September 23, 2025 • 28 mins
Have you ever felt like the person you once were no longer fits, yet the new version of you hasn’t fully arrived? That in-between space can feel unsettling, but it’s also a powerful sign: you’re in an identity shift.
In this episode, I share how to recognize the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs of a midlife shift and the four anchors you can lean on when everything feels uncertain. From faith to nervous system regulation, from embodying your future self to leaning on safe community, you’ll discover how to ground yourself while you rise.
✔️ What it really means when you outgrow old habits, roles, and relationships
✔️ Four anchors, faith, energy, identity, and community, that stabilize you during change
✔️ Why the in-between isn’t brokenness but holy ground for your midlife transformation
If you’ve been feeling restless, questioning old patterns, or craving more alignment, this conversation will remind you: you’re not losing yourself, you’re becoming.
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(00:00):
Welcome to the Rise to Shine podcast with Noel Custis where
we ignite the spark to discover your favorite self.
It is time to get real ladies. Hello, hello and welcome to the
Rise to Shine podcast. I'm your host, Noel Custis.
(00:20):
And today we are going to talk about something I have been
feeling deep, deep in my bones, not just this past week, but
really this past month. And I'm going to say the weight
of it has been especially heavy over these past few days.
And for context around that, I'mrecording this during a week
(00:43):
where the world feels so heavy. There have been more school
shootings. There was the sudden death of
Charlie Kirk and just so much tragedy that is swirling around
us. And I want to make this
perfectly clear. We're not going to get into
political beliefs or debates or anything like that.
(01:05):
That's not what this platform isabout.
But what we're going to be diving into today is the idea of
shifts, shifts in energy, in howwe are showing up, in how you
are operating differently in your life.
I'm only referencing what's happening in the world because
(01:28):
it stirred something in me that made me want to just go, OK,
we're, we're hitting record today because honestly, this
message has been on my heart fora while.
It's been kind of just brewing, stirring beneath the surface.
And this week, it just feels even more relevant.
(01:50):
And listen, I'm going to tell you, this can be with anything,
friend. This can be maybe how you're
showing up in your relationships.
Maybe it's how you parent now that your kids are older.
Maybe it's the way you respond to stress or the way you make
decisions in your business or your career shifts show up
(02:12):
everywhere in life. So today we're going to talk
about how to know when you're shifting and how to anchor
yourself when it feels like the ground beneath you might feel a
little unsteady. OK, so one of the biggest signs,
and I've learned this, of growthis when your old patterns just
(02:36):
don't fit anymore. So maybe, for instance, you
don't tolerate what you once did, or maybe you feel a new
level of peace even in the middle of a ton of chaos going
on around you. Or maybe you're noticing a
little bit of restlessness in places you once felt really
(02:57):
settled in. And sometimes it's a nudge that
you cannot ignore. It's that I always say it's that
inner whisper, right? That inner whisper that says
something's off, something's about to change.
I can't keep doing life like this.
I mean, these are some of the things that start to whisper in
(03:21):
your heart, in your spirit, in your head, your mind.
And it starts to show up in the little things.
So it could be maybe having a conversation with a friend that
used to drain you. But this time you walk away
thinking, I just don't have the energy for this anymore.
OK, I know that sounds harsh, but this is the reality of when
(03:44):
we start feeling that something is shifting.
It could be even the way that you suddenly realize you don't
need to defend yourself or proveyour worth at work, at home,
with family, and you just let itgo.
And then that feels very new, very foreign for you.
(04:06):
It could be even a moment where you catch yourself not spiraling
in anxiety like you used to and you think, whoa, I handled that
differently. That felt like a completely
different me. Shifts can even look like
outgrowing your own habits. So perhaps maybe the glass of
(04:28):
wine that used to calm you down it now just feels heavy, might
feel different for you. Maybe the hustle that wants to
find you now feels exhausting instead of the excitement you
used to get from it. Or maybe it's even the pull in
(04:49):
your spirit that says I am meantfor something more.
I don't know what that is, but Imeant for something more.
And if you've been feeling this like you're in a season where
nothing looks wrong on the outside, but inside, you know,
you just know instinctively thatyou're being called higher, I
(05:12):
just want you to know you're notalone.
This is the shift that is you stepping into a new way of
operating. And it's it can be both.
It can land in a place of being beautiful, but then it can also
feel a little unsettling all at once.
So you can have those feelings. And I want you to know that that
(05:33):
is totally normal. And if that all sounds familiar,
or if parts of this sounds familiar, let me tell you why it
often feels so unsettling. OK, shifting isn't.
How do I put this? Shifting isn't going to feel
neat. It's not even going to really
(05:55):
feel predictable. It doesn't come with a clear
sign that says, hey, congratulations, you're leveling
up today, right? It shows up in the in between
the space where this old way doesn't fit anymore, but the new
way hasn't fully revealed itselfyet.
(06:18):
OK, so that's what I mean. It's like it's this uneasiness
because you're in this like middle ground where you're like,
OK, that doesn't feel like me anymore, but yet this isn't
fully me yet either. So it's hasn't revealed itself
completely. And that in between, that's
where so many of us are right now, me included.
(06:43):
And I've been in this before. I've been here before with
something different. But here is the truth.
Shifting doesn't always look like progress from the outside.
It doesn't always now, sometimesit does, but it it doesn't
always feel like a win on the inside either.
(07:05):
It can feel like restlessness. It can feel like confusion.
There can even be some grief alongside of that because part
of you knows, and here's the scary part.
Sometimes part of you knows you can't go back and yet you're
like, oh, I can't go back to that.
(07:25):
I know that it's, it doesn't fitme anymore, but I don't quite
know what going forward looks like either.
And that is why it's so disorienting.
One day you feel super steady and then the next day you're
second guessing everything and you're like, whoa, wait a
minute. You wonder.
OK, wait, am I changing for the better or am I literally losing
(07:49):
my mind? I can say, friend, you're not
losing it. This is what I like to call the
shedding. You're shedding it.
You're shedding the old ways of coping, the old ways of
pleasing, the old ways of performing.
And maybe nobody's told you this, but shedding, in my
(08:11):
opinion, is part of shining. It's uncomfortable because your
spirit is stretching beyond whatit used to know.
So yeah, you may wake up and feel heavy for no reason.
You may feel less patient in conversations that used to roll
right past you. You may even realize that your
(08:35):
tolerance for drama, your tolerance for hustle, toxic
energy, it's gone. Like you don't have it anymore.
And here's the kicker, you mighteven grieve it a little bit.
You might feel sad about that because the version of you that
used to put up with it, or the ways in which you used to power
(08:56):
through it, or maybe ways that you used to numb it.
She got you this far. She's the one who got you here.
But here's the thing. She past tense is not the one
who's going to take you where you're going next.
(09:18):
And I want to say this out loud because I believe so many women
need to hear it. You're not the only one.
A lot of us, again, are feeling it right now.
The world feels happy. Our lives feel like they're
shifting under our feet. And if you can't make sense of
it, it doesn't mean you're broken.
(09:39):
It means you're awake. It means you're being called
into alignment. And the reason why it feels
uncomfortable is because you're standing, like I said, in
between two identities, who you were and who you're becoming.
And that space, I'm just going to say it.
I feel like that space is like the holy ground, not because
(09:59):
it's easy, not because it's it'seasy to navigate, but because
it's real and because it means that you're alive to your own
growth. You're noticing this.
OK? So that's why I say this is like
the this is the this is where the power is.
(10:22):
OK. So I want to talk about how to
anchor yourself when this shift feels too big, too loud, maybe
too confusing. Here's the deal.
You can't control when the shiftcomes, but you can choose how to
hold yourself through it. And this is where I love to say,
you know, go ahead and grab yourjournal, open that notes up
(10:45):
whatever you got. Go back and listen to this part
because I don't want you to justhear me talking about anchoring.
I want you to walk away with tangible things you can do.
Seriously, write these down or come back to this part later.
These are the anchors you can lean on when everything feels
unsteady. As a matter of fact, I have to
(11:07):
do this often. This is part of what I need to
do on a daily because there are so many times I start to feel
unsteady. So #1 is a faith or trust
anchor. So whatever your language is,
God, Spirit, simply something bigger than me.
This anchor is really about surrender.
(11:32):
OK? So for me, it's God.
It can be as simple as whispering God.
I don't know what's next, but I trust I'll be guided.
It's just not about having the perfect prayer or the right
belief system. You might even be, you know, in
a place of you're struggling in that space, but I want you to
(11:55):
think about it as it's about releasing control just for just
for a moment and remembering that you don't have to carry it
all. That's what anchoring in faith
is. So here are just a couple of
tangible tools because I'd love to give that to you when I kind
of feel like I want to give you more than just talking at you.
(12:18):
OK? So write one simple mantra, or
maybe it's a scripture on a sticky note and keep it on your
mirror or your desk and take a look at that.
Have it be in front of you because again, that's your
anchor, OK? You can even start your morning
(12:42):
with two minutes of quiet even before checking your phone, just
sitting and saying show me the right next step and just sitting
in that, sitting in that quiet for a couple of minutes.
These are some of the things that you can do to anchor in
your faith, to anchor in your trust.
(13:06):
Because how many of you are not feeling trust right now?
Then #2 is an energy anchor, OK?Shifts are going to live in your
body. When you are spiraling or stuck
in your head, come back into your body.
If I have learned anything in the last few years, it's that
(13:29):
somatic work. As a matter of fact, we have had
some guests coming into our Glowup school that have really been
helping us to learn how to come back into our bodies.
And that's where you're going tobreathe deeply.
This is where you're going to ground yourself and you're going
to put your feet in the grass. You're going to walk outside.
Maybe it's stretching, maybe it's moving.
(13:52):
It does not have to be complicated.
Your body. One thing that I have learned is
your body is always trying to bring you back to center if you
let it, but you got to let it. Don't fight it.
One of my favorite tangible tools is trying the box
breathing. So it's like inhale for three or
(14:12):
four, hold at the top for three or four.
Whatever it is, keep it consistent.
So if you inhale for four, hold it for four, exhale for four and
hold for four. And do this three or four times.
Just that big breathing, it juststarts to regulate everything
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and it gets your body to come back to center.
Another thing that I love to do is just stepping outside
barefoot and standing on the ground, the earth in the grass
for 60 seconds, literally because there's energy in the
earth and the earth can reset you.
(14:55):
It's that grounding. There is something powerful in
this you guys. And here's another one too that
I love when it comes to energy is putting on a song that shifts
your mood. And if you want to take the
extra step, you can even move your body.
OK, it could be as simply as just like rocking.
(15:15):
It could be shaking it out, it could be swaying, it could be
dancing. Go on a full on dance mode.
I it doesn't matter. These are the things that can
start to shift the energy in your body and bring it back to
center. Number 3 is an identity anchor.
Now this one is powerful becausethis is where I want you to ask
(15:37):
yourself, who am I becoming? And then you start to act in
alignment with her. OK, so this is where journaling
comes in. You can even speak it out loud.
You can start to visualize it. If the old version of you would
(15:58):
have said yes when she wanted tosay no, let the new version
practice saying no. Oh, this is tough.
OK, If the old version would have doubted something, let the
new version take a small step forward anyway.
Identity anchors are about rehearsing who you are becoming
(16:19):
until it feels natural. OK, it's practice.
It's putting in the reps Here's some tangible tools.
Here's a journal prompt. My next level self handles
challenges by My next level selfhandles challenges by And write
(16:42):
it in the present tense. How are you going to handle
challenges? You can put a reminder in your
phone that pops up every day with a word your future self
embodies. So maybe it's confident.
Maybe you're someone that needs to really practice peaceful.
(17:04):
OK, put it in your reminder in your phone and have it pop up at
maybe a couple times a day. Maybe you want it to pop up
around lunchtime. Maybe you want to pop it up
before you go to bed at night. And I want it to just be one
word that your future self embodies.
OK, so maybe you're not great atfeeling confident, but when you
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see that, it anchors it in and it shifts your mind and starts
to align with each other, your body and mind, when you see
that, because it is actually anchoring it in.
And our brain starts to look forthe things that are going to
(17:46):
keep us confident, the things that are going to help bring
peacefulness. OK, and then here's another one.
Try mere work. Look at yourself and say, I am
becoming her. I already am her.
(18:07):
Speak it into existence because then everything starts to align
because you are speaking it intoexistence.
Oh gosh, I just love. I love this work.
But what I love more is when youare intentional about making
(18:31):
these changes because you can hear me all day long.
You can hear, you know, listen to these podcasts, you can read
all the books, but unless you'retaking action, nothing changes.
Unless you are practicing and putting in the reps, nothing
changes. OK, here's another one, another
anchor. It's a community anchor.
(18:53):
Do not, I encourage you, do not do this alone when you're
shifting because here's what's going to happen if you do.
The old you will try to pull youback.
It's going to try to make you hide to figure it out alone.
But the new you needs people around who can reflect your
(19:17):
light back when you forget who you are.
OK? And this can be a friend, this
can be a mentor, it can be a community.
Of course, like the glow up school, this is where you start
to find spaces that feel safe enough for you to say I'm in the
(19:38):
middle of it. I'm not here.
I'm not the old me, but I'm not quite the new me yet.
And I'm in the middle of it because you don't want to walk
this road by yourself. Loneliness, isolation, these are
dangerous places because it'll always try to pull us back.
(20:00):
So. Here's some tangible tools for
that. Text 1 safe friend today and
say, hey, I'm feeling a shift happening and I just need
someone to watch me in it. I guarantee you that's going to
catch somebody's attention and they're going to be like, what's
going on? Talk about it, schedule a coffee
(20:27):
or a Zoom or take a walk with someone who makes you feel seen,
not someone that's looking to fix you.
We don't always need that like, nor do we always want that.
Usually when you're going through a shift, you're not
wanting someone to fix you, You're wanting someone that is
just going to see you, that's going to hear you, encourage
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you. And if you don't have that
circle yet, join one. Look for your people, look for a
program, look for a movement, anonline community where women are
walking through the same season.Find that mom's group.
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Join us virtually on Globe School.
I'm going to keep plugging it here locally, we have the Rise
to Shine Collective and this is where you will find your people.
And all of these anchors don't make the shift disappear.
They make it livable. They give you the stability when
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everything inside of you feels like it's rearranging, like
everything is just like, oof, this just feels so
uncomfortable. And then they remind you that
while the shift may feel uncomfortable, you are not
powerless inside of it. And let me say this, the fact
that you're even aware of the shift means that you're already
(21:59):
rising. That's the good news.
A lot of people just numb out and miss the invitation to grow.
Or they're too stubborn, they'relike, oh, I'm feeling something,
but I don't want to feel that way.
Because again, this forward moving shift, like if I change,
if my beliefs change, if I change personally, what are
(22:22):
people going to say about me? What judgment is going to come
with with that? So we just numb out and we just
go, I'm just going to ignore that.
But here's the thing, if you're feeling it and this is
resonating with you, that means you're awake.
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You are awake to yourself. You are waking up to a new
shift. And I believe this is, you know,
again, this is my opinion, but Ireally, really believe that we
go through lots of shifts in ourlives from the time we're
(23:02):
little, Then when we get to start making decisions
independently, we start living on our own.
Gosh, I mean, think about, thinkabout your past, think about the
times and, and you can go both ways.
Think about the times that you felt like you were in a middle
(23:25):
of like a little inner battle offeeling like you wanted to
change, but you were too scared to do it, so you just ignored
it. But then also think of the times
that you did answer the calling to the shift and you got through
it. And look at who you are now.
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That, my friend, is everything. And This is why they say life is
a journey. We don't just stop living.
We don't stop changing. We don't stop evolving.
I mean, gosh, I hope not. I don't want to be stuck in my
ways forever. I think this is where curiosity
(24:07):
comes in. And this is where I'm like, OK,
I, I need to, I need to pay attention to this.
So here is what I would love foryou to take away with.
Here's what I would love you to take with you today.
(24:28):
That's a better way of saying that if you have been feeling
different, if you've been noticing yourself showing up in
ways that you don't fully understand yet, trust that it's
not random. You're shifting.
You're not who you were last season.
And that is something to honor. Don't fear it.
(24:49):
It's OK. And again, I know that it
probably feels super uncomfortable.
It can feel very disorienting, but I'm speaking to myself too.
You're not broken. You're becoming.
And the anchors that we talked about today, they are here to
remind you that you're not powerless in the process.
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You can study yourself when you're going through it.
You can ground yourself. You can move forward even in
that in between. And if you're listening right
now and you're thinking, holy cow, this is me.
Oh my gosh, I feel so seen. I feel like she's talking
straight to my heart. Good.
(25:34):
That's exactly why I hit record today, because you're not alone
in the shift. I need to remind myself of that
too. So here's your call to action
today. Don't just let this episode
inspire you, Let it move you. Pick 1 anchor and put it into
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practice today. Write on that sticky note.
Do the breath work. Text the friend.
Just take one small action to ground yourself in who you're
becoming. I did that yesterday, as a
matter of fact. I reached out to a friend and I
said it is by no accident that you reached out to me and I need
(26:16):
to talk to you. You've been on my heart.
I'm going through something right now that is feeling very.
I said. I don't even know the words to
put it in. It just feels weird, but I know
that there's something in me that's shifting and I just need
someone that I can trust. I need someone that can hear me
where I feel seen. I don't feel judged and I need
(26:38):
to talk through this. And she is a woman of such great
wisdom and I trust her. I trust her heart.
So that's how I leaned into my shift, feeling that I've been
going through for a while. And then of course, if you are
craving community around this, please join us inside of the
(27:02):
Globe School. This is what we do.
We rise together, we grow together, we anchor ourselves
and we anchor each other throughthese shifts because you don't
have to figure this out alone. And please feel free to hop into
my DMS and let me know how you're feeling.
Let's chat. I'm here for that.
I say it in my intro all the time with you, if you still
(27:24):
listen to that part. I always say at the beginning of
the end, hey, I'm here. I'm here for the coffee chats.
I'm here to talk. That's what I love to do, if you
haven't noticed. But you are shifting my friend.
And it's not something to survive.
It's something to step into. You're ready for this next
(27:44):
chapter and I cannot wait to seeyou shine in it.
And then of course, as always, keep rising, keep shining, and
know that today is right here waiting for you.
Bye friend. We'll see you next week.
Thanks for joining me here today.
Your presence means the world tome.
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Welcome to the Rise to Shine podcast with Noel Custis where
we ignite the spark to discover your favorite self.
It is time to get real ladies. Hello, hello and welcome to the
Rise to Shine podcast. I'm your host, Noel Custis.
(00:20):
And today we are going to talk about something I have been
feeling deep, deep in my bones, not just this past week, but
really this past month. And I'm going to say the weight
of it has been especially heavy over these past few days.
And for context around that, I'mrecording this during a week
(00:43):
where the world feels so heavy. There have been more school
shootings. There was the sudden death of
Charlie Kirk and just so much tragedy that is swirling around
us. And I want to make this
perfectly clear. We're not going to get into
political beliefs or debates or anything like that.
(01:05):
That's not what this platform isabout.
But what we're going to be diving into today is the idea of
shifts, shifts in energy, in howwe are showing up, in how you
are operating differently in your life.
I'm only referencing what's happening in the world because
(01:28):
it stirred something in me that made me want to just go, OK,
we're, we're hitting record today because honestly, this
message has been on my heart fora while.
It's been kind of just brewing, stirring beneath the surface.
And this week, it just feels even more relevant.
(01:50):
And listen, I'm going to tell you, this can be with anything,
friend. This can be maybe how you're
showing up in your relationships.
Maybe it's how you parent now that your kids are older.
Maybe it's the way you respond to stress or the way you make
decisions in your business or your career shifts show up
(02:12):
everywhere in life. So today we're going to talk
about how to know when you're shifting and how to anchor
yourself when it feels like the ground beneath you might feel a
little unsteady. OK, so one of the biggest signs,
and I've learned this, of growthis when your old patterns just
(02:36):
don't fit anymore. So maybe, for instance, you
don't tolerate what you once did, or maybe you feel a new
level of peace even in the middle of a ton of chaos going
on around you. Or maybe you're noticing a
little bit of restlessness in places you once felt really
(02:57):
settled in. And sometimes it's a nudge that
you cannot ignore. It's that I always say it's that
inner whisper, right? That inner whisper that says
something's off, something's about to change.
I can't keep doing life like this.
I mean, these are some of the things that start to whisper in
(03:21):
your heart, in your spirit, in your head, your mind.
And it starts to show up in the little things.
So it could be maybe having a conversation with a friend that
used to drain you. But this time you walk away
thinking, I just don't have the energy for this anymore.
OK, I know that sounds harsh, but this is the reality of when
(03:44):
we start feeling that something is shifting.
It could be even the way that you suddenly realize you don't
need to defend yourself or proveyour worth at work, at home,
with family, and you just let itgo.
And then that feels very new, very foreign for you.
(04:06):
It could be even a moment where you catch yourself not spiraling
in anxiety like you used to and you think, whoa, I handled that
differently. That felt like a completely
different me. Shifts can even look like
outgrowing your own habits. So perhaps maybe the glass of
(04:28):
wine that used to calm you down it now just feels heavy, might
feel different for you. Maybe the hustle that wants to
find you now feels exhausting instead of the excitement you
used to get from it. Or maybe it's even the pull in
(04:49):
your spirit that says I am meantfor something more.
I don't know what that is, but Imeant for something more.
And if you've been feeling this like you're in a season where
nothing looks wrong on the outside, but inside, you know,
you just know instinctively thatyou're being called higher, I
(05:12):
just want you to know you're notalone.
This is the shift that is you stepping into a new way of
operating. And it's it can be both.
It can land in a place of being beautiful, but then it can also
feel a little unsettling all at once.
So you can have those feelings. And I want you to know that that
(05:33):
is totally normal. And if that all sounds familiar,
or if parts of this sounds familiar, let me tell you why it
often feels so unsettling. OK, shifting isn't.
How do I put this? Shifting isn't going to feel
neat. It's not even going to really
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feel predictable. It doesn't come with a clear
sign that says, hey, congratulations, you're leveling
up today, right? It shows up in the in between
the space where this old way doesn't fit anymore, but the new
way hasn't fully revealed itselfyet.
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OK, so that's what I mean. It's like it's this uneasiness
because you're in this like middle ground where you're like,
OK, that doesn't feel like me anymore, but yet this isn't
fully me yet either. So it's hasn't revealed itself
completely. And that in between, that's
where so many of us are right now, me included.
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And I've been in this before. I've been here before with
something different. But here is the truth.
Shifting doesn't always look like progress from the outside.
It doesn't always now, sometimesit does, but it it doesn't
always feel like a win on the inside either.
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It can feel like restlessness. It can feel like confusion.
There can even be some grief alongside of that because part
of you knows, and here's the scary part.
Sometimes part of you knows you can't go back and yet you're
like, oh, I can't go back to that.
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I know that it's, it doesn't fitme anymore, but I don't quite
know what going forward looks like either.
And that is why it's so disorienting.
One day you feel super steady and then the next day you're
second guessing everything and you're like, whoa, wait a
minute. You wonder.
OK, wait, am I changing for the better or am I literally losing
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my mind? I can say, friend, you're not
losing it. This is what I like to call the
shedding. You're shedding it.
You're shedding the old ways of coping, the old ways of
pleasing, the old ways of performing.
And maybe nobody's told you this, but shedding, in my
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opinion, is part of shining. It's uncomfortable because your
spirit is stretching beyond whatit used to know.
So yeah, you may wake up and feel heavy for no reason.
You may feel less patient in conversations that used to roll
right past you. You may even realize that your
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tolerance for drama, your tolerance for hustle, toxic
energy, it's gone. Like you don't have it anymore.
And here's the kicker, you mighteven grieve it a little bit.
You might feel sad about that because the version of you that
used to put up with it, or the ways in which you used to power
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through it, or maybe ways that you used to numb it.
She got you this far. She's the one who got you here.
But here's the thing. She past tense is not the one
who's going to take you where you're going next.
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And I want to say this out loud because I believe so many women
need to hear it. You're not the only one.
A lot of us, again, are feeling it right now.
The world feels happy. Our lives feel like they're
shifting under our feet. And if you can't make sense of
it, it doesn't mean you're broken.
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It means you're awake. It means you're being called
into alignment. And the reason why it feels
uncomfortable is because you're standing, like I said, in
between two identities, who you were and who you're becoming.
And that space, I'm just going to say it.
I feel like that space is like the holy ground, not because
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it's easy, not because it's it'seasy to navigate, but because
it's real and because it means that you're alive to your own
growth. You're noticing this.
OK? So that's why I say this is like
the this is the this is where the power is.
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OK. So I want to talk about how to
anchor yourself when this shift feels too big, too loud, maybe
too confusing. Here's the deal.
You can't control when the shiftcomes, but you can choose how to
hold yourself through it. And this is where I love to say,
you know, go ahead and grab yourjournal, open that notes up
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whatever you got. Go back and listen to this part
because I don't want you to justhear me talking about anchoring.
I want you to walk away with tangible things you can do.
Seriously, write these down or come back to this part later.
These are the anchors you can lean on when everything feels
unsteady. As a matter of fact, I have to
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do this often. This is part of what I need to
do on a daily because there are so many times I start to feel
unsteady. So #1 is a faith or trust
anchor. So whatever your language is,
God, Spirit, simply something bigger than me.
This anchor is really about surrender.
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OK? So for me, it's God.
It can be as simple as whispering God.
I don't know what's next, but I trust I'll be guided.
It's just not about having the perfect prayer or the right
belief system. You might even be, you know, in
a place of you're struggling in that space, but I want you to
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think about it as it's about releasing control just for just
for a moment and remembering that you don't have to carry it
all. That's what anchoring in faith
is. So here are just a couple of
tangible tools because I'd love to give that to you when I kind
of feel like I want to give you more than just talking at you.
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OK? So write one simple mantra, or
maybe it's a scripture on a sticky note and keep it on your
mirror or your desk and take a look at that.
Have it be in front of you because again, that's your
anchor, OK? You can even start your morning
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with two minutes of quiet even before checking your phone, just
sitting and saying show me the right next step and just sitting
in that, sitting in that quiet for a couple of minutes.
These are some of the things that you can do to anchor in
your faith, to anchor in your trust.
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Because how many of you are not feeling trust right now?
Then #2 is an energy anchor, OK?Shifts are going to live in your
body. When you are spiraling or stuck
in your head, come back into your body.
If I have learned anything in the last few years, it's that
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somatic work. As a matter of fact, we have had
some guests coming into our Glowup school that have really been
helping us to learn how to come back into our bodies.
And that's where you're going tobreathe deeply.
This is where you're going to ground yourself and you're going
to put your feet in the grass. You're going to walk outside.
Maybe it's stretching, maybe it's moving.
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It does not have to be complicated.
Your body. One thing that I have learned is
your body is always trying to bring you back to center if you
let it, but you got to let it. Don't fight it.
One of my favorite tangible tools is trying the box
breathing. So it's like inhale for three or
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four, hold at the top for three or four.
Whatever it is, keep it consistent.
So if you inhale for four, hold it for four, exhale for four and
hold for four. And do this three or four times.
Just that big breathing, it juststarts to regulate everything
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and it gets your body to come back to center.
Another thing that I love to do is just stepping outside
barefoot and standing on the ground, the earth in the grass
for 60 seconds, literally because there's energy in the
earth and the earth can reset you.
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It's that grounding. There is something powerful in
this you guys. And here's another one too that
I love when it comes to energy is putting on a song that shifts
your mood. And if you want to take the
extra step, you can even move your body.
OK, it could be as simply as just like rocking.
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It could be shaking it out, it could be swaying, it could be
dancing. Go on a full on dance mode.
I it doesn't matter. These are the things that can
start to shift the energy in your body and bring it back to
center. Number 3 is an identity anchor.
Now this one is powerful becausethis is where I want you to ask
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yourself, who am I becoming? And then you start to act in
alignment with her. OK, so this is where journaling
comes in. You can even speak it out loud.
You can start to visualize it. If the old version of you would
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have said yes when she wanted tosay no, let the new version
practice saying no. Oh, this is tough.
OK, If the old version would have doubted something, let the
new version take a small step forward anyway.
Identity anchors are about rehearsing who you are becoming
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until it feels natural. OK, it's practice.
It's putting in the reps Here's some tangible tools.
Here's a journal prompt. My next level self handles
challenges by My next level selfhandles challenges by And write
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it in the present tense. How are you going to handle
challenges? You can put a reminder in your
phone that pops up every day with a word your future self
embodies. So maybe it's confident.
Maybe you're someone that needs to really practice peaceful.
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OK, put it in your reminder in your phone and have it pop up at
maybe a couple times a day. Maybe you want it to pop up
around lunchtime. Maybe you want to pop it up
before you go to bed at night. And I want it to just be one
word that your future self embodies.
OK, so maybe you're not great atfeeling confident, but when you
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see that, it anchors it in and it shifts your mind and starts
to align with each other, your body and mind, when you see
that, because it is actually anchoring it in.
And our brain starts to look forthe things that are going to
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keep us confident, the things that are going to help bring
peacefulness. OK, and then here's another one.
Try mere work. Look at yourself and say, I am
becoming her. I already am her.
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Speak it into existence because then everything starts to align
because you are speaking it intoexistence.
Oh gosh, I just love. I love this work.
But what I love more is when youare intentional about making
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these changes because you can hear me all day long.
You can hear, you know, listen to these podcasts, you can read
all the books, but unless you'retaking action, nothing changes.
Unless you are practicing and putting in the reps, nothing
changes. OK, here's another one, another
anchor. It's a community anchor.
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Do not, I encourage you, do not do this alone when you're
shifting because here's what's going to happen if you do.
The old you will try to pull youback.
It's going to try to make you hide to figure it out alone.
But the new you needs people around who can reflect your
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light back when you forget who you are.
OK? And this can be a friend, this
can be a mentor, it can be a community.
Of course, like the glow up school, this is where you start
to find spaces that feel safe enough for you to say I'm in the
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middle of it. I'm not here.
I'm not the old me, but I'm not quite the new me yet.
And I'm in the middle of it because you don't want to walk
this road by yourself. Loneliness, isolation, these are
dangerous places because it'll always try to pull us back.
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So. Here's some tangible tools for
that. Text 1 safe friend today and
say, hey, I'm feeling a shift happening and I just need
someone to watch me in it. I guarantee you that's going to
catch somebody's attention and they're going to be like, what's
going on? Talk about it, schedule a coffee
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or a Zoom or take a walk with someone who makes you feel seen,
not someone that's looking to fix you.
We don't always need that like, nor do we always want that.
Usually when you're going through a shift, you're not
wanting someone to fix you, You're wanting someone that is
just going to see you, that's going to hear you, encourage
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you. And if you don't have that
circle yet, join one. Look for your people, look for a
program, look for a movement, anonline community where women are
walking through the same season.Find that mom's group.
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Join us virtually on Globe School.
I'm going to keep plugging it here locally, we have the Rise
to Shine Collective and this is where you will find your people.
And all of these anchors don't make the shift disappear.
They make it livable. They give you the stability when
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everything inside of you feels like it's rearranging, like
everything is just like, oof, this just feels so
uncomfortable. And then they remind you that
while the shift may feel uncomfortable, you are not
powerless inside of it. And let me say this, the fact
that you're even aware of the shift means that you're already
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rising. That's the good news.
A lot of people just numb out and miss the invitation to grow.
Or they're too stubborn, they'relike, oh, I'm feeling something,
but I don't want to feel that way.
Because again, this forward moving shift, like if I change,
if my beliefs change, if I change personally, what are
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people going to say about me? What judgment is going to come
with with that? So we just numb out and we just
go, I'm just going to ignore that.
But here's the thing, if you're feeling it and this is
resonating with you, that means you're awake.
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You are awake to yourself. You are waking up to a new
shift. And I believe this is, you know,
again, this is my opinion, but Ireally, really believe that we
go through lots of shifts in ourlives from the time we're
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little, Then when we get to start making decisions
independently, we start living on our own.
Gosh, I mean, think about, thinkabout your past, think about the
times and, and you can go both ways.
Think about the times that you felt like you were in a middle
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of like a little inner battle offeeling like you wanted to
change, but you were too scared to do it, so you just ignored
it. But then also think of the times
that you did answer the calling to the shift and you got through
it. And look at who you are now.
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That, my friend, is everything. And This is why they say life is
a journey. We don't just stop living.
We don't stop changing. We don't stop evolving.
I mean, gosh, I hope not. I don't want to be stuck in my
ways forever. I think this is where curiosity
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comes in. And this is where I'm like, OK,
I, I need to, I need to pay attention to this.
So here is what I would love foryou to take away with.
Here's what I would love you to take with you today.
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That's a better way of saying that if you have been feeling
different, if you've been noticing yourself showing up in
ways that you don't fully understand yet, trust that it's
not random. You're shifting.
You're not who you were last season.
And that is something to honor. Don't fear it.
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It's OK. And again, I know that it
probably feels super uncomfortable.
It can feel very disorienting, but I'm speaking to myself too.
You're not broken. You're becoming.
And the anchors that we talked about today, they are here to
remind you that you're not powerless in the process.
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You can study yourself when you're going through it.
You can ground yourself. You can move forward even in
that in between. And if you're listening right
now and you're thinking, holy cow, this is me.
Oh my gosh, I feel so seen. I feel like she's talking
straight to my heart. Good.
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That's exactly why I hit record today, because you're not alone
in the shift. I need to remind myself of that
too. So here's your call to action
today. Don't just let this episode
inspire you, Let it move you. Pick 1 anchor and put it into
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practice today. Write on that sticky note.
Do the breath work. Text the friend.
Just take one small action to ground yourself in who you're
becoming. I did that yesterday, as a
matter of fact. I reached out to a friend and I
said it is by no accident that you reached out to me and I need
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to talk to you. You've been on my heart.
I'm going through something right now that is feeling very.
I said. I don't even know the words to
put it in. It just feels weird, but I know
that there's something in me that's shifting and I just need
someone that I can trust. I need someone that can hear me
where I feel seen. I don't feel judged and I need
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to talk through this. And she is a woman of such great
wisdom and I trust her. I trust her heart.
So that's how I leaned into my shift, feeling that I've been
going through for a while. And then of course, if you are
craving community around this, please join us inside of the
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Globe School. This is what we do.
We rise together, we grow together, we anchor ourselves
and we anchor each other throughthese shifts because you don't
have to figure this out alone. And please feel free to hop into
my DMS and let me know how you're feeling.
Let's chat. I'm here for that.
I say it in my intro all the time with you, if you still
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listen to that part. I always say at the beginning of
the end, hey, I'm here. I'm here for the coffee chats.
I'm here to talk. That's what I love to do, if you
haven't noticed. But you are shifting my friend.
And it's not something to survive.
It's something to step into. You're ready for this next
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chapter and I cannot wait to seeyou shine in it.
And then of course, as always, keep rising, keep shining, and
know that today is right here waiting for you.
Bye friend. We'll see you next week.
Thanks for joining me here today.
Your presence means the world tome.
If you enjoyed what you heard, please consider leaving a rating
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Until next time, keep shining myfriends.
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