September 25, 2025 • 47 mins
In this episode, I’m fresh out of morning journaling and coffee, reflecting on what eclipse season has been teaching me. The word that keeps coming through is stretch—the way life, emotions, and even the transits have been pulling us open, creating more space inside ourselves.
I share my own practices, including meditation and nervous system regulation, and how honoring my emotional authority in Human Design has shifted my relationship with reactivity. We also dive into:
✨ How eclipses and Pluto transits stretch us into new awareness
✨ The gut–mind connection during this Virgo/Pisces axis
✨ Lessons from dating, self-worth, and boundaries
✨ Why nervous system regulation is the first key to authentic alignment
✨ The Six Codes of Authentic Alignment I’m exploring in Your Sacred Unravelling
✨ Mars in Scorpio square Pluto—what it’s asking of us now
Episode 103. Human Design: Living by Strategy & Authority
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome to the Rochelle Christiane podcast.
I'm Rochelle, your host.
I'm here to help you come backto your body, take charge of
your emotions and live life onyour terms.
This podcast is a space for raw, real conversations about what
it means to trust yourself, leanto your power and create a life
that feels aligned and alive.
We'll explore human design,astrology and other tools to
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help you understand your uniqueenergy.
More importantly, though, we'regoing to talk about what it
means to actually live andembody these aspects.
So each week, I'm going toshare stories, lessons, guidance
to help you navigate life'schallenges and really own your
magic.
So if you're ready to step up,take control and show up as the
most authentic version of you,let's begin.
Welcome to another episode ofthe podcast.
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If you are watching on YouTube,you're getting me fresh.
First thing in the morning isstill having my coffee, but I
was dropping off my kids and Iwas journaling this morning on
what I was going to talk abouttoday, and it was sort of just
kept coming to me as I wasdriving on my way home, and so I
wanted to come and just talkbefore I started my day.
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So be going to the gym in alittle bit, but this was my
priority this morning.
There's so much that I want totalk about and there's so much
that's been happening, like theeclipses.
I feel like I see this word,like the word stretch keeps
coming.
It's like stretched me out inthis way of.
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I've found this newrelationship with my emotions
over the past three months thatI've been consistently
meditating twice a day, and whenI say the morning meditations,
I still find resistance to thatbecause I just want to sleep.
Being fully honest, I'm a Taurus.
I love my sleep, but my habitin my pattern for literally my
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entire life was to snooze myalarm like four or five times
and then I would get up likeright before I had to get up,
Then it was rushing througheverything.
So I actually love the routinethat I've created.
My alarm goes off, I pop in myheadphones, I do a di, I do a
meditation, something, and eventhough I'm sort of drifting in
and out of it, I'm stillconscious, I'm still awake, and
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then it turns off and I get upand I start my day and I
actually really love it.
But there's still that momentof resistance when the alarm
goes off and I put my headphonesin, but this word like
stretching comes to me and Ishare that, because you know,
when we stretch something thin,I feel like there's, I wouldn't
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say, a discomfort, but what I'venoticed in my body is I felt
tenderness.
We'll say that I felt thisenergetic frequency, whether
it's the collective, whetherit's my own emotions, especially
today, as I'll get into it in aminute.
But we have some Pluto transit,some Pluto.
The transiting Pluto is square,my natal Pluto, so all of you
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with Pluto and Scorpio are kindof going through this really
intense square with Pluto.
But again, the eclipses feellike they've stretched me.
It's created this space withinmy being, within my system,
where again, I feel so much moreregulated and in tune with my
emotions, and it's created thisawareness of what's coming up
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and maybe being more able toidentify what it is that's
coming up.
But the word stretch comesbecause it's again I think it's
created the space, it's createdthis ability to not need to
react immediately to somethingwhich has been a big struggle
for me for most of my life whereI feel like I have to respond,
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I have to do the thing, I haveto give you an answer, I have to
move now, I have to like.
There's just this likequickness, that I have to do
something.
And you know, in human designI'm emotional authority.
My family of origin are allstate rule authority, so maybe
it's that you know, knowing inthe moment versus needing to
wait, that needing to wait mightnot have been honored, but
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regardless of what it is, I'vealways felt this intense
pressure to have to answer, tohave to do something, to have to
respond, to have to be in themoment, to have to like act and
do.
And being able to pull it out alittle bit and allow myself
space within my own process, Iguess, or creating space as part
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of my process, has been reallybeautiful and has been a lesson
and a practice.
But I was even thinking.
Yesterday I was having aconversation with someone and
they asked me a question that inthe moment, of course, it was
all via text, so there was noneed to respond in the moment,
but a question that I wouldn'tsay made me uncomfortable.
But you know, noticing your oldpatterns of where my initial
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response would be like oh well,I don't know.
But I allowed myself the spaceto be stretched right, to kind
of like have that space toactually think about my answer
and come to my own conclusionand then be able to share, right
.
And so that's a little example,but just in little ways,
through this eclipse season,I've found that ability to be in
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my own energy, to have my ownspace, to come to my own
conclusions, to just honormyself and where I'm at and be
in touch with the emotions thatare coming up, and they're not
all consuming, which is the waythat they used to be.
When I used to feel an emotion,it was always so chaotic, and
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this new connection with myemotions feels really beautiful.
And again, it's not to say thatI don't feel anything, but it
doesn't feel in the way that itused to.
And I really, really, reallyattribute this to meditating
twice a day, to moving my body,to working out.
And Virgo season right,especially these eclipses and
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this Pisces-Virgo axis is reallyoffering us an opportunity to
heal our body, to heal our mind.
It's all connected, right, wetalked about it, I think, last
week or the week before whereyou know the opposites in the
zodiac.
They're like different sides ofthe same pole, right, like
light and darkness.
There's not one spot where it'slike flicks or flips, right,
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like it's this merging and thenyou come to the other side.
So every single opposition willhold similar qualities but also
lessons for each other.
So where Pisces is like mentalhealth, right, virgo rules the
gut.
But we know that the gut brainconnection, we know that if we
have an unhealthy gut, likelywe're more to suffer from mental
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health issues like depression,anxiety, things like that, and
so they are one in the same inthat respect.
And so being more attentive tomy physical body, being more,
you know, in my body and movingmy body and connected with my
body, has really helped myrelationship with my emotions.
And I'm still like, kind ofamazed with it.
And we'll see.
You know my my, I always say ifI'm not in a relationship, I've
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, I'm good and I'm not in arelationship, I'm good and I'm
not in a relationship right nowI'm not dating anyone or
anything like that.
But I have had moments of beingtested within that and it still
felt pretty neutral.
So we'll see.
But that was coming to me thismorning as I was sort of
reflecting where this abilityagain to just be in my emotions
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and be with my emotions and andfeel, you know, this morning
when I was journaling I I feltthis very familiar like
restriction and tightness that Ifeel in my chest.
That's part of my patterns,that's part of my trauma,
whatever you know it's, it's mysubconscious right.
That kind of like keeps mestuck where I'm like, oof, I
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can't do that thing.
And I was able to witness itand be with it, but not be
consumed by it, and so that feltlike a really big win, where I
was like, okay, I'm feeling thisthing, I'm feeling this
tenderness, and also we just hadthe new moon eclipse on Sunday.
We're still within that energyit's Wednesday, within that
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energy it's Wednesday.
So we're kind of, you know, butwe had the fall equinox on
Monday, monday evening, and I'vebeen studying the Kabbalah with
David Giam.
But this first 48 hours of Libraseason is really important and
pivotal to the rest of the year.
Right, like we know, ariesbegins the zodiac, the new year,
zodiac, new year.
But think about Libra ishalfway.
Right, we have Aries to Libra,aries to Virgo is all like I
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centered, and then Libra toPisces is we centered?
So, as we're shifting from thisenergy of almost like
perfecting this self throughdifferent, various ways, right,
like I could go through thewhole zodiac and maybe I'll do
that in another episode, but wehave all this.
I centered signs which are, youknow, helping us in some
respect within ourselves andhealing a part of ourselves and
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being coming aware of a part ofourselves and inviting a part of
ourselves.
And you know, in the chart, the,you know, planets are the
actors, the signs are thecostumes.
So when you're looking at yourown chart, right, it's like you
have the planet as like the.
I was just reading a book andthey use this visual and it was
for me, being such a like avisual person, it was so helpful
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.
But if you think about theplanet as the actor, right, so
just think about Mars.
So today, as I'm recording this, mars moves into Scorpio.
So Mars in mythology, aries, waslike this 300 foot, like brute,
right, he just like walked intoa room which obviously he
couldn't fit into a room becausehe was 300 feet, but he would
just like blaze his way in, bowlpeople over.
He was like the warrior energy.
So if you think about thatbeing dressed up as Scorpio,
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right, how would Scorpio enter aroom?
Very like, almost sneakilyright, like it's not going to
like blaze in.
There's a depth to it, there'sa darkness to it, right, maybe
like head to toe dressed inblack.
Or you think about Mars andVirgo.
Virgo is kind of more puttogether.
Virgo is like analytical, virgowants to make things make sense
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and it's going to do things acertain way.
So it's like you have Mars,this like 300 foot, like
knocking people over, beingdressed up in the suit of Virgo,
right.
And so I, as we're like movinginto things, are beginning to
move into Scorpio, like today wehave Mars went into Scorpio
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yesterday.
Mars is co ruler of Scorpio withPluto and again, when we think
about that, mars, mars rulesAries and Scorpio.
Mars and Aries feels more likethe toddler pulling a fit,
didn't get what it wanted.
It's pulling a fit, it's superexpressive.
There's no ill intent behind it, because Aries, you know, when
you think about Aries is is the.
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You know, it's the first signof the zodiac.
We went from Pisces in the womband now we've come into Aries,
we're in this body, we'relearning life.
It's very like eye-centered itcan be very selfish in that
respect where it's just like Iwant what I want and I'm going
to act and I'm going to get it,and like this is what I have to
do to get that thing.
Mars ruling Scorpio of course wethink Scorpio is sexuality,
it's intimacy, there's depth toit.
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Mars ruling Scorpio is a littlebit more intentional.
Behind it it's you, you know,being a co-ruler.
Pluto is more like that deepunderbelly sort of rage.
Where it's been, it's beencollected from like ancestors,
it's been collected throughfamily, you know, through
generations and generations, andit's brewing and it's slowly
coming to the surface.
That's sort of like that plutoruling mars, uh, ruling scorpio.
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But mars, I mean, it's stillgonna hold the archetype of it.
It sees what it wants and itfights.
It's the fighting principle ofthe zodiac, right, and it's
always fighting principle forthe sun, which is what Liz
Greene describes it as.
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Manipulative is the word I'mlooking for, secretive, where
it's sort of like it's stillgoing to act the way that Mars
acts, right.
It's still going to blazeforward, it's still going to do
what it has to do to get what itwants, but it's going to do it
a little bit more intentionallythan Mars in Aries, right.
And so we have this energy ofMars moving into Scorpio and as
it moves into Scorpio, it issquare Pluto.
Now that is happening today,wednesday, as I'm recording this
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, but we'll still be feeling ittomorrow, thursday, as this
comes out because, obviously,pluto is a slow moving planet.
Mars takes about two years tomove through the zodiac, so it
will be in this square for alittle while, and so Mars square
to Pluto is a challengingaspect.
The words that are always usedwhen describing this aspect is
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explosive, destructive, accidentprone, sort of like.
I know, I think about, likelast week at work, I just like,
would like, I like dropped aknife or like little things like
that, where it's like, okay,let's slow down a little bit,
right?
So it's asking for like more ofa slowness, being more
intentional and aware, and it'sasking for a pause, like please
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pause before you react to things.
Because and also I thinkanother lesson for us right now
is really to listen.
I shared this around the newmoon, where it's like part of
our lesson right now.
I guess that's not the rightword that I want to use, but I'm
going to use it but our lessonright now is really to listen to
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each other, right?
Because when we don't listen toeach other, we are separated
from each other, and we'rereally right now being called to
remember that we're connectedin some way.
To slow down, to not justlisten to somebody but, like,
listen to what's underneath,what they're not saying.
Right, I think people are veryreactionary, people project a
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lot, and so it's like what'sactually the thing being said
and it's not that you have tolet people in your life.
Part of the eclipse lesson forme, I feel like, has been to
have compassion and forgivepeople in my life that I've felt
bitterness or resentment oranger towards and, again, hold
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your boundaries.
You don't have to includeeverybody in your life, but can
you forgive, can you find a wayto have compassion and know that
it's more for you than for theother person?
We were doing this 30 days to.
Maybe it was manifesting.
I can't remember what the exactchallenge was called.
It was with David Guillen, withthe Kabbalah, and during it was
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for Virgo season, because Virgoseason is this time where we're
being offered to like, purifyourselves to then enter into
Libra season.
So a big chunk of the work wasmoving through and forgiving,
like family history and familystories and you know, or anyone
close to you that has triggeredyou or have you you felt has
harmed you in some way in yourlife, because those people that
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come in and offer you so muchchallenge are really the people
who hold the biggest lessons foryou, and that can be really
hard for our ego and our mind.
And again, it's not to forgivebad behavior and it's not to
allow somebody in your lifethat's intentionally trying to
harm you, but it's to see thosepeople as lessons Like what is
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it that you need to learn?
Like I know for myself, everysingle person that's been an
absolute challenge for me in mylife has come in to teach me
self-worth and boundaries likefull stop.
I dated someone for over twoyears and that was like the
person, like the person wasn't abad person, which was, I think,
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one of the hard things, becauseI had been so used to dating
people who it was just so easyto leave because they were
intentionally trying tomanipulate or harm me, or there
was like a blowout fight, orthere was something where it's
just easy to be like, okay, I'mdone with you.
But when somebody is notintentionally trying to hurt you
but just isn't good for you,those are the relationships that
are actually really hard towalk away from.
But I'm so grateful for that,as challenging as it was,
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because I learned like I had tolove myself harder because I
wasn't getting it from elsewhereand that was the lesson right.
It was to hold boundaries andto like love myself, and I'm
again, I'm grateful for thatlesson.
But when I think about everychallenging relationship in my
life, those are the two thingslike self worth and boundaries.
And so now, like moving forwardin dating, I really hold those,
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those values high within myselfand knowing what I value,
knowing what I'm looking for andnot feeling like I'm wrong
because somebody doesn't holdthe same values.
I used to do that a lot where itwas like if I held the value
and I shared it and somebodydidn't agree with it, then I
would just be like, oh, I mustbe wrong, I must be wrong, right
, but it's like, no, there'sjust because somebody doesn't
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hold the same values, the sameperspective or the same views
does not mean that my view iswrong and I have to trust and
hold my in alignment with that.
The things that I'm looking forwill come to me right, and I
think that sometimes we havetests of that and yeah, so I
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don't know how I even got on.
All the dating things, oh,being finding lessons right and
the people that kind of triggeryou or challenging relationships
in your life, and so, yeah,that's been a huge lesson and
you know, eclipse season is alsoa huge times of endings and
beginnings.
I know a lot of people who areending relationships, things are
falling away and of course, ifsomething ended or fell away,
like during the eclipse season,it was meant to and so kind of
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like honoring that and listeningto that and just like letting
it go, as challenging as it canbe, but maybe like seeing what
the lesson was for it.
I had somebody who, yeah,somebody, reached out to me like
literally on the eclipse, butit was kind of funny, like
astrologically, because Virgowas their seventh house.
It was like makes sense thatthey would then reach out to me,
um, on the eclipse, but it was,you know, for me, in that
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situation I a past version of mewould have responded or would
have shown up or would have goneto see them, um, but this
version of me is like, no, itactually doesn't work, like not
that that person's a bad person,but it just the dynamic hasn't
worked for a long time.
So just because maybe there'ssome sort of emotion happening
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doesn't mean that it's going towork now.
And so like honoring that partof myself and honoring the thing
, the path that I'm on and thedirection that I'm going.
So all of that uh has beencoming up, but again it's really
coming back to that uh spacethat I've created within myself,
the space to honor what Iactually want and what I want to
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say, the space to come backLike I was listening to a
podcast earlier that I used tolisten to all the time and over
the last like year or two I'vetried to listen to it here and
there.
But I just keep getting thisheavy feeling as I listen to it,
and I completely respect theindividual who hosts the podcast
.
They're really really superpopular.
Like I said, I used to be inthat world and then something
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just kind of like wasn't, didn'tfeel good for me, and I don't
think it's a reflection of, likethat person being bad or
anything like that.
It's more just like the messageno longer aligns with me.
And so I, you know, popped upon my phone this morning and
sometimes, you know, like I justlike, like to follow the
threads of whatever, and so Iwas like, oh, maybe there's a
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message in this podcast for me.
So I popped it on and I made itlike 10-15 minutes in and I was
like, I don't know that I cankeep listening to this.
I just like had that feelingand maybe the lesson was just
like honoring myself and I don'tknow.
But I think that we constantly,especially with the social media
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and the scrolling it's so easyto outsource or to everybody's
got an opinion.
You know, like I go onInstagram and it's like you
should be doing this and youshould be doing that and you
should be doing this.
And yes, I think there are likebest practices I'm air quoting
best practices of like businessand entrepreneurship and
marketing and all those thingslike social media.
There are obviously thealgorithm.
There are things that work, youknow, in business it's like you
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know have freebies and there'sjust like funnels and all that
stuff.
But I also think within thatand this is actually what I
wanted to start with but weinside the inner mother
collective, we're doing thisbusiness mastermind.
So if you're interested injoining us, the inner mother
collective, we your sacredunraveling is housed in there.
So we have monthly moon circles.
I just did a human designparenting workshop yesterday.
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We have like little coffeechats.
We have energy, so like there'sso much in there.
But one of the things that we'regoing through is this business
mastermind and sort of this newAquarian age of like unschooling
.
You know, obviously, the schoolsystem, but then also how we're
doing business, because I thinka lot of people, especially in
this entrepreneurial orspirituality sphere right,
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people with spiritual basedbusinesses, it's like okay, well
, we're going to be in our flowand we're going to be in our
receivership and our feminineand we just move from one hustle
to another and we're stillplaying into that like masculine
nine to five sort of mentality,and so the whole point of this
business mastermind is to reallyunschool and to really lean
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into like our human design andour astrology and like what
works and what doesn't right.
And it's the whole the innermother collective is this
beautiful feminine way.
You don't have to be a motherto be in there, because we're
all birthing something, whetherit's a creation, whether it's an
actual human being, right, likethere's much.
But it's just this reallyfeminine way to connect with
each other, to support eachother.
And one of the reallyinteresting or one of the really
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cool things that kind ofsparked my attention at first,
because I always love everythingthat Jesse Eccles does, and so
when she first came to me withthis idea, I was like,
absolutely, but part of it isthis transference of money in a
new way.
And so there is this, you know,beautiful transference of money
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within the collective, and Ithink this is a really new age,
new Aquarian way of doing things.
But kind of going back to thatunschooling, like you know, we
go from the corporate nine tofive and we're like we're going
to be entrepreneurs and we'regoing to do things differently,
I'm going to be my feminine, butyet we're still like falling
into the hustle and grind.
And the reason that I mentionedthis with the whole social
media thing is that we like wego on there and we just
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constantly have these messages.
We're bombarded with messagesof what we should be doing and
what it should look like and, bythis course and and yeah, I
think just like coming, all ofthat being said, really, I mean
when we think about, like datingand self-worth and all and our
values, like venus in your chartis your values, right?
So like leaning into that, butlike coming into yourself and
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understanding what you value andwhat you want and getting
really clear on that.
Because this what's the saying?
Like if you'll, if you don'tbelieve in anything, you'll fall
for everything, or if, ifyou'll, if you don't believe in
anything, you'll fall foreverything, or if you don't,
basically, if you don't have aclear idea of your values,
you're going to fall foreverything.
You're going to be pulled inall these different directions
because you don't have a senseof your own core values within
yourself, you don't have asteady connection with your own
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self and your own energy.
And when you don't have thatlike, you're pulled in so many
different directions, likeeverybody's trying to tell you
what to do and it's just likeyou're being pulled everywhere
Right.
And so like really coming insideand like having that strong
sense of like this is what Ivalue, this is what I want, and
I feel like I've gotten thatreally clear Like I used to not,
oh my gosh, I would, like Iliterally would fall for
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everything, and I think, like alot of my spiritual beliefs,
like I always say, like Ibelieve everything because, like
I believe everything ispossible, um, but like coming
back to myself and knowing whatfeels right in my system and
knowing, like understanding mybody and like my body's
responses, and like evenlistening to that podcast, like
I just felt that discomfort,like not to even discomfort, I
just felt that like resistancein my system and so I I turned
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the episode off and I flipped tosomething else and it was fine,
right.
I don't know why I don'tresonate with that podcast
anymore or that individualanymore.
It doesn't really matter, it'snot up to me or it's not that
it's not up to me, it's just, itdoesn't matter, it's not
anything, doesn't mean anythingabout them, it doesn't mean
anything about me.
The message just doesn'tresonate and that's fine.
And so, like kind of honoringthat, as you like, navigate
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through your day, um, and cominginside, and whether you're
journaling, getting really clear, maybe you put it on a notes
you know the notes app in yourphone but like getting really
clear on the things that youvalue.
I was listening to a differentpodcast yesterday I don't
remember which one it was, um,it might have been, might have
been the expandedanded podcast,but yeah, I think it was the
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Expanded podcast and this womanwas reading out her
manifestation list for herpartner and I've made a
manifestation list for a partnerand as the years have gone by,
I've gotten more and more clear.
But this person was so clearand so detailed and so it was
like reading, listening to, likea journal entry.
It was so elaborate and as shewas reading it she's like my
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partner is literally all thesethings, and it's just the more
clear you get on, whatever it is, whether it's a partner,
whether it's just a career goal,whether it's, I don't know,
like your parenting, whatever itis, the more clear you get, the
more contrast you'll seeoutside of yourself, but the
more like, centered in thatvision, you'll be able to come
back to and I think that'swhat's so important right now.
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Right and again, like I startedthis with talking about, like
that, that that visual I see oflike being stretched not
stretches in, like tight anduncomfortable, but maybe the
space has been stretched out ismore of the visual.
It's not the tautness or thetightness of being stretched,
but it's just the space that'sbeen allowed, that's been
stretched out and pulled out.
To allow myself to you know, inmoments where my patterning
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comes in, where I initially wantto say I don't know, right,
like that's always my thing,like what do you think?
I don't know, what do you wantto do?
I don't know, what do you want?
Like always, I would always sayI don't know, I don't know, I
don't know, because I truly didnot know, I didn't know myself,
I didn't know like whatever.
I didn't know what I wanted, Ididn't know anything.
I just was just like so lowself-worth and all those things.
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But now I know, and so sometimesI have those moments where, in
the moment, my response is Idon't know, because I feel like
I don't have the time to movethrough it.
I also have Mercury in Taurus,so I need a minute, I need
slowness, I need space to reallycome, to solidify what's going
on in my mind, to communicate itout, and so creating that space
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has allowed me to bypass the Idon't know, or rather just
stretch it out right when Idon't need to answer you right
now.
Let me actually center in andrelease the anxiety or whatever
it is around it I don't knowwhat the right word is and then
come to my knowing, be like okay, now we're here, now we're calm
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, we got it.
And something else I wanted toshare we're moving through in
your sacred unraveling.
So your sacred unraveling isnow inside the inner mother
collective, but we still havethe broadcast channel.
And what we're going through inthe broadcast channel are these
six codes to authenticalignment.
The very first code is nervoussystem regulation.
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First and foremost, we have tofind a way to regulate ourselves
in our system.
So even in that small exampleof my initial go-to is, I don't
know because I feel the pressureto have to answer right now and
my trauma or my past or mynervous system or my
subconscious or whatever it is,kind of almost feels like it
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shuts down when I feel thatpressure to allow myself to just
like breathe.
I don't need to answer rightnow or I can take a pause.
I'm so safe to just like beawkward and let the silence
mingle for a minute.
Like they don't have to likefill this space constantly.
I was hosting that human designand parenting workshop last
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night and I still get nerveswhen I host a workshop when it's
, you know, live and there arepeople there and it's so.
It would be so easy for thatfear to talk myself out of
showing up in the future.
And I'll have a moment where Icatch myself where I'm like
almost out of breath or I up inthe future and I'll have a
moment where I catch myselfwhere I'm like almost out of
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breath or I'm speaking reallyquickly and then it's like just
breathe.
There's no rush, there's noneed, and the more that I do
those things, the less that Ifeel anxious, right, and so I
still feel it briefly, but thatalso tells me that I'm excited
to do these things right.
There's still a lesson thereand it's exciting to show up and
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connect with people and doworkshops.
And there was only one personon the call yesterday, but I
know people are going to watchthe replay and it wasn't like I
wasn't anxious.
I think sometimes I still getthat little imposter syndrome,
the little flare of impostersyndrome, like do I know enough
to teach about this?
And I think that's just thatopen heart center and so having
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awareness of like all of thisstuff and like feeling the fear
and doing it anyway, and I'mreading this book I'll get back
to code one in a minute but I'mreading this fantasy book and I
absolutely I actually I shouldgrab it and just read it.
But I loved this one line thatshe had, because this one
character that I'm reading aboutshe is so innocent and so naive
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at the same time as she'sreally strong and she has been
taught to fight and she's kindof like learning life.
But her backstory is that shewitnessed her parents being
murdered in front of her and soshe decided she was like I will
never be helpless again Becauseshe was young and she couldn't
fight.
And they're living in a worldwhere women are not allowed to
learn how to fight.
So she kind of learned insecret how to fight and defend
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herself and use knives and stufflike that.
But she's sitting there withthese vampires, right?
And the one he's like I don'tknow, he's like the uncle of a
king or something like that, andhe's like you have no fear
speaking to me, like do you knowwho I am and do you know what I
can do?
And she's like it's not that Idon't have fear speaking to you,
I'm fully aware that you couldliterally snap my neck or like
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kill me before I can even takemy next breath.
She's like but I'm choosing tohonor myself and like show up
despite the fear that I feel,because I have to be me.
And I was like.
That is literally what it isLike feel the fear and do it
anyway.
Obviously, we're not allsitting at the table with
vampires, but it's still theidea that I just loved that
message in that book, where it'slike, as the reader, you have
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the insight into her mind, right, like as the reader, you can
you see, and you're describedthe anxiety and the fear and her
mind.
Right like as the reader.
You can, you see, and you'redescribed the the anxiety and
the fear and her heart'spounding as she's got this
attitude with these vampires andshe's standing up to them.
But they don't perceive it thatway, right.
And so I think sometimes, whenyou're inside your own body, in
your own mind, like when I'm ona call, and I feel myself being
anxious and I'm like almost outof breath or I'm like I feel my,
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my heart racing it's notnecessarily that anybody else
other than me can feel that, butit's like feeling the fear and
doing it anyway, because doingit anyway is a thing that will
help you change.
And so the doing it anyway andthe nervous system regulation is
key being able to pause, take abreath, whatever you need to do
, like there are things you cando in the moment.
Right, like take a deep breath,take a sip of water, find a way
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to pause, and sometimes justbeing transparent, like, guys,
let's drop in.
Right, like let's put our feeton the ground.
Let's let's take a breath.
Right now, let's just drop infor a minute.
Right, like when I think aboutwhen I'm on a call or if I'm in
a workshop or if I'm in aprogram.
I never like question when thefacilitator does stuff like that
and it might be more for themthan it is for us.
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But I feel like, as long asyou're not harming anyone this
is what I tell myself all thetime Like as long as my
intentions are pure, as long asI'm not trying to harm or
manipulate or intentionally hurtanybody like who cares?
Who cares what people think,who cares how people respond to
you, who cares what you do?
Like be yourself, be true toyourself.
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And for me sometimes that'sagain.
That is stretching out thatspace.
And what I work on more isverbally telling people like,
hey, I need some space insteadof just ignoring, because that
was my past patterning of justlike ghosting or ignoring and
getting my space that way.
And then like facing it when Iabsolutely had to.
That procrastinateprocrastination piece, which is
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something that I'm currentlyworking on that's one of my
shadows that I'm working on, butanyway, so that code one is
that nervous system regulationpiece.
So so, so important piece, soso, so important.
Coming into your body, nurturingyour body, like I will always
speak to this because our foodsystem is terrible.
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But let's be honest, it's soand I always speak to people
where, in their, their responseis like it's so hard to eat
healthy and it is.
It is because there's so manymessages, there's so much.
Like you go to the food storeand I can't remember what book
it was, but they were talkingabout it.
It's like I think it was atomichabits by James Clear.
I could be wrong about that.
So if, if I, if you know whatbook this is from and it's not
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that one, I do apologize, but Iwill always think about this
analogy where it's like he wastalking about willpower and you
know when you're an alcoholic orif you're trying to quit
smoking or you're a sex addictor whatever.
These are like extreme pointsof view, I guess, or they're
extreme examples.
Willpower isn't like walkinginto a brothel or walking into a
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bar or going into like a smokeshop and just being like no, no,
right.
Like willpower is actuallyknowing not to put yourself in
those situations.
Right, like I haven't had adrink since the beginning of
July, so it's almost like threemonths.
Actually, I had one drink inthree months and it's easy for
me because I'm not going to bars.
I'm not going like for me, ohmy gosh, put me in a wine bar
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Like, yeah, I'm going to have adrink.
So it's not that I'm like I'mactively not putting myself in
those situations and I'mactively telling people like,
hey, I'm not drinking right now.
I don't know how long it'sgoing to last, I don't know.
I just know that I feel goodand I'm staying in, right, and
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so it's not putting yourself inthose situations and saying no.
It's not putting yourself inthose situations so that you can
say no, so that you canreadjust to a life without it,
so you can create new habits,new routines, which take, you
know, I don't know.
Some people say 21 days, peoplesay three months, people say six
months, whatever.
It's a long period of timebecause you have to rewire and
retrain your brain and yournervous system and your
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subconscious to not associatethat with certain things.
Right.
And then, of course, likeslowly, like what did they say?
Exposure therapy, right?
Like you can slowly then likemaybe go to a bar with a friend
or go to a wine bar with afriend, or like whatever, in
like small ways, whatever it is,but the thing with food.
So it's like you can't not goto the grocery store, like, yes,
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I will say, nowadays you canorder it online, which avoids
the whole grocery store issue.
Um, but even at that right likethere's still going to be a
temptation, because and I justthink that there is a lack of
education on what actually ahealthy diet looks like.
But I'm reading a book onesoteric astrology and even in
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that book he, the author, hassaid so many times like one of
the biggest things is take careof your body, take care of your
diet, take care of your health,move your body, and it doesn't
have to be in extreme ways.
For me, in my own life, I'vekind of followed that 80-20 rule
where it's like 80% of the time, you know, I home cook my meals
.
They're all natural ingredients, they're all healthy, but I'll
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admit like ever since I quitdrinking, I want sugar, so I
will sometimes, more thansometimes I will have like a
cookie or two at night, and sothat 80-20 rule 80% of my day
I'm eating healthy.
That 20%, yes, I have thecookie, and so not every single
day, but you know, my kids alsolove dessert and so it's
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something that we're all dealingwith at home, but 80% of the
time I'm home.
Cooked meals, real ingredients.
I go to the farmer's market onthe weekend.
I get my eggs.
You know I buy organic where Ican.
Anything that you eat theoutside of is I buy organic.
Anything that I you eat theoutside of, you should be buying
organic, and I fully understandit can get expensive.
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My son and I have started tosubstitute the word expensive
for luxurious.
Like I bought rice at Sproutsthe other day and I think it was
$9.
That was like the cheapest bagof rice was like $9.
And then I went to Trader Joe'sand I got a bag like triple the
size for $3.99.
And so I was like telling myson, I was like remind me not to
buy rice at Sprouts.
And he was like why is it superexpensive?
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I was like well, it's justreally luxurious.
And look at the size of the bagI got at Trader Joe's and so
it's just like kind of ourlittle.
You know I try and have my kidsbe very aware of the way that
they say things and so anyway,that's a whole side note, but
the point being like taking careof your body and it doesn't
have to be again this bigdramatic change overnight, but
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just like, in little ways right,like moving your body every day
.
Just go for a walk, it doesn'thave to be anything extreme.
Go for a walk outside.
That's actually the best.
I try and do that at leastthree to four days a week.
It's just like taking a walk tothe gym.
This morning I can't becauseit's going to rain, but I
usually get outside, I get thesunlight.
I make sure I don't wear mysunglasses so that I'm getting
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the actual light in my eyes.
I wear a hat but that's sort oflike like that piece of it,
right.
So those things really helpwith the nervous system
regulation too, because it'slike tending to your body,
feeling good in your body.
Like my back was hurting for along time and, oh my gosh, like
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on Sunday I almost wanted to cryat work, but I just have kept
telling myself, especially likeover the last week or two, I've
really reframed it and I've justbeen like I love my body, I
love living in my body, I'm sograteful that my soul gets to
live in this body.
Like how amazing is that?
And I've just kept saying that,even when my back was like
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really hurting at work, I wouldjust stop and I'd reframe it and
be like I am so grateful thatthis is the body I get to live
in in this life and I feel it'sstarted to feel so much better
and so like really tending toand caring for your body.
And yeah, it's actually reallyinteresting to like now that I'm
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just thinking about it out loud.
I had a moment on Sunday nightwhere I had like a family
pattern really like.
I had like a huge aha momentand it didn't hurt on Monday and
so like I literally was likebecause I was thinking last week
I was like, okay, maybe there'ssomething trapped, some sort of
emotion, some sort of likeanger, something that needs to
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be released.
And yeah, after I got that aha,like I really haven't felt the
pain Interesting.
I'm just processing that outloud right now, but that makes a
lot of sense, but anyway, so,yeah, that nervous system
regulation first and foremost.
If we are not regulated in oursystem, if we don't have the
tools to regulate, like we'regoing to be so reactionary we're
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not going to understand.
And so that is like, first andforemost, nervous system
regulation in whatever way thatlooks for you, whether that's
getting a walk outside, whetherthat's just like sitting in
child's pose, dancing, yoga,meditation, breath work,
whatever it is.
Breathe, just create space,spend some time alone.
Nervous system regulation isabsolutely number one.
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We cannot do the work in anunregulated system Like we have
to have that as our core piece.
Code two is emotional authorityor not.
Sorry, it's not emotionalauthority, it's your human
design authority, it's listeningto your authority.
So once you're regulated inyour system, then you can come
into your body and listen andhonor like your decision making
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in your body.
So there are seven differentauthorities there's.
I'm sure there's another episode.
I'm not sure there is anotherepisode on human design.
I'll link it.
I'll find it and link it belowum so you can listen to get more
in depth on that.
But like honoring your body,body getting out of the mind
this is like my favorite thingabout human design.
It's it gives us like a logicalway to like keep our mind act
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or not distracted, to keep ourmind focused.
Maybe is the word I'm lookingfor, I don't know, but it gives
us like this step by step, likeblueprint to get out of the mind
and into the body.
Right, and so it's.
First of all, it's anexperimentation process, but
like, once you're regulated,once you have the tools to be
regulated, then you can reallycome into your body and just
listen to the yes and no's,listen to the messages from your
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body.
Right, like like this morning Iwas sitting there journaling
and I just felt that veryfamiliar tightness in my chest
and I was like I don't have tomake this mean anything.
Right, this is likely because Iwas listening to a Kabbalah
call yesterday in this first 48hours, and he was like don't
think about anything negative,don't be negative, because this
sets the stage.
And so, of course, theneverything in me is probably
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trying to self-sabotage and likelet's be the most negative we
can be.
And so, like being aware ofthat and be like okay, I feel it
, but I'm not going to let thislike consume me, I'm not going
to make this mean anything.
So like, experimenting with,playing with your authority and
astro design school startsOctober 14.
This is going to be a whole sixmonth journey into your human
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design, into your astrologytracking, the transits being in
your body embodied, the wholething.
It's going to be reallybeautiful.
So if you want to join that,the link is also down below.
So those are like the first two.
Code three is rhythm andconsistency.
So being consistent with thesepractices showing up, creating a
rhythm, creating a routine,right?
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The fourth code is frequency.
Your frequency speaks louderthan your words and your words
are so powerful, right?
So it's like this double thing.
I think that a big messagethat's been coming to me has
been if you can't control yourthoughts, control your words and
it will eventually have impact.
So, if you find it reallydifficult to manage your
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thoughts, manage your words, bereally so attuned to what you're
saying, take a pause before youspeak, but, regardless, your
frequency speaks louder.
When you walk into a room, youknow how you can just like sense
someone, like, especially evenif they're saying the right
things, but you just have thisfeeling where you're like, ah,
they don't feel genuine to me,even though they're saying all
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of the right things.
Right, like, whether we areconsciously aware of it or not,
our frequency, our energy speaksfor us before we even open our
mouth, right?
So I think, like, when you'reusing your words intentionally,
not just bullshitting people,but like intentionally trying to
use your words in a moreeffective way and a more magical
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way, because this is right,like Mercury, your words is
ruled, rules, the magician cardand the tarot.
The magician is just likecreating magic through the
spoken word manifestation.
We can manifest and call thingsinto a reality through a spoken
word.
That's so powerful and then sothat's like really important.
Then the fifth code is shadowwork.
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Right, your shadows are sacred.
Understanding that your shadowsare sacred, so within this is
what Richard Rudd talks about alot in the Gene Keys in every
shadow is a gift.
Your shadows are actuallymagnetic when we come inside and
accept them, because we are allduality, when we accept every
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part of ourselves, the thingsthat we try and keep hidden from
even ourselves, like when weaccept those things, it's really
a beautiful thing.
That's when our gifts, when wecan transmute that energy, we
can lean into our gifts.
Every gift or every shadowholds a gift.
And so, accepting those shadowsof yourself and understanding
that again, your shadows areactually sacred, and to be with
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them and to come into them andto honor them, right, that's a
huge, huge part of this processand one of the steps in.
You know these, these six codesto authentic alignment.
And then the final one isinvitation over force, and I'm
not saying invitation like I'm aprojector.
I need to be invited.
What I mean is surrendering andbeing receptive and not trying
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to force things, like we are notall designed to initiate.
Human design teaches us this.
We are not all designed toinitiate.
And so when we can you know?
When we're generators, right,allowing the universe to give us
things to respond to.
When we're projectors again,quite literally, allowing the
invitation, reflectors, allowingyourself to be surprised and to
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take the time to take the spaceto come to your own conclusion.
Even manifestors yes,manifestors are here to initiate
.
If you're emotional authority,you have to wait and if you're
not, you have to inform.
Right, there is this pausebefore we initiate, but because
initiation is what is correctfor a manifester, it's not being
forced, right.
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We know things are forced whenwe find resistance, when we're
pushing back on something, whenwe feel uncomfortable and we
know there's something, when weknow we're like pushing
something that doesn't feelaligned, like.
We all know that feeling, andso it's invitation over force.
So these six codes are reallylike I'm diving really deeply
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into them, more so inside yoursacred unraveling, and I think
I'm going to create a PDF, alittle like guide, because this
is just something I've just beenwitnessing in my own life of
the ways that I feel mostauthentic and aligned and
aligning them with human designand astrology.
We're going more deeply intothe astrological human design
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correlations to each code, againwithin your sacred unraveling.
So all the links are down below.
Your sacred unraveling ishoused in the Inner Mother
Collective.
So if you click the link, it'sgoing to bring you to the Inner
Mother Collective.
Once you get inside of there,go to the your Sacred Unraveling
tab and then you'll have thelink for the broadcast channel,
which is where I put a lot ofthe channels, channelings,
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downloads, conversation, andthen there's a full moon, new
moon circles inside the innermother collective, as well as a
monthly workshop.
So we just did our human designand astrology one.
We might do.
I'm undecided what I'm going todo for Libra season, but I think
I'm going to do composite likerelationship charts, like
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connection charts and how toread a connection chart, what to
look for, things like that.
But that'll all be up in thenext week or so.
I'm going to put those thingslike that, but that'll all be up
in the next week or so.
I'm going to put those calls inthere, but that's what I got
for you today.
Like I said I was just likedriving on my way home.
Oh my gosh, it's 46 minutes.
I did not think that I wastalking for that long.
No wonder my throat's gettingdry.
But yeah, I was just on my wayhome and I was like before I go
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to the gym.
I really am feeling called tospeaking on the podcast and
recording the podcast episode,so I hope that was helpful.
If you've listened this far, Ithank you for being here, for
being with me and if thetransits are feeling intense,
like I said, there's a lot ofPluto activations going on.
So if you are the Pluto inScorpio generation and you're
having this square, yes, it'sgoing to last for a while
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because Pluto moves reallyslowly.
I have Pluto widely opposite mysun, or, sorry, my moon.
My moon is at eight degrees ofLeo.
Pluto, I think, is still Ithink it's still at one degree
because it's in retrogrades withit's like still at one degree
of Aquarius.
I'm going to check right now soI can tell you exactly.
Actually, it's probably in thebook, but Pluto is at, yeah,
it's at one degree of Aquarius,so it's going to be a while
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before it comes into an exactopposition, but it's still being
felt and so like understandingin the system how that feels and
regulating myself.
So I think that, again, thesesix codes and just like having
compassion and the lessons ofthis eclipse season are huge.
I know a lot of people havebeen feeling it.
So, yeah, that is the episodetoday.
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Welcome to the Rochelle Christiane podcast.
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More importantly, though, we'regoing to talk about what it
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Welcome to another episode ofthe podcast.
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If you are watching on YouTube,you're getting me fresh.
First thing in the morning isstill having my coffee, but I
was dropping off my kids and Iwas journaling this morning on
what I was going to talk abouttoday, and it was sort of just
kept coming to me as I wasdriving on my way home, and so I
wanted to come and just talkbefore I started my day.
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So be going to the gym in alittle bit, but this was my
priority this morning.
There's so much that I want totalk about and there's so much
that's been happening, like theeclipses.
I feel like I see this word,like the word stretch keeps
coming.
It's like stretched me out inthis way of.
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I've found this newrelationship with my emotions
over the past three months thatI've been consistently
meditating twice a day, and whenI say the morning meditations,
I still find resistance to thatbecause I just want to sleep.
Being fully honest, I'm a Taurus.
I love my sleep, but my habitin my pattern for literally my
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entire life was to snooze myalarm like four or five times
and then I would get up likeright before I had to get up,
Then it was rushing througheverything.
So I actually love the routinethat I've created.
My alarm goes off, I pop in myheadphones, I do a di, I do a
meditation, something, and eventhough I'm sort of drifting in
and out of it, I'm stillconscious, I'm still awake, and
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then it turns off and I get upand I start my day and I
actually really love it.
But there's still that momentof resistance when the alarm
goes off and I put my headphonesin, but this word like
stretching comes to me and Ishare that, because you know,
when we stretch something thin,I feel like there's, I wouldn't
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say, a discomfort, but what I'venoticed in my body is I felt
tenderness.
We'll say that I felt thisenergetic frequency, whether
it's the collective, whetherit's my own emotions, especially
today, as I'll get into it in aminute.
But we have some Pluto transit,some Pluto.
The transiting Pluto is square,my natal Pluto, so all of you
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with Pluto and Scorpio are kindof going through this really
intense square with Pluto.
But again, the eclipses feellike they've stretched me.
It's created this space withinmy being, within my system,
where again, I feel so much moreregulated and in tune with my
emotions, and it's created thisawareness of what's coming up
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and maybe being more able toidentify what it is that's
coming up.
But the word stretch comesbecause it's again I think it's
created the space, it's createdthis ability to not need to
react immediately to somethingwhich has been a big struggle
for me for most of my life whereI feel like I have to respond,
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I have to do the thing, I haveto give you an answer, I have to
move now, I have to like.
There's just this likequickness, that I have to do
something.
And you know, in human designI'm emotional authority.
My family of origin are allstate rule authority, so maybe
it's that you know, knowing inthe moment versus needing to
wait, that needing to wait mightnot have been honored, but
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regardless of what it is, I'vealways felt this intense
pressure to have to answer, tohave to do something, to have to
respond, to have to be in themoment, to have to like act and
do.
And being able to pull it out alittle bit and allow myself
space within my own process, Iguess, or creating space as part
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of my process, has been reallybeautiful and has been a lesson
and a practice.
But I was even thinking.
Yesterday I was having aconversation with someone and
they asked me a question that inthe moment, of course, it was
all via text, so there was noneed to respond in the moment,
but a question that I wouldn'tsay made me uncomfortable.
But you know, noticing your oldpatterns of where my initial
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response would be like oh well,I don't know.
But I allowed myself the spaceto be stretched right, to kind
of like have that space toactually think about my answer
and come to my own conclusionand then be able to share, right
.
And so that's a little example,but just in little ways,
through this eclipse season,I've found that ability to be in
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my own energy, to have my ownspace, to come to my own
conclusions, to just honormyself and where I'm at and be
in touch with the emotions thatare coming up, and they're not
all consuming, which is the waythat they used to be.
When I used to feel an emotion,it was always so chaotic, and
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this new connection with myemotions feels really beautiful.
And again, it's not to say thatI don't feel anything, but it
doesn't feel in the way that itused to.
And I really, really, reallyattribute this to meditating
twice a day, to moving my body,to working out.
And Virgo season right,especially these eclipses and
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this Pisces-Virgo axis is reallyoffering us an opportunity to
heal our body, to heal our mind.
It's all connected, right, wetalked about it, I think, last
week or the week before whereyou know the opposites in the
zodiac.
They're like different sides ofthe same pole, right, like
light and darkness.
There's not one spot where it'slike flicks or flips, right,
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like it's this merging and thenyou come to the other side.
So every single opposition willhold similar qualities but also
lessons for each other.
So where Pisces is like mentalhealth, right, virgo rules the
gut.
But we know that the gut brainconnection, we know that if we
have an unhealthy gut, likelywe're more to suffer from mental
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health issues like depression,anxiety, things like that, and
so they are one in the same inthat respect.
And so being more attentive tomy physical body, being more,
you know, in my body and movingmy body and connected with my
body, has really helped myrelationship with my emotions.
And I'm still like, kind ofamazed with it.
And we'll see.
You know my my, I always say ifI'm not in a relationship, I've
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, I'm good and I'm not in arelationship, I'm good and I'm
not in a relationship right nowI'm not dating anyone or
anything like that.
But I have had moments of beingtested within that and it still
felt pretty neutral.
So we'll see.
But that was coming to me thismorning as I was sort of
reflecting where this abilityagain to just be in my emotions
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and be with my emotions and andfeel, you know, this morning
when I was journaling I I feltthis very familiar like
restriction and tightness that Ifeel in my chest.
That's part of my patterns,that's part of my trauma,
whatever you know it's, it's mysubconscious right.
That kind of like keeps mestuck where I'm like, oof, I
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can't do that thing.
And I was able to witness itand be with it, but not be
consumed by it, and so that feltlike a really big win, where I
was like, okay, I'm feeling thisthing, I'm feeling this
tenderness, and also we just hadthe new moon eclipse on Sunday.
We're still within that energyit's Wednesday, within that
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energy it's Wednesday.
So we're kind of, you know, butwe had the fall equinox on
Monday, monday evening, and I'vebeen studying the Kabbalah with
David Giam.
But this first 48 hours of Libraseason is really important and
pivotal to the rest of the year.
Right, like we know, ariesbegins the zodiac, the new year,
zodiac, new year.
But think about Libra ishalfway.
Right, we have Aries to Libra,aries to Virgo is all like I
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centered, and then Libra toPisces is we centered?
So, as we're shifting from thisenergy of almost like
perfecting this self throughdifferent, various ways, right,
like I could go through thewhole zodiac and maybe I'll do
that in another episode, but wehave all this.
I centered signs which are, youknow, helping us in some
respect within ourselves andhealing a part of ourselves and
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being coming aware of a part ofourselves and inviting a part of
ourselves.
And you know, in the chart, the,you know, planets are the
actors, the signs are thecostumes.
So when you're looking at yourown chart, right, it's like you
have the planet as like the.
I was just reading a book andthey use this visual and it was
for me, being such a like avisual person, it was so helpful
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.
But if you think about theplanet as the actor, right, so
just think about Mars.
So today, as I'm recording this, mars moves into Scorpio.
So Mars in mythology, aries, waslike this 300 foot, like brute,
right, he just like walked intoa room which obviously he
couldn't fit into a room becausehe was 300 feet, but he would
just like blaze his way in, bowlpeople over.
He was like the warrior energy.
So if you think about thatbeing dressed up as Scorpio,
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right, how would Scorpio enter aroom?
Very like, almost sneakilyright, like it's not going to
like blaze in.
There's a depth to it, there'sa darkness to it, right, maybe
like head to toe dressed inblack.
Or you think about Mars andVirgo.
Virgo is kind of more puttogether.
Virgo is like analytical, virgowants to make things make sense
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and it's going to do things acertain way.
So it's like you have Mars,this like 300 foot, like
knocking people over, beingdressed up in the suit of Virgo,
right.
And so I, as we're like movinginto things, are beginning to
move into Scorpio, like today wehave Mars went into Scorpio
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yesterday.
Mars is co ruler of Scorpio withPluto and again, when we think
about that, mars, mars rulesAries and Scorpio.
Mars and Aries feels more likethe toddler pulling a fit,
didn't get what it wanted.
It's pulling a fit, it's superexpressive.
There's no ill intent behind it, because Aries, you know, when
you think about Aries is is the.
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You know, it's the first signof the zodiac.
We went from Pisces in the womband now we've come into Aries,
we're in this body, we'relearning life.
It's very like eye-centered itcan be very selfish in that
respect where it's just like Iwant what I want and I'm going
to act and I'm going to get it,and like this is what I have to
do to get that thing.
Mars ruling Scorpio of course wethink Scorpio is sexuality,
it's intimacy, there's depth toit.
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Mars ruling Scorpio is a littlebit more intentional.
Behind it it's you, you know,being a co-ruler.
Pluto is more like that deepunderbelly sort of rage.
Where it's been, it's beencollected from like ancestors,
it's been collected throughfamily, you know, through
generations and generations, andit's brewing and it's slowly
coming to the surface.
That's sort of like that plutoruling mars, uh, ruling scorpio.
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But mars, I mean, it's stillgonna hold the archetype of it.
It sees what it wants and itfights.
It's the fighting principle ofthe zodiac, right, and it's
always fighting principle forthe sun, which is what Liz
Greene describes it as.
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Manipulative is the word I'mlooking for, secretive, where
it's sort of like it's stillgoing to act the way that Mars
acts, right.
It's still going to blazeforward, it's still going to do
what it has to do to get what itwants, but it's going to do it
a little bit more intentionallythan Mars in Aries, right.
And so we have this energy ofMars moving into Scorpio and as
it moves into Scorpio, it issquare Pluto.
Now that is happening today,wednesday, as I'm recording this
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, but we'll still be feeling ittomorrow, thursday, as this
comes out because, obviously,pluto is a slow moving planet.
Mars takes about two years tomove through the zodiac, so it
will be in this square for alittle while, and so Mars square
to Pluto is a challengingaspect.
The words that are always usedwhen describing this aspect is
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explosive, destructive, accidentprone, sort of like.
I know, I think about, likelast week at work, I just like,
would like, I like dropped aknife or like little things like
that, where it's like, okay,let's slow down a little bit,
right?
So it's asking for like more ofa slowness, being more
intentional and aware, and it'sasking for a pause, like please
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pause before you react to things.
Because and also I thinkanother lesson for us right now
is really to listen.
I shared this around the newmoon, where it's like part of
our lesson right now.
I guess that's not the rightword that I want to use, but I'm
going to use it but our lessonright now is really to listen to
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each other, right?
Because when we don't listen toeach other, we are separated
from each other, and we'rereally right now being called to
remember that we're connectedin some way.
To slow down, to not justlisten to somebody but, like,
listen to what's underneath,what they're not saying.
Right, I think people are veryreactionary, people project a
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lot, and so it's like what'sactually the thing being said
and it's not that you have tolet people in your life.
Part of the eclipse lesson forme, I feel like, has been to
have compassion and forgivepeople in my life that I've felt
bitterness or resentment oranger towards and, again, hold
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your boundaries.
You don't have to includeeverybody in your life, but can
you forgive, can you find a wayto have compassion and know that
it's more for you than for theother person?
We were doing this 30 days to.
Maybe it was manifesting.
I can't remember what the exactchallenge was called.
It was with David Guillen, withthe Kabbalah, and during it was
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for Virgo season, because Virgoseason is this time where we're
being offered to like, purifyourselves to then enter into
Libra season.
So a big chunk of the work wasmoving through and forgiving,
like family history and familystories and you know, or anyone
close to you that has triggeredyou or have you you felt has
harmed you in some way in yourlife, because those people that
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come in and offer you so muchchallenge are really the people
who hold the biggest lessons foryou, and that can be really
hard for our ego and our mind.
And again, it's not to forgivebad behavior and it's not to
allow somebody in your lifethat's intentionally trying to
harm you, but it's to see thosepeople as lessons Like what is
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it that you need to learn?
Like I know for myself, everysingle person that's been an
absolute challenge for me in mylife has come in to teach me
self-worth and boundaries likefull stop.
I dated someone for over twoyears and that was like the
person, like the person wasn't abad person, which was, I think,
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one of the hard things, becauseI had been so used to dating
people who it was just so easyto leave because they were
intentionally trying tomanipulate or harm me, or there
was like a blowout fight, orthere was something where it's
just easy to be like, okay, I'mdone with you.
But when somebody is notintentionally trying to hurt you
but just isn't good for you,those are the relationships that
are actually really hard towalk away from.
But I'm so grateful for that,as challenging as it was,
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because I learned like I had tolove myself harder because I
wasn't getting it from elsewhereand that was the lesson right.
It was to hold boundaries andto like love myself, and I'm
again, I'm grateful for thatlesson.
But when I think about everychallenging relationship in my
life, those are the two thingslike self worth and boundaries.
And so now, like moving forwardin dating, I really hold those,
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those values high within myselfand knowing what I value,
knowing what I'm looking for andnot feeling like I'm wrong
because somebody doesn't holdthe same values.
I used to do that a lot where itwas like if I held the value
and I shared it and somebodydidn't agree with it, then I
would just be like, oh, I mustbe wrong, I must be wrong, right
, but it's like, no, there'sjust because somebody doesn't
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hold the same values, the sameperspective or the same views
does not mean that my view iswrong and I have to trust and
hold my in alignment with that.
The things that I'm looking forwill come to me right, and I
think that sometimes we havetests of that and yeah, so I
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don't know how I even got on.
All the dating things, oh,being finding lessons right and
the people that kind of triggeryou or challenging relationships
in your life, and so, yeah,that's been a huge lesson and
you know, eclipse season is alsoa huge times of endings and
beginnings.
I know a lot of people who areending relationships, things are
falling away and of course, ifsomething ended or fell away,
like during the eclipse season,it was meant to and so kind of
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like honoring that and listeningto that and just like letting
it go, as challenging as it canbe, but maybe like seeing what
the lesson was for it.
I had somebody who, yeah,somebody, reached out to me like
literally on the eclipse, butit was kind of funny, like
astrologically, because Virgowas their seventh house.
It was like makes sense thatthey would then reach out to me,
um, on the eclipse, but it was,you know, for me, in that
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situation I a past version of mewould have responded or would
have shown up or would have goneto see them, um, but this
version of me is like, no, itactually doesn't work, like not
that that person's a bad person,but it just the dynamic hasn't
worked for a long time.
So just because maybe there'ssome sort of emotion happening
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doesn't mean that it's going towork now.
And so like honoring that partof myself and honoring the thing
, the path that I'm on and thedirection that I'm going.
So all of that uh has beencoming up, but again it's really
coming back to that uh spacethat I've created within myself,
the space to honor what Iactually want and what I want to
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say, the space to come backLike I was listening to a
podcast earlier that I used tolisten to all the time and over
the last like year or two I'vetried to listen to it here and
there.
But I just keep getting thisheavy feeling as I listen to it,
and I completely respect theindividual who hosts the podcast
.
They're really really superpopular.
Like I said, I used to be inthat world and then something
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just kind of like wasn't, didn'tfeel good for me, and I don't
think it's a reflection of, likethat person being bad or
anything like that.
It's more just like the messageno longer aligns with me.
And so I, you know, popped upon my phone this morning and
sometimes, you know, like I justlike, like to follow the
threads of whatever, and so Iwas like, oh, maybe there's a
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message in this podcast for me.
So I popped it on and I made itlike 10-15 minutes in and I was
like, I don't know that I cankeep listening to this.
I just like had that feelingand maybe the lesson was just
like honoring myself and I don'tknow.
But I think that we constantly,especially with the social media
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and the scrolling it's so easyto outsource or to everybody's
got an opinion.
You know, like I go onInstagram and it's like you
should be doing this and youshould be doing that and you
should be doing this.
And yes, I think there are likebest practices I'm air quoting
best practices of like businessand entrepreneurship and
marketing and all those thingslike social media.
There are obviously thealgorithm.
There are things that work, youknow, in business it's like you
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know have freebies and there'sjust like funnels and all that
stuff.
But I also think within thatand this is actually what I
wanted to start with but weinside the inner mother
collective, we're doing thisbusiness mastermind.
So if you're interested injoining us, the inner mother
collective, we your sacredunraveling is housed in there.
So we have monthly moon circles.
I just did a human designparenting workshop yesterday.
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We have like little coffeechats.
We have energy, so like there'sso much in there.
But one of the things that we'regoing through is this business
mastermind and sort of this newAquarian age of like unschooling
.
You know, obviously, the schoolsystem, but then also how we're
doing business, because I thinka lot of people, especially in
this entrepreneurial orspirituality sphere right,
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people with spiritual basedbusinesses, it's like okay, well
, we're going to be in our flowand we're going to be in our
receivership and our feminineand we just move from one hustle
to another and we're stillplaying into that like masculine
nine to five sort of mentality,and so the whole point of this
business mastermind is to reallyunschool and to really lean
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into like our human design andour astrology and like what
works and what doesn't right.
And it's the whole the innermother collective is this
beautiful feminine way.
You don't have to be a motherto be in there, because we're
all birthing something, whetherit's a creation, whether it's an
actual human being, right, likethere's much.
But it's just this reallyfeminine way to connect with
each other, to support eachother.
And one of the reallyinteresting or one of the really
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cool things that kind ofsparked my attention at first,
because I always love everythingthat Jesse Eccles does, and so
when she first came to me withthis idea, I was like,
absolutely, but part of it isthis transference of money in a
new way.
And so there is this, you know,beautiful transference of money
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within the collective, and Ithink this is a really new age,
new Aquarian way of doing things.
But kind of going back to thatunschooling, like you know, we
go from the corporate nine tofive and we're like we're going
to be entrepreneurs and we'regoing to do things differently,
I'm going to be my feminine, butyet we're still like falling
into the hustle and grind.
And the reason that I mentionedthis with the whole social
media thing is that we like wego on there and we just
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constantly have these messages.
We're bombarded with messagesof what we should be doing and
what it should look like and, bythis course and and yeah, I
think just like coming, all ofthat being said, really, I mean
when we think about, like datingand self-worth and all and our
values, like venus in your chartis your values, right?
So like leaning into that, butlike coming into yourself and
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understanding what you value andwhat you want and getting
really clear on that.
Because this what's the saying?
Like if you'll, if you don'tbelieve in anything, you'll fall
for everything, or if, ifyou'll, if you don't believe in
anything, you'll fall foreverything, or if you don't,
basically, if you don't have aclear idea of your values,
you're going to fall foreverything.
You're going to be pulled inall these different directions
because you don't have a senseof your own core values within
yourself, you don't have asteady connection with your own
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self and your own energy.
And when you don't have thatlike, you're pulled in so many
different directions, likeeverybody's trying to tell you
what to do and it's just likeyou're being pulled everywhere
Right.
And so like really coming insideand like having that strong
sense of like this is what Ivalue, this is what I want, and
I feel like I've gotten thatreally clear Like I used to not,
oh my gosh, I would, like Iliterally would fall for
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everything, and I think, like alot of my spiritual beliefs,
like I always say, like Ibelieve everything because, like
I believe everything ispossible, um, but like coming
back to myself and knowing whatfeels right in my system and
knowing, like understanding mybody and like my body's
responses, and like evenlistening to that podcast, like
I just felt that discomfort,like not to even discomfort, I
just felt that like resistancein my system and so I I turned
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the episode off and I flipped tosomething else and it was fine,
right.
I don't know why I don'tresonate with that podcast
anymore or that individualanymore.
It doesn't really matter, it'snot up to me or it's not that
it's not up to me, it's just, itdoesn't matter, it's not
anything, doesn't mean anythingabout them, it doesn't mean
anything about me.
The message just doesn'tresonate and that's fine.
And so, like kind of honoringthat, as you like, navigate
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through your day, um, and cominginside, and whether you're
journaling, getting really clear, maybe you put it on a notes
you know the notes app in yourphone but like getting really
clear on the things that youvalue.
I was listening to a differentpodcast yesterday I don't
remember which one it was, um,it might have been, might have
been the expandedanded podcast,but yeah, I think it was the
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Expanded podcast and this womanwas reading out her
manifestation list for herpartner and I've made a
manifestation list for a partnerand as the years have gone by,
I've gotten more and more clear.
But this person was so clearand so detailed and so it was
like reading, listening to, likea journal entry.
It was so elaborate and as shewas reading it she's like my
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partner is literally all thesethings, and it's just the more
clear you get on, whatever it is, whether it's a partner,
whether it's just a career goal,whether it's, I don't know,
like your parenting, whatever itis, the more clear you get, the
more contrast you'll seeoutside of yourself, but the
more like, centered in thatvision, you'll be able to come
back to and I think that'swhat's so important right now.
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Right and again, like I startedthis with talking about, like
that, that that visual I see oflike being stretched not
stretches in, like tight anduncomfortable, but maybe the
space has been stretched out ismore of the visual.
It's not the tautness or thetightness of being stretched,
but it's just the space that'sbeen allowed, that's been
stretched out and pulled out.
To allow myself to you know, inmoments where my patterning
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comes in, where I initially wantto say I don't know, right,
like that's always my thing,like what do you think?
I don't know, what do you wantto do?
I don't know, what do you want?
Like always, I would always sayI don't know, I don't know, I
don't know, because I truly didnot know, I didn't know myself,
I didn't know like whatever.
I didn't know what I wanted, Ididn't know anything.
I just was just like so lowself-worth and all those things.
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But now I know, and so sometimesI have those moments where, in
the moment, my response is Idon't know, because I feel like
I don't have the time to movethrough it.
I also have Mercury in Taurus,so I need a minute, I need
slowness, I need space to reallycome, to solidify what's going
on in my mind, to communicate itout, and so creating that space
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has allowed me to bypass the Idon't know, or rather just
stretch it out right when Idon't need to answer you right
now.
Let me actually center in andrelease the anxiety or whatever
it is around it I don't knowwhat the right word is and then
come to my knowing, be like okay, now we're here, now we're calm
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, we got it.
And something else I wanted toshare we're moving through in
your sacred unraveling.
So your sacred unraveling isnow inside the inner mother
collective, but we still havethe broadcast channel.
And what we're going through inthe broadcast channel are these
six codes to authenticalignment.
The very first code is nervoussystem regulation.
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First and foremost, we have tofind a way to regulate ourselves
in our system.
So even in that small exampleof my initial go-to is, I don't
know because I feel the pressureto have to answer right now and
my trauma or my past or mynervous system or my
subconscious or whatever it is,kind of almost feels like it
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shuts down when I feel thatpressure to allow myself to just
like breathe.
I don't need to answer rightnow or I can take a pause.
I'm so safe to just like beawkward and let the silence
mingle for a minute.
Like they don't have to likefill this space constantly.
I was hosting that human designand parenting workshop last
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night and I still get nerveswhen I host a workshop when it's
, you know, live and there arepeople there and it's so.
It would be so easy for thatfear to talk myself out of
showing up in the future.
And I'll have a moment where Icatch myself where I'm like
almost out of breath or I up inthe future and I'll have a
moment where I catch myselfwhere I'm like almost out of
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breath or I'm speaking reallyquickly and then it's like just
breathe.
There's no rush, there's noneed, and the more that I do
those things, the less that Ifeel anxious, right, and so I
still feel it briefly, but thatalso tells me that I'm excited
to do these things right.
There's still a lesson thereand it's exciting to show up and
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connect with people and doworkshops.
And there was only one personon the call yesterday, but I
know people are going to watchthe replay and it wasn't like I
wasn't anxious.
I think sometimes I still getthat little imposter syndrome,
the little flare of impostersyndrome, like do I know enough
to teach about this?
And I think that's just thatopen heart center and so having
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awareness of like all of thisstuff and like feeling the fear
and doing it anyway, and I'mreading this book I'll get back
to code one in a minute but I'mreading this fantasy book and I
absolutely I actually I shouldgrab it and just read it.
But I loved this one line thatshe had, because this one
character that I'm reading aboutshe is so innocent and so naive
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at the same time as she'sreally strong and she has been
taught to fight and she's kindof like learning life.
But her backstory is that shewitnessed her parents being
murdered in front of her and soshe decided she was like I will
never be helpless again Becauseshe was young and she couldn't
fight.
And they're living in a worldwhere women are not allowed to
learn how to fight.
So she kind of learned insecret how to fight and defend
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herself and use knives and stufflike that.
But she's sitting there withthese vampires, right?
And the one he's like I don'tknow, he's like the uncle of a
king or something like that, andhe's like you have no fear
speaking to me, like do you knowwho I am and do you know what I
can do?
And she's like it's not that Idon't have fear speaking to you,
I'm fully aware that you couldliterally snap my neck or like
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kill me before I can even takemy next breath.
She's like but I'm choosing tohonor myself and like show up
despite the fear that I feel,because I have to be me.
And I was like.
That is literally what it isLike feel the fear and do it
anyway.
Obviously, we're not allsitting at the table with
vampires, but it's still theidea that I just loved that
message in that book, where it'slike, as the reader, you have
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the insight into her mind, right, like as the reader, you can
you see, and you're describedthe anxiety and the fear and her
mind.
Right like as the reader.
You can, you see, and you'redescribed the the anxiety and
the fear and her heart'spounding as she's got this
attitude with these vampires andshe's standing up to them.
But they don't perceive it thatway, right.
And so I think sometimes, whenyou're inside your own body, in
your own mind, like when I'm ona call, and I feel myself being
anxious and I'm like almost outof breath or I'm like I feel my,
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my heart racing it's notnecessarily that anybody else
other than me can feel that, butit's like feeling the fear and
doing it anyway, because doingit anyway is a thing that will
help you change.
And so the doing it anyway andthe nervous system regulation is
key being able to pause, take abreath, whatever you need to do
, like there are things you cando in the moment.
Right, like take a deep breath,take a sip of water, find a way
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to pause, and sometimes justbeing transparent, like, guys,
let's drop in.
Right, like let's put our feeton the ground.
Let's let's take a breath.
Right now, let's just drop infor a minute.
Right, like when I think aboutwhen I'm on a call or if I'm in
a workshop or if I'm in aprogram.
I never like question when thefacilitator does stuff like that
and it might be more for themthan it is for us.
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But I feel like, as long asyou're not harming anyone this
is what I tell myself all thetime Like as long as my
intentions are pure, as long asI'm not trying to harm or
manipulate or intentionally hurtanybody like who cares?
Who cares what people think,who cares how people respond to
you, who cares what you do?
Like be yourself, be true toyourself.
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And for me sometimes that'sagain.
That is stretching out thatspace.
And what I work on more isverbally telling people like,
hey, I need some space insteadof just ignoring, because that
was my past patterning of justlike ghosting or ignoring and
getting my space that way.
And then like facing it when Iabsolutely had to.
That procrastinateprocrastination piece, which is
(31:59):
something that I'm currentlyworking on that's one of my
shadows that I'm working on, butanyway, so that code one is
that nervous system regulationpiece.
So so, so important piece, soso, so important.
Coming into your body, nurturingyour body, like I will always
speak to this because our foodsystem is terrible.
(32:25):
But let's be honest, it's soand I always speak to people
where, in their, their responseis like it's so hard to eat
healthy and it is.
It is because there's so manymessages, there's so much.
Like you go to the food storeand I can't remember what book
it was, but they were talkingabout it.
It's like I think it was atomichabits by James Clear.
I could be wrong about that.
So if, if I, if you know whatbook this is from and it's not
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that one, I do apologize, but Iwill always think about this
analogy where it's like he wastalking about willpower and you
know when you're an alcoholic orif you're trying to quit
smoking or you're a sex addictor whatever.
These are like extreme pointsof view, I guess, or they're
extreme examples.
Willpower isn't like walkinginto a brothel or walking into a
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bar or going into like a smokeshop and just being like no, no,
right.
Like willpower is actuallyknowing not to put yourself in
those situations.
Right, like I haven't had adrink since the beginning of
July, so it's almost like threemonths.
Actually, I had one drink inthree months and it's easy for
me because I'm not going to bars.
I'm not going like for me, ohmy gosh, put me in a wine bar
(33:31):
Like, yeah, I'm going to have adrink.
So it's not that I'm like I'mactively not putting myself in
those situations and I'mactively telling people like,
hey, I'm not drinking right now.
I don't know how long it'sgoing to last, I don't know.
I just know that I feel goodand I'm staying in, right, and
(33:51):
so it's not putting yourself inthose situations and saying no.
It's not putting yourself inthose situations so that you can
say no, so that you canreadjust to a life without it,
so you can create new habits,new routines, which take, you
know, I don't know.
Some people say 21 days, peoplesay three months, people say six
months, whatever.
It's a long period of timebecause you have to rewire and
retrain your brain and yournervous system and your
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subconscious to not associatethat with certain things.
Right.
And then, of course, likeslowly, like what did they say?
Exposure therapy, right?
Like you can slowly then likemaybe go to a bar with a friend
or go to a wine bar with afriend, or like whatever, in
like small ways, whatever it is,but the thing with food.
So it's like you can't not goto the grocery store, like, yes,
(34:33):
I will say, nowadays you canorder it online, which avoids
the whole grocery store issue.
Um, but even at that right likethere's still going to be a
temptation, because and I justthink that there is a lack of
education on what actually ahealthy diet looks like.
But I'm reading a book onesoteric astrology and even in
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that book he, the author, hassaid so many times like one of
the biggest things is take careof your body, take care of your
diet, take care of your health,move your body, and it doesn't
have to be in extreme ways.
For me, in my own life, I'vekind of followed that 80-20 rule
where it's like 80% of the time, you know, I home cook my meals
.
They're all natural ingredients, they're all healthy, but I'll
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admit like ever since I quitdrinking, I want sugar, so I
will sometimes, more thansometimes I will have like a
cookie or two at night, and sothat 80-20 rule 80% of my day
I'm eating healthy.
That 20%, yes, I have thecookie, and so not every single
day, but you know, my kids alsolove dessert and so it's
(35:37):
something that we're all dealingwith at home, but 80% of the
time I'm home.
Cooked meals, real ingredients.
I go to the farmer's market onthe weekend.
I get my eggs.
You know I buy organic where Ican.
Anything that you eat theoutside of is I buy organic.
Anything that I you eat theoutside of, you should be buying
organic, and I fully understandit can get expensive.
(36:01):
My son and I have started tosubstitute the word expensive
for luxurious.
Like I bought rice at Sproutsthe other day and I think it was
$9.
That was like the cheapest bagof rice was like $9.
And then I went to Trader Joe'sand I got a bag like triple the
size for $3.99.
And so I was like telling myson, I was like remind me not to
buy rice at Sprouts.
And he was like why is it superexpensive?
(36:21):
I was like well, it's justreally luxurious.
And look at the size of the bagI got at Trader Joe's and so
it's just like kind of ourlittle.
You know I try and have my kidsbe very aware of the way that
they say things and so anyway,that's a whole side note, but
the point being like taking careof your body and it doesn't
have to be again this bigdramatic change overnight, but
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just like, in little ways right,like moving your body every day
.
Just go for a walk, it doesn'thave to be anything extreme.
Go for a walk outside.
That's actually the best.
I try and do that at leastthree to four days a week.
It's just like taking a walk tothe gym.
This morning I can't becauseit's going to rain, but I
usually get outside, I get thesunlight.
I make sure I don't wear mysunglasses so that I'm getting
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the actual light in my eyes.
I wear a hat but that's sort oflike like that piece of it,
right.
So those things really helpwith the nervous system
regulation too, because it'slike tending to your body,
feeling good in your body.
Like my back was hurting for along time and, oh my gosh, like
(37:27):
on Sunday I almost wanted to cryat work, but I just have kept
telling myself, especially likeover the last week or two, I've
really reframed it and I've justbeen like I love my body, I
love living in my body, I'm sograteful that my soul gets to
live in this body.
Like how amazing is that?
And I've just kept saying that,even when my back was like
(37:49):
really hurting at work, I wouldjust stop and I'd reframe it and
be like I am so grateful thatthis is the body I get to live
in in this life and I feel it'sstarted to feel so much better
and so like really tending toand caring for your body.
And yeah, it's actually reallyinteresting to like now that I'm
(38:09):
just thinking about it out loud.
I had a moment on Sunday nightwhere I had like a family
pattern really like.
I had like a huge aha momentand it didn't hurt on Monday and
so like I literally was likebecause I was thinking last week
I was like, okay, maybe there'ssomething trapped, some sort of
emotion, some sort of likeanger, something that needs to
(38:30):
be released.
And yeah, after I got that aha,like I really haven't felt the
pain Interesting.
I'm just processing that outloud right now, but that makes a
lot of sense, but anyway, so,yeah, that nervous system
regulation first and foremost.
If we are not regulated in oursystem, if we don't have the
tools to regulate, like we'regoing to be so reactionary we're
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not going to understand.
And so that is like, first andforemost, nervous system
regulation in whatever way thatlooks for you, whether that's
getting a walk outside, whetherthat's just like sitting in
child's pose, dancing, yoga,meditation, breath work,
whatever it is.
Breathe, just create space,spend some time alone.
Nervous system regulation isabsolutely number one.
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We cannot do the work in anunregulated system Like we have
to have that as our core piece.
Code two is emotional authorityor not.
Sorry, it's not emotionalauthority, it's your human
design authority, it's listeningto your authority.
So once you're regulated inyour system, then you can come
into your body and listen andhonor like your decision making
(39:33):
in your body.
So there are seven differentauthorities there's.
I'm sure there's another episode.
I'm not sure there is anotherepisode on human design.
I'll link it.
I'll find it and link it belowum so you can listen to get more
in depth on that.
But like honoring your body,body getting out of the mind
this is like my favorite thingabout human design.
It's it gives us like a logicalway to like keep our mind act
(39:55):
or not distracted, to keep ourmind focused.
Maybe is the word I'm lookingfor, I don't know, but it gives
us like this step by step, likeblueprint to get out of the mind
and into the body.
Right, and so it's.
First of all, it's anexperimentation process, but
like, once you're regulated,once you have the tools to be
regulated, then you can reallycome into your body and just
listen to the yes and no's,listen to the messages from your
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body.
Right, like like this morning Iwas sitting there journaling
and I just felt that veryfamiliar tightness in my chest
and I was like I don't have tomake this mean anything.
Right, this is likely because Iwas listening to a Kabbalah
call yesterday in this first 48hours, and he was like don't
think about anything negative,don't be negative, because this
sets the stage.
And so, of course, theneverything in me is probably
(40:36):
trying to self-sabotage and likelet's be the most negative we
can be.
And so, like being aware ofthat and be like okay, I feel it
, but I'm not going to let thislike consume me, I'm not going
to make this mean anything.
So like, experimenting with,playing with your authority and
astro design school startsOctober 14.
This is going to be a whole sixmonth journey into your human
(40:57):
design, into your astrologytracking, the transits being in
your body embodied, the wholething.
It's going to be reallybeautiful.
So if you want to join that,the link is also down below.
So those are like the first two.
Code three is rhythm andconsistency.
So being consistent with thesepractices showing up, creating a
rhythm, creating a routine,right?
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The fourth code is frequency.
Your frequency speaks louderthan your words and your words
are so powerful, right?
So it's like this double thing.
I think that a big messagethat's been coming to me has
been if you can't control yourthoughts, control your words and
it will eventually have impact.
So, if you find it reallydifficult to manage your
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thoughts, manage your words, bereally so attuned to what you're
saying, take a pause before youspeak, but, regardless, your
frequency speaks louder.
When you walk into a room, youknow how you can just like sense
someone, like, especially evenif they're saying the right
things, but you just have thisfeeling where you're like, ah,
they don't feel genuine to me,even though they're saying all
(41:58):
of the right things.
Right, like, whether we areconsciously aware of it or not,
our frequency, our energy speaksfor us before we even open our
mouth, right?
So I think, like, when you'reusing your words intentionally,
not just bullshitting people,but like intentionally trying to
use your words in a moreeffective way and a more magical
(42:19):
way, because this is right,like Mercury, your words is
ruled, rules, the magician cardand the tarot.
The magician is just likecreating magic through the
spoken word manifestation.
We can manifest and call thingsinto a reality through a spoken
word.
That's so powerful and then sothat's like really important.
Then the fifth code is shadowwork.
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Right, your shadows are sacred.
Understanding that your shadowsare sacred, so within this is
what Richard Rudd talks about alot in the Gene Keys in every
shadow is a gift.
Your shadows are actuallymagnetic when we come inside and
accept them, because we are allduality, when we accept every
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part of ourselves, the thingsthat we try and keep hidden from
even ourselves, like when weaccept those things, it's really
a beautiful thing.
That's when our gifts, when wecan transmute that energy, we
can lean into our gifts.
Every gift or every shadowholds a gift.
And so, accepting those shadowsof yourself and understanding
that again, your shadows areactually sacred, and to be with
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them and to come into them andto honor them, right, that's a
huge, huge part of this processand one of the steps in.
You know these, these six codesto authentic alignment.
And then the final one isinvitation over force, and I'm
not saying invitation like I'm aprojector.
I need to be invited.
What I mean is surrendering andbeing receptive and not trying
(43:53):
to force things, like we are notall designed to initiate.
Human design teaches us this.
We are not all designed toinitiate.
And so when we can you know?
When we're generators, right,allowing the universe to give us
things to respond to.
When we're projectors again,quite literally, allowing the
invitation, reflectors, allowingyourself to be surprised and to
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take the time to take the spaceto come to your own conclusion.
Even manifestors yes,manifestors are here to initiate
.
If you're emotional authority,you have to wait and if you're
not, you have to inform.
Right, there is this pausebefore we initiate, but because
initiation is what is correctfor a manifester, it's not being
forced, right.
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We know things are forced whenwe find resistance, when we're
pushing back on something, whenwe feel uncomfortable and we
know there's something, when weknow we're like pushing
something that doesn't feelaligned, like.
We all know that feeling, andso it's invitation over force.
So these six codes are reallylike I'm diving really deeply
(44:57):
into them, more so inside yoursacred unraveling, and I think
I'm going to create a PDF, alittle like guide, because this
is just something I've just beenwitnessing in my own life of
the ways that I feel mostauthentic and aligned and
aligning them with human designand astrology.
We're going more deeply intothe astrological human design
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correlations to each code, againwithin your sacred unraveling.
So all the links are down below.
Your sacred unraveling ishoused in the Inner Mother
Collective.
So if you click the link, it'sgoing to bring you to the Inner
Mother Collective.
Once you get inside of there,go to the your Sacred Unraveling
tab and then you'll have thelink for the broadcast channel,
which is where I put a lot ofthe channels, channelings,
(45:41):
downloads, conversation, andthen there's a full moon, new
moon circles inside the innermother collective, as well as a
monthly workshop.
So we just did our human designand astrology one.
We might do.
I'm undecided what I'm going todo for Libra season, but I think
I'm going to do composite likerelationship charts, like
(46:02):
connection charts and how toread a connection chart, what to
look for, things like that.
But that'll all be up in thenext week or so.
I'm going to put those thingslike that, but that'll all be up
in the next week or so.
I'm going to put those calls inthere, but that's what I got
for you today.
Like I said I was just likedriving on my way home.
Oh my gosh, it's 46 minutes.
I did not think that I wastalking for that long.
No wonder my throat's gettingdry.
But yeah, I was just on my wayhome and I was like before I go
(46:25):
to the gym.
I really am feeling called tospeaking on the podcast and
recording the podcast episode,so I hope that was helpful.
If you've listened this far, Ithank you for being here, for
being with me and if thetransits are feeling intense,
like I said, there's a lot ofPluto activations going on.
So if you are the Pluto inScorpio generation and you're
having this square, yes, it'sgoing to last for a while
(46:45):
because Pluto moves reallyslowly.
I have Pluto widely opposite mysun, or, sorry, my moon.
My moon is at eight degrees ofLeo.
Pluto, I think, is still Ithink it's still at one degree
because it's in retrogrades withit's like still at one degree
of Aquarius.
I'm going to check right now soI can tell you exactly.
Actually, it's probably in thebook, but Pluto is at, yeah,
it's at one degree of Aquarius,so it's going to be a while
(47:06):
before it comes into an exactopposition, but it's still being
felt and so like understandingin the system how that feels and
regulating myself.
So I think that, again, thesesix codes and just like having
compassion and the lessons ofthis eclipse season are huge.
I know a lot of people havebeen feeling it.
So, yeah, that is the episodetoday.
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Again, join the Inner Mother,join the inner mother collective
.
Join us inside Astro DesignSchool.
Follow me on Instagram atRochelle Christian.
That's R-O-C-H-E-L-L-E, dot.
C-h-r-i-s-t-i-a-n-e.
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I write a post every singleweek.
Youtube all the links you needare down below.
(47:48):
Thank you so much for beinghere and I will talk to you soon
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