can watch someone's YouTubechannel and be mentored by them
and learn things that the otherperson already has been through
, has experienced, and they knowthem well enough to teach.
And then, when they teach it,they basically accelerate your
(36:22):
journey because you don't repeatthe same mistakes.
You have a path, shall we sayso mentors are of tremendous
value.
As for piece of advice, there,are so many that I'm struggling
to find one to share us somekind of piece of advice that I
got from mentors as a statement.
Speaker 1 (36:44):
I know they can be very when you have mentors.
I like what you said there aswell, because when you have
mentors or people are in yourlife, you don't necessarily at
the time see them as mentor, butthere was a lesson that they
were there to teach us, and thenwe recognize it after and then
it comes back when we do thatintrospection.
And so I really like how you'vebecause no one's ever said that
(37:05):
before about sometimes thementors are in our life when we
don't realize that they are thatserving that role.
When I think of your story andreally, even though, as you said
, your mother was a dentist, butat some point that is
mentorship right, it's thatleading and it was serving you
well.
And then moving into the UK, Ijust can't.
(37:29):
I said I moved one province afew hundred miles away.
You moved a few thousand, likeyou were truly on your own, and
the people you must haveencountered at that time in
starting your life over in theUK must have been pretty
profound as well.
Speaker 3 (37:43):
The language was different.
Everything it was an adventure.
I always saw it.
Since you bring it up again, Ialways saw it as something
positive.
It was not a path with a redcarpet on no, far from it.
I was very much challenged.
There were times that Istruggled and I had difficulties
(38:06):
, and absolutely, but I neverfocused on those because I
focused on what's good about thechange that I had in my life
that guided me through.
Speaker 1 (38:16):
You know, agi, of everything that we talked about
today, and maybe there wassomething we didn't get a chance
to touch on.
What would be the one takeawayyou'd want our listeners to have
?
Speaker 3 (38:24):
to the world.
It is how I express my purposevia the podcast, personal
Development Mastery, which is toinspire people to take some
(38:47):
action, to inspire positivechange, to inspire them to take
a kind of action to change theirlife, to improve their life.
Anyway, forget about change,that's up to the individual, but
to improve their life andanyone listening to us right now
for sure they want to improvetheir life and that's why
they're listening to that.
So that's really what I wouldlike to add.
(39:08):
So, if someone has enjoyed thisconversation, there is a lot of
topics that I cover on mypodcast on how to be a better
person or be a better man.
Speaker 1 (39:20):
Love, that Absolutely A phenomenal podcast Personal
Development Mastery.
We want to make sure that folksget a chance to reach out to
you on there, but as we wrapthings up today, I just want to
say thank you so much forhelping us really understand
about owning our lives, trustingour intuition and moving
forward with actionable steps.
That allows us to really live afulfilling life.
And so, besides the podcastyour personal mastery podcast
(39:44):
what's another way that men canget a hold of you, reach out and
get in touch with your content?
Speaker 3 (39:49):
You can find me on social media and feel free to
message me.
I'm very approachable.
Tell me you found me fromAlain's podcast and I will be
very happy to connect with you.
You will find me easily.
My name is quite unique, Onceyou find out how to type it
there is no other person.
Speaker 1 (40:09):
I'm going to make sure all of your social handles
are in today's episode, as wellas an opportunity to get out and
get your pick up your book.
Your book is really profound.
Love the way you've structuredit so folks can get a chance to
get out and spend some time withyou.
Once again, thank you so muchfor being on the show.
I truly enjoyed ourconversation today.
Speaker 3 (40:25):
Thank you for the invitation.
So did I.
Speaker 2 (40:36):
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crossing the finish line toliving a purposeful life.
Yet the hunger still exists,albeit buried amidst his
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longer serve him.
It's time to align yourself forgreatness.
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It's time to become arevolutionary man.
Stay strong, my brother.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Welcome everyone to the Revolutionary man Podcast.
I'm the founder of the Awakenedman Movement and your host,
alan DeMonso.
Let me ask you have you everquestioned whether the path
you're on is truly your own orsimply the one laid out before
you by others?
What would it take for you tostep into a life that feels
aligned with your deepestcallings, and how often do you
(02:28):
truly trust your intuition overlogic, societal expectations?
So what changes or could unfoldin your life if you let your
intuition guide you just alittle bit more often?
You know it requires courage toquestion the path that you're
on and to overcome limitingbeliefs that hold you back and
to reprogram your mind forself-mastery.
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But imagine the possibilitieswhen you do, when you step out
of the shadows of expectationsand into the light.
And it's not just aboutachieving success in the
traditional sense.
It's about finding fulfillmentand living life that resonates
with your true self, and just asit did for my guest today.
So allow me to introduce myguest.
Dr Aji Karamaitis is originallyfrom Greece and has been living
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in the UK since 2010, and hispersonal development journey has
taken him from a dentist with amaster's degree to becoming a
podcaster, knowledge broker andan author and, despite his
formal education and being acritical thinker, he's a big
believer in the immense power ofself-education and, at the same
time, deeply being deeplyspiritual.
He's the author of 88actionable insights for life and
(03:35):
the host of the personaldevelopment mastery podcast, and
his mission is to inspire anaudience to stand out to take
action toward living apurposeful and fulfilling life.
Welcome to the show, agi.
How are you, my friend?
Speaker 3 (03:48):
Alain, it's such a pleasure to be here.
Thank you so much and I willsay straight away I appreciate
how you prefaced this with yourintroduction, this conversation,
it is incredible.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Yes, and I as well.
I'm so grateful to be able tocome across touch past in this
journey of being a podcaster andhosting so many profound people
on my show, and you're anotherone of those individuals and I
just love your story and is here.
We talk a lot about everyonebeing on their own hero's quest
or their hero's journey, and so,while I tickled everybody with
(04:22):
a little bit of your story, dotell us about that time in your
life when you knew things werejust weren't great and what did
you do about that, and how didthat experience shape you into
the man you are today and thework you're doing?
Speaker 3 (04:33):
It's a great way to start, and there have been two
distinct periods like that in mylife, and I will start with the
one.
That is the first one, and inmany ways it led to the second
one that happened a few yearsafterwards.
That was I'm greek originally.
I grew up and started to be adentist as my mom, and after a
(04:55):
few years of working there, Irealized that my life was really
not I how I wanted it to be,and I don't mean externally,
because on the outside it wouldlook like I'm doing really well.
I had my dental practice, I wasengaged to be married, I had my
family support me and so on butinside I felt empty.
(05:17):
Really, I felt like this is notwhat I want to do.
I didn't want to, in a way,repeat the kind of life that my
parents had living in myhometown.
It was something that didn'tfeel right for me.
I was in my 30s, early-mid-30sat that time and it took me a
(05:39):
long time to realize that thisfeeling that I was feeling was
actually a calling for somethingelse.
And the reason why I wasfeeling discontent with what I
was doing was not because I washating it or anything like that.
It was because I had adifferent path or purpose, if
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you want to be discovered oruncovered in the future.
So after it took a while, butafter a long deliberation, I
decided to leave my home country, greece, and move to the UK.
Because of that, as I said, acalling.
It was like I felt somethingdrawing me there.
(06:22):
Everything about England wasfascinating to me for some
reason.
I couldn't explain it, but Itook all this as a sign that
there's something for me toexplore.
At the very least, if not findsomething there, I took the
decision to leave behind my lifeas I knew it in Greece, my home
(06:42):
country, my family, my fiancé,my dental practice, everything
basically.
So I got two suitcases and aone-way ticket to England, where
I had already an offer to workas a dentist there.
So in a new country, newenvironment, on my own.
So that was a very and I willwill answer because I liked very
(07:06):
much.
One thing that you asked inyour question about this
transition was how has thatshaped me as a man?
And for me that was probablythe most important thing I have
done, for that has shaped me asa man, simply because I realized
very soon after I changedcountry, that I must rely on
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myself and that gave me a lot ofconfidence because I had to
deal with everything on my own.
I couldn't call on my mom andsay, can you help me, or
whatever.
Everything was up to me.
And taking on thatresponsibility gave me a great
deal of tools and mental toolsto face on other things
(07:54):
afterwards.
But yeah, that is in a nutshellwhat the transition that was 15
years ago.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Thank you so much for sharing that, Agi.
What I find so inspiring aboutyour story is similar to now.
I didn't have as big a move asyou did, but similar to your
story when I was a young mancoming out of culinary school.
I was fortunate enough to finda role for me to jump into, but
it wasn't in my hometown or evenin my home province and I had
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to move away.
And I can remember making thatdecision to take on this new
career and to take that role.
And, similar to what you said,this is if I'm going to make it,
I'm going to make it on my own.
And now I didn't have some ofthe other pieces on to deal with
, like a fiance.
Yes, my parents, I think, werehappy about me getting on my
(08:43):
career, but talk a little bitabout the impact on that.
We understand a little bit onthe impact for you, but what
about your family and yourfiance and having to deal with
that as well?
Because I think at times men ingeneral will not make a hard
decision like that because theywant to protect.
Speaker 3 (09:03):
So let's talk a little bit about that aspect of
this transition I love yourquestion, Len, and it's
something that I'm not surewhether I have spoken about this
before.
So it's great.
There are two separate elements.
My parents are very supportive,so I'm really grateful for that
.
They saw that I was passionateabout it.
They also saw that I had a joboffer in the UK, so I was not
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going as a refugee.
It was something thateverything was ready for me.
I just needed to work, fulfillmy commitment, my professional
commitment.
So they did support me and Iwas blessed.
My fiancée, on the other hand,was very different, because she
did not want to change countries.
She was happy living the lifethat I was unhappy living.
(09:53):
She wanted to be close to herfamily.
She had a secure, stable joband she wanted to keep that.
That led us to split up.
And the important thing here,of course, that was very
difficult for me.
I still remember the last timeI saw her.
I didn't think that the personcould cry so much as I saw her
(10:15):
crying.
So that image of her remainedwith me and, to be honest, it
took me many years and I'mopening up here and then
straight away because it is deepit took me many years to get
over that feeling of guilt thatI had for a series of years that
I left her behind and I didwhat I wanted to do and I ruined
(10:39):
her life or whatever thoughtswere coming up that were
creating guilt.
So I think that is an importantthing to discuss here and I do
believe now, in hindsight andnow that I have made peace with
what has happened, that this wasfor the best interest of
everyone.
So it was not.
(10:59):
I did not.
Yes, she went through pain, alot of pain at that time when
she saw me move on my own to adifferent country, but on the
other hand, that the life thatshe wanted to live and, from
what I learned afterwards, shedid that.
She did the kind of marriageand family that she wanted to
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have.
So it was necessary for her togo through that emotional pain.
So I think everyone in the endand that's really what I'm now
on reflection each of us is inthe end, responsible for their
own life and actions, and ifsomeone will get hurt for a
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period of time as a result ofthat, I think that's part of
life.
Hurt for a period of time as aresult of that, I think that's
part of life.
At the moment, I see it thatwhen you do it with the right
intentions, you do not want tohurt the other person, there is
no malice involved.
It's just I won't follow mydream.
I'm inviting you to come withme.
You don't, because you havedifferent dreams.
Obviously our lives are not togo parallel from now on.
(12:04):
It went for a few years now.
It is like that, and that'slife really.
With all human relationships,some of them are for a short
time, some for longer, some forforever, and we don't know that
in the beginning.
It sure is.
Thank you so much for beingvulnerable and open and sharing
that with us because I think it.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
it is important for our listeners to understand that
, as I said in the part of theintro, there will come this time
when you will hit a wall.
Your wall was deciding tofollow your calling or not to do
that, and that doesn't meanthese decisions are ever going
to be easy.
That doesn't mean thesedecisions are ever going to be
easy.
People may get hurt most likelywill but it also is the best
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decision for all.
And she had the opportunity.
Her fiancé got the opportunityto live story is that when there
are tough times, then we haveto make difficult decisions.
That, as men, were called to dothat, and when we do it with
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compassion and with care andthought, then we can still make
those decisions what's best forall.
And so thank you so much forsharing that.
And I wanted to pivot a littlebit and talk about what you talk
about in your bio, about reallytransforming yourself from this
shy individual to beingcomfortable doing public
speaking and even being apodcaster.
(13:33):
So what were some of the keysteps that you took to overcome
your discomfort in these socialsituations?
Speaker 3 (13:40):
Good question, and the discomfort in the social
situations was also one of thereasons that I wanted to change,
and I will backtrack a littlebit and tell you about this.
It was a few years.
To continue the story, a fewyears after I was living in the
UK, I enrolled to do a master'sdegree in dentistry.
(14:05):
So I did a master's degree andI had just turned 40 at that
time, which, as many of us know,especially the ones that have
experienced it there are thingsthat change in a man's life, not
only a man's, in a woman's lifealso, but for men, certainly
around that age, there issomething happening.
(14:25):
So we can go into that or not,but it's okay.
For me, what happened was thatI found myself finishing this
master's degree, graduating, andinstead of feeling super
motivated and pumped to practicethis very high-end knowledge
that I had acquired and do allthose things with my patients, I
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found myself completely theopposite.
I was not interested, I did notwant to do any of that.
I was feeling the word thatcomes to mind is directionless,
or like I'm just spinning thewheel and nothing is really
happening the way that I want to.
So my first to all that is thatthere must be something wrong
(15:08):
with me Because really, rightnow, this is again on the
outside.
This is success.
I had rebuilt a new life and anew career in the UK instead of
Greece, but I found myself in asimilar situation and initially
I started wondering what's wrongwith myself.
Thank goodness I didn't stay inthat mode for too long, because
(15:31):
then I started looking foranswers, and that's something
that, at the very least least,the master's degree helped me
with developing a criticalthinking and some self-awareness
, so I could look inside foranswers rather than trying to
find out what of my externalenvironment it is that is
causing that.
So led me to personaldevelopment.
(15:54):
I started reading books.
I went to some.
Eventually, I went to a TonyRobbins event in 2017.
And that's when a big shifthappened to me and, to bring it
to what you asked me originallyin your question, what happened
at that event was that all mylife until then, I was always
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very reserved and shy and closedperson with other people,
especially people I didn't know.
Actually, being reserved is oneway to put it.
I was very uncomfortable.
That is the truth and I alwayshave believed that.
This is who I am.
It's my character.
I am a shy person, an identity.
I didn't think of it like that,in those terms at that time,
(16:39):
but now I can.
At that Tony Robbins event Irealized very clearly, with a
very huge emotional reaction Ihad during the process, that
crying on the floor for one hourit was very intense, but I
realized anyway.
The point was that I realizedthat this was not who I am, the
(17:02):
shyness this was only merely aset of limiting beliefs.
Again, I didn't know they werecalled limiting beliefs at that
time.
At that time I realized thatthere was a voice at the back of
my head, because that's what itwas.
It was a thought or a voicethat was saying literally agi,
people are not interested inwhat you have to say.
(17:23):
So there was that dialogue, buton a subtle level.
It was not a loud voice, but itwas every time I would find
myself in a situation withpeople that I didn't know I that
would be triggered and then youwould see Aggie feeling
uncomfortable, not sayinganything.
I remember being in an elevatorwith a person that I didn't
(17:47):
know.
I felt terrible.
I felt so because I thought Ididn't want to speak and I don't
mean it.
Anyway, there are many exampleslike that.
To demonstrate how I was, I willtell you one more quickly.
The first time I went to anetworking event, someone pushed
me, said you have to go.
There was a speech in thebeginning, so I sat down and
watched the speech.
(18:07):
It was very interesting.
And then the presenter said andnow it's time for networking,
so we will have 10 minutes foreveryone to go and meet someone
else.
I went to the toiletimmediately and spent 10 minutes
in the toilet until I made surethat networking thing had
finished to return back to theroom.
That's how uncomfortable it was.
When I realized that this was alimiting voice at the back of
(18:29):
my head, then that was the veryfirst step.
I think it was that awarenessthat, wow, this is what's
causing it and I realized thatthis is not how I want to live
the rest of my life.
I have something of valueinside me to share.
And then one thing led to theother, and then I found myself
in a public speaking course,which was the thing that took me
(18:51):
completely out of my comfortzone.
But I realized also that thiswas exactly what I needed to do.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
Lots of profound changes happen at Tony Robbins
events and, obviously, takingsome public speaking courses to
really help us.
And really what I'm some of thetakeaway I'm getting from
hearing you talk about issomething else that you wrote
about in your book, and that'sreally about trusting our
intuition.
We keep referencing this voiceas something was guiding you
(19:19):
along, and so why is it?
Do you think that we don'ttrust that our intuition, we
don't trust that voice?
What does it really take for usto start to do that and trust
and take action?
Speaker 3 (19:37):
I think the main reason that many people do not
trust it is that they have notlearned, but I would dare say
they have been conditioned inmany ways, especially in some
Western countries like the UNID,not to trust it and to put
logic and reason aboveeverything else.
(19:58):
So you have to make a decision,so you want to make a decision,
you do a pros and cons and puteverything in.
It has to be logic and I thinka big reason why many of us
don't trust is because theydon't know it, they don't
recognize it or they don'tbelieve its value.
They don't recognize it or theydon't believe its value.
(20:19):
The thing with trusting it's adifficult thing to explain
because there is no logic behindit.
It is some kind of a decisionyou make that there is something
that I will trust and I willfollow, and with intuition,
that's something.
It is not abstract and I dobelieve that all of us have felt
(20:42):
it.
It might not have been a veryloud or clear voice and actually
the word voice I don't think itis.
In my experience anyway, theword it is not a voice.
The intuition, it's more like aknowing and it's always it's a
heart, or it comes from theheart or it bubbles up from the.
(21:04):
It is not like a thought.
So that's how I, at least frommy experience, that's how it
feels, the intuition, the, if Ican say, characteristic that
helps me recognize it.
And from others I've spoken,they agree it has a optimistic
or think or good feeling,outcome or whatever.
(21:27):
It is annoying, that has apositive let's say positive
energy about.
It is not the other side, whichis the, the rational mind or
the fear that will appear whenit is a thought.
It has a different can call itvibration.
It has a different energy,shall we say, than intuitive I
(21:50):
was about to say voice, but itis annoying again, I would say.
So I think to answer yourquestion, recognizing that and
becoming aware of it more andmore is the first step, because
you won't trust it before youactually recognize that there is
something there.
For me, I think that's thefirst step to do Listen to it
and when you feel it, perhapswrite it down.
(22:13):
That's what I felt.
You don't even have to doanything about it if you want to
improve this connection withyour intuition.
When you feel something thatcould be intuition, put it on,
write it down and then look atthem and see.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
I would completely agree with you, the moments of
intuition that come.
For me, you're right, right,it's not really a voice at all.
I was going to say it's almostlike a nudge, which is something
just to go do something, andit's just, and it isn't more of
a knowing, a knowing of it.
The annoying side of it is thatvoice at least from my
(22:52):
experience, and it's usually nota helpful voice, it's a tend to
be negative and I alwaysassociate that with my ego
trying to protect me, trying toprotect itself, because it's
uncomfortable of what it doesn'tknow.
And so just taking theopportunity and I like the idea
of just writing it down andtaking a moment and looking at
(23:14):
what is being called up from youand really this ties into the
other part that you've beentalking about also so far today
is all of us having theselimiting beliefs, and it's lots
of the work that we do here,here at the Waken man, is
helping men unpack the limitingbeliefs, and they don't
necessarily see them as that.
So I just say let's just talkabout your beliefs, and beliefs
(23:36):
around money, your beliefsaround your profession, about
who you are, as you were talkingabout and then through those
conversations we start to seewhere the limitations are.
Some of them are pretty broad,like they don't have a lot of
framework around it, but othertimes it's really.
The box is really tight.
So let's talk a little bitabout how these beliefs get so
ingrained to us and what aresome significant ways that we
(24:00):
can use to help overcome themand really change our lives.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
I think where they come from is childhood sabotage
one in their tracks.
I believe they come from ourchildhood up to I think it's
seven years, where we developthat part of the brain and they
get absorbed.
So that's a big topic on itsown.
To where they come from andwhat can we do to eliminate them
(24:32):
from that level, but that isprobably a different
conversation.
I'm not really the mostappropriate person to give those
answers on dealing with thesethings, but bringing it to the
actual limiting beliefs thathave formed and we are all
adults now listening, sayingabout intuition is to become
aware of them, of the beliefsthat we have, and there are
(25:02):
beautiful exercises I'm sure youdo those with your clients.
There are online resources thatcan help you recognize these
beliefs that you have in a veryclear manner.
Then you look at them andthat's based on the answers that
you had given.
So I think the first necessaryingredient for that is
(25:25):
self-inquiry, the desire to lookinside and figure things out.
Otherwise, the moment you say,okay, I need to do that work.
Let me see what are the beliefsthat drive my behavior, that
drive my results in life,because it all starts from
beliefs, from thoughts orpatterns of thoughts by getting
(25:46):
the desire to investigate that.
Then you start looking insideand then you realize the beliefs
and whether it's many of thebeliefs that we have that are
limiting now at some pointearlier in our lives they were
not limited.
None of us chooses to havelimiting beliefs.
(26:08):
We keep them on because at somepoint in the past they served
us one way or the other, evenwhen we were children.
But I'm sure since that timeeach of us have practiced their
limiting beliefs in variousscenarios in life, so they have
established them very well.
So let's recognize them firstand look at them.
(26:30):
And one way that I like lookingat beliefs rather than using
the term limiting, which I thinkit's not the most appropriate
term to describe them.
What I prefer to do instead iswhen I have my beliefs, do I say
does this belief serve me ordoes it not serve me anymore?
(26:50):
I don't have to label them aslimiting, because that maybe
creates other feelings of guilt,or I love that idea.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
We talk a lot about that as well, about how you
mentioned, maybe at some pointthis belief served us and it did
, and it served us well.
And now the question is doesthis belief still serve me?
Maybe it does in some aspectsand in other times it doesn't.
And it's to have thatself-awareness, and because I
think it's important that werecognize that anything that
(27:21):
we're talking about here isn'tdon't paint with too broad of a
brush here.
There's every scenario willbring up a different, different
things to consider, and so Ilike the direction that you're
going with this and having usreally consider what's going on
for us first in order to takethat next step.
And so that really leads meinto your book.
I love the book 88 ActionableInsights for Life, but it's got
(27:44):
a ton of advice in there.
But tell me about what inspiredyou to write this book and give
us one insight that you believewould be the most profound
impact on someone's life fromthat book.
Speaker 3 (27:55):
I know that last question is a difficult one and
you know it, but the book is.
Is here the 88 actionableinsights.
What inspired me to write?
It's a great question, and that, again, I wanted to write a
book for a long time years.
I had never an idea of what towrite about.
So once I started doing thepodcast my podcast personal
(28:18):
development mastery after acouple of years I realized that
I had enough material purelyfrom my podcast to somehow
convert into a book.
However, I still didn't knowwhat to do with it and then one
day, literally it came to me,alan, it really came to me.
I was just looking at mybookshelf and I discovered a
(28:40):
book that I had for years thatit said something like oh, I
remember the title was 100Property Investing Tips.
So that guy had collated tipsfrom different person and you
could pick them up and dosomething.
If you invest in property, youcould use these tips.
And I had that book for yearsand that particular day, I got
(29:05):
inspired Ah, I can write 100personal development tips.
I don't need to put any orderin them, it's just.
That's very easy.
Eventually, that 100 became 88.
And that, in a way, again wasit came to me that number and I
thought okay, then if it comesto me, there must be a reason.
(29:26):
So I left it at 88 and then Inarrowed down the focus rather
than tips, because not manypeople especially.
Personal development is not asexy topic.
As the title personaldevelopment there is also some
bad rap about it from some side,so I didn't want to use that.
(29:46):
I decided to put actionableinsights because it is exactly
that.
It is things that the readercan take and pick up.
If they resonate with him, hecan pick it up and implement in
their life, because self-masteryand personal development
(30:08):
require action.
It's not about reading.
You can read every single bookthere is on there.
If you don't do anything withthe knowledge, nothing changes.
It is not about how muchinformation you have in your
head.
That's useless if you don't doanything.
So that's why my book hasactionable insights, so that
they are, they can beimplemented straight away.
(30:30):
And you asked me about one.
I will tell you one that it,for me, has made a profound
effect in my journey and manyother people, I'm sure.
When I tell you what it is, yousay oh, yes, of course, and
that is morning routine.
Having a morning routine Inever had before, not a
conscious morning routine anywayI did have.
(30:52):
Every one of us has a morningroutine, but for most people
it's not an intentional,empowering morning routine.
They might wake up and turn onthe TV and watch the news, for
example which is one of theworst things you could do,
probably or scroll on socialmedia immediately.
So having a consistent and whenI say consistent I don't mean
(31:13):
rigid.
There was always flexibility,because life happens.
But consistency means daily, asthe name says, daily routine.
So even if I have to shorten itdown to 10-15 minutes because I
don't have time that day, Iwill still do some elements of
it, and I will mention brieflymeditation is one of them,
(31:36):
journaling is another, some sortof physical exercise like yoga
or push-ups or whatever it isthat is in my schedule or in my
desire anyway for that day, andsome other elements like that
that I have realized that theyreally set the tone for the day
(31:56):
ahead.
For the day ahead, and when youstart the day in a good way,
there are much morepossibilities that your day will
be a good day, a productive day, a successful day, rather than
starting with what we say.
A bad day starts from thebeginning.
Then everything gets to worse.
So that time in the morning isthe probably only opportunity
(32:19):
that each of us has to be incontrol of their day, before the
children wake up, before we goto the office, before anything
else.
Then it's not up to us.
We don't know what life willthrow at us, but that half an
hour in the morning, or whateveryou choose to devote to that,
is truly yours and it can reallychange your life.
Speaker 1 (32:40):
I agree with you there, agi on that, that makes
total sense.
And when I find the days that Idon't dedicate my routine, my
morning routine, to doing atleast parts of it and I'm glad
to hear you say that it's aboutbeing consistent, not rigid.
There are individuals out inthe world today that are very
structured and that's just partof their makeup.
For somebody like me, I havefour or five different parts to
it today that are verystructured and they can do and
(33:01):
that's just part of their makeup.
For somebody like me, I havefour or five different parts to
it.
Sometimes it's all they allparticipate.
I do all of it, other timesit's just part of it.
But one thing that is the goalis to be consistent and
appreciate that to that insightfor sure I remember looking at
your go ahead I will add.
Speaker 3 (33:18):
So I will add very quickly there is one of those 88
actionable insights that talksabout the minimum morning
routine.
Yeah, absolutely so.
I will just say that I wasnoticing on your website.
Speaker 1 (33:27):
You have a picture of yourself and you're standing
beside a stack of books almostas tall as you are, and
obviously these are probablysome pretty profound books, and
so I'm not sure if you're inbetween books right now, or if
there's one on a nightstand.
My question for you is whatbook has had the most impact for
you in your life?
Speaker 3 (33:47):
There are quite a few , actually, and again, trying to
find the one that had the mostimpact is probably an impossible
question, but I will tell youone of the most impactful ones
that it was how to Win Friendsand Influence People Dale
Carnegie, which I read when Iwas 41 I think 41 years old and
(34:09):
I thought, oh my god, why did Inot read that book as a teenager
?
It would have changed my lifeand how I interact with people.
So, yeah, I can't recommendthat book enough.
It's been for almost a hundredyears now.
I think it is an all-timeclassic, definitely a fantastic
book.
Speaker 1 (34:29):
The skills that there are there, agreed, I agree,
they should be teaching thosethings in school, carnegie also
from his work there also hadspeaking courses and leadership
courses, and that was one of thebooks that made a profound
difference for me.
The other one was Augmentino ismy favorite author, and he wrote
a book called the University ofSuccess and it sits on in my
(34:51):
office because it's 50, I thinkit's 50 of the greatest books
ever written.
Some of them are the entirebook, like the Richest man in
Babylon, and others are keypoints out of it, but the key of
it the way he set that up isbasically takes you from really
being this child, this infantyour first steps into
understanding who you are tobecoming a master of your life,
(35:13):
and so I'm always curious to seemy guests how their journey has
transformed and how the booksin their lives have done that.
And so the next question I havefor you is about mentors and
it's about getting advice, and Iknow that you coach and you
lead others, but this is reallyabout, for you, what has been
the best or a profound piece ofadvice that you've been given
(35:36):
throughout your life and thathas made an impact and is still
using you, and you're stillusing it today.
Speaker 3 (35:40):
Mentors?
Yes, of course, it's anabsolutely essential part of the
journey and we all have mentors, sometimes unknowingly because
we haven't really thought thatthese people actually mentor us.
But when you become intentionalabout the mentoring and you
choose and that's, I think, thegreat power of it is that you
(36:01):
can choose.
And when I say mentor, when wesay mentors, it doesn't have to
be a physical, not even physicalpresence.
You can watch someone's YouTubechannel and be mentored by them
and learn things that the otherperson already has been through
, has experienced, and they knowthem well enough to teach.
And then, when they teach it,they basically accelerate your
(36:22):
journey because you don't repeatthe same mistakes.
You have a path, shall we sayso mentors are of tremendous
value.
As for piece of advice, there,are so many that I'm struggling
to find one to share us somekind of piece of advice that I
got from mentors as a statement.
Speaker 1 (36:44):
I know they can be very when you have mentors.
I like what you said there aswell, because when you have
mentors or people are in yourlife, you don't necessarily at
the time see them as mentor, butthere was a lesson that they
were there to teach us, and thenwe recognize it after and then
it comes back when we do thatintrospection.
And so I really like how you'vebecause no one's ever said that
(37:05):
before about sometimes thementors are in our life when we
don't realize that they are thatserving that role.
When I think of your story andreally, even though, as you said
, your mother was a dentist, butat some point that is
mentorship right, it's thatleading and it was serving you
well.
And then moving into the UK, Ijust can't.
(37:29):
I said I moved one province afew hundred miles away.
You moved a few thousand, likeyou were truly on your own, and
the people you must haveencountered at that time in
starting your life over in theUK must have been pretty
profound as well.
Speaker 3 (37:43):
The language was different.
Everything it was an adventure.
I always saw it.
Since you bring it up again, Ialways saw it as something
positive.
It was not a path with a redcarpet on no, far from it.
I was very much challenged.
There were times that Istruggled and I had difficulties
(38:06):
, and absolutely, but I neverfocused on those because I
focused on what's good about thechange that I had in my life
that guided me through.
Speaker 1 (38:16):
You know, agi, of everything that we talked about
today, and maybe there wassomething we didn't get a chance
to touch on.
What would be the one takeawayyou'd want our listeners to have
?
Speaker 3 (38:24):
to the world.
It is how I express my purposevia the podcast, personal
Development Mastery, which is toinspire people to take some
(38:47):
action, to inspire positivechange, to inspire them to take
a kind of action to change theirlife, to improve their life.
Anyway, forget about change,that's up to the individual, but
to improve their life andanyone listening to us right now
for sure they want to improvetheir life and that's why
they're listening to that.
So that's really what I wouldlike to add.
(39:08):
So, if someone has enjoyed thisconversation, there is a lot of
topics that I cover on mypodcast on how to be a better
person or be a better man.
Speaker 1 (39:20):
Love, that Absolutely A phenomenal podcast Personal
Development Mastery.
We want to make sure that folksget a chance to reach out to
you on there, but as we wrapthings up today, I just want to
say thank you so much forhelping us really understand
about owning our lives, trustingour intuition and moving
forward with actionable steps.
That allows us to really live afulfilling life.
And so, besides the podcastyour personal mastery podcast
(39:44):
what's another way that men canget a hold of you, reach out and
get in touch with your content?
Speaker 3 (39:49):
You can find me on social media and feel free to
message me.
I'm very approachable.
Tell me you found me fromAlain's podcast and I will be
very happy to connect with you.
You will find me easily.
My name is quite unique, Onceyou find out how to type it
there is no other person.
Speaker 1 (40:09):
I'm going to make sure all of your social handles
are in today's episode, as wellas an opportunity to get out and
get your pick up your book.
Your book is really profound.
Love the way you've structuredit so folks can get a chance to
get out and spend some time withyou.
Once again, thank you so muchfor being on the show.
I truly enjoyed ourconversation today.
Speaker 3 (40:25):
Thank you for the invitation.
So did I.
Speaker 2 (40:36):
Thank you for listening to the Revolutionary
man podcast.
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you are listening to theRevolutionary man podcast?
Are you ready to own yourdestiny, to become more the man
you are destined to be?
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